Habit Patterns (1954)
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As this film opens, we see "Barbara," a teenager, weeping into her hands. "It's a little late for tears, isn't it?" asks the unforgiving narrator. Barbara, she informs us, has had a bad day -- but because she is sloppy and unorganized, she deserved it. We then travel back in time and see how Barbara's day became a nightmare; how she was invited to an after-school party with an important new social group; and how her poor grooming and unpolished manners sent her straight to Social Hell. The narrator gleefully reminds us "how easy it is not to be invited again," and "how quickly you can be left out of the crowd." "People are going to talk," she adds, and when they talk, "our faults are more easily discussed." By this point we're back to the beginning of the film, and Barbara is on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Happily, she sees the light, and becomes lovely, better-groomed and (we hope) never again the subject of films such as this. Relentless.
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The narrator is dead by now. Bet Barbara was late to the funeral. Silly Barbara.
Maybe Barbara got to dance on the narrator's grave.
Michelle B LOL
Some of these responses are killer. Hehe.
😆😂🤣
Bwahahaha
this is one of my all time favorite videos. the narrator is so mean to Barbara and I just think it's hilarious.
Colleen Millett Haha it may sound that way, but that's how they were in the 50's. The stated things like this like facts, in a no nonsense manner
I have to admit that good habits and organization do make life run a lot smoother. I'm disorganized and it can be extremely frustrating.
agreed. make coffee ready the night before , have the clothes set aside . before you know it you get up at 6 am without an alarm and head to work.
pretty bullet me too
Don't worry, Barbara. You're just ahead of your time! By the 90's, most teenagers will be just like you.
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Man I know that feel Barbara. That unprepared feel. Nothing is worse. What helps me is always doing my best to be prepared, but when I inevitably fail, I have back-up plans, like a spare sweater, just for that occasion, for example.
How wonderfully put.
I'm addicted to these movies and idk why I keep hearing my grandma fussing at me in every one lol
That is a great association! As long as it's positive.
I only hear her in this one as the narrator. She was abusive 😂
I find it really interesting how everyone gives Helen the OCD label to define what is wrong with her (even though she is doing perfectly fine), and Barbara the ADD label, to define why she doesn't have to try, because it is hard for her... It says a lot about our society today. Especially because the two girls in the movie are probably completely normal, they just have different habits to make a point, lol.
Both girls are indeed "completely normal." But what is normal, anyway?
I don't know that Helen is "OCD" (not my read of her at all). She's just neurotypical. That doesn't mean she's better than Barbara. Just that daily tasks don't come as easily to Barbara as they do to Helen.
Helen is more like the average person. Barbara definitely appears (at least to me, an unqualified person to make such a diagnosis) shows signs of ADHD, though. Not that any of us commenting about that are qualified to make such armchair diagnoses, haha! I'm not a psychologist. I don't think it's that she's not trying...it's that her brain works differently. In fact, I think she's crying because she is trying so hard to make her brain keep up with the world around her and failing. Today we have means of coping available for people like Barbara (if she does have ADHD). In the 50s, it was just seen as a moral character flaw.
Still, habit formation does help with things like this. It just takes some people longer to figure out how to form good habits.
lol i feel attacked this video is for me
I was thinking the same thing LMAO
same
Clarinha Diogo we are all Barbara! 😂
S Lines ain't that the truth
Same :/
One thing I do like about Helen is that she doesn't act superior to Barbara. She know's Helen has trouble, but she doesn't hold it against her, and they seem to be friendly with each other.
I am 60 years old and I grew up in those days. I had to wear dresses to grade school and the rules of society were very unforgiving. That is all I knew. I think that alot of people should care more about his or her appearance, but within a healthy balance. It is good to be organized, but back then people didn't understand add and other things like depression which truly affect people. I am glad we, as a society have come a long way.
Agreed. Good comment Sandra.
The film shows two things: - Most obviously it shows the problems of being disorganised which I agree is a good message ... There is however another underlying message in the film: That a young woman must conform or risk being a social outcast. In the 50s there was too much pressure to "fit in" or "be normal, etc. and not much sympathy or understanding of people as individuals. Thanks for your comment Sandra.
I'm glad you feel more comfortable in today's society and feel that it is more forgiving nowadays, but as somebody from a later decade (the 80's) I can tell you, that there may be more acceptance around now concerning a certain amount of personal lifestyle, sexuality and clothing style but on the other hand it's still extremely easy to become an outcast. It will still be rare that a secretary could have a tattoo showing, dyed hair, etc. And just try being a teenager at school nowadays - if you don't dress a certain way or put on lots of makeup from a certain age on, you will still be an outsider (I have 6 nephews and 3 nieces attending school, so I see what's going on).
I think we will always feel negative about a time in which we didn't feel comfortable - no matter if the time was/is perfect or not for others and consequentely wish ourselves into a time in which we think we would have fit in more, blind to the possible problems that could have been existing there too.
We always say we should accept and love everyone for who they are - but no-one ever does. Part of the reason is that it is human nature to judge. It always have been, it still is, and it probably always will be. Not to be pointlessly mean, but as a strategy to survive and thrive in life; who can contribute socially, and who will be a 'burden'. (I was the burden for years, so don't crucify me)
The reason we want people to stop judging, is because we are afraid we can't live up to their standards (or our own), or because we don't want to make the effort to try. Yes, it can be stressful, especially if it is not something you are suited for. But I personally think some different standards would benefit society, and create people who are more mentally prepared for life.
We SAY looks doesn't matter; but they always will. And good organisation and habits WILL help you gain more opportunities in life. We can refuse to 'conform', which is fine; as long as we understand that the result is that we will have less opportunities, and people might judge us negatively. We can also choose to make the most of ourselves, inside and outside, and gain the ability and skill to handle more opportunities as they arise.
Did they? We’re still here.
Q I think they seemed nicer to folks who did fit in and were within the confines of what accepted was. If someone was a black person back then, they were segregated or treated like lesser. So in that instance no. If you followed the mold then sure. If you “ acted like a lady” in public men would hold doors for you and treat you kindly, but if you were different, they would judge you. It was easy to be an outcast just by not dressing like everyone else. Yes people looked neater and stuff, dressier. But if someone did not want to be, they’d be ostracized.
If you were a woman, your job list was limited too. If you were a woman who did not choose to have kids, by choice, not infertility, you would not fit in then because all your friends had kids. If your husband abused you in private, there really was nothing you could do. If you were gay you had to hide it because gay was considered a mental illness then by most.
These are exact things my grandmother told me abt the 50s. My grandmother was a young adult in the 50s and lived from them until the 2000s and saw society change quite a lot over the years.
She said yes in fact things like jobs for men were all but guaranteed and had benefits, etc. and you could exist on one income and get a house. Some things were better. But a lot were not as ok too
When she was crying at the beginning I thought the narrator was talking about her period starting.
Hahaha! Me too! But girls weren't allowed to cry about the facts of life like periods. They were expected to buck up, be pleasant and never complain.
Yup, they needed to be delightful and full of pep at all times :D
+Jessica Murrell Naturally! lol
hahaha I did too
I think a lot of ppl did
Oh my god I fucking love Barbara.
She is my spirit animal.
+Raven Agnes I was gonna write the same thing.
Helen grew up to be one of the Stepford Wives!
Helen grew up to be one of my cousins. We used to lick her food at parties when she wasn't looking.
Where in hell do they get those super strength bobby pins?
They're not super-strength. It's just that people don't use bobby pins anymore to realize just how much they can hold.
Ohh now it makes sense. Thanks
I'm going to troll the internet for years to get a fifty pieces set of vintage bobby pins and then they will be passed down the family line as heirlooms.
Rose Contreras you're 100% right Our bobby pins used to last for years and years.
@@bethlast4269 wtf??? I usually get to use my bobby pins 3 times tops and then they vanish
I love how worked up everyone is getting
I have a place for things, too. It's called the floor.
Nothing beats the good ol'fashioned floordrobe.
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Same 👌
I've been like Barbara, especially in terms of being disorganized, and it has honestly caused trouble for me sometimes.
Poor Barbara, she was just ahead of her time.
Yeah, a lazy slob who expects everyone to like her even though she didn't take care of herself.
Funny how whenever the background score is playing, the slamming of doors and drawers, the squeaking of old student desks, and the dogtrot past the neighbors' houses are all totally mute. Yet I distinctly heard the crunch when Barbara bit into that piece of toast.
The glob of dried food on Barbara's sweater says..."won't you be my friend?"
I always have food on my clothes after eating. Yesterday at church I glanced down & saw a glob of white toothpaste on my blouse. People are used to it, no one ever says anything to me about it. My late husband used to joke, "I can't take you anywhere" yet took me out to eat every week.
Reading the comments below show that we haven't changed much since then. We just judge different things as good. As someone pointed out here, the high value of individualism is a judgment call as much as anything else. I grew up in the '60s and saw the double-standard hypocrisy of my peers against their parents. No one (!) was more judgmental than the youth of their parents back then. They criticized the "crass materialism" of their parents, except of course, when the parents gave them money or paid their rent.
All Barbara had to do was pin her scarf over the stain on her sweater then when she got home,,wash the damn thing.
The messages was right in that organization and good habit forming are key (I have ADHD so I've had to work hard to achieve it but it's possible) but the delivery was mean spirited.
+Cangel Tibon It started out being ostensibly about the ways being neat and organized are important in life, but changed into like this nightmare clarion call for total conformity and suppression of your personality about halfway through.
+Pauline Triage
Alfredo C
Finally somebody who understands the pun.
Pauline Triage Well she wasn't exactly a household name. I just happened to be in the audience way back in the day when she received a lifetime achievement award from the CFDA.
Cangel Tibon, thank you for having some common sense! Everyone seems to think that a diagnosis is an excuse for not trying. Really, it just means you are more challenged in certain areas, not that you can't learn. (I have aspergers, and that have certainly been a challenge, but I have come a long way, and will hopefully continue to improve). The thing is, with or without a diagnosis, everyone have things they are talented at, and things they are less suited for. :)
I actually thought the narrator was partially Barbaras own inner voice, imagining what others would say about her. Compared to how I used to speak to myself (and I know many others still speak to themselves), she was an angel, lol. What she did was point out her insecurities/the bad habits, and how they impacted her life negatively. Then she compared it to what Helen was doing, and why that could help Barbara solve her problems. More as a role model to show her how to do things right (because she didn't know, or forgot the importance), rather than saying "You will always be a looser, and Helen will always be superior". More like "If you do things this way, you will become a better version of yourself, make a better impression on people, and gain more opportunities/happiness in life." But maybe that is just me. :)
So much negative comments. I actually find these videos rather helpful . I really don't give a shit if you're un organized, wear dirty clothes , or don't eat breakfast. Everybody is comfortable their way and that's okay but for some people and I also speak for myself would much rather drop some of the habits that don't fit in with the lifestyle that we find ideal. I used to be dirty , lazy, and un healthy and do nothing but be on my computer all day but after seeing videos like this I actually took some advice (not all) and my life style has really improved and I am much happier. That's because I personally felt like I needed to stop the bad habits I had that really made me feel like shit and I think these videos are great help for the people who do acknowledge their bad habits and are looking to better them selves to ultimately better their life style. If you are comfortable waking up late, not eating breakfast, being unorganized etc. then hey pal that's just fine, who is anybody to judge an individuals way of life. To all the negative commenters ,I don't think these videos are for your personal use. For us who seek the help then these videos might help out a bit. I find joy in these classic videos and classic views. Idk something about them is truly magical to me.
Have been searching for this comment. You're right
You're totally right.
No
You are 100% right. There a lot of wisdom in these old videos. That’s why I watch them because I have suffered from being disorganized and running late my whole life. And I am trying very hard to break those habits because they make you miserable. The more I watch these videos the better I do and, thus, I am much more relaxed.
This is my favorite one. I don't know why, but it is. Maybe because I can semi-relate to Barbara and want to follow the advice, or maybe it's the harshness of the narrator. Not sure, but I love it.
I like that Barbara and Helen are friends.
"The voice in my head says I'll never be as good as you." - Barbara
"Really? My voice just keeps saying 'They know, Helen. They all know.' Over and over." - Helen
i'm barbara though also did barbara murder someone what is that spot
I'm Barbara D: and I'm gonna change! Going bed early tonight!
+EmbraceWithin did you create a good habit?
This is EXACTLY what my inner monologue sounds like
They should show these again in schools. So many teen girls could be helped by this video.
Poor Barbara. Glad she is getting her act together. Everyone deserves to be clean.
Helen is hellllllla basic.
(in the narrator's voice) "As we can see, Helen is a precious little bitch, isn't she?"
Jeez Barbara! Eat those 6 strips of bacon and two mostly raw eggs your mother made you! 5:35
+Ant Barry I would not have been able to eat those eggs without throwing up..
Pansy's. Overeasy was common and preferred into the eighties.
I love the shade thrown at Barbara but also just how pleasant her voice is. And in general just the advice is good:)
I'm afraid that the next time I cry I'll get a voice over going "It's a little late for tears, isn't it..."
I'm sitting here bored senseless with a fractured hip and all these comments make me laugh. It makes my day a bit better😁
Hey… how’s your hip going?
"Out, damn spot!" she says, frantically rubbing her sweater.
Oh my God, so much cuteness! I coudn't resist to smile, when finally Barbara put everything together hahahaha
So Helen spends an inordinate amount of time thinking about what she is going to wear, making sure her clothes are straight and matching, with no spots. She cleans her nails, reads the right books, listens to the right music. And she kills it in social situations. And able to do all this with plenty of time to spare and go to bed on time. WELL- little Miss Perfect did NOT make her bed. And she did not help her mother clear the table, she just left her plate there. So don't feel too bad, Barbera.
Barbara didn't do those things either.
The point is that Helen prepares herself daily so she actually has time for other activities. Barbara probably spent more time finding what to wear and figuring out how to cover up the spots on her sweater while on the other hand Helen already picked out her outfit the night before.
Everything was going well for Helen, until her love of habit saw her ride the white pony once too often. Only then did she know the horror of developing a 'habit'.
"It's a little late for tears, isn't it?"
"Even though you didn't know what was going to happen today, you've still had your whole life to prepare for it!"
"This was how your day started. It started WRONG!"
"As it turned out, it was a special day for Helen, too. But she makes a habit of being READY for special days! She starts by having a PLACE for things, and KEEPING them there! [...] She's able to match the right skirt with the right sweater!"
"If you had a habit plan for your mornings, you might get off to a decent start someday! Helen has a habit plan."
Ugh, narrator, just shut up.
Makes me think of Meryl Streep's character in Devil Wears Prada. "Why is no one REA-dy..."
"be like everybody else, be like everybody else, be like everybody else, don't ever be yourself, be like everybody else, be like everybody else, be like everybody else, be a robot..."
I almost made the same comment, you beat me to it.
"Make the most of yourself, create good habits to become less stressed and able to accomplish more, get better self-esteem..."
Nintendo Kid 💗
Well in context of organization and hygene it kinda makes sense?
Excluding the parts of "you should liKe stuFf yoU ShoUld Be inTeresTed in MusiC and muSeums"*
"They were talking about a popular book..."
Oh really, what popular book hmm? Narrator? Exactly what book were they talking about? Or were you too busy criticizing Barbara's listening skills to pay attention? Your just as guilty of being a Barbara as Barbara!
That is a senseless point. There's this crazy thing called copyright, and the idea that whatever was popular during writing wouldn't be popular in future years.
It was 50 shades of Grey or Twilight.
@@TheWaggishAmerican Be that as it may, there's always the possibility she might not be into that "popular book" whatever it is. The narrator just wanted us to assume she didn't get into books.
Moby Dick?
IMDb says that Barbara was played by Judith O’Dea, who portrayed Barbra in Night of The Living Dead. O’Dea was born in 1945. The young woman playing Barbara in this film is at least 13, if not older. Moreover they don’t look alike or have the same mannerisms.
I've been watching these all day .
I think the stain on Barbara's sweater can be forgiven since she's fighting off zombies the whole night long.
This video totally made me feel like shit! I just realized I'm Barbara!
Poor Barbara :(
I am Barbara to a T.
this reminds me i should wash my clothes....
Barbara will get better and successful in future.
lol I enjoyed this and it made me laugh when barbara still threw her robe on the floor and left it for a while.. but man this did make me want to change some habits lol and man that stain on her sweater was massive haha. :)
5:51
Barbara's mother forgot to show her the "Good Eating Habits" video.
She needs to sort out that room over the weekend, those drawers gave me anxiety.
Who does this narrator think she is? Not everybody has to be like HELEN.
snowydoe33 The narrator is actually Helen lol
Joan Crawford "Barbara, PLEASE! PLEASE BARBARA!"
Don't u just hate it when a concert is long-haired?
Guh, it's the worst!
Natalie B 😂😂😂
Wait a good 10-12 years, girls.
DTD110865 nah, I’m. 43 and still like metal music you don’t outgrow the music you loved
@@AKayfabe Hey, I'm a decade older than you and I don't mind metal either.
I hope Barbara had a good day and a better life for all of hers tomorrow's
I see they're studying Pavlov in school. Pavlov is known for his concept of the "conditioned reflex" (i.e., habits). Coincidence? I don't think so...
I smell a conspiracy.
Srew all these haters, this changed my life! Way to go Barb! Helen is commendable but boy is Barbara's story not just relatable but downright inspirational! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 #BarbIsTheRealHeroOfThisStory #NeverForgetBarbsStruggle Barb got me in tears man, what a champ!
Today, dear Barbara would be a goth.
No, She would just be a normal teenager today.
seriously, who wants to be compared to their neighbor?
I think you missed the point
RealBeautiful Beauty yeah, mine is a lunatic 🤣
You added nothing to that conversation.
She did. It was a Squirrel/WTF moment. lol
Jeez, the narrator's a bit hard on Barbara isn't she?
Yes, and Antarctica is a bit chilly.
The voice dripping with self-righteous condescension is hysterical.
seriously though, any child who's constantly fatigued needs to have a physical to see if they have diabetes, etc.
I never realized the messy blonde child was the same one that was the blonde woman in the original Night of the Living Dead! Amazing!
They didn't wash everything every-time it was worn. Typically, girls wore slips back then .. so unless the outer-wear was stained or otherwise noticeably dirty .. They hung it to air .. and wore it again.
This practice not only saved on washing but on the life of the fabric as well
- Makes good sense to me... LOL
There are a lot of psychological and social insights in this film..
Uhm, evil narrator, Barbara is not being "deviant".
"Deviant" is torturing animals behind the garage. "Deviant" is actually climbing out the window at about 9PM to go meet the boys at the pool hall. "Deviant" is stealing from the neighbors' vehicles' gas tanks in the alley and calling the cops complaining about the dogs barking at you while you are stealing gas and mail from the mailboxes out front, narrator.
"Deviant" is smiling at the teacher and pretending to be friends with Helen and then when the teacher is out of sight, dragging Helen to the spot behind the cafeteria and punching her lights out for being a little snip.
This sounds oddly specific...
Wow, I feel like this was made for me. They all knew I'd watch this in the future.
I like these videos. Glad they are posted. They are helpful, especially for young people who have to raise themselves.
Barbara and Helen are, what, 14? 15? Not exactly a time to set one's routine in stone. And why the hell would the entire class notice when one girl in the second row is drumming her fingers?
phantommangagirl, the 1950’s very extremely conformist. It didn’t matter what age you where, you where expected conform to the prescribed social norms or you would be an outcast.
14 - 15 is a reasonable age to start growing up.
Shame on Barbara for being a teenager!
...An irresponsible, lazy teenager.
Can you imagine having that ladies voice in your head all day?
"Helen's parents replaced her with a robot after a few days when they discovered that she had needs."
When I was still in my teens, I was both girls. The only problem for me was that things that one can not control caused many of my unwanted habits. I couldn't change my families attitudes on the way to see things, and when you have a certain monthly problem that is actually debilitating you can only think about how that could cause unwanted things to happen. And sadly become a habit that can't be fixed. In truth I wish I could have been more like Helen, but then again that was impossible.
What about finding a happy medium?
kashmirpage I found a happy medium for myself but I know my family wasn't happy with it.
Starts out already with crying first second. Something has gone wrong! And the 50s narrator is sure to tell us exactly what without hesitation too.
Also I do not have ADD and I’m exactly that way too. Some of us are just really disorganized without having ADD
Thank you. SO many comments where people label Helen with OCD, to explain what is 'wrong' with her, and Barbare with ADD to explain why she doesn't have to try... Makes no sense, lol.
My behaviour when I was Young is the same as the dear Barbara.Do you know what?The narrator is right,in fact I has litterally dumped my life doing so and now, I'm a desperate man.
The part where Barbara is running to school reminds me of the first episode of Sailor Moon. I'm wondering when she's going to rescue a black kitty with a crescent moon on its forehead.
This video pretty much changed my life. Love it!
I think that we should keep in mind that if this were one of those 1950's Alien Invasion Movies, Barbara would be one of the citizens that would survive it. Living in a cave? Not a problem.
"Helen's dad would drop her" lol
Films like this are the reason everyone flipped their lid somewhere in the mid 1960's.
Just imagine what Barbara would be like if she was an internet kid.... good golly, she'd be just like me!
Helen has epic eyebrows.
Woah, that spot on her sweater was massive!
Poor Barbara. Poor helpless Barbara... Barbara the failure. She will never be perfect like Helen. Wonderful Helen. Helen who is prepared for every second. Helen who never does anything wrong. Hopeless Barbara will never come close to being as good as Helen the wonder robot!
most inspiring video ever!
Maybe instead of being so judgmental in the beginning of the film, the narrator could have started out with, "It was a difficult day for you, wasn't it, Barbara? Suppose we figure out what went wrong to avoid this in the future," or something like that. It would just sound nicer and more helpful that way, IMO. :)
"Well Barbara, maybe you wouldn't hate yourself so much if you weren't such a *fucking mess all the time* "
In all honesty, I don't see this as being about how barbara is a nightmare. But rather how barbara's parents have failed her. They never took her to any museum, she has only one childhood vacation in her entire life to speak of, they never taught her how to care for herself, nor to respect herself.
**At the end when Barbra's staring at her robe on the floor, contemplating picking it up**
Don't do it Barbra! _Don't be absorbed in to that regime_ *_It's a trap, Barbra_*
Dang it Barb- why didn’t ya listen??
That stain tho...I can’t get over it! 😳
Why would you ever wear a shirt especially a light shirt where it’s blatantly obvious. I mean, even if you pin it, it’s still kinda obvious...I find it hard to believe anyone would wear something that stained, in any time period. 🧐
As much as people say how "judgmental" this is, there are some pretty damn valid points here.
*sings* And goes running to the shelter of her mother's little helper!
Lose the narrator, and you've got a Stephen King movie about a real girl living in a world of perfect androids, and in the end, she becomes one herself.
I was thinking about a Stephen King novel myself…. Carrie. That has a teenage girl in it that is socially awkward and laughed at by people and it didn’t in good for those people… Or that town
A lot of people seem to be against the message in this film. You're right, being on time to school and looking clean and well taken care of is a bad thing isn't it? Not caring about what others think is the right way to go.
What's the matter with trying to better yourself? I don't get some of the comments on this video. Some of the comments seem to prove why everyone is so sensitive these days and why we have so many spoiled brats everywhere.
Actually, the video is pretty catty and mean-spirited.
Well, as I said, too sensitive.
Jessica davis Well, listen to what is said; The narrator tells this anti-heroine that she is a dirty, rude, self-deceiving little procrastinator who brags and will be disliked by her peers because she didn't read the same book that everybody else did over the summer. Not the way to get ears to listen.
Nokomarie The narrator is in a motherly position, and, frankly, Barbara needs to be told she has bad habits. Being late to school every day, lying to her mother, having messy clothes, and having horrible manners in conversation aren't very positive qualities.Sorry if you're too pretentious to be told when you're doing something wrong, but if someone *is* a dirty, rude, self-deceiving little procrastinator, she ought to hear it from someone.
Nokomarie Who's fault is that? The Narrator's?
Good for you. I'm glad that you can appreciate the advise, I think it's golden. Get your friends to follow the advice as well (if they don't already).
This was really insightful. Im completely Barbra, but im changing my habits one moment at a time.