Defying her family in Pakistan - BBC News
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- Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2016
- Naema may not seem rebellious in what she wants. But in a conservative Pakistani family, her desire for independence has seen her come under attack and her car vandalised. As part of the BBC's 100 Women season, we meet a woman engaged in small acts of defiance.
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The awkward moment when you speak English perfectly but subtitles are still used...
and the subs guy still gets it wrong
i think it's more closed captioning. and for someone like me who isn't very good with focus and attention, it helps a lot!
It's helpful for deaf people.
Muser4Life Because she speaks fast and deaf people might not know what she is saying
Honestly I don't know why subtitles are being used she speaks English better than most of the people in the bottom set of English in my school in England
it's good she's teaching her brother to cook. everyone should know how to cook. be it man or woman, you never know when you've gotta take care of yourself. it's a life skill. I don't understand how people think it's a task meant for a particular "gender".
affan ali exactly
right
affan ali well so true
Thank you
I am a guy and i am cooking since i was 8 years old.
“It took them one minute? Two minutes? This car took me seven years” I have never liked a video so fast. I love what she stands for and how she holds her head up. A true inspiration.
My mother took care me more than 25+ years and still without any expectation which is incomparable by feminazist.
Muhammad Mafaz what a feminazist?
@@muhammadmafaz8530 sorry what?
@@goblagomagloebagon3566 the movement which encourages women to become pornstars!
@@factsbruh2880 can a mother who sacrificed her life for betterment of her child and corporate woman can be compared?
I am glad to see more of these brilliant, progressive forward thinking women
Fgtugi go fuck yourself and your apartheid loving ass
Traders Friend iii
Lol
Molly Marten he is a jihadi. Dont go with hin
*same here*
This is inaccurate portrayal of Pakistani society as a whole!
ILhaam Oz it shows the real sexist nature and it's the most accurate potrayal ever.
ILhaam Oz Whats so i accurate portrayal about it??
Aksangel _ and Jabeen Green I have lived in Pakistan for quite some time. Women like this lady who are living in the cities and have the ability to go to school generally come from 'liberal' families. Pakistan might be sexist however the West preachers openness and offers so called rights to women; when women still get paid less than men for the same job and women are still penalized for staying home after having kids.
SMaasentertainment Let me stop you right there. The West is flawed in so many ways however "The Land of the Pure" is far from pure.
Your blame game is only hurting yourself SMaasentertainment . Do you blame truck drivers who read the Kalima just like you and I; then having sex with boys, on the West? During the earthquake of 2005; I witnessed dead bodies with hands chopped off so that thugs could steal the jewelry. Pakistan is what about 71 years old and you mean to tell me all your problems are because you were colonized when you were part of India? I would not use great to describe the state of Pakistan now! Pakistan has a serious energy crisis; Pakistan has a serious poverty crisis; more than half of the country is illiterate and fuel is an issue. Now now, calm down; we all have problems!
She's very inspiring. I'm happy that she is working towards her goals.
This is not islamic. Wrong interpretation of the quran will lead us to the ISIS, jihadist and other wrongdoing.
+Shredder Shredder It's the opposite. Those who steer away from Islam are more normal.. Islam has strict rules and results in stoning people to death for sins and killing people mercilessly who are from another religion.. It also says that any woman who is not modestly covered should be raped.
So if anyone actually follows it to every word. They'll surely be Al Qaeda and ISIS like.
Chosen for a reason 1. I'm actually not fully black and 2. My mixed background is really none of your concern and certainly nothing to do with this video. Have a nice day racist troll.
Shredder Shredder What exactly is she doing that is against Islam? She is becoming independent. Driving a car and having a job where she can earn a decent income. Where in the Qu'ran or Hadith does it say a woman can't work? Societies grow when both sexes are given independence. Who does it benefit if she doesn't work or have independence?
you havent read a quran in your life. The quran says no such thing. Women are treated equally based on Islam and the Quran but extremists take the words of the Quran and twist it. So do cultures that are mainly Muslim so then Islam looks bad. This isnt the fault of Islam though Islam says the complete opposite lol. People make can make everything out of anything. You sound like a broken record repeating what you have been taught by biased media outlets and probably your backwards racist family.
Girl you are an inspiration. Stay the way you are ❤
Homo Sapien shouldn't she come to the west that's better
You are a good person .. You are moee independent tahn other eomans in paskistan
I love your name
@Suhail Suleman mayby She will not have Kids. She found a job, learn to drive, it is not so easy for Pakistani women.
@@bogdananedavnya2528 Pakistani women deserve to be treated better by Pakistani men! Yes there are countries that are worse. Such as Saudi Arabia and Afghanistan. But it is still a big problem that needs addressed.
this is not an act of defiance ...but living life the way you want to...truly inspiring! !
I just have to say, all these Pakistani people in the comments section saying that these restrictions don't exist in Pakistan's culture. Yes it does, and you denying it only keeps it alive longer. Women are married by 25 almost always, if they did go to college only few continue to work, they go from their wedding day to their husband's parent's house, they are not even given their own home, men never move out of their parent's house whereas women are expected to move out and live with his family, sometimes women are forcefully expected to live with their husband's parents, sisters, brothers, the husband's sister in laws as well as nieces and nephews. She is expected to be a housewife and cater to her husband's family's needs. The man has a career whereas she is someone to benefit his family and has no real seperate life of her own. So yes, girls in Pakistan go to school, they drive, etc. But all that changes once they are married off. And she decided to have a better life than that
most women in the west are married by 25 too. And it is simply not true that most women never have their own homes. Yes, there is still much progress to be made, of course. But this girl is acting as though she's done amazing because she drives a car or wears red lipstick. Like she's broken so many difficult hurdles, whilst she sits with her family watching TV. My gran would rather I wasn't wearng lip stick or in a mini skirt too, and I'm raised in the West. All of my "white" friends' grans would have exactly the same mentality. *face palm*
You guys, all I was saying was that just because you don't experience gender inequality doesn't mean you should devalidate her stance and experiences. Women everywhere in the world face gender inequality, even in America where I live. For example, unequal pay. The point is, this video is a woman talking about her experience living in Pakistan. I know for a FACT, that gender inequality is LIVE AND WELL in Pakistan. Saying it is false representation of Pakistan is like saying I am from Africa and I have food so those African people starving are a bad representation. Uhm no, starvation exists even if YOU had lunch today. Gender inequality exists even if YOU drive.
What you said is somewhat prevalent in some areas of Pakistan. However, this video is portraying the entire Pakistani society as a sexist and mysogynist nation. That's the impression of Pakistan being propagated to non-Pakistani viewers. It's not about denying an existing doctrine, it's more about elucidating over the veracity that Pakistan isn't generally like this. I'm truly sorry if you described your family, but most Pakistani families aren't like that.
I am not a fan of Pakistan, I am a Christian, yet, why can we all not respect the culture of Pakistan. They can decide for themselfes how to live. Not everyone in the world has to do it the way that western society shows, western society teaches many wrong things. Every country has the right to decide on their own culture.
you are right. Even though women marry by 25 ish in Pakistan, many continue to join the workforce in their professions.
It's HER family who's sexist, not Pakistan. There are already girls working, driving and being independent with no big deal
Nayema Nayen her family might be working class though.
Lil Bilie i belong to the working class too lol
Nayema Nayen yes!!! Finally someone who knows.
Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii that ain't happenin'!
Prasit Kenny Yupanki Kachkhanki df what do u mean?
There's allot of anger on here, directed at her and the BBC for simply sharing her story. It's like she's in some way dissonored the Pakistan community by drawing unwanted attention to some of the problems within it, and now she's facing a backlash. Not just by family keying her car. But by people asking "what makes her so special" This isn't representative for everyone in Pakistan. That's obvious. But it does happen. Why is there a problem with people knowing about it. Why do people insist in shooting it down.
@@muhammad.zeeshanuddin1935 Piss off you tosser.
Why BBC does not show mothers of children who rose them under different challenges? Because they want to motivate women to become money machines then later they will complain again about their life.
@@muhammadmafaz8530 What's wrong with women becoming 'money machines'?
@@lighteningsnips he's sad they're not just baby machines
@@calldfwp2230 British?
“my baby has sexy rims”
LMAO LOVE HER ALREADY
Who actually needs the subtitles? She barely has an accent.
I can understand her accent easy.
Yeah I was wondering why the subtitles are so big as well!! She speaks better than many British interviewees!
Ezra Rubenstein Hehehe
It's a strong accent though...
Deaf people
Bless her! Such a ray of hope.
It funny how, all unattractive women say that...
Chosen for a reason wtf is that supposed to mean
Luke Holland I didn't think my comment was so nuanced, apparently, I forgot about your type.
my type? I was just asking what your comment was supposed to mean. That's all.
It's funny how all men with erectile dysfunction reply bitterly to women they don't know on the internet. It's ok sweetie, go to a Doctor.
This girl deserves everything and should be able to do what she wants
She can ?
the everyday things we take for granted girls have to fight for in some countries
like working
driving
staying out late
being single
Sure. Or just having the choice to be who you are or want to be. Work, stay home, etc. Choice. These are the real struggles.
I am also from Pakistan And Our Life as a girl is Hell
@@saira_6151 men have no choice to stay at home
All these people blasting negative comments about how their family isn't like hers- well, congratulations- while you sit behind your computer screens boasting about how liberal your families are, please know that YOU ARE the minority not them. Majority of Pakistani people live in rural areas with very limited access to the internet so please don't make it seem that your privileged life is a reflection of the entire country.
Ashique Anwar yeah u r right that majority of ppl r quiet backwards and in fact ignorant due to the cultural influence however there r many that r liberals and believe in gender equality and the title n the intro pic of this video is generalizing the entire country as sexist n bigot which is definitely unfair and out right wrong...just tell me what did u thought the moment u saw the video before clicking it...i bet u never thought that this video was about a woman driving n her extended being an ass about it...(which to be honest all our uncles n aunties just need a reason to weigh us down..lol)...the intro is screaming that Pakistan is against a woman becoming independent, against her modernizing n advancing, against her getting her equal rights, her edu n so on
hence the intro shows her putting red lipstick...I know these things don't sound like a big deal like what harm can pic of a woman putting on basic lipstick do..I am bing unreasonable n too skeptical... but this is sending a subliminal message just look at the elements n their representations u will understand just how big of a propaganda this is against Pakistan n Muslims
Ashique Anwar Amen, mate. It's so infuriating seeing these butthurt people lose their shit here.
Most people blasting negative comments while sitting behind our computer screens about our liberal families are not talking about the rural areas. We're responding to a video of a clearly affluent-background female living in the decidedly urban Lahore. She's clearly been educated by her family and, judging by her accent, in expensive institutes. Yet there is no acknowledgement of that vital detail while talking about extended (not immediate) family members' disapproval.
SAY IT FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK ❤️
'Liberal' I think u meant lenient
Ahh foreign media strikes again...making it look like only 'our' women have to go through hardships to get a decent life....pathetic. I'm glad the girl in the video got what she wanted..I just hope she would've had the brains to figure out that she was going to be representing all Pakistani women and not just herself when she agreed to do this. People on the internet have tunnel vision. No one bothers looking at the bigger picture.
Yusra Zaeem I think there's a difference between a girl coming from an educated family, meaning both parents having a degree, vs. families who don't have one. Usually in south Asian families, non educated parents are more close minded and follow strict cultural norms.
hmm. can you explain further? I am just a curious, couch potato who likes to know different cultures.
Un-Huy Tan lol, coming from a third world perspective, usually parents (the generation before us or just our parents) with proper education (having a Uni degree or even have their masters done) will never force their children to such cultural norms. I've lived in four different countries, south Asian, from the city and from a highly educated family.....I can safely say that usually people from small towns or villages from developing countries treat women on a whole new level (not in a positive way of course). They tend to put culture over religion which is wrong most of the time. Like for example this girl from Pakistan, the fact that her parents and cousins are outraged that she's not married and drives boils their blood because they've been conditioned to believe that women should only get married and become a housewife and clearly she's not an educated family. Whereas educated family wouldn't usually believe in such things. Trust me education can free ones mind to a whole new level in South Asia.
Yusra Zaeem I agree with you. not that I am against what she did, more power to her, but for those few ppl who only see negative aspects, t hey will see this as a representation of all Pakistani girls though it is not like that at all
Yusra Zaeem So? Are you disagreeing with what she's doing? Do you think she's not a good role model and that women shouldn't be independent? You're making a confusing statement here.
All it takes is one person to defy the odds. I'm proud of her.
I’m thankful that a lot more Pakistani families are much more open and want their daughters to get jobs and be independent, but unfortunately, we still have families like hers. She’s such an inspiration
It is rarity for pakistani parent to allow their daughter equal freedom and opportunity like their son. It is equally rare like a dog who save abandon baby girl
Lol come on. I live in Pakistan and I've seen girls with so many less restrictions
annie bobat YAS. My family is upper class and conservative. But I never felt they were conservative because my parents never forced me to do something I didn't want to do. I take Hijab and Obaya. But my dad never forced it on me. My dad said, "Daughter, if you want to take it. Take it. But respect it and once you have planned on taking it, don't reverse the decision." And they never held the ropes too tight, that I wanted to defy them. Unlike most people, who love their sons better than their daughters, my parents actually love me MORE. They have kept all of their children equal, whether it was only pocket money. Equal pocket money and if I don't have a boyfriend, my brothers cant get a girlfriend. That's it and wearing a different lipstick shade is not defying. My dad is actually going to teach me how to drive a car and buy it for me when I go to Uni. AND my dad told me that I CAN STUDY and have a job when I get a degree, and make money on my own. He said that he won't be a hurdle in my success. *Her family is not educated or enlightened enough, or just don't trust her completely.* So, I live in Pakistan without any desperate need for an escape, like a normal girl. Others might have it hard but thank God I have sane parents.
Pakistani is a big nation. In some parts people are probably living civilized, in some they are oppressed. Not all are like this probably.
you are right, many Pakistani girls have freedom in Pakistan, this is just another Propaganda against Pakistan. only this particular girl has restrictions not Pakistani girls
Lmao true. I'm Pakistani and almost everyone in my family wears makeup, owns cars, and wears 'modern' clothing. Its considered pretty normal for people who live in Karachi.
+Maria Kazi this is a BBC propaganda against Pakistanis, I am an Indian not a Pakistani
What I hate about this is how BBC is making a big deal out of this when so many girls from Pakistan are independent and the way she makes it seem is like a teenager going through a phase. I'm Pakistani and my parents would never do something like this. I believe this has to do with the parents of the child, not the race of the child or the religion of the child. It kind of pisses me off to see how BBC creates stereotypes with this kind of bullshit
what you don't understand is you're a teenager with Internet access and can write English. 90% of Pakistanis can't afford that or are literate enough to do that.
So maybe things are good for you but not the majority of your country. Who shot Malala then?
Where did all those terrorist organization come from and have been living there for decades without your government doin anything?
Shun Jags I do understand that. I consider myself blessed to have all of these advantages. But the thing is, I know others in Pakistan, that live there and go to school there. They also don't deal with stuff like this. What I'm trying to get through here is that mainstream media is polluting people's minds into giving all Pakistanis stereotypes such as being forced into marriage and you can't do this you can't do that. To be honest, I don't understand what all these news stations have against certain people. There are stereotypes for literally all minorities. I'm not excluding whites because there are stereotypes for whites, blacks, asians, and every other race.
SMaasentertainment And I think you should really chill out. You need to stop commenting and replying like an internet troll. You also need to get a life other than trying (and failing) to roast people on the internet.
Queen Laibah ok queen laibah.
+Queen Laibah you should know only 35% - 40% of Pakistanis have formal basic education. Your Government themselves provided these statistic.
So you can't put the "many school going kids" into the whole argument. Cuz even if all of those kids were from progressive families... it still won't make half of Pakistans population.
This woman isn’t the majority, remember. Just look at how her family treats her.
She's there standing
Because her family treated her well.
This video is VERY biased, nearly every woman can drive.
@@Uhuss-qq6cq yeah but not in a third world country. There's a struggle and it's real for women even tho it's super ordinary thing for women in West or other parts of the world.
Aah! The star of India flag💛
Memoona Cheema not really, if you go to Pakistan most women can drive.
To all the people in the comments section saying that they can not relate to this video: PLEASE CHECK YOUR PRIVILEGE
No one said that tho
chitty meenu scroll and read the comments. People are saying they live in Pakistan and Pakistan is not like this because their family is permissive. They saying all the girls are free to drive and their evidence is that they and their cousins drive. There are many comments like that. Open your eyes.
Oh I thought you meant people from the US or Europe are saying this lmao
Those videos are made to make other countries and cultures and religions look bad. Do not take you info from such videos or the internet in general, maybe her family is strict you can see women behind her in her work, in Pakistan woman are allowed to work and drive..... Do not judge because of seeing something on internet , visit or ask someone who did.
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Flores rosadas why would I try to get information from this video? I am a Pakistani and I know how male dominated and sexist my society is.
This is ironic the Pakistani friends in the U.K. go out everyday wearing make up like it's their wedding
UKs a lot safer then Pakistan
+censorious don't Pakistani girls go out in Austria?
+censorious well then it's backward attitudes that have no logical reasoning to them what so ever
+Censorious owwh guess u wanted an argument
Aditi Kaur u see a lot of girl in Pakistan wearing makeup. But red is seen just for wedding day and married woman
im actually waiting for a saudi girl to be like that.
casa brys Try waiting a 1 billion years!
Hats off! Having gone through similar struggles myself I know how you feel. I wish you best for the future and pray that your wish to live in another country come true very soon. - Love and regards from India.
She is so inspiring! I wish she will see all her dreams come true one day❤️
She is absolutely amazing! Very inspirational
Maryam allison for people in developing countries that is.
Vesta Teiserskyte how so?
Actually as a pakistani girl i dont see anything amazing about her bcz in pakistan girls have full rights to do wht they want and i m currently applying for pakistan air force its just some ppl who have narrow minds trust me even though pakistan is a islamic state it treats its girls like western maybe ur confusing pakistan with saudi arabia
@@whooopsiesssssssss9770 best of luck for Pakistan Air Force. Pakistan Zindabad
@@whooopsiesssssssss9770 its not true..try critizing sa...see what happens
wow... I admire her thoughts. Love from India. Hope many Pakistanis think for themselves like this and work hard rather than blame the other side always.
sadiq sd
sadiq sd love this comment
+SMaasentertainment umm no you can't. Whole UN is against you now. 8 different countries opposed Pakistans terrorism this year.
Vladimir Puttin and Donald Trump are great friends with Modi and against Pakistan. So yeah go ahead and try.
Shun Jags yh yh that's why fsb cheif came here in Islamabad for secret meeting and that's why we just gave them access to warm waters to gwadar boy. son you waste man
Shun Jags un is joke no one cares, do india cares no. india just kicked out amnesty staff from Delhi and don't allow acess to various parts of India and there un resolution on Kashmir but do india care no why we care . it's bin organisation.
I wish I was independent and not rely on anyone 😫
Are you from Pakistan (or any other Islamic state)?
Amina jay work for your dreams. Fight for yourself.
Amina jay you still can. You can be whatever you want
Never too late
How can be you independent???
The parents grow you up when you are helpless and restricted
What about them??
Do they deserve any kind of right on you?? Or not
Good for you! My partner is a Moroccan Muslim and he cooks for me, shops for me when I am ill, tidys the house and so on. He is my rock and everything. I do the same for him too!
people are different in every society, bbc and western media always target muslim and arab countries and criticize their religion and traditions heavily, i'm not pakistani but i can tell that this girl doesn't represent an entire society, by the way much love and respect to all pakistani people 💟
"This girl doesn't represent the society" you say. On the contrary she should. The fact that she is fighting for her freedom to live life on her own terms by challenging societal norms is a bad thing for you? You should be supportive of the girl being a woman.
Rishabh Kumar i am not against or with the girl, for each their own, i was speaking about how western media try to portray women in muslim countries as oppressed "indirectly blaming Islam" , and this is not "always" true, would paskistani or any arab media try to speak for example about a young women in the US who suffers because of any reason, i think it's non of western media's business to interfere in our societies claiming that they have no issues within theirs
Maya Sirine Nope that's not the point. The things is the woman as an individual should have the choice to live life as she wants. Oppression of one gender in the veil of "tradition" is not right, no matter what the religion is.
Not saying that the west don't have the problems of their own. But you'll be kidding yourself if you believe there is gender equality and freedom of choice to women in Islam and in other religions to some extent as there is in the west.
So if they point that out its not their fault because they are not wrong.
It's not the case for everyone but for majority, yes.
Rishabh Kumar I don't really get it! How do you all figure out that Islam oppresses women or does not support women's rights by just listening to media's bs or googling it?!
That's actually laughable that you think that you can actually judge us or write anything about us when you don't even know anything about us?!
and just for your kind information the rules this girl wants to break are set by our "society" and "people in that society"
artiew87 I'd like to ask a question, miss, who does this network belong to?
and who cries over Muslim women wearing hijab and niqab?
and who is always crying over Muslim women being oppressed?
Can't say Muslims because I'm one and I certainly don't remember crying over any of these issues
and p.s. if you really want serious issues to be highlighted try Syria then we'll talk.
and I'm not a single disabled mother but I'm human and that makes me a victim enough. I may not have scars to show but I bear them too. On my soul. Like millions of other people
This is fake I went to Pakistan many women drive cars , wear lipstick, perfume, & have carrier the place ain't like Saudi Arabia.
Radu Dracula Pakistan is huge. Just because you didn't see it that doesn't mean it does not exist.
MrsLilali21 I have not seen women not were lipstick, they were the Hijab and still you can wear makeup , eye liner and lipstick, I should know My Father once lived in Pakistan.
Agreed with you "Infotainment by Sana Aly" & "Radu" .. It's another sensational bait from our very own BBC News..
even saudia is not like that
Radu Dracula shes not talking for the whole of pakistan - shes talking about her personal experiences and her own family. Its not fake.
i think this is an over-exaggerated portrayal of patriarchy in Pakistan. The only accurate thing is the marriage by 24, but that's common in a lot of cultures.
Micaa. Even that's not entirely true. Depends on different cultures of different ethnicities. Like in Chinyotis, people are married off around 20-24. But not necessarily in other families/casts/ethnicities. In my own family there are girls who got married around 27-30. Then there were others who got married earlier or even later. And women driving on their own is pretty common in big citites like Karachi and Lahore.
Most of my Pakistani cousins got married at 28 or older (females included). I doubt what you said is very common
I'm pretty sure she was only talking about her own family...
its just her family. i m driving for past 8 years and my family was extremely supportive
Abdullah is a mans name! Why would your family not be extremely supportive with you driving, if you are a man? I have never known anyone in my entire life, who doesn't support a man driving! The only men i think it would apply to, would perhaps be ones that are Amish!
@@robertuk2006 people often use such names married women use their husband's name it's common
let me just make it clear that this doesn't happens with every girl in Pakistan
there are different kind of families and family rules
@@tokumahyata616 Come to peshawar
she forgot to put a disclaimer *her family. not every Pakistani family. not an issue for some families
She's a serious girl working hard for her money. How can any parent not be proud of this ? Independence is a true luxury in this world and I'm glad she has it and managed to work for it
Muslim women should stand up for their right and do and dress as they please , they should understand that men don't own them ! this is coming from a man btw , real men respect women
Actually, I think it is more to 'women who live in some culture and norms' because Islam never forbid a woman to ride horses, camels etc and also to drive a car. I have friends who live in Islamic countries and owned a car. So, it is not a religious thing. Peace. Just my two cents though.
This isn't about religion, its about culture! Her families culture enforces strictness on her. Islam allows women to drive, work, vote, etc. For Gods sake, the Moselems main prophet's wife was a business owner.
Yes I agree with Sara, Im a muslim girl from a Muslim Family. My mom is a doctor and works longer hours than my dad, who is the main person who packs lunch for us and cooks dinner. I intend to be a doctor, or go into the law field, both which my parents are heavily supporting. The issue is that many Muslim countries are overtaken by culture and traditions mixing into what they say is "religious". Hope this makes sense!
This has nothing to do with religion!!! Just because she is a Muslim does not mean she is forced do act or dress a certain way...in fact the number one, fundamental lesson Islam teaches is to always have equal rights regardless of gender. Your mixing culture with religion...before the suffragette movement in England no one ever said Christian women should stand up and not be forced by their men because it was the culture and time period that women were seen as 'less'
Eric Rodrigues stfu better take of ur own country rather than worrying about musliums
I am her biggest supporter. You go girl!
오 사 루마 😂kpop is everywhere . and same here
I'm so proud of her
Still better than Saudi Arabian woman's life !!
PinkRose Rosales you have zero knowledge about Saudi culture
Women are queen of their families
Of course there's exceptions as well and I'm not denying it
AZHAR QUEENS !!!
hahahahaha how about if you don't know ANY nothing you shut up ?????
how about getting some knowledge of grammar before judging other's culture ?
AZHAR really ?!!!!
I'm all for women getting there rights unlike you .......... even in the poorest countries they drive and travel and work with no guardian you should be more open minded about it .
+Bruh, Saudi Arabia is alot worse for women. They're banned from Driving, lol.
I am so proud of women like her who are willing to fight for their right to live on their own terms
This paints a picture of Pakistani culture that is somewhat inaccurate.
HHAHAHA
Eva A it doesn't. The lady here is bringing to attention a point of conflict which 80% of Pakistani women go through in different intensities. Please don't kid yourself.
Sharmeen Alam these dumbs just want to escape the reality, she is an example how a women should live her life,but shit people will still say this all is staged up
Shahid Waqas within limits??? another lunatic spotted. In your culture men can marry 7 times but women have to wear burkha?? i am not a hater i study where all pakistanis are my friends and i love them. but this double standard sucks. you only said many things which u shouldnt have and u got caught poor u
Shahid Waqas hahahahhahah you are the wrong 28 ut no worries i am no one to judge anyone.your people are enough to put the truth out in open hahaah
What a brilliant young lady. If only we could have a few million more young women with her outlook, it would be like giving the world a course of antibiotics to fight the infection of misogyny that exists in every country. May I wish her luck with each and every one of her ambitions and endeavours.
when I started wearing red lip stick "school jari ya nachne" :/(are you going to school or to dance/sell yourself) I grew up in Canada and my parents are indian
She is so inspiring. Bruh, her family should be proud and supportive.
agree
Such a beautiful, intelligent, inspiring young woman. Good for you! I truly hope you find a way to achieve your dream!
What is the actual point in this? so many women in Pakistan have jobs and cars, what makes her so special?
Jewel Thomas exactly , guess it's bbc attacking Pakistan Nd Pakistanis like usual
It shows her family doesn't seem to think its appropriate and she is still defying it. This shows the nature of society that still exists. its not hard to get the meaning of the video. Should have read the title properly
Jewel Thomas thank you!
I think we also have to distinguish that educated families (including educated parents/grandparents) wouldn't conform to such cultural norms. Whereas uneducated backgrounds will force these cultural norms on their children because they've been conditioned to think in such a way, generally speaking for South Asia.
Rishabh Kumar lmao k, so if my dad doesn't let me go to the club but I ignore him and go anyway shouldn't I get a video from the bbc? I mean, it matches all the points you've said??
BBC has this weird "saviour complex" considering they feel the need to protect every Pakistani/Muslim girl but, you really don't have to. We're independent and FINE the way we are!
December The BBC News service is the propaganda wing of the conservative establishment in the British government. The saviour complex is simply White-Man's burden all over again. Why would they not show a devout Muslim girl doing her doctorate in engineering with the support of her husband? Because that type of progress is considered threatening to their cultural norms.
Lol stfu
O yeah??? So why you are protesting against female infanticide and honor killing???
She, 's amazing, self sufficient, works independent, see sounds lovley girl, I think the older ones maybe jealous of her, independence is a fantastic feeling
Good for her! She's so courageous!
I just want to get one thing straight. Perhaps it's the way the BBC have edited it or whatever, but anyway... She's from Lahore, one of the major cities not only in Punjab, but also all of Pakistan and (even though I'm British) I can safely say that every single generation of my family from Pakistan has had female teachers, gymnasts, doctors, journalists, fashion designers and many more professions! I would like to add that my family is fairly practicing! This video falsifies the condition of the educated Pakistani woman, forget driving a car... My mum knows how to use a rifle and studied zoology. What this woman experienced is actually in the minority when it comes to girls/women in Pakistani cities.
I'm wondering what big work is she actually doing?
changingpakistan1 my parents are kashmiri, that is a place similar to kpk and the other cities u mentioned, perhaps even backwards. My mom's a gynecologist, she works in a co ed hospital, has her own driver, goes shopping whenever she wants to, wears red lipstick but only when she believes its modest, because modesty represents her values.
I'm 18, i shouldn't have a car of my own but my parents permit public transport and give me curfews. Yes they would disapprove if i wore red lipstick on the daily.
And they would disapprove if i didn't get married by 28. Honestly id rather get married by 25! I want a husband and a family of my own so I'm glad i dont have to go the dating route, it involves so much drama, heartbreak and pettiness. Just my 2 cents
+Neil Mathews according to u ,if the comment of Habi -chan doesn't represent the whole Pakistan and the luck which her family got,in the same way, this stereotypical BBC video and this girl's individual experience doesn't represent the whole Pakistan and the condition of every other girl living and facing such sexism in Pakistan.
BE REALISTIC ATLEAST!
It's bad because they make it seem like this is the norm... This is not the norm and in all honesty this damn video is bullshit.
This is not about losing or winning but about the truth. The truth is that this video is not showing the truth and is trying to portray the idea that Pakistani women are not allowed to do all these things and that this woman is in some way special for doing it. I doubt you've ever been to Pakistan your entire life and just believe whatever western media shows you. All women and girls in Pakistan are not free to make their own choices but neither are men - ever heard about poverty? The truth is most women and girls from decently wealthy families are basically doing whatever they want.
Go girl ...go...these crazy sick men who continue to live in the dark ages. You a hero to many young girls.
is there a whole episode or is it just this clip?
Pakistan isnt like that maybe it is for her family .
shereen she probably came from a working class family.
+KindnessIsKey Don't singlehandedly replace the word 'religious' with 'conservative'. Wearing a hijab and praying five times a day doesn't make me uncultured, it just means I don't want to burn in hellfire eternally. Also, I work and study, so no, I'm not a close-minded and conservative nincompoop, contrary to your conjecture. I would appreciate a slight change in indoctrination there, thanks ☺️
shereen lovely name
shereen i agree it’s only happens in villages if I’m not wronf
shereen exactly..
People who deny the status of women in Pakistan, I'm guessing, have never heard of Malala's story and never read her book.
wow another sheep brainwashed by mainstream media. Do your research dumb girl and dont make anyone else do it for you lazy brick
Calm down sheep, that's just her story. What about the rest of Pakistan and all these comments. You think they're lying or Malala portrays all of Pakistan? Grow up
Have you heard of Aitzaz Hassan, the underprivileged Pakistani schoolboy who gave up his life to save nearly a thousand of his schoolmates by TACKLING A SUICIDE BOMBER? The mainly FEMALE staff who were qualified educators who shielded their students with their lives when terrorists attacked a school in Peshawar? Malala was never a unique phenomenon in Pakistan. Her campaign mostly seemed for the benefit of impressing western media. Malala went to school with other girls. Yet no one talks about how somehow there were actually other females going out to be educated in the same city she was, many years after the TTP had been thoroughly ousted from Swat. Maybe they came back just to highlight how important a female was to warrant an assassination, but the truth is children struggle immensely to be educated in most of the poverty-stricken areas in Pakistan, not just girls, and the fact that Malala LEFT along with her family, deepens the impression that this was less about Pakistan and more about the West.
boimackhead no one is saying that Malala is lying...there saying that one person does not represent the whole bloody country..may I remind that Pakistan has 6th biggest population in the world...nowadays what this girl experienced is so rare..girls can do whatever they want.
Things were back before 2009,things have changed significantly, i still hate kpk but love punjab and KHR
Being a Pakistani girl, she is so inspirational to me and is definitely a role model.
I love her personality it seems wonderful 💖
i admire her courage
You go girl
TheIronMan987 xD
@Mr Express simp
you go girl
You go girl!!! 👏👏👏 I'm loving the courage wow 😘💕 Keep doing what you're doing love ❤
Am glad she is defying her cultural ways , its more free and enables you to live tge way you want and be the person you want and have a right to do so, I do the same , I refuse to conform to my parents ways!
She knows what she wants 👍
I have lived in the UK for about 20 years but even before I left Pakistan women had jobs and cars and freedom in Pakistan. I don't know what this woman is going on about. Sorry mate original, you aren't.
Well in her family she is the only one
What this programme is about is a girl being used by Western media to add to propaganda that Muslim women are oppressed. Some are no doubt. There are glimpses of her family in this video. They don't look the type to oppress their women. Anyway there are hundreds of thousands of women in Pakistan and other Muslim countries who are well educated and doing exactly same as men. What I didn't like is the tone of this programme. I'm entitled to my opinion.
Naz Nad not everything is a propaganda. BBC could have found a better example of a woman fighting odds and patriarchy in our society. I would still say the hundreds and thousands of women you mention are a minority still. We have a long way to go before women are considered an equal part of the society.
You're beautiful and so energetic. Being a surgeon in Pakistan I'm proud of you and other girls like you who are continously inspiring our future generations.
More power to you!
There is no pride in that. Millions in Pakistan are more "freer". This image is outrageous!
I am from Pakistan, in my class we have 11 boys and 48 female students, Out of 48 almost 40 of which have a car.
Her driving skills have nothing to do with her family or her freedom. She just got a chance to get on screen. Although family pressure for getting married is real but the car and freedom thing is B.S.
I think this depends from region to region. As well how extreme the family is also affects that. Pakistan has a high rate of honor killings. Not long ago a girl named Qandeel was killed because she was too liberal.
I respect your concern. As a third person i also might have that image. But being a pakistani whenever i see project like these my first reaction is that they are after some fundings. International media is so desperate to prove muslim woman victim, people like them feed them news for their $$.
You should ask any pakistani woman in person.
As for cases like Qandeel baloch, it was a sad thing. You can get 5-10 exceptions in a population of 200 millions, there were even two cases of cannibalism one in bhakkar and one in rawalpindi, these are just worst cases. If you want to be liberal and do stripping in pakistan, than it doesn't matter what gender are you, you will have to face serious anger. and a good chances of being killed by some family member. Before her death she worked in some music videos and was an internet celebrity for a long time, if she(Qandeel) was so oppressed how come she managed to work for so long.
+abc def I understand your point but the difference is that her life was in high danger not that she was so oppressed. I always believe that women within that country are the one who should be addressing such issues and I am not really a fan of white saviour mentality. Sweeping things under the carpet and pretending that there is nothing wrong isn't going to change anything. The girl in the video was talking about her family in specific and was not generalising but I believe they will be a lot more girls who can relate to her.
Cases like Qandeel won't be stopping any time soon, and that isn't any case of feminism nor of Islam. There is one thing about how families in "that country" works, you might not know. Unlike western peoples families in pakistan are very close, Joint families are not very uncommon, everyone knows everyone, what they doing, what they like in food, whats there grades in school, No one moves out on turning 18, No one goes to old homes on getting old. There is an added responsibility of family reputation to maintain. Children's try to outdo other families children, woman try to dress up better. You can get a girl/boy easy if you are from a well reputed family. Family supports other family members many times unfairly; one example is of our current prime minister whose whole family got place in parliament when he and his brother elected. So whenever one person of a family do something undignified (like begging imran to marry him and stripping naked for Qandeel) the whole family has to face shame. If it were because of a male member than his father simply disowns(AAQ is the word used in urdu) him, in case of a female member first they try to get her married if she don't want to you cant disown her, and have to live with it, some times some family member loose their nerve and do something stupid like beating or killing them.
This family system won't change overnight for better or worse. And this family system is also a reason to why democracy didn't worked for pakistan.
despicable of the cousin to do that to her car... but I admire her for standing up for herself in this type of society and fighting for her rights.
I hope she does amazing things for Pakistan. Bless her 🇵🇰🥺❤️
Love her I am also struggling to have a life like this.
All these people NEED to visit Pakistan.I mean you can't visualise a country on the basis of how media shows it.
Tayyaba Imam ikr i was born in uk and whenever i see pakistan on the internet it always shows bad things but when i went there,it was nothing like what the media showed,it was actually quiet peaceful and beautiful place.
Its always like that. I mean if Pakistan would have been such a bad place, we would not have been living here.
Grocery Store there are some people who believe outrageous things, for example that. Some more extreme examples of this are that girls can’t go to school, have to fully cover themselves (but they can look through a see-through fabric), can’t speak with men that aren’t their relatives, and also can only go outside with men.
Its about accent and diction, very thick accents make words unintelligible, fluency and vocab here dont matter
Yeah then make a joke on islam and thwn see
Ah bless you from a Pakistani girl 🙌🏻 you go girl ☺️ you're views are exactly like mine.
*Your
"I want a different life for myself and I'm working my way towards it."
What a QUEEN!!! Keep being yourself, you're the voice of all us women raised in a conservative family.
What the hell bare girls drive in Pakistan including my cousins so wats all this talk about killing 😂
+Water Nebula but everyone watching this doesn't know it's her family, since that's what's implied by this video's title
Lara Pinto have you mate Osama?
Don't give judgements if you don't know the facts
I have never seen you people accepting your ills
And when was the last time you portrayed some thing good about us ?
Stay out it
Fiza Khan she's talking about her own conservative family not yours
Lol just cuz the girls in your circle drive doesn’t mean it’s a norm. It’s definitely not a norm, but you’d know that if you took your head out of your ass and saw the reality.
Your cousins don’t represent all of Pakistan
She is just a bunch of that lucky one, there must be so many girls back there being trapped in home, cooking, imprisoned from what so called equality of gender.
I don't understand why there's a documentary on this. 20% of Pakistani girls are like this, it's not a big deal. Not every girl gets her car vandalised because she wears red lipstick. Stop portraying the entire country as stubborn, unwilling to change. It's not like that. Even if you look at pictures from the seventies you'll see girls in cars and hippie makeup
She is a typical well educated Pakistani girl who lives in a city. The situation is different in villages where women are still dependent on the males.
Also in cities. Peole forget how large and densely populated many cities are with all social classes represented. Poor to middle class make up the majority. The rich are just the top minority. The freedoms this girl has are not representative for most Pakistani girls.
Pakistan is horribly sexist and misogynist. That being said, it's not at all uncommon for women to be well educated, well employed, drive, be single, go out alone. It's very common in the affluent areas. My grandmother was a professor and driving as early as 1951. However, in the middle class and lower income families this is unheard of. Good for her, just needed to say that it's a combination of a backwards culture perpetuated by economic insecurity rather than just Pakistan as a whole.
Kat Khan aunti abb in even in working if women is not graduated or above there is not good future for her . But this asshole bitch is weirdo in video.
Kat Khan it's mean you are elite class then and u r cut off of from rest of the society . I was born in working class street as u call it mahala system and trust me there was compititon among kids and cousins and when results use to come out that was like festival and women got the most eduction and higher and boys mostly failed . so you don't even no how normal pakistanis live . dha girl.
Kat Khan these days when some one in working or middle class go to get married boy or a girl both , rishta man asks what do you do as work because these days only one person can't run household so people looking for educated people to spend life with nd that's my personal experience.
SMaasentertainment so basically what you're saying is that women in the women in middle and lower class are as free as women in the west (which is what the woman in the video and BBC is comparing her to)? Because that's simply untrue. Yes, girls go to university and work but that's only true about when a family earns above a certain income threshold. Keep in mind there's more to Pakistan than the big cities, and there are more mindsets than mine and yours. We can't simply overlook the plight of Pakistani women because you and I have different experiences.
P.S. You don't need to call me a DHA girl as if it's an insult (though you'd be right that is where our familial home is) but I was born and raised in Canada.
SMaasentertainment also my point was not at all to insult to lower income segments of the population to rather to highlight that Pakistan is not at all bad as most media outlets portray it to be, it's not Saudi Arabia or Iran (unless we're including KP, FATA, Waziristan etc). My point was the same as yours that yes Pak society is not as backwards as it seems but rather it comes down to a socio-economic divide.
this is just her parents being so phychopathic, my pakistani parents are so cool
emxxn I think if her parents were psychotic and extremists she would probably be either homeless or in a forced marriage. They look cool and understanding by accepting the fact of her having a car even if it is against their culture 🤔
what she's doing is against no culture in Pakistan, it's probably her extended family that decide to interfere in her life.
Sofia Baldé did you even listen to the interview? Her parents are way too problematic, pakistani culture does not promote this
She is me. Oh gosh, how I wish I'd graduate real soon.
Canal de farticles keep pushing baby girl, you can do it!
I think it’s her family’s not letting her do all of these things, not Pakistan. It even says she is defying her family not her country.
Whats so unusual about this story. She is just one out of the several thousand Pakistani working women, who are also driving the car alone each day. Seriously, I could not understand what was the point of making this documentary.
So you don't want women to have equal rights cause its westernization?
Clorox Bleach staying within the culture also we can achieve equality instead of opting for westernization
@@Attitudezero884 equality is not a western concept.
@@Attitudezero884 culture is not a static. It doesn't remain the same. It changes with time and in this globalized multicultural world that we live in with the internet enabling exchange of ideas, knowledge, influence you will struggle to keep your culture in a bubble. The West doesn't own the concept of equality and basic human rights. That's universal. Whether you are in China, Pakistan, Gulf, Nigeria, or America.
bless you. i'm upset about her entourage but i'm so proud of her.
She is making it sound like she is the only woman in Pakistan who is capable of driving, and working and going after her goals!! Wake up!!! Your not the only ONE !!
I was kind of laughing that her cousin damaged her car. It makes me think that he's just plain butthurt and jealous for thinking that a woman can actually be career oriented and show strength by choosing what she really wants. Wow! I love you, Naema! Live the life that makes you happy. Be strong and you're an inspiration!
The comments below... "most of Pakistan isn't like this!" Hahahahaha... the amount of gullibility and ignorance is incredible.
That's the minority of people. I mean are people blind when they visit Pakistan and go hospitals or wherever hey go and see women working. THEY are girls who are actually working and not men dressed up as women. Also, many of them ARE SINGLE because they prioritise work over starting a family.
i think when they say "most of Pakistan isn't like this" they are talking about the girl's family..Most of Pakistan is NOT like this girl's family. Plenty of girls drive on their own and have jobs and dont get married until later and wear red lipstick lool..I just think that this girl comes from a very close minded and strictly cultured family.
+Miss Effenaii The average age of females getting married in my family is 30
EQUAL RIGHTS 4 EVERYONE!!!
Hi I'm Pakistani. I will not say anything about this particular story.. but I will say that here there are parents who will not allow such things(especially dating) for their children... and then there are also parents who will not only allow such things for their children but will also ask them whether if they like somebody... Pakistan is huge and there are all kind of people here. Peace!
Exactly. Thats the problem. You are not free.
just watching this I'm so glad my parents have such an open mind. we are all from lahore as well ☺. my parents encouraged me to learn to drive, haven't passed the test yet but that's something else. they want me to work as well cuz they know that it would help me in the long run. even if I don't work after being married and having children, I'll still have great education to pass back to them.
LOL BBC acting like Pakistan is Saudi Arabia..
Its not better. Being a woman in Pakistan. No thank you.
this is pathetic , I know people from Pakistan and they drive , have a job and are educated I feel like BBC news has paid this family specially this girl to just talk fake
Do you know every Pakistani?
Ayana and Ruby There is no country in the world where everyones lives are the same.....
Sadismiles :D I totally agree but this girl in this video is just too dramatic tbh !!
I glad even if she speak english they still put subtitles...as i can watch them without turning on the sound
shes so open minded i love it. As a Pakistani i hope she succeeds and proves her family wrong
she is exaggerating every thing...parents have problem with lipstick and car but not the dressing....enjoying coffee with friends chilling out enjoying every freedom and claiming that no freedom..what a joke ..
Sadi Ayub she got that freedom by fighting for it.
ya girl! miss independent. go get it, the old countries need to change.
The very notion that a woman can be villainised for the desire to make a life for herself is not only flawed but also goes to show how limited the development of us as a society truly is. Furthermore, this girl's defiance against the confinement of expectations and norms is one step on a long path to breaking the barriers of false convention and bringing a new measure of meaning and fulfilment to the lives of women we so genuinely depend on for the cumulative success of our society.
i live in london and i dont get the freedom this girl has
sadia ali Wow. That's really sad. Your parents moved there but continue to treat you like you're living in an Islamic state. Truly sad.
Lol 😂
U will never have that freedom cus u dont want to fight for it like many women! Well is easier to blame your parents are crazy and to not do nothing only to pitty yoself
@@goddessvibes08 She/he is Islamic, they're from an Islamic country and they moved to England, you don't just change your religion or anything if you move to a different country with different rules.
Sadia ali your culture is your identity....hanging around with boys wearing jeans, driving car is not freedom