Very true... Discernment is essential. There was somebody at a job I had who seemed like a great person. A situation happened and this person had the smoothest, most cunning words that would cut a person to the core. I knew in that moment I could not work in such an unhealthy environment. Eventually a person's true colors with come out: You can fool some of the people some of the time, You can't fool all the people all the time, AND YOU CAN NEVER FOOL GOD!!
Biggest lesson for empaths and HSP’s to know is that you have control over your life. Learning to put yourself first is essential. Especially for people like us.
OMG I started thinking something was wrong with me because people's energy really affects me and I couldn't understand why I feel so drained after just having certain people around me and if I talk to them OMG I have headaches and I low energy. I started to isolate myself or avoid certain people. Thank you for explaining how to deal with this feeling
It's great to know you guys are out there, it can feel like such a lonely path when you're the only one who seems to be suffering at work whilst everyone else carries on care free. And they just don't seem to realise or get it!!!
@@onewithsource9742 I can so relate to that. I have always been sensitive. Always told, "oh you're too sensitive!"As if I can just decide not to be. This is a precious gift from God, BUT WE MUST LEARN HOW TO TAKE OF OURSELVES WITH SELF LOVE, SELF-CARE AND SELF-COMPASSION ❤️
When she talked about reminding yourself that other people's problems aren't my problem, I really felt that. Especially with friends because I feel like I have to be there for my friends and help them but I can't always bring up their problems .
I've had to repent of my savior complex. We have to respect other's free will and right to make their own mistakes and pay for their own consequences. I'm a recovering people pleaser and I'm also setting boundaries with the toxic people in my life. It's good to mature and save your energy for when you really need to share your empathy. Moreover, I've learned that healthy relationships are NOT a competition. Live and let live!
I have recognised that I am like a sponge that absorbs other people’s emotion and like a mirror who reflect how other people behaves towards me. Now I know I am an “Empath”. This is very eye opening for me to deal with my attachments and emotions. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for this video, I recently discovered I am an empath and highly sensitive to other’s energies. I wish there were more people like that out there as it can be a very lonely feeling when you are unable to connect with many people on a deeper level and dealing with people close to you that don’t understand the need to remove yourself from a negative situation or person as we feel it so much more strongly than other’s. It is a gift but can be very draining as well 😔
These videos truly help. I don’t have much support or anyone to vent to about my struggles with my narcissist ex who is also the father of my children. You’ve truly helped me get through so much in the past month. 💜
OMG same. Being a mother of a child who's highly sensitive and who has a father who absolutely lacks empathy and totally aloof .....so exhausting. This channel definitely helps and often acts as a support. Thank you 🙏🏾
I saw a few therapists when I was younger and every one of them told me I was carrying someone else’s shame. I couldn’t understand what they meant until I uncovered a family secret and realised I was so empathic that I had been carrying the shame of another family member without even knowing I was doing it. I now know when I’m picking up someone else’s feelings. It is hard to step back sometimes but I am getting better at it. Thanks for these videos. Xxxxx
I am a empath, HSP and also have asperger syndrome, witch makes my life harder in general. People love to put all their junk on me and I am learning slowly basiclly everyday when to back off and focus on myself and God. I do get all my positive energy by spending time with Jesus och listening to worship music to calm down my soul and energy, it truly does really help! It gives me such a deep innerpeace state, both in my mind and soul. I sleep better, feel better, more blissfull and calmer overall. Try Jesus if you haven´t yet for everyone and anyone reading this! And yes, I truly do love my alone time :)
thanks for the reminder, taking the time to spend some time with jesus is a big help cause he knows all the ways you need to calm your mind. and he even reminds me sometimes
You are the best of the best! My nephew has your same profile! His abilities are amazing. Please take care of yourself! The world needs more people just like you. You are precious to us all!
Church hynms and christmas choirs are very high vibration. Listening to spiritual music will lift your vibration. Also playing spiritual music in a room will help clear the energy and evil presence.
Thank you... I was with a group of energy vampires for a very long time... Like years longer than the point that i knew that they were destroying me every day with their negativity... But i got myself out and am slowly but surely discovering what and who I really am... Learning boundaries is a very large and important part of this transformation... Also it soothes my heart to know that there are more kind and sweet people in the world like me cuz this state can be very confusing, overwhelming and lonely sometimes... It also dosent help when you have a moral code that is far higher than the people around you
Thank you for this video. I'm a highly sensitive empath. When I meet new people I usually hope for friendship. It always saddens me that they just want to take advantage of my generosity. I'm on a path to recognize them, healing, and self love.
As someone with bpd (borderline personality disorder), this video really helped me. I struggle with letting go of negative people/situations because of the rooted fear in abandonment. The ups and down of idolization/ devaluation also make it more complicated. I’ve been working on being more self aware and working towards letting things go. I feel like borderline is really similar to being a highly sensitive person. It’s only hard because I’m so use to the negative or chaos that I tend to cause it myself. It’s what I’m use too.
Being an empath is so exhausting. I was constantly looking at negativity by watching the news. I week ago I decided to stop looking at the news. It has helped me with my energy level by not having so many negative thoughts constantly bombarding my brain. Thank you.
I am both HSP and enphathetic. That's why I 've suffered a lot when I constantly met the wrong person. Yes, I had several boy friends before. I didn't really love them. I just thought it may hurt them if I reject them. Then, I got hurt more. Now I know. Thank God. My husband is a good guy. He respect me and give me support always!
For years I was told I was “too sensitive” by my family and I genuinely thought it was me who had the problem, channels like yours helped me realise it’s them being cold and callous that’s the issue
💯✅ Guided meditation when you go to bed & aromatherapy is great! Walking at the beach is calming also. Be good to yourself & get rid of toxic people. I’m loving my own company atm. Learning how to say no! Healing....Thank you! 💕
Throughout the video, I was saying, "Yes, this is me. This is what I do." Thank you so much. I was in a narcissistic relationship and I gave chance after chance, always wanting to believe what I was being told. When I was just being told what I wanted to hear at the time. I have my own faults because no one is perfect, but I think some of my reactions were just because of the relationship I was in. Since my divorce, most of my relationships have all been with a narcissist and I have since decided to take this time to just be myself. I seem to draw those narcissists to me like a moth to a flame and I just don't have the energy to deal with that sort of relationship any longer.
Toxic is understatement PEOPLE ARE SOOOOO FAKE AND MEAN AND JEALOUS AND SPITEFUL and always looking for a new and creative way to dig at you it’s ridiculous
I don’t know if I’m relieved by this or more discouraged. I’ve always known I’m an empath. As the fifth of six children, my mother always called me her heart child. My problem is I know I’m supposed to “regulate” my heart towards people but I just can’t. Even though my heart is shattered right now, I’ll still believe the good in all of them. I truly believe it’s why I’m here. I’ll leave you with my favorite Marlon Brando quote... “They’re a great people, Kal-El. They wish to be. They merely lack the light to show the way. It is for this reason, above all, their capacity for good, that I have sent them you...”
Dear Stephanie, thank you so very much for this information today! I’ve been really struggling with a major lesson in “ over giving “ today! It’s taken me far too long to learn that not everyone wants your help! I’m exhausted, and devastated right now after having realised that I have upset my beautiful sister with my wanting to “fix “ her, and wondered why she was upset with me! Thank you, and other coaches like you, who are helping us to walk this path in the way we should! Blessed be, Brigid from Australia 🙏😇🌹❤️💕💚💙💜🤗😁
Very good information. I'm wide awake at 5 a.m. and thought I would check to see what was positive. Empaths are a soft target for every unthinking lump, for every entitled individual they meet . All it takes is one good 2 minute rant to straighten out everyone taking advantage of me oh, and I am now left alone with respect.. My neighbors have never heard me talk about an inside voice so they thought they could take advantage.. they see me differently now in a good way.. one came to me and apologized unconditionally. Who knows what they're saying behind my back, but they won't say it to my face Away from my little dead end Street, out in the world, I shut people down as the need arises. It doesn't feel right but it has to be done so I can have peace. This channel is well worth subscribing to
I've relied on these abilities my entire life. I've been reading people and situations since I was a little boy. Intuitiveness, deep level empathy and a built in bullshit detector have gotten me through. I've always relied on my feelings and those feelings never let me down. I didn't realize there was a name for it.
It is vital to learn to let go of the relationships which are not good for us empaths and realise we are not the saviours of the world. You can not help anybody who is not willing to be lost. And there are plenty of those who don’t take responsibility for their own lives and would happily transfered their burdens onto somebody else’s shoulders. We need our eyes to be wide open.
I usually don’t like labels but this describes an undeniable part of my personality. I’ve hated this part of me for so long but I’m realising that it’s not our of your control. You aren’t destined to be used and abused, you can take responsibility and set healthy boundaries. And you don’t have to enable the narcissistic dysfunctions. You can make a conscientious decision everyday to CHOOSE you!! Prioritise YOU. When you have healthy love for yourself it can protect you from the ones who tend to leech off us. Thanks for the video ❤️❤️❤️
I needed to hear this so badly right now. I'm going through such a hard time. I havent eaten for 3 days. My anxiety is through the roof. And everyone around me is having a hard time too. And I've been neglecting myself. Yesterday I finally said, I love you, i want to be here for you, but i need tonight to myself. And it broke my heart to say, but I'm thankful. Because I needed to be alone so i can heal my own wounds.
@@StephanieLynCoaching Thank you!!!! I'm learning self care slowly but surely! I really appreciate your videos. They're so helpful to me. You have such a calming voice. ❤❤
It would be so hard for me because I would want to help everybody. Then I would be sad because when I would need help rarely then I felt like I had nobody to lean on...
My wife constantly talks shit about you stephaine ! But you help me out so much ! You help me understand the toxicity I am constantly getting abused by. Thank you
Sleeping on a grounding mat made a huge difference for me. I always had so much tension and anxiety in my chest, first night with a grounding mat it was all gone. Never felt more connected with myself and at ease.
this video appeared on my youtube stream at the most perfect and necessary time for me today, especially amidst the mostly overwhelming, stressful, and very unnecessary for me to even know about yet alone not waste my time and energy even giving attention to. thank you for making this video, and even though its several years since you made it, i hope its every bit as relevant and true for you today as it was then, especially regarding you finding a little moment for yourself to get out of the house and enjoy a walk or time spent in a beautiful place in nature, maybe the beach, mountains, a nearby park or field or tree grove or garden or something like that :)
Really" ill do that and get to my local drugstore and pick those up ive been wondering what kind of supplements would help me as a hsp and empath thankyou 😉
It's east to get caught up in thinking you could have tried harder but remembering I have seen him when he thought I wasn't watching is extremely important.
This is the 2nd time I’ve watched this video. The 1st time was when I was still in an abusive marriage. This time is nearly a length divorce and it still resonates, maybe more so now. My therapist told me today she thinks I should say to myself everyday that “I’m an empath” to remind me of who I am.
Thank you making this video!!!! I am literally entering a phase in my life where I’m beginning to seriously hate who I am as highly sensitive person/empath!!!! Perfect timing! I really need to learn how to use this gift appropriately and not let it be something that crushes me
Hi Stephanie 💞 I relate to everything you said. I believe that haters are drawn to us bc our energy is healing to them. They just don't realize why they are obsessed with us bc they have 0 self awareness. I love my time alone 💟 I am sending love, peace and joy to all of my fellow empaths.✝️
I've become very isolated so I sometimes go to activities and talk to new people but often feel like my energy is draining away very quickly when they start talking. I think it's when people start telling me all about their lives, problems, opinions immediately and I feel overwhelmed and panicked at being expected to stand and listen, process and respond. When all I wanted was a light hearted chat about the activity at least initially. Another reason is people having opposing opinions to me and rather than enter into debate or conflict I try to smile and nod but want to get away. Occasionally I do meet calm, warm, thoughtful, gentle souls who seem to like, accept and respect me who don't expect me to be their instant free therapist and who instead are curious about getting to know me as a genuine friend, I like people like that. The challenge is not knowing who is who when meeting new people and getting drained by the former type of people then isolating myself to recover.
If you are a an empath/hsp and young please make sure you stay OUT of narcissistic relationships. Get informed, the types, how they acts, how to spot them, etc. Otherwise chances are you will end up with one and they might suck the life out of you and take away invaluable years of your life. Speaking from experience. So, if you're young, GET INFORMED about narcissistic patterns. They are everywhere. I wish someone had told me why I was different and what I should have avoided.. 🥴
I'm an empath and HSP which I'm sure that all the people who are as well can see clearly that we are a target for the Narcassists supply. It is extremely important to realize the toxic impact they place upon our heart and soul. My Exhusband, Mother, two Brothers and Sister are all Narcassists which is the reason I'm well aware of their trates, I can spot them a mile away. I saved my life when I walked away from all of them and wished I had done it sooner. We have to face the truth that we are and will always be a magnet to them but watching this video will really help providing you take all the advice from this amazing lady who also sniffs them out of a crowd I'm sure🙏
I'm about to be 38 years old, and recently i had starting to Discover these traits on myself , that i have always feel like shit because i was so freaking sensitive and My origin family are like rock , didnt know that beeing as i am was ok , surely less i didnt know how to protect myself. Because i havent discovered My self yet. Society exalts this superthought ultra competitive peoole and with this traits i'm out of that. Do i want to be any different as i discover i am , i don't , but before i cursed this overwelming gift ✨ Thank You Stephanie 💗 You bring me peace and hope to find My empaths Friends ☺️ someday and these are really good and welcoming advices ✨
*There is nothing wrong with you* Empath and HSP is a personality trait and a gift. Read, study, and learn about this. Learn how to ground, block, and use your gift. We are here for a reason. We aren't victims. We balance out the negativity and benefit ourselves and others.
You spoke to my soul!! I felt naked!! I truly appreciate you for making this video, becauseI was starting to think I was just weak. You made me feel seen and not alone.
Thank you Stephanie I needed to hear your words. I'm an Empath who is being drawn in so many directions I never knew what I was and why I was so different from everyone in my family. I'm 59 yrs old and have just started to find me and control my actions and responses as can empath and its unreal the peace I have found.. I can watch a tv program and pick up the feelings from the actors! It crazy to think I was going insane. No one ever told me I was an HSE.. now I know I'm gifted and I use the gift to benefit not only myself but others as well
I’m both too and feel like I’m constantly alone as well. So grateful for this video and this channel in knowing I’m not the only highly sensitive empath out there.
This video is so helpful! I always have to remind myself to actually believe it, when people show me their "true selves". Sometimes I am so caught up by what the other person is feeling, that I can no longer get a hold of what I am feeling at the moment. I still have to figure out a way to keep my energy bubble up and not immediately engage in whatever feeling the other person is feeling. It's really hard! But I am looking forward to learning it!
Over the years, I have become extreeeeeeeeemly discerning of toxic people.......so my alarm bells go off instantly and I disengage myself immediately thankfully.....
I specialize in helping HSPs, Empaths, and Heart Centered Women to thrive, so I truly resonate with this video! Happy to connect. Have a blessed day. 💜
Hi Stephanie, this is extremely good info for us em-paths and highly sensitive people, who need to practice self care and don't take on all other peoples problems .. let them be accountable and responsible for their own actions .. otherwise we get exhausted from keep giving to the takers, there has to be a fair exchange of (positive) energies. A lot of us have lost years of our lives, staying loyal to toxic people who refused to change... time to take care of your self. 💖💖
Finding out that I poses these traits has helped me a ton. Being a highly sensitive empath has been difficult to say the least. Taking on others issues and problems to help is extremely exhausting! What I have learned to do is understanding what I can help with and what I can’t. I have also learned to start giving to myself more. In my opinion I am blessed to be able to feel others emotions! Thanks for sharing this topic!
I needed this. Every word resonated with me. I really identify as empathetic and highly sensitive. I have been collecting crystals and burning sage and palo alto in order to cleanse myself everyday and maintain a clean protected safe space to come home to! I am working on my emotional boundaries so that I will no longer be as affected as I am from friends and situations!
You are so right about the struggles we face before figuring out who we are. And of all the different kinds of paths out there, I'm so thankful I was born an empath because that glow and warmth my spirit feels when I know that I'm a positive reinforcement in somebody's life or helping them through their tribulations or raising children and teaching them function and expressiveness and inner strength and watching all of the people we help feel confident, safe, inspired, and most importantly healed. We know we have fulfilled our purpose. It's neat how The Empath and The Psychopath are on exact opposite sides of the spectrum, but we both share the urge and desire to fulfill their inner purpose andto take control the major significant difference is our intentions. The Psychopath is pure selfish, The Empath is 85% selfless with discipline. The Empath's plan is to give, to construct, to protect. The psychopath's plan is to take, destruct, and exploit. Negative topic aside, I'm so glad to have found my people.
I’m an empath and when I do everything that I can for everyone that crosses my path, I start to get bitter and resentful. There is no giving back from certain people. I bottle it up and explode out of nowhere. I need to find a medium half way point so I’m not catching people off guard with my eruptions.
Same, it's so so SOOOO important to draw a line, even if you out of no where disconnect from people... I didn't realize how important that was until I was away from someone that was draining me, though I loved them, it was killing me.
I've very sceptical of people on these channels. You seem to have got the point. I think at the end of the day we are here to help. This is why we as empaths exist
I need to listen to this video EVERY DAY! All if the things she talks about apply to me so deeply it scares me. Thank you for this video, I hope to let it help me change my life for the better.
I looked this topic up for a reason probably different than most. I used to have difficulty with this in relationships but have improved in this area. However, I also work with young children in a mental health facility. I lost a teenage son to suicide 2 years ago & now work with other children. Everyone tells me I’m made for this & I agree but I also find that it drains me, I am always exhausted because I need to learn not to absorb their energy. I love each one of them, I love my job & am full of energy while I’m with them but when I’m not there- I’m a walking zombie. Self-care is not an area I’m good at taking in but this is a good reminder.
I have just recently understood, that I'm both empath and HSP. Been strugglin all my life with persons, who have used me and betrayed me. Now learning to say no, having a regular dayscedule and enough of sleep. Yes, simply "being selfish", I feel better at last. Thank you for these advice, they will come to good use! ❤🙏🌹
Thank youuuu, ppl keep trying to say “bipolar” but I feel like that’s a medical diagnosis, which I believe exist, but there’s a negative connotation w it, whereas HSP sounds more like a super power
I really like what you said about opening the windows, getting sunlight and being in nature. I’ve always needed to have the windows open, even when it’s cold and I need to sleep in a cool room with fans blowing air around. I feel absolutely suffocated when I’m in peoples homes that have closed windows and blinds and it makes me want to run away and I feel like I can’t breathe! I need sunlight every day and gloomy weather gets me down. The lack of light affects me and I’m so much happier when it’s sunny and I love the wind. It’s like my body and soul need the energies to be able to move freely to keep me refreshed and to be able to clear out any lingering emotions and energies that otherwise just stagnant and suffocate me. I’m an extreme empath and highly sensitive and I not only feel other peoples feelings, I can read their actual thoughts more often than not. I’m a carer, helper, counselor type and I see very clearly where people need to make changes to improve their lives and I very much want to help them. I’ve learned over time that most people honestly don’t want to change, are afraid of it and won’t take help when it’s offered so the saying “do not cast your pearls before swine” really applies. I have to limit my exposure to most people and I prefer my solitude and quiet time, doing my own things. I have been single for many years and I’m never lonely and I finally accept the way I am and embrace it and love myself. Emotional vampires are everywhere and I can’t do anything about it so I am very selective about who I associate with. I give my all to those who I love and care for but I still take the private time that I need and that’s ok.
At the age of (almost) 68, this information is sooo enlightening. Amongst me & my 4 sisters, I was always teased as “the crybaby”… it wasn’t something I could easily control. I hated emergency sirens, loud noises or bright lights. I would hide under the piano bench when overwhelming scenes came on tv. I was always an exceptional student; in my only IQ test (at 20) I scored 147. I was a critical care nurse that cried frequently over my patients after I left the hospital & I struggled briefly with destructive coping mechanisms (drinking, etc). People have approached me since I was a child & shared deep, personal information-especially older folks, children, dogs, & cats totally unsolicited. On the Myers-Briggs evaluation, I am an INFJ, but I’m also pretty sure that I’m an HSP. I love nothing better than to be outdoors with my dogs. This info has helped me tremendously. It puts everything into a logical perspective for me. Thank you. 🙏🏻🔆
AWESOME video!!! Thank you. I’m that HSP, empath you spoke to. Just recently ended a budding friendship. Her terms were daily chats and or get togethers or nothing. I, set a boundary which she didn’t like. OH WELL!!! I have to say I had some guilt and smacked myself around a bit (metaphorically). After speaking with my therapist, I,saw that my actions were very healthy- for me. I am a good friend but have to protect myself from those who may want to suck the life from me. I have to say once I set the boundary I felt a weight lifted from my shoulders. Thank you again for your work. It’s extremely helpful. Take care. Appreciation from adult daughter of narcissistic mother…I was the scapegoat 😢.
Stephanie Lyn, I just wanted to thank you for all you do & especially for this video. It resonated deeply with me. There is so much more I wish I could tell you, but not on a public forum, so for now, thank you for taking the time to make these videos. They are needed & very much appreciated. Peace & blessings to you, Belle 🌸
you described me 100%. I used to search "how to be less sensitive" because it was so painful and discovered I was what is called an empath. Even today could not sleep because of news I received last night and thought 'have to protect my energy better!" TY!!
The sad part is when you realize that someone is just leeching on everything others do to just benefit themselves. But when your abillities to care and listening to others actually is making them better is priceless. But sometimes you don't know until years later when you meet them again and they actually tell you about it. Because we often attract strangers for no reason apparently, which it is not. It is because of what you are and they are drawn to you. Unfortunatly we attract lesser desireable people too and we must learn to deal with that, otherwise we will harm ourselves.
I agree going out in nature, exercising, eating fresh healthy foods, meditation, alone time helps to recharge. A suggestion which was not mention but helps me is to have lavender in your home. Buy it as an air freshener or soap or lotion. Lavender is supposed to promote peace. Thank you for your video.
I’ve always known I was sensitive (even as a child). As a late teen and early 20’s I learned that I was highly empathetic and had an uncanny ability to connect with people, understand them, and/or read them like a book (even the deeper or hidden stuff). But the BIGGEST piece of the puzzle that is my personality came recently when I finally gave in and took an MBTI personality test... and found out that I’m actually and introvert!! I took 4 other different tests to make absolute sure, because I had always just assumed I was extroverted because I enjoy connecting with people (although it’s at its best for me when it’s 1 on 1). The personality profile was downright creepy how accurate it was in describing me (I’m an INFJ for those of you that are curious).
I know that there are evil people out their. I've dealt with a Pyscho Narsissist, barely escaped that one. Healing for me is a priority in my life and will be for quite some time I think. It is getting much better day by day. Thank you for your videos.
Oh my word i am experiencing this right now in my life, understanding that I'm empathatic and definitely attracted a Taker as a spouse and going through a divorce and learning so much from this situation. Thank you for your videos it is helping me so much. I definitely Love❤my alone time and feel comfortable being alone at times
Thankyou so much mam. You dont know how much your channel is helpful to me. I have lived 19 years of my life thinking there is something wrong with my mind, and I am not a normal human.
Thanks for getting it! Finally someone like me. I'm sensitive and empath and my family always made me feel like I was week. I have a stong temper but I couldn't assert myself until this summer when they crossed the line and made me become suicidal. I haven't spoken to them since then. I'm doing exercises, yoga and tins of meditation and art! I feel soo happy now, but I also feel guilty for feeling this happy without my family
Oh my gosh! This is so true! I feel like I am so broken because of it. Its hard to become whole again and I think its because I dont set healthy boundaries to stop getting to involved in other people or taking on their energies
It is so liberating to finally know there is not something wrong with me. Throughout my life thus far as I have been that person who attracted people who were so needy and had experienced major trauma in their lives. I always felt that I had to be their saviours and guide them out of it or be their support. I would always feel drained and always want to cry but I would say to myself ‘brace up this is your calling in life’ - what a privilege to be that person!!! Two years I met a lady who really wanted me to be my friend. I was reluctant at the outset because I felt something off. I couldn’t put my finger on it and thought it was just me. She has gone through some major trauma in her life and always wants to talk about her sorry luck in life. It takes everything in me not to RUN but I would resist cuz the guilt would set in and I would be saying to myself ‘Don’t be so selfish she needs you to be her friend. You are meant to help her - and so on goes the internal dialogue. This video has shed so much light on this issue. Thank you so much. I literally feel physically liberated.
I am jus becoming aware that I’m an Empath and HSP so learning boundaries and protecting my energy is vital right now! I have been taking on all my ex’s mother traumas as if I’m the one who caused it and is responsible to heal it. Two of my ex’s mothers passed at a young age and the others have had abusive and neglectful mothers. I feel immense guilt when I need to walk away from the toxic relationship like I am abandoning a wounded child. I am starting to understand how I have enabled them and almost destroy myself in the process. I am even looking to quit my career as a nurse for now so I can focus on my own healing and health and create better boundaries. I can’t keep sacrificing myself for others personally and professionally!
Thank you so much for your comments as a highly sensitive person and empath...I will watch this one over and over again...like Jimmy the cricket in Pinocchio....it's hard to cry 10 hours per week over events you observe 30 feet away from oneself....too feel it's painful...thankful for your message
Love all your suggestions! I am an RN & going through a divorce from a narcissist after 15 years. Every step in this process is a step towards my healing & reclaiming my boundaries in my personal & work life.
When someone show u their true colors never ever try to repaint them
im taking notes right now for myself & your statement is so needed & trueeeee. THIS!!! thank you
Very true... Discernment is essential. There was somebody at a job I had who seemed like a great person. A situation happened and this person had the smoothest, most cunning words that would cut a person to the core. I knew in that moment I could not work in such an unhealthy environment. Eventually a person's true colors with come out:
You can fool some of the people some of the time,
You can't fool all the people all the time,
AND YOU CAN NEVER FOOL GOD!!
When you're an empath you don't have to wait for them to show their true colors. You already know as soon as they're in your energy field
Wow that just hit me like lightning! And im really gonna marinated on that your comment is appreciated thankyou!
This is a beautiful analogy
Biggest lesson for empaths and HSP’s to know is that you have control over your life. Learning to put yourself first is essential. Especially for people like us.
Yes that's me and I'm sick and tired of being used by people especially in the work force.
Laura Gadille read ‘Boundaries’ by Townsend and Cloud
Laura Gadille saaaaame
Amen
Laura, same here.
Yes!!!
OMG I started thinking something was wrong with me because people's energy really affects me and I couldn't understand why I feel so drained after just having certain people around me and if I talk to them OMG I have headaches and I low energy. I started to isolate myself or avoid certain people. Thank you for explaining how to deal with this feeling
You are not alone. It’s a real thing!
@@StephanieLynCoaching yes !!!! It is !!!! Finally starting to realize i'm not the only one that feels that way
Same. As much as I want to be around people, you need your solitude.
It's great to know you guys are out there, it can feel like such a lonely path when you're the only one who seems to be suffering at work whilst everyone else carries on care free. And they just don't seem to realise or get it!!!
@@onewithsource9742 I can so relate to that. I have always been sensitive. Always told, "oh you're too sensitive!"As if I can just decide not to be.
This is a precious gift from God, BUT WE MUST LEARN HOW TO TAKE OF OURSELVES WITH SELF LOVE, SELF-CARE AND SELF-COMPASSION ❤️
When she talked about reminding yourself that other people's problems aren't my problem, I really felt that. Especially with friends because I feel like I have to be there for my friends and help them but I can't always bring up their problems .
I've had to repent of my savior complex. We have to respect other's free will and right to make their own mistakes and pay for their own consequences. I'm a recovering people pleaser and I'm also setting boundaries with the toxic people in my life. It's good to mature and save your energy for when you really need to share your empathy. Moreover, I've learned that healthy relationships are NOT a competition. Live and let live!
I have recognised that I am like a sponge that absorbs other people’s emotion and like a mirror who reflect how other people behaves towards me. Now I know I am an “Empath”. This is very eye opening for me to deal with my attachments and emotions. Thank you for this video.
Removing yourself from negative energies and practicing self- care and self- love, learning how to connect with yourself
Great video ♡♡♡ thank you !
Erika K
I really enjoyed your comment.
Thanks!
Yessss self love and self care really is the key!!
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Thank you for this video, I recently discovered I am an empath and highly sensitive to other’s energies. I wish there were more people like that out there as it can be a very lonely feeling when you are unable to connect with many people on a deeper level and dealing with people close to you that don’t understand the need to remove yourself from a negative situation or person as we feel it so much more strongly than other’s. It is a gift but can be very draining as well 😔
It can drain you.. we just have to learn how to manage it and know the triggers before they take over. You’re not alone now 🙌
Stephanie Lyn Coaching thank you! :)
You are not alone, I am like you, we just need to be strong and find somone like us!
If you’re not an artist or doing something out of the norm as in not the corporate life, it’s hard to see it as a gift.
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These videos truly help. I don’t have much support or anyone to vent to about my struggles with my narcissist ex who is also the father of my children. You’ve truly helped me get through so much in the past month. 💜
I am so glad the videos have helped!
You are free from him
OMG same. Being a mother of a child who's highly sensitive and who has a father who absolutely lacks empathy and totally aloof .....so exhausting. This channel definitely helps and often acts as a support. Thank you 🙏🏾
Been there. Made me feel lower than an ant. God bless you. Praying for you. You deserve to be happy.
I saw a few therapists when I was younger and every one of them told me I was carrying someone else’s shame. I couldn’t understand what they meant until I uncovered a family secret and realised I was so empathic that I had been carrying the shame of another family member without even knowing I was doing it. I now know when I’m picking up someone else’s feelings. It is hard to step back sometimes but I am getting better at it. Thanks for these videos. Xxxxx
Sometimes, what we thought is our feeling is not actually our feeling.. I'm still struggling so much to differ between those feelings
How were you caring someone else's shame?
Same!!! Omg are you me lol same extact thing I’m going through it’s so tough ugh
I am a empath, HSP and also have asperger syndrome, witch makes my life harder in general. People love to put all their junk on me and I am learning slowly basiclly everyday when to back off and focus on myself and God. I do get all my positive energy by spending time with Jesus och listening to worship music to calm down my soul and energy, it truly does really help! It gives me such a deep innerpeace state, both in my mind and soul. I sleep better, feel better, more blissfull and calmer overall. Try Jesus if you haven´t yet for everyone and anyone reading this! And yes, I truly do love my alone time :)
I'm also an empath with aspergers
thanks for the reminder, taking the time to spend some time with jesus is a big help cause he knows all the ways you need to calm your mind. and he even reminds me sometimes
U might be a crystal starseed
You are the best of the best! My nephew has your same profile! His abilities are amazing.
Please take care of yourself! The world needs more people just like you. You are precious to us all!
Church hynms and christmas choirs are very high vibration. Listening to spiritual music will lift your vibration. Also playing spiritual music in a room will help clear the energy and evil presence.
Thank you... I was with a group of energy vampires for a very long time... Like years longer than the point that i knew that they were destroying me every day with their negativity... But i got myself out and am slowly but surely discovering what and who I really am... Learning boundaries is a very large and important part of this transformation... Also it soothes my heart to know that there are more kind and sweet people in the world like me cuz this state can be very confusing, overwhelming and lonely sometimes... It also dosent help when you have a moral code that is far higher than the people around you
Thank you for this video. I'm a highly sensitive empath. When I meet new people I usually hope for friendship. It always saddens me that they just want to take advantage of my generosity. I'm on a path to recognize them, healing, and self love.
As someone with bpd (borderline personality disorder), this video really helped me. I struggle with letting go of negative people/situations because of the rooted fear in abandonment. The ups and down of idolization/ devaluation also make it more complicated. I’ve been working on being more self aware and working towards letting things go. I feel like borderline is really similar to being a highly sensitive person. It’s only hard because I’m so use to the negative or chaos that I tend to cause it myself. It’s what I’m use too.
I moved to Hawaii so I'm always by the ocean, it's such a replenishing and peaceful energy to be around.
Being an empath is so exhausting. I was constantly looking at negativity by watching the news. I week ago I decided to stop looking at the news. It has helped me with my energy level by not having so many negative thoughts constantly bombarding my brain. Thank you.
I am both HSP and enphathetic. That's why I 've suffered a lot when I constantly met the wrong person. Yes, I had several boy friends before. I didn't really love them. I just thought it may hurt them if I reject them. Then, I got hurt more. Now I know. Thank God. My husband is a good guy. He respect me and give me support always!
For years I was told I was “too sensitive” by my family and I genuinely thought it was me who had the problem, channels like yours helped me realise it’s them being cold and callous that’s the issue
I wish I could find more people who were empathetic and hsp. It gets lonely when you’re surrounded by people who don’t operate like you.
💯✅ Guided meditation when you go to bed & aromatherapy is great! Walking at the beach is calming also. Be good to yourself & get rid of toxic people. I’m loving my own company atm. Learning how to say no! Healing....Thank you! 💕
Throughout the video, I was saying, "Yes, this is me. This is what I do." Thank you so much. I was in a narcissistic relationship and I gave chance after chance, always wanting to believe what I was being told. When I was just being told what I wanted to hear at the time. I have my own faults because no one is perfect, but I think some of my reactions were just because of the relationship I was in. Since my divorce, most of my relationships have all been with a narcissist and I have since decided to take this time to just be myself. I seem to draw those narcissists to me like a moth to a flame and I just don't have the energy to deal with that sort of relationship any longer.
Work on yourself ....then boom you’re healthy mind, body and soul 💯 💯 💯
Newly embracing that I’m an empath has been the most freeing information.
Toxic is understatement PEOPLE ARE SOOOOO FAKE AND MEAN AND JEALOUS AND SPITEFUL and always looking for a new and creative way to dig at you it’s ridiculous
I don’t know if I’m relieved by this or more discouraged. I’ve always known I’m an empath. As the fifth of six children, my mother always called me her heart child. My problem is I know I’m supposed to “regulate” my heart towards people but I just can’t. Even though my heart is shattered right now, I’ll still believe the good in all of them. I truly believe it’s why I’m here. I’ll leave you with my favorite Marlon Brando quote... “They’re a great people, Kal-El. They wish to be. They merely lack the light to show the way. It is for this reason, above all, their capacity for good, that I have sent them you...”
Dear Stephanie, thank you so very much for this information today! I’ve been really struggling with a major lesson in “ over giving “ today! It’s taken me far too long to learn that not everyone wants your help! I’m exhausted, and devastated right now after having realised that I have upset my beautiful sister with my wanting to “fix “ her, and wondered why she was upset with me! Thank you, and other coaches like you, who are helping us to walk this path in the way we should! Blessed be, Brigid from Australia 🙏😇🌹❤️💕💚💙💜🤗😁
Very good information. I'm wide awake at 5 a.m. and thought I would check to see what was positive.
Empaths are a soft target for every unthinking lump, for every entitled individual they meet
. All it takes is one good 2 minute rant to straighten out everyone taking advantage of me oh, and I am now left alone with respect.. My neighbors have never heard me talk about an inside voice so they thought they could take advantage.. they see me differently now in a good way.. one came to me and apologized unconditionally. Who knows what they're saying behind my back, but they won't say it to my face
Away from my little dead end Street, out in the world, I shut people down as the need arises. It doesn't feel right but it has to be done so I can have peace.
This channel is well worth subscribing to
I've relied on these abilities my entire life. I've been reading people and situations since I was a little boy. Intuitiveness, deep level empathy and a built in bullshit detector have gotten me through. I've always relied on my feelings and those feelings never let me down. I didn't realize there was a name for it.
It is vital to learn to let go of the relationships which are not good for us empaths and realise we are not the saviours of the world. You can not help anybody who is not willing to be lost. And there are plenty of those who don’t take responsibility for their own lives and would happily transfered their burdens onto somebody else’s shoulders. We need our eyes to be wide open.
My goodness. This video was for me. Your channel is such a blessing. Thank you for what you do.
I usually don’t like labels but this describes an undeniable part of my personality. I’ve hated this part of me for so long but I’m realising that it’s not our of your control. You aren’t destined to be used and abused, you can take responsibility and set healthy boundaries. And you don’t have to enable the narcissistic dysfunctions. You can make a conscientious decision everyday to CHOOSE you!! Prioritise YOU. When you have healthy love for yourself it can protect you from the ones who tend to leech off us. Thanks for the video ❤️❤️❤️
I needed to hear this so badly right now. I'm going through such a hard time. I havent eaten for 3 days. My anxiety is through the roof. And everyone around me is having a hard time too. And I've been neglecting myself. Yesterday I finally said, I love you, i want to be here for you, but i need tonight to myself. And it broke my heart to say, but I'm thankful. Because I needed to be alone so i can heal my own wounds.
Wow you are amazing. Good for you!
@@StephanieLynCoaching Thank you!!!! I'm learning self care slowly but surely! I really appreciate your videos. They're so helpful to me. You have such a calming voice. ❤❤
It would be so hard for me because I would want to help everybody. Then I would be sad because when I would need help rarely then I felt like I had nobody to lean on...
My wife constantly talks shit about you stephaine ! But you help me out so much ! You help me understand the toxicity I am constantly getting abused by. Thank you
This video was so helpful!! It feels good to not be alone in these feelings of an HSP. Thank you for sharing.
This video felt like a literal 12 minute warm hug to me! Sending love and happy energies your way!
It's a gift and a curse for sure 😔🙏
You just described me and my life within minutes. Thank goodness it’s not only me that feels all of that. 😊 🎉
Sleeping on a grounding mat made a huge difference for me. I always had so much tension and anxiety in my chest, first night with a grounding mat it was all gone. Never felt more connected with myself and at ease.
this video appeared on my youtube stream at the most perfect and necessary time for me today, especially amidst the mostly overwhelming, stressful, and very unnecessary for me to even know about yet alone not waste my time and energy even giving attention to. thank you for making this video, and even though its several years since you made it, i hope its every bit as relevant and true for you today as it was then, especially regarding you finding a little moment for yourself to get out of the house and enjoy a walk or time spent in a beautiful place in nature, maybe the beach, mountains, a nearby park or field or tree grove or garden or something like that :)
So totally resonate with you. Have also found my need for magnesium (the calming mineral), zinc, and B vitamins goes way up with any kind of stress.
Really" ill do that and get to my local drugstore and pick those up ive been wondering what kind of supplements would help me as a hsp and empath thankyou 😉
It's east to get caught up in thinking you could have tried harder but remembering I have seen him when he thought I wasn't watching is extremely important.
This is the 2nd time I’ve watched this video. The 1st time was when I was still in an abusive marriage. This time is nearly a length divorce and it still resonates, maybe more so now. My therapist told me today she thinks I should say to myself everyday that “I’m an empath” to remind me of who I am.
Reconnecting with your Maker is the best way. Comfort always follows.
Thank you making this video!!!! I am literally entering a phase in my life where I’m beginning to seriously hate who I am as highly sensitive person/empath!!!! Perfect timing! I really need to learn how to use this gift appropriately and not let it be something that crushes me
Hi Stephanie 💞 I relate to everything you said. I believe that haters are drawn to us bc our energy is healing to them. They just don't realize why they are obsessed with us bc they have 0 self awareness. I love my time alone 💟 I am sending love, peace and joy to all of my fellow empaths.✝️
I love my time alone too❤
I've become very isolated so I sometimes go to activities and talk to new people but often feel like my energy is draining away very quickly when they start talking. I think it's when people start telling me all about their lives, problems, opinions immediately and I feel overwhelmed and panicked at being expected to stand and listen, process and respond. When all I wanted was a light hearted chat about the activity at least initially. Another reason is people having opposing opinions to me and rather than enter into debate or conflict I try to smile and nod but want to get away. Occasionally I do meet calm, warm, thoughtful, gentle souls who seem to like, accept and respect me who don't expect me to be their instant free therapist and who instead are curious about getting to know me as a genuine friend, I like people like that. The challenge is not knowing who is who when meeting new people and getting drained by the former type of people then isolating myself to recover.
I hv learnt so much on balancing and embracing my strengths as an empath. I think it's a key skill that took time but it's worth it.
If you are a an empath/hsp and young please make sure you stay OUT of narcissistic relationships. Get informed, the types, how they acts, how to spot them, etc. Otherwise chances are you will end up with one and they might suck the life out of you and take away invaluable years of your life. Speaking from experience. So, if you're young, GET INFORMED about narcissistic patterns. They are everywhere. I wish someone had told me why I was different and what I should have avoided.. 🥴
I'm an empath and HSP which I'm sure that all the people who are as well can see clearly that we are a target for the Narcassists supply. It is extremely important to realize the toxic impact they place upon our heart and soul. My Exhusband, Mother, two Brothers and Sister are all Narcassists which is the reason I'm well aware of their trates, I can spot them a mile away. I saved my life when I walked away from all of them and wished I had done it sooner. We have to face the truth that we are and will always be a magnet to them but watching this video will really help providing you take all the advice from this amazing lady who also sniffs them out of a crowd I'm sure🙏
That's great! We need to surround ourselves with kind authentic people.
I'm about to be 38 years old, and recently i had starting to Discover these traits on myself , that i have always feel like shit because i was so freaking sensitive and My origin family are like rock , didnt know that beeing as i am was ok , surely less i didnt know how to protect myself. Because i havent discovered My self yet.
Society exalts this superthought ultra competitive peoole and with this traits i'm out of that. Do i want to be any different as i discover i am , i don't , but before i cursed this overwelming gift ✨
Thank You Stephanie 💗 You bring me peace and hope to find My empaths Friends ☺️ someday and these are really good and welcoming advices ✨
*There is nothing wrong with you*
Empath and HSP is a personality trait and a gift.
Read, study, and learn about this. Learn how to ground, block, and use your gift.
We are here for a reason. We aren't victims. We balance out the negativity and benefit ourselves and others.
You spoke to my soul!! I felt naked!! I truly appreciate you for making this video, becauseI was starting to think I was just weak. You made me feel seen and not alone.
Thank you Stephanie I needed to hear your words. I'm an Empath who is being drawn in so many directions I never knew what I was and why I was so different from everyone in my family. I'm 59 yrs old and have just started to find me and control my actions and responses as can empath and its unreal the peace I have found.. I can watch a tv program and pick up the feelings from the actors! It crazy to think I was going insane. No one ever told me I was an HSE.. now I know I'm gifted and I use the gift to benefit not only myself but others as well
Yayyy I'm both 😐 that's why I'm usually alone 😂
Walter Charney you are not alone, many people like me, are like you. So we are a group of people who are alone 🥺
Right?!
Me, too! 💖
I’m both too and feel like I’m constantly alone as well. So grateful for this video and this channel in knowing I’m not the only highly sensitive empath out there.
I’m both as well.... sometimes I hate that other times I just find it so amazing.
I wanted to hug people all the time when I hear about their pain.
This is soo good. I need this. Everybody finna think I’m the biggest asshole but I need this for Me 💯
This is great information. Setting boundaries for ourselves and other it is a daily healing process .
Ask yourself...What do you need? How can I help you? Wow. That really hit me. So true!
This video is so helpful! I always have to remind myself to actually believe it, when people show me their "true selves". Sometimes I am so caught up by what the other person is feeling, that I can no longer get a hold of what I am feeling at the moment. I still have to figure out a way to keep my energy bubble up and not immediately engage in whatever feeling the other person is feeling. It's really hard! But I am looking forward to learning it!
Over the years, I have become extreeeeeeeeemly discerning of toxic people.......so my alarm bells go off instantly and I disengage myself immediately thankfully.....
I specialize in helping HSPs, Empaths, and Heart Centered Women to thrive, so I truly resonate with this video! Happy to connect. Have a blessed day. 💜
Hi Stephanie, this is extremely good info for us em-paths and highly sensitive people, who need to practice self care and don't take on all other peoples problems .. let them be accountable and responsible for their own actions .. otherwise we get exhausted from keep giving to the takers, there has to be a fair exchange of (positive) energies. A lot of us have lost years of our lives, staying loyal to toxic people who refused to change... time to take care of your self. 💖💖
Finding out that I poses these traits has helped me a ton. Being a highly sensitive empath has been difficult to say the least. Taking on others issues and problems to help is extremely exhausting! What I have learned to do is understanding what I can help with and what I can’t. I have also learned to start giving to myself more. In my opinion I am blessed to be able to feel others emotions! Thanks for sharing this topic!
I needed this. Every word resonated with me. I really identify as empathetic and highly sensitive. I have been collecting crystals and burning sage and palo alto in order to cleanse myself everyday and maintain a clean protected safe space to come home to! I am working on my emotional boundaries so that I will no longer be as affected as I am from friends and situations!
You are absolutely gorgeous Stepjhanie!
You are so right about the struggles we face before figuring out who we are. And of all the different kinds of paths out there, I'm so thankful I was born an empath because that glow and warmth my spirit feels when I know that I'm a positive reinforcement in somebody's life or helping them through their tribulations or raising children and teaching them function and expressiveness and inner strength and watching all of the people we help feel confident, safe, inspired, and most importantly healed. We know we have fulfilled our purpose. It's neat how The Empath and The Psychopath are on exact opposite sides of the spectrum, but we both share the urge and desire to fulfill their inner purpose andto take control the major significant difference is our intentions. The Psychopath is pure selfish, The Empath is 85% selfless with discipline. The Empath's plan is to give, to construct, to protect. The psychopath's plan is to take, destruct, and exploit. Negative topic aside, I'm so glad to have found my people.
I’m an empath and when I do everything that I can for everyone that crosses my path, I start to get bitter and resentful. There is no giving back from certain people. I bottle it up and explode out of nowhere. I need to find a medium half way point so I’m not catching people off guard with my eruptions.
1jw2 same here
OMG ME TOO!!!!!.
Same, it's so so SOOOO important to draw a line, even if you out of no where disconnect from people...
I didn't realize how important that was until I was away from someone that was draining me, though I loved them, it was killing me.
I've very sceptical of people on these channels.
You seem to have got the point.
I think at the end of the day we are here to help. This is why we as empaths exist
I need to listen to this video EVERY DAY! All if the things she talks about apply to me so deeply it scares me. Thank you for this video, I hope to let it help me change my life for the better.
I looked this topic up for a reason probably different than most. I used to have difficulty with this in relationships but have improved in this area. However, I also work with young children in a mental health facility.
I lost a teenage son to suicide 2 years ago & now work with other children. Everyone tells me I’m made for this & I agree but I also find that it drains me, I am always exhausted because I need to learn not to absorb their energy. I love each one of them, I love my job & am full of energy while I’m with them but when I’m not there- I’m a walking zombie. Self-care is not an area I’m good at taking in but this is a good reminder.
I have just recently understood, that I'm both empath and HSP. Been strugglin all my life with persons, who have used me and betrayed me. Now learning to say no, having a regular dayscedule and enough of sleep. Yes, simply "being selfish", I feel better at last. Thank you for these advice, they will come to good use! ❤🙏🌹
THANK YOU SO MUCH !!! ❤❤❤🤙🏼 7 years later still helping to save and change lives !!! Props to you !!!!!🎉🎉😊
Thank youuuu, ppl keep trying to say “bipolar” but I feel like that’s a medical diagnosis, which I believe exist, but there’s a negative connotation w it, whereas HSP sounds more like a super power
Ugh! I really needed to hear ALL of this! Learning to create & IMPLEMENT boundaries. Thank you so much, sweet girl.
It's crazy how many empaths have that moment,. The moment u realize ur not alone or weird . The joy I felt was intoxicating
I really like what you said about opening the windows, getting sunlight and being in nature. I’ve always needed to have the windows open, even when it’s cold and I need to sleep in a cool room with fans blowing air around. I feel absolutely suffocated when I’m in peoples homes that have closed windows and blinds and it makes me want to run away and I feel like I can’t breathe! I need sunlight every day and gloomy weather gets me down. The lack of light affects me and I’m so much happier when it’s sunny and I love the wind. It’s like my body and soul need the energies to be able to move freely to keep me refreshed and to be able to clear out any lingering emotions and energies that otherwise just stagnant and suffocate me. I’m an extreme empath and highly sensitive and I not only feel other peoples feelings, I can read their actual thoughts more often than not. I’m a carer, helper, counselor type and I see very clearly where people need to make changes to improve their lives and I very much want to help them. I’ve learned over time that most people honestly don’t want to change, are afraid of it and won’t take help when it’s offered so the saying “do not cast your pearls before swine” really applies. I have to limit my exposure to most people and I prefer my solitude and quiet time, doing my own things. I have been single for many years and I’m never lonely and I finally accept the way I am and embrace it and love myself. Emotional vampires are everywhere and I can’t do anything about it so I am very selective about who I associate with. I give my all to those who I love and care for but I still take the private time that I need and that’s ok.
At the age of (almost) 68, this information is sooo enlightening. Amongst me & my 4 sisters, I was always teased as “the crybaby”… it wasn’t something I could easily control. I hated emergency sirens, loud noises or bright lights. I would hide under the piano bench when overwhelming scenes came on tv. I was always an exceptional student; in my only IQ test (at 20) I scored 147. I was a critical care nurse that cried frequently over my patients after I left the hospital & I struggled briefly with destructive coping mechanisms (drinking, etc). People have approached me since I was a child & shared deep, personal information-especially older folks, children, dogs, & cats totally unsolicited. On the Myers-Briggs evaluation, I am an INFJ, but I’m also pretty sure that I’m an HSP. I love nothing better than to be outdoors with my dogs. This info has helped me tremendously. It puts everything into a logical perspective for me. Thank you. 🙏🏻🔆
AWESOME video!!! Thank you. I’m that HSP, empath you spoke to. Just recently ended a budding friendship. Her terms were daily chats and or get togethers or nothing. I, set a boundary which she didn’t like. OH WELL!!! I have to say I had some guilt and smacked myself around a bit (metaphorically). After speaking with my therapist, I,saw that my actions were very healthy- for me. I am a good friend but have to protect myself from those who may want to suck the life from me. I have to say once I set the boundary I felt a weight lifted from my shoulders. Thank you again for your work. It’s extremely helpful. Take care. Appreciation from adult daughter of narcissistic mother…I was the scapegoat 😢.
Stephanie Lyn, I just wanted to thank you for all you do & especially for this video. It resonated deeply with me. There is so much more I wish I could tell you, but not on a public forum, so for now, thank you for taking the time to make these videos. They are needed & very much appreciated. Peace & blessings to you, Belle 🌸
Thank you for taking the time to write such a lovely comment!
Amazing! Still healing, more boundaries, more enjoying my own time
you described me 100%. I used to search "how to be less sensitive" because it was so painful and discovered I was what is called an empath. Even today could not sleep because of news I received last night and thought 'have to protect my energy better!" TY!!
Like many others here, I am both an Empath & a HSP. Your videos have been incrediably helpful for me. Thankyou so much. ❤❤❤
The sad part is when you realize that someone is just leeching on everything others do to just benefit themselves. But when your abillities to care and listening to others actually is making them better is priceless. But sometimes you don't know until years later when you meet them again and they actually tell you about it. Because we often attract strangers for no reason apparently, which it is not. It is because of what you are and they are drawn to you. Unfortunatly we attract lesser desireable people too and we must learn to deal with that, otherwise we will harm ourselves.
I agree going out in nature, exercising, eating fresh healthy foods, meditation, alone time helps to recharge.
A suggestion which was not mention but helps me is to have lavender in your home. Buy it as an air freshener or soap or lotion. Lavender is supposed to promote peace.
Thank you for your video.
Self care is not selfish. Face who you are dealing with.
I’ve always known I was sensitive (even as a child).
As a late teen and early 20’s I learned that I was highly empathetic and had an uncanny ability to connect with people, understand them, and/or read them like a book (even the deeper or hidden stuff).
But the BIGGEST piece of the puzzle that is my personality came recently when I finally gave in and took an MBTI personality test... and found out that I’m actually and introvert!! I took 4 other different tests to make absolute sure, because I had always just assumed I was extroverted because I enjoy connecting with people (although it’s at its best for me when it’s 1 on 1). The personality profile was downright creepy how accurate it was in describing me (I’m an INFJ for those of you that are curious).
You are 100% on the money, i am now 76 and I’ve been that person for most of my life…
I know that there are evil people out their. I've dealt with a Pyscho Narsissist, barely escaped that one. Healing for me is a priority in my life and will be for quite some time I think. It is getting much better day by day. Thank you for your videos.
Oh my word i am experiencing this right now in my life, understanding that I'm empathatic and definitely attracted a Taker as a spouse and going through a divorce and learning so much from this situation. Thank you for your videos it is helping me so much. I definitely Love❤my alone time and feel comfortable being alone at times
Bless you for existing and making these videos, I love them! thank you for helping empaths and HSPs out there.
Thankyou so much mam. You dont know how much your channel is helpful to me. I have lived 19 years of my life thinking there is something wrong with my mind, and I am not a normal human.
I struggle at work, still... I wish I could have the ability to stop time sometimes. Being assertive requires courage
Thanks for getting it! Finally someone like me. I'm sensitive and empath and my family always made me feel like I was week. I have a stong temper but I couldn't assert myself until this summer when they crossed the line and made me become suicidal. I haven't spoken to them since then. I'm doing exercises, yoga and tins of meditation and art! I feel soo happy now, but I also feel guilty for feeling this happy without my family
Oh my gosh! This is so true! I feel like I am so broken because of it. Its hard to become whole again and I think its because I dont set healthy boundaries to stop getting to involved in other people or taking on their energies
It is so liberating to finally know there is not something wrong with me. Throughout my life thus far as I have been that person who attracted people who were so needy and had experienced major trauma in their lives. I always felt that I had to be their saviours and guide them out of it or be their support. I would always feel drained and always want to cry but I would say to myself ‘brace up this is your calling in life’ - what a privilege to be that person!!! Two years I met a lady who really wanted me to be my friend. I was reluctant at the outset because I felt something off. I couldn’t put my finger on it and thought it was just me. She has gone through some major trauma in her life and always wants to talk about her sorry luck in life. It takes everything in me not to RUN but I would resist cuz the guilt would set in and I would be saying to myself ‘Don’t be so selfish she needs you to be her friend. You are meant to help her - and so on goes the internal dialogue. This video has shed so much light on this issue. Thank you so much. I literally feel physically liberated.
I am jus becoming aware that I’m an Empath and HSP so learning boundaries and protecting my energy is vital right now! I have been taking on all my ex’s mother traumas as if I’m the one who caused it and is responsible to heal it. Two of my ex’s mothers passed at a young age and the others have had abusive and neglectful mothers. I feel immense guilt when I need to walk away from the toxic relationship like I am abandoning a wounded child. I am starting to understand how I have enabled them and almost destroy myself in the process. I am even looking to quit my career as a nurse for now so I can focus on my own healing and health and create better boundaries. I can’t keep sacrificing myself for others personally and professionally!
Good to know that you're here, Yes I am an Empath and I really need your advices thank you to you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for your comments as a highly sensitive person and empath...I will watch this one over and over again...like Jimmy the cricket in Pinocchio....it's hard to cry 10 hours per week over events you observe 30 feet away from oneself....too feel it's painful...thankful for your message
Thank you for including HSP in your guidance videos and for being one of us!
Love all your suggestions! I am an RN & going through a divorce from a narcissist after 15 years. Every step in this process is a step towards my healing & reclaiming my boundaries in my personal & work life.