Wife Used My Weight As An Excuse So She Can Have Fun With Her Former College Buddy. I Ended Up...
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Sarah's affair probably saved his life.
This story is similar to my journey well atleast the weight loss part, i met a girl i fell head over heels for, it did not go anywhere. Upon meeting her, she pulled me from someone who wanted to be alone to someone thats wanted to get married. More importantly, upon trying to court her, i realized how fat i was and said to myself your disgusting and no woman would want to marry you! I am 6 ft, in May 2023, i was 355 lbs, im now 235 lbs. I still have more weight to lose and still looking for my Debbie! Thanks for the upload, it really hit close to home!
Congratulations on the 120 lbs weight loss, and I hope that you keep it up until you reach your weight loss goal and hopefully find your Debbie
Hell yeah brother! Proud of ya! Keep it up mate you're doing a helluva job, takes a lot of discipline and commitment and you're killing it! :D just switch the mean self-harming words to self-proud and self-encouraging words and you'll be set in body and mind! Much love, Pura Vida~
Congratz and keep it up! Life is a journey and I’m sure your Debbie is out there.
Terrific job! I’m very happy for you.
Great job! It’s hard to do and you’ve accomplished plenty! Keep up the great work!! You can do it!
AL BUNDY!!! Polk High... Four touchdowns in a single game! 😂
Best Story in a Long Time, I really enjoyed the plot and his Motivation, He did it ALL for HIMSELF, that is Awesome, Debbie was the bonus.
Debbie is definitely a good woman. I think part of what made her look at her job the way she did was because of the fact that she had loved her past careers and her disappointment with the fact that she was not judged fairly was in a way the same kind of betrayal as a failed relationship on a different level two people who have both felt incredible pain and persevered finding eachother and falling in love that is a powerful message.
The truth is usually in the middle, OP weighed 430 pounds, and nearly suffocated his wife while being intimate with her!!! He lived in denial about his weight, and his wife tried in vain for years to get him to lead a healthy life. There's no excuse for wife's betrayal, but OP's hands aren't clean either in how his marriage ended in divorce.
You said no excuse for what she did but clearly trying to. She should've just divorced him not cheated on him
OP was too complacent. It took betrayal to kick his ass.
Sometimes you need that in our lives because just like many of these stories tell us that we're not perfect not every red flag is going to be noticed or as many times as we look at it we either gain weight or lose hair or something like that because we age buffer him I am on the same path where it literally took many things to signal red flags for me to pull back.
Yes, but that doesn't mean he should have to stay either.
Thanks for an awesome story. Without going into particulars, this has served as a motivation to do the right thing. Thanks!
Love the story but I knew this Debbie character was gonna be the love interest. I would have preferred he went out single to enjoy his own life first. Any woman treating me like I'm a cockroach doesn't get a pass if I become hotter.
Great story. Please keep it coming. Thanks!
You got it!
He was cheating on her with food before she cheated on him.
Good story of strength and resilience.
Finally! A sexy woman who is not tall, thin, and has blonde hair and blue eyes. It’s funny that the majority of these stories describe tall skinny women with blonde hair and blue eyes as goddesses, and they’re all are cheating on their husbands. 🤣
Now THAT'S A Hollywood story Line!... Loved It
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WOW absolutely amazing story !!!!
400 lbs is excessive but the cheating and shit talk 👄 is greasy. Good thing this O.P was informed and made the right moves.
I liked the story. Suffering as he did, James got a good woman in Debbie in the end.
She was embarrassed of you but was she embarrassed to spend your money?
The script is very good and interesting
Nobody knows whether the current incident is a fortune or a misfortune!
Kind of sad that in the first place he needed POS cheating wife in order to get himself together and fix his obesity.
When he went to the camp and then just binged fast food it really ticked me off. Because even if you take her entirely out the picture, dude is already on a self-destructive path. So regardless of her, he needed to pull himself by the bootstraps and get himself in order.
Funny how Sarah only found that being with someone that loves her is more important than looks after she cheated on him
Once again, female logic at its best
Should send all you got from the PI to the AP wife.
I dont think cheating is ok, its more responsible to say "hey im not happy, i dont think its working out, i think we have to split" cool i respect that. That being said, i can see the perspective of the wife. You almost kill me during sex, and then blow off the clear weight issue. Id be second guessing my choices because in my mind you dont care enough about yourself, me or the relationship enough to seriously chamge. I dont agree with the cheating, i would have brought up the conversation of seperating. Because if anytbing happens to my 400+ pound partner, what am i going to do about that? Im glad OP found the motivation to make changes because extreme things need to happen to make extreme changes. I just think if it was taken care of earlier then the marriage couldve been saved. Because it seemed the wife was only cheating recently (meaning a few months). Again im not condoning anything, i just think this couldve been avoided
Love this story
Great Story
I understand the wife falling out of love. But cheating? Na... You deserve what's coming. Cheating is cheating.
Great story, creative.
When did loosing replace the correct word losing?
A very good story. It does more damage to a heart and mind to have your wife give her lips and body to an AP. It does destroy trust and very, very, very few men want an AP used body back. The disrespect and betrayal is too damaging. And it has given many the incentive to make their health and life better. Staying with a backstabbing cheater even “if” you still love each other is not good for your mental health. YOU CAN NEVER TOTALLY FORGET SHE CHEATED. SEVERAL TIMES! Too late does she really realize you should commit first not after cheating?
So your wife saved your life by having an affair, to bad you were too damn lazy to do it on your own.
If Sarah is concerned about her husband weight she should help him to lose weight. But to cheating on her husband with her old college mate is unbelievable. In marriage life there are changes in the body for wife or husband but both need to help each other to lose the weight not cheating. Cheating only bring pain and nothing. If you love someone it doesn't matter how that person change his or her shape. Many broken marriages happened because of cheating.
If me or my husband need loose weight we do this together, never apart! Diet,exercises ..always together!we try but no hurt each other
Thank you,
Thanks!
Thanks!
Wife was trash to cheat, but OP put her in an impossible situation. She should've just divorced him instead of cheating.
Maybe getting papers served to him could've been the catalyst for his change rather than her infidelity.
So let me get this right he was over weight his wife confronted him and said need to change so he goes to weight loss camp and thinks its a joke then takes it seriously after thinking she cheating on him and then says he not doing for her but himself bs. don't agree with cheating but if you don't care for yourself why should you expect others too.
lmao so u gon defend the cheater ns
As I said I don't agree with cheating so not defending her she should have left ,but sometimes consequences have adverse reactions it's not right but life sucks.
Well people need a wake up call sometimes to face their demons, it doesn't happen just like that for everyone, it's not that easy to make all those efforts to change your life in a better way especially when u have a mentall illness and u don't treat it or try to
Would that work the other way, I wonder? Say she can't get rid of the baby weight after giving him children, then packs on a few dozen more pounds on top of that, letting herself go because she no longer has to go out and impress men, and dismisses (and even starts to resent) his repeated mentions about getting healthier. So he starts cheating with the hot new secretary at work who's half his age. Would _HIS_ infidelity in that scenario be partly her fault because she's ignored his efforts to get her to eat right and exercise? Or is it only the wife's cheating that's partly justified by the husband not taking his weight seriously?
Male or female Doesn't matter cheating is wrong but if ignoring your partner because you can't be bothered or think it's a joke unfortunately sometimes has consequences for example people drink to much can't complain if their significant other has had enough of telling them and leaves the only thing wrong is the cheating better to leave than cheat.
yes yes yes
I can't completely blame the wife you are very wrong and you face the consequences but she just has to divorce you not cheat
This giy deserves zero sympathy. He almost smothers his gf to death and still didn't take his weight seriously until she cheated on him.
That's one way of looking at it. The other is Sarah is as ugly inward ad he was outward. It just so happens that it was easier for him to lose the weight than for Sarah to be a decent person or partner. No one deserves anything cupcake you either earn it or you don't. That's life.
Cheating is wrong but honestly i can understand why Sarah would seek attention from outside the relationship if Op was how he really described his past self. It sucks when you ask your partner for something and they do not listen or take you seriously. Op had a problem. She wanted him to work on/ fix it. And Op treated it like a joke for years. I don't think 100% of the fault lies with Sarah but she definitely ended the marriage when she chose an affair.
She resented him because he was unwilling for many years to give her the best version of himself. He was selfish in that sense. Her affair was a way to get back at him for not caring about what she wanted from him. He was so stubborn that the only thing that could change him was being cheated on.
You can't defend a cheater! He is far better off without her!
His fat and attitude about it was not all about her, it was primarily about him and only secondarily about her. Her cheating was in no way simply a reaction to his self delusion and failure to take his health seriously, it was a breach of her sacred vows that she freely chose and said before God and man, and of the trust she had asked another person to place in her. He put his heart in her hand, and she threw it on the floor. There is no comparison between that and his fooling himself that his weight wasn't the issue that it was. No comparison or justification whatsoever.
@@billparrish4385 Read your first sentence again. You said it was primarily about him and not her. She probably felt like an after thought. That doesn't sound like a proper marriage to me. Don't try and say Op was the picture perfect husband who brought no ounce of negativity to the marriage. Not condoning or justifying her actions just emphasizing and trying to understand everyone. It's not as black and white as you believe.
@@GnakIII It's pointless to argue about a fictitious story, but there are no doubt many in a similar situation reading this, so I'll just offer the following in response to your points. His own health _is_ his own business, just as hers is her business. His self-delusion, even knowing her concerns, doesn't make him selfish, it makes him an idiot. Her infidelity _does_ make _her_ selfish, and is in no way excused by his letting himself go.
And that's not to say he was picture perfect or brought no negativity. But those are assumptions about him because of his weight. Are we to assume _she_ was picture perfect and brought no negativity, simply because he had an expansive waistline? She was, after all, the one who cheated -- are we assuming that just happened one day out of a clear sky, with no emotional ramping up on her part in their marriage? That's as ridiculous an assumption as saying his weight problem was part of the blame for her cheating.
The bottom line is that he was fat and she was unfaithful. Of course as a husband he should have taken into account how his letting himself go would affect her, and should always have tried to be his best. But I reject the assertion that because that's a good thing to do, its absence is a judgement of selfishness that we as others can levy against him. That's part of his own self-worth, self-image, and commitment to himself and his loved ones. It's intimate and personal, not a topic for others to bandy about and publicly judge or humiliate him for, just because they can because his waistline is so visible as to invite public scrutiny.
Her infidelity, on the other hand, IS all that, and more. Hers is therefore the ultimate selfishness. His own foolishness is just that, no more.
This is messed up all the way around. But brother. You didn't care about your health and weight. Cmin man
This reminds me of an ex and my wife. One of the ex's I thought I might marry told me that if I'm over 2x her weight she would dump me. She was 110lbs.
I was actually going to the gym 3 times a week, then I got an auto immune disease. I don't remember two years of my life due to the mind fog the disease causes.
My wife always knows when I've gotten a little tipsy because I start crying and tell her I'm so thankful she's still with me, I didn't leave me because of it.
Their's only one way to gain weight .😮😅
200 lbs for a 250 lbs college football player is very weak. I think a rewrite and new voice-over. PS i played college football and benched 365 (one of the weaker ones on the team for an OLman). Just for the writer 365 max, I did 225 for 24 reps. I watched our NG hit 225 36 times!!!
You could go a a special diet while you do your exercise. What you go through is tough exercise that could be dangerous on your life. Why try lose weight for Sarah when she said nasty thing about you? Its not worth to love such person like Sarah. Good that you move on with your life.
Height we can't control but our weight we can unless you have hormonal problems. And even with hormonal problems their are things we can do to counteract it. What did YOU do?
He rewarded her with a house he's just dumb
It’s hard feel any sympathy for OP in this story. He wasn’t willing to even try putting in a proper effort to lose weight when he almost killed his wife but as soon as he found out about the affair he was more than happy to lose the weight to spite her.
Jip
@@Mantelar Im not condoning her behavior but the guy seriously almost killed his wife from his account and almost seemed proud of the fact he was wasting peoples time at the camp but then he finds out his wife is cheating and BAM suddenly he’s serious about weight loss.
@@Mantelarpeople have left their partners because they had extremely unhealthy lives and they weren't considered a**holes. If his wife's weight was too the point it almost killed him and she wasn't trying to improve it'd be understandable he left. Most people couldn't stay and watch that. She's not justified for her cheating. But he seriously almost killed his wife by crushing her under his weight and that wasn't enough to motivate him? Imagine almost killing your SO and not caring enough to make a change in your life.
@@Mantelar me personally i think almost killing somebody and acting like it’s not a problem is more evil than cheating but hurt feelings seems to trump bodily harm and death nowadays.
@@Mantelar I think it goes a little further than just lazy since even he admitted to almost killing his wife and not caring about it. In sickness and health also doesn't mean you should stay in a situation where your partner is intentionally harming you or selfishly disregarding your health/ safety/ sanity. Roles reversed most people would say it was understandable if he left. Especially when the weight started effecting the health and safety of the SO. In sickness and health doesn't mean one partner can intentionally make themselves sick and expect their partner to take on the burden when they didn't have to.
Yip, i don't feel sorry for him at all....
Dude failed himself and his wife. There’s no excusing her infidelity, but I understand it.
He pushed his wife into cheating IMO
She should of lost the weight for him and got a pi to keep track of what she was up to file for divorce and protect his money had the locks changed on his home when she left to go to work and her stuff sent to her mom she is disgusting sent her husband off so she can cheat on him
Op was the problem sorry 😒guys like these are embarrassing .
She could have spoke.. if your woman gains weight what do you do? Do you cheat immediately or speak to her first?
He was actively driving her away and had a victim mentality throughout. Cheating is always wrong, but it was either that or divorce since he was happy being a walking whale who would kill his wife if he fell aslwwp on top of her...
She was wrong to cheat on you and you were wrong for not taking her seriously about her feelings and your own health. I hope you learned your lessons OP. Maybe you had some traumatic experience in the past that made you like that but hey with the support "the love of your life" gave to you I think you should have decided to really changed way before she cheated, even though what she did wasn't justified, at least you said you were doing it for you and not her.
I love your stories, but it would be nice if there'd be image clips or short videos relevant to your stories. Don't you have any other stories other than those that have infidelity?
Is there any stories about the cheating husband, all the videos are from the cheated man's perspective. It'd be nice to hear some from the other injured party's side.
Check out R space. They have a mix of men and women.
It's still more men in a lot of videos though.
When she called him to come back home was her feeling guilt over cheating and wanting him back genuinely to return to their normal marriage life. What she wanted may have indeed included that little freedom to fuck around but it was mostly to get him driven enough to try and fix himself. No one want to be with a spouse who actively neglects themselves and is self-destructive.
That's a relationship without security. A leaky rocky boat.
He made two mistakes here. (1) When he refused to come back and lose weight at home, to her it registered that either he doesn't care or love or miss her AND (2) that he doesn't have the mental fortitude to persist with losing weight in their normal life but only when he's in a special environment.
Which is to say that she can either have him continually becoming more and more obese or being absent to lose weight.
To her what he did means that something else eclipses her value in his eyes whereas she and her wants are supposed to be the immediate priority over everything else.
This is when he lost her and the marriage was over.
It's a very man's way of thinking: I made a deal so I'm keeping my end of the bargain and I feel like I disappoint you otherwise, also myself for going back on my word. Very logical.
But to a woman's way of thinking: her emotions come first. The details don't matter. Fulfilling or reneging the promise doesn't matter (although if you keep making statements that you fail to pursue you become viewed as a liar and a failure). It's that you acceded to her wishes and sought to improve yourself versus not caring about it and self-neglecting prior.
Better to just leave her, no reason to stay.
Thoigh now hes has 140 lbs of extra skin on him. That much weigh loss that fast is more harmful to the body. You should lose your weight gradually over a larger period of time.