When my children and grandchildren were young, they learned no begging, bawling, or whining. If they wanted something, the answer was quick. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But if you begged, or cried or whined, even a yes turned to no. We lived a ways from shopping so when we got in the car, I encouraged them to "rest" til we got there. Always had a reward if they were good. If they decided to fuss or fight, we just came home, no reward. But lots of fun and love. Mealtime was for everyone checking in, telling jokes, absolutely no negatives. If discipline was needed, it came after dinner when we could have a conversation and make decisions together.
@@theMennoniteMom have to be consistent. Remind of the rule. If it starts, I say what's the rule....they say if you beg, bawl, or whine, you don't get nothing! It really only takes a few times if both parents are consistent. My youngest grand is 10 now and always the biggest offender. But he remembers the rule and understands when he breaks it. This way I don't have to get frustrated with the b,b or w and even after discipline is meted out, I'm not upset, and it doesn't take long for him/them to get happy again. Lots of hugs, maybe a reminder of the offense and discipline, but overall a good outcome. In the beginning, if a meltdown occurred, I would calmly say that they needed to go lay down for a while until the calmed down, and then they could get up when they felt better. That is something key...even at 2 they could be put down for a rest, sometimes fell asleep, but they knew they weren't banished and had to sit for someone to come get them. They could return with a better disposition anytime they were ready. Funny story....my oldest grandchild at 11 was still applying this. I picked him up,he had been fussing with his mother and was out of sorts. He started fussing at me on the drive home and I said, you may talk to your mother like that, but it's not fair for you to treat me that way. We pulled I to the driveway, got the door unlocked and he said, Mimi, I think need to go lay down and think about it!.. 20 minutes later he was back downstairs with me and apologized. And we went on with our day. Way better than always fussing at them!!😍
I have always told my child, who will be 15 soon, that we can be friends when he is a grown adult with his own bills to pay and we can talk and share more life experiences together, but as of now I and his father are his parents who are doing our best to be good role models, the best parents we can be.
We have been fostercarers for 25 years and without a doubt I believe that if we don’t raise children to understand that sometimes the answer is no, that no is about safety, responsibility and respect. Consistency and loving guidance heals and teaches resilience. I think you guys are totally on the right track
Enjoyed this video. So many things you said are so true. Outlook and attitude are so important in raising children. They have to learn the word no,and learn respect
I think you’re spot on with discipline. I love remembering the root of the word as ‘disciple’ and parents should be a leader the child follows to learn and grow on the right path. Relationship, trust, and love are key. ❤️
You are a wise woman of God. I am reminded of Proverbs 4:5 Get wisdom, get understanding... The whole chapter is instruction. Blessings to your family!🙌
Thank you so much for sharing your views and parenting. This world needs more parents and less adult friends two children in the household. Blessings to you and your family
I agree with you about discipline. Everything we do should be one in love but children need to learn that actions have consequences that are either good or bad. This is true all throughout life. Parents who do not teach this are doing their child a disservice because that child will not be prepared for life as an adult.
Excellent video! Children must have boundaries, and seeing a parent being consistent is a key component. You and Joel are a beautiful example of the design that God has laid out in his word for how to structure a marriage and family. As parents, we can never go wrong when we seek out and abide in his will, while always, always reinforcing our actions (even those that require some hard no's) with lots love. Thank you again, and congratulations on your perfect baby girl. 🎊😍 She's just absolutely gorgeous! 💞🙏👨👨👧👦
I watch a lot of RUclips and I found your channel recently. Your son is the funniest kid I have ever seen. He lifts my spirits so much. I love your honesty and simple way of life. Keep up the great work. Your daughter is beautiful.
My wish is that all kids could have parents like you and Nolen! I think you are spot on! The biggest problem in our world today is so many adults aren't "responsible" enough to parent etc. It is a very sad situation......
Loved this video Jeanine and I completely agree. Children thrive when they have rules, boundaries, limitations. We do them a disservice by not creating this environment of trust and love. Our Heavenly Father has done so for us and He is the perfect parent. Sending love & prayers to you dear sister 🥰🙏🏻❤️❌⭕️🤗
I agree 100 Percent on the clutter ! I keep trying to remove things that I have not used in awhile. We are also trying to downsize, so I know I need to get rid of some things. When my children were young, I used to remove some toys from their everyday life. When we have to many things, I think they are overwhelmed. Then later I alternate the toys. It makes them seem like they have something new.
Say what you mean…….and mean what you say! It’s so true that children seem to get mixed signals from parents. One time something will get them in trouble and the next time it doesn’t. I also firmly believe that children ( and I’m sure I’ll get flack for it, but that’s OK) should be raised with their foundation built on the Lord. “Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it” Prov 22:6 KJV The lack of God in this world today is causing the horrific and demonic results we are now living with😢 God Bless🙏
As an outsider, it seems that the Mennonite and Amish have a long history of disciplined parenting which has gone against societal norms and preserved strong family life. We read from time to time that things are harder even with these communities - that drugs have seeped in or abuse - but that overall children grow up with a solid foundation. We learned those values as individual families, but not as one community. Seemed they translated well with society through the fifties and early sixties. It seems since the mid or late sixties, there has been an attack on the whole way of thinking. I believe it is a spiritual battle, one that we Catholics have been warned about since the mid 1800s. (See vision of Pope Leo XIII or movie of St. Bernadette of Lourdes, France, movie of Fatima, Portugal, documentaries of Garabandal, Spain). Man is less in love with God and more in love with himself and here and now. The messages were all about turning away from sin and temptations and to God. It seems we are at a dire point from what those messages say. We choose God and His way or we are choosing our own damnation. It is every individual's choice to make. According to some messages, God will give everyone on earth, all at the same time, an illumination of how they stand before Him. Every person of every nation and every creed! He will do this as an act of mercy and many will change but some will rationalize the event away and some will drop dead from fear. Believers have been asked to make many prayers of gratitude, love, adoration, asking for forgiveness and grace for those who have lost their faith or never had it or need to repent. We are asked not to judge people's actions but to look at our own faults and grow in virtue and pray for the person we see in apparent sin, lifting them up to God and asking His help in our world and these situations. If we feel we have to speak it should be in a way that is a general word about a problem, that could lead the person to open up, not a direct accusation. We can never know another's heart or intent or all their circumstances. Any suffering,(like your sorrow over the situations of gender and kids), we bear with the love Christ bore His suffering, can make amends for many offenses and bring grace and help souls. Mostly we need to learn to love God's will above our own because we now understand His will is love and mercy itself. Time to keep our eyes on things above. God bless.
God put you two together for a reason!! Both of you are wonderful and a blessing to each other. God planned that🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻. My husband is the same way🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. I am working on decluttering🙌🏻🙌🏻. Spot on with discipline of your children…. Language with our spouse and our children is so important, speaking with love and a child needs to learn what “no” means when needed. Lack of obedience…spot on!! Parents being consistent 👏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻
My rule for discipline was always to keep it proportionate to the event, over disciplining just creates a tense and unhappy home, under disciplining creates a havoc filled and unhappy home. You do you boo and do what works in your house and leave others to do what they do. I tend to agree with you so no flak from me at least.
Thank you for sharing. Great job with very difficult questions, especially in today's world! The only thing I'd add to "parenting advice" is that each child is different and will respond differently to different disciplinary measures. (One may need a look, one a talk, one a quick swat for emphasis.) Bottom line tho is setting the boundaries, giving the guidance and punishing where needed. But even God punished His people differently, depending on the people and circumstances... Right is still right and wrong is wrong. And yes, I firmly believe that self-discipline comes from knowing that boundaries exist and that one is responsible for his/her actions. ❤🙏
I have always greatly enjoyed reading Missionary biographies. ☺️ Discipline is certainly an important thing... In fact there are scriptures dealing with it. I've seen plenty of children that haven't had the discipline they've needed and it doesn't just impact them, but others around them. I've also seen the problems that occur when parents aren't doing it in the right way. You've made some very good points.
Both my kids played really well by themselves but they didn't want to be 'alone' so they would bring their toys with them, from room to room, wherever I went. My favourite time was sitting with a cup of tea in a sunny spot, watching them play. If I got up - they would follow! Their grandfather (my dad) also told them that "only unintelligent people get bored and you're as bright as a button". Honestly, it worked (after the age of 4 or 5, when they could work that one out, of course:)
So true on the discipline. It is our job to prepare them for adulthood. We had a sizable income but never let us forget our responsibility. We taught them how to work hard around the house. All three had jobs from 15 years on. At 54, 50 and 47 they are phenomenal young adults. They were stiller students. I spent many nights on their beds going through school work. I loved being a Mother.
I agree with everything you say about raising children. Parents are not their children's buddies. Consistency is very important. It reassures the child about the parent's judgment. I also find it silly to shower my children with praise for every little thing. But most of all I believe in gentleness and tenderness in parenting. When I was a child, my mother had a saying: "Tell the truth and the punishment will be half a year less." I am extremely grateful to my parents for this request, accompanied by an undertone of humour, to tell the truth without fear and I see that I can pass it on. I wish you the serenity and joy for your daughter that you have for your son. Greetings from far across the Atlantic...
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ When you shared on the subject of children I want to say a big THANK YOU. You spoke on this subject beautifully. I commend you for being so honest. I wish I knew much of this when I was raising 2 boys. Even today I have regrets of some things I had done. I had a lot of growing up to do myself. I was 19 when I had my firstborn n I was kid myself. I know so much more now n know I would of done things so differently but it’s to late I can’t go back I can only ask forgiveness. I enjoyed this video so much n it really touched my heart. I hope many Mama’s out there will take to heart what you said. I feel many parents today want to be more of a friend to their child than a parent n that will back fire someday. Again thank you Janine for honesty. Your very wise young Mama. God bless you. ♥️♥️😊👍👍👍👍👍
I LOVE love love this!! I would like to say, you mentioned that family comes first, but biblically speaking it goes Christ, the husband, the wife, and then the children. Not to neglect your marriage or children by any means! But keeping Him first enables us to tend to everything else properly. I love this channel so much!!
We were blessed with 3 girls in 3 years. We lived in a small apartment for the first 12 years so there was less to clean. We had a routine from morning till bedtime. Some days we went to the library hour and checked books and shared McDonald's food. We had park play each day near our home. We had friends over or went to their house. We went to church meetings. When home we cleaned together, did laundry together. We had a rest time so Mom could lay down. We didn't have TV just educational videos or family movies. They loved to play dolls and dress up and do art. It was fun.
Love this video and your thoughts re parenting. I believe a parent needs to be careful of the 'words' they use because they are never forgotten. Following through with consequences is something I have always tried to do.
Great video. I appreciate your comments on discipline. Having raised our children we found laying out the expectations for our children, having consequences for willful disobedience, lots of love and laughter, but mostly seeking God's help in all things. Finally humbling asking God to fill the gaps when we messed up and forgiveness. Side note; something I learned when siblings weren't getting along. I would have them hold hands and repeat after me something like this:. I forgive you for....please forgive me for.... I love you and care about you.... It usually ended with laughter and life went on.🙂
I am not mennonite but i agree with your parenting philosophy 100%. Its how i raised my son (or tried to). Children need and want boundaries so they understand their world a little better. They purposely test the boundaries as they grow to learn. We can be their "friend" when they drop off the grandchildren. 😄
I drove thru the Hillsville Flea market today, pre pandemic it was the largest in the United States 🇺🇸. Anyway, guess what I saw . Two large groups of people. They really stood out to me. Mennonite ladies and children, also Apostolic- pentecostal ladies and girls. Big groups! I just smiled and thought of you ☺ 💕. EVEN GOD corrects His Children. Good parents teach guide and sometimes correct. Sounds like you are doing a fine job. 🙂
I loved your message about teaching respect and teaching that no means no and yes means yes. We are the parents and our children are more secure if they know they don't have to make grown up decisions, it's our job to give them rules and teach them how to make good decisions. My husband and I have 3 grown children and though there were struggles, they have all grown into adults that are very responsible,, caring human beings and we are so proud that with the help of God, we managed to raise them well....greatest achievement of our lives!
I agree that relationship is key. Another is chores. Small children can have small jobs. Having responsibility within the home helps them build confidence and establishes routine. / Never forget reading in one James Herriot book about how his three year old daughter got out of the car to open a farm gate when they went to visit a farm! Our children are capable of more than we realize.
Thank you for speaking about "choosing one's gender." You are spot on!! The world is becoming more & more disjointed because of this feel good & "you do you" movement.
There is validity in child #1, #2, etc. in being different…. #2 has #1 and so it is different…. Xander has been an only child all this time, baby girl will never be an only child experience 😃
Please take time to spend with the husband and both kids. If it just sitting in the swing talking to each other is needed for communication. My grandpa made us pick up sticks or something dumb when we said we were bored. We learned not to say we were bored. I need to apply this to kids. I'm still looking for how to take time for myself, but I use the time in the garden as my meditation time... I listen to the nature. Saying no isn't wrong. Sometimes kids need to learn to accept life has good and bad. Love the good.
If you punish them, but I follow up that I love them but the behavior isn't acceptable. They hate my disappointment and they want my praise for all the good. I feel they try for praise with me then correction. I am hoping the encouragement will allow them to be a good person. My daughter is tiny and she is learning to hold the doors for others. She loves the thank you. I started explaining that would you like someone to shut the door on you or hold the door. Now my son he is still in the learning stage. I was raised you hold the door for someone.
I love Janine that you cut to the chase. You are a no frills and fluff vlogger. That doesn't mean you don't have fun.😊 The study of God is wonderful. Theological books are vital and believers hunger after knowing more about Jesus and the Bible. Let your Yes be Yes and let your No be No. All your great words on discipline are from the Bible. God's way is best, love, discipline , direction based on His Word. Living by example . ' Do as I say not as I do ' is important . Compliments and encouragements are foundational. You and Nolan are doing a great job. Not only are Xander's limits being formed but he is learning to be a good man and parent as well as you are Growing a child and adult . The best way to love your child is for parents to love each other. Bless you all .
Thank you. I keep praying for wisdom because the more time goes on the more I realize how little I know about parenting and life in general lol. Psrenting is hard work and full of mistakes 😪 so thankful for God's grace!
Good video lady ! I personally believe so many problems could be avoided if parents stopped trying to be their kids friend/ buddy. When they become adults then it's ok but, when they are growing up they have different needs. They need your strength and guidance. Also so many parents try to live their dreams through their kids. Or have their needs met through them. Your kids are not you. A extension yes. And yes discipline is a must. :)
Thank you for sharing on the topic of child discipline. Enjoy your mom videos. One of my favorite verses for child training (and other responsibilities, for that matter) is James 1:5 "if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all liberally.......
Love what you said about spending one on one time with Xander. Susannah Wesley, mother of John and Charles Wesley had 15? children and managed to spend one hour a day with each child. She raised a great family who served the Lord. Good on you!
Im not trying to be a know it all!😔 but I have Susanna Wesley's journal book and it has a list in the back of it of all her childrens births and deaths and she had 19 births but only raised 10 children. The others passed away at birth and some as toddlers 🥺 💔 but she also had nannies that helped her... her husband wasnt the nicest person actually😒 She had it pretty rough really, but still managed, as you mentioned, to be a wonderful godly momma and raised godly men!! I am named after her 🙂💜 I have a lot to live up to!
I really enjoyed this video, it was really interesting. I agree with you on a lot of thing and I'm glad you answered my questions I asked on telegram because in the beginning of my pregnancy I was really struggling with all responsibilities (wife, homekeeper, believer), it was hard for me to adjust and I didn't found any answer, now it's okay I've fully adjusted and my husband too as I'm in my ninth month it's easier for him to understand and I'm also blessed to have such a good husband. And so I'm so glad you answered my question and your answer was really interesting and it helps me even now because even if I adjusted I'm still struggling sometime 😅. And you're right taking good care of our home, husband and family is a act of worship for itself 😊 and it feels good. Thank you so much. I'm really happy to have found your channel even if we are from different religious backgrounds I find so much in common. I hope you all are healthy and happy with the little new one, may God bless all of you
Good video! In todays world or generation, parents THINKS their suppose to be best friends with their children while their young. We become best friends with our children when they are adults. We have to be a PARENT while their young. No Manuel Comes with our children, but if we read the Bible, God teaches us how we are to discipline our babies ❤️
THANK FOR YOUR SWEET COUNSEL OF DISCIPLINE... VERY MUCH AGREED... I'M SOOO MUCH BETTER AS A GRANDMA... I CAN ❤ ON THEM AND THEY GO HOME... HEHE... I ENJOY YOUR VLOGS... XANDER AND YOUR BABY GIRL COMING ARE SOOOO BLESSED TO BE IN YOUR FAMILY... THANK YOU AG AS IN SWEETS...
How did you get so wise at your young age. I raised my kids the way you are talking about. They are both very enjoyable adults. (Ages 36 and 46) I really enjoyed these Q & A's. Thank you for spending your time to share with us.
Happy Friday sweet girl.Hope you all have a great weekend. Did Xander keep Bubbles as the puppies name? So cute! Hope baby Lexi is settling in well 💓. Hugs from Missouri 🤗 ❤️
Very good video. Something that I heard and believe to be true (which is very sad!) that people that are gay have been sexually abused as children and it messes them up. That is an area that concerns me, how do I protect my children? I can’t be with them every minute. What are the best tools I can equip my children with to keep that from ever happening? I know at the end of the day all I can do is my best, pray & trust that God will take care of them
When my daughter was young I was a single parent. I had a few simple rules - and clear directions and consequences. Two rules I had were no swearing and no using the words stupid or shut up. As an adult one of her friends asked my daughter, "what would your mom have done if you had used these words?" and my daughter's response "I don't know, but I never wanted to find out" - LOL.
Hello from the outer hebrides. We do not to my knowledge have a mennonite community but a very Christian belief system. I'm very interested in your way of life
When my children and grandchildren were young, they learned no begging, bawling, or whining. If they wanted something, the answer was quick. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. But if you begged, or cried or whined, even a yes turned to no. We lived a ways from shopping so when we got in the car, I encouraged them to "rest" til we got there. Always had a reward if they were good. If they decided to fuss or fight, we just came home, no reward. But lots of fun and love. Mealtime was for everyone checking in, telling jokes, absolutely no negatives. If discipline was needed, it came after dinner when we could have a conversation and make decisions together.
I like your structure. And the whining begging thing... we are struggling with that now. May have to try some of that
@@theMennoniteMom have to be consistent. Remind of the rule. If it starts, I say what's the rule....they say if you beg, bawl, or whine, you don't get nothing! It really only takes a few times if both parents are consistent. My youngest grand is 10 now and always the biggest offender. But he remembers the rule and understands when he breaks it. This way I don't have to get frustrated with the b,b or w and even after discipline is meted out, I'm not upset, and it doesn't take long for him/them to get happy again. Lots of hugs, maybe a reminder of the offense and discipline, but overall a good outcome. In the beginning, if a meltdown occurred, I would calmly say that they needed to go lay down for a while until the calmed down, and then they could get up when they felt better. That is something key...even at 2 they could be put down for a rest, sometimes fell asleep, but they knew they weren't banished and had to sit for someone to come get them. They could return with a better disposition anytime they were ready. Funny story....my oldest grandchild at 11 was still applying this. I picked him up,he had been fussing with his mother and was out of sorts. He started fussing at me on the drive home and I said, you may talk to your mother like that, but it's not fair for you to treat me that way. We pulled I to the driveway, got the door unlocked and he said, Mimi, I think need to go lay down and think about it!.. 20 minutes later he was back downstairs with me and apologized. And we went on with our day. Way better than always fussing at them!!😍
Imagine having family dinners and not being able to be sad. Wild.
I agree with encouraging kids to be independent. They need to learn to play on their own sometimes, it builds their creativity.
Couldn’t agree more.
I have always told my child, who will be 15 soon, that we can be friends when he is a grown adult with his own bills to pay and we can talk and share more life experiences together, but as of now I and his father are his parents who are doing our best to be good role models, the best parents we can be.
We have been fostercarers for 25 years and without a doubt I believe that if we don’t raise children to understand that sometimes the answer is no, that no is about safety, responsibility and respect.
Consistency and loving guidance heals and teaches resilience. I think you guys are totally on the right track
Enjoyed this video. So many things you said are so true. Outlook and attitude are so important in raising children. They have to learn the word no,and learn respect
I think you’re spot on with discipline. I love remembering the root of the word as ‘disciple’ and parents should be a leader the child follows to learn and grow on the right path. Relationship, trust, and love are key. ❤️
I like that very much! The root word being disciple. Such a good reminder
You are a wise woman of God. I am reminded of Proverbs 4:5 Get wisdom, get understanding... The whole chapter is instruction. Blessings to your family!🙌
Thank you so much for sharing your views and parenting. This world needs more parents and less adult friends two children in the household. Blessings to you and your family
I agree with you about discipline. Everything we do should be one in love but children need to learn that actions have consequences that are either good or bad. This is true all throughout life. Parents who do not teach this are doing their child a disservice because that child will not be prepared for life as an adult.
So many parents now a days do not parent their children. It's very sad. Thanks for sharing. ♥️
Excellent video! Children must have boundaries, and seeing a parent being consistent is a key component. You and Joel are a beautiful example of the design that God has laid out in his word for how to structure a marriage and family. As parents, we can never go wrong when we seek out and abide in his will, while always, always reinforcing our actions (even those that require some hard no's) with lots love. Thank you again, and congratulations on your perfect baby girl. 🎊😍 She's just absolutely gorgeous! 💞🙏👨👨👧👦
thank you so much! we just love her! (:
What a sensible, loving way to parent! You are both inspiring as parents and as an example of an extremely blessed marriage!🥰
Thank you! Yes I'm so blessed with a great marriage
I watch a lot of RUclips and I found your channel recently. Your son is the funniest kid I have ever seen. He lifts my spirits so much. I love your honesty and simple way of life. Keep up the great work. Your daughter is beautiful.
My wish is that all kids could have parents like you and Nolen! I think you are spot on! The biggest problem in our world today is so many adults aren't "responsible" enough to parent etc. It is a very sad situation......
Need to direct our children with consistency - Amen sister! Much needed to hear.
Loved this video Jeanine and I completely agree. Children thrive when they have rules, boundaries, limitations. We do them a disservice by not creating this environment of trust and love. Our Heavenly Father has done so for us and He is the perfect parent. Sending love & prayers to you dear sister 🥰🙏🏻❤️❌⭕️🤗
Thank you! Yes so true that we do them a disservice. Doesn't always feel that way
I agree 100 Percent on the clutter ! I keep trying to remove things that I have not used in awhile. We are also trying to downsize, so I know I need to get rid of some things.
When my children were young, I used to remove some toys from their everyday life. When we have to many things, I think they are overwhelmed. Then later I alternate the toys. It makes them seem like they have something new.
Say what you mean…….and mean what you say!
It’s so true that children seem to get mixed signals from parents. One time something will get them in trouble and the next time it doesn’t.
I also firmly believe that children ( and I’m sure I’ll get flack for it, but that’s OK) should be raised with their foundation built on the Lord.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it” Prov 22:6 KJV
The lack of God in this world today is causing the horrific and demonic results we are now living with😢
God Bless🙏
Agreed
So true life isn’t always easy. Children need to learn when they are young.👍
As an outsider, it seems that the Mennonite and Amish have a long history of disciplined parenting which has gone against societal norms and preserved strong family life. We read from time to time that things are harder even with these communities - that drugs have seeped in or abuse - but that overall children grow up with a solid foundation. We learned those values as individual families, but not as one community. Seemed they translated well with society through the fifties and early sixties. It seems since the mid or late sixties, there has been an attack on the whole way of thinking. I believe it is a spiritual battle, one that we Catholics have been warned about since the mid 1800s. (See vision of Pope Leo XIII or movie of St. Bernadette of Lourdes, France, movie of Fatima, Portugal, documentaries of Garabandal, Spain). Man is less in love with God and more in love with himself and here and now. The messages were all about turning away from sin and temptations and to God. It seems we are at a dire point from what those messages say. We choose God and His way or we are choosing our own damnation. It is every individual's choice to make. According to some messages, God will give everyone on earth, all at the same time, an illumination of how they stand before Him. Every person of every nation and every creed! He will do this as an act of mercy and many will change but some will rationalize the event away and some will drop dead from fear. Believers have been asked to make many prayers of gratitude, love, adoration, asking for forgiveness and grace for those who have lost their faith or never had it or need to repent. We are asked not to judge people's actions but to look at our own faults and grow in virtue and pray for the person we see in apparent sin, lifting them up to God and asking His help in our world and these situations. If we feel we have to speak it should be in a way that is a general word about a problem, that could lead the person to open up, not a direct accusation. We can never know another's heart or intent or all their circumstances. Any suffering,(like your sorrow over the situations of gender and kids), we bear with the love Christ bore His suffering, can make amends for many offenses and bring grace and help souls. Mostly we need to learn to love God's will above our own because we now understand His will is love and mercy itself. Time to keep our eyes on things above. God bless.
God put you two together for a reason!! Both of you are wonderful and a blessing to each other. God planned that🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻.
My husband is the same way🙌🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. I am working on decluttering🙌🏻🙌🏻.
Spot on with discipline of your children…. Language with our spouse and our children is so important, speaking with love and a child needs to learn what “no” means when needed. Lack of obedience…spot on!! Parents being consistent 👏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻
Praise God for incredible husbands!
My rule for discipline was always to keep it proportionate to the event, over disciplining just creates a tense and unhappy home, under disciplining creates a havoc filled and unhappy home. You do you boo and do what works in your house and leave others to do what they do. I tend to agree with you so no flak from me at least.
Wise advice. I see now why Xander is such a happy little boy. He's got great parents.
Thank you for sharing. Great job with very difficult questions, especially in today's world! The only thing I'd add to "parenting advice" is that each child is different and will respond differently to different disciplinary measures. (One may need a look, one a talk, one a quick swat for emphasis.) Bottom line tho is setting the boundaries, giving the guidance and punishing where needed. But even God punished His people differently, depending on the people and circumstances... Right is still right and wrong is wrong. And yes, I firmly believe that self-discipline comes from knowing that boundaries exist and that one is responsible for his/her actions. ❤🙏
Yes! so true! (: thank you
I have always greatly enjoyed reading Missionary biographies. ☺️
Discipline is certainly an important thing... In fact there are scriptures dealing with it. I've seen plenty of children that haven't had the discipline they've needed and it doesn't just impact them, but others around them. I've also seen the problems that occur when parents aren't doing it in the right way.
You've made some very good points.
Your a great mom and freind with your son and your family. You got this girl, your the best. God has really blessed you. Much love to you guys 💖.
I love watching your videos. You really do a wonderful job!
Both my kids played really well by themselves but they didn't want to be 'alone' so they would bring their toys with them, from room to room, wherever I went. My favourite time was sitting with a cup of tea in a sunny spot, watching them play. If I got up - they would follow! Their grandfather (my dad) also told them that "only unintelligent people get bored and you're as bright as a button". Honestly, it worked (after the age of 4 or 5, when they could work that one out, of course:)
You and Nolan are meant to be❤️
Such a great video. You were spot on with the things you were saying. You have a gift to speak the truth in love what a blessing. Thanks for sharing.
So true on the discipline. It is our job to prepare them for adulthood. We had a sizable income but never let us forget our responsibility. We taught them how to work hard around the house. All three had jobs from 15 years on. At 54, 50 and 47 they are phenomenal young adults. They were stiller students. I spent many nights on their beds going through school work. I loved being a Mother.
I truly admire how much you stand for the Lord.
I agree with everything you say about raising children. Parents are not their children's buddies. Consistency is very important. It reassures the child about the parent's judgment. I also find it silly to shower my children with praise for every little thing. But most of all I believe in gentleness and tenderness in parenting. When I was a child, my mother had a saying: "Tell the truth and the punishment will be half a year less." I am extremely grateful to my parents for this request, accompanied by an undertone of humour, to tell the truth without fear and I see that I can pass it on.
I wish you the serenity and joy for your daughter that you have for your son. Greetings from far across the Atlantic...
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When you shared on the subject of children I want to say a big THANK YOU. You spoke on this subject beautifully. I commend you for being so honest. I wish I knew much of this when I was raising 2 boys. Even today I have regrets of some things I had done. I had a lot of growing up to do myself. I was 19 when I had my firstborn n I was kid myself. I know so much more now n know I would of done things so differently but it’s to late I can’t go back I can only ask forgiveness. I enjoyed this video so much n it really touched my heart. I hope many Mama’s out there will take to heart what you said. I feel many parents today want to be more of a friend to their child than a parent n that will back fire someday. Again thank you Janine for honesty. Your very wise young Mama. God bless you. ♥️♥️😊👍👍👍👍👍
We all have regrets. Just remember no one is a perfect parent and we mothers tend to live with unnecessary mom guilt. God bless!
Great video! You have such great advice. I taught school for 33 years. You can tell how children have been parented. Many blessings.😊
I LOVE love love this!! I would like to say, you mentioned that family comes first, but biblically speaking it goes Christ, the husband, the wife, and then the children. Not to neglect your marriage or children by any means! But keeping Him first enables us to tend to everything else properly.
I love this channel so much!!
Yes I completely agree with you! I don't always get all my bases covered... 😀 when voicing a thought. Have a great day!
really enjoyed this video i wish i had a mama friend like you! you inspire me to be a better mom to my child thank you 💖💖💖
Thank you. We can be friends online 😀
We were blessed with 3 girls in 3 years. We lived in a small apartment for the first 12 years so there was less to clean. We had a routine from morning till bedtime. Some days we went to the library hour and checked books and shared McDonald's food. We had park play each day near our home. We had friends over or went to their house. We went to church meetings. When home we cleaned together, did laundry together. We had a rest time so Mom could lay down. We didn't have TV just educational videos or family movies. They loved to play dolls and dress up and do art. It was fun.
You are sooooooo right on the child rearing!! Bless you and your family.
Love this video and your thoughts re parenting. I believe a parent needs to be careful of the 'words' they use because they are never forgotten. Following through with consequences is something I have always tried to do.
100% agree not everyone wins a trophy
Great video. I appreciate your comments on discipline. Having raised our children we found laying out the expectations for our children, having consequences for willful disobedience, lots of love and laughter, but mostly seeking God's help in all things. Finally humbling asking God to fill the gaps when we messed up and forgiveness. Side note; something I learned when siblings weren't getting along. I would have them hold hands and repeat after me something like this:. I forgive you for....please forgive me for.... I love you and care about you.... It usually ended with laughter and life went on.🙂
My Grandma always taught us let your yes mean yes and your no mean no… it’s served me well all my life, from my own behavior to raising my children.
Gosh I agree with all of these things so much. Great video!! Love your heart ❤️
I am not mennonite but i agree with your parenting philosophy 100%. Its how i raised my son (or tried to). Children need and want boundaries so they understand their world a little better. They purposely test the boundaries as they grow to learn. We can be their "friend" when they drop off the grandchildren. 😄
Good words spoken on parenting!!! Wish I would have had that advice MANY years ago!!!
As always, you are so beautifully articulate…. Thankyou!
I drove thru the Hillsville Flea market today, pre pandemic it was the largest in the United States 🇺🇸. Anyway, guess what I saw . Two large groups of people. They really stood out to me. Mennonite ladies and children, also Apostolic- pentecostal ladies and girls. Big groups! I just smiled and thought of you ☺ 💕. EVEN GOD corrects His Children. Good parents teach guide and sometimes correct. Sounds like you are doing a fine job. 🙂
😄 never know who you'll meet! 🙂
I loved your message about teaching respect and teaching that no means no and yes means yes. We are the parents and our children are more secure if they know they don't have to make grown up decisions, it's our job to give them rules and teach them how to make good decisions. My husband and I have 3 grown children and though there were struggles, they have all grown into adults that are very responsible,, caring human beings and we are so proud that with the help of God, we managed to raise them well....greatest achievement of our lives!
That's wonderful! I pray that we will be able to say the same when ours are grown
I agree that relationship is key. Another is chores. Small children can have small jobs. Having responsibility within the home helps them build confidence and establishes routine. / Never forget reading in one James Herriot book about how his three year old daughter got out of the car to open a farm gate when they went to visit a farm! Our children are capable of more than we realize.
So true!
Thank you for speaking about "choosing one's gender." You are spot on!! The world is becoming more & more disjointed because of this feel good & "you do you" movement.
God loves everyone. Try to remember that.
@@annal7406 yes He does. I haven't forgotten that.
I agree with all that you said about kids!!! Amen thank you sister!!!!
God brought you and Nolan together because he knew you were good for each other.
There only little for a little while. Family always should go first. You have a good family and I hope the best for you
The Lord has blessed you with great love and wisdom, I truly admire you and you beliefs 🙏🙏💕💕
There is validity in child #1, #2, etc. in being different…. #2 has #1 and so it is different…. Xander has been an only child all this time, baby girl will never be an only child experience 😃
Please take time to spend with the husband and both kids. If it just sitting in the swing talking to each other is needed for communication. My grandpa made us pick up sticks or something dumb when we said we were bored. We learned not to say we were bored. I need to apply this to kids. I'm still looking for how to take time for myself, but I use the time in the garden as my meditation time... I listen to the nature. Saying no isn't wrong. Sometimes kids need to learn to accept life has good and bad. Love the good.
If you punish them, but I follow up that I love them but the behavior isn't acceptable. They hate my disappointment and they want my praise for all the good. I feel they try for praise with me then correction. I am hoping the encouragement will allow them to be a good person. My daughter is tiny and she is learning to hold the doors for others. She loves the thank you. I started explaining that would you like someone to shut the door on you or hold the door. Now my son he is still in the learning stage. I was raised you hold the door for someone.
I love Janine that you cut to the chase. You are a no frills and fluff vlogger.
That doesn't mean you don't have fun.😊
The study of God is wonderful. Theological books are vital and believers hunger after knowing more about Jesus and the Bible.
Let your Yes be Yes and let your No be No.
All your great words on discipline are from the Bible.
God's way is best, love, discipline , direction based on His Word.
Living by example . ' Do as I say not as I do ' is important .
Compliments and encouragements are foundational.
You and Nolan are doing a great job.
Not only are Xander's limits being formed but he is learning to be a good man and parent as well as you are
Growing a child and adult .
The best way to love your child is for parents to love each other.
Bless you all .
Thank you. I keep praying for wisdom because the more time goes on the more I realize how little I know about parenting and life in general lol. Psrenting is hard work and full of mistakes 😪 so thankful for God's grace!
This was really good. Loved and agree with it.
Good video lady ! I personally believe so many problems could be avoided if parents stopped trying to be their kids friend/ buddy. When they become adults then it's ok but, when they are growing up they have different needs. They need your strength and guidance. Also so many parents try to live their dreams through their kids. Or have their needs met through them. Your kids are not you. A extension yes. And yes discipline is a must. :)
So true
Thank you for sharing on the topic of child discipline. Enjoy your mom videos.
One of my favorite verses for child training (and other responsibilities, for that matter) is James 1:5 "if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all liberally.......
I think we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make our children happy all the time, they have to learn to use their imagination
I agree with your points and suggestions with children
Very thought provoking video!
Very well said. :)
I agree with you on discipline of children.
Love what you said about spending one on one time with Xander. Susannah Wesley, mother of John and Charles Wesley had 15? children and managed to spend one hour a day with each child. She raised a great family who served the Lord. Good on you!
What? Every day with each child? That's a lot! She's sounds amazing
Im not trying to be a know it all!😔 but I have Susanna Wesley's journal book and it has a list in the back of it of all her childrens births and deaths and she had 19 births but only raised 10 children. The others passed away at birth and some as toddlers 🥺 💔 but she also had nannies that helped her... her husband wasnt the nicest person actually😒 She had it pretty rough really, but still managed, as you mentioned, to be a wonderful godly momma and raised godly men!!
I am named after her 🙂💜 I have a lot to live up to!
@@kindnessmatters4068 Great info! I wasn't really sure of all the facts. You helped "flesh out" her story.
Continue to be Christ centered!! Thank u
I really enjoyed this video, it was really interesting. I agree with you on a lot of thing and I'm glad you answered my questions I asked on telegram because in the beginning of my pregnancy I was really struggling with all responsibilities (wife, homekeeper, believer), it was hard for me to adjust and I didn't found any answer, now it's okay I've fully adjusted and my husband too as I'm in my ninth month it's easier for him to understand and I'm also blessed to have such a good husband. And so I'm so glad you answered my question and your answer was really interesting and it helps me even now because even if I adjusted I'm still struggling sometime 😅. And you're right taking good care of our home, husband and family is a act of worship for itself 😊 and it feels good. Thank you so much. I'm really happy to have found your channel even if we are from different religious backgrounds I find so much in common. I hope you all are healthy and happy with the little new one, may God bless all of you
I'm so happy you've adjusted and congratulations on your pregnancy! I hope everything goes smoothly for you! God bless you!
@@theMennoniteMom thank you so much. Yes I hope the same goes to you with the new arrival. Amen.
I never wanted to make work a punishment or a fill in because I wanted it to be fun. My girls are your age now and love to work .
Great answers!
Good video!
In todays world or generation, parents THINKS their suppose to be best friends with their children while their young.
We become best friends with our children when they are adults. We have to be a PARENT while their young. No Manuel Comes with our children, but if we read the Bible, God teaches us how we are to discipline our babies ❤️
You are a very wise young mom.
Love it never gets boring you are so real
Thank you!
I agree with everything you said. ❤️
I totally agree with you!
Totally agree with you.
You are so blessed, thank you for sharing
I like yur old fashioned values raising kiddos 👶🏼
Very good!! Bless you.
That is actually exactly how I feel about the books .
THANK FOR YOUR SWEET COUNSEL OF DISCIPLINE... VERY MUCH AGREED... I'M SOOO MUCH BETTER AS A GRANDMA... I CAN ❤ ON THEM AND THEY GO HOME... HEHE... I ENJOY YOUR VLOGS... XANDER AND YOUR BABY GIRL COMING ARE SOOOO BLESSED TO BE IN YOUR FAMILY... THANK YOU AG AS IN SWEETS...
Great Advice!
Love this and love you sister in Christ!
Onderful video! God bless you
Good points!
How did you get so wise at your young age. I raised my kids the way you are talking about. They are both very enjoyable adults. (Ages 36 and 46) I really enjoyed these Q & A's. Thank you for spending your time to share with us.
Thank you. I have more to learn than what I know, but I'm thankful for a good upbringing and a great church family! God bless!
Happy Friday sweet girl.Hope you all have a great weekend. Did Xander keep Bubbles as the puppies name? So cute! Hope baby Lexi is settling in well 💓. Hugs from Missouri 🤗 ❤️
Yes Bubbles it is (: we are doing good! Thank you!
Very very well done.
Very good video. Something that I heard and believe to be true (which is very sad!) that people that are gay have been sexually abused as children and it messes them up. That is an area that concerns me, how do I protect my children? I can’t be with them every minute. What are the best tools I can equip my children with to keep that from ever happening? I know at the end of the day all I can do is my best, pray & trust that God will take care of them
Totally agree.
I believe in biblical correction!
Very good video! ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Discipline talk...💯🙌
Take care.
We’ll said Jeannine! I am disgusted when I hear children address adults by their first names… how disrespectful!
Howie
When my daughter was young I was a single parent. I had a few simple rules - and clear directions and consequences. Two rules I had were no swearing and no using the words stupid or shut up. As an adult one of her friends asked my daughter, "what would your mom have done if you had used these words?" and my daughter's response "I don't know, but I never wanted to find out" - LOL.
😅 that's funny! She sounds like a good kid!
Hello from the outer hebrides. We do not to my knowledge have a mennonite community but a very Christian belief system. I'm very interested in your way of life
I'm glad you're here! Yes our communities are scattered here and there...
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