Every week, 125 people in the UK take their own lives. 75% of these people are male. If you're struggling with your mental health, please contact Samaritans on 116 123. If you think a mate might be struggling, reach out to them and encourage a conversation. Let's look out for one another. 💛
its always the people you least expect. i lost one of my close friends to mental health last week. she was only 14. i know exactly how you feel. stay strong roman
Suicide is so hard to talk about, it’s not something anyone wants to talk about let alone the people who have those thoughts. The more people talk the better it gets. The world really needs to tackle this subject because it’s so difficult to bring up. If you do suffer please find help, your mum and dad need to know and then you can talk to your gp or a counsellor or someone who can help you professionally.
As a student of a British secondary school, I have found that mental health is taught to us in this day and age, just not in the right way. It is done in such a patronising, generic and animated way, alienating these issues from our real lives, rather than speaking of them realistically. I think if it was shown in a much more raw and relatable way that brings it home to people like us then the education would be much more beneficial and helpful. I haven't seen Roman's documentary yet but people like him are starting the movement that the curriculum needs so desperately.
I have always felt like, in my school, that is, it's spoken about as it would never happen to any of the students of our school. It's like they are saying it only happens on the television or in öther"places or to öther"people. I could go on but that's a small example from my school.
I’m 14 and the mental health lessons are so bad that kids don’t care about it. It need to be more raw and relatable. Teachers just read off PowerPoints and couldn’t care less
I agree so much , They make caring for yourself and for others a chore and not something that we would ever put at the top of our minds They just coddle the “emos” and the people who cry out when they have problems, they don’t need the push to get there emotions out They know how to do it We don’t, “normal” people, especially males are told to hide there emotions and tell ourselves that it doesn’t matter I certainly don’t feel like I matter in the modern world and I know many people our age feel the same. Maybe this is only me but I’ve been scared many times to come out and say my problems This resulted in me holding it in pushing the people closest to me away and attempting suicide a lot of the time It sort of stopped but I still feel like dying often .
@@fox77badgergaming28 hey, I hope you are getting through your days alright. You matter even though it feels like it doesn't most times. I relate to that and it is a terrible and heavily emotional feeling. I am not trained with these topics but I struggle too and I just wanted you to know I care and am sending all my love.
@@danielpedersen1688 this was a while ago and they’re comment is edited, I can’t tell if they said something messed up I’m pretty sure that wasn’t their original comment though
One of my friends from Uni committed suicide in January, no signs at all that he was struggling - it's the shock of it all that hurts the most, only knowing when it's too late
@@Jon-yx3xc please talk to someone if you are ever feeling low. We all promise it will get get better with time. There is always someone there to lookout for you ❤
The problem I have noticed is that when you feel depressed on a regular basis it becomes very hard to talk to people as you don't want them to worry or become sick and tired of you. Its also such a personal thing, you have to look after yourself and your mental health, you can talk and talk which does help in the short run but in the long term it won't do anything.
If anyone is feeling down and needs a chat, just let me know. We’re all in this together, thankfully I’ve been through these feelings and come out of the other side.
It’s a conversation no one one particularly wants to talk about, but it needs to be done. Huge bravery for young men who open up about their struggles. You’re not alone ❤️
i feel like alot of men including myself wouldnt talk to anyone even our friends about our Mental Health, maybe because its our Ego/ Reputation or maybe because we dont want to upset/ bring down our friends down? we would rather struggle alone and its sad. we need people to talk about this more
My best friend also passed away very unexpectedly in September. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever been through and it’s still so unbelievable. Although my best friend didn’t die from suicide (or coronavirus), I’m looking forward to watching this documentary as I hope it’ll help me realise I’m not alone and the things I’m feeling are normal ❤️
As a mum of a teenage son who suffers with his own mental health, it scares the hell out of me that I can’t protect him from this. But I do my damndest to make him feel he can talk to me about anything and that I will always be there to support him
My best friend commited suicide 4 years ago in June. We started arguing over money and it’s such a stupid thing to be fighting for , we got back talking but it was never the same as we were best mates, and he commited suicide and I couldn’t believe it because I was so stubborn and we’ve cried about this before saying we wud never do that , I feel like I could have done more and I live with that everyday , but at the same time I wasn’t the reason we fell out in the first place still to this day I can’t get over the pain of loosing him . I’ve also lost my dad to suicide at the age of 5. Suicide is a horrible thing to experience even tho I’ve experienced it my whole life it never gets any easier!
I really want to give him the biggest of hugs. Heard of him but not really seen much. This is incredible, huge respect. Such a well articulated, passionate guy.
I personally realised that my "normal" state is the depression and the sporadic changes are the "good days". So I accept that the good stuff is a bonus and bank it but know that I can drop down and that's OK and I can manage this state. We are all human and have feelings, no shame in that. Chin up guys, you're deserving of a beautiful life
This is such a healthy conversation, I'm so proud of this generation for starting it. The kids are gonna be alright if they're raised more open minded.
I lost my best friend 3 years ago and it doesn’t get easier. It took a picture to pop up on social media as a memory from 4 years ago for me to look at the picture deeply and it for the first time made me realise I will never see him again all from mental health. Anyone who’s struggling I beg you talk about it
Bless him ,his parents must be so proud of him. I can remember when my grandson was around 14 started feeling depressed,said he could be in a room of people yet feel lonely. His school helped him a lot his friends looked after him,and the school put him onto a group of people on wotsapp he could ring and chat whatever time. We didnt realise how bad he felt until he told his mum he had a dream he threw himself off a cliff. Breaks my heart just writing this. Hes now nearly 17 a lot better in himself,and I'm so glad he spoke to his parents about it. But such an awful time he felt that way.so thank you for the documentary hopfully it helps you kids to talk about how you feel. Xx
Nothing but respect I cant even begin to imagine what that must be like Roman is a real inspiration for raising awareness for something that affects so many people.
I think schools and workplaces definitely need to do more for mental health. If you vomit, you get sent home, if you have a headache you can take some paracetamol or have a lie down, if you break your arm you go to hospital. Physical health is taken seriously. Yet mental health isn't. I don't know of anyone who genuinely feels like they could call in sick to work because they're having a bad mental health day and it be okay. We need to change the mentality of schools and employers so that people feel like they can take time off to help their mental health, the same as they would with their physical health. I think a lot of young people already feel under pressure when it comes to jobs and work, so the thought of taking a day off when you're not physically ill is not something they want to do. But that added pressure and stress then can easily lead to more serious mental health problems. Something needs to change about the taboo and social stigma about mental health and the workplace.
wrong they need to do LESS. the reason mental health is not taken seriously is because its a cop out that anyone can use now. you can go on sick for 6 months just by saying "i have bad mental health" and no one will question it. people dont want to hear this but its true and ive seen countless people use it as an excuse to get out of things or make life easier for themselves. managers, teachers etc dont take mental health seriously because theyve seen it used an excuse so many times
I get there's people out there to speak to for mental health but it doesn't seem like a lot of people understand that when you are that low in life it feels like the best option at that point. It really is hard to get out of a point like that and when people say its selfish I just wish you would go through a situation that makes you like that for you to understand, it does suck to lose people to mental health but mental health is more complicated than people think, when people say you should always talk to someone yes it might help for some people but it doesn't work for everyone some people cope by not talking and finding something to help deal with what you are going through, I use the gym for example to help with it but its different for everyone I just hope that everyone who is suffering tries to find something to deal with it better but I hope you have a good year and keep up with the good things in your life .
I rarely comment on content. This hits so deep within me. We've all bin through horrid separation from friends colleagues and family during the pandemic. To know people couldn't see a way out when they're at rock bottom is so sad. Thank you @romankemp you made something so terribly sad into a positive.
Lost my mum xmas just gone, she was my best friend not just a great mother. Was depressed before i lost her, now my worlds ended suicidal thoughts are constant on my mind.
So moving to hear Roman's words. To hear him speaking about his own experiences and teaching others ways to cope and check in on friends & family will help so many. Thanks for this clip!
In the height of the “all men are bad” movement, I think I speak on behalf of all men when I say that we really needed someone in our corner for a change. Well done Roman 👏
You know what this is one of the best videos I have ever watched. Hits the nail on the head every single time with every point. The awareness isn’t talked about enough. Fair play to Roman takes some balls to talk about his own problems on camera
Poor Roman. So sad he lost his best friend, he was so young 😔. And Roman is so young to be suffering with depression 😢. I watched this documentary tonight, and it was heartbreaking, so many young men are suffering from mental health issues, and not speaking up. The stigma needs to end now. No matter what age or who you are, never ever be ashamed of admitting you are struggling. Please open up to someone you can trust. It takes alot to admit when we are feeling strong. But it takes so much more to admit when are feeling weak, which makes us even stronger. And that's ok. Please don't suffer in silence. Sending everyone hugs 🤗♥🤗❤.
As guys we tend to bottle our emotions up and say we’re ok, and proceed to help others but never talk about ourselves and that last part needs to change, I’ve not lost anyone to suicide but I’ve felt depressed and suicidal myself, it took me 3 months to even talk to anyone, (at this point I was still living at home) and I was sat downstairs with my mum at 2am telling her how I felt, it was hard but it helped massively, if you are feeling suicidal or depressed please reach out to someone, it will help
The documentary had me balling me eyes out , so heartbreaking yet so common. I have so much respect for Roman for spreading awareness aboud such a distressing topic, there is still such a huge stigma around it partly bc it can be so well hidden . Huge respect, that is a horrible thing to go through.
A conversation about mental health is always an important one, especially between men where I feel its previously been less common. Keep the conversation going lads
I struggle with mental health and I tried to talk to someone I won’t mention who it was but they just said I was a 15-16 and now 17 year old lad I had no need for stress, for anxiety and for depression and I shut myself up after that but listening to this shows me anyone can go through it no matter age, backgrounds etc. Thanks Roman
Roman Kemp is one of the nicest and genuine people, no one should have to go through losing your best friend too early, and I hope he doesn't blame himself because he's doing so much good
16th March 2009 I died 26minutes hypoxia spent weeks months in coma rehab hospital learning talk walk again been a recovery massive discovery never ever give up keep going stay positive stay strong stay safe well done kiddo sending love hugs xxxx
this video is so fucking powerful. I feel like I want everyone to see it. "I want them to be the hero to their friend, that I wasn't to my friend" - made me feel emotional for so many different reasons. But mostly because I am not claiming to know anything about his relationship with his friend at all, but he probably DID help him, more than he will ever know. Proud of the podcast for putting this on a platform. And for letting him talk, like you always do. Appreciate this more than you guys know x
Men on the whole would rather keep their emotions bottled up and worry about bringing their friends down with their own feelings or whatever. What id say to them is look at how much Roman misses his best mate. Trust me, every lad would rather their best mate opens up their emotions to them than be in Roman’s position
The sad irony in all of this is, I never felt depression like the months after my friend took his own life. I have felt sadness in my life, but I never felt a constant deep numbness like I did the months after knowing I let my friend down.
I also tried to take my life the day before my birthday in August last year. Obviously, I survived. For me, whenever I hit a rough patch, my brain always thinks the answer to it all is to make it come to an end. What truly makes it an illness is at least in my case, imagining it out makes you happy. It soothes you, just knowing that you could stop all the hurt and pain in an instant.
I tried to take my own life some 30 years ago (I was about 18)! It’s something that never leaves you & something I don’t believe you ever truly recover from!! I’ve blamed myself & hated myself for everything, there’s just no getting away from it & while people may say that you can speak to them, when you are in this position, you don’t want to approach someone & tell them that you are struggling, you need someone to approach you to ask you how you are & even then you might not be able to open up, as mentioned here, ask twice or more, if you suspect someone is struggling just talk to them, any shit! Just let them know you are there for them & eventually they will open up hopefully! Even now I struggle, broke my back twice in the last 6 years & had to deal with the aftermath of that & other things & I’m back to struggling!! Life can be a lonely place!!
@Andrew Reynolds You are exactly right & then they (medical professionals) wonder why people don’t approach them for help! Their answer tends to be to just get people to pop pills, as if that will solve everything! When the last thing you want to do is have pills around you!! I still struggle daily because of recent events in my life & have dealt with it alone because I simply don’t feel like I can trust anyone, professional or from my supposed friendship circle!! I hate where I am in life but trust is a massive part of who I am & I simply don’t trust anyone! I moved to a new area in July & I’ve not even been in my new doctors surgery let alone met my GP since then but I’m bored of trying to explain to ‘professionals’ what I’m going through!!
Roman spreading the word is really starting the convo that needs to happen. He brings up the chaps in Reading that ask twice “how are you doing?”...this lesson is so important it is being repeated by other high profile people like Harry Styles (in his interview with Zane Lowe). I appreciate deeply how Roman makes it ok to say yes I have been depressed. He is so strong to speak about his own depression. I consider myself a very happy, lucky person but I have felt the crush of depression and tried to take my life. By a miracle I didn’t die. I now believe there is a purpose to my life that I just haven’t been given an direct answer to...so I must continue to live until the mystery is solved. Please everyone take care of yourself. We are all human.
Just finished watching his programme on BBC three a few minutes ago. Fantastic in every way. My brother just told me yesterday how he was suicidal a few months ago. None of us noticed. Spread the message.
Proud of you Roman stay strong stay safe I watched your programme made me cry watching your struggle I get mental health it stinks ditto I have two beautiful nephews who ended their lives keep going kiddo stay strong stay safe sending love from headway Nottingham UK takecare xxxxx
It’s so true what Roman is saying. I’m 19 and I’ve struggled with depression badly since I’ve left school , it HAS to be brought into the curriculum it’s a no brainier
Much kudos to Roman it was a very needed programme and I hope society catches up soon. The sad reality (as I discovered) is the second you turn to a doctor for any help that is indelibly noted on your medical records where future life insurance providers and even some employers will wish to look. In my case I requested sleeping tablets whilst going through a divorce, this would later cause a life insurance provider to refuse me based on what they called subject to depression. Ironically I never took a single sleeping tablet. But it would make me avoid going to a doctor again with anything concerning mental health...because it can and will be used against you and that is both sad and wrong.
I'm sorry for the loss of your bestfriend Roman , I lost my best friend 3 years ago with suicide the cause of mental health as you speak about your best friend so highly of him it's so familiar as I'm the same ! great talk you did thank you and take care .
Thanks, guys for highlighting this, and thank you both for allowing Roman to sit and just speak without interrupting - made his points even more powerful!
As someone who has suffered (and thankfully finally overcome) severe long-term depression, we need to normalise men speaking about mental health like this. I think it’s slowly happening but we can keep doing what we can to reach out to people, especially males, who are silently suffering
Joe looked like he had a great life. Good looking lad, amazing job, living the dream. Just goes to show mental health problems do not discriminate and the mind can fuck anyone over.
I was 18 that time that I struggled mentally. Almost 3 years ago. I thought I could just shrugged it off but as it goes day by day that time, it turned out more painful and heavy like every single day was really gloomy and no hopes at all. I am just so glad that someone enable to recognized my sufferings... The mental anguish I had in school, family, relationship and financially drained my emotional spirit that leads me to do parasuicide... :( It was very tough time battling with myself and I just can't help to still continue thanks those people who helped me out and supported all throughout the process of healing, especially to my family, my mom and to some of my close friends. It is very indeed that having someone who believes in you makes you still keep moving forward little by little. Right now, I am one of so many people who shared the same advocacy. Not giving the best but at least, letting every people I am with feel validated on their feelings and situation and checking them out... It really works! A simple, question of how are you will really create small different to others. After all, I believe that communication is the key about this issue, but it must along with comprehension and empathy. Because having without that two, it won't work effectively then. So to everyone who's dealing with something, know that there are people out there who values youuuu. You can also feel free to ping me via facebook or instagram... You will always have a safe space, I promise. Lastly, thanks to Roman Kemp and all the people behind this bittersweet documentary! Very outstanding!!!
I really don’t know how anyone could dislike this video, amazingly heartfelt and i’m so glad more exposure is being put on mental health issues. If anyone’s struggling just please know that there are people out there to help, whether they are strangers or people close to you. Stay safe and reach out, no matter how big or small you believe the issue to be. It matters and so do you.
Thank you so much. I know someone at school who has Down syndrome and is going through really tough time and I won’t go into details and they might not have even been considering suicide but everyday at school I checked up on them and each day I would get a more detailed response and he came and said thank you for saving me. You guys r incredible thank
I was 11 when my best friend Johno killed himself it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to get through it took me years to even understand it and it’s been 8 nearly 9 years I still can’t get over it I still think about him every day I’d give anything to see him again
I am from just outside Belfast and a young man at 22 who was in the year above me in primary school just took his own life last week. It is one of many over recent years and it gets scarier and scarier every-time that it might be someone close to me soon. And it feels like there is nothing we can do. It is an epidemic and one that is ripping through the young men of society.
RIP Joe. I appreciate Roman talking so openly about this. My best friend is called Joe too, he is autistic like me and we both struggle a lot but we help each other through it and we're very open with each other, but I know a lot of other guys struggle to be that open with their emotions, especially us teenage guys because we're taught not to (my autism causes me to naturally be very honest, so I guess that's an advantage compared to neurotypical guys)
My dad died in late 2018 and straight away my mental health started going down hill. It got mixed in with the grieving process and so missed in a way. It wasn’t until mid 2019 when I wanted to take my own life that I seeked help and was diagnosed with mental health issues and depression. I started taking medication daily and it has helped. All I ask is if anyone’s struggling, lost a close friend or loved on seek help ASAP. it’s ok not to be ok.
Thank you for this I lost my befriend friend to a freak accident in 2018 and I have been in the worst place since then made some of the worst mistakes and tried to end it several times.... It does take a bigger person and some I definitely look up to to come out and talk about it!!! I still struggle but it helps when someone talks about it!
I’m 19 and I lost 2 of my mates last year , 2020 was the hardest year of my life it consumes you unless you go out and keep yourself busy during the day time , this was very hard in lockdown and as soon as my head hits the pillow I cannot sleep , I pray to god this year is better, look out for your brothers no matter what age , lifestyle , culture you are in ppl struggle ♥️
@@theobriggs5862 I'm doing ok mate just some days i feel like fuck it, but im going strong but sometimes it just takes that tick in your mind to just say aight I'm done. But thankyou for asking man means alot Here is article about my brother if you wanna read more. www.google.com/amp/s/www.essexlive.news/news/essex-news/special-words-family-friends-after-4427171.amp
Lots of love to you and your family George 💛 I can’t imagine the pain you are all going through losing a sibling. I lost my best friend in 2017 similarly and what I’ve learnt from it, after all the anger and sadness, is to live for them, experience everything they had always wanted to xxx
I’ll never forget the day one of my schoolmates took his own life, and the teachers were telling us to try and keep the routine and get on with the day to distract us. But we shouldn’t be distracted by it we should be talking about it and letting out our emotions, I never thought about it until now and it upsets me that nothing changed about it.
Roman - i am not gonna lie that documentary was a hard watch BUT it was needed especially for males that are struggling. We run a Mental health awareness Football Club in Birmingham and you have inspired many of our lads me included. Stand tall and stand proud, Your friend will be with you every step of the way. Happy hour podcast brilliant content as always.
ANYBODY WHO IS STRUGGLING..There is honestly so much hate and negativity when your constantly on the Internet or listening to the news, but just look around you and you can see why life is worth living, you get one chance at this IMO please don't waste it no matter what you do or what goes wrong, there is help out there, please seek it if your struggling. I've been at the lowest points and now I'm on my way to the highest, never give up. Sending my love to all those who have lost loved ones.
I have never looked at mental health this way before I think stuff like this should really be implemented into school curriculums and brought up more. Great message Roman!
Could connect with this so much. 5 years ago in January I lost my best friend, also called Joe. Roman has such a great way with words, brilliant interview.
I remember listening on the radio as this was going on. The radio went silent for an hour. The next couple of days were so sad and hard to listen to as they explained what had happened and tried to remain positive despite the horrendous circumstances, but it was also so important. I'll tune in to this tomorrow night.
Every week, 125 people in the UK take their own lives. 75% of these people are male.
If you're struggling with your mental health, please contact Samaritans on 116 123.
If you think a mate might be struggling, reach out to them and encourage a conversation.
Let's look out for one another. 💛
😞 we must do more to look out for our close ones.
its always the people you least expect. i lost one of my close friends to mental health last week. she was only 14. i know exactly how you feel. stay strong roman
@@keira2604 OMG hope you’re ok
Suicide is so hard to talk about, it’s not something anyone wants to talk about let alone the people who have those thoughts. The more people talk the better it gets. The world really needs to tackle this subject because it’s so difficult to bring up. If you do suffer please find help, your mum and dad need to know and then you can talk to your gp or a counsellor or someone who can help you professionally.
Woman think they got it hard feminists are so dumb smh
The asking ‘are you alright?’ twice is such a great idea and everyone should do this
what else do you say there?
It wouldn't help me
I do this to everyone and it always helps
@@dylanb.117 why buddy what’s up? Please talk to someone if you feel you need to. I don’t know you but hope you’re okay.
@@dylanb.117 hope you are ok buddy, the world can be a shitty place sometimes but there is good people willing to help, just need to ask for it.
As a student of a British secondary school, I have found that mental health is taught to us in this day and age, just not in the right way. It is done in such a patronising, generic and animated way, alienating these issues from our real lives, rather than speaking of them realistically. I think if it was shown in a much more raw and relatable way that brings it home to people like us then the education would be much more beneficial and helpful. I haven't seen Roman's documentary yet but people like him are starting the movement that the curriculum needs so desperately.
I have always felt like, in my school, that is, it's spoken about as it would never happen to any of the students of our school. It's like they are saying it only happens on the television or in öther"places or to öther"people. I could go on but that's a small example from my school.
Ay men
I don’t believe like a quick 20 mins chat about helps at all
I’m 14 and the mental health lessons are so bad that kids don’t care about it. It need to be more raw and relatable. Teachers just read off PowerPoints and couldn’t care less
I agree so much ,
They make caring for yourself and for others a chore and not something that we would ever put at the top of our minds
They just coddle the “emos” and the people who cry out when they have problems, they don’t need the push to get there emotions out
They know how to do it
We don’t, “normal” people, especially males are told to hide there emotions and tell ourselves that it doesn’t matter
I certainly don’t feel like I matter in the modern world and I know many people our age feel the same. Maybe this is only me but I’ve been scared many times to come out and say my problems
This resulted in me holding it in pushing the people closest to me away and attempting suicide a lot of the time
It sort of stopped but I still feel like dying often .
@@fox77badgergaming28 hey, I hope you are getting through your days alright. You matter even though it feels like it doesn't most times. I relate to that and it is a terrible and heavily emotional feeling. I am not trained with these topics but I struggle too and I just wanted you to know I care and am sending all my love.
Feel so bad for him, you can clearly see how it’s effecting him
That trim is peng 😍
@@probro1116 stfu bro leave respects, not the vid for stuff like that
@@exelfuze7388 come one since when is it wrong to compliment someone's haircut i like his hair to be honest i think it's cool!!
@@danielpedersen1688 this was a while ago and they’re comment is edited, I can’t tell if they said something messed up I’m pretty sure that wasn’t their original comment though
Really hard subject to talk about, huge respect. I agree that mental health/resilience should be taught from a young age to break that stigma.
It’s great that he’s decided to make a documentary about mental health.
R.I.P Joe
Can’t imagine losing my best friend and knowing that I could have helped
One of my friends from Uni committed suicide in January, no signs at all that he was struggling - it's the shock of it all that hurts the most, only knowing when it's too late
@@lewismitchell4719 sorry to hear about that mate hope you're doing alright now rest in peace to your mate, stay strong brother ❤️
@@lewismitchell4719 that hits hard stay strong man
@@yeahyeah3316 thank you mate, I appreciate your kind words
@@aaronshone30 cheers bro
I’m really struggling rn, we’ve all got to stick together and get each other through
❤️❤️❤️
Hope you find your happiness. Stay strong dude 😊🙏
Hope your ok mate👌💙
Really appreciate you guys taking the time to message ♥️ it’s been a particularly rough day so seeing this video is really resonating - take care
@@Jon-yx3xc please talk to someone if you are ever feeling low. We all promise it will get get better with time. There is always someone there to lookout for you ❤
How can you dislike this.
exactly what I was thinking
@William Norman he means as in how could anyone dislike this
69 likes noice
probably people that this sort of thing has affected them and they aren't dealing with it properly more angry then understanding
Easily. Hold on I’ll downvote rn
The problem I have noticed is that when you feel depressed on a regular basis it becomes very hard to talk to people as you don't want them to worry or become sick and tired of you. Its also such a personal thing, you have to look after yourself and your mental health, you can talk and talk which does help in the short run but in the long term it won't do anything.
Exactly.
All the best bro. I can 100% relate.
The way you improve your mental health, is to remove all things toxic in your life,
If anyone is feeling down and needs a chat, just let me know. We’re all in this together, thankfully I’ve been through these feelings and come out of the other side.
Asking him how he is after talking about a tough subject was genuinely the best follow up question u could’ve asked. Class
Hopefully the film saves so many lives
It’s a conversation no one one particularly wants to talk about, but it needs to be done. Huge bravery for young men who open up about their struggles. You’re not alone ❤️
I agree it's a hard conversation, 'cause slot of people have lost someone to mental health and suicide and the loss is particularly painful
he seems like such a lovely guy. good for him turning something so traumatic into something that will help people
i feel like alot of men including myself wouldnt talk to anyone even our friends about our Mental Health, maybe because its our Ego/ Reputation or maybe because we dont want to upset/ bring down our friends down?
we would rather struggle alone and its sad. we need people to talk about this more
Our country needs lessons in school which deal with outside life like how to pay rent, taxes, if you are struggling with mental health etc.
@@adamp7266 100% agree not on how to find the area of a triangle but how to help people who are struggling
Its all starts with "boys don't cry"
@@michaelsmyth5877 ikr, we are tort from a young age that men are tough, they don’t cry and you don’t open up about how you feel
In my experience people look down on you. I opened up once and my mom told me to shut up and get over it 😂. Never again
My best friend also passed away very unexpectedly in September. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever been through and it’s still so unbelievable. Although my best friend didn’t die from suicide (or coronavirus), I’m looking forward to watching this documentary as I hope it’ll help me realise I’m not alone and the things I’m feeling are normal ❤️
Sorry to hear about that 😞 🙏
Your not alone, its absolutely sucks 💔
@@bradleesmarvelstudios6694 thank you xx
@@michaelsmyth5877 ❤️
@@beckreynolds no problem I had the same thing but a miscarriage. My sister. Hardest thing is losing people you love. I know how you feel. ❤😭
As a mum of a teenage son who suffers with his own mental health, it scares the hell out of me that I can’t protect him from this. But I do my damndest to make him feel he can talk to me about anything and that I will always be there to support him
My best friend commited suicide 4 years ago in June. We started arguing over money and it’s such a stupid thing to be fighting for , we got back talking but it was never the same as we were best mates, and he commited suicide and I couldn’t believe it because I was so stubborn and we’ve cried about this before saying we wud never do that , I feel like I could have done more and I live with that everyday , but at the same time I wasn’t the reason we fell out in the first place still to this day I can’t get over the pain of loosing him . I’ve also lost my dad to suicide at the age of 5. Suicide is a horrible thing to experience even tho I’ve experienced it my whole life it never gets any easier!
Sending love to you Shane. Stay strong mate.
Lots of love to you Shane 💛 you have to continue to live for them x
Aww bless you
@@bomanclackhanger don’t say aww bless you it’s kinda annoying tbh
I’m so very sorry for your loss. Lost my nephew 2years ago..he had just turned 30.
I really want to give him the biggest of hugs. Heard of him but not really seen much. This is incredible, huge respect. Such a well articulated, passionate guy.
I personally realised that my "normal" state is the depression and the sporadic changes are the "good days". So I accept that the good stuff is a bonus and bank it but know that I can drop down and that's OK and I can manage this state.
We are all human and have feelings, no shame in that. Chin up guys, you're deserving of a beautiful life
This is such a healthy conversation, I'm so proud of this generation for starting it. The kids are gonna be alright if they're raised more open minded.
Thank you roman for being so open about your mental health. it’s really the people we least expect to be hurting the most
I lost my best friend 3 years ago and it doesn’t get easier. It took a picture to pop up on social media as a memory from 4 years ago for me to look at the picture deeply and it for the first time made me realise I will never see him again all from mental health. Anyone who’s struggling I beg you talk about it
Bless him ,his parents must be so proud of him.
I can remember when my grandson was around 14 started feeling depressed,said he could be in a room of people yet feel lonely. His school helped him a lot his friends looked after him,and the school put him onto a group of people on wotsapp he could ring and chat whatever time. We didnt realise how bad he felt until he told his mum he had a dream he threw himself off a cliff. Breaks my heart just writing this. Hes now nearly 17 a lot better in himself,and I'm so glad he spoke to his parents about it. But such an awful time he felt that way.so thank you for the documentary hopfully it helps you kids to talk about how you feel. Xx
This was a great podcast, he seems like a really nice lad
Nothing but respect I cant even begin to imagine what that must be like Roman is a real inspiration for raising awareness for something that affects so many people.
I think schools and workplaces definitely need to do more for mental health. If you vomit, you get sent home, if you have a headache you can take some paracetamol or have a lie down, if you break your arm you go to hospital. Physical health is taken seriously. Yet mental health isn't. I don't know of anyone who genuinely feels like they could call in sick to work because they're having a bad mental health day and it be okay. We need to change the mentality of schools and employers so that people feel like they can take time off to help their mental health, the same as they would with their physical health. I think a lot of young people already feel under pressure when it comes to jobs and work, so the thought of taking a day off when you're not physically ill is not something they want to do. But that added pressure and stress then can easily lead to more serious mental health problems. Something needs to change about the taboo and social stigma about mental health and the workplace.
Well said Becky x
wrong they need to do LESS. the reason mental health is not taken seriously is because its a cop out that anyone can use now. you can go on sick for 6 months just by saying "i have bad mental health" and no one will question it. people dont want to hear this but its true and ive seen countless people use it as an excuse to get out of things or make life easier for themselves. managers, teachers etc dont take mental health seriously because theyve seen it used an excuse so many times
@@CitrusMenace shut up. You don’t have a clue.
I think employers wouldn’t want to do this because unfortunately people would take advantage of it
I get there's people out there to speak to for mental health but it doesn't seem like a lot of people understand that when you are that low in life it feels like the best option at that point. It really is hard to get out of a point like that and when people say its selfish I just wish you would go through a situation that makes you like that for you to understand, it does suck to lose people to mental health but mental health is more complicated than people think, when people say you should always talk to someone yes it might help for some people but it doesn't work for everyone some people cope by not talking and finding something to help deal with what you are going through, I use the gym for example to help with it but its different for everyone I just hope that everyone who is suffering tries to find something to deal with it better but I hope you have a good year and keep up with the good things in your life .
so true. worst thing ever when people just say oooh no dont kill yourself like oh okay, sure!
Mad respect for Roman, so sorry for his loss, he's a brave man to talk about it.
I want people to be the hero that I wasn’t to my friend. Wow that hit hard
I rarely comment on content. This hits so deep within me. We've all bin through horrid separation from friends colleagues and family during the pandemic. To know people couldn't see a way out when they're at rock bottom is so sad. Thank you @romankemp you made something so terribly sad into a positive.
Lost my mum xmas just gone, she was my best friend not just a great mother.
Was depressed before i lost her, now my worlds ended suicidal thoughts are constant on my mind.
Stay strong mate, you’ve got this ❤️
hang in there it gets easier
Thank you, i really am trying.
So moving to hear Roman's words. To hear him speaking about his own experiences and teaching others ways to cope and check in on friends & family will help so many. Thanks for this clip!
In the height of the “all men are bad” movement, I think I speak on behalf of all men when I say that we really needed someone in our corner for a change. Well done Roman 👏
It really fucking is nice to hear.
My uncle took his life a few years ago. Massive respect to anybody speaking out & sharing their experiences. Credit to Roman I hope he’s good
I hope Roman finds peace in helping others. Top guy 💪🏻
You know what this is one of the best videos I have ever watched. Hits the nail on the head every single time with every point. The awareness isn’t talked about enough. Fair play to Roman takes some balls to talk about his own problems on camera
Roman Kemp you absolute donny, love you man, keep spreading the word x
Poor Roman. So sad he lost his best friend, he was so young 😔. And Roman is so young to be suffering with depression 😢. I watched this documentary tonight, and it was heartbreaking, so many young men are suffering from mental health issues, and not speaking up. The stigma needs to end now. No matter what age or who you are, never ever be ashamed of admitting you are struggling. Please open up to someone you can trust. It takes alot to admit when we are feeling strong. But it takes so much more to admit when are feeling weak, which makes us even stronger. And that's ok. Please don't suffer in silence. Sending everyone hugs 🤗♥🤗❤.
As guys we tend to bottle our emotions up and say we’re ok, and proceed to help others but never talk about ourselves and that last part needs to change, I’ve not lost anyone to suicide but I’ve felt depressed and suicidal myself, it took me 3 months to even talk to anyone, (at this point I was still living at home) and I was sat downstairs with my mum at 2am telling her how I felt, it was hard but it helped massively, if you are feeling suicidal or depressed please reach out to someone, it will help
The documentary had me balling me eyes out , so heartbreaking yet so common. I have so much respect for Roman for spreading awareness aboud such a distressing topic, there is still such a huge stigma around it partly bc it can be so well hidden . Huge respect, that is a horrible thing to go through.
thia video needs more views. So many people are going through a tough time right now and it's important that we all look out for and help eachother.
I love that this is being talked about on your podcast. I think it will help others
A conversation about mental health is always an important one, especially between men where I feel its previously been less common. Keep the conversation going lads
So so important to talk more about this, and incredible words from Roman. Very brave, massive respect.
I struggle with mental health and I tried to talk to someone I won’t mention who it was but they just said I was a 15-16 and now 17 year old lad I had no need for stress, for anxiety and for depression and I shut myself up after that but listening to this shows me anyone can go through it no matter age, backgrounds etc. Thanks Roman
Watched Roman’s doc tonight and I lost my best friend in the same way in 2017, thank you so much for this 💛
Roman Kemp is one of the nicest and genuine people, no one should have to go through losing your best friend too early, and I hope he doesn't blame himself because he's doing so much good
16th March 2009 I died 26minutes hypoxia spent weeks months in coma rehab hospital learning talk walk again been a recovery massive discovery never ever give up keep going stay positive stay strong stay safe well done kiddo sending love hugs xxxx
this video is so fucking powerful. I feel like I want everyone to see it. "I want them to be the hero to their friend, that I wasn't to my friend" - made me feel emotional for so many different reasons. But mostly because I am not claiming to know anything about his relationship with his friend at all, but he probably DID help him, more than he will ever know. Proud of the podcast for putting this on a platform. And for letting him talk, like you always do. Appreciate this more than you guys know x
Roman Kemp is such a genuinely amazing person, huge respect for all hes doing
Roman if you are reading this thank you so much for this
Men on the whole would rather keep their emotions bottled up and worry about bringing their friends down with their own feelings or whatever. What id say to them is look at how much Roman misses his best mate. Trust me, every lad would rather their best mate opens up their emotions to them than be in Roman’s position
The sad irony in all of this is, I never felt depression like the months after my friend took his own life.
I have felt sadness in my life, but I never felt a constant deep numbness like I did the months after knowing I let my friend down.
I also tried to take my life the day before my birthday in August last year. Obviously, I survived. For me, whenever I hit a rough patch, my brain always thinks the answer to it all is to make it come to an end. What truly makes it an illness is at least in my case, imagining it out makes you happy. It soothes you, just knowing that you could stop all the hurt and pain in an instant.
Hope you're doing ok and allowing others to help, doing your best is good enough..take care of yourself ❤️
I tried to take my own life some 30 years ago (I was about 18)! It’s something that never leaves you & something I don’t believe you ever truly recover from!!
I’ve blamed myself & hated myself for everything, there’s just no getting away from it & while people may say that you can speak to them, when you are in this position, you don’t want to approach someone & tell them that you are struggling, you need someone to approach you to ask you how you are & even then you might not be able to open up, as mentioned here, ask twice or more, if you suspect someone is struggling just talk to them, any shit! Just let them know you are there for them & eventually they will open up hopefully!
Even now I struggle, broke my back twice in the last 6 years & had to deal with the aftermath of that & other things & I’m back to struggling!!
Life can be a lonely place!!
@Andrew Reynolds You are exactly right & then they (medical professionals) wonder why people don’t approach them for help! Their answer tends to be to just get people to pop pills, as if that will solve everything! When the last thing you want to do is have pills around you!!
I still struggle daily because of recent events in my life & have dealt with it alone because I simply don’t feel like I can trust anyone, professional or from my supposed friendship circle!!
I hate where I am in life but trust is a massive part of who I am & I simply don’t trust anyone! I moved to a new area in July & I’ve not even been in my new doctors surgery let alone met my GP since then but I’m bored of trying to explain to ‘professionals’ what I’m going through!!
@Andrew Reynolds How are you doing now?
Roman spreading the word is really starting the convo that needs to happen. He brings up the chaps in Reading that ask twice “how are you doing?”...this lesson is so important it is being repeated by other high profile people like Harry Styles (in his interview with Zane Lowe). I appreciate deeply how Roman makes it ok to say yes I have been depressed. He is so strong to speak about his own depression. I consider myself a very happy, lucky person but I have felt the crush of depression and tried to take my life. By a miracle I didn’t die. I now believe there is a purpose to my life that I just haven’t been given an direct answer to...so I must continue to live until the mystery is solved. Please everyone take care of yourself. We are all human.
I lost my mum to mental health at the age of 12. Nice to see someone talking about it
Just finished watching his programme on BBC three a few minutes ago. Fantastic in every way. My brother just told me yesterday how he was suicidal a few months ago. None of us noticed. Spread the message.
Proud of you Roman stay strong stay safe I watched your programme made me cry watching your struggle I get mental health it stinks ditto I have two beautiful nephews who ended their lives keep going kiddo stay strong stay safe sending love from headway Nottingham UK takecare xxxxx
It’s so true what Roman is saying. I’m 19 and I’ve struggled with depression badly since I’ve left school , it HAS to be brought into the curriculum it’s a no brainier
Much kudos to Roman it was a very needed programme and I hope society catches up soon. The sad reality (as I discovered) is the second you turn to a doctor for any help that is indelibly noted on your medical records where future life insurance providers and even some employers will wish to look. In my case I requested sleeping tablets whilst going through a divorce, this would later cause a life insurance provider to refuse me based on what they called subject to depression. Ironically I never took a single sleeping tablet. But it would make me avoid going to a doctor again with anything concerning mental health...because it can and will be used against you and that is both sad and wrong.
I'm sorry for the loss of your bestfriend Roman , I lost my best friend 3 years ago with suicide the cause of mental health as you speak about your best friend so highly of him it's so familiar as I'm the same ! great talk you did thank you and take care .
Thanks, guys for highlighting this, and thank you both for allowing Roman to sit and just speak without interrupting - made his points even more powerful!
As someone who has suffered (and thankfully finally overcome) severe long-term depression, we need to normalise men speaking about mental health like this. I think it’s slowly happening but we can keep doing what we can to reach out to people, especially males, who are silently suffering
Joe looked like he had a great life. Good looking lad, amazing job, living the dream. Just goes to show mental health problems do not discriminate and the mind can fuck anyone over.
I was 18 that time that I struggled mentally. Almost 3 years ago. I thought I could just shrugged it off but as it goes day by day that time, it turned out more painful and heavy like every single day was really gloomy and no hopes at all. I am just so glad that someone enable to recognized my sufferings... The mental anguish I had in school, family, relationship and financially drained my emotional spirit that leads me to do parasuicide... :( It was very tough time battling with myself and I just can't help to still continue thanks those people who helped me out and supported all throughout the process of healing, especially to my family, my mom and to some of my close friends. It is very indeed that having someone who believes in you makes you still keep moving forward little by little.
Right now, I am one of so many people who shared the same advocacy. Not giving the best but at least, letting every people I am with feel validated on their feelings and situation and checking them out... It really works! A simple, question of how are you will really create small different to others. After all, I believe that communication is the key about this issue, but it must along with comprehension and empathy. Because having without that two, it won't work effectively then.
So to everyone who's dealing with something, know that there are people out there who values youuuu. You can also feel free to ping me via facebook or instagram... You will always have a safe space, I promise.
Lastly, thanks to Roman Kemp and all the people behind this bittersweet documentary! Very outstanding!!!
I really don’t know how anyone could dislike this video, amazingly heartfelt and i’m so glad more exposure is being put on mental health issues. If anyone’s struggling just please know that there are people out there to help, whether they are strangers or people close to you. Stay safe and reach out, no matter how big or small you believe the issue to be. It matters and so do you.
My respect for this man keeps growing
R.I.P Joe 👑🙌🏻
poor roman :( hes so lovely and he struggled so much losing his bestfriend, rip.
Thank you so much. I know someone at school who has Down syndrome and is going through really tough time and I won’t go into details and they might not have even been considering suicide but everyday at school I checked up on them and each day I would get a more detailed response and he came and said thank you for saving me. You guys r incredible thank
I was 11 when my best friend Johno killed himself it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to get through it took me years to even understand it and it’s been 8 nearly 9 years I still can’t get over it I still think about him every day I’d give anything to see him again
I am from just outside Belfast and a young man at 22 who was in the year above me in primary school just took his own life last week. It is one of many over recent years and it gets scarier and scarier every-time that it might be someone close to me soon. And it feels like there is nothing we can do. It is an epidemic and one that is ripping through the young men of society.
RIP Joe. I appreciate Roman talking so openly about this. My best friend is called Joe too, he is autistic like me and we both struggle a lot but we help each other through it and we're very open with each other, but I know a lot of other guys struggle to be that open with their emotions, especially us teenage guys because we're taught not to (my autism causes me to naturally be very honest, so I guess that's an advantage compared to neurotypical guys)
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I just watched the full documentary, and it was truly powerful.
Hats off to Roman this was so hard to talk about you can hear it in his voice
My dad died in late 2018 and straight away my mental health started going down hill. It got mixed in with the grieving process and so missed in a way. It wasn’t until mid 2019 when I wanted to take my own life that I seeked help and was diagnosed with mental health issues and depression. I started taking medication daily and it has helped. All I ask is if anyone’s struggling, lost a close friend or loved on seek help ASAP. it’s ok not to be ok.
He’s so amazing!
May this be the start of a new chapter around mental health. I fully back what he's saying and im glad that he's speaking out on it
This is such a powerful piece of work and is spot on great guest guys
Absolutely brilliantly put, great man👍🏼
Thank you for this I lost my befriend friend to a freak accident in 2018 and I have been in the worst place since then made some of the worst mistakes and tried to end it several times.... It does take a bigger person and some I definitely look up to to come out and talk about it!!! I still struggle but it helps when someone talks about it!
I’m 19 and I lost 2 of my mates last year , 2020 was the hardest year of my life it consumes you unless you go out and keep yourself busy during the day time , this was very hard in lockdown and as soon as my head hits the pillow I cannot sleep , I pray to god this year is better, look out for your brothers no matter what age , lifestyle , culture you are in ppl struggle ♥️
Well said. Had a mate who lost his mother on Christmas Day, tough topic to talk about.
Hope your mates doing well ❤️
Who tf is disliking this. Do you wanna talk about it?
Most likely just bots surely in
My little brother took his life in August last year he was 21 years old, he was the 3rd out of his friends.
Hope you’re alright mate
@@theobriggs5862 I'm doing ok mate just some days i feel like fuck it, but im going strong but sometimes it just takes that tick in your mind to just say aight I'm done. But thankyou for asking man means alot
Here is article about my brother if you wanna read more.
www.google.com/amp/s/www.essexlive.news/news/essex-news/special-words-family-friends-after-4427171.amp
Lots of love to you and your family George 💛 I can’t imagine the pain you are all going through losing a sibling. I lost my best friend in 2017 similarly and what I’ve learnt from it, after all the anger and sadness, is to live for them, experience everything they had always wanted to xxx
That’s so tough . 😞 Hang in there take every day as it comes. Thinking of your brother .
absolutely love roman and am so grateful that this is finally being talked about ❤️
I’ll never forget the day one of my schoolmates took his own life, and the teachers were telling us to try and keep the routine and get on with the day to distract us. But we shouldn’t be distracted by it we should be talking about it and letting out our emotions, I never thought about it until now and it upsets me that nothing changed about it.
Roman - i am not gonna lie that documentary was a hard watch BUT it was needed especially for males that are struggling. We run a Mental health awareness Football Club in Birmingham and you have inspired many of our lads me included. Stand tall and stand proud, Your friend will be with you every step of the way. Happy hour podcast brilliant content as always.
Really difficult subject but I’m so glad it’s being spoken about more often and taken seriously. RIP to your mate
ANYBODY WHO IS STRUGGLING..There is honestly so much hate and negativity when your constantly on the Internet or listening to the news, but just look around you and you can see why life is worth living, you get one chance at this IMO please don't waste it no matter what you do or what goes wrong, there is help out there, please seek it if your struggling. I've been at the lowest points and now I'm on my way to the highest, never give up. Sending my love to all those who have lost loved ones.
I have never looked at mental health this way before I think stuff like this should really be implemented into school curriculums and brought up more. Great message Roman!
Fully respect this as a lad from a working class town who has a lost too many of my mates to mental health❤️
Could connect with this so much. 5 years ago in January I lost my best friend, also called Joe. Roman has such a great way with words, brilliant interview.
I feel this man's pain. Keep strong!
I really respect Roman for speaking about this
I remember listening on the radio as this was going on. The radio went silent for an hour. The next couple of days were so sad and hard to listen to as they explained what had happened and tried to remain positive despite the horrendous circumstances, but it was also so important. I'll tune in to this tomorrow night.
Dont suffer in silence if struggling speak out it's ok to be not ok it's mental health your the winner stay strong stay safe x