The Lost Generation 1883-1900 ( How Did They Survive)
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- The Lost Generation 1883-1900 ( How Did They Survive)
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I'm 65 and my grandfather was born in 1877. People back then learned how to write beautifully in cursive. Needs to make a comeback.
So did my.mom
I'm 61, and we learned to write in cursive. My oldest daughter also learned, but my youngest daughter wasn't taught - they had taken it out of school by the time she came along. I'm glad I write in penmanship - or cursive.
I’m 56 and I learnt to write that way. I am from Australia and was at school in the 1970s and early 1980s.
Hi. My grandfather was born in 1898. As a child he worked in the cotton mills and he also served in WW1. During this time he contracted the Spanish flu that took the life of everyone in his platoon. He also received the Purple Heart that I have proudly kept. He was a wonderful man and grandfather.I
Everyone was Broke. Bartering and networking was important.
My Grandmother graduated High School in 1906. My Grandfather in 1904. They did have lots of memorization per my Grandmother.
Great video. My Grandmother lived till 100 years of age. She Saw the first auto the first Telephone's the first TV's and on and on she even was here for the first computers. What she saw in history right?
Yes, I adore this comment
That's amazing!
What a wonderful video. Anytime that you can inform us of life way back when, I find it so intresting. Thank you so much for helping us visualize life back then.
Thank you
Yes, i really like videos lije this!
All my great-grandparents were of this generation. They drove horse and buggies during their young adulthood. Didn’t have electricity until after their children were all born. I am grateful to have have known and had a relationship with them.
Huge history buff, so really enjoyed this one!
I can remember my grandmother telling me her parents pulled her out of school in the 6th grade to help care for her ailing grandmother. ( She was not at all happy about it😂)
Oh wow!
Both my grand parents on my moms side had to drop out of school at age 12 to help take care of elderly grand parents and work
Can you imagine? I wouldn't have been happy either!
My great-grandparents lived a very simple life. They were farmers. They raised pigs and chickens, had a garden as well as the crops for feed and hay. Everything was homemade, bartered, or traded for what they needed. A doctor was called only when it was very serious. Otherwise my great-grandmother had " recipes" which she had written in a book that I now have. It's filled with teas, poultuses and other remedies.
My grandmother and great-grandmother knew how to heal using herbs and other natural agents. I don't think they recorded anything.
I have heard that those with a 7th or 8th grade education back then was like having a high school diploma or beyond now. The rigor and depth of material they learned was much more intense than it is today. Life was tough back then, but people knew how to work hard and take care of themselves. I think most people today, especially those that are younger, lack a lot of practical skills that people used to have. People today have much more free time, which isn't necessarily a good thing! I always think it's interesting that with all the modern conveniences people have today, people seem to be much more stressed and unhappy, and always saying they don't have enough time to do things like cook. I'm thankful to live in modern times, but I do think we can learn some lessons about leading a more simple and relaxed life.
You are so right
They worked hard, out in the fields. The one-room classroom doubled as a church on Sundays. And the store doubled as a post office. But I might be a little ahead of myself. This might have come after the Lost Generation. But I do love History.
I agree!
Yes, the women worked back then....out in the field.
I don't know much about the city life back then, but I do know a little about the country life that my older kinfolks told me about. There weren't stores, or not very many. So nobody had to worry about shopping as a hobby. What were you gonna buy? A horse shoe?
Your hobbies better have been working that field, growing food for survival. Shelling peas, hanging up meat to dry.
For Christmas, the people I knew about got an apple, an orange, and a banana.
My grand parents were born in 1902 and 1908 and I remember them talking about their parents. Stern, serious, hard workers. They didn’t take vacations or try and keep up with the jones’. I think that started around the 1970’s.
Great share, Dawn. My great-grandparents would have been part of the lost generation. My grandparents were born in the early 1900s. I don't really know anything about my great-grandparents, but I think most of them were farmers. So I am sure that they probably struggled a lot but also knew a lot about how to survive.
how neat
My dad was born in 1895.
That is incredible
Hi Money Mom! Both my maternal and paternal grandparents fit into this particular generation. I truly admire the work ethic they demonstrated, their ability to live simply within their means, and to make the most of what they had. They seemed much less materialistic than Americans today. Enjoy your videos!
I agree
My grandparents on my mother's side were both born in the late 1880's-already married and living in Italy-work as farmhands on a rich family's farm-moved to Canada to raise a family of 7. Grandma grew & preserved & made nearly all the clothes herself-kids were taught as well.
She was generous but at the same time died at age 93 with a cellar full of preserves. Fathers side--they were from Italy-lived only a few blocks away but didn't meet until someone introduced them when they moved to Canada. Married young, had 9 kids and owned their own vegetable, grape and livestock farms. Mom's parents only had enough $ to send the son's on to college. The girls all started to work right after highschool. My mom always wanted to be a teacher-she taught me to write when I entered Kindergarten.
My grandparents were of that generation; all came to America by ship from Italy via Ellis Island. My maternal grandparents had six kids, worked hard and saved. Shopping for entertainment was unheard of. My grandmother couldn’t work outside the home so did all the cooking, sewing and mending, helped my grandfather grow vegetables and fruit (grapes, cherries and peaches), and doing the canning and preserving in August. They could have complained about a lot of things, but always were thankful for what they had, and since all their neighbors were in the same situation anyway, everyone knew each other and helped out when necessary. My grandmother married at 17, and had a baby and a toddler by the time of the Spanish Flu epidemic, and she agreed to nurse a neighbor’s new baby because the mother had just died of the flu and my grandmother still had milk. I spent a lot of time with my grandmother while growing up, and I could listen to her stories all day. I am 74 and still miss her so much. She passed away in 1984. That was an amazing generation, and we would do well to learn from their example. Thanks for highlighting them, Dawn. 💕
My grandparents were of that generation. Grandpa was born in 1893 and lived on a farm. He worked on the Panama Canal. Grandma and Grandpa lived through the depression world war 2 and lived to be 94. Amazing man, very strict but had a wonderful sense of humor.
Love it
This was so interesting! My great-grandparents were of this generation. My grandmother cared for her mother after she suffered a stroke. It was as if she was in a coma. She was completely bedridden for 16 years. I can't imagine that level of sacrifice. I knew all my grandparents, my great-grandmother on my mother's side, and my great-grandfather on my father's side. We didn't live near them, so we didn't get to see them very often. I have fond memories of all of them. Great video, I love history and enjoy reading all the comments. Love to all, Linda 💕
My Aunt was caregiver for her 7 siblings back in those days. By the time I came along, I was thrilled with her ability to make clothes new again! She’d put “groovy” trim on my high water jeans and on the pockets too. She was from that era and I learned they arrested children for taking food back then. Do we arrest hungry children now? I sure hope not!
My one grandpa was in his late 80s when he passed but was alive to see the first man to walk on the moon.
He said to me, I just can't believe that I am here to see this. Amazing! It was so hard to grasp the idea when he was a boy pointing up to the moon, that someday someone would be there! He told me this standing by his side. I miss my grandparents so, so much!
That's so sweet! Awesome memory for you!
It's wonderful that you were able to have a relationship with your grandfather.
In my family, quite a number of the people born during that time period never married or had children. My grandmother on my mother's side had one brother. He waited to marry until after WWI. He had been courting his betrothed for many years. She was a teacher. After finally marrying they were past childbearing. My father's mother came from a large family, but few of her siblings had children. Economic times were hard, and I think many thought they couldn't afford a family. They had few possessions and carefully cared for the few they had.
Great video! Would love to learn more, & loved reading the comments.
My grandmother only went to 5th grade. Later she went on to get married & had 3 kids (one of them, my mother). Unfortunately my mother’s father passed away when she was 5. Back then, there was no government help, food stamps. They were dirt poor. My mom’s Christmas was a Salvation Army truck would come around. They were allowed to pick 1 toy off the truck. This went on to age 12. My grandma was fortunate to get a job at GM later on. Until then, she would bake cookies & sell them.
Due to how poor they were, my mother, now 86, is a very creative person. She could make an outfit look like a million bucks without spending a dime. The meals she made, while growing up, were delicious.
They certainly could teach about frugality.
My grandparents were born in 1880, 1896, 1898, and 1892. I was a later-in-life baby (mama was 41), and my maternal grandmother passed when I was three months old. My paternal grandparents lived until I was six and seven. My Mama said the Depression was her favorite time to live because people, for the most part, were kind and helpful with each other. We were disciplined, but my parents were also so much fun and taught us to find joy in simple things! 🥰
Interesting take on the depression
My mothers parents were born in 1886 and 1892. Both died in 1928 from TB so I know very little about them. I do know that they lived in Philadelphia, with 9 kids where 5 sisters slept in the same bed crosswise. They had chickens and a cow. The house they had lived in was taken for the airport. My father's parents were both born in 1893. My grandmother's father died at age 32 in 1899 from coal related lung issues. He was 2 weeks old when is father was killed in a mine explosion in Wales. His mother remarried and came to America. At the age of 5 he went to work in the coal mine. At 8 he was a breaker boy for an Anthracite coal company. Her mother was 29. She ran a boarding house for unwed miners. My grandmother had to quit school in the 3rd grade as well as her younger sister and they had to help their mother with cleaning, laundry, and cooking for the men. At the age of 8 my grandmother was doing hand embroidery at home for a company that made babies clothing. When she was 10 she went to work in a silk factory in Lehigh Valley PA. At that time it was a the largest silk manufacturing center in the world.
My grandfather had it much better. His grandfather was a doctor in Springfield MA and had served in the Civil War. His grandfather's brother was killed at Antietam. My grandfather's father was a carpenter and moved from MA to NJ. My grandfather was able to graduate from HS. It was a Manual Training HS so when he graduated he was a pharmacist. He went to work for a pharmaceutical company where he met my grandmother. They married in 1915. Grandfather had a very wealthy Aunt Mary who with her husband owned a very successful department store in Boston. They were the first to offer credit to people so they had a lot of business. She was always photographed in fur coats and they went to Europe every summer. I have pictures of my grandparents before they married driving around in one of Aunt Mary's fancy cars and traveling to various places. My father's brother was a 7 month baby and grandfather talked about shotgun weddings. Grandmother told me about them getting married at the court house. On the way home on the trolley grandfather reached in his pocket and took out a nickel. He threw it out the window and told her that they now did not have a nickel to their name. My grandfather worked as a pharmacist in drug stores while my grandmother never learned to drive and stayed home. They were able to purchase a home. In the 1930s my grandfather had to sell the large house and buy a much smaller one. Before the end of the Great Depression my grandfather lost his job and my father took over the mortgage payments and owned the home until 1952 when his father bought it back. That home cost $4000 and it stayed in our family until 2008 when my brother who owned it passed away.
Generationally, it doesn’t seem like the civil war was that long ago. I enjoyed your family history.
Thank you so much for sharing your family history. It's amazing to think about children working manual labor jobs. We read about it, but you heard about it first-hand.
What an amazing history you have!!! I wish my family would have talked about past generations, but no one ever wanted to talk about the past so I really don't know much of my relatives history : (
@@3TXSisters Actually my husband went into the coal mine to work with his father when he was 11. He had 6 older brother's and they all had to work in the mine as children. None of his brothers finished HS and all joined the Navy as soon as they were old enough. 3 of them served in the Pacific in WWII.
@@olderandwiser78 Wow!
I wish you had made this video longer
My mom was born in 1909
That's amazing! It'd be interesting to hear how your childhood differed from others because of your parents' ages.
Fascinating!!! I'm so glad you're doing this!
My great grandmother was this generation. She had 4 girls, but only 2 survived.
Great video!!!
Glad you liked it!
My dad served in woeld war one
Wow!
Only one of my grandparents was born during that time. The rest were born a tiny bit past 1900. All of them lived through WWI, Spanish flu, roaring '20's, great depression, WWII, all of it. The grandfather who was born in the 1800's was almost completely deaf by the time I knew him, so I barely heard anything from him. His wife was definitely stern and strict. My other grandfather died when my mother was a young girl, so I only know a few stories about him. My other grandmother, who raised children alone as a widow, during the great depression and WWII, was, by the time I knew her, a very happy person, diligent in work, less strict, more loving, and functioned like a one woman social service agency to take care of her neighbors. She was extremely poor, but still managed to make sure everyone around her had food, shelter, an income, etc. She was very smart about getting these things done. As single widow with children to feed, she relied on God to help her have all she needed. Maybe that's why she had so much excess to help so many other people. She was a major part of my life. All my grandparents were extraordinarily frugal their whole lives. I figure that's how it got into my bones!
My grandmother born in 1898 lost her Mom to Spanish flu when she was 16. Her dad could not manage all the little kids left behind, so my grandma had to help raise some of them . She married at 16, and raised 12 children along with some brothers and sisters. She was just a tiny petite thing and so sweet. We lost her when she was 54, and I guess life just wore her out.
Oh wow. That must of been tough
@@CentsibleLivingWithMoneyMom The study of our genealogy has so many tragedies. They normally did not live long lives with no availability of adequate medical treatment. Many women died in childbirth! I uncovered so many unbelievably hard lives lived. A fact that is not widely known is in Appalachia where I was born, there were few jobs, thus some were forced to actually make moonshine or “shine” as it was called. They had huge families and could not even ‘buy a job.” My great Uncle McKinley was caught at a still and kil-led by a deputized lawman, shot in the back. The lawman named Effler did time, and I have copies of the trial. The hospital they took my uncle to would not treat him, because nobody would stand good for the bill. His wife left to raise a child with no money and no hope of ever finding a job in those days. I listened to a revenue officer brag about how he caught people later in my life, and he sickened me. My uncle became somewhat of a martyr in his community back in the 1920’s, and “revenuers” were just hated.
Great grandparents were of that generation. Still have family in those states where they were born. (I’m still living in one of the states.) We are approaching a 200 year family presence in one county in Illinois. Many generations are buried in that county and my parents will buried there too. Mostly farmers.
They certainly knew how to make due with what they had back then.
I'm not sure when my Gramdfather was born but he foretold the great depression when he was young but don't know what time period that was....and he even foretold the one we went thru in 2008....He always said that it would happen....But imagine a time when all these people will be resurrected back to life again as Jesus promised us all in the Bible book of John chapter 5 vereses 28,29....That will be such an amazing time for us all to welcome back all those who have died b4 us....😊😊😊
I was fortunate to know my great grandparents, all born in the 1880s. They were all quite stoic and resourceful. My great grandfather and mother were actually raised as children in sod houses, and my great grandfather abd his brothers all left home at age 12 to work in steel mills in Colorado. They only finished elementary school but were way more educated than my own sons. It was expected that kids could learn much more than kids today. They were young adults in WW1 and in their 50s in WW2 and knew how to make do and live on little. They suffered a lot of loss in life, but persevered. All very devout Christians. Proud to have known them and be descended from such good stock!
My mother’s parents raised me basically until I was 8. They were first generation to be born in the US. I know about my grandfathers family because they were always there for holiday dinners, or I got Xmas and Birthday gifts, cards. My grandmothers brother and his wife had a vaudeville act, so my grandparents raised their first born until he was 8. Then I know another niece of hers and her daughter lived with my grandparents when her husband died of tuberculosis. My grandmother never worked, but she got a job as a waitress once and my grandfather had a fit, so that didn’t last. My grandfather retired from Philadelphia police force, then Westinghouse retiree, then worked as an orderly in a hospital. My mother said he like to bet on the horses and maybe other things. My grandfather had a sister who was a school teacher in California and she raised her littlest brother. My great grandfather also lived with her and her husband in California when older, and I guess he was retired from the railroad and always taking train trips in retirement.
How interesting!
And there was no social security yet, so yes the parents lived with their adult Children. My Mom was born in 1925 and my Grandparents pulled her out of school to help on the farm. My Mom only had a 6th grade education.
I knew my grandparents from my dad's side very briefly. My grandma was into politics of the time. She payed for my birth at a hospital in El Paso, Texas. They left their hometown for a better life in the city. Which to me, it didn't go as well for my father. My father is not a person with any Ambitions; For himselfnor his children. He never cared to own a house nor his children to go to college. Was against his grandchildren to go to college. Three of my parents grandchildren have college degree. One my brother is paying a Mortgage. I lost my house in 2009. If not we be two owners of homes. My mom's mother never spent much time with my family. My father didn't make her feel welcomed. She did pay for my quincena dress, which was about $50.
Wow! How nice of your grandmother. I can imagine that she would've wanted to spend more time with you. It's too bad she didn't have the opportunity. ❤
@@3TXSisters You are such a positive kind person ❣️ Thank you.
wonderful story
I agree
My grandparents all came from the Lost Generation. Both sides lost young sons: one from Spanish Flu, the other from Meningitis. Hard times indeed. I honour them all.
I love this!!! Thank you
You're so welcome!
Growing up I only had 1 grandmother , the rest had passed , she was the only survivor , all her siblings had died from Polio.
Oh wow. I had an aunt who had polio
That's too bad. ❤
Very interesting!
Glad you think so!
I am almost 58 and one of my Grandfather was born in 1899. He was drafted to WW1 but got the spanish flu and was hospitalized for 6 weeks. And the war was over by the time he was released from the hospital.
I am glad he got healthy
My dad was born in 1908 and my mother in 1911. My maternal grandmother died at age 42 from pneumonia because penicillin had not been invented yet! I am 77.
Oh wow
Such an interesting video!
Glad you think so!
You all have Beautiful stories❣️👀❣️❣️🥹🤔
I don't think anyone had to worry about shopping as a hobby.
"What'd you buy?" Earrings, fingernail polish, and a new dress.
"What'd you really buy? These few stores don't have any of those items." A horse shoe and a sack of feed so that I could make a dress out of it.
"And where'd you get money for the horse shoe and the sack of feed? The sack of feed didn't even exist in the store; we grow our own horse & cattle feed."
On Little House on the Prairie, they got to go to the store, lol.
@leisure057blank3 I never watched Little House on the Prairie. So I don't know how far out in the country they were. Did they get to buy fun things? Did the store have fun things? Did they have money for fun things?
@@HaveWhatBringsMeJoy on the tv show they used to go to the general store for penny candy and the parents sometimes put a doll on lay a way for Xmas. The tv show though is based on a series of books about Laura Ingalls Wilders childhood. I read it in junior high I think. The books cover the family moving from location to location as their current spot became undesirable. I think locusts and like those cicadas appearing this year. You should try and read the books with your grand kids (age?) ot at least see some of the tv show
@@leisure057blank3 Thanks for telling me. Someone else, a couple of weeks ago, on a different channel, recommended these books, also. I can't wait to read them.
@@HaveWhatBringsMeJoy I think that was your channel, lol.
Both my grandfathers. Interesting that many had electricity but indoor plumbing came later. The “modern housewife “ was for rich people. My grandfather, a WW1 vet worked for the WPA and side hustled his mechanical skills, while grandma ran the farm. My great grandma then the oldest daughter watched the kids. EVERYONE worked.
I love your videos!
Thank you
My grandpa was born in Ireland on February 8,1916.
Yes,we have the same birthday.
How fun
Most of my grandparents were born then; my maternal grandmother was born in 1903. They were very poor.
Very interesting. Take care
Thanks, you too!
It seems then that life events toughened them their hardships moulded them to the people they were
Excellent video👏
Thank you! 👍
Church was strict school was strict memorising not taking in consideration for people with disabilitues
My great grandparents were part of the Lost generation. I agree they were a bit stoic. They all had tough lives, (WW1 war vet, orphaned kids, immigrants, famine survivor...). I don't think any of them had more than an 8th grade education, (at least, formally). But it wasn't a shameful thing back then to stop school in 8th grade. Like you said, most people didn't attend high school. My gr. grandparents were homemakers, farmers, postal workers, police, seamstresses, and carpenters. You could do all those things very well without a high school diploma. (And this is why 8th grade graduations are still a thing in the US; it's a throwback to when graduating from 8th grade meant something!). My people settled in the NYC area after leaving Ireland and Germany.
Very interesting. Many did not graduate high school
I grew up in the 80s/90s in canada and our Christmas presents were mostly things we needed too, though we did get some toys. Nothing like today though
It always amazed me that my great grandfather was born before the Wright brothers first flew an airplane and died a few months after the first space shuttle launch. So much history.
For sure
My grandmother, who was born in 1900, told me that a Christmas present for her was an orange. Her father was a farmer and would have had to pay for the orange.
Also, her sister died of Spanish flu in 1918.
This catapulted my grandmother into even more of a caregiver position for her moms other 12 children! My grandmother told me that she made the decision that if she was going to raise children, she would raise her own!
She prepared a plan to meet my grandfather, and the rest is history 😂.
The Amish are done with their schooling at the 8th grade level. Then they work with their dad or mom doing what they do
My Mom's mom, my grandma, was from Norway too. She was a real partier though, not stern or stoic but her Mom sure was. And some of her siblings were. Her brother was a bit wild like her though. Boy could that family drink. I met them once when I was six years old.
lol. Glad they had fun though. Gotta have fun sometimes.
It's interesting that you remember that from meeting them when you were only 6, lol!
hi sister
both of sets of my grandparents are from this generation, they immigrated to America looking for a better life, it was still full of hard back breaking work, I disagree about the medical care, my paternal grandfather died at the age of 32, leaving a widow and 6 children, he died from pneumonia, there was no pencillin. (invented 1928). they had no money to shop, just to buy the basics, they would stand on line the bakery in the morning for a nickel bag of week old bread/cake and sometimes that would have to feed them all for the week.
My grandpa was born in 1898. I’m 58.
My paternal grandmother was born in 1897 or 1896. I remember her as being stern, and she was from Switzerland. She also was a survivor of the Spanish flu. She passed when I was 9-1/2 years old.
Very interesting
On my grandma side we had a full blood Cherokee Chief. He married a white woman and was " kicked off " the Trail of Tears. Documented in a book and notorized. Somewhere there is a picture but the holder of this picture won't let anyone see it. It's on a tin plate and they fade over time
Very interesting
Hmmm....I guess not much changes. We still have wars, viruses and a depression. Sadly, our own governments seem to play a key role in these issues. Our ancestors were too stressed out to spend frivolously. People now spend frivolously to deal with the stress. Reminds me of the orchestra playing music as the Titanic sank.
Grandmom would crichette bags for us another aunt sewed doll clothes and other au tie sewed clothes for us
Is this series similar to the series you did a few years ago, the one about each time period?
How wonderful
One of my great-grandmother's from Germany would not speak a lick of English she didn't like it here and didn't want to be here, and you are not allowed to speak English in your house . I do not remember her much. I have pictures of my great-grandparents and my grandparents when they were younger but that's all I have
Oops world war one. Duh!!!
I tried to write a response to the questions I got but guess I was too long winded and it didn't post sorry I'll try again later.
The signals we send ourselves. Learn what those signals are and you'll soon realize where they aren't. Where they aren't is where your schedule breaks down, your mind goes blank, and you feel at sixes-and-sevens (discombobulated). Train your internal talk to help you.
Women have to learn their own signals so they can work with their own strengths and weaknesses. Many women know how to clean individual things, but they do not know to come up with a cleaning routine that leaves them with a clean, or clean-ish, house all the time. Explore housekeeping methods of the past to find your cleaning style. Mine is a 1920s routine, the hallmark of that is to Clean the entry area first. Internal talk: 'If you cook, you gotta clean; if you clean, you gotta cook.' .
Weird note one: 1950s cleaning style - 'Signal to neighbors that you are available to others by opening your curtains and blinds.' This didn't work for me as I like sunshine right away.
Weird note two: I'm rural. People will come into your house when no one is home. They do it to leave fruits and vegetables on your kitchen table, other gifts might also be left, sometimes hot meals. I used to have a sign up between mudroom and kitchen, 'You have my permission to enter my house if you do a load of laundry.' No kidding, I came home to clean clothes more times than you'd ever think possible. B-u-t ! If I left my blinds and curtains closed, no one came in and no one knocked - weird.
Many women are growing up without the basic knowledge they need to thrive. Victorians and Edwardians had it right, but social engineers and modern society have seen to it that that information was lost to each new generation after it. Youth is known for being promiscuous and Benjamin Franklin was particularly known for being so. When a man desires to have a woman, it's an itch he cannot go without scratching. The woman who became his wife was one such itch. She would see him but not be intimate with him. One day he said, "Should we get married or what?" She replied, "We get married or nothing!" After they were married, and Ben realized that she hadn't be a virgin on their wedding night, he asked her, "If you let him, why wouldn't you let me?" She replied, "Because I learned my lesson and I wasn't that stupid anymore." Sexual desire unfulfilled is the primary reason a man walks down the aisle. I'll end with an old bromide that says: A word to the wise is sufficient. (Ben used this saying in the preface to "Poor Richard Improved.")
if you talk to a priest, if someone marries for lust that marriage is invalid
My great grandmother was born with Erb’s palsy, because she wasn’t perfect her family put her in an orphanage, she never knew her family. My father’s father passed away at 28 with tuberculosis, he was quarantined in a TB hospital. My grandparents never talked about the depression, WWII or anything about their childhood experiences, it wasn’t until I was grown that I found out about the hardships they endured as children.
That sounds so heart breaking