How To Be More Confident With Authority Figures
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- Опубликовано: 21 окт 2024
- SocialConfiden... Dr. Aziz, Confidence Coaching
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This one is easy. Don’t put them on a pedestal. They are literally just like everyone else, faults and all. Just treat them like anyone else
A basic truth!
How do you do that when the person in question has a say in whether or not you get money (and therefore food, shelter and survival) ?
It's not about putting them on pedestal. I have never had any desire of putting any authoritative figures on pedestal, especially the incompetent authoritative person. It's not about putting them on pedestal. It's my unconscious mind reminding me of my trauma of physical abuse from my narcissistic mother and my narcissistic father whenever I made a mistake that doesn't follow my narcissistic mother's wants and my narcissistic father's wants whenever I talked face-to-face with schools' professionals.
That's so very true! I see it happening every day. You know what's funny too? Those same people you see as being 'above' you also look at other people and think those other people are 'above' them also.
#Truth
U ain't lying about Daddy Issues!! That is me! Working through that!🤣💪🏽🙏🏽
This is spot on!
My sources of fear are:
1) the company/line manager who can sack me for the slightest 'mistake',
2) the law that says "Either you do this/not do this or you are done for!" (not so much now since I know that I can get the law changed), and
3) the Western Dating and Relationship Culture that says, "You must play the game, when in Rome do as the Romans do, be one of us and don't be yourself, or you won't find that woman in your life and you won't be good enough for anyone".
"Daddy issues"? Yes, exactly. I could never please him and I never did right. Then he left the whole family (kids too!) when I was eleven. I just get by living that fear every day of my life. It never stops, just varying degrees of that fear. I know that it's irrational since I have the intelligence, but when I am at work, for example, I am constantly trying to get to the 'safe zone' that I am "doing a good job". The same pattern is with relationships. I never rest since I am constantly looking out for that danger! Self-empowerment is my lifeline!
Thank you, you helped breaking out of the barriers and be free from a big trouble in corporate world ❤
The timing of this video is amazing for me. Feels like I am getting personalized advice. I had already listened to Not Nice, but one time is not enough. Will go over the peace process and the rest of the book again.
Revisited as often as you feel it's helpful.
Thank you@@GetMoreConfidence
I feel this way around my dad and step-dad.
They're definitely authority figures.
I have found the Peace Process to be a great tool. Thank you 🙏
Awesome!
Thanks Doc.
Im grateful. The problem I have is eye contact with authority managers and collegues. I start thinking they are misjudging me if i am not as knowledgable and dont talk as much as them😢
I’ll interject for a little bit. A lot of it derives from your insecurities and if you notice when you pinpoint why you fear somebody, or why you’re intimidated by them, a lot of it is something that you can change physically. Building more confidence overtime. It’s more of a long-term thing. But whatever it is for you, you have to identify that and snuff it out.
I had an instructor Tell me this along time ago, and at the time I found it so offensive that he just randomly told me straight to my face, stop everything that was going on to tell me you’re insecure about something. He said I don’t know what it is but you need to get over it. now looking back. I appreciate that statement so much and it is fixed a lot of part of my life that I had insecurities. Attack your insecurities, and you’ll be secure. Security.
Very precise wording!
Thank you kindly!
man i know someone that relate to this thx for the insight vro
Hit it right on head. Thank you!!
right on the money with this one. wish you were already rich so you wouldnt have to turn this into a sales program. you could literally save millions of people from having miserable lives with your content and presentations, if you just put it all on youtube or somewhere else for free it would be awesome
There's no shame in working for living. :-)
thanks excited to listen. I always get nervous around my boss and he’s a very kind person. But I do have daddy issues…so interested to hear how this goes
Thank you so much. There not much videos about it but your is brilliant
THANK YOU, I needed to hear this today!
Awesome, glad I could help!
I am insecure of about my own masculinity. So i either enter into the need to force myself to be a certain way ( determined, focussed on my purpose, not laugh on anything) or give up and be open completely loosing all my control and in return confirming my fears of a feminine boy, of being a joke in front of people.
Its the reason I fear my masculine friends and try to avoid them and their thought 💭.
Yes, it feels terrible to say this, but now maybe I can change it. I just understood that only presence ( being in that moment ), feeling that fear, and moving through it instead of avoiding or hiding or running from it, makes it way easier to deal with it.
Everyone has problems in their purpose, certain defects. All issues are of equal importance. To grow means to realise that what can be fun to you may be an issue for others. We are all here to improve our depth of purpose on this planet earth.
I maybe wrong about last few sentences ( they are vague ) but the important thing is I am open to learning.
Dr Aziz, thank you for this video. Please could you share again the link to the free e-book. The link above does not work. Thanks.
Holy krap, I didn't take this seriously at all, I was just looking for vids of people that present with authority (*hint* many who talk about authority don't actually seem authoritative)... but I actually got some great insight from this!
Thanks Aziz. Fantastic content as always and I can't recommend your Not Nice book highly enough, it's a life changer 💯
I'm so grateful to hear that, thank you!
I have no fear against strangers or opposie sex ...Clients( even if he may be the ceo of a company) or even those authority figures who are not my boss . But i have anxiety when communicating with my reporting boss. And I have fear communicating with even those people who i am attached with emotionally. Otherwise with those who im detached with, however superior position he/she may be socially or professionally I feel at ease communicating
Thank you for great video and calming words 🙏 how can I find mentioned 20min video peace process, the link provided is unfortunately broken?
I so needed this. Thank you.
I.. need this. plus it's a language barrier on my part , I'm worried with the way I expressing my thoughts and opinions didn't sound like the true me compared to when I speak in my own language.
I'm working on it . thank. u for this reminder
This was so insightful. Thank you!
Thank you
You're very welcome.
This is amazing advice, wow.
Great video..thank you!
Glad you liked it!
This is spot on
You really are amazing, Doc! I love the content!!! And I'm gonna get the ebook too
You nailed it on the head
Aziz I love you!
Right back at ya'!
SO insightful! Thanks so much for sharing these really practical and spot-on tips. I am putting these things into practice and have seen my self-image and confidence improve already. God bless you for this, you've helped me immensely.
I hate social anxiety
It is certainly no fun at all.
This is great advice
You hit it on the head when you said it’s better to find out sooner than later real recognize real and if they don’t then a then it wasn’t for you.
Great explanation
yikes, I have social anxiety with a lot of people. Usually when I meditate the anxiety goes away…a LOT. But I sometimes don’t discipline myself enough with the meditation.
The daddy issues part was too funny 😂😂😂😂
What about if you are the opposite you become more scared and then communicate with more intensity and demanding? Like you flip to try and fight for it
Thanks
But what if they’re intimidating and bullying you
You say exactly what I feel and experience for a couple months!
I don't speak the language, so I didn't really realize what do you mean by saying percieving ourselves in one way, is getting the base from the parent...? To percieve ourselves in a good way we need first get the basic needs from our parents, so they'll percieving us good enough or in the best wat and if they don't , we'll actually be needing to "supply" this to them?
By the way you're book is still avialable?
I can't find the link for your book , and fb Link is not working
I want to buy "the art of extraordinary confidence" , but its v costly in india , its shipped from US , and it costs around 1900rs here , which is huge. usually books here cost between 400rs to 800rs. I hope you tie up with some publisher here in India , so that we can get the book at an affordable price.
Why don't you get the audiobook which doesn't require any shipping? Or the Kindle version for that matter.
What if you're not intimidated by any authority figure
It's weird - in some situations I bark back to authority. In others, I'll actually put myself in a losing situation to not deal with constant harassment when I'm actually in a winning position - whatever that may be. Just knowing this fact doesn't help me fix it. Even when I discover things in my past that may have started this behavior - knowing doesn't help. I hate when people say that simply knowing the root cause of your is going to help somehow. It's great - I know a knife cut me, but that doesn't stop the bleeding; I need a friggin bandage. So what's the bandage here? This would help change my life!
Buy his book
I almost threw my phone at 1:20
Don't do it , if you are confident around authorities but you don't hold a position of authority they Will perceive you as a threat
Your videos sound like a sales pitch lol
It is! I want you to buy into your own confidence. :-)
Look at the word "supervisor"... Supervise. YOU supervise children. A supervisor is basically a worker who knows his job. I'm not impressed with supervisors and I do not kneel to such authority. Save a safety net so no man rules over you.
You shooting your videos with those books and certificates behind you show that there's a psychological vacuum within you. You think those stuff can help you look better in our minds!!! Well, it's okay though. All human beings have certain issues 😉😉
@@gk_knight I don't think you understand what I mean... but he does
Interesting observation, but completely untrue. :-)
Sounds like your the one that has the real issue here
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