I worked for a Doctor whom I respected so much! He would always tell me “Choose your battles”. I have followed that ever since. I stop and think…Karen, is this circumstance worth the battle. It has been a life saver and prevented a lot of heartache!!
You can’t carry other people’s problems. We all have bad days. If someone is rude to me in a store, my first thought is something is going on in their life, and it it roll off me. If I take it home then it becomes my problem.
Over the past year and a half I've felt so powerless and at the same time was diagnosed with health issues making things worse. I felt so defeated and depressed, but I'm now starting to reclaim my power. I know the things to do to make myself feel better every day and although it may take me a while to feel like I did in 2019, you have to make a start! Your inspirational videos are some of my absolute favourites Lisa, always thankful for your take on each aspect of confidence and taking control of your own destiny 💕⭐
Thank you so much, Issy! You are certainly not alone, it’s been a tough few years, and health problems are hard to handle, sending you a big hug! ❤️😘 Lisa
My son and I had a text argument over something stupid back in June, and we haven’t spoken since. He said something to hurt my feelings and I remember thinking how disrespectful. But, after listening to this video I decided to send him a message today. Just said he’s been on my mind and that I loved him, and always will. He hasn’t responded yet, but, I’m hoping he does. What you said about consequences is what hit home with me. I cry a lot lately because of a stupid text fight which has led to not speaking for over 3 months. I want to choose peace also. I have a tendency to react and tear up cards and stupid things that have HUGE consequences. This has really got me thinking. Thank you.
I always say I want to live a quiet life- meaning peaceful, contentment and focusing on my own family. Life is so much nicer when you can do this as much as possible! ❤️❤️
Wow. That is a ton of work on your part. Husband have no idea the background reflection we do to keep a marriage together. Meanwhile they say stuff with no filter or thought of consequence that we have to finesse to continue a workable marriage. Also, when I try to talk he doesn’t listen, hear me or care. Is like I don’t count as much as he does. After 20 years of it I’m exhausted. I don’t know how much longer I can keep it up. I was a strong, independent woman in my 30’s when we met. Now I don’t know what I am.
Leave the jerk and find yourself. You should be a priority in your life. You deserve better, to be heard, to be seen, to be taken seriously. Men are not emotionally stupid, they are just used to not having to to the work. Many were raised that way. Men are capable of compassion. But not all are willing. All the best!
Yes! True power is being in control of your emotions, in control of yourself! This was wonderful Lisa and we can never hear things like this too much. We are always growing and learning in all our various relationships with people. The peace starts with us. Thank you for sharing this!🤗❤️
I couldn’t agree more lisa. I remember hearing dr Phil ask someone years ago “ do you want to be right or be happy?” I’m always focusing on having more peace in my life ❤️🧘🏻
I read once and have always remembered this Once you show you're negative or explosive emotional reaction is the exact time when you lose all of you're power
This made me so emotional. I resonate with so much of what you said, about winning an argument. Even if I’m right, but it upsets someone, I deeply care about, what’s the point? I feel horrible 😣. Now that I’m older, I’ve really made changes-especially this past year. We’ve all realized how quickly, someone can be gone from your life!! So, I’ve made some changes too.This was so inspiring Lisa 💕.
Someone I work with once said that in every conflict, you have two buckets: one is filled with water and one is filled with gasoline. YOU get to choose which bucket you pour in the fire.
I agree 100% with what you say, and I feel that that's how I like to do things. When my husband left for another woman, I was shocked and devastated. I thought our marriage was so good, and it was easy for the majority of the time. I've had to take a hard look at myself to see my part in all of that. Even though it has been the worst thing, it has pushed me to grow like no other. I'm determined to be a better person because of it.
Hey lisa ! I am in Greece on holiday telling my friend about you . We are both mental health professionals in the uk . I am so inspired by you and your journey and the content of your videos. She is going to subscribe to your channel. You are the most fabulous example of personal growth, empathy and strong womanhood ! Love ❤️
Lisa I feel my marriage is similar to yours except we’ve been married for 51 years. I live in Sydney Australia and have been in lockdown since June and it has really but a strain on our marriage he is used to playing bowls and seeing his mates, we are very social and enjoy our friends and going out to eat. I find I really have to keep quiet, hopefully things will change soon.
One of the things that irks me is when people, particularly men that I don’t even know nor have met personally from social media would insert themselves giving me backhanded snide comments. They act as if I’m their wife or girlfriend and they just throw their insecurities and projections. I don’t tolerate that. Treat people how you want to be treated has been my go to motto. I don’t give anyone permission to treat me less than kind and I remove them out of the equation. The best advice I got from a secret service I know said to me “ Don’t follow them into their chaos” just own your power and retain your peace and surround myself with people who get me and value me. Respect is so important to me.
In my 22 year relationship I’ve always known I’m more of the spark plug. I appreciate what you’ve said here. I have learned that using my power is to use if for good….. to not have to be “right” and to build up my man. It doesn’t mean i have to be silent by any means however we have much more productive conversations when i don’t react immediately. I take a pause and it truly does end up lovely.
Lisa, you are like a fine wine .. you get better with age.. love watching you, listening to you,and taking your advice and recommendations.. God Bless you and your family including those that have fur🥰🐈
Great video with so much wisdom. Using kindness instead of anger usually gets a better response and most times that's exactly what the other party needs. It's hard sometimes to not just react with anger, but boy does it disarm someone when you are genuinely kind from the heart. I believe this is how we can be Disciples.
I watched this video yesterday and wanted to let you know I loved it. It truly helped me deal with a family member situation. You have such a positive attitude and that shows in each video. Thanks!!
I agree with most of what your saying. The only thing that may be different is if your spouse continually over reacts and then believes it’s okay to continue behaving this way because your apologetic and let it go time and time again.
My boss told me once “don’t fuel the fire” we both dealt with a lot of the public in our jobs however it helped me throughout my life in personal situations
I often say, “it’s no one’s business what I’m thinking”. Meaning, just because it’s my thoughts or feelings doesn’t mean I have to say it. My mother always said, “be kind to everyone. You never know what they go home to”. I’m Very quick witted and could cut anyone with my words. I CHOOSE not to. It’s not always easy! Sometimes I cry for what i have said. I have never cried for what I didn’t say.
Lisa, this video is going to help a lot of people! Thank you!!! 💝 When you feel upset, always look at a person’s good qualities and lovingly point it out to them that you know their beautiful qualities. Lots of forgiveness, lots of letting go, lots of replacing anger with memories of good qualities and soon enough you forget the fights and the problems you had with each other.
This was a wonderful video Lisa! I have found that when we have love and compassion for ourselves its second nature to give it to others. I consciously choose to respond and not react. It doesnt mean I get it right all the time it means my awareness allows that alignment with my higher power. We are always growing, learning and evolving. This was your most relateable video for me. Each day I say: I am love and my love creates harmony and blessings. I was inspired to leave a comment as I felt more of a connection. Btw....I havent watched TV in over 15 years. My time is precious. Thank you for all the energy and love you put into your videos.
I agree with you 100% Lisa! This is a lesson that I’ve had to learn over the years, and it’s true that your power is not in your response but it’s within yourself. I have much to be grateful for, but I really had a rough life. After years of being neglected, taken advantage of, emotionally abused and terribly hurt - I learned to cope by defending myself and fighting back. However, I should’ve learned to set boundaries and walk away from toxic people. Eventually I did learn that and I have found my inner peace. I’m rebuilding some relationships and starting over in others. I think this peaceful approach is contagious because I’ve noticed as I change my response to people, those people are starting to change and approach me with more kindness. I guess you can say you reap what you sow. When you put out peace and joy people feel it and most times reciprocate the same way. I truly believe that most people really want to be kind and truly want to let go of their baggage. Beautiful message today Lisa, thank you. ~Susanne 😘💕🌈🌸🦋🍒🎀
Very good advice! This may not work with some difficult people but with fairly reasonable people I think it’s great!! I say this because I have a family member who is often very argumentative and difficult. This doesn’t always work with them but I’ve learned to just walk away. Sometimes with that one person nothing works unfortunately. I absolutely hate conflict.
This was a great topic and looking forward to others like this. My husband and I are both very reactive people. Most of our problems come from being a blended family. I am at that point where I just want to walk away because neither of us are willing to back down which is sad. This video did help me to realize that I don't have to win like this. Thank you Lisa.
Take a dee breath before you react and stay in the present… … always the best plan. You are so real Lisa and I love these videos mixed in with makeup and beauty. Love you!❤️
I love this subject Lisa. I’m so bad at this type to my husband and after listening this from you, I told myself that I’m going to be better that’s not let myself get mad at my love one to respond anything he said or does. Thank you so much for helping us.😊
Lisa, BLESS YOU! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 this video/message could not have come at a better time. Game changer. Relationship changer. Life changer. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Please don’t stop creating videos like this. I know specifically with relationships, your message always resonates with me and helps me see things in a whole new perspective. Thank you so much for your time, energy, and sharing of wisdom. It’s been appreciated by me (and so many others) since 2008. THANK YOU!! 💗😭
Lisa, I want you to know how much your talks help me. I am just a few years younger than you, at 47. I live in CA but I am from North Carolina, I was born in Charlotte, and my parents and my extended family are all from the western Carolinas. My momma died when I was in my 30s, and I'm an only child. If I had a big sister to help me negotiate these middle years, she would sound like you. I am so lucky to have found my "John" and have a good marriage also. But your talks remind me of some things that are important during these years, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
100% agree....it takes a bigger person to walk away than to think they "won" by engaging in having the last word. There is a time to speak up and stay strong. Most often letting it go is your best bet. You feel better and leave them to think.
I love your videos like this! So so great! A helpful thing for stopping fights before they happen is to be very mindful of my voice. If I’m starting to raise my voice that is a sign to me that I need to pause and take a breath. I don’t want anyone screaming at me, and I certainly don’t want to be screaming at anyone else. The goal is to understand and be understood, not to be right! It really helped a lot in my relationship when we both agreed to a ‘no shouting’ rule.
I’m just catching up on your videos and I love your explanation on this topic! I used to run my mouth and realized how hurtful it was to my relationship with my husband. Now I try to think before I speak and am trying to dull that edge I used to have! You’re like the big sister I’ve never had! Thank you!
This is so true Lisa. I had the happiest marriage for 20 years and this is the way we handled our relationship, always keeping in mind we love each other and are in the same team. If that’s the case, what’s the sense in “winning” a battle? Do you want to be right or be happy?. He died earlier this year and the loss is irreparable but, at least, I can honestly say I have no regrets. There was nothing unsaid. There is nothing I wish we did different. Sending hugs your way! ❤️ thanks for addressing such important matters.
Lisa you're words are so true! Bottom line communication when it's tied to honesty and being sincere, almost any situation you face with another will flourish. Of course like anything in life, being perfect will actually breed imperfection so slow and steady is the key. You look gorgeous today. You are so kind!
In the situations you mentioned i always tell myself (at least i try) “ i’d rather be happy than right”. & most of the time it works and we gain peace again & move on pretty quickly. Thank you for this video 💕
Hi Lisa! I'm not in the you tube world but always worked in the field of education. I've experienced back stabbing and negative comments about me in that field of work as well. Wherever I go I see and hear negativity. People that are negative and/or mean obviously have some personal issues in their lives. Like you said, usually the best way to respond is to say or do nothing. It's a good idea to simply eliminate these toxic people from your life.,...as I have done.
Also think of a person's capacity. We're all beautiful souls with aptitude in certain areas. We might have strong areas that we over focus on. At the same time we don't understand other people's strong areas. I'm raising sons and this is what I notice causes conflict the most. What's relevant and important to me is the least of their worries. It makes me stand back and wonder about the significance of it all. I think what's important here is etiquette. Making another person comfortable. And sometimes in relationships this is the part that is lacking. Enjoy your day 🌹
Thank you Lisa this is what I'm learning to focus on understanding rather than to be understood. You put it so beautifully. There are many Teacher's but the key is to be able to carry it over in simplicity and you do it so well. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦
Emerson Eggerichs- Love and Respect. If a man feels disrespected, he will be unloving, if a woman feels unloved, she will be disrespectful. This is the crazy cycle.
I don’t know how you do it but you have the BEST topics for videos. Whenever I have something on my mind, like magic you make a video about it not too long after. Love it ❤️❤️
I really really enjoyed this video. my job is at an answering service company and I cannot tell you how rude people can be to people trying to do their job and take a message for the company that they’re calling for. My job is to be efficient, take the message as quickly as I can and of course always be polite. There are moments that someone will be rude or yell at me for no reason at all and it sets me off and I have responded before I’ve even had a chance to realize that I shouldn’t have said what I said. This is something I’m currently working on is learning to control my reactions to somebody being rude to me and either not respond or kill them with kindness. It’s stopping my self before it’s already out of my mouth which is hard for me to be honest. But like you said, I don’t feel good afterwards, I worry about the possibility of what could happen with my job and it’s just not the person I want to be. Thank you so much for this video Lisa it’s giving me lots to think about. Lots of love Kelly💕
About John....I always smile when you show us an outfit, some new shoes, or handbag, and then tell us how much John loved it too! Not all, but many men would just say "ah ha" and basically blow their partner off. But John gives honest feedback to you, and compliments your style, hair, etc. I think this is so cool! 👍🏻
Love your videos Lisa!!! I’ve been married 23 years too… Great man advice & Life advice!! Also.. been carnivore for a month 1/2 .. thank you for sharing!! Love&light from California 💗💗
Thanks Lisa, great reminders and advice. I’ve been married since 98 and can total relate to everything you said. “Full Control” and wanting peace is powerful. Cute outfit of the day! Just ordered the YSL foundation you recommended a while back from Sephora at 20% off that ends at midnight!
I absolutely love this video. I need to re-evaluate how I respond to my ex-husband and people after being in a horrible marriage I instantly want to defend myself which often times creates a negative situation. Thanks so much for talking from your heart! I have been watching you from the beginning and always thought you were the sweetest!
This was great! It is all about our thinking and how we choose to think about situations. Like right now, I am not happy with the way I look and my weight. Sometimes when I am trying things on, I look in the mirror and I think "wow, I look terrible". Or, I can change that and think, "ok, I'm not looking the way I want to right now" and that is a much kinder approach to myself and a more optimistic view. Everything starts with our thoughts!
👏👏👏👏👏 And it’s not even Wednesday!!! Every moment of every day we make choices as to what version of ourselves we’re going to be. I want to be the best possible version of myself. That means not immediately reacting to something, but waiting a second and choosing my response. Our life is not all about us. It is about everyone whose life we touch. ❤️
Loved this Lisa! Our power really is in how we choose to react in any and every situation. ✌️ ❤️ the only thing we can control is how we behave. And that is powerful.
You really helped me so much today. I have been married 51 years and we are remodeling our house. I really thought our marriage was not going to survive it but maybe there is hope. Thank you so much.
I worked for a Doctor whom I respected so much! He would always tell me “Choose your battles”. I have followed that ever since. I stop and think…Karen, is this circumstance worth the battle. It has been a life saver and prevented a lot of heartache!!
But I do believe some battles are warranted…if you choose the battle, go after it full force!
You can’t carry other people’s problems. We all have bad days. If someone is rude to me in a store, my first thought is something is going on in their life, and it it roll off me. If I take it home then it becomes my problem.
Over the past year and a half I've felt so powerless and at the same time was diagnosed with health issues making things worse. I felt so defeated and depressed, but I'm now starting to reclaim my power. I know the things to do to make myself feel better every day and although it may take me a while to feel like I did in 2019, you have to make a start! Your inspirational videos are some of my absolute favourites Lisa, always thankful for your take on each aspect of confidence and taking control of your own destiny 💕⭐
Thank you so much, Issy! You are certainly not alone, it’s been a tough few years, and health problems are hard to handle, sending you a big hug! ❤️😘 Lisa
Thank you for your comment. I can relate. So happy to hear you’re reclaiming your power. Keep getting stronger. 😊
My son and I had a text argument over something stupid back in June, and we haven’t spoken since. He said something to hurt my feelings and I remember thinking how disrespectful. But, after listening to this video I decided to send him a message today. Just said he’s been on my mind and that I loved him, and always will. He hasn’t responded yet, but, I’m hoping he does. What you said about consequences is what hit home with me. I cry a lot lately because of a stupid text fight which has led to not speaking for over 3 months. I want to choose peace also. I have a tendency to react and tear up cards and stupid things that have HUGE consequences. This has really got me thinking. Thank you.
Awe, Denise! You did so good, I hope he responds quickly and you can come to a “truce” 🥰 I’m happy for you!! 🥰😘
@@LisaLisaD1 ❤️ Thank you. I hope so too!
Denise just wanted to say hugs to you. And good for you. I bet he responds soon. Much love!
@@HollyL56 Thank you!
@@Denise4ever praying for restoration...🙏💜
I appreciate your message...but. what I was hoping for was coaching on how to better stand up for myself in a non passive aggressive way.
I always say I want to live a quiet life- meaning peaceful, contentment and focusing on my own family. Life is so much nicer when you can do this as much as possible! ❤️❤️
Wow. That is a ton of work on your part. Husband have no idea the background reflection we do to keep a marriage together. Meanwhile they say stuff with no filter or thought of consequence that we have to finesse to continue a workable marriage. Also, when I try to talk he doesn’t listen, hear me or care. Is like I don’t count as much as he does. After 20 years of it I’m exhausted. I don’t know how much longer I can keep it up. I was a strong, independent woman in my 30’s when we met. Now I don’t know what I am.
Leave the jerk and find yourself. You should be a priority in your life. You deserve better, to be heard, to be seen, to be taken seriously. Men are not emotionally stupid, they are just used to not having to to the work. Many were raised that way. Men are capable of compassion. But not all are willing. All the best!
Yes! True power is being in control of your emotions, in control of yourself! This was wonderful Lisa and we can never hear things like this too much. We are always growing and learning in all our various relationships with people. The peace starts with us. Thank you for sharing this!🤗❤️
Yes, Holly! I am definitely working on this every day, and I see the good results! Thank you!! 🥰
@@LisaLisaD1 Me too, Lisa! We are always a work in progress, to our best self! You’re amazing, keep up the great content!💗
I couldn’t agree more lisa. I remember hearing dr Phil ask someone years ago “ do you want to be right or be happy?” I’m always focusing on having more peace in my life ❤️🧘🏻
I read once and have always remembered this
Once you show you're negative or explosive emotional reaction is the exact time when you lose all of you're power
Being a doormat is not where my power lies.
How can someone be mean to YOU? You're so friendly and good hearted!
The word that comes to mind hearing you speak on this topic is GRACE. You are giving others grace and leading by grace.
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GOSH LADY, YOU ARE GOING IN AN EXCITING DIRECTION, SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!
Hi Lisa, So happy to see you! Thank you so much for your video! Have a beautiful day!!! ❤
That was so lovely.The Serenity Prayer has saved me many times I would rather be happy then be right. Love you❤️
So nicely said and also so true ❤️ sometimes being Right! Doesn’t mean we necessarily win….relationships are all about compromise 🙏
This made me so emotional. I resonate with so much of what you said, about winning an argument. Even if I’m right, but it upsets someone, I deeply care about, what’s the point? I feel horrible 😣. Now that I’m older, I’ve really made changes-especially this past year. We’ve all realized how quickly, someone can be gone from your life!! So, I’ve made some changes too.This was so inspiring Lisa 💕.
“ They think that their power lies in their response “ wow that really did it for me!!!
Someone I work with once said that in every conflict, you have two buckets: one is filled with water and one is filled with gasoline. YOU get to choose which bucket you pour in the fire.
Oh Emily I love this.
I agree 100% with what you say, and I feel that that's how I like to do things. When my husband left for another woman, I was shocked and devastated. I thought our marriage was so good, and it was easy for the majority of the time. I've had to take a hard look at myself to see my part in all of that. Even though it has been the worst thing, it has pushed me to grow like no other. I'm determined to be a better person because of it.
Hey lisa ! I am in Greece on holiday telling my friend about you . We are both mental health professionals in the uk . I am so inspired by you and your journey and the content of your videos. She is going to subscribe to your channel. You are the most fabulous example of personal growth, empathy and strong womanhood ! Love ❤️
Lisa I feel my marriage is similar to yours except we’ve been married for 51 years. I live in Sydney Australia and have been in lockdown since June and it has really but a strain on our marriage he is used to playing bowls and seeing his mates, we are very social and enjoy our friends and going out to eat. I find I really have to keep quiet, hopefully things will change soon.
Whoa!!! That's many years of love and patience! lol!! I think that is just wonderful! 💞
Ugh, I know! They say the domestic abuse rates have gone up, not to mention the children 😩 I’m so sorry you all are on such strict lockdown ❤️ Lisa
Sit Down and Listen to Each Other With Out Interrupting One An Other,💝
One of the things that irks me is when people, particularly men that I don’t even know nor have met personally from social media would insert themselves giving me backhanded snide comments. They act as if I’m their wife or girlfriend and they just throw their insecurities and projections. I don’t tolerate that. Treat people how you want to be treated has been my go to motto. I don’t give anyone permission to treat me less than kind and I remove them out of the equation. The best advice I got from a secret service I know said to me “ Don’t follow them into their chaos” just own your power and retain your peace and surround myself with people who get me and value me. Respect is so important to me.
This was so helpful to me. I didn’t want to face my day or get out of bed. You have encouraged me beyond words. Thank you, Lisa.
In my 22 year relationship I’ve always known I’m more of the spark plug. I appreciate what you’ve said here. I have learned that using my power is to use if for good….. to not have to be “right” and to build up my man. It doesn’t mean i have to be silent by any means however we have much more productive conversations when i don’t react immediately. I take a pause and it truly does end up lovely.
Send them love “no matter what”. thank you for sharing 😊
Lisa, you are like a fine wine .. you get better with age.. love watching you, listening to you,and taking your advice and recommendations.. God Bless you and your family including those that have fur🥰🐈
Thank you Lisa! Such a valuable reminder of what’s really important in life 💕.
Great video with so much wisdom. Using kindness instead of anger usually gets a better response and most times that's exactly what the other party needs. It's hard sometimes to not just react with anger, but boy does it disarm someone when you are genuinely kind from the heart. I believe this is how we can be Disciples.
I watched this video yesterday and wanted to let you know I loved it. It truly helped me deal with a family member situation. You have such a positive attitude and that shows in each video. Thanks!!
I agree with most of what your saying. The only thing that may be different is if your spouse continually over reacts and then believes it’s okay to continue behaving this way because your apologetic and let it go time and time again.
Not saying you do this Lisa, using this example for myself and possibly others. Thank you for these videos. Very informative ❤️
My boss told me once “don’t fuel the fire” we both dealt with a lot of the public in our jobs however it helped me throughout my life in personal situations
I often say, “it’s no one’s business what I’m thinking”. Meaning, just because it’s my thoughts or feelings doesn’t mean I have to say it. My mother always said, “be kind to everyone. You never know what they go home to”. I’m Very quick witted and could cut anyone with my words. I CHOOSE not to. It’s not always easy! Sometimes I cry for what i have said. I have never cried for what I didn’t say.
Your quote “I’ve never cried for what I didn’t say” really resonates with me, and I’ll be carrying it with me going forward.
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Lisa, this video is going to help a lot of people! Thank you!!! 💝
When you feel upset, always look at a person’s good qualities and lovingly point it out to them that you know their beautiful qualities. Lots of forgiveness, lots of letting go, lots of replacing anger with memories of good qualities and soon enough you forget the fights and the problems you had with each other.
“Decide how your life’s going to be.” I love it!
Such a great subject….sure made me think about myself how I react!!! Thank you 🙏🏻
Such great advice Lisa , true power does definitely lie in self control. Managing our emotions is daily work.
What I really want is peace. ❤. I have chosen to think other people are not believing bad about me to better appreciate my personal power. 😌
This was a wonderful video Lisa! I have found that when we have love and compassion for ourselves its second nature to give it to others. I consciously choose to respond and not react. It doesnt mean I get it right all the time it means my awareness allows that alignment with my higher power. We are always growing, learning and evolving. This was your most relateable video for me. Each day I say: I am love and my love creates harmony and blessings. I was inspired to leave a comment as I felt more of a connection. Btw....I havent watched TV in over 15 years. My time is precious. Thank you for all the energy and love you put into your videos.
I agree with you 100% Lisa! This is a lesson that I’ve had to learn over the years, and it’s true that your power is not in your response but it’s within yourself. I have much to be grateful for, but I really had a rough life. After years of being neglected, taken advantage of, emotionally abused and terribly hurt - I learned to cope by defending myself and fighting back. However, I should’ve learned to set boundaries and walk away from toxic people. Eventually I did learn that and I have found my inner peace. I’m rebuilding some relationships and starting over in others. I think this peaceful approach is contagious because I’ve noticed as I change my response to people, those people are starting to change and approach me with more kindness. I guess you can say you reap what you sow. When you put out peace and joy people feel it and most times reciprocate the same way. I truly believe that most people really want to be kind and truly want to let go of their baggage. Beautiful message today Lisa, thank you. ~Susanne 😘💕🌈🌸🦋🍒🎀
Very good advice! This may not work with some difficult people but with fairly reasonable people I think it’s great!! I say this because I have a family member who is often very argumentative and difficult. This doesn’t always work with them but I’ve learned to just walk away. Sometimes with that one person nothing works unfortunately. I absolutely hate conflict.
Exactly, I know a few that will not be ignored, you just have to do the best you can, and just know you are doing what’s best for your sanity 🥰
This was a great topic and looking forward to others like this. My husband and I are both very reactive people. Most of our problems come from being a blended family. I am at that point where I just want to walk away because neither of us are willing to back down which is sad. This video did help me to realize that I don't have to win like this. Thank you Lisa.
Take a dee breath before you react and stay in the present… … always the best plan. You are so real Lisa and I love these videos mixed in with makeup and beauty. Love you!❤️
This was a great video! And yes please talk more about how carnivore has changed your life. I think this would be very helpful to a lot of us! 😊
I agree. I don’t feel it’s my job to “correct” everyone. I should correct myself when needed and move on lol.
I love this subject Lisa. I’m so bad at this type to my husband and after listening this from you, I told myself that I’m going to be better that’s not let myself get mad at my love one to respond anything he said or does. Thank you so much for helping us.😊
Lisa, BLESS YOU! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 this video/message could not have come at a better time. Game changer. Relationship changer. Life changer. This is exactly what I needed to hear. Please don’t stop creating videos like this. I know specifically with relationships, your message always resonates with me and helps me see things in a whole new perspective. Thank you so much for your time, energy, and sharing of wisdom. It’s been appreciated by me (and so many others) since 2008. THANK YOU!! 💗😭
Lisa, I want you to know how much your talks help me. I am just a few years younger than you, at 47. I live in CA but I am from North Carolina, I was born in Charlotte, and my parents and my extended family are all from the western Carolinas. My momma died when I was in my 30s, and I'm an only child. If I had a big sister to help me negotiate these middle years, she would sound like you. I am so lucky to have found my "John" and have a good marriage also. But your talks remind me of some things that are important during these years, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
100% agree....it takes a bigger person to walk away than to think they "won" by engaging in having the last word. There is a time to speak up and stay strong. Most often letting it go is your best bet. You feel better and leave them to think.
I love your videos like this! So so great! A helpful thing for stopping fights before they happen is to be very mindful of my voice. If I’m starting to raise my voice that is a sign to me that I need to pause and take a breath. I don’t want anyone screaming at me, and I certainly don’t want to be screaming at anyone else. The goal is to understand and be understood, not to be right! It really helped a lot in my relationship when we both agreed to a ‘no shouting’ rule.
I’m just catching up on your videos and I love your explanation on this topic! I used to run my mouth and realized how hurtful it was to my relationship with my husband. Now I try to think before I speak and am trying to dull that edge I used to have! You’re like the big sister I’ve never had! Thank you!
I really needed this right now💗 Thank you Lisa💗
This is so true Lisa. I had the happiest marriage for 20 years and this is the way we handled our relationship, always keeping in mind we love each other and are in the same team. If that’s the case, what’s the sense in “winning” a battle? Do you want to be right or be happy?. He died earlier this year and the loss is irreparable but, at least, I can honestly say I have no regrets. There was nothing unsaid. There is nothing I wish we did different. Sending hugs your way! ❤️ thanks for addressing such important matters.
Thank you for this Lisa!! I'm in a situation where I'm constantly pushed to be on the defensive and have become very reactive... It's so exhausting.
Sounds like you need to be done with that relationship.
This was a lesson I learned as well. I learned about grace and it is truly powerful.
Lisa you're words are so true! Bottom line communication when it's tied to honesty and being sincere, almost any situation you face with another will flourish. Of course like anything in life, being perfect will actually breed imperfection so slow and steady is the key. You look gorgeous today. You are so kind!
In the situations you mentioned i always tell myself (at least i try) “ i’d rather be happy than right”. & most of the time it works and we gain peace again & move on pretty quickly. Thank you for this video 💕
Radia Ket ... good point !
Hi Lisa! I'm not in the you tube world but always worked in the field of education. I've experienced back stabbing and negative comments about me in
that field of work as well. Wherever I go I see and hear negativity. People that are negative and/or mean obviously have some personal issues in their lives. Like
you said, usually the best way to respond is to say or do nothing. It's a good idea to simply eliminate these toxic people from your life.,...as I have done.
Also think of a person's capacity. We're all beautiful souls with aptitude in certain areas. We might have strong areas that we over focus on. At the same time we don't understand other people's strong areas. I'm raising sons and this is what I notice causes conflict the most. What's relevant and important to me is the least of their worries. It makes me stand back and wonder about the significance of it all. I think what's important here is etiquette. Making another person comfortable. And sometimes in relationships this is the part that is lacking. Enjoy your day 🌹
Love,love,love these kind of videos that you do. You could be a motivational Speaker ❤️
Good for you ! There needs to be more people .like you in this world .Less hate more peace keep up the good work Lisa .
Thank you Lisa this is what I'm learning to focus on understanding rather than to be understood. You put it so beautifully. There are many Teacher's but the key is to be able to carry it over in simplicity and you do it so well. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦
I absolutely loved this. Thank you so very much. God bless you ❤️💕🥰
Thank you so much Lisa, I listened to this twice.
Emerson Eggerichs- Love and Respect. If a man feels disrespected, he will be unloving, if a woman feels unloved, she will be disrespectful. This is the crazy cycle.
I don’t know how you do it but you have the BEST topics for videos. Whenever I have something on my mind, like magic you make a video about it not too long after. Love it ❤️❤️
I really really enjoyed this video. my job is at an answering service company and I cannot tell you how rude people can be to people trying to do their job and take a message for the company that they’re calling for. My job is to be efficient, take the message as quickly as I can and of course always be polite. There are moments that someone will be rude or yell at me for no reason at all and it sets me off and I have responded before I’ve even had a chance to realize that I shouldn’t have said what I said. This is something I’m currently working on is learning to control my reactions to somebody being rude to me and either not respond or kill them with kindness. It’s stopping my self before it’s already out of my mouth which is hard for me to be honest. But like you said, I don’t feel good afterwards, I worry about the possibility of what could happen with my job and it’s just not the person I want to be. Thank you so much for this video Lisa it’s giving me lots to think about. Lots of love Kelly💕
Wow perfect timing. ✨
Thank you for sharing! Especially that relationships don't have to be hard. The best relationships are not "hard". Great advice!
The older i get i realize being mad is a waste of time that we can never get back..
You nailed it with this video!! I am working all of these things in my new marriage.
Lisa I agree with you on everything that you said! I’ve been married 38 years and in my opinion it’s about respecting and listening to one another❤️❤️
I just love you!! Thank you for this message...it was very timely for me! ♥️
Hey Lisa, I just love these topics and look forward to hearing you talk more about the places people are rude. This resonates so much with me! xx Shaz
About John....I always smile when you show us an outfit, some new shoes, or handbag, and then tell us how much John loved it too! Not all, but many men would just say "ah ha" and basically blow their partner off. But John gives honest feedback to you, and compliments your style, hair, etc. I think this is so cool! 👍🏻
Love your videos Lisa!!! I’ve been married 23 years too… Great man advice & Life advice!! Also.. been carnivore for a month 1/2 .. thank you for sharing!! Love&light from California 💗💗
Awesome advice! I really learned from this. Thank you for sharing!
I always love to hear your perspective on different life topics! I appreciate your wisdom and hope to learn from you. Have a fantastic day!
Wow Lisa you are very good at this!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🤩
Thanks Lisa, great reminders and advice. I’ve been married since 98 and can total relate to everything you said. “Full Control” and wanting peace is powerful. Cute outfit of the day! Just ordered the YSL foundation you recommended a while back from Sephora at 20% off that ends at midnight!
I absolutely love this video. I need to re-evaluate how I respond to my ex-husband and people after being in a horrible marriage I instantly want to defend myself which often times creates a negative situation. Thanks so much for talking from your heart! I have been watching you from the beginning and always thought you were the sweetest!
This was great! It is all about our thinking and how we choose to think about situations. Like right now, I am not happy with the way I look and my weight. Sometimes when I am trying things on, I look in the mirror and I think "wow, I look terrible". Or, I can change that and think, "ok, I'm not looking the way I want to right now" and that is a much kinder approach to myself and a more optimistic view. Everything starts with our thoughts!
Lisa is right. Give up the need to be right. Just 😌 relax.
So true Lisa, I've never had any major issues in my relationships but we can always keep growing and evolving 💓💓💓
👏👏👏👏👏 And it’s not even Wednesday!!!
Every moment of every day we make choices as to what version of ourselves we’re going to be. I want to be the best possible version of myself. That means not immediately reacting to something, but waiting a second and choosing my response. Our life is not all about us. It is about everyone whose life we touch. ❤️
Best RUclips video I’ve watched. Ever. You put it in such a great way with thoughtfulness & kindness. Going to watch this again & again. Thank you!! 🥰
You are so wise and such a precious Godly woman. I have the ultimate respect for you ands how successful you are in your chosen profession.
You give THE BEST advice. You have a wonderful way of helping others to really think about things. ThankYou Thank You Thank You🙂🌺
Lisa you are so WISE! Thank you for this! ❤️
Thank you for sharing that happens quite often and I always overreact with a bad temper so I need to watch that thank you
such a GREAT video subject and advice, Lisa!!!!! thank you❤️
Loved this Lisa! Our power really is in how we choose to react in any and every situation. ✌️ ❤️ the only thing we can control is how we behave. And that is powerful.
You really helped me so much today. I have been married 51 years and we are remodeling our house. I really thought our marriage was not going to survive it but maybe there is hope. Thank you so much.
This is such sage advice Lisa. Great video😘
This is my favorite background in your new house.
I'd rather be happy than right any day! Love these videos, TYSM
Can you do how to know if you’re in a toxic friendship and how to fix the situation?
Love these videos! You are wise Lisa!
Love your background in the room 💜