We women have become so desperate it is ridiculous. So easily fooled, but no more. Love your videos, Jonathon. I’ve learned so much and I certainly cut off anybody who’s dropping any sexual innuendoes and stupid jokes to test my boundaries.
I’ve just purchased the book “I Hear You” per your recommendation, and I absolutely love it! I’m extremely empathetic, I just don’t have the vocabulary to express it verbally without it being too much and repelling the other person, because I had never been validated by anyone. I love that I am now learning this vital skill.
I wasn’t looking for a man I just stumbled across him & by a bitch do u mean a bad woman cos yeah he be gone when I treat him lie that cos then he blocks me
@@sscales70 don’t stay in a dynamic where there is disdain, contempt, resentment, and hatred! If the pair of you don’t like each other, don’t make each other feel good, don’t respect one another, THEN STOP TALKING TO HIM!!
I can personally relate to much in this video. Understanding that men are the gatekeepers to commitment and truly knowing that a man is trustworthy and ready to take care of someone is incredibly, incredibly important (and that women are the gatekeepers to sex). Thanks for helping us to get out of world of Fantasyland relationships. 💜 I agree that dating is much different in mid-life and a distressing lack of community and belonging to a tribe in the U.S. is palpable for most. Thank you for another great video Jonathon! 💜
Men are not hate keepers to anything. For a relationship to work both have to agree. Doesn’t matter if sex is easy to get. Sex isn’t a relationship and sex with a random woman isn’t necessarily a woman they choose m.sane for women.
This is resonating. Thank u. I have had 3 major losses . It is all about going slow, lots of programs like yours to bring us up to date. It is a war zone out there.
I experienced that people are jockeying for power/control in relationships in order to gauge the amount of abuse that is being inflicted. You are right. A lot of folks are dysfunctional.
The Best books I ever read were by Sherry Argov... "Why Men Marry Bitches" and "Why Men Love Bitches" I couldn't put it down. She interviewed over 100 men why they test women and how to not let them have all the power and control and demand respect. It's hilarious too! 🙌
I like that book but I also believe men would like to be loved just as much as women. Playing games only fuels insecurity in a relationship. It’s also exhausting.
You can be too nice. In other words, if you're a giver... give a little, then wait for reciprocation. Takers abound, and they will totally take advantage of a giver.
I had a first consultation with you and told you about someone I had met that was long distance with since early August. I finally went to see him and saw him in his environment and omg did I experience a different person. He was completely different than even the time he came to see me. He was cold, I felt like I was walking on eggshells and I even felt insecure bc of his unusual bond he has with his best friends wife. During the day at the house he was serious 90% of the time and out of the blue just say “ can you make sure to turn the lights off” ( just like rude about it. Cold ) (believe me I made sure to do it and also ask before I did anything just so I didn’t piss him off after that) I felt like I was intruding. I had my small dog with me which I thought he was fine with since he takes care of dogs all time time for friends but I even think my dog was getting to him. He was the one who told me it was ok to bring him. My dog is quite but needy and loves to be my my side. He didn’t say anything about my dog but it started to feel weird after a while too. He wasn’t playful with me or sweet. The only time I felt connected was when we where having sex. Every other time i felt like I was just there. I would ask questions about things and it never started a conversation. A completely different guy than the guy I was chatting with on FaceTime for 3 months prior. We broke up and I cut the trip short. I tried hard to get him to read “eight dates” and it he wouldn’t do it. He said at one point that he started it but couldn’t do the audio so he didn’t read it. It was the most bizarre experience of my life with him. He even had issue with money with me. Asked me in a rude tone “ you didn’t think you would come here and expect me to pay for everything” Another thing he said “ I have everything I need good friends, good job, and I’m spoiled with an amazing daughter, I don’t need a woman” He even at one point mocked me. I even at one point asked him “ who is this person, I don’t recognize this person in front of me” I felt so unsafe and insecure and so optional. I had to leave. It hurts bc I fell in love with an illusion of what I thought he was. I was so wrong. Such a mistake. I’m still in shock.
You should have stopped with first sign of disrespect. A man who acts like this is a disgrace for himself first and foremost, as politeness and good manners are a trademark of a person regardless of who he/she communicates with. This man has disgraced himself honestly.
I had a spender Jonathan! He loaded up the expensive trips for 6 months, he couldn’t communicate his feelings at all in those 6 months. I went on a trip And he vanished!!! Jonathan who who ghosts someone after 6 months of consecutive dating and in a relationship!! I’m devastated!! Literally sick sick to my stomach.. I was watching your vids before this happened and now even more!!! Im sooo upset !! All that OxyContin And dopamine is wearing off .. all those hormone fluctuations after s break up are real!!!! Not just your mind .. your body goes those something very odd! You should do a video on that!!
@Brenda Renkema great viewpoint!! That helped !! You’re right all the highs from the hormones would have disappeared and I’d be stuck with a mummy robot !!
The majority of men on line are not Godly. I am sure it probably holds true for women as well. They may state they are Christian but actions speak louder than words.
A man could be genuinely looking for a long term partner, spend 3 months getting to know you. He may discover its not a good fit and then to avoid hurting her, make up various excuses to exit the relationship. It's unfair to belittle him or call him a player. The challenge for us women is to properly vet a man to begin with. Jonathan helps us with this!
This is why I think it’s better to wait at least that time before sex is on the table. No one bothers trying to get to know who they are letting into their bodies 🤦🏽♀️
@@ceegee31379 I'm playing WWF.im just talking to some guy . he's married& a few thousand miles away so there's 0 chance of meeting or anything. No married men So after almost 3 years of chatting he actually said something that would make me dump him instantly if he were available. Soo disappointed. I thought he was someone fun to talk to.i was wrong.took 3 years.
I wrote a Declaration of Courtship about 9 yrs ago. It's an intent to date, each keeping the other person's emotional, physical and spiritual safety as priority according to biblical values. It is signed by both people. Added to it is a real life long time married couple available for regular support. The relationship goes to marriage, ( 3, 6, 9 12 month intervals)or both parties part as friends knowing it was not a marriage fit, but can part with a good experience, healthy self esteem (and don't continue to waste each others time). It's been awesome. Weeds out the players for me many of my friends. It's been great.
I really liked the truth talk you called a rant. I'm encouraged to spend more time working on myself, it helps me to talk to myself and reason things out with less conflict
3 to 6 months ? I thought a Man was safe even though a few red flags were waving.... He drank hard liquor on every Date. ..a lot ....a full bottle. He kept drawing sketches of what he thought the Devil looked liked and put his Face between the Horns. He could draw a decent picture. He always had a new drawing of the Devil to show me when he came by. He said when we die We would become "King and Queen of Hell and be "Lord's over all Suffering". I thought he had too much to drink when saying that stuff. I'm not a Drinker. Met him in Sept. Spent Christmas with his family which were nice. But his Father took me aside and asked me how long I had known him. He said "Be Careful "....."Take Care". The guy at 6 months almost killed me with a hunting knife before he killed his boyfriend ( I didn't know he was Bi) and was caught in the process of cutting the body up with a chainsaw and putting the body parts in black garbage bags. He was hiding who and what he was for almost 6 Months. I don't think you ever know what a person is really like no matter how long you have known them. They are good at hiding the dark underbelly of their Lives....until you accidentally or luckily find out what they are really made of.....sometimes too late ....BTW, when he finally was released from Prison...he made a beeline to my Home and left a Creepy letter in my Mailbox...He wanted to pick up our friendship where we left off....He had some "unfinished Business". He thought I was the reason he was caught. But it was the Victim's Co- workers who had the Police do a Welfare Check when the guy didn't show up for Work. He was always punctual. I don't want to have face time with him to explain this to him....he might not believe me. I don't Date anymore....I've noticed in the News, a lot of really nasty people in Prison , on Death Row....are pretty good at drawing....not great, but better than the average person. So , if they sketch well....beware.
I’m happy to hear that your widowed friend is seeing someone. I lost my husband during COVID and would love to meet someone. Dating is a scary thing these days.
By the way, I think you will do great job officiating the wedding next week. Just enjoy the day and remember your wonderful sense of humor that you share with us in your videos that we all love so much. I wish I could be there to see you do it. If you can, please record it and share it with us later! ❤💒❤
I don't let guys make me feel bad if I'm not ready for something. I just say no and good night and I go home alone. I have a anxiety problem and I don't do things if I feel anxiety. I feel anxiety about lots of things and I feel anxiety when I'm around people I don't know.
I was just getting to know a man who demanded hourly updates, and wanted to know if I was talking to anyone else at the same time, which I wasn’t, but still I felt very uncomfortable. He was kind of pushy, and absolutely did not have any respect for the amount of time it takes to develop trust.
Just went through the same thing. Not now. Refuse to do that..my time is my time. I can take care of myself and don't need a man to do that. I want a true gentleman. Won't have one that's not.
@@brendaplunkett8659 I know! Thankfully, I managed to doge that bullet. He was super hot, intelligent, and interesting, but we were ultimately emotionally and generally highly incompatible.
I guess I'll stay single forever. Since there are very few reasonable men out there and if you happen to meet one they're usually unavailable (in a relationship or entangled in dysfunctional marriage). Sigh. Why have commitment and authenticity become obsolete in our society?
Every time I listen to you, you make a difference with me. Thanks! I'm not dating yet, still working on me and working on building a business. I figure I may as well throw in some dating training along the way so I'm not doing this right when I'm dating which is where I could make a lot of mistakes.
My dad always said that men make a conscious decision when they are ready to get married. And at that point, they begin looking for a wife. If you meet them before then, it doesn't matter who you are.
I’m enjoying your podcasts as always. I so appreciate your honesty,especially where you’ve been in your journey. Please post the dating vows. I’m not seeing it. Thank you, Jonathon. 🤗🌺🦋
Jonathan your work is so good you make such a difference I have an unhealthy attachment with my husband after 40years of marriage he left me for another woman I THANK YOU FOR your useful tips and direct talk
I don't go in a guys car if I don't know him and I don't go to a guys house if I don't know him. That's not safe. I don't go to any bars and I don't wanna meet guys there. Im just all ways trying to be safe because my anxiety makes me be safe.
Hi Jonathan, I love listening to you. Unfortunately reality it's not pretty and we have to work on ourselves first to really know what we want, no roo. For mistake, lol.
I was BEYOND blessed, as I had incredible parents, which both have passed and I do miss so very much, but he has parents that, his dad, didn't support, but they are older now, and I love his mom too, so does he need to just forgive his parents? Yes, true love is exactly what you stated, good, bad and/or maybe the ugly
@@JonathonAslay women seem to be the one's who are in 'defense mode', always having or learning to protect themselves. Men need to be also held accountable and they simply need to LEARN HOW to treat all women with more respect. In your field, experts really need to address; men's roles in how to be better authentic caing men for women, instead of women doing all this changing, gathering information, protecting themselves, and always watching for "unhealthy" patterns in the men. Etc. I'm sorry I could go on.... but men need to learn how to treat and respect women with kindness and care. Maybe 'men' need schooling to help out the entire dating pool? Thank you for trying Jonathan, and for your eye-opening suggestions, because they are very helpful! Be blessed. It's a jungle of unavailable beasts (men) out there in this climate of dating. It's sad for women, however truthfully both the sexes suffer from ungenuine and unhealthy connections. Thank you for caring! :)
Not one word since ghosting me in 30 days! Unbelievable !! I spent every single weekend with this guy I knew his life .. there are no big secrets i saw …or hidden life !! He must be completely emotionally detached to be able to do this .. pls help
That's why I have been single for 2 years and they are all like that!!!!! Nothing changed until I learned about the power of manifesting someone or anything you want through your energy (thoughts feelings and beliefs without doubt) watch Manifest with Jasmine on RUclips she changed my life! I have the most amazing person in my life now 15 months strong and so happy... I've suffered from Narcissist abuse my whole life and I'm 44 single mom. We attract people through our energy. Another great teacher is Robert Zink. Jasmine really knows how to simplify it.
@@JonathonAslay you're welcome!! You really have helped me so much!! I love your openess! And I love how you look at humans. I wish I could figure out how to spread the same help.......I try. I share with others the books if read from you, the thoughts, etc.....but sometimes u wish I could do more. Again THANKS! One day I'd like to schedule a call with you I think. Just to chat about your views and learn more lol
It drives me crazy when I accept friend requests from a professional or a spiritualist and they abuse and disrespect professional boundaries from the very beginning
I'm listening to Kenny n Dollys "islands in the stream" When couples understand and live those lyrics. That's some real genuine LOVE!💝 FACTS! The take of that song lyrics equates to 2 people leaving a third, fourth or fifth person out. With the exception of both parents approval!
@@aries7176 of course. I need to grow in other parts for example. For me it was just toxic because he really was not on the same wave length with emotional intelligence, was hard for me.
Hi Jonathan. Enlightening, as always. The type of men I've been encountering lately are men who are just discovering the "benefits" of having easy access to sex and being somewhat confused by it given their upbringing (I'm 59) and what they think they want. I feel they fall into this trap without really realizing it and without being able to fight it given that it caters to one of their most fundamental instinct. Fair assessment, you think?
Ppl who say that are usually Neurotic and project that onto others. If he doesn’t need to analyze everything he won’t be analyzing what he believes to be you analyzing. You spot it, you got it
So if a a man is a devil and waits for 10 dates or more and answer all correctly and act correctly and once you are being intimate what prevents him to leave and not commit? There is no way knowing. So better tell them In the beginning NO SEX without marriage. Am I wrong?
Hi. When you say that certain percentage of people are dysfuctional, etc it is the percentage you see as a therapist. I don't think that it represents the pupulation because people in healthy relationships don''t seek therapy. With that being said , I really like your approach.
Dysfunctional parents is correct...why, if you really love one another, they should want you to know by stating (I love you toi) they seem to say I do love you, and you know I do) but just don't feel like it needs to rehashed or stated every day. I don't feel you have to say "I love you" everyday, but it's nice to hear once and a while right??
What I have learned from you Jonathan is awesome! I want to keep my power and be a grower available for a growers. Love the Boundaries, what feels right and what doesn't feels right!
I don't think Deepak Chopra counts as personal development on any level! He's so busy bleating on about how you are "made of the same stuff as the stars" and how "truth is subjective" - I guess that's how he justified his long term cheating on his wife. I've also seen him absolutely lose it when he was in a debate with a Christian about apologetics - and he got slammed. The former "cool and wise Deepak" was a frothing ball of fury. The mask really slipped there! He came across as highly narcissistic.
P.S. an accurate std test has to be done 3 months after two people meet. The person who gives the person the details. Will insist that both couples aren’t having sex with anyone for at least 3 months. If a std shows up, they wasted a lot of time taking the test when 1 person doesn’t pay attention to the timeline. Thanks
enjoy the time spent together , long lost firends, fun times, stress n hassle free,,,,, have fun ! hugs to you too ! sorry no teddy bears, hahaha real life only hugs for me haaha
There is No point in being in ANYthing w a person of the Opposite sex, if they dont respect you, your body, your soul, your goals or you Boundaries, sexual or otherwise if this person doesnt make your heart sing, and instead makes you feel horrible,,, or if theyre flaky, one day yes, one day no, next day black, day after that white or maybe bluish something,,, lose the loser, why loser cos hes wastin ghis time which is fine but more importantly if hes or she is wasting Your time, thats crossing Another boundary, and Wasting Your Precious time and honestly, Who has time left over? you cant bank it, and you cant invest it, once its gone its gone and its your life's Time were talking about and no one knows in advance how much of it they have left,,,,,,,, think about that? how many times did you wait n wait n wait, for hours, months, years???? Walk,,,, Your time is your life YOUR life, if the other person doesnt value their life, fine but yours is so much more precious than that, to waste it on some no show or some waster, those that spend all YOUR time but w no goal nor purpose. ( just in the hopes you will some day actually ahum sleep w him,,,, ) come on youre so much better than to take Crumbs,,,,
I had many guys i said no to and they all responded with a similar you are so harsh or cold. But I hinted 5 times and they didn't seem to hear me so i get to a direct no and look them in the eyes and jep im labeled cold or hash woman....
We women have become so desperate it is ridiculous. So easily fooled, but no more. Love your videos, Jonathon. I’ve learned so much and I certainly cut off anybody who’s dropping any sexual innuendoes and stupid jokes to test my boundaries.
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Knowing that there was only a 20% chance of finding a grower explains why I was not successful after more than 20 years since my divorce!
Your honesty and frankness really jolts some women into reality and wake up out of fantasy land. Thanks a lot.
TY 🙏
I would love to date someone like you. It’s rare to see a man so self aware. I can see this has been an evolution .
I’ve just purchased the book “I Hear You” per your recommendation, and I absolutely love it! I’m extremely empathetic, I just don’t have the vocabulary to express it verbally without it being too much and repelling the other person, because I had never been validated by anyone. I love that I am now learning this vital skill.
Happy to hear 😊
This is a great book. I also just started reading it.
@@rozannamurayama9629 that’s amazing! I’m excited for the pair of us 😁✨ I can’t wait to have better conversations.
I wasn’t looking for a man I just stumbled across him & by a bitch do u mean a bad woman cos yeah he be gone when I treat him lie that cos then he blocks me
@@sscales70 don’t stay in a dynamic where there is disdain, contempt, resentment, and hatred! If the pair of you don’t like each other, don’t make each other feel good, don’t respect one another, THEN STOP TALKING TO HIM!!
I can personally relate to much in this video. Understanding that men are the gatekeepers to commitment and truly knowing that a man is trustworthy and ready to take care of someone is incredibly, incredibly important (and that women are the gatekeepers to sex). Thanks for helping us to get out of world of Fantasyland relationships. 💜
I agree that dating is much different in mid-life and a distressing lack of community and belonging to a tribe in the U.S. is palpable for most. Thank you for another great video Jonathon! 💜
Men are not hate keepers to anything. For a relationship to work both have to agree. Doesn’t matter if sex is easy to get. Sex isn’t a relationship and sex with a random woman isn’t necessarily a woman they choose m.sane for women.
This is resonating. Thank u.
I have had 3 major losses . It is all about going slow, lots of programs like yours to bring us up to date. It is a war zone out there.
I experienced that people are jockeying for power/control in relationships in order to gauge the amount of abuse that is being inflicted. You are right. A lot of folks are dysfunctional.
The Best books I ever read were by Sherry Argov... "Why Men Marry Bitches" and "Why Men Love Bitches"
I couldn't put it down. She interviewed over 100 men why they test women and how to not let them have all the power and control and demand respect. It's hilarious too! 🙌
Exactly!!!
I like that book but I also believe men would like to be loved just as much as women. Playing games only fuels insecurity in a relationship. It’s also exhausting.
You can be too nice. In other words, if you're a giver... give a little, then wait for reciprocation. Takers abound, and they will totally take advantage of a giver.
Men are VERY simple.....I bartender for 9 years when I was in my 20's, so I learned so much about men and women!
You are so insightful. I love how you talk from personal experiences. I am so glad That I found your channel ! Thank you!.
I had a first consultation with you and told you about someone I had met that was long distance with since early August.
I finally went to see him and saw him in his environment and omg did I experience a different person. He was completely different than even the time he came to see me.
He was cold, I felt like I was walking on eggshells and I even felt insecure bc of his unusual bond he has with his best friends wife.
During the day at the house he was serious 90% of the time and out of the blue just say “ can you make sure to turn the lights off” ( just like rude about it. Cold ) (believe me I made sure to do it and also ask before I did anything just so I didn’t piss him off after that) I felt like I was intruding. I had my small dog with me which I thought he was fine with since he takes care of dogs all time time for friends but I even think my dog was getting to him. He was the one who told me it was ok to bring him. My dog is quite but needy and loves to be my my side. He didn’t say anything about my dog but it started to feel weird after a while too.
He wasn’t playful with me or sweet. The only time I felt connected was when we where having sex. Every other time i felt like I was just there. I would ask questions about things and it never started a conversation.
A completely different guy than the guy I was chatting with on FaceTime for 3 months prior.
We broke up and I cut the trip short.
I tried hard to get him to read “eight dates” and it he wouldn’t do it. He said at one point that he started it but couldn’t do the audio so he didn’t read it.
It was the most bizarre experience of my life with him. He even had issue with money with me. Asked me in a rude tone “ you didn’t think you would come here and expect me to pay for everything”
Another thing he said “ I have everything I need good friends, good job, and I’m spoiled with an amazing daughter, I don’t need a woman”
He even at one point mocked me.
I even at one point asked him “ who is this person, I don’t recognize this person in front of me”
I felt so unsafe and insecure and so optional.
I had to leave. It hurts bc I fell in love with an illusion of what I thought he was.
I was so wrong. Such a mistake. I’m still in shock.
You should have stopped with first sign of disrespect. A man who acts like this is a disgrace for himself first and foremost, as politeness and good manners are a trademark of a person regardless of who he/she communicates with. This man has disgraced himself honestly.
I had a spender Jonathan! He loaded up the expensive trips for 6 months, he couldn’t communicate his feelings at all in those 6 months. I went on a trip And he vanished!!! Jonathan who who ghosts someone after 6 months of consecutive dating and in a relationship!! I’m devastated!! Literally sick sick to my stomach.. I was watching your vids before this happened and now even more!!! Im sooo upset !! All that OxyContin And dopamine is wearing off .. all those hormone fluctuations after s break up are real!!!! Not just your mind .. your body goes those something very odd! You should do a video on that!!
@Brenda Renkema great viewpoint!! That helped !! You’re right all the highs from the hormones would have disappeared and I’d be stuck with a mummy robot !!
@Brenda Renkema wow I don’t know how to tap into this happy hormones now that he’s gone.. any tips thx honey
@Brenda Renkema thank you
Your subscribers ask really good questions!
I am not going to date someone who is not rooted and grounded in Christ. "unequally yoked"
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Thats my Speach. Totally agree. may god bless us all. X
The majority of men on line are not Godly. I am sure it probably holds true for women as well. They may state they are Christian but actions speak louder than words.
Exactly 💯💯💯
Big amen to this !!
A man could be genuinely looking for a long term partner, spend 3 months getting to know you. He may discover its not a good fit and then to avoid hurting her, make up various excuses to exit the relationship. It's unfair to belittle him or call him a player. The challenge for us women is to properly vet a man to begin with. Jonathan helps us with this!
Yes, that happens too...
It’s typically 3 months for me too.
This is why I think it’s better to wait at least that time before sex is on the table. No one bothers trying to get to know who they are letting into their bodies 🤦🏽♀️
@@ceegee31379 I'm playing WWF.im just talking to some guy . he's married& a few thousand miles away so there's 0 chance of meeting or anything. No married men
So after almost 3 years of chatting he actually said something that would make me dump him instantly if he were available. Soo disappointed. I thought he was someone fun to talk to.i was wrong.took 3 years.
@@ceegee31379 I agree.
I wrote a Declaration of Courtship about 9 yrs ago. It's an intent to date, each keeping the other person's emotional, physical and spiritual safety as priority according to biblical values. It is signed by both people. Added to it is a real life long time married couple available for regular support. The relationship goes to marriage,
( 3, 6, 9 12 month intervals)or both parties part as friends knowing it was not a marriage fit, but can part with a good experience, healthy self esteem (and don't continue to waste each others time). It's been awesome. Weeds out the players for me many of my friends. It's been great.
ROTF...I am dairy free. Not giving away anything 😂😹
You talk the most sense I’ve ever heard in my life..Thank you
I really liked the truth talk you called a rant. I'm encouraged to spend more time working on myself, it helps me to talk to myself and reason things out with less conflict
3 to 6 months ? I thought a Man was safe even though a few red flags were waving....
He drank hard liquor on every Date. ..a lot ....a full bottle. He kept drawing sketches of what he thought the Devil looked liked and put his Face between the Horns. He could draw a decent picture. He always had a new drawing of the Devil to show me when he came by. He said when we die We would become
"King and Queen of Hell and be "Lord's over all Suffering". I thought he had too much to drink when saying that stuff. I'm not a Drinker. Met him in Sept. Spent Christmas with his family which were nice. But his Father took me aside and asked me how long I had known him. He said "Be Careful "....."Take Care". The guy at 6 months almost killed me with a hunting knife before he killed his boyfriend ( I didn't know he was Bi) and was caught in the process of cutting the body up with a chainsaw and putting the body parts in black garbage bags. He was hiding who and what he was for almost 6 Months. I don't think you ever know what a person is really like no matter how long you have known them. They are good at hiding the dark underbelly of their Lives....until you accidentally or luckily find out what they are really made of.....sometimes too late ....BTW, when he finally was released from Prison...he made a beeline to my Home and left a Creepy letter in my Mailbox...He wanted to pick up our friendship where we left off....He had some "unfinished Business". He thought I was the reason he was caught. But it was the Victim's Co- workers who had the Police do a Welfare Check when the guy didn't show up for Work. He was always punctual. I don't want to have face time with him to explain this to him....he might not believe me. I don't Date anymore....I've noticed in the News, a lot of really nasty people in Prison , on Death Row....are pretty good at drawing....not great, but better than the average person. So , if they sketch well....beware.
I’m happy to hear that your widowed friend is seeing someone. I lost my husband during COVID and would love to meet someone. Dating is a scary thing these days.
I understand...
I hope you and your high school friend have a blast 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 good luck to you both💝
You have really been great for my mindset! I have noticed a lot of my own behaviors.
I'm glad!
It’s hard for me to find a man that’s like you .Your upfront on everything.
Are you up front about everything?
By the way, I think you will do great job officiating the wedding next week. Just enjoy the day and remember your wonderful sense of humor that you share with us in your videos that we all love so much. I wish I could be there to see you do it. If you can, please record it and share it with us later! ❤💒❤
Thank you so much!!
It’s awful that men abuse dating apps in this way.
I don't let guys make me feel bad if I'm not ready for something. I just say no and good night and I go home alone. I have a anxiety problem and I don't do things if I feel anxiety. I feel anxiety about lots of things and I feel anxiety when I'm around people I don't know.
30 miles is NOT long distance imo.
I don't need any more tests. I do good on my doctor's tests through teledoc.
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Thank you, I appreciate everything that you have said.
I was just getting to know a man who demanded hourly updates, and wanted to know if I was talking to anyone else at the same time, which I wasn’t, but still I felt very uncomfortable. He was kind of pushy, and absolutely did not have any respect for the amount of time it takes to develop trust.
It is none of their business who you talk to. They are strangers you met 5 minutes ago. You have a jealous potential stalker type, be careful.
Just went through the same thing. Not now. Refuse to do that..my time is my time. I can take care of myself and don't need a man to do that. I want a true gentleman. Won't have one that's not.
@@brendaplunkett8659 I know! Thankfully, I managed to doge that bullet. He was super hot, intelligent, and interesting, but we were ultimately emotionally and generally highly incompatible.
Definately a controlling man!
Run 🏃♀️
@@sherriflemming3218 I ran a very long time ago, thankfully. The tightness he made me feel in my chest from how anxious he made me was unbearable.
I think they cheat sometimes to test your boundries and the problem is if you stay with him then he thinks cheating is exceptable with you
Sometimes
About the books and "too many" there is a theory, you become what you read/study.
Educated and knowledgeable 🙏
I guess I'll stay single forever. Since there are very few reasonable men out there and if you happen to meet one they're usually unavailable (in a relationship or entangled in dysfunctional marriage). Sigh. Why have commitment and authenticity become obsolete in our society?
Every time I listen to you, you make a difference with me. Thanks! I'm not dating yet, still working on me and working on building a business. I figure I may as well throw in some dating training along the way so I'm not doing this right when I'm dating which is where I could make a lot of mistakes.
Yes, thanks. That resonates. I am sorry for your loss. Be well.
My dad always said that men make a conscious decision when they are ready to get married. And at that point, they begin looking for a wife. If you meet them before then, it doesn't matter who you are.
Exactly
Sounds like humans
I’m enjoying your podcasts as always. I so appreciate your honesty,especially where you’ve been in your journey.
Please post the dating vows. I’m not seeing it.
Thank you, Jonathon. 🤗🌺🦋
Thank you! Will do!
Jonathan your work is so good you make such a difference I have an unhealthy attachment with my husband after 40years of marriage he left me for another woman I THANK YOU FOR your useful tips and direct talk
Good advice. Thank you
😄🤣 I am dying with you ladies are giving the milk away for free. No free milk here. But still funny.
Wow, Just the Content I needed to here right now! Thank You for this Wonderful Content Jonathon...🙏💖
TY 🙏
This was really good and I purchased a couple of the books. I really like the dating vow. Thanks!
I don't go in a guys car if I don't know him and I don't go to a guys house if I don't know him. That's not safe. I don't go to any bars and I don't wanna meet guys there. Im just all ways trying to be safe because my anxiety makes me be safe.
Same 🤚
Hi Jonathan, I love listening to you. Unfortunately reality it's not pretty and we have to work on ourselves first to really know what we want, no roo. For mistake, lol.
How did you lose your son? Lost mine almost 5 yrs so hard, I know your pain. Love your lives thank you so much.
I like your videos. Glad I came across them!!
We LOVE therapy. ANy man who is not into self development is NOT the man for me.
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❤❤❤❤thank you for your insight . So brilliant
You are so welcome
I am 80 and he is 74 we have a lot in common and I don’t think we have too many years left do you have any advise about that?
I'd be interested in opinions on your situation too. The older we get, the less time there is to waste on 'mistakes'.
I was BEYOND blessed, as I had incredible parents, which both have passed and I do miss so very much, but he has parents that, his dad, didn't support, but they are older now, and I love his mom too, so does he need to just forgive his parents? Yes, true love is exactly what you stated, good, bad and/or maybe the ugly
Jonathan Why Not discuss How a Woman Tests a Man's BOUNDARIES? A food for thought...😳
My whole channel is helping women with boundaries as a way to test men...
@@JonathonAslay women seem to be the one's who are in 'defense mode', always having or learning to protect themselves. Men need to be also held accountable and they simply need to LEARN HOW to treat all women with more respect. In your field, experts really need to address; men's roles in how to be better authentic caing men for women, instead of women doing all this changing, gathering information, protecting themselves, and always watching for "unhealthy" patterns in the men. Etc. I'm sorry I could go on.... but men need to learn how to treat and respect women with kindness and care. Maybe 'men' need schooling to help out the entire dating pool? Thank you for trying Jonathan, and for your eye-opening suggestions, because they are very helpful! Be blessed. It's a jungle of unavailable beasts (men) out there in this climate of dating. It's sad for women, however truthfully both the sexes suffer from ungenuine and unhealthy connections. Thank you for caring! :)
Not one word since ghosting me in 30 days! Unbelievable !! I spent every single weekend with this guy I knew his life .. there are no big secrets i saw …or hidden life !! He must be completely emotionally detached to be able to do this .. pls help
That's why I have been single for 2 years and they are all like that!!!!! Nothing changed until I learned about the power of manifesting someone or anything you want through your energy (thoughts feelings and beliefs without doubt) watch Manifest with Jasmine on RUclips she changed my life! I have the most amazing person in my life now 15 months strong and so happy... I've suffered from Narcissist abuse my whole life and I'm 44 single mom. We attract people through our energy. Another great teacher is Robert Zink. Jasmine really knows how to simplify it.
Watch you at night...you are so on point.. but I laugh because this is all so true...keep up the great work...don't stop yelling. .
I appreciate that
This is so helpful. I appreciate having a man's perspective
Glad it was helpful!
Question
When as a senior should you still have boundaries
Or just enjoy the affection????
always have boundaries...
Like your CARES
Thanks!
WOW! Thank you...
@@JonathonAslay you're welcome!! You really have helped me so much!! I love your openess! And I love how you look at humans. I wish I could figure out how to spread the same help.......I try. I share with others the books if read from you, the thoughts, etc.....but sometimes u wish I could do more. Again THANKS! One day I'd like to schedule a call with you I think. Just to chat about your views and learn more lol
Inspiring listening to a funny leo man sharing such pertinent truths,especially in these huge world changes. Sooo enlightening .thank you.
Wow, thank you
It drives me crazy when I accept friend requests from a professional or a spiritualist and they abuse and disrespect professional boundaries from the very beginning
Great video! Waiting for the vows list 😊
TY 🙏
Guys like fantasy too…not about relationships, but sex, fantasy football, fantasy video games, etc
I'm listening to Kenny n Dollys "islands in the stream"
When couples understand and live those lyrics. That's some real genuine LOVE!💝
FACTS!
The take of that song lyrics equates to 2 people leaving a third, fourth or fifth person out. With the exception of both parents approval!
Interesting
I don't think that everything has to be perfect to have a healthy, committed, relationship Jonathan
Good advice
Recommend a book geared towards learning emotional maturity. I'm guilty of being emotionally immature at times.
Www.jonathonaslay.com/jonathon-recommends
Remind me of my ex who also is an aries
@@Mymoon_laaaaaaaaaadiiieeesss Gee thanks! I think it's great to be able to recognize areas where we need to grow.
@@aries7176 of course. I need to grow in other parts for example. For me it was just toxic because he really was not on the same wave length with emotional intelligence, was hard for me.
I like the way you have no filter!
Is that a good thing? 😜
Hi Jonathan. Enlightening, as always. The type of men I've been encountering lately are men who are just discovering the "benefits" of having easy access to sex and being somewhat confused by it given their upbringing (I'm 59) and what they think they want. I feel they fall into this trap without really realizing it and without being able to fight it given that it caters to one of their most fundamental instinct. Fair assessment, you think?
Thanks for sharing 👍🏼
What if he says he don’t analyze every thought just go with the flow!
Ppl who say that are usually Neurotic and project that onto others. If he doesn’t need to analyze everything he won’t be analyzing what he believes to be you analyzing.
You spot it, you got it
So if a a man is a devil and waits for 10 dates or more and answer all correctly and act correctly and once you are being intimate what prevents him to leave and not commit? There is no way knowing.
So better tell them In the beginning NO SEX without marriage. Am I wrong?
Hi. When you say that certain percentage of people are dysfuctional, etc it is the percentage you see as a therapist. I don't think that it represents the pupulation because people in healthy relationships don''t seek therapy. With that being said , I really like your approach.
You can test as long as you want...after that Your happy
Super helpful 👍🏼
Question,
See Below, please
I think there is another category. People who are fine where they are, but are open to a relationship if it hits them on the nose.
This video is absolutely golden! Thank you so much!! 🙌🧡✨
TY 🙏
Thanks for teaching how to be functional. Im glad somebody is.
Glad to help
Dysfunctional parents is correct...why, if you really love one another, they should want you to know by stating (I love you toi) they seem to say I do love you, and you know I do) but just don't feel like it needs to rehashed or stated every day. I don't feel you have to say "I love you" everyday, but it's nice to hear once and a while right??
Questions and answers this round 👍
Thanks ☺️
What I have learned from you Jonathan is awesome! I want to keep my power and be a grower available for a growers. Love the Boundaries, what feels right and what doesn't feels right!
Amen 🙏
Me as well
Again you are great!!
TY 🙏
Every woman should read “Why Men Love Bitches.” It will open your eyes for sure!
Exactly!!!
How's the long distance relationship going, she should move to LA👍🏼
Awesome, thank you 😊
@@JonathonAslay cool, you deserve it because you've earned it... Time, energy & devotion in self improvement.
10 minute mark.....Bad Boy Jonathan! You were not thinking about your sister! Shame on you! 😂😹
I'm a work in progress...
Have fun. :)
I’m
Wow, I see I’m a spender 😂 🤦🏻♀️
A good book rec for you jonathon…it’s ok to not be ok by Megan Devine. I think it’s beautiful and will help you. 🙂
Cool, thanks.
I don't think Deepak Chopra counts as personal development on any level! He's so busy bleating on about how you are "made of the same stuff as the stars" and how "truth is subjective" - I guess that's how he justified his long term cheating on his wife. I've also seen him absolutely lose it when he was in a debate with a Christian about apologetics - and he got slammed. The former "cool and wise Deepak" was a frothing ball of fury. The mask really slipped there! He came across as highly narcissistic.
Resonating
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You’re fucking great Jonathan! Love your insightful honesty and candid personal heart centred advice - do you have a twin in Australia? Haha! 🤣
I love the advice you give. I have a ? I am really attracted to wonderful guy. He recently became blind . Should I keep pursue the guy or not?
What does your heart say?
P.S. an accurate std test has to be done 3 months after two people meet. The person who gives the person the details. Will insist that both couples aren’t having sex with anyone for at least 3 months. If a std shows up, they wasted a lot of time taking the test when 1 person doesn’t pay attention to the timeline. Thanks
Hey! My name is Stephanie😃
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Jonathon were not taught growing up how to be functional. We're just not taught.
Yes 🙌
Yes... 😀
enjoy the time spent together , long lost firends, fun times, stress n hassle free,,,,, have fun ! hugs to you too !
sorry no teddy bears, hahaha
real life only hugs for me haaha
There is No point in being in ANYthing w a person of the Opposite sex, if they dont respect you, your body, your soul, your goals or you Boundaries, sexual or otherwise if this person doesnt make your heart sing, and instead makes you feel horrible,,, or if theyre flaky, one day yes, one day no, next day black, day after that white or maybe bluish something,,, lose the loser, why loser cos hes wastin ghis time which is fine but more importantly if hes or she is wasting Your time, thats crossing Another boundary, and Wasting Your Precious time and honestly, Who has time left over? you cant bank it, and you cant invest it, once its gone its gone and its your life's Time were talking about and no one knows in advance how much of it they have left,,,,,,,, think about that? how many times did you wait n wait n wait, for hours, months, years???? Walk,,,, Your time is your life YOUR life, if the other person doesnt value their life, fine but yours is so much more precious than that, to waste it on some no show or some waster, those that spend all YOUR time but w no goal nor purpose. ( just in the hopes you will some day actually ahum sleep w him,,,, ) come on youre so much better than to take Crumbs,,,,
I had many guys i said no to and they all responded with a similar you are so harsh or cold. But I hinted 5 times and they didn't seem to hear me so i get to a direct no and look them in the eyes and jep im labeled cold or hash woman....
You are not cold, you just prevent to get exploited. Emotions are mainly used by men to manipulate and get the things they want from you.
They're not getting their selfish way
No is a complete sentence.
A great empowering book for women is "The Gift Of Fear" Gavin De Becker. Every woman's Bible.
I have several now scaring me a lot now. 2 love bombing me and scared me what do I do?