i think the worst part of a toxic relationship is when it starts wearing on you and you become equally as cynical. the best feeling is cutting them out.
yeah, one time I was in a friendship but they made me feel like my actual personality was dumb, and it was stupid to act like that. Then I proceeded to change into a different person. It took me almost a year to realize what was happening and break off that friendship.
@@nitikadixit6566 One way is to just refrain from posting comments on their social media feed and eventually either unfriend them, unfollow them or-like what I'm fixing to do-deactivate your social media account altogether and go seek out new friends. Sadly, it seems to me like being a little passive-aggressive and fading into oblivion will go better for everyone than being direct about your intentions to cut them off.
Well, life has its ups and down. I'm sure there are so many people out there that are willing to be your friend. I too just got out of a toxic friendship and honestly, I feel so much better now that they're gone. I'm sure people will love your talents! I think you're an artist (judging from your profile picture) and honestly, it looks amazing! I love the character that you drew and I hope you draw many more characters like that!
Having bad relationships can really fck u up. I was in a bad friendship-romantic relationship for years (was his friend before being couple) and in a lame "friendship" with another person. We usually were the three of us but my ex (then bf) wasnt the best friend and ofc wouldnt be best as bf, really selfish, selfcentered, was the 3rd type of the video: i digital colored his drawing and he uploaded them as his work, even ask me "how did u paint the water?" i explained it, and then find out it was to reply to an online comment, he never give me credit, he replied as he was the one that coloring it, worst part is that i let him do it, i allow it, after some years i just got pissed and stopped helping him and put the rule that if i did he would have to say i did the coloring or whatever (the only one i did and visible put both our credits in the art, he never uploaded it to his account) and this guy was my bf/boyfriend, when i did an effort to learn more he would complain it didnt came out as good cuz X artist did it way better, why couldnt i draw/color like them? I could count more but i think u get the idea of how unsupportive he was (add to that that i had a sickness for many many years and when i asked for a medicine, once i couldnt affort it and he could, he made a bunch of excuse to dont spend 25~35$ on me for my needed treatment, i never asked for money or buy anything in all our relationship, he paid for me only 4 times in almost 9 years of relationship, and at that time, he was spending money in 2 videogames, and amiibo, and other stuff). As for our other friend he didnt do mean stuff like that but was very reserved, quiet, etc, he didnt support me either cuz he "couldnt handle my feelings", basically everytime i needed emotional support he would "nope" out of it, telling me sometimes "i dont like to deal with others feelings" so made me feel "ahh... my emotional problem are a bother to others right? even my "best friends"..." i knew he had some serious unresolved issues with himself that lead him to add that way but it affected me cuz it made me felt like a bother, not important, etc. He insisted me and my then-bf were his only bestfriends but it only feel like my ex was his truly bf and i was just there glued to that for being my ex's gf. Ofc, when i broke up with my bf, and 5 months later stopped talking completly to him, i knew my relationship with my friend would dissapear cuz the "glue" (my ex) wasnt there anymore (he kept the friendship with him) but i hoped to be wrong, tried to finally have a more geniune friendship with him but failed. He didnt want me in his life and the little interactions (chats, cuz he didnt want to hang out) i had with him was him reading my msg and never replying; Last time i asked him to go to a water park with some other friends he knew and he replied 10 days after i had already went saying "ah, i didnt tell u cuz i spend my money in medicine last week" when i said he could've told me 10 days ago, he said "yeah, im sorry for that". Last time i contacted him. It was enough. Since then i noticed how awful those relationship were, how they damaged my self esteem, trust, confidence, boast fears, anxiety, etc, and how sometimes it affected the way i treat/react to others, for example, thinking they would find me a bother if i ask them about a emotional problem i have, so i keep it to myself or get sad thinking "they dont care...", how i feel my work wouldnt be of their like cuz they will compare it with more skilled people, even tho i like my art, ideas, and the progress i had made during all these years, how when getting a good reaction would made me think "are they really happy for me or just faking it for some other reason?" and that freaking sucks but i have learned to control that anxiety knowing they weren't good relationship, even if they were a 10yo relationships, time isnt equal to good. I now have a friend who has made me remember what true friendship is, he look for me for support and supports me back, doesnt get bother with my emotions, even ask if he see im in a bad place and i try to do the same for him. I had some good friends back when in middle school but as i said, these two were my only "friends" for a decade i had forgotten how friendship were suppose to be. So dont close to the opportunity to find a healthy friend just because of an old toxic one. Wish u luck! I advice u to work on ur anxiety for that, i started at 2015 i compared mentally to were i was, im in a really nice place right now, but all that thx to mental work a.k.a working on ur anxiety, feelings, etc i think "selfawareness" is the word for it?
The first one sounds similar to me, but the difference is that I just don't care, my younger siblings will say "Isaiah look what I did!", and without looking I will either say "Good for you", "cool", or "don't care", then my mom will get mad at me, which then prompts me to turn back and pretend like I care.
I’ve dealt with a verbal abuser before... whenever I try to start a conversation if I see them they say “didn’t ask” it shuts me down every time... I’m dropping them now so they aren’t worth it to me anymore
@@ARLimon74 I’ve had this friend since kindergarten and now we’re in high school and all he does is ask for the answers sits on his computer and plays games gets mad at me and calls me selfish and a bad friend when I say no and he makes fun of my brother(has a little autism) and my mom(she’s deaf) I’ve known him for so long and I don’t know if I should drop him or try and help him change.
Get rid of negative people from your life people who talk you down , don’t believe in you, surround yourself with positive people and you will notice your life start to improve
The mind is a very powerful thing, self doubt and insecurity is so strong and sad. It’s worse when it’s up-brought to a habit due to childhood or past drama.
@@lovelylove6193 First you till the grey mushy matter, then you plant the seeds of whatever knowledge you want (as long as you are capable of understanding it and use it properly), then you water it and nurture it and watch it grow, then when it comes time to reap what you have sown you will have a nice, strong, powerful brain that will help you until you take your final breath, as long as you keep tending to it.
@Craig F. Thompson My apologies. I often think the brain as a computer actually, but one of living matter rather than plastic and metal. It behaves in a similar fashion once you think about it.
That's amazing. 90% of the people I pass on my daily walk in my neighborhood are on their cell phones and oblivious. Smile at them? I would have to warn them of a nuclear bomb hitting our city to get their attention!
This really hit me on many levels. I have "friends" who have all of these characteristics. Thanks for this video. Now I know that it's my time to practice self-love and walk away from unhealthy people in my life. I was afraid of being alone that's why I can't avoid them. But now, I'm not. Indeed, there's beauty in your solitude.
@@vibing6530 people these days mostly teenagers and kids in their 20s could care less about their mental health.. all they care about is "good" physical health, they raid the gyms and excercise overtime, but leave the most important organ in the body, the brain, for the very last
You already know the problem so its your fault now for not working towards bettering yourself. You can do it you know, but you gotta believe in yourself first. You can change that person in the mirror
Nothing wrong with that IMHO. Im similar and keep to myself most of the time. It is annoying though when theirs nothing wrong with me and friends be all like "Why you quite/mad.?" Lol I'm not mad,I just don't have anything to say or contribute to the conversation. F'N ppl lol😉👍
Then when you have to interact with people, they wonder why you are so short with them, then it puts them off and suddenly you are the bad guy. I've never been rude to anyone who didn't deserve it in some way. Like, if you keep pressing me in person, then you are going to get one cold Katie. People have often said to me, "You never talk, and the first words I hear out of your mouth literally hurt my feelings." Something to that effect.
Would like to add 1 The terrifyer- someone that’s been in pain before and the only way he/she feels as if they can have any control in their lives is to scare people into submission
@@Psych2go I didn't even see this response, but what you posted here really strikes well with what I said about a really bad day. It's somewhere around here...(heh) 😩
Yes this is true and what I say maybe others are having a hard time so they be toxic to others cus they are having a crisis? Or maybe that's just how they grew up
Same, I am still seeing them to this day. Although I have limited contacts with them but every time they want something, they will call me and if I don't agree, they will call me a bunch of insults and I think that I am so desensitized by this that I literally don't give a gutted fuck about this and will hang them up. What I have learnt from that is some people are assholes and if they don't want to change, then you should stop being in contact with in all possible ways. After all, all they do is bring you down and lower your worth
@@yourperfectnightmare3642 well I imagined it and I have to say if that is what's happening to you, I feel sorry for you. But don't give up, soon you will move out and won't have to see them as often
I used to be toxic myself when I was younger, probably as a result of being around so many toxic people at school (I used to be bullied and the general mentality is very closed-minded so of course they bully anyone who's different, which happened to be me and some other kids) and at home (my parents, specifically my mother). So I began to act like them even after moving to a new school, and I noticed that my new friends didn't want to be around me for too long and they'd always tell me to be more positive and accept their compliments and to stop complaining. It was then that I realised that I was becoming more and more toxic and I would soon repeat the cycle of having no friends and being outcast unless I sorted my shit out and became a nicer person. It took a while- and in fact, I'm still working on myself- but I feel like I have become a nicer and better person, and those same friends have actually commented on this change they've seen. I still need to move out of my toxic home environment but I am much happier and positive now that I was back then. I know I'll be even happier and maybe even finally banish my depression from existence after I move out, I'm really excited about this!
I see you recently 'stopped by' ... Sometimes I do too for reinforcement as often a person that moves on to better conduct encounters negative behavior. Hats off to you for shedding the dysfunction. Toxic personalities are and have been the REAL pandemic in western culture for some time. A product of prosperity, no sense of responsibility or empathy for other peoples' feelings. In a way, this once again false flag covert 19 operation was beneficial. In that it's a wake up call and reality check. The econ swift kick in the ass is yet to come. Not trying to be negative, just realistic. In summary, toxic people simply don't know, they just keep returning to that way of life. Always be wary, a sure sign is unnecessary drama. Just walk away, in most cases it cannot be corrected. If you find a person that strikes a similar chord with you, make them your friend and tell them why ! Be well !
I remember in my Medical College years I was experiencing a lot of situations with slackers (number 3) in my class. They’re always asking me for help, because I was kinda the smart one, especially in English. They were giving me chocolates, not money. One day when I said no to one girl she’s started threatening me so hard that I started to cry. So I stopped saying no to others. Back then I thought that it’s the only way to win their trust and friendship. But later I realized that it’s almost impossible due to the fact that I was different from them and they were never really interested in me and my friendship. So please, if reading this comment, don’t listen to those kind of people. It’s not worth your time and nerves. Try to help yourself and your true friend instead if they really need that.
I experienced something similar but in primary school. I was the one doing the homework and paying attention in class and my "friends" and classmates would always borrow my books and study from my notes and copy my homework, usually while not allowing me to study from my own damn notes (they didn't want to do any group study sessions, not with me in the group anyway even though they'd use MY books to study from). I was also being bullied by them at that time, and borrowing them my books was the only thing preventing them from taking the bullying to the next level (or so I thought) so that's why I just continued to do this. I eventually left the school (quite suddenly too, my new school wanted me to join them in the middle of the year so I could acclimatise to the new environment as they were bigger and very different from my previous school) but I only told them on my last day lol. I found out the next year that several of them failed that year and had to repeat because they weren't working on their own and were just relying on me and my notes to pass, and none of the other "smart" (read: hardworking) kids ever gave their books and notes to others, I was just way too softhearted and had so much difficulty in saying no back then and they took advantage of that and slacked off. I'm glad they failed, at least they'll know the consequences of them slacking off and I got out of that toxic environment too.
I'm a toxic person as well. It's reall funny how ppl get close to me just bc i'm charming... and then they suddenly stop talking to me, without telling me what's wrong.
This is why it’s so damn hard to even find good friends when you’re dealing with a whole bunch of toxic people and you’re like the only one who’s tryin to do positive things with them
Had a bunch of toxic friends a few years back. Eventually it escalated to bullying. It was secretly a blessing in disguise though because I became close friends with all the other bullied kids. That's how I met my greatest friends, among them, someone I consider family now. If people are toxic, leave them immediately and go find some real people. It will get better, I promise
Me and my (toxic) friend agree'd we needed to fix our relationship. She said I had been ignoring her, not paying attention to her, etc. Which I hadn't. I always gave her my full attention when she was down. I told her about my abusive father, and I of course have a lot of trauma. She had told me she thought I was being over dramatic, so in this session of our talk, I mentioned that and she had said she was sorry and that she'd never do it again. She was talking about the relationship again and said, "I think you're over dramatic when you talk about your dad and it gets annoying." even though she had said she wouldn't do it again. I'm the type of person to not speak up, so I stayed silent. She also wanted me to get rid of one of my first friends I had ever made on my own(without a family member knowing them, my sister's friend, etc.). She also had stated, that I "compare myself" to her. Let's see if this video works..
i love psych2go so much. thank you for all of the videos you post. you always help me understand my emotions more. thank you for letting me know that i’m not alone 💘
daniella leon your comment is so sweet, but when I read “PSYCHO2go” I couldn’t help but chuckle because it’s like ah yes let me just grab my daily psycho before I head to work lol
I feel as though a lot of these characters are brought on by mental illness. Like 4, I am a complainer. I never noticed my toxic behavior until my friend pointed it out, rather harshly and we got into a big fight. After, I took a moment to think and she was right. I hadn't meant to be " whiney" it wasn't on purpose, but with my depression and anxiety I was always talking about how sucky my life is. Mental illness does that, and half the time when a friend is doing these toxic behaviors they dont even REALIZE it. So before you dump your friend that seems like one of these 5. Maybe talk with them. Ask them if thy realize it.
WiseWillow Facts dude i’m sorry you’re going through that, but I am too so ur not alone. I would always complain about my life to my friends and i was literally known for being so negative but it was also only because i was so depressed and it was my way of coping so I kinda went through the same thing as u and it sucks but someday I know it’ll get better for the both of us ❤️
I’ve literally encountered all these people. The first one was my best friend. I lash out at people and I can’t let go of the past sometimes. But I’m working on this. I don’t want to be a toxic person : ///
Well, I think another purpose of this video is to make the viewer aware if they are in fact toxic. Unfortunately, I find myself demonstrating a couple of these behaviors. This can be good however so that I may recognize my faults and work to improve them. Good video!
Damn bro you should grow some nuts and take it back and also quit being soft and im sure they will stop fucking with you, damn this world is full of pussies lol. No offense but the truth shall come out n I’m here to tell you, not to belittle you but to help you. Quit taking things so personally because at end of day no one really cares about anyone in the work world. Learn how to use the law of attraction, drink more energy drinks and feel alive you are just bitching out become a dog not a female. Also complaining does nothing but help you sit in your thoughts with no solution but the solution is - Let your nuts hang do what the fuck you wanna do quit looking for some emotional friend if you want that just go to a psyche hospital lol. Been in the same boat years ago but never got my food stolen from me lol that kinda fucked up u allowed that. All love brother stay strong life is a war between demons and angels, be an angel but also know when to bring the demon out. Peace
I know a few people like this, but I also wanted to say it’s totally okay to get down and have a rut every once in a while. Especially if you have things like depression. Remember that being upset and self loathing isn’t always meaning you’re a terrible person. If you keep working and don’t stop to help yourself you’ll hit such a rut (speaking from experience right now) and it’s so hard to get out of. Don’t let this turn into a longtime personality, but also know that being down and struggling with self loathing thoughts doesn’t mean you’re a toxic person. Take care of yourselves. 💛💛
It's okay to complain, you just might have to direct it to people that can handle it (ex. professionals). Some situations itself may have hard ultimatums, so it could be that they are trying to change things, but it takes time to be free of. Housing, jobs, marriage, chronic illnesses, etc. It may be considered toxic, but keeping them inside will produce just as nasty of a result. The important thing is to move forward, even if it isnt at a pace everyone finds acceptable.
Extremely important!! Especially if you're very empathetic/compassionate. Theres people that'll just hurt you in the long run that just isn't worth it. Also, beautiful art style!!! Calming and cute.
I'm a magnet it appears. I know all of those people! As soon as I drop them a new set appears. I'm usually outgoing and open, now I isolate, because It's better to be alone and happy than to be surrounded by that type person(s). You did leave out the begger. Begger- a person who always has their hand out for someone to meet their needs. Sooner or later everyone needs someone else, maybe twice, but that is not the individual who is a begger. Many beggers graduate to be demanding. This is past the cut-off point. To the beggers: no one owes you anything. If you've got habits and/or needs on a daily bases go earn it like the rest of us do.
I remember there was a young guy I worked with, he was a caretaker, and he was fed up with his job and his prospects. We had a good discussion about the things he could do to improve his lot. He seemed motivated and positive. I saw him maybe a month later, and asked him about what we had discussed, he turned on me and told me to back off and stop pushing him. I decided there and then to leave him be, but also tell him if he started whinging about his life to me again, to not do so, as i was not interested. Luckily my work at that place was winding down, so I was soon gone. If someone whines about stuff constantly, if they want to just use me as a free therapist or whinging board, I am having none of it. I have enough of my own stuff to figure out. If you don’t want to put the effort into changing your life, shUt up. Don’t complain constantly to others.
I am taking ways things to competitive and and feel like a burden because want to talk about my problems but it can turn very toxic quickly. I hate myself for that
Least you had the courage to admit it. I too have a family member like you and when I mentioned this about her, man, I got a whole different result. I guess it's not my place to say but still.... Least I was honest. Maybe it's up to the person. She just wasn't ready to hear the truth about herself.
Tell your friends/family members etc (and everyone who you have a relationship with) that you easily lash out at people and can get angry very easily and tell them to be careful in the future and not approach you or get too near you and that you are working on it. Just warn them about it and they will know how to behave near you.
I had a friend who would spread false things about me around the school. and she always said I didn’t “act my age”. I honestly thought we where friends. it would have hurt way less if i would known at the time.
Don't discuss with them, this kind of people usually will attack you with more negativity, guilty projection and play the victim to others like you're the monster. Just go away, take some distance, don't react at their victm show. (Before that you can try to talk about the problem and sugest a therapy, but if you realize the person will never take responsability for his acts, run, just run as fast as you can).
Your use of the word "cut" is the problem. It shows you are anticipating a drama in the process of ending your relationship. Skip the drama and step aside. Ignore them if they try to lure you back as they love the attention, even if its bad attention. Do not get into any further verbal brawls with them, you're wasting your time. Just re-position yourself... as a total stranger. That's the power of goodbye.
My ex-best friend was like that :( She always said that she had no friends and wasn't loved etc, even so multiple mutual friends and I would be there for her Didn't matter If she called crying at night or something, someone would come over to stay at her place or stay up to talk with her via chat etc We usually had a lot of fun together and she was like family to me at some point(we went trough school together so we were friends for about 10 years at that time) But in our last schoolyear everything got more intense She had a lot of fights with other friends (about 3 good friendships were destroyed in the span of one year bc of some small things that for some reason escalated and know one even knew why + she started most of those arguments ) and everytime she had this depressed moments, thinking nobody truly loved her, she started to snap and being really mean if I even dared to say, that I, we, her family loved her(which wasn't a lie) Anything positive was like putting gasoline in a well light fire I mean yeah I know that sometimes you don't want to hear things or don't want to accept something when you're in a really depressed state of mind I experience that myself often when I get depressed and just want to isolate myself and it can be hard to share your feelings But nobody usually forces you to so anyways if you're not comfortable with that But starting to be mean all of the time if someone tries to be there for you, then complaining that you start losing friends, then just being mean without any good reasoning and starting to talk down anything good in your friends lives... Etc etc This spiral of hate for others just got worse and worse (she never saw herself at fault btw and was good at playing the victim) This kind of behavior is very hurtful and in the end she successfully got rid of most of her friends, because it just was so unhealthy being in contact with her(and that even tho all of her friends knew about her anger issues and were mostly fine with it, bc she would apologize for it) And I am talking full mental breakdowns on multiple occasions /people just because she was in a bad mood and decided to let it all out on someone that didn't even do anything wrong :( We aren't in contact anymore, even tho we never had a really bad fight in the end or anything It all just went completely downhill when She and her boyfriend broke up(there is a LOT of drama and ugly things left to tell bc all of this happend in a friedgroup which made it super complicated) bc he couldn't cope with her behavior anymore About 2 weeks after that she started to text me something weird and passiv aggressive out of the blue and in the middle of the night to which I(as usual bc this sadly became very common ) tried to stay calm and reason with her (she said a lot of nasty things about a friend of mine and I obviously don't want to talk bad about my own friends) ... but that didn't work that time She unleashed all of her anger on me and then just cut me off (I believe she was very upset because I didn't want to talk shit about my friends, who she already started to hate at that time, which therefore means I don't love her bc I never take her side?? Idk she had a twisted logic on stuff like this) But oh it gets worse 2 months after low contact and everyone involved still being emotionally drained, she decides to cut her wrist open and send the pictures to her ex boyfriend(idk if it was actually life threatening or just to make him feel bad but that way he at least could inform her parents and they were able to help her yey) I feel tho bad for my friend(her ex) tho He is such a kind person Even after a year of all of that trouble with her and after that really ugly breakup, he would still drive her home after she got too drunk with her colleagues and stuff to make sure she was safe and stuff Meanwhile she is walking around telling everyone lies about how they still meet and have sex and that this is the only thing he wants from her(wth) So to end this: I still miss her so much :( we were so close for years, she was my best friend and we shared everything I just hope that she is doing better now This whole experience was very traumatizing for many people at that time and I still get nightmares one year later and sometimes there is literally a little thing that acts as a memory- trigger? idk which results in pretty bad panic attacks and even more depression yey (same with another friend of mine who also suffers from depression) Her ex is mostly fine tho, so yey!! I am glad that he has such an healthy mind so that he can cope with this So if anyone took the the to read this mess Please be aware of such behavior and protect yourself Don't let anyone use you as their personal emotional punching bag!! This went on for years without me really realizing it and it probably would still be if it wasn't for their breakup and the resulting loss of contact between us On last side note : If you notice that you have multiple friends of that sort, you might be a person who is easy to manipulate, so please listen to trusted friends /family when stay start to drop hints that they think you might be in a toxic relationship with someone (i didn't and therefore was trapped in a relationship with someone for 1 1/2 years which really messed me up ) So please be careful out there
five types of videos you should avoid: 1: the ones you don't like 2: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty 3: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty 4: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty 5: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty I hope and pray that you will overcome your depression. know that there is always someone out there who loves you.
If by "everyone" you mean the people currently in your life? If they fit this then yes. If by "everyone" you mean the entire planet then that's just foolish. There are literally BILLIONS of other humans on the planet and if you honestly believe EVERYONE is toxic then your mind is very closed.
Some of these behaviors (negativity, complaining) occur when a person is depressed. Sometimes people need support and encouragement to get the help they need. Abandoning them because you are frustrated is not the answer. People wonder why the suicide rate is so high, but most people don't care enough to listen to and support depressed people, or anyone else who is ill for that matter.
A few years back I realized this, cut all my toxic relationships out of my life that were possible (friends), and went on to make new friends. I thought everyone was normal until I met them and realized that everyone was toxic and they were normal. “You don’t realize how toxic some one or something is until you breathe fresher air”. Once I breathed fresher air I (try) never to go back. You can’t avoid family! (At leads at my age)
I was going to say having no friends isn't so bad, then I thought about it for a minute and decided you know what maybe having one toxic friend might not be so bad, I don't have any friends, I am what you might call a loner.
Thanks this really helped me realise that walking away from my friend is probably the best solution We have been friends for a year and a half now but I’m always got the feeling they were toxic They would always complain to me about how they were tired and that nobody liked them. I would always comfort them saying “Nobody hates you, you’re perfect” and “You shouldn’t stay up too late”. But they would continue playing the victim. They copied off my work and their excuse was “I’m too tired to think.” I just hope I’ve made the right decision by ditching them.
After Having A Close Friend Show Themselves As Toxic After Years Of Working& Growing Together. I Have Learned To Mainly Focus On Being Honest With, Caring For& Loving Myself Unconditionally. So Far. So Good 🛣
How can I stop the feeling of sadness when I'm lonely or jealous when my bff has a bf when I dont? :(( How do I stop being suicidal about being lonely?....
I'm sorry you feel that way :< As someone in a relationship, I know it can be a big commitement and take up more energy than you might realize. Also, before you think about getting in a relationship with somebody else, learn to take care of and appreciate you as the person you are first. Again, relationships are a huge commitement and they're even more taxing for you if you don't feel grounded in yourself. I trust that makes sense? I get you though, it can be really hard when you struggle with feelings of jealousy. Be honest with your friend and... try to appreciate your life for all the good you have, even if you haven't met the right romantic partner yet 💕
I hate parents that try to use providing home and food and stuff like that as a way of means to get at you, LIKE YOUR TRYING TO USE THE BARE MINIMUM YOU PROVID AS LEVERAGE
I'm here because my sister has had a total personality change over the last few years. Our relationship was never perfect, but we used to have inside jokes and be able to talk for hours some nights. But she went to college and changed, and not in a good way. She came back throwing extreme tantrums where she would yell for hours about something small. Now she doesn't have such extreme screaming fits, but the last few times she visited, it's still felt like walking on eggshells around her, and she also hasn't shown any desire to spend time with me, and even treated me like her feelings mattered only, not mine, anytime. It was like being swept under the rug. At first I was worried about her, but now I'm just sick of being treated like I'm not important or wanted. I'm looking for people who prioritize me and treat me as an equal. It sucks because this is my sister I'm talking about here, but I'm sick of being treated this way. Unless she realizes what she's doing is wrong and is willing to work on it, I'm almost at the point where I just don't want to spend time with her. I hope things get better though.
I once have had a childhood bestie who behaved similar to the toxic person from number four. We both are autistic, and she is way more moody than me. Also, she was a bad attention seeker... But now she is way more mature than in the past. 😌 Everytime she was in a bad mood, so was I. 😔 As she said the "Ihml (=I hate my life)" sentence, I was in the worst mood. I can remember, how I've hated this sentence sooo much! It made think negatively. 😣 Thank goodness, it has been quite a long time since the last time, I heard the "Ihml" sentence. 😊
my "friend" really wasn't my friend in the first place. we were enemies, and after a few years I thought maybe he might have changed... everything went well at first, and I started believing he had changed. I realized in my group of friends (including him) there was a lot more drama then usual, and it normally lead to him starting it. he also held on to things from the past that I didn't have to do with me at all, and thought it was me, and held that against me to look bad in my friends eyes. after I exposed him he claimed he never cared for me in the first place cause I never had a hard life, and never had depression (but at that time it was 3 years since I have seen him so he wouldn't know) he said he cared for my friend cause they were the only ones with problems. he was also very competitive, and when he lost he would throw shade at whoever won a game or whatever. I've tried to help him but every time something between us went wrong he wouldn't apologize unless if I did first...
Important thing to remember about toxic people is they might love you. And you might love them. But love doesn't mean anything when their behavior is hurting you. I've been in this situation and yes, ending relationship is hard but worth it. You WILL feel happier and healthier when you'll be done with them
My friend literally makes no more time for me. Even when he's not busy. "Sorry playing Fortnite right now." It hurts, so I sent a video to them called "Dear Ex Best Friend".
TBH as crazy as this may sound I can't stand "Overly Positive ppl" I know you're supposed to always try and find the Positive in a Negative but being Toxic sometimes helps you sort/weed out ppl in your life. Just my $0.02
Youre trying to weed out positive people from your life by being toxic? It works really well! My brother just died at 47(liver failure) alone and broke. No friends and only my father would take him in. It's an effective plan you have if your goal is loneliness and blame.
Maybe "overly positive ppl" annoy u and want them out of ur life cuz it reminds u ur lack of trust for the world and life in general and made u a little envy they can have that but u dont? What u are doing is an avoidant behaviour, sooner or later, that would lead at what Jacob R. said, loneliness and blame. So scared to being hurt that its better to draw people away before they do it to u? My grandpa was very rude with his kids and it ended up in them seeing him as a annoyance when older. He died alone after less than a month of being send to a "nursing home" (thats the name right?). I could see the difference between the treatment for my grandpa and my grandma, she died in her house with some of her kids (my aunts/uncles) and daugther/son in law. I was a teen and after growning up and knowing more about the past i realized why was the difference. Its okay for u to not like certain ppl in ur life but the way u commented made me feel like being "overly positive ppl" was a weird/annoying behavior. U dont have to put up with their possitiveness but that doesnt mean they have to stop being that positive in their lifes. Probably i misunderstood but reading that u have to be toxic to sort ppl out of ur life sounded so sad. Wish u the best!
Your video's are spot on... till this day my parents have damaged me and i'm a full grown adult still feeling the insecurity of never being good enough. The thing is they dont even know they did this... I hurt myself in my teen years just because i didnt want to feel worthless like they made me feel by saying hurtfull things. I rather feel the physical pain then the emotional one... The only reason im sharing this is to warn new parents that they need to choose their words carefully :) Hope no one feels offended by this.
I have two "friends" that are the second type I let them cheat on all lessons and later they talk behind my back, litterally! But I can't walk away because it feels good to see them get good grades and they seem happy when I help them and that makes me happy too!
I have yet to see a person who does not do at least something of this list. Starting with myself, since I am doing all of the above from time to time depending on the mood. So, you are basically telling me, that I should abandon all of my friends and that I don't deserve any. Thanks, but no, I would prefer to close my eyes on their bad days and just support them whenever I can. And when I will have a bad day and be constantly spewing toxicity, people will just ask me "hey, what's wrong? You can tell me". And not just abandon me. Just like I will never abandon those who are dear to me. The green monsters makes you constantly improve yourself, the cynical people can solve any problem with their high analytical skills, the whiny type can listen to your complaints and make you feel a lot better when you think about giving up on everything with a few well-matched words, et cetera. Everyone has their flaws and their strengths, and I would rather keep focusing on what is my friends do right and keep reminding them how amazing they actually are.
I live with a toxic person and i know how hard it is! The only thing I can say is try to get support from family, friends, and/or co-workers and try to develope a plan on leaving. until then, try to minimize the time you spend [ if possible ] with this person.
i actually know this one girl who i stopped being friends with recently because she was being toxic. i had been friends with her for over a year and we kinda had an on and off relationship. i stopped being friends with her because she would always be so negative and pity herself and would get irritated and very small things easily and act out whenever she wouldn’t get her way. she would tell my secrets to other people and would break her own promises and always said she’d be better and make up for it, which i for some reason believed she would make up for it in those moments. she had a lot of issues at home and at school so you could kinda see that she also wanted attention. i realized that she had always wanted favors done (even if they were small, such as going and asking her crush this and that) and would get mad if you wouldn’t do what she said. and i’m the type of person that doesn’t let anyone treat me like a tool or try to use me, so i always refused to do these “favors” of hers mostly because she could very well do them herself. and one day about a month ago, i just about had it after she acted out on me and spread a secret of mine to another person, so i said “you know what, i’m done with this stuff i always have to put up with. every time i’m with you, i don’t gain any good.” and so now we aren’t friends anymore, and let me just say that after letting go of that friendship, i felt so much better about myself, like i had gotten something off my chest that was holding me back for a long time. i realized that if i would’ve let her push me around like she does to her other friends then she would’ve been very toxic, more than she already had been. so if you Are in a toxic relationship, letting go of it will surely do you a lot of good and you’ll mentally feel a lot better about how you’re doing in my opinion.
My problem is that I always give people trust and care that I forget to care about myself. I only allow sincere people to be my friends, no matter what their problems are, I always like to put efforts to listen to and to help others. This is why I barely have some friends left
I just want to thank you for turning on comments. It might not seem like a lot, but it opens a huge door for affected individuals. A key action. Discussion. Thank you for allowing us to discuss our problems. It really means as much as I say it does.
These are all me. It makes sense now onto why I have no friends. But I do have a boyfriend who has been a major blessing to me. It’s not that easy to work it out by yourself. Sometimes it’s nice to have a person who won’t walk away and who will help work out your issues. My boyfriend has helped me grow and become a better person. In the beginning there were times where I broke him down because of my own insecurities but he’s really helped me and we couldn’t be better.💗 You DONT always have to work it out for yourself. It’s not always your fault.
Oh boy.... Another reminder of previous toxic classmates.... Sometimes they didn't need to pretend to be nice and caring to gossip about you behind your back. Sometimes they show you their true nature right in front of you...
There was this person I used to call my best friend who seemingly out of nowhere startes to show one or many of these behaviours. He started saying things like "you don't know what it means to be adult and responsible" or "what you're studying in university is useless, is that even a real job?(i study communication and HR management)" out of the blue. He never wanted to open up with me even when i gave him the chance, today i still don't know what caused him to change but I just had to distance myself from him, sometimes i feel guilty for abandoning him, i should've tried harder to save him from his own toxicity...
Such a hard reality when it hits you that you are attached to multiple of this personalities, family definitely is a bitch when dome wrong, but you are not alone
Are we missing any types out from this list?
There might be a bit,although I doubt so.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Attention seeker?
No. But i need some sign of verbal abuse video😄
No however please make a video on how to walk away from a toxic person
* watches video *
me: how can i walk away from myself?
XD sameeee
Yup, that's me.
Same lol
I relate
Nic Stewburrey relatable
i think the worst part of a toxic relationship is when it starts wearing on you and you become equally as cynical. the best feeling is cutting them out.
I needed dis thanks Dotty
yeah, one time I was in a friendship but they made me feel like my actual personality was dumb, and it was stupid to act like that. Then I proceeded to change into a different person. It took me almost a year to realize what was happening and break off that friendship.
How do you cut people off..?
I agree. Sometimes I feel like the toxic people I know have rubbed off on me and I’ve become somewhat toxic myself. It’s like a disease
@@nitikadixit6566 One way is to just refrain from posting comments on their social media feed and eventually either unfriend them, unfollow them or-like what I'm fixing to do-deactivate your social media account altogether and go seek out new friends. Sadly, it seems to me like being a little passive-aggressive and fading into oblivion will go better for everyone than being direct about your intentions to cut them off.
I had a really toxic friend for a while. Now I’m too anxious to make new friends and remain lonely 👌🏻
Well, life has its ups and down. I'm sure there are so many people out there that are willing to be your friend. I too just got out of a toxic friendship and honestly, I feel so much better now that they're gone.
I'm sure people will love your talents! I think you're an artist (judging from your profile picture) and honestly, it looks amazing! I love the character that you drew and I hope you draw many more characters like that!
I have learned to go slow and be more cauttious with ppl. Sad but wise!
Having bad relationships can really fck u up. I was in a bad friendship-romantic relationship for years (was his friend before being couple) and in a lame "friendship" with another person.
We usually were the three of us but my ex (then bf) wasnt the best friend and ofc wouldnt be best as bf, really selfish, selfcentered, was the 3rd type of the video: i digital colored his drawing and he uploaded them as his work, even ask me "how did u paint the water?" i explained it, and then find out it was to reply to an online comment, he never give me credit, he replied as he was the one that coloring it, worst part is that i let him do it, i allow it, after some years i just got pissed and stopped helping him and put the rule that if i did he would have to say i did the coloring or whatever (the only one i did and visible put both our credits in the art, he never uploaded it to his account) and this guy was my bf/boyfriend, when i did an effort to learn more he would complain it didnt came out as good cuz X artist did it way better, why couldnt i draw/color like them? I could count more but i think u get the idea of how unsupportive he was (add to that that i had a sickness for many many years and when i asked for a medicine, once i couldnt affort it and he could, he made a bunch of excuse to dont spend 25~35$ on me for my needed treatment, i never asked for money or buy anything in all our relationship, he paid for me only 4 times in almost 9 years of relationship, and at that time, he was spending money in 2 videogames, and amiibo, and other stuff).
As for our other friend he didnt do mean stuff like that but was very reserved, quiet, etc, he didnt support me either cuz he "couldnt handle my feelings", basically everytime i needed emotional support he would "nope" out of it, telling me sometimes "i dont like to deal with others feelings" so made me feel "ahh... my emotional problem are a bother to others right? even my "best friends"..." i knew he had some serious unresolved issues with himself that lead him to add that way but it affected me cuz it made me felt like a bother, not important, etc. He insisted me and my then-bf were his only bestfriends but it only feel like my ex was his truly bf and i was just there glued to that for being my ex's gf. Ofc, when i broke up with my bf, and 5 months later stopped talking completly to him, i knew my relationship with my friend would dissapear cuz the "glue" (my ex) wasnt there anymore (he kept the friendship with him) but i hoped to be wrong, tried to finally have a more geniune friendship with him but failed. He didnt want me in his life and the little interactions (chats, cuz he didnt want to hang out) i had with him was him reading my msg and never replying; Last time i asked him to go to a water park with some other friends he knew and he replied 10 days after i had already went saying "ah, i didnt tell u cuz i spend my money in medicine last week" when i said he could've told me 10 days ago, he said "yeah, im sorry for that". Last time i contacted him. It was enough.
Since then i noticed how awful those relationship were, how they damaged my self esteem, trust, confidence, boast fears, anxiety, etc, and how sometimes it affected the way i treat/react to others, for example, thinking they would find me a bother if i ask them about a emotional problem i have, so i keep it to myself or get sad thinking "they dont care...", how i feel my work wouldnt be of their like cuz they will compare it with more skilled people, even tho i like my art, ideas, and the progress i had made during all these years, how when getting a good reaction would made me think "are they really happy for me or just faking it for some other reason?" and that freaking sucks but i have learned to control that anxiety knowing they weren't good relationship, even if they were a 10yo relationships, time isnt equal to good.
I now have a friend who has made me remember what true friendship is, he look for me for support and supports me back, doesnt get bother with my emotions, even ask if he see im in a bad place and i try to do the same for him. I had some good friends back when in middle school but as i said, these two were my only "friends" for a decade i had forgotten how friendship were suppose to be. So dont close to the opportunity to find a healthy friend just because of an old toxic one. Wish u luck! I advice u to work on ur anxiety for that, i started at 2015 i compared mentally to were i was, im in a really nice place right now, but all that thx to mental work a.k.a working on ur anxiety, feelings, etc i think "selfawareness" is the word for it?
Yeah.. I am negative but im not lazy but i am competitive.. But i have this one friend who is playing the blame game..
Oh... You too?
This is why I will forever have trust issues with people in life.
Same
You should trust people have both sides ,the good and the evil
Some people don't have a good side!
Same
@@ARLimon74 first step to bring the good in people out is trust
1 - The Green Monster (Jealous people)
2 - The Nihilist (Negative Attitude)
3 - The Slacker (Oportunist/Lazy/Manipulative)
4 - The Complainer (Play the Victim)
5 - Verbal Abuser
You're welcome
I mean it's just 3 minutes...
The first one sounds similar to me, but the difference is that I just don't care, my younger siblings will say "Isaiah look what I did!", and without looking I will either say "Good for you", "cool", or "don't care", then my mom will get mad at me, which then prompts me to turn back and pretend like I care.
@@cyzcyt Hmmmm, you may be right, you have just given me something to ponder.
Thanks!
Im the green monster-the complainer ones ;/
What if I AM the toxic friend?
How do I walk away from myself?
I dunno, stop being an ass? I'm working on it.
Omg same!!
I feel terrible about it..
It sucks..
This channel has actually made a video about if you’re the toxic person. ruclips.net/video/QIiLueBRYL8/видео.html
*The moment u realize your number 4*
therapy
I’ve dealt with a verbal abuser before... whenever I try to start a conversation if I see them they say “didn’t ask” it shuts me down every time...
I’m dropping them now so they aren’t worth it to me anymore
Right on! Sometimes they are so called family!
They are just assholes.
@@ARLimon74 I’ve had this friend since kindergarten and now we’re in high school and all he does is ask for the answers sits on his computer and plays games gets mad at me and calls me selfish and a bad friend when I say no and he makes fun of my brother(has a little autism) and my mom(she’s deaf) I’ve known him for so long and I don’t know if I should drop him or try and help him change.
good for you! i don't think they understand how hurtful saying that can be.
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My friend literally makes EVERYTHING into a competition and she always argues back for no reason. Ugh, it's exhausting
Get rid of negative people from your life people who talk you down , don’t believe in you, surround yourself with positive people and you will notice your life start to improve
Lol I can't walk away from myself
me: * sees this *
also me: * searches "how to get rid of yourself" *
@Bri likes art YT thanks
But what if you live with those kinds of People 🤔😒 ? ? ? ?
@@gftbgkj6667 lmfao frl because like I even tried to walk away from myself and that didn't work
The mind is a very powerful thing, self doubt and insecurity is so strong and sad. It’s worse when it’s up-brought to a habit due to childhood or past drama.
The mind is very powerful. Something that we all need to cultivate.
@@Psych2go soooo how do you cultivate the mind?
@@lovelylove6193 First you till the grey mushy matter, then you plant the seeds of whatever knowledge you want (as long as you are capable of understanding it and use it properly), then you water it and nurture it and watch it grow, then when it comes time to reap what you have sown you will have a nice, strong, powerful brain that will help you until you take your final breath, as long as you keep tending to it.
I destroyed crime with a thought!
@Craig F. Thompson My apologies. I often think the brain as a computer actually, but one of living matter rather than plastic and metal. It behaves in a similar fashion once you think about it.
Sometimes when I’m out for a walk, I smile to random people and the best thing is when they give a smile back :)
I wish you all a nice day!
Thanks a lot :)
This made me smile.
That's amazing. 90% of the people I pass on my daily walk in my neighborhood are on their cell phones and oblivious. Smile at them? I would have to warn them of a nuclear bomb hitting our city to get their attention!
This really hit me on many levels. I have "friends" who have all of these characteristics. Thanks for this video. Now I know that it's my time to practice self-love and walk away from unhealthy people in my life. I was afraid of being alone that's why I can't avoid them. But now, I'm not. Indeed, there's beauty in your solitude.
I know this one toxic person... They are always negative and never see the good in life... I see them when I look in the mirror. It's me
Man all of you need to stop being depressing in the comment section and get therapy and take care about your mental health.
@@vibing6530 people these days mostly teenagers and kids in their 20s could care less about their mental health.. all they care about is "good" physical health, they raid the gyms and excercise overtime, but leave the most important organ in the body, the brain, for the very last
You already know the problem so its your fault now for not working towards bettering yourself. You can do it you know, but you gotta believe in yourself first. You can change that person in the mirror
@@Nostalgicguy2242 Not me..i take my mental health seriously & am very active about it...I've learned it's dangerous NOT to.
Lmfao me asf🙃
I might be a toxic person , that's why I prefer to keep to myself and not bother anyone 😔😔
Nothing wrong with that IMHO. Im similar and keep to myself most of the time. It is annoying though when theirs nothing wrong with me and friends be all like "Why you quite/mad.?" Lol I'm not mad,I just don't have anything to say or contribute to the conversation. F'N ppl lol😉👍
you don’t have to do that
Then when you have to interact with people, they wonder why you are so short with them, then it puts them off and suddenly you are the bad guy.
I've never been rude to anyone who didn't deserve it in some way. Like, if you keep pressing me in person, then you are going to get one cold Katie.
People have often said to me, "You never talk, and the first words I hear out of your mouth literally hurt my feelings." Something to that effect.
Me too. Sometimes it’s really just better to be by yourself.
Katie Marigold i can somewhat relate :\
Would like to add 1
The terrifyer- someone that’s been in pain before and the only way he/she feels as if they can have any control in their lives is to scare people into submission
I'm the terrifyer
I am extremely selective on the people let into my life. I only allow kind and positive people to get close.
ruclips.net/video/3meDxBgvguo/видео.html
* Watches video *
* Packs bags *
Me: Mom, Dad I'm moving out, blame RUclips!
Relatable 😂😂
Jpgitters Official funny not funny
Man, that relate to me in some high level.
Jpgitters Official I actually did this back in May but BEFORE watching this video and my therapist said he‘s never seen me happier and more stable 😅
😂😂
I feel like we are all like this at one point.
*That’s kind of sad*
Edit: 360 likes ???💖
It is sad but you are right though. We all can be toxic at some point in our life. But we all have a choice to change that.
Yes, no one is ever not not toxic. We're all dealing with our own stuff and sometimes we project that onto others.
@@Psych2go I didn't even see this response, but what you posted here really strikes well with what I said about a really bad day. It's somewhere around here...(heh) 😩
Yes this is true and what I say maybe others are having a hard time so they be toxic to others cus they are having a crisis? Or maybe that's just how they grew up
I wondered what would happen if a group of of frineds were all toxic would they clash I think they would
“Do you encounter these people in your own life?”
Yeah, I live with them since childhood.
Same, I am still seeing them to this day. Although I have limited contacts with them but every time they want something, they will call me and if I don't agree, they will call me a bunch of insults and I think that I am so desensitized by this that I literally don't give a gutted fuck about this and will hang them up.
What I have learnt from that is some people are assholes and if they don't want to change, then you should stop being in contact with in all possible ways. After all, all they do is bring you down and lower your worth
@@yourperfectnightmare3642 well I imagined it and I have to say if that is what's happening to you, I feel sorry for you. But don't give up, soon you will move out and won't have to see them as often
Victoria 666 Thanks for a relief ( ^ω^ )
@@yourperfectnightmare3642 no problem
KA Rina i like those hip young cool anime faces you're making.
I used to be toxic myself when I was younger, probably as a result of being around so many toxic people at school (I used to be bullied and the general mentality is very closed-minded so of course they bully anyone who's different, which happened to be me and some other kids) and at home (my parents, specifically my mother). So I began to act like them even after moving to a new school, and I noticed that my new friends didn't want to be around me for too long and they'd always tell me to be more positive and accept their compliments and to stop complaining. It was then that I realised that I was becoming more and more toxic and I would soon repeat the cycle of having no friends and being outcast unless I sorted my shit out and became a nicer person. It took a while- and in fact, I'm still working on myself- but I feel like I have become a nicer and better person, and those same friends have actually commented on this change they've seen. I still need to move out of my toxic home environment but I am much happier and positive now that I was back then. I know I'll be even happier and maybe even finally banish my depression from existence after I move out, I'm really excited about this!
I see you recently 'stopped by' ... Sometimes I do too for reinforcement as often a person that moves on to better conduct encounters negative behavior. Hats off to you for shedding the dysfunction. Toxic personalities are and have been the REAL pandemic in western culture for some time. A product of prosperity, no sense of responsibility or empathy for other peoples' feelings. In a way, this once again false flag covert 19 operation was beneficial. In that it's a wake up call and reality check. The econ swift kick in the ass is yet to come. Not trying to be negative, just realistic. In summary, toxic people simply don't know, they just keep returning to that way of life. Always be wary, a sure sign is unnecessary drama. Just walk away, in most cases it cannot be corrected. If you find a person that strikes a similar chord with you, make them your friend and tell them why !
Be well !
This speaks well of your character. None of us are perfect but it takes a good person to self-exam and even attempt to change.
Just out of curiosity,did you grew up in a poor environment
Honestly honey same
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I remember in my Medical College years I was experiencing a lot of situations with slackers (number 3) in my class. They’re always asking me for help, because I was kinda the smart one, especially in English. They were giving me chocolates, not money. One day when I said no to one girl she’s started threatening me so hard that I started to cry. So I stopped saying no to others. Back then I thought that it’s the only way to win their trust and friendship. But later I realized that it’s almost impossible due to the fact that I was different from them and they were never really interested in me and my friendship.
So please, if reading this comment, don’t listen to those kind of people. It’s not worth your time and nerves. Try to help yourself and your true friend instead if they really need that.
Awesome comment!
I experienced something similar but in primary school. I was the one doing the homework and paying attention in class and my "friends" and classmates would always borrow my books and study from my notes and copy my homework, usually while not allowing me to study from my own damn notes (they didn't want to do any group study sessions, not with me in the group anyway even though they'd use MY books to study from). I was also being bullied by them at that time, and borrowing them my books was the only thing preventing them from taking the bullying to the next level (or so I thought) so that's why I just continued to do this.
I eventually left the school (quite suddenly too, my new school wanted me to join them in the middle of the year so I could acclimatise to the new environment as they were bigger and very different from my previous school) but I only told them on my last day lol.
I found out the next year that several of them failed that year and had to repeat because they weren't working on their own and were just relying on me and my notes to pass, and none of the other "smart" (read: hardworking) kids ever gave their books and notes to others, I was just way too softhearted and had so much difficulty in saying no back then and they took advantage of that and slacked off. I'm glad they failed, at least they'll know the consequences of them slacking off and I got out of that toxic environment too.
Well I am the toxic person, and I do this to myself.... .-.
Edit: holy moly thank you for all the likes and support ❤️
Your playing life on hard mode.
;-; get therapy it's great uwu
I'm a toxic person as well. It's reall funny how ppl get close to me just bc i'm charming... and then they suddenly stop talking to me, without telling me what's wrong.
@@blue-mn1ze but what do u do idk
@Oh No is that so? Well, i guess you're right. Thanks.
I almost cried when the happy person with a Happy meal was ashamed for it
This is why it’s so damn hard to even find good friends when you’re dealing with a whole bunch of toxic people and you’re like the only one who’s tryin to do positive things with them
ruclips.net/video/3meDxBgvguo/видео.html .
BoyfriEND
GirlfriEND
Toxic friEND
Crippling depression
Only crippling depression has no end!
Crippling depression will always be by your side!
*walks up and hugs you ;^;*
yayyyy
@ okay. That was unexpected and kinda sweet. :)
stop! the realism! its unbearable!
I don't want to like your comment because it has exactly 69 likes
Had a bunch of toxic friends a few years back. Eventually it escalated to bullying. It was secretly a blessing in disguise though because I became close friends with all the other bullied kids. That's how I met my greatest friends, among them, someone I consider family now.
If people are toxic, leave them immediately and go find some real people. It will get better, I promise
Me and my (toxic) friend agree'd we needed to fix our relationship. She said I had been ignoring her, not paying attention to her, etc. Which I hadn't. I always gave her my full attention when she was down.
I told her about my abusive father, and I of course have a lot of trauma. She had told me she thought I was being over dramatic, so in this session of our talk, I mentioned that and she had said she was sorry and that she'd never do it again.
She was talking about the relationship again and said, "I think you're over dramatic when you talk about your dad and it gets annoying." even though she had said she wouldn't do it again. I'm the type of person to not speak up, so I stayed silent. She also wanted me to get rid of one of my first friends I had ever made on my own(without a family member knowing them, my sister's friend, etc.). She also had stated, that I "compare myself" to her.
Let's see if this video works..
Get rid of her. Don't hold onto a relationship because of what "it could be", instead you should hold onto a relationship bc of what "it is"
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When your friend that you’ve known since 2nd grade applies to all of these :(
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i love psych2go so much. thank you for all of the videos you post. you always help me understand my emotions more. thank you for letting me know that i’m not alone 💘
daniella leon your comment is so sweet, but when I read “PSYCHO2go” I couldn’t help but chuckle because it’s like ah yes let me just grab my daily psycho before I head to work lol
Kirsten Alyssa 😂😂 there’s no specific name so i just said the account name loll
I feel as though a lot of these characters are brought on by mental illness. Like 4, I am a complainer. I never noticed my toxic behavior until my friend pointed it out, rather harshly and we got into a big fight. After, I took a moment to think and she was right. I hadn't meant to be " whiney" it wasn't on purpose, but with my depression and anxiety I was always talking about how sucky my life is. Mental illness does that, and half the time when a friend is doing these toxic behaviors they dont even REALIZE it. So before you dump your friend that seems like one of these 5. Maybe talk with them. Ask them if thy realize it.
WiseWillow Facts dude i’m sorry you’re going through that, but I am too so ur not alone. I would always complain about my life to my friends and i was literally known for being so negative but it was also only because i was so depressed and it was my way of coping so I kinda went through the same thing as u and it sucks but someday I know it’ll get better for the both of us ❤️
daniella leon it’s because it’s Psych2go, not PSYCHO 😂😂😂 that’s why I laughed
I’ve literally encountered all these people.
The first one was my best friend.
I lash out at people and I can’t let go of the past sometimes.
But I’m working on this. I don’t want to be a toxic person : ///
Well, I think another purpose of this video is to make the viewer aware if they are in fact toxic. Unfortunately, I find myself demonstrating a couple of these behaviors. This can be good however so that I may recognize my faults and work to improve them. Good video!
1. Jealous people
2. Nihilist/pessimist
3. Slacker/lazy people
4. Complainer/victim mentality
5. Verbal abuser
How the heck does this channel always guess whatever problems are going on for me? Thanks a million guys
We're all facing the same problems, bro. Some of us are just synced with you.
Right?
Damn bro you should grow some nuts and take it back and also quit being soft and im sure they will stop fucking with you, damn this world is full of pussies lol. No offense but the truth shall come out n I’m here to tell you, not to belittle you but to help you. Quit taking things so personally because at end of day no one really cares about anyone in the work world. Learn how to use the law of attraction, drink more energy drinks and feel alive you are just bitching out become a dog not a female. Also complaining does nothing but help you sit in your thoughts with no solution but the solution is - Let your nuts hang do what the fuck you wanna do quit looking for some emotional friend if you want that just go to a psyche hospital lol. Been in the same boat years ago but never got my food stolen from me lol that kinda fucked up u allowed that. All love brother stay strong life is a war between demons and angels, be an angel but also know when to bring the demon out. Peace
I know a few people like this, but I also wanted to say it’s totally okay to get down and have a rut every once in a while. Especially if you have things like depression. Remember that being upset and self loathing isn’t always meaning you’re a terrible person. If you keep working and don’t stop to help yourself you’ll hit such a rut (speaking from experience right now) and it’s so hard to get out of. Don’t let this turn into a longtime personality, but also know that being down and struggling with self loathing thoughts doesn’t mean you’re a toxic person. Take care of yourselves. 💛💛
I tend to attract ‘slacker’ and ‘whiny/complainer’ types.
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I'm the complainer.. Also, all of my 1 friends are complainers..
It's okay to complain, you just might have to direct it to people that can handle it (ex. professionals). Some situations itself may have hard ultimatums, so it could be that they are trying to change things, but it takes time to be free of. Housing, jobs, marriage, chronic illnesses, etc. It may be considered toxic, but keeping them inside will produce just as nasty of a result. The important thing is to move forward, even if it isnt at a pace everyone finds acceptable.
Thought i was alone there...guess i'm not 😊
Extremely important!! Especially if you're very empathetic/compassionate. Theres people that'll just hurt you in the long run that just isn't worth it. Also, beautiful art style!!! Calming and cute.
I agree. Thanks! :) What would you advice to those who are empathetic and dealing with toxic people?
I'm a magnet it appears. I know all of those people! As soon as I drop them a new set appears. I'm usually outgoing and open, now I isolate, because It's better to be alone and happy than to be surrounded by that type person(s).
You did leave out the begger. Begger- a person who always has their hand out for someone to meet their needs. Sooner or later everyone needs someone else, maybe twice, but that is not the individual who is a begger. Many beggers graduate to be demanding. This is past the cut-off point.
To the beggers: no one owes you anything. If you've got habits and/or needs on a daily bases go earn it like the rest of us do.
I remember there was a young guy I worked with, he was a caretaker, and he was fed up with his job and his prospects. We had a good discussion about the things he could do to improve his lot. He seemed motivated and positive. I saw him maybe a month later, and asked him about what we had discussed, he turned on me and told me to back off and stop pushing him. I decided there and then to leave him be, but also tell him if he started whinging about his life to me again, to not do so, as i was not interested. Luckily my work at that place was winding down, so I was soon gone.
If someone whines about stuff constantly, if they want to just use me as a free therapist or whinging board, I am having none of it. I have enough of my own stuff to figure out. If you don’t want to put the effort into changing your life, shUt up. Don’t complain constantly to others.
I am taking ways things to competitive and and feel like a burden because want to talk about my problems but it can turn very toxic quickly. I hate myself for that
If you are, it’s good that you recognize it and acknowledge it. You may not be but you are self reflecting and that is so good :)
I knew someone like this and walk away from them and avoid them as much i can and Honestly dont regret it
I just lash out at people.
This is something I’m working on.
Least you had the courage to admit it. I too have a family member like you and when I mentioned this about her, man, I got a whole different result. I guess it's not my place to say but still.... Least I was honest. Maybe it's up to the person. She just wasn't ready to hear the truth about herself.
Tell your friends/family members etc (and everyone who you have a relationship with) that you easily lash out at people and can get angry very easily and tell them to be careful in the future and not approach you or get too near you and that you are working on it. Just warn them about it and they will know how to behave near you.
I had a friend who would spread false things about me around the school. and she always said I didn’t “act my age”. I honestly thought we where friends. it would have hurt way less if i would known at the time.
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*sigh* I’m that toxic friend.. I’m clingy but only because I’m scared they’ll leave me.. I’ve lost to many friends from this
Vid suggestion:
How to cut Toxic People out of your life
Ps. Pls do this. I Need it.
Don't discuss with them, this kind of people usually will attack you with more negativity, guilty projection and play the victim to others like you're the monster. Just go away, take some distance, don't react at their victm show. (Before that you can try to talk about the problem and sugest a therapy, but if you realize the person will never take responsability for his acts, run, just run as fast as you can).
Your use of the word "cut" is the problem. It shows you are anticipating a drama in the process of ending your relationship. Skip the drama and step aside. Ignore them if they try to lure you back as they love the attention, even if its bad attention. Do not get into any further verbal brawls with them, you're wasting your time. Just re-position yourself... as a total stranger. That's the power of goodbye.
My ex-best friend was like that :(
She always said that she had no friends and wasn't loved etc, even so multiple mutual friends and I would be there for her
Didn't matter If she called crying at night or something, someone would come over to stay at her place or stay up to talk with her via chat etc
We usually had a lot of fun together and she was like family to me at some point(we went trough school together so we were friends for about 10 years at that time)
But in our last schoolyear everything got more intense
She had a lot of fights with other friends (about 3 good friendships were destroyed in the span of one year bc of some small things that for some reason escalated and know one even knew why + she started most of those arguments )
and everytime she had this depressed moments, thinking nobody truly loved her, she started to snap and being really mean if I even dared to say, that I, we, her family loved her(which wasn't a lie)
Anything positive was like putting gasoline in a well light fire
I mean yeah I know that sometimes you don't want to hear things or don't want to accept something when you're in a really depressed state of mind
I experience that myself often when I get depressed and just want to isolate myself and it can be hard to share your feelings
But nobody usually forces you to so anyways if you're not comfortable with that
But starting to be mean all of the time if someone tries to be there for you, then complaining that you start losing friends, then just being mean without any good reasoning and starting to talk down anything good in your friends lives... Etc etc
This spiral of hate for others just got worse and worse
(she never saw herself at fault btw and was good at playing the victim)
This kind of behavior is very hurtful and in the end she successfully got rid of most of her friends, because it just was so unhealthy being in contact with her(and that even tho all of her friends knew about her anger issues and were mostly fine with it, bc she would apologize for it)
And I am talking full mental breakdowns on multiple occasions /people just because she was in a bad mood and decided to let it all out on someone that didn't even do anything wrong :(
We aren't in contact anymore, even tho we never had a really bad fight in the end or anything
It all just went completely downhill when She and her boyfriend broke up(there is a LOT of drama and ugly things left to tell bc all of this happend in a friedgroup which made it super complicated) bc he couldn't cope with her behavior anymore
About 2 weeks after that she started to text me something weird and passiv aggressive out of the blue and in the middle of the night to which I(as usual bc this sadly became very common ) tried to stay calm and reason with her
(she said a lot of nasty things about a friend of mine and I obviously don't want to talk bad about my own friends)
... but that didn't work that time
She unleashed all of her anger on me and then just cut me off
(I believe she was very upset because I didn't want to talk shit about my friends, who she already started to hate at that time, which therefore means I don't love her bc I never take her side?? Idk she had a twisted logic on stuff like this)
But oh it gets worse
2 months after low contact and everyone involved still being emotionally drained, she decides to cut her wrist open and send the pictures to her ex boyfriend(idk if it was actually life threatening or just to make him feel bad but that way he at least could inform her parents and they were able to help her yey)
I feel tho bad for my friend(her ex) tho
He is such a kind person
Even after a year of all of that trouble with her and after that really ugly breakup, he would still drive her home after she got too drunk with her colleagues and stuff to make sure she was safe and stuff
Meanwhile she is walking around telling everyone lies about how they still meet and have sex and that this is the only thing he wants from her(wth)
So to end this:
I still miss her so much :(
we were so close for years, she was my best friend and we shared everything
I just hope that she is doing better now
This whole experience was very traumatizing for many people at that time and I still get nightmares one year later and sometimes there is literally a little thing that acts as a memory- trigger? idk which results in pretty bad panic attacks and even more depression yey
(same with another friend of mine who also suffers from depression)
Her ex is mostly fine tho, so yey!!
I am glad that he has such an healthy mind so that he can cope with this
So if anyone took the the to read this mess
Please be aware of such behavior and protect yourself
Don't let anyone use you as their personal emotional punching bag!!
This went on for years without me really realizing it and it probably would still be if it wasn't for their breakup and the resulting loss of contact between us
On last side note :
If you notice that you have multiple friends of that sort, you might be a person who is easy to manipulate, so please listen to trusted friends /family when stay start to drop hints that they think you might be in a toxic relationship with someone (i didn't and therefore was trapped in a relationship with someone for 1 1/2 years which really messed me up )
So please be careful out there
Wow. That's a long one.
Underrated comment!
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thanks for adding more guilt into my existing depression .... could have never felt this extra weight without you....
five types of videos you should avoid:
1: the ones you don't like
2: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty
3: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty
4: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty
5: the ones that make you feel worthless and guilty
I hope and pray that you will overcome your depression. know that there is always someone out there who loves you.
You're allowed to feel that way.
So I have to avoid everyone
you seem to have a friendly environment.
I do....it's frickin Awsome 😎
If by "everyone" you mean the people currently in your life? If they fit this then yes.
If by "everyone" you mean the entire planet then that's just foolish. There are literally BILLIONS of other humans on the planet and if you honestly believe EVERYONE is toxic then your mind is very closed.
@@jacobr4558 I think the person means everyone she knows?
Well, that's MY solution...
1:01 omg look out! the dementia's going to get you! oh frick! he can't hear us! he has air pods in! oh frick!
Some of these behaviors (negativity, complaining) occur when a person is depressed. Sometimes people need support and encouragement to get the help they need. Abandoning them because you are frustrated is not the answer. People wonder why the suicide rate is so high, but most people don't care enough to listen to and support depressed people, or anyone else who is ill for that matter.
I’ve encountered one of these type of friends. I was so naive and such a pushover. Remembering them makes my blood boil
Just what I needed rn, good timing, love your videos♥️ edited: psych2Go replys💕
Thanks for the support. How's everything going?
Well I won't have any friends there all like this
A few years back I realized this, cut all my toxic relationships out of my life that were possible (friends), and went on to make new friends. I thought everyone was normal until I met them and realized that everyone was toxic and they were normal. “You don’t realize how toxic some one or something is until you breathe fresher air”. Once I breathed fresher air I (try) never to go back. You can’t avoid family! (At leads at my age)
I was going to say having no friends isn't so bad, then I thought about it for a minute and decided you know what maybe having one toxic friend might not be so bad, I don't have any friends, I am what you might call a loner.
One Way Around what if there are no good friends in that area where you live?
I'm sorry you feel that way.
I feel your pain
Thanks this really helped me realise that walking away from my friend is probably the best solution
We have been friends for a year and a half now but I’m always got the feeling they were toxic
They would always complain to me about how they were tired and that nobody liked them. I would always comfort them saying “Nobody hates you, you’re perfect” and “You shouldn’t stay up too late”. But they would continue playing the victim.
They copied off my work and their excuse was “I’m too tired to think.”
I just hope I’ve made the right decision by ditching them.
ruclips.net/video/3meDxBgvguo/видео.html Cutting people out of your life is necessary, a lot of people wait until it's too late.
After Having A Close Friend Show Themselves As Toxic After Years Of Working& Growing Together. I Have Learned To Mainly Focus On Being Honest With, Caring For& Loving Myself Unconditionally. So Far. So Good 🛣
How can I stop the feeling of sadness when I'm lonely or jealous when my bff has a bf when I dont? :((
How do I stop being suicidal about being lonely?....
Dark Fire X3 it’s not something that goes away just like that, let your friend know, and try to forget about it and just be with your friend.
I'm sorry you feel that way :< As someone in a relationship, I know it can be a big commitement and take up more energy than you might realize. Also, before you think about getting in a relationship with somebody else, learn to take care of and appreciate you as the person you are first. Again, relationships are a huge commitement and they're even more taxing for you if you don't feel grounded in yourself. I trust that makes sense?
I get you though, it can be really hard when you struggle with feelings of jealousy. Be honest with your friend and... try to appreciate your life for all the good you have, even if you haven't met the right romantic partner yet 💕
Same my dude same. My best friend has a boyfriend and she barely talks to me now
@@RipplewiffleVODS yeah, like it's all about him now you know?
Yep, it’s so annoying 😒
This will be very helpful in my life too know, I find toxic people too much and then get attached before I notice and get hurt :(
@Kristina :D Yeah, thanks. I wish you the best of luck too! :)
I hate parents that try to use providing home and food and stuff like that as a way of means to get at you, LIKE YOUR TRYING TO USE THE BARE MINIMUM YOU PROVID AS LEVERAGE
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4/5 type my ex bestfriend have this...Now its fine ...I'm not being friend with her anymore and i'm so glad about that😄
Sad, but true
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I don't know, I'm never happy when I achieve something by myself 🙂
I love this video it is very helpful. I hope everyone has a good year. This video means a lot to me.
Hope you have a wonderful year too Sabra :0
@@Psych2go Thank you for responding.
Definitely relate to this... But it wasn't a friend it was a family member and that hit hard.
I'm here because my sister has had a total personality change over the last few years. Our relationship was never perfect, but we used to have inside jokes and be able to talk for hours some nights. But she went to college and changed, and not in a good way. She came back throwing extreme tantrums where she would yell for hours about something small. Now she doesn't have such extreme screaming fits, but the last few times she visited, it's still felt like walking on eggshells around her, and she also hasn't shown any desire to spend time with me, and even treated me like her feelings mattered only, not mine, anytime. It was like being swept under the rug. At first I was worried about her, but now I'm just sick of being treated like I'm not important or wanted. I'm looking for people who prioritize me and treat me as an equal. It sucks because this is my sister I'm talking about here, but I'm sick of being treated this way. Unless she realizes what she's doing is wrong and is willing to work on it, I'm almost at the point where I just don't want to spend time with her. I hope things get better though.
Oh wow I have been thorough someone toxic
Anyone else click on this channel’s videos right away? 👍
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I once have had a childhood bestie who behaved similar to the toxic person from number four.
We both are autistic, and she is way more moody than me. Also, she was a bad attention seeker...
But now she is way more mature than in the past. 😌
Everytime she was in a bad mood, so was I. 😔
As she said the "Ihml (=I hate my life)" sentence, I was in the worst mood. I can remember, how I've hated this sentence sooo much! It made think negatively. 😣
Thank goodness, it has been quite a long time since the last time, I heard the "Ihml" sentence. 😊
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People who says that if you really wanted that you would have done it are never your friends.
I've been waiting for this exact video, thanks! ♥️
Np! Hope it was what you're looking for. Do you have another topic you'd like to see?
@@Psych2go Well, yes! I'm not sure if you covered self harm yet, but I'd like to see a video on that. TY!
Thank you for making this video. It was great.
Hope you find it helpful!
@@Psych2go I indeed do. 😁
my "friend" really wasn't my friend in the first place. we were enemies, and after a few years I thought maybe he might have changed... everything went well at first, and I started believing he had changed. I realized in my group of friends (including him) there was a lot more drama then usual, and it normally lead to him starting it. he also held on to things from the past that I didn't have to do with me at all, and thought it was me, and held that against me to look bad in my friends eyes. after I exposed him he claimed he never cared for me in the first place cause I never had a hard life, and never had depression (but at that time it was 3 years since I have seen him so he wouldn't know) he said he cared for my friend cause they were the only ones with problems. he was also very competitive, and when he lost he would throw shade at whoever won a game or whatever. I've tried to help him but every time something between us went wrong he wouldn't apologize unless if I did first...
Holy crap. I went to the similar thing as well! With a family member.
Important thing to remember about toxic people is they might love you. And you might love them. But love doesn't mean anything when their behavior is hurting you. I've been in this situation and yes, ending relationship is hard but worth it. You WILL feel happier and healthier when you'll be done with them
My friend literally makes no more time for me. Even when he's not busy. "Sorry playing Fortnite right now." It hurts, so I sent a video to them called "Dear Ex Best Friend".
How'd it go?
Haley H He got confused and said "WUT" and has now stopped talking to me.
Kr Dupes fortnite? You made the right choice.
TBH as crazy as this may sound I can't stand "Overly Positive ppl" I know you're supposed to always try and find the Positive in a Negative but being Toxic sometimes helps you sort/weed out ppl in your life. Just my $0.02
I liked the idea
Youre trying to weed out positive people from your life by being toxic? It works really well! My brother just died at 47(liver failure) alone and broke. No friends and only my father would take him in. It's an effective plan you have if your goal is loneliness and blame.
Maybe "overly positive ppl" annoy u and want them out of ur life cuz it reminds u ur lack of trust for the world and life in general and made u a little envy they can have that but u dont?
What u are doing is an avoidant behaviour, sooner or later, that would lead at what Jacob R. said, loneliness and blame. So scared to being hurt that its better to draw people away before they do it to u? My grandpa was very rude with his kids and it ended up in them seeing him as a annoyance when older. He died alone after less than a month of being send to a "nursing home" (thats the name right?). I could see the difference between the treatment for my grandpa and my grandma, she died in her house with some of her kids (my aunts/uncles) and daugther/son in law. I was a teen and after growning up and knowing more about the past i realized why was the difference.
Its okay for u to not like certain ppl in ur life but the way u commented made me feel like being "overly positive ppl" was a weird/annoying behavior. U dont have to put up with their possitiveness but that doesnt mean they have to stop being that positive in their lifes. Probably i misunderstood but reading that u have to be toxic to sort ppl out of ur life sounded so sad. Wish u the best!
You are doomed to be miserable!
Your video's are spot on... till this day my parents have damaged me and i'm a full grown adult still feeling the insecurity of never being good enough. The thing is they dont even know they did this... I hurt myself in my teen years just because i didnt want to feel worthless like they made me feel by saying hurtfull things. I rather feel the physical pain then the emotional one... The only reason im sharing this is to warn new parents that they need to choose their words carefully :) Hope no one feels offended by this.
I have two "friends" that are the second type I let them cheat on all lessons and later they talk behind my back, litterally! But I can't walk away because it feels good to see them get good grades and they seem happy when I help them and that makes me happy too!
I have yet to see a person who does not do at least something of this list. Starting with myself, since I am doing all of the above from time to time depending on the mood.
So, you are basically telling me, that I should abandon all of my friends and that I don't deserve any. Thanks, but no, I would prefer to close my eyes on their bad days and just support them whenever I can. And when I will have a bad day and be constantly spewing toxicity, people will just ask me "hey, what's wrong? You can tell me". And not just abandon me. Just like I will never abandon those who are dear to me.
The green monsters makes you constantly improve yourself, the cynical people can solve any problem with their high analytical skills, the whiny type can listen to your complaints and make you feel a lot better when you think about giving up on everything with a few well-matched words, et cetera. Everyone has their flaws and their strengths, and I would rather keep focusing on what is my friends do right and keep reminding them how amazing they actually are.
You're awesome. I just hope, people like you don't get worn down, and fall into apathy/depression.
But what do you do when you live with a toxic person? I can't afford to live on my own.
CobaltFox Plays... can you find a roommate in your area that can share living expenses?
Find a loved one and make a plan to get out. Might take a few weeks or months but start now. You deserve better.
I live with a toxic person and i know how hard it is! The only thing I can say is try to get support from family, friends, and/or co-workers and try to develope a plan on leaving. until then, try to minimize the time you spend [ if possible ] with this person.
I personally feel like I had all these traits at one point or another.
I know a lot of people. An enemy who showed himself to be a friend. But always sabotaging me and acts innocently like nothing happened.
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As a complaining nihilist, I relate and I'm alone AF
so ur fake depressed huh
Jesus christ! My friend has FOUR OF THESE FACTORS! Screw him I ain't talking to him anymore!
Same. I watch almost all videos related to this and every time, they all lead up to that one person. So, probably gonna stop talking to them.
i actually know this one girl who i stopped being friends with recently because she was being toxic. i had been friends with her for over a year and we kinda had an on and off relationship. i stopped being friends with her because she would always be so negative and pity herself and would get irritated and very small things easily and act out whenever she wouldn’t get her way. she would tell my secrets to other people and would break her own promises and always said she’d be better and make up for it, which i for some reason believed she would make up for it in those moments. she had a lot of issues at home and at school so you could kinda see that she also wanted attention. i realized that she had always wanted favors done (even if they were small, such as going and asking her crush this and that) and would get mad if you wouldn’t do what she said. and i’m the type of person that doesn’t let anyone treat me like a tool or try to use me, so i always refused to do these “favors” of hers mostly because she could very well do them herself. and one day about a month ago, i just about had it after she acted out on me and spread a secret of mine to another person, so i said “you know what, i’m done with this stuff i always have to put up with. every time i’m with you, i don’t gain any good.” and so now we aren’t friends anymore, and let me just say that after letting go of that friendship, i felt so much better about myself, like i had gotten something off my chest that was holding me back for a long time. i realized that if i would’ve let her push me around like she does to her other friends then she would’ve been very toxic, more than she already had been. so if you Are in a toxic relationship, letting go of it will surely do you a lot of good and you’ll mentally feel a lot better about how you’re doing in my opinion.
My problem is that I always give people trust and care that I forget to care about myself.
I only allow sincere people to be my friends, no matter what their problems are, I always like to put efforts to listen to and to help others.
This is why I barely have some friends left
That moment when you realise you inhabit all of these traits
When you say all, you mean all 5 of these personas represent you?
@@Psych2go besides 3 yes i can see all of them back in myself
When you realize that you’re the toxic person, that’s when you need to reach out to get help and sort through whatever is making you act that way.
Chelsea Clark-Martin hahahaha. My entire life up to this date is the cause. So unless my life is fixed i'll remain this way.
What if you’re a toxic person toward another toxic person but not to anyone else
That's what I am talking ABOUT.
Then you are normal. And may want to avoid those toxic people.
I just want to thank you for turning on comments. It might not seem like a lot, but it opens a huge door for affected individuals. A key action. Discussion. Thank you for allowing us to discuss our problems. It really means as much as I say it does.
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Verbally and physically abusive people should be listed as number 1 on the list of toxic people to avoid.
My mom was number 5 .. And thanks to my depression I am the #2
when half of the list applies to ur mom:
me: aight imma bouta head out now
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These are all me.
It makes sense now onto why I have no friends. But I do have a boyfriend who has been a major blessing to me. It’s not that easy to work it out by yourself. Sometimes it’s nice to have a person who won’t walk away and who will help work out your issues. My boyfriend has helped me grow and become a better person. In the beginning there were times where I broke him down because of my own insecurities but he’s really helped me and we couldn’t be better.💗 You DONT always have to work it out for yourself. It’s not always your fault.
Oh boy.... Another reminder of previous toxic classmates.... Sometimes they didn't need to pretend to be nice and caring to gossip about you behind your back. Sometimes they show you their true nature right in front of you...
What if the toxic person is your husband? 😑
Psych2go: do you know someone like this?
Me: of course I know him it’s me
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There was this person I used to call my best friend who seemingly out of nowhere startes to show one or many of these behaviours. He started saying things like "you don't know what it means to be adult and responsible" or "what you're studying in university is useless, is that even a real job?(i study communication and HR management)" out of the blue. He never wanted to open up with me even when i gave him the chance, today i still don't know what caused him to change but I just had to distance myself from him, sometimes i feel guilty for abandoning him, i should've tried harder to save him from his own toxicity...
It's very hard to walk away from your family
I'm toxic
RIP I'm sorry god ;-;
I feel terrible about it...
Friend. You've gone far to already want to change. Worse people know that they're bad and don't care. But since you care, that's the first step.
I love how your videos teach me new things
Glad they do!
Such a hard reality when it hits you that you are attached to multiple of this personalities, family definitely is a bitch when dome wrong, but you are not alone
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I love how we say to stay away from these people but yet also say that we need to help them..