I have been a Baptist preacher since 1988. I have ran into so many Pastors who take the view you mention in this video to disqualify others. I am divorced due to my wife leaving for another man, divorcing me and marring him. They say the divorce is my fault and hold it against me, but hold her blameless. This is the best teaching on divorce I have ever heard. Thank you brother Roy for taking an honest look at the scriptures and telling the truth. I really enjoy what you are doing here on youtube. I will keep you in my prayers.
A lot of self-righteous Independent Baptist pull that garbage, as I was raised IB, but somehow seem to overlook the abandonment allowance that Paul talks about.
@@philipdru9290 I wish we could speak privately. I highly enjoy your content, and trust your opinions. I feel you are coming straight from God's word. That is a standard I believe in, and one I am finding hard to come by in my area.
My dear Brother, I have never heard this topic explained in such clear detail. Whenever it came up in corporate study or from the pulpit, it was “explained short and sweet” with limited scripture and men’s opinions. I never could get anything defining. I always felt I was left wanting more. Something didn’t add up. Thank you for clarifying this subject Biblically. You are a blessing. PTL!
This is a much needed message. So many divorced people are ostracized in the church today. Divorced men cannot be deacons and divorced women cannot even help in the nursery because of the unforgivable stigma of divorce.
I understand what Paul was saying in his letter to the Corinthians. However, church leaders act as though the unforgivable sin is divorce. How legalistic. I know that church leaders must account to God for what they teach. I know that they are under double discipline for their stances that are unrighteous. In this day when churches struggle to find qualified teachers and volunteers it has been interesting to watch as their "standards" get bent and misused, depending on their PERSONAL opinion above the Scriptures - - no discussion, nothing. They seem to do it with no twinge of conscience. When leadership decides that the BIGGEST reason for membership is for the right to "discipline" members, I do get a bit agitated. I cannot be too harsh with leadership. Almost every Baptist child grew up, knowing what Paul said about divorce. It is the church's stance; it is what the Bible says. I knew that when I got a divorce. I knew what the Bible says about divorce when I chose to re-marry. I informed my newly saved intended the reality of service in the church because of divorce. Nothing is too much of a surprise surrounding this issue because the Bible explains God's stance pretty clearly. I think it is not correct to look for loopholes in what the Bible says. Too often, I see the double standard being applied which precludes service in the church because of some extra curricular prejudices. The issue is settled for me (for my own personal accountability) by the fact that God has saved me and I am accountable to him for how I serve Him. I thank God that He sees service outside of the walls of a church building, as long as it is done as unto the Lord (and, is legal, moral, and ethical) I can serve, using the gifts and abilities He has given me. The church building is not the Kingdom of God. I have found that I can serve others without looking for any authority other than the Father. The positions inside the church building are not the only place God can use me. No sour grapes, here - - just dealing with reality.
In my case, I couldn't be a photographer at church events because I was divorced and divorced means you are useless to society and forced into a life of lonliness and misery... kinda the opposite of that whole love, joy, and procreate thing that the very same preachers preach on in the very same week they make sure you know you're new place in the world as a useless divorced human that failed to force another human into compliance.
Thank you so much for doing this video! I just spent forty something minutes in the new year 2025 listening to this very informative teaching. I could not sleep as I started to think about what you would be talking about in your video, so I got up anne went into the living room to listen. So glad I did, and I am very appreciative to the Lord God and to you. I've been afraid to think of ever loving again. In the book of proverbs, it says wives are a crown to their husbands. I was tossed out like yesterday's garbage. The Lord Jesus came and picked me up and has been taking care of me since. Happy blessed New Year to you, brother Roy!
I've been focused on this subject for a few years now and this is the best, most comprehensive video on youtube. Hands down. Thank you! I've listened to some of your videos before so I made the mistake of thinking you were one of those who tried to force others into believing the doctrine as you were trained to believe it. TY for being among the open-minded! I'm beginning to hate religion, just happy that I'm too in touch with God to turn into an atheist.
My wife was married two times before me, both divorces where do to sexual immorality, and I was married once before, divorced because of sexual immorality, I know we are both saved, sealed until the day of redemption . Amen
ANYTHING that comes out of the mouth of the RCC always is Faulty, Incorrect, Idolatry, Misleading and Threatening. HOW any thinking intelligent Katholic can remain in this abomination, baffles me. Brother Roy, as usual, your sermons slice through the Falsity and shine God's Light to illuminate the Real Bible Truth in all matters! AMEN.
Super difficult subject but thank you for giving us a walk through of the verses. Did Dr. Ruckman write a book about this? I know he was divorced so I wondered what he said about it.
I've been married and divorced twice. I wasn't a believer for the first, but was saved before the second. However, the second wife was, in my opinion, not as saved as she professed. In fact, she was pretty evil. My interpretation of scriptures was that I was done. I've been living a celibate, extremely lonely life since then. I've been of the opinion that I must spend the rest of my life alone. Are you saying this may not be the case?
1 Corinthians 7:2 KJV - Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. You're going to have to really pray and seek God on this for your own life, but one thing I've noticed is that Paul wanted believers to be married so that they would avoid fornication. One of the worst things is for someone to sin in this area because it is a sin against their own body. So then the question is what is the difference between marriage and fornication?
So for example, if someone has been divorced a few times and has said that they "never want to get married again", but then they choose to "shack up" with someone else that has been divorced and say that they are now "married in their hearts", that is "marriage"? Even lost people today seem to purposely avoid legal marriage because they know that it's a commitment and other people don't truly view "boyfriend/girlfriend" as actually married when they aren't legally married.
It is Biblically a marriage, but it is not obeying the laws of man and is therefore rebellion and a poor testimony. Kind of like being saved, but not going to church and living right.
My ex wife divorced me eight years ago. I have been saved since early adulthood, and I sure that she was as well or I wouldn’t have married her. There was no adultery in our marriage. Anyway, she deserted me, but what if she was saved when she deserted me?
IN the modern 'church', worse than adultery , divorce and remarriage is getting to old age without ever being married. Obviously something very wrong with such people as I.
1Ti 3:2 What about that in those days men were marrying more then one wife? The old testament has lots of those examples.So where they marriages that were condoned by God?
I attend a mens Bible study for the first time in years men only i was surprised how many of the 10 or so that attend had been divorced 2 and 3 times never asked any them why but a lot of these guys are politicaly liberal or vote for proabortion canidates i don't understand it some have remarried someone that been divorced his first marriage try not judge these guys some are going thru a divorce currently i have no idea what to say to these guys its' heart breaking
I'm sorry but if you profess to love Christ you also love life and would never take one. There is evil out there that some cannot wrap their minds around. There are many who claim to be 'Christians' but they are not. Cognitive dissonance is a spell. Narcissism is a spell... just because they call themselves Christians and hold bible study doesn't mean that they are like Christ. Apolyo and apostasion have absolutely nothing to do with murder. Except... imagine how many evil people will contemplate murder for the sake of appearances in the holy building? Lot of that going on these days... murder, alternative lives, all sorts of mayhem is caused by RELIGION. We have to find a way to get away from religion, it's killing us!
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I have been a Baptist preacher since 1988. I have ran into so many Pastors who take the view you mention in this video to disqualify others. I am divorced due to my wife leaving for another man, divorcing me and marring him. They say the divorce is my fault and hold it against me, but hold her blameless. This is the best teaching on divorce I have ever heard. Thank you brother Roy for taking an honest look at the scriptures and telling the truth. I really enjoy what you are doing here on youtube. I will keep you in my prayers.
A lot of self-righteous Independent Baptist pull that garbage, as I was raised IB, but somehow seem to overlook the abandonment allowance that Paul talks about.
@@philipdru9290 I wish we could speak privately. I highly enjoy your content, and trust your opinions. I feel you are coming straight from God's word. That is a standard I believe in, and one I am finding hard to come by in my area.
My dear Brother, I have never heard this topic explained in such clear detail. Whenever it came up in corporate study or from the pulpit, it was “explained short and sweet” with limited scripture and men’s opinions. I never could get anything defining. I always felt I was left wanting more. Something didn’t add up. Thank you for clarifying this subject Biblically. You are a blessing. PTL!
Amen Brother Roy! You and Brother Breaker are the only two who explain this correctly!
Charles Lawson does too.
wow! was confused in my understanding of this and didn’t even know it! praise the Lord! thank you, brother roy!
This is a much needed message. So many divorced people are ostracized in the church today. Divorced men cannot be deacons and divorced women cannot even help in the nursery because of the unforgivable stigma of divorce.
I understand what Paul was saying in his letter to the Corinthians.
However, church leaders act as though the unforgivable sin is divorce. How legalistic.
I know that church leaders must account to God for what they teach. I know that they are under double discipline for their stances that are unrighteous. In this day when churches struggle to find qualified teachers and volunteers it has been interesting to watch as their "standards" get bent and misused, depending on their PERSONAL opinion above the Scriptures - - no discussion, nothing. They seem to do it with no twinge of conscience.
When leadership decides that the BIGGEST reason for membership is for the right to "discipline" members, I do get a bit agitated.
I cannot be too harsh with leadership. Almost every Baptist child grew up, knowing what Paul said about divorce. It is the church's stance; it is what the Bible says.
I knew that when I got a divorce. I knew what the Bible says about divorce when I chose to re-marry. I informed my newly saved intended the reality of service in the church because of divorce. Nothing is too much of a surprise surrounding this issue because the Bible explains God's stance pretty clearly. I think it is not correct to look for loopholes in what the Bible says.
Too often, I see the double standard being applied which precludes service in the church because of some extra curricular prejudices.
The issue is settled for me (for my own personal accountability) by the fact that God has saved me and I am accountable to him for how I serve Him. I thank God that He sees service outside of the walls of a church building, as long as it is done as unto the Lord (and, is legal, moral, and ethical) I can serve, using the gifts and abilities He has given me. The church building is not the Kingdom of God.
I have found that I can serve others without looking for any authority other than the Father. The positions inside the church building are not the only place God can use me. No sour grapes, here - - just dealing with reality.
In my case, I couldn't be a photographer at church events because I was divorced and divorced means you are useless to society and forced into a life of lonliness and misery... kinda the opposite of that whole love, joy, and procreate thing that the very same preachers preach on in the very same week they make sure you know you're new place in the world as a useless divorced human that failed to force another human into compliance.
Well said brother, this is what renewing of mind means in Romans 12:2.
Thank you so much for doing this video! I just spent forty something minutes in the new year 2025 listening to this very informative teaching. I could not sleep as I started to think about what you would be talking about in your video, so I got up anne went into the living room to listen. So glad I did, and I am very appreciative to the Lord God and to you. I've been afraid to think of ever loving again. In the book of proverbs, it says wives are a crown to their husbands. I was tossed out like yesterday's garbage. The Lord Jesus came and picked me up and has been taking care of me since.
Happy blessed New Year to you, brother Roy!
I've been focused on this subject for a few years now and this is the best, most comprehensive video on youtube. Hands down. Thank you! I've listened to some of your videos before so I made the mistake of thinking you were one of those who tried to force others into believing the doctrine as you were trained to believe it. TY for being among the open-minded! I'm beginning to hate religion, just happy that I'm too in touch with God to turn into an atheist.
Got me a Loving Savior Who gave me a Perfect Bible! All the answers are in that Book, not religion! Amen Sister!
@oldschoolbiblebaptist an answer my pastor would have given too
Sure wish I would have noticed this before Roy!!!! I am glad I am single now after years .... I am 67 and put my faith in the Lord!
I am 65 and been praying for a wife since I got out of prison three and a half years ago.
Appreciate the message.
My wife was married two times before me, both divorces where do to sexual immorality, and I was married once before, divorced because of sexual immorality, I know we are both saved, sealed until the day of redemption . Amen
Thanks for the wise advice and guidance. God bless you man!
Very well laid out brother.
ANYTHING that comes out of the mouth of the RCC always is Faulty, Incorrect, Idolatry, Misleading and Threatening. HOW any thinking intelligent Katholic can remain in this abomination, baffles me.
Brother Roy, as usual, your sermons slice through the Falsity and shine God's Light to illuminate the Real Bible Truth in all matters! AMEN.
“Better to marry than to burn.”
Super difficult subject but thank you for giving us a walk through of the verses. Did Dr. Ruckman write a book about this? I know he was divorced so I wondered what he said about it.
Yes he did, Google it.
I've been married and divorced twice. I wasn't a believer for the first, but was saved before the second. However, the second wife was, in my opinion, not as saved as she professed. In fact, she was pretty evil. My interpretation of scriptures was that I was done. I've been living a celibate, extremely lonely life since then. I've been of the opinion that I must spend the rest of my life alone. Are you saying this may not be the case?
Absolutely not the case!
@@oldschoolbiblebaptist Okay, I'll watch. :)
@@danawaldrop4930 Probably like what you hear....
1 Corinthians 7:2 KJV - Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
You're going to have to really pray and seek God on this for your own life, but one thing I've noticed is that Paul wanted believers to be married so that they would avoid fornication. One of the worst things is for someone to sin in this area because it is a sin against their own body. So then the question is what is the difference between marriage and fornication?
@believestthouthis7 Fornication is when you don't dwell for life with the one you just joined flesh with.
Amen Bro........
So for example, if someone has been divorced a few times and has said that they "never want to get married again", but then they choose to "shack up" with someone else that has been divorced and say that they are now "married in their hearts", that is "marriage"? Even lost people today seem to purposely avoid legal marriage because they know that it's a commitment and other people don't truly view "boyfriend/girlfriend" as actually married when they aren't legally married.
It is Biblically a marriage, but it is not obeying the laws of man and is therefore rebellion and a poor testimony. Kind of like being saved, but not going to church and living right.
My ex wife divorced me eight years ago. I have been saved since early adulthood, and I sure that she was as well or I wouldn’t have married her. There was no adultery in our marriage. Anyway, she deserted me, but what if she was saved when she deserted me?
Desertion is desertion. Marriage broken. Flesh left flesh.
@@oldschoolbiblebaptistThank you. But doesn’t the desertion scripture passage depict an unbelieving spouse deserting a believing spouse?
@jamesgeorge65 Yes, that is the context of the passage but does not negate the rest of the Scripture covered.
Amen!
IN the modern 'church', worse than adultery , divorce and remarriage is getting to old age without ever being married. Obviously something very wrong with such people as I.
In other words - when you have sex, you're married.
Yup!
1Ti 3:2 What about that in those days men were marrying more then one wife? The old testament has lots of those examples.So where they marriages that were condoned by God?
@@mudtrack1 It was always trouble, and never God's perfect will.
I attend a mens Bible study for the first time in years men only i was surprised how many of the 10 or so that attend had been divorced 2 and 3 times never asked any them why but a lot of these guys are politicaly liberal or vote for proabortion canidates i don't understand it some have remarried someone that been divorced his first marriage try not judge these guys some are going thru a divorce currently i have no idea what to say to these guys its' heart breaking
Say nothing. They will stand at the Judgment Seat of Christ and be accountable to the good and bad.
I'm sorry but if you profess to love Christ you also love life and would never take one. There is evil out there that some cannot wrap their minds around. There are many who claim to be 'Christians' but they are not. Cognitive dissonance is a spell. Narcissism is a spell... just because they call themselves Christians and hold bible study doesn't mean that they are like Christ. Apolyo and apostasion have absolutely nothing to do with murder. Except... imagine how many evil people will contemplate murder for the sake of appearances in the holy building? Lot of that going on these days... murder, alternative lives, all sorts of mayhem is caused by RELIGION. We have to find a way to get away from religion, it's killing us!
Is there a good book on this subject?
Great one by Dr. RUCKMAN
Talk to God about it. No where else will you get the truth so elequently explained!
So, have you been married more than once?
Not yet! But I am lookin!