Going places outside of home is expensive and I feel like since COVID we as a society don’t tend to approach people in public as much anymore. I don’t see enough of the cultural shifts being acknowledged. Even if I were to go and sit in the sun and read at a park, the probability of someone approaching me is really low.
Have you consider approaching people. Trust me men will be extremely nice if you approach them and will rarely reject women. Men are starting to stop approaching women because women can be extremely the opposite which means very mean if they don't like the guy.
You can easily approach a person you find attractive. Men don’t always have to approach women. I was never the prettiest girl. Throughout high school I’d approach any guy I thought was cute and get rejected so many times, but that’s life, you move on. Not everyone will like you but you find someone that will. I messaged my now husband first and made it clear I wanted a relationship when we started dating, I expressed what I wanted and he did the same. We wanted the same thing and got married. Just be open and honest. Move on if someone doesn’t want what you want.
Sometimes, people look at comments that blow up online and think "wow everyone thinks like this," and for some reason also go, "I shouldn't be an exception."
I'm so glad I'm GenX and old. I feel like we were the last generation of humans who got to actually enjoy our youth. I feel so badly for millennials, GenZ and the scary route GenAlpha is taking. When those kids turn into adults, I'll be shocked if they manage to procreate and continue our species.
I feel like the 90s were an ideal time to date because no one had smartphones to scroll and be on during their date. People these days are too attached to their phone and have to be on it and it’s rude!
Millennials had it fine, too. We had the perfect blend; we knew life before tech really took over but had tech to help a bit. I had IM & MySpace to talk to my husband outside of school whom I was slowly befriending in person at school & now we've been together for 17 years; dating since 2007. It's my sister's Older Millennial generation & on that has had it rough due to dating apps & such. My gen was upfront about stuff & still communicating about dating. We went on mall dates & outings.
@@onebraincellleft2563 My entire romantic life takes place post smartphones and I’ve never had a girl distracted by one while we were literally on a date
@@ourladyofsorrowsxx EVERYTHING you senseless dolt replied without thinking…you meet people in SOCIETY, when you interact with SOCIETY you cultivate interpersonal relationships. ANXIETY and SOCIETY ANXIETY makes these interactions difficult. Dating is cultivating interpersonal relationships with people still a part of general SOCIETY even if one on one… got it?
Ok Gen Z women, as a Gen Z woman myself we need to admit Gen Z men are NOT the only one with issues. We do too! It's great to have self-worth, to have standards but make sure you match them yourself for your partner. Are you a quality partner ? A quality person ? Working on yourself is not reserved to men.
The second woman is all what I hate in women: she prefers dishonesty as long as you agree with her/give her what she wants. I feel like a lot of women are like this.
Idk, I wouldn't want to date anybody that came for my music taste either like that. He could have been polite and said it just wasn't his thing, but he didn't. Is he going to be polite about anything else, especially when he's mad? Nah, she's better off without him.
She said she preferred a cheaters charisma, not the cheating and dishonesty. Which, kinda fair, genz in general sucks at communication let alone flirting.
@@ATHOS_of_INDEXTo be fair he didn't come for her music taste. She said he didn't like that one particular song. If she would have actually tried they might have found some common ground music wise.
There’s this girl in my class who had a bf of two years. She claimed she loved him. She was speaking with other boys to the point her friends joked she had two boyfriends. At some point she wanted to end her relationship with bf of 2 years but was upset about it cuz “I love him so much. We’ve been tgt for a while and were e/o’s firsts and I just love him so much.” They broke up. What I’m confused about is if she loved him sooo much, why was speaking with other boys as if wanting to pursue something with them while dating her ex??? Edit: they got back tgt and she brought him to prom
I’ve been in a similar ish situation to her in high school, and it was because I was in a situationship and my “ex” (I call him that because it lasted two years) was leading me on. At some subconscious level I knew something was wrong, but I wasn’t ready to admit that to myself. So instead I just flirted with other guys too… I’m not saying it was ok, but I am saying there’s probably a lot more going through her head than you may realize.
Gen Z ruined dating for themselves. They have no communication skills, love hook up culture, have no standards, instantly lie, and if they do say something it'll be about what they want intimately.
I'm 24 too and disagree with love hook up culture. That's a sympton of commitment and trust issues on top of poor communication skills. I rather focus on other shit since the places you'd go to meet people are places I wouldn't go to and have low social battery and wasting my time and energy on people I'm not invested in doesn't appeal to me
Yeah after being in the new dating game I’ve realized i came in the game wrong from the start . I’m working on reforming my whole outlook and trying again later lol.
GenX raised us lol. High divorce rates are gonna catch up to us eventually. Many of us are gonna be born into homes where parents don't love each other, fight and argue all the time, and then they either divorce or stay together for the kids. How are we supposed to have a good idea of what love is, if that's how we witnessed it going down for our parents? Yelling, cheating, manipulation, entitlement, mothers abusing the legal system. It all has to start somewhere. Of course, nobody but us are gonna fix our own problems, but saying we "ruined it for ourselves" is sidestepping the core of the issue. Ultimately no generation is completely at fault nor blameless.
Agreed. He was being disrespectful, he was simply being honest…and she’s basically saying she prefers to be lied to if the truth would make her feel bad? 🙄
Yep not everyone is gonna like your song choice, also weird how she extrapolated that and said that all men should die alone because someone didn't like her song
You can’t meet new people if they are all taken back from a simple conversation. I live in Boston and I try to make new friends but everyone my in my generation is terrified whenever I approach them to have simple conversation.
dude absolutely, when I was attending college we would sit in a big room and wait for the professor, every single time without fail I would say hello and strike a conversation with whoever was next to me... The way they look at you.. in shock, as if you have five eyes and horns coming out of your head. They cant even make it through basic social interactions, broken generation, soft as hell.
I do find the growing Social acceptance of cheating very concerning. I'm poly and it's a minefield out there when looking for partners because it seems that half of the poly community are people who just want permission to openly cheat. They cross all the boundaries you give them and don't understand that poly can only work if you're capable of respecting boundaries. It's to the point where I always ask a potential partner "have you ever cheated on someone before?" Because that's a huge red flag. I've never cheated on anyone and I expect my partners to be the same. Once a cheater always a cheater.
@@xysarenottheprize Poly relationships, when done right, is not cheating. All people involved have boundaries and those boundaries are followed, nobody is disrespecting the other partners. They aren't going behind each others' backs because if they were, it would be considered cheating. Poly relationships aren't for a large majority of people (including me) but to classify ethical non-monogamy (one of which is poly relationships) as cheating is just removing the loaded meaning that cheating has.
I’m sorry but you’re a part of the problem. Whether you think it isn’t cheating or not doesn’t matter, this is the crap that’s leading to the breakdown of relationships
I think you hit on the problem. Gen Z has a terrible problem with respecting boundaries. Any sort of limit on what they want you to to do, when they want you to do it seems to be considered oppression. Rather than acting like an adult.
Last time I tried just approaching people in public I got a very negative reaction. Like it wasnt even just a rejection like girls out here literally get offended if you approach them and look I get it, women do get treated poorly by some bad actors but damn why get aggresive over someone just asking for your number lol. So yeah I dont approach women anymore and yeah I know not everyone is like this, but I have better things to do than to get yelled at for showing interest in someone.
That one girl that talked for 5 minutes straight said "like" over 100 times. That's another problem, some of y'all NEVER STOP TALKING, and everything is "like, like, like" and the only adjective y'all use is "literally." That gets annoying after a while.
She should add the over normalization of financial A/buse to the list. You ladies and gents know who you are! Transactional love isn’t real love. No one that genuinely loves you would make you buy them things and demand expensive dates to show you love em or flat out use you for shelter etc.👏👏
It's crazy that in 2024 men be telling women, let's have an honest conversation from the jump and women respond....I don't want to be honest with a stranger. Then why are you out on a date with them then if you are not trying to be honest with them and you are not willing to hear them out and be honest in return?!???
"you just need to go outside", go where? I'm not a religious person who goes to church or temples and don't like to go to clubs and parties to drink all night, there's no place to go.
Hey guys Go back to the old fashioned ways....forget the hook ups, expect and show loyalty, kindness and honesty. Be clear with what you need and want. Keep your own self respect and build a relationship from friendship and deeper values. Listen to your intuition. Do not even sleep with someone until you know the person on a derper level, go slow. Reciprocity, expect reciprocity. Hold your self value....be a lady and be a gentleman. Old school....
Social Media made dating a status symbol like a job. Jump around and look for a raise while doing enough to keep your job until you find another better job.
The last dude talked about how a lot of men aren’t likable for women, but didn’t mention what makes a man likable. So it really begs the question of what women find to be likable in a man?
When i was a teenager, i was embarrassed over literally everything. My mom would say that i would grow out of it and open up after 18. Imagine never growing out of that!!!!! I feel sooo bad for gen z lol. Everything fun can be cringy because its so candid and sometimes goofy. If yall stop judging each other and cancel Instagram, i promise that life will get more fun. Also, shame bullies. Even covert bullies that make passive aggressive remarks and insinuations or implications, get rid of them too. Vibe killers. We are at a very low point in society with relationships with each other so its going to take courage to fix our culture and wouldn't it be great if we could all be best friends with each other? All trust and absolutely drag the bad people and ostracize them lol. ❤❤❤
I can proudly say I never dated and never will. I don't follow the "romantic relationship is most important in life" blablabla ließ. I have better things to do. Hobbies, friends, family, carreer. And looking at most relationships: that horrible. Most men are so lazy, so immature, so bad at communicating. And most women who live with men are more a mother than a Partner. NOPE. My life is to precious to waste it this way.
Completely valid! I think the people looking for relationships are looking for the honest, genuine ones but if anything the problem is those same people are not always honest and genuine with themselves so it's going to be hard to get that with somebody else.
I feel for the first guy... I fell in love with a waitress around my age (early 20s) at a caffee. She was smiling at me and was extremly kind (I know that's her job but my dumbass fell for it) so I decided to introduce myself and we were having casual chats and she would LOVE to tease me. Probably she knew I am into her she teased the hell out of me. One day I asked her for her number and she made jokes and teased me about it so I tought I messed up and wanted to leave but she stopped me saying "Heeeey what about my number? Leaving already?" So she gave me her number. After I texted her she was responding REALLY dry like she was a different person from the girl I've met in real life. But I still kept on bugging her through texts until she got warmer and started to ask me questions back and open up more. After months of seeing her at her workplace and texting I decided to ask her to hangout and she replied with some hug emojis saying sure. I tought that was a good sign and was really happy, after all she would have been my first date. What I didn't know and found out later is that SHE HAD A BOYFRIEND and I was basically her puppy when her boyfriend was not around....
Over the last 2 years ive probably spent 5 grand going out hoping to meet new friends or maybe find a date. Its resulted in 0 dates and 0 new friends. But im 5 grand poorer. Going outside the house is not the end all be all
Idgaf about people being lonely because that isn't my problem. But I can tell you that the older generations are the reason why Gen z don't form relationships. These dating gurus, these people who make everything political, we all know that this generation didn't become this way out of thin air.
The first girl in the video with the curly red hair is definitely growing old alone. Because what? You blocked a guy because he didn't like the same music as you? 🙄
I don't think she cared so much that he didn't like her kind of music. I think it was moreso the WAY that he expressed his dislike for the song. In the video, she said that she had expressed to him that music was very important to her and wanted his opinion on her favorite song. If he didn't enjoy the song after listening, that's fine. He didn't HAVE to enjoy it. He could've just kindly told her that it wasn't his cup of tea but possibly maybe could've opened up a dialogue or exchange of them offering to send each other their favorite songs to listen to. Like music bonding. Music bonding is a great way to develop a friendship or relationship with somebody. It might seem petty or immature to some, yes.. but if I was her, I would have blocked him too. I completely agree with her. That's not how you speak to a woman.
@@miraculouslady632 The only thing your comment explains is that some people are more sensitive than others. People have different ways of playing around. I'm sure you've had moments where someone was playfully making fun of something you were interested in to joke with you. For example, guys making fun of girls for liking twilight or astrology. More often than not they don't mean it as an attack. It's just banter. To write someone off so quickly over something so small without even having a conversation seems immature to me.
To the girl that said we need to talk to our fathers about how to pick up women. My father (may he rest in peace) said I don't even need to talk to women at all to pick them up. Just chill and do me and the ones that come up to me and really want to be around me, mess with them. LOL.....so I guess the joke is on her there! Hahahaha my father had 7 children from three four different women.
16:55 I'm here to tell you guys right now....there isnt. I was in a relationship where I worked a full time job and a part time job. I also went to school for my masters degree. I would get home Monday through Friday at 10 pm. Then stay up to 3 am doing homework and have to wake up at 5 am Monday through Friday. Then Saturday and Sunday be at the second job for 4 hours. I was wasn't even going to bed because I knew if I did, it would be over. I was sleeping on the couch. My girl ended going on a date with someone and didn't tell me for two weeks. And she said it was because I was so busy. Don't let these internet people gaslight you and tell you that people can do it all. They can't. We do have to learn to multitask but there are some things that we can't do. I'm a guy, and I was on my grind. Hell, I'm still on my grind even with a masters. Been at the job for 8 years at 35. People just be saying anything without going out and actually having honest conversations with people.
If people would just be honest & upfront with people & stop having high expectations & be realistic about things, dating would be easy. I'm disabled mentally & physically. I'm Asexual & a woman who didn't want kids & wanted to just work & play video games & enjoy life & go to concerts. I'm not exactly a looker but I have boundaries I expected to be respected & I also would honor those of the person I loved. My family is the most important thing to me. They, too, have mental & physical disabilities thus can be hard to handle. I told this to my current husband of 17 years. He told me his goals/boundaries/expectations in life (pretty similar to me) and we've worked together since through hardships and have strengthened each other & things have only gotten better since. We're loyal & honest. We can have friends of all gender identities & orientations & not worry over cheating because we've gotten to the point that it's like we can physically & spiritually know how the other us doing & feeling & we just know we're together til thr end. Stand your ground but also be realistic. After all, we're all just human and we all want to be loved & accepted.
9:18 true, you should be able to go out on a few dates but we are not gonna just act like it's not expensive to go out these days. If you are responsible and have financial goals..... people should be flexible for that.
I mean it would probably be a little annoying to discover she made you wait but didn't make other men wait, definitely something that could cause resentment build up down the line
That second woman just wasn't attractive enough to the guy... if he had found her attractive he probably would have liked that song and talked with her about it, both genders do this.
Yeah growing up my family didnt really care where i was.. i just did whatever i wanted. Being married is like having a family nag you all the time and want to know where you are all the time.. and you can never go out. So for me as a person who was never home..... its very difficult to be home all the time. Its so boring. Thats why i dont tell anyone to get married. Why wouod someone want to give up their freedom for this?
Do your 50% of household work. That helps against your boredom. Do her work to and look if you are still bored. If you don't like to be with your Partner, better break up and live alone
One time i matched w a girl and i said word for word “you look like a nice girl” AND I GOT UNMATCHED LITERALLY WHY FUUCK what tf did i do?? Im gonna kms 😂
It depends. If you want to date you REALLY have to put yourself out there- i.e. go out more, stop self isolating. Actually talk instead of texting all the time. Change jobs because if you’re surrounded by women, of course you’re not going to have much of a dating life (if you’re a woman, as a man that’s not a bad deal). Enlist in the military and I guarantee you’ll find someone before your 2nd reenlistment comes up 😂. The job you’re in as a woman or man matters.
There have only been 2 men that ever asked me out (i only accept IRL invitations) and i give them my number, but then they only wanted to text (not even call) and never actually took me out. And they were both millennials... I honestly dont know what to do. I dont want to lower my standards and i really dont think i need to; im not shooting for the moon or anything, but OMG.
Going places outside of home is expensive and I feel like since COVID we as a society don’t tend to approach people in public as much anymore. I don’t see enough of the cultural shifts being acknowledged. Even if I were to go and sit in the sun and read at a park, the probability of someone approaching me is really low.
Wow that's deep and so true. It also depends upon where you live. Small town vs. big city
Have you consider approaching people. Trust me men will be extremely nice if you approach them and will rarely reject women. Men are starting to stop approaching women because women can be extremely the opposite which means very mean if they don't like the guy.
You can easily approach a person you find attractive. Men don’t always have to approach women. I was never the prettiest girl. Throughout high school I’d approach any guy I thought was cute and get rejected so many times, but that’s life, you move on. Not everyone will like you but you find someone that will. I messaged my now husband first and made it clear I wanted a relationship when we started dating, I expressed what I wanted and he did the same. We wanted the same thing and got married. Just be open and honest. Move on if someone doesn’t want what you want.
@@HurleyIsAStoner420 as a guy, great advice 👍
Sometimes, people look at comments that blow up online and think "wow everyone thinks like this," and for some reason also go, "I shouldn't be an exception."
90% of you are looking for love but you are so rarely loving 😢😢😢😢 Le sigh
we spend more time grieving and coping than actively feeling love. it's sad as fuck
@@daft_jyes, it is. But you guys can change for the better! It isn't impossible.
majority of people are takers in life and that includes love. Be a giver in life more and find another giver you have to create love not find it
Gotta learn to rely more on self-love during these hard times
Facts
Nah, I'd rather have someone call themselves out to me than lie to me for years, pretending to be someone they're not.
No one is 100% honest all the time...
I'm so glad I'm GenX and old. I feel like we were the last generation of humans who got to actually enjoy our youth. I feel so badly for millennials, GenZ and the scary route GenAlpha is taking. When those kids turn into adults, I'll be shocked if they manage to procreate and continue our species.
I am an older millennial and I definitely experienced enjoying my youth. I don't like the way dating is in this generation
The birth rate is already trending down
I feel like the 90s were an ideal time to date because no one had smartphones to scroll and be on during their date. People these days are too attached to their phone and have to be on it and it’s rude!
Millennials had it fine, too. We had the perfect blend; we knew life before tech really took over but had tech to help a bit. I had IM & MySpace to talk to my husband outside of school whom I was slowly befriending in person at school & now we've been together for 17 years; dating since 2007. It's my sister's Older Millennial generation & on that has had it rough due to dating apps & such. My gen was upfront about stuff & still communicating about dating. We went on mall dates & outings.
@@onebraincellleft2563 My entire romantic life takes place post smartphones and I’ve never had a girl distracted by one while we were literally on a date
Social media and social anxiety makes ppl delulu
Tf does social anxiety has to do with ANYTHING?
@@ourladyofsorrowsxx EVERYTHING you senseless dolt replied without thinking…you meet people in SOCIETY, when you interact with SOCIETY you cultivate interpersonal relationships. ANXIETY and SOCIETY ANXIETY makes these interactions difficult. Dating is cultivating interpersonal relationships with people still a part of general SOCIETY even if one on one… got it?
Insecure 👀@@ourladyofsorrowsxx
@@ourladyofsorrowsxxoverthinking social situations and hating yourself that might be what it is
Ok Gen Z women, as a Gen Z woman myself we need to admit Gen Z men are NOT the only one with issues. We do too! It's great to have self-worth, to have standards but make sure you match them yourself for your partner. Are you a quality partner ? A quality person ?
Working on yourself is not reserved to men.
The second woman is all what I hate in women: she prefers dishonesty as long as you agree with her/give her what she wants. I feel like a lot of women are like this.
She also needs some eyebrows lol
Idk, I wouldn't want to date anybody that came for my music taste either like that. He could have been polite and said it just wasn't his thing, but he didn't. Is he going to be polite about anything else, especially when he's mad? Nah, she's better off without him.
She said she preferred a cheaters charisma, not the cheating and dishonesty. Which, kinda fair, genz in general sucks at communication let alone flirting.
@@ATHOS_of_INDEXTo be fair he didn't come for her music taste. She said he didn't like that one particular song. If she would have actually tried they might have found some common ground music wise.
There’s this girl in my class who had a bf of two years. She claimed she loved him. She was speaking with other boys to the point her friends joked she had two boyfriends. At some point she wanted to end her relationship with bf of 2 years but was upset about it cuz “I love him so much. We’ve been tgt for a while and were e/o’s firsts and I just love him so much.” They broke up. What I’m confused about is if she loved him sooo much, why was speaking with other boys as if wanting to pursue something with them while dating her ex???
Edit: they got back tgt and she brought him to prom
I’ve been in a similar ish situation to her in high school, and it was because I was in a situationship and my “ex” (I call him that because it lasted two years) was leading me on. At some subconscious level I knew something was wrong, but I wasn’t ready to admit that to myself. So instead I just flirted with other guys too… I’m not saying it was ok, but I am saying there’s probably a lot more going through her head than you may realize.
@@flutenanyidk1806 Don’t be naive she just loved the attention and benefit
What benefit?
Gen Z ruined dating for themselves. They have no communication skills, love hook up culture, have no standards, instantly lie, and if they do say something it'll be about what they want intimately.
I'm 24 too and disagree with love hook up culture.
That's a sympton of commitment and trust issues on top of poor communication skills.
I rather focus on other shit since the places you'd go to meet people are places I wouldn't go to and have low social battery and wasting my time and energy on people I'm not invested in doesn't appeal to me
Yeah after being in the new dating game I’ve realized i came in the game wrong from the start . I’m working on reforming my whole outlook and trying again later lol.
They are 100% Pleasure Driven, without patience. Pure hedonism.
I'm 27 and I show my real self from the get go but people in my age range don't like that
GenX raised us lol. High divorce rates are gonna catch up to us eventually. Many of us are gonna be born into homes where parents don't love each other, fight and argue all the time, and then they either divorce or stay together for the kids. How are we supposed to have a good idea of what love is, if that's how we witnessed it going down for our parents? Yelling, cheating, manipulation, entitlement, mothers abusing the legal system. It all has to start somewhere.
Of course, nobody but us are gonna fix our own problems, but saying we "ruined it for ourselves" is sidestepping the core of the issue. Ultimately no generation is completely at fault nor blameless.
Girl #2 be grateful he was honest to you.
I know it hurts but he could've lied to you which hurts more once you find out he lied
Girl its just a song
Agreed. He was being disrespectful, he was simply being honest…and she’s basically saying she prefers to be lied to if the truth would make her feel bad? 🙄
Yep not everyone is gonna like your song choice, also weird how she extrapolated that and said that all men should die alone because someone didn't like her song
@@kellygreeniiexactly
Simple fix: throw away your smartphone. Go out and meet people face to face.
You can’t meet new people if they are all taken back from a simple conversation. I live in Boston and I try to make new friends but everyone my in my generation is terrified whenever I approach them to have simple conversation.
Yeah they act like it’s stranger danger and you’re trying to kidnap them just by making a casual conversation 🥲
yeah idk that's just how i feel nowadays
dude absolutely, when I was attending college we would sit in a big room and wait for the professor, every single time without fail I would say hello and strike a conversation with whoever was next to me...
The way they look at you.. in shock, as if you have five eyes and horns coming out of your head.
They cant even make it through basic social interactions, broken generation, soft as hell.
I do find the growing Social acceptance of cheating very concerning. I'm poly and it's a minefield out there when looking for partners because it seems that half of the poly community are people who just want permission to openly cheat. They cross all the boundaries you give them and don't understand that poly can only work if you're capable of respecting boundaries.
It's to the point where I always ask a potential partner "have you ever cheated on someone before?" Because that's a huge red flag. I've never cheated on anyone and I expect my partners to be the same. Once a cheater always a cheater.
You’re a cheater but you’re concerned about cheating. 😂
@@xysarenottheprize Poly relationships, when done right, is not cheating. All people involved have boundaries and those boundaries are followed, nobody is disrespecting the other partners. They aren't going behind each others' backs because if they were, it would be considered cheating.
Poly relationships aren't for a large majority of people (including me) but to classify ethical non-monogamy (one of which is poly relationships) as cheating is just removing the loaded meaning that cheating has.
Top kek. Couldn’t have written better satire myself😂
I’m sorry but you’re a part of the problem. Whether you think it isn’t cheating or not doesn’t matter, this is the crap that’s leading to the breakdown of relationships
I think you hit on the problem. Gen Z has a terrible problem with respecting boundaries.
Any sort of limit on what they want you to to do, when they want you to do it seems to be considered oppression.
Rather than acting like an adult.
Last time I tried just approaching people in public I got a very negative reaction. Like it wasnt even just a rejection like girls out here literally get offended if you approach them and look I get it, women do get treated poorly by some bad actors but damn why get aggresive over someone just asking for your number lol. So yeah I dont approach women anymore and yeah I know not everyone is like this, but I have better things to do than to get yelled at for showing interest in someone.
That one girl that talked for 5 minutes straight said "like" over 100 times. That's another problem, some of y'all NEVER STOP TALKING, and everything is "like, like, like" and the only adjective y'all use is "literally." That gets annoying after a while.
I thought I was the only one who started to tweak out from that😭😭💀💀
“Literally” is an adverb.
@@alexarobinson2850 Thank you, you're right. That only proves that brainrot can rub off on people. I stand by everything else I said though.
She should add the over normalization of financial A/buse to the list. You ladies and gents know who you are! Transactional love isn’t real love. No one that genuinely loves you would make you buy them things and demand expensive dates to show you love em or flat out use you for shelter etc.👏👏
It's crazy that in 2024 men be telling women, let's have an honest conversation from the jump and women respond....I don't want to be honest with a stranger. Then why are you out on a date with them then if you are not trying to be honest with them and you are not willing to hear them out and be honest in return?!???
Don't go on dates.
Problem solved
"you just need to go outside", go where? I'm not a religious person who goes to church or temples and don't like to go to clubs and parties to drink all night, there's no place to go.
Shit, it hurts af, I don't wanna die alone
Hey guys
Go back to the old fashioned ways....forget the hook ups, expect and show loyalty, kindness and honesty. Be clear with what you need and want. Keep your own self respect and build a relationship from friendship and deeper values.
Listen to your intuition. Do not even sleep with someone until you know the person on a derper level, go slow. Reciprocity, expect reciprocity. Hold your self value....be a lady and be a gentleman. Old school....
Social Media made dating a status symbol like a job. Jump around and look for a raise while doing enough to keep your job until you find another better job.
The last dude talked about how a lot of men aren’t likable for women, but didn’t mention what makes a man likable. So it really begs the question of what women find to be likable in a man?
When i was a teenager, i was embarrassed over literally everything. My mom would say that i would grow out of it and open up after 18. Imagine never growing out of that!!!!! I feel sooo bad for gen z lol. Everything fun can be cringy because its so candid and sometimes goofy. If yall stop judging each other and cancel Instagram, i promise that life will get more fun. Also, shame bullies. Even covert bullies that make passive aggressive remarks and insinuations or implications, get rid of them too. Vibe killers. We are at a very low point in society with relationships with each other so its going to take courage to fix our culture and wouldn't it be great if we could all be best friends with each other? All trust and absolutely drag the bad people and ostracize them lol. ❤❤❤
Life is already hard enough as it is without trying to date. I'll try dating when I'm 26
I can proudly say I never dated and never will.
I don't follow the "romantic relationship is most important in life" blablabla ließ.
I have better things to do.
Hobbies, friends, family, carreer.
And looking at most relationships: that horrible.
Most men are so lazy, so immature, so bad at communicating. And most women who live with men are more a mother than a Partner.
NOPE. My life is to precious to waste it this way.
Completely valid! I think the people looking for relationships are looking for the honest, genuine ones but if anything the problem is those same people are not always honest and genuine with themselves so it's going to be hard to get that with somebody else.
I feel for the first guy...
I fell in love with a waitress around my age (early 20s) at a caffee. She was smiling at me and was extremly kind (I know that's her job but my dumbass fell for it) so I decided to introduce myself and we were having casual chats and she would LOVE to tease me. Probably she knew I am into her she teased the hell out of me. One day I asked her for her number and she made jokes and teased me about it so I tought I messed up and wanted to leave but she stopped me saying "Heeeey what about my number? Leaving already?" So she gave me her number. After I texted her she was responding REALLY dry like she was a different person from the girl I've met in real life. But I still kept on bugging her through texts until she got warmer and started to ask me questions back and open up more. After months of seeing her at her workplace and texting I decided to ask her to hangout and she replied with some hug emojis saying sure. I tought that was a good sign and was really happy, after all she would have been my first date. What I didn't know and found out later is that SHE HAD A BOYFRIEND and I was basically her puppy when her boyfriend was not around....
Over the last 2 years ive probably spent 5 grand going out hoping to meet new friends or maybe find a date. Its resulted in 0 dates and 0 new friends. But im 5 grand poorer. Going outside the house is not the end all be all
I hate dating match energy this and match energy that like bro learn how to talk properly first and hold a job I’m 24 so I can say this
Every gen Z says, Gen Z is undateable .(İncluding me 😂)
Idgaf about people being lonely because that isn't my problem. But I can tell you that the older generations are the reason why Gen z don't form relationships. These dating gurus, these people who make everything political, we all know that this generation didn't become this way out of thin air.
@1:25 the fuckin Benne Gesserit out here giving dating advice now 😩
The first girl in the video with the curly red hair is definitely growing old alone. Because what? You blocked a guy because he didn't like the same music as you? 🙄
Right. That was so shallow on both ends, but that's the bare minimum to block someone for.
lol I was about to say the same thing 😂 Like girl… it was not that serious!
No, because he was unkind in how he said it.
I don't think she cared so much that he didn't like her kind of music. I think it was moreso the WAY that he expressed his dislike for the song. In the video, she said that she had expressed to him that music was very important to her and wanted his opinion on her favorite song. If he didn't enjoy the song after listening, that's fine. He didn't HAVE to enjoy it. He could've just kindly told her that it wasn't his cup of tea but possibly maybe could've opened up a dialogue or exchange of them offering to send each other their favorite songs to listen to. Like music bonding. Music bonding is a great way to develop a friendship or relationship with somebody. It might seem petty or immature to some, yes.. but if I was her, I would have blocked him too. I completely agree with her. That's not how you speak to a woman.
@@miraculouslady632 The only thing your comment explains is that some people are more sensitive than others. People have different ways of playing around. I'm sure you've had moments where someone was playfully making fun of something you were interested in to joke with you.
For example, guys making fun of girls for liking twilight or astrology. More often than not they don't mean it as an attack. It's just banter. To write someone off so quickly over something so small without even having a conversation seems immature to me.
I think my standards have just gone too high now tbh
To the girl that said we need to talk to our fathers about how to pick up women. My father (may he rest in peace) said I don't even need to talk to women at all to pick them up. Just chill and do me and the ones that come up to me and really want to be around me, mess with them. LOL.....so I guess the joke is on her there! Hahahaha my father had 7 children from three four different women.
16:55 I'm here to tell you guys right now....there isnt. I was in a relationship where I worked a full time job and a part time job. I also went to school for my masters degree. I would get home Monday through Friday at 10 pm. Then stay up to 3 am doing homework and have to wake up at 5 am Monday through Friday. Then Saturday and Sunday be at the second job for 4 hours. I was wasn't even going to bed because I knew if I did, it would be over. I was sleeping on the couch. My girl ended going on a date with someone and didn't tell me for two weeks. And she said it was because I was so busy. Don't let these internet people gaslight you and tell you that people can do it all. They can't. We do have to learn to multitask but there are some things that we can't do. I'm a guy, and I was on my grind. Hell, I'm still on my grind even with a masters. Been at the job for 8 years at 35.
People just be saying anything without going out and actually having honest conversations with people.
Pay a housekeeper.
Relationships are overrated. I want to make money and do man tings like build cars and homeless shelters
1:49 omg her forehead
Shaddap
Probably sent him a Taylor Swift song 😂
All head no eyebrows! Lol. Wasn't the song sista
If people would just be honest & upfront with people & stop having high expectations & be realistic about things, dating would be easy. I'm disabled mentally & physically. I'm Asexual & a woman who didn't want kids & wanted to just work & play video games & enjoy life & go to concerts. I'm not exactly a looker but I have boundaries I expected to be respected & I also would honor those of the person I loved. My family is the most important thing to me. They, too, have mental & physical disabilities thus can be hard to handle. I told this to my current husband of 17 years. He told me his goals/boundaries/expectations in life (pretty similar to me) and we've worked together since through hardships and have strengthened each other & things have only gotten better since. We're loyal & honest. We can have friends of all gender identities & orientations & not worry over cheating because we've gotten to the point that it's like we can physically & spiritually know how the other us doing & feeling & we just know we're together til thr end. Stand your ground but also be realistic. After all, we're all just human and we all want to be loved & accepted.
Underrated channel alert!
You should do the Millennial dating culture. I know there are similarities, but I'm sure there are differences
90% of gen z is looking for love on hindg e? And she believes that? Lol ok
Get with the times the majority of people are on the apps.
9:18 true, you should be able to go out on a few dates but we are not gonna just act like it's not expensive to go out these days. If you are responsible and have financial goals..... people should be flexible for that.
I mean it would probably be a little annoying to discover she made you wait but didn't make other men wait, definitely something that could cause resentment build up down the line
So we have to lie and cheat? 😂
1:37 being honest lol
That second woman just wasn't attractive enough to the guy... if he had found her attractive he probably would have liked that song and talked with her about it, both genders do this.
Yeah growing up my family didnt really care where i was.. i just did whatever i wanted. Being married is like having a family nag you all the time and want to know where you are all the time.. and you can never go out. So for me as a person who was never home..... its very difficult to be home all the time. Its so boring. Thats why i dont tell anyone to get married. Why wouod someone want to give up their freedom for this?
Do your 50% of household work. That helps against your boredom.
Do her work to and look if you are still bored.
If you don't like to be with your Partner, better break up and live alone
One time i matched w a girl and i said word for word “you look like a nice girl” AND I GOT UNMATCHED LITERALLY WHY FUUCK what tf did i do?? Im gonna kms 😂
You didn't know that would come off creepy?!?!??!
@@TychoKingdom no bc im handsome
She prob swiped on you by accident. And wasnt into you it happens a lot
1:30 men are gonna die alone because she has terrible music taste?
They die alone because they are to inkompetent to have a functioning social life
Ummm... The guy in the first video is clueless... You're single until you're married bro... And if you're under 25 there is no loyalty.
You aren't entitled to not risking getting your heart broken or disappointed.
It depends. If you want to date you REALLY have to put yourself out there- i.e. go out more, stop self isolating. Actually talk instead of texting all the time. Change jobs because if you’re surrounded by women, of course you’re not going to have much of a dating life (if you’re a woman, as a man that’s not a bad deal). Enlist in the military and I guarantee you’ll find someone before your 2nd reenlistment comes up 😂. The job you’re in as a woman or man matters.
me as an aro watching this: hmm yes magnificent information
Correction:Only RICH men win
There have only been 2 men that ever asked me out (i only accept IRL invitations) and i give them my number, but then they only wanted to text (not even call) and never actually took me out. And they were both millennials... I honestly dont know what to do. I dont want to lower my standards and i really dont think i need to; im not shooting for the moon or anything, but OMG.
Who is the last female, because the moment she would have said those things to me who have ended my single days for my life.🧎♂👰♀🤰👨🍼
Never mind I know now. So. I'll try. It depends.
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