Oh,my. That's the first time I'm hearing that. In Japan, it's common to not finish your ramen broth? That, to me as an Asian, is sacrilege. The last legs of the broth is the good stuff! 😁
10:30 Slurping noodles and soups also have the effect of cooling off the hot food before it goes into your mouth. The Japanese consider it gross to blow across your food to cool it down as we tend to do in the West. This blows your breath over the food and is not good, especially if you're sharing dishes as the Chinese and others do. 19:00 A tanuki is also an animal known as a raccoon dog.
Really interesting about slurping noodles and drinking from the bowl. I have seen Japanese colleagues do this and have had to work very hard to conceal my revulsion!
May I? Yes, thank you for the best example of etiquette that I have seen to date. And, YES, your producer should make more appearances. Wish I could experience the world you are so kind to show us,
Am I have all of this manner with myself already even though I'm not Japanese. we all need to have these polite manners and this is the right thing to do as a human being.
First time I was in a Japanese restaurant - not a restaurant in Japan, but a restaurant in Vancouver serving Japanese cuisine run by people who were probably Japanese immigrants - I was most confused from basically the moment I sat down. I was quickly provided two things: a small bowl of miso soup and a fresh set of chopsticks. So....I'm the kind of person who's very good at making connections between things in my head, and was at the time (and probably still am to a lesser extent) not very good at figuring out when those connections are not actually valid. Having been served a bowl of soup and an eating utensil, I made the connection that the eating utensil was intended as the means of conveying soup from bowl to mouth. In any western restaurant, this would be correct, because the eating utensil would be a soup spoon. It took me a good 5 minutes or so to drop the idea of somehow using chopsticks to eat miso soup and realized the obvious: the chopsticks were not meant for the soup, they were meant for the main course. I can't remember whether I figured out it was expected that diners drink the miso soup from the bowl directly, or if I ended up asking the server the next time they were by - it was quite a few years ago. Needless to say, the whole experience was very much one that I was not remotely prepared for and was rather uncomfortable. But the food was good, and it's a good memory to think back on.
One thing to also note when pouring in drink is the way you pour in. There was once a ritual to pour in sake for someone about to commit seppuku. If xou hold the bottle the wrong way, it is also an immense breach of etiquette.
This video was part of my airline's in flight programming when I was on my flight to study abroad in Japan last January :) Now I'm back in the states and it pops up in my youtube recommended videos. Thanks for the tips they were helpful!
I'm a very shy person and Americans have a hangup on saying Japanese things for fear of sounding like weeaboos. Instead of itadakimasu I just said "goshisousama" I'm told it means thanks for the food. Which is honestly more sincere and grateful to me. After the meal I said argigatou gozaimasu. Did I break a taboo or is saying it out of order fine?
Nice job combining the tips with the meal and going to good yet affordable places. I did not know I was supposed to be dressed well. Good to know. Thank you so much for all the good advice.
Becoming friends with the chefs and staff of my favorite sushi place, I was invited to the chef's home for dinner. Coming with a few cases of Budweiser ( which I never drink - I like Kirin ) helped break the ice. After some beers and meeting friends and family, his wife announced time to eat. They were all looking at me as his wife uncovered a massive ham - glazed and with requisite pineapple rings. Embarrasment all around as I had to explain that, as a Jew, eating any pork was forbidden. When all was said and done, everything worked out splendidly. After that, I brought any variety of kosher meats for my contribution. Every experience was a learning one.
You mentioned tori-zara as taking plate, but it’s actually short for uketori-zara which is receiving plate. The nuance between taking and receiving is very different and important to understand.
This looks like eating sushi 101 during the Shogunate period of Japan, with strict etiquette. I prefer Netflix Tokyo diner series where the atmosphere is more proletarian and cosmopolitan.
Love your video🎉and your dress, I think it suits you perfectly. I wouldn t like to be alone with the chef like that, but it is being concentrated on the food.
Spot on. One thing to add at the ramen place, it is also nice if you can clean your area and place your bowl on the high shelf. Always say "gotchisosama(desihita)". Some people may think ramen shops are just a hole in the wall, but the chef takes much pride in making the broth in-house
As someone who has been living in Japan for over half my life. The biggest thing to understand about eating at a sushi restaurant is it really depends on the type of sushi restaurant you are in. I personally have never been to one where you have to follow these "rules". The vast majority of sushi restaurants here are low to mid-range restaurants and you can eat the sushi however you want. Want more wasabi? just add more, want none, request none. It's just like eating at any high-end expensive restaurant, there are always "rules". So please don't stress about eating here. I have met so many people that were visibly stressed about eating out or riding the train and just anything because of videos like this. The only rules you really need to know is watch what everyone else is doing, don't be loud or rude and enjoy yourself. No one will get upset if you don't have the beer turned the right way. And yes, I know, people want to learn the culture. I understand, just saying, don't stress over it.
Agreed with your last statement. I went to Tokyo for 2 weeks a month ago. No one seemed to really bother the way you dress or "behave" in a restaurant (or anywhere else for that matter). Just do what you feel is best regarding the situation.
@@davec8153 the issue is most tourists/visitors don't understand the difference between the different sushi restaurants. They could go into a more common sushi restaurant and think they have to follow these silly "rules". People get too worked up over Japanese culture and not wanting to "insult" the chef. If you pay for something, you can eat it however you want. I'm not a fan of wasabi or soy sauce, I feel it ruins the sushi flavor. So, I always ask for no wasabi or soy sauce when we eat at nicer sushi restaurants. Now if the chef wants to give me the food for free, I'll gladly eat what he wants me to. But as long as I'm paying for it, I decide what to eat.
I agree with the young lady she interviewed on the street. When I encounter people here and they are from a foreign country I just think they just don't know our rules. If you decide to tell them do it with discretion and kindness.
i love this channel....my regret is, understanding my (canadian) japanese culture when my grandparents took resident 2 generations ago. i can only wish to visit these places/communities that you post.❤❤❤
Omg. Kirin Ichiban is my favorite beer i the whole world. Did you guys know that the beer was invented by Norwegian brothers William Henry Talbot and Edgar Abbott. Im from Norway, by the way 🥰
William Henry Talbot and Edgar Abbott were not Norwegian, as should be clear by their names. They were both English and became business partners of the founder of Kirin, Johan Martinius Thoresen, who was born in Norway, but had already emigrated to the US where he changed his name into William Copeland.
I’ve wondered for a long time… is it never ok to bite half of the sushi off? I’ve got a small mouth, and I really do try to put it in on one go, but it’s just too much food and I end up looking like a three year old who just learnt how to eat. My guess is that it really is no mercy and if I can’t handle it, that’s my problem. Could someone clarify? Would it (counter intuitively) be better to put it in whole and look like a chipmunk with food bulging in my cheek? Some sushi just falls apart when you bite it, so with these I can understand the reasoning.
We suggest eating in one bite, biting in half might offend the chef. Japanese people think sushi is already bite-sized so no need to bite it in half, but we get you, sometimes it might be too much. In those cases, looking like a chipmunk would be the best:D
If you cannot remember the words you say after a meal, is it ok to say, "thank you for the good food?" in English? or is that rude? My first time in Japan next month! I can't wait and it is always good to have some idea of table manners wherever you visit. Love your videos!
Be aware that at high end Omakase Sushi resto like Sushi Ryusuke, you eat the sushi as served. NEVER ask for shoyu, wasabi or any condiment. Different sushi may have different condiment that's served together and removed after it's eaten. It's an insult to the chef for not enjoying the sushi as intended. However, it's not as strict for regular sushi places. Looking around how other diners are eating will surely give a hint. 😅
We had a few months of Japanese language lessons before we came over for the Rugby World Cup. The husband and I went to a little food place in Kyoto and the dude behind the counter gave us a look that could only be interpreted as 'Oh FFS gaijin" and shoved a menu with pictures on it to us. We (okay my husband... He was much more confident speaking than me lol) asked 'osusume wa nan desu ka' - 'What do you recommend?' The dude looked impressed and pointed out what we should try. Took his advice and had a very broken Japanese conversation with him. It was amazing, his attitude and body language completely changed, he even called his wife over to have a chat hahaha. Best meal we had ♥
My partner made the mistake of ordering "hot tea" in Ireland. The server roasted him for it 😂 The joke is that tea being hot goes completely without saying, in Ireland. Like specifying that your chicken should not be raw when it's served to you. How else would you have it?! Since America isn't as much of a "tea culture" and our tea options are so huge, we don't assume hot is how tea will come. Especially with the ice tea culture of the southern US.
I have a medical condition in my throat where I am not able to process big bites of food. all bites must be small. Do I have to give up sushi, a favorite of mine, or can I eat the sushi in 2 bites without insulting the staff?
She does a very nice job introducing the sushi etiquette, but I learned that you should not use your free hand like a dish as she is doing here. But very helpful!
Oh,my. That's the first time I'm hearing that. In Japan, it's common to not finish your ramen broth? That, to me as an Asian, is sacrilege. The last legs of the broth is the good stuff! 😁
10:30 Slurping noodles and soups also have the effect of cooling off the hot food before it goes into your mouth. The Japanese consider it gross to blow across your food to cool it down as we tend to do in the West. This blows your breath over the food and is not good, especially if you're sharing dishes as the Chinese and others do.
19:00 A tanuki is also an animal known as a raccoon dog.
Really interesting about slurping noodles and drinking from the bowl. I have seen Japanese colleagues do this and have had to work very hard to conceal my revulsion!
:D It takes time to get used to!
May I? Yes, thank you for the best example of etiquette that I have seen to date. And, YES, your producer should make more appearances. Wish I could experience the world you are so kind to show us,
You are so great!
Also eating the noodles before they get soggy is why slurping is ok.
Is the hand held in front of the mouth an etiquette thing or a personal affectation?
Am I have all of this manner with myself already even though I'm not Japanese. we all need to have these polite manners and this is the right thing to do as a human being.
You are right!
Information you can use
Japanese bar food that looks like it should be in a museum somewhere. lol.
For real!
First time I was in a Japanese restaurant - not a restaurant in Japan, but a restaurant in Vancouver serving Japanese cuisine run by people who were probably Japanese immigrants - I was most confused from basically the moment I sat down. I was quickly provided two things: a small bowl of miso soup and a fresh set of chopsticks.
So....I'm the kind of person who's very good at making connections between things in my head, and was at the time (and probably still am to a lesser extent) not very good at figuring out when those connections are not actually valid. Having been served a bowl of soup and an eating utensil, I made the connection that the eating utensil was intended as the means of conveying soup from bowl to mouth. In any western restaurant, this would be correct, because the eating utensil would be a soup spoon.
It took me a good 5 minutes or so to drop the idea of somehow using chopsticks to eat miso soup and realized the obvious: the chopsticks were not meant for the soup, they were meant for the main course. I can't remember whether I figured out it was expected that diners drink the miso soup from the bowl directly, or if I ended up asking the server the next time they were by - it was quite a few years ago.
Needless to say, the whole experience was very much one that I was not remotely prepared for and was rather uncomfortable. But the food was good, and it's a good memory to think back on.
One thing to also note when pouring in drink is the way you pour in.
There was once a ritual to pour in sake for someone about to commit seppuku. If xou hold the bottle the wrong way, it is also an immense breach of etiquette.
:O Good to know!
Civilized and gentle people, wonderful
Does Shizuka have an IG? Be great to learn some more phrases, she does a great job explaining and enunciates. Arigatō
Her insta is @xshizzyx :) thank you for watching!!!!
The red dress really fits on Shizuka.
At the izakaya, where do you put your shoes? In the walkway doesnt seem quite right, so maybe next to where your feet are?
there usually should be a space for the shoes, sometimes you get a bag even.
First street interview girl was very nice I like her attitude.
This video was part of my airline's in flight programming when I was on my flight to study abroad in Japan last January :) Now I'm back in the states and it pops up in my youtube recommended videos. Thanks for the tips they were helpful!
That's awesome! Hope you had fun times in Japan!
I've done nothing embarrassing when it comes to food and I never feel embarrassed as the emotion itself.
I had seen many video, and it stressing me out. i want to enjoy the culture and food and same time not to disrespect . see you ladies and gents soon 😊
Eli approved that low clink 🍻😤
:D
This was sooo delightful! Now, I am hungry!
Shizuka can do any dining "don't" and it's just fine!
:D
Very Amusing!!
The breathtaking Shizuka..... aaaawwwwww... 🥰
They are quite tough! We love them tho!
"Sorry for the wait" in the ramen shop with no one else in it.
Japanese and their politeness :D
Thank you for the information!
Our pleasure!
Casual sushi places...dont worry so much about the strictness. Just eat.
Not food related but when I was in Japan I found out the hard way that tattoos even on foreigners stationed in Japan are a no go on onsen baths.
And they should be a no-go everywhere because most tats are ugly and disgusting.
If the Japanese want to accommodate and accept you they will! And yes they are one of the toughest people to please.
They go to Africa and pick up people there
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Love her.
I'm a very shy person and Americans have a hangup on saying Japanese things for fear of sounding like weeaboos.
Instead of itadakimasu I just said "goshisousama" I'm told it means thanks for the food. Which is honestly more sincere and grateful to me. After the meal I said argigatou gozaimasu.
Did I break a taboo or is saying it out of order fine?
Itadakimasu is used before the meal and gochisosama is after you finish your meal:) You can also replace gochisosama with a simple arigato gozaimasu.
Thank you for the tips. So wonderfully presented as usual.
Thank you for watching!
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Nice job combining the tips with the meal and going to good yet affordable places. I did not know I was supposed to be dressed well. Good to know. Thank you so much for all the good advice.
I assume you are aware, but if it wasn't for the weak Yen, a high class sushi place in Ginza is not what an average person would call affordable.
Becoming friends with the chefs and staff of my favorite sushi place, I was invited to the chef's home for dinner. Coming with a few cases of Budweiser ( which I never drink - I like Kirin ) helped break the ice. After some beers and meeting friends and family, his wife announced time to eat. They were all looking at me as his wife uncovered a massive ham - glazed and with requisite pineapple rings. Embarrasment all around as I had to explain that, as a Jew, eating any pork was forbidden. When all was said and done, everything worked out splendidly. After that, I brought any variety of kosher meats for my contribution. Every experience was a learning one.
Absolutely Outstanding
Thank you so much!
You mentioned tori-zara as taking plate, but it’s actually short for uketori-zara which is receiving plate. The nuance between taking and receiving is very different and important to understand.
I was taught to eat sushi fish-side down in my mouth.
Thank you for that lovely tutorial I intend to visit Japan the near future and follow your blog🎉🎉🎉😊
Please do!
This looks like eating sushi 101 during the Shogunate period of Japan, with strict etiquette. I prefer Netflix Tokyo diner series where the atmosphere is more proletarian and cosmopolitan.
Many thanks to Gonpachi restaurant for the Ukrainian flag on the wall. Arigato gozaimasu! ❤
Are you a bot? Asking for American tax payer friend.
Interesting. I didn't know I had to describe the sushi I just ate.
Thank you for sharing such amazing videos. Keep up the great job. Arigato gozaimasu🙏
Thanks for watching!
The way she covers her mouth after eating something. Cute. As. Hell.
Placing chopsticks on top of a bowl is considered impolite by other etiquette specialists - could you elaborate?
This by far the best channel for Japanese food experiences. Always very well thought out videos!
😍 I can’t wait to go to Japan in July!!!
Love your video🎉and your dress, I think it suits you perfectly. I wouldn t like to be alone with the chef like that, but it is being concentrated on the food.
I love uni. 😍😍
Oh my... unagi 🤤🤤
We do too!
I literally sat here and took notes. Can't thank you enough I will do my utmost to be a worthy visitor.
We are so happy to hear that!
Thank You Dear for wonderful video. Once in Japan į will be a gentleman in the restaurant ❤🙏👍
Have fun!
シズカさんこんばんわ～シズカさんの笑顔が大好きで毎回見てます😊
外国人のテーブルマナーで間違ってる事を良く見かけます
焼き鳥や寿司など 食べる前に食べ物と食べ物で乾杯する様な仕草を良く見かけます
マナーと言うよりお行儀が悪い行為だと思います
外国人観光客の日本旅行動画でもたまに見かけます😱😱😱
Spot on. One thing to add at the ramen place, it is also nice if you can clean your area and place your bowl on the high shelf. Always say "gotchisosama(desihita)". Some people may think ramen shops are just a hole in the wall, but the chef takes much pride in making the broth in-house
Do you mean
(ち そ う)
"ご馳走さまでした"?
As someone who has been living in Japan for over half my life. The biggest thing to understand about eating at a sushi restaurant is it really depends on the type of sushi restaurant you are in. I personally have never been to one where you have to follow these "rules". The vast majority of sushi restaurants here are low to mid-range restaurants and you can eat the sushi however you want. Want more wasabi? just add more, want none, request none. It's just like eating at any high-end expensive restaurant, there are always "rules". So please don't stress about eating here. I have met so many people that were visibly stressed about eating out or riding the train and just anything because of videos like this. The only rules you really need to know is watch what everyone else is doing, don't be loud or rude and enjoy yourself. No one will get upset if you don't have the beer turned the right way.
And yes, I know, people want to learn the culture. I understand, just saying, don't stress over it.
I totally agree. Most of the Japanese people have never been to this kind of high end sushi restaurant.
Agreed with your last statement. I went to Tokyo for 2 weeks a month ago. No one seemed to really bother the way you dress or "behave" in a restaurant (or anywhere else for that matter). Just do what you feel is best regarding the situation.
Thanks, saved me 21:05.
I thought it was pretty clear she's talking about having an omakase meal at a high end sushiya, and not kaitenzushi or whatever.
@@davec8153 the issue is most tourists/visitors don't understand the difference between the different sushi restaurants. They could go into a more common sushi restaurant and think they have to follow these silly "rules". People get too worked up over Japanese culture and not wanting to "insult" the chef. If you pay for something, you can eat it however you want. I'm not a fan of wasabi or soy sauce, I feel it ruins the sushi flavor. So, I always ask for no wasabi or soy sauce when we eat at nicer sushi restaurants. Now if the chef wants to give me the food for free, I'll gladly eat what he wants me to. But as long as I'm paying for it, I decide what to eat.
Wow! That's was fun!))👍👌
I agree with the young lady she interviewed on the street. When I encounter people here and they are from a foreign country I just think they just don't know our rules. If you decide to tell them do it with discretion and kindness.
I absolutely love Japanese food but I have zero tolerance for chopsticks.
Takes practice! Do not give up:)
loving the street interviews!!
I looking you are show a bout food is tasting it is delicious food. thanks
Is there a polite way to ask for modifications to Japanese dishes? Eg. No shallots on ramen?
i love this channel....my regret is, understanding my (canadian) japanese culture when my grandparents took resident 2 generations ago. i can only wish to visit these places/communities that you post.❤❤❤
Fantastic video.
Great info.
To you and your producer.
Thank You !!!
Arigatō !!!
Omg. Kirin Ichiban is my favorite beer i the whole world. Did you guys know that the beer was invented by Norwegian brothers William Henry Talbot and Edgar Abbott. Im from Norway, by the way 🥰
We had no idea! What!!!!
Funny, the Kirin Ichiban beer website mentions nothing about its Norwegian inventors? I guess they forgot.
@@gwarlow check the Wikipedia site
@gwarlow This beer history is mostly only known to Norwegian brewers and beer historians. That's because Kirin is not a common beer in Norway 🙂
William Henry Talbot and Edgar Abbott were not Norwegian, as should be clear by their names. They were both English and became business partners of the founder of Kirin, Johan Martinius Thoresen, who was born in Norway, but had already emigrated to the US where he changed his name into William Copeland.
I been watching a long time can't wait to come there😊🎉
Please enjoy!
Shizuka is so naturally radiant and charming 🥰
I'm for good table manners every where. Good manners shows class. Thanks for another good video.
Then you must not like babies very much
You are welcome!
I’ve wondered for a long time… is it never ok to bite half of the sushi off? I’ve got a small mouth, and I really do try to put it in on one go, but it’s just too much food and I end up looking like a three year old who just learnt how to eat. My guess is that it really is no mercy and if I can’t handle it, that’s my problem. Could someone clarify? Would it (counter intuitively) be better to put it in whole and look like a chipmunk with food bulging in my cheek? Some sushi just falls apart when you bite it, so with these I can understand the reasoning.
We suggest eating in one bite, biting in half might offend the chef. Japanese people think sushi is already bite-sized so no need to bite it in half, but we get you, sometimes it might be too much. In those cases, looking like a chipmunk would be the best:D
collab with jiro!
Excellent segment. Thank you….I learned a lot.
Glad it was helpful!
Fantastic!
I think going to Japan is intimidating
Good thing to know about eating with the hands. I have arthritis in my hands, so using chopsticks would be a painful and disastrous experience.
its always the ramen spots that you pay with the machine for me.
We love them!
I love Japanese Culture and Tradition!
We do too!!!❤
Love your dress/suit cobo, and thank you for giving us good advice on the dining etiquette in Japan.
You are so welcome!
If you cannot remember the words you say after a meal, is it ok to say, "thank you for the good food?" in English? or is that rude? My first time in Japan next month! I can't wait and it is always good to have some idea of table manners wherever you visit. Love your videos!
You can just say Thank you or Arigato gozaimasu!
Just a few minutes of practice after every meal before you leave will help immensely.
Be aware that at high end Omakase Sushi resto like Sushi Ryusuke, you eat the sushi as served. NEVER ask for shoyu, wasabi or any condiment. Different sushi may have different condiment that's served together and removed after it's eaten. It's an insult to the chef for not enjoying the sushi as intended.
However, it's not as strict for regular sushi places.
Looking around how other diners are eating will surely give a hint. 😅
Very true!
Thank you for the Do's and Don't's video. This will help us when we visit Japan.
Our pleasure!
We had a few months of Japanese language lessons before we came over for the Rugby World Cup. The husband and I went to a little food place in Kyoto and the dude behind the counter gave us a look that could only be interpreted as 'Oh FFS gaijin" and shoved a menu with pictures on it to us.
We (okay my husband... He was much more confident speaking than me lol) asked 'osusume wa nan desu ka' - 'What do you recommend?' The dude looked impressed and pointed out what we should try. Took his advice and had a very broken Japanese conversation with him. It was amazing, his attitude and body language completely changed, he even called his wife over to have a chat hahaha. Best meal we had ♥
wow those little shinko fish, nice. There's something you don't see in the average American sushi joint
Yep! They are quite rare!
I saw in another video that you are not supposed to put your hand under you food like at 3:12 . Is this true?
upsie:D in general try doing it without the hands under the food:P
Very well explained and presented.
Thank you for the interesting information.
Real question, is doing an exaggerated UMMMM after every taste also considered polite or is that just a show thing?
Great information Shizuka.
I stumbled across this video and i appreciate the lesson so much! I just have to say girl you are SO shockingly beautiful. Have a great day!
when I see these many unwritten rules, there's this urge to break them just to test the limit 😆
Thanks Shizuka! Awesome video✨
Glad you liked it!
Makes sense not to open the sushi, everytime I try that it falls apart and becomes a mess 😂🎉
Great educational video
Glad you think so!
What a great idea for a video - much appreciated! And won't lie, I bring my fork around - I'm sure that's a don't but I can't eat noodles without one!
:D I mean, you gotta do what you gotta do!
@@JapanbyFood I won't lie though - part of me is amused by the thought of others watching me use the fork 🤣
Eating and drinking in Japan, Shizuka you have one of the best jobs. Thank you for sharing it with us.
Thanks Shizzy and JBF for another awesome video 💯👍
Thank you so much! We are so glad to hear that! ❤
I eat ducky the moss sometimes too!
I foresee power struggle in the future. It doesn't sound like Shizuka sees Eli as the "boss"...🤣🤣🤣. on screen talent or the producer? Hmmm...
We do not believe in hierarchy!:P
My partner made the mistake of ordering "hot tea" in Ireland. The server roasted him for it 😂
The joke is that tea being hot goes completely without saying, in Ireland. Like specifying that your chicken should not be raw when it's served to you. How else would you have it?! Since America isn't as much of a "tea culture" and our tea options are so huge, we don't assume hot is how tea will come. Especially with the ice tea culture of the southern US.
I have a medical condition in my throat where I am not able to process big bites of food. all bites must be small. Do I have to give up sushi, a favorite of mine, or can I eat the sushi in 2 bites without insulting the staff?
I would suggest sharing this info with them! There will 100% be understanding and accommodating!
英語が出来ても、日本人が長い年月を掛けて培ってきた美意識や文化を外国人に説明するのは難しく思います。良い動画ですね。
She does a very nice job introducing the sushi etiquette, but I learned that you should not use your free hand like a dish as she is doing here. But very helpful!