INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA & MY EXPERIENCE WITH IT
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True. The hardest acceptance is ones own
Exactly
I feel so disgusted with myself, I always feel like throwing up when I’m with my girlfriend on a date for example... I love her so much and I don’t know why that happens... it just does and I hate it
i'm so sorry you have been feeling this way. i think things will get easier with time. Remember to be kind to yourself. You are not alone and you can get through this
dump your girl my man and you'll feel alot better and have much more cash at hand. just a tip.
I am a woman with a wife (the love of my life) and I still don’t have the guts to say, “I’m a lesbian” to anyone. All I can muster is, “I have a wife” and I leave it at that.
Even after I go down on her and we have s** and even when my heart flutters from loving her so much where I just smile at her and we stare into each other’s eyes, I say things like, “Wow, I’m really gay….” and my wife yells DUHHH!!!”
I’m legit MARRIED to the love of my life, yet I still haven’t accepted myself. And yes, I grew up in a conservative area with homophobic family and friends around me.
This is me. Being brought up in a heteronormative environment fuck me up. I cannot even come out. I cry a lot because I know that I'm an embarrassment for my mum. If I come out I'll be kicked out. I've been working on it. It gets better but it's not easy. Your video makes so much sense and I relate. ❤️
same :( I hope you are safe
@@suza9827 I'm still in the same environment but I'm doing much better. Working hard so I can leave. I even got a partner!
My ex partner has such internalized homophobia & she refuses to go to therapy. She told me recently that she loves me but at the same time resents me to the point of hatred. I represent something she could never be; an out & proud gay woman with a supportive family. She also said that her resentment would make it difficult to get together with me so as time went on, we’d see each other less & less. She also has a boyfriend she uses as cover up. She met him long before I came along. Their relationship was toxic long before she met me.
I’m really confused, I went out with boys but I never had a crush on a boy my heart never beated fast around a boy but I had a crush on many girls and my heart beats fast around some girls and I get nervous
Currently as everyone in my immediate family openly talk about how wrong it is to be gay and their opinions on having gay kids. it always makes me feel guilty and regretful for Being gay without realising that's how I procces it
My family is not homophobic, but for some reason i feel so ashamed saying I'm a lesbian and whenever I'm with other people, like straight people, even other LGBTs people i get ashamed of saying im a lesbian and i always think everyone will judge me, i also keep trying to make up excuses to why im not gay, is so hard
Good to know that I'm not the only one who sometimes thinks like this. I remember when I came out to my cousin she started asking if I was a pedophile too and that still makes me feel disgusting. Just because I'm attracted to the same sex doesn't mean I'm attracted to minors 😑
Great video Abby, many people are struggling with internal&external homophobia and they cannot even find the words to describe how they feel.What you said is also very true, that you may have accepted your sexuality in some degree but you can still have an internal homophobic dialogue in you head.
Thank you, this is just what i needed❤️❤️
Great video! Thanks for taking the time to be so open and willing to share, a great resource to educate so many❤️
Abby, great subject content. It is so good of you to always end your videos with the "you are loved, you are important..." It's uplifting and offers that glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel that someone really needs at that particular moment.
i couldn’t really accept my homosexuality tendencies, at a young age i already knew i was gay but i never thought anything about it. it only got worse when i got older realizing that homosexuality isn’t seen as something normal or accepted which made me think the same way, i’m still a teen but more older and i learned how to accept myself, it’s still hard but i only focus on what’s important.
Thanks for posting this video on a very serious matter. It is interesting to see that also if you know you have a support system around you, you can still struggle. The first thing is coming out to yourself, accepting that you are who you are and that you're valid and also to stop caring what other people might think of you.
I also made the experience that some people who were outwardly homophobic at first, turned out to be gay themselves. You're so right to say that you have to be patient and acknowlege their struggle.
Thanks for your honesty! My wife of 19 yrs still has it!
omg this is exactly what i'm feeling, thank you for this video
Amazing video as always,every word u said was true,all ways Learning from ur videos,keep up the good work Abby 🥰
You did such a great job of talking about this!! I love that you talked about how you can still have internalized homophobia even if you're outwardly not homophobic because i feel that hahaha
Thank you so much for using your experience to help others. It is so so important
Thank you for posting informative quality content. I'm sorry that you are experiencing negativity within the comments, shame on people hiding behind a keyboard block them.
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
I used to be disgusted with myself and think that I was confused. I just wanted to be straight. I even pushed it to my subconscious to the point that I forgot that I was a lesbian. But that wasn’t good. When I would get crushs on girls, I would get super depressed about it and feel a giant invisible rock was crushing me. I even remember being on the couch and having difficulty breathing. But the more and more I became comfortable with being a lesbian, the more I kind of thought that “okay, I’m a lesbian, but I don’t have to act on it. I can marry a man and pretend like me being a lesbian doesn’t exist. I can take this secret with me to my grave”. But I realized that that train of thought made me really unhappy. I don’t want to marry a man. I want to be with a woman. So eventually, I thought “no. Being a lesbian is okay. It’s normal.” So now I’m more accepting of it. I mentioned it when My attraction comes up at work. But sometimes I get thoughts like “being a lesbian isn’t normal” because my Cuban abuela asks me thinks like “are you calling your boyfriend?” And I sharply reply with a no, which makes her very angry, saying things like “what do you mean no?!” She doesn’t mind if other people are gay but she tells me that I can’t be gay and she starts to pray to god about it in front of me. It makes me feel uncomfortable. My mom (whose Cuban too) always asks me i like girls when she asks me if I like any boys and I say no. I always deny it but that’s only because I’m nervous what she’ll say. Then she says “you know it’s okay if you like girls,” and that makes me even more nervous and makes my stomach hurt. But now, I’m thinking about whenever she asks me about that, I’ll just come clean and say, “yeah, I like girls. I’m a lesbian.” But I need more confidence. I just hope she doesn’t start blabbering that to my abuela because I don’t want to give my abuela a heart attack.
Hi! Children must be educated that there is nothing wrong with it, and there will be no more homophobia. The opposite of how we were educated. Here, in Argentina, sexual education is law since 2006 and yet is difficult to apply it, especially by parents.
This is very good starting point, thanks ~
Love you Abby! 💜 (from your kinda cousin Nicole hehe)
N I C O L E you are the sweetest🥺❤️ love you too!!
Thankyou for sharing this, your a tru Kween 🏅💕
Always learning, Your channel is the place to be for all your LGBTQ+ education, You teach me and I`m sure so many others so much so as always. Thank you Abby :)
Thank you for this!
Can completely relate to this 🙏🏻
Wow what a great video and topic to touch on. I wasn't aware of internalized homophobia before and what it was. You express yourself wonderfully and your message was very kind from my perspective. Thanks Abby!
Great job Abby!
I see an hear homophbia at work so for that reason I stay in the closet at work. I have family support , an lost my best friend when I confessed to her about being bi 10yrs ago. I know who an what I am but still having trouble with it.
Thank you for this video! It is very helpful.
I am so glad you found it to be helpful! :)
I like my friend but I’m trapped with my girlfriend and idk what to do. Idk how long this can go on
Hi Abby, did you delete my comment?
I’m confused if I’m bi or lesbian
Very informative video I didn't know this. I do follow you on Tik Tok.😃
You are a good kid A.💜
Also some people tell me that it’s only a phase and I’m scared If it actually is
And I'm scared that it's not
Just found you and subscribed. Your cute and cool and real and funny. Luv Ya.
Thank you 🙏
Well done you abby
Irrelevant Scuba comment since you already said it all: gay OK! 🏳️🌈
So sad......😵
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U r so beautiful , i wish i could take u on a date🥰🥰
Why should people syptruggle with their self that they gay women and men and why would gay women qnd men be homoeopathic to the self
Am jot 4ude or nasty bout why the hell is she homoeopathic to her self that weurd
Thues nothing wrong with a women being a lesbain a gay women or a man being gwy into men not women
U shouldn't have nagggitve thoughts about being gay at all u shouldn't be homoeopathic to yourself that's weird why would u be homoeopathic to yourself when u gay and u no tonight's to say happy prod when u as homoeopathic to yourself and at one time u fident want to ve hay why dient u want to be gsy as have said thiers nothing wrong with being a lesbain a gay women into women not men and and a gay man into men not women