As a male INFJ, I have learned to allow myself to have my own process i.e., if I write better after everyone else goes to bed, then that's when I do it. I no longer feel any need to conform to society's/others' expectations as to when/where I get things done. I am results-oriented, not rigid in how it happens.
I appreciate what you expressed. In my case, I find my best painting time is when other family members want to eat their dinner. So this is hard, but we have an agreement that unless a particular dinner is pre-agreed upon, everyone needs to be able to fend for themselves. I had to get past the guilt of what has historically been accepted/expected, and lay claim to the evening as my high priority fertile creative time.
Completing the smallest imaginable task can become nightmare fuel for an INFJ stuck in an NI TI loop. What helps me to get "unstuck" is doing what you suggest in the video; more specifically, breaking the goal down to the smallest point achievable. I spend a couple of days in "all I need to do is..." mode; after waking up I'll say "all I need to do is open eyes", then "all I need to do is put my feet on the floor" ect...
Procrastination is about emotional management, not time management. I think estj-a will tell us that we are paying too much attention to our emotions and letting it get in the way. But that's not true and it's an unkind things to say. But, if it is a major problem for us that means we need to resolve some kind of emotional issue. And then once we resolve that conflict, we are better able to coexist with emotional conflicts.
"Logic is a little tweeting bird chirping in a meadow. Logic is a wreath of pretty flowers which smell *bad*." - Spock (Star Trek TOS) Sensors are in the majority & set the methodology we are all told to follow. Because it's 'logical' and 'makes sense' - which it does - but mainly for Sensors. While Ni sees around the corners and cuts things down to the least/shortest/fastest path.
Looking for nudges and clues makes sense to me. I dont start out with a big plan but I look for things that come my way. The right thing usually does come. Then I commit to that thing in my own way.
Setting up your environment for your inner vision and not putting a time frame on any one desire can help. Make room for goals to be flexible. If I want to read more books I'll rearrange all my books to be near my bed. I make it realistic. What is it that I desire from reading? I like to read to broaden my vision, heighten my creative senses, have clarity, work on my personal development, or connect with my very own human nature. How can I support those things? I don't pigeon hole myself to just books. I add podcast, talks, documentaries, movies and I'll build all my apps around this vision to ensure I get a bite of something healthy for my soul from all the channels I need so my spirit can feel fulfilled. I'll find speakers that really spark a light inside my soul and I'll find their books and build a to purchase list. I vary the subjects and I allow my intuition to choose the channel. Allowing multiple channels to assist me builds up my future library. Our intuition is definitely the best asset we have to help us. I don't read to get to the end but to gain and that is what helps me not be rigid and unrealistic. I don't have to read the whole book I can get a piece of knowledge, insight here and there to fill my cup and that's good for my soul.
What sort of good books have you been reading? You read any non fiction? Or some of you favorites. Always looking for more good books to read but feel limited when I run out of ideas for new books, but that doesn't happen too often cause I like a variety and don't really limit myself if I feel there is some sort of value in it
For " one off" things are " get it done now" else it will go on the non-emergency pile. Repetitive things- gym. Eating. Time allotments. Monthly Payments- Reminder app.
This is so true. I'm better at any creative urge that I feel for drawing , writing , getting air and when I need to lose weight, I become really aware of what I'm putting in my body. I lose maybe 5 pds quick.
I agree, think-feeling (a term I use in my inner deepening book) of what is possible, experimenting and gentle challenges work best for our kind. I find there is a benefit-delay of about 5 days before it shows up as a progressive benefit feeling. If one wants to feel better every day and exercises every other day, expect it will take about 3 weeks to fill the gaps of no exercise days., I hope this helps. Scott
Thankyou that made so much sense at last ,I have never been even vaguely successful at setting goals as reccomended by everybody else and have been awully ashamed of this I have yried so hard and whenever I have tried this by writing or even articulating to myself my mind goes blank I cant think of anything .at last I have an i kling of what that is about and am exploribg it further thankyou so much. I am 70 gears old and am told I lve a very interesting life by other I always wonder what it is they see. Thankyou anyway for your courage and strength in making this clearer for me.
This was really great. I would have attended the workshop. Lord knows I need a workshop like that. Will you be offering another....awe I'm typing this whilst I watch and listen and just heard you mention your website. I will check it out. If your contact is still on your site I will reach out. The workshop I think was an awesome idea. Something real time live interactive. Dang. I stay mentally exhausted. All the time. So when I do, I do so going all in and I've found it to be great and I've found it to end up being bad as to say putting myself or pushing myself to the extreme and then overwhelmed and definitely coming out of it utterly exhausted. I liked the idea I of the visualization you spoke of. That is brilliant. When it comes to goals for myself, and like all things in life, I envision myself and as an example if I saw the goal which told me exactly what I was or often times give myself no choice but to achieve which as I've gotten older I've learned the hard way but I would envision myself standing somewhere at a moment and time in the future after haven reached and achieved my goal. Probably sounds weird. I rarely or to be honest I don't think I have ever wrote that or shared that before. I would be so interested to hear your thoughts on something as such that when I wrote it and thus said it silently in my mind not until then did I ever think or feel it to be odd possibly. It's literally a rabbit hole and I'm exhausted lately so I dare not start. If you read this please let me know if you still do workshops. I think the real time live feedback is awesome and ideal that would be impacting and very effective for myself. I've been on my journey of course all my life but not until my awakening that totally changed me so much that I often would look into the mirror and I would recognize myself by knowing what looked like but far deeper beyond my external and ask myself who are you. I don't know you. I shall make myself end ;) Great video and very thought provoking. I have several questions that would be so cool to ask and hear your thoughts. I hope you are doing well and these days you aren't exhausted like I am. Thanks for sharing such great content Jenny. My best and my respect. Kashton
I Soooo Appreciate Your Wisdom, I finally feel like I have Permission to be Me! Instead of feeling like I'm supposed to be Contorting myself into something I'm Not, so I can belong with all the other Fkd up Zombies 🧟🧟♀️🧟♂️
INTP here - reality has to be addressed at all times or 2+2=5....... Logic is NOT the problem. What happens when your creative brush doesn't have any more paint? "Logically you would dip that brush back in the paint bucket or you will stop for the moment. If your logic is flawed from the start, then you have no foundation. Take it from an architect....."INTP here"
As a male INFJ, I have learned to allow myself to have my own process i.e., if I write better after everyone else goes to bed, then that's when I do it. I no longer feel any need to conform to society's/others' expectations as to when/where I get things done. I am results-oriented, not rigid in how it happens.
In a nutshell! Hell yes to all you wrote
I appreciate what you expressed. In my case, I find my best painting time is when other family members want to eat their dinner. So this is hard, but we have an agreement that unless a particular dinner is pre-agreed upon, everyone needs to be able to fend for themselves. I had to get past the guilt of what has historically been accepted/expected, and lay claim to the evening as my high priority fertile creative time.
This is brilliant. It's great when someone verbalizes what you didn't realize you knew.
Completing the smallest imaginable task can become nightmare fuel for an INFJ stuck in an NI TI loop. What helps me to get "unstuck" is doing what you suggest in the video; more specifically, breaking the goal down to the smallest point achievable. I spend a couple of days in "all I need to do is..." mode; after waking up I'll say "all I need to do is open eyes", then "all I need to do is put my feet on the floor" ect...
Procrastination is about emotional management, not time management. I think estj-a will tell us that we are paying too much attention to our emotions and letting it get in the way. But that's not true and it's an unkind things to say. But, if it is a major problem for us that means we need to resolve some kind of emotional issue. And then once we resolve that conflict, we are better able to coexist with emotional conflicts.
"Logic is a little tweeting bird chirping in a meadow. Logic is a wreath of pretty flowers which smell *bad*." - Spock (Star Trek TOS)
Sensors are in the majority & set the methodology we are all told to follow. Because it's 'logical' and 'makes sense' - which it does - but mainly for Sensors. While Ni sees around the corners and cuts things down to the least/shortest/fastest path.
Looking for nudges and clues makes sense to me. I dont start out with a big plan but I look for things that come my way. The right thing usually does come. Then I commit to that thing in my own way.
Goals! Are you kidding? We don’t set goals, we build legends!
Yes, Jenny. Intuition is everything to me, everything has a feel, I live by, if it feels right ,it is right...
Setting up your environment for your inner vision and not putting a time frame on any one desire can help. Make room for goals to be flexible. If I want to read more books I'll rearrange all my books to be near my bed. I make it realistic. What is it that I desire from reading? I like to read to broaden my vision, heighten my creative senses, have clarity, work on my personal development, or connect with my very own human nature. How can I support those things? I don't pigeon hole myself to just books. I add podcast, talks, documentaries, movies and I'll build all my apps around this vision to ensure I get a bite of something healthy for my soul from all the channels I need so my spirit can feel fulfilled. I'll find speakers that really spark a light inside my soul and I'll find their books and build a to purchase list. I vary the subjects and I allow my intuition to choose the channel. Allowing multiple channels to assist me builds up my future library. Our intuition is definitely the best asset we have to help us. I don't read to get to the end but to gain and that is what helps me not be rigid and unrealistic. I don't have to read the whole book I can get a piece of knowledge, insight here and there to fill my cup and that's good for my soul.
What sort of good books have you been reading? You read any non fiction? Or some of you favorites. Always looking for more good books to read but feel limited when I run out of ideas for new books, but that doesn't happen too often cause I like a variety and don't really limit myself if I feel there is some sort of value in it
OMG, I thought that I was the only one who thought like this!!!!! Wow, thank you.
For " one off" things are " get it done now" else it will go on the non-emergency pile.
Repetitive things- gym. Eating. Time allotments.
Monthly Payments- Reminder app.
This is so true. I'm better at any creative urge that I feel for drawing , writing , getting air and when I need to lose weight, I become really aware of what I'm putting in my body. I lose maybe 5 pds quick.
Hey. Thanks for putting these videos up. I can tell that you're a very wise and empathetic person. Your words are helping me right now.
Everything is very gradual and undefined for me. I just let everything glide and flow.
When I force things, they never turn out right and I burn out!
I agree, think-feeling (a term I use in my inner deepening book) of what is possible, experimenting and gentle challenges work best for our kind. I find there is a benefit-delay of about 5 days before it shows up as a progressive benefit feeling. If one wants to feel better every day and exercises every other day, expect it will take about 3 weeks to fill the gaps of no exercise days., I hope this helps. Scott
Thankyou that made so much sense at last ,I have never been even vaguely successful at setting goals as reccomended by everybody else and have been awully ashamed of this I have yried so hard and whenever I have tried this by writing or even articulating to myself my mind goes blank I cant think of anything .at last I have an i kling of what that is about and am exploribg it further thankyou so much. I am 70 gears old and am told I lve a very interesting life by other I always wonder what it is they see. Thankyou anyway for your courage and strength in making this clearer for me.
This was really great. I would have attended the workshop. Lord knows I need a workshop like that. Will you be offering another....awe I'm typing this whilst I watch and listen and just heard you mention your website. I will check it out. If your contact is still on your site I will reach out. The workshop I think was an awesome idea. Something real time live interactive. Dang. I stay mentally exhausted. All the time. So when I do, I do so going all in and I've found it to be great and I've found it to end up being bad as to say putting myself or pushing myself to the extreme and then overwhelmed and definitely coming out of it utterly exhausted. I liked the idea I of the visualization you spoke of. That is brilliant. When it comes to goals for myself, and like all things in life, I envision myself and as an example if I saw the goal which told me exactly what I was or often times give myself no choice but to achieve which as I've gotten older I've learned the hard way but I would envision myself standing somewhere at a moment and time in the future after haven reached and achieved my goal. Probably sounds weird. I rarely or to be honest I don't think I have ever wrote that or shared that before. I would be so interested to hear your thoughts on something as such that when I wrote it and thus said it silently in my mind not until then did I ever think or feel it to be odd possibly. It's literally a rabbit hole and I'm exhausted lately so I dare not start. If you read this please let me know if you still do workshops. I think the real time live feedback is awesome and ideal that would be impacting and very effective for myself. I've been on my journey of course all my life but not until my awakening that totally changed me so much that I often would look into the mirror and I would recognize myself by knowing what looked like but far deeper beyond my external and ask myself who are you. I don't know you. I shall make myself end ;) Great video and very thought provoking. I have several questions that would be so cool to ask and hear your thoughts. I hope you are doing well and these days you aren't exhausted like I am. Thanks for sharing such great content Jenny. My best and my respect. Kashton
Ni Ti is pure logic. Goals don’t work if a person doesn’t have the discipline to follow through.
thanks, I needed this so much, alignment.!
woooooooow. the advice i've needed a decade ago.
Ty. Your advice is great
Great video thanks 😊
I Soooo Appreciate Your Wisdom, I finally feel like I have Permission to be Me! Instead of feeling like I'm supposed to be Contorting myself into something I'm Not, so I can belong with all the other Fkd up Zombies 🧟🧟♀️🧟♂️
Sing it!
You mean I'm not the only one... Yaaaaayyyy whew!!! Was beginning to think I'm weird!
INFJ joke...
It's easy to agree since you're not being concrete, but the premise that intuition and logic are at odds is incorrect. Intuition can be logical.
INTJ's, and ENTJ's are goal oriented, and very rational.
I'm an ENTP and my goal setting sucks - do explain...
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INTP here - reality has to be addressed at all times or 2+2=5....... Logic is NOT the problem. What happens when your creative brush doesn't have any more paint? "Logically you would dip that brush back in the paint bucket or you will stop for the moment. If your logic is flawed from the start, then you have no foundation. Take it from an architect....."INTP here"
Are you INFP?
U r very beautiful like many/most INFJs.
why is riding elephants bad?
Do you ever talk about anything other than INFJ?
Rollerblading?!?! Unsubscribe for sure.
STOP SAYING "LIKE"!!!!