Ur exactly right! Plus second hand stores are FULL of clothes that people like this, and like most of us, who over bought stuff, have given these stores new and almost new clothes by the pound!! Baby and kids clothes are truly the easiest to find. My husband also gets almost new Brooks Brothers shirts, which when new are over $50 and mostly over $150 and we get them for $5-$8! It’s amazing!! We really underutilize all the amazing second hand stores on line and big box stores!
@@shannonobrien9922. Car seats are tough used. The safety code changes every year or two. Second hand stores don’t want to be stuck with them. But I try for gender neutral items. Guaranteed, you buy a blue high chair, the next three kids will be girls. Yellow and green are my friends. Beige or navy snowsuit? Use a pink or blue hats and mittens.
It is very damaging in the long run it sets them up for failure in the future. They never learn to delay gratification and have no idea how the real world works.
my partner grew up like this when his dad initially abandoned him but then decided to show back up in his life some years later, and as if it could make up for lost time, bought him tons and tons of toys and gifts.
I firmly believe if they'd had the money for the license to use the ABBA song, they would've. "Money, money, money, must be funny, in a rich man's world"
I don't understand people who say they have no idea what they make. That's the beginning of financial problems because how do you know if you are overspending unless you know how much you earn. And if I was strapped for cash every month I would definitely sit down and try to figure out where my money is going. These people never do that, they just bitch about being in debt but never take any steps to correct it until they are on t.v. UGH!!!!
People are so caught up in their job titles and salaries. Frivolous spending is common EVERYWHERE! Many have no relationship with the money they make...talk about neglect and abuse. This does not build a future and help their next generation. The funniest part is spouses blame each other.
My Uncle grew up not having much and he spoiled his kids especially his son who has him wrapped around his finger. When I was a kid and I wanted something and the folks said no I would get angry and upset but now I thank them for it. I've really had to tighten my belts these past couple of months. I live with my mother after my dad died and we had to do some home repairs and I have to pay back money in my provincial income tax. I haven't bought anything from Amazon since April and I hardly buy from Dollarama in awhile but I get by. Even when I needed Cartridges for my Printer I didn't because I couldn't afford it.
One thing that really helped me with buying stuff is understanding that there's only one of me. I don't need five foundations cause I only have one face. I have one body and I'd rather wear my favorite clothes so I buy fewer pieces I love, and so on. It was a game-changer.
Children don't care what quality of clothing they have: I mean, they don't care if they go to an expensive or inexpensive clothing store.And kids don't need more than a dresser or closet of items.
Kids need basic clothes for school, for play, for dressier occasions. They need a sweater, a jacket, a coat, some underwear and sox, a sweatshirt. Boots and mittens and warm hat. Those can all be bought on sale or at the Second hand stores, or swapping with other parent's kid's clothes. Most will fit in a small closet and dresser. Then hand the clothes down to the next kid, when the first kid outgrows. We always bought jackets 2 sizes too big and got two years out of them. Then they went to the next kid.
@@bookmagicroe9553 Just imagine, having that many clothing items that you don't even know what you have because you can't find or see it all. Smart of you to do hand me downs.
Well a lot of children do care where their clothes are bought and what brand they are. Times have changed and a lot of kids are very label and image conscious. Quite often funded by parents that can't afford it.
If I only watched this show 45 years ago-or a show like this. I had no budget until now and I know I wasted soooo much money over the years how stupid of me🤦♀️🤦♀️🥵🥵
Kicking yourself for past mistakes isn't a good use of your personal energy, so just let it go, grow from it, and don't make those same mistakes again. Other than two couples in my life, I don't know of anyone who has never made money mistakes, and even those two have made minor ones. It's just part of how we grow and learn, I guess. My mother used to say "If you didn't kill anyone or hurt anyone else, then the mistake you made is a learning tool telling you what to avoid doing in the future."
5k in cash!!! in addition to $2500 on credit. plus mortgage, etc. do these people have a raging hard drug addiction? 5k in cash a month is insane. stop spending 5k in cash and your problems are solved
$43 a week for kids' clothes? Like . . . what are these kids doing to their clothes that they need that much clothing?? I know my parents didn't spend (adjusted for inflation since the 1980s) that much on clothes for us and we were definitely not running around half-dressed.
My mom put me in thrift store clothes and I particularly remember her sewing the little front gap shut on a pair of long John ski underwear I got passed down from my cousin 😆 I was always outdoors anyways...always going through clothes and I do the same at 43 now as a truck driver..I just need something to cover up in...it's gonna get destroyed anyways.
I find it really odd when a couple's finances aren't open to everybody. It becomes mine and yours instead of ours. I've seen it many many times that couples that don't share finances don't last and they end up in massive debt in the end up keeping secrets from each other. If my husband wouldn't let me look in his bank account as I let him look at mine I would be completely suspicious we budget together we Bank together we spend together and we've never ever been in debt but I understand not everybody has been taught that. I'm so lucky that I have a husband is not like that. It is our money our children even know all of my four children we're from my deceased husband this is our family now. Also the amount of activities these kids are doing is overwhelming those children. They don't only need their finances sort out they need deep deep counseling
GAIL SIEMPRE ESTOY BUSCANDO SUS VIDEOS , CRÉAME QUE NO ME PIERDO NI UNO!!! LE MANDO UN SALUDO DESDE PALMSPRINGS CALIFORNIA YO SOY DE TIJUANA BAJA CALIFORNIA NORTE MEXICO 🇲🇽.
Maybe because I was raised by a single mom and then became a single mom, but making sure your kids don't "go without" doesn't mean you have to buy them everything.
My mom died when I was eight. I didn’t want children. Well, guess what? Two girls in my late 30s. All you want to do is give them the childhood you didn’t have. Fortunately, we were in a position money wasn’t terribly tight. Geez, I loved dressing them. Now I’m dressing grandchildren.
I help with my four grandchildren but no one ever asks for a thing - it’s what’s in my comfort zone. I watch for sales like crazy. My grandson is being homeschooled for a year because of a tough bullying situation last year. I spend $150/month on art lessons and lunch, but only because I can, not because I must. He loves a half day of being an only child……me too. The 11 year old is crazy smart and got two seven year scholarships through middle and high school. That helps! But it’s certainly not easy. It’s true it takes a village.
I fully understand his problem with tools. Not only was I kind of guilty, my husband was worse. so if he couldn't find a tool I needed he would go buy a new one for my use.
That's wild!!! They spend so much money they do not have, and they probably have a very ordinary life. Most everyone under estimates how much life costs, then add kids, then add the expense of divorces....wild! I really hope they can fix this, and make more money, and have a good life.
2.3k on kids a month?!?! Then she divides it up per kid to show an insane amount! Child support is insane! And 5k in cash every month???? Those 2 won't last long because there's some hidden sins in that family ....
We get child support and if they need clothes , sports fee, Xmas and bday then that's where it comes from. The rest go to each child's saving account. That's bc that's their money to raise them on not my piggy bank. The child tax credit is split and put in yes their savings account. Stop using your kids as a piggy bank.
@@singerjo5791 yes, that's right. But Mom is also supposed to contribute financially for all her kids. They should calculate Mom's portion and save the remainder of Dad's CS for the kids.
It’s now 2022, I wonder what shape many people are in today, when everything pretty much was shut down, some people had no choice but to use their credit cards! One thing is for sure where companies and corporations are concerned there is no loyalty, no matter how well you do your job, or how well you are liked, when it comes down to saving money for the profit sharers you’ll be gone like anybody else!
Did you miss the part where they show this couple (and every other couple on these episodes) throwing their money away on CRAP?! How to you twist people's irresponsible management of their money into corporations having no loyalty and parroting the communist mantra about corporate greed?! As far as your claims concerning covid: it RAINED money on some people during covid! Unemployment, unemployment bonus, child credit bonus, stimulus checks, unemployment extension, food allowance bonus, the freeze on rent/ mortgage/ foreclosures. The people who struggled were those few who were working.
@@americandevo I think the point is that many people could use debt counseling coming out of the pandemic. I know my savings drained over those 2 years and I'm just building it up now
bidah eva - I honestly think you've allowed your personal biases to cause you to miss the whole point. Him marrying a single mother of four did not put them in this financial mayhem, but instead it was both his and her frivolous spending. Stick with the reason for the show and you can't go wrong in your judgment.
Bidah Eva....that’s right jump on the MAN that stepped up to rescue the woman with 4 kids that only makes 37 grand a year. He selflessly gives of his time and finances to do a thankless job. I guess that does not fit your feminist agenda?
His first mistake was marrying a single mom with four kids. That's just asking to be broke. His second was ignoring all the kids in his family he didn't father.
My children only get what they need. 10 outfits at most and 3 pairs of shoes. They get toys only on their birthdays and Christmas or from grandparents. I really do not like toys because they are a waste of money and kids only play with them maybe once or twice but I do get them one toy each as a birthday gifts and xmas gifts. I would rather invest the rest of the money in their UTMA and 529 accounts to give them a head start in. Life
They can actually be extremely beneficial, it gets you onto a set payment designed to be paid off more quickly and the cards can go away completely. Many times you can get a lower interest rate than on a credit card too....BUT you have to get rid of the cards or you just end up with more loans.
How did she get the numbers for the breakdown of spending? They have separate bank accounts. Why present it like they are one? That was either very kind or very misleading to not say who has the cash problem exactly.
Jane Baker - What do you mean? Regarding the fruit...the bigger kids automatically consume 'more' than the smaller ones and she pointed that out so they could know why the older boy has more on his plate. Regarding the money - of course, the older they are, the more they'll need or 'think' they'll need. So, I notice the older kids gets more money than the younger. But, I wonder what was the $408 for on the pie chart; she didn't mention that. (I speculate it's for bills)
I thought the same thing. Especially telling the money value....it will build resentment between the kids, especially as they age. I know it is petty now, but growing up we were poor, and as a kid I had perfect vision, but I was mad that we HAD to spend a lot of money on my brother's glasses/contacts that I didn't get spent on me. I don't think you can EVER be fair about expenses on each child...they have different needs. (However child support through the courts DOES pro-rate each child's money. Sigh!)
Gail DID rejig the jars and take a bit from other jars to beef up the food budget, and as Gail says, it's OK to steal a bit from other jars for something, so long as you don't exceed what's in them, and I roll over any excess from one month to the next to save up for stuff like auto repairs.
Im NEVER getting married again....NEVER! My husband is 9 yrs, 9 months older than myself AND has Cardiomyopathy, A-Fib and CHF.....NEVER! Odds are good Im going to outlive him (although I always tell him Im going first.) But twice is enough for me- THANKYOU very much!!!!!!! Ny 1st hisband was a piece of 💩 and this 1 is the polar opposite.....NEVER AGAIN
How can you be married to someone with children and not know wht each other is bringing home income wise nor care to discuss. Why even get married lol. Now i see why divorce rates are so high. People are idiots.
If you marry someone, you marry all of them, including their children most of all. She would not have married him if he didn't know that. Everyone comes with a history
@@videofan1010 children succeed with a Father and Mother raising them. One person cannot raise them as well without a masculine and feminine influence.
I couldn’t spend $900.00 in a department store if I tried. A month? How exhausting to do that shopping and find a place for all that junk.
Yup
I could easily but i live on a strickt budget because i want freedom before stuff
Wow can't believe they made Gail curse on TV 🤣.
Gail was always spicy. I always watched her shows when they first aired here in Canada.
@@debbielockhart7762 I also watched it every week. Gail told these couples the cold hard truth...many time in 'spicy language' they would understand!!
Children should get everything they NEED; and only some things they want.
When my 2 kids were little, I shopped second hand for everything except shoes, socks, and underwear... kids grow so fast, it's stupid to buy new.
Ur exactly right! Plus second hand stores are FULL of clothes that people like this, and like most of us, who over bought stuff, have given these stores new and almost new clothes by the pound!! Baby and kids clothes are truly the easiest to find. My husband also gets almost new Brooks Brothers shirts, which when new are over $50 and mostly over $150 and we get them for $5-$8! It’s amazing!! We really underutilize all the amazing second hand stores on line and big box stores!
Someone must buy new stuff for us to get second hand stuff.
Me too but also CARSEATS
Funny. But I've donated gifts that just don't fit me nor my style.
@lilianasaba9846
@@shannonobrien9922. Car seats are tough used. The safety code changes every year or two. Second hand stores don’t want to be stuck with them. But I try for gender neutral items. Guaranteed, you buy a blue high chair, the next three kids will be girls. Yellow and green are my friends. Beige or navy snowsuit? Use a pink or blue hats and mittens.
"In 5 years you'll be 3-quarters of a million dollars in debt. Say something" "............" "....for f*ck's sake SAY SOMETHING!"
she says for Christ sake
@@ykook7000 Nope.
@@jordandowland7256 use your brain, genius. She said for Christ’s sake.
@@ykook7000the bleeped word definitely ends with a K!
Such a lovely family. I hope they paid off their debt and are living a great life with the children.
This was so long ago, the youngest kid is now around 18 or 19 years old, and the rest are young adults in their 20s.
It's a very special kind of kid abuse to buy them everything they want.
It is very damaging in the long run it sets them up for failure in the future. They never learn to delay gratification and have no idea how the real world works.
She’s trying to make up for full down dads, that’s what is happening in this family
my partner grew up like this when his dad initially abandoned him but then decided to show back up in his life some years later, and as if it could make up for lost time, bought him tons and tons of toys and gifts.
@beckyshell4649 welcome to 2024
It's not abuse it's called spoiling them .
😱5K a month in CASH? You have another life I should know about?
Good question…
ahhahahahhahahaha
"for fuck sake, say something" 😆😆
she says for Christ sake
@@ykook7000no. The bleeped word ends in K.
Lol😅
Hopefully, there's a separate account for the kids money and that they are starting education funds for their kids.
"Money, money, money, money, money, money moneeeeyy." I love the intro.
I sing it in my sleeeep!
Yes- gets stuck in my head!!!
I firmly believe if they'd had the money for the license to use the ABBA song, they would've. "Money, money, money, must be funny, in a rich man's world"
Same lol
When I go through my binge watching stages, I walk around the house singing this song & when I’m driving. Drives my husband mental 😅
The best challenge was putting him in charge of alk the kids. Hope he continues doing that.
$1,900 a month should be way more than a month to get 4 children what they need.
Five including theirs. Still more than enough.
Agreed. What the bleep do you spend €400 a month on for a kid. Clothes, clubs, school, then what? I’d never get to that amount even today.
I don't understand people who say they have no idea what they make. That's the beginning of financial problems because how do you know if you are overspending unless you know how much you earn. And if I was strapped for cash every month I would definitely sit down and try to figure out where my money is going. These people never do that, they just bitch about being in debt but never take any steps to correct it until they are on t.v. UGH!!!!
Could not agree with you more, except to say that open and frequent communication is the most important thing a couple and family can do.
I really like this couple. They both worked hard to pull it together.
I love how Gail made them change roles!
Yes!!! Just use the child support for the kids!! Don't make him pay
People are so caught up in their job titles and salaries. Frivolous spending is common EVERYWHERE! Many have no relationship with the money they make...talk about neglect and abuse. This does not build a future and help their next generation. The funniest part is spouses blame each other.
My Uncle grew up not having much and he spoiled his kids especially his son who has him wrapped around his finger. When I was a kid and I wanted something and the folks said no I would get angry and upset but now I thank them for it. I've really had to tighten my belts these past couple of months. I live with my mother after my dad died and we had to do some home repairs and I have to pay back money in my provincial income tax. I haven't bought anything from Amazon since April and I hardly buy from Dollarama in awhile but I get by. Even when I needed Cartridges for my Printer I didn't because I couldn't afford it.
I know all Gail's catchphrases and segments off by heart 🤣
For FOX sake say something!!!😂
For FOX sake say something!!!😂
One thing that really helped me with buying stuff is understanding that there's only one of me. I don't need five foundations cause I only have one face. I have one body and I'd rather wear my favorite clothes so I buy fewer pieces I love, and so on. It was a game-changer.
Gail is so great ! Loved the food jar challenge
Children don't care what quality of clothing they have: I mean, they don't care if they go to an expensive or inexpensive clothing store.And kids don't need more than a dresser or closet of items.
Kids need basic clothes for school, for play, for dressier occasions. They need a sweater, a jacket, a coat, some underwear and sox, a sweatshirt. Boots and mittens and warm hat. Those can all be bought on sale or at the Second hand stores, or swapping with other parent's kid's clothes. Most will fit in a small closet and dresser. Then hand the clothes down
to the next kid, when the first kid outgrows. We always bought jackets 2 sizes too big and got two years out of them. Then they went to the next kid.
@@bookmagicroe9553 Just imagine, having that many clothing items that you don't even know what you have because you can't find or see it all. Smart of you to do hand me downs.
My parents saved a lot because we had school uniforms. There were thrice-yearly uniform swaps where parents could get uniform items for their
Katie - I don't know what planet you're from but where I'm from people used to get made fun of for their "clothing quality"
Well a lot of children do care where their clothes are bought and what brand they are. Times have changed and a lot of kids are very label and image conscious. Quite often funded by parents that can't afford it.
If I only watched this show 45 years ago-or a show like this. I had no budget until now and I know I wasted soooo much money over the years how stupid of me🤦♀️🤦♀️🥵🥵
Your not alone!!
Kicking yourself for past mistakes isn't a good use of your personal energy, so just let it go, grow from it, and don't make those same mistakes again. Other than two couples in my life, I don't know of anyone who has never made money mistakes, and even those two have made minor ones. It's just part of how we grow and learn, I guess.
My mother used to say "If you didn't kill anyone or hurt anyone else, then the mistake you made is a learning tool telling you what to avoid doing in the future."
I make a budget twice per year and keep all money in my savings unless I need it.
But I've never tried to live on cash alone, I'm going to try that
how you make the budget and which budget book you will recommend
We budget and look at it weekly. Do you mean you adjust it twice a year?
I budget every week, and pay cash for almost everything. Major items I pay by cheque. Never go over budget and I'm debt free.
5k in cash!!! in addition to $2500 on credit. plus mortgage, etc. do these people have a raging hard drug addiction? 5k in cash a month is insane. stop spending 5k in cash and your problems are solved
I pay everything in cash. Food, hardware store, clothing, vet ... around 1k Euro/month for a family of 4. And a grumpy cat.
I guess a lot of the kids activities will be paid in cash. This being so many years ago I guess cash was more common then too
omg imagine if they called DR. They'd be ripped apart LOL
Who’s DR?
@@jessicalisrosa Dave ramsey
What’s hour household income? Sell the cars😂❤️
Sell the kids. Rice and beans.
@@christinebutler7630 LMAO 🤣😂
This was a great episode. I really like this couple - each of them appreciated the contributions of the other to the family.
Love Gail. Love her no nonsense approach to finances. 😅
$43 a week for kids' clothes? Like . . . what are these kids doing to their clothes that they need that much clothing?? I know my parents didn't spend (adjusted for inflation since the 1980s) that much on clothes for us and we were definitely not running around half-dressed.
That's clothing and GIFTS for 7ppl
Roughly 320/ year. For clothing and gifts. That's not to extreme. Is about $6/w for each person
My mom put me in thrift store clothes and I particularly remember her sewing the little front gap shut on a pair of long John ski underwear I got passed down from my cousin 😆 I was always outdoors anyways...always going through clothes and I do the same at 43 now as a truck driver..I just need something to cover up in...it's gonna get destroyed anyways.
School clothes were all we ever got. Once a year new stuff
I find it really odd when a couple's finances aren't open to everybody. It becomes mine and yours instead of ours. I've seen it many many times that couples that don't share finances don't last and they end up in massive debt in the end up keeping secrets from each other. If my husband wouldn't let me look in his bank account as I let him look at mine I would be completely suspicious we budget together we Bank together we spend together and we've never ever been in debt but I understand not everybody has been taught that. I'm so lucky that I have a husband is not like that. It is our money our children even know all of my four children we're from my deceased husband this is our family now. Also the amount of activities these kids are doing is overwhelming those children. They don't only need their finances sort out they need deep deep counseling
Wonder why Gail never includes child support payments as part of the over all income. Child support must be paid for the 4 older kids, right?
youd think so but its income tested in alot of places, if the dads a bum it could be negligible
Some times the dad gets stuck with the kid and moms a total pos
Because it’s not income it’s for the kids. It’s supposed to be only spent on the kids.
It's child support and child tax credits, which means including their child. She divided the money based on age.
She's expecting this guy to pay for her kids. How about she works enough to pay for her 4 kids.
It's the traditional thing men keep saying they want 😂
I don't understand how they're doing this exercise together since their finances are completely separated.
GAIL SIEMPRE ESTOY BUSCANDO SUS VIDEOS , CRÉAME QUE NO ME PIERDO NI UNO!!! LE MANDO UN SALUDO DESDE PALMSPRINGS CALIFORNIA YO SOY DE TIJUANA BAJA CALIFORNIA NORTE MEXICO 🇲🇽.
I have 5 kids also, stop using large families as an excuse for your immaturity when it comes to your money
Wow! He married a woman with four children.
Yeah, he’s an idiot.
That happens all the time. Nothing new.
I know right 😂
Thank you for posting!
You can really tell how much they love each other in this particular interview. She has her heart eyes on 😍 12:08
Maybe because I was raised by a single mom and then became a single mom, but making sure your kids don't "go without" doesn't mean you have to buy them everything.
Sounds like bad decisions run through your family like mother like daughter huh 😂
@@jacksonbilly9979 I guess you're right, Chuckles. Marrying a man is never the right decision.
My mom died when I was eight. I didn’t want children. Well, guess what? Two girls in my late 30s. All you want to do is give them the childhood you didn’t have. Fortunately, we were in a position money wasn’t terribly tight. Geez, I loved dressing them. Now I’m dressing grandchildren.
I help with my four grandchildren but no one ever asks for a thing - it’s what’s in my comfort zone. I watch for sales like crazy. My grandson is being homeschooled for a year because of a tough bullying situation last year. I spend $150/month on art lessons and lunch, but only because I can, not because I must. He loves a half day of being an only child……me too. The 11 year old is crazy smart and got two seven year scholarships through middle and high school. That helps! But it’s certainly not easy. It’s true it takes a village.
I fully understand his problem with tools. Not only was I kind of guilty, my husband was worse. so if he couldn't find a tool I needed he would go buy a new one for my use.
My addiction was fountain pens.
omg they had secrets. thats why they couldnt talk
That's wild!!! They spend so much money they do not have, and they probably have a very ordinary life. Most everyone under estimates how much life costs, then add kids, then add the expense of divorces....wild! I really hope they can fix this, and make more money, and have a good life.
Jane Baker, where are you? You comment on every TDDUP episode.
Hahaha I'm here! I was on my honeymoon (paid with cash. No credit card) 😉 I love this show and I love reading and writing about it here
Hope my opinions are a good read
@@janebaker4912 do you know updates on this couple?
@@emilynicole4918 I could google it ☺️
@@janebaker4912 please do. I would love to know.
Lovely family, I wish them much happiness!
I wonder if they’re still together?
She is not doing the kids a favor by not saying “no”
More episodes please
2.3k on kids a month?!?! Then she divides it up per kid to show an insane amount! Child support is insane! And 5k in cash every month???? Those 2 won't last long because there's some hidden sins in that family ....
We get child support and if they need clothes , sports fee, Xmas and bday then that's where it comes from. The rest go to each child's saving account. That's bc that's their money to raise them on not my piggy bank. The child tax credit is split and put in yes their savings account. Stop using your kids as a piggy bank.
Raising them also entails housing and groceries etc…
@@singerjo5791 yes, that's right. But Mom is also supposed to contribute financially for all her kids. They should calculate Mom's portion and save the remainder of Dad's CS for the kids.
Couples competition is usually who can justify and spend the most. Couples =double the trouble.
Did they mention child support? I was washing the dishes…..
6:10 I thought she dropped an f-bomb
She did 😊
@@glyndaallenbaugh1334 😱
No she didn't she said For Christ sake!
@@ykook7000 why did they beep it out though?
It’s now 2022, I wonder what shape many people are in today, when everything pretty much was shut down, some people had no choice but to use their credit cards! One thing is for sure where companies and corporations are concerned there is no loyalty, no matter how well you do your job, or how well you are liked, when it comes down to saving money for the profit sharers you’ll be gone like anybody else!
Did you miss the part where they show this couple (and every other couple on these episodes) throwing their money away on CRAP?!
How to you twist people's irresponsible management of their money into corporations having no loyalty and parroting the communist mantra about corporate greed?!
As far as your claims concerning covid: it RAINED money on some people during covid! Unemployment, unemployment bonus, child credit bonus, stimulus checks, unemployment extension, food allowance bonus, the freeze on rent/ mortgage/ foreclosures.
The people who struggled were those few who were working.
@@americandevo I think the point is that many people could use debt counseling coming out of the pandemic.
I know my savings drained over those 2 years and I'm just building it up now
Give that ultimatum one time. You’re out. On the spot.
This man CHOOSE to be with a single mother of four , OF COURSE it's stressful to be a step father for a BIG family.GROW UP!!!!!
I think you're being a bit harsh. She choose to have that many kids. She could stop guilt buying for them. Being a step parent is a huge thankless job
bidah eva - I honestly think you've allowed your personal biases to cause you to miss the whole point. Him marrying a single mother of four did not put them in this financial mayhem, but instead it was both his and her frivolous spending. Stick with the reason for the show and you can't go wrong in your judgment.
Bidah Eva....that’s right jump on the MAN that stepped up to rescue the woman with 4 kids that only makes 37 grand a year. He selflessly gives of his time and finances to do a thankless job. I guess that does not fit your feminist agenda?
@@janebaker4912 he chose to marry her
His first mistake was marrying a single mom with four kids. That's just asking to be broke. His second was ignoring all the kids in his family he didn't father.
Do they have any retirement?What percent is that debt?
My children only get what they need. 10 outfits at most and 3 pairs of shoes. They get toys only on their birthdays and Christmas or from grandparents. I really do not like toys because they are a waste of money and kids only play with them maybe once or twice but I do get them one toy each as a birthday gifts and xmas gifts. I would rather invest the rest of the money in their UTMA and 529 accounts to give them a head start in. Life
As a kid, I asked for books. I still have some - all hardcover. Wasn't interested in clothes.
Consolidation loans are such a bad idea. Start with the smallest and snowball the rest.
They can actually be extremely beneficial, it gets you onto a set payment designed to be paid off more quickly and the cards can go away completely.
Many times you can get a lower interest rate than on a credit card too....BUT you have to get rid of the cards or you just end up with more loans.
Woah an F bomb from Gail.
They dun fucked up.
How did she get the numbers for the breakdown of spending? They have separate bank accounts. Why present it like they are one? That was either very kind or very misleading to not say who has the cash problem exactly.
A great way to save money is to not have so many kids. Kids are expensive and the cost goes on and on.
Yeah well, that ship has sailed
she gets $1900 per month in Free money for those kids she should'nt have any problem budgeting just for them with that
Why is the mother showing the kids how they are not equals? I think you didn't need to do that.
Jane Baker - What do you mean? Regarding the fruit...the bigger kids automatically consume 'more' than the smaller ones and she pointed that out so they could know why the older boy has more on his plate. Regarding the money - of course, the older they are, the more they'll need or 'think' they'll need. So, I notice the older kids gets more money than the younger. But, I wonder what was the $408 for on the pie chart; she didn't mention that. (I speculate it's for bills)
I thought the same thing. Especially telling the money value....it will build resentment between the kids, especially as they age. I know it is petty now, but growing up we were poor, and as a kid I had perfect vision, but I was mad that we HAD to spend a lot of money on my brother's glasses/contacts that I didn't get spent on me. I don't think you can EVER be fair about expenses on each child...they have different needs. (However child support through the courts DOES pro-rate each child's money. Sigh!)
I couldn't do that tight food budget!
@P Robbins I did that in my uni days! And home made pizza. Now the husband turns his nose up at soup for dinner. :(
@P Robbins oh that's horrible! Yeah, husbands not so great with that either. Like, I'll eat anything. Picky! It's very annoying.
That’s why they have food banks
Gail DID rejig the jars and take a bit from other jars to beef up the food budget, and as Gail says, it's OK to steal a bit from other jars for something, so long as you don't exceed what's in them, and I roll over any excess from one month to the next to save up for stuff like auto repairs.
She had several pantries FULL of food when they started. Enough to probably feed them for 3 months!
she found a simp! good for her
Maybe he always wanted a large family? Some people do. Maybe he really likes her as a person?
Does she not get child support from her ex for the four kids?
Im NEVER getting married again....NEVER! My husband is 9 yrs, 9 months older than myself AND has Cardiomyopathy, A-Fib and CHF.....NEVER! Odds are good Im going to outlive him (although I always tell him Im going first.) But twice is enough for me- THANKYOU very much!!!!!!! Ny 1st hisband was a piece of 💩 and this 1 is the polar opposite.....NEVER AGAIN
…okkkaaayyy? 😮😂
Gail I want to do what you do but I have a disability
How can you be married to someone with children and not know wht each other is bringing home income wise nor care to discuss. Why even get married lol. Now i see why divorce rates are so high. People are idiots.
They have all got the audacity to laugh
Hmm marries a woman with 4 kids and he knows she gets child support for them so he has no fatherly responsibility for them. He can buy more tools lol
yeah it's weird
If you marry someone, you marry all of them, including their children most of all. She would not have married him if he didn't know that.
Everyone comes with a history
Some people deserve to be miserable for been soooo STUPID for the way they spend...!
If you raise kids, you'll get kids. Try raising adults instead.
Off brand Walter and Skyler
I think they were selfish to have a fifth child
She had to have that kid. You can't ask a man to support four of another man's kids and not give him one of his own.
I think it's unfair that he doesn't get his own child. Plus they make 120k
@@cocofluff yeah!!!
At least until they worked out a budget!
How is that selfish?
Never marry a single mother if you don't have your own children. Jesus, 4 step kids?!?!
She must be good at head
Are you talking to Jesus? If not, why are you using his name to curse?
@@singerjo5791 you must be a single mother.
Do single fathers have the same lack of value?
@@videofan1010 children succeed with a Father and Mother raising them. One person cannot raise them as well without a masculine and feminine influence.
that simp took over chads kids. smh
$500 tax free dollars per kid
At least this Chad is a dad !!!!
First 3 minutes I see she just wants a financier.
I never got any money. I would get up to see if se left me any money. And no money .and it was 18 at thi.g from gron 1978