I’m a 43 year old man, I’ve always been a slow-mover in the sexual department, and I’ve turned down sex more than I’ve accepted it. If it didn’t feel right, if I didn’t know the woman, if it was the first date, I just used self-control and passed it up. I didn’t want to hurt a woman, didn’t want to get somebody pregnant I wasn’t in a long term relationship with. I’m not saying my way is for everybody, but I can sleep at night knowing I did the right thing for me.
Same. I've turned down intimacy before. Actually just last week someone I spoke to on a dating app and met once last year messaged me. Apparently she was in the mood to "bang one out." I politely declined. To each their own. Don't get me wrong, I do have a normal male desire for casual sex, but I also have self control and a desire to not catch anything or get anyone pregnant.
Most men I have spoken to have also expressed having had sexual experiences that left them feeling dirty or empty inside. This isn’t an exclusive experience for women. Nobody truly feels fulfilled by lukewarm halfhearted sex
Most of my ex told me that when a women sleeps or accept to sleep on a first date it is a red flag. They lost their respect to a women who sleeps too soon.
there are plenty of men who are ready to offer a relationship to vvomen, but these men are rejected (usually for superficial reasons)... this is a problem created entirely by vvomen
As per a book called "Naked", DO NOT have sex so soon in the relationship. You simply kill all the mystery to discover both of yourselves, and in the end you're killing the phases that will make the whole thing better.
That's crazy. I am not waiting for any woman. She either puts out or gets out. Why would I wait when she has already given it to men who are less than me? I am only getting other men's leftovers. I should wait for that? That's complete absurdity.
When i was dating in the 80s and early 90s, casual sex was of course not uncommon. However, it also wasn't uncommon to date a few months before having sex. Somewhere along the line it shifted from "let's have a relationship to see if we are compatible for sex" to "let's have sex to see if we are compatible for a relationship". When i was dating, sex on the first date was never an assumption.
Sex on the first date is uncommon for men who don't make good money. I let women know upfront that if they are in my life, their lives are upgraded, and if we don't have sex the first time we meet, then there will be no dates. They either agree or get lost.
Yes and they invented the myth of 'sexual compatibility'. When obviously compatibility can be LEARNT through communication. People aren't born being predisposed to being sexually compatible with John instead of James lol
@@jeremybalizenter2896 Really? So what do you tell them after you have with them on the fisrt and it stinks, she lousy in bed, and you don’t want sex with her anymore. Do you tell her, sorry I can’t upgrade your life because you’re done with her?
I love how eloquently she explained “regret” vs “being taken advantage of” , both parties are to blame for this. Happens so often. We must learn how to communicate our expectations of others and teach the younger generations how to protect themselves from getting hurt.
This reminds me of a phrase I heard, "Givers have to set boundaries, because takers don't have any". We must develop inner strength, as the world is not a utopia and not everyone has good intentions or care for others. (of course I'm not referring to the most extreme situations ppl face where things happen that are truly tragic) I refer to everyday interactions in the modern world, where developing self esteem and respect is a continual investment and responsibility.
Takers include women who will bleed a man dry in divorce court because she never loved him to begin with. There are female therapists that will attest to that. Separately, when are people going to realize that women can't deal with men. Per their own words out of their own mouths. That's what women on social media and in these discussions are saying. Yet these same compromised women will laugh at the notion of their dad finding them a husband and protecting her virtue in the first place. Compromised because the majority of women nowadays are no where near marriage material and a far from virtuous. The reality is, fathers have failed their daughters in the wake of birth control.
Expecting men at large to ensure a woman's virtue is a ridiculous expectation to have in life. That's asinine. The world can't be nerfed for the hopelessly incompetent.
There’s a lot of trash talk on here about this woman and her point of view. She speaks truth. In no world is casual sex good for anyone, at any age. Stop lying to yourself.
In Australia, a recent development has been the creation of a government advertisement about what consent means. It’s main theme is for parents to help their children understand what consent is and what it isn’t. In an ideal world this would work, depending on the parents of course in the action they take. But this is not our ideal world. I also think another issue is the fact that many people now do not know the difference between right and wrong. I am so glad I am not a teenager at the moment.
Well, i am going to say something very controversial, and I suspect there will be many folks who will laugh, scoff, and troll me for what I have to say. Now, of course, it's just my humble opinion, so, on that basis I ask that people try to not get triggered and if you don't like what I have to say and you wish to laugh then fine, but don't be vile and rude cos you can via an anonymous keyboard!! I learnt a long, long time ago that the pill was originally procured for men! Yep, men. But, due to the potential side effects, it got shelved and refused to consider it. Funny that, hey! It was then repackaged for women. Notwithstanding, psychologically, women were far more likely to take it because the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy fall primarily on them. Now I'm now 52 years of age. Slept with 8 men. Put two fingers up at my parents who wanted me to save myself for marriage. They were not staunch followers of christianity no, but they did try to some extent to stick to some principles. I thought they were nutters, but mainly because I didn't want to be left out by society and my peers and regarded as "little miss goodie two shoes," laughed at for being friggid and miss out on what seemed like NORMAL. Upon reflection, it was a big mistake. I was 19 years of age when I lost my virginity to a reasonable bloke. I still know him now, and he's a completed waste of space (despite being educated to PhD level) and still sleeping around. He had multiple partners before me. I was number 21! I was totally infatuated with him be ause he made me feel loved and special for approx 18 months. But mother was right. He wanted a relationship primarily for sex. Sex on tap 🚰 she used to say! I lect home because I hated their views. I then went on to have other relationships a d each one there was an expectation that if it took longer than 6 weeks to get it on, tgey were not interested. I nearly got married twice after living with x2 men. Lovely chaps, but tbvh, it was sex on tap, and they admitted that marriage was NEVER on their radar. I was with each of those two relationships 2 years. Wasted, really. But again, nice enough, but their priorities were getting their oats sowed regardless of how well we got on in other ways. Now I have twin boys, ages 15 and x1, who have already had sex at 15 with a 14 year old girl. Why? Cos he can!!! Both boys have openly admitted "it's more or less expected" nowadays and pushed, pushed, and pushed by the amount of pornography they can get access to. Believe me, my husband and I have spent so much time trying to lick them out and putting restrictions on their gadgets it's more or less a full-time job, and STILL they find ways. And it's clear that some parents do not give a crap either, which makes it a thousand times harder to enforce. Perhaps it's because it seems like it's only the under 12s and the very elderly who are not watching porn. I heard that on the radio...... so if you are not, you must be weird. It's broken my heart. Notwithstanding, my son said, "Mum, it's nothing like the porn is it." As for the girlfriend who was 14 in question, her parents were so lapse, it happened over and over again ON THEIR WATCH IN THEIR HOUSE, while they were in the house!! The parents were upset, but I could tell it was a bit "not ideal is it, but you know kids today." So thanks to these stupid idiot parents , they made sex so much easier to come by! I am so angry I can't express it here. I have been married 20 years this year, but together, 25 years. I love my husband dearly. We are each others best friends and rocks, BUT in heart of hearts, I wouldn't be married if for the 1st 5 years I didn't give in to sex. He is an avid atheist, me, I've returned to christianity and thankfully...... thecson in question is following me, too. Now, fine if that's not somebody else's bag, you have your own free will, but now I k ow what I know through the university of life and learnt christianity properly, I deeply regret not holding out for a man who was full of faith, who would be an explar of morals and beautiful values and would help teach those values, respect, care and compassion for treating women in a beautiful, holy way. That's my reflection now. Marriage with sex contained therein is a beautiful, sacred, loving thing. Its primary function is to bring forth life. And when two people are madly in love with one another and wish to commit for the rest of their lives, it's a beautiful union. Too many people today think that if they are not sexually compatible, there's no relationship. This is wrong and sad. If you are compatible in all the other ways possible , then closeness is amazing, and creating life with another human being is one of the most responsible, binding things a man and a woman can do. Their closeness physically becomes a great and beautiful joy and a very strong bond, and all those come together when they are READY to commit. We both have many childhood issues that have spilt over into marriage, and it made it harder. Returning to my faith and learning it properly has shown me what I have suspected for years. I wish I had waited for marriage. That's me, and I have met many people who, upon reflection, feel the same. Nowadays, anything and everything goes (in the main), and people live how they wish to live. Almost encouraged to be their own God's with their own rules and stardards. Great so thats billions of Gods with their own interpretation of standards. Confusing or what! It started decades ago, and look where we are now. I'm sorry, but I disagree with this. Being your own God means you will serve yourself and think you are primarily all that matters. People fight this, but it's true. Everyone has their own standards and values, and it largely differs from others with some general overlap. Narcissistic behaviour now on the rise, I see EVERYWHERE in all kinds of relationships, and it's SCARY as these folks are vile. She's spot on, by the way!
@@panes840 Be their own God's was meant to be responsible to the power and sacredness within, not selfish. I believe we are all Sparks of the Divine. We all have different personalities and levels of Soul development. Some people are more sensitive, some more adventurous. I had many lovers in the 80's to mid 90's. Some I wish I had not been so giving, some were great experiences. Only one One Night Stand. Sex can be a gift also and a Spiritual Experience, but you have to understand that. I appreciate your views, children should not be having sex, I was 19, and after a marriage to a damage man, div and custody battle, I am back with Love # 1. We need to teach out children how to Trust themselves, their intuition. It is good guidance and how we connect to our Higher Mind. How do we become like Jesus if we are not Children of "God". Jesus was a way shower, a big brother, a philosopher. This is how to live to evolve in Consciousness. Also, sperm stays in women's bodies...We have to be mature enough to ask ourselves, do I really want this person's energy in me? Some Men and women can be very tricky, damaged, cruel or needy. We have to learn about those types and behaviors because they are everywhere.
@carolsaia7401 Thank you for your beautiful reply ❤️ 🙏. I am so delighted to read that you found happiness and joy again. I truly mean that. I believe (only now at age 52) that we are all God's children whether we are consciously aware of it or not. The Bible has been instrumental to my understanding. I dabbled in new age practices too, and I got my fingers burnt and saw the "demonic." Interestingly, all those so-called friends in the NA movement dropped me like a hot brick because I turned to Jesus to rescue me. A non religious book that had a profound effect on me is "Inside the New Age Nightmare" by Randall N. Baer. He mysteriously died the day his book got published. Recommended to me by several people. Scary, yes, but an eye opener. There are not many copies in circulation. But there are videos to be found. Blessings to you. I wish you a joyful life, and thank you for your wonderful comment.
Firstly you said eight paragraphs of nothing. Secondly, sex is the easiest way for a man to determine his feelings for a woman, mainly what comes afterward. Do you want her to stay, or leave? Thirdly, one sex has the brakes for sexual encounters. When you talk about vile individuals it isn't all people, it is one group that gives permission for societal behaviors. What this woman is saying is true to some degree, but only in more mature women. That isnt a rule though. I know plenty of 40 year old broken women. Young women will take ridiculous risks, for a chance at men who are bad for them. They know it, they do it anyway and then look for a responsible man to save them from their choices. The pill has been around for 50 years and women are less responsible because of it. There are still as many unplanned pregnancies and more single mothers despite pharmacological interventions. Women need to do better, men are who they've always been.
As soon as you mentioned your age with your perspective, I was intrigued. Social media insights from young people who haven’t lived life is too rampant. The man you wished for, I think doesn’t exist. There are way too many clergy telling us to follow virtues that they will not themselves. I’m over thinking that men want to honor marriage and sex to its intention. If those men are out there, they aren’t easy to reveal themselves.
Whatever happened to foreplay??? I remember back around maybe 10 years ago, when you use to just make out on the first date and slowly progress after that. You wouldn't have sex until months after getting to know each other but you had lots of fun in between. I feel as though now it is either all or nothing. People are either hooking up or getting ghosted. No one actually knows how to build a relationship. It is as if the person has to have this crazy amount of dopamine feeling for you or not and won't even try to get to know you, man or woman.
Yep you are right! I got so sick of the games men were playing (I'm female) that I stayed celibate for 3 years! I waited many years as a single Mom divorced to find the man of my dreams! He actually just thanked me for letting him just hold me on the couch last night (no sex) and said how much he loves just being affectionate with me. He kisses my hand and just loves all the stuff foreplay IS AND he actually told me he knows women need foreplay to achieve what we need in sex. I am so happy I have him and there is no way I would ever want to be with anyone else!
I prefer to call it casualty sex, because if you mess around with that behaviour long enough & you’ll eventually wind up a psychological casualty to it. If not, you’re a sociopath if not a psychopath.
Totally. I also find it odd the guys with channels selling how to meet and connect with an abundance of women easily and find a great girlfriend. Most of the same guys have slept with hundreds, if not thousands, showing they're actually deeply insecure despite their confidence, treat sex like sport and when it comes down to it are the last guys you should be taking advice from as they're utter sociopaths.
We must learn to communicate our understanding of who we believe we’ve been, who we believe we are.. and who we believe we hope to be. Then after both people take a good effort to communicate those beliefs.. they then take a good effort at expressing the way they understand each other’s beliefs about themselves. If they’re still attracted to each other after that effort has been made AND they convey monogamous commitment then the sharing of each other physically is so much more than physical. It’s truly vulnerable and safe.
What's strange is I as a man have turned down many sexual offers from many women definitely over a 100 and barely have a sexual history but can't find a good woman nowadays who has done the same.
Same here! I have a « love history », not a « sexual past ». I was born in 1976. It is near impossible to find a woman who didn’t turn into a « serial dater » post-divorce, sexually engaging with most of their « dates » in the 1st encounter. They turn the blame on « male lust », get some emotional and symbolic damage. Yet, continue collecting the « wrong ones », hoping to bump into the « right one ». Not realizing the « right one » won’t be willing to commit, since the woman no longer meets his standards… sad. Really sad.
This woman explains that there are reasons why women, especially young women, or otherwise inexperienced relationally, are involved in either, not long term relationships, or perhaps more casual.. And often caught by conmen, and dumped.. How many are you judging on? Surely other qualities like her current presentation and relating to you are more important? And presenting values? Honest, earning, productive, caring, some shared recreational interests? Men seemed to be happy with the introduction of the birth control pill, and some more sexual liberation for everyone. Iike not being pressured to marry the first person you meet, or go out with, and having the chance to grow to know and develop yourself some, and then meet somebody more ideally compatible.. I find this attitude hypocritical. Unless an absolute known player in a familar social group, men rarely get superficially judged on this one element of their life.
It’s beautiful how it’s always a man’s fault 😂 even when a woman decided to go one night stand, it’s like drinking and driving you blame the drink but never the person
Oh my god she is so right about men want sex very early in relationship, girls doesn’t want I lost so many men who I liked because after 5/6 times meeting he wanted it I didn’t wanted the relationship just ended, I feel like men wants girl only for sex how can they ask for it so soon I am 29 I am single because of this
You were lucky to get rid of those 5/6 men. They probably would have dumped you anyway after they'd had sex with you a few times. The brutal truth is that they left you because they had other options and didn't want to waste time with you. This is why forcing men to wait it such a good strategy for women - it weeds out the men who are not likely to commit long term and saves women lots of heart ache. Regarding being single at 29, I would ask you to consider another brutal truth. Are you going for men that are out of your league? These sorts of men will have sex with you, but will not commit long term. Typically women all chase after the top few percent of men in terms of attractiveness and then get disappointed when these men move on to the dozens of other options they have queueing up.
you will be single for life. its in men's nature to want to mate. if they want to have sex with you its because they are physically attracted to you & like you. so i guess you're going to wait to find some pastor of a church that will go months & years without getting sexual? you will go to the grave single. this is like men who expect to get a girlfriend without a job. women like money, if you don't have it, women won't date you. without sex, 99% of men won't date you. you'll be 40 years old before this clicks in your head but by then it'll be too late smh
She seems to think young women these days are “sweet and polite”, she’s totally oblivious to just how raunchy these dating streets are, ESPECIALLY in the black community.
It’s a spectrum. It’s a bell curve that has been shifted toward more promiscuity. You still have a Christian minority that saves them selves for marriage on one end, and only fans hoes on the other end. But the premise that women will consent to sex they don’t really want to have does not mean there always like that or that or there angels. I think she meant sweet and polite as in women are more likely to avoid conflict and consent because of cultural norms even if they don’t want to. But the point she did not say is that this usually happens when there with a guy that is borderline where they perceive there level is or one or 2 points out of 10 lower. If the guy wasn’t famous and was 350 lbs and she somehow ended up in that situation it would have been more likely she would have said no. And alcohol could be involved. And there is also a range of promiscuity where women that fall in-between the 10 precent of Christian good girls that still wait till marriage and your average freak in the sheets. These are the 20ish precent of women that are fairly religious or had a more traditional or upper class upbringing. They might only have sex with a few guys before settling down in there 20’s. But a lot of this group will still end up in sketchy hook up sessions with guys, but have internalized the new social pear pressure norm as they should give him a hand job. So the nice girl to Hoe spectrum still exist, but the bell curve has been shifted in the Hoe direction.
I've chatted with a lot of people who are so ignorant about thinking the pill means that you can't get pregnant. It's not a 100% guarantee. If more young people really felt that, I don't think casual sex would have become a thing. But everyone thinks "it will never happen to me". Total ignorance.
Young women with weak character are going to be more vulnerable. Low self esteem and loneliness are also demons that can get involved in the mix. Desire for having sex is so many times pushed to the back burner. Just my opinion.
Many women I have dated have initiated sex in order to guilt me into entering a committed relationship, yet if I refuse their advances, they are offended.
I admit when I was dating because I was raised in a very dysfunctional family I did use sex to develop relationships because I wasn't raised to know my own value and my own mother only valued how I made her look, but not my own safety within my family. She never protected me when I really needed her to protect me and so I faced mental and physical abuse at the hands of extended family while I was also expected to behave and be nice and not defend myself during family festivities. My abuser was enabled and the abuse continued.
Yeah, alot of em are looking for someone to cover the costs and house them. It's hard to tell intentions until it's too late usually, I would consider those red flags but also sex is not my main concern/objective.
Most men I meet are into polyamorous reationships so they are doing the same thing. As a one man woman, it is increasingly hard to find a one woman man...
The issue at hand is more how it all became Me, My, I and Feel! Look closely at this change from We to Me. To say it like many have said before "If there's war between the sex's the will be on body left".
I am extremely sexual and always have been innately. I love causal sex. Being a teenager was absolute hell due to how much promiscuous woman were hated then. But I really did think girls wanted to be sexual like me but felt like they would be judged. Seems like it's the opposite now, 15 years later. Interesting x
When we found means of birth control, men of power normalized casual sex in our culture through media to further take away bargaining chip for women. Then ironically feminists came along and celebrated life style of casual sex for women, further pitting against women to be able to say no to casual meaningless sex when such thing was abnormal to deny by both men and women. Not only casual sex risky for women, such expectations for one lead to hollow relationships at best and sexual violence at worst.
@@annieareyouok7671No it’s definitely hurting women, and all you have to do is look around most of them are on anti-anxiety medication, anti-depressants and are mentally a mess.
@@teefrankenstein4340 That has nothing to do with dating. Everything to do with an individuals mental health, even family history, socio-economic environment, and interactions on a days to day basis a person can be depressed for 100 reasons other than dating.
@@annieareyouok7671 Incorrect. Your habits and preferences in the dating world are a manifestation of your mental health. A mentally strong, healthy person is going to attract and date the same. Someone who is off, is going to attract the same, causing more issues. Let me give you a quick simple example. My girlfriend works with a young girl at work, 24 years old, that’s dating a 64 year old pervert that has 8 kids by 3 baby-mamas. The relationship is just basically sex-she’s know him for over a year, he never takes her out, she’s never been to his house. She has mental issues, daddy issues and possibly autistic. So to sum up, because she’s not mentally healthy, she’s able to attract and justify a relationship with a sick pervert that doesn’t care for her at all.
Another explanation is that the hypergamous woman is attracted to his social status, but is not physically attracted to him. So she finds herself in a state of cognitive dissonance. Whereas the man has no such issues. It's not subtle at all. She's confused and conflicted. More than likely she is giving off seduction cues, but isn't sure if she really means it. Yet she doesn't walk away. He is not being subtle, he's a man. Otherwise he would have kicked her out or ignored her. Which for some women would have made him even more desirable. She pays a high price for giving sexual access. Is it worth it for her? Probably not. So she needs a longer courtship to find out. But he at first blush does not. Wisdom should tell him otherwise. Is she really worth the headaches that will come? probably not.
sounds like a s3x worker, at least that's how most wealthy men would see her (and vice versa).. this idea that vvomen are somehow physically turned on by a man's wealth is nothing but a red pill fantasy
This comment section is: shaming women who have "a lot" of sexual experiences, but then dismiss women who don't want sex on the first or second date. More women are giving up on dating and becoming celibate.
Trying to find an honest man is hard enough. I'm retired from the "dating" world, or on hiatus until the magical unicorn walks into my life. This whole mess with internet dating sites too, it's all based on looks.....I much rather find the guy that makes me laugh than care about his abs, fishing abilities or 5 o'clock shadow face. Romance is seemingly dead in the 21st century.
The issue I have with this podcast is that Louse seems to be speaking for women of all ages, and as a 32 year old.. has yet to experience life at different body clock stages herself... I know plenty of women who feel comfortable with their ability to have multiple partners.. this is less likely in those below 40 (c) who are at a different life stage. Deep feelings for one person can be developed in men and women, despite mens ability to procreate a 1000 times per year.. feelings are feelings and nothing to do with reproduction capability.
Procreate 1000 times per year, turning the world into chaos like Bangladesh and India. How many women would you impregnate? How many would be left for other men to impregnate? What government wants to sustain a massive population? What resources would you come up with for infrastructure? No society can maintain you if you want to live off your feelings.
She also seems to be speaking for a certain TYPE of woman. It sounds like she still believes young women are “sugar, spice, and everything nice” when in reality, many of them are monsters in the sack with ferocious sexual appetites.
...while women are desperate for validation and get it without even trying. Women never come across as creepy, awkward or desperate because they have unlimited access to dick and attention.
"Contagious mental illnesses"? I need to see some data to be onboard with that. That's...working in public health, that's a hard thing for me to really buy.
Yeah that part baffled me as well. Sounds more like young people being overloaded with information without a more mature mind to help them assess the new info, being very impressionable & tryna fit in more so than actually being able to ‘catch’ a mental illness imo.
Some of what she says sounds like facts,sounds like it should make sense but let's just lét people live their life they way they want.If a woman want a long term relationship with a man than she will know how to behave (pretend) to get what she want.Other women just want to do whatever the f**k they want and nobody should have a problem with it.Time's change,women have changed,unfortunately men are not willing to change at all.We shouldn't blame the pill,feminism...
This is so weird… not sure what she means to communicate but it’s sounds like victimising women for having a choice. This kind of discourse leads me to believe that men are better off just depriving themselves of any kind of sexual initiative. This is all too vague…
Im thinking the same thing. Its as if shes saying women have a choice but they choose to go along with it just to be nice? I bet they will never say that if hes Chad or Tyrone. But Aziz was neither, so she threw him under the bus and didnt take accountability for her lack of poor judgement 🤷♂️
I agree, I'm getting man-hate vibes, not a fan of this episode. ( And no, I don't feel targeted in any way, I am a man who will only have sex with someone I love/ am in a relationship with. Only monogamy for me. )
Yes she wants you to eliminate your sexual nature (but only if you are an average looking man).. none of this drivel advice applies to the male models who are cashing in on the xesual revolution
Back in the real women would say keep your legs closed. That’s all she had to say. Or make the man wear protection and pull out. She could said all of this and saved at least 10 minutes of time.
We have to be more discerning as to Whom we let into our energy field as well physical space. Lots of trickery in men looking to score, low self esteem in ourselves. Too much abuse damaging us.
In no order: STDs, unwanted pregnancies (and abortions), a forced union of two possibly un - wanting “parents” for at least 18 years and maybe for life, and a real bad deal for off-spring of very young parents or other high risk situations. If in a committed relationship have as much willing sex as you desire. You will never have another “first” so choose your mate and time in your life very carefully.
9:00 She's stuffing, excusing the other fact that she wanted a bag of money, period. She could have tucked that up as a bad date experience, and continue... but this woman is saying she couldn't fully deny sex bc he was famous, that is bullish!t, she was free to leave at any moment, she is excusing and not bring up the true reasons she "felt terrible"... if continuing seeing him was the objective then why did she "spill the beans" later?? that guaranteed the whole thing would end; she didn't even fuk him, she just played around. This woman also excuses the huge step of going to his place saying SHE didn't know what it was about to happen. Jesus!! woman want to be adults but remain children about many obvious things when it is convenient for them. I had a few woman in college do this, got to my place and naked and then didn't want ME to try and get sex, they just wanted to sleep they said, I always got up UPSET and kicked them out, put out or get out, that is literally what I said, after spending the whole afternoon with them, and they made me spend the little money I had at the time as a student, fortunately it wasn't MOST of them doing this.
Sex can be paradise on earth to a woman, not with all men though. It's good to have a little experience before thinking about a serious relationship. It's good when the shoes fit on our feet 😊
@@yekaterinaorlova yeah, but it takes far more sexual partners for men to lose the ability to pair bond. Oxytocin in Men and women don’t have the same affects. Men and women are not the same and thanks to feminism, women think there is no ramifications to having sex like men when all it takes is five sexual partners to rewire a woman’s brain.
@@rickyricardo4599 first of all, where is this number coming from? 5 sexual partners to "rewire" a woman's brain, seriously? Why not 4 or 6, or 7? or 5.5? If you can't see how bs it sounds, that's a bad sign my friend. Secondly, I agree on that women and men are different, obviously. However, we are not THAT different, so much so that it takes 5 sexual partners to "rewire" female brains, but f-ing around for years and having countless partners maybe can "rewire" male brains but just a teeny tiny bit. This is just stupid, honestly. Thirdly, men are told bunch of bs as well as women. Men are taught to see women as disposable objects with certain functions, hence this fixation on a "body count". Men are told that they are polygamous, while women are monogamous (which is again just stupid), so having multiple partners for men is considered cool, f-ing around is considered cool because it's "natural" for men, but when it comes to women, they are shamed for even having a past. Therefore all these stupid unrealistic beliefs about that a certain number of partners can "rewire" women's brains. Cmon man, turn on your critical thinking.
Another important reminder that as parents we should remind our children to be careful. A baby is the least of your concerns with sex outside of marriage. Sex inside marriage is designed to be a gift from God.
The act of sex and orgasm between men and women is very different biologically. For most women, it is a bonding experience filled with attachment hormones. They aren't clear headed after it. For most men, it is a release of tension. We are as clear headed as we ever will be after it. The truth is it is women and not men who put sex on a pedestal most often and that's why they guard themselves against it *even though they clearly want sex as much as men do...* Women simply have much higher standards to do that right way than men do since so many men are willing to do it right away & because they shame one another for the act. This is why promiscuous women often share the same men & why they gravitate towards other promiscuous women as friends to avoid being shamed. Louise is being biased and a bit delusional here IMO. The consequences of casual sex are equally devastating for men, outside of carrying the baby for 9 months of course. Yeah, we can be on the hook for more than one child in that 9 month period too. The part where she talks about why women have sex is nonsensical. They did it because they wanted it, not because it was cool, and now because you've stigmatized it and are shaming them for that decision, they are rationalizing it. Women do this to one another. Shaming each other simply for having sex... The STD risk alone is enough for me as a man to have an abundance of caution when it comes to casual sex. I haven't racked up babies mamas. I'm not willfully delusional about the risks. I do not put it on a pedestal. With someone where there is a mutual attraction & no STD's, I could care less about the acts moral implications; there are none. Precautions being used to avoid unwanted pregnancy. Human Beings are sexual creatures and there's nothing abnormal about it for either gender.
We don't put sex on a pedastal, after a few times it becomes ordinary. Why do you think wives no longer want to sleep with their husbands after a few years or even sooner? We always have to consider pregnacy, std's and our mental health. We can get release from a vibrator or masturbating.
Her delicate phrasing and searching for words was hard to sit through, cause it's typical female shielding and sugar coating bs. Consent is consent. Period. No law was broken in that comic retroactively removing consent case, where the woman was way off base. Even women were calling her on her bs during that time. If women can't deal with men then stay home, and let your daddy find you a husband.
Pornography and the access to it 24 seven is so main reason for the diversion of man and women and the push for the LGBTQ because it’s confusing as hell
Hey now, don’t blame the gays, heterosexuals have caused their own demise. The desperation between men and women these days is palpable and pathetic. Every time I go to a bar it’s hierarchical power play. Who’s gonna get what they want who’s not? It’s the porn addictions and the narcissistic proclivities or both genders. But not gay people.
People please need to just stop blaming porn solely for the problems today. You are beating a dead horse. WE GET IT porn is a problem. but could we PLEASE for once admit that social media and dating apps are warping the minds of young women today. The average woman has a myriad of options on dating apps. It's never been easier for a woman to outsleep her place on the dating market.
@@polishpimp4233the problem is you think certain women have a place determined by their looks. That is purely subjective mindset. A girl who doesn’t look good to you could look amazing to 20 other men. What’s more, she can’t “out sleep” her place if there is always someone else to sleep with. She actually DOES have options in that aspect. Men are so bitter despite the fact y’all are the ones who make it so easy. Mind you all the excess quantity doesn’t mean quality and that’s why so many of you are sexless.
What she says works - if you believe that women never mature beyond their teenage years, both emotionally and mentally. I tend to believe that 90% of them never do. They just grow old and bitter.
Women are at their most fecund, desirable and influential from late teens to early 20's, before the pre frontal cortex is formed. Guys have to work hard in that time to reach a point where they are desirable. You don't have to think about that too hard about that to realise why in 10 years time 1/2 of women in their 40's will be single and childless.
I genuinely desired casual sex even into my 20s. Monogamy was never my thing as I get bored easily and would crave someone new after a few months. I had wonderful casual relationships with people I will never forget. Even when I met my husband, neither of us wanted commitment and we engaged sexually minutes into our first date. Here we are 10 years later lol. And he is the best decision I could have ever made.
Many people should remember that speaking posh English does not make you an expert. All generalisation, no facts and figures, no reference to scientific studies or real statistics. This is just an opinion and everyone has one
Shyt they are lucky shd they use that to there advantage we completely understand what woman are thinking they put it out in the open there is mo empathy gap shes speaking from her perception lol
I think besides Louise and women who can't sleep with attractive men are the only ones who think this is bad because in reality I don't see anyone being upset about free sex
Being upset about it doesn't mean you don't like it. Well, ofcourse everyone like sex but does that mean you go on romping everyone you meet on the street without no consequences?. In life there are consequences to every action, you can't just do what you want, eat & drink you want, do things you want without facing consequences to your mind and body.
"Women would be pickier" ... yeah at deciding between criminal and dumb celebrity. Also giving it at first date is the biggest turn off ... literally giving the most precious you have to "stranger". I was ghosted many times because of this but i guess it was all wins if it's a problem for girl to not have sex on first date.
Women are very clever,we had to fend for ourselves for hundreds and thousands of years.Women should know how to avoid siuations,we can read non verbal cues better,we see conseguences of behaviours,we can decide to leave at any time.Please women just think and don't let society tell you that you're stupid
Except sometimes when you're young you don't know what the right thing to do is. Human species being hundreds of thousands of years old doesn't change that.
@@matthewp5472 it actually does That's what I tried to explain when I said women are just better at recognizing behaviour because its essencial for survival. But again thanks for mansplaining Matthew,you just proved a point for everybody...
I ultimately just don't know how to respond to this entire discussion because what she's describing seems totally antithetical to everything I've seen and experienced. I'm certainly not meaning to suggest she's wrong or anything, but she might as well be describing a wholly different species. Especially in a post-1980s world, I have never had - nor do I know anyone - who even entertained the prospect of sex on the first date. HIV scared the hell out of my whole generation. Even into my adulthood, the 'you kiss on the third date' expectation still held. And women/girls succumbing to the pressure of sex? I've never been in or known of a relationship where the women didn't dictate every detail of the sexual aspect of the relationship. Again, I'm not meaning to challenge her findings. They're just...totally incompatible and even at odds with my every experience and observation. I don't know how to reconcile this.
I wish I hadn't experienced what she is describing especially the power play - it has spoken to girlfriends of mine as well as myself. It depends a lot on your social environment, location, generation and I am sure other parameters such as social demographics. Women learnt to grow a thicker skin, become more assertive and how to navigate the current dating culture.
Far cry from the 1980's, she's talking about the dating app era, where the top 10% best looking men now hold all the power, these are the men who all the vvomen are chasing after.... the respectful average guys are not even considered for dates due to vvomen shallow dating preferences, this is a problem created entirely by vvomen
@@skinnyguy7773The impact of AIDS/HIV lasted for me and those I know, from when we started dating int he 1990s to today (on dating apps). You don't forget the lessons ingrained in you just because they occurred more than a decade prior.
I mean i seen woman not be attached and just walk away from a relationship and men be loved and attached it completely benefits woman and they benefit from se xaul economics we take all the risks lol this is so stupid lol
men and women have a window of peak attraction that ranges between 18-26. Unfortunately growing numbers of women don't wish to persue in getting pregnant in these years. Whilst both will always be attracted to members of the opposite sex who are younger, it is the women who effectively will experience more pain when hitting their thirties and growing desperate to find a mate. Meanwhile younger women will remain attracted to older men, particularly who are attractive and have their life together. It is those men who get their second chance to become fathers. Women who choose casual encounters for too long will miss out on all of those men who were ready, only to find they have all moved on and started a family with a woman 10 years younger.
Men are never ready, those who are ready ae in the minority. Older men having babies can have unhealthy children. Sperm is no good after 40 in many cases. Sperm banks won't even accept donations after the man turns 40. Most women are attracted to men 2-3 years older not 20 years older, gross. You are a bitter red piller for sure. Men hit the wall faster than women, just wait and see.
Whether she realizes it or not, everything she said validates the way the past dealt with men and women. Basically the father safe guards the daughter and plays an active role in finding her a husband and ensuring she's a virgin on her wedding night.
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I’m a 43 year old man, I’ve always been a slow-mover in the sexual department, and I’ve turned down sex more than I’ve accepted it. If it didn’t feel right, if I didn’t know the woman, if it was the first date, I just used self-control and passed it up. I didn’t want to hurt a woman, didn’t want to get somebody pregnant I wasn’t in a long term relationship with. I’m not saying my way is for everybody, but I can sleep at night knowing I did the right thing for me.
Sounds really gay
Good on you!
Same. I've turned down intimacy before. Actually just last week someone I spoke to on a dating app and met once last year messaged me. Apparently she was in the mood to "bang one out." I politely declined. To each their own. Don't get me wrong, I do have a normal male desire for casual sex, but I also have self control and a desire to not catch anything or get anyone pregnant.
I think you're as full of shiite as a Christmas turkey, FJB.
@@TV-oc4mllol
Most men I have spoken to have also expressed having had sexual experiences that left them feeling dirty or empty inside. This isn’t an exclusive experience for women. Nobody truly feels fulfilled by lukewarm halfhearted sex
@@katerinaf4903 The narcissists are the abusers.
And 1 in 6 are narcissists.
Most of my ex told me that when a women sleeps or accept to sleep on a first date it is a red flag. They lost their respect to a women who sleeps too soon.
My boyfriend❤ me but he dont. Have sex with me
We talk alot though
I LOVE YOU
there are plenty of men who are ready to offer a relationship to vvomen, but these men are rejected (usually for superficial reasons)... this is a problem created entirely by vvomen
As per a book called "Naked", DO NOT have sex so soon in the relationship. You simply kill all the mystery to discover both of yourselves, and in the end you're killing the phases that will make the whole thing better.
😂. Damn
Most modern women would respond, “I don’t want to invest a bunch of time in a man and then find out that he’s bad at sex.”
If she makes you wait for sex
The sex is never worth the wait
That’s sounds rooted in a sort of mystical element. I bet the underlying premises are religious.
That's crazy. I am not waiting for any woman. She either puts out or gets out. Why would I wait when she has already given it to men who are less than me? I am only getting other men's leftovers. I should wait for that? That's complete absurdity.
When i was dating in the 80s and early 90s, casual sex was of course not uncommon. However, it also wasn't uncommon to date a few months before having sex. Somewhere along the line it shifted from "let's have a relationship to see if we are compatible for sex" to "let's have sex to see if we are compatible for a relationship". When i was dating, sex on the first date was never an assumption.
Right
Sex on the first date is uncommon for men who don't make good money. I let women know upfront that if they are in my life, their lives are upgraded, and if we don't have sex the first time we meet, then there will be no dates. They either agree or get lost.
Why would I wait to do it with a woman when she has already had intimate partners? I am only getting some other men's leftovers.
Yes and they invented the myth of 'sexual compatibility'. When obviously compatibility can be LEARNT through communication. People aren't born being predisposed to being sexually compatible with John instead of James lol
@@jeremybalizenter2896
Really? So what do you tell them after you have with them on the fisrt and it stinks, she lousy in bed, and you don’t want sex with her anymore. Do you tell her, sorry I can’t upgrade your life because you’re done with her?
I love how eloquently she explained “regret” vs “being taken advantage of” , both parties are to blame for this. Happens so often. We must learn how to communicate our expectations of others and teach the younger generations how to protect themselves from getting hurt.
True need to learn that
This reminds me of a phrase I heard, "Givers have to set boundaries, because takers don't have any". We must develop inner strength, as the world is not a utopia and not everyone has good intentions or care for others. (of course I'm not referring to the most extreme situations ppl face where things happen that are truly tragic) I refer to everyday interactions in the modern world, where developing self esteem and respect is a continual investment and responsibility.
❤❤❤ Absolutely accurate ❤❤❤
"Givers have to set boundaries, because takers don't have any". - SO TRUE! Wonderfully stated.
Takers include women who will bleed a man dry in divorce court because she never loved him to begin with. There are female therapists that will attest to that.
Separately, when are people going to realize that women can't deal with men. Per their own words out of their own mouths. That's what women on social media and in these discussions are saying. Yet these same compromised women will laugh at the notion of their dad finding them a husband and protecting her virtue in the first place.
Compromised because the majority of women nowadays are no where near marriage material and a far from virtuous.
The reality is, fathers have failed their daughters in the wake of birth control.
Expecting men at large to ensure a woman's virtue is a ridiculous expectation to have in life. That's asinine. The world can't be nerfed for the hopelessly incompetent.
Yess, men have given women everything they want, and they still want more. If men collectively had sensible boundaries things would be much better.
I always felt when having sex u are giving something of yourself away. I cant have sex with someone I dont love and I'm a Man
🙋🏽♀️😅I wish more men had this level self respect!
Agree I’m the same way.
Damn how old r u btw?
@@m.2891 40 I'm married with 3 kids
Same here. I cant even feel sexual desire for a person i dont love. I thought i was frigid or asexual. We are demisexuals.
There’s a lot of trash talk on here about this woman and her point of view. She speaks truth. In no world is casual sex good for anyone, at any age. Stop lying to yourself.
And im sure most of the trash talking is coming from the neo-marxist feminist crowd.
In Australia, a recent development has been the creation of a government advertisement about what consent means. It’s main theme is for parents to help their children understand what consent is and what it isn’t. In an ideal world this would work, depending on the parents of course in the action they take. But this is not our ideal world. I also think another issue is the fact that many people now do not know the difference between right and wrong. I am so glad I am not a teenager at the moment.
Well, i am going to say something very controversial, and I suspect there will be many folks who will laugh, scoff, and troll me for what I have to say. Now, of course, it's just my humble opinion, so, on that basis I ask that people try to not get triggered and if you don't like what I have to say and you wish to laugh then fine, but don't be vile and rude cos you can via an anonymous keyboard!!
I learnt a long, long time ago that the pill was originally procured for men! Yep, men. But, due to the potential side effects, it got shelved and refused to consider it. Funny that, hey! It was then repackaged for women. Notwithstanding, psychologically, women were far more likely to take it because the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy fall primarily on them.
Now I'm now 52 years of age. Slept with 8 men. Put two fingers up at my parents who wanted me to save myself for marriage. They were not staunch followers of christianity no, but they did try to some extent to stick to some principles. I thought they were nutters, but mainly because I didn't want to be left out by society and my peers and regarded as "little miss goodie two shoes," laughed at for being friggid and miss out on what seemed like NORMAL. Upon reflection, it was a big mistake. I was 19 years of age when I lost my virginity to a reasonable bloke. I still know him now, and he's a completed waste of space (despite being educated to PhD level) and still sleeping around. He had multiple partners before me. I was number 21! I was totally infatuated with him be ause he made me feel loved and special for approx 18 months. But mother was right. He wanted a relationship primarily for sex. Sex on tap 🚰 she used to say! I lect home because I hated their views. I then went on to have other relationships a d each one there was an expectation that if it took longer than 6 weeks to get it on, tgey were not interested. I nearly got married twice after living with x2 men. Lovely chaps, but tbvh, it was sex on tap, and they admitted that marriage was NEVER on their radar. I was with each of those two relationships 2 years. Wasted, really. But again, nice enough, but their priorities were getting their oats sowed regardless of how well we got on in other ways.
Now I have twin boys, ages 15 and x1, who have already had sex at 15 with a 14 year old girl. Why? Cos he can!!! Both boys have openly admitted "it's more or less expected" nowadays and pushed, pushed, and pushed by the amount of pornography they can get access to. Believe me, my husband and I have spent so much time trying to lick them out and putting restrictions on their gadgets it's more or less a full-time job, and STILL they find ways. And it's clear that some parents do not give a crap either, which makes it a thousand times harder to enforce. Perhaps it's because it seems like it's only the under 12s and the very elderly who are not watching porn. I heard that on the radio...... so if you are not, you must be weird. It's broken my heart. Notwithstanding, my son said, "Mum, it's nothing like the porn is it." As for the girlfriend who was 14 in question, her parents were so lapse, it happened over and over again ON THEIR WATCH IN THEIR HOUSE, while they were in the house!! The parents were upset, but I could tell it was a bit "not ideal is it, but you know kids today." So thanks to these stupid idiot parents , they made sex so much easier to come by! I am so angry I can't express it here.
I have been married 20 years this year, but together, 25 years. I love my husband dearly. We are each others best friends and rocks, BUT in heart of hearts, I wouldn't be married if for the 1st 5 years I didn't give in to sex. He is an avid atheist, me, I've returned to christianity and thankfully...... thecson in question is following me, too. Now, fine if that's not somebody else's bag, you have your own free will, but now I k ow what I know through the university of life and learnt christianity properly, I deeply regret not holding out for a man who was full of faith, who would be an explar of morals and beautiful values and would help teach those values, respect, care and compassion for treating women in a beautiful, holy way. That's my reflection now. Marriage with sex contained therein is a beautiful, sacred, loving thing. Its primary function is to bring forth life. And when two people are madly in love with one another and wish to commit for the rest of their lives, it's a beautiful union. Too many people today think that if they are not sexually compatible, there's no relationship. This is wrong and sad. If you are compatible in all the other ways possible , then closeness is amazing, and creating life with another human being is one of the most responsible, binding things a man and a woman can do. Their closeness physically becomes a great and beautiful joy and a very strong bond, and all those come together when they are READY to commit. We both have many childhood issues that have spilt over into marriage, and it made it harder. Returning to my faith and learning it properly has shown me what I have suspected for years. I wish I had waited for marriage.
That's me, and I have met many people who, upon reflection, feel the same.
Nowadays, anything and everything goes (in the main), and people live how they wish to live. Almost encouraged to be their own God's with their own rules and stardards. Great so thats billions of Gods with their own interpretation of standards. Confusing or what! It started decades ago, and look where we are now. I'm sorry, but I disagree with this. Being your own God means you will serve yourself and think you are primarily all that matters. People fight this, but it's true. Everyone has their own standards and values, and it largely differs from others with some general overlap. Narcissistic behaviour now on the rise, I see EVERYWHERE in all kinds of relationships, and it's SCARY as these folks are vile.
She's spot on, by the way!
@@panes840 Be their own God's was meant to be responsible to the power and sacredness within, not selfish. I believe we are all Sparks of the Divine. We all have different personalities and levels of Soul development. Some people are more sensitive, some more adventurous. I had many lovers in the 80's to mid 90's. Some I wish I had not been so giving, some were great experiences. Only one One Night Stand. Sex can be a gift also and a Spiritual Experience, but you have to understand that. I appreciate your views, children should not be having sex, I was 19, and after a marriage to a damage man, div and custody battle, I am back with Love # 1. We need to teach out children how to Trust themselves, their intuition. It is good guidance and how we connect to our Higher Mind. How do we become like Jesus if we are not Children of "God". Jesus was a way shower, a big brother, a philosopher. This is how to live to evolve in Consciousness. Also, sperm stays in women's bodies...We have to be mature enough to ask ourselves, do I really want this person's energy in me? Some Men and women can be very tricky, damaged, cruel or needy. We have to learn about those types and behaviors because they are everywhere.
@carolsaia7401 Thank you for your beautiful reply ❤️ 🙏. I am so delighted to read that you found happiness and joy again. I truly mean that. I believe (only now at age 52) that we are all God's children whether we are consciously aware of it or not. The Bible has been instrumental to my understanding. I dabbled in new age practices too, and I got my fingers burnt and saw the "demonic." Interestingly, all those so-called friends in the NA movement dropped me like a hot brick because I turned to Jesus to rescue me. A non religious book that had a profound effect on me is "Inside the New Age Nightmare" by Randall N. Baer. He mysteriously died the day his book got published. Recommended to me by several people. Scary, yes, but an eye opener. There are not many copies in circulation. But there are videos to be found.
Blessings to you. I wish you a joyful life, and thank you for your wonderful comment.
@@panes840 the long disclaimer to avoid offending anyone weakened whatever point you had smh
Firstly you said eight paragraphs of nothing. Secondly, sex is the easiest way for a man to determine his feelings for a woman, mainly what comes afterward. Do you want her to stay, or leave? Thirdly, one sex has the brakes for sexual encounters. When you talk about vile individuals it isn't all people, it is one group that gives permission for societal behaviors. What this woman is saying is true to some degree, but only in more mature women. That isnt a rule though. I know plenty of 40 year old broken women. Young women will take ridiculous risks, for a chance at men who are bad for them. They know it, they do it anyway and then look for a responsible man to save them from their choices. The pill has been around for 50 years and women are less responsible because of it. There are still as many unplanned pregnancies and more single mothers despite pharmacological interventions. Women need to do better, men are who they've always been.
As soon as you mentioned your age with your perspective, I was intrigued. Social media insights from young people who haven’t lived life is too rampant. The man you wished for, I think doesn’t exist. There are way too many clergy telling us to follow virtues that they will not themselves. I’m over thinking that men want to honor marriage and sex to its intention. If those men are out there, they aren’t easy to reveal themselves.
Evolutionary biology offers something that offends everybody.
Whatever happened to foreplay??? I remember back around maybe 10 years ago, when you use to just make out on the first date and slowly progress after that. You wouldn't have sex until months after getting to know each other but you had lots of fun in between. I feel as though now it is either all or nothing. People are either hooking up or getting ghosted. No one actually knows how to build a relationship. It is as if the person has to have this crazy amount of dopamine feeling for you or not and won't even try to get to know you, man or woman.
That's a personal preference. All those women have given up a lot more for a lot less in college and beyond.
We can love anyone over time as long as they are good people and meet a minimum attraction standard.
@@joshualambert8346 that is college.
Yep you are right! I got so sick of the games men were playing (I'm female) that I stayed celibate for 3 years! I waited many years as a single Mom divorced to find the man of my dreams! He actually just thanked me for letting him just hold me on the couch last night (no sex) and said how much he loves just being affectionate with me. He kisses my hand and just loves all the stuff foreplay IS AND he actually told me he knows women need foreplay to achieve what we need in sex. I am so happy I have him and there is no way I would ever want to be with anyone else!
I prefer to call it casualty sex, because if you mess around with that behaviour long enough & you’ll eventually wind up a psychological casualty to it. If not, you’re a sociopath if not a psychopath.
So true! Contextual and literal sense. Indeed. I have been calling that for many years. Or if not on psych ward. You can be 6 feet under.
Totally. I also find it odd the guys with channels selling how to meet and connect with an abundance of women easily and find a great girlfriend. Most of the same guys have slept with hundreds, if not thousands, showing they're actually deeply insecure despite their confidence, treat sex like sport and when it comes down to it are the last guys you should be taking advice from as they're utter sociopaths.
We must learn to communicate our understanding of who we believe we’ve been, who we believe we are.. and who we believe we hope to be. Then after both people take a good effort to communicate those beliefs.. they then take a good effort at expressing the way they understand each other’s beliefs about themselves.
If they’re still attracted to each other after that effort has been made AND they convey monogamous commitment then the sharing of each other physically is so much more than physical. It’s truly vulnerable and safe.
What's strange is I as a man have turned down many sexual offers from many women definitely over a 100 and barely have a sexual history but can't find a good woman nowadays who has done the same.
Same here man I’ve turned down a lot, but I do have a woman I’ve been with for 17+ years so keep looking you will find that person.
@@teefrankenstein4340 Beautiful to hear!
Same here! I have a « love history », not a « sexual past ». I was born in 1976. It is near impossible to find a woman who didn’t turn into a « serial dater » post-divorce, sexually engaging with most of their « dates » in the 1st encounter. They turn the blame on « male lust », get some emotional and symbolic damage. Yet, continue collecting the « wrong ones », hoping to bump into the « right one ». Not realizing the « right one » won’t be willing to commit, since the woman no longer meets his standards… sad. Really sad.
Yeah you definitely turned down sexual offers from 100+ women 🤡🤡🤡
This woman explains that there are reasons why women, especially young women, or otherwise inexperienced relationally, are involved in either, not long term relationships, or perhaps more casual.. And often caught by conmen, and dumped.. How many are you judging on? Surely other qualities like her current presentation and relating to you are more important? And presenting values? Honest, earning, productive, caring, some shared recreational interests? Men seemed to be happy with the introduction of the birth control pill, and some more sexual liberation for everyone. Iike not being pressured to marry the first person you meet, or go out with, and having the chance to grow to know and develop yourself some, and then meet somebody more ideally compatible.. I find this attitude hypocritical. Unless an absolute known player in a familar social group, men rarely get superficially judged on this one element of their life.
It’s beautiful how it’s always a man’s fault 😂 even when a woman decided to go one night stand, it’s like drinking and driving you blame the drink but never the person
I stopped having sex about 10 years ago and I’m much happier..it would take a very special man to get my attention time and energy
delusion
@@zaynyt3420Projection.
Oh my god she is so right about men want sex very early in relationship, girls doesn’t want I lost so many men who I liked because after 5/6 times meeting he wanted it I didn’t wanted the relationship just ended, I feel like men wants girl only for sex how can they ask for it so soon I am 29 I am single because of this
Not all men are like this.
You were lucky to get rid of those 5/6 men. They probably would have dumped you anyway after they'd had sex with you a few times. The brutal truth is that they left you because they had other options and didn't want to waste time with you. This is why forcing men to wait it such a good strategy for women - it weeds out the men who are not likely to commit long term and saves women lots of heart ache.
Regarding being single at 29, I would ask you to consider another brutal truth. Are you going for men that are out of your league? These sorts of men will have sex with you, but will not commit long term. Typically women all chase after the top few percent of men in terms of attractiveness and then get disappointed when these men move on to the dozens of other options they have queueing up.
@@teefrankenstein4340 i'm a man & unless they are a monk, 99% of men are like this... she will be single for life.
you will be single for life. its in men's nature to want to mate. if they want to have sex with you its because they are physically attracted to you & like you. so i guess you're going to wait to find some pastor of a church that will go months & years without getting sexual? you will go to the grave single. this is like men who expect to get a girlfriend without a job. women like money, if you don't have it, women won't date you. without sex, 99% of men won't date you. you'll be 40 years old before this clicks in your head but by then it'll be too late smh
@@asdfxcvbn746 Incorrect. You may be right that the majority of men are like that, but a lot of men are not.
She seems to think young women these days are “sweet and polite”, she’s totally oblivious to just how raunchy these dating streets are, ESPECIALLY in the black community.
It’s a spectrum. It’s a bell curve that has been shifted toward more promiscuity. You still have a Christian minority that saves them selves for marriage on one end, and only fans hoes on the other end.
But the premise that women will consent to sex they don’t really want to have does not mean there always like that or that or there angels. I think she meant sweet and polite as in women are more likely to avoid conflict and consent because of cultural norms even if they don’t want to. But the point she did not say is that this usually happens when there with a guy that is borderline where they perceive there level is or one or 2 points out of 10 lower. If the guy wasn’t famous and was 350 lbs and she somehow ended up in that situation it would have been more likely she would have said no. And alcohol could be involved.
And there is also a range of promiscuity where women that fall in-between the 10 precent of Christian good girls that still wait till marriage and your average freak in the sheets. These are the 20ish precent of women that are fairly religious or had a more traditional or upper class upbringing.
They might only have sex with a few guys before settling down in there 20’s. But a lot of this group will still end up in sketchy hook up sessions with guys, but have internalized the new social pear pressure norm as they should give him a hand job.
So the nice girl to Hoe spectrum still exist, but the bell curve has been shifted in the Hoe direction.
Damn this is so good. Spot on.
What a great clip thanks for sharing.And yes everything she said was 100% Right
Such good insights. 💯
I've chatted with a lot of people who are so ignorant about thinking the pill means that you can't get pregnant. It's not a 100% guarantee. If more young people really felt that, I don't think casual sex would have become a thing. But everyone thinks "it will never happen to me". Total ignorance.
Young women with weak character are going to be more vulnerable. Low self esteem and loneliness are also demons that can get involved in the mix. Desire for having sex is so many times pushed to the back burner. Just my opinion.
Many women I have dated have initiated sex in order to guilt me into entering a committed relationship, yet if I refuse their advances, they are offended.
I bet if you communicated, and said you wanted to wait until you were committed, they would be fine.
I admit when I was dating because I was raised in a very dysfunctional family I did use sex to develop relationships because I wasn't raised to know my own value and my own mother only valued how I made her look, but not my own safety within my family. She never protected me when I really needed her to protect me and so I faced mental and physical abuse at the hands of extended family while I was also expected to behave and be nice and not defend myself during family festivities. My abuser was enabled and the abuse continued.
Sorry for your experiences@@Sarah-with-an-H
Yeah, alot of em are looking for someone to cover the costs and house them. It's hard to tell intentions until it's too late usually, I would consider those red flags but also sex is not my main concern/objective.
@Sarah-with-an-H oh hun, I am so sorry, thank you for being so open and frank here. X
I don't know. Many women have multiple boyfriends these days.
Most men I meet are into polyamorous reationships so they are doing the same thing.
As a one man woman, it is increasingly hard to find a one woman man...
Then you have an unusual social circle. Most men are NOT into polyamory.
I have been celibate since April 2022. I have turned down All types of mens: gay, bi & in-between
Hello, thank you for this my first time looking forward to listening
The issue at hand is more how it all became Me, My, I and Feel! Look closely at this change from We to Me. To say it like many have said before "If there's war between the sex's the will be on body left".
I am extremely sexual and always have been innately. I love causal sex. Being a teenager was absolute hell due to how much promiscuous woman were hated then. But I really did think girls wanted to be sexual like me but felt like they would be judged. Seems like it's the opposite now, 15 years later. Interesting x
Get it while you can. Atlanta DA Fanny Willis had to shell out $600 grand of taxpayer dollars just for some hot salami. Ridiculous.
When we found means of birth control, men of power normalized casual sex in our culture through media to further take away bargaining chip for women. Then ironically feminists came along and celebrated life style of casual sex for women, further pitting against women to be able to say no to casual meaningless sex when such thing was abnormal to deny by both men and women. Not only casual sex risky for women, such expectations for one lead to hollow relationships at best and sexual violence at worst.
No no no let’s be clear it’s destroying women.
It’s not you just don’t benefit. 😂
@@annieareyouok7671No it’s definitely hurting women, and all you have to do is look around most of them are on anti-anxiety medication, anti-depressants and are mentally a mess.
@@teefrankenstein4340 That has nothing to do with dating. Everything to do with an individuals mental health, even family history, socio-economic environment, and interactions on a days to day basis a person can be depressed for 100 reasons other than dating.
@@annieareyouok7671 Incorrect. Your habits and preferences in the dating world are a manifestation of your mental health. A mentally strong, healthy person is going to attract and date the same. Someone who is off, is going to attract the same, causing more issues.
Let me give you a quick simple example. My girlfriend works with a young girl at work, 24 years old, that’s dating a 64 year old pervert that has 8 kids by 3 baby-mamas. The relationship is just basically sex-she’s know him for over a year, he never takes her out, she’s never been to his house. She has mental issues, daddy issues and possibly autistic. So to sum up, because she’s not mentally healthy, she’s able to attract and justify a relationship with a sick pervert that doesn’t care for her at all.
@@annieareyouok7671 The insane dating practices of women these days-and men too-are leading to mental health issues.
Thos was great teach this to teen girls help them to help themselves. Also play to men and young male teens.❤
I watched her talk with amused mastery. LOL
Another explanation is that the hypergamous woman is attracted to his social status, but is not physically attracted to him. So she finds herself in a state of cognitive dissonance. Whereas the man has no such issues. It's not subtle at all. She's confused and conflicted. More than likely she is giving off seduction cues, but isn't sure if she really means it. Yet she doesn't walk away. He is not being subtle, he's a man. Otherwise he would have kicked her out or ignored her. Which for some women would have made him even more desirable. She pays a high price for giving sexual access. Is it worth it for her? Probably not. So she needs a longer courtship to find out. But he at first blush does not. Wisdom should tell him otherwise. Is she really worth the headaches that will come? probably not.
sounds like a s3x worker, at least that's how most wealthy men would see her (and vice versa).. this idea that vvomen are somehow physically turned on by a man's wealth is nothing but a red pill fantasy
Love Louise Perry, she is one based woman...
She is a feminist.
Getting turrets from tiktok was nuts when it was happening... women!! Jesus!! "contagion". And to IMAGINE they really truly believe they had it!!
This comment section is: shaming women who have "a lot" of sexual experiences, but then dismiss women who don't want sex on the first or second date.
More women are giving up on dating and becoming celibate.
Trying to find an honest man is hard enough. I'm retired from the "dating" world, or on hiatus until the magical unicorn walks into my life. This whole mess with internet dating sites too, it's all based on looks.....I much rather find the guy that makes me laugh than care about his abs, fishing abilities or 5 o'clock shadow face. Romance is seemingly dead in the 21st century.
There is this cognitive dissonance the women do.
The issue I have with this podcast is that Louse seems to be speaking for women of all ages, and as a 32 year old.. has yet to experience life at different body clock stages herself... I know plenty of women who feel comfortable with their ability to have multiple partners.. this is less likely in those below 40 (c) who are at a different life stage. Deep feelings for one person can be developed in men and women, despite mens ability to procreate a 1000 times per year.. feelings are feelings and nothing to do with reproduction capability.
Procreate 1000 times per year, turning the world into chaos like Bangladesh and India. How many women would you impregnate? How many would be left for other men to impregnate? What government wants to sustain a massive population? What resources would you come up with for infrastructure? No society can maintain you if you want to live off your feelings.
this vvomen is here to spread propaganda, nothing more.. sadly this is the kind of pseudo-scienctific drivel that generates lots of clicks.
She also seems to be speaking for a certain TYPE of woman. It sounds like she still believes young women are “sugar, spice, and everything nice” when in reality, many of them are monsters in the sack with ferocious sexual appetites.
A child is economically self sufficient at 15 years of age?
I know, I laughed at that. maybe she meant 25?
I think it was meant from an evoutionary point of view, for instance girls could of quite easily married at that age in our not so distant past.
Throughout evolution, that is tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands years: yes.
Most guys assume I am his girlfriend if I give him attention a third time. Most dudes come across as desperate for female presence.
...while women are desperate for validation and get it without even trying. Women never come across as creepy, awkward or desperate because they have unlimited access to dick and attention.
That's because most dudes are. They're not getting any.
"Contagious mental illnesses"?
I need to see some data to be onboard with that. That's...working in public health, that's a hard thing for me to really buy.
Yeah that part baffled me as well. Sounds more like young people being overloaded with information without a more mature mind to help them assess the new info, being very impressionable & tryna fit in more so than actually being able to ‘catch’ a mental illness imo.
"Mimicking mental illness" to fit in is what I gathered from this conversation.
The JUCO is litty... if you know you know. Shout out to CGA...
Some of what she says sounds like facts,sounds like it should make sense but let's just lét people live their life they way they want.If a woman want a long term relationship with a man than she will know how to behave (pretend) to get what she want.Other women just want to do whatever the f**k they want and nobody should have a problem with it.Time's change,women have changed,unfortunately men are not willing to change at all.We shouldn't blame the pill,feminism...
Women will be brought back to the positions of baby machine again when States realize the humanity is on the bring of extinction.
This is so weird… not sure what she means to communicate but it’s sounds like victimising women for having a choice. This kind of discourse leads me to believe that men are better off just depriving themselves of any kind of sexual initiative. This is all too vague…
Im thinking the same thing. Its as if shes saying women have a choice but they choose to go along with it just to be nice? I bet they will never say that if hes Chad or Tyrone. But Aziz was neither, so she threw him under the bus and didnt take accountability for her lack of poor judgement 🤷♂️
I agree, I'm getting man-hate vibes, not a fan of this episode. ( And no, I don't feel targeted in any way, I am a man who will only have sex with someone I love/ am in a relationship with. Only monogamy for me. )
Yes she wants you to eliminate your sexual nature (but only if you are an average looking man).. none of this drivel advice applies to the male models who are cashing in on the xesual revolution
Back in the real women would say keep your legs closed. That’s all she had to say. Or make the man wear protection and pull out. She could said all of this and saved at least 10 minutes of time.
Bad sex is a tragedy that is equivalent to rape is the exact sort of "wisdom" I would expect from the Diary of a CEO.
Why is everyone telling us what to do? I think each woman can decide the best way on their own.
We have to be more discerning as to Whom we let into our energy field as well physical space. Lots of trickery in men looking to score, low self esteem in ourselves. Too much abuse damaging us.
It's not about telling what to do. It's about informing and educating. It's still their choice to do whatever.
Feminist detected 🚩
@@chrisperu28 why a red flag ? What endangers you?
In no order: STDs, unwanted pregnancies (and abortions), a forced union of two possibly un - wanting “parents” for at least 18 years and maybe for life, and a real bad deal for off-spring of very young parents or other high risk situations.
If in a committed relationship have as much willing sex as you desire. You will never have another “first” so choose your mate and time in your life very carefully.
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She's stuffing, excusing the other fact that she wanted a bag of money, period. She could have tucked that up as a bad date experience, and continue... but this woman is saying she couldn't fully deny sex bc he was famous, that is bullish!t, she was free to leave at any moment, she is excusing and not bring up the true reasons she "felt terrible"... if continuing seeing him was the objective then why did she "spill the beans" later?? that guaranteed the whole thing would end; she didn't even fuk him, she just played around. This woman also excuses the huge step of going to his place saying SHE didn't know what it was about to happen. Jesus!! woman want to be adults but remain children about many obvious things when it is convenient for them.
I had a few woman in college do this, got to my place and naked and then didn't want ME to try and get sex, they just wanted to sleep they said, I always got up UPSET and kicked them out, put out or get out, that is literally what I said, after spending the whole afternoon with them, and they made me spend the little money I had at the time as a student, fortunately it wasn't MOST of them doing this.
Sex can be paradise on earth to a woman, not with all men though.
It's good to have a little experience before thinking about a serious relationship. It's good when the shoes fit on our feet 😊
As long as you are ok with your partner doing the same. And be careful, so men can think 50-100 partners are just “a little bit of experience”.
This makes no sense. Men orgasm at a much higher rate than women. On average they're the ones getting more pleasure.
Personally I don’t think the pill is the only thing to blame, only half way through so apologies if this is corrected
Agreed.
Women lose the ability to pair bond with one man. That’s the number one reason
same with men
@@yekaterinaorlova yeah, but it takes far more sexual partners for men to lose the ability to pair bond. Oxytocin in Men and women don’t have the same affects. Men and women are not the same and thanks to feminism, women think there is no ramifications to having sex like men when all it takes is five sexual partners to rewire a woman’s brain.
@@rickyricardo4599 first of all, where is this number coming from? 5 sexual partners to "rewire" a woman's brain, seriously? Why not 4 or 6, or 7? or 5.5? If you can't see how bs it sounds, that's a bad sign my friend.
Secondly, I agree on that women and men are different, obviously. However, we are not THAT different, so much so that it takes 5 sexual partners to "rewire" female brains, but f-ing around for years and having countless partners maybe can "rewire" male brains but just a teeny tiny bit. This is just stupid, honestly.
Thirdly, men are told bunch of bs as well as women. Men are taught to see women as disposable objects with certain functions, hence this fixation on a "body count". Men are told that they are polygamous, while women are monogamous (which is again just stupid), so having multiple partners for men is considered cool, f-ing around is considered cool because it's "natural" for men, but when it comes to women, they are shamed for even having a past. Therefore all these stupid unrealistic beliefs about that a certain number of partners can "rewire" women's brains.
Cmon man, turn on your critical thinking.
Another important reminder that as parents we should remind our children to be careful. A baby is the least of your concerns with sex outside of marriage. Sex inside marriage is designed to be a gift from God.
The act of sex and orgasm between men and women is very different biologically. For most women, it is a bonding experience filled with attachment hormones. They aren't clear headed after it. For most men, it is a release of tension. We are as clear headed as we ever will be after it.
The truth is it is women and not men who put sex on a pedestal most often and that's why they guard themselves against it *even though they clearly want sex as much as men do...* Women simply have much higher standards to do that right way than men do since so many men are willing to do it right away & because they shame one another for the act. This is why promiscuous women often share the same men & why they gravitate towards other promiscuous women as friends to avoid being shamed.
Louise is being biased and a bit delusional here IMO. The consequences of casual sex are equally devastating for men, outside of carrying the baby for 9 months of course. Yeah, we can be on the hook for more than one child in that 9 month period too. The part where she talks about why women have sex is nonsensical. They did it because they wanted it, not because it was cool, and now because you've stigmatized it and are shaming them for that decision, they are rationalizing it. Women do this to one another. Shaming each other simply for having sex...
The STD risk alone is enough for me as a man to have an abundance of caution when it comes to casual sex. I haven't racked up babies mamas. I'm not willfully delusional about the risks. I do not put it on a pedestal. With someone where there is a mutual attraction & no STD's, I could care less about the acts moral implications; there are none. Precautions being used to avoid unwanted pregnancy. Human Beings are sexual creatures and there's nothing abnormal about it for either gender.
We don't put sex on a pedastal, after a few times it becomes ordinary. Why do you think wives no longer want to sleep with their husbands after a few years or even sooner? We always have to consider pregnacy, std's and our mental health. We can get release from a vibrator or masturbating.
Her delicate phrasing and searching for words was hard to sit through, cause it's typical female shielding and sugar coating bs. Consent is consent. Period.
No law was broken in that comic retroactively removing consent case, where the woman was way off base. Even women were calling her on her bs during that time.
If women can't deal with men then stay home, and let your daddy find you a husband.
Marriage... that's the answer. Simple.
Pornography and the access to it 24 seven is so main reason for the diversion of man and women and the push for the LGBTQ because it’s confusing as hell
Hey now, don’t blame the gays, heterosexuals have caused their own demise. The desperation between men and women these days is palpable and pathetic. Every time I go to a bar it’s hierarchical power play. Who’s gonna get what they want who’s not? It’s the porn addictions and the narcissistic proclivities or both genders. But not gay people.
People please need to just stop blaming porn solely for the problems today. You are beating a dead horse. WE GET IT porn is a problem. but could we PLEASE for once admit that social media and dating apps are warping the minds of young women today. The average woman has a myriad of options on dating apps. It's never been easier for a woman to outsleep her place on the dating market.
@@polishpimp4233the problem is you think certain women have a place determined by their looks. That is purely subjective mindset. A girl who doesn’t look good to you could look amazing to 20 other men. What’s more, she can’t “out sleep” her place if there is always someone else to sleep with. She actually DOES have options in that aspect. Men are so bitter despite the fact y’all are the ones who make it so easy. Mind you all the excess quantity doesn’t mean quality and that’s why so many of you are sexless.
Porn has prevented a violent revolution from the right lol also women choose it as a job, eg only fans
What she says works - if you believe that women never mature beyond their teenage years, both emotionally and mentally.
I tend to believe that 90% of them never do. They just grow old and bitter.
Women are at their most fecund, desirable and influential from late teens to early 20's, before the pre frontal cortex is formed.
Guys have to work hard in that time to reach a point where they are desirable. You don't have to think about that too hard about that to realise why in 10 years time 1/2 of women in their 40's will be single and childless.
By choice, don't lie to yourself for not being chosen.
I genuinely desired casual sex even into my 20s. Monogamy was never my thing as I get bored easily and would crave someone new after a few months. I had wonderful casual relationships with people I will never forget. Even when I met my husband, neither of us wanted commitment and we engaged sexually minutes into our first date. Here we are 10 years later lol. And he is the best decision I could have ever made.
Same.
That's lucky not the normal
You engaged sexually minutes into your first date. How on earth is that a date
Minutes into your first date and he married you? Yea doesn’t sound healthy at all but you do you.
I bet you're swingers now.
She went back to azizs place!
Many people should remember that speaking posh English does not make you an expert. All generalisation, no facts and figures, no reference to scientific studies or real statistics. This is just an opinion and everyone has one
You cant teach moral lesson with facts, figures and statistics. 😂
You think her accent is posh? She sounds like an ordinary person from East London or Essex to me.
sadly this is the kind of garbage that generates clicks- and the "interviewer" is nothing more than a mindless question-asker
Word salad, this lady sniffed the trend with incels and isnjust riding coctails and grifting with these theories...
Repeat after me: It's always the man's fault.
Yup, it sounds like shes implying that 😅
a self styled "expert" who always has several degrees of analysis missing from her talking points
Shyt they are lucky shd they use that to there advantage we completely understand what woman are thinking they put it out in the open there is mo empathy gap shes speaking from her perception lol
I think besides Louise and women who can't sleep with attractive men are the only ones who think this is bad because in reality I don't see anyone being upset about free sex
THANK YOU VERY MUCH! Say it louder for the dummies in the back…
Being upset about it doesn't mean you don't like it. Well, ofcourse everyone like sex but does that mean you go on romping everyone you meet on the street without no consequences?. In life there are consequences to every action, you can't just do what you want, eat & drink you want, do things you want without facing consequences to your mind and body.
Not the girls I date. Australia
Totally agree! 😂
"Women would be pickier" ... yeah at deciding between criminal and dumb celebrity. Also giving it at first date is the biggest turn off ... literally giving the most precious you have to "stranger". I was ghosted many times because of this but i guess it was all wins if it's a problem for girl to not have sex on first date.
Why did you leave off how it harms men...
Maybe she's only an expert on women.
Women are very clever,we had to fend for ourselves for hundreds and thousands of years.Women should know how to avoid siuations,we can read non verbal cues better,we see conseguences of behaviours,we can decide to leave at any time.Please women just think and don't let society tell you that you're stupid
Except sometimes when you're young you don't know what the right thing to do is. Human species being hundreds of thousands of years old doesn't change that.
@@matthewp5472 it actually does
That's what I tried to explain when I said women are just better at recognizing behaviour because its essencial for survival. But again thanks for mansplaining Matthew,you just proved a point for everybody...
@kalankaneni I'm not "mansplaning" . I just made a point that you didnt.
@@matthewp5472 sure...
Be polite? 😂😂😂 Omg
Right, lol..
BTW is it some sarcastic nature by universe law that sex advisors (those out of adult industry) are as hot as pontiac aztec? 🙄
I ultimately just don't know how to respond to this entire discussion because what she's describing seems totally antithetical to everything I've seen and experienced. I'm certainly not meaning to suggest she's wrong or anything, but she might as well be describing a wholly different species.
Especially in a post-1980s world, I have never had - nor do I know anyone - who even entertained the prospect of sex on the first date. HIV scared the hell out of my whole generation. Even into my adulthood, the 'you kiss on the third date' expectation still held.
And women/girls succumbing to the pressure of sex? I've never been in or known of a relationship where the women didn't dictate every detail of the sexual aspect of the relationship.
Again, I'm not meaning to challenge her findings. They're just...totally incompatible and even at odds with my every experience and observation. I don't know how to reconcile this.
I wish I hadn't experienced what she is describing especially the power play - it has spoken to girlfriends of mine as well as myself. It depends a lot on your social environment, location, generation and I am sure other parameters such as social demographics. Women learnt to grow a thicker skin, become more assertive and how to navigate the current dating culture.
Far cry from the 1980's, she's talking about the dating app era, where the top 10% best looking men now hold all the power, these are the men who all the vvomen are chasing after.... the respectful average guys are not even considered for dates due to vvomen shallow dating preferences, this is a problem created entirely by vvomen
@@KCrvrThat sounds awful. For what it's worth, I'm sorry to anybody who has experienced that sort of behavior.
@@skinnyguy7773The impact of AIDS/HIV lasted for me and those I know, from when we started dating int he 1990s to today (on dating apps). You don't forget the lessons ingrained in you just because they occurred more than a decade prior.
I mean i seen woman not be attached and just walk away from a relationship and men be loved and attached it completely benefits woman and they benefit from se xaul economics we take all the risks lol this is so stupid lol
I’d say no sex is much worse than casual sex.
I think it depends why you want it and what you want from it that determines that.
You would be wrong for the most part.
tell that to all the vvomen who go on dating apps hunting for chad
What makes her an expert? Should’ve got Riley Ried on the pod.
Being a woman she's already got an understanding of the female experience.
Who offended you?
Probably the fact that she has done the research
@@Sarah-with-an-HBeing a man I have an understanding of the male experience.
Can I be an expert too?
@@tolotrarabefaly1333 he's just extremely thin skinned and taking a female perspective hard
Wow. Ground breaking stuff…
Feeling disgusted to a degree, after the act is understandable…
She is throwing ducking BS all over the place
I am confident that the pill is the worst thing that ever happened to humanity
men and women have a window of peak attraction that ranges between 18-26.
Unfortunately growing numbers of women don't wish to persue in getting pregnant in these years.
Whilst both will always be attracted to members of the opposite sex who are younger, it is the women who effectively will experience more pain when hitting their thirties and growing desperate to find a mate.
Meanwhile younger women will remain attracted to older men, particularly who are attractive and have their life together.
It is those men who get their second chance to become fathers.
Women who choose casual encounters for too long will miss out on all of those men who were ready, only to find they have all moved on and started a family with a woman 10 years younger.
Men are never ready, those who are ready ae in the minority. Older men having babies can have unhealthy children. Sperm is no good after 40 in many cases. Sperm banks won't even accept donations after the man turns 40. Most women are attracted to men 2-3 years older not 20 years older, gross. You are a bitter red piller for sure. Men hit the wall faster than women, just wait and see.
Normally your guests are on point but this is nothing but excuses for piss poor behaviour. Total rubbish.
Agreed, rubbish!!
empty talks about nothing
Whether she realizes it or not, everything she said validates the way the past dealt with men and women. Basically the father safe guards the daughter and plays an active role in finding her a husband and ensuring she's a virgin on her wedding night.
She talks so sweet