Hmong people need to stop being complicated and let the elders live with whomever they want to, daughter or son. Shouldn’t matter if it’s the daughter who’s going to take care of the elderly parents.
Y L, the reason was because the son and his wife refused to give the mom's saving and SSI money to the daughter. They probably spent it all, but I am sure the mom still receive her SSI monthly and they want that too.
When it’s close to their time to go it will be difficult and challenging to care for an elderly person. Take turns helping the best you can. Such a sad story. Feels just like this is the reality for so many people. Get help to care for your parents. They are old but get the help you need to help ease what’s left of their life. Change your mind and love when you still have time. They won’t be here much longer. You’re annoyed and mad at them for whatever reasons now, but You will miss them when they’re gone. Makes me 😭 sad 😞
Koj hais koj tus nyab tus nus los tsis tau lawm...mus quaj ib pluag rau koj txiv tim ntxa...es muab txhua yam hais rau nws mloog...ces koj lub siab yuav kaj tuaj lawm os Tus muam aw..nrog koj tu siab os
Taking care of the elders can be exhausting. It should be the responsibility of both sons and daughters. I love my sons and daughter equally. I plan to support their lives equally as they grow up I won't expect a dime in return. God bless all those out there providing care for their parents. Remember to share the responsibility
Kuv pab koj tu siab kawg me muam nws Tsis hlub nws niam Lwm hnub nws cov mam ua rau nws ua cas neb tseem muaj niam nyob cas neb Tsis hlub ..zoo li kuv Tsis niam lawm xav Pom xav Nsthib npaum cas los tub Tsis Pom ....muaj hnub ib twg nws mam khwv xim
Sim neej no tej me nyuam ces yeej pauj tsis tau niam thiab txiv lub Txiaj ntsim li os.ib leej niam tu tau kaum leej me nyuam hos kaum leej me nyuam tus tsis tau ib leeg niam.
Txhob tu siab os..peb cov brother always like that..even mine brother are like that too and don’t worry because the way your sister in law do that to your parents her sister in law will do that to her parents too
Yog lawm nawb. Nug nej tus kheej cov sisters, koj ne, puas yog ib tug nyab zoo thiab? Ua li ne, vim dab tsi cov nyab hnub no thiaj siab phem ua luaj? Es cov ntxhais ne, vim li cas thiaj zoo ua luaj? Es koj niam ne? Nus puas hlub nej ib yam thiab? The truth is, we love our parents more, with consciousness, because we know their love is unconditional to us.
I’ve seen n heard this story way too many times n have experienced it myself. This is way too sad n I’ve always believed in taking care of our parents at home. It’s too sad that sometimes we’re not fortunate enough to have a kind n big hearted Nyab. I know n understand that it’s tough but it’s still ur duties as children. When u get married, ur marrying the whole family. Karma is a B...
Just one perspective, but who can be a kind nyab when she is the only one responsible for her in-laws' well being and their future funerals, but the in-laws love and cherish all their kids the same or others more?
Yog nw tu nu tu nyab ho g hlub nw niam nw txiv puas tu siab ma es kuj coj mu rau neej tsa qhuab qhia ma yog neej tsa g hai tu nyab ce yuav tu tshiab xwb vim poj no muab nyiaj yuav tau ho yu niam yuav g tau os
They can't call the cops on you for taking your mom with you unless they have legal guardianship over the mom, you can call the cops on them to remove them from your mom's home if it is still under your mom's name. What pisses me off is that you all act like the law is decided by your pos brother, at this point you really think there will be a relationship between you and your brother after your mom passes? Forreal! Sons and brothers like that you gotta show them that they can't threaten you and scare you.
I totally agreed, I am too pissed off at the part that these people keeps living their lives by the Hmong ways and leaving their mother to suffer from the pain and heartache, makes me wanna knock some senses into their heads, living and abiding by these Hmong ways ain't gonna do no shit in this situation 😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠
There is nothing wrong with living life and following tradition but when you do it without heart and for spite or selfishness, it's not acceptable regardless of what culture you are in. What is right is Right and you will have to live with the decisions you make. She needs to make the decision to go get her mother because she's suffering and say screw everything.
@@yajxyoojlisthoj24 so why is the wife expected to care for his parents but the same can't be expected out of her husband? If expectations don't go both ways then sol
It's goes both ways! Suggested hmong culture should adapt to the American culture "wedding" and the American Society. No one is not responsible for anybody's parents but due to all circumstances and relationship and love always look at your situation with your partner if able to agree being the caregiver.
True, but will you and your husband take full responsibility for your mom and when she dies? Hmong daughters need to rise and say I will take equal responsibility for my own parents. Hmong parents need to stop taking a bride price and teach your daughter she is always your flesh and blood and nothing is thicker.
This is why Americans people dont wants children or have so many kids. .children don't love you, because they have their own life. For us older folks, dont rely on our kids anymore, kids now a day said,," well I didn't ask to be born, you want me for yourself..if your children said this to you what would you siad back to them?" First of all what the kids said it's TRUE, they didn't ask to be born, we as the parents want them for ourselves, so dont regrets...if they don't want to care for us.....
maya lee, I agreed with you. I don't have any hope in these kids anymore. They don't even know how to wash dishes so what do they know about love for their parents.
@@nkaujnom1255 your statement is very true. I just don't know what to do when the kids don't do what they are told, even the simplest thing such as to brush their teeth. After telling them so many times, I just give up.
Niam ntsuab teev koj thiab kuv ces quaj222 taug kawg kuv mloog koj cov dab neeg koj quj hauv ces kuv quaj sab nrauv vim kuv pom koj lub kua muag poob ces kuv lub kua muag poob nrog koj
The mom can live at home with someone else to provide pca services. PCA does not have to be provided by family, especially ungrateful family members. The brother and his wife are plain cruel. Daughters are usually more thoughtful. I am a daughter too and known this to be true. Glad I have my daughters.
Wow this evil brother and his wife better go get their mom back before karma hits. He is definitely a waste. Kev npam is no joke when it comes to your parents.
Pretty sure the sister in law wouldn’t let her brother’s wife treat her own mother the way she treats her mother in law! So sad. They only know how to love their mother when they run off to get marry. Such a shame!
This made me cry I really hope u didn't have a bad day I had a bad or good day kuv yog Hmong people who are mean bad abusive plz read this ur cruel and shouldn't hit ppl u know that they choose to love u and u choose to be mean so yea don't listen to the devil side listen to the angel side all they wanted was love ok so pls stop and love ur kids and mom they deserve more better and love thank u god made a better life for all of u
Very sad, these days women is controlling all situations in the house. Man is a loser these day. Too bad for all men. May God bless all poor hmong men.
This is a very sad story. As a mother I understand the grandma, as a daughter I understand her daughters, last but not least I also understand the daughter in law as a nyab. I pray that all of you guys will come to some kind of agreement and take your mom home.
Mai Hmoob FYI, the nyab can allow for the mother in law she no longer wants to take care of to be released into the care of her own daughter but she refuses. So if you understand the nyab, you’re just as evil.
Tus sister, your brother has no legal power over your mother unless your mother gave him guardianship. Even then, you can still get your mom released into your care if your mom does not want to stay at the nursing home and you are willing to take care of her. Do NOT, I repeat, do not go through Hmong elders. Take the meeka route!! Once your mom is in your care, get a lawyer to sign over her care to you, known as power of attorney!!! This is elder neglect and you have the right to take your mom away from that situation. Your brother can’t call the cops on you!
Nus dev nyab poj dab xwb, Tsis ntshai npam li. Yog hlub tsis tau hos tsis cia tej muAm hlub es ho yuav muab leej niam rau txim li no. Ua tsis nyog kiag li...Ua tiag npam tiag nawb.
Aunite, if you want to make a difference, take action. Go court for it, hire a lawyer for help. Go strong, if we keep this Hmong tradition we will never find peace. Make history, dont live history. Outsider shouldn't have a saying cause they don't walk your shoe.
Cas mloog zaj no v yuav los kua muag ua luaj v tu siab heev v mloog g taus zaj no kiag li nej twb yug muaj los tseem txom ngen ua luaj es v twb yug g muaj ntshe ib hnub twg v tseem txom ngem tshaj nej thiab os hmoob
What are you scared of? Who cares what the elders think. What can the police do? She is your mom too, they would never arrest you, especially if she can still speak for herself. Don't wait until she is no longer able to express her wishes. If you want her, you can have her. You're making a conscious decision to leave her there yourself.
Tus siab heev li os zaj dab neeg no os koj tus nus lwm hnub nws yuav taug koj niam txoj kev nws ua li cas nws yuav tau li ntawv kuv yog tus mloog kuv pab koj niam thiab kuv lub kua muag lo vim kuv yog ib tug neeg hlub cov laus heev
Oh, one more thing, anyone can call the law on your brother and his wife for neglecting the mom. They’re signed papers to care for her and getting paid by the state. Have them arrested.
These sisters needs to take charge and stop living by the Hmong ways, that stupid bitch ass sister in law of hers shouldn't even be going over to her birth mother's house as well if that's the case that these sisters can't come see their own mother
@@leahvon5905 your right. Hmong ppl needs to stop Living the Hmong way and take charge...since like Hmong son nowadays are loser...they always listen to what they wife said... ..
@@leahvon5905 Its nice to be mad, but lets think vice versa...the daughter worries so much about her mother and is there to care for her mom so much, is she in return doing the same thing as her nyab duty to her in laws also? That's another question that should be raised to the person of this story.
Very sad, these days women is controlling all situations in the house. Man is a loser these day. Too bad for all men. May God bless all poor hmong men.
Not all Hmong men. Some Hmong men let themselves to wear the skirt and their wives the pant. Every race has some men cannot stand up. If my wife do this, she will be out the gutter in no time, period!
It's so sad to hear this cause it's the sad like my story when my mom still alive..its over 10 years but when I hear this story I cry again. Sister it's so hard to be a Hmong woman cause the Hmong culture n respect our elders. Wish we can change like American xwb os....
People say forget the Hmong way but then it puts pressure on your husband (son in law) if he still follows traditional ways. It’s complicated. Fellas (sons) need to build up some self esteem and choose partners that respect them wholeheartedly before tying the knot. If values don’t align, then maybe marriage isn’t the best idea.
Sam Vue, you must not have kids or not have a lot love for your parents. It’s not about making one feel guilty but giving the unconditional love that every parent seek for when they grow old. Life is fine when your parent have each other but when one spouse leave the other on this earth early. The parent left behind put their faith and trust on their child to care for until death take them. Taking care of your parents is just a repayment of them raising you to the human being you are today. If your parent didn’t love you unconditionally you wouldn’t be living. Respect the one who made you who you are today.
@@msyngseer5560 : To a certain degree I agree with you but realistically sometimes it is impossible. I love my parents a lot, even have power attorney over them, but even I have to be honest with myself. When my grandfather became totally incapable and need constant diaper change, even my parents, all the aunts and uncles have to put him in a nursing home. Those people are paid to do a job and they are trained professionals with that kind of time. As long as you visit your elder often and check up on them, it should be okay. When it gets to me one day, I will not hold my kids so impossibly accountable.
I understand caring is only to a certain degree and not everyone have time, though there are option and other service such as homecare services, where a professional nurse can care for the mother at home. Our elders do not understand English, why would you send them to a place where they have no clue where they are restricted, or worst don't know what is being done to them most of the time? It's like saying it's ok to leave an infant that cannot toilet or communicate in the wilderness. Maybe the mom should have left her son back in Laos if that's ok! As people get smarter they get greedier and become more selfish, it's only abut them until they are in the mom's shoe.
@@msyngseer5560 if it's not guilt trip than what....we need to work and pay bills....its like by the time we get home we need to help kids with homework, cook, shower and do it all over again Mondayto fr....everyone can give this guy and wife's a hard time but ....we don't live with them and we only hear their mom sides of the story lol....but that's only my opinion.....I totally agree there is a lot of help out there and Hmong needs to trust other when it calls for...when it comes to elderly who needs the extra help. We love our parents but when it comes old age and illness we can only do so much to where we will be so exhausted ourselves out.. Especially if they needed extra help use your imagination here lol.
Sam Vue, guilt? You will know when you get there. We all will get old one day. Trust me, I have parent, kids, a single mom with two job. I don’t need to use my imagination. Until you are in the mom’s shoe with little or no English and thrown to a place you didn’t agree on. You will know. Plus nowhere on here did I blame the brother and his wife. Just giving my opinion on respecting your parents last wish. Cause karma will work it’s way back.
Vim peb cov txiv tsev pheej mus nriav dua tus tshiab log vim nej ua tau2 siab heev thiab muab peb lub neej plam kev kwv tij py cais yus pab nus muas ua yeeb ncuab tas los vim cov poj niam siab lim2 hiam mas
This is exactly why it's important to establish a legal healthcare and/or financial power of attorney to protect yourself and save your family from drama! It's too bad that your story had to happen like this. We hear of these types of stories all the time.
Cas nej cov muam twb coob es nej hos tsis nrog nej tus nus tu es nej pheej yuav kom nej tus nyab tu es nej tsis xav tias tsis yog luag niam na nej yuav yuam nws ib leej tu nej niam luag tu sis taus ces kawg luag tsis xav yuav nej niam xwb mas txhua tus neeg yog noj taus sawv tsis taus lawm ces. Txhob tu siab mes kas lawm muaj lawv neeg tu kawm tawm los tu neeg laus lawv txawj tu tshaj
Hais rau tus ntxhais no....mus coj Koj niam. Tsis txhob cia koj niam nyob tim tsev laus lawm. Thaum lig lawm ces tsis zoo dab tsi lawm os. Peb cov ntxhais hmoob es....los sib com tes es txhob cia hmoob li kev ruam no saib tsis taus peb. Yog tub ua tsis tau ces cia ntxhais ua log. Leej twg muaj peev xwm ces tso rau tus ntawv. Yog koj niam...Koj Niam tiag tiag. Ah tsij mus coj koj niam los tsev...los hlub kom kawg nws lub neej.
Idk what the hell is wrong with this Hmong woman. May is giving her the most “common sense” advice in the nicest form possible. Nothing in this world would prevent me from saving the people that I love, definitely no invisible tradition law, can’t get stupider than this!
rektide ! I understand where you’re coming from but the mother said if they don’t have time, they can get out of her house and she will have a nurse come take care of her instead. The son and Nyab just don’t want to take care of the mother. Just wait until u get old. You will change your words really quick.
@@MiSsMaCy I'm not arguing about the house part. I think the moms right. I'm just saying in general that some parents are too needy that it causes a lot of trouble for the son and nyab.
@@TricxL Ok, but in this story she just want them out of her house and will have a caretaker.. So of course the solution to this is for the son and greedy ass nyab to move out. I hope she better have the same energy like this for her own parents.
Zaj dab neeg no zoo heev li qhia rau hom nyab es ntshaws tej laus tej qub txeeg qub teg tas sis tsi xav tu tej laus mas xav zoo zoo mog kj tsis yog lawv ntxhais kj tsis muaj cais txiav txwv lawv tsev neeg, ho kj tus ua nus los xav kom zoo vi kj tus poj niam ntshaw nyiaj xwb mog ua siab tso cia kj lub neej yuav batter os mog.cov ntawv no sau rau hom neeg zoo li no xwb tsis txhob muab suav rau kj yov kj tsis yog hom neeg no cov lus kv sau yuav tsis mob kj.
Ab cas tej nyab dab tsi yuav tsis yuav tej laus npaum kuv es kuv xav kom kuv niam pog txiv yawg los nrog kuv nyob los lawv tsis kam kuv nim tutu siab ua luaj os tej nyab siab phem aw
hmoob txoj kab lig kev cai ces yog dev npua cai ces yog tej no los mas, leej twg ua tus pib thaum xub thawj los hais tias ntxhais qhua, ua ces txhaum dab, txhaum npaum li no lawm es teev nej cov dab hmoob ua tus tsi naw, khiav los nrog peb ntseeg vajtswv zoo dua os.
Yog kawg yom! Yog txhaum no ces peb tej no am tsis txhaum tag tus lawm os. Peb tag tus yeej tsis dim li thiab mas. Tabsis hmoob txoj niag kev cai quav dev no ces tsis muaj tseeb os. They all need to stop conforming to those old, outdated, non sense ways. It's useless.
I just cried my eyes out! 😭 Were all given life n luv thru one set of parents, there will never be another replica or anyone that will ever take their place! Because you need food or money can you or would you even begin to imagine having the will n strength to turn & walk away, leaving ur own child, ur babies out there by someone door or some place....... just driving off thinking you did the right thing, or because you had to? That's ur own flesh b blood you neglected n abandon. what selfish old hearted person & soul can do this? 🙏I know fosho....... I can't! Ty for sharing this heartbreaking sad story!😍 Karma is real...love your parents😍
Yog hais tiAs yus yeej yog tus uas tus laus hlub no ces txhob siab siab phem rau tus laus thiab nawb hos yog yus yeej Tsis yog tus uas tus laus Favors no los kuj ua 1 yam hais thiab
Vuag ua cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj li os me niam laus aw koj tus nyab thiab tus nus ces yeej yuav npam xwb os cas kuv yuav nrog koj hlub koj niam ua luaj li os kuv Los twb tsis muaj niam lawm thiab os cas kuv mloog me niam ntsuab teev piav mas kuv lub kua muag ntws sis xwb os lawv aw
This story is very sad. I hope that our culture change in this generation or the next. It shouldn't matter son or daughter, all children should have the same right to care for their elderly parents.
Peb hmoob yuav tau tso txoj kev cai qub2 no pov tseg es ho txhob niaj hnub leej yus tej txiaj ntsim kev hlub los ua chaw ti rau yus tej tub ki yog tsis muaj yus tus tub lm no yus ho yuav tu siab rau leej twg.
I want to stone that brother...what the heck is wrong with him and his wife? I truly believe his wife is that way because he allows her to be a witch to his mom!! Can't wait til karma comes back around to him. 😡💔
Leej twg niam los peb yuav tau hlub mog cov mi muam, tus kwv tij no nws cia li yoog nws tus poj niam lawm xwb, peb txhua txhua leej muaj txoj cai hlub peb niam thiab txiv kom sib npaug mog. Twb nrog tus nus nyob ntev lawm, tus nus yuav tau tso rau cov muam coj mus hlub mas tab sis zoo li tus nus thiab nyab nkawv ntshaw leej niam cov nyiaj heev es nkawv txwv qhov ntawv but still she has the right to move wherever she wants and move her money over there. Thov txhob tsim txom tej laus lub siab ntsws nawb mog. Tej laus hais tias hlub niam hlub thiaj tau ntuj ntoo no laiv thiab txoj kev npam muaj tseeb os mog...yus tsis nrhiav kev npam tab sis kev npaj yeej yuav nrhiav yus ib hnub nawb mog.
Tus muam tsis care txog, nws yeej yuav tsum npam xwb, lub kua muag yus ev tsis taus. Yog yus tsis ua txhaum mas yeej tsis npam, yus ua txhaum li koj ces yeej npam xwb 2.
Yog , vim hmoob cov niag kev cai quav dev no es tej niag laus thiaj tau kev tsaus ntuj los tseem tsis hloov qees thiab. kuv niag txiv ntawd yog tsis muaj nws hnub twg ntshe kuv yuav coj kuv tej mi nyuam mus kev cai tshiab es tsam lwm hnub kuv laus ces kuv cov niag tub hlwj qauj ua tsis taus txiv los kom tej ntxhais ho coj tau kuv mus nrog lawv nyob, tabsis yuav yog tej ntxhais mus kev cai tshiab thiab tsis tag li los yuav yog yus tej ntxhais ho mus tau tej vauv siab loj siab zoo hlub yus kam yuav yus thiab. kuv twb pom cov niag vauv phem es twb mus kev cai tshiab lawm hos niam tais los mus tibsi los tseem tsis hlub tsis kam yuav thiab hos. muab hais mas tu siab heev li os hmoob.
If my husband said I could take my momma, I would have taken her and my brother couldn't and wouldn't be able to do shit. It's not too late. You're momma is still there. Go get her!
Ua cas cov neej neeg no mas cov nus lub siab phem thb siab nyoos tiag li .. yeej g hlub cov lau li tab si xav txheeb tej lau li nyiaj tab si g xav hlub tej lau..
Don't do the Hmong way, stop living by the Hmong ways, live by the way that is right for you and for your mom, the Hmong ways don't give you food when you don't have food to eat, the food shelter gives you food, the Hmong ways don't pay for your medical expenses, the state pays for your medical expenses, the Hmong ways don't give you a roof over your head, the homeless shelter gives you a roof over your head, stop living your life 100% by the Hmong ways, break that
I honestly believe some parts, but not everyone gets food from the food shelter, not every homeless shelter provides a roof over everyone's head, but I believe that they can live with the son or the daughter though. Their choice and their spouses choice. Happy wife, happy life they say. So if us sisters wants to be happy, we better make sure that before we make assumptions and our own decisions, that our partner agrees to it also.
Cov tub los txiv neej xaj maim no ces hnav tiab lawm xwb tu siab kawg nkaus. Txhob tu siab ntuj ua ntuj ntxiv .. txoj kev uas leej niam no taug ces tus tub no yeej yuav ris mus twg ib sib neej.
Vim koj tus nyab ib leeg thiaj li muaj pim xwb, koj tus nus hais ntau ces koj nyab tsis nrab ceg rau koj tus nws aim ces koj tus nus thiaj li tsis hlub koj niam. Pab nej cov vim ncaus tu siab heev os.
Koj niam yug koj, yog koj yeej hlub koj niam li koj tau hais, koj yeej muaj txoj cai los coj koj niam mus nrog koj nyob rau koj hlub. Kuv yog kuv niam tus tub ntxawg kuv tsis yuav li kuv tus poj niam hais. Kuv kuj tsis kom kuv tus poj niam los tu kuv niam, vim twb tsis yug nws, tiam sis yug kuv. Kuv tu kuv niam es yog nws tseem muaj teeb meem thiab ces nws tsis tsim nyog tau kuv ua nws tus txiv. Nws tsis tsaus siab ces koj coj mus rau nws niam nws txiv yug nws pab soj ntsuam seb puas siv tau!! Yog tsis coj ces koj niam tuag koj mam ua tus muam Phauj mus foom rau ob niam txiv dev ntawv xwb mas!
Cov txawj hlub niam thiab txiv ces hnov li no los kua muag thiab tu siab tab sis cov tsis txawj hlub ces hnov li no tsis xav mloog. Tab sis hais rau peb cov uas yog khaub ntxhais, cov nyab cov nus tsis hlub los thov kom peb cov ntxhais yeej meem hlub vim thaum niam thiab txiv laus tsuas ntshaw kom me nyuam hlub es txhob pub niam thiab txiv tu siab xwb. Tab sis neeg tsis zoo ib yam, tej tus dhuas 2 cov laus ces lawv twb tsis khuv xim. Kuv tau hlub kuv niam kuv txiv raws li kuv lub siab ua tau es kuv hnov tus viv ncaus no txoj dab neeg ua rau kuv tu siab heev. Hmoob ces thaum txog lub sij hawm zoo li no pheej yuav ua txuj yuav cai. Tej zaum yeej muaj lwm yam. Thov nej cov viv ncaus hlub koj niam twb txog nws lub caij uas nws yuav ncaim nej mus. Kuv yeej hais ncaj tias yog yus niam yus thiaj hlub xwb tsis muaj leej twg nrog yus hlub es txhob tos ntxiv. Nej yim tos ces nej niam txom nyem xwb.
Koj niag nus dev liam ko kom nws mus hnav tiab los ma cov txiv neej zoo luv ko nyob los nyav av dhau lawm os? Yav laus koj yeej yuav raug pov tseg xwb ma kev npam yuav los Sai2 no lawm 😭😭😭😭
Hmong people need to stop being complicated and let the elders live with whomever they want to, daughter or son. Shouldn’t matter if it’s the daughter who’s going to take care of the elderly parents.
True, agreed with you
Y L, the reason was because the son and his wife refused to give the mom's saving and SSI money to the daughter. They probably spent it all, but I am sure the mom still receive her SSI monthly and they want that too.
Cim xeeb zoo heev thiaj hais tau lino, vim koj tsis muaj qhov hnoos, qhov xaiv lus li,
Greece I agree
Stacey Yang Sadly, it’s the money that they want and the “face” that the want to save.
Zaj neej neeg no tu siab tshaj thiab mloog mas los kua muag kawg
When it’s close to their time to go it will be difficult and challenging to care for an elderly person. Take turns helping the best you can.
Such a sad story. Feels just like this is the reality for so many people. Get help to care for your parents. They are old but get the help you need to help ease what’s left of their life.
Change your mind and love when you still have time. They won’t be here much longer. You’re annoyed and mad at them for whatever reasons now, but You will miss them when they’re gone.
Makes me 😭 sad 😞
Hmong sisters let protest this!! We need to change for the better of our parents.
Qe Yang
I’m with you 100% stop that dumb culture none sense.
Your protest won't go anywhere.
I would've given him the middle finger and take him to court. Screw this piece of crap. Equal right in America boy or girl.
Have sons they said. Sons will love and take care of you when you’re old 👎🏽
That’s one of the most shitty ignorant belief in oldies Hmong/Asian culture. Serve them right.
The mother needs to sign a power of attorney form. Giving her the rights to choose someone, who can make legal decisions for her.
She needs to do that and write a will ASAP. They gotta kick him out of momma's house.
@@liloallena I bet the mom won't do it because she loves the son too much! And to do that, those things cost money.
Hmong OGs don’t know the law and no one tells them.
@@microbiologist50 cost money? So? She has money!
@@tweetiebird100 Because they cost money, the mother might not be interested. And she has no more money because she gave it all to her favorite son.
tu siab tshaj plawg os ib tsoom hmoob 😭😭😭
Koj hais koj tus nyab tus nus los tsis tau lawm...mus quaj ib pluag rau koj txiv tim ntxa...es muab txhua yam hais rau nws mloog...ces koj lub siab yuav kaj tuaj lawm os
Tus muam aw..nrog koj tu siab os
Cov niag txiv neej ua tsis tau txiv ces yog kiag ib yam lis koj niag nus ntawm koj. Ua tsis tau txiv ces muab tus qhov chaw txiv neej hlais tawm es cias poj niam lis uas txiv. Lub neej nos es cas yuav ntshais tsam tsis tau poj niam qhov niag luaj peb ntis poj niam phem CES muaj luag tawm cias mus ua poj nraus xwb poj niam muaj coob muaj ntau nas. Yog yus niam nas es niag poj niam muaj peb ntis lis ntaws xwb es tseem yuav zoo tshaj yus niam nos.
Taking care of the elders can be exhausting.
It should be the responsibility of both sons and daughters.
I love my sons and daughter equally.
I plan to support their lives equally as they grow up
I won't expect a dime in return.
God bless all those out there providing care for their parents.
Remember to share the responsibility
Niam ntsuab teev hais yog lawm. Tsis txhob khes txog hmoob kev cai. Yog koj hlub koj niam tiag ces ua kiag kev cai mekas xwb hmoob kev cai tsis muaj nqis dab tsi
Kuv pab koj tu siab kawg me muam nws Tsis hlub nws niam Lwm hnub nws cov mam ua rau nws ua cas neb tseem muaj niam nyob cas neb Tsis hlub ..zoo li kuv Tsis niam lawm xav Pom xav Nsthib npaum cas los tub Tsis Pom ....muaj hnub ib twg nws mam khwv xim
Sim neej no tej me nyuam ces yeej pauj tsis tau niam thiab txiv lub Txiaj ntsim li os.ib leej niam tu tau kaum leej me nyuam hos kaum leej me nyuam tus tsis tau ib leeg niam.
Hlub yus tshaj plaws cais yog yuz niam xwb os hmoob aw !
Txhob tu siab os..peb cov brother always like that..even mine brother are like that too and don’t worry because the way your sister in law do that to your parents her sister in law will do that to her parents too
Yog lawm nawb. Nug nej tus kheej cov sisters, koj ne, puas yog ib tug nyab zoo thiab? Ua li ne, vim dab tsi cov nyab hnub no thiaj siab phem ua luaj? Es cov ntxhais ne, vim li cas thiaj zoo ua luaj? Es koj niam ne? Nus puas hlub nej ib yam thiab? The truth is, we love our parents more, with consciousness, because we know their love is unconditional to us.
I’ve seen n heard this story way too many times n have experienced it myself. This is way too sad n I’ve always believed in taking care of our parents at home. It’s too sad that sometimes we’re not fortunate enough to have a kind n big hearted Nyab. I know n understand that it’s tough but it’s still ur duties as children. When u get married, ur marrying the whole family. Karma is a B...
Just one perspective, but who can be a kind nyab when she is the only one responsible for her in-laws' well being and their future funerals, but the in-laws love and cherish all their kids the same or others more?
Andy Yang I don’t understand your question.
Yog nw tu nu tu nyab ho g hlub nw niam nw txiv puas tu siab ma es kuj coj mu rau neej tsa qhuab qhia ma yog neej tsa g hai tu nyab ce yuav tu tshiab xwb vim poj no muab nyiaj yuav tau ho yu niam yuav g tau os
Nyab siab phem heev. Nyab cov yuav ua rau koj thiab. NPAM koj os poj hmoob.
They can't call the cops on you for taking your mom with you unless they have legal guardianship over the mom, you can call the cops on them to remove them from your mom's home if it is still under your mom's name. What pisses me off is that you all act like the law is decided by your pos brother, at this point you really think there will be a relationship between you and your brother after your mom passes? Forreal! Sons and brothers like that you gotta show them that they can't threaten you and scare you.
I totally agreed, I am too pissed off at the part that these people keeps living their lives by the Hmong ways and leaving their mother to suffer from the pain and heartache, makes me wanna knock some senses into their heads, living and abiding by these Hmong ways ain't gonna do no shit in this situation 😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠😠
There is nothing wrong with living life and following tradition but when you do it without heart and for spite or selfishness, it's not acceptable regardless of what culture you are in. What is right is Right and you will have to live with the decisions you make. She needs to make the decision to go get her mother because she's suffering and say screw everything.
Niam laus kj mus hais koj cov neej tsha pab hais koj tus xwb koj cov neeg tsha hais ces yeej yuav tshum tau xwb os peb hlub koj niam kawg li.
Me muam aw tshob tu siab os mog koj tu nu yeej ua tsi yog lawm o
Tu siab tshaj plaws zaj neej neeg no na. Ua rau kuv kua muag poob heev...kuv ntshai tsam kuv raug txoj kev no xwb...thov kom cov tub tig rov hlub nej leej niam leej txiv thiab mog.
Tim peb cov poj niam siab tsis loj xwb os, thov peb cov poj niam, los yog cov ua nyab hloov thiab nawb.
Sister, I don’t care what your brother said. I would take her go live with me no matter what.
@@yajxyoojlisthoj24 so why is the wife expected to care for his parents but the same can't be expected out of her husband? If expectations don't go both ways then sol
It's goes both ways! Suggested hmong culture should adapt to the American culture "wedding" and the American Society. No one is not responsible for anybody's parents but due to all circumstances and relationship and love always look at your situation with your partner if able to agree being the caregiver.
Seriously, I would have kicked his ass out of my momma's house. It's not his house.
True, but will you and your husband take full responsibility for your mom and when she dies? Hmong daughters need to rise and say I will take equal responsibility for my own parents. Hmong parents need to stop taking a bride price and teach your daughter she is always your flesh and blood and nothing is thicker.
All these comments are good and right, but it is a hard situation on all parties. 😕
This is why Americans people dont wants children or have so many kids. .children don't love you, because they have their own life. For us older folks, dont rely on our kids anymore, kids now a day said,," well I didn't ask to be born, you want me for yourself..if your children said this to you what would you siad back to them?"
First of all what the kids said it's TRUE, they didn't ask to be born, we as the parents want them for ourselves, so dont regrets...if they don't want to care for us.....
I agree I would say u have no rights to say that ur father actually did this so yea make this blue if you agree 💙📝🌧😥😡🙄😑
@@xiayang7640 hahaha you are so funny.
maya lee, I agreed with you. I don't have any hope in these kids anymore. They don't even know how to wash dishes so what do they know about love for their parents.
@@microbiologist50 children are a reflection of their parents. Don't handicap them by loving them so much and paving the way.
@@nkaujnom1255 your statement is very true. I just don't know what to do when the kids don't do what they are told, even the simplest thing such as to brush their teeth. After telling them so many times, I just give up.
Niam ntsuab teev koj thiab kuv ces quaj222 taug kawg kuv mloog koj cov dab neeg koj quj hauv ces kuv quaj sab nrauv vim kuv pom koj lub kua muag poob ces kuv lub kua muag poob nrog koj
Tu siab heev li o lawv aw
Money hungry little brother. If you can't man up, then give her up.
The mom can live at home with someone else to provide pca services. PCA does not have to be provided by family, especially ungrateful family members. The brother and his wife are plain cruel. Daughters are usually more thoughtful. I am a daughter too and known this to be true. Glad I have my daughters.
Wow this evil brother and his wife better go get their mom back before karma hits. He is definitely a waste. Kev npam is no joke when it comes to your parents.
I guess i will be living in the "Old Home" just dont want to complicate my kids!
Pretty sure the sister in law wouldn’t let her brother’s wife treat her own mother the way she treats her mother in law! So sad. They only know how to love their mother when they run off to get marry. Such a shame!
Yog, 100% true. Those Nyab today’s only love their parents but not their parents in-laws. What a shame to our culture.
I wish I still have my parents. Lost them in 2008 & 2009. Now feeling like an orphan even in my late 40s. Just miss them so much.
This made me cry I really hope u didn't have a bad day I had a bad or good day kuv yog Hmong people who are mean bad abusive plz read this ur cruel and shouldn't hit ppl u know that they choose to love u and u choose to be mean so yea don't listen to the devil side listen to the angel side all they wanted was love ok so pls stop and love ur kids and mom they deserve more better and love thank u god made a better life for all of u
Ib Zaj dab neeg tu2 siab heev nawb. Thaum kawg koj tus yuav tsum mus coj koj niam los tsev mas thiaj li yuav tag nawb mog.....
Very sad, these days women is controlling all situations in the house. Man is a loser these day. Too bad for all men. May God bless all poor hmong men.
May koj yeej yog ib tus niam tsev zoo. Ua tsaug rau koj .
I feel the daughter but lord this the new generation. Forsure I’m going to the nursing hom not gonna complicate any of my kids.
Lub tsev twb yog koj niam lub ces nws yeej muaj cai mus nyob anytime li os, yog koj tus nus thiab nyab tsis kam ces hu police xwb tiag tsam no nas
😢😢😢😢 tu siab tshaj plaw!!! Why is it that our Hmong family always do this.
This is a very sad story. As a mother I understand the grandma, as a daughter I understand her daughters, last but not least I also understand the daughter in law as a nyab. I pray that all of you guys will come to some kind of agreement and take your mom home.
Mai Hmoob FYI, the nyab can allow for the mother in law she no longer wants to take care of to be released into the care of her own daughter but she refuses. So if you understand the nyab, you’re just as evil.
Tus sister, your brother has no legal power over your mother unless your mother gave him guardianship. Even then, you can still get your mom released into your care if your mom does not want to stay at the nursing home and you are willing to take care of her. Do NOT, I repeat, do not go through Hmong elders. Take the meeka route!! Once your mom is in your care, get a lawyer to sign over her care to you, known as power of attorney!!! This is elder neglect and you have the right to take your mom away from that situation. Your brother can’t call the cops on you!
Spoken like a boss. And while you're at it, evict his butt outta the home.
Its the money that his wife wants thats why she doesnt want her to take the mom and the money
Yes, I believe so..they dont wany her but they want her money...
That’s sad. Money can do so much to people, I see.
Nus dev nyab poj dab xwb, Tsis ntshai npam li. Yog hlub tsis tau hos tsis cia tej muAm hlub es ho yuav muab leej niam rau txim li no. Ua tsis nyog kiag li...Ua tiag npam tiag nawb.
Aunite, if you want to make a difference, take action. Go court for it, hire a lawyer for help. Go strong, if we keep this Hmong tradition we will never find peace. Make history, dont live history. Outsider shouldn't have a saying cause they don't walk your shoe.
Tu tu siab li os cas g.yog ib leeg tub cag
This is one big reason why a lot of us preferred not having a son in life isn’t all that important. I have one daughter and I’m good!
Cas mloog zaj no v yuav los kua muag ua luaj v tu siab heev v mloog g taus zaj no kiag li nej twb yug muaj los tseem txom ngen ua luaj es v twb yug g muaj ntshe ib hnub twg v tseem txom ngem tshaj nej thiab os hmoob
What are you scared of? Who cares what the elders think. What can the police do? She is your mom too, they would never arrest you, especially if she can still speak for herself. Don't wait until she is no longer able to express her wishes. If you want her, you can have her. You're making a conscious decision to leave her there yourself.
bao thao
Good point and good thinking 🤔
The vauvs are not welling here either, y’all not sensing?
Hmoob people care about $ for the funeral and saving faces.
Tus siab heev li os zaj dab neeg no os koj tus nus lwm hnub nws yuav taug koj niam txoj kev nws ua li cas nws yuav tau li ntawv kuv yog tus mloog kuv pab koj niam thiab kuv lub kua muag lo vim kuv yog ib tug neeg hlub cov laus heev
Oh, one more thing, anyone can call the law on your brother and his wife for neglecting the mom. They’re signed papers to care for her and getting paid by the state. Have them arrested.
These sisters needs to take charge and stop living by the Hmong ways, that stupid bitch ass sister in law of hers shouldn't even be going over to her birth mother's house as well if that's the case that these sisters can't come see their own mother
@@leahvon5905 your right. Hmong ppl needs to stop
Living the Hmong way and take charge...since like Hmong son nowadays are loser...they always listen to what they wife said...
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@@leahvon5905 Its nice to be mad, but lets think vice versa...the daughter worries so much about her mother and is there to care for her mom so much, is she in return doing the same thing as her nyab duty to her in laws also? That's another question that should be raised to the person of this story.
@@nalyhang9750 if this story owner knows how much she's hurting to see her mother suffer, therefore she would know better not to be the same
Thank you taking up for your mom.
It's sad. The son shouldn't never make that decision on his own. Should of involve all the siblings before taking his mother to a SNF. God bless them.
Niam laus aw cas koj zaj sab sij huam no tu siab heev li kuv pib mloog xwb kuv lub kua muag peb ntws o
Your brother is not a man. See how much his wife love her own mom to always go hang out at her mom's!?!...smh...
Not many Hmong mens now a day's cannot be and no longer can be a man
Very sad, these days women is controlling all situations in the house. Man is a loser these day. Too bad for all men. May God bless all poor hmong men.
@@hmooblubneejic4703 agree.
Not all Hmong men. Some Hmong men let themselves to wear the skirt and their wives the pant. Every race has some men cannot stand up. If my wife do this, she will be out the gutter in no time, period!
It's so sad to hear this cause it's the sad like my story when my mom still alive..its over 10 years but when I hear this story I cry again. Sister it's so hard to be a Hmong woman cause the Hmong culture n respect our elders. Wish we can change like American xwb os....
People say forget the Hmong way but then it puts pressure on your husband (son in law) if he still follows traditional ways. It’s complicated. Fellas (sons) need to build up some self esteem and choose partners that respect them wholeheartedly before tying the knot. If values don’t align, then maybe marriage isn’t the best idea.
That's so typical of the old people....making their kids feel guilty for their conditions....lol. I see and hear it all the time.
Sam Vue, you must not have kids or not have a lot love for your parents. It’s not about making one feel guilty but giving the unconditional love that every parent seek for when they grow old. Life is fine when your parent have each other but when one spouse leave the other on this earth early. The parent left behind put their faith and trust on their child to care for until death take them. Taking care of your parents is just a repayment of them raising you to the human being you are today. If your parent didn’t love you unconditionally you wouldn’t be living. Respect the one who made you who you are today.
@@msyngseer5560 : To a certain degree I agree with you but realistically sometimes it is impossible. I love my parents a lot, even have power attorney over them, but even I have to be honest with myself. When my grandfather became totally incapable and need constant diaper change, even my parents, all the aunts and uncles have to put him in a nursing home. Those people are paid to do a job and they are trained professionals with that kind of time. As long as you visit your elder often and check up on them, it should be okay. When it gets to me one day, I will not hold my kids so impossibly accountable.
I understand caring is only to a certain degree and not everyone have time, though there are option and other service such as homecare services, where a professional nurse can care for the mother at home. Our elders do not understand English, why would you send them to a place where they have no clue where they are restricted, or worst don't know what is being done to them most of the time? It's like saying it's ok to leave an infant that cannot toilet or communicate in the wilderness. Maybe the mom should have left her son back in Laos if that's ok! As people get smarter they get greedier and become more selfish, it's only abut them until they are in the mom's shoe.
@@msyngseer5560 if it's not guilt trip than what....we need to work and pay bills....its like by the time we get home we need to help kids with homework, cook, shower and do it all over again Mondayto fr....everyone can give this guy and wife's a hard time but ....we don't live with them and we only hear their mom sides of the story lol....but that's only my opinion.....I totally agree there is a lot of help out there and Hmong needs to trust other when it calls for...when it comes to elderly who needs the extra help. We love our parents but when it comes old age and illness we can only do so much to where we will be so exhausted ourselves out..
Especially if they needed extra help use your imagination here lol.
Sam Vue, guilt? You will know when you get there. We all will get old one day. Trust me, I have parent, kids, a single mom with two job. I don’t need to use my imagination. Until you are in the mom’s shoe with little or no English and thrown to a place you didn’t agree on. You will know. Plus nowhere on here did I blame the brother and his wife. Just giving my opinion on respecting your parents last wish. Cause karma will work it’s way back.
Vim peb cov txiv tsev pheej mus nriav dua tus tshiab log vim nej ua tau2 siab heev thiab muab peb lub neej plam kev kwv tij py cais yus pab nus muas ua yeeb ncuab tas los vim cov poj niam siab lim2 hiam mas
This family makes me stress listen to it.
This is exactly why it's important to establish a legal healthcare and/or financial power of attorney to protect yourself and save your family from drama! It's too bad that your story had to happen like this. We hear of these types of stories all the time.
You're a good daughter. Such a sad situation 😢
Peb yeej quaj ib yam peb sawv daw muaj niam muaj txiv lau2 ib yam li thiab tej tub nyab tsi xav tus li os.tus siab kawg mog.
Tim koj tu nus lub pim xwb os. Koj tus nus ces yog ib niag maum xwb, nws cias nws niag poj niam caij tsuj nws li niag txiv dev xwb.
Cas nej cov muam twb coob es nej hos tsis nrog nej tus nus tu es nej pheej yuav kom nej tus nyab tu es nej tsis xav tias tsis yog luag niam na nej yuav yuam nws ib leej tu nej niam luag tu sis taus ces kawg luag tsis xav yuav nej niam xwb mas txhua tus neeg yog noj taus sawv tsis taus lawm ces. Txhob tu siab mes kas lawm muaj lawv neeg tu kawm tawm los tu neeg laus lawv txawj tu tshaj
Hais rau tus ntxhais no....mus coj Koj niam. Tsis txhob cia koj niam nyob tim tsev laus lawm. Thaum lig lawm ces tsis zoo dab tsi lawm os. Peb cov ntxhais hmoob es....los sib com tes es txhob cia hmoob li kev ruam no saib tsis taus peb. Yog tub ua tsis tau ces cia ntxhais ua log. Leej twg muaj peev xwm ces tso rau tus ntawv. Yog koj niam...Koj Niam tiag tiag. Ah tsij mus coj koj niam los tsev...los hlub kom kawg nws lub neej.
Kav tsij mus ntseeg VajTswv xwb nej thiaj yuav dim tej niag kev txom nyem ko
yus tus poj niam mus yuav tus twg los yeej yog yus poj nia tab tsis yus niam rho nyiaj mus yuav los tsis yog yus niam vim hauv lub qab ntuj no tsua muaj ib leeg nkaus xwb thiaj yog yus niam os peb hmoob thov hlub leej niam os mog
Idk what the hell is wrong with this Hmong woman. May is giving her the most “common sense” advice in the nicest form possible. Nothing in this world would prevent me from saving the people that I love, definitely no invisible tradition law, can’t get stupider than this!
Old parents cannot make their kids obligated to them. They got their own job and life to tend to.
rektide ! I understand where you’re coming from but the mother said if they don’t have time, they can get out of her house and she will have a nurse come take care of her instead. The son and Nyab just don’t want to take care of the mother. Just wait until u get old. You will change your words really quick.
@@MiSsMaCy I'm not arguing about the house part. I think the moms right. I'm just saying in general that some parents are too needy that it causes a lot of trouble for the son and nyab.
@@TricxL Ok, but in this story she just want them out of her house and will have a caretaker.. So of course the solution to this is for the son and greedy ass nyab to move out. I hope she better have the same energy like this for her own parents.
เป็นเรื่องเศร้าที่คนม้งจะเอาแต่ลูกชาย ลูกสาวขายไปแล้วขายไปเลย เนี่ยแหละกรรมของประเพณีม้ง เวรกรรมมีจริงแล้ววันหนึ่งลูกๆของน้องชายจะส่ง
น้องชายไปที่บ้านพักคนชราเหมือนที่ส่งลูกไปบ้านพักคนชราเหมือนกัน
Zaj dab neeg no zoo heev li qhia rau hom nyab es ntshaws tej laus tej qub txeeg qub teg tas sis tsi xav tu tej laus mas xav zoo zoo mog kj tsis yog lawv ntxhais kj tsis muaj cais txiav txwv lawv tsev neeg, ho kj tus ua nus los xav kom zoo vi kj tus poj niam ntshaw nyiaj xwb mog ua siab tso cia kj lub neej yuav batter os mog.cov ntawv no sau rau hom neeg zoo li no xwb tsis txhob muab suav rau kj yov kj tsis yog hom neeg no cov lus kv sau yuav tsis mob kj.
Ab cas tej nyab dab tsi yuav tsis yuav tej laus npaum kuv es kuv xav kom kuv niam pog txiv yawg los nrog kuv nyob los lawv tsis kam kuv nim tutu siab ua luaj os tej nyab siab phem aw
hmoob txoj kab lig kev cai ces yog dev npua cai ces yog tej no los mas, leej twg ua tus pib thaum xub thawj los hais tias ntxhais qhua, ua ces txhaum dab, txhaum npaum li no lawm es teev nej cov dab hmoob ua tus tsi naw, khiav los nrog peb ntseeg vajtswv zoo dua os.
Yog kawg yom! Yog txhaum no ces peb tej no am tsis txhaum tag tus lawm os. Peb tag tus yeej tsis dim li thiab mas. Tabsis hmoob txoj niag kev cai quav dev no ces tsis muaj tseeb os. They all need to stop conforming to those old, outdated, non sense ways. It's useless.
Kuv niam os kuv niam! 🥺🥺🥺🥺😥😥😥
I just cried my eyes out! 😭
Were all given life n luv thru one set of parents, there will never be another replica or anyone that will ever take their place!
Because you need food or money can you or would you even begin to imagine having the will n strength to turn & walk away, leaving ur own child, ur babies out there by someone door or some place....... just driving off thinking you did the right thing, or because you had to?
That's ur own flesh b blood you neglected n abandon. what selfish old hearted person & soul can do this? 🙏I know fosho....... I can't!
Ty for sharing this heartbreaking sad story!😍
Karma is real...love your parents😍
Tej zaum koj tus nyab lub paum loj heev koj tus nus thiaj li tsis yuav nej cov ua muam hais ne
Yog hais tiAs yus yeej yog tus uas tus laus hlub no ces txhob siab siab phem rau tus laus thiab nawb hos yog yus yeej Tsis yog tus uas tus laus Favors no los kuj ua 1 yam hais thiab
Vuag ua cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj li os me niam laus aw koj tus nyab thiab tus nus ces yeej yuav npam xwb os cas kuv yuav nrog koj hlub koj niam ua luaj li os kuv Los twb tsis muaj niam lawm thiab os cas kuv mloog me niam ntsuab teev piav mas kuv lub kua muag ntws sis xwb os lawv aw
This story is very sad. I hope that our culture change in this generation or the next. It shouldn't matter son or daughter, all children should have the same right to care for their elderly parents.
niam teev peb tsi tsimnyog hlub peb tej menyuam lawm yom
Peb hmoob yuav tau tso txoj kev cai qub2 no pov tseg es ho txhob niaj hnub leej yus tej txiaj ntsim kev hlub los ua chaw ti rau yus tej tub ki yog tsis muaj yus tus tub lm no yus ho yuav tu siab rau leej twg.
I want to stone that brother...what the heck is wrong with him and his wife? I truly believe his wife is that way because he allows her to be a witch to his mom!! Can't wait til karma comes back around to him. 😡💔
Leej twg niam los peb yuav tau hlub mog cov mi muam, tus kwv tij no nws cia li yoog nws tus poj niam lawm xwb, peb txhua txhua leej muaj txoj cai hlub peb niam thiab txiv kom sib npaug mog. Twb nrog tus nus nyob ntev lawm, tus nus yuav tau tso rau cov muam coj mus hlub mas tab sis zoo li tus nus thiab nyab nkawv ntshaw leej niam cov nyiaj heev es nkawv txwv qhov ntawv but still she has the right to move wherever she wants and move her money over there. Thov txhob tsim txom tej laus lub siab ntsws nawb mog. Tej laus hais tias hlub niam hlub thiaj tau ntuj ntoo no laiv thiab txoj kev npam muaj tseeb os mog...yus tsis nrhiav kev npam tab sis kev npaj yeej yuav nrhiav yus ib hnub nawb mog.
Tus muam tsis care txog, nws yeej yuav tsum npam xwb, lub kua muag yus ev tsis taus. Yog yus tsis ua txhaum mas yeej tsis npam, yus ua txhaum li koj ces yeej npam xwb 2.
Tsis txhob yuav2 hmoob cpv nyuag kev cai qua dev ntawd li os
Yog , vim hmoob cov niag kev cai quav dev no es tej niag laus thiaj tau kev tsaus ntuj los tseem tsis hloov qees thiab. kuv niag txiv ntawd yog tsis muaj nws hnub twg ntshe kuv yuav coj kuv tej mi nyuam mus kev cai tshiab es tsam lwm hnub kuv laus ces kuv cov niag tub hlwj qauj ua tsis taus txiv los kom tej ntxhais ho coj tau kuv mus nrog lawv nyob, tabsis yuav yog tej ntxhais mus kev cai tshiab thiab tsis tag li los yuav yog yus tej ntxhais ho mus tau tej vauv siab loj siab zoo hlub yus kam yuav yus thiab. kuv twb pom cov niag vauv phem es twb mus kev cai tshiab lawm hos niam tais los mus tibsi los tseem tsis hlub tsis kam yuav thiab hos. muab hais mas tu siab heev li os hmoob.
Exactly! Hmoob cov niag kev cai qub ntawv tsis muaj qab ntxhiab dab tsis kiag li os! It's all bullsht!!!
Yog kawm cov kwv tim ua nyuaj hais li ub li no na ib pom nyiam kj twb g poob txog ib lub kua muag kj twb g los txim nyob kj yuav tsu hais qhov zoo
If my husband said I could take my momma, I would have taken her and my brother couldn't and wouldn't be able to do shit.
It's not too late. You're momma is still there. Go get her!
We all like sad story.
Txhua tus yeej hais tau zoo tab sis thaum nqi tes tsi yooj yim qhov tseem ceeb sawv daws yuav tau sib nkag siab .
Yog yus niam yus yeej hlub, yuav tsum xav tias yog yus tus nyab ua rau yus niam yus txiv twb mob mob yus thiab, es peb lub siab thiaj loj nawb.
Niam laug a koj hais yog .koj tug nug ưa tsi yog lawm
Ua cas cov neej neeg no mas cov nus lub siab phem thb siab nyoos tiag li .. yeej g hlub cov lau li tab si xav txheeb tej lau li nyiaj tab si g xav hlub tej lau..
Don't do the Hmong way, stop living by the Hmong ways, live by the way that is right for you and for your mom, the Hmong ways don't give you food when you don't have food to eat, the food shelter gives you food, the Hmong ways don't pay for your medical expenses, the state pays for your medical expenses, the Hmong ways don't give you a roof over your head, the homeless shelter gives you a roof over your head, stop living your life 100% by the Hmong ways, break that
Leah Von
Beautiful though you got A+
I honestly believe some parts, but not everyone gets food from the food shelter, not every homeless shelter provides a roof over everyone's head, but I believe that they can live with the son or the daughter though. Their choice and their spouses choice. Happy wife, happy life they say. So if us sisters wants to be happy, we better make sure that before we make assumptions and our own decisions, that our partner agrees to it also.
Tu siab heev os yus hlub npaum twg lo yus nim yog ib tug khaub ntshais ce ua tsi tau li cas li os
Tradition is tradition...know the game to work the rules. Good luck to you and your family. I hope everything will go well.
Cov tub los txiv neej xaj maim no ces hnav tiab lawm xwb tu siab kawg nkaus. Txhob tu siab ntuj ua ntuj ntxiv .. txoj kev uas leej niam no taug ces tus tub no yeej yuav ris mus twg ib sib neej.
😭😭😭😭😭 tu siab kawg os! Hlub koj niam kawg os.....
Vim koj tus nyab ib leeg thiaj li muaj pim xwb, koj tus nus hais ntau ces koj nyab tsis nrab ceg rau koj tus nws aim ces koj tus nus thiaj li tsis hlub koj niam. Pab nej cov vim ncaus tu siab heev os.
Koj niam yug koj, yog koj yeej hlub koj niam li koj tau hais, koj yeej muaj txoj cai los coj koj niam mus nrog koj nyob rau koj hlub. Kuv yog kuv niam tus tub ntxawg kuv tsis yuav li kuv tus poj niam hais. Kuv kuj tsis kom kuv tus poj niam los tu kuv niam, vim twb tsis yug nws, tiam sis yug kuv. Kuv tu kuv niam es yog nws tseem muaj teeb meem thiab ces nws tsis tsim nyog tau kuv ua nws tus txiv. Nws tsis tsaus siab ces koj coj mus rau nws niam nws txiv yug nws pab soj ntsuam seb puas siv tau!! Yog tsis coj ces koj niam tuag koj mam ua tus muam Phauj mus foom rau ob niam txiv dev ntawv xwb mas!
Cov txawj hlub niam thiab txiv ces hnov li no los kua muag thiab tu siab tab sis cov tsis txawj hlub ces hnov li no tsis xav mloog. Tab sis hais rau peb cov uas yog khaub ntxhais, cov nyab cov nus tsis hlub los thov kom peb cov ntxhais yeej meem hlub vim thaum niam thiab txiv laus tsuas ntshaw kom me nyuam hlub es txhob pub niam thiab txiv tu siab xwb. Tab sis neeg tsis zoo ib yam, tej tus dhuas 2 cov laus ces lawv twb tsis khuv xim. Kuv tau hlub kuv niam kuv txiv raws li kuv lub siab ua tau es kuv hnov tus viv ncaus no txoj dab neeg ua rau kuv tu siab heev. Hmoob ces thaum txog lub sij hawm zoo li no pheej yuav ua txuj yuav cai. Tej zaum yeej muaj lwm yam. Thov nej cov viv ncaus hlub koj niam twb txog nws lub caij uas nws yuav ncaim nej mus. Kuv yeej hais ncaj tias yog yus niam yus thiaj hlub xwb tsis muaj leej twg nrog yus hlub es txhob tos ntxiv. Nej yim tos ces nej niam txom nyem xwb.
Koj niag nus dev liam ko kom nws mus hnav tiab los ma cov txiv neej zoo luv ko nyob los nyav av dhau lawm os? Yav laus koj yeej yuav raug pov tseg xwb ma kev npam yuav los Sai2 no lawm 😭😭😭😭