Wow, the first few minutes of this video were so validating -- all of those things are the things that overstimulate me! Strange to hear someone else articulate it so accurately. We appreciate you 🙏
Wow when you described the part about escape and being overwhelmed I started crying. Overthinking and obsessive fantasy too... As a kid I was so sensitive and I feel like I still am. For a large portion of my life I was escaping into books or shows that I'm already familiar with. I would cry during school plays or in every sad part of a movie, making me hate them as a kid. I became floaty, both incredibly spiritual in my interests but also disconnected frpm reality and numb to certain physical sensations, food, music that would repeat outside of control. Been grounding a lot more lately and I'm proud of where I am now. Still got a ways to go
Yep. I’ve been finding letting go of peoples ideas of what I should be very helpful lately even though it’s painful and I’ve been avoiding that for most my life because of fear of rejection due to neglect that happened but wasn’t really anyones fault it’s just a matter of a parent having to face their own issues and being triggered from something unhealed within them while trying to also take care of me as a child. Mistakes happen and it’s a matter of the family your born into and the things that have happened to everyone along the way. Im also truly embracing who I am as well. I’ve learned the only way out is through and the combination of letting go and embracing myself is combating the overwhelm I’ve always felt to be much more manageable and that all came to a head with the worst anxiety attack I’ve ver had in my life. The resulting growth and authenticity is actually preferred by the people I love more than I knew or thought.
Hi Lauren, this is amazing! Never before did I see someone talks so to the point about what happens to me energetically when I am overwhelmed. The thing about going to the upper chackras and about over - forcasting is so true for me. And in the past I used to feel "besides my body" when overwhelmed, and I couldn't control it, but now I can. Thank you for this video ❤️
Hi Lauren, an empath here who is an INTJ (shocking I guess, coz the internet often describes us as robots). I encountered your videos today, and I was blown away by how much I can relate to your words. You have given me lots to think about, thank you for sharing with us.
Loved this video Lauren because I can relate completely. Spent most of my life getting overstimulated and then suffering the consequences. As a kid it always led to me being "grumpy" or withdrawn. Never had the social stamina of most of my fellow classmates. I remember one year joining the soccer team and after a week of staying after school for the two hours of drills and practice I was finished. It wasn't so much the soccer or the running but that I had already used up all my energy during the school day with regular academic classes and the physical classes like Phys ed and band. Not to mention lunch period. All the noise and commotion and information took its toll on me and so adding on the other two hours of soccer was a bridge too far for me. I didn't understand this at the time though and felt like a "failure" for not being able to do something so many others seemed energized by. I later on joined the marching band but their practice was not immediately after school so I had a couple of hours to recharge and process before I had to engage with social activity again. I thrived in this activity. Wish I had known about neurodivergence and my INFJ nature way back then!
I learn something every time I watch one of your videos. I did some deep breathing while I was watching this one because I recognized that I was overstimulated
I try to prepare myself by thinking through the scenario I wouldn’t call it arguing but inevitably when I get to living it out it becomes an argument and I’m left wondering how did that result in this
Thank you Lauren, yes, all of the above "coping" strategies are more natural than breathing, so it's difficult to remember to ground before reaching the point of doing the disappearing act (mentally AND physically) or to even recognize when the edge of the world is near; and sometimes even though you see it coming there just isn't any way out of the dilemma. Just got crushed by this 4 days ago, still haven't returned to the body, and all because I can't decide on whether a potential situation is something I want, (how the Hell would I know, I'm an INFJ 🙄) or what the other expects. Yes, withdrawal into fantasy makes so much more sense.
This sounds very recognizibel to me! Late in life I've had some trauma events (after a long and hectic work life..) Thanks so much Lauren - your explanations are very helpful !! ❤
I lived the first 20 years of life in my head, then another 15 in just my body... Now It's been ten years of integration and I've never felt more empowered, or more confident.
Is daylight too bright? sunglasses. Is it too loud in public? earbuds or earplugs. Too many ideas? write it down. Use whatever tools you have available to minimize the impact of your hyperactive senses. Take note of hypoactive (dulled) senses, such as thirst/hunger. You can have great adventures if you gear up with the right tools.
Sounds like Ayurveda 😊❤ Thank you for the vocabulary I needed to comprehend this 😌 Occasionally my overwhelm goes into a functional blackout Dissociative amnesia 🎉 Not sure how to interface with that because it happens instantaneously 😢
I am stuck in this loop now I feel overwhlemed because of job conditions as well as waiting for delayed promotion. I think I need to come myself down. What should I do beside breathing, having good sleep and eating fruit and vegetables?
Is there a difference between highly sensitive people and empaths? I have heard about what you talked about in connection to HSPs and was just wondering, are all Empaths HSPs? and and are all HSPs Empaths or is one a quality one can have rather than a characteristic?!
I really enjoy many of your videos but I’m curious why you filter the cause/meaning of all these human functions through chakras, instead of using science-backed physical causes. They are all explained physically already if you learn about how the body works, and no need for metaphysical. I used to do this when I was younger as well, but I found doing the more difficult work of using science based explanations much more helpful and palatable for a larger audience, and less fantasy based which we as highly sensitive individuals are more susceptible to retreating to.
First, "empath" isn't a thing. Second, what you're describing isn't even the correct misuse of the term. Third, some of these that you're describing apply to almost anyone. I don't mean to be too negative, but its not helpful to make stuff up.
Isn't a "thing..." WHAT-? Explain yourself. I love when people say things like, I don't mean to be negative while being negative... What's up buddy, everything okay?😢
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Too much stimulation-> mental shutdown
Also you describe dissociation- the trauma coping mechanism we used as children.
Wow, the first few minutes of this video were so validating -- all of those things are the things that overstimulate me! Strange to hear someone else articulate it so accurately. We appreciate you 🙏
When I'm in overwhelm or stuck in the ni-ti loop, I ask myself "how does my body feel?" That question immediately takes me out of my head
Wow when you described the part about escape and being overwhelmed I started crying.
Overthinking and obsessive fantasy too...
As a kid I was so sensitive and I feel like I still am. For a large portion of my life I was escaping into books or shows that I'm already familiar with. I would cry during school plays or in every sad part of a movie, making me hate them as a kid. I became floaty, both incredibly spiritual in my interests but also disconnected frpm reality and numb to certain physical sensations, food, music that would repeat outside of control.
Been grounding a lot more lately and I'm proud of where I am now. Still got a ways to go
Yep. I’ve been finding letting go of peoples ideas of what I should be very helpful lately even though it’s painful and I’ve been avoiding that for most my life because of fear of rejection due to neglect that happened but wasn’t really anyones fault it’s just a matter of a parent having to face their own issues and being triggered from something unhealed within them while trying to also take care of me as a child. Mistakes happen and it’s a matter of the family your born into and the things that have happened to everyone along the way. Im also truly embracing who I am as well. I’ve learned the only way out is through and the combination of letting go and embracing myself is combating the overwhelm I’ve always felt to be much more manageable and that all came to a head with the worst anxiety attack I’ve ver had in my life. The resulting growth and authenticity is actually preferred by the people I love more than I knew or thought.
Hi Lauren, this is amazing! Never before did I see someone talks so to the point about what happens to me energetically when I am overwhelmed. The thing about going to the upper chackras and about over - forcasting is so true for me. And in the past I used to feel "besides my body" when overwhelmed, and I couldn't control it, but now I can. Thank you for this video ❤️
Hi Lauren, an empath here who is an INTJ (shocking I guess, coz the internet often describes us as robots). I encountered your videos today, and I was blown away by how much I can relate to your words. You have given me lots to think about, thank you for sharing with us.
I have never heard the advice to eat root vegetables to ground yourself. That is so obvious and genius! Thank you!
Loved this video Lauren because I can relate completely. Spent most of my life getting overstimulated and then suffering the consequences. As a kid it always led to me being "grumpy" or withdrawn. Never had the social stamina of most of my fellow classmates. I remember one year joining the soccer team and after a week of staying after school for the two hours of drills and practice I was finished. It wasn't so much the soccer or the running but that I had already used up all my energy during the school day with regular academic classes and the physical classes like Phys ed and band. Not to mention lunch period. All the noise and commotion and information took its toll on me and so adding on the other two hours of soccer was a bridge too far for me. I didn't understand this at the time though and felt like a "failure" for not being able to do something so many others seemed energized by. I later on joined the marching band but their practice was not immediately after school so I had a couple of hours to recharge and process before I had to engage with social activity again. I thrived in this activity. Wish I had known about neurodivergence and my INFJ nature way back then!
I learn something every time I watch one of your videos. I did some deep breathing while I was watching this one because I recognized that I was overstimulated
Does anyone argue with people in advance
Absolutely - how many hours have I wasted arguing with people in my head.
@@jansimpson4364YES!, but they never "get it" in my head either, so I end up doorslamming them ;)
I even talk to Oprah about my problems in my head. (Not trolling!)
I try to prepare myself by thinking through the scenario I wouldn’t call it arguing but inevitably when I get to living it out it becomes an argument and I’m left wondering how did that result in this
Like Nathan Fielder's
The Rehersal🤣
Thank you Lauren, yes, all of the above "coping" strategies are more natural than breathing, so it's difficult to remember to ground before reaching the point of doing the disappearing act (mentally AND physically) or to even recognize when the edge of the world is near; and sometimes even though you see it coming there just isn't any way out of the dilemma. Just got crushed by this 4 days ago, still haven't returned to the body, and all because I can't decide on whether a potential situation is something I want, (how the Hell would I know, I'm an INFJ 🙄) or what the other expects. Yes, withdrawal into fantasy makes so much more sense.
Thank you. This resonates with me. Very recognizable.
This sounds very recognizibel to me! Late in life I've had some trauma events (after a long and hectic work life..) Thanks so much Lauren - your explanations are very helpful !! ❤
I lived the first 20 years of life in my head, then another 15 in just my body... Now It's been ten years of integration and I've never felt more empowered, or more confident.
Is daylight too bright? sunglasses.
Is it too loud in public? earbuds or earplugs.
Too many ideas? write it down.
Use whatever tools you have available to minimize the impact of your hyperactive senses. Take note of hypoactive (dulled) senses, such as thirst/hunger. You can have great adventures if you gear up with the right tools.
If you also have fibro with this it is like pushing upwards but also really consticted breath, which amps the ocd too.
I really like your videos!
Sounds like Ayurveda 😊❤
Thank you for the vocabulary I needed to comprehend this 😌
Occasionally my overwhelm goes into a functional blackout
Dissociative amnesia 🎉
Not sure how to interface with that because it happens instantaneously 😢
I am stuck in this loop now I feel overwhlemed because of job conditions as well as waiting for delayed promotion. I think I need to come myself down. What should I do beside breathing, having good sleep and eating fruit and vegetables?
Is there a difference between highly sensitive people and empaths? I have heard about what you talked about in connection to HSPs and was just wondering, are all Empaths HSPs? and and are all HSPs Empaths or is one a quality one can have rather than a characteristic?!
❤❤❤
I really enjoy many of your videos but I’m curious why you filter the cause/meaning of all these human functions through chakras, instead of using science-backed physical causes. They are all explained physically already if you learn about how the body works, and no need for metaphysical. I used to do this when I was younger as well, but I found doing the more difficult work of using science based explanations much more helpful and palatable for a larger audience, and less fantasy based which we as highly sensitive individuals are more susceptible to retreating to.
First, "empath" isn't a thing. Second, what you're describing isn't even the correct misuse of the term. Third, some of these that you're describing apply to almost anyone. I don't mean to be too negative, but its not helpful to make stuff up.
Isn't a "thing..."
WHAT-?
Explain yourself.
I love when people say things like, I don't mean to be negative while being negative...
What's up buddy, everything okay?😢
It actually sounds like she’s describing HSP.