@@sophieacapella Not a bad thing! I bought a ridiculously overpriced lip gloss the other day to celebrate a win and even though it was $42 for a lip gloss it was the best one I've ever owned and I can't wait for the next thing to celebrate so I can buy it again! (it's almost out ;-)
Hi Julia! You are such a wonderful person! I love your videos already and I just found you today just scrolling through RUclips lol super motivational. My favorite way to celebrate my success is eating food haha I love Chinese food and Subway.
I am a perfectionist and I’m always thinking about what needs to be done. I don’t give myself credit for what I have accomplished. I need to work on not being hard on myself.
I don't give myself credit either and I'm hard on myself also. When I tell people my story they think the opposite and I'm a little shocked when they think otherwise. They see something in me that I don't see in myself.
Really glad you're here. And I have a secret - none of us has it figured out ; -) . Give yourself some credit - I have a feeling you're doing your best.
New here. . And I’m in my mid 60’s. Found you while looking up answers for anxiety and depression. In addition I am dealing with a chronic illness. I like your video because it focuses on solutions, instead of being stuck in the problems. Very upbeat and positive, but realistic. Just what I’m looking for!! Thx!!
I'm actually feels like giving up today, examination result are not really good and I found myself thinking about giving up on everything... thank you for the video💕
Giving advice in the #real #practical. No almighty and thunderous hunch. And I appreciate that. So simple, yet applicable. #go easy on yourself. No other speech I've listened to advises on this. Burn out is real. The human condition calls for slowing down to reenergize. You are quite right. Pushing and pushing could be detrimental to your health and you end up sick than successful. Even the sun refuses to shine and gets back up a next day.
I’m Rachelle. I’m 53. My husband and I care for 3 guys 24/7 in our home. Thank you for your videos. I am just really tired. Then I feel guilty for feeling this way.
I was at the fire dept , working my shift. Looked up “ how to know when to give up”. I am a 17 year vet of the fire service and 6 Navy vet. I started a small detailing business when I returned home from my tour. Love detailing cars!!! But sometimes when I’m not very busy, I get depressed and then I worry about supporting my family. My x-wife really did a mess on my finically and I feel like I can never recover from that mess. I’ve looked at moving overseas to no one knows anything about me or my past and try to start over and live alone till then end.
Yes I remember this first thing in the morning you pop on my screen when I had a bad night of depression and I had to go to work and I only had like an hour sleep on top of it so yeah yet I still moved forward and I thank God and you. So thank you again for being there for me. ❤❤❤
You are fluid, clear, and fun to watch. Being happy is NOT a destination. Too many "wait" to be happy, or they have it dependent on a future "goal". I have two issues (only?!) ... 1. Too many around me don't know how to be happy.... do I let go of them or minimize how much they "take" from me? 2. The harder part! Parts of life IS about luck/ timing. This is undeniable and no one can ever convince me otherwise. There are too many examples, but health can be one of them. How do we pick ourselves up from bad luck? I don't mean it as a general excuse. In fact, I've never used it for an excuse /explanation. However, at 42 years old, recent history has been a series of misfortunes, intertwined with mistakes. I suppose it goes back to the sphere of influence. It just can be difficult. BTW, to answer your opening request- my partner sent me a link to this video unexpectedly. Not sure how it was found but glad I found you.
Hi Julia, CEO of a tech startup company in San Francisco here. By all accounts, my company has had success, but I've still had a rough time navigating the fundraising process due to an overly perfectionist and fear of continued rejection mindset. I got to a point of such frustration the other day that I was looking for any help I could come by and discovered your videos. You don't know this yet, but you're actually my coach (if only via RUclips for now :) Thanks for making a lot of great videos on the subjects of self directed anger, perfectionism, etc because I was definitely struggling with both, and it was crippling my efforts to get even the most basic amount of outreach accomplished.
Hi Julia. It's great to know you. I found you through a friend who is a social worker. She recommended that I listen to some of your videos. Earlier this year I had a severe medical issue that required several days in a hospital. Here's the kicker. Not any of my acquaintances, friends or neighbors came to visit me in the hospital. I felt so alone and abandoned. I was in a very, very dark place. I am the type of person who drops everything and helps people who need help. Yet, here I was very alone and very sick. My social worker friend, who I met after the incident, is the person I credit with saving my life. Now I am healing my whole person by watching your videos. Thank you for being who you are. Regards.
my long time girlfriend left me out of nowhere. my "friends" talk to me but go off and do things without me. I have been withering away physically losing weight getting skinny. I dont feel good about myself i dont feel like i have done anything to really amount to anything other then existing. My mental state is stuck in a plague of anxiety and self loathing. I feel generally pretty horrible. this video has helped me get a better mindset. DONT GIVE UP! this isnt a 100m dash this is a marathon. marathons are brutal. Pace myself and look back at the miles i have already overcome.
Thanks Julia. My name is Allegra, I'm 55 and am vexed by PTSD which became complex in 2011 and I became state disabled. I think your videos are right on the money. My goals now are not to suffer as much as possible, forensic study of psychology and medication, and lots of intellectual study of the world and the people in it and what they create or destroy and why. This pursuit will take me the rest of my life. I have always been an achiever. My abuse came from family, so needless to say, I have none. Your insights are spectacular! They're a big dose of wisdom that everyone should hear. Thank you so very much!
Thank you for this video . My mental illness was a pretty much chains around me , and treated it like a death sentence. I'm in my late 20s and finally took a step out my head to drive and go back to school . And everyone who's going through anxiety and depression here's some courage energy . First time I went to get some exposure therapy and helped a lot . It does make it 10x harder without support . Thanks Julia I really need to hear this.
I like the way you phrased that; Use our Setbacks as the biggest reason for my Comebacks.This Setback is going to be the reason for my Comeback. As a person that has had many difficult times and have had to pick myself back up again I really like the way you articulated that. It is catchy and easy to remember. Thanks again for another great presentation.
My name is Rusty, I found this channel by chance, luckiest chance I could come across. When you find a channel that offers information that is palatable and easy to retain and process. I needed direction and had ambition and felt lost. Julia Kristina Counseling RUclips channel have me that insight and inspiration throughout my life that became a driving force to start my own business so I could become a good provider. There is ebb and flow consequences and repercussions, but that doesn't mean that is bad, that may be challenging but every season of growth there is tension as well as the "drama".
Sometimes we just need to just be. I have felt like giving up recently. I took a new position at a company and I’m not doing good enough. I don’t recognize how far I’ve come in my life and how much I have overcome. . Thank you for reminding me that I need to keep going. I need to be grateful for what I have accomplished. Celebrate every little success. I need more support or someone to talk to.
You are so right with taking a step back to just relax and trust the process. I lost 2 jobs in a year period and I was so burned out from trying so hard working to keep those jobs and pleasing bosses who are just miserable and do not appreciate who they have on their team. So I let go, took time off and just slowed down, trusting the process. Yes I failed, but now I am going after career goals i have always wanted to try. At this point, I am going to be much more compassionate with myself and rest as needed to help me reach new goals. Burn out is real and scary. I only give time to like minded people who are also trying to live their best lives, it's a real game changer. Thanks for the video, very helpful! ✌🙏✌
Thank you!!! This is sooooo helpful, because I'm way too type A. I've been running (literally) too hard, forgetting that I did this to be happy and healthy, NOT to make it a point of how far or fast. I needed this TODAY!🌷
Hi Julia, my name is Deb. I’m trying to build an at home business. I did a search and you were the first one that popped up! It is very important in the initial stages to stay motivated when you feel like this may not be the opportunity for me. I’m loving what I’m hearing from you so far. Thanks for your help and advice! Blessings, Deb
Push yourself, motivate yourself every single day, find a reason why, having a purpose, loving what we do, having a positive self-talk every day and believe in ourselves ♡
Hi , the past 2 yrs me and few poeple were trying to stop demolition of the Allentown state hospital. Beauiful place. Peaceful, made u feel like home. I recharge here while walking the horseshoe. We lossed , and they demolished most of the buildings. It all fell on ears. They didn't listen to any of us. They did what they wanted. Few friends told me I should be proud of my self. I stood up to state. And for my believes. I do, but sad at same time, for what was lossed.
Wow, I really needed to hear this today. I will admit it. I'm a perfectionist, and having just received proof that I'm not the best , I felt like it was a pointless struggle. Thank you for reminding me to think about what motivates me to come as far as I have, and embracing this as a reason to push back up
Hi! I found you because I’m taking care of my hubby who recently had a stroke and now everything,driving , shopping, cleaning, laundry etc is totally on me. Ugh. Hard.These videos are are my support in many ways...Julia you have no idea.Thank you❤️
I think this topic is sooooo important for everyone to hear! We ALL feel like giving up sometimes and lose that motivation to move forward. It's amazing how lonely it can feel when we're in the muck, but there is a way to get out and keep it going. These tools are super helpful, and I look forward to sharing your advice with others! Thank you for what you do :)
I am struggling, as an adult returning to school I frequently want to give up on this and everything. That was why your hyper sensitive posting hurt, I am almost exactly what you describe. I am in Southern California so I am trying to find an online session that fits what I need. For now I am going through your postings and trying to pull strings to hang onto. Thanks for being here!
Thank you again for amazing advice. I just start online college for information technology networking. I also got a new job as a IT support. I have good things happening. I am planning on falling forward and not backward.
I found your videos while doing a search on anxiety and I thought your voice calming and soothing. I needed to hear this message because this is exactly what I'm going through right now. A previous job situation that I was involved in has plagued me with severe anxiety (as I'm typing this and thinking about it my heart is racing) which in turned into me having high blood pressure. I've now been diagnosed with PTSD to add to the list. I want to put that sparkle back into my life and going to school does it for me. I think I will work on degree #4 and chose something that involves helping others. Thank you so much for sharing the tools that can help with this.
This is just too cool that you are taking the time to put practical and authentic advice out there for us all that need it. Thanks for not filling the air with fluff, but real life skills instead.
Thank you. I really appreciate your help...I'm so there feeling undervalued at a job that i have been at for 5+ years...I'm trying to learn to stop overdoing myself there and then feeling overworked( my own fault) there's no real incentive for all the help that I've given when needed...we've gone through 3 managers in 3 months...each tells you, your actions won't go unnoticed...yeah right...no raise in almost 3 years...but yet you keep rolling with the punches, covering for others...etc.im ready to leave and make a new life and work where I can make a difference and Feel good about it.
My name is Eric and i found you by simply searching codependence and BOOM 💥 there you were and I have subscribed and search additional videos. I love it! They seem to come at the right time. Just like this video. Love your approach and work. Great energy!
I started watching videos on anxiety and your videos popped up on my feed. I’m glad they did :) I feel lucky to discover some techniques from you on mindfulness and how tune out from overreacting brain, so thank you 🙏🏻
Oh my God! Julia where have you been???. Well, i bet this is the motivation i have always needed. I have listened & watched a few of your awesome practical videos, indeed, they are life transforming. Thank you sooo much❤
Hi Julia: To answer your question, I couldn't pick just one. They're all golden. Today, though, my baby step was, first of all, to watch this (and not put it off for later), and to reach out to others for mentoring and support (which I did even before the video was all the way over!). Thank you so much. I also saved this in a new playlist for myself called Motivation. I expect I'll come back to this one again and again. Thanks again for all that you do!
Hi Julia! My boyfriend of 19 years are back! You really help us both so much! Especially him, he has PTSD and other mental problems. We look forward to your videos! Thank you so much!💞 God bless you!❤ 🙏
Hi Julia, my name is Kamini - I’m a new viewer/total fan! I stumbled serendipitously across your channel over the Easter weekend as I was trying to get grounded and was searching for clarity of mind and guidance in decision making. I’m finding your insights extremely valuable and I love your presenting style too❤
Great video. Very on point. So normal to feel moments of self doubt, which doesn't mean relapsing into old ways, but just means you are feeling things are tough. But as you say that's normal. That's life. It's not a bed of roses all the time, and that's how we grow and learn and get better...
I’m new. I’m 25. I’m trying hard to keep myself in a home. I’ve had many setbacks. My biggest was being in the hospital and that inability to work and keep an income ruined my plans. I’ve been at the brink. I’m still at the brink. I’m at it right now as I type this. I often tell myself that it doesn’t matter. I tell myself that my life doesn’t matter. All of my struggles, while my own, mean nothing. If I were to be gone, it would change nothing. Those around me would simply be free. Free of a burden. Free of having to pretend to care about me. I make things hard on myself, and I don’t know how to make it stop. When things got bad from my hospital trip, it was so bad I took a pill bottle and wrote “Are you ready to give up”. A question I’d ask myself if I were ready to take that jump and truly set my mind and body free from this burden I put on myself and the burden I am to others. So I don’t have to deal with the pain of being left alone. Being abandoned. I had goals, I still do. Yet it’s so difficult to even start because my own mind just prevents me from doing things normally so I have to find some roundabout solutions for myself. All it does is just waste time. So I’m here now, as I type to whomever may see it, looking at this bottle with the million dollar question: “Are you ready to give up”. Even if I wanted to, I’m scared to. So it just weighs over my head as if it’s an easy solution, but it isn’t. It’s not an easy solution. It’s a hurtful one. A slow one. I don’t want to make that choice and the pain doesn’t stop with just mental. It becomes physical and I only suffer more when I just want the pain to end. So, because of my cowardice, I’m still here. Wallowing in my own pitiful sadness, worry, doubt, and disappointment. I don’t have shoulders to lean on. I don’t have the time to find any help. I don’t have the money for a therapist, nor the insurance for one. It’s all so much, and I just want it to all end instantly. And yet I can’t even push myself over that edge. I don’t know if it’s because I’m strong enough not to, or because I’m too weak to pull my own trigger…
12:30 is word to the perfectionists and overachievers. If I can’t be grateful/proud now, I also won’t be when I meet the next goal. Thank you so much for this video
Those little accomplishments add up to big ones. I just had an idea to start a daily journal with any accomplishments. Maybe it was getting something done on my list. Maybe it was that I put in boundaries with someone or maybe removed someone toxic. Or maybe it could be self care or a workout. It’s time for me to recognize my growth rather than beating myself up feeling I don’t measure up. When I have hindsight into all those little accomplishments, it’s like looking at a winning path I was on and I feel more motivated to continue. Thank you for the video, needed it today! 💜
My name is Amy and I found you by searching up "when you feel like giving up". Ive been going through alot with fake love from someone ive known for 5-6 years.
I love the filter on your videos, it makes me feel like I'm at Chuck E Cheese and your in that photo booth that take a picture of you the sketches the picture on the screen then prints it out for you to keep to remember the fun you had a Chuck E Cheese
Oh my gosh I wish my chuckie cheese had that when my kids were little. Yeah that was the takeaway from your comment for me LOL but I like the way her videos are in black and white also
Thank you Julia Kristina for empowering and encouraging words...I really needed to hear all you said on this video. So true!...we need to celebrate those small moments that we feel are not as significant, but are...because it keeps us going...many blessings to you and your beautiful family...ALWAYS! 😊🙏🏼
I am so glad you said reconnect with your why... because in doing that and figuring that out, that's what saved my life and kept me going when I didnt want to ❤❤❤
Thank you for this. I’m studying for a State Exam test in a crunch time, breaking out of my safe zone to pursue a career in sales which is REALLY scary for me. My “why” is literally money. I’m tired of being broke and not being able to provide for my family. I started studying for the test and thought, “what have I done?!”, lol. It’s so hard to remember! But I’m tired of being broke and feeling bad about myself for not being able to provide financially for my family, so I’m gonna keep going, because I can always give up.
Julia, love watching your videos. You are brilliant, seasoned and you have immense common sense:). We need more therapists like you! Sending you loads of respect.
@@juliakristinamah yes it is I know deep down better days will come.thank you do much for what you do I really enjoy your talks I just stumbled across you some how 😁
I wrote this poem this morning: "The Boundaries Song" . Music is coming. I have the right to be respected, to be protected; treated fairly, no threats to hurt me! No "put-downs " make me feel bad about me, to go and do without jealousy because I have the right to my boundaries.
Oh my god are you inside my head?! You’re saying all the things I’ve been thinking recently. I had a diagnosis of Cyclothymia today so I need to focus on finding out how I can make it work with my job x
It's not magic, it's psychology ;-) And common humanity - meaning, we are far more similar with the things we struggle with than we are different. Glad you're here Helen.
You popped up in my feed. Looking for reasons to keep going. I'll be 60 in a few months and I have nothing really to show for my life (even with 2 degrees) except a lot of experience. Earning far less than I did 5 years ago. So tired, burned out and living in a crap apartment because I can't afford anything more. I so want the freedom to take some extended time off and heal.... but taking time off may mean ending up living in my car (which feels like relief at the moment). But here I am, working in a retail environment and I HATE it.
Right there with you, sister! (You are definitely ahead of me though.) I want a house too and I'm older so it feels like this non-materialistic gal needs to seek wealth just to have something so simple. Just trying to find a path that aligns with my values. I believe we are both on our way! I have to add that finding a supportive community is HARD
I'm Samuel. This has been very helpful and insightful. I like what a colleague said it's helpful to see life like treasure hunt. Yes looking into our why is always anchoring 👌🏾
Thanks for the video! I'm in the process of many life changes, among which is starting my own business on-line. Using setbacks for our comebacks spoke loudest to me after a few days of fighting with a shipper. I was journalling last night about lessons learn so my ears pricked up when you got to that point of the video. It was positive reinforcement that I'm on the right track.
This hit me hard today and I needed to hear this today. I have big dreams as a rapper slash writer. I'm not trusting the process. I have a hard time slowing down. I am thinking materialistic now and it helped. I think I'm too spiritual sometimes and I need to stay grounded. I have a lot on my plate. A future wife substantial income and a kid I never met. I have drug abuse problems. And I worry a lot. I'm future tripping a lot. I'm not frantic but struggling. Need help staying grounded and motivated in the present moment. Thank you for your hard work your video was great. Steve
You're absolutely one of my favorite youtubers and I listen to your videos every morning! They're really encouraging and empowering. But i never knew you live in Vancouver!! Omg that's so nice:)) Made my day♡
I have been listening to your videos recently. I found your video's as a person with anxiety and anger issues. I wanted to find ways to deal with these situations and feelings. I am a SPED teacher, and a father or 3 children, and do not want them to feel the same feelings that I have gone through as someone who at times does not feel good enough.
Hello, I'm new here!😊 I was searching on you tube for answers and dealing with some life issues..and I found your channel. So glade I did, Been watching your videos all day and I feel so much better already..lol. Thanks for giving back to those just searching for answers .❤
What's one of your favourite ways to celebrate a success of any size?
I buy makeup, LOL !
@@sophieacapella Not a bad thing! I bought a ridiculously overpriced lip gloss the other day to celebrate a win and even though it was $42 for a lip gloss it was the best one I've ever owned and I can't wait for the next thing to celebrate so I can buy it again! (it's almost out ;-)
@Sand What is it??? Come on, don't leave me hanging!
😅I don't know why it feels so weird to me the idea of celebrating my accomplishments. I really have to work on that.
Hi Julia! You are such a wonderful person! I love your videos already and I just found you today just scrolling through RUclips lol super motivational. My favorite way to celebrate my success is eating food haha I love Chinese food and Subway.
I am a perfectionist and I’m always thinking about what needs to be done. I don’t give myself credit for what I have accomplished. I need to work on not being hard on myself.
Yes! Let yourself be proud of you!
Sonia Anthony me too
I don't give myself credit either and I'm hard on myself also. When I tell people my story they think the opposite and I'm a little shocked when they think otherwise. They see something in me that I don't see in myself.
You deserve a break. Take that break. Whatever a “break” means for you; you go and take that break...
im 61 yrs old
still havent figured it out
your work helps
thanks julia
Really glad you're here. And I have a secret - none of us has it figured out ; -) . Give yourself some credit - I have a feeling you're doing your best.
You've figured some things out..
You found Julia..or maybe she found you?
Im 61 as well,,,,
I need Abraham Hicks as well,,
I'm a teacher and have been struggling with burnout. This helps me so much right now!
Loss of motivation is the worst, it's so easy to just go back to sleep.
Thanks for the help.
Glad it helped Kurt.
This is a big fat mood.
Much appreciated- thank you♡
"If it was easy, everyone would do it" is something I say to myself (& my kids) all the time! ❤️💪
Amen sis.
New here. . And I’m in my mid 60’s. Found you while looking up answers for anxiety and depression. In addition I am dealing with a chronic illness. I like your video because it focuses on solutions, instead of being stuck in the problems. Very upbeat and positive, but realistic. Just what I’m looking for!! Thx!!
Look back and appreciate your achievements before looking foward. The mental boost is worth it. That was my main takeaway.
It's huge!
I do not do that because I don't want to become egotistical.
I'm actually feels like giving up today, examination result are not really good and I found myself thinking about giving up on everything... thank you for the video💕
Really glad you found it helpful. You can do this!
@@juliakristinamah thank you Julia 😊
I am 58 yrs old female. I liked your video. I have been feeling like giving up.
Negative thinking. I am stuck. First time I see one of your videos.
This is so me before I retired. I get tired looking back but smile as I look ahead.
I’m a 14 year old kid who just wants to know how to keep on going. It’s too early for me. Thank you for the advice
Giving advice in the #real #practical. No almighty and thunderous hunch. And I appreciate that. So simple, yet applicable. #go easy on yourself. No other speech I've listened to advises on this. Burn out is real. The human condition calls for slowing down to reenergize. You are quite right. Pushing and pushing could be detrimental to your health and you end up sick than successful. Even the sun refuses to shine and gets back up a next day.
I’m Rachelle. I’m 53. My husband and I care for 3 guys 24/7 in our home. Thank you for your videos. I am just really tired. Then I feel guilty for feeling this way.
What a wonderful person.
It takes one to know one ;-)
I agree 💯🙂Julia is very relatable and down-to-earth! I am a proud member of the shift Society!
I was at the fire dept , working my shift. Looked up “ how to know when to give up”. I am a 17 year vet of the fire service and 6 Navy vet. I started a small detailing business when I returned home from my tour. Love detailing cars!!! But sometimes when I’m not very busy, I get depressed and then I worry about supporting my family. My x-wife really did a mess on my finically and I feel like I can never recover from that mess. I’ve looked at moving overseas to no one knows anything about me or my past and try to start over and live alone till then end.
Yes I remember this first thing in the morning you pop on my screen when I had a bad night of depression and I had to go to work and I only had like an hour sleep on top of it so yeah yet I still moved forward and I thank God and you. So thank you again for being there for me. ❤❤❤
You are fluid, clear, and fun to watch. Being happy is NOT a destination. Too many "wait" to be happy, or they have it dependent on a future "goal". I have two issues (only?!) ... 1. Too many around me don't know how to be happy.... do I let go of them or minimize how much they "take" from me? 2. The harder part! Parts of life IS about luck/ timing. This is undeniable and no one can ever convince me otherwise. There are too many examples, but health can be one of them. How do we pick ourselves up from bad luck? I don't mean it as a general excuse. In fact, I've never used it for an excuse /explanation. However, at 42 years old, recent history has been a series of misfortunes, intertwined with mistakes. I suppose it goes back to the sphere of influence. It just can be difficult. BTW, to answer your opening request- my partner sent me a link to this video unexpectedly. Not sure how it was found but glad I found you.
Hi Julia, CEO of a tech startup company in San Francisco here. By all accounts, my company has had success, but I've still had a rough time navigating the fundraising process due to an overly perfectionist and fear of continued rejection mindset. I got to a point of such frustration the other day that I was looking for any help I could come by and discovered your videos. You don't know this yet, but you're actually my coach (if only via RUclips for now :) Thanks for making a lot of great videos on the subjects of self directed anger, perfectionism, etc because I was definitely struggling with both, and it was crippling my efforts to get even the most basic amount of outreach accomplished.
Trevor! So so good to connect with you - and I'm so glad you found me. Honoured to be your RUclips coach ;-)
Hi Trevor, would you say you have your mother’s mindset?
Hi Julia. It's great to know you. I found you through a friend who is a social worker. She recommended that I listen to some of your videos. Earlier this year I had a severe medical issue that required several days in a hospital. Here's the kicker. Not any of my acquaintances, friends or neighbors came to visit me in the hospital. I felt so alone and abandoned. I was in a very, very dark place. I am the type of person who drops everything and helps people who need help. Yet, here I was very alone and very sick. My social worker friend, who I met after the incident, is the person I credit with saving my life. Now I am healing my whole person by watching your videos. Thank you for being who you are. Regards.
my long time girlfriend left me out of nowhere. my "friends" talk to me but go off and do things without me. I have been withering away physically losing weight getting skinny. I dont feel good about myself i dont feel like i have done anything to really amount to anything other then existing. My mental state is stuck in a plague of anxiety and self loathing. I feel generally pretty horrible. this video has helped me get a better mindset. DONT GIVE UP! this isnt a 100m dash this is a marathon. marathons are brutal. Pace myself and look back at the miles i have already overcome.
Thanks Julia. My name is Allegra, I'm 55 and am vexed by PTSD which became complex in 2011 and I became state disabled. I think your videos are right on the money. My goals now are not to suffer as much as possible, forensic study of psychology and medication, and lots of intellectual study of the world and the people in it and what they create or destroy and why. This pursuit will take me the rest of my life. I have always been an achiever. My abuse came from family, so needless to say, I have none. Your insights are spectacular! They're a big dose of wisdom that everyone should hear. Thank you so very much!
I think she's great. I first caught her here on RUclips.
Thank you for this video . My mental illness was a pretty much chains around me , and treated it like a death sentence. I'm in my late 20s and finally took a step out my head to drive and go back to school . And everyone who's going through anxiety and depression here's some courage energy . First time I went to get some exposure therapy and helped a lot . It does make it 10x harder without support . Thanks Julia I really need to hear this.
GOOD for you for getting the proper help and support. Really glad you're here my fierce action-taker!
Thank you
I like the way you phrased that; Use our Setbacks as the biggest reason for my Comebacks.This Setback is going to be the reason for my Comeback. As a person that has had many difficult times and have had to pick myself back up again I really like the way you articulated that. It is catchy and easy to remember. Thanks again for another great presentation.
Thanks for the thumbs up 👍. I appreciate all constructive feedback
Thanks friend! Really glad it connected.
Thanks again for your response. I appreciate it.
My name is Rusty, I found this channel by chance, luckiest chance I could come across.
When you find a channel that offers information that is palatable and easy to retain and process.
I needed direction and had ambition and felt lost. Julia Kristina Counseling RUclips channel have me that insight and inspiration throughout my life that became a driving force to start my own business so I could become a good provider. There is ebb and flow consequences and repercussions, but that doesn't mean that is bad, that may be challenging but every season of growth there is tension as well as the "drama".
Sometimes we just need to just be. I have felt like giving up recently. I took a new position at a company and I’m not doing good enough. I don’t recognize how far I’ve come in my life and how much I have overcome. . Thank you for reminding me that I need to keep going. I need to be grateful for what I have accomplished. Celebrate every little success. I need more support or someone to talk to.
You are so right with taking a step back to just relax and trust the process. I lost 2 jobs in a year period and I was so burned out from trying so hard working to keep those jobs and pleasing bosses who are just miserable and do not appreciate who they have on their team. So I let go, took time off and just slowed down, trusting the process. Yes I failed, but now I am going after career goals i have always wanted to try. At this point, I am going to be much more compassionate with myself and rest as needed to help me reach new goals. Burn out is real and scary. I only give time to like minded people who are also trying to live their best lives, it's a real game changer. Thanks for the video, very helpful! ✌🙏✌
Thank you!!!
This is sooooo helpful, because I'm way too type A.
I've been running (literally) too hard, forgetting that I did this to be happy and healthy, NOT to make it a point of how far or fast.
I needed this TODAY!🌷
Super powerful insights Sandrine - glad you found this helpful.
Thank you Julia Kristina was great.
Hi Julia, my name is Deb. I’m trying to build an at home business. I did a search and you were the first one that popped up! It is very important in the initial stages to stay motivated when you feel like this may not be the opportunity for me. I’m loving what I’m hearing from you so far. Thanks for your help and advice! Blessings, Deb
Push yourself, motivate yourself every single day, find a reason why, having a purpose, loving what we do, having a positive self-talk every day and believe in ourselves ♡
Amen! And then sometimes, rest ;-)
@@juliakristinamah ♡ yes. Sending love and good energies
Your videos make me feel better! Thanks Julia ❤️
So glad it connected Karina.
Hi , the past 2 yrs me and few poeple were trying to stop demolition of the Allentown state hospital. Beauiful place. Peaceful, made u feel like home. I recharge here while walking the horseshoe. We lossed , and they demolished most of the buildings. It all fell on ears. They didn't listen to any of us. They did what they wanted. Few friends told me I should be proud of my self. I stood up to state. And for my believes. I do, but sad at same time, for what was lossed.
Wow, I really needed to hear this today. I will admit it. I'm a perfectionist, and having just received proof that I'm not the best , I felt like it was a pointless struggle. Thank you for reminding me to think about what motivates me to come as far as I have, and embracing this as a reason to push back up
Hi! I found you because I’m taking care of my hubby who recently had a stroke and now everything,driving , shopping, cleaning, laundry etc is totally on me. Ugh. Hard.These videos are are my support in many ways...Julia you have no idea.Thank you❤️
I think this topic is sooooo important for everyone to hear! We ALL feel like giving up sometimes and lose that motivation to move forward. It's amazing how lonely it can feel when we're in the muck, but there is a way to get out and keep it going. These tools are super helpful, and I look forward to sharing your advice with others! Thank you for what you do :)
Great advice! Enjoying the process is vital to keep going. And not comparing your beginning with someone else's medium.
Amen! Couldn't agree more.
I am struggling, as an adult returning to school I frequently want to give up on this and everything. That was why your hyper sensitive posting hurt, I am almost exactly what you describe. I am in Southern California so I am trying to find an online session that fits what I need. For now I am going through your postings and trying to pull strings to hang onto. Thanks for being here!
Thank you again for amazing advice. I just start online college for information technology networking. I also got a new job as a IT support. I have good things happening. I am planning on falling forward and not backward.
Yes sir! Good for you.
I have been very unmotivated lately. Your videos were recommended to me. I have watched several of your videos and I feel so much better. Thank you.
I found your videos while doing a search on anxiety and I thought your voice calming and soothing. I needed to hear this message because this is exactly what I'm going through right now. A previous job situation that I was involved in has plagued me with severe anxiety (as I'm typing this and thinking about it my heart is racing) which in turned into me having high blood pressure. I've now been diagnosed with PTSD to add to the list. I want to put that sparkle back into my life and going to school does it for me. I think I will work on degree #4 and chose something that involves helping others. Thank you so much for sharing the tools that can help with this.
This is just too cool that you are taking the time to put practical and authentic advice out there for us all that need it. Thanks for not filling the air with fluff, but real life skills instead.
Thank you. I really appreciate your help...I'm so there feeling undervalued at a job that i have been at for 5+ years...I'm trying to learn to stop overdoing myself there and then feeling overworked( my own fault) there's no real incentive for all the help that I've given when needed...we've gone through 3 managers in 3 months...each tells you, your actions won't go unnoticed...yeah right...no raise in almost 3 years...but yet you keep rolling with the punches, covering for others...etc.im ready to leave and make a new life and work where I can make a difference and Feel good about it.
I'm bout to start watching this video once a day for the rest of my life.
Hi my name is Luz. I found you by grace. I needed to be uplifted after a fall. I had been searching therapist. You speak a language I get. Thanks
Oh my goodness, Julia! This was so inspirational. SO needed to hear this, thank you.
My name is Eric and i found you by simply searching codependence and BOOM 💥 there you were and I have subscribed and search additional videos. I love it! They seem to come at the right time. Just like this video. Love your approach and work. Great energy!
Hey Eric! Really good to connect with you. Glad you're here!
I have come a long ways and am very proud of it!
I started watching videos on anxiety and your videos popped up on my feed. I’m glad they did :) I feel lucky to discover some techniques from you on mindfulness and how tune out from overreacting brain, so thank you 🙏🏻
Oh my God! Julia where have you been???. Well, i bet this is the motivation i have always needed. I have listened & watched a few of your awesome practical videos, indeed, they are life transforming. Thank you sooo much❤
*These are hardcore practical and relevant tips. Thank you so much for this!*
SO so glad it connected - thanks for taking the time to say so!
Hi Julia: To answer your question, I couldn't pick just one. They're all golden. Today, though, my baby step was, first of all, to watch this (and not put it off for later), and to reach out to others for mentoring and support (which I did even before the video was all the way over!). Thank you so much. I also saved this in a new playlist for myself called Motivation. I expect I'll come back to this one again and again. Thanks again for all that you do!
I feel like giving up as certain things aren't going right since many years.
Your video helped a lot ❤️
Hi Julia! My boyfriend of 19 years are back! You really help us both so much! Especially him, he has PTSD and other mental problems. We look forward to your videos! Thank you so much!💞 God bless you!❤ 🙏
Hi Julia, my name is Kamini - I’m a new viewer/total fan!
I stumbled serendipitously across your channel over the Easter weekend as I was trying to get grounded and was searching for clarity of mind and guidance in decision making.
I’m finding your insights extremely valuable and I love your presenting style too❤
found you last month--
I love your work,,its helping me alot in my situations
Thank you...I really needed this, still need this.......still letting it in
So glad it connected - grateful you're here.
Great video. Very on point. So normal to feel moments of self doubt, which doesn't mean relapsing into old ways, but just means you are feeling things are tough. But as you say that's normal. That's life. It's not a bed of roses all the time, and that's how we grow and learn and get better...
My mid-week "grounding" - thanks Julia!
So glad it was helpful ;-)
This is very powerful speech. I feel motivated after listening to her talk.
I’m new. I’m 25. I’m trying hard to keep myself in a home. I’ve had many setbacks. My biggest was being in the hospital and that inability to work and keep an income ruined my plans. I’ve been at the brink. I’m still at the brink. I’m at it right now as I type this. I often tell myself that it doesn’t matter. I tell myself that my life doesn’t matter. All of my struggles, while my own, mean nothing. If I were to be gone, it would change nothing. Those around me would simply be free. Free of a burden. Free of having to pretend to care about me. I make things hard on myself, and I don’t know how to make it stop. When things got bad from my hospital trip, it was so bad I took a pill bottle and wrote “Are you ready to give up”. A question I’d ask myself if I were ready to take that jump and truly set my mind and body free from this burden I put on myself and the burden I am to others. So I don’t have to deal with the pain of being left alone. Being abandoned. I had goals, I still do. Yet it’s so difficult to even start because my own mind just prevents me from doing things normally so I have to find some roundabout solutions for myself. All it does is just waste time. So I’m here now, as I type to whomever may see it, looking at this bottle with the million dollar question: “Are you ready to give up”.
Even if I wanted to, I’m scared to. So it just weighs over my head as if it’s an easy solution, but it isn’t. It’s not an easy solution. It’s a hurtful one. A slow one. I don’t want to make that choice and the pain doesn’t stop with just mental. It becomes physical and I only suffer more when I just want the pain to end. So, because of my cowardice, I’m still here. Wallowing in my own pitiful sadness, worry, doubt, and disappointment.
I don’t have shoulders to lean on. I don’t have the time to find any help. I don’t have the money for a therapist, nor the insurance for one. It’s all so much, and I just want it to all end instantly. And yet I can’t even push myself over that edge. I don’t know if it’s because I’m strong enough not to, or because I’m too weak to pull my own trigger…
12:30 is word to the perfectionists and overachievers. If I can’t be grateful/proud now, I also won’t be when I meet the next goal. Thank you so much for this video
Those little accomplishments add up to big ones. I just had an idea to start a daily journal with any accomplishments. Maybe it was getting something done on my list. Maybe it was that I put in boundaries with someone or maybe removed someone toxic. Or maybe it could be self care or a workout. It’s time for me to recognize my growth rather than beating myself up feeling I don’t measure up. When I have hindsight into all those little accomplishments, it’s like looking at a winning path I was on and I feel more motivated to continue. Thank you for the video, needed it today! 💜
My name is Amy and I found you by searching up "when you feel like giving up". Ive been going through alot with fake love from someone ive known for 5-6 years.
Same
I'm using this to cope with a depressed spouse, keeping the goal in picture.
I love the filter on your videos, it makes me feel like I'm at Chuck E Cheese and your in that photo booth that take a picture of you the sketches the picture on the screen then prints it out for you to keep to remember the fun you had a Chuck E Cheese
lol hilarious
Oh my gosh I wish my chuckie cheese had that when my kids were little. Yeah that was the takeaway from your comment for me LOL but I like the way her videos are in black and white also
Your videos are always a great source of inspiration, definitely the highlight of my day! I really needed to hear something like this right now
So kind of you to say! Really glad it connected, helped and made sense.
Thank you Julia Kristina for empowering and encouraging words...I really needed to hear all you said on this video. So true!...we need to celebrate those small moments that we feel are not as significant, but are...because it keeps us going...many blessings to you and your beautiful family...ALWAYS! 😊🙏🏼
I am so glad you said reconnect with your why... because in doing that and figuring that out, that's what saved my life and kept me going when I didnt want to
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Really powerful. Thanks for sharing, sister.
Thank you for this. I’m studying for a State Exam test in a crunch time, breaking out of my safe zone to pursue a career in sales which is REALLY scary for me. My “why” is literally money. I’m tired of being broke and not being able to provide for my family. I started studying for the test and thought, “what have I done?!”, lol. It’s so hard to remember! But I’m tired of being broke and feeling bad about myself for not being able to provide financially for my family, so I’m gonna keep going, because I can always give up.
Julia, love watching your videos. You are brilliant, seasoned and you have immense common sense:). We need more therapists like you! Sending you loads of respect.
O did find you while I was crying and asked me if I have tha GAD. And now I am watching youre videos.
Things get really hard when your dealing with physical pain..I'm struggling bad.
Absolutely - physical pain is no joke
scooter- I'm so sorry. I am, too. It's impossible to have a good quality of life with physical pain.
@@LittleLulubee yes I have s chronic autoimmune disease its flaring up and I'm having a really hard time at the moment..thanks for your reply.
@@juliakristinamah yes it is I know deep down better days will come.thank you do much for what you do I really enjoy your talks I just stumbled across you some how 😁
Do you ever do physical thearpy? it helped me greatly.
Thanks Doc .....fit my mind last few months....have a great rest of week
You too! Glad it helped.
Hello Julia I have been following you for a few years as you helped me get over my anxiety with the video about trusting yourself.
I just typed my concern in the search bar and noticed your video, thanks.
Thanks for the encouragement, life is very turbulent at the moment.
Oh, I sooo needed to hear that today. All your points are very applicable to me
Thank You Julia appreciate your insight
Thank you ever so much for for your "moments of clarity." You have inspired me.👍
I wrote this poem this morning: "The Boundaries Song" . Music is coming. I have the right to be respected, to be protected; treated fairly, no threats to hurt me! No "put-downs " make me feel bad about me, to go and do without jealousy because I have the right to my boundaries.
I'm pretty sure I found you here on you tube while looking up videos about anxiety. So glad I found you. Thanks for all you do!
I'm so glad you found me too! So happy to have you here Tammy.
Oh my god are you inside my head?! You’re saying all the things I’ve been thinking recently. I had a diagnosis of Cyclothymia today so I need to focus on finding out how I can make it work with my job x
It's not magic, it's psychology ;-) And common humanity - meaning, we are far more similar with the things we struggle with than we are different. Glad you're here Helen.
This is fantastic and really needed. I connected first time with you here on youtube typing in the search help and one of your videos came up :)
Oh awesome! I'm so glad you're here Rachel.
@@juliakristinamah thank you for replying! ❤ ^^
You popped up in my feed. Looking for reasons to keep going. I'll be 60 in a few months and I have nothing really to show for my life (even with 2 degrees) except a lot of experience. Earning far less than I did 5 years ago. So tired, burned out and living in a crap apartment because I can't afford anything more. I so want the freedom to take some extended time off and heal.... but taking time off may mean ending up living in my car (which feels like relief at the moment).
But here I am, working in a retail environment and I HATE it.
Right there with you, sister! (You are definitely ahead of me though.) I want a house too and I'm older so it feels like this non-materialistic gal needs to seek wealth just to have something so simple. Just trying to find a path that aligns with my values. I believe we are both on our way!
I have to add that finding a supportive community is HARD
I'm Samuel. This has been very helpful and insightful. I like what a colleague said it's helpful to see life like treasure hunt.
Yes looking into our why is always anchoring 👌🏾
Thanks for the video! I'm in the process of many life changes, among which is starting my own business on-line. Using setbacks for our comebacks spoke loudest to me after a few days of fighting with a shipper. I was journalling last night about lessons learn so my ears pricked up when you got to that point of the video. It was positive reinforcement that I'm on the right track.
Hi Julia found your channel through RUclips recommendations on narc awareness channels .
This hit me hard today and I needed to hear this today. I have big dreams as a rapper slash writer. I'm not trusting the process. I have a hard time slowing down. I am thinking materialistic now and it helped. I think I'm too spiritual sometimes and I need to stay grounded. I have a lot on my plate. A future wife substantial income and a kid I never met. I have drug abuse problems. And I worry a lot. I'm future tripping a lot. I'm not frantic but struggling. Need help staying grounded and motivated in the present moment. Thank you for your hard work your video was great. Steve
I needed this today. You have no idea. Thank you.
Love listening to you and your videos. So inspirational !
Its 9:30 PM in India i found this channel subscribed now i will watch this video tomorrow because right now i am tired
It is also nice to let it go, not big deal.
Hi Julia, I found you on you tube when I was also listening to the anxiety guy.
You're absolutely one of my favorite youtubers and I listen to your videos every morning! They're really encouraging and empowering. But i never knew you live in Vancouver!! Omg that's so nice:)) Made my day♡
Thank you so much Julia you're such an inspiration your videos have reshaped my Life on how I do things your so Awesome don't forget it!
Thanks for taking the time to say so Nathan - and good for YOU for showing up and doing the work!
I have been listening to your videos recently. I found your video's as a person with anxiety and anger issues. I wanted to find ways to deal with these situations and feelings. I am a SPED teacher, and a father or 3 children, and do not want them to feel the same feelings that I have gone through as someone who at times does not feel good enough.
Hello, I'm new here!😊 I was searching on you tube for answers and dealing with some life issues..and I found your channel. So glade I did, Been watching your videos all day and I feel so much better already..lol. Thanks for giving back to those just searching for answers .❤