Living & Dying Alone: The Rise Of Single-Person Households Is Changing Societies | CNA Correspondent
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- Опубликовано: 26 апр 2023
- In Japan, the average household had four members in the 1980s. As of 2020, 38% are single-member households. But the pace of households shrinking to just one person is rising fast. It’s likely to exceed 40% of all households very soon. Michiyo Ishida checks out a new solo dining trend amid the shifting social structure.
In South Korea, the rise of single-person households is also bringing sweeping changes to many sectors, including the funeral industry. Lim Yun Suk finds out why more young Koreans are choosing to stay single, with some even wanting to plan ahead for their funerals.
In the United States, Sally Patterson examines the price that solo living carries. Research shows singles in the nation fork out thousands of extra dollars on rent in what’s being called a ‘single’s tax’, as more Americans are unpartnered - meaning neither married nor living with a partner - than ever before.
0:17 Japan’s growing singles population
7:54 Funeral traditions shift as South Korea greys
15:15 Solo living carries a price in New York
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Don’t confuse being Single and being Alone as the same thing. You can be single and be surrounded by a strong network of family, friends, coworkers and acquaintances. You can be married and still be alone and isolated.
Also in the end, everyone dies alone.
So true
@ Easydiyprojects christ doesn't exist. Wake up
Dying alone is on the rise in Japan . Its number has already overtaken suicide😢
@yoshiro everyone dies alone anyway. Why so scared of dying alone
@@bikeyoshiro everyone dies alone
I just visited my grandma at the clinic, all the people there have families, some haven't seen their kids for 2-3 years so having kids ain't a guarantee you will not die alone.
I wish more people would understand this. I live alone and I do not have children - I certainly do not regret my choice; freedom to do whatever I want without having to plan.
I saw this with my grandfather at his old age home. Most elderly ended up dying alone regardless as to whether they had children or not. Especially the men. They were often abandoned by their children. Thats why I understand why men especially are abandoning the idea of marriage or children. There really is no point for it as you will end up being alone anyways. Might as well just live the best single life possible and have great experiences to remember.
I’m single and so is my friend. She said having no children means she won’t have to be upset at that stage when they don’t visit.
IMO more men could have been more absent or be emotionally unavailable as a parent during their kids childhood. As a result, their kids as adults will not have any strong connection to the father. That could explain why men are visited less.
You women are responsible for population decline in your respective countries
Single life should not be looked down upon ..I think some people just don't meet right people..
Correct
amen to that. i mean like this era is actually really hard to find a suitable partners.
No.. Some people are just uninterested with cliche love stories and love life. Some people are not born for that.. not spouse-worthy or partner-worthy…. 😊
@@romella_karmey that's also true ..some people are just complete
The only thing that concerns me is how much a house full of elderly people can possibly be safe or convenient
Better to be alone than to end up with the wrong person.
How many of us are messed up due to childhood trauma? Horrible parenting? I don't wish it upon anyone. Everyone who wants to become parents should be required to have a psych eval and a parenting course.
That's dangerous talk right there. What philosophical framework determines objectively what a "good parent" is? That seems inherently subjective. For example, one philosophy might see male circumcision as good parenting. Another might see it as bad parenting. Freedom of religion and parental authority can potentially be violated by mandatory pych evals/parenting classes.
@@MiguelDLewis you yourself should know if you will be able to be a good parent or not. A lot of people married because they are pressured by society, or they are afraid to grow old alone. I just hope this mentality could change because being single is not that bad at all.
@@GeorgiaAndrea What is the objective standard of a "good parent"? There are some spiritual philosophies and cultures that have completely opposite views of "good parenting". Here in the US, there are some parents that think giving hormone blockers to their children is "good parenting". Others disagree. You can't enforce something that has no objective standard without violating people's rights.
@@MiguelDLewis It’s interesting that we have to ask such questions but I think it is more dangerous that we are allowing human species to just breed like rabbits because there is no regulation as to how many a person is allowed to have because you know? The more the merrier! Also societies everywhere only talks about how a child is a blessing and everybody should experience becoming a parent with disregards on whether a person is mentally capable to become a parent or not.
@@GeorgiaAndrea You just beg the question: What is a "mentally capable parent" objectively? We're back at square one.
This is far better than living in abusive or exploitative relationships. Being single is a blessing.
Sure. But being in a good relationship is infinitely better than being single. Why not better yourself to a point where you can get a good partner?
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb For You. It is infinitely better. Not everyone feels that way. Everyone is different.
@@RK-ve4xp no. We are more the same than we are different. Everyone needs a family, or they're missing out. I'm not saying this to spite anyone, this just is the truth. Fighting it will only hurt you.
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb I hate when people saying they are right and others are wrong. Every person's brain is not the same, even the twin's. You're practicing condescending.
@@as-1982 no, you're just trying to legitimaze your own weak behavior. Every single one of your ancestors 200 000 years before you had children. You're saying they were all wrong and you're right?
I get it, you're under a leftist psy op mission and you're afraid of CO2 and masculinity. They're lying to you, you can still save your own life.
Few things I learned whether you are single or partnered/married :
- We come into the world alone and leave the world alone.
- Happiness is your own individual responsibility, no one else's, not even your kids or spouse.
- Your partner/spouse is a fellow traveler on their own unique journey. Respect that.
- Everything and everyone (even your loved ones) is impermanent in your life. Accept it.
When I was born, my father was the first person to pick me up ok his arms. When my father died, I was holding his hand, and I promised him I'd take care of everyone. Neither of us was alone in those moments.
I'm sorry to hear about your experiences, maybe it will get better.
I agree with you. People may join you on your or their journey. But people must be aware that in essence, you are alone. Yes it's nice to have a loving family or people who take care of you. But don't be dependend on it, or worse, feel entitled to it. I see a lot of people who, somehow, are under the illusion that someone will always take care of them. It's nice that it happens( love and care), but don't ever take it fir granted.
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb It's nice that it happened in your family like that. But not al people and families are the same. Never take love and care for granted. I love my parents too, and I want to take care of them... but what if I were to have an accident that leaves me with a disability, or what if I die before them? You cannot control or calculate life, much less the people in it.
@@doloresvangaal2248 anything can happen. That's not s reason to lose meaning or to sink into nihilism. I'm not looking to judge or make anyone feel bad, I wish you and anyone you may love the strength to live the best life imaginable.
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb it's not nihilism. It's realism. Not everyone has a good family, good friends etc... you're ignoring the fact that an awful lot of people must fend for themselves, irregardless of having a family. I'm not a pessimist. I do care of people and thank God there are people who want to take care of me. But to depend on, or expect it is, that's a very naive idea. If people do care about it each other, than that's wonderful. But you don't have to expect that. It's not some entitlement, it's privilege.
No dating, no marriage, no kids, no mortgage, no car loan.
Just freedom.
Sounds quite good when you say it like that
Loneliness is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t wanna deal with people. All of our unhappiness comes from our inability to be alone. If you love yourself, you will enjoy your own company. You can not be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude. Hell is other people.
You are so right about it and I have come in terms with myself with that fact. With people around me I feel uncomfortable, alone and not like myself. It's only at solitude that I find peace and I become who I feel I am at heart
Most of humans are not built like you. We are social animals, most of us are. When you say “you”, I believe it works only for selected few. Most people have both needs of being alone and being surrounded by people. Not only by being alone.
@@crookshanksssssssss yes u are right. I like solitude but find that my friends cannot even go shopping alone. However I even love to travel alone. We are all so different
Solitude is very different than loneliness. Loneliness kills. Look at the studies on the impact of loneliness on physical health, let alone mental health.
I agree!
I come from a family and society/environment where it's extremely competitive, judgemental, manipulative, dysfunctional and abusive. Most people don't want to understand that it can be mental health issues (social anxiety, PTSD, depression etc). I enjoy to be alone and live alone, I'm used to it and I just want to keep my peace. I'm rather alone than with toxic people or family members.
@@aexurml4314 The wise thing a person can do whether married with kids or single is always save money for your retirement . Make retirement plans . Nothing is guaranteed in life . That spouse and kid might die before you . They might not want to do anything with you in your later life . They might not be financially strong enough to take care of you in old age . Sometimes due to financial burden children ditch their parents in old age .
You and me is all most same life and inviroment 😊😊😊
Sorry to hear what you've gone through in your family. But yeah, if you enjoy and prefer to be alone, you own it and have fun. You deserve the freedom to be just who you want to be. Stay happy! 😃
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That is my biggest mistake. I am almost 60yrs and wish I had focused on building an adequate retirement fund.@@Mira-pm3ni
To paraphrase Robin Williams, "To end up alone is not the worst thing in life. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." George Washington also once said that it is far better to be alone than to be with bad company.
I lost track of RW; what happened to him?
@@edhuber3557what really happened to him is he chose to committed suicide when he found out that he is susceptible for dementia.
It's not like people want to be wholly alone, but it's hard to find like minded people who also like to be together but not 'together' all the time you know?
Yes
Uhhh you mean roommates 😂😂 that's not hard to find.
It not like you'll be interacting with them anyways.
Exactly
Man is created to praise, reverence, and serve God our Lord, and by this means to save his soul.
And the other things on the face of the earth are created for man and that they may help him in prosecuting the end for which he is created.
From this it follows that man is to use them as much as they help him on to his end, and ought to rid himself of them so far as they hinder him as to it.
For this it is necessary to make ourselves indifferent to all created things in all that is allowed to the choice of our free will and is not prohibited to it; so that, on our part, we want not health rather than sickness, riches rather than poverty,honor rather than dishonor, long rather than short life, and so in all the rest; desiring and choosing only what is most conducive for us to the end for which we are created..
@@rafaelw8115 this random I never meet like minded people that NEVER want to hang out.
Ever since I was a child I already knew I'd be and choose to stay single. I've never been ashamed or lonely to do things alone, like eating alone and enjoying my meal in a restaurant or travelling to new places. I'm free, peaceful and enjoying life in my own terms❣😃 I simply don't understand why most people are so afraid of being solo. Singlehood does not mean sadness or loneliness. Soloists simply enjoy and live life differently.
It's nothing hard to understand. People simply realize, to be happy, they don't need to get married, have kids or whatever the traditional image of a "normal" person portraits.
If you find someone, great. If not, no big deal. We can still have a very fulfilling life.
Exactly 💯
This is it. 💯 What is traditional isn’t bad, and it’s useful if your focus is mere survival. Upon coming to this Earth every creature was geared for survival, but to push the boundaries and thrive is unique to humans. Now that we have most societies covering our survival needs it’s easy to see how people are stepping out of one mode of living in order to thrive. Breaking out the pattern is necessary when the pattern only caters to mere survival and doesn’t leave much room for individuals to thrive.
in west it is impossible to be single. all of them are married and has kids 🥱🥱
@@rafaelw8115 if you don’t want your life deeply intertwined with anyone then single works better. If you don’t want to live with anyone then single often works better.
"traditional image" it's called *dogma* or *dogmatic*, you can google every dictionary, if you don't believe a random stranger.
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There's nothing wrong in being single. Having a partner doesn't guarantee you with a happy life.
If you find the right person, great. If not, dont force it. A spouse and kids does not guarantee a happy life, in fact many suffer the physical and emotional toll without reaping the benefits in their old age.
Exactly! Someone gets it.
At 43, I already bought a memorial lot and a memorial life plan for me and my senior mother. I don't want to burden my sisters when I die. Death is inevitable, we need to plan ahead.
“But freedom is my basic need” encapsulates it all.
she's financially ok, active and healthy... also her family line is long lived so likely at 60 her health is awesome
Loneliness is the price she paid for freedom. There are no perfect solutions; only tradeoffs.
@@MiguelDLewisloneliness is only a state of mind. Freedom is more important
@@chickeabiddy so true! 🎉
@@MiguelDLewis she doesn't look lonely to me. 'Family' doesn't have to mean 'the same bloodline'.
Living and dying alone is better than living and dying within a household of toxic people.
Honestly, being single and happy is a luxury that’s worth the extra cost. We all came into the world alone and will exit it alone.
keep telling yourself that lol
@@flatearthsteve Just because that’s not true for you, doesn’t mean it isn’t true for me.
@@Bluesclues-here as long as you are happy :)
@steve you know she's right.... I'm in the same situation.
I'm just confused how she said your "born" anyone 😂 last time I checked you ONLY die alone I have my family still so I'm NOT alone but single yes.
Regardless I work in NYC and I've meet plenty of women who are single AND CAN keep up a single lifestyle because their family SUPPORTS the lifestyle by financial help until they make enough money to support themselves.
I'm in that same boat except my success came from myself! High paying job, own two rental properties and multiple businesses.
I seriously can live by myself in a room and as long I have my ps5 and internet I'm good! 👍🏾
But since I live with my parents why live by myself 🤷🏾♂️
@@Bluesclues-here but let's consider a hypothetical scenario in which tomorrow your health degraded and you need a little bit of assistance in getting a few of your tasks done. would you still consider "freedom of being single a luxury" then? or maybe a little help from your loved ones be nice?
and once you start not being able to make the money you were able to before then wouldn't all the freedom you gained through extra cost go out the window.
leaving you alone in a deserted room.
Single or partnered is ok. As long as your happy.
*you're. Everyone is happy and unhappy every day. From crack wh*res to doctors. Happiness isn't a good unit to measure living right.
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb Bitter party of one. You can pick up Your fries at the next window.... 🦆
It is not just Japan. It is all over the world.
Last year, I was working full time, budgeting groceries, unable to afford date nights, and missing time with my kids. Now I learned how to make money online. Now am a SAHM, homeschooling, and making profits every week.
Everyone needs more than their salary to be financial stable. The best thing to do with your money is to invest it rightly, because money left for saving always end up used with no returns.
Who is your financial coach, do you mind hooking me?
Am looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I really need to create an alternate source of income, what do you think I should be buying?
@@MeaganGood-yn9wpCryptocurrency investment, but you will need a professional guide on that.
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Growing up in a full house and being ignored or abused is a million times worse than rising up in peace in the same clean house or in your own mess, verses a mess that others make. What is left at night greets me in the morning.
No surprises. No extra time spent on other's care.
I can concentrate on my hobbies and interests without worrying about lights and noise. Eat what I want and not to have to give a damm about anyones food and trash.
Let's face it-most of us can't tolerate each other.
Loneliness has been horrible for me. I lost my husband of 33 years almost 3 years ago; only 1 of our 4 children keeps in touch. I've become ill and disabled, so I have serious mobility issues. The heavy weight of loneliness weighs on me like an anvil. So I completely understand.
And you had children and are still lonely. Kids are not guaranteed to stick around when you get older.
Loneliness is a negative thing. Alone may not be negative. Constant contact with others is overwhelming to some people. It depends on a person’s preference. Everyone that is single and lives alone is not lonely. Some people have an active social network and social life. They can disconnect when they are ready.
Dogs are great companions. Visit your local pound and make sure to walk him twice a day.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope that with time your pain eases you can feel less lonely 🙏🏻
@@Event_Horizon14 Thank you my friend.
I am African, 42 years, single and have no kids. I am not lonely, I have friends, aquintances, colleagues, cousins, sisters, brothers. Not having a partner doesn't equate to loneliness. But as long as I am not miserable because of a partner I am okay.
Cope
I truly don’t understand why so many see dying alone as a bad thing. Why would you want an audience around when you die? To me, dying is personal, just like going to the toilet is personal. I’d prefer to kick the bucket in peace please.
The expectation that others will be standing around holding one's hand while they die always sounded rather unrealistic and self-absorbed to me.
Yeah but most people don't die peacefully in their sleep. An awful lot of people die of disease after months if not years of hard decline. I've seen it with my own eyes, and by the way you talk I can tell you have no clue what dying is really like. It'll likely be brutal to a degree you can't fathom, it'll likely be very painful, and it wont be quick either. So good luck to you sir/mam on your way out. You'll need it.
I don't want a bunch of people staring at me as I die. I'm not a stage production so they can trot out their feelings, their emotions, their wants to not die etc etc. Death is a personal event and should be respected, not feared and blubbered over. My dogs love me more than any human ever has and my dogs will be the only true mourners.
I don't know. Was with my grandaddy when he passed. I was glad to be able to hold his hand while he expired. We all knew the moment it was happening and i didn't want him to be scared ( i was still just a teenager).
However, when my darling grandmother passed away a few years later, it was the building super who found her. Dead 10 days. Alone. Fell and no one knows how long she laid there dying with broken bones. I'm still so sorry, Mamie ❤️
@@avalerie4467 People are Dumb and there is nothing that We Can Do about it; Such a Stupid Comment upstairs; it goes to Show You just how Dumb that person is thinking that She is dying alone when there are tons of witnesses in the other life. LOL.
Being alone for a long time makes you feel independent. When you are young you will be scared of being alone but then the more people you encountered the more you feel that its less chaotic to be single.
As long as a person is happy.
Happiness is overrated.
Not all singles are sad and dead
And not all married are happy and alive
😊
Look at how she express her joy.
We are in two different views
The couple looks at singles wierd
The singles looks at the couples wierd.
Respect each other as long as they are with their choices. 😊
And anyways. The singles are never alone.
If they found another person who is on their own
Either divorce or lost a love one
They can look at each other and technically they dont die alone.😅
Being alone and being lonely is a whole different universe altogether.
And i dare to add that some of us is thriving being single for years.
And yet have social life and happiness.
Often, Single women think that married women are tied down. Married women think that single women don’t have a husband to look after them.
@@sylviaj270 both set of women assume but reality is something else . Some married with kids are genuinely happy and some being single are looked by other people in their life . Some whether married with kids or single are living miserable out there . This is also a reality 😂
News only states single is a "problem" cause with less people, less things to buy/pay for, thus less taxes to be collected.
I’ve been through several long-term relationships, and I've been single for a decade now. I have no regrets about my decisions because my life changed for the better.
Mine too.
Same here
You keep attracting bad men. You tend to like them. You need to break the pattern. Only, you can know that.
@@noexcuses5524 don't like it😅
@@noexcuses5524 I disagree. Oftentimes you dont find out the guy is "bad" for a while. He puts on a front to keep you engaged.
I personally do not like "bad men" and ditch them. Also, all kinds of men are attracted to women, not just "bad" ones.
Attracting a bad man is one thing, that's not a woman's fault. Sticking with him when you know he's bad-that's the mistake.
Marriage is a practical solution. It's someone to split the mortgage / rent with, someone to share household work with, and someone to help raise children with. Some marriages are great, people can be soul mates, but most are not. Every couple I know have thought of divorce or just leaving. I think unless you find a soul mate, marriage is just not worth it if you can financially support yourself. There is no guarantee even if you marry and have kids, you will not end alone in old age. Just go to your local senior center, hospice center, senior assisted living. We all die alone. People with kids - they still die alone but much poorer than if they saved their money as a childless person.
Agree on dying alone, with or without partner and kids. personally soul mates don't exist from start to finish. it's usually work in progress for both. Soul mates till that exact moment you serve or are served with divorce papers...
Still single at mid 30 but I would still like to have my own family. But it is just so hard to meet people these days and I would rather be on my own than settle down for less
Same here
Co-living accommodation may become mainstream in the future. Housing supplies in urban settings may change to deal with rising housing costs for singles living in family housing and housing shortage. On the other hand, working from home trend may provide headwinds.
Actually, me and my husband are actually looking forward to such communal living.
Man is created to praise, reverence, and serve God our Lord, and by this means to save his soul.
And the other things on the face of the earth are created for man and that they may help him in prosecuting the end for which he is created.
From this it follows that man is to use them as much as they help him on to his end, and ought to rid himself of them so far as they hinder him as to it.
For this it is necessary to make ourselves indifferent to all created things in all that is allowed to the choice of our free will and is not prohibited to it; so that, on our part, we want not health rather than sickness, riches rather than poverty,honor rather than dishonor, long rather than short life, and so in all the rest; desiring and choosing only what is most conducive for us to the end for which we are created..
I'm 60 and I think I'm well prepared to live/die alone psychologically. I find family more of a negative than a positive (my experience over the last 30 years). They are a baggage on doing things my way. You can get used to being alone. Companionship is like an addiction, I discovered I'm fine without them.
Being single in Tokyo is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, it’s quite common. As she said, freedom is the basic need.
I’m single and have been for 3 years. I’ve had long term relationships but I found guys didn’t contribute around the house at all. I was also taking care of there emotional traumas without anything in return. I make good money. I don’t want to live with a guy again. I would like companionship but let’s meet each other once a week type of situation. I have hobbies and pets. I love my life. I’m buying a big house in the next couple of months. I am so content ❤…all the women in my family envy my life and wish they never got married 😂
Stupid caption. Not every "single" person dies alone. Getting married or having kids doesn't mean youre gonna be supported for life, and to have kids for this reason is SELFISH
Agreed 100%
Many married ppl also drop dead alone - especially women who bury their husbands decades before they expire.
exactly bth my grandmas died such tragic deaths and even tho they were surrounded by family as they died they have not spoke or acknowledged them being there the entire time.
Having had two toxic relationships in for most of my 20's because God forbit I found myself alone. The last one chipped away from me so much so that I nearly lost myself and I didn't know who I was anymore. I'm in my mid 30's now, single but happier than ever. Aging alone does not scare me because I have a lot of family and a few really good friends.
I am an introvert. My husband is also an introvert. We enjoy spending our "alone" time together, as well as spending our "us against the world" time together.
Just because it does not fit into a centuries old template does not mean it’s crap.
Live and let live!
This❤
Stop glorifying being married. Even if you're happily married, one day, you or your spouse are going to die first and leave the other alone. Even if you have your own loving children, they will have their own lives and the possibility of them not living near you also exist.
In the end, you'll be alone in your grave, so might as well practicing enjoying solo life early.
Because we will eventually die, nothing is worth anything? That's nihilism.
Why not enjoy life while you can. Become strong. Conquer. Fall in love. Get your heart broken. Find your wife. Love deeper and commit. Have children and understand you didn't know what love was before them. Protect and love your family. Die knowing you made a difference to your family.
100 percent correct
Every one around me (single or not) keep reminding me to find someone. They don't understand I feel completely at ease with myself and alone. I know in the long run, when you get old, not having anyone to look after you, plus the tax and financial implications are there, but a peaceful single life is really addictive
Always have people in your life and save and invest money for retirement . Nothing is guaranteed in life . Having spouse and kids is not guaranteed that your life will be at ease during old age . Be at any age money is needed . Plus take care of your health . Be single but if someone genuine person comes into your life then share the rest of your life with them 😀
Best 25 years of my life living alone. Total independence and freedom. You have no idea until you try it. Never going back.
I’ve been unmarried for 21 yrs and I have enjoyed being without a husband so as not to be controlled or have to think of another human being to worry about…I love making my own decisions 💚💚
Good for you.
I been single by choice for 10 years, the freedom been single offers is VERY addicting, is extremely hard to let go once you hook 😅
Actually we are born alone, die alone. In between what all these big fuss.
Let them choose what they want to.
How can you be born alone when you were born out of your mother? 🤔🤔
I was born out of my mother womb with the help from medical assistant. When my families died we are the one who usually taken care of their dead body and buried him/her to the ground since they can't do it themselves 😂
@@PissMenn 🤦♂🤦♂
What the Covid scamdemic or plandemic teach us is - if we bear this philosophy in our Mind in our daily lives - there is absolutely NO WAY - they can force their mandate upon is. We all would die alone eventually.
@@MiguelDLewis preach brother
People are waking up, the long hours of work for a misery pay is not worth it. We can't outsmart or win against the system so the solution is to not play the game. Everyone is laying flat now, no kids, no partner, no high consumption. Work to live not live to work and more importantly happiness and peace of mind have no price tag.
totally agreed the system was made for us to have kids to support the upper class work all our lives to end up sick, poor and too old to do anything about.
Agree with you.
I love my solo life and yes it is drama free and i am not experiencing loneliness.
I already decided that marriage is not for me at the age of 16 and 20 years later, I am still faithful to this singpe lifestyle. It is doing great for me cause I love this freedom I have been enjoying my entire life. No feeling of loneliness whatsoever and I am enjoying financial freedom too.
Great to hear from you!
Nice someone else is on the path of financial freedom! Love it! ❤
At the age of 36, healthy and capable, it's perfect being single. Ask yourself again in another 20 years.
good for you , you are a smart girl
Charity to good people for talking giving time to single house hold
I'd rather downsize, become minimalist, get a side hustle, ANYTHING rather than 'share' my life by getting a roommate or moving in with someone. The price of compromise is too steep. Romantic authors made marriage seem tantalizing, but in actual fact, it's practically impossible to enjoy living with others. Even if you find a 'suitable' partner, too many other complicated variables. Who's going to give up their dream to assist someone else pursue theirs? ...is just one complication.
I welcome this trend.
Finally, men have to do their own house chores, take care of their OWN parents with their OWN hands, cook themselves, clean the house themselves, and etc.
If they had a female partner, most of them would’ve fallen on the wife.
As a woman living in Asia, I appreciate living alone for the same reason.
Solo life to me as a woman means I have plenty of me time to read, relax, do my hobbies, work out, and etc. just for me.
If I were married, I would’ve been expected to call the parents in law frequently, use my emotional energy interacting with them, having to show fake smiles all the time even when I don’t feel like to, take care of the elder parents in law if they are ill, raise a child as if I’m a single mother, cook for the husband, do the laundries for him, clean the house all by myself, being literally an unpaid maid, caregiver and a babysitter for $0.
So, if any woman affords to live alone, it’s a good thing for her and probably not for the men.
There is the statistics if a wife dies before a husband, the husband dies sooner than their peers but if a husband dies before the wife, the wife lives longer.
It clearly shows who benefits more from living together.
It is also safer for women to be single because number 1 murderer and abuser to women are their husbands and boyfriends than a total stranger.
I’m very glad more and more men can’t exploit women’s domestic labor and abuse anymore.
You've summed it up nicely. Those are the things I appreciate after my divorce.
Its 2023, no men needs a women neither women needs a man to do things. Get a grip.
@@mrbabushka8715 It is unrealistic and ignorant of the reality.
Here in Korea, even when both a wife and a husband work, the wife does 5 more times of house chores and rearing a child.
It is always the wife who loses a job.
The law doesn’t punish the company for gender discrimination.
The birth rate dropped to 0.78 last year.
I can easily project it will drop to 0.7 this year.
The work and marital environment is too unfair and hostile towards the women, we started making a huge determination in life to not have a child.
The good thing is, I started noticing more sons are caregiving their own parents at the hospital.
It used to be the daughters in laws’ job but since women are not marrying, sons have to do it themselves.
What a justice.
@Bryan you summed it even more perfectly, she must be male hating feminazi
Uh oh, they hate when Women speak like this. I can't imagine romantic companionship as anything other than a modern nuisance.
its nice living alone but then I worry about my later years! I've watched too many documentaries on senior home abuses and the horrific stories on lonely neglected seniors who even died without saying goodbye to lovedones!
I think most of us(or maybe just me) living alone are not doing so out of choice, its more for the lack of suitable options/mates! I would love to have my own family but I don't want to compromise and be in a toxic or economically unsuitable relationship
Yes! The lack of suitable mates! So many men are abusive, mentally sick, poor character and addicted to porn. Those types are not suitable partners! And then there ARE good men just not compatible for a variety of reasons like different religious beliefs, ethnicity, attractiveness not there… a variety of reasons. To marry it requires compromise in some areas
exactly. it's the marxist agenda. no family unit. the individual answers to the state.
Same. Real love and compatibility is hard to find. People who want to hurry up and settle down are like McDonalds or Starbucks. You encounter many of them, relationship goals are so-so and eventually you may tire of it. 😭
I honestly believe women don't know how to pick men.
Whenever I read comments like these and then have a conversation I quickly find out the girl have fairytale in her head as to what a relationship looks like.
More often than not the REALLY good men are overlooked because they are too good and boring to be with.
At least I can only speak from my experience.
I WILL say this I personally grew up poor and now I'm well off, I'm no longer scared of the future because I have a luxury lifestyle and I can PAY my problems away!
Meaning old care doesn't scare me because I'll be able to afford it because since the more money I make ill definitely NOT have a family.
I currently can pay for a chef to cook and pay a maid to clean my house every two weeks.
I don't do it because I live with my parents and I literally pay them instead!
As of now if I had an opportunity to pay for sex I honestly would! Making money literally makes life very simple, to the point I believe having a family/kids is really meant for poor people.
At a certain point I'm happy this happened because it made me realize TRULY what I want women for and it's for sex!
I WISH I could come home to one girl that takes care of the home and chores, but nowadays women HATE being HOUSEWIFE so I prefer to pay for sex.
Unfortunately 😔 I don't have access to pay for it 🤭
@@aim-for-greatn3z947 What woman wants to be a maid for a man she dose not desire? Most of us see men are unnatractive and not worth the trouble.
I live with my whole family am married and feel alone. This woman is alone but not lonely. I'd admire her.
I'm sorry. I sympathise. I was married with kids and felt lonely. I wish I had been able to speak up and say that I was lonely in his presence. I wish we could have given up the computer and done anything else together. I hated that he would rather be alone in the basement on the computer after work while I handled everything alone than with the family.We tried therapy, but it only works if both partners are honest. He started an affair and asked for a divorce. It was devastating at the time,but I am much happier now. He remarried and divorced again! I am an introvert. If I want company I can have it, then I can be home alone with no one to care for or answer to. At my age, I would likely end up having to care for a sick spouse if I remarried. No thanks to that.
I love being alone, I am thinking for old age, buying a small plot of land, putting up a yurt and having chicken's, growing my own veg, but definitely living on my own in the wildness with nature.
Is being married and having kids the only way to not be alone in old age ? Many old people live in nursing homes. They have/had children and grand children, yet everyday they are surrounded and taken care of by "not family". Sometimes in their dying moments those "not family" people who stayed by their sides. I have a friend that had an unmarried sister. They were seven siblings, 3 boys+4 girls. All live in the same city. Yet, none of them had the time to take care of their unmarried sister when she was ill. 6 siblings, and no one took care of her. I also had a friend who took care of his sick old neighbour, from taking her to the hospital to finding a funeral home, because her daughter was living abroad.
Societies function because younger people pay taxes and health insurance premiums. Simple as that. No young people, no one caring or paying for you. Simple as that.
As a parent, I think childless people should afford their own caretaking needs, and once you do the math, you'll quickly realise that you most likely can't afford it or use your entire "expendable" income on it. That's the reality of it.
There's no point citing 2 extreme examples. Just look at the odds or, data.
@@elliewang008 it’s not an extreme example at all
It’s very common! Depends on each person’s experience right ?
@@elliewang008 in most first world countries the divorce number and single parents was due things considered to be interpersonal problems infidelity commitments to many arguing etc so it's really not that extreme
The problem is the way we culturally raise children in the west. They are not taught to value family and community, especially here in the U.S. We have a very individualistic outlook on life which is not sustainable longterm; naturally this will be the result as you mentioned. Children just dropping their parents in homes and hardly visiting or never looking back. We have to foster community mindset again. But that's going to take a lot of effort and work which I'm not sure many are willing to support. After all being individualistic and selfish can be very rewarding in the short-term.
Single or partnered, parent or childless any of these people can be unhappy. Being happy requires intention, gratitude, resilience and self awareness.
Only a fool would think happiness is a worthy goal. Aim for meaning.
@@JohnDoe-jt5lb Every life has meaning, its not something to aim for it already just exists. People spend a ridiculous amount of time looking for something that has been within them the whole time. Time spent on validating an existence is squandering time that could be spent on worthier skills.
being single beats pointless unnecessary drama
OK. I spent 9 years in Japan. And let me tell you, it's an amazing place. Yes, most people are single these days there, and that's because they are simply not interested in being parents or getting married. And that's fine. People would rather work, travel and spend time doing things that they like, like reading comics, karaoke and dancing or whatever. I do love that fact that I can walk into many restaurants alone and eat without being judged because I am dining alone. Japan is the perfect place for you if you are an introvert. Times are changing, but Japan is a country that does not change unless it is Absolutely forced to. The gov can't say to people ''have more babies'' That is just not the solution. The gov needs to accept and redesign things for the better. By 2050, the pop will be half what it is not, and that is great. There are too many people in Japan now. It is seriously overcrowded.
I don't think you understand what it means for the economy to have a severe drop in the work force like that.
Age 64 and have lived alone for more than half of that. I often go for a month or more without speaking to another person except to strangers to conduct necessary business. More and more often on the phone, interactions are with AI, not real people. Recently, after both parents passed away, and the ceremonies surrounding death were over, all the people went away and not one person contacted me. I spent six weeks entirely alone, speaking to nobody.
don't worry all they would say is ' how many booster shots have you had ? '
@@flatearthsteve Not a one. I’ve not any Covid shots, either.
@@mariekatherine5238 :) pureblood ! :)
No offence, but that doesn't sound healthy... humans are social creatures...
@@ordoabchao4202 yes but it 's how you prevent yourself from getting the covid mind virus lol
We need to lose the stigma around being alone.
Agree. To many people trygin to brainwash others intp thinking that living alone and being 'lonely' are the same things. Being 'lonely' is a _state of mind,_ and not everyone who loves alone is lonely. Many also enjoy their own company and aren't so needy.
💯 agreed when i was a kid people use to tell me something is wrong with me cause i use to play alone by myself.
There's a lot of abandoned malls could they be used as living spaces?
Saving money is always a great idea, however, are we overlooking the safety factor in finding random roommates to live in your home with you sometimes not all screening processes are rigourous enough to protect you from an unsafe situation and once they are moved in it’s hard to get rid of them
Many single or married couples pretending to be happy when they are not.
Being by myself is great. Theres a differnce between lonliness and solitude. Most dont know how to just be with themselves.
If you are in the right mind, you don’t want to bring another mouth to feed in this world full of suffering and agony anymore… I share the same sentiments of these singles and besides, I get to save so much money being single and without children lmao
i'm not judging your life choices, but just because you have that kind of mindset, it doesn't mean everyone else that don't are wrong. If you surround yourself with negativity, you'll only see suffering and agony. The world at its current state is much better than it was before in my pov with the technological advances we have today.
So, people with kids dont have the right mind? Right...😂
@@Rc-xg2zp selfishness. no consent from the kid if they even want to be born. it's all because of "i want"
@@lifeisgood2542 The sperm would not swim towards the egg if being born wasn't the goal. My dad's gay and even his sperm swam towards my mom's egg. 🤔🧠
@@lifeisgood2542 it's not selfish just because you want something. you can only call your parents selfish if they gave birth to you and neglected their responsibilities as a parent.
Can I have one job and can provide my family , my wife and my 3 kids? No? Then fix it if you want people to have more kids
Dying alone is better than surrounding with people who always bring you dramas and problems
I love my solo life. I do what I want, when I want. No need to compromise or have someone around that belittles me and bullies me into paying for his stuff. No thanks!
Same
Solitary IS the only way. manbabies are toxic.
It's perfectly ok to say you have not found the right partner for you but it's not okay to demean people who have found theirs, people who have chosen to raise their children. Whether you want to be living alone or with a partner is up to you. Both are choices that can make a person happy and fulfilled.
It was never my choice to be single. Life chose for me. What was i supposed to do, kidnap me a husband ? Im not a pretty woman. I'm not rich, just a working stiff. Also, not my choices. However, accepting life on life's terms about 35 years ago has made my life alot easier to live.
But they, especially girls are too picky cause "there's always better fish in the sea"
My aunt never get married she lived 93 years old and happy
Single does not mean lonely.
There is nothing at all wrong with being alone. Alone does not mean "lonely." If you're lonely, get a room mate.
better yet, make that roomate a pet. Pets love us more than any human.
The greatest thing that has ever happened to me is that I stayed single all my life, pls very short relationships and one night stands.
I like that with how different we are our lifestyles can be different as well. Some ppl thrive raising children. Either alone or with a partner. Or even more than one partner. Others don't want to be alone so they thrive in company, be it a lifelong partner or many throughout their lifes. Others want to be totally alone. Or just prefer company at certain stages of their life. There are options out there for everyone and most of it is accepted nowadays, maybe sometimes still a bit frowned upon but the younger generations understand all these lifestyles as parts of our today's society and possible options for themselves if they want. And that's wonderful
Being single is not a sin, but many people around the world are single not out of choice, but because of poverty or mental illness. Shouldn’t society try to solve this?
Most of the fixes is lowering women's expectation from what they see in love shows / movies, etc. And stop always thinking "there's always other fish in the sea" until they're nearly too old to have children.
Mental illness and forcing people to get into a relationship with them is called slavery.
My concept in life is to live in at least 2-3 different countries, hopping around whenever having enough of current environment, leaving rooms for appreciation in the near future… life’s too short to stay boring
Rent in Cambodia is $200 a month.
@@heythave I’m good with own preferences within Asia. Tks!
Mine too thats why dont want to have kids. Life become boring and static once u have kids
I live like that now and have been living like that for 30 yrs. About every 3 months, I change city/town/country. And after being in 137 countries, there is more I want to see and experience, so much more that wasting time coddling someone else would be a prison sentence. Life is and always has been too short to waste on a manbaby.
@@benibluefoe who hires you during the three month stays ? Your CV must scare most employers knowing you will bail on them in just a few weeks. Or are you just a grifter, or scam artist ?
Yes, single and loving it all the way. One of the best decisions i ve made in my life. I concur as in this clip, it wasn t easy from financial and convenience standpoint, however i wouldn t change it for anything in the world. Grateful and happy that its actually even possible for a woman to live single, compared to our not so distant past ...
I'm also happy to see more and more women -- at any age -- _finally figure his out!_ Single, AND choosing to NOT have children. We all know they are the ones who end up doing all the work with that and the housework on top of everything.
Cause you all often fall in love with "alpha" males who are busy brushing up with their playing / swooing tactics than washing dishes.
have you ever dated a man who is just bad at swooing?
Exactly! Can’t put a price on peace!
Having a partner does not guarantee financial ease . Many are married to financially irresponsible people and that makes life miserable.
Having only one income instead of 2 can sometimes be better for the pocketbook. At least you have full control.
@@bambismomkelly7423That is so true and my brother married a financially irresponsible woman who makes his life a nightmare. My youngest brother is afraid to marry because of that. He is happy being single.
All I see around me are broken or unhappy marriages. Not the best advertisement.
Edit: Amazing video, as an Asian-American this video was so relatable that you did 3 segments, 2 in Asia and 1 in America.
My priority is peace-of-mind.
Enjoy your life to the fullest no matter what your status is at any age🎉❤
I'm a super introverted person, always was. But I was lucky to find a wonderful girlfriend who is also my best friend. My life became so much better with her company, it is simply unparalleled the level of intimacy and connection you feel when you meet the right person to have a relationship with.
Even though I like being alone sometimes, I see that her company makes my life so much better and meaningful. If I didn't but myself out there to meet her, I would probably still be single. Being single wasn't all that bad for me personally, but it is undeniable that even for someone as introverted as me, being in a truly intimate and meaningful relationship enriches my life in so many ways. Yes, you can have great friends and family members like brothers and sisters, but the level of intimacy of a deep romantic relationship is in entirely different level for the better.
It feels like all types of relationships are becoming more superficial, how many videos are there of "I'm *number* age and I have no friends"? People are feeling increasingly lonely and isolating themselves, and that is awful for mental health. Humans are social creatures, even I, a super, super introverted person, still want (and lucky already have) a meaningful romantic relationship.
People prefer to be single for different reasons. Truth is no matter how single life is best we all need someone in our life for better or worse condition but it doesn't just have to be a romantic relationship . Whether family , adopt child , loyal best friend or any relative with whom you are close will do . We need people in our life to share . Plus never ever get attached with any human whether single or in a relationship . Sometimes people change . Attachment will give biggest heartbreak if something goes wrong .
Good for you, that means you're now in the 60% *statistics* ? and you don't have to tell us, there are literal billions if not trillions of love shows telling us that!
Good for getting a partner who doesn't think "There's always more fish in the sea"
You basically telling us "Go find some fish in the sea" but girls are often if not always "there's always better fish in the sea"
@@patb5192 People are simply deluding themselves and choosing the easy way out via selfishness... It's sad to see. If this mentality becomes the norm, we could see the end of society.
Thank you for your honest comment.
I don't understand why most people can't get that 2 or more things can be true at once.
I'm an ambivert that leans more towards introversion the older I get.
As much as I enjoy my own company because I never got much time on my own until about a year ago, it doesn't mean that I don't want companionship.
I would much rather have a partner that's my friend and 1 or 2 great friends.
However, I've never been blessed with that reality.
Don't misunderstand me, I've had long term relationships both romantic and platonic, but none of them really nurtured me, uplifted me, or helped me be my true or best self.
I had to do and keep working for those things on my own. Yet, my presence in these people's lives always helped and enriched them in some way.
I had to pull my head out of the sand and realize I needed to be alone.
That is was my only way to "freedom" if you will. But, again that's not the deep desire of my heart. Just my current reality.
mmm good for you? lol it is not like everybody on this planet will have luck to find the good partner they are looking for cmon
What price to pay? Freedom and efficiency is key. I pity the married and unhappy ones. Cannot make decisions, putting oneself in "prison" is a very high price to pay psychologically.
Media portraying being single is bad. It isn't.
you should approach them to tell our side of the story :)
@@flatearthsteve yes
I live alone and its less complicated
It's much better to be lonely in a bad, loveless relationships. Abusive and loveless relations were norm in a old, good days as people had no chance to make love choices
Even if one is married... what are chances of both of them dying together. One has to die alone no matter what . The only thing is if you have someone by your side your last rights would be done immediately and if you are single ...One might find out your death after a couple of days . Like many said in the comments below one is single when their mind is set that way not when they are not married or not having children .
I am currently involved in taking care of my 78 year old son husband who has cognitive decline and mobility issues. I know first hand what it means to be a caretaker. As a mom, I worry about my adult sons. Both are divorced, and without children I wonder hot they will manage in their elder years. I won't be here of course but I do think about this issue because I am in the middle of it myself.
"78 year old son husband"?, that makes no sense, which is it son or husband?
@@PSYCHIC_PSYCHO from what i understood, her son that's married / divorced, then she said she won't have to be worry cause she'll mostly no longer be around anymore.
I think having married once is already an achievement in today's standards, today, girls just have a higher standards nowadays especially with all the videos seen and the thought of "there's always more fish in the sea"
I have kids and I will go through this lifestyle.. in meaning that I want to live separately from the kids.
Just fix my body and be alone.
Not bothering anyone
They should interview guys that old and alone..
Must be interesting
I live alone and I like it
I see absolutely no reason to apologize for that
I surely hope I die alone. Because I can’t imagine doing that private, personal act with an audience
I just hope they find me before I become a chew toy for the Pitbull
I m 25 currently giving a thought to weather stay single or be with someone i m thinking better to be single
Being single it got the advantage & disadvantage too.
Felt lonely, no one to talk to. Go everywhere on your own. But the dangerous point is when not feeling well or get sick, need to see Dr , how to go?.
But at all time keep healthy & financial stable.
You can feel lonely in a marriage too and that’s worse. Make friends and if you have a family and wish to be around them you can do that too.
@@ikurasugarbooty2331 how could you feel lonely in a marriage?
@@ikurasugarbooty2331 making friends is also not easy dear in this selfish world where everyone only wants to talk to someone if that benefits them or they get all the attention. Specially in female frnship it's all so much tough and complicated, lot of jealousy, hatred, gossiping, etc and adult males will only want to be ur frnds if their is friends with benefits thing. The best frnds are childhood ones but with time they move to their own path of growth and all or in worst cases like mine, die all of a sudden. Making friends as adults is way more tough, been there done all that.
@@shwetasingh7039 If that is what your "friends" are like, perhaps you need to look at why you surround yourself with toxic people.
@@flatearthsteve when your partner doesn't help at all
I would far rather be single than live in the abusive marriage I was in 10 years ago. It was horrible. I would probably be dead by now. I’m very happy and at peace on my own.
This video apparently reviews being single only from the perspective of personal happiness/needs satisfaction. In the modern society, we can receive abundant services from there, so, leading a single life is no longer difficult at all. Basically, there, every body can pursuit his/her personal pleasure/convenience. However, being single, not in marital status, but in community connectivity, is relatively vulnerable. Being independent as an individual is essential, but a society of single persons in the latter sense is vulnerable to organized powers, to dictatorship. imo, we all must consciously consider ourselves as a member of the community we belong to, while as an independent individual at the same time. With that said, I was married but don't have a kid, and wish I had one or more..because I recall my parents more and more often these days, now understand how much they cared about me, and I now feel the need to follow their experience. I hear some people refer to difficulties in good parenting, I share their idea, but I also wish to mention that parenting is also an individual's experience as well as being a child is, meaning nobody can be a perfect parent from the beginning, and love will be the final anchorage to rely on. And if there is any problem found in the parenting, the community should be there to fill up deficiencies physically and mentally.
News like this always clue in being single as "not the norm" cause with less mouths to feed, we would buy/pay for less things like expensive tuitions thus less taxes they can collect. And less younger people to draft when war comes, or all people are aging and less taxes to pay for their pensions, etc.
But with social media and youtube, you actually hear, you're not the only one being happy being single atleast not married.
In Japan and Korea people work 50 to 70h a week. No time and energy for romantic relationships.
Solo doesn't necessarily mean alone. One can still keep a strong support circle and still be happy.
Giving up on the countries and all the people or giving up on u knowing u can still have a happy life- both difficult but one is easier than the other.
When seeing single as bad and then trying to find a partner as fast as possible, they always end up meeting a bad partner.
Don't be afraid of living alone, just live your life.
As the elder always says, you are born alone, die alone, and no one will join you when you die.
Yeah, if you can't be happy with yourself while single, whatever is making you unhappy in your own skin will still be there in a relationship
Why does everyone keep saying you're born alone? You literally come out of your mom's body, she's right there.
Stop forgetting that one of you will die first in a relationship. You will still die alone if married. Don't believe the hype. Every relationship has an expiration date. Even your children.😂
It is better to stay single than staying with a miserable spouse
This can be a great counseling video for millions who wants to choose a different path in their lives.