Well said..."High Value women don't waste time trying to convince a man to treat her well...they move on and focus on themselves...high value women attract high value men" thank you for articulating your thoughts in a way that was so easy to digest.
Ladies...it’s very simple. Don’t try to make him do anything. If you are more evolved than he is, it is a big red sign for you to move on. Don’t wait for him or other people to grow up. Just jog on.
At the time, a guy disappeared for 5 months and he made excuses why he was too busy to talk to me. I just walked away because I believe that “People make time for things that really are important to them.” ♥️ If someone doesn’t value you, just let them go!
Perfect timing. I just broke off a six month relationship because the guy kept calling me liar, cheater, sneaky. I never lied and never cheated. It was all in his crazy mind. I told him very respectful and with lots of love that we were not compatible and I was moving on. I feel great about my decision. Now it’s time to focus on me😀
Same here. He projected all his lies and cheating on me. He walked on me and put me third, fourth and fifth psrty situations. Now that he's coming over, I'm just closed off to him. At first, when he'd accuse me, Id try to convince him, beg and plead with him to not judge me wrongly. Today, i told him to eff off. I hope he doesn't come back.
Yes. If someone does not respect or trust you enough, you must get away for your own sake. I wish I had realized and understood all this 25 years ago. You are right to get out early.
After watching all your videos, I have finally found a man who values me beyond words! What a joy, I can’t tell you! Thank you so much Jason! Your advice has been invaluable for this 61 year old!!!!! ❤️❤️
A Goddess attracts men. Never chase a man. If he does not call you, don't call him. If he does not call you, drop his azz. What is there to think about? He does not like you. Don't be a donkey! The End!
I was dating a man that I considered a high quality man. He treated me amazingly but then was sent to the Bahrain to finish up his 30 years in the Navy and things changed. We would have silly arguments and he would stop all contact with me. The first time I was worried sick that something had happened to him. However, he responded to my email by apologizing but he did the same 2 months later and even stood me up. He was sent to San Diego and asked to see me and was a no show. I responded by sending him a message wishing him the best. Even though, I was with him for 2 yrs I feel strong because I know I’m a high value woman. Thank you for your great videos!
Thank you so much wonderful clip! Never worry or question why a man ghosted, just observe that behavior, know that he is capable of it and not give it a second thought. He showed you who he was and that he does not value you. High value women just move on!
Wayne you can become conditioned to tolerate things that you should not as they are negative behaviours and actions that are harming you and sometimes it’s difficult to see clearly and see that you have the power to free yourself from that and to reject all forms of negativity
This is everything I need to hear. Stop thinking that you can convince someone into investing in your life when he is not deciding to love you in the first place. I learned this the hard way and it's very good to have videos like this once in awhile for a good reminder😊
Oh my god. Thank you for this. I have gone through a harsh depression in the past and spent many many years trying to convince my partner that I had value. Today I am happier than ever in my life focusing on what is important to me, single and looking for a high quality man. This is thanks to advice from family and friends but from you as well. Thank you thank you. No woman should ever have to prove her value.
Yes, I went through a similar thing with a couple of long term relationships, I know how you feel! I'm out of this energy and soul sucking relationships and I'm so glad you are, keep building your life 💛🤗🌞
I dated a narcissist, he didn't value me at all and made me feel so worthless. He decided to go ghost on me just because we got into an argument but now I see. this video truly helped me, thank you
I listened.. then replayed. so true!! if he doesn't value you early on, it will only get worse!! so it's like why continue something when someone else IS out there who does have time and will make time for you. save yourself the time and effort!! great video ♡
I just ended an 11year relationship & could never put a finger on what was missing in the relationship. I came to tears with this video as I realized what it was. 😢💔
I want to thank you. I have questioned for 2 weeks now why he can’t find any time for me. Over the past couple days I began asking myself why I am so invested and he isn’t. You have completely convinced me where I stand. Thanks for all your positive advice. Dating after 50 is tough
There aren't many men that follow God, believe in the Biblical laws, and produce righteous "fruit." Fast and pray, hope that you find the right one. Hold off on the physical part of it, and if he stays, then you will know if he had plans of using you. To be used for sex, and tossed aside when the offer from another available female presents itself. This dirty sex culture, changing partners every couple of months, sleeping with them all, ends in high milage, lots of emotional baggage, and sex diseases. Murfreesboro, TN, 2006, even the Rutherford county high schools came back 1 in 9 was HIV positive, for the virus causing AIDS. Murfreesboro is a high number of LGBT's, and highest number of HIV patients, second to Nashville, and Memphis. Memphis AIDS cases were so vast, that they blamed the bankruptcy of TN Care- Blue Care on them. Remember, the media isn't telling the numbers, and this dating means sex lifestyle is spreading it.
Leave and let him miss your absence. Then he will realise that he missed out of a good one. Whilst he misses you, focus on your life and better your life so he knows he was stupid for not valuing you.
If i had seen this 3 years ago, i would have made sure he valued me first before getting serious.. after all the hurt that he caused, iam glad i am away from him now and he doesnt have the power to hurt me anymore. Glad i came across this video, everything makes sense to me now
Excellent video! I have been living in this way of valuing myself for the past couple of years now and it has kept me happier and my self esteem intact. I don’t waste my time, my energy and certainly not my emotions on those who don’t value me but I was only able to do this once I highlighted to myself what my best qualities are. I reminded myself of these qualities everyday. It really works!
Sounds like all you can do is dump 'em and start over with someone else. Ladies, just don't sleep with them; and they will strive to get you and value you. Very simple. If you already slept with him; you might as well realize you screwed up and might as well cut your losses and start over with someone new and don't let them sleep with you; until marriage.
Depends on the character of the person you're with and how they see you. I slept with my partner, and we've been together for 4 years now and engaged :) can't think of a better man.
When are you getting married or is this a long engagement of playing a wife, but enough to be a wife? Doesn't take 4 years... Time is too short to be playing and led by a carrot. Wonder what he would say if you said, "let's get married tomorrow and have a wedding next year."
There aren't many men that follow God, believe in the Biblical laws, and produce righteous "fruit." Fast and pray, hope that you find the right one. Hold off on the physical part of it, and if he stays, then you will know if he had plans of using you. To be used for sex, and tossed aside when the offer from another available female presents itself. This dirty sex culture, changing partners every couple of months, sleeping with them all, ends in high milage, lots of emotional baggage, and sex diseases. Murfreesboro, TN, 2006, even the Rutherford county high schools came back 1 in 9 was HIV positive, for the virus causing AIDS. Murfreesboro is a high number of LGBT's, and highest number of HIV patients, second to Nashville, and Memphis. Memphis AIDS cases were so vast, that they blamed the bankruptcy of TN Care- Blue Care on them. Remember, the media isn't telling the numbers, and this dating means sex lifestyle is spreading it.
Yes, God's laws are burried under decades of indulgence. As a man, I cannot understand the pleasure men or women see in 'casual' sex. It is never casual. God's laws are the ONLY reliable GUIDE we have.
Great advice. It took me a while to realize this exact moment. You just confirmed my realization that I was wasting my time & it is time to move on. I needed to learn to value myself & I now realize what I want in my life. To get busy & focus on myself & my life. Thank you so much.
Aww...thanks Kiddy! Sometimes there are men who are angry at women who like to downvote these videos... If I'm not being polarizing, then I'm not doing a good job passionately sharing what I believe in! Happy to have you on the channel.
@@jasonsilveryt from time to time, i see the comments from these "angry men". They are just down right bitter and at times try to make the good people out there who believe that real love exists, are totally wasting their time trying & are never worthy of goodness. Misery loves company!! Thanks you Jason, you remind me that i am totally worthy and definitely not wasting my time by having standards by filtering out the bad fish and moving towards the wonderful things i deserve in my life. Much luv and respect to you. 💗😊
This video is so great!! Us women including men need to remember how valuable we are!! If someone doesn't realize your worth, you should walk! Better is coming!🙏❤
I used to be so resentful towards love and I really thought I’d be single forever and I was fine with that. However something in me this year changed and I decided to give love one more shot because I deserve it. Coming across your videos have helped me become more confident and get rid of certain attitudes I had before. Thanks so much for helping me get rid of my fear of love ❤️
Wow this video wake me up!!my bf ghost me for something i didnt do..its hurt me badly for what he did, no explanation just ignore all my txt and called even blocked me on everything deleted me on snapchat etc...after 5 days of No contact rules i an back kn ny routine, work and gym focusing on my self now because i think i am worth it..i value my self because i know my self i have a good heart.
I learned 3 simple things in life called the 3 "D's"! They made all the difference, a game changer no doubt! 1) Don't control him! 2) Don't criticize him! 3) Don't pull away or shut! Best advise every given to me! Took alot of the relationship stress off of me!
i like the gold mining story .. forget the business partner , move on & cash out .. not being self-centred , just value life & people around us the way it should be ❤️
Great talk. Very true about we make time for what we want. Men say they are the leader, then they want you to chase them and play the role of a wife without being the wife. What! I feel that "Ghosting" is something only an immature and insecure man-child pulls. I am a prized gift. The idiots who don't see it, you're dismissed. #boybye
I agree, they are insecure and not grown up yet. Better to leave these manchilds as they dont value you enough and like to play with women's feelings..
@it's just me Ok ,so in a situation where the guy proves himself to be a good mate for her but the initial date changes his view of the girl and leaves is he wrong for trying to find his ideal ?
Thanks for finally putting the right way. Save your energy and time for a man who is worth it💪. This is what I have been saying all along. Well, to myself. Whenever I watch a video addressing the same issue, I've been seeing advice such as "play some mind game"😩, to make him realise your value. You really put it well with that example of good partnership!👍
The gold bar analogy is great. It really is that simple. (Repeating the main point Jason made)...The only man with potential to be our partner will see us as gold - which starts by us recognizing our value. That's always the starting place. Always. I'd say that goes for finding real friends too! Another great video. Thank you ☺
Thank you so much. It's really difficult to let go of someone I really admire and love. I just need him to reach out and make things right and I cant leave him alone long enough for him to want to do that.
Thank you, you just made me cry and realize and I need to value myself more. I did want to hurt him at some point, but I didn't know I just had to move on
Those are a few reasons why I gave up on men about 10 years ago. I ran into too many guys who are either on drugs, are married to other people, but still flirting with me (not attractive to me) or guys who watch too much porn. I’m happier single.
Elisa Rolston : I agree with u 100% !!! It’s extremely annoying & disgusting when guys r on drugs, or drink too much, or r married & cheating or watch ANY porn !!! I seem to b a magnet for these types of guys & it’s very very annoying. Also I seem to gt the kinds of guys that dnt wanna work & just suck every single penny outta me, & when I FINALLY step up my standards just a little & say I’m looking for a man that at least has some kind of career... (bc it shows he’s independent, hard working, self motivated, etc)... THEN, they wanna say I’m a “gold digger “ !!!! I’m sick & tired of GROWN AS* M E N smooching off of a single mother of 3 kids & smooching off of other ppl !!! It’s like grow the fuc* up !!!!
VKRGFAN : idk if ur reply was to me or Elsa, bt I live in Columbia, Pennsylvania, USA. Bt I’ve dated as*holes alll over the country... Arizona, PA, DC, CA, etc. so it’s nt just in 1 place, it’s allll over !!! Bt I still refuse to give up on finding love though. That’s just been my #1 desire.... was just to simply gt married to a really gd, faithful, honest, loving, respectful man .... nt to b famous & have a lot of money like most ppl want .... Also, I didn’t realize I already commented on Elsa’s comment, lolll. Thx
Great to hear this.... With me it was a work situation, the Manager who is younger than me didn't value me, couldn't put up with it any longer so I left without notice, time to move on. Lots of other workers don't like him either. Protect yourself and don't ever feel bad for walking away, because us women do at times. Love and value yourself.
Jason, your conviction is so true. Thank you for being so passionate and honest. The world would be such a better place if your words were more global. I wish the best for all but especially for women... it’s easy to listen to great words. Now if they just meditate and let these points sink in. Women rule the world... their world... when they realize their value. Much love to you and your family. ~N
Thanks for that video. You are like Ceasar (you know he is kind of a dog's whisperer) when he says that dogs never are the problem. The problem is always their master. So here, you say that we (women) think that jerks are the problem. But no, we are the problem because uncounsciously, we allow them to treat us like that. Girls, we deserve so much more! Love your videos, "Attract great guys".
Thank you so much for this video!! I was having a very bad day because you just described me in this whole entire video in what exactly I am going through right now! You made me feel better today! I love you and god bless you! Thank you thank you so much!! Yes I do love myself yes yes and I have been actually feeling down lately because of this of these guys! This one in particular, I really like him but it’s like he’s there and then he’s not there! He only messages me or phones me during the week, and the weekends he’s off the radar! It hurts me to walk away but I know my worth, and like you said, it’s time to push forward
The thing that struck me was the guy on the phone while his female friend was walking alongside and showing her disapproval. I had this happen to me when I was younger, of course we didn’t have cell phones back then; but just the discourtesy of someone behaving that way to you. If I’m out on a date with you, then I expect you to pay attention to ME! Nowadays, If it were to happen three times in a day, I would turn right around and walk away. I know my value and I don’t have to put up with their bad manners and indifference to me.
He valued me so much in the first year second year things started to change. He stopped valuing me physically then mentally then emotionally just disconnecting a little bit more over time. But it was never over the top until he was completely done. Never bothered to mention it just kept stringing me along begging for me to move in to meet his family etc very confusing for me it never occurred to me that he was checking out because he was checking me in. until now that he completely fessed up and tell me he didn’t care that much anymore and that he hadn’t for quite sometime. What a mindfuck and a waste of my time.
The rude guy DESERVES to find out what he did wrong. "You disrespected me by doing xyz, so I have lost interest in being disrespected, so I am moving on". I once dated a guy a rich guy named John who disrespected me, so I moved on, he got a new girlfriend, he treated her like absolute dirt, I heard about it, so I told my friend Cheryl that I did not like this new girl, but she was a human being and did not deserve to be treated like that by John, so our mutual friend Cheryl told John not to treat Janna badly in Cheryl's house or leave, and he got the message and changed his life around. He soon found a girl (Miss Alabama) that he actually did treat nicely, they went scuba diving in Jamaica, and he died suddenly underwater. Karma!
Excellent video. This is so true, I have started walking away from these types of men and even if at first it's hard my self respect has grown. I know what I have to give and what I deserve.
Jason, thank you for this video. You helped me to see things more clearly and this gave me a wake up call. From youir very first words in this video I knew this was going to be the best video I could ever watch. Thank you again. There will be no more time wasted on this particular relationship as it is stands now.
Mine is a lifelong friend. I don't want to end the friendship. We weren't dating, but we were discussing the possibility. He travels for work and didn't respond for a few days. This is all so confusing! Why say you are interested but come up with multiple reasons to not even hang out as friends? I know he's got bad anxiety,. He smokes, but I don't allow smoking in the house. I feel like we are both finally available and just hoped we could see if we're a match. 🤷🏻♀️
This is exactly what my situation was, weeks and months all I had was never ending excuses, family issues, work issues, friends issues...... in the end I have to tell him it won't work if we don't have effort each other.... as Jason says he can't even spend 60sec of his 24hour to text me.....🤣🤣🤣 I didnt even explain the i left this situationship... I felt like broken into pieces but thanks for this video, I know what I did was right... thank you Jason
Problem is we make excuses for their behavior and justify them, instead seeing reality as it is and accepting truth that for other person priorities are different.. we justify others behavior so we feel good , and our ego gets boost.. seeing reality may tear our ego down. So we allow breadcrumbs.. problem is not in him... It is in you.. your ego. Get rid of it and you will see the reality, not make excuses for their behavior. Ego is enemy. It keeps you down and low, it doesn't allow you to see reality.
It really happened to me, this momentum of anger, feeling so anxious after I realized that person is showing off his intentions so I felt in peace. Thanks.
I agree with everything you said Jason. I’m totally confused with my relationship though. It’s been 3yrs, the beginning he was after me, but also grieving the loss of his ex. He still loves her because she is the mom of his girls. (Grown up) she cheated on him a lot and left several times, always with other men. He is always so distant. And never makes time to do something with me. We have been living together, and I feel very lonely. He tells me he loves me, and he makes love so tenderly. But then barely anything - it’s like we’re old and have been together so long as if we don’t need to talk or do anything. But we NEVER have. He was too busy grieving before. Fk
Hi, i, m in a begginning with a man that i value. So far everything was good. He made my feel valeur also. This week his action showed me he chose another activity and I ended up being put on the back burner . I decided to tell him. And he appeard very comprehensive.... Will see. Know at least he knows where I stand. Putting bundries and ajustment i found was the thing to do. His respond was very satisfying... Wanting now to be more carefull of his Time management . Will see
Very good insights so I can teach my little girl who just had her first boyfriend and dumped after a week 😂. I love your video, It helps me a lot to help my daughter.
You should never worry about having a man value you. The fact you value yourself is all that matters. If he doesn't value you, it's his lost, not yours..... move on. Better opportunities are awaiting you.
Yes I agree Returning to God in the schools & teaching integrity & value in personal character is sadly lacking in our country as at the beginning It would revolutionize our society & restore happiness & joy in telationships
My boyfriend used to be so caring and did anything to make me happy and but after a few months it just faded. He started his own online shop and I am so proud of him for doing that but now for three weeks he has been treating me with low priority and barely makes time to check on me. Stupid me told him that I was hurt by it, it probably made me look desperate but I thought I had done something wrong...He said he would make more time and he made the effort for two days and then it went back to the way it was before I told him what bothered me. I don't know if I should wait a bit more and see if something changes or dump him.
Thanks for this message. I’ve been chasing this guy I’ve been dating for almost 6 months now . I always beg for his affection and then we had an argument last week and I started reaching out to him and hugging him but he just started screaming and pushed me away. I left and brought my things from his house to my sister’s place and he still didn’t text me. Agter 2 days I texted him said sorry but still didn’t answer. Another 2 days past, I texted him and called him, no answer. The day after he replied and said I was the one said goodbye left and took all my stuff. Long story short, I explained what I felt and said sorry again even if I know it’s not my fault,beg him to talk to me and work out our relationship and still he don’t want to talk.
Please don't disrespect yourself any longer. He clearly doesn't respect or want you. Believe me he can't respect you cause you don't respect yourself. Don't ever beg a man to be with you. You're asking to be used UP.
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Never trust anyone who is always on their phone when you all are together but takes hours to return a text.
So-so-so true.... I just found that out...
Exactly
That is a very good advice indeed.
While that is Excellent advice, there are also great people that have social issues that may tamper with that 🤷🏾♀️
Always on the phone?? That phone better be OFF when he's with me. Ladies. Demand Respect yourself!!
Well said..."High Value women don't waste time trying to convince a man to treat her well...they move on and focus on themselves...high value women attract high value men" thank you for articulating your thoughts in a way that was so easy to digest.
Ladies...it’s very simple. Don’t try to make him do anything. If you are more evolved than he is, it is a big red sign for you to move on. Don’t wait for him or other people to grow up. Just jog on.
Amen!
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Thank you! Soooo much young man!!!
Queen Bee. I need this tattooed on my body!
Nun Ya don’t we all 😆♥️
At the time, a guy disappeared for 5 months and he made excuses why he was too busy to talk to me. I just walked away because I believe that “People make time for things that really are important to them.” ♥️ If someone doesn’t value you, just let them go!
Yes!
Easier said than done ok
I agree. Let them go
Pony Haly even when they disappear for a day to a week, I let them go
Absolutely right, never make ourselves cheap to a man n they never will value u
rejection is God's protection. next!
Elizebath Nelson i love this .. 🙏 Amen
Hey thank you. Am feeling a bit rejected right now and this message resonates with the truth I feel in my heart that he's not the one for me.
Exactly...I agree with you...%1000
Elizebath Nelson thank you Next ...
Needed this. Thank you dear!! ♥️
Perfect timing. I just broke off a six month relationship because the guy kept calling me liar, cheater, sneaky. I never lied and never cheated. It was all in his crazy mind. I told him very respectful and with lots of love that we were not compatible and I was moving on. I feel great about my decision. Now it’s time to focus on me😀
Good for you! Glad you're here Christina!
Same here. He projected all his lies and cheating on me. He walked on me and put me third, fourth and fifth psrty situations. Now that he's coming over, I'm just closed off to him. At first, when he'd accuse me, Id try to convince him, beg and plead with him to not judge me wrongly. Today, i told him to eff off. I hope he doesn't come back.
Yes. If someone does not respect or trust you enough, you must get away for your own sake. I wish I had realized and understood all this 25 years ago. You are right to get out early.
Sounds Narcissistic
He was the one doing all those things he was accusing you of.
After watching all your videos, I have finally found a man who values me beyond words! What a joy, I can’t tell you! Thank you so much Jason! Your advice has been invaluable for this 61 year old!!!!! ❤️❤️
Congratulations,,I hope some day the lord will do this for me.
I couldn’t be happier for you! God Bless!
A Goddess attracts men. Never chase a man. If he does not call you, don't call him. If he does not call you, drop his azz. What is there to think about? He does not like you. Don't be a donkey! The End!
Yeah, I'm still waiting..... that's why I'm 50 and still single
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Heyyell yayess! Agree completely. Love & Light 💞🌟
"goddess" eh? did you know the same advice is being given to men, make women dome to them. you are an idiot. grandiose self glorifying.
I was dating a man that I considered a high quality man. He treated me amazingly but then was sent to the Bahrain to finish up his 30 years in the Navy and things changed. We would have silly arguments and he would stop all contact with me. The first time I was worried sick that something had happened to him. However, he responded to my email by apologizing but he did the same 2 months later and even stood me up. He was sent to San Diego and asked to see me and was a no show. I responded by sending him a message wishing him the best. Even though, I was with him for 2 yrs I feel strong because I know I’m a high value woman. Thank you for your great videos!
Yee haw 😂
If he has to work for you, he will value you.
Not if he also values himself, them he will value you less for this.
WindowCat True. The lady ends up being punished in the long run....
pookie pie I agree
Never Test Your Partners , Let It Be Natural . Move On ,If They Don't Value you.
Your videos are so logical. It makes me sick watching some of these guys trying to teach you how to win back these unhealthy relationships.
Thanks Krista. I'm so glad you're here!
Yes, that is so true, that's why I like his videos so much!
Start communicating with more guys and you will never be broken hearted
Brian Nox is good too
Thank you so much wonderful clip! Never worry or question why a man ghosted, just observe that behavior, know that he is capable of it and not give it a second thought. He showed you who he was and that he does not value you. High value women just move on!
How can a guy respect you if you dont respect yourself? People treat you by what you allow. Dont settle for anyone treating you like option. Move on
Very well said!
Gloriyah Walker absolutely
NO!! You tolerate what you know how to deal with.
Wayne you can become conditioned to tolerate things that you should not as they are negative behaviours and actions that are harming you and sometimes it’s difficult to see clearly and see that you have the power to free yourself from that and to reject all forms of negativity
:( :( been there
This is everything I need to hear. Stop thinking that you can convince someone into investing in your life when he is not deciding to love you in the first place. I learned this the hard way and it's very good to have videos like this once in awhile for a good reminder😊
Glad you found it helpful Meydia!
Keep him interested by marrying someone else.
T Brenneman awesome! 👍
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huh?! you looking to do adultery then?
Lolll this is my kind of humor 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Lol
Oh my god. Thank you for this. I have gone through a harsh depression in the past and spent many many years trying to convince my partner that I had value. Today I am happier than ever in my life focusing on what is important to me, single and looking for a high quality man. This is thanks to advice from family and friends but from you as well. Thank you thank you. No woman should ever have to prove her value.
Yes, I went through a similar thing with a couple of long term relationships, I know how you feel! I'm out of this energy and soul sucking relationships and I'm so glad you are, keep building your life 💛🤗🌞
No hate or anything but kindly capitalize the letter G in God 😊 Bless you and I hope you are happy👍
I dated a narcissist, he didn't value me at all and made me feel so worthless. He decided to go ghost on me just because we got into an argument but now I see. this video truly helped me, thank you
That was really sweet of you . thank you!@@roses4me451
I can save you money, ladies. Men are idiots. Move on and don’t look back. If you know your worth, you don’t waste time convincing anyone.
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Hell yeah!
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This lady is in total agreement 👍
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I just walk away...
There's always someone who will...
Value yourself & they will too 😀
Yes!
walk away, ladies. there are 2 billion men on this planet.
I listened.. then replayed. so true!! if he doesn't value you early on, it will only get worse!! so it's like why continue something when someone else IS out there who does have time and will make time for you. save yourself the time and effort!! great video ♡
I just ended an 11year relationship & could never put a finger on what was missing in the relationship. I came to tears with this video as I realized what it was. 😢💔
Aww....I'm glad that this brought you some clarity and hopefully healing!
Oh my God that is wastage of time am sorry
Respecting ourselves also mean to express our values, desires, and bunderies. All is a matter of how you do it.
I want to thank you. I have questioned for 2 weeks now why he can’t find any time for me. Over the past couple days I began asking myself why I am so invested and he isn’t. You have completely convinced me where I stand. Thanks for all your positive advice. Dating after 50 is tough
All I can say.is that - Never ever force a man to be in your life ...
Good day and God bless everyone!😇😀😊😃
thats why its better to wait , so he will know you are not to be pushed around
Agreed.
There aren't many men that follow God, believe in the Biblical laws, and produce righteous "fruit." Fast and pray, hope that you find the right one. Hold off on the physical part of it, and if he stays, then you will know if he had plans of using you. To be used for sex, and tossed aside when the offer from another available female presents itself. This dirty sex culture, changing partners every couple of months, sleeping with them all, ends in high milage, lots of emotional baggage, and sex diseases. Murfreesboro, TN, 2006, even the Rutherford county high schools came back 1 in 9 was HIV positive, for the virus causing AIDS. Murfreesboro is a high number of LGBT's, and highest number of HIV patients, second to Nashville, and Memphis. Memphis AIDS cases were so vast, that they blamed the bankruptcy of TN Care- Blue Care on them. Remember, the media isn't telling the numbers, and this dating means sex lifestyle is spreading it.
Now THIS is a good coach! Thank you for helping women understand the need to see their OWN value and values.
no i dont want change his mind , i have better things to do
Good one
Lol seriously..
Leave and let him miss your absence. Then he will realise that he missed out of a good one. Whilst he misses you, focus on your life and better your life so he knows he was stupid for not valuing you.
yup
I've been betrayed by too many to care anymore but thanks for caring and sharing ok thanks
If i had seen this 3 years ago, i would have made sure he valued me first before getting serious.. after all the hurt that he caused, iam glad i am away from him now and he doesnt have the power to hurt me anymore. Glad i came across this video, everything makes sense to me now
Excellent video! I have been living in this way of valuing myself for the past couple of years now and it has kept me happier and my self esteem intact. I don’t waste my time, my energy and certainly not my emotions on those who don’t value me but I was only able to do this once I highlighted to myself what my best qualities are. I reminded myself of these qualities everyday. It really works!
Sounds like all you can do is dump 'em and start over with someone else. Ladies, just don't sleep with them; and they will strive to get you and value you. Very simple. If you already slept with him; you might as well realize you screwed up and might as well cut your losses and start over with someone new and don't let them sleep with you; until marriage.
Depends on the character of the person you're with and how they see you. I slept with my partner, and we've been together for 4 years now and engaged :) can't think of a better man.
When are you getting married or is this a long engagement of playing a wife, but enough to be a wife? Doesn't take 4 years... Time is too short to be playing and led by a carrot. Wonder what he would say if you said, "let's get married tomorrow and have a wedding next year."
There aren't many men that follow God, believe in the Biblical laws, and produce righteous "fruit." Fast and pray, hope that you find the right one. Hold off on the physical part of it, and if he stays, then you will know if he had plans of using you. To be used for sex, and tossed aside when the offer from another available female presents itself. This dirty sex culture, changing partners every couple of months, sleeping with them all, ends in high milage, lots of emotional baggage, and sex diseases. Murfreesboro, TN, 2006, even the Rutherford county high schools came back 1 in 9 was HIV positive, for the virus causing AIDS. Murfreesboro is a high number of LGBT's, and highest number of HIV patients, second to Nashville, and Memphis. Memphis AIDS cases were so vast, that they blamed the bankruptcy of TN Care- Blue Care on them. Remember, the media isn't telling the numbers, and this dating means sex lifestyle is spreading it.
@Natalia Igaa You will never get a man !
Yes, God's laws are burried under decades of indulgence. As a man, I cannot understand the pleasure men or women see in 'casual' sex. It is never casual. God's laws are the ONLY reliable GUIDE we have.
Great advice. It took me a while to realize this exact moment. You just confirmed my realization that I was wasting my time & it is time to move on. I needed to learn to value myself & I now realize what I want in my life. To get busy & focus on myself & my life. Thank you so much.
Walking away with my value now back intact. Lost it for a while, low self esteem, but working on it xx
I love the fact that you tell it as it is. No sugar coating. No " if he doesn't value you, change your appearance" bullshit. Nice video.
Relationships are mind games these days
This is the best relationship coach I've seen! Serious, to the point, practical.... thank you. 6:57
How and why did anyone dislike this video... I'm lost... this spoke to me and I really needed to hear this! Ty
Aww...thanks Kiddy! Sometimes there are men who are angry at women who like to downvote these videos... If I'm not being polarizing, then I'm not doing a good job passionately sharing what I believe in!
Happy to have you on the channel.
I dont like his accent...
@@jasonsilveryt from time to time, i see the comments from these "angry men". They are just down right bitter and at times try to make the good people out there who believe that real love exists, are totally wasting their time trying & are never worthy of goodness.
Misery loves company!!
Thanks you Jason, you remind me that i am totally worthy and definitely not wasting my time by having standards by filtering out the bad fish and moving towards the wonderful things i deserve in my life. Much luv and respect to you.
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@@ali_ozz1388 hahahahaha...ridiculous comment.
This video is so great!! Us women including men need to remember how valuable we are!! If someone doesn't realize your worth, you should walk! Better is coming!🙏❤
I used to be so resentful towards love and I really thought I’d be single forever and I was fine with that. However something in me this year changed and I decided to give love one more shot because I deserve it. Coming across your videos have helped me become more confident and get rid of certain attitudes I had before. Thanks so much for helping me get rid of my fear of love ❤️
Very simple concept. If he treats you like you're not working it, then he's not worth it. The end
WOW!" value oneself so they'd value you" . right!!
Wow this video wake me up!!my bf ghost me for something i didnt do..its hurt me badly for what he did, no explanation just ignore all my txt and called even blocked me on everything deleted me on snapchat etc...after 5 days of No contact rules i an back kn ny routine, work and gym focusing on my self now because i think i am worth it..i value my self because i know my self i have a good heart.
When man love me, he will do his best for me and vice versa.
I learned 3 simple things in life called the 3 "D's"! They made all the difference, a game changer no doubt!
1) Don't control him!
2) Don't criticize him!
3) Don't pull away or shut!
Best advise every given to me! Took alot of the relationship stress off of me!
i like the gold mining story .. forget the business partner , move on & cash out .. not being self-centred , just value life & people around us the way it should be ❤️
As compared to other channels which is on dating and long term relationships I find your content very genuine, sensible and relatable.
Thankyou. I do have value. Husband of 15 years is getting ghosted as from now. I deserve better.
You're going to ghost your husband?
Good girl ❤️
This probably your best video ever and it has helped me by giving a better prospective on men.
Thank For Sharing Your Insight! 😍
I'm so glad you appreciated it! Thanks for commenting.
EiLeen DEE, I agree
Great talk. Very true about we make time for what we want. Men say they are the leader, then they want you to chase them and play the role of a wife without being the wife. What! I feel that "Ghosting" is something only an immature and insecure man-child pulls. I am a prized gift. The idiots who don't see it, you're dismissed. #boybye
He is as much as a gift to you as you are to him, remember that.
I agree, they are insecure and not grown up yet. Better to leave these manchilds as they dont value you enough and like to play with women's feelings..
@it's just me
Wow one year already , anyway just wondering does the gf have to prove herself after the initial phase?
@it's just me
Ok ,so in a situation where the guy proves himself to be a good mate for her but the initial date changes his view of the girl and leaves is he wrong for trying to find his ideal ?
Exactly
Boooomb!!! Won’t see leaving him in the dust at all, love you. Earned my respect sir
I have to keep watching this over and over to remind myself. Thanks Jason.
Thanks for finally putting the right way. Save your energy and time for a man who is worth it💪. This is what I have been saying all along. Well, to myself. Whenever I watch a video addressing the same issue, I've been seeing advice such as "play some mind game"😩, to make him realise your value.
You really put it well with that example of good partnership!👍
You make this situation more clear! Thanks, you are appreciated!!!
I'm glad you found it helpful. Thanks for the comment!
The gold bar analogy is great. It really is that simple. (Repeating the main point Jason made)...The only man with potential to be our partner will see us as gold - which starts by us recognizing our value. That's always the starting place. Always. I'd say that goes for finding real friends too! Another great video. Thank you ☺
Thank you so much. It's really difficult to let go of someone I really admire and love. I just need him to reach out and make things right and I cant leave him alone long enough for him to want to do that.
This was an eyeopener. I needed this. Thank you!
Thank you, you just made me cry and realize and I need to value myself more. I did want to hurt him at some point, but I didn't know I just had to move on
Those are a few reasons why I gave up on men about 10 years ago. I ran into too many guys who are either on drugs, are married to other people, but still flirting with me (not attractive to me) or guys who watch too much porn. I’m happier single.
Elisa Rolston : I have that exact same problem !!! They cheat on me, lie to me or just ignore me... literally
Elisa Rolston : I agree with u 100% !!! It’s extremely annoying & disgusting when guys r on drugs, or drink too much, or r married & cheating or watch ANY porn !!! I seem to b a magnet for these types of guys & it’s very very annoying. Also I seem to gt the kinds of guys that dnt wanna work & just suck every single penny outta me, & when I FINALLY step up my standards just a little & say I’m looking for a man that at least has some kind of career... (bc it shows he’s independent, hard working, self motivated, etc)... THEN, they wanna say I’m a “gold digger “ !!!! I’m sick & tired of GROWN AS* M E N smooching off of a single mother of 3 kids & smooching off of other ppl !!! It’s like grow the fuc* up !!!!
VKRGFAN : idk if ur reply was to me or Elsa, bt I live in Columbia, Pennsylvania, USA. Bt I’ve dated as*holes alll over the country... Arizona, PA, DC, CA, etc. so it’s nt just in 1 place, it’s allll over !!! Bt I still refuse to give up on finding love though. That’s just been my #1 desire.... was just to simply gt married to a really gd, faithful, honest, loving, respectful man .... nt to b famous & have a lot of money like most ppl want ....
Also, I didn’t realize I already commented on Elsa’s comment, lolll. Thx
Wow 😲
That's alright you'll be lesbian soon .
Great to hear this.... With me it was a work situation, the Manager who is younger than me didn't value me, couldn't put up with it any longer so I left without notice, time to move on. Lots of other workers don't like him either. Protect yourself and don't ever feel bad for walking away, because us women do at times. Love and value yourself.
Jason, your conviction is so true. Thank you for being so passionate and honest. The world would be such a better place if your words were more global. I wish the best for all but especially for women... it’s easy to listen to great words. Now if they just meditate and let these points sink in. Women rule the world... their world... when they realize their value. Much love to you and your family. ~N
Thanks for that video. You are like Ceasar (you know he is kind of a dog's whisperer) when he says that dogs never are the problem. The problem is always their master. So here, you say that we (women) think that jerks are the problem. But no, we are the problem because uncounsciously, we allow them to treat us like that. Girls, we deserve so much more!
Love your videos, "Attract great guys".
"The problem is always their owner" I should have said.
Rejection is redirection and protection. Never try to change and control anyone. Thanks next.
a lesson I had to learn the hard way.. I was lonely and stupid... he's so right
Excellent advice... my mum used to say "a man should chase a woman until she catches him"...lol
Thank you so much for this video!! I was having a very bad day because you just described me in this whole entire video in what exactly I am going through right now! You made me feel better today! I love you and god bless you! Thank you thank you so much!! Yes I do love myself yes yes and I have been actually feeling down lately because of this of these guys! This one in particular, I really like him but it’s like he’s there and then he’s not there! He only messages me or phones me during the week, and the weekends he’s off the radar! It hurts me to walk away but I know my worth, and like you said, it’s time to push forward
The thing that struck me was the guy on the phone while his female friend was walking alongside and showing her disapproval.
I had this happen to me when I was younger, of course we didn’t have cell phones back then; but just the discourtesy of someone behaving that way to you. If I’m out on a date with you, then I expect you to pay attention to ME!
Nowadays, If it were to happen three times in a day, I would turn right around and walk away.
I know my value and I don’t have to put up with their bad manners and indifference to me.
Yes!
He valued me so much in the first year second year things started to change. He stopped valuing me physically then mentally then emotionally just disconnecting a little bit more over time. But it was never over the top until he was completely done. Never bothered to mention it just kept stringing me along begging for me to move in to meet his family etc very confusing for me it never occurred to me that he was checking out because he was checking me in. until now that he completely fessed up and tell me he didn’t care that much anymore and that he hadn’t for quite sometime. What a mindfuck and a waste of my time.
The rude guy DESERVES to find out what he did wrong. "You disrespected me by doing xyz, so I have lost interest in being disrespected, so I am moving on". I once dated a guy a rich guy named John who disrespected me, so I moved on, he got a new girlfriend, he treated her like absolute dirt, I heard about it, so I told my friend Cheryl that I did not like this new girl, but she was a human being and did not deserve to be treated like that by John, so our mutual friend Cheryl told John not to treat Janna badly in Cheryl's house or leave, and he got the message and changed his life around. He soon found a girl (Miss Alabama) that he actually did treat nicely, they went scuba diving in Jamaica, and he died suddenly underwater. Karma!
Watching your Videos, is Like a therapy Session 👍🏻. Can Not get enough of it♥️
every time he say "value", have a shot.. you wont care about that man after this video anymore :)
🤣🤣😅😅 Good one!!
Excellent video. This is so true, I have started walking away from these types of men and even if at first it's hard my self respect has grown. I know what I have to give and what I deserve.
LOVE THE LOTTERY TICKET ANALOGY!! Uploaded on my birthday! Happy Birthday to me!!!
Jason, thank you for this video. You helped me to see things more clearly and this gave me a wake up call. From youir very first words in this video I knew this was going to be the best video I could ever watch. Thank you again. There will be no more time wasted on this particular relationship as it is stands now.
Yes thank God thats he is honest about his actions, it highlighted his own low value. Don't waste your time on a guy who doesn't deserve you!! 🤗
I so agree. Let him go. No convincing or persuading. Totally turned off.
I like this term “Men-meeting Activities!” I need to focus on this and stop staying at home!
Mine is a lifelong friend. I don't want to end the friendship. We weren't dating, but we were discussing the possibility. He travels for work and didn't respond for a few days. This is all so confusing! Why say you are interested but come up with multiple reasons to not even hang out as friends? I know he's got bad anxiety,. He smokes, but I don't allow smoking in the house. I feel like we are both finally available and just hoped we could see if we're a match. 🤷🏻♀️
I love the way you explain clearly about high valued woman...really I respect u as a real man with high respect.... Tnq keep rocking like this ... 😍🥰
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Beautifullll msg ... if the person doesn't know the value of gold brick u can't ever convince a be qadar insaan know ur worth.
The best video I´ve seen about this topic. Women, value yourselves.
It takes a min to make a phone call, you are worth that
This is exactly what my situation was, weeks and months all I had was never ending excuses, family issues, work issues, friends issues...... in the end I have to tell him it won't work if we don't have effort each other.... as Jason says he can't even spend 60sec of his 24hour to text me.....🤣🤣🤣 I didnt even explain the i left this situationship... I felt like broken into pieces but thanks for this video, I know what I did was right... thank you Jason
Problem is we make excuses for their behavior and justify them, instead seeing reality as it is and accepting truth that for other person priorities are different.. we justify others behavior so we feel good , and our ego gets boost.. seeing reality may tear our ego down. So we allow breadcrumbs.. problem is not in him... It is in you.. your ego. Get rid of it and you will see the reality, not make excuses for their behavior. Ego is enemy. It keeps you down and low, it doesn't allow you to see reality.
It really happened to me, this momentum of anger, feeling so anxious after I realized that person is showing off his intentions so I felt in peace. Thanks.
You're welcome. Thanks for sharing Estefania!
If they don't focus on you. This is the simple intelligent idea is Focus on yourself & focus on moving forward.Enjoooooooy and 💃💃💃💃💃
Thanks for my eye opening, I was suffering for past 2 months n trying to convince the person who didn't value me.
Excellent 5 stars for you my friend so many low value guys out there haha
I agree with everything you said Jason. I’m totally confused with my relationship though. It’s been 3yrs, the beginning he was after me, but also grieving the loss of his ex. He still loves her because she is the mom of his girls. (Grown up) she cheated on him a lot and left several times, always with other men.
He is always so distant. And never makes time to do something with me. We have been living together, and I feel very lonely. He tells me he loves me, and he makes love so tenderly. But then barely anything - it’s like we’re old and have been together so long as if we don’t need to talk or do anything. But we NEVER have. He was too busy grieving before. Fk
Hi, i, m in a begginning with a man that i value. So far everything was good. He made my feel valeur also. This week his action showed me he chose another activity and I ended up being put on the back burner . I decided to tell him. And he appeard very comprehensive.... Will see. Know at least he knows where I stand. Putting bundries and ajustment i found was the thing to do. His respond was very satisfying... Wanting now to be more carefull of his Time management . Will see
WE NEED TO VALUE OURSELVES BETTER. WE ARE THE QUEENS.
Dont sleep with him in the first year. Have a busy life. Dont bend for him. Have a happy healthy foundation.
Lime Powder and then when you finally give in he will disappear. Lol.
Brilliant. Thank you. You are probably right. Advice activated.
Totally agree, takes at least 6 months to get to know a guy past the superficial
oh man, I really needed this kick in the ass!;) Thankyou!
You're so welcome Helena!
Very good insights so I can teach my little girl who just had her first boyfriend and dumped after a week 😂. I love your video, It helps me a lot to help my daughter.
You should never worry about having a man value you. The fact you value yourself is all that matters. If he doesn't value you, it's his lost, not yours..... move on. Better opportunities are awaiting you.
Brilliant advice! Thank you. This should be thought at school to all those young girls who waste their lives with wrong guys :)
Yes I agree Returning to God in the schools & teaching integrity & value in personal character is sadly lacking in our country as at the beginning It would revolutionize our society & restore happiness & joy in telationships
Yes! I've been telling a friend this forever. She just doesn't listen.
Absolutely spot on! Great video, 👌
Thanks IceQueen!
My boyfriend used to be so caring and did anything to make me happy and but after a few months it just faded. He started his own online shop and I am so proud of him for doing that but now for three weeks he has been treating me with low priority and barely makes time to check on me. Stupid me told him that I was hurt by it, it probably made me look desperate but I thought I had done something wrong...He said he would make more time and he made the effort for two days and then it went back to the way it was before I told him what bothered me. I don't know if I should wait a bit more and see if something changes or dump him.
Thanks for this message. I’ve been chasing this guy I’ve been dating for almost 6 months now . I always beg for his affection and then we had an argument last week and I started reaching out to him and hugging him but he just started screaming and pushed me away. I left and brought my things from his house to my sister’s place and he still didn’t text me. Agter 2 days I texted him said sorry but still didn’t answer. Another 2 days past, I texted him and called him, no answer. The day after he replied and said I was the one said goodbye left and took all my stuff. Long story short, I explained what I felt and said sorry again even if I know it’s not my fault,beg him to talk to me and work out our relationship and still he don’t want to talk.
Please don't disrespect yourself any longer. He clearly doesn't respect or want you. Believe me he can't respect you cause you don't respect yourself. Don't ever beg a man to be with you. You're asking to be used UP.