NTA. OP’S Sister is trying to set you up even though you are in a relationship of 5 years, Probs doesn’t want your bf at the wedding in case he proposes. If she presses charges she physically harmed you first a screamed abuse at you.
Nta. Also I have run across the whole story somewhere else in the past. Op ends up going as a guess with her boyfriend, sister's husband's brother hits on her at the wedding and she gets upset a rejects him loudly and somewhat forcefully. Later it turns out it wasn't sisters husband's idea it was all sisters and she had been lying to new husband's brother saying op wasn't serious about her relationship with her bf and I think also telling him that op likes him which is why he was always acting the way he was (all of the former is what I am mostly sure about from my memories) and I think I remember he later apologizes once he learns the truth. the reason the sister did it was because she wanted them to marry brothers (at least that is what I remember but I could be wrong).
That sounds a lot like what I remember too. I thought there was something going on with the sister had ulterior motives and that her future husband had nothing to do with it. Talk about a bridezilla moment.
The first part of this is written before the wedding and the second part will be after the wedding. First off I want to say I didn't know this post had blown up like it did until a few days ago. When I first posted it it only had about 30 comments and now Ive seen thousands and received lots of messages. I've also received some messages and read some comments about how I'm not responding to people or answering questions. I don't think I am required to answer anyone. I've heard tons of crazy theories and lots of people saying they hope my sister attacks me again or I should get her arrested or scream rape at her wedding. While these are all interesting this is unfortunately my real life and not a movie. I will try and clear up any questions in this post. Some people asked if race is an issue and it's not. My family is French and Puerto Rican. My boyfriend is Italian and my sisters fiancé is just white idk what his ethnicity is. There was also some confusion about my siblings. I am one of 5 kids. My twin is a girl, I guess that got misunderstood when I said 2 girls 2 guys I meant that besides my sister getting married there was 4 of us walking down the aisle. I kept saying twin instead of sister so she wouldn't get confused with the one getting married. My sister is second oldest. Also don't think money is an issue either. My family's not rich just middle class. The reason her wedding is getting paid for and not mine is because she didn't go to college and I did. They paid for majority of my tuition, and I don't want a big fancy wedding either. Some people also asked why they don't revoke their money from her for this behavior but the wedding has already been paid for for a while so there's no getting their money back. My sister did have a black eye still at her bachelorette party and changed the venue to a darker place and she wore lots of makeup. My twin, brothers, and me &bf went to the club that night instead and had a fabulous time and got trashed. I heard from her friend that she was telling everyone she got hit with a car door and not my fist. My sister has always been a bit unhinged. When she was in high school her and my twin used to fight all the time. Every breakup my sister has ever had she has broke down and shut down completely and felt her life is over. I've seen this since she was 12. I used to get in lots of arguments with my parents over them excusing her behavior which ultimately made me decide to go to college across the country. During college I rarely talked to her. When I came back home she had matured and our relationship has been good for a while. She still occasionally has huge meltdowns over small things like this wedding. I sent my future BIL a text asking why he and his brother are so obsessed with me to which he didn't respond to me and my dad went down to his place and he said my sister was the one who kept telling him that I was interested and would leave my boyfriend. So I don't even know which one of them came up with this plan. My dad got mad and told him to leave me and my boyfriend the fuck alone. So I have told my sister to go to therapy for years and she's refused. I tried to have my mom see if she can get her to go to family therapy with me and she also refused but said she would talk with me and my mom. When her and her fiancé first started dating she brought him to a work New years party and he brought his brother and I also attended. This was her first boyfriend that had shown any interest in getting married one day. I guess the brother had said he found me very attractive and my sister instantly jumped the gun on that. She told him that I was not in a serious relationship(I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years) and he had a strong chance with me and he's "just my type" (wrong). So he's been under the impression that my boyfriend is just a place holder which is extremely not the case. He's just as delusional as my sister. This made no sense to me why she did this because my twin is single. We are fraternal so we don't look the same and we're different heights with very different personalities but she's still a very pretty girl, and SINGLE. My sister has expressed some jealousy of my relationship over the years so that could be a factor in her trying to break us up. She's always made comments about how she'll never have what I have with my boyfriend. About a month ago (right before her ultimatum) she found out she's pregnant (I didn't know) she thinks if she doesn't make this brother thing happen then her fiancé will leave her and being a single mom is more frightening for her than her family hating her. It's still early enough that she does have other options but she's committed to this for some reason. This was an intense conversation and also talked about other things so this was all I could get out of her before my patience ran out. I did kinda snap on her and said some things along the lines of "sorry you're so pathetic that you date any guy who looks at you and you still can't find a good relationship and I can...you will be divorced before labor..." Yes it was a little mean but I was very heated in the moment and wanted to say something worse. My boyfriend is very adamant about us going to the wedding despite all the bullshit my sister is putting him through. My boyfriend doesn't have close relationships with his siblings and has always loved being a part of this family. He wants me to maintain a relationship with mine so I don't regret it later. He's still hurt tho that my sister has been going through these great lengths to get him out of the picture. I've tried to reassure him the best I can that everyone still loves him and I always will. We're going for the ceremony as guests and then leaving as soon as they say I do. My two brothers and twin sister are walking together as a trio. We took wedding pictures together at a park so our parents could have something of all of us (and we looked good). They haven't decided yet if they're staying for the whole wedding but they're gonna feel it out. My older brother is staying the whole time so he can watch the brother and "have some words with him". A lot of people said to have my boyfriend propose at her wedding but I don't care enough to deliberately try and ruin her wedding. That will not make the situation better in the slightest and I honestly don't ever want a public proposal and I think that's super tacky. Me and my boyfriend have just been enjoying us and not worrying about any of this bs. I'm not worried about my sister attacking me again and if she does I can easily kick her ass. She can't fight for shit which is why I don't know why she fucked around in the first place. Also some people said isn't it incest if sisters date brothers but it is not at all, and I have cousins who are married to sisters. Not excusing the behavior just saying that's not incest at all.
After wedding So, the wedding. I showed up in my bridesmaid dress because I wasn't gonna go and buy another one and it's a very nice dress. Me and my boyfriend tried to go in as late as we could to limit the amount of family asking me why I'm not in the wedding. A few aunts and uncles asked and I just said my sister lost her mind and to ask her. I tried to stay with some cousins who I told what happened and know how my sister is an occasional nut. The ones who knew that my boyfriends invite was revoked were pissed considering some of their plus ones were just dates. We sat in the front row where my sister, her husband, and the brother could see me with my very serious, handsome, amazing, loving boyfriend. He held my hand the whole time and made sure I was ok. This wedding just confirmed me not wanting a big wedding. We can have a party at most. It was only once that the brother was staring at me and I quickly shut that down by kissing my boyfriend. As soon as they all walked back down the aisle I said my goodbyes to the people that deserved it and we left. We went to a bar and danced and had a good time. I'm glad I went to the wedding so I can say I told you so when this marriage ends in 6 months. I'm glad that delusional sob saw me kissing the man I love because that will never be him. My twin had quite a few drinks at the wedding and was being very mouthy with my sister. I didn't ask her to say something but she would've done that with or without booze. My younger brother told almost every family member that my sister went apeshit on me and that's why I wasn't at the reception. My older brother did talk to the BIL but idk what he said. I didn't ask many other questions and this is just what they told me. I feel really bad for my sister honestly. She baby trapped herself with a subpar bottom feeder. That man has zero qualities that would make me jump through all these hoops. He has the personality of an adidas sandal. I wish my sister had more self respect and raised her standards. I don't know much about their relationship and if he's abusive. I would like to think that she at least has that much respect for herself to not put up with that. Maybe they're in love, maybe he's using her. Who knows. This marriage may not last but she's now attached to him for at least the next 18 years. While I sort of get her reasoning for not wanting to be a single mom, my brother is a single dad and doing just fine. I don't plan on talking to her for quite a while. I don't know how things turned out for them for not getting me with the brother. After prying they still wouldn't give me clear answers so I don't know how serious the husband actually is about his loser brother getting laid. Those brothers were either neglected or breast fed till they were teens. I was already going on vacation this summer with my boyfriend but I might extend it now who knows may even get married in France for shits and giggles. Anyway thanks for all the support sorry that this ending wasn't as dramatic as you all wanted it to be. I'm not expecting an apology I honestly don't care anymore and just want to move on with my life and be happy and not deal with anymore psycho behavior. I'm just glad that I haven't received any messages from BIL or my mom and that I have a great man. If there's any questions I missed feel free to let me know. A lot of your comments made me and my bf laugh.
What case does she think she has? If anything, she would be arrested. If the parents r paying for the wedding, the dad should tell her to drop it trying to set op up, and if they don't they r not paying for the wedding
I watched the second part .op's husband isn't invited and her twin sister saying that op is trying to ruin the wedding because she doesn't want to walk down the aisle with her weird brother in law. then when op brought it up to their parents as well as concern of being sexually assaulted by bil the sister physically assaulted op and then said that she was going to press charges on op .
I watched the whole video and I think her sisters fiance is trying to set up his brother with OP and the sister thinks it would be cute is her and her sisters partners where brothers overall pretty weird for both the sister and her fiance
According to another thread, it wasn't the fiance, it was the sister trying to set them . She lied. She kept telling the BIL that the OP likes him and is not really serious about her boyfriend. So was so forceful because of the sister gassing him up. She said she did it because she wanted the 2 of them to be married to 2 brothers. Isn't that a stupid reason? If she wanted that, then why didn't she match up the OP 's twin with e guy? Smh
The attack will be put out as self defense and she will be the one getting in trouble because she attacked you,also you could always just go to the wedding as a guest and bring your boyfriend with you because that way you aren’t a bridesmaid and you won’t have to walk with the creepy brother in law
Don't go and cut contact right there because her behavior is not ok there is no reason for you to be in contact after she attacked you and explain to explained family that you will not be attending because of covid before the wedding and tell your siblings to go to keep up appearance that you have covid so it doesn't look suspicious and to keep the peace with your mom
I'll post the TLDR in your comment, but I'll post a comment of my own with the rest of the update TLDR: I went to the wedding with my boyfriend as guests. My sisters husband says she's the one who's been feeding him these lies that I'm interested in his brother. My sister found out she's pregnant before her meltdown, which is the reason for her wanting to pair me with her creep BIL because she's scared of husband leaving her. She's more afraid of being a single mom than her family hating her. I am not gonna talk to her for quite a while and just enjoy my life with my boyfriend.
go as a guest, glad the father was on her side though, sis is cray cray and that SBTB sounds like a weirdo, the fiancee probably has fantasies about wife swapping with his brother and sister in law
Thats self defense let her do it she would be screwing herself i would just not have gone anymore but im cold hearted i would have probably never spoken to her again
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NTA. OP’S Sister is trying to set you up even though you are in a relationship of 5 years, Probs doesn’t want your bf at the wedding in case he proposes. If she presses charges she physically harmed you first a screamed abuse at you.
"i attacked you and you defended yourself = Im pressing charges!!!!" 😂😂
Nta. Also I have run across the whole story somewhere else in the past. Op ends up going as a guess with her boyfriend, sister's husband's brother hits on her at the wedding and she gets upset a rejects him loudly and somewhat forcefully. Later it turns out it wasn't sisters husband's idea it was all sisters and she had been lying to new husband's brother saying op wasn't serious about her relationship with her bf and I think also telling him that op likes him which is why he was always acting the way he was (all of the former is what I am mostly sure about from my memories) and I think I remember he later apologizes once he learns the truth. the reason the sister did it was because she wanted them to marry brothers (at least that is what I remember but I could be wrong).
That's the version I remember as well
That sounds a lot like what I remember too. I thought there was something going on with the sister had ulterior motives and that her future husband had nothing to do with it. Talk about a bridezilla moment.
The first part of this is written before the wedding and the second part will be after the wedding. First off I want to say I didn't know this post had blown up like it did until a few days ago. When I first posted it it only had about 30 comments and now Ive seen thousands and received lots of messages. I've also received some messages and read some comments about how I'm not responding to people or answering questions. I don't think I am required to answer anyone. I've heard tons of crazy theories and lots of people saying they hope my sister attacks me again or I should get her arrested or scream rape at her wedding. While these are all interesting this is unfortunately my real life and not a movie. I will try and clear up any questions in this post.
Some people asked if race is an issue and it's not. My family is French and Puerto Rican. My boyfriend is Italian and my sisters fiancé is just white idk what his ethnicity is. There was also some confusion about my siblings. I am one of 5 kids. My twin is a girl, I guess that got misunderstood when I said 2 girls 2 guys I meant that besides my sister getting married there was 4 of us walking down the aisle. I kept saying twin instead of sister so she wouldn't get confused with the one getting married. My sister is second oldest. Also don't think money is an issue either. My family's not rich just middle class. The reason her wedding is getting paid for and not mine is because she didn't go to college and I did. They paid for majority of my tuition, and I don't want a big fancy wedding either. Some people also asked why they don't revoke their money from her for this behavior but the wedding has already been paid for for a while so there's no getting their money back.
My sister did have a black eye still at her bachelorette party and changed the venue to a darker place and she wore lots of makeup. My twin, brothers, and me &bf went to the club that night instead and had a fabulous time and got trashed. I heard from her friend that she was telling everyone she got hit with a car door and not my fist.
My sister has always been a bit unhinged. When she was in high school her and my twin used to fight all the time. Every breakup my sister has ever had she has broke down and shut down completely and felt her life is over. I've seen this since she was 12. I used to get in lots of arguments with my parents over them excusing her behavior which ultimately made me decide to go to college across the country. During college I rarely talked to her. When I came back home she had matured and our relationship has been good for a while. She still occasionally has huge meltdowns over small things like this wedding.
I sent my future BIL a text asking why he and his brother are so obsessed with me to which he didn't respond to me and my dad went down to his place and he said my sister was the one who kept telling him that I was interested and would leave my boyfriend. So I don't even know which one of them came up with this plan. My dad got mad and told him to leave me and my boyfriend the fuck alone.
So I have told my sister to go to therapy for years and she's refused. I tried to have my mom see if she can get her to go to family therapy with me and she also refused but said she would talk with me and my mom. When her and her fiancé first started dating she brought him to a work New years party and he brought his brother and I also attended. This was her first boyfriend that had shown any interest in getting married one day. I guess the brother had said he found me very attractive and my sister instantly jumped the gun on that. She told him that I was not in a serious relationship(I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years) and he had a strong chance with me and he's "just my type" (wrong). So he's been under the impression that my boyfriend is just a place holder which is extremely not the case. He's just as delusional as my sister. This made no sense to me why she did this because my twin is single. We are fraternal so we don't look the same and we're different heights with very different personalities but she's still a very pretty girl, and SINGLE. My sister has expressed some jealousy of my relationship over the years so that could be a factor in her trying to break us up. She's always made comments about how she'll never have what I have with my boyfriend. About a month ago (right before her ultimatum) she found out she's pregnant (I didn't know) she thinks if she doesn't make this brother thing happen then her fiancé will leave her and being a single mom is more frightening for her than her family hating her. It's still early enough that she does have other options but she's committed to this for some reason. This was an intense conversation and also talked about other things so this was all I could get out of her before my patience ran out. I did kinda snap on her and said some things along the lines of "sorry you're so pathetic that you date any guy who looks at you and you still can't find a good relationship and I can...you will be divorced before labor..." Yes it was a little mean but I was very heated in the moment and wanted to say something worse.
My boyfriend is very adamant about us going to the wedding despite all the bullshit my sister is putting him through. My boyfriend doesn't have close relationships with his siblings and has always loved being a part of this family. He wants me to maintain a relationship with mine so I don't regret it later.
He's still hurt tho that my sister has been going through these great lengths to get him out of the picture. I've tried to reassure him the best I can that everyone still loves him and I always will. We're going for the ceremony as guests and then leaving as soon as they say I do. My two brothers and twin sister are walking together as a trio. We took wedding pictures together at a park so our parents could have something of all of us (and we looked good). They haven't decided yet if they're staying for the whole wedding but they're gonna feel it out. My older brother is staying the whole time so he can watch the brother and "have some words with him". A lot of people said to have my boyfriend propose at her wedding but I don't care enough to deliberately try and ruin her wedding. That will not make the situation better in the slightest and I honestly don't ever want a public proposal and I think that's super tacky. Me and my boyfriend have just been enjoying us and not worrying about any of this bs.
I'm not worried about my sister attacking me again and if she does I can easily kick her ass. She can't fight for shit which is why I don't know why she fucked around in the first place. Also some people said isn't it incest if sisters date brothers but it is not at all, and I have cousins who are married to sisters. Not excusing the behavior just saying that's not incest at all.
After wedding
So, the wedding. I showed up in my bridesmaid dress because I wasn't gonna go and buy another one and it's a very nice dress. Me and my boyfriend tried to go in as late as we could to limit the amount of family asking me why I'm not in the wedding. A few aunts and uncles asked and I just said my sister lost her mind and to ask her. I tried to stay with some cousins who I told what happened and know how my sister is an occasional nut. The ones who knew that my boyfriends invite was revoked were pissed considering some of their plus ones were just dates. We sat in the front row where my sister, her husband, and the brother could see me with my very serious, handsome, amazing, loving boyfriend. He held my hand the whole time and made sure I was ok. This wedding just confirmed me not wanting a big wedding. We can have a party at most. It was only once that the brother was staring at me and I quickly shut that down by kissing my boyfriend. As soon as they all walked back down the aisle I said my goodbyes to the people that deserved it and we left. We went to a bar and danced and had a good time. I'm glad I went to the wedding so I can say I told you so when this marriage ends in 6 months. I'm glad that delusional sob saw me kissing the man I love because that will never be him.
My twin had quite a few drinks at the wedding and was being very mouthy with my sister. I didn't ask her to say something but she would've done that with or without booze. My younger brother told almost every family member that my sister went apeshit on me and that's why I wasn't at the reception. My older brother did talk to the BIL but idk what he said. I didn't ask many other questions and this is just what they told me. I feel really bad for my sister honestly. She baby trapped herself with a subpar bottom feeder. That man has zero qualities that would make me jump through all these hoops. He has the personality of an adidas sandal. I wish my sister had more self respect and raised her standards. I don't know much about their relationship and if he's abusive. I would like to think that she at least has that much respect for herself to not put up with that. Maybe they're in love, maybe he's using her. Who knows. This marriage may not last but she's now attached to him for at least the next 18 years. While I sort of get her reasoning for not wanting to be a single mom, my brother is a single dad and doing just fine. I don't plan on talking to her for quite a while. I don't know how things turned out for them for not getting me with the brother. After prying they still wouldn't give me clear answers so I don't know how serious the husband actually is about his loser brother getting laid. Those brothers were either neglected or breast fed till they were teens.
I was already going on vacation this summer with my boyfriend but I might extend it now who knows may even get married in France for shits and giggles. Anyway thanks for all the support sorry that this ending wasn't as dramatic as you all wanted it to be. I'm not expecting an apology I honestly don't care anymore and just want to move on with my life and be happy and not deal with anymore psycho behavior. I'm just glad that I haven't received any messages from BIL or my mom and that I have a great man. If there's any questions I missed feel free to let me know. A lot of your comments made me and my bf laugh.
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Do not go at all if she's been rude to you you better teach her a lesson and be like no I'm blocking your account and stuff
She can try to press assault charges but the fact stands that she attacked you
She can try but would end up getting arrested
What case does she think she has? If anything, she would be arrested. If the parents r paying for the wedding, the dad should tell her to drop it trying to set op up, and if they don't they r not paying for the wedding
Miss this wedding. She’ll have another soon enough.
I watched the second part .op's husband isn't invited and her twin sister saying that op is trying to ruin the wedding because she doesn't want to walk down the aisle with her weird brother in law. then when op brought it up to their parents as well as concern of being sexually assaulted by bil the sister physically assaulted op and then said that she was going to press charges on op .
The bride isn't her twin. The twin and the younger brother were the ones who offered not to go to the wedding if the OP didn't.
I watched the whole video and
I think her sisters fiance is trying to set up his brother with OP and the sister thinks it would be cute is her and her sisters partners where brothers overall pretty weird for both the sister and her fiance
According to another thread, it wasn't the fiance, it was the sister trying to set them . She lied. She kept telling the BIL that the OP likes him and is not really serious about her boyfriend. So was so forceful because of the sister gassing him up. She said she did it because she wanted the 2 of them to be married to 2 brothers. Isn't that a stupid reason? If she wanted that, then why didn't she match up the OP 's twin with e guy? Smh
She attacked you first you were just defending yourself.
Go to the wedding with your boyfriend
The attack will be put out as self defense and she will be the one getting in trouble because she attacked you,also you could always just go to the wedding as a guest and bring your boyfriend with you because that way you aren’t a bridesmaid and you won’t have to walk with the creepy brother in law
Don't go and cut contact right there because her behavior is not ok there is no reason for you to be in contact after she attacked you and explain to explained family that you will not be attending because of covid before the wedding and tell your siblings to go to keep up appearance that you have covid so it doesn't look suspicious and to keep the peace with your mom
I’d really thinks it’s weird and a red flag 🚩 their so I say don’t go
I wouldn't go. There is no telling what can happen.
I didn't finish all the video but I can tell you she can't press charges because sing attacked first so what you did was self-defense
Just don’t go
don’t go at all. i literally would have been decided that
why are you even going?
Exactly… I wouldn’t!
Thays what everyoje was telling her but shes all like "but its my sister" like so what your sister is a loser let her go.
Any updates?
I'll post the TLDR in your comment, but I'll post a comment of my own with the rest of the update
TLDR: I went to the wedding with my boyfriend as guests. My sisters husband says she's the one who's been feeding him these lies that I'm interested in his brother. My sister found out she's pregnant before her meltdown, which is the reason for her wanting to pair me with her creep BIL because she's scared of husband leaving her. She's more afraid of being a single mom than her family hating her. I am not gonna talk to her for quite a while and just enjoy my life with my boyfriend.
I would still be a bridesmaid but wouldn't like it at all. And i would also limit contact.
Trying to scare you
go as a guest, glad the father was on her side though, sis is cray cray and that SBTB sounds like a weirdo, the fiancee probably has fantasies about wife swapping with his brother and sister in law
Thats self defense let her do it she would be screwing herself i would just not have gone anymore but im cold hearted i would have probably never spoken to her again