Rabia jeeti rahiye.Allah aapko khush rakhe.bohot mature baaten kahi hain aapne.mere husband bhi height me mujh se kam hain lekin jo khoobiyan un me hain,i always feel that he is 10 feet tall.maine apni 43 years ki shadi me unko kabhi bhi chota nahi paya.i feel very blessed and proud to be his wife.he takes care of me like a father.protects me from all the rough weathers of life.sometimes i jokingly tell him ki you treat me like a victorian lady.always shielding me ,protecting me and ofcourse caring and loving me.the flip side is that i dont know how to live without him.
Rabia, when I read the title of the video and saw the thumbnail I got excited because this is frequently asked and a topic joked upon. I agree with what you said, to the girls who are stuck in such situations, personality traits matter significantly more compared to physical beauty. Height, facial features, skin tone, etc are uncontrollable physical traits; these are God gifted which makes us look unique, and we cannot change that about ourselves. Yes, we can improve it through makeup, hair styling, dressing up, and grooming, but that doesn't apply to height. I understand physical attraction is important between a couple, but like many say "beauty comes and goes" but personality stays forever (in most cases). I'm saddened to hear the bride's mother is causing doubts and insecurities when instead she should be making her daughter feel better and helping her look at the positive side. If the bride to be herself is saying that her fiancé is all green flags, the mother should offer encouragement and dismiss faltu comments from society and what people will say. People will say mean and bakwas things regardless, just ignore their ignorance. Such a great reminder to make Dua and Istikharah for yourself when you feel stuck. May Allah (SWT), Al-Hakeem (The All Wise) guide you in making the best decision!
Even in my 50s you teach me a lesson or two, world has gone really superficial, I am glad you bring up these important topics. I feel Ethics and Spirituality has taken a back seat.
The point about attraction is SOOOO true!!! Attraction is not just physical. At the face of it, maybe.. but there's soooo much more to an individual that makes them attractive than just pretty face and nice built. Intellectual and emotional attraction is a thing as well
This was a great discussion topic. Thank you for bringing this up. One thing I would like to add is our definition of attractivenes. Why do ee assume that everyone will find the same trait to be attractive? Some people mught like dark skin or brown eyes instead of coloured ones. The definition of beauty changes with culture and with the individual. We should know what we find attractive, not what others do. Another thing is that sometimes when we feel conscious of what others would feel about our spouses its usually our own insecurity about that person. And sttraction us aldo important in a marriage but you shoukd know where you're willing to compromise. And as Rabia said, we should be teaching our children to look for that emotional attraction and good character instead if superficial traits.
Rabia this is really good advice for everyone I hope everyone should listen to this video especially the younger generation. I'm going to forward it to my nieces 😅
Rabia please ese topics p ap video banaya kre... mujhe advice chahye..m office m ek Junior larki ko pasand karta hu full honestly par dar hai k m financially ziada stable nahi meri salary 100k h m janta hu m bht jald career m pese bana luga par usko kah nahi pata qk us larki k as pas bht well established options h..bas financially ziada stable na hone ki waja se usko propose nahi kar pata kahi meri self respect na hurt ho financial halat ki waja se..kash larkia aur uski families ham larko ki financial capacity p thora compromise krte to bht ache rishte ban skte h
Sometimes one ignores all minus points and embrace a person against all odds. Whether height, finances, family background but when he reaches financial stability, his inferiority complex remains and first thing he does is get rid of his supporting wife. Its v.practical to be bit self-centered and a girl should choose someone who is somewhat physically compatible with her and financially stable.
Rabia hmmmm intersting topic . Rabia sis kitna acha hota ap real cuples ko is topic ki liye invite kerti wo is topic ki liye ap ke saath baat jeet mushwara nasihut main mudud kerte Karachi ki vlogger Zurnab Lahore se Kawal Aftan n Zulqur Ap in ki saath n or bhi cuples Mazz n Saba ki saath ye show kerti their physical presence hard thn go for cam interviews
Salam ma'am. Hru? Looking lovely MASHA ALLAH ma'am as always. Don't think appearance should matter if he's caring, loving, trust worthy and putting the effort. But unfortunately appearance is 1st preference
I think a hot topic to cover would be this recent reddit post where this pakistani woman is venting about how she is recently married and moved to Germany with her husband. Once there she says she sees other desi women and Indian women who she feels are not as good looking as her but are paired up with handsome European men and enjoying life in a way she isn't. She says her husband is not at fault, is a nice fellow but she is unsatisfied being with him after seeing these desi women in Germany are having more fun.
میں آج کل اسی مشکل سے گزر رہی ہوں کیونکہ میری شادی گاؤں میں ہوئی ہے بابر مجھ سے ہانچ سال چھوٹا ہے اور شکل و صورت نارمل ہے وہ مجھ سے بہت محبت کرتا ہے بچوں کی طرح خیال رکھتا ہے مگر لوگوں نے طنز کر کر کے مجھے نیم ہاگل کر دیا ہے۔۔شادی کو دس ماہ ہوئے ہیں اور شادی خطرے میں پڑی ہوئی ہے۔۔ میں شرع کے دو ماہ خوش رہی مگر لوگوں نے یہ کہہ کہہ کر مجھے نیزار کر دیا کہ وہ میرے قابل نہیں اور مجھے قمست نے زمین ہی لا پٹخا۔۔بابر کی نیچر بالکل ویسی ہے جیسی آپ بتا رہی ہیں مگر مجھے لوگوں نے باتیں کر کے مایوس کر دیا یہاں تک کے میں نے خود کشی کی کوشش کی ہے اور دو دن سے امی کے گھر آئی ہوئی ہوں ۔۔مجھے اہنی زندگی سے نفرت ہو چکی ہے۔۔میں نے ساری زندگی یہی سنا کہ میں بہت خوبصورت پڑھی لکھی ہند مند لڑکی ہوں تو کوئی شہزادہ آئے گا جس میں ہر خوبی ہوگی۔۔اب ویسا کچھ نہیں ہوا تو میرے اندر جینے کی امنگ ختم ہو چکی ہے😢😢
Logon ki batain na sunnain .. sakon sa apni life guzarain.. log kaisi haal main jeenay nai daitay .. apnay husband ka sath kahen dore Chali jain rishtay daron sa dore .. aram sa life enjoy karain❤❤
In my opinion it's Mothers or Ghar waly Jo aese consciousness paida krty hain,So waldain KO chaheye Ky wo badalty waqt Ky sath apny asolon aur zawabit KO badlain taky apny bachon Ky sath aik health relationship maintain KR skain Agr us larki KO Ghar sy confidence milta to usko koi farq na parta bahir waly kya keh rhy hain
Here is another scenario. He is perfect looking almost like a model. But there is a lack of intellectual compatible. Completely opposite interests. Wht would u recommend then?
Rabia jeeti rahiye.Allah aapko khush rakhe.bohot mature baaten kahi hain aapne.mere husband bhi height me mujh se kam hain lekin jo khoobiyan un me hain,i always feel that he is 10 feet tall.maine apni 43 years ki shadi me unko kabhi bhi chota nahi paya.i feel very blessed and proud to be his wife.he takes care of me like a father.protects me from all the rough weathers of life.sometimes i jokingly tell him ki you treat me like a victorian lady.always shielding me ,protecting me and ofcourse caring and loving me.the flip side is that i dont know how to live without him.
Rabia, when I read the title of the video and saw the thumbnail I got excited because this is frequently asked and a topic joked upon. I agree with what you said, to the girls who are stuck in such situations, personality traits matter significantly more compared to physical beauty. Height, facial features, skin tone, etc are uncontrollable physical traits; these are God gifted which makes us look unique, and we cannot change that about ourselves. Yes, we can improve it through makeup, hair styling, dressing up, and grooming, but that doesn't apply to height. I understand physical attraction is important between a couple, but like many say "beauty comes and goes" but personality stays forever (in most cases). I'm saddened to hear the bride's mother is causing doubts and insecurities when instead she should be making her daughter feel better and helping her look at the positive side. If the bride to be herself is saying that her fiancé is all green flags, the mother should offer encouragement and dismiss faltu comments from society and what people will say. People will say mean and bakwas things regardless, just ignore their ignorance. Such a great reminder to make Dua and Istikharah for yourself when you feel stuck. May Allah (SWT), Al-Hakeem (The All Wise) guide you in making the best decision!
Even in my 50s you teach me a lesson or two, world has gone really superficial, I am glad you bring up these important topics. I feel Ethics and Spirituality has taken a back seat.
I am 5’6” and my husband is 5”3’ , we are both happy and healthy couple. He is a great husband in every aspect. Alhumdulillah
The point about attraction is SOOOO true!!! Attraction is not just physical. At the face of it, maybe.. but there's soooo much more to an individual that makes them attractive than just pretty face and nice built. Intellectual and emotional attraction is a thing as well
Well said rabia, agreed please ap isi tarha achi RUclips videos banatin rahen bcoz ap ka content best ha..👍❤
Rabia your talk is a therapy ❤
Rabia. You deserve applause for making this valueable video
Loved this video.
Thank you for the insightful talk. Today's social media generation needs such discussions.
Bahot accha.
Bilkul sahi aur mature talk💯
This was a great discussion topic. Thank you for bringing this up.
One thing I would like to add is our definition of attractivenes. Why do ee assume that everyone will find the same trait to be attractive? Some people mught like dark skin or brown eyes instead of coloured ones. The definition of beauty changes with culture and with the individual. We should know what we find attractive, not what others do.
Another thing is that sometimes when we feel conscious of what others would feel about our spouses its usually our own insecurity about that person. And sttraction us aldo important in a marriage but you shoukd know where you're willing to compromise.
And as Rabia said, we should be teaching our children to look for that emotional attraction and good character instead if superficial traits.
Rabia this is really good advice for everyone I hope everyone should listen to this video especially the younger generation. I'm going to forward it to my nieces 😅
Brilliant thoughts , well said !
اس سے بہتر کیا راہ نمائی ہوسکتی ہے اللہ تعالی بہترین اجر دے اور ہماری نسلوں کو راہ راست پر رکھے۔
Rabia you are super 👌👌👍. Bahut hi acchi baatein discuss ki hain aapne.
Hii, great video!! Please make more discussion videos like this
Rabia please ese topics p ap video banaya kre... mujhe advice chahye..m office m ek Junior larki ko pasand karta hu full honestly par dar hai k m financially ziada stable nahi meri salary 100k h m janta hu m bht jald career m pese bana luga par usko kah nahi pata qk us larki k as pas bht well established options h..bas financially ziada stable na hone ki waja se usko propose nahi kar pata kahi meri self respect na hurt ho financial halat ki waja se..kash larkia aur uski families ham larko ki financial capacity p thora compromise krte to bht ache rishte ban skte h
Wo jo apne baat kahi na ki long term mein apki appearance matter nhi kregi jo basic qualities hain na wo matter krengi ..hit me hardddd❤❤❤❤
Uff i jst love your video
This is what which i need today & I got this video
Ty alot❤
Sometimes one ignores all minus points and embrace a person against all odds. Whether height, finances, family background but when he reaches financial stability, his inferiority complex remains and first thing he does is get rid of his supporting wife. Its v.practical to be bit self-centered and a girl should choose someone who is somewhat physically compatible with her and financially stable.
Rabia hmmmm intersting topic .
Rabia sis kitna acha hota ap real cuples ko is topic ki liye invite kerti wo is topic ki liye ap ke saath baat jeet mushwara nasihut main mudud kerte
Karachi ki vlogger Zurnab
Lahore se Kawal Aftan n Zulqur
Ap in ki saath n or bhi cuples Mazz n Saba ki saath ye show kerti their physical presence hard thn go for cam interviews
I have seen your lot of videos but by this time I noticed you're resembling with asp sheherbano Naqvi😁
Rabia u r looking beautiful 😊❤ Ma sha Allah
Exactly my question is why people with gud looks don't know how to behave
Salam ma'am.
Hru? Looking lovely MASHA ALLAH ma'am as always.
Don't think appearance should matter if he's caring, loving, trust worthy and putting the effort.
But unfortunately appearance is 1st preference
I think a hot topic to cover would be this recent reddit post where this pakistani woman is venting about how she is recently married and moved to Germany with her husband. Once there she says she sees other desi women and Indian women who she feels are not as good looking as her but are paired up with handsome European men and enjoying life in a way she isn't. She says her husband is not at fault, is a nice fellow but she is unsatisfied being with him after seeing these desi women in Germany are having more fun.
If she’s still not married, she should be the last person you should listen to!
How beautiful you are, inner and outer both. You feel so apni apni❤
"If" that guy is a " green flag"so his stature is not a problem❤
Thank you ❤
میں آج کل اسی مشکل سے گزر رہی ہوں کیونکہ میری شادی گاؤں میں ہوئی ہے بابر مجھ سے ہانچ سال چھوٹا ہے اور شکل و صورت نارمل ہے وہ مجھ سے بہت محبت کرتا ہے بچوں کی طرح خیال رکھتا ہے مگر لوگوں نے طنز کر کر کے مجھے نیم ہاگل کر دیا ہے۔۔شادی کو دس ماہ ہوئے ہیں اور شادی خطرے میں پڑی ہوئی ہے۔۔ میں شرع کے دو ماہ خوش رہی مگر لوگوں نے یہ کہہ کہہ کر مجھے نیزار کر دیا کہ وہ میرے قابل نہیں اور مجھے قمست نے زمین ہی لا پٹخا۔۔بابر کی نیچر بالکل ویسی ہے جیسی آپ بتا رہی ہیں مگر مجھے لوگوں نے باتیں کر کے مایوس کر دیا یہاں تک کے میں نے خود کشی کی کوشش کی ہے اور دو دن سے امی کے گھر آئی ہوئی ہوں ۔۔مجھے اہنی زندگی سے نفرت ہو چکی ہے۔۔میں نے ساری زندگی یہی سنا کہ میں بہت خوبصورت پڑھی لکھی ہند مند لڑکی ہوں تو کوئی شہزادہ آئے گا جس میں ہر خوبی ہوگی۔۔اب ویسا کچھ نہیں ہوا تو میرے اندر جینے کی امنگ ختم ہو چکی ہے😢😢
Logon ki batain na sunnain .. sakon sa apni life guzarain.. log kaisi haal main jeenay nai daitay .. apnay husband ka sath kahen dore Chali jain rishtay daron sa dore .. aram sa life enjoy karain❤❤
In my opinion it's Mothers or Ghar waly Jo aese consciousness paida krty hain,So waldain KO chaheye Ky wo badalty waqt Ky sath apny asolon aur zawabit KO badlain taky apny bachon Ky sath aik health relationship maintain KR skain
Agr us larki KO Ghar sy confidence milta to usko koi farq na parta bahir waly kya keh rhy hain
Here is another scenario. He is perfect looking almost like a model. But there is a lack of intellectual compatible. Completely opposite interests. Wht would u recommend then?
True💯❤
Rabia are you married. Don’t know anything about you. We know Shazia is married with kids
Please Rabia tell us your marital status. I’m a loyal viewer of your both channels😊
Assalamualaikum
My favorite favorite ❤️😘 crush 😊
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I got married to an African American man but my family and society attitude is like tumhain kala habshi hi Mila tha shaadi kerne ke liye
Pleaae beimg 40 years old and 20years of marriage.look for being good person.looks are nothing.
Finally someone talk about it 😭🤌🏼