ABUSE SURVIVOR REACTS to 'THE TALE OF JENNY & SCREECH (FULL)' | Speechless... @RenMakesMusic
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- Опубликовано: 22 мар 2023
- I'm vary rarely speechless! The tale of Jenny & Screech was a lot to take in! As a survivor of childhood abuse, with a diagnosis of CPTSD this was a lot!
I also share a bit more of my own story. Please keep yourself safe while watching.
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The cycle is what got me. Jenny being frozen like her quiet mother Violet and Screech being violent like his father.
Yup, I didn't get it the first time but did whilst editing 💜 his work is so clever
And the subtle nod that Screech's boy Patrick and Screech's gf are together that night when he needed into his apartment or her place
@@KONTAGION705 yup very much so
He has an unnerving gift for leading us down dark paths like a pied piper figure. Until you realise you are either far from home, or god-forbid somewhere very *close* to home.
Thank you for sharing your emotions so candidly. I'm sure Ren would very much approve of your bravery in opening up and relating to his incredible words.
He really does! His music is incredible 💜
Thank you so much for your kind words
I've seen countless reaction videos of this, and you are the first one to pick up on the "do you think I want to do this, Violet?" line! It never ceases to amaze me how people missed this classic line that abusers use. They always try to frame it as "you MAKE me do this!!!". Hurts so bad.
Yup, it's that line that hurts the most and looking back makes me so angry because I believed it!
Sorry you understand 💜💜
Just because people dont react or mention it doesnt mean they didnt pick up on it lol. Its just not that new of a line, its common knowledge of abusive behaviour. Its like thinking people dont pick up the fact jenny was walking at night when he mentions it because no one reacts to it.
I'm a 54-year-old avowed metalhead who's seen some sh*t, but when I saw you turn around and your shoulders shake, my heart broke and I just started crying with you. People that have lived that life resonate like tuning forks with Ren's music because it's too real for us. He brings us back to those moments of panic and fear. But it's cathartic. And having someone like you to be our guide and help us filter it through your relatable perception and reception of those moments in the music that are so hard to see is invaluable. I appreciate you so much for helping us process those memories of past emotional turmoil and trauma. Thank you for helping us find Ren, and for being a beacon past the rocky reefs in our souls.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 it's definitely cathartic. Ren's music is incredible
You are very brave to listen to such a heavy story having survived abuse yourself. Respect to that and thank you for exposing yourself to it before a camera. All the best for you!
Thank you so much for your kind words. I really do appreciate it 💜
That, my dear girl was not a easy reaction. You really was struggeling. And never apologize for taking a breake if it hurts. The most important thing for you is you and you must do the things that feels right for you. I'm glad you gave us a little bit of your sad story. I wish I could have been there to give you some big hugs. I'm glad you came out of the situation and I hope you can get an easier life.
Aww thank you so much 💜 I really appreciate your kind words
The people who I have met through Ren's music are so wonderfully kind 💜
I believe REN’s gift goes far beyond just telling a story, he is able to provoke empathy allowing us to feel things someone hasn’t experienced.
Couldn't agree more 💜
this is why Ren is so good....people need to talk about these issues, the only way to chase away the dark is to shine a light on it. stay strong.
Couldn't agree more 💜thank you
Another great reaction. I love how you put your thoughts as text as they occur ... it makes for a continuous stream of the artists performance at the reactors feelings. You need never apologize during your reactions ... Your reactions are you ... Keep on being you.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 I really appreciate your support. Glad you enjoyed it, the first one I just wanted to watch the video as I had no idea what to expect and it seemed like people likes the format too which is good because I feel like you might not get the full impact of the music if it keeps stopping
I really like the way you do your reactions, quietly taking in the song, adding text comments along the way, and then afterwards taking your time to collect your thoughts. Music that uses such writing strength to carry such heavy stories deserves that kind of attention.
If you're up for another song that addresses following through on those dark thoughts of wanting things to end, Ren's song How To Be Me (another one recorded live with Chinchilla) is staggeringly beautiful.
Thank you so much 💜 I will definitely check that out
@@ljslupylife You might want someone to check it for you or be close when you watch it. I found Chalk Outlines darker, but only because I was in a bad place at the time and watched it through the black lens
@@2Minsky thank you for the warning 💜 I really appreciate it. I hope you are doing better
My mother was the abuser. She is schizophrenic with bipolar disorder and would verbally and physically abuse me. My father was an alcoholic. When I was 14 she attacked my Dad with a knife. She spent 8 years in a mental hospital. I have 2 younger brothers who I raised until I turned 18 and moved out. I didn't continue the abuse to my children and they have had a wonderful childhood that I never had. I just want you to know that sharing your story makes moving past the trauma easier. It hurts to talk about it but every time you talk about it, it gets easier.
Thank you so much 💜
Thank you so much for sharing that, I really appreciate it. I'm so sorry you experienced that but I'm even glader (yes I know it's not a real word!) that you broke the cycle. Stay strong 💜
This is poetry. I've never experienced such hardships as he speaks of. yet his ballads bring a tear to my eye and I gladly weep. Just amazing.
He is incredible! It's so powerful
I grew up in an alcoholic household and violence occasionally resulted. Though nothing like this, for some reason millions can relate and empathise with these song. It's understandable when you can relate to these more deeply that the subtle things can be missed first time around. Must be 50 times I've heard this and I still cry uncontrollably every time. I take comfort from that. We're all damaged and scared. This "big brain" of ours seems a curse sometimes aye. I hope there's some cathartic things you can find in this music too. The story, the music, cinematography and Ren's acting are incredible. I wish you all the best with the rest of your journey. Eyes forward, one foot in front of the other is all we can do aye. ✌️❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 I'm so sorry you grew up in an alcoholic household, it's tough
Ren is an absolute genius I must agree
Watched the whole reaction. You are brave and I admire your openness. You are not alone.
Thank you so much 💜
Truly a wonderious and heartfelt reaction. Bravery is too weak a word to describe your incredible indescribable emotional endurance in dealing with the themes of this tale. To show all of us that we may dance in the dark through the horrors of our mind. Yet, the compassion and power we possess to push on allows us to step into the light of life and carry the rest of the rythmn in our hearts. Never stop dancing for it is what keeps this world turning even if we struggle getting used to the spin. The maternal monster that birthed me into this world was whom I had ran away from at 14 myself. I've been forced to do disgusting, degrading, and despicable things just to eat and get out of the cold but no matter the horrors I've endured I'll never go back. Eleven years has passed and alot of failed attempts to unalive myself made me understand the past will never be my legacy. That I will outlive that beast who birthed me. That it is not about the people who have hurt me that I carry on but I do so for the people I have yet to meet. I am lucky to have someone who is by my side now instead of in my face hurting me. Alot has changed in these years but that growth carries alot of scars that will never heal. Yet the more I try to forget why they are there the deeper it pains. I found peace comes not from forgetting but from remembering more than the pain. To remember that the biggest wave may crush us the hardest but it moves twice as fast. That I can create moments now that don't define what I've been through but where I've longed to be. Ren is a genius to create this community, these conversations, and connections with songs and passions beyond my abilities. Thank you again for your bravery in doing this reaction and know that while we all carry different stories we write them on the same page. Can't wait for the next reaction do be safe and know that you did an amazing job reacting but more importantly you are incredibly inspirational for all those who have survived a childhood that bled us dry for surviving through the misteps in the dark. Thank you for being here in this moment and I hope for many more moments of your videos thereafter.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing that 💜 I really appreciate your eloquent description of life's ups and downs
I'm so very thankful you escaped and have the support you deserve 💜
Hope you are OK after watching that, i knew that would hit you hard, sorry to see you get upset again, Don't know if you got the Story Lupy as you was understandably Disassociating a lot, *Spoiler Alert* Ren took you back in time with Violet to 2005 where she had twins before she Died from the Beating Stevie gave her, we can guess the twins must of been fostered or adopted as Stevie the father would have gone to Jail, so 14yrs Later Screech trys to rob Jenny not knowing that she's his twin Sister, so Screech kills his sister unknowingly.
Thank you so much 💜 it was difficult but worth it. Thank you so much for your concern
I didn't get that from this watch, but I have watched it again since then and realised that it was along those lines. So fu(king powerful!! Ren is so clever with his story telling!
My wife had lupus, passed away in 2014 at the age of 23. We need more people like you to advocate for it. Love your reactions. I'll always support a lupus survivor
I'm so sorry to hear that hun 💜 lupus is still so misunderstood
Thank you so much for your kind words and support
@Lj's Lupy Life Thank you! It's been hard still. We used to go to the Lupus walk, in denver, every year until she passed and realized that even the organization didn't even really understand it.
@@Professor-hw2dd 💜💜 yes unfortunately it's so tricky, it can mimic so many different things
@@ljslupylife Very true
please feel safe to pause, cut, break as much as you need. thank you for sharing your experience with these heavy messages.
Thank you so much 💜
"I have done enough to destroy myself, I dont require someone else to do that for me..." Shit. Indeed. That got me
So sorry you can relate 💜 look after yourself
I applaud you for taking this one on solo. I'm not a survivor but I connect emotionally to music and this one hits me hard. Ren is so masterful at the way he concocts his tales, it's amazing. He connects with so many people in such deeply personal ways.
He really is 💜 thanks for your kind words
Can i say i absolutely love the way you add your comments! Instead of stopping the video every 10 seconds, you watch it back & add your commentary, chefs kiss!
Thank you so much. I've found that it really divides people... They either love it or hate it lol
The way he acts out Stevie's role creeps me out, but leaves me astonished. The realism and violence is so palpable; and I've never been in a relationship like that.
Oh definitely, Ren's portrayal in these videos are sublime 💜
The saddest thing about this is the fact each of these things are happening in every town, city, and country at this very moment and the cycle continues
Oh I know, its heartbreaking!
We are suvivors dear girl..I'm 79 and still going.
Ren has an unerring ability to make us look where we don't want to and leave us with no other option but to stare down our demons. Master story teller indeed.
Exactly, so freaking clever
First thing first here is the biggest hug. I am one of the people who have sent as many people to your channel as I can. Your honesty and openness are needed by so many people. I think this is what makes Ren special to. I have had a shitty day because someone on the internet decided to attack men who have suffered domestic abuse. Most abusers hide it so well from my mum and dad being upstanding people or my first long term partner threatening me with accusations of abusing her. You being open and talking helps me because just not being alone is important. I will give you a laugh my sister and I are no contact with our parents. Yet my parents have made my sisters ex the executor of their will and they see my ex every week. My sister and I are both in good relationships and still in contact even though we both have mental health issues due to our "amazing childhood". Together we can support each other and channels like yours and artists like Ren make the world that little bit better. Here is an other hug just because.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing that, I really appreciate it 💜 I'm so sorry that you're going through that. And bless you for sending people to watch, it means the world to me to be a part of something that is helping people.
I hate how well these people hide it and manipulate others! I'm so sorry you had a shitty day, people can be so cruel 💜
I'm so glad you and your sister have each other. Sending hugs right back 💜
@@ljslupylife I am actually in the best place I have been in years at 51 I finally got a diagnosed with ADHD and CPTSD. So I can hopefully get some help. I always wanted to help people and have worked in care to help people even though I had a recent breakdown and lost my job I am on the way back up. I mean I went from sitting in my house with aggrophobia to going to a gig for the first time since 2020.
Your honesty and openness make you the sort of person I would love to go for a coffee and a chat with. I think the worst thing my problems cost me was friendships. I have my made family of my partner and my cousin and sister.
I think the worst thing is not just how abusers hide in plane sight but that we the victims are so gaslit that we defend them and then still find it so hard to speak out. My mum got one of her friends to actually verbally attack me in the street for turning my back on my sainted mother. Rather than telling this woman the truth I just said she didn't know everything that was going on and walked away. You can guess how many times I have replayed that incident in my bed rather than sleeping.
I feel if we all can talk in places like this we can help those of us surviving and let those that come after us it gets better. If I can scream your channel from the roof tops I will. You are helping and all I can say is thank you.
@@mikebadjester940 💜💜 I'm so pleased you are doing well. I also have CPTSD and it's a lot but knowing that has helped me.
I'm the same, I have created my own family who are wonderful 💜 keep going because you are an incredible person and I love talking with you! Thank you 💜
I believe Ren was trying to explain how easy it is for these things to reoccur in each generation over and over .you bravely stopped the cycle ,in spite of the damage done to you .I dont believe Ren has told this story for any frivolous or selfish reason but to shine a light on an ugly truth that lies behind the headlines .traumatised children becoming traumatising adult .look after yourself as if you were a friend .❤
I completely agree, there is nothing frivolous about Ren sharing these stories.
Abuse can definitely reoccur in each generation, but I don't think people should be excused of their poor behaviour because they were abused themselves.
That is definitely the best advice 💜 I treat my friends way better than I treat myself!
Whats even crazier though is Jenny became the mother she never met and James became the father he never knew. The mother was killed by the father and the daughter in turn killed by the brother she never knew.
@@sydneexxceasy9063 I know! It's an incredible story
Ive never wished i could channel compassion and awe into a beam of healing positivity like today.
You are stronger than pretty well everyone i know. I hope that you find peace. Total respect and best wishes from the other side of the Atlantic!
Thank you so much 💜 I really appreciate your kind words
Rens music brings situations to light that need a dialog. Hes greatat getting people talking.
Very much so. Thanks for watching 💜
OMG I never realized it before...I was soothing myself from seeing your grief by similarly touching my arm exactly like you were doing. As I live and learn!! I too love the comments in written form ♥ Never be sorry for feelings
Thank you so much 💜💜
Thank you for sharing your story with us. I want you to know that I imagined myself seated next to you during Violet's Tale. I send you love, light and peace. The year 2005 in the lyrics gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes. I left my abusive husband in 2005. I just couldn't do it anymore. Violet being pregnant makes me cry because it reminds me that but for God's grace that could have been my story. I was 5 months pregnant when I left my ex-husband. I escaped with our lives and I raised my girls by myself. I have PTSD and still hear every demeaning and degrading word he drilled into my brain. It has taken me 18 years to not see myself as the disgusting monster he trained my brain to see. I still have to remind myself that someone isn't mocking me or playing with my head when I'm told I'm pretty. It's a cycle of continuous love, growth, and acceptance that I live today. I pray that you know just how amazing you truly are. ❤
Light and love to you,
Tori
I've watched a ton of reactions to this and you're the first one to point out that the very beginning sounds like God Rest Ye Merry Gentlemen. That was the first thing I thought of when the song started.
Glad I'm not the only one who noticed it. Thank you so much for watching 💜
I don't know what to comment actually, just a sencere thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much for your support 💜
Ima grown man at 33 and cant make it through violets tale unphased. Ren is god tier with his playing using his guitar and voice to pace and show emtions . I can hear how i should feel from how he plays. Its not fair for him to be the good. He is a bard
He really is! It's phenomenal. Can't wait to see his new one. Unfortunately I am busy Wednesday but I'll be there Thursday!!
Go girl, keep opening up, healthy stuff. You are worth it!
Thanks for the kind words
Hi LJ. Just popping in to say thank you for this reaction (and for your others). As you said, knowing that you're not alone matters. ❤
Thank you so much for your support, I really do appreciate it 💜
Side note: I love your bookshelves. I have over 3,000, but then I’m 63. Just don’t spend away your retirement. My husband could have retired at 55 if I hadn’t bought so many books.😊
Just a lighter, funny side note to this terribly heavy experience for you.
I stayed in a battered women’s shelter salting away money at the office till I could buy bus tickets for me and my two toddlers. All of our clothes were in paper bags.
I could always tell when a woman was being abuse. Once you meet the dragon you see dragons everywhere.
Later I helped raise funds for a shelter in my hometown. I was the house manager on weekends.
In my 30’s I became a children’s missionary in the inner city/. The neglect, filth, and abandonment/violence was devastating. We lost too many kids to physical abuse, sex trafficking, murder, etc…. When I finally stopped, I had a nervous breakdown for 3 years.
The nightmares of both my ex-husband and those kids still creep in when I’m really stressed, but its
Decreasing as the decades pass.
I’m still here. You stay too.
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Thank you so much for sharing that 💜 I'm so glad you are still here. Yes, books are my solace. I have, in the past, spent food money on books and gone hungry lol oops
I'm sorry you have had such a hard life, but I'm glad that you are still here.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜
Violet gave birth to twins in 2005....girl named Jenny and a boy named Schreech. Jenny froze and was silent when scared (like her Mother, Violet) and Schreech was a violent abuser ( like his Father who beat and killed his Mother, Violet) ! He killed his own Sister (unaware it was his Sister)
Yup, such a powerful story right?! Ren's music is incredible
LJ, I finally got a chance to properly sit down and watch this - sending out hugs as I can only imagine that was a really hard one to sit through and watch.
Apart from his obvious genius, what I find with Ren is he has the lyrical and musical talent to put into words what so many people experience or want to say - he is talking to us and for us in a way, a real life social commentator for this generation. That leads to people feeling more confidence about opening up to share experiences and thoughts.
Even just by telling your own personal story, you are inspiring and helping others so take pride in that. Keep strong and safe - you've got an army of armchair keyboard warriors who have got your back and are on your side now lol !
As for Ren, being speechless is a natural reaction I find. The lighter side of Ren (or him with his band The Big Push) might be in order now lol.
Oh and I think Sam the cinematographer deserves a huge shout out for all the videos he has done (and continues to) with Ren.
Oh definitely, the words and cinematography in them all is incredible!!
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 if I can do a fraction of what Ren is doing and help even one person realise they aren't alone? Then I'll be happy
I can see what it was like for you to watch this but I can't completely understand. But i can tell thar it was very difficult. Thank you for posting it and letting us into what things are like for you. Explaining to us through text what you are going through. Thank you for your videos getting the way they are, the way you do them.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 it was difficult but I think sharing experiences is how the world makes progress
I love that type of reaction. Putting your thoughts as text instead of pausing the performace. That created an intimate situation for us as viewers and I'm sure it's not always easy for you because it makes humans vulnerable. Sending love to you.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜
Agreed, it’s my favorite reaction format since I wanna know people’s thoughts but also want to bang my head against the table when they pause frequently 🥲
You are so strong to be able to watch this with your past. Though my childhood did have some abuse, many kids had it much worse. At least we are aware of it and we can break the cycle. Thank you for sharing your strength with us.
Please don't compare, any amount of abuse is still traumatic 💜💜
Yes, we can definitely brake the cycle!
What others may go through still doesn't take away what you've personally gone through.
As I've read it both Jenny and Screech were real people. Ren read the newspaper one day in 2019 and buried on the 6th or 7th page was a short "write-up" [I guess you'd call it] on the tragic death of two 14-year-olds; a girl, Jenny, and her killer [proper name James somebody] known in the Neiborhood as Screech. He thought that kind of news [of the decay in society that resolves in such ways] deserved more attention. So, he wrote the first two of the trilogy shortly after reading of them. These few years later he took on the task of writing a fictional story to further drive home the point that this continuing cycle of violence and decay in society should be paid attention to. So, the entire Violet story he designed to fit the personalities of those two and how they are made. Very impressive writing [and storytelling] and motivation resulted in Violet's Tale. Easily imagined they were brought up in separate foster homes. Jenny took on the quiet nature [still nature] of her mom [freezing in her tracks, unable to move when commanded to give up her goods] while Screech took on the character of his father. 14 years after two zero zero five they met each other probably for the first time and a newspaper article on the 6th or 7th page is what became of it. [as Ren has imagined it for us] His story telling has purpose. Real purpose. That is what has him stand alone [it seems] in today's society. [unique as an artist]
Wow, that is incredible and makes me even more in awe of Ren 💜 thanks for sharing that. His music is so powerful
I have been in an abusive relationship (it creeps up on you) but found the way Ren portrayed it so well that those that haven't thankfully been through it gives them a chill and pause for thought.
It really does, he's so good at portraying it. I'm so sorry you have experienced that 💜
I’m going to echo others in the comments, don’t apologize for needing to stop. It is a very hard subject,especially for people who have been through similar situations. Because you were so real you earned a new subscriber and I look forward to watching more of your reactions.
Aww thank you so much for subscribing 💜 really appreciate your kind words too
Every time I listen to this song I think of “God rest ye merry gentlemen”! You’re the first I’ve seen comment on that
Glad I'm not the only one who heard it 💜
Still here at the end! Came for the Ren reaction and stayed to listen to your thoughts and your story. So glad you had a step mum who helped you out and didn’t disappear. 18 years is a long time so you should be proud of yourself.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 yes I have been very lucky
I'm glad you are still here 🤗 ❤❤❤
Thank you so much 💜
Just a quick note to let you know I enjoy the reactions of those who watch this artist's performances but when I saw there was going to be so much time spent talking about it, I was thinking of stopping there. I'm glad I didn't. I listened intently to all you had to say, and I think it's a good thing you have this platform. Your sharing has value.
Thank you so much 💜 I really appreciate it
I am sorry for what happened to you. I grew up in a abusive alcoholic household also but nothing like what you did. I hope you're doing better today
Thank you 💜 sorry you grew up in that environment, any substance abuse can be difficult to get through
As someone who suffered abuse I always find myself smiling at things that are absolutely horrific that I don't find funny at all but as you said it is the reaction of disbelief and also a coping mechanism that turns on unwillingly. A lot of people who know me don't know what I've been trough so having that reaction makes them think "wtf is wrong with her". I don't try to explain since every time I did that it was not taken seriously.
I just wanted to say that you stating that it happens to you make me feel less alone and thank you for sharing your story. I am glad you are still here!
I appreciate that you don’t back down from a difficult reaction. Your format is great. The text is helpful.
Thank you so much, I really wanted to see this after so many people suggested it 💜
Thank you for your vulnerability and for sharing your story with us. You are not alone! ❤️
Thank you so much for your support 💜
I admire your willingness to stand up and tell even part of your story. The social taboo, the negative feelings, self shaming, it keeps so many silent. The only way we can BREAK the cycle for generations to come is not just to make resources available to those in need, and make sure the fact that they exist funnel through the proper channels so those that could use them are made aware but more importantly, probably most importantly ... We need to destigmatize their use, make it not so focused on the victim status and more on the fresh start. On the safety. We need to collectively change the narrative so no more children grow to fall prey to the same traps. People like you, people like Ren, are the voices that should be, that are shaping our future society.
Thank you. I am so happy to hear that you are connecting with others and together we're all seeing that none of us are alone in this.
Last, little side note. I think the issue with the phrase about hurt people, I love it. I think perhaps you have not looked at it this way... (And if you have, I apologize but just in case I figured I'd put it out there) your comment about not all of us do, I think that's close to it, I'm sure I worded it incorrectly. I don't think it's meant to be a warning or statement suggesting that we all will. It isn't saying all hurt people are hurtful... I believe it simply means that all people that harm others in one way or another, most likely were harmed themselves at some point. Which is what shaped their behaviors. Like nobody wakes up clear headed, healthy, in stable life scenarios and thinks huh I want to rob, kill, steal, lie, etc. That most likely had some traumas themselves. Whether it was a narcissistic parent, abusive relationship, heck even a blow to the head and traumatic brain injury. That being said it isn't an excuse or pass. At least, how I was lead to understand during my own periods of recovery, is obviously an abusive situation needs to be changed immediately, but in circumstances like with addiction, when your loved on, or friend is experiencing some kind of trigger or situation that causes them to react in a negative way, even if you had no part in it, that you are unfortunately collateral damage in somebody else's trauma loop, and that means above all else that you should try to not turn inward and let their negative situation. And possibly hurtful words or behaviors define you, influence your self image or diminish your sense of self worth. Their poor behavior speaks more to their character or personality and far less if at all about yours. Like... They didn't pick a person because they think any individual "deserves" it. it's less about the person they hurt, and more about the person doing the hurting. In their mind anyhow. It's about the void they themselves are trying to fill. It's about them. Their poor behavior is about them being hurt and the result, not about anybody that the harm being deserving, or anybody they cheat on being not enough. It usually has to do with them feeling like not enough.
I think it's in hopes to prevent a person who is struggling with the individual in their life internalizing the hurtful words and actions.
Again, just my take. But thank you again. So much. And congrats on the growth of your channel!
Thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate it 💜
I can totally understand where you are coming from, and I agree. People are shaped by the relationships they are in, and often damaged by trauma of any kind.
However, this phrase (something similar as I can't remember it exactly) has always struck me: 'your negative emotions/poor mental health is not your fault, but how you react to it/behave is your responsibility'.
I think people who have been hurt are more likely to hurt others, intentionally or not, however, you shouldn't use the fact that you trauma or mental health struggles as an excuse.
Really hope that makes sense? Thank you again, so much for commenting on such a difficult topic so sensitively 💜
@@ljslupylife I agree 100% it's not an excuse! Ever. Our reactions are the only thing we have some semblance of control! 💓
@@shontose exactly 💜
im soooo glad REN is bein known at LAST,,a LIGHT at the end of the tunnel,,HOPE for the forgotten,,a modern day poet,bard,and real....peace,,love from GLASGOW,,
100%
This has been the hardest react I've been avoiding because of the title but that I needed to see.
Really hope you are OK after watching 💜 thank you so much
You are spot on - ‘hurt people hurt people is a stereotype that I also personally hate.
I strive to do the opposite. I’ve been hurt countless times and work hard to help the younger generations growing through pain. Making sure they know there are abuse/violent survivors creating a safe space for them. Allowing them to be heard and not judged
You are such a brave young lady, having to courage to help react to this hard story, coming from a background I also know so well.
You are honest and beautifully emotionally
Women can also be abusers. It’s not so heard off, but happens soooo much. Even in ‘Violets tale’ the mum knew
I saw the dissociation and the self soothing that is also so familiar to me.
Thank you for such a raw emotional reaction. Truly heartfelt 🙏💜
Exactly - I strive to do the opposite too!!
Aww thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so sorry you have had similar experiences, thank you for sharing 💜
One of the gifts Ren gives us is the ability to open up and connect with others in this life who are not "okay". He helps others in ways he isn't even aware of. I hope you are doing well!
He really does. Thank you, I'm surviving 💜 hope you are well
My heart goes out to you, your beautiful, strong, and can go threw anything now. Please don't self destruct. I'm 43 divorced and haven't be able to see my children in 5 years, was homeless for a year and lost everything and I got this don't give a shit if I died attitude. I quit caring, drank more, drugged more, drove faster.. u get where I was at. I realized life is worth it even if it's spent alone it took forever for me to love myself again. Love yourself, it's not your fault, you are worth it. I pray you find your peace whatever it may be❤
Thank you so much for your kind words, I am unfortunately in a similar place but doing my best 💜 glad you found the way through
It's difficult finding the right words to respond to your reaction. 😢. My childhood while different from your was still an unhappy one that has affected me ever since. I think it's something you never really get over, you just learn to cope or you don't.
I think it's really brave of you to share your story, and I think it's a story that should be heard by more people because it might help someone else.
As for Ren, he's a special talent, truly a bard for our times and because of his own issues he's able to connect in a way very few can. He is quite simply a genius.
I agree, I don't think you can get over something which has shaped your entire existence. Learning to cope is all we can do 💜 thanks for sharing, I'm sorry yours was unhappy too.
Oh he's definitely a genius
Fellow c-PTSD abuse survivor here, I respect your willingness to connect with Ren's music despite how much of a gut punch it can be to those of us who have suffered through the broken medical system and the trauma-illness interplay. I love your videos and your candor, especially about the coping mechanisms and mental states that we escape into when confronted with trauma. I appreciate you and hope you keep making more of these videos because you are worthy of the kind of support you mentioned receiving in this video.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 I'm so sorry you have experienced similar things 💜💜
Wow your words really hit home. We have different paths and circumstances but we all find ourselves here. Ren’s music has brought me out of some dark spots, and the community around it is amazing. Keep doing your thing - I appreciate ya for this one.
Thank you so much 💜 I appreciate you coming over and bringing kindness
They always say the best music is the music that tells a story in a way that punches you in the gut. This trilogy sucks. But so many women suffer in silence. This song gives her misery a voice. I can never make it through this video without crying
It really does give her a voice and it's so hard to watch. Thankfully I have not experienced what she did but it's still a gut punch 💜 hope you are OK
Thank you for being so honest, it is honesty which brings the audience. I can see it took a great deal of courage to react to this.
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜
I was so worried about you watching Violet. When you broke down I broke down with you. I’m sorry you went through that and I’m so happy you made it through the other side and that you are here now.
Thank you so much 💜 I'm really sorry if you have experienced anything like this too
Just on observation on your very raw reaction to something that clearly hit home hard: Putting yourself on here, for all to see, to be so vulnerable, is a gift of trust in strangers. Unlike the saying "you earn trust", to me, I see it not as earned, but wrapped up in a bow and given as an unconditional gift, and it is down to the recipient to hold it or misuse it. The level of guts to give your trust enough to put yourself here for all to see, is brave of course, but more, it shows me you can see that if things ever have a way of improving, it has to start with taking that step onto unsafe and unpredictable ground and see what happens, and you dear lady, have knowingly pushed yourself forward, taken that step, and showed the viewers what being brave really means, its not about heroics, its about going through something you could have avoided to improve yourself in some way.
Wow, thank you so much 💜
Yes, the best way to move forward is to share our experiences. I really wish everyone would watch Ren's music because he bringing these difficulties forward in an incredible way 💜
Thank you so much. love you so much mate. Love you!
i could see how hard it was for you but the strength you where showing was amazing i dont know you but amazed and proud reacting to you such strength
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜
Thanks for sharing your reaction and your personal story. You show others that life isn't centered on who you "were" but rather who you "are". Your strength and understanding shines.
I wish everyone thought this way! Thank you so much for your kind words 💜
I have become a big fan and it's nice to see people actually appreciate art
Aww thank you so much 💜
That haunting voice at the start reminds me of howling cries I have done myself,
Hugs 💜
@@ljslupylife same
Heartfelt reaction which is amazing to see. What I love about human beings is we are able to feel sympathy and in the absence of experience to feel sympathy we can feel empathy.
Exactly 💜 and Ren has helped us find each other
Big hugs. This was a hard watch for me as well the first time. I admire the fact that you still were willing to share this reaction! ❤
Thank you so much 💜
Thank you for your courage! I am also an abuse and kidnapping surviver! Ren touches this humanity I had perhaps forgotten had existed! You are an amazing human!
it was very hard to watch you reacting to this, I wanted to reach into my screen and hold your hand. Bless you.
Thank you so much for your kind words
God Rest Ye Merry, Gentlemen... That was my very first comment when I heard it the first time. You're the only other reactor that said that! Good ear! Coming to the end of Screech's tale... I've heard this piece so many times I don't need to watch Ren. I was mesmerized watching YOU. Your obvious captivation was riveting. Your typed commentary was excellent. Okay, now for Violet's tale. I'm actually a little concerned about how this will hit you. Here goes... Finished. I have tears in my eyes from watching what you endured in the last several minutes. You touched my heart. This was the most emotional, raw, sincere reaction I have watched to date. I can only give one thumb up... you deserve a hundred. Liked and subscribed!
Wow, thank you so much for your kind words 💜 I don't even know what to say
Thank you so much for subscribing, it means a lot 💜
Thank you for your openness I cried with you. Your bravery reacting to this was touching proud of you ❤️
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜
This is probably the hardest of Ren's performances for someone with a past that includes domestic violence. You had plenty of thoughts to share during the performance but you wisely kept the communication of them silent. Thank you for that. I hate reactions with constant interruptions. I can see the reaction in the reactor's face. I don't watch reactions for reactor's opinions but the spirit within them meeting Ren's creative spirit honestly. I can see that this was hard for you. Yet you did it. Know that you are brave.
Thank you so much 💜 I really couldn't bring myself to interrupt Ren's music because it's so impactful and I don't want to lose that.
It was hard, but I'm glad I could do it because I feel like we need to share these experiences to help others
One of the best parts of being unwilling admitted to the hospital was the grippy socks they give you, I kept them every time I was admitted and bought the same kind off Amazon
Yay for looking at the positives 💜 that's brilliant hun 👍🏻
I can relate to what you said about the potential to spiral into ever worsening situations. I always consider myself incredibly fortunate that I didn't end up in the Drugs Scene because at the darkest part of my life a was surrounded by people that were! I did fall into drinking for a while but at some point my family got together and intervened and took me to go live with relatives in another county where I slowly rebuilt me life and went on to have the best part of my life. Sending you Love and Best Wishes.
@@BlackWolf-uk2yb so pleased to hear you rebuilt and are thriving 💜
Your strength and courage are an inspiration. You are an inspiration
Thank you so much for your kind words, 💜
well you got my sub :) thank you for an amazing reaction, lots of love from Greece, stay safe and healthy
Thank you so much 💜 I really appreciate your kind words
@@ljslupylife You are most welcome, i love that you like our global treasure, Ren is the medicine earth needs. helped my panic attacks so much. Much love.
@@neverlandxx73 he really is
It was very hard to watch you react to this video!! God bless you!! ❤
Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to comment 💜
Thank you for sharing. You are so brave!
Thank you 💜
love your reaction to this emotional rollercoaster. thank you :)
Thank you so much 💜
Much respect. I admire your courage. Wishing you much love and light for the rest of a long life.
Thank you so much 💜
@@ljslupylife I thank *you*. Hopefully you know that you're helping others even when we can't express ourselves to properly thank you.
@@ChrisLawton66 if sharing my experiences helps even one person then I'm doing less than 1% of what Ren is doing 💜
@@ljslupylife He's certainly helping many as I'm certain you are and will. His new song comes out next Wednesday!
@@ChrisLawton66 I know, I can't wait! Unfortunately I'm at the theatre that day so won't be able to react to it on the day!!
That had to be insanely hard to react to. I've never been in that situation, but I feel for you and everything you've gone through. I've got a simple saying that helps me make it day to day. "Don't give up" there is always a purpose to still be here. If you would like to talk more, I'm here to listen 🙏
Thank you so much for your kind words, it really does mean the world to me.
It was difficult but that's why I had to do it, for me and also to bring awareness to other of the situation but also Ren's music 💜💜
@@ljslupylife Ren's music really is moving. I really think everyone should give him a listen. He could impact so many people's lives
@@alexberry7539 definitely
Great reaction! I just got turned onto this song today and am now binging all reactions I can the rest of the day. Yours is my favorite so far!
Aww thank you so much 💜 I'm so pleased (if that's the right word) you have found the song
You did very well to get through this one. I wish you all the best.
Thank you so much 💜
Thank-you so much for your open / candid reactions. Through Ren's music i have discovered some truly remarkable people, who have opened my eyes and ears artistically, technically and emotionally. I cannot imagine the strength it must take to endure what you have been through and I hope that by sharing your story, that it helps to take some of the darkness away and replaces it with the love that you deserve. If you want a change of pace / something a bit lighter, you could he a look at some Ren busking - the band is called the big push.
Thank you so much, talking about it and connecting with people has definitely been helping 💜
I am looking forward to checking out the big push
You are amazing . You are helping others through your own story and rens just by reacting. ✌️To you from Australia .
Thank you so much 💜💜
Great honest reaction ❤ thank you for sharing your story. Sending warm hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you so much for watching and commenting 💜
Bless ya, keep on pushing and in time the drive will grow your channel.
Aww thank you so much, that's not at all why I do this, but connecting with people has been a wonderful byproduct of discovering Ren's music 💜
It's so tough watching you go through these emotional roller coasters and hearing about the abuse you suffered, particularly as someone who had a relatively great childhood. I use the word 'relatively' because almost everyone is impacted by some negative aspect of their parents and their relationship with each other and you. But compared to your experience, I feel bloody blessed. As I say in every comment, I truly wish you a better future that you can rely on and not be fearful of (reference: "I'm scared of being okay 'cause all things change, all things change"). Much love!
Thank you so much for your kind words 💜 although it still effects me, I'm definitely in a better place in my life now
It's hard viewing yet I still feel I have to watch, because it shows you sides of life that many are silent about. Your strength and perseverance are inspiring. It's got me thinking about what I talk infrequently about, my own experiences that I've got through. I've always been stubborn & when I spoke up as a child I was believed in various situations. I'm glad your step mother gave you a safe place. My mother was my safe place, my step mother not at all.
Yes it's hard to know what to say after watching a tragedy that is told with such haunting beauty.
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Thank you so much, I'm so pleased you have such a lovely connection with your mother 💜
I hope this was a helpful experience. He lends a voice to people, and it can feel good to feel seen, but I cannot imagine how close this must feel. The only other one that I think might be really tough is How to be Me, though also a masterpiece ; Maybe something more hopeful like Humble or Power? How brave you were in this.
Thank you so much 💜 it is definitely helping me to have these conversations, hopefully Ren's music will benefit the world.
Thanks, I will check them out
@@ljslupylife As are you helping. This is so important.
@@cas9065 💜
Wanted to hold your hand as you watched ❤ you are so brave ❤
Thank you so much, I would have really appreciated that 💜
The best part of the whole trilogy imo was either at the end of screeches tale when he kicks in with "Richard was an officer who stood..." or violets tale where he comes in with "that's the sound of his fists..." musically speaking that is.
Don't be quick to condemn screech think about his potential societal position. I read Patrick his best friend has been screwing the love of his life which has been tormenting his mindset and thought processes for a long time. Screech has been suicidal for along time and longing to die. He then bumped into jenny their eyes they met. When he killed Jenny he killed himself. He saw himself in his twins eyes. He acted on ferocious emotion. Unbeknownst to him and he ultimately and immediately regretted his actions. Compassion is needed here.
Patrick was with screeches mrs in Patrick's when he was knocking. He knew this deep down hence the persistence in knocking. He then immediately phones his Mrs but she was busy. This certified his deep agonising suspicions hence he went out swinging he effectively committed suicide.
The trilogy is extremely thought provoking. It's a modern-day masterpiece. Big facts hundred percent.
I do not condemn Screech at all. It is a masterpiece, viewed from every angle 💜
I love seeing these reaction videos. Ren absolutly Amazing and really gets the emotions going. Thanks
He is a genius 💜 and it's lovely to connect with others who are so understanding
@@ljslupylife definetly. I only stumbled into Hi Ren a week and ever since i watching all of his stuff. Never has an artist blown me away like this. I thought so but no. 1990s is amazing. Bongo bong with the big push and chalk outlines. Bitter sweer syphoney is just so good. Im blethering sorry. ❤
@@barrycorletto4711 carry on, because I totally agree 💜
@@ljslupylife dominoes, crutch, the hunger, genisis, diazipam. Art is dead, oh wait that is Bo Burnham. If u havent heard that you should also watch funny feeling and welcome to the unternet but you have probably seen them