I never really looked at myself as having a hero complex, but rather it's what you are supposed to do. If someone is in trouble I should help them, because if I was in trouble I would want someone to help me. It's kind of like an extention of treat other people the way you want to be treated.
@Leah M I've met plenty of non Christian individuals with morals. Some even Athiests, who are nice and good just because, not because they think they have to be because they will go to hell, they are just good.
@T K ok, don't imply anyone who's not a Christian is a bad person/evil/immoral. This isn't the 18th century, sure Christians can be good just to be good. That's not uncommon. But there are A LOT of bad Christians in history
@T K Acutaully there are alot of non christian ppl in america and its still a good thing to help ppl. Like im an athiests and most of the ppl i know are athiests and they would do the same thing. If someone is in trouble you should help them
I don't even understand not being able to customize your food order. Especially at a place like Subway. Making the sandwich YOU want is the entire point.
That's the way Subway market's itself here in the U.S. that may not be the case everywhere else in the world where they have resturants. Companies do take cultural differences into account when doing business overseas
I never realized how American this is until all three of them had like a visceral reaction to being told to "just pull it out." That's so much work with Subway compared to like McDonalds which uses bigger slices. :(
K- preface this- with apology, i'm NOT trying to even fo political here, just a history, and the people of my nation lover! ✌promise!✌i just really don't think being extra helpful falls comes down to the hero complex, and i have lived all over the world (sadly not Korea 😞)not that it's not a thing, mind you but... talking a look at the Puritans who game over and a Nation that cultivated the principles of, well, i'l call "indepent collectivism" ce from ahead- England... aaaaaannndd i think u can say with confidence.... the Puritans and politicos who originally settled Jamestown and the like probably knew helping each other out (and being Naive American myself, does make this potentially ironic, but i also love history and my country- PS. A TON of us Indigenous folk legit will be some of the most patriotic you can meet know.... if course, i'm Cherokee so didn't completely loose several lands. We hid in the hills baby!😋) i think the settlers, up against the sheer land bulk and unsanitary of America knew helping was the only means of survival- not to mention a lot of settlers escaped to practice their form of Christianity freely.... so, while i have mixed feelings about the whole settlers thing and kicking my ancestors to the curb- i'm still a piece of the American melting pot made beautiful by all its varied races and regions. That's something to, i think, feel pride in and wish to hold on to. (Please pardon long reply- no criticism intended here i'm a lover of all people's perspectives! So don't take the wrong way and let's play nice ✌💖honor and really respect everyone here!
Actually, I bet there's a really good conversation that could be had around with peoples current obsession with superheroes. Especially Americans. It's like we finally realized that our government weren't the heroes we were indoctrinated to believe they were and are now looking to fictional heroes for escape.
@@StephenKershaw1 its not immature its like if you get hurt you're going to say " ow" or "ah" or something similar, its our reaction to something instead of saying that's cute or adorable.
@stephen kershaw you’re being immature and closed-minded by saying that. that’s how those specific people grew up and it comes naturally to them. there’s nothing wrong with having a natural reaction to something. so let’s respect people’s cultures and differences :)
kiara I totally agree with you! I mean if someone sees an adorable puppy and just stares at it straight faced and doesn’t care, ima think you’re a sociopath lol😹
Absolutely correct but do you really trust that the cooks are really going to do everything that they should be doing? Especially if a chef is not in the kitchen at that moment to double check everything. Not even talking about fast food here an actual restaurant. List of things that are supposed to happen for allergies - Wash/rinse/sanitize the line including expo window/serving prep area Wash hands New Gloves New utensils for food cooking New ingredients from backup (not from line) Wash hands New Gloves In flattop is used to cook food this needs to be degreased/cleaned before food is cooked - Most places will just cook in a separate pan if they have the ability Wash hands New Gloves Rewashed/sanitized plates/silverware (not from stack on line or the pre-wrapped silverware from the beginning of shift) Wash/rinse/sanitize serving tray Wash hands New Gloves Allergy order on separate tray from other food If you believe a cook is going to do all of that while getting in others orders if a chef/manager is not looking over the process you are ignorant. Now do you trust the teenager in the fast food restaurant with no culinary experience to understand let alone do that for your order? I can tell you right now I feel lucky to not have any allergies and even without that I don't trust eating out unless at upper scale restaurants (and I make my living from this sector.) I have seen way to much that goes on in a kitchen if someone is not there to correct it. Very few people actually care that their actions (or inactions) can cause people pain/death.
@@michaelpowell4823 I have friends that are so deadly allergic that if a food touches shellfish of any kind or are cooked in the same oils, he'll bloat up like a puffer fish in seconds. You have to trust them or ppl like him die in your store. Then that's bad publicity for them, you pay out huge $$ to his family and you lose business, it's a lose lose for them not to consider that person's allergies. That's why here in the US there are so many food laws and regulations.
@@davidmorton6406 Yes I know this, but again to trust anyone in a kitchen is putting your life in their hands. The majority of the time there is not a chef/manager in the kitchen. If the restaurant even has shellfish on the menu, if I was him, I wouldn't eat in that restaurant. It doesn't matter that you would sue them and they are liable; the average cook doesn't care enough to do what they need to do, in my experience. But we all know that everyone always follows laws/regulations.
The Hero Complex is real. When I was younger, working with my father's landscaping company, two cars pulled into the drive way of the house we were at, and two people got out. The young guy in the second car starts yelling at the older guy from the first car. They stood face to face with the young guy yelling and flailing his arms. Without saying a word my dad and I stop what we are doing and start to walk toward them. Since it was just yelling (nothing physical) we stood listening to the young guy vent his anger. I think it was a case of "road rage". They both got in their cars and drive away, nothing really happened, the young guy just yelled. As they drove away my dad said, "I thought I was going to have to break up those two idiots." My dad is quiet and not a big guy, but when you see something... you do something about it...
I admire that, too, especially in men. I'm a small girl and if I saw something about to go down I definitely would want to step in and stop whatever is going to happen. At the same time I'd be afarid to get in the middle because they would be able to easily turn on me and crush me. So my best chance would be to have my phone handy just in case I need to call the police or something. 😊
About the custom orders thing. we have a saying that goes "i'm not begging, i'm buying". not giving customers options is treating them like beggers because "beggers can't be choosers".
It’s also just engraved in American society that we are saviors to the world and need to help everyone because we are better. The hero complex is actually a really tricky issue and not always a good characteristic
You do realize that us American people can’t really control what the government or president decide to do, we can’t force the government to aid other countries. Trust if we could the majority of us would. I’ve met very few Americans who aren’t helpful, and are bystanders. Yes, of course there are bystanders, there are everywhere, but what does aid to other countries have to do with us as people? Sure we vote for who’s in charge, but after that we kind of have no say in the decisions they make. Sorry if this is all over the place, and don’t take this the wrong way lol 😂 im not tryna be an asshole
Stephen Kershaw no not a shit whole, we still have a lot of freedoms and opportunities that a lot of other countries don’t, and most of the news that is broadcasted is either fake news or news with an agenda ( “White cop shots unarmed black man” why couldn’t it just say cop shots unarmed man?), however our justice system is complete shit once you become a felon you more than likely will not find a job good enough to afford the price of living, so they end up selling drugs or stealing and eventually back in jail. America is the land of opportunity though, as long as you apply yourself you literally can be anything you want to be, that’s the best thing about my country.
AMERICANS aren’t the types to stand around and film. Blue State City Slickers are... Just about all the videos I can recall like that are from cities on the west coast, or north east.
My sister is allergic to tomatoes. If she just “takes out” the tomatoes she will still have an allergic reaction because the tomatoes have already touched the rest of her food.
So about the "order customizing" There are several reasons why this is in American culture. 1: Tipping Culture + Service Standards 2: Individualization 3: Health Conditions 4: Religious Freedom You guys went over the first 2 so the last two are what I'll talk about. Being a melting pot there are some things health wize that we gain. Instead of our food being contaminated with something that we individually can't eat we ask it to be removed. For example, my friend is allergic to canned pineapples but can eat regular pineapples. If she goes somewhere and wants a burger with teriyaki sauce on it, these burgers usually come with pineapples, she can either ask for sauce on the side or ask for the burger with out the pineapple. Religious freedom is one of our main rights and some religions have specific dietary restrictions. So asking them to go to another place is denying them those rights. And...yeah we can't do that in America. Because we won't just ask people their reasons for a custom order we just accept it as part of our society.
Well said, my daughter is also allergic to pineapples, so anything cthat contains, any form of pineapples she cannot have. My son is allergic to cashew nuts but not any other type. So we have to be mindful that what you want and will wait can be deadly to someone else.
Very well put, it’s crazy to me that they can’t choose what’s on their sandwich. I know so many picky eaters, who panick if certain foods they don’t like even touch something they want to eat lol
I think that people are using the term hero complex incorrectly. A hero complex is someone who believes they are able to solve any problem, or will even go so far as creating a situation to solve. What you are referring to is just people being willing to help those in need. We should all be that way. Wouldn't the world be a wonderful place if we were all willing to step up and help someone in need.
It's not a hero complex. Most of us want to HELP when we see an urgent need or emergency - and lots of places have 'Good Samaritan' laws, where you can get into trouble if you DON'T help. ...........which was also in Seinfeld.
It's interesting to hear the practice of helping strangers referred to as the Hero Concept. I don't hold the door open for strangers because I want to be seen as a hero, I do it because in our culture you're considered a bit of an asshole if you don't. Someone falls, you help them up. Someone is trying to figure out something you know how to do (e.g., how to get the bus to stop) you tell them. You hear someone choking in a restaurant, you don't think, "Ooh, I'm going to be the hero who helps" you think, "Please stop choking, I don't want to have to do the Heimlich maneuver" but you will if you have to. I don't help strangers because I want to be a hero, I help strangers because I don't want to think of myself as a selfish jerk.
Frenchie here : we basically have the same sound for cute things as well as the famous "ohlala" (🙈), and in France, not helping someone in danger (non-assistance à personne en danger) is a crime ! So we also have to help if we can (: ! For customized orders, I just think it's less wasteful. There's no need to throw away food not to hurt someone's ego... If I can't eat it, please remove it ^^' !
Okay just taking things off doesn’t work for food allergies. Also like pickels for example. They’re kept in pickle juice. When you take it out of the pickle juice and put it on the sandwich, the juice also gets all over the sandwich. Therefore, the pickle taste is still on the sandwich. Why can’t hey just simply not put pickles on it in the first place?? It doesn’t take any more time and if anything it makes their job easier because it’s just one less thing they have to do. Also people with eating disorders or picky eaters can’t just take things off sometimes.
Rachel you've got to give awwwww a chance. But yes, these guys know their home A Mur ka. In some states it is actually illegal to not give help of some kind, if you let someone die you could get charged with manslaughter.
Yep, if you can help and you don't, you can be charged with manslaughter. If you are trying to help and you accidentally do something that actually hurts the person more, they look at what you KNOW. For example, if a licensed Nurse stopped to help someone and they do something that, because of their medical training, they should have known NOT to do, they can get in trouble. If you are just a regular person with no medical training at all and you do the same thing, you will NOT get in trouble because you didn't know it would hurt the person.
I do think our custom orders get a little out of control! I think I embarrass my hubby at Starbucks sometimes for my custom orders, LoL! 🤣🤣🤣 ps. Love u Rachel!
Haha! I said the same thing out loud. “Another Southerner!” That’s just what we do. Southerners always love to find other Southerners. It’s like they’re family.
What you labeled the Hero Complex probably has some cultural/ethical origins from the Bible: the commandment to love your neighbor and the story of the Good Samaritan.
The half smile killed me. I'm a definite southerner, and I do the half smile and will just be like "hi" any time someone is near me or is walking up to me. It's awkward but like normal at the same time.
American fast food chains have spent the last forty years actively encouraging customers to custom-order. There have been multiple advertising campaigns centered around it. Slogans. Jingles.
Hello am British and we also say aww and talk to strangers all the time but I feel like we do that more then Americans also we help anyone because as a child we are always taught that if someone needs help we should always go help that person no matter what.
If we punish people for helping other people in need, that's Really messed up. It is truly a Shame that it happens sometimes. I strongly believe people should help each other and that's the real Korean spirit. What I was talking about in the video was more of, "Don't get into stupid fights that'll put you in troubles. it's not worth it."
Lol...almost choked on my breakfast from laughing. Mikole, Rachel, your friendship shines through. Keep up the funny content, a laugh could make someones whole day.
I don't think she thinks the word "aww" is strange. It sounds like she's referring to the vocal fluctuation/tone change that occurs when we say awww. The tone goes down and then back up. ahh-AHH. Most exclamations have an even tone, even if they're high pitched tones. And English isn't known for having a fluctuating tone so that might be strange to hear- especially if that's the ONLY time you hear it.
One of the things I was looking forward to when coming to Korea was no small talk, but for foreigners people still sometimes come up and randomly talk to us because they want to practice English
The "hero complex" is just manners. It's something we are taught from a young age. The idea is that we should treat others the way we want to be treated. If something bad were happening to yourself, you'd want help, so you give help when someone else needs it. We also associate strangers with people we know. For example, if we see someone being rude to a grandmother, we step in because we wouldn't want someone to speak to our own grandmother that way. A lot of people also don't want "the blood on their hands" should they not prevent something and it result it harm to someone.
Hey,everybody. My dad had a store. U.S.A. 'The customer is always right.' No. He taught me that If the customer is being reasonable, then try your best to accommodate. If they are being nuts, don't. Ordering: Dear food shop owner: you are lucky that I picked your store in which to spend my hard-earned $. You win, the other food shops lose. So, .... A sandwich; (maybe Subway), 1) it's my money, so, of course I want it the way I like it. Sure would be strange to get a sandwich made the way someone else wants it! It is not demanding at all to not want cucumbers. 2) it is a fresh-made shop, not a pre-made sandwich shop. Duh. That is why I picked Subway. 3) if the person behind the counter makes it a way that they want, then, they can buy it. No problem. 4) if the person making it looks at me with a bad look when I say what I like and don't like, then, they should quit the job at Subway. They just 'don't get it.' 5) making the food with only my few ingredients is faster and easier than the time needed to put in everything in the counter. The person behind the counter might even feel thanks to me for being fast and easy. 6) I don't remove the stuff I don't want. That is stupid and wastes food. Simply don't put it in. Again, duh. Have a great day, folks. Peace out from Taipei.
I agree with pretty much everything, except #5. The default option is to put everything, so you develop muscle memory and do it faster and more accurately. Leaving out something means you have to stop and think. However, we are talking about only a few seconds, so it shouldn't be a problem. It's more of a problem in places, where they make things ready to serve, not so much if you make it by order. The whole concept Subway has is made-for-you, so I do find it peculiar, if there's this kind of difference between countries, but that might be due to differences in the customer base and culture.
@@benkalem Yo, Chauncer, sup. Ahh, muscle memory. Tks 4 the reply. You are correct. I only found one word here silly..'demanding.' That's all. Yeah, my local Subway is made-your-way and I love it/them. Here is a hack I showed my friends in Taipei. Don't know where else it may work..my pals say it is not ok at all taipei shops, but, try it. Save money, get meals for later in the day.. One I have bought my first 6 inch sub, 105 Taiwan dollars, 3.30 bucks, U.S., it is time for extra meat. But, I ask to not have it in the sub, I will put it in at home.( Not really.) I get the 6 inch overloaded with pickles, olives..take them out at home, put in a bowl. i order 2 more extra meat, 1 chicken and 1 tuna, in the bowls at the store. Extra meat each is 39 Taiwan dollars, U.S. $1.30. Boom. A snack later of tuna with my added olives and another snack, both cheap, chicken and pickles. C Ya later.
@@mikeryan2319 I dunno, dude. Going through all that trouble to "hack" the system... If saving money is the goal, might as well just learn to cook and keep some basic, cheap ingredients at home! But I get your point, and something like that might be a good strategy if you are out of town or something. Unlike customers think, they aren't paying for the ingredients (the shop buys them), they are paying for the product, which includes the food, service, and labor costs etc. Any extra time spent on any one order is money you could've made from other orders, so that has to show somewhere. That's why many places will have pretty significant costs attached to any extra stuff you might wanna order. They got bills to pay, just like everyone else.
@@benkalem Yeah, man, you are right. I actually don't hit my house. In Taipei, I haven't used my kitchen in 9 years. We all just buy on the street and roll to work and bounce the city all day. Gosh, my friends laugh at me cuz i don't like Chinese food and i live here. Oh well, it just smells bad to me. I am in Taipei for the pretty, friendly women. 24 years now from the U.S.A. Boy, do i appreciate having a lunch sack full of fresh cut tomatoes, pickles, onions, olives from Subway any old time. My store gets me my extra meat in 15 seconds and then roll. Have a good one.
Some states have a "Bystander Law" that if you see someone in trouble and you are able to help you are legally obligated to do so... That doesn't mean you have to put yourself in danger (calling for help is usually enough) but if you choose to not to help and watch someone get hurt or die without helping, you can be tried for a crime of negligence.
@@4hrbigos 4hr, right. And, a second Seinfeld mention. One in this video and your post brings up the last Seinfeld episode. (jailed for not helping) Cool. Helping is good.
@@4hrbigos I'm *pretty* sure that was made up for the Seinfeld finale, because that would be both unenforceable and unconstitutional. Some jurisdictions do have "Good Samaritan" laws, but those don't force you to help (o r even call for help) - they keep you from being sued if you try to help and it goes poorly. There's one exception: "mandatory reporting" for school personnel, medical professionals, and a very few others. If they suspect a child is being abused, they are legally required to report it to their local Child & Family Services office. But those "mandatory reporter" laws wouldn't be necessary if there were a more general law imposing the same obligation on the general public, so the fact that the former exist is a strong hint that the latter do not.
I will just toss this in..the last Seinfeld was the only bad Seinfeld. I hated that episode. They had to invent a reason to bring back lots of old characters.
The coughing thing is more of a thing people do as a joke or on tv. I have never heard of it being seriously in real life. Also I feel like the half smile thing is something more common with men. The hero thing is very true. One of the things I love most about our country. If you ever need help with something or you're in trouble someone will help you. Really enjoyed your video. I love how curious you are about other countries and cultures. Thank you for taking the time to make this. Lots of love from America!
The Hero Complex thing is something we hear very often. In New York (where I live) every time I take the subway there would always be this announcement on the train: “When you see something, say something.” There are also many ads around promoting this idea of “help others and don’t stay quiet if you see something.”
@@DarkMidgit177 I dont keep up with sports so idk what your on about All I know is canadians ain't calm when it comes to hockey but me personally dont keep up with hockey
In America if you see something wrong or dangerous happening it’s considered your obligation to do something to help. If you see people arguing in public then you might not do anything but if it looks like they might get violent then it’s your job to step in. What’s hard is knowing when you should step in because sometimes it’s hard to tell how heated a conflict is getting.
I'm not sure about the "Hero Complex" but I do believe that in Mexico many people will help you if there's a problem going on... I mean it's hard to simply ignore it. 🤷🏽
@@RachelKim It's ok! haha I didn't learn the Vampire cough until high school during the swine flu pandemic (2009)! It was too prevent spreading germs and sickness :) Ever since then, if I see someone sneeze or cough in their hand I won't shake their hand until they wash it or I just stay away lol
Im just glad they covered their mouths lol but im always wary after people sneeze/cough into their hands dhdbbdnf I once saw a coworker sneeze into her hands and keep working without washing them and i- yeah,, at least do that into your elbow if you work in food service p l e a s e ... Or even if youre a customer at a restaurant,, dont cough on everyones food please
You mean at the end?? For the “fake” cough?? You can’t fake cough into your elbow and it be offensive/a joke it just takes away from the joke of the fake cough
We also don’t do the customized order thing in Europe. And if we do want to change anything, it’s just one thing. Asking for more changes just seems a little rude
haha that’s so weird, I honestly would’ve never thought these type of little things were weird 😅 & honestly, the coughing thing is just a movie thing. I thought you were going to say something about our constant clearing of throats, we do that a lot too
Or clearing our throats to get someone's attention and/or silence a group of people. Like, "I'm getting ready to speak now, so please stop and pay attention." ;)
Re: Hero Complex. A lot of that probably traces back to the Kitty Genovese case from 1964. The story at the time - and the version that "everybody knows" today - was that she was brutally attacked on a busy street in NYC in front of dozens of witnesses, all of whom figured it was none of their business and so didn't even call the police. Never mind trying to intervene. It was a national scandal; and while the original reporting has since been shown to have gotten the story wrong in almost every detail, it does seem to have left a lasting mark on US culture. So much so that many people actually believe there are now laws *requiring* them to get involved in such a situation (see the Seinfeld finale and the fictional "Bystander Law").
When u said about customized orders, and before Alex started I thought it would be like: "I'll have two number-nines, a number-nine large, a number-six with extra dip, a number-seven, 2 number-fourty-fives, one with cheese and a large soda"
I don't see getting involved in other's business at times to be a hero complex really, more like a "do the right thing," "Treat others how you want to be treated," thing. I hadn't really thought about how looking out for your neighbors is really a big part of our culture. Even if you aren't doing anything big, you could just go out of your way to return someones keys to them, or fight off an attacker. You helped them when they needed it.
I don't eat meat so I have to customize my orders a lot. I literally don't like the taste of meat so if the meat juice is left over from someone just taking the meat off an already made sandwich I will bring it back. Looking at you McDonald's....egg mcmuffin with no Canadian bacon. And because i've not had meat in over a decade I can become physically ill if consumed...ie if something has a meat broth/base in it. So i have to read the ingredient list of soups. I learned this the hard way with some ramyun...never again. By they way the fast food place Burger King's catch phrase is literally "Have it your way."
I'm actually from Australia and we love customized orders too! For some reason I feel like it is because there are lot less people with nut allergies in Korea.. Could you do a vid on rare allergies Koreans have??
Yeah, I was wondering why nut allergies are less common in Korea. I personally have none, but probably flower allergies are pretty common here...which is not really about food ingredient :) haha..!
Rachel Kim ragweed allergic 😂 me:( in Hungary thats the common i think. So its like geography and the ethnicity cause every ethnicity has an other kind of body system
I do think that we Americans could be less involved in other people's conversations but I do agree that some involvement is important especially in dangerous situations.
9:35 I relate to this part. I live in NYC and our motto is literally “If you see something, say something.” ‘Cause eeeeeveryone minds their own business. I remember my cousin was on the train and *GRAPHIC BE WARNED* a pregnant lady was stabbed and everyone except for my cousin just got off. My cousin stayed with her until the paramedics got there. Don’t get me wrong though, if it’s something less serious then anyone would be glad to help.
PongoXBongo, I THINK they only cover drug overdoses. No civilian can actually do something to help other than call 911 if it’s anything other than that. But don’t take my word for it as I don’t know much about such laws...
@@nevaeh-lehlipscomb4435 Fair enough. I think they also protect civilians that perform CPR, or try to stop the bleeding, etc. You can try your best, and even know a bit about what you're doing, and it still isn't enough before the paramedics arrive. In which case the deceased's family could seek legal action against you for whatever it is you did or didn't do. Such laws are in place to stop these legal actions, I believe.
That might be one of the things I'm afraid I'll have trouble with when I travel. Most simple differences about other cultures I adapt to easily, but if I see some people genuinely in trouble, e.g. some guy physically abusing a woman: I'm gonna step in. screw the consequences. It's just not right.
I guess a part of reason we don't have the culture is because we prefer things to be done fast. Usually, customised menus take more time to take down the menus and make them. We would just pick what's on the menu and take it. hahaha 😂
5:50 If you are allergic to egg for example and go to BK and ask for a burger without mayonnaise they will give to you to kill you? Is not rude or demeaning to ask to change or remove something that from the food.
I think for most people the "hero complex" is more a sense of social responsibility than some kind of egotistical 'This is my moment to shine' idea. It should come from a place of genuine concern for the person that appears to be in trouble, but there's usually an element of we'll feel guilty if we don't help and then something bad happens.
Loved this vlog. Yes, we do some weird stuff. And, yes, an eye roll can make some people go ballistic...including teachers. It’s really rude and disrespectful. I know several people who have either saved someone or been saved by some stranger stepping in while they were choking on food in restaurants. There are definitely a lot of Good Samaritans here in the US who have helped people in trouble. I would like to hear about weird things other countries do, as well. I’m sure we’re not alone. 😃
The different states in the us are very prideful, especially when it comes to sports and rivalries. But also there are a lot of stereotypes about different states and different areas in the us, like if you're from the south the southern drawl or being a cheese head if you're from Wisconsin or a "valleygirl" if your from anywhere in California not just the valley.
I stopped automatically helping people because it seemed like most of the time, they could do it on their own. So now I only help people if they ask for help or if it's obvious they need my help. I'm not very popular in my family haha.
Does anyone else do a weird little head-nod/bow type thing when passing, thanking, or after bumping into someone?? I do the half-smile but not as often as that...
In America the phrase “a bystander is just as guilty” is pretty popular and I think that contributes a lot to number 3. Even if it’s for someone choking, falling off a bike or another single person problem type deal
Yesss!!! Ordering food in Korea gets extreme for me. I laugh at my Popeyes experience while in Korea all the time. I just could not get over not being able to pick the pieces of chicken that I wanted. 🤣🤣🤣
ShallanD no you don’t get to pick, but I will say this...I was so shocked by that incident that I stood at the counter for about 15 minutes trying to accept this concept with my Korean friend. Eventually, they went ahead and gave me the pieces that I wanted because I was like...”but why not?”. I am definitely American and After that experience I know that we are very spoiled! 😂😂😂
We will always step in to help. Not to mention your people may not do it but your country as well as other countries love it when we do it and wish their own people do it. We will not and shall not ever change our ways.
The hero thing reminded me of the video of the lady on the scooter in the highway followed by a lady in a car trying to keep her from being ran over. If you haven't seen it you should it's so funny. The lady's fine so you don't need to feel guilty about it.
I'm a bit late to the party but I have some insight into the American hero complex. Sure, we were founded by people who believed in helping others and found that it was in fact a necessity, but it didn't really become seen as a duty until later. During WWI and WWII the government needed soldiers but they wanted willing soldiers. They launched a massive propaganda campaign that played off our founding tenants of liberty and justice for all. They pumped the idea into our society that the world needed a hero and it was our patriotic duty to be that hero. It worked extremely well. Men signed up to fight in droves and women were eager to do their part to support the war effort. Patriotism became so rampant that the flag started appearing everywhere and this is the first time we see it as clothing. It actually became dangerous for people to not be patriotic and we had many immigrants from all over coming into the country. The American people at home were on high alert and constantly on the lookout for "spies" or malcontents. Wearing a flag sent a very clear nonverbal message of support. It's pretty crazy that the effects of that campaign can still be seen in our culture today. There are a lot of documentaries (PBS has a whole series) about this if you're interested in learning more.
You can also see it in things like Smokey Bear, (only YOU can prevent forest fires!) those anti bullying campaigns (if YOU can do something, DO IT!), and the classic 'If you SEE something, SAY something' that has recently become problematic.
I'm from Charleston, SC and instantly felt more connected to the guy from Augusta, GA. I'd never thought about that before but we probably do pick up on similarities in the way people were raised without even noticing and gravitate towards them because we feel more at ease. 🤔
Currently an American living in China and I constantly have to double check my order here. I have a severe shellfish allergy but here in many cases that don’t pay much attention to food allergies. Like it’s just not important. I even have a friend who has a food allergy. He still eats it even though he has a reaction to it. Like they just deal with it. But for me if I eat shellfish or even have it touch my food my throat starts to itch and get tight
That was my reaction. You're lucky to meet someone from your state when you're in another state, let alone another country. We need shout outs to find our people so we don't feel homesick. XD
So who thinks we're weird for saying "Aww"? Don't Japanese people say "Kawaii"? I'm sure everyone has a sound they make when they see something cute lol; the word or sound is just gonna differ depending on the country, I suppose. But serious question: If we see someone getting assaulted or something in Korea, we just walk past? I'm planning a trip and I don't wanna get booted out because of that, but if that really is the culture, I just wanna know what I am or am not supposed to do
Well what they taught us in school in school in the UK is to ensure your own safety before stepping in to resolve whatever the problem is. If you believe that your not safe in that moment in time then you shouldn't continue.
u cant just take pickles off a burger. the whole dang thing tastes like pickles still cuz the juice gets everywhere. and u cant pluck mustard off either. no pickles. no mustard. d i s g u s t e n g. i wont order it any other way
When the dude talked about rolling his eyes at the teacher the other dude was rubbing his skin mouthing “was she black?” I screamed 😂😂😂😂she was probably someone mama too
This was a very funny and interesting video. As an Italian we do not have a "hero complex" but definitely we get many jokes because of our hand gestures.... you know what "they" say: "If you want to shut-up an Italian, just tie his/her hands up" :P My Korean friends keeps on joking about my hands gestures. Thanks for posting another great video and looking forward to see the next one. Hope you had a great stay in LA and Busan. Happy week and take care. You rock!!! :D
I don't know if you will see this; but, I am a American and also has a hero complex. Once I was being driven back home on the highway and right in front of us an RV with a car attached to the back suddenly swerved and went into a guard rail into a creek. Me and the driver got out and immediately called out for help and tried to shout out and talk to the people who crashed. The RV was on it's side halfway in the creek on a hill and smoke was coming from the RV. I REALLY wanted to climb on top and check on them...but.....I was afraid that I was too clumsy and would only make things worse. Instead two more cars saw the RV and stopped to help and climbed on top and checked on them. It was a elderly couple with a small dog. later cops, a fire truck and two ambulances showed up. I HAVE a hero complex but am not confident enough to step up to the plate at times :/. That was a couple years ago and I still get disappointed in myself for not climbing on there and helping :(. I DID get between a good acquaintance and my bullies though. My bullies were throwing things at her (usually they do that to me) and I immediately got between them and told them to stop. They instead threw things at me.....I was okay with that though, because my friend was now safe :).
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I still don’t think we are weird for making sounds when we see something cute.
Awwwwwwwww Mike, it's so adorable you think that 😻
Decatur GA right here
hi mikoleee
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awww Rachel is so cute.
I never really looked at myself as having a hero complex, but rather it's what you are supposed to do. If someone is in trouble I should help them, because if I was in trouble I would want someone to help me. It's kind of like an extention of treat other people the way you want to be treated.
@Leah M I've met plenty of non Christian individuals with morals. Some even Athiests, who are nice and good just because, not because they think they have to be because they will go to hell, they are just good.
@T K ok, don't imply anyone who's not a Christian is a bad person/evil/immoral. This isn't the 18th century, sure Christians can be good just to be good. That's not uncommon. But there are A LOT of bad Christians in history
@T K Acutaully there are alot of non christian ppl in america and its still a good thing to help ppl. Like im an athiests and most of the ppl i know are athiests and they would do the same thing. If someone is in trouble you should help them
I don't even understand not being able to customize your food order.
Especially at a place like Subway. Making the sandwich YOU want is the entire point.
FOR REAL BROOOO
Right? Subway anit no Jimmy Johns
That's the way Subway market's itself here in the U.S. that may not be the case everywhere else in the world where they have resturants. Companies do take cultural differences into account when doing business overseas
Also in some Asian culture's special requests are seen as being pushy which is frowned upon
I never realized how American this is until all three of them had like a visceral reaction to being told to "just pull it out."
That's so much work with Subway compared to like McDonalds which uses bigger slices. :(
With hero complex I think it’s ingrained in our culture because we have like the Good Samaritan law and shows like What Would You Do ?
K- preface this- with apology, i'm NOT trying to even fo political here, just a history, and the people of my nation lover! ✌promise!✌i just really don't think being extra helpful falls comes down to the hero complex, and i have lived all over the world (sadly not Korea 😞)not that it's not a thing, mind you but... talking a look at the Puritans who game over and a Nation that cultivated the principles of, well, i'l call "indepent collectivism" ce from ahead- England... aaaaaannndd i think u can say with confidence.... the Puritans and politicos who originally settled Jamestown and the like probably knew helping each other out (and being Naive American myself, does make this potentially ironic, but i also love history and my country- PS. A TON of us Indigenous folk legit will be some of the most patriotic you can meet know.... if course, i'm Cherokee so didn't completely loose several lands. We hid in the hills baby!😋) i think the settlers, up against the sheer land bulk and unsanitary of America knew helping was the only means of survival- not to mention a lot of settlers escaped to practice their form of Christianity freely.... so, while i have mixed feelings about the whole settlers thing and kicking my ancestors to the curb- i'm still a piece of the American melting pot made beautiful by all its varied races and regions. That's something to, i think, feel pride in and wish to hold on to. (Please pardon long reply- no criticism intended here i'm a lover of all people's perspectives! So don't take the wrong way and let's play nice ✌💖honor and really respect everyone here!
Margo A. C. MAC That’s such a sweet reply. Don’t know how anyone could be offended. 😍 And I do think you’re right...the helpful thing goes way back.
@@margoac9476 Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Margo! I really appreciate your insightful comment
What would you do is the BEST!
Actually, I bet there's a really good conversation that could be had around with peoples current obsession with superheroes. Especially Americans. It's like we finally realized that our government weren't the heroes we were indoctrinated to believe they were and are now looking to fictional heroes for escape.
I have never really thought of awww as something that isn’t universal. Huh.
Hm... Huh..mhm.. uhun
@@StephenKershaw1 I beg to differ. 🤷♀️
@@StephenKershaw1 its not immature its like if you get hurt you're going to say " ow" or "ah" or something similar, its our reaction to something instead of saying that's cute or adorable.
@stephen kershaw
you’re being immature and closed-minded by saying that. that’s how those specific people grew up and it comes naturally to them. there’s nothing wrong with having a natural reaction to something. so let’s respect people’s cultures and differences :)
kiara I totally agree with you! I mean if someone sees an adorable puppy and just stares at it straight faced and doesn’t care, ima think you’re a sociopath lol😹
"Everything we do is correct, america is the greatest" *National anthem playing in the background*
LMAO 😂😂😂
Plucking out foods doesn't work for food allergies.
Or if it’s a sauce
Absolutely correct but do you really trust that the cooks are really going to do everything that they should be doing? Especially if a chef is not in the kitchen at that moment to double check everything. Not even talking about fast food here an actual restaurant.
List of things that are supposed to happen for allergies -
Wash/rinse/sanitize the line including expo window/serving prep area
Wash hands
New Gloves
New utensils for food cooking
New ingredients from backup (not from line)
Wash hands
New Gloves
In flattop is used to cook food this needs to be degreased/cleaned before food is cooked - Most places will just cook in a separate pan if they have the ability
Wash hands
New Gloves
Rewashed/sanitized plates/silverware (not from stack on line or the pre-wrapped silverware from the beginning of shift)
Wash/rinse/sanitize serving tray
Wash hands
New Gloves
Allergy order on separate tray from other food
If you believe a cook is going to do all of that while getting in others orders if a chef/manager is not looking over the process you are ignorant. Now do you trust the teenager in the fast food restaurant with no culinary experience to understand let alone do that for your order?
I can tell you right now I feel lucky to not have any allergies and even without that I don't trust eating out unless at upper scale restaurants (and I make my living from this sector.) I have seen way to much that goes on in a kitchen if someone is not there to correct it. Very few people actually care that their actions (or inactions) can cause people pain/death.
@@michaelpowell4823 I have friends that are so deadly allergic that if a food touches shellfish of any kind or are cooked in the same oils, he'll bloat up like a puffer fish in seconds. You have to trust them or ppl like him die in your store. Then that's bad publicity for them, you pay out huge $$ to his family and you lose business, it's a lose lose for them not to consider that person's allergies. That's why here in the US there are so many food laws and regulations.
@@davidmorton6406 Yes I know this, but again to trust anyone in a kitchen is putting your life in their hands. The majority of the time there is not a chef/manager in the kitchen. If the restaurant even has shellfish on the menu, if I was him, I wouldn't eat in that restaurant. It doesn't matter that you would sue them and they are liable; the average cook doesn't care enough to do what they need to do, in my experience.
But we all know that everyone always follows laws/regulations.
Or pickles. That taste soaks in immediately.
The Hero Complex is real. When I was younger, working with my father's landscaping company, two cars pulled into the drive way of the house we were at, and two people got out. The young guy in the second car starts yelling at the older guy from the first car. They stood face to face with the young guy yelling and flailing his arms. Without saying a word my dad and I stop what we are doing and start to walk toward them. Since it was just yelling (nothing physical) we stood listening to the young guy vent his anger. I think it was a case of "road rage". They both got in their cars and drive away, nothing really happened, the young guy just yelled. As they drove away my dad said, "I thought I was going to have to break up those two idiots." My dad is quiet and not a big guy, but when you see something... you do something about it...
Your dad sounds like a really nice man! I admire that
I admire that, too, especially in men. I'm a small girl and if I saw something about to go down I definitely would want to step in and stop whatever is going to happen. At the same time I'd be afarid to get in the middle because they would be able to easily turn on me and crush me. So my best chance would be to have my phone handy just in case I need to call the police or something. 😊
About the custom orders thing. we have a saying that goes "i'm not begging, i'm buying". not giving customers options is treating them like beggers because "beggers can't be choosers".
I have literally never heard this. What region are you from? (I’m in the South)
@@Thehouseoffail me too, im in florida. it's an old saying
That's for sure. I'm paying, gimme what I want.
Ive heard that but from my mom in a different way im not asking you im telling you
Ooh wow, never heard that
about the hero complex, it's because we're taught that being a "bystander" is bad, and that bystanders should do things to help
It’s also just engraved in American society that we are saviors to the world and need to help everyone because we are better. The hero complex is actually a really tricky issue and not always a good characteristic
You do realize that us American people can’t really control what the government or president decide to do, we can’t force the government to aid other countries. Trust if we could the majority of us would. I’ve met very few Americans who aren’t helpful, and are bystanders. Yes, of course there are bystanders, there are everywhere, but what does aid to other countries have to do with us as people? Sure we vote for who’s in charge, but after that we kind of have no say in the decisions they make.
Sorry if this is all over the place, and don’t take this the wrong way lol 😂 im not tryna be an asshole
Why don’t you tell us how you really feel, Stephen?
Stephen Kershaw no not a shit whole, we still have a lot of freedoms and opportunities that a lot of other countries don’t, and most of the news that is broadcasted is either fake news or news with an agenda ( “White cop shots unarmed black man” why couldn’t it just say cop shots unarmed man?), however our justice system is complete shit once you become a felon you more than likely will not find a job good enough to afford the price of living, so they end up selling drugs or stealing and eventually back in jail. America is the land of opportunity though, as long as you apply yourself you literally can be anything you want to be, that’s the best thing about my country.
AMERICANS aren’t the types to stand around and film.
Blue State City Slickers are... Just about all the videos I can recall like that are from cities on the west coast, or north east.
My sister is allergic to tomatoes. If she just “takes out” the tomatoes she will still have an allergic reaction because the tomatoes have already touched the rest of her food.
That’s sucks.
Awwww, that must be frustrating. I feel bad for her! :( Hope she gets to enjoy many other delicious things!!!
So about the "order customizing"
There are several reasons why this is in American culture.
1: Tipping Culture + Service Standards
2: Individualization
3: Health Conditions
4: Religious Freedom
You guys went over the first 2 so the last two are what I'll talk about.
Being a melting pot there are some things health wize that we gain. Instead of our food being contaminated with something that we individually can't eat we ask it to be removed. For example, my friend is allergic to canned pineapples but can eat regular pineapples. If she goes somewhere and wants a burger with teriyaki sauce on it, these burgers usually come with pineapples, she can either ask for sauce on the side or ask for the burger with out the pineapple.
Religious freedom is one of our main rights and some religions have specific dietary restrictions. So asking them to go to another place is denying them those rights. And...yeah we can't do that in America.
Because we won't just ask people their reasons for a custom order we just accept it as part of our society.
Well said, my daughter is also allergic to pineapples, so anything cthat contains, any form of pineapples she cannot have. My son is allergic to cashew nuts but not any other type. So we have to be mindful that what you want and will wait can be deadly to someone else.
Very well put, it’s crazy to me that they can’t choose what’s on their sandwich. I know so many picky eaters, who panick if certain foods they don’t like even touch something they want to eat lol
Sitting in a room with Americans
No one:
Rachel: YoU GuYs ArE wEiRd
😂😂😂😂💜
Hahahahaha I dropped a bomb huh? I mean...we're just different and that's okay ❤️
@@RachelKim We're all weird in our own ways. That's what makes life interesting. ;)
we also take lawn care very seriously, the property line too
Raymond S this is soooo true!
@@user-jr9uc8zi9l and you get judged by the type of grass you have. I have St.Augustine so i'm good
Raymond S That’s some high quality grass you are sporting 👍
Like the old saying “Good fences make good neighbors.” 😃
@@raymonds7492 those bahia plebeians
Hero complex is real. I will never not help someone in need. Be the good you want to see in the world. 💜
That's really nice. The world is a better place thanks to people like you!! Hope what I said in the video didn't give you a wrong impression!
Rachel Kim no no no it didn’t give me the wrong impression at all girl no worries 💜 I understood what you meant 🤗
Exactly!
I think that people are using the term hero complex incorrectly. A hero complex is someone who believes they are able to solve any problem, or will even go so far as creating a situation to solve. What you are referring to is just people being willing to help those in need. We should all be that way. Wouldn't the world be a wonderful place if we were all willing to step up and help someone in need.
Stephen Kershaw, do you?
Another thing we do, say our opinion then say “fight me” 🤷🏼♀️
That's not true! Fight me!
😩😂😂 my teenagers say this to me all the time!! Too funny
because it's what we do. fight me.
we also say "BET"
It's not a hero complex. Most of us want to HELP when we see an urgent need or emergency - and lots of places have 'Good Samaritan' laws, where you can get into trouble if you DON'T help. ...........which was also in Seinfeld.
Right I was like it's not cause we wanna be heroes some people were actually raised being taught to just naturally help others...
It's interesting to hear the practice of helping strangers referred to as the Hero Concept. I don't hold the door open for strangers because I want to be seen as a hero, I do it because in our culture you're considered a bit of an asshole if you don't. Someone falls, you help them up. Someone is trying to figure out something you know how to do (e.g., how to get the bus to stop) you tell them. You hear someone choking in a restaurant, you don't think, "Ooh, I'm going to be the hero who helps" you think, "Please stop choking, I don't want to have to do the Heimlich maneuver" but you will if you have to. I don't help strangers because I want to be a hero, I help strangers because I don't want to think of myself as a selfish jerk.
Frenchie here : we basically have the same sound for cute things as well as the famous "ohlala" (🙈), and in France, not helping someone in danger (non-assistance à personne en danger) is a crime ! So we also have to help if we can (: !
For customized orders, I just think it's less wasteful. There's no need to throw away food not to hurt someone's ego... If I can't eat it, please remove it ^^' !
Okay just taking things off doesn’t work for food allergies. Also like pickels for example. They’re kept in pickle juice. When you take it out of the pickle juice and put it on the sandwich, the juice also gets all over the sandwich. Therefore, the pickle taste is still on the sandwich.
Why can’t hey just simply not put pickles on it in the first place?? It doesn’t take any more time and if anything it makes their job easier because it’s just one less thing they have to do.
Also people with eating disorders or picky eaters can’t just take things off sometimes.
Rachel you've got to give awwwww a chance. But yes, these guys know their home A Mur ka. In some states it is actually illegal to not give help of some kind, if you let someone die you could get charged with manslaughter.
Yep, if you can help and you don't, you can be charged with manslaughter. If you are trying to help and you accidentally do something that actually hurts the person more, they look at what you KNOW. For example, if a licensed Nurse stopped to help someone and they do something that, because of their medical training, they should have known NOT to do, they can get in trouble. If you are just a regular person with no medical training at all and you do the same thing, you will NOT get in trouble because you didn't know it would hurt the person.
I do think our custom orders get a little out of control! I think I embarrass my hubby at Starbucks sometimes for my custom orders, LoL! 🤣🤣🤣 ps. Love u Rachel!
I love trying out their secret menus ;) Haha Love you too!!!
MY BOI FROM THE SOUTH
Edit: I did this before she started talking about shoutouts. Lol, I'm a stereotypical American
I did the same thing x'D
Carrie Thomas Gotta represent!
Haha! I said the same thing out loud. “Another Southerner!” That’s just what we do. Southerners always love to find other Southerners. It’s like they’re family.
What you labeled the Hero Complex probably has some cultural/ethical origins from the Bible: the commandment to love your neighbor and the story of the Good Samaritan.
The half smile killed me. I'm a definite southerner, and I do the half smile and will just be like "hi" any time someone is near me or is walking up to me. It's awkward but like normal at the same time.
I'm british and yes, we do the "awhhh" thing 😂😂
American fast food chains have spent the last forty years actively encouraging customers to custom-order. There have been multiple advertising campaigns centered around it. Slogans. Jingles.
Me 25 seconds in: "Yeeeeeah OHIO!!"
Rachel: You guys do way too many shoutouts
😂😂
Hello am British and we also say aww and talk to strangers all the time but I feel like we do that more then Americans also we help anyone because as a child we are always taught that if someone needs help we should always go help that person no matter what.
it's hard to believe a culture that punishes you for helping someone in trouble can even exist.
If we punish people for helping other people in need, that's Really messed up. It is truly a Shame that it happens sometimes. I strongly believe people should help each other and that's the real Korean spirit. What I was talking about in the video was more of, "Don't get into stupid fights that'll put you in troubles. it's not worth it."
Lol...almost choked on my breakfast from laughing. Mikole, Rachel, your friendship shines through. Keep up the funny content, a laugh could make someones whole day.
annnndddd your comment just made my whole day ❤️ It means the world to me that you enjoyed the video!! Have a great day! :D
How is awe weird? The Japanese literally say cute in their language. And that's not weird? Kawaiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii is a lot weirder than awe.
Agreed. lolol
I don't think she thinks the word "aww" is strange. It sounds like she's referring to the vocal fluctuation/tone change that occurs when we say awww. The tone goes down and then back up. ahh-AHH. Most exclamations have an even tone, even if they're high pitched tones. And English isn't known for having a fluctuating tone so that might be strange to hear- especially if that's the ONLY time you hear it.
Weird because English is not usually making sound like that while Japanese those high pitched sound is required in many things
No. That’s a word. Awe isn’t a word. But neither are weird I think.
I think Americans are proud of their quirks and naturally express it.
One of the things I was looking forward to when coming to Korea was no small talk, but for foreigners people still sometimes come up and randomly talk to us because they want to practice English
The "hero complex" is just manners. It's something we are taught from a young age. The idea is that we should treat others the way we want to be treated. If something bad were happening to yourself, you'd want help, so you give help when someone else needs it. We also associate strangers with people we know. For example, if we see someone being rude to a grandmother, we step in because we wouldn't want someone to speak to our own grandmother that way. A lot of people also don't want "the blood on their hands" should they not prevent something and it result it harm to someone.
Hey,everybody. My dad had a store. U.S.A. 'The customer is always right.' No. He taught me that If the customer is being reasonable, then try your best to accommodate. If they are being nuts, don't.
Ordering: Dear food shop owner: you are lucky that I picked your store in which to spend my hard-earned $. You win, the other food shops lose. So, ....
A sandwich; (maybe Subway), 1) it's my money, so, of course I want it the way I like it. Sure would be strange to get a sandwich made the way someone else wants it! It is not demanding at all to not want cucumbers.
2) it is a fresh-made shop, not a pre-made sandwich shop. Duh. That is why I picked Subway.
3) if the person behind the counter makes it a way that they want, then, they can buy it. No problem.
4) if the person making it looks at me with a bad look when I say what I like and don't like, then, they should quit the job at Subway. They just 'don't get it.'
5) making the food with only my few ingredients is faster and easier than the time needed to put in everything in the counter. The person behind the counter might even feel thanks to me for being fast and easy.
6) I don't remove the stuff I don't want. That is stupid and wastes food. Simply don't put it in. Again, duh.
Have a great day, folks. Peace out from Taipei.
I agree with pretty much everything, except #5. The default option is to put everything, so you develop muscle memory and do it faster and more accurately. Leaving out something means you have to stop and think. However, we are talking about only a few seconds, so it shouldn't be a problem. It's more of a problem in places, where they make things ready to serve, not so much if you make it by order. The whole concept Subway has is made-for-you, so I do find it peculiar, if there's this kind of difference between countries, but that might be due to differences in the customer base and culture.
@@benkalem Yo, Chauncer, sup. Ahh, muscle memory. Tks 4 the reply. You are correct.
I only found one word here silly..'demanding.' That's all.
Yeah, my local Subway is made-your-way and I love it/them.
Here is a hack I showed my friends in Taipei. Don't know where else it may work..my pals say it is not ok at all taipei shops, but, try it. Save money, get meals for later in the day..
One I have bought my first 6 inch sub, 105 Taiwan dollars, 3.30 bucks, U.S., it is time for extra meat. But, I ask to not have it in the sub, I will put it in at home.( Not really.) I get the 6 inch overloaded with pickles, olives..take them out at home, put in a bowl. i order 2 more extra meat, 1 chicken and 1 tuna, in the bowls at the store. Extra meat each is 39 Taiwan dollars, U.S. $1.30. Boom. A snack later of tuna with my added olives and another snack, both cheap, chicken and pickles. C Ya later.
@@mikeryan2319 I dunno, dude. Going through all that trouble to "hack" the system... If saving money is the goal, might as well just learn to cook and keep some basic, cheap ingredients at home! But I get your point, and something like that might be a good strategy if you are out of town or something.
Unlike customers think, they aren't paying for the ingredients (the shop buys them), they are paying for the product, which includes the food, service, and labor costs etc. Any extra time spent on any one order is money you could've made from other orders, so that has to show somewhere. That's why many places will have pretty significant costs attached to any extra stuff you might wanna order. They got bills to pay, just like everyone else.
@@benkalem Yeah, man, you are right. I actually don't hit my house. In Taipei, I haven't used my kitchen in 9 years. We all just buy on the street and roll to work and bounce the city all day. Gosh, my friends laugh at me cuz i don't like Chinese food and i live here. Oh well, it just smells bad to me. I am in Taipei for the pretty, friendly women. 24 years now from the U.S.A.
Boy, do i appreciate having a lunch sack full of fresh cut tomatoes, pickles, onions, olives from Subway any old time. My store gets me my extra meat in 15 seconds and then roll.
Have a good one.
Where I am from, it is illegal to not help someone when they are in trouble medically. I am pretty sure they won't send anyone after you though :P
Some states have a "Bystander Law" that if you see someone in trouble and you are able to help you are legally obligated to do so... That doesn't mean you have to put yourself in danger (calling for help is usually enough) but if you choose to not to help and watch someone get hurt or die without helping, you can be tried for a crime of negligence.
@@4hrbigos 4hr, right. And, a second Seinfeld mention. One in this video and your post brings up the last Seinfeld episode. (jailed for not helping) Cool. Helping is good.
@@4hrbigos I'm *pretty* sure that was made up for the Seinfeld finale, because that would be both unenforceable and unconstitutional. Some jurisdictions do have "Good Samaritan" laws, but those don't force you to help (o r even call for help) - they keep you from being sued if you try to help and it goes poorly.
There's one exception: "mandatory reporting" for school personnel, medical professionals, and a very few others. If they suspect a child is being abused, they are legally required to report it to their local Child & Family Services office. But those "mandatory reporter" laws wouldn't be necessary if there were a more general law imposing the same obligation on the general public, so the fact that the former exist is a strong hint that the latter do not.
I will just toss this in..the last Seinfeld was the only bad Seinfeld. I hated that episode. They had to invent a reason to bring back lots of old characters.
Rik cruts they will
The coughing thing is more of a thing people do as a joke or on tv. I have never heard of it being seriously in real life. Also I feel like the half smile thing is something more common with men. The hero thing is very true. One of the things I love most about our country. If you ever need help with something or you're in trouble someone will help you. Really enjoyed your video. I love how curious you are about other countries and cultures. Thank you for taking the time to make this. Lots of love from America!
Oh my friends do the coughing thing a lot actually. Strange.
The Hero Complex thing is something we hear very often. In New York (where I live) every time I take the subway there would always be this announcement on the train: “When you see something, say something.” There are also many ads around promoting this idea of “help others and don’t stay quiet if you see something.”
Aww is Canadian to
Lol canadians are basically more reserved and polite and quiet versions of Americans 😂
Adriana Froese that’s a lie, y’all went dummy crazy when the raptors won a chip
@@DarkMidgit177 I dont keep up with sports so idk what your on about
All I know is canadians ain't calm when it comes to hockey but me personally dont keep up with hockey
The Toronto Raptors the only Canadian team in the NBA that just won the the NBA championship
@@DarkMidgit177 ahhhhhh makes sense I dont keep up with sports and I dont hang out with anyone who does so I dont normally see that side of canadians
Adriana Froese have you SEEn joana ceddia
Actually, we do that weird intonation thing if we see something cute in Germany, too!
Customize orders are especially necessary for people who have allergies but want to enjoy the food
In America if you see something wrong or dangerous happening it’s considered your obligation to do something to help. If you see people arguing in public then you might not do anything but if it looks like they might get violent then it’s your job to step in. What’s hard is knowing when you should step in because sometimes it’s hard to tell how heated a conflict is getting.
I'm not sure about the "Hero Complex" but I do believe that in Mexico many people will help you if there's a problem going on... I mean it's hard to simply ignore it. 🤷🏽
Agree
Was no one else triggered that they all coughed into their hand instead of the crook of their elbow?? 😭😭😭
Hahaha sorry! Vampire cough is a manner! I'll write it down ;)
@@RachelKim It's ok! haha I didn't learn the Vampire cough until high school during the swine flu pandemic (2009)! It was too prevent spreading germs and sickness :)
Ever since then, if I see someone sneeze or cough in their hand I won't shake their hand until they wash it or I just stay away lol
Sleepy Merl bruh I feel you, every time someone cough or sneeze in their hand I will yell out “ your elbows! On your elbows!” It’s so frustrating
Im just glad they covered their mouths lol but im always wary after people sneeze/cough into their hands dhdbbdnf
I once saw a coworker sneeze into her hands and keep working without washing them and i- yeah,, at least do that into your elbow if you work in food service p l e a s e ... Or even if youre a customer at a restaurant,, dont cough on everyones food please
You mean at the end?? For the “fake” cough?? You can’t fake cough into your elbow and it be offensive/a joke it just takes away from the joke of the fake cough
We also don’t do the customized order thing in Europe. And if we do want to change anything, it’s just one thing. Asking for more changes just seems a little rude
haha that’s so weird, I honestly would’ve never thought these type of little things were weird 😅 & honestly, the coughing thing is just a movie thing. I thought you were going to say something about our constant clearing of throats, we do that a lot too
Or clearing our throats to get someone's attention and/or silence a group of people. Like, "I'm getting ready to speak now, so please stop and pay attention." ;)
Re: Hero Complex.
A lot of that probably traces back to the Kitty Genovese case from 1964. The story at the time - and the version that "everybody knows" today - was that she was brutally attacked on a busy street in NYC in front of dozens of witnesses, all of whom figured it was none of their business and so didn't even call the police. Never mind trying to intervene. It was a national scandal; and while the original reporting has since been shown to have gotten the story wrong in almost every detail, it does seem to have left a lasting mark on US culture. So much so that many people actually believe there are now laws *requiring* them to get involved in such a situation (see the Seinfeld finale and the fictional "Bystander Law").
When u said about customized orders, and before Alex started I thought it would be like:
"I'll have two number-nines, a number-nine large, a number-six with extra dip, a number-seven, 2 number-fourty-fives, one with cheese and a large soda"
Make that a diet soda ;)
I don't see getting involved in other's business at times to be a hero complex really, more like a "do the right thing," "Treat others how you want to be treated," thing. I hadn't really thought about how looking out for your neighbors is really a big part of our culture. Even if you aren't doing anything big, you could just go out of your way to return someones keys to them, or fight off an attacker. You helped them when they needed it.
I don't eat meat so I have to customize my orders a lot. I literally don't like the taste of meat so if the meat juice is left over from someone just taking the meat off an already made sandwich I will bring it back. Looking at you McDonald's....egg mcmuffin with no Canadian bacon. And because i've not had meat in over a decade I can become physically ill if consumed...ie if something has a meat broth/base in it. So i have to read the ingredient list of soups. I learned this the hard way with some ramyun...never again.
By they way the fast food place Burger King's catch phrase is literally "Have it your way."
I'm actually from Australia and we love customized orders too! For some reason I feel like it is because there are lot less people with nut allergies in Korea.. Could you do a vid on rare allergies Koreans have??
Yeah, I was wondering why nut allergies are less common in Korea. I personally have none, but probably flower allergies are pretty common here...which is not really about food ingredient :) haha..!
Rachel Kim ragweed allergic 😂 me:( in Hungary thats the common i think. So its like geography and the ethnicity cause every ethnicity has an other kind of body system
@@arturligeti1282 én is magyar vagyok :D
I do think that we Americans could be less involved in other people's conversations but I do agree that some involvement is important especially in dangerous situations.
Italians go awwww too !!
9:35 I relate to this part. I live in NYC and our motto is literally “If you see something, say something.” ‘Cause eeeeeveryone minds their own business. I remember my cousin was on the train and *GRAPHIC BE WARNED* a pregnant lady was stabbed and everyone except for my cousin just got off. My cousin stayed with her until the paramedics got there. Don’t get me wrong though, if it’s something less serious then anyone would be glad to help.
Are you guys protected by good samaritan laws in NYC?
PongoXBongo, I THINK they only cover drug overdoses. No civilian can actually do something to help other than call 911 if it’s anything other than that. But don’t take my word for it as I don’t know much about such laws...
@@nevaeh-lehlipscomb4435 Fair enough. I think they also protect civilians that perform CPR, or try to stop the bleeding, etc. You can try your best, and even know a bit about what you're doing, and it still isn't enough before the paramedics arrive.
In which case the deceased's family could seek legal action against you for whatever it is you did or didn't do. Such laws are in place to stop these legal actions, I believe.
That might be one of the things I'm afraid I'll have trouble with when I travel. Most simple differences about other cultures I adapt to easily, but if I see some people genuinely in trouble, e.g. some guy physically abusing a woman: I'm gonna step in. screw the consequences. It's just not right.
When the one guy started talking about double dipping, all I was thinking about was that Seinfeld episode, so thank you for adding it in😂
One of your better videos, Rachel. However, people with too many requests, especially when ordering food or coffee, can be annoying.
I guess a part of reason we don't have the culture is because we prefer things to be done fast. Usually, customised menus take more time to take down the menus and make them. We would just pick what's on the menu and take it. hahaha 😂
@@RachelKim yeah that could make sense
5:50 If you are allergic to egg for example and go to BK and ask for a burger without mayonnaise they will give to you to kill you? Is not rude or demeaning to ask to change or remove something that from the food.
For my entire life, Burger King's motto has been, "Have it your way." I'm gonna have it my way one way or another, dammit.
🤣 great video, awesome collaboration. The rolling eye segment was hilarious 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Rolling eyes is rude. But we also don't realize most of the time when we do it. however, the sigh is absolutely deliberate. I do it too.
I physically cannot restrain from making a noise or doing a hand gesture when I see something cute.
You look so good without the white paint on your face.
White paint? ...makeup? hmm 🤔 I was wearing makeup there too! haha but thanks for the compliment! :)
I used to love in Augusta! 😊 now back in South Carolina.
Jessica Cash My girl!!!
If I am allergic to a specific food item taking it off afterwards isn't going to do me any good the sandwich is basically not edible
Nice. I was born in Georgia, grew up in Ohio and am moving to Pennsylvania...😆🤨 I just found that funny...
You are... all of us 😯🇺🇸
@@AlexSigrist 🇰🇷
I am very blunt and open minded... When I went to New York I met so many people. I said hello to everybody
Everyone says New Yorkers are so rude but when I went there I found it to be the opposite.
Makes it a happy morning. Loved it when Rachel went “what’s up”
Wasssssaaappppppp ❤️ 💛 💚 💙 💜
😆 I’ll take “Least Expected Moments” for 100, Alex. Thanks for bringing the humor for me this morning.
This is so fun to watch! 😆
I think for most people the "hero complex" is more a sense of social responsibility than some kind of egotistical 'This is my moment to shine' idea. It should come from a place of genuine concern for the person that appears to be in trouble, but there's usually an element of we'll feel guilty if we don't help and then something bad happens.
@Rachel Kim Even if I was in Korea stepping in to save ones life is a principle and principles do not change because your location changes.
Shots 😂 yes double dipping is bad but shots are alcohol and that kills germs 🦠👍the rest is true but this was fun
Loved this vlog. Yes, we do some weird stuff. And, yes, an eye roll can make some people go ballistic...including teachers. It’s really rude and disrespectful. I know several people who have either saved someone or been saved by some stranger stepping in while they were choking on food in restaurants. There are definitely a lot of Good Samaritans here in the US who have helped people in trouble. I would like to hear about weird things other countries do, as well. I’m sure we’re not alone. 😃
The different states in the us are very prideful, especially when it comes to sports and rivalries. But also there are a lot of stereotypes about different states and different areas in the us, like if you're from the south the southern drawl or being a cheese head if you're from Wisconsin or a "valleygirl" if your from anywhere in California not just the valley.
I stopped automatically helping people because it seemed like most of the time, they could do it on their own. So now I only help people if they ask for help or if it's obvious they need my help. I'm not very popular in my family haha.
Does anyone else do a weird little head-nod/bow type thing when passing, thanking, or after bumping into someone?? I do the half-smile but not as often as that...
In America the phrase “a bystander is just as guilty” is pretty popular and I think that contributes a lot to number 3. Even if it’s for someone choking, falling off a bike or another single person problem type deal
Whats weird is seeing something adorable and acting like a robot.
I can't get enough of Rachel Kim.
Can't get enough of you too ;)
@@RachelKim OMG I have never had a celebrity acknowledge me with a reply. You have no idea how this feels. Thank you Rachel Kim
@@kissofzorro6976 Not a celebrity! Hahaha but if Taylor Swift notices me one day, I'd lose it. LOLOL You're sweet! Thank you and love you!!
@@RachelKim In my eyes you are a celebrity. Taylor Swift might be cool. But I'd take you over her any day.
I'd rather meet you over her.
Yesss!!! Ordering food in Korea gets extreme for me. I laugh at my Popeyes experience while in Korea all the time. I just could not get over not being able to pick the pieces of chicken that I wanted. 🤣🤣🤣
What! you don't get to pick what combo of pieces? That's a thing?
ShallanD no you don’t get to pick, but I will say this...I was so shocked by that incident that I stood at the counter for about 15 minutes trying to accept this concept with my Korean friend. Eventually, they went ahead and gave me the pieces that I wanted because I was like...”but why not?”. I am definitely American and After that experience I know that we are very spoiled! 😂😂😂
ILove Dimash!! I thought about it, but I don’t think it would have mattered...it wasn’t worth the risk of being deported. 🤣🤣
We will always step in to help. Not to mention your people may not do it but your country as well as other countries love it when we do it and wish their own people do it. We will not and shall not ever change our ways.
The hero thing reminded me of the video of the lady on the scooter in the highway followed by a lady in a car trying to keep her from being ran over. If you haven't seen it you should it's so funny. The lady's fine so you don't need to feel guilty about it.
So before she mentioned #8, I was literally about to type PA STAND UP! lolol
PA needs a shout out always:)
I'm a bit late to the party but I have some insight into the American hero complex. Sure, we were founded by people who believed in helping others and found that it was in fact a necessity, but it didn't really become seen as a duty until later. During WWI and WWII the government needed soldiers but they wanted willing soldiers. They launched a massive propaganda campaign that played off our founding tenants of liberty and justice for all. They pumped the idea into our society that the world needed a hero and it was our patriotic duty to be that hero. It worked extremely well. Men signed up to fight in droves and women were eager to do their part to support the war effort. Patriotism became so rampant that the flag started appearing everywhere and this is the first time we see it as clothing. It actually became dangerous for people to not be patriotic and we had many immigrants from all over coming into the country. The American people at home were on high alert and constantly on the lookout for "spies" or malcontents. Wearing a flag sent a very clear nonverbal message of support. It's pretty crazy that the effects of that campaign can still be seen in our culture today. There are a lot of documentaries (PBS has a whole series) about this if you're interested in learning more.
You can also see it in things like Smokey Bear, (only YOU can prevent forest fires!) those anti bullying campaigns (if YOU can do something, DO IT!), and the classic 'If you SEE something, SAY something' that has recently become problematic.
Omg, that half smile of acknowledgement is such a Pennsylvania thing!
The aww sound in the south can also be used as an insult if used with "Bless your Heart"
OH! I enjoyed this tremendously. Especially the food discussion.
I'm from Charleston, SC and instantly felt more connected to the guy from Augusta, GA. I'd never thought about that before but we probably do pick up on similarities in the way people were raised without even noticing and gravitate towards them because we feel more at ease. 🤔
Currently an American living in China and I constantly have to double check my order here. I have a severe shellfish allergy but here in many cases that don’t pay much attention to food allergies. Like it’s just not important. I even have a friend who has a food allergy. He still eats it even though he has a reaction to it. Like they just deal with it. But for me if I eat shellfish or even have it touch my food my throat starts to itch and get tight
"So many people are from Gorgea or Ohio too" 😂😂 lmaooo no...
That was my reaction. You're lucky to meet someone from your state when you're in another state, let alone another country. We need shout outs to find our people so we don't feel homesick. XD
So who thinks we're weird for saying "Aww"? Don't Japanese people say "Kawaii"? I'm sure everyone has a sound they make when they see something cute lol; the word or sound is just gonna differ depending on the country, I suppose. But serious question: If we see someone getting assaulted or something in Korea, we just walk past? I'm planning a trip and I don't wanna get booted out because of that, but if that really is the culture, I just wanna know what I am or am not supposed to do
Well what they taught us in school in school in the UK is to ensure your own safety before stepping in to resolve whatever the problem is. If you believe that your not safe in that moment in time then you shouldn't continue.
Omg I had no idea the awww thing wasn't universal! I figured it was like a reflex for everyone lol.
u cant just take pickles off a burger. the whole dang thing tastes like pickles still cuz the juice gets everywhere. and u cant pluck mustard off either. no pickles. no mustard. d i s g u s t e n g. i wont order it any other way
When you guys get together it is always fun! 👋👍🌞😀
Glad you enjoyed the video
When the dude talked about rolling his eyes at the teacher the other dude was rubbing his skin mouthing “was she black?” I screamed 😂😂😂😂she was probably someone mama too
This was a very funny and interesting video. As an Italian we do not have a "hero complex" but definitely we get many jokes because of our hand gestures.... you know what "they" say: "If you want to shut-up an Italian, just tie his/her hands up" :P My Korean friends keeps on joking about my hands gestures. Thanks for posting another great video and looking forward to see the next one. Hope you had a great stay in LA and Busan. Happy week and take care. You rock!!! :D
Not a “hero-complex” it’s just that bystanders are looked down upon.
I don't know if you will see this; but, I am a American and also has a hero complex. Once I was being driven back home on the highway and right in front of us an RV with a car attached to the back suddenly swerved and went into a guard rail into a creek. Me and the driver got out and immediately called out for help and tried to shout out and talk to the people who crashed. The RV was on it's side halfway in the creek on a hill and smoke was coming from the RV. I REALLY wanted to climb on top and check on them...but.....I was afraid that I was too clumsy and would only make things worse. Instead two more cars saw the RV and stopped to help and climbed on top and checked on them. It was a elderly couple with a small dog. later cops, a fire truck and two ambulances showed up. I HAVE a hero complex but am not confident enough to step up to the plate at times :/. That was a couple years ago and I still get disappointed in myself for not climbing on there and helping :(.
I DID get between a good acquaintance and my bullies though. My bullies were throwing things at her (usually they do that to me) and I immediately got between them and told them to stop. They instead threw things at me.....I was okay with that though, because my friend was now safe :).