Said it once, and I will say it again. A man who can stay as positive as this, is more precious than most of the 'regular' people around nowadays. Hats of to you, mister Lancaster
@@irenemorley75 Him saying Fucking helps drive the point home. Is this your first day on the internet? Calling people out on language on the internet when the intent is wholesome is so stupid.
This guy's story makes me cry. I just became a father and can't imagine that I'd ever leave a little, innocent child. I feel so bad for him and I am so glad that he turned out the way he did. What a hero.
I think giving him up was the best thing that happened to him - he found a love in his mother that few people in this life ever come close to. She was the perfect person to bring this man up and she put the heart of a lion in this man - to go through so much and come out the other side with such character is a testament to his mother imo.
I worked as a nurse in the 70s in the NHS . Parents with a child born with birth defects were told to leave the baby behind, go home, and forget them . Most I saw had spina bifida, which wasn't understood. It is caused by a lack of vitamin B12 . I remember one young mother coming back to the children's ward wanting to see her baby . It was heartbreaking because she was told to forget your baby. As a nurse, these little babies needed extra care, took longer to feed, and as I was feeding a bottle to a little baby, the Dr made some remark . I said they're beautiful, and he replied they're monsters. One day, all the little ones about 6 om the ward i was wirking on were transferred to an orphanage in another part of uk . When I learned years later of the abuse those children often suffered, I remember that young mum who wanted to bring her baby home but did what she was told by so-called professionals. Of course, most Dr's are kind, but not all are, nor are all nurses either .
Did what she was told? She could have taken home the baby if she wanted to. But the fear of not obeying "professionals" was stronger than the love for her baby. And the reason for them to tell parents to leave their baby behind is so they can be sent to orphanages to be s.3.xually abused. No surprise there. Most doctors are not kind. Most of them are more or less cold. As for nurses, most of them are NPC's. Mindless drones.
this is so important for people to remember. Not all medical professionals are good people unfortunately, and some can in fact be downright cruel. Just out of curiosity, did you see many thalidomide babies? My grandmother was offered to take it when she was pregnant with my mum for morning sickness but didn't want to be taking medication during her pregnancy, thank god! So many of those children were abandoned as well.
I read somewhere that "anger is like holding a piece of hot coal with the intent at throwing it; you're the one that gets burned" and it stuck with me and helped me accept my family
It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I've been in therapy for PTSD and alcohol counseling for awhile and we use that analogy a lot.
@@bradshannon862 : Your strength is palpable, Brad. I'm glad you're not giving up on you, even though I don't know you. Just based on your bravery alone, I can (unfortunately) only offer you this: 🏆(But the sentiment is pure.)
Wonderful interview! My uncle has Treacher Collin's syndrome. He is a wonderfully brilliant man. Went on to become a professor at University of Florida (JUST retired). He is happily married and has 2 children. He has never been interested in sharing his story, but I have always wanted other people with this syndrome to hear it- especially the young ones. He was born in the 1940's and my grandma was told to abandon him at birth- she couldn't. Juno, thank you for this interview.
Jono! You are a beautiful, thoughtful, introspective man. I have friends who had a baby with many congenital problems. The doctors said the child would not live past 6 months to one year, and they advised just to take the baby home and let him die naturally. The parents asked if there was anything that could be done for their baby. Well, yes, they could do a heart operation, but it would only extend his life by maybe half a year. It would be expensive. The parents decided to do the operation. Many more followed. Their baby made it to 4 years old and more operations would need to be done. The parents sold their house, and changed professions to pay for the operations. They did fund raisers, they did marathons. Their son is now 22, will graduate university next year. His parents spoke at my church and said they believed God sent them that child specifically, and that despite huge medical expenses, they would not trade him for anything. Your message is so needed. Every life is of value, and needs a word of genuine kindness. I’m so glad I got to see this video interview and meet you electronically. You’re a boost to my day!
Thank you for letting us into your life and meeting you. Listening to you talking naturally about your condition has really helped me and I guess everyone else with and without having a genetic condition. I saw myself different, I couldn't do what they did... It was very hard. Thank you for setting standards for us, raising awareness of what it is like.
I would love to shake this man’s hand. I couldn’t imagine the foolishness of giving up on such a great child. He obviously grew up to be a great individual. I’m blessed to have two young healthy children that are perfectly healthy so far, which I’m very grateful for, but I couldn’t ever imagine loving them less if we weren’t as fortunate. I showed physical and mental development issues when I was about 2 years old, I was tested over and over, doctors couldn’t exactly say why I was developing slower, but they made many predictions about what I couldn’t do when I was older, none of those things came true, some instances the opposite happened. My parents never accepted anything but the best from me in education, sports and personality. It boils my blood to see adults diminish or try to limit a kids potential, there’s no telling what kids are possible regardless of any misfortunes they may have. God bless this man, and the example he sets.
No parent should abandon their child just because they may look different. They are your flesh and blood!! 😞😞 and the fact he got bullied for looking different just shows we still live in a cruel world, where people think they’re better than everyone else, because they look “normal” as they’d say. It boils my blood how you can tear someone down for something they can’t change knowing it won’t affect you. I have no sympathy for bullies. Big respect to this guy and his positivity 🙌🏼❤
It breaks my heart too, but I also have sadly experienced abûse ( have to censor the word just in case) some parents are “better” leaving then potentially hurting them even more. In no way shape or form am I saying they shouldn’t abandon or it’s good or ones harder than the other but sometimes the things you least expect are the best things. That’s the sad reality. If it was a perfect world I would love for people to accept people, stay a family and not turn to abûse. Sorry for replying randomly and a year later but I felt like adding some extra input 😊
Rejection and abandonment are such hard emotions to over come. It’s so awesome Johno that your kindness roses above and it really shows. Lots of people experience rejection and abandonment to the point it turns into borderline personality disorder. You are a legend and your mind is really powerful. I love the charity that you started. Seriously well done
I'm an intersex person from Tennessee who changed the doctors call once I reached adulthood. I understand the bullying. Always someone who thinks their might makes it right to judge for whatever reason. Regular people have a lot of misconceptions about what its like to walk harder roads being born different. "We don't like looking at you or you shouldn't exist, go away." Children may ask questions but they learn cruelty, mean spiritedness and hate from their parents. His parents were probably one of those parents. Keep shining your light brother.
What a beautiful gentle man. I feel really sad for your birth parents that they missed out having a son like you. You should be so proud of the man you have become
Dear Jono, I almost never leave comments, but this is so inspiring to me that I can’t leave this page without sharing. Your story touches me deeply and has so many teachings in huge ways. Deep respect for all the work you’ve done and sharing this to the world in such a relax way. Makes me very energized and inspired. So many people face rejection inside of them and overcoming this from where you come from is a great great accomplishment! Keep going! ❤
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Letting go of anger towards his birth parents is the best thing he could ever do. ❤ Great interview.
It is a joy to just hear Jono talk. I can’t imagine what a joy and a privilege it is to have Jono in your life. I wish to respect Jono’s understanding, empathy and giant heartedness when it comes to his biological parents. But they are so much poorer because of their decision. Life gave them pure gold and walked away.
He has the makings of a crazy serial killer.. left at birth by his parents, mocked by kids all his childhood years.. yet he is the most down to earth and kind person around.. what a great person.
@@powderandpaint14exactly, she's amazing. And honestly, I find him kinda cute, smily, tiny ears 😁, great hair, fit, dresses nicely... Tons of less attractive guys I see daily on the street 🤷
Jono has a tonne of things in his favour, he is intelligent, a great story teller, well dressed, fashionable, presents himself well, takes care of his appearance. He honestly is in a class above most people and the fact that he has owned his condition all his life is an amazing and is a great role model for every kid growing up with difference.
My daughter was born with TCS in December. She is our baby. I look at her and I know she will face challenges. Many challenges. But one challenge she will never face is seeking the love of her parents. I’m devastated by the thought of a child being abandoned because of this. Lead with love.
I’ve actually seen his Instagram appear in my discovery feed sometimes. I’m in awe and true amazement of his story and all that he’s achieved. He’s so articulate and truly inspiring.
Jonno’s is the epic tale of the value of pain and challenges overcome, self worth discovered and cherished. These battles examined, dark thoughts and feelings exposed to the light and the inevitable outcome is the brilliance of self respect and self love which outshines any other natural given attributes, talent or hard won achievements of this world. A person who works to find their innate self worth can stand steady and exist above any challenge that this world can throw at you, it’s the most valuable prize life has to offer and makes you the most attractive person in any room. My respect and awe to this beautiful human.
When he said “I looked up at myself & smiled” I nearly cried. ❤️ I’ve had moments like that before when I’ve been at my lowest & they are transformative. Hearing about that moment in someone else’s life is so so impactful. The power of self compassion & self love cannot be overstated. I can’t imagine the mental & emotional journey he’s been on throughout his life, but his perspective is so refreshing & beautiful to hear. So thankful to be a witness to & moved by this story! 💞 Thank you for sharing!
Just discovered this channel. Jono is amazing this is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. This man is so inspiring I wish him every success for the future.
I can't imagine how hard and difficult all that was for you to overcome, and eventually understand. I can't understand how your birth parents could leave you the way they did... but what I do know is that I'm grateful that God put your load on someone who was strong enough to handle it. I'm grateful you're still with us. I'm grateful you've found yourself and that you're enjoying life. God bless, and I wish you nothing but the best. ❤️
You sir have a strength that not many people will know and enlightenment not many will reach. In an age of narcissism where every body is fixated with the outside you show a sort of bravery this world lacks. Thank you for sharing your life story.
I've followed this guy for quite a few a years after seeing him on another documentary a few years ago and have been quietly rooting for him every time I see him on TV or social media. I'm a straight guy but I can see that despite his condition he's still a good looking bloke and I'm sure he's more popular with the ladies than he realises. He's also shown amazing strength of character and resilience over the years and now he's doing it again with his leadership for the new charity. He's probably to modest to admit it but this guy is capable of so much. He's a real modern day hero and a natural leader, he should be bloody PM. He'd get my vote all day long......
I cried watching this not just because of how his birth parents set him up in life, but also because of how he turned out as a person. You can hear the kindness in his voice, and the gentle spirit he is. Jono was dealt a hand of pain and sorrow, and spun it into one of joy and perseverance. Quite an incredible and beautiful story that should certainly empower others, especially young kids, to take confidence and courage in themselves.
As someone who was horribly disfigured at birth this hit very close to home and I really liked the outlook he has on life. It’s definitely given me some things to think about. (Different generic disorder, neurofibromatosis type 1, which means I have loads of tumors all around my face. Throughout my life I’ve had surgeries to remove 15 pounds of tumor & my right eye, but I still don’t look “normal.”)
Who's to say what "normal" is? I used be a job placement counselor for Disabled people, and it was common, especially back in the 80's, for employers to lose out on a well qualified, well educated potential employee with experience just because they were not able to handle how the person looked, ect. It was ridiculous, and the employer's loss! It was amazing what lengths these employers would go through to try to wiggle out of even interviewing one of our clients sometimes. For example, we had a client who was a Little Person, she was only 4'2". She was applying for a job as a Community college instructor, which she was both experienced and well qualified for. The college Human Resource department tried to claim that they couldn't hire her because "they wanted to hire someone who could go back and get their Master's degree". She *had* a Master's degree already! They implied that a very small person would not be able to get a Master's! And these were Achademic people.
I relate so much to Jono’s story. I have a visible difference- a skin condition called Epidermolysis Bullosa (EB). And my dad walked out on my mum my brother and me when my mum was pregnant with me, so I’ve had trauma from being rejected by by Dad. Hearing Jono share his story made me feel less alone
Never feel alone because you are not, many love, respect and care for you. I have a generic condition, my daughter, 3 newphews and my 2 siblings have. I have lived not existed.
I have a friend who has EB. Her parents were told she wouldn't likely live to see her 10th birthday and now she's doing her PhD. I know EB can vary in symptom severity so I don't want to make any assumptions about how it affects you but I'm sending you love and hoping you're doing well. My friend has had many surgeries over the years, mostly to release scar tissue in more recent years. She's lost all of her fingers on her left hand but she's always adapting.
@@RealElongatedMuskrat I’m so glad to to hear that your friend is doing her phd, that’s an amazing accomplishment! I’m sorry to hear about the surgeries she’s had to have and how it’s impacted her fingers 🥺 her strength is incredible. I have EB simplex which is the mildest version of EB, so I am ‘lucky’ in that regard, but I still get blisters all over my body. I just have to be careful with not walking too much because that’s when the blisters flare up. It affects me more mentally because the blisters damage and scar my skin which makes me self conscious, and I restrict what I wear because of it. Also I’ve never been in a relationship due to feeling self conscious.
Such an amazing story. What I find interesting is that it taught me that no matter what your circumstances in life, the same themes happen to most ppl; the awareness that you are different to everyone else, seeking love and acceptance, to establishing boundaries and healing your past wounds, handling rejection to then discovering that there are others who have gone through the same stuff as you and you are coming together to talk about it. It indeed is an amazing rolercoaster of a life and we are constantly evolving, getting wiser with nobility.
wow, one of my fav interviews ever! I'm crying now. I can tell you've done so much work on yourself. I connected so much with the rejection that causes the ppl pleasing and having no boundaries in relationships. That hit a nerve! I'd never heard of anyone explain it that way. Ive done 20 years of therapy and never realised this!!! Wow I see that I have done that in a lot of relationships. I have a mild disability and the effect it has on your mental health is crippling. The social anxiety you get as a teenager and sometimes as an adult. Thankyou for being so vulnerable. I bottled things up too when I was younger. I felt if I told someone they might think I was a weirdo. I always made friends really easily but have always struggled in relationships, even to this day in my 40s! One thing I am grateful for is my condition has given me deep empathy and compassion towards others. that is a gift. I can see that your condition Jono has made you very caring, sensitive and empathic. Whilst these are great qualities, they can make you an easy target for ppl to exploit you which I had to learn also. I identified with the dark times you went through. The insane insecurities you feel as a teenager. When I got rejected in a relationship I always thought it was because of my disability. Never that I may come across as desperate or too eager for someone. Or that I had no boundaries which someone may have seen as one of my red flags. I wish you the best. I think you're very handsome btw. Our minds can tell us funny things about ourselves. Such a powerful interview that really addresses how we all need to look after our mental health. All the best xx
I got really emotional listening to his story and the fact he can remain so optimistic is incredible. Everything that he has endured throughout his life and still be so positive, really says a lot. I think to myself why do we have to be so cruel to others, because they are different? I say just learn to be kind to another. You're a brave man Mr Lancaster and never let anyone tell you otherwise!
One could also argue that he being addopted was a good thing. Hes parents may have been scare for the way he looked but a more lovefull woman addopted him and helped him become the great man he is now. I'm adopted myself and i can relate to most of the things that are said in this video. I can only imagine evrything he went trough. Great man.
Jono, would just like to say thank you so much for this! I love how honest and open you are! you’re also a good looking guy! I got bullied at high school for my appearance and my voice, just goes to show bullies will go for anything really… I can also relate to the no boundaries and staying in bad relationships because of the low self esteem. I’m much better now I actually have started to love myself. It’s a shame that your parents have missed out on you! You’re such a lovely person, it’s their loss I guess! Big thanks ❤️
I'm so glad he has the courage to talk about his life and the ups and downs. Looking different does not make you less beautiful in any sense, but being a bad, bitter, cynical, and negative person does. And Jono is none of those things. He remained positive and determined to the best of his ability, he carried on despite so much heartache, and he remained kind despite experiencing cruelty from others. Then he used that to help others. My guy you are truly beautiful, inside and out.
Jono is so open and honest, even with such painful memories he is able to articulate in such a loving way. He has been such an inspiration to my friend who before he saw Jono, he thought he was the only one with Treacher Collins, I know he got in contact with Jono and it meant the world to him. I haven’t watched such an inspirational video in a very long time. Amazing person
15:04 the part where he said he wondered why anyone would want to hang around me really got to me. I didn’t grow up in his situation but the abuse and negativity that we both experienced in our own way from people actually made me realize and understand why I am such a people pleaser as well. From what I experienced from someone in my life making me feel worthless and affects you years later and becomes a part of you and it almost becomes like a sickness where you really do feel like you have to repay others who love you because you feel like a burden to be loved and appreciated and you almost don’t believe their intentions are genuine. All the things I do to “make it up to” my friends and family I still can’t get that way of thinking out of me all because of experiencing abuse at the hands of someone who pretended to love me. I love how strong this man is and how humble and positive he’s become and really what a beautiful person he is inside and out.
Jono what an amazing young man you are. You have got such a beautiful heart and soul, which can be very hard to find nowadays. You are very special, so hold your head up high, you are giving so much to so many. Best wishes from Australia xx
such a good storyteller, was planning to only watch a little but became immersed by Jono’s way of telling his story, only knew of Collins syndrome from the movie Wonder but learned more and was fascinated by the his experiences, there could even be a part 2 to this and I would watch, loved it 😁
Mate, this whole situation is heartbreaking and really puts into perspective how frustrated, upset or angry we get about miniscule shit in our own lives and this fella has been through pain that the majority of us couldn't even imagine and has come out an amazing human being on the other side. I wish I had a 10th of the strength he has. The way that he can just forgive he's birth parents like that, I can't even compute it. And he's adopted mum sounds amazing! I'm a dad of a 3 year old and I'm 39 and I know how much energy it takes to keep up with my daughter, it's hard work as you get older so for he's mum to provide the additional support she has as an alder parent says alot and is possibly where he got some of he's strength from. I wish you all the best.
It made me so sad to hear that Jono always wanted to be voted nicest eyes/smile, and that never happened for him. I think Jono has very pretty eyes, and a lovely smile! ❤
What a beautiful man! My little one is also called Jonathan, and even if he grows up to be even an ounce of what you are Mr. Lancaster, I will be a super proud mum.
How amazing humans are. His natural birth parents BOTH somehow managed to walk out of that hospital without their baby son. And then another woman, with no biological ties to him, who could have probably chosen any other “normal” baby, and decided to actually choose this baby boy!!! What a woman, and what a man this is!!! It’s truly an incredible story. And I tell my daughters to find inspiration from people like this, not pop stars and athletes.
Pretty early when watching and listening to this, two old adages popped up in the back of my mind; *''Beauty is only skin deep . . .''* and; *_''Real, meaningful_** beauty can only come from the **_inside_** . . .''* Jonathan and his story during this absolutely amazing interview, is proof positive regarding the validity of _both_ of these profound statements! . . . . What a bona fide role model!!! . . . Massive thanks and _tons_ of respect going out to you from Norway! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐💓🙏🇳🇴
those people who have suffered the most pain a human can go through somehow have the most beautiful souls .... what an amazing man .. what a beautiful heart X . hope he finds the love he deserves X
This guy is great! My parents did not hug or love me either and was really abusive to me due to bad behaviour that I had no control to over. In my 40’s now and only just been diagnosed with asd, adhd, ocd, ptsd, depression & anxiety. Moral of this tale is people should not have kids if they are not going to love that child no matter what!
Amazing story. I am so touched by your story that’s so personal to you. Thank you for sharing what you went through. Your friends are truly amazing to be there for you and your mother to adopt such a lovely boy that turned into a wonderful attractive man. Our society focuses too much on looks and not enough on character. It is character that makes someone attractive not looks. I just find it so hard to believe how your parents were so cold to have given you away without thinking of your future welfare in the hands of strangers. Thankfully, you had a good mother. But I could cry thinking of how heartless your parents were to give something so precious away. Society has learnt so much from your story today. You are such a beautiful person❤
You were, and are, absolutely lovely, Jono. Keep being you. Your birth parents gave away an absolute diamond of a son. You're amazing. Sending love from Sheffield. ❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜❤️
Jono, you're a pretty strong guy mate. I grew up with similar challenges with self esteem but not as serveer. I think how you've overcome these insecurities and then improve the life of yourself and others is awesome and let's face it. You came to the meaning of life quicker than most people. I worked in the fashion and makeup industry and I can tell you first hand, there are 40 year olds that still have no idea. All the best.
I don't think people realize how far a good personality goes. Because even if someone isn't typically attractive, they become really attractive based on the kind of person they are. Looks matter but only to a point.
Full circle of life. You managed to transform your life challenge into the best thing ever with helping others and charity work. I love you mate, I love your energy, your experience, you motivate me to be a better person. Cheers 🙏🎉
Jono, you are amazing. Thanks for sharing your story! I enjoyed it very much, and you tell it so beautifully. I'm happy you are in a good place now, that gives me hope and happiness knowing there are amazing people like yourself out there!!
I genuinely cried so many times through this video. What an amazing man! I’ve always tried to compliment strangers every day throughout my life and I know it makes a difference. I saw a lady in Tesco the other day and she looked so down but she had this beautiful orange dress on. I told her that I loved her dress and she burst into tears. She told me she’d been feeling so fat that day and I’d just made her day. I didn’t do it for self gratification, I did it because the world needs more love and positivity. Jono, you’re an absolute gem and I wish you a lifetime of happiness ❤️
He was such a gorgeous baby, it's so sad that the stigma against differences and disabilities was so strong in previous generations that parents would react lik that and abandon their baby.
Said it once, and I will say it again. A man who can stay as positive as this, is more precious than most of the 'regular' people around nowadays. Hats of to you, mister Lancaster
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He is wonderful! ❤ It's his parents great loss to have missed growing with this incredible young man. From a lady across the pond. 😊
Couldn't be me. I'd seek revenge. Some people cry, some people get angry some people forgive.
To the bastards who gave this lad away at birth.
It's your loss. He's a fucking legend.
I have given you a thumbs up because I can see what you are trying to say, no need for such language, it's really not necessary Thomas.
@@irenemorley75 do one Irene
@@irenemorley75 you're absolutely right Irene. I appreciate the nudge, apologies for my language.
@@irenemorley75 Him saying Fucking helps drive the point home.
Is this your first day on the internet? Calling people out on language on the internet when the intent is wholesome is so stupid.
@@aak1992 Thomas should watch his language but I’ll agree with him. Jono IS a fucking legend.
This guy's story makes me cry. I just became a father and can't imagine that I'd ever leave a little, innocent child. I feel so bad for him and I am so glad that he turned out the way he did. What a hero.
Great interview. Thanks for hosting and thanks for sharing.
I think giving him up was the best thing that happened to him - he found a love in his mother that few people in this life ever come close to. She was the perfect person to bring this man up and she put the heart of a lion in this man - to go through so much and come out the other side with such character is a testament to his mother imo.
I worked as a nurse in the 70s in the NHS . Parents with a child born with birth defects were told to leave the baby behind, go home, and forget them . Most I saw had spina bifida, which wasn't understood. It is caused by a lack of vitamin B12 . I remember one young mother coming back to the children's ward wanting to see her baby . It was heartbreaking because she was told to forget your baby. As a nurse, these little babies needed extra care, took longer to feed, and as I was feeding a bottle to a little baby, the Dr made some remark . I said they're beautiful, and he replied they're monsters. One day, all the little ones about 6 om the ward i was wirking on were transferred to an orphanage in another part of uk . When I learned years later of the abuse those children often suffered, I remember that young mum who wanted to bring her baby home but did what she was told by so-called professionals. Of course, most Dr's are kind, but not all are, nor are all nurses either .
Omg insanity. I hope they pay for what they did.
Did what she was told? She could have taken home the baby if she wanted to. But the fear of not obeying "professionals" was stronger than the love for her baby.
And the reason for them to tell parents to leave their baby behind is so they can be sent to orphanages to be s.3.xually abused. No surprise there.
Most doctors are not kind. Most of them are more or less cold. As for nurses, most of them are NPC's. Mindless drones.
This is so scary.
this is so important for people to remember. Not all medical professionals are good people unfortunately, and some can in fact be downright cruel. Just out of curiosity, did you see many thalidomide babies? My grandmother was offered to take it when she was pregnant with my mum for morning sickness but didn't want to be taking medication during her pregnancy, thank god! So many of those children were abandoned as well.
I read somewhere that "anger is like holding a piece of hot coal with the intent at throwing it; you're the one that gets burned" and it stuck with me and helped me accept my family
It's like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I've been in therapy for PTSD and alcohol counseling for awhile and we use that analogy a lot.
It's true, it's self destructive in my own experience in my past
@@bradshannon862 : Your strength is palpable, Brad. I'm glad you're not giving up on you, even though I don't know you.
Just based on your bravery alone, I can (unfortunately) only offer you this: 🏆(But the sentiment is pure.)
this man is a legend, regardless of anything else he’s been through, the fact that he forgives his biological parents for both occasions is amazing
I honestly feel more sorry for his birth parents. Imagine giving birth to this incredible man and never even knowing just how beautiful he is.
There's no way abandoning a kid whatever they look like isn't eaten up by it. If not they're not human
I lost faith in humanity and then gained it back again listening to this champion of a man. Your strength and kindness are inspiring.
Wonderful interview! My uncle has Treacher Collin's syndrome. He is a wonderfully brilliant man. Went on to become a professor at University of Florida (JUST retired). He is happily married and has 2 children. He has never been interested in sharing his story, but I have always wanted other people with this syndrome to hear it- especially the young ones. He was born in the 1940's and my grandma was told to abandon him at birth- she couldn't. Juno, thank you for this interview.
As a gator, I am so happy to hear that!
Jono! You are a beautiful, thoughtful, introspective man. I have friends who had a baby with many congenital problems. The doctors said the child would not live past 6 months to one year, and they advised just to take the baby home and let him die naturally. The parents asked if there was anything that could be done for their baby. Well, yes, they could do a heart operation, but it would only extend his life by maybe half a year. It would be expensive. The parents decided to do the operation. Many more followed. Their baby made it to 4 years old and more operations would need to be done. The parents sold their house, and changed professions to pay for the operations. They did fund raisers, they did marathons. Their son is now 22, will graduate university next year. His parents spoke at my church and said they believed God sent them that child specifically, and that despite huge medical expenses, they would not trade him for anything.
Your message is so needed. Every life is of value, and needs a word of genuine kindness. I’m so glad I got to see this video interview and meet you electronically. You’re a boost to my day!
Thank you for letting us into your life and meeting you. Listening to you talking naturally about your condition has really helped me and I guess everyone else with and without having a genetic condition. I saw myself different, I couldn't do what they did... It was very hard. Thank you for setting standards for us, raising awareness of what it is like.
I find the way he carries himself and his positivity extremely attractive!
I would love to shake this man’s hand. I couldn’t imagine the foolishness of giving up on such a great child. He obviously grew up to be a great individual. I’m blessed to have two young healthy children that are perfectly healthy so far, which I’m very grateful for, but I couldn’t ever imagine loving them less if we weren’t as fortunate. I showed physical and mental development issues when I was about 2 years old, I was tested over and over, doctors couldn’t exactly say why I was developing slower, but they made many predictions about what I couldn’t do when I was older, none of those things came true, some instances the opposite happened. My parents never accepted anything but the best from me in education, sports and personality. It boils my blood to see adults diminish or try to limit a kids potential, there’s no telling what kids are possible regardless of any misfortunes they may have. God bless this man, and the example he sets.
No parent should abandon their child just because they may look different. They are your flesh and blood!! 😞😞 and the fact he got bullied for looking different just shows we still live in a cruel world, where people think they’re better than everyone else, because they look “normal” as they’d say. It boils my blood how you can tear someone down for something they can’t change knowing it won’t affect you. I have no sympathy for bullies. Big respect to this guy and his positivity 🙌🏼❤
It breaks my heart too, but I also have sadly experienced abûse ( have to censor the word just in case) some parents are “better” leaving then potentially hurting them even more. In no way shape or form am I saying they shouldn’t abandon or it’s good or ones harder than the other but sometimes the things you least expect are the best things. That’s the sad reality. If it was a perfect world I would love for people to accept people, stay a family and not turn to abûse. Sorry for replying randomly and a year later but I felt like adding some extra input 😊
Doesn't feel like an interview at all. It's like a conversation between old pals. Really well done 👏🏾
We need more people with the same attitude as Jono. The world would be a much happier place
Rejection and abandonment are such hard emotions to over come. It’s so awesome Johno that your kindness roses above and it really shows. Lots of people experience rejection and abandonment to the point it turns into borderline personality disorder. You are a legend and your mind is really powerful. I love the charity that you started. Seriously well done
Wow so true 🙏
"Beauty is not from outside, it's from inside."
What a wonderful shining example of a strong soul. He is handsome in every way.
I'm an intersex person from Tennessee who changed the doctors call once I reached adulthood. I understand the bullying. Always someone who thinks their might makes it right to judge for whatever reason. Regular people have a lot of misconceptions about what its like to walk harder roads being born different. "We don't like looking at you or you shouldn't exist, go away." Children may ask questions but they learn cruelty, mean spiritedness and hate from their parents. His parents were probably one of those parents. Keep shining your light brother.
What a beautiful gentle man.
I feel really sad for your birth parents that they missed out having a son like you. You should be so proud of the man you have become
You expressed yourself so eloquently.People can be so ugly, and I don’t mean physically, God don’t like ugly and neither do I. You are Golden !
Dear Jono, I almost never leave comments, but this is so inspiring to me that I can’t leave this page without sharing. Your story touches me deeply and has so many teachings in huge ways. Deep respect for all the work you’ve done and sharing this to the world in such a relax way. Makes me very energized and inspired. So many people face rejection inside of them and overcoming this from where you come from is a great great accomplishment! Keep going! ❤
Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Letting go of anger towards his birth parents is the best thing he could ever do. ❤ Great interview.
It is a joy to just hear Jono talk. I can’t imagine what a joy and a privilege it is to have Jono in your life. I wish to respect Jono’s understanding, empathy and giant heartedness when it comes to his biological parents. But they are so much poorer because of their decision. Life gave them pure gold and walked away.
He has the makings of a crazy serial killer.. left at birth by his parents, mocked by kids all his childhood years.. yet he is the most down to earth and kind person around.. what a great person.
I think his foster mother who loved him from the very start and brought him up so well must have had a lot to do with how he has turned out.
@@powderandpaint14exactly, she's amazing. And honestly, I find him kinda cute, smily, tiny ears 😁, great hair, fit, dresses nicely... Tons of less attractive guys I see daily on the street 🤷
I often come back to watch Jono’s video. What a kind, strong and smart man. More power, more success and more happiness to him.
Jono has a tonne of things in his favour, he is intelligent, a great story teller, well dressed, fashionable, presents himself well, takes care of his appearance. He honestly is in a class above most people and the fact that he has owned his condition all his life is an amazing and is a great role model for every kid growing up with difference.
My daughter was born with TCS in December. She is our baby. I look at her and I know she will face challenges. Many challenges. But one challenge she will never face is seeking the love of her parents. I’m devastated by the thought of a child being abandoned because of this. Lead with love.
I’ve actually seen his Instagram appear in my discovery feed sometimes. I’m in awe and true amazement of his story and all that he’s achieved. He’s so articulate and truly inspiring.
What an amazing guy. And what an awesome women your mum must be to have raised such a smart, generous and kind guy.
Keep on doing your thing Jonno 👍
Jonno’s is the epic tale of the value of pain and challenges overcome, self worth discovered and cherished. These battles examined, dark thoughts and feelings exposed to the light and the inevitable outcome is the brilliance of self respect and self love which outshines any other natural given attributes, talent or hard won achievements of this world. A person who works to find their innate self worth can stand steady and exist above any challenge that this world can throw at you, it’s the most valuable prize life has to offer and makes you the most attractive person in any room. My respect and awe to this beautiful human.
remember seeing this guy on BBC3 way back in the day. always wondered how he was doing, glad to hear you're well.
This is an epic story of social survival. Man, thanks for the inspiration and thank God you are here with us. It's been an honor!!
When he said “I looked up at myself & smiled” I nearly cried. ❤️ I’ve had moments like that before when I’ve been at my lowest & they are transformative. Hearing about that moment in someone else’s life is so so impactful. The power of self compassion & self love cannot be overstated.
I can’t imagine the mental & emotional journey he’s been on throughout his life, but his perspective is so refreshing & beautiful to hear. So thankful to be a witness to & moved by this story! 💞 Thank you for sharing!
Just discovered this channel. Jono is amazing this is one of the best interviews I have ever seen. This man is so inspiring I wish him every success for the future.
I can't imagine how hard and difficult all that was for you to overcome, and eventually understand. I can't understand how your birth parents could leave you the way they did... but what I do know is that I'm grateful that God put your load on someone who was strong enough to handle it. I'm grateful you're still with us. I'm grateful you've found yourself and that you're enjoying life.
God bless, and I wish you nothing but the best. ❤️
After all the pain and rejection, he worked through it. He is much stronger and more beautiful inside than many.
this man is the definition of a gem. Such a sweet soul and im so happy to see him doing so well.
Yes he is a gem 💎.
I love listening to such introspective people. Taking a challenging life and turning it into wisdom and kindness. All the respect.
He’s the perfect man! So smart and kind and interesting to listen to, I love him 😍
You sir have a strength that not many people will know and enlightenment not many will reach. In an age of narcissism where every body is fixated with the outside you show a sort of bravery this world lacks. Thank you for sharing your life story.
A class act who exudes kindness, positivity and compassion. I hope I encounter more people like Jono in the time I've got left on this planet!
I've followed this guy for quite a few a years after seeing him on another documentary a few years ago and have been quietly rooting for him every time I see him on TV or social media. I'm a straight guy but I can see that despite his condition he's still a good looking bloke and I'm sure he's more popular with the ladies than he realises. He's also shown amazing strength of character and resilience over the years and now he's doing it again with his leadership for the new charity. He's probably to modest to admit it but this guy is capable of so much. He's a real modern day hero and a natural leader, he should be bloody PM. He'd get my vote all day long......
I cried watching this not just because of how his birth parents set him up in life, but also because of how he turned out as a person. You can hear the kindness in his voice, and the gentle spirit he is. Jono was dealt a hand of pain and sorrow, and spun it into one of joy and perseverance. Quite an incredible and beautiful story that should certainly empower others, especially young kids, to take confidence and courage in themselves.
what a character, he looks like he has so much more personality than 90 percent of people
Couldn't of spoken more of the truth with this well done.
As someone who was horribly disfigured at birth this hit very close to home and I really liked the outlook he has on life. It’s definitely given me some things to think about. (Different generic disorder, neurofibromatosis type 1, which means I have loads of tumors all around my face. Throughout my life I’ve had surgeries to remove 15 pounds of tumor & my right eye, but I still don’t look “normal.”)
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Who's to say what "normal" is? I used be a job placement counselor for Disabled people, and it was common, especially back in the 80's, for employers to lose out on a well qualified, well educated potential employee with experience just because they were not able to handle how the person looked, ect. It was ridiculous, and the employer's loss! It was amazing what lengths these employers would go through to try to wiggle out of even interviewing one of our clients sometimes. For example, we had a client who was a Little Person, she was only 4'2". She was applying for a job as a Community college instructor, which she was both experienced and well qualified for. The college Human Resource department tried to claim that they couldn't hire her because "they wanted to hire someone who could go back and get their Master's degree". She *had* a Master's degree already! They implied that a very small person would not be able to get a Master's! And these were Achademic people.
What a guy, a great speaker and genuine inspiration to all people.
What a guy. The pressure brought onto this man has truly created a one-in-a-million diamond.
Great interview. The way he handled his birth parents response after healing that is true mature and next level growth. Great human.
People like this inspire hope. I hope he's doing well and living his best life, he deserves it.
I loved the depth and honesty of this chat, very powerful. So happy for Jono for he's going from strength to strength now!
I relate so much to Jono’s story. I have a visible difference- a skin condition called Epidermolysis Bullosa (EB). And my dad walked out on my mum my brother and me when my mum was pregnant with me, so I’ve had trauma from being rejected by by Dad. Hearing Jono share his story made me feel less alone
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Never feel alone because you are not, many love, respect and care for you. I have a generic condition, my daughter, 3 newphews and my 2 siblings have. I have lived not existed.
@@joannahernandez6977 thank you ❤️
I have a friend who has EB. Her parents were told she wouldn't likely live to see her 10th birthday and now she's doing her PhD. I know EB can vary in symptom severity so I don't want to make any assumptions about how it affects you but I'm sending you love and hoping you're doing well. My friend has had many surgeries over the years, mostly to release scar tissue in more recent years. She's lost all of her fingers on her left hand but she's always adapting.
@@RealElongatedMuskrat I’m so glad to to hear that your friend is doing her phd, that’s an amazing accomplishment! I’m sorry to hear about the surgeries she’s had to have and how it’s impacted her fingers 🥺 her strength is incredible. I have EB simplex which is the mildest version of EB, so I am ‘lucky’ in that regard, but I still get blisters all over my body. I just have to be careful with not walking too much because that’s when the blisters flare up. It affects me more mentally because the blisters damage and scar my skin which makes me self conscious, and I restrict what I wear because of it. Also I’ve never been in a relationship due to feeling self conscious.
I love his use of language. You can tell he is very aware and conscious that words have power. Great interview!
Such an amazing story. What I find interesting is that it taught me that no matter what your circumstances in life, the same themes happen to most ppl; the awareness that you are different to everyone else, seeking love and acceptance, to establishing boundaries and healing your past wounds, handling rejection to then discovering that there are others who have gone through the same stuff as you and you are coming together to talk about it. It indeed is an amazing rolercoaster of a life and we are constantly evolving, getting wiser with nobility.
wow, one of my fav interviews ever! I'm crying now.
I can tell you've done so much work on yourself. I connected so much with the rejection that causes the ppl pleasing and having no boundaries in relationships. That hit a nerve! I'd never heard of anyone explain it that way. Ive done 20 years of therapy and never realised this!!! Wow I see that I have done that in a lot of relationships. I have a mild disability and the effect it has on your mental health is crippling. The social anxiety you get as a teenager and sometimes as an adult.
Thankyou for being so vulnerable. I bottled things up too when I was younger. I felt if I told someone they might think I was a weirdo. I always made friends really easily but have always struggled in relationships, even to this day in my 40s! One thing I am grateful for is my condition has given me deep empathy and compassion towards others. that is a gift. I can see that your condition Jono has made you very caring, sensitive and empathic. Whilst these are great qualities, they can make you an easy target for ppl to exploit you which I had to learn also.
I identified with the dark times you went through. The insane insecurities you feel as a teenager. When I got rejected in a relationship I always thought it was because of my disability. Never that I may come across as desperate or too eager for someone. Or that I had no boundaries which someone may have seen as one of my red flags.
I wish you the best. I think you're very handsome btw. Our minds can tell us funny things about ourselves. Such a powerful interview that really addresses how we all need to look after our mental health. All the best xx
I absolutely love Jono! If only there were more people like him in the world. Fabulous interview.
I got really emotional listening to his story and the fact he can remain so optimistic is incredible. Everything that he has endured throughout his life and still be so positive, really says a lot. I think to myself why do we have to be so cruel to others, because they are different? I say just learn to be kind to another. You're a brave man Mr Lancaster and never let anyone tell you otherwise!
One could also argue that he being addopted was a good thing. Hes parents may have been scare for the way he looked but a more lovefull woman addopted him and helped him become the great man he is now. I'm adopted myself and i can relate to most of the things that are said in this video. I can only imagine evrything he went trough. Great man.
Jono, would just like to say thank you so much for this!
I love how honest and open you are!
you’re also a good looking guy!
I got bullied at high school for my appearance and my voice, just goes to show bullies will go for anything really… I can also relate to the no boundaries and staying in bad relationships because of the low self esteem. I’m much better now I actually have started to love myself.
It’s a shame that your parents have missed out on you! You’re such a lovely person, it’s their loss I guess! Big thanks ❤️
I’d be very proud to have a well balanced, happy cheerful young man as my son. What a truly nice person Jono is. ❤
I'm so glad he has the courage to talk about his life and the ups and downs. Looking different does not make you less beautiful in any sense, but being a bad, bitter, cynical, and negative person does. And Jono is none of those things. He remained positive and determined to the best of his ability, he carried on despite so much heartache, and he remained kind despite experiencing cruelty from others. Then he used that to help others. My guy you are truly beautiful, inside and out.
Jono is so open and honest, even with such painful memories he is able to articulate in such a loving way. He has been such an inspiration to my friend who before he saw Jono, he thought he was the only one with Treacher Collins, I know he got in contact with Jono and it meant the world to him. I haven’t watched such an inspirational video in a very long time. Amazing person
15:04 the part where he said he wondered why anyone would want to hang around me really got to me. I didn’t grow up in his situation but the abuse and negativity that we both experienced in our own way from people actually made me realize and understand why I am such a people pleaser as well. From what I experienced from someone in my life making me feel worthless and affects you years later and becomes a part of you and it almost becomes like a sickness where you really do feel like you have to repay others who love you because you feel like a burden to be loved and appreciated and you almost don’t believe their intentions are genuine. All the things I do to “make it up to” my friends and family I still can’t get that way of thinking out of me all because of experiencing abuse at the hands of someone who pretended to love me. I love how strong this man is and how humble and positive he’s become and really what a beautiful person he is inside and out.
Jono what an amazing young man you are. You have got such a beautiful heart and soul, which can be very hard to find nowadays. You are very special, so hold your head up high, you are giving so much to so many. Best wishes from Australia xx
such a good storyteller, was planning to only watch a little but became immersed by Jono’s way of telling his story, only knew of Collins syndrome from the movie Wonder but learned more and was fascinated by the his experiences, there could even be a part 2 to this and I would watch, loved it 😁
You are so amazing, intelligent and forgiving. That makes you sooo beautiful inside and out.
Mate, this whole situation is heartbreaking and really puts into perspective how frustrated, upset or angry we get about miniscule shit in our own lives and this fella has been through pain that the majority of us couldn't even imagine and has come out an amazing human being on the other side. I wish I had a 10th of the strength he has. The way that he can just forgive he's birth parents like that, I can't even compute it. And he's adopted mum sounds amazing! I'm a dad of a 3 year old and I'm 39 and I know how much energy it takes to keep up with my daughter, it's hard work as you get older so for he's mum to provide the additional support she has as an alder parent says alot and is possibly where he got some of he's strength from.
I wish you all the best.
It made me so sad to hear that Jono always wanted to be voted nicest eyes/smile, and that never happened for him. I think Jono has very pretty eyes, and a lovely smile! ❤
What a beautiful man! My little one is also called Jonathan, and even if he grows up to be even an ounce of what you are Mr. Lancaster, I will be a super proud mum.
How amazing humans are.
His natural birth parents BOTH somehow managed to walk out of that hospital without their baby son.
And then another woman, with no biological ties to him, who could have probably chosen any other “normal”
baby, and decided to actually choose this baby boy!!! What a woman, and what a man this is!!!
It’s truly an incredible story.
And I tell my daughters to find inspiration from people like this, not pop stars and athletes.
Well said!!! ❤
Amazing comment especially the end of it.
Jonos parents made a grave mistake this man brings love and joy into the world and the world is better with people like him in it
Prettiest people do the ugliest things.
Pretty early when watching and listening to this, two old adages popped up in the back of my mind; *''Beauty is only skin deep . . .''* and; *_''Real, meaningful_** beauty can only come from the **_inside_** . . .''*
Jonathan and his story during this absolutely amazing interview, is proof positive regarding the validity of _both_ of these profound statements! . . . .
What a bona fide role model!!! . . .
Massive thanks and _tons_ of respect going out to you from Norway!
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those people who have suffered the most pain a human can go through somehow have the most beautiful souls .... what an amazing man .. what a beautiful heart X . hope he finds the love he deserves X
This guy is great! My parents did not hug or love me either and was really abusive to me due to bad behaviour that I had no control to over. In my 40’s now and only just been diagnosed with asd, adhd, ocd, ptsd, depression & anxiety. Moral of this tale is people should not have kids if they are not going to love that child no matter what!
Amazing story. I am so touched by your story that’s so personal to you. Thank you for sharing what you went through. Your friends are truly amazing to be there for you and your mother to adopt such a lovely boy that turned into a wonderful attractive man. Our society focuses too much on looks and not enough on character. It is character that makes someone attractive not looks. I just find it so hard to believe how your parents were so cold to have given you away without thinking of your future welfare in the hands of strangers. Thankfully, you had a good mother. But I could cry thinking of how heartless your parents were to give something so precious away. Society has learnt so much from your story today. You are such a beautiful person❤
What a remarkable example of a human being. Very rare to see such a vast array of qualities in one person.
You were, and are, absolutely lovely, Jono. Keep being you. Your birth parents gave away an absolute diamond of a son. You're amazing.
Sending love from Sheffield.
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Very powerful. I had a birth defect and I can relate, but this guy is totaly amazing. Thank you. Respect.
Been following Jono on social for several years. He's an amazing human being...and a damned handsome man outside and inside. 😊
Jono, you're a pretty strong guy mate. I grew up with similar challenges with self esteem but not as serveer. I think how you've overcome these insecurities and then improve the life of yourself and others is awesome and let's face it. You came to the meaning of life quicker than most people. I worked in the fashion and makeup industry and I can tell you first hand, there are 40 year olds that still have no idea. All the best.
Jono is just a badass. He had a vid with you before and I've been following him on IG since then: his positivity is contagious.
He really is very attractive! It’s such a shame that wasn’t appreciated all the time.
I don't think people realize how far a good personality goes. Because even if someone isn't typically attractive, they become really attractive based on the kind of person they are. Looks matter but only to a point.
His parents Did an Unfair thing, by far he is the Most gentle person i've ever seen. trust me He have my respect. ♥️
Full circle of life. You managed to transform your life challenge into the best thing ever with helping others and charity work.
I love you mate, I love your energy, your experience, you motivate me to be a better person.
Cheers 🙏🎉
Truly inspiring ! What a beautiful human. Thakyou for your incredible courage.
He looks beautiful to me. If you can go through all that and still be a funny ass kind person, your a fucking legend
What an amazing and genuine man you are Jono! I'm so thankful I saw your interview!
I teared up at the end there 🥺 thanks for those words Jono 🙏🏼
Watched from start to end - Solid strong kind man - shoutout to his mother that bought him up too - she must be a really special lady.
Jono is an incredible man, so full of positivity and love. We could all learn from him
Your more than a man than your father will ever be your such a lovely well spoken man you put your head up high one in a million ❤
Amazing story. Incredible human being. Kindness and celebrating difference. There are no words to describe how important his story is.
Lad Bible hosts some of the best interviews, i love the variety of guests. I can’t imagine abandoning my child, but delighted he found a loving home.
An inspiration is not even enough of a word to describe this wonderful young man.
Jono, you are amazing. Thanks for sharing your story! I enjoyed it very much, and you tell it so beautifully. I'm happy you are in a good place now, that gives me hope and happiness knowing there are amazing people like yourself out there!!
I genuinely cried so many times through this video. What an amazing man! I’ve always tried to compliment strangers every day throughout my life and I know it makes a difference. I saw a lady in Tesco the other day and she looked so down but she had this beautiful orange dress on. I told her that I loved her dress and she burst into tears. She told me she’d been feeling so fat that day and I’d just made her day. I didn’t do it for self gratification, I did it because the world needs more love and positivity. Jono, you’re an absolute gem and I wish you a lifetime of happiness ❤️
Jono you have an open heart and that is rare. What a blessing you are to humanity.
What a lovely kind sensitive person you are Jono! The world is a better place with you in it ❤xx
This guy is so powerful. Also he has an amazing voice, I could listen to him talk all day…
He was such a gorgeous baby, it's so sad that the stigma against differences and disabilities was so strong in previous generations that parents would react lik that and abandon their baby.