A breakup that damn near killed me... | The Unpopular Opinion UG
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- Опубликовано: 15 апр 2022
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Claire
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Prim
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Kemi
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Love,
Claire, Prim & Kemi
Hearing Phiona's story of how this guy showed the whole world how amazing of a boyfriend he yet a narcissist when its just the two of you, is so relatable. I'm still healing.
The power of abstain + forgive one self + Building that confidence back ❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you ladies
Forgiving oneself is usually the hardest thing after breakup, once it comes it's a completely new chapter
I am kenyan. This is my first episode...i love it!!!. I love how deep , mature and raw your content is. Keep up! Thanks for sharing your stories.
Tuko wengi
From Kenya too
From Kenya too
Not from Kenya, but it is also my first episode and i am loving it
@@studiofix1 hehehe kabisaa
Fiona’s ex really confirms my belief (and experience) about men who love you publicly… grand gestures and all. Most times the relationship isn’t healthy…. Most times it’s emotionally abusive. Glad to know you dodged that bazooka sis.
Sadly its what yall have decided to associate with real affection. If someone doesn't like PDA yall think its not affection.
@ENOCK NALUMOSO let her be the one to tell
Hmmmmm emotional abuse
Prim's story is so relatable. Currently healing from the same experience
Just watched this episode
Oh God, I thought I was the only one, I am lately going through the same situation trying to process things out, how to go about that buh I believe regardless damn it's over and never to happen again.
@@Pro-misiee send you love and hugs. You will be fine
@@millylagat🙏🙏 thanks darling 🥰🫂🥰
The "Soulja boy - tell em" part. Straight faced and all 🤣🤣🤣
Glad someone noticed that. Prim banange 😎
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@Beezybody 😅
Listening to this makes me know that im not the only one that has made mistakes, its human to error, i decide to forgive myself and go to the throne of grace to attain mercy
Girlllllll Fiona !! Thank you for reminding me that I'm not the only one abstaining
I have had a very hard time with my friends making fun of me coz of my opening up about how I'm abstaining but man!!!
They call me names manya you're acting holy , ngu I'm trying to secure ministers son ( this makes me laugh sometimes)
But I deep down know what I'm doing and the reason so I'm extremely happy that I'm not the only one in this and I shouldn't be ashamed
You 3 girls you're saving lives out here 💕💕💕
you are not alone - celibacy is a personal decision & no one should be ashamed of it
We should just make a support group for all of us banange
. that way we stop doubting ourselves.
Oh hun, I'm sorry about the jabs. Can't tell you they'll stop. They likely won't. I hope you surround yourself with people who show you support and help you stay accountable too. It's your body and your choice. Periodt.
@@fionakemi that's for sure 🤞
Bby girl on the journey but the pressure from bfs and frds be alot, but you know what? Still on your decision
"2 raccoons eating trash" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I cannot!
I must say this is probably my fav episode so far. There's a way the stories poured forth with such authenticity. I real felt those feelings y'all are describing. Thank you for sharing.
I have seen people in such situations and usually wonder why they don't just leave. This has given me a perspective that I didn't have before.
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OMG I relate to Prim,dating a serial cheat really makes you feel unclean! Such an ugly feeling.
Fiona that was God that made you say No! He sees what we cant see, abstinence is His will, He protected you!
You are right gal , it was really God
My worst wasn't like i really loved the person!! its because i Had to stoop low from my high-horse! Like i had to pretend not to have what i had to make the person feel like we were almost on the same lane, i had to pretend that my business was my mothers' I had to hide the fact that i was renting my crib...and i had to pretend to be younger! Cause he was 1 year younger than me!... All in all i wanted to make it work, all because i wanted to get married and all he ever talked about was marriage and i ignored all the red flags!!. I lived a lie for a while, Only to find out that it wasnt all worth it!...It left me mentally drained! Financially incapacitated! And in shock!.... This is the first time in 5 years am able to pen it down without fear!!!.... He was a cheat, Broke as a church mouse and so upside down!...i was mentally drained the whole time, manupulated and left Financially unstable!...I felt bitter for years , blaming myself... i felt so stupid! How would i get into this obvious trap!...i cried because of all the time wasted and the 10 year business crambling!...Cant believe am writing about this!!! i felt ashamed for years!!...
Time heals everything babe... one thing about us girls is we always bounce back
Sending u love and light
Girl..it's the sacrifices we make that hurt the most, especially when you realise, you were dating down, and he still did you dirty. Hope you are now doing better young quee ❤ 🫂
This is my second video and I really find you ladies gorgeous, amazing,inspiring and very educative.I feel so addicted to your videos and I want to watch the whole season. You grant me talks that I have always wanted to listen to.
This episode reminded me of my past , the men i used to date, how i sometimes accepted to be treated because i thought i wasn't worthy and also it reminded me that now i know better and m going to do better now. Thank you Ladies
Thanks for sharing, Marie. Just want to repeat that you are WORTHY 💖
@@theunpopularopinionug yo welcome
Mine was a friendship break up with a friend that almost ruined me. Hee ! as they say in Nairobi you are taught character development. I took accountability for my part in the situation, worked on myself and moved on swiftly.
If you're scared, do something that scares you everyday and be intentional about it.
I struggle with decision making but you know what! I'm gonna take a conscious decision every day. Make a decision everyday!
Claire your candor and maturity in discussing your divorce is so refreshing because it removes this aura of secrecy and taboo, and shows those who might be trapped in bad marriages that there is life after divorce. Also, you are gorgeous and that hair, outfit, earrings are 🔥
my days....this episode.... resonated with it a lot... thank you for putting a face on our demons and making it easier to fight them
Thank you for affirming us like this, sis. It's part of our vision to speak up and let other know they aren't alone 💖
I love these women. Your stories touches my soul.
This is so naked thank you for sharing light and love
Great conversation girls. Murugi Munyi recommended you guys. Totally worth it!!!!!
We are SCREAMING. She is fantastic and we are so humbled she recommended us . Thanks for coming over ❤️
I agree...from Kenya to Uganda...murugi munyi and Lydia km 💕
This is the video y’all!!! You all spoke to my soul on so many levels eh!!! I appreciate you ladies! 😫❤️
This conversation did not at all go where I expected it to go. So much deeper and empowering
This is very authentic and I love how everyone’s experience is different and the ways they dealt with the issues. Thank you very much for sharing 🌺
Thanks Faiizah. We appreciate you ❤️
I can relate to Prim’s story,infact lemme even go and scrub myself again.
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The power of knowing you and having the courage to embrace you all the way. Fiona yo story always strikes me a certain way 🤗. Am loving these episodes and the reality you guys bring out in them. Thank you.
Fiona!!! you were dealing with a narcissist lol..so many out here. Just discovered your channel, Im loving it!!
Kale I was hooked onto the Kenyan side of RUclips and wished Ug had creators that are as dope and I landed here!
So grateful for having stumbled onto your channel ladies.
Kati I'm buying my mat, tent and camping here 😊
Mat, tent 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Welcome. Thank you for being here
You literally spoke my soul😅 Clare even knows Murugi
@@Bakedmugi So cool! I really enjoy Murugi Munyi's content.
Love to the 246 🥰🥰🥰 I will definitely be Kenyan in my next life 🤣❤️
❤❤❤! lady in blue just beautiful and your story. so helpful i I understand that loss of confidence following divorce. thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you Murugi for plugging me with this channel. Lovely ladies.
This by far is the dopest episode. Thank you ladies for being candid
Oh thank you for watching
Thank you for supporting ♥️
These are candid conversations we try to avoid but are so important. I really loved this episode so much. ♥️
Thanks for appreciating. Yes we try to discuss things society has silenced so long in the name of ‘privacy’… it really shouldn’t be private if everyone is going through it 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Every time I listen to Kemi it’s like listening to Flavia Tumusiime’s sister. The voice! The facial expressions! 😂Onsanyusa Kemi! 😌
It’s so true. We keep telling her. How amazing her voice is.
She is a absolute natural 🥰🥰🥰
I actually had to scroll down the comments, looking for proof whether Kemi is related to TFK. 😮
😄 I hear this all the time. I guess we're voice twinsies.
It's such a huge compliment because she's always been my favourite voice on radio so thank you ❤
Claire seems to be so loving in this group of 3💕💕
I love Claire too
I love Claire too
Take a shot every time Claire says “Do you get what I mean”🤣🤣. Thank you ladies. I really enjoyed this one 🥂
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@@Knowledge2cash You are a lovely, smart woman.
Raw, unedited, unfiltered. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for engaging ♥️
Shout out to you beauties from the Zambians, you ladies are the reason my nightshifts are shorter lol ever enjoying your content. Much love ❤️
Thank you so much 🤗 we've worked night shifts and we know the struggle. Glad we can keep you company
You guys am so thankful for this coz I was going through what Phionah went through and trust me the healing process is very easy and the reason of the breakup is that I kept and stood on my boundaries and he was like "Your so selfish I can't go on with you.😀😀😀😀😀😀
Thank you guys
Gosh!!! I am so so proud of you Ladies. All of you… I could hug all of you. Thank you for being vulnerable, for overcoming and raising above…
Awww Lizzie 🥰 thank you girlie. I’m glad we held hands and jumped into the deep end that I’d being vulnerable 🥰🥰💃🏾
Listening to you guys be vulnerable about this topic is pure gold. Glad you all bounced back.
Thanks Walter.
Thank you Walter. We appreciate your y kindness
Kenyan here, your content is raw and authentic. Love it!
But l can relate to Claire🥺 being a young divorcee needs so much Grace 😭😭
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Thank u ladies, this is awesome! Prim, I hear u about learning to extend grace.
Also yay to abstinence
Fiona has spoken the truth. Abstaining saves u from so much more pain and unnecessary stress. This was my first time here and I love the honesty girls. So many lessons learned.prim love u gained back your confidence and some more! Imagine someone hating the fact that u read books 🙄🙄 he was insecure of tour intelligence. Claire, you are mature and strong and your story will give hope to many in failed marriages!!
Fiona say that again. Am proud of u !
You ladies are so real.
Prim I can relaaatttteeee ..the showers the tears , I couldn’t pray 🙌🏾 , the shame ( I was ashamed of myself) am grateful that today I can look back and laugh😂
You got out and like Claire said, your experiences are not who you are ❤️
I pray one day I look back and laugh, feel myself again.... It's hard, I wish anyone can tell me how long it takes to heal...
Listeeennn!!!! This is so good. Thank you Ladies.
Thanks for watching :)
Am here for Prim's examples 😂😂😂😂😂😂 and Fiona's expressions 😂😂😂😂😂 not me laughing at the toppest raw info
😄 she has the best examples
Fiona 's expressions😊😁
I don't think I will ever get over the 2 raccoons eating trash analogy. Prim, you've really made my day!
Men! Vulnerability is indeed the pathway to intimacy. I initially was cold towards you guys despite watching a few episodes but this right here is the episode where I warmed up to you because I can now see how you are coming from a place of understanding with truth and grace. And I have to admit the polarisation of our world today is something we all need to work on and make sure we can be kind to each other. Thanks a lot. This episode will help many (always: today and future) to get out of unacceptable relationships and set boundaries while staying kind. My respect ladies, total respect. 🙇♂
I actually felt the pain as each of you retold their story which no doubt was not a happy moment. And this shines more light on the pain that a lot of people especially women, go through in relationships.
I’m here late but I’m in awe
This is real
The big dust we did no we needed
Loads of love 🥂❤️
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We all have dated that person that made us feel like we are so unworthy,thank God we always come back from that pit.
You are worthy ,you are beautiful and your are enough.❤️☀️
That's a beautiful affirmation. Enough
I so relate with Prim and claire as one divorced. Agree forgive yourself and take each step at a time
A very good conversation, you are not what you have gone through. Word
I relate to all three stories 😂😂😂 It was such a fun watch. Thank God we are not in those places anymore! 😅🙆🏾♀️
Me too😂😂😂
Murugi Munyi sent me here. How come I am just discovering this wholesome content just now😔. Better late than never and now I have a looooooot of content to enjoy 🥳🥳.
Goodness like wea have I been all dz long without seeing dz amazing ladies on RUclips 🤔 thy are very organized ,thy listen to each other while speaking , wawu i have loved everything here ,I love the topic so much it has made me stronger in dz hard situation I am in right now ,thank you ladies ♥️
Awww I’m sorry that you are going through a hard time… I’m glad this episode helped. You will come out stronger 💪🏾
@@Knowledge2cash just know it really helped me Alot like Alot can't stop thanking you
I love how Fiona rolls her eyes
Forgiving yourself is the hardest part of it....😭😭....first time here ...I love you guys
It is but remember you deserve it. We all do.
Welcome ❤️
The way I have enjoyed this episode. Thank you ladies for taking time out of ur busy schedules and giving us meaningful topics. We appreciate.
Thank you for appreciating ♥️🙏🏾
Oh my... This has really been helpful,,,going through the same... But thank Fiona,Claire and Prim God bless you ladies
Please put subtitles for when you speak Luganda!🤗
Love from Kenya 🇰🇪❤️
The strength, love and vulnerability
I’m the in prescence of amazing women👌🏾BEAUTIFUL
you are amazing too, sis ❤️
I could feel that middle lady who introduced because I could relate to her so much. Mine was even worse the person started talking about me mbu mwesibako. I killed that guy in my life coz he tried calling me but could never ever even pick
The grace of God is always sufficient. Love you ladies😍😍😍
I love this video❤
Thank u ladies
A friend sent me a link to watch.....I can relate so much. Thank you ladies. I thank God who has done a great job in me
It’s soooo beautiful to see the awesomeness of healing. The Claire we see now totally trumps that phase you went through clearly
Yes fiona ❤️❤️❤️❤️u guys this was good
Thank you Allena!!! I’m glad I got through it and came out stronger 💪🏾❤️
New subbie and girlllll😍😍this has been such a profound,raw and vulnerable conversation...i'm so glad i bumped onto this channel i felt and related to every bit of it..what stood out for me is how you ladies wear your scars so gracefully love to see such spaces where so much healing can occur love from 🇰🇪🇰🇪
This means so much to us, Frida. Thank you. Resonance with our audience is a very important part of this work we pour our hearts in to. So thank you again. We hope you'll stay ❤️
omg Kemi I can relateeeeee, a whole clown did the same thing to me. I am so glad I left , I am way way happier now
Always excited to land on Ugandan content that's valuable. Good job ladies 👏 👏 👏
Am Kenyan..I saw this video recommended,,and clicked it because the two women look like some kenyan high profile women..Martha Karua and Waiguru! Nice content..I love the natural hair!
Thanks for joining over here, Purity. We hope you'll stay❤️
*runs to google Martha Karua and Waiguru!
Gosh yeah....😂😂I had not noted
Phew!😅 Let's gather here and relate mamas🗣️ don't let whatever you went /are going through define you, it's just something you went through, not who you are🗣️❤️ Thank you Claire, Prim and Fiona🥺💃
Thanks Hida. It means a lot to know that our stories resonate and help someone💖
Y'all got in deep on this one. Thank you for being vulnerable out on these streets.
I haven’t been able to watch this episode. I don’t know if I ever will .
@@nyonyoziprim You will at some point and it will not be uncomfortable because you will be fully healed. X
Thank you Linda. Also haven’t watched it. It’s taken me this long to even come and read the comments. 🙈
@@Knowledge2cash I hope when you do, you realise how far you have come. ❤️
I love you Linda! 💕 I miss your beautiful smile. Hugs! Love from Canada 🇨🇦
Separate what you've been thru from who you are....
That ex of Fiona🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣the audacity. Nti you are almost 30,lol
Maaaaaan we have seen things in this world
Banaye ba phiona ahhaaa
Good topics always. When are you talking about “money and friends”
Have you ever had a break with your bestfriend ? 😩Damn shit almost killed me!!
“Souljah boy- tell ‘em “🤣🤣😂
Eheheh and another one(DJ Khaleds voice). You guys are amazing. And oba just saying what all women been thinking and feeling for years. I am hooked....I wait for my notification more than I wait for my pay cheque
Thanks Isabella. This means a lot. I'm so glad these are things our audience can truly resonate with.
We shall work not to disappoint you on the notifications 😄❤
Awww Isabella, thank you for interacting with our content. 🤗🤗🤗 and thank you for appreciating. You keep us creating more and more ♥️
Just subscribed to this channel. Thanks, ladies, for discussing topics that most women dare to talk about in public.
I can relate to this content. It takes alot of personal healing to forgive you and it's a process btw.
We love to hear that you found a place of resonance here, sis. Connecting with our audience is so important to us ❤️
I am a new, loving member and never subscribing follower, I love you ladies so in love with your accountability and relatability.
Amazing content and the fact that the girls all look natural with their amazing natural hair. Beautiful melanin. Am a Big fun 🤩.
Oh thank you for being here.
This is what attracted me too in the first place
Awww thank you 🤗🤗🤗
I think even when sex happens it’s still possible to walk away and not feel like you died. The real issue is when heart n soul are involved and you feel like someone you love just died when the relationship is over. I’ve learnt that sex is just a plus and even if you didn’t have it you can still break like it’s the end of the world.
I agree with you… even if you have been having sex you can still feel like the world is ending when the relationship ends. God bless women who have been through heart break. ♥️♥️♥️
Nothing applies exactly the same way to everyone. While I'm the opposite of this, I respect a divergent way of being.
Wooow...learning to separate who you are from what you've been through. This cut deep 🤪...
That one hit us hard too
Oh God,i needed this. I love you girls so much. This topic is very relatable though for my case its the work environment.
You have actually given us a topic to talk about… toxic work places 👏🏾👏🏾
I hope things got better for you at work ❤️
Hey beautiful, intelligent, go-getting ladies! I have been bingeing on your videos the whole of this month. I will definitely say, that I have been missing out. I love your content (its a whole buffet); from Kenya🙂
I can only imagine if Fiona had had intercourse with that guy. Its crazy how we enter these relationships knowing he aint the one but still go ahead only for them to prove us right!
Yoooo you know
Hopefully this episode will help many out there and save them from wasting their time..
I love all your natural hair❤
I love you ladiess!!! Claire yaaayyyy
Me am coming to join the panel...weh the stories are dope.
We love you too ❤️
Every sexual encounter is spiritual! Prim the almighty cleansed you of all those ma things arrrrrrrrh thank heaven for your Bubuna. Thank you for sharing
OMG! This just made me homesick 😢. This was so beautiful!! Ugandan content creators oyeee!!!
Such an informative session. Thank you ❤
Wow!!! Ladies well done,relatable and interesting. Thank you.
If this is in the present, sis, do not let this be your future
Woooow it's such a wonderful conversation thank u guys for rescuing our hearts 💕 💞 some of we regret alot though life have to move on
Regret is a heavy load to bear. We forgive ourselves and keep it moving ❤️
I have moved in but I can smell any form of abuse miles away
Prim furendiiii, I totally relate to the part of being vulnerable and dating someone like that . I couldn’t forgive myself banange,, like the shame.
I relate to Fiona so much. Omg! We thank God for growth.
You know there is something off about the person but their illusion of love that they paint can blind you for years.
Bruhhh!