My year of saying yes to everything | Shonda Rhimes
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- Опубликовано: 8 мар 2016
- Shonda Rhimes, the titan behind Grey's Anatomy, Scandal and How to Get Away With Murder, is responsible for some 70 hours of television per season, and she loves to work. "When I am hard at work, when I am deep in it, there is no other feeling," she says. She has a name for this feeling: The hum. The hum is a drug, the hum is music, the hum is God's whisper in her ear. But what happens when it stops? Is she anything besides the hum? In this moving talk, join Rhimes on a journey through her "year of yes" and find out how she got her hum back.
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When she speaks you can hear all her characters speaking.
I hear Meredith Grey.
thats exactly what I was thinking
+Émielle ____ I was hearing Olivia Pope and Meredith Grey listening to this speech. Wow!
+Megan Dallas I hear Olivia Pope!!!
+Luisa I hear Olivia Pope for sure!!
You can see the quality of her writing in the way that she speaks. Incredibly talented.
yes! what a flow!
sounds like Olivia Pope's lines
Amen
its like people aren't used to seeing successful women like her talk about it. unless you totally missed to point, you'd realize this is poetry and you are lucky to hear her insight.
Yokoasso ok then why did you watch? i didn't ask for your opinion lmao
CVK
this really is poetry. yes.
Why do I hear Cyrus, Olivia, Poppa Pope, Meredith, Huck, McDreamy, Cristina, Voila, Wess LOL
She is all her characters literally.
#blackgirlmagic
+prettyinme Truly an amazing woman!
so true
I'm starting to apply this "say yes to anything you fear" to my life!
+prettyinme You are right!
Titan = gladiator
Listening to this woman is incredible. It's pure poetry. And for those accusing her of arrogance; don't mistake passion and confidence for bragging. It's not a crime to describe how you feel when you're a success.
+bitterfusionz Poetry, indeed.
Passion mother fuuuckkkaaaas ooooo thanks giiiiirl or boy haha either way.. TAAAAANK YOUUUUUUU!!!!
They always accuse excellent black people of arrogance...... nothing new here
bitterfusionz that’s exactly what I thought, especially the poetry part
bitterfusionz i didn’t hear arrogance at all. I heard deep introspection, wisdom, and a person sure of who they are and ways they know they can improve. Only insecure people will read that as arrogance.
She speaks so well. She's a true poet. Her words grasps your attention and demands you to listen. Damn, Shonda.
+Na Ma Yeah, a poet that uses the same words 50 times in a row because she is addicted to the sound of her own voice.
I listened twice. Can't believe it
Wow! She speaks with the same speech patterns as Olivia Pope!
well she wrote everything Olivia said
Joe T she created Olivia Pope 💁🏽♀️
😂 I’m over here thinking she speaking like Bailey
I thought of Maggie
I thought Meredith Grey
She wasn't trying to "flaunt". She was making points. 1st point being that she's not just a writer who sits at home and dreams (to explain why she can't always play with her children). 2nd point being that she is no longer the hum of a titan but the hum of love. Her list of achievements from her resume is the biggest part of herself that solidifies her and yet melts away from her at the end of the speech. She repeats so that you can see how its significance changes. You can feel how much that means to her initially and then it doesn't.. it's almost like music. Crescendo and decrescendo, crescendo and decrescendo... it's very honest. I found her speech to be very poetic. I think it's one of those speeches that you can't quite appreciate to its full potential if you don't listen intuitively, with your heart and ears open.
Well said!
Bird Lady magic
🤗Exactly!💯
Even if she did wanna flaunt...she is probably one the few that should flaunt :)
She's so HUMble.
+Shaun Jon lol, i get it!
till she start to kill her tv characters, after you beg her not to.😉
you're so STUpid
FatBabyCheeks r/wooooosh
her speech is very rhetorically effective. anaphora, symbolism, poetic prose... brilliant
You said it perfectly. I am watching this late at night and I am in a flow state, doing all the things I didn't do in the past few weeks and it feels like poetic justice.
Reading her book right now, I recommend it to anyone. This woman is amazing, a true role model for all women. What a queen!
what is the title?
Francine Pombi Year of Yes: how to dance it out, stand in the sun and be your own person
Teal'c well to be fair producers of shows have mostly been dominated by white males, so I think that is why they said a role model for women
I recommend getting the audiobook, She narrated it herself and it’s awesome!
@Ralph a women been a role model to other women. I dont see a problem with that. Its not sexist. But yes men can learn from her too
Her book made me change my life. I left my soul crushing job. I said yes to looking, yes to interviews, yes to a better self.'more money more opportunities and better life and better relationships yall say yes!
I feel like 99% of the comments on here are from people who have no idea what it's like to be addicted to flow state (aka., the 'hum' she's referring to), or what creative block is like when you're passionate about something, or how personal well-being is connected to gaining a sense of achievement (and how lack of achievement stemming from high expectations can lead to depression).
She's not being narcissistic for pointing out her successes, because she's also pointing out her flaws, which is the whole reason she's making the talk in the first place - she's making a point about a type of mindset you can fall into as a workaholic - a mindset that is actually pretty common.
+Addewyn Wisdomancer you feel wrong. I am glad that she made it, I just cannot stand repetition
+Addewyn Wisdomancer I could not agree more. I am a very creative person, only currently starting out, but I understand the Hum.
Just yesterday I got off work at 5am (I work overnight), went to a breakfast joint and wrote till 11am and wanted to write more, but could not keep my eyes open. I went home, got three hours of sleep, and then started to write again. An actual term of "Hum" is "passion." Passion for the career, project, TV, story, etc. Lots of passion.
+Toxq Jam Her repetition makes me think of those "poetry slam" styles that I am not fond of. But ignoring the repetition, her premise and ideas are really strong in my opinion.
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I notice alot of negative comments on here about her having a big ego ..I think it's because alot of people have a problem with black people in general tooting your own horn ..if this was a white CEO talking about all his accomplishments ..everyone would be inspired ..this woman is like most women I have seen that's achieved a certain amount of success ..she's confident and smart also focused ..I would like to see her be a bigger inspiration to the young inner city black girls ..y'all know the ones I mean the ones y'all are so up in arms about ..the ones living of the system ..
+savoy styles No. I listen to talks, I don't watch them (after all, its just somebody standing on stage). And I thought a lot of the same things, I didn't know anything about her appearance.
+Tom Walter Yeah, and I think if it was a white CEO guy he would be judged the same way.
+savoy styles I don't have a problem with her ego. Ego is fine, but this talk sounds .... "Written". Like she sat down and wrote it for one of her shows. I realize that all ted-talks are prerehearsed but this one feels different. It's like comparing american and british tv.
+Ørjan Steinsvik yeah British TV sucks ... accept for Luther ..I liked Luther ..
***** I erased my last post back to you because I didn't see the rest of your post all the way to the end ..I was wrong for jumping to conclusions. ..I have to say its basically a difference in culture ..I don't see this woman as tooting her own horn ..I see it as her really just running down her resume ...also dude I have never seen a wealthy person black or white that was down to earth ..
More parents need to say 'yes to play' and put down their phones. Great talk, well written! Inspiring lady!!
Officially my fav ted talk of all time. So relevant. What do you do when the spark just is no longer there?!
+Zindzi You start killing off all the characters.
+BLFulle OK that was funny. But to be real. This was such and amazing lecture/speech/lesson whatever u want to call it.
+felinekj I hear you. I lost my hum, my spark, my self a long time ago. Can't find it. tried many different things. This TED talk helped me understand what was missing. I stopped running, stopped reading, stopped working when my husband and I adopted our girls. I am starting to play again - I am reading a book, taking longer walks, working. I'll get there. I'll find it... Good luck to you.
Mary K. O'Brien Good luck to you as well. Thank you : )
+BLFulle hahahaha
Olivia Pope must truly be a piece of her. The talking style, intonations are uncanny. Kerry Washington must've studied Ms. Shonda quite a bit
+Julie Mberia You substitute Gladiator for Titan and we do have Olivia Pope. Damn! But what does Olivia say instead of The Humm?
+Don Vaillancourt I think she says, or used to say, "the white hat."
Don Vaillancourt I think that's exactly it, the white hat
I agree
It's so crazy when you realize that SHE is Olivia Pope and not Kerry Washington. You just hear her in the way she talks. (And yes, I know she writes her words)
+Tink D even the way she speaks and stands and her intonation --- so so olivia pope!!
+Tink D True!!
Now that you mentioned this. I really can see Olivia being her, and not a random character.
Yasss couldn't agree more! Also, when she refers to herself as a Titan I just heard gladiator
+Tink D OH. MY GOD. I was listening and not watching and all I could hear was Olivia!
Her speech catered to the audience present. TED conferences consists of people who are themselves influential and interesting. Her audience may be workaholics themselves . Driven by said 'hum' she describes. She is reminding them of the need to be present , in the now, and enjoy life.
Man, she sounds so much like Maggie from Greys. Her characters are so clearly an extension of her brain because she speaks just like them, but her voice sounds soooo much like Maggie
OM goodness! I am watching this now and just into it and I'm thinking "Dang! she sounds just like Olivia Pope!" 😎 Shonda Rhimes is an Authentic TITAN Writer 🤗
When she said tiny humans I immediately thought of Arizona 😂
exacltlyyyyyyy
Gabrielle Maria it's a character' name, not the state.
And a battleship. ;)
Same
SAME!!!
Had EXACTLY the same experience!!!!
Divorced from my former wife. Good, quality time spent with my children became a mess of trying to fit them in to my crazy work schedule.
One day as i'm preparing for work. My younger son asked "Dad, why do you keep looking at your watch?"
The answer was that i had to make sure they got home before i had to go to work. But i decided to talk to him about it as it was obvious he was disappointed. WOW! Did I learn a thing or two!!
Took me a month. To re-organize what was my work life. But i have three fantastic kids and i've been able to watch and guide them through to their mid-twenties
And i may not make the money i used to, i may not have the 'buzz' i used to have, working. But i don't regret a second of it!
john rowla
True.. When all falls,our children bring out the best of ourselves
I'm so surprised by all of the people that found her speech to be "narcissistic" or "arrogant". I didn't get that at all. All I saw was a little #blackgirlmagic at work. Oh well, haters gonna hate.
You’re a deadset fuckwit if you don’t think 2:08 onwards is a major humblebrag.
I'm not at all surprised at negativity directed at her....a black woman who knows her worth is threatening to certain types of people. Yet a loser like Trump who lies and brags all day long, no problemo.
sna ojao ikr
Its because she's black. Smh... they gonna get this #blackgirlmagic
Right!! Same thing on her book comments on amazon. That’s why I came here to get more insight before I buy the book. I don’t hear arrogance at all. Idk what ppl are talking about
She talks like a writer. She's good tho.
She IS a writer. Of course she talks like one. That's part of the beauty of this speech.
She is THE writer
Shonda is Meredith Grey and Olivia Pope combined.
I think she loves Meredith and understands her completely, but she sounds exactly like Olivia. Her voice, her words, her presence. I never realised how much of Olivia she truly is!
+Xxmilkshake202xX and miranda bailey
And Christina Yang is in there too.
Xxmilkshake202xX she's also Miranda Bailey.
She sounds like Maggie but her attitude is yang and pope mixed together with a sprinkle of mer
This is so spoken word poetry. I love it!
This felt like an honest look into Olivia Pope's brain. I appreciate Shonda's writing so much, and the way that she projects part of herself into her characters. My inspiration always.
I came scrolling to find who else thought this came straight from Olivia Pope 😅 I couldn't agree more
Seriously, this speech is one of the most memorable I have heard !
This was a very good speech.There are so many wonderful TED talks. The first one that floored me was the Danger of a Single Story by Chimamanda Adiche. Brian Stevenson's talk was quite outstanding as well. I don't recall the title.
At 2:30 the audience begins to clap at her TV show figures but Shonda silences them with a wag of her finger 😂😂😂😂
So powerful!
Johannes Lelengboto ikr?! thats probably where miranda bailey comes from 😂😂
Pips d2d
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Okkkkkkk. 🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣
I wish she was my mother. What an amazing, intelligent woman.
your mom will feel sad when you say that
***** i see by the -you women- saying.. u gr some issues. boy listen i dont hate man.. i love people..all im saying is ur mother still gave ur life. Be thankfull and respectful and forgive if something was done to u, its better than carryin bitterness and hate around.
My mother stayed at home, was always there, baking, cooking, singing... I would never trade.
My mom never played with me when I asked her
Blue kid you dont know what people have been through someone being your mother isn't a good enough reason to be glad they're your mom. Worry about you and your mom.
The way she wags her finger at 2:33 and silences the crowd. Goosebumps.
I know right?? The sheer power of that wordless gesture!
“All blood, all sweat, no tears” yasss 👏🏾💪🏽👊🏽
Tears is not always something that is negative.
"just love...thats all it is" !!
Her speaking is poetic...a truly creative mind. Great delivery too
+Wamuyu Gatheru Yes yes yes!
Honesty for a change, how refreshing:) She's not trying to be something, she knows who she is. Unapologetic and so honest - her humble poetry didn't just inspire me like the other talks I've heard...it moved me. Thank you for not playing small and yet you still managed to show that you're also just human.
Just finished her book. She has a powerful voice. When I listen to her, I can understand how Meredith, Cristina and Bailey can be so awesome and make those killers speeches. She’s a human titan❤
She deserved a standing ovation.
That was really beautiful.
Great insights from a rare kind of person. Thanks.
She has a real sense of poetry. Her words are very clean and meaningful, none wasted. I haven't ever seen any of her shows but I might try them out now.
none wasted? you must be talking about the use of the word 'hum' 234 times, no?
I first fell in love with Grey's 10 years ago, then Scandal, then HTGAWM. She's an incredible story teller. You must join the Shonda family!
Vedika Bahl No show can run for 10 years and stay fresh. The plot is bound to move at a snail's pace.
+AsifIcarebear3 hahahahaha. That means you've never watched Grey's Anatomy. It's on its 12th season now. And still so damn good.
Vedika Bahl Exactly, 12 seasons where the plot, by necessity, crawls at a snail's pace.
I'm sure you think that the bullshit drama is interesting. That's perfectly fine, and none of my business. However, you can't tell me the plot is going anywhere at a reasonable pace. Getting a new boyfriend or getting cheated on or feeling tired at work is not moving the plot along.
“Work does not work without play”. That’s genius and so true! Thank you for that reminder and revelation.👍🏾
I LOVE Shonda Rhimes! She's such a talented,inspirational woman!
She sounds like Maggie but talks like Christina Yang
omg she DOES sound like maggie!!!
@@ohsparkles kinda looks like her too lolmaggie could be her lil sis
so very true
i was thinking that!!
Exactly what I was thinking
Her eyeshadow was on point.
She is just that damn good. I need to pick up her book!
"I work a lot, very hard. And I love it." I can't guess who influenced who here but I the spirit of Olivia Pope spoke through her words. That's incredible!
she says that she is a piece of all of her characters and that makes my heart smile.
Ra Fie Whenever she gives inspirational words she always sounds like Olivia to me and when she's being edgy and funny she sounds like Cristina Yang from Grey's Anatomy.
I see her, I hear her and I wanna be her!
be YOU
I wanna be her too, well ,me but her.
I realise that we can never please everyone and we shouldn't even try. Because everyone has their own lens through which they view the world. What are we fighting against? Who was it who said, "The absence of judgement is the beginning of love".
This is one of the greatest TedTalks I’ve ever seen. A few amazing monologues like from so many of her well written characters. I’m awestruck...
This made me cry! It’s beautiful , she talks so well. My favourite part- let’s not carried away its love 💕
I screamed. SHONDA IS THE BEST
Ms. Rhimes is amazing! This was something I definitely needed to see and hear. I'm going to be going to school for creative writing, and I have a daughter who likes to play of course. I felt like Shonda was speaking about me because I'm not always up for playing, but it's all about saying yes. I'm always reminded to separate work from play.
This talk is amazing for so many reasons. If your addiction is work and that is how you get your fix it is not easy to give it up, as much as you love your family, some people live a life feeling torn and scared to adapt.
I love how Shonda gives practical ways to change one's life. "Stop dreaming and start working " as she saysn
“Work doesn’t work without play.” 🔥
Involve in things but don’t be entangled.. operate life thru love and openess. Have goals and Give it your absolute best. Don’t neglect… Sending much love, joy, good health and prosperity to everyone as we lead to New Year. Let’s crush it! 🎊❤️🌱
Wonderful talk by Shonda! I teared up a little when she said 'and there was no hum, it just stopped'..or something along those lines.
It was inspiring and lovely..and I agree with everything she tried to convey in the most articulate words, and yet at the end of it I came to the conclusion that if she had not gone through phase A, she would have never reached her current state of enjoying more play and less work and the hum that is not consuming her anymore, at least not totally.
I totally enjoyed Shonda's talk. As I watched and listened i was thrilled and then i had to practically hold myself back from interrupting the video because i was eager to share the video with other people. So glad i didnt disrupt the flow and the hum (lol). Everyone who watches this talk will be entertained, motivated and inspired. Good job Shonda
I wish there were more women this confident and successful. She’s inspiring
Do u want to kill Derek?
Shonda: yes
she should a been a titan there
lmao
Lmao literally the first thing in my mind
Stop!!! That's so sad.
Sammie Doxsey Lmao
This was a great speech!!!
One of my top favorites on TED.
I think it has to take a workaholic person like her to understand where she's coming from.
I really enjoyed the speech! 👍
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This video left me speechless; I can feel the rush of excitement towards finding my own "hum." Thank you, Rhimes. Thank you.
This speech is incredible! Love the energy, the woman herself and everything about her and her speach!
I admire her with all my might. She is just unbelievably good at what he does.
Wow, that was truly incredible. I needed to here this! I still miss that hum!!! I can't work anymore. That was my hum. I still feel like a bee away from her hive. I have a hard time finding a new way, but I can at least say I'm trying. I have not given up, at least on more days than not. Being creative is what has helped me. I have a long way to go. Thank you so much for this. Thank u for Ms. Rhimes for putting all those feelings into understandable ways! You are an amazing speaker and an amazing woman! Thank for putting this video out into the world!
Wow, Im speechless! That was incredible. I love how self aware Shonda was and how she realized the importance of spending time with your family. Yes, work is important. However, life is much more than that. It's always good to have that reminder. Especially, when so many people talk about hustle culture. Thank you for the inspiring and wonderful speech! I hope over time I can create a work-life balance. It's crucial for one's wellbeing over time!
Wow!!! Her intellect, poise, humor, connection, talent and delivery is unmatched according to this speech. I see a lot of TED Talk and all of them are mainly great, but this one makes me say SHEEESH! Simply amazing! I'm waiting for the next opportunity to say to something.
I love this so much! I was a titan with school and work for the past 2 years. After I applied for another job and didnt get it. I realized that overworking myself got me no where. I gave too much and lost part of myself. Now im trying to find myself again.
Shonda, I admire your hard work and love for your children. As a Titan, I trust that this hum is just an awakening to something better and you using your gift to bring more light in this world. Sending you love!
She's such an inspiration . she's so honest & smart & incredible . I could hear all her characters "inside" her when she spoke . You can see that the characters she creates are basicly herself . they are part of her . it's so amazing . i could here Mer & Derek & Maggie & Cristina & bailey .
I hear this woman and relate. I love her honesty, her indepth understanding of what she needs and what she is. I love this talk!
What a wonderful talk! Thank you for this deeply enticing, humorous, gentle, loving and inspiring hum!
I love hearing her "brag" on her accomplishments! I makes me feel better about saying "yes! I did this amazing thing" (yes, I assistant stage managed a four week, regional premier, Disney musical in a floor length skirt that is three inches too long for me even in the four inch heels I wore every show. I managed a cast of 36 for four weeks and dealt with over a dozen injuries. No crew. Just the cast. My stage manager was a cast member and was in the dressing room the whole time. I dealt with a creepy actor hitting on me non stop. But I did it! Four weeks non-stop work! I did it!) Girls need to feel like we can say yes, I did this! Thank you! I needed to hear this!
I'm 28 years old and I don't know what makes me happy!! I can't imagine what to do all my life and be happy abnout it....
She’s very captivating, I have the hardest time watching anyone speak for more than 5 minutes but I watched through the end. Beautiful gift❤️
I just love this woman. She's such an awesome story teller. And you can tell she feels her character's personas so deeply and does whatever she can to visualise their stories.
I hope she is not killing anyone to write her mindblowing plottwists.
"If the heart of my song ceases to play, can I survive the silence?" This was really eye opening.
This woman is something else. Mad respect. This should be an inspirational video everywhere.
This speech for me has to be as EXCELLENT TALK of TED TALK !!!! Bravo 👏🏼 Bravo 👏🏼 Bravo 👏🏼
How has she managed to teach me so many things in a less than 30 minute video. Work, play, attention to my kids. Bless.
This is quite frankly one of the most inspirational talks I’ve ever seen. This woman has rekindled my dream of being a novelist, of creating characters, worlds, storylines, the sky’s the limit. She gave me such a confidence boost. She is living proof that you can achieve your dreams and live them, you just have to believe in yourself and push yourself out your comfort zone. Fantastic
One of the best Ted Talks ever. simply brilliant, full of life, happy tears .... The hum....
This is brilliant. Her tv series are brilliant, finally realizing who and what is shoonda rhimes has brilliantly shone a lot on my world as a writer. Ty
She inspires me.
I did a year of saying yes to all opportunities in 2011. It was after watching the movie Yes Man! It was one of the best years of my life and it also led me to go on a blind date who eventually said yes to be my wife two years later. i also finally did stand up lol. Anyway. I watch the movie Yes Man every new year as tradition because of it lol
By far my fav TED talk so far! the motivation in her speech was all the HUM i needed to seek.
Adore and thank this woman for many hours of joy, happiness and peace in my mind 🎈
The title should be something more like, "The titan defended by the hum of love."
This is amazing though, as a driven type with 6 kiddos I need to remind myself of this everyday.
the first part of the speech I almost stopped after she started listing all her achievements cause I was like, well thats a little bit braggy but after listening to the *whole* talk it all tied in together and she herself recognized how tht way of thinking is pointless. so yeah, this was actually really insightful and I can relate to the working hum vs the love/joy/play hum. nice talk shonda :)
Smart, funny and words, words, words!! All the lovely words! This is how I want to sound when speaking. A speaker not waiting for the applause, just speaking about being a titan, a mother, a human being...and about the HUM. My favorite TED so far.
That part about the hum is so unique. It is why i came back here for this particular video. Shonda is awesome
She's such a good writer that her speech sounds like poetry.
This is my first time hearing one of her speeches! Love her even more! A great reminder to have a life outside of work, no matter how much you love it, even at 15 minute intervals. Thank you!
I needed this! I lost my joy and Shonda helped me realized the reason my "humm" is silent. Thank you!😢
How wonderful would it be to speak poetically! It borders on slam poetry at times. Wonderful to listen. Thank-you.
I don't know why ive never watched this before. This was actual poetry and if you listen closely you could hear every piece of character she had ever made. What a inspirational woman
i've seen this video too many times already, it always gives me THE CHILLS. the message she gives is so profound.
You are an incredible speaker. Beautiful soul, wish I could live in this energy that you are putting across. Thank you for this message.
it's a yes for me to playing! Thank you Shonda for sharing and being you! Phenomenal!
i felt as though this was a poem and i want to show my mother to see if she relates in any way to this
It absolutely was poetry. That's all I could think as she repeated key phrases, key words, and built upon it as she went. Absolutely beautiful.
she's a poet.
I truly love her and her attitude. Her Book just saves my live and gives me a turn in the right direction. Thank you Shonda for being the badass 💖
Hello Baddassery!!!!
This woman is truly REMARKABLE. I often question if I will also begin to regret the “hum”…I pray that we all choose peace, happiness and living in the moment. Thank you thank you Shondra ..you are truly one that I admire.