I’m actually super concerned about the brother. He had a seemingly firm “no kids” stance before, and then suddenly changed his mind? I don’t want to assume, but I’m worried some coercion at best and downright abuse at worse occurred.
Yes they have a dig a hole but the nephew did nothing I do not support bad behavior but if somebody has a kid that’s been bad to you dad and they’re in your family I say take it your nephew did nothing wrong
That doesn't mean the baby needs to suffer. I hate saying this, but cps should really be called. I know foster care can be just as bad if not worse than a bio parent who doesn't want the kid, but there isn't really much option here. Full legal custody would be best, but if not, the legal system really needs to get involved. They can call her an a hole for it all they want
It's really funny when some people feels guilty harass and gaslight you so you would let go of their mistake and bad deed and in the end they're free and good ones even if they didn't apologize or make up and try making things right
What a completely insane family!!! Who in any degree of sensibility would even ask a single mother of a newborn take another baby on when they are soooo capable of life!??? Put up a laser beam force field around you and your baby and NEVER lower it to your family. Now they want to treat your daughter as if she isn’t even alive!!??
I feel like the OP should adopt her nephew and then move far away from her family to raise both kids in a nontoxic environment and start looking for a partner. The SIL is toxic and literally abandoned her husband and son since her son is sick. I have a friend who’s son has a heart defect and she isn’t giving up on him
I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because he’s sick. It’s more likely that she wanted a girl. She was acting strange when after they learned she was having a boy.
@@gluttonouswolf980yeah, I heard one person say that she was jealous of op, especially since op had a girl and that’s why she did all of those awful things
All accept the “start looking for a partner”… yeah some men are fine with raising other dudes’ babies, but most aren’t and some who are have ill intentions. She should focus on herself and the children and when they are grown consider dating again.
@@jessicathompson236 Where are these stories coming from? I'd love to check them out for myself and if they're written as I assume I'd prefer that over a video anyway.
They r grown adults, her brother can take care of his own child, op wants a reason to stay she still has not moved on, she’ll end up letting her family back in & they’ll treat the same as they have always treated her
Exactly! She can't take on 2 kids alone, especially one with special needs, unless her job pays well and she can get a nanny, she continues to let her family abuse her. You let one thing slide and more come pouring in, her brother is a grown ass man, he never stood up for her, he made his bed, he should stand up and take care of his baby and all those who were supporting SIL. The only one deserving of OP is the 7 year old cousin. I also believe SIL coerced OP's brother to compete with her, it was all out of spite, that woman will get whats coming to her
He married her and got her pregnant, that’s not your problem. Let him take of the baby, They just want another reason to use your again. Block him and go no contact with him.
I was part guessing SIL wanted a baby girl but she left after birth could be a little be overreacted ! So my second guess is she was in a one side competitive spotlight war trying to steal family from OP and when she realise that this time her plan include being a mother when she alway claim she want to be free child is a too much prize to paid and she leave This little boy will need lot of help in his future ! Suggest OP take full custody and go again at a no contact with her "family"
At the Same time OP is a Single Mom with a newborn as Well, she can't just mother every child in the Family and she needs to set that boundary. At this Point CPS would make more sense for the child and would probably send a clearer message to the rest of the Family, that their actions have consequences and things won't just turn out alright, not to mention the fit SIL would have when she finds out that OP, the one she was so jealous of the whole time ended Up taking her baby, it would be hypocritical but SIL isn't above that, OP should do what's best for the nephew and herself and that might not mean taking custody
I am so sorry for what you’ve had to go through. I saw myself in your story. I won’t go into great detail, but I came from a family of seven. I’m 64 years old, and for almost 25 years I remained no contact with my four siblings. The things that caused this are far too numerous and horrendous to get into, but trust me, it was warranted. I did stay in contact with my parents even though they defended the others and blamed me for the turmoil. It’s because first, they were my parents, and second, they’d been lied to by my siblings about things I’d done or not done. If four of the kids were making out what a horrible person I am, I must be. I’d tried to tell them the truth of what was really going on, but my siblings kept complaining about me, so it never really took. Before my parents deaths, I tried to tell them the truth for the last time, but it ended very badly with my mom, and sadly with my dad. They both died believing the others. The last time I let my guard down was the day of my husband’s funeral. He’d been battling a glioblastoma (brain tumor) for two years. I was worn out physically and emotionally. I fell for my brother’s fake charm, sympathy, and even tears and let him take over as executor for our dad (he’d passed one month before my husband.) I knew better, but in the shape I was in and ever the optimist, I caved. Needless to say, it was a very bad idea. That was almost eight years ago. In the meantime, I’ve lost my older brother and my sister, so there are only three of us left. No one even told my my sister passed until my nephew called to ask if I knew. My heart breaks for you, OP. I will pray for your well being and strength and your children. It’s a long, hard, sad road, but you’re not alone. I’m sending you all my hugs I’m allotted for today! ❤️
Keep low contact. They are toxic. Your brother should take paternity leave and ask the help of people who supported his wife and let you down. Your brother did nothing to support you when his wife and your family were bullying you. Take care of your kid and stay low contact.
It really irritates me when people won’t listen to one another. This gal tried to tell Family. She was the one that was pregnant, but then her sister-in-law was the asshole.
At first I wondered if the baby was even his 🤷♀️, then I thought meh who cares he didn't care about OP so he should just suck it up and be a single dad 🤔🤷♀️, lastly the grandparents...why didn't they offer to care for this little boy since they live in the same area. Poor OP....Why were you gifted a pathetic family who only know you when shyt hits the fan 🤦♀️
The OP's SIL made her choice and has proven that she can't be taken seriously when it comes to being a good mom to her own preemie baby boy and that's beyond wrong and unfortunate as well, the OP should leave her family behind and be done with it plus live life for herself and her daughter big time and never look back.
Where were the SIL's parents and siblings, extended family in all this, especially when she walked away from the hospital, leaving their grandson behind? Why isn't her family stepping up? She may be suffering from her pregnancy, having post-partum depression and the family treats her as expendable. Yes, she's acted like a brat, but still.
She acted awful even before being pregnant. She was likely not raised well with toxic/dysfunctional or little to no family. Or she’s such anbad person they wrote her off years ago & want nothing to do with her.
Let me tell you this. You've been through too many things. They will never change. If things get really bad, get your brother, to come with you alone, and possibly help him with your nephew. but in my opinion, you should break all contact. your family have been abusive and cruel, and that's more than anyone should have to face. I'm very sorry You've had to suffer through all that. please enjoy being a mother, it will be hard, ( I'm a big brother, but I know about parenting) but I hope you'll get through. all of us are here for you, so please feel free to ask. if you need support, I'm always open to emails, just ask. Consider your brother, but not anything from other family members, and tell you sil, to get stuffed. I'm always open to help out. Bye
I’m only 5 minutes in the story (5:10 to be exact). This is my what I would’ve done. 1. Not go to the gender reveal party. 2. When I’m about to give birth, only let those who cared about me see me, and kick everyone else, especially my parents and SIL. Edit: just finished the story, DO NOT take the nephew in. You’ll get used all over again, I know op won’t be actually reading this but she must understand that she’ll get used if she takes in the baby. I have a soft spot for children, and that’s the thing, CHILDREN not babies, the baby can be raised by its grandparents. Whatever it comes out of it won’t be op’s fault, and maybe op’s brother can stop being blind and open his eyes and realizes how manipulated he is by SIL and his own family. In conclusion, fuck that family, that coward SIL, that brother and run away with your baby girl. (The only one I can sympathize a bit is op’s nephew and the baby)
THESE PEOPLE DO NOT RESPECT BOUNDARIES❗DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER AND BREAK THE CHAIN OF DRAMA IT WILL ALWAYS GET WORSE! I CAN PROMISE YOU THAT❗
This is the most insane and ridiculous family...to sit there and not only allow this behavior but go along with it?! Absolute insanity smh poor woman.. needs family especially right now and they failed her
That family is never going to change and don’t deserve all the chances they got. I don’t have a good answer about the nephew, but I know that OP should never speak to any of those assholes again, except for her older nephew, and I guess the baby if she doesn’t take him.
I’m so sorry, family should never do this to family. I hope your doing okay and your better off ❤ you don’t need that stress and neither does your daughter ❤
I'm not even half way through this video and I'm pulling my hair out. Throw the whole family away. Girl get out, your child is better off without those relatives. So cringe
Not sure if she has a job that can support two children, but if she can, I’d be tempted to say yes, _ONLY_ if she could legally adopt him, and then go NC. My other thought (curiosity) is what last name did she give her daughter? If it were me, I would not want to give my father’s name (my last name) because he doesn’t deserve it. But, depending on the father of the girl, not sure I would want that name either. My thought would be to change my name to the great-grandmother’s (if it is different to my last name). The baby already has her first name, why not her last?
You go girl you don't need a toxic family to live you need a fresh start your SIL is terrible for what she did and has done to you and you know your mom or dad never said anything for your side of the story or even defended you but I wish you and your baby girl health and happiness as she grows up and you know hopefully your daughter imitates you not your family❤❤❤❤❤
I am the paragraph man so OP family undermined her sister-in-law, pretending that she was pregnant during her pregnancy reveal and pretending it wasn’t that bad so he tried to cut them off, but then sister-in-law actually got pregnant and invited OP to her gender reveal and OP accepted then it was revealed that sister-in-law was having a boy. She didn’t really like that that much and OP mentioned that her baby would love a cousin ruining her gender reveal. so OP went no contact again, but then sister-in-law managed to find out that OP baby was a girl and got really mad about that and then she started sending OP girl, baby names that were dibs claiming that they would never know the gender of the baby until the birth, OP was going to name her baby one of the dip names. She decided it before sister-in-law sent the dip names so when she announced her name, the babies name sister-in-law got very mad and she officially went no contact except her brother contacted her and told her that sister-in-law‘s baby was a boy and that she left him after finding after leaving the hospital, and he wants to take the baby and the family agrees that she should take the baby because the family are assholes and are not helping so yeah that’s it. Sorry for typos I used voice to write this.
I don't see your brothers marriage lasting long at all. Then with her obsession over your daughter - keep an eye on your nephew - she sounds like the kind of nutcase that will start putting him in dresses and have his sex changed by the time he's 5!!
Sometimes you have to love your family from afar, because they are toxic. Love doesn’t mean you get hurt every time you have contact with them. That’s not love.
I'm sorry that you're going through all of this what is really silly how they think that you're going to help them I mean that in a good way they've never been there for you or even try to help and they've only made you feel worse but yet now they want you to do all the work for them I wish you the best of luck
I feel so bad for you OP. Those relatives sound horrible. Just know it’s your choice to take care of the kid or not. The parents don’t deserve him, and they chose to have a baby, therefore it’s their responsibility not yours. Don’t allow them to quilt trip you. Family isn’t by blood, family are people you love who treat you right, and you treat them right. The sheer audacity after everything they put you through and they’re like “she’d totally be okay with taking care of my kid.) I can’t even, I just can’t even. Hope you’re able to get away from these awful people, if you don’t take the nephew there are other options, like giving him for free away to someone who can’t have a baby and desperately wants one. Sending you all the love OP!💗💞💕🩷❤️💖💛💜💚🧡💙🩵🖤🤍💓🤎🩶💝💘💔❣️❤️🔥
If I were her. I’d throw the biggest baby shower & send them the invitations and inside I’d write Guess who’s pregnant? That’s right me!!!! And guess whose NOT invited to my baby shower next week that’s right you’re NOT invited Awww don’t be so upset. You’re just jealous of all my other guests who ARE invited It’s gonna be a huge baby shower Well have a nice life Tootles ✌🏻 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Great story. Only better would have been if the storyline was she had a boy and used the sil’s chosen name and then got in trouble for doing such and then continued the tale.
That poor woman has had so much thrown at her, made a clean break for her mental health and the health of her daughter, and now they have the audacity to ask this of her. Her SIL only got pregnant to try to keep up the attention she got and never really wanted a child. If she hadn’t left when he was born early she would have left soon after they got home. To try and guilt this lady into taking the baby is some twisted kind of cruel. I feel sorry for her nephew, but that should not be her burden to bear, especially out of guilt. And I agree, full legal, unbreakable custody or no dice. I’d really love to know how this eventuated.
So I watched the full video, but it wouldn't let me comment there, so I'll do it here. I've had issues with a close family member's wife being just truly awful to me because she's jealous my husband loves and married me instead of her, and the rest of the close family can't seem to see it. After 12 years of trying, I cut the cord. My situation is significantly less awful than this, and I felt the need to put a large emotional distance between us. OP 100% NEEDS to take her baby and find new family. Even if SIL is no longer in the picture, the family clearly has no respect for OP or her child AT ALL and it's not going to get any better, only worse, as they see OP continue to just put up with their nonsense. RUN OP, RUN! I'm telling you, nothing good can possibly come from keeping regular contact with your "family"
That sil is a horrible woman, who steals a baby reveal, and rename a child that’s not hers? And the fact that sil left the baby that she was bragging abt.
Can you please make a pt2 where the sister gets her karma and the rest of the family realizes she is a ass hole and she gets disowned and her husband leave her plsssssss❤❤❤❤❤
Listened to your full story and understand the toxic family issues. Been there and it's sad. It's been maybe 7 years since last seeing my sisters & mother. It is sad that my kids saw first hand how their grandmother is. They were old enough to make their own opinions as they were about grown. Due to the issues my daughter hasn't invited her to her wedding this fall. I had no say in who my daughter invites as it's her wedding and I'm not going to be a toxic mother telling her what to do.
You are a better person than me.... I would not have attended the zoom. Your sister in law is a piece of work.... I hope she steps on LEGO!!!! Pregnancy brain my eye! She's being a total 🐶. Ignore her. And keep her away from your daughter. Don't give in to them to keep the peace and start a war within yourself. 😢 I feel for you❤ 8 will keep you and your daughter in prayer...
That family is crazy. They all immediately started calling OP names without even listening to her. And when they found out the truth, they blamed her for not being clear when it’s their fault they weren’t listening. And it’s crazy that the SIL went with it. If she did for a few seconds before saying that wasn’t happening, that would be fine. But she went with it for the whole night, it seems. I understand the brother’s shock at dinner. Though, I am surprise the nephew didn’t mention anything. Also, why do they think a redo dinner will fix anything. The news is already out there. Faking surprise when everyone knows seems kind of pointless to me. As for the brother and SIL, I feel the SIL was the only one who wanted the baby. Especially with the way he was talking before leaving OP’s house. Also, the SIL is crazy. OP seemed to be genuine in her congrats to her. Also, what dress she’s wearing doesn’t matter since she was guessing the SIL’s baby’s gender. Not her own. Also, O can’t believe she logged into her Amazon account just to oust the baby’s gender. Why does she care so much. It seems like she just doesn’t want OP to ever surprise her family. Brother should probably rethink his choice in partner. Though, I guess it’s too late now that they are having a baby together. Even if he divorced her, they are tethered for at least the next 18 years. Also, why was the SIL claiming so many names? Not only was she having a boy, but even if she wasn’t, you can only choose a couple names for your child. So, if OP uses one of the names, you have an actual list worth of others names to choose from. It’s not like she was going to have enough kids to use them all, anyway. Unless she bullies her husband into keeping her pregnant all the time. And then, the insane cherry on top. The SIL never even wanted a baby. So, she didn’t want a baby, and knew her husband didn’t want a baby, but still bullied him into having one. Then abandoned him and the baby. And then, they want to give OP the baby. That way, they can still have the baby in the family, but not deal with them until they are ready. Absolute insanity. It’s also crazy that they are being supportive, but aren’t helping the brother. But expect OP to just help after all the crap they put her through. Taking on a newborn Preemie while having another child under 1 will be tough. But she’s be better at it then her brother or her parents. But like she said, she should get full legal custody.
It's going to be really hard for her to take care of two newborns on her own, unless she can hire a nanny. If not, then what if the parents gave up their parental rights and then OP put the nephew up for adoption after going to her new job out East and goes no contact? At least he would be in a loving home away from the toxic grandparents.
God I hope she doesn’t take her nephew in, it’s not her responsibility to care for that baby, it’s her brothers and if he can’t then he needs to give it up for adoption
I just realized, that family is so stupid, the boy that had the shirt that said he was gonna be an older COUSIN was the older sisters son, so when he pulled out the shirt, WHY DID THOSE STUPID PEOPLE THINK SHE WAS PREGNANT AND THE ‘BABYS BROTHER’ WAS ITS COUSIN!! no brain I swear 👇🏼who’s with me? (Not forcing)
Your family is beyond toxic. They never offered a genuine apology and simply want you to forget what they did. They will continue to hurt you one way or another. This includes gaslighting, guilt tripping, and shaming. No contact is sadly the only option as they will either use your daughter to manipulate you or treat her the same.
Gosh i too have a toxic Sil and i totally understand how it feels like!! She and her family drove away my mom n dad from their own house and now my parents stay with me.. I'm really glad they're with me and my family and that i get a chance to take care of them..my kids love them too and so happy to be their grand parents...my bro wants things to get back to normal but how the hell is that going to happen if she doesn't even apologize for the things she did and the words she used to abuse me and my parents! She even hit them!! And for some reason my bro is not even bringing my nephew home.. i have seen him only once after birth and my parents really miss their grand child! Guess only God can talk some sense into ppl like this! Even my kids are more or less the same age as my nephew and he is their only immediate cousin.. my nephew is an year and a half yrs old and they live hardly 20mins away!! And my brother also doesn't come home as much too, he just came twice to deliver some of my parents' stuffs and it really hurts!! I hate my sil for any and every damn reason on earth!! Dunno y ppl are so toxic!
Imo, I'd ask about adopting the nephew if I had the room and funds. SIL is the one that wanted the baby and she abandoned it, and that's not the kids fault... if you can give that baby a good home (wanting him is a part of giving him a good home) I'd go for it.. all kids deserve a loving home.
Something similar happened to my friend Her now husband sent a picture of a wedding ring to her mom and her mom just said ok He was planning a dinner to announce it to family and expected her mom to be more excited A week went by and no word from her mom He decided to cancel the dinner and my friend picked a date for them to marry They planned on getting married right away and not being engaged for long So her mom was uncomfortable with the speed of the marriage and demanded for the court marriage be rescheduled so a proper dinner can be planned and announced even though everyone already knew Should she have rescheduled to please her or just went forward with the marriage like she wanted? I think she should’ve involved her mom sooner but I also think her mom seemed like she didn’t care because she didn’t reach out to the boyfriend even after a week of him telling her his intentions
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That woman doesn’t know when to quit, op might be the only sane one in this story
And the nephew or maybe not since I haven’t seen the whole thing
@@MatthewDuarte-m7mthe little nephew is sane too
What does OP mean
@ it means original poster
I’m actually super concerned about the brother. He had a seemingly firm “no kids” stance before, and then suddenly changed his mind? I don’t want to assume, but I’m worried some coercion at best and downright abuse at worse occurred.
I totally agree
Yeah, and now SIL is seemingly upset about the gender, so he is either in for being coerced into another, or about to go through a messy divorce.
I think she coerced him because she cheated and found out she was pregnant. She knew she had to get him on board so he would think it was his!
She did it deliberately no doubt
Almost sounded like the baby wasn’t his tbh lol
Say no. He married her, got her pregnant, didn’t even stick up for you. He dug his grave he should lay in it.
Tbf it sounds like she forced/coerced him to get her pregnant, maybe even tampered with birth control
Yes, the brother is an a-hole. But the nephew deserves good parents, so this is not an easy choice.
Yes they have a dig a hole but the nephew did nothing I do not support bad behavior but if somebody has a kid that’s been bad to you dad and they’re in your family I say take it your nephew did nothing wrong
@@annekekramer3835OP is a single mother. You're wanting her to have twins?
That doesn't mean the baby needs to suffer. I hate saying this, but cps should really be called. I know foster care can be just as bad if not worse than a bio parent who doesn't want the kid, but there isn't really much option here. Full legal custody would be best, but if not, the legal system really needs to get involved. They can call her an a hole for it all they want
It's really funny when some people feels guilty harass and gaslight you so you would let go of their mistake and bad deed and in the end they're free and good ones even if they didn't apologize or make up and try making things right
This is a fup family
477 likes and no comments? Lemme fix that
Sil is jealous of you period!! And miserable in her own life!
@mikeydoodle143 .. 😂 this whole family seems like they would be the PERFECT fit on the Jerry Springer show!! 😜
Bunch of psychopaths. OP needs to hold some distance. Long term troubles from them. Nothing good.
The SIL only got pregnant to compete with op then abandoned her kid.
Exactly
She's jealous as fuck and decided to take this one-sided competition not realizing she dug her own grave. That level of pettiness is pathetic 🙄
That's what I thought too.
What a completely insane family!!! Who in any degree of sensibility would even ask a single mother of a newborn take another baby on when they are soooo capable of life!??? Put up a laser beam force field around you and your baby and NEVER lower it to your family. Now they want to treat your daughter as if she isn’t even alive!!??
I feel like the OP should adopt her nephew and then move far away from her family to raise both kids in a nontoxic environment and start looking for a partner. The SIL is toxic and literally abandoned her husband and son since her son is sick. I have a friend who’s son has a heart defect and she isn’t giving up on him
She did
I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because he’s sick. It’s more likely that she wanted a girl. She was acting strange when after they learned she was having a boy.
@@gluttonouswolf980yeah, I heard one person say that she was jealous of op, especially since op had a girl and that’s why she did all of those awful things
@@jessicathompson236 where is the update?
All accept the “start looking for a partner”… yeah some men are fine with raising other dudes’ babies, but most aren’t and some who are have ill intentions. She should focus on herself and the children and when they are grown consider dating again.
What assholes, i hope op is doing better now
She is. She ended up moving cities, going low contact (and she ended up with both babies)
@@jessicathompson236I hope you’re right 😊
@@jessicathompson236 slayyyy!
I hope this is true !!! Op is the only sane one in the bunch!!
@@jessicathompson236 Where are these stories coming from? I'd love to check them out for myself and if they're written as I assume I'd prefer that over a video anyway.
the brother needs a dna test before he does anything.
That is an excellent point! With someone ad crazy as the SIL, you never know.
They r grown adults, her brother can take care of his own child, op wants a reason to stay she still has not moved on, she’ll end up letting her family back in & they’ll treat the same as they have always treated her
Exactly! She can't take on 2 kids alone, especially one with special needs, unless her job pays well and she can get a nanny, she continues to let her family abuse her. You let one thing slide and more come pouring in, her brother is a grown ass man, he never stood up for her, he made his bed, he should stand up and take care of his baby and all those who were supporting SIL. The only one deserving of OP is the 7 year old cousin.
I also believe SIL coerced OP's brother to compete with her, it was all out of spite, that woman will get whats coming to her
He married her and got her pregnant, that’s not your problem. Let him take of the baby, They just want another reason to use your again. Block him and go no contact with him.
I was part guessing SIL wanted a baby girl but she left after birth could be a little be overreacted ! So my second guess is she was in a one side competitive spotlight war trying to steal family from OP and when she realise that this time her plan include being a mother when she alway claim she want to be free child is a too much prize to paid and she leave
This little boy will need lot of help in his future ! Suggest OP take full custody and go again at a no contact with her "family"
At the Same time OP is a Single Mom with a newborn as Well, she can't just mother every child in the Family and she needs to set that boundary. At this Point CPS would make more sense for the child and would probably send a clearer message to the rest of the Family, that their actions have consequences and things won't just turn out alright, not to mention the fit SIL would have when she finds out that OP, the one she was so jealous of the whole time ended Up taking her baby, it would be hypocritical but SIL isn't above that, OP should do what's best for the nephew and herself and that might not mean taking custody
No, don’t take the baby.. you’re gonna have your hands full with your own new baby. Let them figure it out they put you through enough.
In my opinion only one of them deserves to be able to meet the kid and it's the lil cousin
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And I hope op still talks with her nephew
@@anang6411 ye
I am so sorry for what you’ve had to go through. I saw myself in your story. I won’t go into great detail, but I came from a family of seven. I’m 64 years old, and for almost 25 years I remained no contact with my four siblings. The things that caused this are far too numerous and horrendous to get into, but trust me, it was warranted. I did stay in contact with my parents even though they defended the others and blamed me for the turmoil. It’s because first, they were my parents, and second, they’d been lied to by my siblings about things I’d done or not done. If four of the kids were making out what a horrible person I am, I must be. I’d tried to tell them the truth of what was really going on, but my siblings kept complaining about me, so it never really took.
Before my parents deaths, I tried to tell them the truth for the last time, but it ended very badly with my mom, and sadly with my dad. They both died believing the others.
The last time I let my guard down was the day of my husband’s funeral. He’d been battling a glioblastoma (brain tumor) for two years. I was worn out physically and emotionally. I fell for my brother’s fake charm, sympathy, and even tears and let him take over as executor for our dad (he’d passed one month before my husband.) I knew better, but in the shape I was in and ever the optimist, I caved. Needless to say, it was a very bad idea.
That was almost eight years ago. In the meantime, I’ve lost my older brother and my sister, so there are only three of us left. No one even told my my sister passed until my nephew called to ask if I knew.
My heart breaks for you, OP. I will pray for your well being and strength and your children. It’s a long, hard, sad road, but you’re not alone. I’m sending you all my hugs I’m allotted for today! ❤️
Keep low contact. They are toxic. Your brother should take paternity leave and ask the help of people who supported his wife and let you down. Your brother did nothing to support you when his wife and your family were bullying you. Take care of your kid and stay low contact.
It really irritates me when people won’t listen to one another. This gal tried to tell Family. She was the one that was pregnant, but then her sister-in-law was the asshole.
Don’t take their baby, sil should be taking care of it, she wanted it, she deals with it,
7:54 I would have said “r u trying to make me miscarry?!?! Ur adding so much stress on me and I swear I’m about to miscarry!”
That would be guilt tripping and is not healthy either
What the fuck is wrong with them I hope you feel better and they get back in their minds
They way my heart stopped every time OP said she would move past when they and forgive them
1:00 for people who came from the comments
🤬🤬🤬🤬👊🤬
Why would you do this to me 😭
@@Your-local-Mississippi-FBI wdym
@@RecessCups-l7b he didn't do it at least 5 seconds before it actually was the sort end sorts*
Sometime you just wanna fight someone you don’t even know.. yk????
They are controlling, if they always have their way, they don't know good and bad is even as an adult
At first I wondered if the baby was even his 🤷♀️, then I thought meh who cares he didn't care about OP so he should just suck it up and be a single dad 🤔🤷♀️, lastly the grandparents...why didn't they offer to care for this little boy since they live in the same area.
Poor OP....Why were you gifted a pathetic family who only know you when shyt hits the fan 🤦♀️
She is giving vibes that she will try to steal your baby be carful
Someone get the fire department from all of this gaslighting
Sounds like the SIL didn’t want a boy so decided to abandon him when he was born and sick !
SIL is a psychopath
The OP's SIL made her choice and has proven that she can't be taken seriously when it comes to being a good mom to her own preemie baby boy and that's beyond wrong and unfortunate as well, the OP should leave her family behind and be done with it plus live life for herself and her daughter big time and never look back.
Where were the SIL's parents and siblings, extended family in all this, especially when she walked away from the hospital, leaving their grandson behind? Why isn't her family stepping up? She may be suffering from her pregnancy, having post-partum depression and the family treats her as expendable. Yes, she's acted like a brat, but still.
She acted awful even before being pregnant. She was likely not raised well with toxic/dysfunctional or little to no family. Or she’s such anbad person they wrote her off years ago & want nothing to do with her.
Let me tell you this. You've been through too many things. They will never change. If things get really bad, get your brother, to come with you alone, and possibly help him with your nephew. but in my opinion, you should break all contact. your family have been abusive and cruel, and that's more than anyone should have to face. I'm very sorry You've had to suffer through all that. please enjoy being a mother, it will be hard, ( I'm a big brother, but I know about parenting) but I hope you'll get through. all of us are here for you, so please feel free to ask. if you need support, I'm always open to emails, just ask. Consider your brother, but not anything from other family members, and tell you sil, to get stuffed. I'm always open to help out. Bye
10:56 is so true that isn’t right at all if they actually cared they would stop it immediately
Congratulations on you having a baby girl just live your best life ever.
They were bad to you so dont help them they do not care about you so you do not have to help them
Her child comes first.
I’m only 5 minutes in the story (5:10 to be exact). This is my what I would’ve done.
1. Not go to the gender reveal party.
2. When I’m about to give birth, only let those who cared about me see me, and kick everyone else, especially my parents and SIL.
Edit: just finished the story, DO NOT take the nephew in. You’ll get used all over again, I know op won’t be actually reading this but she must understand that she’ll get used if she takes in the baby. I have a soft spot for children, and that’s the thing, CHILDREN not babies, the baby can be raised by its grandparents. Whatever it comes out of it won’t be op’s fault, and maybe op’s brother can stop being blind and open his eyes and realizes how manipulated he is by SIL and his own family. In conclusion, fuck that family, that coward SIL, that brother and run away with your baby girl. (The only one I can sympathize a bit is op’s nephew and the baby)
THESE PEOPLE DO NOT RESPECT BOUNDARIES❗DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER AND BREAK THE CHAIN OF DRAMA IT WILL ALWAYS GET WORSE! I CAN PROMISE YOU THAT❗
OP ist the ultimate doormat
I went no contact with most of my family 40 years ago. Much happier life! Highly recommend! 😊
This is one of the worst story’s I ever heard-
OP is right. Don't attend the gender reveal. Stand your ground. Parents are toxic and clueless.SIL is a nutcase.
This is the most insane and ridiculous family...to sit there and not only allow this behavior but go along with it?!
Absolute insanity smh
poor woman.. needs family especially right now and they failed her
It’s upsetting that the only person in the OPs family is their nephew
12:14 I was about to leave lol
That family is never going to change and don’t deserve all the chances they got. I don’t have a good answer about the nephew, but I know that OP should never speak to any of those assholes again, except for her older nephew, and I guess the baby if she doesn’t take him.
I’m so sorry, family should never do this to family. I hope your doing okay and your better off ❤ you don’t need that stress and neither does your daughter ❤
Don't adopt your nephew but you should help your brother but DO NOT adopt your nephew
I don't know why but I feel really bad for the teddy bear thrown in the trash but maybe it's because I have a soft spot for stuffed animals
I'm not even half way through this video and I'm pulling my hair out. Throw the whole family away. Girl get out, your child is better off without those relatives. So cringe
Not sure if she has a job that can support two children, but if she can, I’d be tempted to say yes, _ONLY_ if she could legally adopt him, and then go NC.
My other thought (curiosity) is what last name did she give her daughter? If it were me, I would not want to give my father’s name (my last name) because he doesn’t deserve it. But, depending on the father of the girl, not sure I would want that name either. My thought would be to change my name to the great-grandmother’s (if it is different to my last name). The baby already has her first name, why not her last?
You go girl you don't need a toxic family to live you need a fresh start your SIL is terrible for what she did and has done to you and you know your mom or dad never said anything for your side of the story or even defended you but I wish you and your baby girl health and happiness as she grows up and you know hopefully your daughter imitates you not your family❤❤❤❤❤
I hope she says no to her brother
As you should, as you should
I am proud of you ❤
No you should be able to what you want
I am the paragraph man so OP family undermined her sister-in-law, pretending that she was pregnant during her pregnancy reveal and pretending it wasn’t that bad so he tried to cut them off, but then sister-in-law actually got pregnant and invited OP to her gender reveal and OP accepted then it was revealed that sister-in-law was having a boy. She didn’t really like that that much and OP mentioned that her baby would love a cousin ruining her gender reveal. so OP went no contact again, but then sister-in-law managed to find out that OP baby was a girl and got really mad about that and then she started sending OP girl, baby names that were dibs claiming that they would never know the gender of the baby until the birth, OP was going to name her baby one of the dip names. She decided it before sister-in-law sent the dip names so when she announced her name, the babies name sister-in-law got very mad and she officially went no contact except her brother contacted her and told her that sister-in-law‘s baby was a boy and that she left him after finding after leaving the hospital, and he wants to take the baby and the family agrees that she should take the baby because the family are assholes and are not helping so yeah that’s it. Sorry for typos I used voice to write this.
? What's the use of a paragraph I don't think u added a update 🤔
This dude deserves an Oscar
I don't see your brothers marriage lasting long at all. Then with her obsession over your daughter - keep an eye on your nephew - she sounds like the kind of nutcase that will start putting him in dresses and have his sex changed by the time he's 5!!
Girl - if you're in southeast Ohio - let me know! You'll always have a grandma babysitter and real friend
Get full legal custody then go no contact with the family or focus on yourself and your baby go no contact with those people
Sometimes you have to love your family from afar, because they are toxic. Love doesn’t mean you get hurt every time you have contact with them. That’s not love.
I'm sorry that you're going through all of this what is really silly how they think that you're going to help them I mean that in a good way they've never been there for you or even try to help and they've only made you feel worse but yet now they want you to do all the work for them I wish you the best of luck
OP was kind if I were in her place my family members will be attending funeral. Thank God people like them dont exist in my life. M more than blessed.
Take him but only if brother gives complete custody, and helps with medical expenses.
As with most families, yours has some major issues. Sometimes it's best to go no contact with toxic family members.
I feel so bad for you OP. Those relatives sound horrible. Just know it’s your choice to take care of the kid or not. The parents don’t deserve him, and they chose to have a baby, therefore it’s their responsibility not yours. Don’t allow them to quilt trip you. Family isn’t by blood, family are people you love who treat you right, and you treat them right. The sheer audacity after everything they put you through and they’re like “she’d totally be okay with taking care of my kid.) I can’t even, I just can’t even. Hope you’re able to get away from these awful people, if you don’t take the nephew there are other options, like giving him for free away to someone who can’t have a baby and desperately wants one. Sending you all the love OP!💗💞💕🩷❤️💖💛💜💚🧡💙🩵🖤🤍💓🤎🩶💝💘💔❣️❤️🔥
Your SIL is evil and vile. 10:54 she’s a manipulative person who has turned your family against you. It’s heartbreaking
If I were her. I’d throw the biggest baby shower & send them the invitations and inside I’d write
Guess who’s pregnant? That’s right me!!!!
And guess whose NOT invited to my baby shower next week that’s right you’re NOT invited
Awww don’t be so upset. You’re just jealous of all my other guests who ARE invited
It’s gonna be a huge baby shower
Well have a nice life
Tootles ✌🏻
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Great story. Only better would have been if the storyline was she had a boy and used the sil’s chosen name and then got in trouble for doing such and then continued the tale.
1:35 fir those from shorts
Thx
That poor woman has had so much thrown at her, made a clean break for her mental health and the health of her daughter, and now they have the audacity to ask this of her. Her SIL only got pregnant to try to keep up the attention she got and never really wanted a child. If she hadn’t left when he was born early she would have left soon after they got home. To try and guilt this lady into taking the baby is some twisted kind of cruel. I feel sorry for her nephew, but that should not be her burden to bear, especially out of guilt. And I agree, full legal, unbreakable custody or no dice. I’d really love to know how this eventuated.
Hell nah, go back no contact and let everyone deal with their own MESS.. if this is even true lol cuz my goodness!!😂
She was just jealous that she wasn't the only one with kids anymore and felt like the spotlight was being taken from her.
So I watched the full video, but it wouldn't let me comment there, so I'll do it here. I've had issues with a close family member's wife being just truly awful to me because she's jealous my husband loves and married me instead of her, and the rest of the close family can't seem to see it. After 12 years of trying, I cut the cord. My situation is significantly less awful than this, and I felt the need to put a large emotional distance between us. OP 100% NEEDS to take her baby and find new family. Even if SIL is no longer in the picture, the family clearly has no respect for OP or her child AT ALL and it's not going to get any better, only worse, as they see OP continue to just put up with their nonsense. RUN OP, RUN! I'm telling you, nothing good can possibly come from keeping regular contact with your "family"
That sil is a horrible woman, who steals a baby reveal, and rename a child that’s not hers? And the fact that sil left the baby that she was bragging abt.
1:35 for all the people who came from shorts
Can you please make a pt2 where the sister gets her karma and the rest of the family realizes she is a ass hole and she gets disowned and her husband leave her plsssssss❤❤❤❤❤
? The SIL abandoned her premature baby and husband and disappeared after giving birth
@@anni5385 oh sorry I wasn't paying attention that much bit ty
@@Shökü-j7n obviously lol, that’s ok happy to help 🥰
Listened to your full story and understand the toxic family issues. Been there and it's sad. It's been maybe 7 years since last seeing my sisters & mother. It is sad that my kids saw first hand how their grandmother is. They were old enough to make their own opinions as they were about grown. Due to the issues my daughter hasn't invited her to her wedding this fall. I had no say in who my daughter invites as it's her wedding and I'm not going to be a toxic mother telling her what to do.
You are a better person than me.... I would not have attended the zoom. Your sister in law is a piece of work.... I hope she steps on LEGO!!!! Pregnancy brain my eye! She's being a total 🐶. Ignore her. And keep her away from your daughter. Don't give in to them to keep the peace and start a war within yourself. 😢 I feel for you❤ 8 will keep you and your daughter in prayer...
Wtf.. logging into her Amazon prime to see her wishlist and share it with people 🤯🤯🤯🤯
That family is crazy. They all immediately started calling OP names without even listening to her. And when they found out the truth, they blamed her for not being clear when it’s their fault they weren’t listening.
And it’s crazy that the SIL went with it. If she did for a few seconds before saying that wasn’t happening, that would be fine. But she went with it for the whole night, it seems. I understand the brother’s shock at dinner. Though, I am surprise the nephew didn’t mention anything.
Also, why do they think a redo dinner will fix anything. The news is already out there. Faking surprise when everyone knows seems kind of pointless to me.
As for the brother and SIL, I feel the SIL was the only one who wanted the baby. Especially with the way he was talking before leaving OP’s house.
Also, the SIL is crazy. OP seemed to be genuine in her congrats to her. Also, what dress she’s wearing doesn’t matter since she was guessing the SIL’s baby’s gender. Not her own. Also, O can’t believe she logged into her Amazon account just to oust the baby’s gender. Why does she care so much. It seems like she just doesn’t want OP to ever surprise her family. Brother should probably rethink his choice in partner. Though, I guess it’s too late now that they are having a baby together. Even if he divorced her, they are tethered for at least the next 18 years.
Also, why was the SIL claiming so many names? Not only was she having a boy, but even if she wasn’t, you can only choose a couple names for your child. So, if OP uses one of the names, you have an actual list worth of others names to choose from. It’s not like she was going to have enough kids to use them all, anyway. Unless she bullies her husband into keeping her pregnant all the time.
And then, the insane cherry on top. The SIL never even wanted a baby. So, she didn’t want a baby, and knew her husband didn’t want a baby, but still bullied him into having one. Then abandoned him and the baby. And then, they want to give OP the baby. That way, they can still have the baby in the family, but not deal with them until they are ready. Absolute insanity. It’s also crazy that they are being supportive, but aren’t helping the brother. But expect OP to just help after all the crap they put her through. Taking on a newborn Preemie while having another child under 1 will be tough. But she’s be better at it then her brother or her parents. But like she said, she should get full legal custody.
They shouldn't be allowed to see her again
I am so sorry this happened to you
It's going to be really hard for her to take care of two newborns on her own, unless she can hire a nanny. If not, then what if the parents gave up their parental rights and then OP put the nephew up for adoption after going to her new job out East and goes no contact? At least he would be in a loving home away from the toxic grandparents.
But ... did they read the shirt !
"Awesome big cousin !" it said‼️
If the sister-in-law was pregnant, the baby would be his sibling.
God I hope she doesn’t take her nephew in, it’s not her responsibility to care for that baby, it’s her brothers and if he can’t then he needs to give it up for adoption
I just realized, that family is so stupid, the boy that had the shirt that said he was gonna be an older COUSIN was the older sisters son, so when he pulled out the shirt, WHY DID THOSE STUPID PEOPLE THINK SHE WAS PREGNANT AND THE ‘BABYS BROTHER’ WAS ITS COUSIN!! no brain I swear
👇🏼who’s with me? (Not forcing)
im sorry the zoom gender reveal is so funny
1:24 if you are here from the Short
Sister n law is crazy…and your family is toxic af! Go no contact and you will be much happier I promise. Good Luck!
The brother seems like a nice guy just everyone else sucks
Well at the beginning he seems nice.
Your family is beyond toxic. They never offered a genuine apology and simply want you to forget what they did. They will continue to hurt you one way or another. This includes gaslighting, guilt tripping, and shaming. No contact is sadly the only option as they will either use your daughter to manipulate you or treat her the same.
Gosh i too have a toxic Sil and i totally understand how it feels like!! She and her family drove away my mom n dad from their own house and now my parents stay with me.. I'm really glad they're with me and my family and that i get a chance to take care of them..my kids love them too and so happy to be their grand parents...my bro wants things to get back to normal but how the hell is that going to happen if she doesn't even apologize for the things she did and the words she used to abuse me and my parents! She even hit them!! And for some reason my bro is not even bringing my nephew home.. i have seen him only once after birth and my parents really miss their grand child! Guess only God can talk some sense into ppl like this! Even my kids are more or less the same age as my nephew and he is their only immediate cousin.. my nephew is an year and a half yrs old and they live hardly 20mins away!! And my brother also doesn't come home as much too, he just came twice to deliver some of my parents' stuffs and it really hurts!! I hate my sil for any and every damn reason on earth!! Dunno y ppl are so toxic!
Imo, I'd ask about adopting the nephew if I had the room and funds. SIL is the one that wanted the baby and she abandoned it, and that's not the kids fault... if you can give that baby a good home (wanting him is a part of giving him a good home) I'd go for it.. all kids deserve a loving home.
Stupid ass hell🤦🏽♀️because the shirt ”this is what a good big cousin looks like” not “this is what a good big brother look like”💀
Sister inlaw is jealous and enjoys the attention, this is very sad
Na but why does he run the same speed on the soul sand
your parents Are So Toxic
Something similar happened to my friend
Her now husband sent a picture of a wedding ring to her mom and her mom just said ok
He was planning a dinner to announce it to family and expected her mom to be more excited
A week went by and no word from her mom
He decided to cancel the dinner and my friend picked a date for them to marry
They planned on getting married right away and not being engaged for long
So her mom was uncomfortable with the speed of the marriage and demanded for the court marriage be rescheduled so a proper dinner can be planned and announced even though everyone already knew
Should she have rescheduled to please her or just went forward with the marriage like she wanted?
I think she should’ve involved her mom sooner but I also think her mom seemed like she didn’t care because she didn’t reach out to the boyfriend even after a week of him telling her his intentions
5:02 those parents are LLW and are the worst stay no contact with them
Loser label wannabe
I got SO mad at SIL when watching this, I nearly broke my phone😭