I love how carefully you choose your words rather than cutting up your video to make yourself appear more articulate than you are (like most youtubers)
Some youtuber would like to have a shorter video, wasting less of our time and make the point. Cutting out the silent part would help. But i do know what you mean
@@UsamahMohdSabriit would be a faux pas to cut the video-which is manipulating way of speech in a video which is about becoming better at speaking you cannot cut anything out in real life so it would be hypocritical to do so
@@nocny5546 he's generalising all the individuals who cutting out the pausing parts. I'm not talking specifically about the one who teaches how to be a fluent speaker. But still, it's still acceptable for someone to cut out the part, so the video would be shorter and waste lesser amount the time of viewers watching
This is exactly what I struggle with. I used to be happy when I was in a flow state. People could tell I was happy too because my sarcastic humor and facial expressions would lift the energy levels in the room. I have since become an overthinker and question everything in my head before I say it. My sense of humor is gone and I can’t ever seem to ride the wave of thoughts in my head without over editing all of it. Engineering school and a very sensitive ex girlfriend both major contributing factors.
Bullet Summary: - Achieving the flow state helps to communicate thoughts and ideas seamlessly - Five practices to achieve the flow state: 1. Focus on the three M's of communication: me, message, and messenger 2. Focus on the intention and purpose of communication 3. Practice active listening and empathy 4. Embrace vulnerability and authenticity 5. Practice consistently and seek feedback
I just found your channel today, and as someone with social anxiety, learning how to get out of my head when I talk to people and express my thoughts articulately, is something I want to master. I'm extremely happy that you're making this content because it is very valuable to me 🙂
5 steps to effectively express your thoughts and ideas clearly: 1. Focus on the 3 M's of communication; Me, Messenger and Message. 2. Focus on being present and listening in the moment. 3. Expanding your vocabulary 4. Achieving optimal articulation of ideas requires forethought. 5. Reading out loud improves vocal articulation.
I needed this so much. I never talk in my work team meetings because I was overfocused on myself and when I did talk in the past, I kept stumbling on my words due to the anxiety... I will definitely do these steps, I'm tired of being scared and incoherent
I have been repeating your words right after they come out of your mouth and I’ve also been repeating the word/speeches of public speakers. I’ve done this for only a few days and I have to say, I already feel more confident in speaking with my peers. I also make a metal repetition on the words of someone in conversation and I can say, I now better understand people, allowing myself to be an active and effective communicator.
@@rayparwot I no longer do this. It was a phase in my life where I was building confidence to speak out of my comfort zone. I remember hearing and repeating over the words of Bob Kennedy and other prolific orators. It is an exercise I would highly recommend to anyone building either their public speaking skills and or strengthening attentive listening. The praises I’ve received from people include that they’ve perceive a beautiful attentiveness, and the masses recognize a powerful/ relatable message. It helps that I listen with an open heart and give with open arms.
I appreciate the way you speak to the limitations of language. As someone who often dabbles in the ineffable dimensions of spirituality, your descriptions resonate strongly. ❤
I have been trying to learn how to communicate my ideas and thoughts. I've been told that I stammer and stutter in regular conversation, but speaking from the heart, the passions, the beliefs, is the key to speaking clearly and engaging.
As someone who has anxiety, you've described perfectly the "surviving the conversation" mode and not having access to your mind. Whenever someone is talking to me, my mind is always working toward getting a reply out as soon as possible rather than taking the time to process what the person just said and give an appropriate answer.
Dude you spoke to me in such a personal level. I feel like I know wtf I’m thinking is so clear so concise so good and intellectual….. then I talk and sound like a dumb dumb or … I can’t articulate what I’m thinking. I’m so glad I’m not the only one and so glad you have tips for this.
really the key is to read books. I used to be a really bad speaker but, this summer I started reading more and my vocabulary expanded and my can articulate my thoughts so much easier and clearer so yeah just do that
Key take ways 1. The Flow state allows one to go past that mental barrier that impedes clarity allowing you to clearly and masterfully express your thoughts. 2. How to achieve this Keep in mind the 3 Ms meaning Me, Message, Messenger with the Messenger being the most eloquent of the three which is a result of the flow state. 3. Being more present meaning that instead of putting all your focus on how you come off as you focus on listening to what the other person is saying which allows for more thought-out responses 4. Lastly take more time to think about a question this allows you to better think about the topic and formulate a more appropriate response.
Thank you so much! Your content has shifted my mind about the way I speak and write. Thank you for articulating what you have learned and sharing it with the world!
"It's almost as if your mind is a prison for your intellect." - That's a useful quote to ponder. The rest of the video was equally useful with a brilliant use of metaphors and colours sprinkled throughout your presentation.
I'm certain that a great deal of meticulous effort went into creating this remarkable content. It's the most valuable piece I've encountered on RUclips. Thank you for sharing this invaluable resource. ❤
I just discovered you and have been thoroughly enjoying your videos. There are so many curious insights related to speaking and thinking. I’ve noticed that my speech has gotten a bit worse during the past few years, have been more “in my head,” and I have ADHD so the problem that you presented here is very relatable! I tend to be more articulate when writing in comparison to speaking. The “me” stage is something I’ll have to work on with myself. This reminded me of the TED talk that mentions “The Second Circle.” I highly recommend it! Nevertheless, you are a wonderful speaker for someone in this age group! Let’s get you to at least 100K subscribers this year! You’re already over halfway there 🥳💪🏼
What is in your mind is understanding And you cannot really put understanding into words unless you have proper vocabulary perhaps thinking how to best put it into words or paraphrasing from people whose sentence patterns of speech you enjoy That's why we have the workers in that field and coaches who are able to convey and teach what they understand onto the players This like anything can be trained and learned Take it from jazz musicians, what they call improv is not really improv or spontaneous as it seems Jazz musicians can hear what they want to play and have enough vocabulary to play it because they have already practiced that thousands of times. They have a wide range of vocabulary for what they want to express
I had a stroke at birth and am just making breakthroughs with this issue actually. Unconsciously convincing yourself that you will fail the second you speak is the problem. You will succeed and people will listen. Make the effort to get out of your head and you will achieve greatness. Confidence can take you many places, and without it can leave you focusing on the small things. LOVE YOURSELF
Great video once again. Thank you! One question: Doesn’t this method or way of speaking only work for situations where you’re expressing yourself in a conversation where people have time to listen to you. What if you want to speak in a situation (perhaps at a work/sales presentation where people don’t have all the time of day to listen to you craft a perfectly accurate sentence that reflects exactly what you’re thinking with pauses etc?
16:00 What I have to emphasize is that using big words is to be avoided. The point is to be precise, not pretentious. Some popular words may have been tainted with meanings that don't do justice to the thought you're trying to express and you end up being limited.
I am autistic. I think in non-linear diagrams containing abstract objects. This doesn't mean my thoughts are better. It just means it is much harder to put them into words.
Being present in the moment is actually so important being actually there is automatically gonna make you know what you’re gonna say next. As someone who usually have a blank mind while talking to others I found out that the reason for that is because i’m not really present like I’m usually just half there and obviously i don’t face that when I’m texting it’s just when I’m calling my friends and the reason I’m half there is because I usually feel anxious and always on alert in case my dad comes into the room when I’m calling someone he wouldn’t like it and might even get me into problems I decided not to care too much about that anymore and just live my life
This is amazing because it helps with creating music. Just saying how you feel without losing a lot of the color that we lose as artists when it comes to thinking or feeling something & then have to say it. Thank you for this.
How do you attain that mental shift of moving from focusing on surviving the conversation and focusing too much on yourself in a self conscious way, to moving into a state of flow where you can just speak naturally?
I actually am curious if you have any book recommendations for a tween who struggles with speech. My sons been in speech for some time now, and I just feel he may need more vocabulary to help him understand the world of speech.
1. Do not focus on yourself, or the massage. But think that you are just a messenger of the ideas. 2. Be present in the moment. Do not think other than the situation at hand. 3. Expand your vocabulary.
Your content is unique take on becoming more but i feel could benefit from editing multiple times i wanted click because it wasn't stimulating enough and i don't how many stopped watching becuase of it
The sustain/reverb or your voice via microphone makes feel you're too far from me. I recommend taking it off so the vocal is close as if a face to face Convo. Sorry no offence but it feels off
I love how carefully you choose your words rather than cutting up your video to make yourself appear more articulate than you are (like most youtubers)
I'm a writer so I write what I want to say and simply read it out.
Some youtuber would like to have a shorter video, wasting less of our time and make the point. Cutting out the silent part would help. But i do know what you mean
In the past, I have produced videos of a similar nature. Indeed, it is a challenging endeavor, often resembling an internal struggle.
@@UsamahMohdSabriit would be a faux pas to cut the video-which is manipulating way of speech in a video which is about becoming better at speaking you cannot cut anything out in real life so it would be hypocritical to do so
@@nocny5546 he's generalising all the individuals who cutting out the pausing parts. I'm not talking specifically about the one who teaches how to be a fluent speaker. But still, it's still acceptable for someone to cut out the part, so the video would be shorter and waste lesser amount the time of viewers watching
You are the vessel for bringing articulation to effective communication. God Bless you.
This is exactly what I struggle with. I used to be happy when I was in a flow state. People could tell I was happy too because my sarcastic humor and facial expressions would lift the energy levels in the room. I have since become an overthinker and question everything in my head before I say it. My sense of humor is gone and I can’t ever seem to ride the wave of thoughts in my head without over editing all of it. Engineering school and a very sensitive ex girlfriend both major contributing factors.
Bullet Summary:
- Achieving the flow state helps to communicate thoughts and ideas seamlessly
- Five practices to achieve the flow state:
1. Focus on the three M's of communication: me, message, and messenger
2. Focus on the intention and purpose of communication
3. Practice active listening and empathy
4. Embrace vulnerability and authenticity
5. Practice consistently and seek feedback
I think you were watching another video
@@ashrafMoFathywell, certainly not the same video you were watching ;)
You don't want to focus on all of the M's. Only one my friend lol
Thanks!
What a beautiful example of how short all our attention spans' are.
Get rid of short form media.
Now.
It will do you good.
I just found your channel today, and as someone with social anxiety, learning how to get out of my head when I talk to people and express my thoughts articulately, is something I want to master. I'm extremely happy that you're making this content because it is very valuable to me 🙂
5 steps to effectively express your thoughts and ideas clearly:
1. Focus on the 3 M's of communication; Me, Messenger and Message.
2. Focus on being present and listening in the moment.
3. Expanding your vocabulary
4. Achieving optimal articulation of ideas requires forethought.
5. Reading out loud improves vocal articulation.
I needed this so much. I never talk in my work team meetings because I was overfocused on myself and when I did talk in the past, I kept stumbling on my words due to the anxiety... I will definitely do these steps, I'm tired of being scared and incoherent
You are greatly appreciated for creating this channel ❤
Thank you so much for your videos ,they are very enlightening. I feel like you give me a map of' how to' each time I watch them.
I have been repeating your words right after they come out of your mouth and I’ve also been repeating the word/speeches of public speakers. I’ve done this for only a few days and I have to say, I already feel more confident in speaking with my peers. I also make a metal repetition on the words of someone in conversation and I can say, I now better understand people, allowing myself to be an active and effective communicator.
I read about this in Psycho- cybernetics. Very interesting . Gonna give it a go
Very interesting method ... How are you doing right now?
that’s actually a language learning method called shadowing that I used to do when I was learning English very effective.
@@rayparwot I no longer do this. It was a phase in my life where I was building confidence to speak out of my comfort zone. I remember hearing and repeating over the words of Bob Kennedy and other prolific orators. It is an exercise I would highly recommend to anyone building either their public speaking skills and or strengthening attentive listening. The praises I’ve received from people include that they’ve perceive a beautiful attentiveness, and the masses recognize a powerful/ relatable message. It helps that I listen with an open heart and give with open arms.
I want to thank you for posting this video on the internet. All of us are learning and need a reminder. ❤
I appreciate the way you speak to the limitations of language. As someone who often dabbles in the ineffable dimensions of spirituality, your descriptions resonate strongly. ❤
The way your videos are helping me and bringing me genuine ease. Thank you.
I have been trying to learn how to communicate my ideas and thoughts. I've been told that I stammer and stutter in regular conversation, but speaking from the heart, the passions, the beliefs, is the key to speaking clearly and engaging.
I’m so grateful this video randomly popped up. This is such helpful information. I always feel like I’m in my head and overthinking things.
As someone who has anxiety, you've described perfectly the "surviving the conversation" mode and not having access to your mind. Whenever someone is talking to me, my mind is always working toward getting a reply out as soon as possible rather than taking the time to process what the person just said and give an appropriate answer.
Dude you spoke to me in such a personal level. I feel like I know wtf I’m thinking is so clear so concise so good and intellectual….. then I talk and sound like a dumb dumb or … I can’t articulate what I’m thinking. I’m so glad I’m not the only one and so glad you have tips for this.
really the key is to read books. I used to be a really bad speaker but, this summer I started reading more and my vocabulary expanded and my can articulate my thoughts so much easier and clearer so yeah just do that
I totally agree with you on step 5 - so true. Reading out loud is a strenuous activity, but can also be empowering.
One of the most articulate RUclipsr I've come across.
Hello everybody, good morning! Great video 👍, I liked it much! Friend, congratulations for your work you have done on RUclips.
Dude you're the real deal. This is secretly alot of people problems
That’s exactly how I feel right now as I sit in my room crying watching this because somebody finally understands me
Key take ways
1. The Flow state allows one to go past that mental barrier that impedes clarity allowing you to clearly and masterfully express your thoughts.
2. How to achieve this
Keep in mind the 3 Ms meaning Me, Message, Messenger with the Messenger being the most eloquent of the three which is a result of the flow state.
3. Being more present meaning that instead of putting
all your focus on how you come off as you focus on listening to what the other person is saying which allows for more thought-out responses
4. Lastly take more time to think about a question this allows you to better think about the topic and formulate a more appropriate response.
Thank you so much! Your content has shifted my mind about the way I speak and write. Thank you for articulating what you have learned and sharing it with the world!
It's neat to watch your older videos and see your progression.
"It's almost as if your mind is a prison for your intellect." - That's a useful quote to ponder. The rest of the video was equally useful with a brilliant use of metaphors and colours sprinkled throughout your presentation.
You have super natural introspection💪🏻💪🏻
This is so invaluable! I'm going to save this for later and start practising every single tip you shared. Thank you!
I'm so glad I've finally found your channel!!! This topic is finally getting covered
I'm certain that a great deal of meticulous effort went into creating this remarkable content. It's the most valuable piece I've encountered on RUclips. Thank you for sharing this invaluable resource. ❤
I just discovered you and have been thoroughly enjoying your videos. There are so many curious insights related to speaking and thinking. I’ve noticed that my speech has gotten a bit worse during the past few years, have been more “in my head,” and I have ADHD so the problem that you presented here is very relatable! I tend to be more articulate when writing in comparison to speaking. The “me” stage is something I’ll have to work on with myself. This reminded me of the TED talk that mentions “The Second Circle.” I highly recommend it! Nevertheless, you are a wonderful speaker for someone in this age group! Let’s get you to at least 100K subscribers this year! You’re already over halfway there 🥳💪🏼
What is in your mind is understanding
And you cannot really put understanding into words unless you have proper vocabulary perhaps thinking how to best put it into words or paraphrasing from people whose sentence patterns of speech you enjoy
That's why we have the workers in that field and coaches who are able to convey and teach what they understand onto the players
This like anything can be trained and learned
Take it from jazz musicians, what they call improv is not really improv or spontaneous as it seems
Jazz musicians can hear what they want to play and have enough vocabulary to play it because they have already practiced that thousands of times. They have a wide range of vocabulary for what they want to express
this was extremely enlightening, much thanks!!!😃
22:00 makes sense to read outloud to improve this skill, because we used to practise debating like tht- gonna do this exercise definitely!! Ty
Great video made with forethought and imperfection to actually show the rawness in the way you speak
I had a stroke at birth and am just making breakthroughs with this issue actually. Unconsciously convincing yourself that you will fail the second you speak is the problem. You will succeed and people will listen. Make the effort to get out of your head and you will achieve greatness. Confidence can take you many places, and without it can leave you focusing on the small things. LOVE YOURSELF
I really enjoyed this video, it was very helpful
I came across your video when you had like 5K followers - it's blowing up in the last few weeks! Very happy for you🎉
This is a wealth of knowledge. I will take these tips and put them to practice.
So glad I found this channel. And in particular this vid ❤
Great video once again. Thank you!
One question: Doesn’t this method or way of speaking only work for situations where you’re expressing yourself in a conversation where people have time to listen to you. What if you want to speak in a situation (perhaps at a work/sales presentation where people don’t have all the time of day to listen to you craft a perfectly accurate sentence that reflects exactly what you’re thinking with pauses etc?
Yes, Live in the present moment while speaking that's ✨
16:00 What I have to emphasize is that using big words is to be avoided. The point is to be precise, not pretentious.
Some popular words may have been tainted with meanings that don't do justice to the thought you're trying to express and you end up being limited.
Phenomenal video. Thank you so much for this
A message so masterfully crafted. I loved it.
This is powerful thank you!🔥🔥🔥
You are helping me a lot many thanks
I feel like this video was made for me! lol thanks Joseph, I will put these tools to use
I am autistic. I think in non-linear diagrams containing abstract objects. This doesn't mean my thoughts are better. It just means it is much harder to put them into words.
The video I never knew I needed
Great videos! Please keep them coming. I have enjoyed listening to you recently and have even started to employ your suggestions in my life.
Great stuff buddy
This content is incredible and exactly what I’ve been looking for 👍🏻 Thank you!!
Being present in the moment is actually so important being actually there is automatically gonna make you know what you’re gonna say next. As someone who usually have a blank mind while talking to others I found out that the reason for that is because i’m not really present like I’m usually just half there and obviously i don’t face that when I’m texting it’s just when I’m calling my friends and the reason I’m half there is because I usually feel anxious and always on alert in case my dad comes into the room when I’m calling someone he wouldn’t like it and might even get me into problems I decided not to care too much about that anymore and just live my life
Hope your channel grows soon...very valuable info
This is amazing because it helps with creating music. Just saying how you feel without losing a lot of the color that we lose as artists when it comes to thinking or feeling something & then have to say it. Thank you for this.
These are such quality videos. I'm so surprised there aren't more views and praises!
Reading books out loud does help. Especially poems.
Thank you; very informative ! 😊
Amazing you said all this without editing
Im certain you're going to blow upppp. Great videos keep it up
This is a great video
Excellent vid
How do you attain that mental shift of moving from focusing on surviving the conversation and focusing too much on yourself in a self conscious way, to moving into a state of flow where you can just speak naturally?
Man, you are the antidote for the imposter syndrome. Great work!
Thanks again, Joseph
Great information
The way you articulated the messenger has followed me for the past couple of days. I had to come back and say thanks, I need this. Bravo
“Painting is a poetry that is seen rather than felt, and poetry is a painting that is felt rather than seen.”
Leonardo da Vinci
Thanks
helpful video
Hey bro your content is fire. New subscriber for sure. I relate with you 🔥
really enjoyed this thank you
Excellent
I actually am curious if you have any book recommendations for a tween who struggles with speech. My sons been in speech for some time now, and I just feel he may need more vocabulary to help him understand the world of speech.
Yes yeeeeeeees I'm getting so much good info wooooo
Amazing
WTF WHY IS THIS HITTING SO HARD
That reverb was intense lol
In my youth- I had problems with my throat chakra - also I was punished for speaking up- Oops I’ve said it
The reverb makes it sound like we're at a Ted talk
Be not anxious.
1 MMM
5:00 Me: It's not about me
Message: Focus on the social impact of what and how I communicate
Can you also speak like you think if you were born in another country and have to speak a second language and you think in two or more languages?
Does anyone have the link to the Steve Jobs interview mentioned?
Could u pls advise non native apeajers on how they can develop their skills, i think we need sth extra.
Just read a lot out loud and it’ll come naturally
It’s need take time for pratice, doesn’t it?
❤
1. Do not focus on yourself, or the massage. But think that you are just a messenger of the ideas.
2. Be present in the moment. Do not think other than the situation at hand.
3. Expand your vocabulary.
4. Read books out loud
@@DorkDork69 thanks
@@chaugulepankaj How's your journey to being articulate going on?
@@DorkDork69 It's been great. The first thing I did was to slow down my speech. It helps in thinking clearly.
How about you?
You are handsome and brilliant!
I can't help falling love with you!
I record my speech and listen to it. Omg, like wtf was I talking about.
you have to talk faster and without all these thinking gapes, but great word choice and keep improving :)
Better ideas without the b roll and all the unnecessary edits
I'd better off not speaking how I think. Or at least what I think
Your content is unique take on becoming more but i feel could benefit from editing multiple times i wanted click because it wasn't stimulating enough and i don't how many stopped watching becuase of it
🤔 Yes, but how do I achieve this without smoking weed? Cause I lose other stu....um other....um....why did I go to this video 😋
Sounds the same when your high
I honestly think im just dumb to think what im gonna say.
The sustain/reverb or your voice via microphone makes feel you're too far from me. I recommend taking it off so the vocal is close as if a face to face Convo. Sorry no offence but it feels off