Why Gender Pronouns Matter | Mala Matacin | TEDxHartford

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  • Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
  • What are your pronouns? Fifty percent of Americans are uncomfortable asking this question but using gender-neutral pronouns and language can create inclusion and help deconstruct the gender binary. Based on interviews with gender diverse people, psychology professor calls for allyship by sharing ways we can act to create gender inclusive spaces and see each other more deeply. “Watch what you say.”
    “Be careful how you say it.”
    These phrases have even more of an impact today.
    University of Hartford Asst. Professor of Psychology Mala Matacin will be talking about language and gender issues and how we use labels. Her talk may lead you to re-think how you talk. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 527

  • @jackhadroom4540
    @jackhadroom4540 2 года назад +82

    I don't use pronouns as they imply I wish to interact with humans.

  • @PK-fd9fb
    @PK-fd9fb 2 года назад +136

    "The ability to speak does not make you intelligent" -Qui Gon Jinn

    • @geraldinepetrou9699
      @geraldinepetrou9699 2 года назад +2

      I ditto that.

    • @marinajansen3196
      @marinajansen3196 2 года назад

      Nice argument, quoting a line from a fictional character! That's a great point.

    • @PK-fd9fb
      @PK-fd9fb 2 года назад +14

      @@marinajansen3196 its relevant here

    • @markh2200
      @markh2200 2 года назад +11

      @@marinajansen3196 ...which was written by a real human.

    • @noahmeissner6935
      @noahmeissner6935 2 года назад

      Don’t use Star Wars to be transphobic you stuck-up half-witted scruffy-looking nerd herder

  • @IssyFishyy
    @IssyFishyy 2 года назад +51

    We have poverty and unresolved wars yet these people are wasting their time on silly delusions such as this.

  • @Bdhdheksnsb
    @Bdhdheksnsb Год назад +68

    I identify as Michael Jackson, my pronouns are he/hee.

    • @billyb4790
      @billyb4790 Год назад

      I identify as a redneck. My pronouns are he/haw/

  • @junsinator971
    @junsinator971 2 года назад +11

    Nonsense. It’s not someone else’s responsibility to affirm another adults identity. Grow up.

  • @brollged7409
    @brollged7409 Год назад +116

    we making up our own problems at this point

    • @KouJunk
      @KouJunk Год назад +5

      Lmfao we are

    • @kanutethegreat2908
      @kanutethegreat2908 3 месяца назад

      Pretty much

    • @Manz1l1
      @Manz1l1 2 дня назад

      Yeah... like You Clicking On this Video (The Irony)🤣🤣😂

  • @Raowldy
    @Raowldy 2 года назад +59

    This is why removing dislikes was such a bad idea. Now we dont know that this video has got more dislikes than likes on it smh

    • @Hafaechaes
      @Hafaechaes 2 года назад +10

      Actually, there's a google extension that lets you see the likes and dislikes still, and as of now there's 130 likes to 56 dislikes.

    • @gustaftheone9279
      @gustaftheone9279 2 года назад +3

      Over 10k views, but only 100+ likes. I think it’s fair to say majority of ppl have disliked this

    • @josechocoza8808
      @josechocoza8808 Год назад

      How do you know that pal?

    • @Raowldy
      @Raowldy Год назад

      @@josechocoza8808 the first comment below my comment explains the method

    • @kanutethegreat2908
      @kanutethegreat2908 3 месяца назад

      @@Hafaechaesimma need that extension

  • @clev78
    @clev78 2 года назад +84

    The Party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command.-1984 George Orwell

    • @lalaboards
      @lalaboards 2 года назад +9

      Bingo !!!!!

    • @jonathandelgado4892
      @jonathandelgado4892 2 года назад +4

      I think you may have missed the point of that book my dude.

    • @SimplyHuman186
      @SimplyHuman186 2 года назад +4

      @@jonathandelgado4892 it's a singular quote. The book is irrelevant. Speaking of points, what is yours lol

    • @kayhollings1777
      @kayhollings1777 Год назад +5

      @@jonathandelgado4892 Actually, how did that miss the point of the book at all?

    • @benjaminfranklin8412
      @benjaminfranklin8412 3 месяца назад

      Thank you!

  • @brandonwx98
    @brandonwx98 2 года назад +79

    If you were born a man, sound like a man and look like a man then please don't get mad when others call you a man. We are going by what we see and know. We're not intentionally trying to hurt your feelings. Trust me, I am not sitting around thinking about you and your preferred pronouns. I'm living my life and so should you.

    • @what-a-life8097
      @what-a-life8097 2 года назад +13

      Exactly!!!! I work w someone like this & they get so rude when someone accidentally calls them their biological gender. This seldom entitlement is getting outta control.. 🚮

    • @DarkRaikon
      @DarkRaikon Год назад +7

      HOW dare You exist without Thinking about me!!
      I'm the main character, not you!!
      (that's how they are)

    • @billyb4790
      @billyb4790 Год назад +3

      the irony is 5 years ago no one was sitting around thinking how to hurt these people's feelings. But now that they demand to be called bogus pronouns, a lot of people are indeed sitting around thinking how to offend them.

    • @hogblesser
      @hogblesser Год назад

      @@DarkRaikon
      Says the sweet and total baby who gets upset then somebody asks for kindness and respect.

    • @DarkRaikon
      @DarkRaikon Год назад

      ?@@hogblesser

  • @wretch1
    @wretch1 2 года назад +34

    My chosen pronouns are 'Your Highness, Your Highness' and 'I'm not worthy'.
    Take your pick.

  • @Jack29151
    @Jack29151 2 года назад +21

    I don't honor preferred pronouns, you'll get what I decide to give you.

  • @squidwardtortillini8816
    @squidwardtortillini8816 2 года назад +30

    Another reason I won’t go back to college.

    • @regulator7931
      @regulator7931 Год назад

      Great place to go to become a Starbucks barista. I've lost track of how many doctors serve me coffee there.

  • @Tina_K
    @Tina_K Год назад +3

    no

  • @hunterdrain8004
    @hunterdrain8004 2 года назад +36

    I’m losing brain cells just watching this video

  • @ammall
    @ammall 2 года назад +8

    Never ever accept someone else's pronoun demands. Do not give in to their fantasy.

  • @nikkywenno3205
    @nikkywenno3205 2 года назад +150

    yes this is sooo suuuuuperintersting! i want to hear more about special people who want to feel special and get a special treatment from society.

    • @jessam4875
      @jessam4875 2 года назад +6

      😂🏆

    • @TheBlake5191
      @TheBlake5191 2 года назад

      You seem triggered. Go be conservative at a church or something man

    • @nofsgiven178
      @nofsgiven178 2 года назад +6

      👆🏻THIS👆🏻

    • @geraldinepetrou9699
      @geraldinepetrou9699 2 года назад +3

      Gee, I would like to hear more about these special people also, and how I can be made to feel special also.😀😀😀.

    • @nuniezjorge
      @nuniezjorge 2 года назад +11

      i identify as a penguin and my preferred pronouns are noot/noot, i just want to be understood

  • @samburu1988
    @samburu1988 2 года назад +82

    Me,my wife and her boyfriend who's pronouns are Ty/Rone really enjoyed this presentation!

    • @danh1945
      @danh1945 2 года назад +9

      @Booty Warrior...You ain't seen NOTHING yet...10-15 years ago, I thought these fruitcakes were about maxed out. Boy was I wrong!

    • @sabrinatscha2554
      @sabrinatscha2554 2 года назад +4

      Literally just came here from EWU Crime channel where they were praised in the comments for properly gender ring a dude in a wig who chopped a bunch of people up and fed them to pigs. So stunning and brave…

  • @SimplyHuman186
    @SimplyHuman186 2 года назад +24

    If someone identified as will Smith, should the Smith family be forced to play along? If a 12 year old identified as a 21 year old, should they be sold alcohol? If a child identified as a dog, should they be sent to the pound? Such hard questions. Life is so tuff, ouch.

  • @albertfralinger2711
    @albertfralinger2711 2 года назад +17

    This is why people don’t respect professors anymore

  • @young0082
    @young0082 2 года назад +35

    My preferred pronoun is Daddy. Henceforth, it will offend me if you don't call me daddy.

  • @keyboarddancers7751
    @keyboarddancers7751 2 года назад +5

    Although I was born visible, I now identify as invisible. I am trans-parent. My pronouns are who/where.

  • @eljefe8149
    @eljefe8149 2 года назад +9

    no. I'm not gonna lie to you and myself. go live your life and stop telling me how to live mine.

  • @DanielEarth1
    @DanielEarth1 Год назад +9

    How about us/them, because the actual purpose is to divide people.

  • @zgray7992
    @zgray7992 2 года назад +59

    Rarely do people face discrimination if there is a conversation about it. It’s when it’s thrown in our face and used against us without an “emotionless conversation” is what makes this annoying and pushes people away. I’m all for peoples equal rights but it gets ridiculous sometimes

    • @nathantemple5173
      @nathantemple5173 2 года назад

      You were wrong when you put in "emotionless conversation". The conversation has to be emotionless that's how good choices are made without emotion. The left has confused emotion with right and wrong. They think if it feels good then it must be right. That is wrong. Thing are right or wrong without any feeling. Your emotions distort your reality. That's why most leftist can't make a good choice.

    • @spidgeb3292
      @spidgeb3292 Год назад +5

      Yep. She said pronouns increase inclusion and reduce discrimination. I think that it's the opposite: it aggravates people who otherwise wouldn't be aggravated. It's impossibly complex, has no logical basis, and is too often obnoxiously demanded.

    • @spidgeb3292
      @spidgeb3292 Год назад +6

      Making up words and demanding they be used is a formula for exclusion and segregation, not inclusion. If you have too many rules, I'm just gonna find someone else to talk to. Especially if you're obnoxious about it.

    • @hogblesser
      @hogblesser Год назад

      @@spidgeb3292
      What do you care? You're not affected in any way. It's like if you have a friend who has a nickname. Do you get upset when they ask you to call him that nickname? Don't be such a baby. Find it so weird how all you hardcore straight motherfuckers are always watching trance videos, you always have a bunch of trans pictures ready to share on Twitter etc. It's an obsession! You hate see people happy because you're miserable. The reason you're miserable is because you're probably feeling a little something in your head but you're too afraid to make the change.

  • @alejandromariaarias3639
    @alejandromariaarias3639 Год назад +6

    This is ridiculous😅

  • @bighogicy9279
    @bighogicy9279 2 года назад +73

    This literally made me laugh out loud. No. None of this matters

    • @jacindaservantes3016
      @jacindaservantes3016 2 года назад +3

      Maybe watch it again and not play into self intrested and a singular perspective.

    • @bighogicy9279
      @bighogicy9279 2 года назад +8

      @@jacindaservantes3016 uhhhh huh ok 🤨

    • @of-Israel
      @of-Israel 2 года назад +3

      ​@@jacindaservantes3016 haha 😂 madness

    • @junsinator971
      @junsinator971 2 года назад +19

      Correct. This is all meaningless nonsense pushed by unserious people. New form of comedy imo.

    • @relaxingsounds1386
      @relaxingsounds1386 2 года назад +7

      @@jacindaservantes3016 maybe go get therapy if you're offended 😆 🤣

  • @Beautyoutofruin
    @Beautyoutofruin Год назад +6

    She doesn’t provide links to her statistics

  • @ZerMetKi
    @ZerMetKi Год назад +32

    As a non-english native speaker, far from being a fluid speaker, I feel discriminated by these pronouns. It’s already hard enough to try to comprehend the meaning of a conversation in another language, and yet some try to make it harder. But some say that discrimination can be used for good… the irony.

    • @foxy_poetry
      @foxy_poetry Год назад

      Yeah.
      When one has barely learned "they" means
      I (am)
      You (are)
      He/she/it (is)
      We (are)
      You (are)
      They (are)
      And then you get informed you should write "(...) When a president (of the NGO) is selected, they...", and you say: this is wrong. It's a grammatical mistake. And you get shunned by the whole international NGO, without explanation. Because they assume you're in the context. And you're not.

  • @Coolness
    @Coolness 2 года назад +23

    This channel has 33 MILLION subscribers and thus video has only 500 views after being up for over 2 weeks..

    • @Coolness
      @Coolness 2 года назад +6

      At 2 months now and only 1000 views…

    • @jessam4875
      @jessam4875 2 года назад +11

      And 52 likes currently. It's safe to say society is over "preferred pronoun" narcissists.

    • @Thedjsmokeybear
      @Thedjsmokeybear 2 месяца назад +1

      Such a silly video

  • @marc-anderetershtgen9647
    @marc-anderetershtgen9647 2 года назад +30

    The most silly thing I ever heard

    • @Eli-bx4tf
      @Eli-bx4tf 2 года назад

      silly?

    • @2lowfatmilk606
      @2lowfatmilk606 2 года назад +8

      @@Eli-bx4tf yeah we got more serious matters to attend to and talk about then people wanting to feel special. EDIT: a past transphobic moron wrote this. It's not too late to change for the better.

    • @aimanhariz7908
      @aimanhariz7908 2 года назад

      Yup

    • @hakiikah8343
      @hakiikah8343 2 года назад +1

      Ok so I’m not the only one.😂😂

    • @jesusjoseph1899
      @jesusjoseph1899 2 года назад

      @@Eli-bx4tf for a TED talk, yes,yes it is.

  • @EmperorPenguinXRemas
    @EmperorPenguinXRemas 2 года назад +27

    Completely bonkers

  • @IsmaelSilva7
    @IsmaelSilva7 2 года назад +18

    I used to dream doing a Ted Talk one day. They looked so cool and smart. Now I see not only the quality of the topics has gone south, also the people they invite. I will find my own platform and you can keep boosting selfserving ideological nonsense all you want

  • @pumpkinspicelatte936
    @pumpkinspicelatte936 Год назад +22

    The definition of a first world problem.

    • @regulator7931
      @regulator7931 Год назад

      I don't know we're slipping into 2nd and 3rd world pretty fast wherever these people are allowed to exist.

  • @plank.blank-username
    @plank.blank-username 2 года назад +3

    i cant believe this is in a Tedx

  • @gasoven3759
    @gasoven3759 Год назад +19

    Forcing personal pronoun usage on the unwilling is bullying. Those who control the language control what people think and do.

    • @samiam8641
      @samiam8641 Год назад +5

      Absolutely. You can call yourself whatever you want, but you have no right to demand I comply with your bizarre world view.

    • @joecoffey4199
      @joecoffey4199 8 месяцев назад

      It's a dominance strategy. By accepting their pronouns, or giving your pronouns to someone if asked, they have gotten an implicit acceptance on your part.

  • @Lint323
    @Lint323 Год назад +2

    No wonder people dont watch ted talks anymore

  • @CameronShepard
    @CameronShepard 2 года назад +14

    My adjectives are smart/beautiful. You are required to refer to me as such. Otherwise you are a bigot.

  • @spyral00
    @spyral00 2 года назад +36

    great comedy bit! Its nice to see that TED does standup comedy now.

    • @acefighter682
      @acefighter682 2 года назад +4

      This was hilarious!

    • @tunirlahiri9772
      @tunirlahiri9772 Год назад

      They have been doing that for quite some time now..

    • @regulator7931
      @regulator7931 Год назад

      TED talks are great for seeing how much humanity as a whole has fallen into degeneracy.

    • @spyral00
      @spyral00 Год назад

      @@regulator7931 I wouldn't go that far.

    • @enzocolonna
      @enzocolonna 7 месяцев назад

      Looks TED need more share....

  • @ReubenMoore67
    @ReubenMoore67 2 года назад +40

    Unless you are in the habit of talking about yourself in the third person, surely the pronouns that you use to identify yourself are I and me and we. It seems to me that what we have here is a very basic and fundamental misunderstanding of third person pronouns. They are not ours in the sense that we do not typically use them when referring to ourselves. No, these pronouns belong to others. That is a problem: Do we have a right to dictate other people's language? Obviously, some people believe that we do.

    • @brandonwx98
      @brandonwx98 2 года назад +2

      Exactly!

    • @audra9465
      @audra9465 2 года назад

      By that standard, your name doesn't belong to you either. Please use your head at least before launching into a bigoted screed.

    • @nathanmclean5678
      @nathanmclean5678 Месяц назад

      Precisely!

  • @jasminethebeau6384
    @jasminethebeau6384 8 месяцев назад +3

    These comments do not pass the vibe check.

  • @KeepItSimpleSailor
    @KeepItSimpleSailor 2 года назад +14

    Do something useful. Preferred pronouns are self indulgent BS. Help someone who has some real problems.

  • @willfitzgerald18
    @willfitzgerald18 Год назад +25

    The more I watch the more I just shake my head

  • @berandal99
    @berandal99 2 года назад +11

    Why bother, just learn Indonesian language. Indonesian doesn't have masculin / feminine. Indonesian use "dia" (dee-a) for both he and she. It's easy to learn (only 400 hours to be fluent) and easily absorb & has absorbed a lot of foreign words because of it's nature as trade language in SEA & east asia since ancient time.

    • @abigailb9144
      @abigailb9144 2 года назад

      Really? Only 400 hours? Dude, I think you just sold me on learning Indonesian. How cool.

    • @berandal99
      @berandal99 2 года назад +1

      @@abigailb9144 I don't know if you're genuinely interested or being sarcastic. There is tier of the difficulty to learn languages and Indonesian is on the lowest tier. To learn English you need at least 500 hours, French & Spanish is 600, and very complex language like Japanese, mandarin or Arabic you need 700 hours.

    • @abigailb9144
      @abigailb9144 2 года назад

      @@berandal99 I am genuinely interested lol. I like languages and thought your comment was interesting. Ty

    • @ieetrgun2620
      @ieetrgun2620 Год назад

      @@abigailb9144 it’s actually a great language to learn because like english it’s a lingua franca. you can get around malaysia, indo, papua new guinea, and other SEA countries with it

  • @gavrilopricip11
    @gavrilopricip11 Год назад +2

    So should we entertain schizophrenics and have conversations with their imaginary friends?

  • @jazzwhitney3333
    @jazzwhitney3333 2 года назад +24

    These people have deeper psychological issues. To give others that type of power over them for calling the wrong "pronouns " screams at something deeper.

    • @RisingRose
      @RisingRose 2 года назад +5

      Look up gender dysphoria.

    • @jazzwhitney3333
      @jazzwhitney3333 2 года назад +3

      @@RisingRose exactly

    • @mroselli
      @mroselli Год назад

      gender dysphoria, gender identity disorder, body dysmorphia.
      All have been treated in the past with extensive cognitive therapy, medication, and hospitalization.

  • @Goohuman
    @Goohuman 2 года назад +15

    My anger is that this woman has been hiding out in one of our top universities for 30 years planting these horrible ideas in our youth. How many more will we find if we have an honest assessment of our education system? Who reviews the madness our professors are teaching to our impressionable children? How was she not forced to defend this nonsense long ago? This is not progress. This is how you tear a society apart at its roots.

  • @buddhistsympathizer1136
    @buddhistsympathizer1136 2 года назад +3

    I DON'T CARE what your pronouns are.
    Stop trying to impose your beliefs and ideology onto others.

    • @Nate-dn1gx
      @Nate-dn1gx 2 года назад

      This professor's heart is in the right place. The main problem is that it's just not feasible to remember pronouns for everyone we encounter. Learning names is hard enough

    • @Cierraritchey6969
      @Cierraritchey6969 2 года назад

      Well what are your pronouns cuz if you don't have any that's not a thing because then people would always have to refer you by your name so if your name Sarah, Sarah said that Sarah checked the copier this morning and Sarah also said that Sarah told Jessica that Sarah would check The copier

    • @buddhistsympathizer1136
      @buddhistsympathizer1136 2 года назад

      @@Cierraritchey6969 ' I don't have pronouns. Society dictates what pronouns to use.
      It's not up to personal choice . . . unless you want to force your beliefs and opinions on others.
      You can identify yourself as a Unicorn and demand people use Shmer/Blur/Flur as your pronouns.
      I won't be doing so because I refuse to use made-up and words and play silly games.

    • @Cierraritchey6969
      @Cierraritchey6969 2 года назад

      @@buddhistsympathizer1136 pronouns are literally simple English like I probably said this already but say your name is Jessica, well then you would say, Jessica is being really mean in the comments and Jessica is not cool nobody likes Jessica also Jessica can you get The copier yeah Jessica Got The copier already like and that would also include no ma'am or sir

    • @buddhistsympathizer1136
      @buddhistsympathizer1136 2 года назад

      @@Cierraritchey6969 You are confusing names with pronouns.
      If you are male, society uses He and Him.
      If you are female, society uses She and Her.
      For a group, society uses They and Them.
      That's it.
      You don't get to come up with new words and new identities and force society to both use them and believe in them. It doesn't work like that.

  • @dearfinesoul
    @dearfinesoul Год назад +5

    Just remember We all have a right to say: I don't Identify W/ Gender Pronouns!

  • @protonneutron9046
    @protonneutron9046 Год назад +5

    I speak proper English. So I don't care one way or another as it doesn't effect my life in the least.

  • @justincase4812
    @justincase4812 2 года назад +8

    Matter to YOU, and that's where it stops.

  • @notagain8661
    @notagain8661 2 года назад +7

    It's not Baskin-Robbins folks. Just because you like to play with your body parts different then others. You don't get your own flavor! 😂

  • @igorlealmusic
    @igorlealmusic Год назад +4

    So many issues in the world, poverty and wars and yet people worry about superficial and silly things. if you are a trans, Instead of changing the way everybody speaks, try to change your sense of self worth, cause it shouldn't be tied to a pronoun. You can call me whatever pronoun, i know who I am therefore I'm not affected. Simple like that.

  • @Adwait_Khade1617
    @Adwait_Khade1617 Год назад +10

    When you dont have problems so you make them up

  • @mohammadalshamsi7555
    @mohammadalshamsi7555 Год назад +6

    I identify as an American person and I use my right to ask for the American passport

  • @charlesdexterward7781
    @charlesdexterward7781 2 года назад +21

    The grooming community approves this Narrative!

  • @kayhollings1777
    @kayhollings1777 2 года назад +25

    Finally, someone who will accept my pronouns. Queen, Most Beautiful, Highest Intelligence, Your Worship. Unless I'm wearing a rainbow bracelet and then my pronouns are Simply the Best and Unicorn Boss.
    Oh, but if it's cloudy weather, just call me Cloud Bearer regardless of the bracelets etc.
    It's all pretty straightforward really.
    My gender, and so my entire sense of self worth, is tied to these pronouns and no-one will take me seriously. It's very disheartening.

    • @seekit9768
      @seekit9768 2 года назад +1

      No apologies is a very good move.

    • @geenz1815
      @geenz1815 Год назад +2

      Love Unicorn Boss🤘🏽

    • @dantalion447
      @dantalion447 Год назад +1

      Ok cloud bearer, it's raining today💦🌪️🌧️ alot...and I'm afraid I'm going to wash away, please help send the clouds away to somewhere else cloud bearer, the water is rising and I'm getting scared... I don't want to drown in the flood and wash away
      .. 😜

    • @regulator7931
      @regulator7931 Год назад

      Unicorn Boss is pretty good 👍

    • @rashadicantspeakonitbingha2694
      @rashadicantspeakonitbingha2694 Год назад

      This some funny s...... Lol my pronouns

  • @chesterwilberforce9832
    @chesterwilberforce9832 2 года назад +22

    My daughter has a friend who goes by "they". My question is how do you distinguish singularity from plurality? For example. Let's say someone asks my daughter where this friend is and she responds "They went to the store." Your first reaction is to wonder who all "they" are? Did a group of people go to the store? "They" works when you are referring to people in general as in "They would rather be right than admit defeat." Within the context, you would know that the speaker is referring generally to all people male and female. An instruction manual might, for instance, say something like "The user will then hit Return. They will see a screen..." In this case, in context it's apparent that "the user" can be anyone of any gender, and doesn't specifically talk about the number of people being addressed. It doesn't imply that "all users will then...". If you are speaking in the second person, you don't have to worry about gender; "You will then hit return. You will see..." It's 3rd person singular vs plural where the problem lies. That's where gender comes in and makes it hard to distinguish how many people you're talking about if you eliminate he and she and replace it with they.

    • @aashiakataria4465
      @aashiakataria4465 2 года назад +10

      to be fair, they is also used as a singular in dictionaries and most people use it unknowingly in their daily life. i’m sure it can get confusing tho, so just ask! there’s absolutely no harm in that, or u can ask ur daughter to use the friend preferred name instead so that it’s easier for u to distinguish.

    • @carlaazevedo.teacher
      @carlaazevedo.teacher 2 года назад +1

      As she reminded us, we already do that with "you". You singular isn't "you am / you is / you was", it follows the plural (we, they) conjugation. Even when you're in a group, you can be talking to a specific person.
      Also, we use the singular they when we don't want to identify the gender of the person we're talking about. This "new step" isn't that different from it because you probably won't use "he/she/they" when you're talking TO the person (here's where "you" is used), but ABOUT the person - the big change is that instead of being the speaker's choice to not reveal the gender, it's the person being referred to that chose it because that's how they feel more comfortable. There will be more elements in phrases and sentences such as articles, singular nouns and other elements to distinguish if "they" is singular or plural ... in the same way it does when it comes to "you" singular vs. "you" plural.
      Ex.:
      - You are a good friend -> singular.
      - You are good friends -> plural.
      - They are a nice doctor. -> singular.
      - They are nice doctors -> plural.
      - They were my teacher. -> singular.
      - They were my teachers. -> plural.

    • @auntifa7687
      @auntifa7687 2 года назад +12

      It's simple, refer to a person by he or she because that persons need for attention shouldn't affect your right to use proper pronouns.

    • @DarkRaikon
      @DarkRaikon Год назад +1

      @@aashiakataria4465 do you know what happen if they go to another country that don't speak English...they as a single only works in English....other country not so much

    • @DarkRaikon
      @DarkRaikon Год назад

      @chester wilberforce simple...talk to the friend in 3rd person
      what does Monika want?

  • @tft100
    @tft100 Год назад +8

    My pronouns are king/boss/lord

  • @Swipe-Left
    @Swipe-Left 2 года назад +6

    I'll use whatever pronouns I want, and I will certainly never be referring to anyone as a they or them, or a he if they are clearly a she.

  • @rdweiss3878
    @rdweiss3878 Год назад +8

    If this is the way that the world is going, I no longer wish to be a part of it.
    As a college lecturer, will I eventually have to ask my students what their pronouns are? And will I risk disciplinary action if I refuse to acknowledge these ridiculous "pronouns"?
    What is this world coming to?
    I'm disgusted.

  • @hunterdrain8004
    @hunterdrain8004 2 года назад +36

    I wish I could see dislikes. You probably have 506 dislikes on this video

    • @joerogaine3093
      @joerogaine3093 2 года назад +7

      Yeah its interesting how youtube is blocking dislikes for liberals like her

    • @cloudambient
      @cloudambient 2 года назад +3

      Google chrome extensions let you see dislikes. This as of right now has 49 likes and 29 dislikes.

    • @hunterdrain8004
      @hunterdrain8004 2 года назад +1

      @accompanist603 thanks that helps a lot

    • @nofsgiven178
      @nofsgiven178 2 года назад

      It’s probably triple that amount.

    • @cloudambient
      @cloudambient 2 года назад

      @@nofsgiven178 106 likes, 56 dislikes. Google chrome extension lets you see the dislikes.

  • @acefighter682
    @acefighter682 2 года назад +2

    Men are men and women are women, simple as 2+2. Lord we need you

  • @benwakefield93
    @benwakefield93 Год назад +1

    Care for an opposition view TedTalks

  • @iamalienfrommars9215
    @iamalienfrommars9215 10 месяцев назад +3

    "If you don't know your biological gender, you are out of this world"
    ~Thor from Asgaard

  • @Flintlock1776
    @Flintlock1776 2 года назад +3

    I am trans! was born visible but identify as invisible therefore I am Trans-parent. Sometimes I am even trans-lucent. Hence forth I will expect you to respect my identity and to refer to me by my pronouns, who and where. I can say, "see you later" but you can't say that to me because it that would be to deny my identity in a bigoted and callous way. That makes you a bad person and me a victim. Sorry for the inconvenience but my pronouns really are more important than the crime rate, inflation, and our dependence on China because I am the center of my own universe and so I demand that I be the center of yours as well.

  • @Manz1l1
    @Manz1l1 2 дня назад

    Kindness Costs Nothing, Neither Does Affirming The Experiences of Others, rather than commenting observer with no skin in the game in another Person's Perspective

  • @nostalgicgirrl6053
    @nostalgicgirrl6053 2 года назад +9

    My pronouns are ST/FU.

  • @hazimsaud5872
    @hazimsaud5872 2 года назад +8

    Yup, this is the issue faced by the world right now....the most important issue😂

    • @blackdeath6085
      @blackdeath6085 Год назад

      Yeah, the war i the Ukraine is nothing compared to this health crisis ;)

    • @leealberto4139
      @leealberto4139 Год назад +2

      Yeah this is much bigger than the war in Ukraina or the cost living crisis in Europe

    • @blackdeath6085
      @blackdeath6085 Год назад

      @@leealberto4139 Indeed, damn, people should learn some compassion lol ;)

    • @mroselli
      @mroselli Год назад

      @@blackdeath6085 i'm not even worried about the "war" in ukraine.

  • @nathantemple5173
    @nathantemple5173 2 года назад +17

    Gender pro nouns matter because you are a him or her. Language is very important. There needs to be set meanings so we can communicate. If we allow everyone to decided what words mean for them then we can't communicate.

    • @samiam8641
      @samiam8641 Год назад

      That…..made no sense at all…

    • @nathantemple5173
      @nathantemple5173 Год назад +3

      @@samiam8641 correction. It makes no sense to you. That's ok everyone doesn't have to understand everything you will be ok. Study a little and you will understand why people don't get to decide what words mean. Example saying a man is a women is a lie. Saying a women is a man is a lie. A man that thinks he is a women is mistaken. A women that thinks she is a man is mistaken.If you need further explanation ask your parents. Tell them you need to have "The Talk" they should know what you mean.

    • @kayhollings1777
      @kayhollings1777 Год назад

      @@samiam8641 It made perfect sense. Not sure why your comment unless you don't understand English...? Strange...

    • @regulator7931
      @regulator7931 Год назад

      I fear that your diatribe of non-sensical prattle was learned in a college classroom for a course you paid way too much to attend which hasn't given you the clairvoyance to find a decent paying job.

    • @ApolloTheDerg
      @ApolloTheDerg Год назад

      @@regulator7931The irony is palpable.

  • @Hafaechaes
    @Hafaechaes 2 года назад +16

    8:58 She didn't explicitly say it, but she implied that the high suicidality is directly linked to pronoun misuse. It seems a little misleading. The suicidality is linked to low acceptance of family and peers, and pronoun use is ONE thing that factors into acceptance. If you want to help these folks be less suicidal, then you need to accept them for who they are and respect them, and using their preferred pronouns is but one way of showing that.
    Personally, I think neopronouns are super inconvenient and would much rather go in the direction of using one set of gender neutral pronouns for everyone, including cis people. But for now I'll just use neopronouns when it comes up because my convenience isn't more important than your identity.

    • @troylee5273
      @troylee5273 2 года назад +1

      Using correct grammar and not sounding illiterate is best way to show respect to everyone including yourself. Anyone committing suicide because others adhere to elementary English is probably beyond hope anyway.

    • @ApolloTheDerg
      @ApolloTheDerg Год назад

      You don’t affirm the voices of someone with a mental disorder, it is not the solution, nor are pronouns. Unfortunately there is no real medical or psychological help left, it has all been injected by pseudoscience and it will fail the people in question.

  • @Jay2pay
    @Jay2pay 8 дней назад

    They tell people to not push Christianity or force other people to believe so why I am I being forced to believe a lie.

  • @shanezammit7150
    @shanezammit7150 2 года назад +4

    I have enough problems remembering my name, now I am supposed to remember everyone's pronouns because of some snowflakes tears?

  • @Jack29151
    @Jack29151 2 года назад +7

    I just watched a 15 minute Liberal brainwashing :)

  • @Klaus__Schwab
    @Klaus__Schwab Год назад +6

    I lost some braincells watching this

  • @Voyager759
    @Voyager759 2 года назад +9

    I wonder how much she got paid for this?

  • @CLAYDIGITAL20
    @CLAYDIGITAL20 Год назад +3

    This ideology is ridiculous

  • @rainm7389
    @rainm7389 2 года назад +11

    Mala is an amazing professor. She really cares about humanity. Thank you Mala. Keep up the great work.

    • @geraldinepetrou9699
      @geraldinepetrou9699 2 года назад +3

      And I was born with an extra arm and hand, should glove and coat co.s sell me garments at the price for two armed people? Get over yourselves.!

    • @regulator7931
      @regulator7931 Год назад +2

      If this woman is a professor she's the literal advertisement for not sending your children to college 🤣

  • @PrincessRedine
    @PrincessRedine Месяц назад +1

    I took a compulsory anthropology course and they send me here.

  • @SwedishEmpire1700
    @SwedishEmpire1700 Год назад +2

    Todays pronouns are: Herp/Derp

  • @JasMcKenzie
    @JasMcKenzie Год назад +2

    I'm going to demand that people use "thee, thou, thy" when addressing me. I better not hear any of that "you, your" BS.

  • @mroselli
    @mroselli Год назад +3

    no, pronouns DO NOT matter. Reality, and factual science matter. Feelings can not alter or change legitimate definitions rooted in biology.

  • @annmariefrank8803
    @annmariefrank8803 Год назад +1

    Blah Blah Blah....
    I love the Giant's fooball team...sometimes obsessed.
    Doesn't make me a dude....it never will. Im a bioigical woman...wife....mother and teacher

  • @kevuseth8027
    @kevuseth8027 2 года назад +4

    My pronouns are Screw/You.

  • @craigslist4428
    @craigslist4428 4 месяца назад

    Please stop equating LGB with gender fluidity. They’re not the same thing.

  • @SuperLaz007
    @SuperLaz007 2 года назад +3

    I get very angry when people don't use my proper pronoun..."his Royal majesty"....or "My Lord"

  • @cannagonian
    @cannagonian 2 года назад +4

    Really??? When will this 15 minutes be over already

  • @WrekFilms121
    @WrekFilms121 2 года назад +9

    Remember everyone. These pronouns are all "preferred".

    • @waiton7658
      @waiton7658 2 года назад

      Yep those people don’t deserve others unearned respect

    • @enzocolonna
      @enzocolonna 7 месяцев назад

      Unfortunately I don't agree when you say preferred..... in the moment that they ask for ... they pretend

  • @rajnarayanan1533
    @rajnarayanan1533 2 года назад +7

    Does it really matter ?

  • @GenericWhiteNPC
    @GenericWhiteNPC 2 года назад +7

    blah blah blah blah blah

  • @geraldinepetrou9699
    @geraldinepetrou9699 2 года назад +1

    Ok, what is the difference between Carole and she/her? They are both female. So , is carole just tired of her name, to want to be called she/her? Henty's and he/him are both male. Is Henty tired of his name and wants to be called he/him? they /them, who are these people, Male or female? Please explain this in terms that are not mumbo jumbo.

  • @nOegaAra25
    @nOegaAra25 2 года назад +3

    "Mala you are such an inspiration"
    5 seconds later: My prefer pronouns are Mala/Mal/ala/Aallaakhbar

  • @victoriaharbison6057
    @victoriaharbison6057 Год назад +10

    I think inclusion is a worthy goal, but I think it’s dangerous to impose an expectation that those around you join you in your efforts to
    “ deconstruction of the gender binary” on others around you. Refer to yourself and express yourself freely. But compelling certain speech from others is a bad and dangerous slippery slope.

    • @bravobytz1820
      @bravobytz1820 9 месяцев назад +1

      By that measure asking men to help raise up womens rights and equality is just a huge imposition on them that shouldn't ever be asked. Yes, fighting for equality means getting as many people on board as necessary, otherwise the imbalance continues. See how that works. Am I saying that neopronouns aren't a pain? No, but they /them as a singular is not new. Ze/Zir or whatever is gonna take some time if that ever gets hold but I understand the reasoning behind it I just don't wanna learn it lol. New words or even better words adapted from other languages that have historical grounding like "ta" have value in our ability for language to grow and adapt. Theres nothing wrong w learning new words. Its when these neopronouns are not grammatical that bothers me. They/Them have always been used as singular gender nuetral it's just now that they are attached to an identity you aren't familiar w that it becomes the problem.

    • @collections3119
      @collections3119 9 месяцев назад

      @@bravobytz1820 Everyone has equal rights under the law in America. This includes women and trans people. The left doesn't want "equal rights," they want special rights for only certain groups of people. Of course, they can't be honest about that.

  • @RisingRose
    @RisingRose 2 года назад +9

    The transphobes in these comments and on these types of videos are ridiculous.
    Fellas, if this video is so boring and ridiculous to you, and you're ''losing braincells just watching this''', click off. Watch something that you feel is worth your time. Because clearly in your eyes, trans and nonbinary people aren't worth your time, or your respect and understanding. Go spend time on something productive, or spend time with the people you love, instead of sitting here watching a video you don't want to watch, typing hateful comments toward a type of people you don't even want to attempt to empathize with.

    • @Lagchunk
      @Lagchunk 2 года назад +4

      "Transphobia" doesn't exist. I don't think there's a single person that is scared of "trans" people, being hateful or angry at trans people is not a phobia. Stop changing speech to fit you.

    • @zombiehunterx6266
      @zombiehunterx6266 2 года назад +3

      Facts

    • @Numerosity
      @Numerosity 2 года назад +4

      @@Lagchunk 'phobia' isn't limited to fear. It includes having a negative, hatred feeling towards something, or someone in this case. The entire English language is made up, and we are constantly changing language anyway. Nice try though.

    • @Lorvina1
      @Lorvina1 2 года назад

      you are in a cult

    • @Jack29151
      @Jack29151 2 года назад +3

      I would rather watch 15 hours of nyan cat.

  • @alittleextra2832
    @alittleextra2832 2 года назад +3

    This is a joke ryt? 🤣

  • @Lisa-pn2ml
    @Lisa-pn2ml Год назад +5

    Speaking of being seen and respected, I personally do not feel either when those in my workplace try to force me to speak my pronouns when I *do not want* to. And then proceed to bully via shunning. I 100% respect those who identify as male who were formally female and vice versa, and obviously refer to them as a he if they present as a he and a her if they identify as a her. I have zero issues with it. But PLEASE DO NOT try to force compelled speech on me. It's just another form of tyranny, especially when your livelihood and mental health are affected. This is clearly a one-way street that disrespects those who do not want to be a part of it. Thanks.

  • @luigiescobar6398
    @luigiescobar6398 2 года назад +1

    What 😅

  • @keyboarddancers7751
    @keyboarddancers7751 2 года назад +8

    6:23 Of all the people she could choose to quote from, she chose *John McWhorter* - the irony is beyond comical! I wonder what *Professor Nicholas Meriwether* thinks of all this?

  • @slwh111
    @slwh111 2 года назад +1

    I just farted. And my pronouns are pen/is.

  • @nishae7436
    @nishae7436 Год назад +1

    Wow..i lasted 4:28 and I could t go any further..what in the world is she talking about….

  • @battags22
    @battags22 11 месяцев назад +1

    I will never care about pronouns. We are adding unnecessary layers to thinking and language when we should be simplifying to increase the flow of ideas.