Mohak chooses less controversial issues and chooses more issues which we really need to know deeply that's why I like Mohak's channel. Thank you very much for bringing such videos continuously.
I am from West Bengal and here in Hindu family a brother or uncle is regarded as a' second father' and girls respect them as well and men also take care of them 😊 to think about marrying them is nothing but a nightmare and it's also ruined the beautiful relationship among cousins. We celebrate Bhai duj ( Bhai fonta ) , Rakhsabandhan with love and respect with all cousins.
@@Subhadwip-gq6vo If you have read about Ray's life , you would also learnt that his whole family members were against this marriage and Mrs Ray was also afraid of this awkward relationship but they were in love and were successful to convenience their families.....after all we could found exception in everywhere but that doesn't mean we support or accept the culture just because a famous personalities accept it ( I am a big fan of his film and literature but when I came to know about his marriage it was really weird feelings for me )
In Telugu states your father's brother's daughter is SISTER to you..but you can marry your father's sister's daughter...same for mother. Your mother's sister's daughter is SISTER to you but you can marry your mother's brother's daughter In short, you can marry your parent's opposite gender sibling's daughter/son
@@purpleyou4056 bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
I'm a child born from a Consanguine marriage. My family in Kerala actually don't appreciate such a marriage, but in my case, parents fell in love with each other. I never knew much about the negative aspects of Consanguine marriages, so few years back I had fallen in love with my cousin as well, and we were in a relationship for almost a year. That is when I learnt about this and shared the information with her as well. I realised how lucky I was to be born without any abnormalities, and we mutually got out of the relationship. We were in love when we broke up. But we did it, only to avoid the risk of spoiling a child's life and also for a happier future. More people in South India should be educated about the problems of Consanguine marriages.
There is always a option of adopting a child... That way one can spend the rest of the life with their loved ones. There is a saying, "Love knows no bounds.".
Risk of birth defects in consanguineous marriages is overrated. Risk is even lesser in communities that have practiced consanguinity for thousands of years and have inherited stronger genes over the years, not weaker genes. Don't take my word for it. Look up research. Not the one done on people from typically non consanguineous society, but are born out of consanguineous relationship. Look for research done on rate of birth defects in consanguineous society and you will know
@Manoj i am aware of that. I just find it so interesting to know differences in people of same religion but different places. India is indeed a cosmic cuious. And i am proud of that.
A fun fact : Arjun and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mom and Subhadra's dad were siblings. In South India the cousin you can marry has to be between bua and mama 's kids. However, the numbers have greatly reduced due to biological defects such marriages can cause.
This is also common in gujrat in ahir community yadav of gujrat can marry to bua or mama son or daughter . But not with cousins like father brother son or daughter or mother sister son or daughter. They have been called brother and sister but mama and bua son or daughter not called brother or sister the marriage can be done if family and girl and boy are ok
South people also only marry in father's sister son or mother brother son not marry mom sister son or daughter and father brother son or daughter and it's most common 80s and 90s people but now a days people not interested to marry in close relative like mom's brother son or daughter like that because one is genetic issue and another thing now a days children's are mold to dislike relative marriage .
I watched a documentary on this topic years ago... People don't usually talk about this, and most are unaware of the biological side of the story... I'm glad you are bringing light to this topic and educating people about this... Kudos to you !
*SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Though its very common in Muslim culture, my grandfather was dead against cousin marriage mainly because of possibility of biological disorder also it was weird for him that the kids who grew up considering each other as brothers and sisters should see each other as potential spouses.
I'm from Andhra Pradesh and I've personally experienced this issue. My paternal aunt considered me as a 'perfect bride' for her son and even my cousin was perfectly fine with the idea of marrying me (I'm seven years younger than him). They even proposed the match to my father. I was horrified because I always called my cousin 'elder brother' and to learn that he did have a romantic interest in me, when all while I considered him a sibling, sickened me to the core. My father rejected it without second thoughts as he was against cousin marriages having learnt in his late twenties about 'incest' and the resulting genetic problems in the later generations. Yay to father! My aunt was upset when my father rejected her and she even had the gall to say to my father "If you marry her into our household we'll take care of her. Since I'm her aunt, you can rest the fear that she might suffer under her in-laws. Also, the dowry will remain in our family without going to nameless outsiders." My father simply said "Bold of you to assume that I'll be offering any form of dowry," and the argument quickly escalated and the relations naturally strained after that. Even today my father and aunt barely spare a polite greeting at family gatherings. And me being awkward, I just turn opposite whenever I spot my aunt or cousin. I was the lucky case but my classmate from University was married to her cousin right after graduation. Cousin marriages are a common occurance in South India and regarded as normal and 'part of the tradition.' I'm glad that this issue is being spoken of. Edit: Incest is a common issue across religions and the people who practice this 'tradition' aren't even aware that cousin marriages come under incest. You see not all cousins can marry. I'm a Hindu and I can marry my paternal aunt's son and also marry my maternal uncle's son--these fellas are not technically adressed as brothers, they have a separate form of address so as to prevent any awkwardness later on if I marry them ( though my dad instructed me to call them as brothers from early age)but I cannot marry my maternal aunt's son or my paternal uncles's son(they are considered as brothers). I don't know if it's true but my mother said that the opposite applies for muslims. So, it's like everyone have their own rules for acceptable incest.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
There was an uncle in my colony who was from Hyderabad he told me about this, at first I couldn’t believe him coz I thought this only happens in Muslim community. Glad that your father rejected the proposal. I think there should be some sort of campaign against such practices.
I belong to a tribe in Assam. In my tribe, there are lots of restrictions regarding marriage. You cannot marry if both the bride and spouse have same title( even though they are not related in any sort), and many more complicated rules, cousins are treated as brothers and sisters. It's incredible that our ancestors have adopted those rules to prevent biological disorders of the offerings from the ancient times when there were no education system at all. Because of this practice we hardly see any physical abnormalties in our tribe.
I'm from andhra and yes it happens with limitations, the daughters and sons of same sexes are seen as sisters and brothers while opposite sexes are seen as potential marriage partners, I never understood the logic behind it and left it thinking it's just part of the culture.
Bro annakodu kani islam and south indian marriages ni kalpesi he made people confused Well cross cousin will obviously have different gotras and he created a pov as we don't follow hindu tradition Because as ramdev baba said same gotra people shouldn't marry but obviously cross cousins have different gotras and the genetic thing is actually true so that is the only reason we should give less preference
@@aryanb9233 bro anakudadhu gani English bhasha telugu bhasha kalipesi comment pettav Naku nuvvu cheppindhi em artham kale , complete hindi kaani complete Telugu lo kani cheppu bro complete hindi lo aanna cheppu
In Manipur we never thought of such things just even in once lifetime,It's a sin in our culture to marry someone to whom we share our direct blood line, like cousins from uncle ,aunts etc
Being a Jain in our culture we have something called "Saka" which means we are restricted to not marrying the ones who share the surname of both my mother's side and father's side family. Its believed that this practice avoids pre-mature baby deaths, diseases, genetic problems, and various health issues to an extent.
Yeah in my people(Haryanvi) .we leave gotra one from mother side then father side then grandmother (dadi) side and last one from grandmother (nani) side .so you can't marry if girl has gotra maching anyone of them. Then the village exogamy is practiced . 😀😀
0:52 In Maharashtra also ( Not in all regions of Maharashtra) Marrying your mama ki ladki is normal. And some people don't appreciate this including me.. relative starts teasing boy with his mama chi mulgi from childhood . This is very normalise in my region. But things are changing now
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I'm a kerala Christian. We consider cousins as our siblings. While studying in Chennai i had a classmate whose parents were uncle and niece. Though their marriage was happy, my classmate said she will never marry her relative. I think in current generation nobody wants to marry relatives.
@Motivationalquotesmalayalam is it? It's not in entire Kerala , it is in your family only not in Kerala . My whole village is still continue to take relative cousin in another village
I am from Tamilnadu. Yes marrying cousins and close relatives is common in South India. In olden days the idea was to keep the property within the family. That is why such marriages were conducted and accepted. Even though it was and is a disaster genetically. As of now it has come down to a great extent in urban areas but in the rural belt it still persists. The biological implications of it for the children born out of such marriages is grave. Education and repeated reinforcement is the only way the society will give up such a practise. Any social change takes years. There will be a lot of resistance too from the conservative elements.
Uma, I don’t endorse these marriages but if this disease thing was correct then most of the South Indians would have some disease or the other as it has been happening for 2000 years.
मैं हिमाचल प्रदेश के एक राजपूत परिवार से हूँ, मैं जिस गौत्र से आता हूँ, मैं वहाँ शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि मेरी गोत्र कि लड़कियाँ मेरी बहन या बुआ के रिश्ते जैसा हैं वैसे ही मेरी माता जी अलग गौत्र से आती हैं, तो मैं अपनी माँ के गोत्र में भी शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि उस गौत्र कि लड़कीयां मेरी माशी या बहन लगती हैं | बाकी सभी राजपूत गौत्र से शादी कर सकता हूँ | और हम इसे बहुत अच्छे से मानते हैं |
Finally someone is talking about this issue. As a south Indian who grew up in middle east, I find it very weird to see my family chart. Btw, you are putting effort in your videos. May you reach 1M soon and grow beyond that.♥♥
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
That’s what I thought too that genetics being mixed will lead to genetic disorders. Thanks for covering that. It felt weird when I first started watching South Indians movies and saw that marriage between cousins and I thought i misunderstood something in the movie
We see a lot of this in our culture. And I've yet to see more number of disabled children but I've seen some though. Today's generation is drifting towards love marriages because of better education.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
Being a Himachali..I never knew about cousin marriages but when I came to know ,I was really shocked cuz my cousins are like real brother's and sisters to me and their parents are like my parents.
@@FoodRecipes108 Yes there are exceptions as the cultures are different. I just shared my culture shock..not a big deal! Also, happy for ur Himachali friend getting married bcoz of my random comment 🤗🙏
@Superman's doberman it's not about not knowing what the difference in cousins are, I'm myself Himachali and even if my cousins are so distant that we don't have similar ancestry for two generations, we still consider them as if they are our real brother/sister. It's just a difference in upbringing and mentality my grandmothers cousin sister's grandsons are very close to me.. and that's such a distant relation
@Superman's doberman I'm not saying anything about marrying cousins. All I mean is for me marrying cousin would be same a marrying my own sibling because from childhood we are raised as if w all are from one family. I'm not calling it a sin, stop getting worked up. Just telling you why some people feel weird from this because of how they are brought up. That's all
My own father and mother are cousins from the mother side and got married just because my mother had a government job :) and from my childhood I've seen a hell of fights between them that my and my siblings' mental well being is far from okay. I am highly prone to diseases and frequently on meds. I've found this cousins and uncle-niece marriage concept utterly disgusting from what I've experienced. People need to be educated about this and just stop being married for these sick reasons!! Or just stop being married!! There's a lot more in life than marriage, trust me.
@@rupeshbhangare1822 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
This concept of 'cousin marriages' have always irked me growing up. And it also made talking with cousins a wierd/stereotypical one as against talking with siblings from father's brothers/mother's sisters. You always have a sense that you can't mingle with your cousins freely. Because if you do, society will think that you are interested with them. Even parents think so. Being from South India, I like the North Indian perspective of these marriages and I want to consider my cousin as a sibling and want to mingle with them freely during family unions.
I always enjoyed interacting with my paternal aunts' daughters and did end up marrying one of them. Now happily married with a healthy baby, ofcourse ❤️
@@berlin5403 He's comparing "their approach" of picking up odd things, not them, heck not even comparing, it was just praise and i'm pretty sure it won't affect the popularity of Ayushman.🙌🏻
As a biologist and someone who learned genetics and cells, I want to say that it's not good for health and is the main reason behind many genetic diseases almost 10%.
I am from Karnataka and I can speak for almost all people who live in northern part of Karnataka. This practice used to be common till my parents' time but has reduced significantly these days. Main cause to stop the practice was that we as a society saw some health problems in children born out of such marriages. Not in all children but in few cases. To clarify more on what's cross cousin is. They could may their Mama's or Atte/Buwa's kids. Marrying Kaka/Chikkappa/Chacha's or Chikkamma/chikki/mausi's kids was strictly prohibited, no one even thought about it. I have not seen a single such case in my entire life. As of marrying ones niece: back in days people used to have lots of kids. So imagine a case where the eldest offspring was a girl and youngest offspring say 7th or 8th child was a boy. Now obviously there's a huge age difference between these 2 Sister and Brother. Now, it was very common that the girls used to get married in early ages. You can imagine this bride's youngest brother running around in her marriage in shorts with runny nose 😀 This sister used give birth to children very early. So now this Eldest sister's daughters and her youngest brothers were of same age and compatible for marriage from the age perspective. As you married off your elder sister to a different man outside your family, her lineage became totally different. (her kids Gotra would be different than yours). Hence marriages were allowed. Nowadays these practices exists close to none.
nowhere such practice in karnataka blindly informed in message, you delivered as father of karnataka. no one married in karnataka a such practice. Here i see some muslim family has been following.
In Maharashtra, marriage with mama's daughter is very comman since old times. In fact, one of the son in law of Bal gangadhar tilak (freedom fighter) was his own nephew. Also the third chhatrapati Rajaram raje bhonsle were married to Maharani Tarabai, who was the daughter of his mama Hambirrao Mohite. The same way Pradyumna- son of bhagwan krishna married to the daughter of his mama rukmi, as per the bhagwatam. There are so many examples like arjuna- subhadra, krishna-mitravinda, etc.
I don't have anything against cousin marriage except that it leads to weak child. Because u share 50% ur DNA with cousin. It gets worse with blood sister cause u share 100%
@@Saujas cross cousin dont share that much dna it is less than 12% I guess. Also, cross cousin marriage are allowed for two generations only; and after third generation it is prohibited.
I am from Kolkata, when I was in class 7-8 my tuition teacher told my mother that her father and her late mother were cousin. We couldn't care less because we knew that in muslim community it is allowed to marry first cousin. However her younger sister whose age was around 17-18 years was deformed and had a brain of 2-3 year old child, she couldn't even walk instead she would slither, she couldn't alarm her sister whenever she wanted to defecate or urinate and she couldn't even speak. I felt sorry for her and always questioned why would god make her like this. But recently few years ago i realised that her condition could have been due to her parents' cousin marriage. I haven't communicated with my teacher since I cleared class 8 and its been more than 10 years. I hope her sister is surviving.
Since most of these congenital diseases are attributed to recessive genes, its been estimated that chance of these disease manifesting in the offsprings rise up by at least 30% when marriages are done within family.
Bhai why telegu ppl in abroad always stay and communicate with their own community and not talk outside of it? You can correct me if I'm wrong with this notion
@@teja8086 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
I am from Kerala Brahmin community and we consider our paternal and maternal cousins as brothers and sisters. We don't marry our cousins. However, I have seen people who are second cousins getting married in rare occurrences. Or even third cousins. Also, cousin marriages are rare in Kerala nowadays in all the communities due to the more number of educated people.
Bro, South india is being used as a scapegoat for justifying Cousin marraiges of Islam. While in reality since the spread of Christianity was more in south India hence people redefined the Gotra system so as to suit their purpose. From kashmir to kanyakumari, India runs on Gotra system. What Some of the southerners are doing is a result of the misinterpretation of Gotra system. Edit 1:- Gotra system is so deeprooted in the Indian society that most of the Tribes have Gotra system too. This is enough to prove the importance of Gotra system while finding the right match in Indian subcontinent.
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Actually the marriages in South India are between sister's offspring and her brother's (maternal uncle) offspring. NOT between two brother's children or two sister's children. This guy has put both cases in the same category. Among Muslims marriage is common between two brother's children or two sister's children.
Just a small correction sir🙏🏻 title should be "INDIA's southern region..." NOT "south india...." bcuz india haven't bifurcated like north korea.. south korea.
Hi Mohak, I am a Tamizhan. I want you to know that unlike what is said in this video , Gotra system exists in south India too. It is the gotra system that prevents parallel cousin marriages. If you see parallel cosuins will always have same gotra & cross cousins will belong to different gotras. The same gotra system also prevents a male from marrying his bhathiji wheareas one can marry his bhanji as she would be obviously from a different gotra. Hope i could make it clear to you !!
Actually there are some extention to this gotra system We cannot marry a person who has same gotra as my father + gotra which my mother had before marriage. I hope this makes the confusion clear....
@@superheroesclab5153 is your crush your cousin or blood related. Here we are discussing about cousin marriage, marrying to your cousin whome you grew up with as sibling ... seeing them with that intension raise some serious questions on one's character.
I am a Gujarati married to a Kannadiga. My husband's brother married some sort of cousin (not aware of the exact relation) and when I first realized this, I was shocked. For me, all cousins are brothers, so I didnt understand how this could happen. Slowly I learnt that this is common in South India. My husband's brother has a son now who is 11 years old and my daughter is 6 years old. I can see so many health and a bit of mental issues in my bro in law's (BIL) son. It's sad to see the physical suffering of the child. And there are quite some mentally challenged children in my husband's family. More than the amount you would see otherwise in families. And I have come to realize its due to these cousin marriages. I once spoke to my husband about it, but he just brushed it aside. He was either embarrassed or didnt like what he was hearing. With science so advanced and evidence available that such marriages can and will lead to genetic issues in the progeny, I dont understand why people still follow this tradition? My heart breaks for my nephew who will always suffer health issues due to a mistake made for traditions' sake. And the cherry on top is, while nephew celebrates rakhi with my daughter, he does not with his bua's daughter cause she is a potential bride for him. My mind is just f u c k e d!!!!
thank u for sharing this real instance... its high time leave this tradition... our society hv to understand that all tradition which hv built those were suitable at those times we hv keep updating n removing those bcoz these r not at all relevant to current situation... n also we hv scientific proof on this to demolish... its responsibilty of current generation to understand this n act accordingly...
One day I asked my father that why we have to tell the priest in the temple about our GOTRA everytime we visit? He said GOTRA is said to be a common relation from a common ancestor and two same GOTRAS should not marry amongst each other as there can be problems among their child. I half heartedly believed that becoz on one side I understood that same blood can cause some problems but was not sure what was the probability of that. Good !
Bro 'Consanguineous' word is pretty fancy......In context of animal husbandry closely related animals are not mated because it might lead to inbreeding depression..... Many Hindu practices have science hidden behind it....
@@shivangmishra9325 true. Sadly the scientific part is getting lost rapidly and just the terms are getting behind, which makes ppl think it's just an old tradition
@@profezagaming9158 lol gotra can never stop u from inter caste marriage cause two different caste have different gotra and u can marry in different gotra but not itn ur own gotra.
Well it doesn't make me feel anything. If it didn't lead to birth defects then i wouldn't bat an eye if someone were to marry their own sister even. I could never do it but why do I care what anybody else does in their life? But since it's a major health risk I'll definitely be against it no matter what.
If two cousins agreed to marry as an Adult...then they can. Why not?? The Love between them would be Awesome 😍😍 I know exceptions exists but mostly it would be Super awesome
@@rajeevjuneja5584 Good it doesn't make you feel anything. I think both of us can exist under the same sky 😇 and many more individuals, with vary many opinions. All are welcome to express, to not express, to feel, to not feel. To each his own.
As a north Indian hindu : we avoid three surnames or gotra ,i.e, Own surname, mother surname and grandmother surname...we also avoid maternal grandmother surname but now a days we just consider 3 surnames mostly....even villages who share boundaries also get avoided to marriage Note: please avoid my English 😅
South indian hindus also avoid who have same gotras and same surnames....... Families having same gotras cannot be cousins ......... Mere relatives ke relatives mai same gotra&surname same tha marriage mai usi marriage ke vajah se ek bandhe ka jaan chala gaya & bahut logo serious the because car road divider ko tok dhiya
I'm from bihar. studied at one of south college. although I was shocked to hear that they can marry their cousins, but no more shocked. I talked my friends, and the case is like - if you're a boy - you can marry your father's sister's daughter OR mother's brother's daughter. Similarly for Girls. Fun fact is: in bihar, one of village, my brahmin friend is there, and he said they cant marry any girls of that community from that village for they all are like sisters.
I m from Kerala , in our State nowadays this type of marriages are very rare .In my family from past three generations as per my knowledge we haven't followed this practice.
@@ElonMusk-tb2yi ya i agree but see the percentage of marriages in starting of the video which Mohak sir has given them you can find the difference. In telangana it's 23.4 % whereas in Kerala it's 3.7% , tamilnadu -25.5%.
@@dreamcatcher6693 Agreed Cousin marriage rate is low in Kerala. Me to bolta hu puri World ka Marriage Rate 0 ho jaye Pehele se hi 7 Billion bhare pade hai aur nhi chahiye
@@IdealEdittt You North fellows are Aryans. We are South Dravidians. You keep your practice to yourself. You don't decide what is correct and what is wrong.
I am a Tamil. I love my Mother's Eleder Brother's daughter and i am planing to marry her. Don't spread rumours. Why south India is more educated than North Indian if uneducation is the cause? May be in north people don't marriage cousins because they marry their sister in laws call "Bhabhi". Thats what happened in Mahabharat Draupathi married to pandavas!
@@ajju1531 Average South Indian Hindu married his cousin. Thus, in this example from Hindu mythology, two generations of the same family - Arjuna and Subhadra, Abhimanyu and Sasirekha all married their cousins. In the epic Ramayana, the Hindu god Rama was married to Sita. The Hindu god Krishna married his cousin named Bhadra (Source: Bhagavata Purana 10.58.56) Krishna also abducted and married his cousin Mitravinda (Source: Bhagavata Purana 10.58.31). Arjuna and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mother Kunti and Subhadra's father Vasudeva were biological siblings (brother-sister). Cousin marriages were common during the Mahabharata period. Hindus read your Own Scriptures
Term "inbreeding depression" is often used for the reduced biological and reproductive health of a person who is born of cousin marriage. It is very important to marry out of family as it's necessary for gene variation(evolution).
Yes thats what most people don't understand. I've seen fools telling me how a person was born out of cousin marriage and doesn't have any disease. Well duh! That's because he's probably a 1st generation child. There won't be any inbreeding problems in the 1st to 3rd generations but inbreeding depression will keep accumulating until it actually shows up as a genetic disease in the 4th or 5th generation. That's why we Bengalis compared atleast 3 generations of gotra and at max 5. Some Hindi belt people compare upto 8 generations but that is a little too excessive in my opinion. Upto 4-5 generations is the optimum amount. Neither too much nor too less. For example my own parents compared their gotras of upto 4 generations only. Not beyond that. I'm of the same opinion as them and if I ever were to get married I would compare 4 generations of gotra too. I myself am of Shandilya gotra
We can say that consanguineous marriages are common in Andhra Pradesh and Telangana, based on the fact that the same term is used for a niece and a daughter-in-law... (Kodalu)
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Exactly! But parallel cousins marriages are almost non existent since we call them annna/tammudu/akka/chilli i.e brother/sister, we treat parallel cousins just like siblings
My cousin wanted to marry her cousin from her mother's side and a friend of mine married her cousin. Believe me, there were talks. Thankfully, my maternal grandfather was against cousin marriages. Everybody forgets about complications while discussing marriages between cousins even educated folks🤷🏽♀️
marriage is ok. It's just that having kids is risky. What if they can get married, have a good, meaningful life together, have intercourse, but don't reproduce.... Adopt a child instead.
@@rosieroti4063 my friend has a kid.. thankfully he's alright.. They just forget about complications.. when I told my cousin about it.. she was pointing out the cases where it didn't result in bad situation..
@@rosieroti4063 Actually it's risky when your family is carrying a defective gene pool, If your family is healthy without any genetic diseases then it's fine. The risk of adding defective genes to your family pool is also more when you get marry outside of your gene pool with someone's new gene pool. It's simple...mathematics not some sort of sorcery...
Hi! You've discussed about Gotra system . As you said in North India, Same Gotra people won't get married 8:38 . The same goes with South India too. I don't know about kerala n TN but in AP, Karnataka and Telangana, people with same Gotra are not allowed to get married.
Here in Maharashtra the most common cousin marriage is with Mama ki beti/ Bua ka beta. I have seen some cases in my relatives and family friends where the child born from such marriage is mentally weak. It is very very rare for me to find any defective child born in a non-cousin marriage
Even in Telugu states, cross cousin marriages do happen, but not compulsory. But the compulsory thing is that we shouldn't marry within same gotra. Gotra system is strictly followed here. Cross cousins will anyhow not share same gotra unlike Parallel cousins. Here, Mami/Buaa/Saas is called Atta. And Mama/Phupha/Sasur is called Mama. But, Mausi/Badimaa/Chachi is equivalent to Mother and Mausa/Badepapa/Chacha is equivalent to Father.
In the South, people consider atthai(mami)/mama's daughter/son consider for marriage.. not chitthi/chittappa(maasi/kaka) 's daughter/son, they are brothers n sisters
bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
In North,(Jharkhand) Marrying any of the relative, even a far relative is considered as a sin or even crime especially in hindus. Relatives will treat you in a very disrespectful way. This is the culture here from 1000 years. Even muslims are following this culture partially. 👍🏼
My parents are first cousins. Because of this, my brother was born with poor eyesight and asthma. It’s wrong to marry your cousin. It leads to many disorders.
Hey a quick question, purely out of curiosity. Does ur brother brother have any trait that is unusually good? Like a trait that u might share with him, but his version of it is way better? Again, and seriously, purely out of curiosity.
I remember watching a Marathi TV show called 'Home Minister' as a kid. In the show, the host travels across Maharashtra and talks to married couples about their love story and all. Many times the the couple were first cousins, as in the husband was the wife's atte bhau (Bua ka beta in marathi). They also talked about how they liked each other since their teenage, basically they romanticized cousin marriages a lot. I found it really weird. Also, in Marathi serials I've seen some married women calling their mother-in-law as aatya (bua). Maybe I'm watching too much of Zee Marathi with my aaji.
Now days every one is doctor??🧐 Culture is main important thing to practice such a thing..if i stay in latur Maharashtra..will i understand culture, rituals of Western Maharashtra.. even language ,tone also not same..yes there are many happy married couple ..but yeah it could be change
@@_prash families promote karti hai ye sab, meri kuch friends hai, un mein se 2-3 hai jinke ghar mein aisi shaadi ho chuki hai. Humare yaha toh cross ke crisis cross cousin se koi bhaag ke shaadi kare toh bhi badnaam hote hai log 😂
@@maheshpatil-he8ny lol, there are detailed studies about the dreadful consequences of cousin marriage, especially based in Pakistan. Having read those, it’s absolutely true that genetic deformities are more likely in such cases. It’s a fact, not an opinion. One needs to be sociologist to understand this, not doctor. We all are from same culture, it’s better to improve one generation at a time.
As a north indian from Bihar, yes! We have Gotra system . Even people who were moved to Mauritius, Trinidad and Tobago, Suriname and Java by Britishers. They used their first name in next generation surname so cousin marriage can prevent.
even in south same gothra people dont marry, yeh angrez key cousin cousin is same like autny word, father key sister aur mother key sister ek nahi hey na? same parallel cousins and cross cousins are different, cross cousins ko same gotra nahi hotha same gothra valey kahi shadi nahi karthey south mey bhi
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I am from AP, we do have & follow gotra system as well. Marriage between parllel cousins or first cousins is NO here mostly. Don't know about rest of South India. Marriage between uncle and niece used to happen few years ago, but it has gone down a lot, i mean so much down ( some exception cases if age gap between bride & groom is low ,5 - 7 yrs max ). Marriages between second cousins & cross cousins is still happening. People now a days are exposed & having a lot of awareness, hopefully it dies down.
I agree. Mohak's topic is good but there are some mistaken conclusions due to poor or insufficient research. Mohak needs to study the more in depth statistics to understand this intricate topic. I wish to give some points: (1) Consanguine marriages are not modern in India, it has dwapara yug examples also. Most recently evidence was found that all India is one gene, north/south or aryan/dravidian divide is politically motivated from British era to divide and rule. (2) Gotras concept is very much there in southern states also; hence to conclude anything through the difference of numbers between northern states and southern states (I doubt whether those numbers are correct!) is superficial. You could of course say that 50% is sa-gotra in first cousin marriage and it reduces to the second and tertiary levels. However, to prove that people of northern states have been conscious to avoid sa-gotra marriage, there is a need to delve into the statistics of second cousin and second uncle/niece marriages.
I stay in Bangalore and have seen many such examples. When I first came to know that my friend's parents are actually cousins, I was like what!!!! 😱 Then gradually it became normal to me... It was interesting to know about it.
I'm from Kerala. Cousin marriages are almost non existent to the point I've never even heard of one happening. The first time i heard about this being in practise in the South was when some guy on the internet called me a cousin lover in an attempt to ridicule me.😂
It's not non existent in Kerala bro ..Malayalam movies normalised cousin marriage untill 2000, I think such storyline became not much seen in movie when it became less popular .I know 2 couples who are cousin,they fell in love with each other . I think they knew that in olden days cousin marriage was a thing,so they might be see the potential to fall in love ..In mum's generation other reason of cousin marriage is financial...if the girl is poor or lower middle class who is also unemployed ,her family were expected to give dowry,if her cousin agree to married her, it avoid family to go through such situations.. now people know that marriage is not a mandatory thing in our life .And every one starts give importance to their life rather than obeying parents will even if they are wrong and today's parents also not interested in cousin marriage since they don't get along with relatives thank god😂😂..but ofcourse it not completely faded in Kerala .but numbers are much better than other South Indian states .
You only call your cousins as Brother and sister in Indo-Aryan languages (North Indian), Dravidian languages follow a whole different kinship system where parallel cousins are referred to as brother and sister but cross cousins have special words. Also the our words of Cross-Aunt/Uncle are the same as the words for In-Laws, for example both your mother's brother and your husband's/wife's father is called mama in Telugu. Same for words for your wife's/husband's siblings and your Cross-Cousins. Coming to the weird feeling thing, it is weird to you cause you grew up calling your cousins the same word and your siblings and considered them your siblings, in the same way we are always reminded (from childhood) that our cross cousins can be our potential spouses and also our media also shows a lot of romantic stuff between Cross-Cousins so it's kinda normal for us. If you go ask a Telugu or a Tamil person what they think on marrying their parallel cousins, they'd act the same way you are acting, disgusted even by the thought of it, as we grew up with a feeling that they are our siblings and using the same words we use for our own siblings with them, infact even parallel aunt and uncles are referred with the same word as our parents but with a prefix like big and small, for example parallel uncle who is elder than your father is called pedda-nanna/bapu (big-father) and parallel uncle who is younger than your father is called chinna-nanna/bapu,Babai (small-father)
Also in muslims you can't keep on marrying cousins successively, for eg. If your parents are cousins then you can't marry your cousin as this will lead to diseases in your children.
@@IronMan-nu3rb Indians (Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Nepali & Srilankan) don't have any choice due to Arrange Marriage culture because their parents & relative bear the responsibility of their marriage!!! 😒😒😒
Finnally someone took initiative to talk on such topic . Basically i m from Rajasthan but my school staff was from Kerala and my principle and his wife are actually cousins from maternal side and it was so shocking for us .But unexpectedly they were so cool about it since it's happening from ages .
People are so damn closed in mind . Kerala practices matrilineal lineage , so child from other mother( not in the birth line or family of mother ) is another family altogether for them . North India practices Gotra system , that does not mean every one should practice the same . Get over your superiority complex for moral high grounds 😂
Cousin merriage me koi bhi problem nahi hoti ,,,me to chahta hun ki north india me bhi cousin merriage ho ,,,kyoki sabko pata hai ki ,,almost sare ladke ladko ka apne cousin par crush hota hai kahi n kahi ,,uper se to bahan bol dete hai lekin dik chahta hai ki wo uski lover ho ya husband wife ho ,,,,sacchayi to yahi hai ,,lekin 3 gotr taalne ki vajah se ye sambhav nahi hai ,,to Dil ki baat dil me rah jaati hai ,,isiliye wo hamesa Muslim or SI ko nicha dikhane ki kosis karte rahte hai ।
My sister got married into a family where all marriages were within relation in one way or the other way. She was the first bride from outside their family. She said it was very difficult to keep track of who is related to whom in which way because there were always two relationships involved. Even some one from my maternal side asked for my sister's marriage alliance. My father was dead against it. This practice needs to be systematically stopped and scientific evidence supports it.
Inbreeding for so many generation can lead to mental retardation or anyother genetic disorder, is everyone okay in her family? They should abolish this practice ASAP.
@@helper5846 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@roshanyad0997 Bruh! What are you talking about. This phenomena is called "Inbreeding depression" in which recessive defective Gene express due to long generational "inbreeding" and it also happen in farm animals and plants, we can correct this phenomena for coming generation by "Outcross/Outbreeding" means marrying with unrelated individual Also for your information I know genetic disorder can't be treated. But there are Gene therapy during embryonic stage which can help in some cases but not all.
I think it would have been better if you take the example of other south Indian states instead of Kerala where the percentage is very low or equal to many North Indian states. Nowadays even many malayalam movie are also against this...
I’m glad someone spoke about this… But Kerala wasn’t a good example as it has the lowest rates of cousins marriages compared to other southern states… Also marumakathayam was abolished in 1975!
@@SatyamSingh-jp3vc so "huge" is a word to be used for one or two points difference in percentage ryt 🥴. Taking the average of all north Indian states' % even excluding jk would probably have higher rate than Kerala's
Marikmakkattayam was mainly practiced by certain communities because of their arrangements ,especially in north kerala , in south kerala only certain communities followed..now in south region it is fully vanished.
Kerala has come out of this old custom to a large extend. Compared to other 4 four THE percentage of cousin marraiges are very low, though every other film of 70 and 80s where following the trend
In Tollywood, I've seen a lot of romanticizing of relationships between cousins, to the point of calling a guy "baava" (it means cousin) is considered romantic. In fact, there's a movie where the main male lead starts falling in love with the female lead after she calls him "baava". Honestly, I always found that weird, and thanked my stars that my parents showed zero interest in marrying me to any of my relatives. I'm really glad there's a video about this.
I am a Bengali Hindu and in our Bengali Hindu society no one can think of marriage between such brothers and sisters, I have been thinking for so long that it is only among Muslims. Cousins are like your sister, so treat them like your own sister
Not even near as common in North. No way in my culture we don't even marry with same surname, and gotra and checking if we are also from same village if we are, then no
Yes it's true cousin marriages exist a lot in south India..in my state Kerala it's decreasing but Tamil Nadu and Karnataka has a lot of such marriages..the surprising thing is my family doesn't consider it wierd at all .. my parents were telling stories how their first prospective bride and groom choices were their maternal cousins ... however eventually they didn't go with cousin marriage
I got tp know about it when I met a lot of South Indians. It felt so wierd that out customs could be similar but sometimes soo opposite. In Rajasthan, you can't even think about it, it is basically considered as incest. A lot of measure is taken so both are not from same Gotra, in fact it could be a hurdle in love marriage, that both have same gotra or common ancestry. I am an only child, so my cousins who live closeby are literally the siblings I never had!!😅
@@geisha-12bro We also follow gotra system nd this thing was done by Bhagwan Shri Krishna married Adjacent cousin Also Evn Arjun Subadhra Gotras are Different
I am bio student , I know from very early that cousin marriage is worst effect than anyone can think in all prospect for long time . You give examples of consciousness of cousin marriage is just tip of iceberg .
look at your profile name You people firstly need don't making fun of other relegions God Now tell me what's the people you are And if you are from other relegion or not from any relegion so how you talk about others God Are You believe If you don't beleive so why say anything on this and hurt others Firstly You need to respect relegions
@SriramSriram-eo2jc minimal age is a buzzword 😂😂 I know age gap of 15 years and 18 Years his first son is 10 STd that guy retired from Indian railways (15 year guy) they didn't ask the opinion of that girl bcoz he's a govt employee 🥲
I am a south indian from karnataka , yes cousin marraiges do happen here , only if gotra's are not same , when female gets married her gotra will now be of her husband's hence only cross cousins are married , not parallel cousins, parallel cousins are like brothers and sisters, i never saw or heard of defected child born to cousins
I'm an odia belongs to southern part of odisha where my mother and father were cousins. My mother was my father uncle's daughter. I totally agree with mohak's point of view.
Odisha me LITTERALY bhot loog abhi bhi ye karane kaa sochte rehte hai mai Chattisgarh se huu apne nani ke yaha jaata huu too waha aurat loog apni maama ki beti se shaadi karega naa puchte rehte hai 🤢🤢
Such marriage is very rare in Odisha but regions bordering Andhra like Paralakhemundi and Gunpur have some tolerance to this custom as they have absorbed many Telenga practices over the years.
9:10 I am from Haryana. Among our Gaud Brahmins, marriage cannot take place in same Gotra, Shasana, Pravara, village and Gohand (villages around the village).
@@zucc2802 obviously there will be no international boundary there because it's not a political map it's a physical map moreover there is also no international boundary between Pakistan and india also no boundary between nepal and india what'll you say then? Mangal's video are so powerful ki Akhand Bharat hi ban gaya?🚩
At 7:00, Parallel Cousins are considered as Siblings, whereas Cross Cousins are not considered Siblings. This applies to all Dravidians. Also one can't marry if Gothra (Lineage) is the Same as the other counterpart.
Well u are right we do follow gotra system . Gotras will be same if someone gets married to father's brothers daughter she is basically sibling. if someone marries father's sister son then he would have a different gotra na.
Wow great topic Mohak! This was very much under the cover thats needed to come up. Also in north India we do not marry in same village because mostly villages have a single ancestor background and all are relatives in a village.
I am a South Indian and this practice was always discouraged as our family was educated and also many of them had settled in North for generations ,so no evidence of cousin marriages in our family.
Despite the moral issues, marrying your cousin isn't fun at all since you're missing the chance to connect with an entirely different family line which is kinda adventurous and diverse and morally correct obviously.
When I was in karnataka.. In my OBG postings at medical college. While history taking of patients I got to know that in Village areas consanguinous marriage is very common.
It doesn't happen how u people think. This utube guy is such a dumb he misunderstood our marriages.gotra plays vital role here. A boy, girl of same gotra is not allowed to marry here. when ur sister got married her gotra will change then ur children are allowed to marry her's children .But ur and urs brother children are brothers and sisters as they both carry same gotra.
Which college have u done your mbbs from ? Even I'm from Karanataka and have done mbbs from here . And about clinical history yeah we used to ask about consanguinous marriage specially for thalassemia case .
I was having this discussion w some of my friends today itself. Undeniably, the mention of muslims* (*apparently*/ as per popular belief, NO OFFENCE to anyone as such-- just a manifestation of "kahi-suni" around us; I don't have enough data to have this substantiated so let's drop it here ) tying the knot with their second, and even first cousins, came up. Personally speaking, this video has come as a shocker in more ways than one. Nor does it push one to question the "literacy" comes with "progress" dichotomy (The latter being associated usually with the doing away of traditions and norms)-- but also makes one rethink the prejudices we've built our perception of social relations on, one of which is given in the first half of my comment. Great job bringing this to light, Mohak sir. Will read up on this for better understanding now!!
In a study I came across, young Indians across India were against inter religion and intercaste marriage overwhelmingly. People care about caste of candidate a LOT even in urban areas. We should definitely redefine social progress.
Yup, it's actually true that marriages between cousins are allowed in our religion. My parents are first cousins, it was very common back then but now it's not.
@@mohammadansar2783 it's allowed in the time of Adam... not today lol bcz there was the time when world population was less that's not mean you have to apply this theory in this modern time and it's scientifically unhealthy....and why your parents done this?? You peoples are the real mocker of Islam....
@@mohammadansar2783 and Islam never force to marry cousins lol... what your parents did, it could be their own choice or own fault don't bring Islam into it
I'm glad that it's declining because most of the times the children of these first cousin couples are born with either mental issues or physical issues. I'm a South Indian who is living in Raipur, Chhattisgarh and I have personally seen a case of one of my family friend who actually married his first cousin and their son was born with severe kidney issues, unfortunately the little guy died within 6 months.
@@arvindshastry1178 your statement most of the time is absolutely wrong... Very rare case in cousin marriages there are abnormalities... Is kidney disease a genetic disorder...pls find the reason.... Haemophilia, diabetes are genetic disorder...
@@arvindshastry1178 it is no doubt but not necessarily due to genetic( cousin marriage) it could also be due to medications during pregnancy. That was my point.
My half-cousin married his cousin. There was no romantic involvement but the girl was orphaned and from an extremely poor family. So the elders decided to get her married to her cousin so that she finds financial and social stability. As you said, cousin-cousin marriages are allowed in Islam and widely practiced in the middle-east,yet it is considered quite makruh (disliked) by some branches of Islam and even Ali(ra) is known to have said that if you want unintelligent children you should marry cousins and even disapproved of cousin-cousin marriages after the prophet's death. Also I have seen many scholars say that while it is allowed, it is not preferred. But due to mostly the keeping the wealth in the family it is widely practiced within the community. P.S : I just remembered my aunt had also married her cousin. But it was very long ago. My father says that it was to strengthen family ties that had been strained due to some land dispute. My mother also told me yesterday that she was asked to marry Basharat Uncle, her cousin. But they noth refused because it was so weird. It mostly happens in very poor or very rich families. Because they either can't afford to marry their daughters or they want to preserve the family wealth. But it does sound weird. I saw a video of mufti Menk once where he said that it is better to marry as outside the family as possible to establish new relationships. As I was searching the net, I also came across this hadith that says choose a wife from a different tribe, choose a wife from your son from another different tribe and for his son from a third tribe. I don't know how authentic this is but these are my two cents on the matter. Besides from a biological perspective these marriages should be avoided as much as possible. Edit : It was not Ali, but Imam Shafi, the founder of the Shafi madhab. I am very sorry for the mistake.
Do you have any source for that saying of Maula Ali? He himself married daughter of prophet . And even in his grand children there were cousin marriages.
Shree Krishna himself married his cross cousin!! It was part of Indian culture in ancient days! But during the rule of foreigners things changed in North
Fun fact is that north india was ruled but muslims but also they do not follow this type of cousin marriage even in north east people also do not follow this type of cousin marriage but sad fact is that south india follow these type of marriage .
it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share bloodand genetic connection with them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood genetic connection with them
@@RajathHathwar I am not saying this is right but same way we have understand it was done in the past even in North! Even among Lord Krishna & Buddha’s period
Two points as a Telugu 1. Marriage between individuals of two different "gothras" is accepted. If your sister is married off to a man from a different gotra her offspring gets the gotra of her husband and not that of her father. But a brothers offspring still carry your gotra so such offspring become brother or sister to your offspring and so cannot be married. 2. People in south also realized with experience that even though they are technically two different gotras it was still too close and leads to genetic issues and most discourage it.
I'm from north India but the concept of gotra in my family is that one can't marry in four gotras... Mother's, maternal grandmother's, grandmother's and their own gotra... People from all of the above gotras will be considered siblings and relatives
I'm a Telugu girl & we also have Gotra system in south india. Cross cousin marriages are quite common even in Telangana & Andhra Pradesh. We can marry our Mama's or Aunt's son or daughter both from maternal n paternal side & also our Mama(Mom's own bro). In both the cases the gotras of the families are different. This practice is called 'Menarikam' in Telugu which is considered the best alliance n no need to match the horoscopes. The probability that this kind of marriages lead to children with diseases is very low. There are cross cousin marriages in almost every Telugu family even today. This can be seen even in our Hindu Epics where Lord Krishna married his Mama's daughter Neella Devi. But all of this should be done only if the girl n guy are interested to get married to each other.
@@xenzorygames4116 plz get the concept right. Marrying first cousins can be genetically damaging. Second cousins and others are not same as first cousins.
@@xenzorygames4116 by your logic even brothers should marry their own sisters, if being blood related doesn't matter. I mean cmon, get real, you don't need to go "saat samundar paar" (across the seven seas) for ensuring a diverse gene pool. The match should simply be (biologically) distant enough to prevent genetic abnormalities effectively. Don't marry your family members, or else your baraat won't play dhol or shehnai it'll play Sweet Home Alabama.
Every Muslim community is not the same...Thinking about marrying cousins in our Local Assamese muslim culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters...
Kerala hindus used to marry cousins. The boy can call his cousin girl 'murapennu'. That is, she is the one he should marry. In old malayalam movies you can see these type of marriages or the boy running away from this marriage & marrying the girl he like😂. Also in our village there is a family where one man married two siblings. This happened years ago. He is now too old. They do this to keep wealth & properties within the family. Now it has changed. Cousin marriages are rare here.
my mom is a north indian- bengali to be exact and when she was pregnant with me she was shocked to see babies with upturned and backward feets like literal ghosts in the hospital where she was having checkups. Finally a nurse explained that this was due to cousin and uncle-niece marriages and said it was very common. The nurse also asked my mother whether she was carrying the child of her relative. Thankfully my father was not related to my mother in any way. My mother still recalls this saying that she's grateful that I was not born with such defects. Edit: The comment section is blowing up that my mother is not a North Indian. I get it more than anyone- because take a hint- I'm half bengali, I have common sense, education and I travel there a lot for Durga puja, Kali puja, holi, Christmas- you name it. I am just referencing to people back in Tamilnadu who call her north indian just like how all people above Andra Pradesh, Telenga and Karnataka call them south indians regardless of their state. Just like you guys think all south Indians are same and have the same language and culture it's no surprise that people from TamilNadu (I don't know about other states thinking) think that all north Indians are same, everyone speaks Hindi, and blast off loud ear tearing songs on weddings without any reason, the stereotypes are endless. And again I was actually trying to say something here and spread awareness on an important matter instead of discussing this. North, South, East, West, Northeastern whatever part of India you are still Indian so please don't segregate yourself from other people based on directions. Instead try to learn cultures of other states and respect them instead of making it an insult. I am always proud to introduce myself as a proud Indian (Bharatiya) first and so is my mother.
@@ashwinpawar5325 Do you think I don't know? I am just referencing to people back in tamilnadu who call her north indian just like how all people above Andra Pradesh, Telenga and Karnataka call them south indians regardless of their state :)
She’s east indian. “North” ends with haryana also even Uttar Pradesh IS NOT part of it. Uttar Pradesh is part of central region of India. The name uttar pradesh doesnt mean shit, this name was chosen because they only wanted a name which started with U and P. Reason for that was Britishers named it as United Provinces.
Thinking about marrying cousins in our Assamese culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters..
Absolutely right I'm also from assam
Same ...in North India also
Same here in Manipur
That's why 0.9 % in Assam. 0:10
Galat kar rhae aap bhi start kijiye cousin marriage prosperity ayegi
Mohak chooses less controversial issues and chooses more issues which we really need to know deeply that's why I like Mohak's channel. Thank you very much for bringing such videos continuously.
@Grease Pencil seems to me so
Muslims majorly marry their cousins..
Sahi bola bhai main bhi
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Idk Incest seems pretty controversial
I am from West Bengal and here in Hindu family a brother or uncle is regarded as a' second father' and girls respect them as well and men also take care of them 😊 to think about marrying them is nothing but a nightmare and it's also ruined the beautiful relationship among cousins. We celebrate Bhai duj ( Bhai fonta ) , Rakhsabandhan with love and respect with all cousins.
Haa vai thik...amio WB thekei
What about Satyajit Ray, he also married his first cousin.
@@Subhadwip-gq6vo If you have read about Ray's life , you would also learnt that his whole family members were against this marriage and Mrs Ray was also afraid of this awkward relationship but they were in love and were successful to convenience their families.....after all we could found exception in everywhere but that doesn't mean we support or accept the culture just because a famous personalities accept it ( I am a big fan of his film and literature but when I came to know about his marriage it was really weird feelings for me )
@@juinghosh1106 absolutely true. I am also against cousin marriage.
@Juin Ghosh U r absolutely right ..Very well said👍
In Telugu states your father's brother's daughter is SISTER to you..but you can marry your father's sister's daughter...same for mother. Your mother's sister's daughter is SISTER to you but you can marry your mother's brother's daughter
In short, you can marry your parent's opposite gender sibling's daughter/son
Same here in Tamilnadu
Same here in Karnataka
you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
@purpleyou4056 you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
@@purpleyou4056 bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
I'm a child born from a Consanguine marriage. My family in Kerala actually don't appreciate such a marriage, but in my case, parents fell in love with each other. I never knew much about the negative aspects of Consanguine marriages, so few years back I had fallen in love with my cousin as well, and we were in a relationship for almost a year. That is when I learnt about this and shared the information with her as well. I realised how lucky I was to be born without any abnormalities, and we mutually got out of the relationship.
We were in love when we broke up. But we did it, only to avoid the risk of spoiling a child's life and also for a happier future.
More people in South India should be educated about the problems of Consanguine marriages.
There is always a option of adopting a child... That way one can spend the rest of the life with their loved ones. There is a saying, "Love knows no bounds.".
How many fingers do you have?
@@feelgoodspace I have 10 fingers and 10 toes 😅
Just Lucky to have No issues with anything
Risk of birth defects in consanguineous marriages is overrated. Risk is even lesser in communities that have practiced consanguinity for thousands of years and have inherited stronger genes over the years, not weaker genes. Don't take my word for it. Look up research. Not the one done on people from typically non consanguineous society, but are born out of consanguineous relationship. Look for research done on rate of birth defects in consanguineous society and you will know
@@vaishaksuresh8555 😱😱😨Normal humans have only 8 fingers and rest two are thumbs 😁bro send me photo of your hands
South indian movies kinda glorify cousin marriage, awareness is indeed important. Thank you for emphasizing.
@Manoj i am aware of that. I just find it so interesting to know differences in people of same religion but different places. India is indeed a cosmic cuious. And i am proud of that.
@Manoj Its bcoz Pakistan is a Muslim country
@@jyou6202
Your benchmark is western p o r n ?
@@jyou6202 they dont promote incest... it's produced because it's a taboo. What logic bro
@@jyou6202 koi award do is bande ko.....kya comment hei wa wa
A fun fact : Arjun and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mom and Subhadra's dad were siblings.
In South India the cousin you can marry has to be between bua and mama 's kids.
However, the numbers have greatly reduced due to biological defects such marriages can cause.
And in maharashtra it's common to marry bua's son 🍂
Arjuna's mom Kunti was the adopted daughter of King Kuntibhoj. So Kunti never shared a blood relation with vasudev.
@@utsavjha7673 Kunti was the daughter of Shurasena who was the cousin of Kuntibhoj (her adopted father) , so there is blood relation.
This is also common in gujrat in ahir community yadav of gujrat can marry to bua or mama son or daughter . But not with cousins like father brother son or daughter or mother sister son or daughter. They have been called brother and sister but mama and bua son or daughter not called brother or sister the marriage can be done if family and girl and boy are ok
South people also only marry in father's sister son or mother brother son not marry mom sister son or daughter and father brother son or daughter and it's most common 80s and 90s people but now a days people not interested to marry in close relative like mom's brother son or daughter like that because one is genetic issue and another thing now a days children's are mold to dislike relative marriage .
I watched a documentary on this topic years ago... People don't usually talk about this, and most are unaware of the biological side of the story... I'm glad you are bringing light to this topic and educating people about this... Kudos to you !
Which documentary plzz tell
Is it available on RUclips
Is it the british one?
Yes plzz send a link
Documentary yeh united kingdom ki hai.. Yt p check kro mil jayegi genetic disease se related
*SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Care to share the details of the document please
Though its very common in Muslim culture, my grandfather was dead against cousin marriage mainly because of possibility of biological disorder also it was weird for him that the kids who grew up considering each other as brothers and sisters should see each other as potential spouses.
@@FraizCZENnever heard about it. And it is not common among hindus to marry their cousins.
@@praroc143 haha he's misleading you bro.. theirs no such story about Shri Krishna. And it's not so common in hindu caulture.
@@FraizCZENbut actually Krishnaji didn't marry any cousin, i am a Hindu person myself. Infact, Radhaji married one of the cousins of Krishnaji.
@@FraizCZEN bruh where did you do heard it? (・・;)
@@FraizCZEN : Seriously?
Lord Krishna married Rukmini, a princess on another kingdom. Get your facts right first.
I'm from Andhra Pradesh and I've personally experienced this issue. My paternal aunt considered me as a 'perfect bride' for her son and even my cousin was perfectly fine with the idea of marrying me (I'm seven years younger than him). They even proposed the match to my father. I was horrified because I always called my cousin 'elder brother' and to learn that he did have a romantic interest in me, when all while I considered him a sibling, sickened me to the core. My father rejected it without second thoughts as he was against cousin marriages having learnt in his late twenties about 'incest' and the resulting genetic problems in the later generations. Yay to father!
My aunt was upset when my father rejected her and she even had the gall to say to my father "If you marry her into our household we'll take care of her. Since I'm her aunt, you can rest the fear that she might suffer under her in-laws. Also, the dowry will remain in our family without going to nameless outsiders." My father simply said "Bold of you to assume that I'll be offering any form of dowry," and the argument quickly escalated and the relations naturally strained after that. Even today my father and aunt barely spare a polite greeting at family gatherings. And me being awkward, I just turn opposite whenever I spot my aunt or cousin.
I was the lucky case but my classmate from University was married to her cousin right after graduation. Cousin marriages are a common occurance in South India and regarded as normal and 'part of the tradition.' I'm glad that this issue is being spoken of.
Edit: Incest is a common issue across religions and the people who practice this 'tradition' aren't even aware that cousin marriages come under incest. You see not all cousins can marry. I'm a Hindu and I can marry my paternal aunt's son and also marry my maternal uncle's son--these fellas are not technically adressed as brothers, they have a separate form of address so as to prevent any awkwardness later on if I marry them ( though my dad instructed me to call them as brothers from early age)but I cannot marry my maternal aunt's son or my paternal uncles's son(they are considered as brothers). I don't know if it's true but my mother said that the opposite applies for muslims. So, it's like everyone have their own rules for acceptable incest.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
There was an uncle in my colony who was from Hyderabad he told me about this, at first I couldn’t believe him coz I thought this only happens in Muslim community. Glad that your father rejected the proposal. I think there should be some sort of campaign against such practices.
Your father seems like a smart dude
That is awfully awkward 🤣🤣
The thaught it self make me want to puke😖😵
I am from south India, and I have so many relatives who have done cousin marriage..
Bro don't do it
It's not good for your genetic health
I am from South India too and I have no relative who has married his/her cousin.
God forbid but do any of their children have genetic disorders?
Good for them.Dont listen to these people
@@manavsingh5501 Almost all my relatives have married their first or second cousins.And none of them have any kind of disorder.
I belong to a tribe in Assam. In my tribe, there are lots of restrictions regarding marriage. You cannot marry if both the bride and spouse have same title( even though they are not related in any sort), and many more complicated rules, cousins are treated as brothers and sisters. It's incredible that our ancestors have adopted those rules to prevent biological disorders of the offerings from the ancient times when there were no education system at all. Because of this practice we hardly see any physical abnormalties in our tribe.
Same in Rajputs
Moja brother
Title se kya mtlb haii ,bekar hai ye sbb
You Know The Oraon Tribe(OBC)😂..
We are also Dravidian Tribe 😂..
We also can't marry to our Relatives 😊🤣
In jaats of haryana this is performed we can't marry same nickname person like if they are from same kind of Background
I'm from andhra and yes it happens with limitations, the daughters and sons of same sexes are seen as sisters and brothers while opposite sexes are seen as potential marriage partners, I never understood the logic behind it and left it thinking it's just part of the culture.
Em bro ,andullo em artham kale
Asal em cheppal anukuntunavo sakkaga chepu
Bro annakodu kani islam and south indian marriages ni kalpesi he made people confused
Well cross cousin will obviously have different gotras and he created a pov as we don't follow hindu tradition
Because as ramdev baba said same gotra people shouldn't marry but obviously cross cousins have different gotras and the genetic thing is actually true so that is the only reason we should give less preference
@HR323 why ?
@@aryanb9233 bro anakudadhu gani English bhasha telugu bhasha kalipesi comment pettav Naku nuvvu cheppindhi em artham kale , complete hindi kaani complete Telugu lo kani cheppu bro complete hindi lo aanna cheppu
In Manipur we never thought of such things just even in once lifetime,It's a sin in our culture to marry someone to whom we share our direct blood line, like cousins from uncle ,aunts etc
Same
Its a sin in my own principles and morals.
@@anuragchowdhury4101 even feels I ve done something wrong just thinking of it
@@aj186 that's y I sometimes hates southern movie so Much even if it be very popular, if such themes are content I cnt even watch the movie
Same here in uttarakhand through I live in delhi
Being a Jain in our culture we have something called "Saka" which means we are restricted to not marrying the ones who share the surname of both my mother's side and father's side family. Its believed that this practice avoids pre-mature baby deaths, diseases, genetic problems, and various health issues to an extent.
Like gotra system in N. Indian hindus
Yeah in my people(Haryanvi) .we leave gotra one from mother side then father side then grandmother (dadi) side and last one from grandmother (nani) side .so you can't marry if girl has gotra maching anyone of them. Then the village exogamy is practiced . 😀😀
@@Chairman_LmaoZedong gotra is present among south indians also.
But mostly jains have " jain" surname, isnt it?
@@kunalraturi8260 ya 🤣
0:52 In Maharashtra also ( Not in all regions of Maharashtra) Marrying your mama ki ladki is normal. And some people don't appreciate this including me.. relative starts teasing boy with his mama chi mulgi from childhood . This is very normalise in my region. But things are changing now
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I'm a kerala Christian. We consider cousins as our siblings. While studying in Chennai i had a classmate whose parents were uncle and niece. Though their marriage was happy, my classmate said she will never marry her relative. I think in current generation nobody wants to marry relatives.
who told you . Current generation also have this practice
@Motivationalquotesmalayalam now a days it's very common ❤️😀
@Motivationalquotesmalayalam is it? It's not in entire Kerala , it is in your family only not in Kerala . My whole village is still continue to take relative cousin in another village
Kerala christians also marry among their relatives. It’s only now in the last hundred years the practice has been discouraged.
Dude I think you must be talking about your family. Don't say it's complete Kerala@@Bacteria123
I am from Tamilnadu. Yes marrying cousins and close relatives is common in South India. In olden days the idea was to keep the property within the family. That is why such marriages were conducted and accepted. Even though it was and is a disaster genetically. As of now it has come down to a great extent in urban areas but in the rural belt it still persists. The biological implications of it for the children born out of such marriages is grave. Education and repeated reinforcement is the only way the society will give up such a practise. Any social change takes years. There will be a lot of resistance too from the conservative elements.
In our West Bengal marrying cousin is not acceptable.
Uma, I don’t endorse these marriages but if this disease thing was correct then most of the South Indians would have some disease or the other as it has been happening for 2000 years.
Hi
Common in my community (caste)from odisha
In our Kolhan follow the same system..
मैं हिमाचल प्रदेश के एक राजपूत परिवार से हूँ, मैं जिस गौत्र से आता हूँ, मैं वहाँ शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि मेरी गोत्र कि लड़कियाँ मेरी बहन या बुआ के रिश्ते जैसा हैं वैसे ही मेरी माता जी अलग गौत्र से आती हैं, तो मैं अपनी माँ के गोत्र में भी शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि उस गौत्र कि लड़कीयां मेरी माशी या बहन लगती हैं |
बाकी सभी राजपूत गौत्र से शादी कर सकता हूँ |
और हम इसे बहुत अच्छे से मानते हैं |
Rajput from MP❤ same here
Finally someone is talking about this issue. As a south Indian who grew up in middle east, I find it very weird to see my family chart. Btw, you are putting effort in your videos. May you reach 1M soon and grow beyond that.♥♥
So you mean that your mom and dad are bro and sis 🙄
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq 😂
This isn't a issue.
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq didn't you watch the video?
That’s what I thought too that genetics being mixed will lead to genetic disorders. Thanks for covering that. It felt weird when I first started watching South Indians movies and saw that marriage between cousins and I thought i misunderstood something in the movie
We see a lot of this in our culture. And I've yet to see more number of disabled children but I've seen some though. Today's generation is drifting towards love marriages because of better education.
Mee too
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
You people are so uneducated.
Marrying cousin will not result in birth of disabled babies.
It happens when we repeat the same process multiple times.
@@crazyshorts4278 i think u need some education
Being a Himachali..I never knew about cousin marriages but when I came to know ,I was really shocked cuz my cousins are like real brother's and sisters to me and their parents are like my parents.
Your comment made me laugh that My Himachali friend is marrying her uncle’s son.
Exceptions are always there
@@FoodRecipes108 Yes there are exceptions as the cultures are different. I just shared my culture shock..not a big deal! Also, happy for ur Himachali friend getting married bcoz of my random comment 🤗🙏
There is a difference between parallel cousins and cross cousins. They are not the same and the gotra is different.
@Superman's doberman it's not about not knowing what the difference in cousins are, I'm myself Himachali and even if my cousins are so distant that we don't have similar ancestry for two generations, we still consider them as if they are our real brother/sister. It's just a difference in upbringing and mentality
my grandmothers cousin sister's grandsons are very close to me.. and that's such a distant relation
@Superman's doberman I'm not saying anything about marrying cousins. All I mean is for me marrying cousin would be same a marrying my own sibling because from childhood we are raised as if w all are from one family. I'm not calling it a sin, stop getting worked up. Just telling you why some people feel weird from this because of how they are brought up. That's all
I saw this type of marriages in many More south Indian movies
When recessive genes are mixed, the concentration of it increases therefore the chances of a recessive diseases also increases
12 th me genetics padhi thi kya ?
Neet
thats why most royals look ugly af
@@theHollowGabimaru lgta hai tune skip kiya tha 😂😂😂😂
I watched Asapscience's video so I know
My own father and mother are cousins from the mother side and got married just because my mother had a government job :) and from my childhood I've seen a hell of fights between them that my and my siblings' mental well being is far from okay. I am highly prone to diseases and frequently on meds. I've found this cousins and uncle-niece marriage concept utterly disgusting from what I've experienced. People need to be educated about this and just stop being married for these sick reasons!! Or just stop being married!! There's a lot more in life than marriage, trust me.
True. Only marry when feel right. And have kid when you have no baggage of mental issues. It affect kids.
Not surprised hearing this
@@rupeshbhangare1822 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Marrying cousin is ok.If the offsprings are weak than we should marry strangers .
@@Coronavirus-dk7mq It's not a big issue unless their is a history of genetic defects.
This concept of 'cousin marriages' have always irked me growing up. And it also made talking with cousins a wierd/stereotypical one as against talking with siblings from father's brothers/mother's sisters. You always have a sense that you can't mingle with your cousins freely. Because if you do, society will think that you are interested with them. Even parents think so. Being from South India, I like the North Indian perspective of these marriages and I want to consider my cousin as a sibling and want to mingle with them freely during family unions.
yeah you definitely have a point, if you are too free then you are at risk ;)
Never really bothered me or my cousins tho (mothers brothers daughter)
Depends bro if the relationship is mutual then its fine even temples allow it
I always enjoyed interacting with my paternal aunts' daughters and did end up marrying one of them. Now happily married with a healthy baby, ofcourse ❤️
@@indianlad23i am happy for you... But not everyone wants thus kind of a relationship with their siblings (cousins).
Am from South my name is Ishika Reddy, Am married to my cousin only... Living happily now.
Good for you .. But it is a disaster genetically
*Once again - Mohak is the Aayushmann Khurrana of RUclips* ! His topics are just on the next level👏
Dude you are comparing mohak to ayushman 😖
It's like comparing nehru to Manoj Tiwari.
No need to compare. Mohak is Mohak ❤️
@@berlin5403 He's comparing "their approach" of picking up odd things, not them, heck not even comparing, it was just praise and i'm pretty sure it won't affect the popularity of Ayushman.🙌🏻
@@berlin5403 I consider Ayushman as a good actor tho
@@biosavat9475 I think the dude was defending Mohak. Anyway it's just an opinion
As a biologist and someone who learned genetics and cells, I want to say that it's not good for health and is the main reason behind many genetic diseases almost 10%.
@@jjthomson7911 *a* zoologist ..😂😂 focus on studies beta 🙏
its applicable to humans only. lol
@@Shailen12just a simple google search about inbreeding will help Lmaoo.
@@manjifera there are inbreeding diseases in animals too lol not just humans. (anyways humans are animals too)
@@varunnikam yes but nature kept things like that may be for some unknown reason. its we humans do interfere in natures thing.
I am from Karnataka and I can speak for almost all people who live in northern part of Karnataka. This practice used to be common till my parents' time but has reduced significantly these days. Main cause to stop the practice was that we as a society saw some health problems in children born out of such marriages. Not in all children but in few cases.
To clarify more on what's cross cousin is. They could may their Mama's or Atte/Buwa's kids. Marrying Kaka/Chikkappa/Chacha's or Chikkamma/chikki/mausi's kids was strictly prohibited, no one even thought about it. I have not seen a single such case in my entire life.
As of marrying ones niece: back in days people used to have lots of kids. So imagine a case where the eldest offspring was a girl and youngest offspring say 7th or 8th child was a boy. Now obviously there's a huge age difference between these 2 Sister and Brother. Now, it was very common that the girls used to get married in early ages. You can imagine this bride's youngest brother running around in her marriage in shorts with runny nose 😀 This sister used give birth to children very early. So now this Eldest sister's daughters and her youngest brothers were of same age and compatible for marriage from the age perspective.
As you married off your elder sister to a different man outside your family, her lineage became totally different. (her kids Gotra would be different than yours). Hence marriages were allowed. Nowadays these practices exists close to none.
So, why they can marry bua's kids but not masi's?
@@ankitadutta1217 checking...
So now own grandmother becomes mother-in-law?
nowhere such practice in karnataka blindly informed in message, you delivered as father of karnataka.
no one married in karnataka a such practice. Here i see some muslim family has been following.
Maga neenu heliddu almost correct agide North matte Middle Karnataka dalli ashte edu common Matte south karnataka dalli jaasthi illa edu
In Maharashtra, marriage with mama's daughter is very comman since old times. In fact, one of the son in law of Bal gangadhar tilak (freedom fighter) was his own nephew. Also the third chhatrapati Rajaram raje bhonsle were married to Maharani Tarabai, who was the daughter of his mama Hambirrao Mohite. The same way Pradyumna- son of bhagwan krishna married to the daughter of his mama rukmi, as per the bhagwatam. There are so many examples like arjuna- subhadra, krishna-mitravinda, etc.
I don't have anything against cousin marriage except that it leads to weak child. Because u share 50% ur DNA with cousin.
It gets worse with blood sister cause u share 100%
@@Saujas cross cousin dont share that much dna it is less than 12% I guess. Also, cross cousin marriage are allowed for two generations only; and after third generation it is prohibited.
@@Saujas also correct, no relative can share more than 50% dna. Its always below or equal to 50%
@@SaujasSo you mean to say that Lord Krishna was foolish to marry his sister to his paternal cousin, Arjuna.
@@sumitshelar6868 I mean that blood sibling share 100% dna pool (source)
I am from Kolkata, when I was in class 7-8 my tuition teacher told my mother that her father and her late mother were cousin. We couldn't care less because we knew that in muslim community it is allowed to marry first cousin. However her younger sister whose age was around 17-18 years was deformed and had a brain of 2-3 year old child, she couldn't even walk instead she would slither, she couldn't alarm her sister whenever she wanted to defecate or urinate and she couldn't even speak. I felt sorry for her and always questioned why would god make her like this. But recently few years ago i realised that her condition could have been due to her parents' cousin marriage. I haven't communicated with my teacher since I cleared class 8 and its been more than 10 years. I hope her sister is surviving.
I feel sorry for her even reading this... Hope she is okay
Since most of these congenital diseases are attributed to recessive genes, its been estimated that chance of these disease manifesting in the offsprings rise up by at least 30% when marriages are done within family.
Never marry your cousin's , that's what our culture also says
This happens when you marry cousins successively for two generations or more I wouldn't be surprised even if your teachers grandparents were cousins.
Living in USA and growing up with mostly Telugu family friends, I did finally get to know about this. Kudos to you sir for bringing this topic up!
Telugollu ekadanna toppulu ee😁
@@teja8086 Sarigga Cheppavu Mowa 🤟🏻✨
Bhai why telegu ppl in abroad always stay and communicate with their own community and not talk outside of it? You can correct me if I'm wrong with this notion
@@teja8086 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@sheilakijawani2526 that’s a false stereotype. In my college we have all Indians mixed
I am from Kerala Brahmin community and we consider our paternal and maternal cousins as brothers and sisters. We don't marry our cousins. However, I have seen people who are second cousins getting married in rare occurrences. Or even third cousins. Also, cousin marriages are rare in Kerala nowadays in all the communities due to the more number of educated people.
Bro, South india is being used as a scapegoat for justifying Cousin marraiges of Islam.
While in reality since the spread of Christianity was more in south India hence people redefined the Gotra system so as to suit their purpose.
From kashmir to kanyakumari, India runs on Gotra system.
What Some of the southerners are doing is a result of the misinterpretation of Gotra system.
Edit 1:- Gotra system is so deeprooted in the Indian society that most of the Tribes have Gotra system too.
This is enough to prove the importance of Gotra system while finding the right match in Indian subcontinent.
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Actually the marriages in South India are between sister's offspring and her brother's (maternal uncle) offspring. NOT between two brother's children or two sister's children. This guy has put both cases in the same category. Among Muslims marriage is common between two brother's children or two sister's children.
@@surajm4547 yes
Best RUclips channel.... thanks Mohak for enrich us.
Just a small correction sir🙏🏻
title should be "INDIA's southern region..." NOT "south india...." bcuz india haven't bifurcated like north korea.. south korea.
Or southern states of India would be be fine
south India is correct
there is no problem in bifurcation if needed.....
after all cessation is happening around the world...lol
@@orphan9334 don't spread your communist ideology here , we are seeing that how communism destroying democracy in many countries , for ex :- China
So Good 🇮🇳🇮🇳
Such a great work in research and editing! 🔥
Hi Mohak, I am a Tamizhan. I want you to know that unlike what is said in this video , Gotra system exists in south India too. It is the gotra system that prevents parallel cousin marriages. If you see parallel cosuins will always have same gotra & cross cousins will belong to different gotras. The same gotra system also prevents a male from marrying his bhathiji wheareas one can marry his bhanji as she would be obviously from a different gotra. Hope i could make it clear to you !!
This concept of marrying Bhanji makes me feel uneasy. I mean, it's marriage between two generations.
Actually there are some extention to this gotra system
We cannot marry a person who has same gotra as my father + gotra which my mother had before marriage.
I hope this makes the confusion clear....
@@oyedeepak bilkul sahi.
That means you can marry your bua ki beti?
Yess.These so called Liberal people dnt knw abt gotras system!Dnt explain this to 99% people over here..
Being a North Indian can't even imagine of marrying the cousins. We tie Rakhi to our cousin brothers they are like real brothers.
Yes but in North India also extreme caste endogamy leads to inbreeding. If you don't marry outside your clan for centuries it can be dysgenic.
@@taka-taktak no in north, even if caste is same then also you can't marry if Gotra are same
My crush also tie me Rakhi..
Now she is my Girlfriend..
@@superheroesclab5153 is your crush your cousin or blood related. Here we are discussing about cousin marriage, marrying to your cousin whome you grew up with as sibling ... seeing them with that intension raise some serious questions on one's character.
@@NehaG. No.. Her father is my dad's childhood friend.
I am a Gujarati married to a Kannadiga. My husband's brother married some sort of cousin (not aware of the exact relation) and when I first realized this, I was shocked. For me, all cousins are brothers, so I didnt understand how this could happen.
Slowly I learnt that this is common in South India. My husband's brother has a son now who is 11 years old and my daughter is 6 years old. I can see so many health and a bit of mental issues in my bro in law's (BIL) son. It's sad to see the physical suffering of the child. And there are quite some mentally challenged children in my husband's family. More than the amount you would see otherwise in families. And I have come to realize its due to these cousin marriages. I once spoke to my husband about it, but he just brushed it aside. He was either embarrassed or didnt like what he was hearing.
With science so advanced and evidence available that such marriages can and will lead to genetic issues in the progeny, I dont understand why people still follow this tradition?
My heart breaks for my nephew who will always suffer health issues due to a mistake made for traditions' sake.
And the cherry on top is, while nephew celebrates rakhi with my daughter, he does not with his bua's daughter cause she is a potential bride for him. My mind is just f u c k e d!!!!
Your upcoming generations would be madrasis 🤮🤮
@@extreme4642 You do realize that there are many different south Indians? Calling everyone madrasis is just so ignorant and stupid
thank u for sharing this real instance... its high time leave this tradition... our society hv to understand that all tradition which hv built those were suitable at those times we hv keep updating n removing those bcoz these r not at all relevant to current situation... n also we hv scientific proof on this to demolish... its responsibilty of current generation to understand this n act accordingly...
One day I asked my father that why we have to tell the priest in the temple about our GOTRA everytime we visit? He said GOTRA is said to be a common relation from a common ancestor and two same GOTRAS should not marry amongst each other as there can be problems among their child. I half heartedly believed that becoz on one side I understood that same blood can cause some problems but was not sure what was the probability of that. Good !
Bro 'Consanguineous' word is pretty fancy......In context of animal husbandry closely related animals are not mated because it might lead to inbreeding depression.....
Many Hindu practices have science hidden behind it....
Also the system of saptapadhi, where they check if there is any common ancestor between bride and grooms 7 generations
@@shivangmishra9325 true. Sadly the scientific part is getting lost rapidly and just the terms are getting behind, which makes ppl think it's just an old tradition
they started the system of gotras becoz they wont allow inter caste marriage OMEGALUL
@@profezagaming9158 lol gotra can never stop u from inter caste marriage cause two different caste have different gotra and u can marry in different gotra but not itn ur own gotra.
The uncle- niece union/marriage makes me sick in the gut !! For that matter even marrying a cousin is beyond my comprehension.
Well it doesn't make me feel anything. If it didn't lead to birth defects then i wouldn't bat an eye if someone were to marry their own sister even. I could never do it but why do I care what anybody else does in their life? But since it's a major health risk I'll definitely be against it no matter what.
This gives a hint how worst kind of patriarchal that family would be to allow uncle - niece marriage 🤮
If two cousins agreed to marry as an Adult...then they can. Why not?? The Love between them would be Awesome 😍😍
I know exceptions exists but mostly it would be Super awesome
@@rajeevjuneja5584 Good it doesn't make you feel anything. I think both of us can exist under the same sky 😇 and many more individuals, with vary many opinions. All are welcome to express, to not express, to feel, to not feel. To each his own.
Its a Noble thought...:)
As a north Indian hindu : we avoid three surnames or gotra ,i.e, Own surname, mother surname and grandmother surname...we also avoid maternal grandmother surname but now a days we just consider 3 surnames mostly....even villages who share boundaries also get avoided to marriage
Note: please avoid my English 😅
South indian hindus also avoid who have same gotras and same surnames.......
Families having same gotras cannot be cousins .........
Mere relatives ke relatives mai same gotra&surname same tha marriage mai usi marriage ke vajah se ek bandhe ka jaan chala gaya & bahut logo serious the because car road divider ko tok dhiya
Same rules apply in Assam too.
@@UpasanaGayan are you assamese
Your English is understandable.
Don't sweat it.
Friendly tip: " please excuse my English".
Mother's father's surname or mother's mother's maiden surname?
Same question for grandma
I'm from bihar. studied at one of south college.
although I was shocked to hear that they can marry their cousins, but no more shocked. I talked my friends, and the case is like -
if you're a boy - you can marry your father's sister's daughter OR mother's brother's daughter. Similarly for Girls.
Fun fact is: in bihar, one of village, my brahmin friend is there, and he said they cant marry any girls of that community from that village for they all are like sisters.
Yeah same here in Rajasthan
True 😄
Yeah it's called diyad among maithil Brahmins of bihar
Sweet Home Alabama
Even in Delhi at some places this practice is followed😂
I m from Kerala , in our State nowadays this type of marriages are very rare .In my family from past three generations as per my knowledge we haven't followed this practice.
So tamil culture is now influencing malayali culture?
@@SafavidAfsharid3197 Tamil and kerala culture is one in origin to begin with
One family doesn't display whole Kerala
@@ElonMusk-tb2yi ya i agree but see the percentage of marriages in starting of the video which Mohak sir has given them you can find the difference. In telangana it's 23.4 % whereas in Kerala it's 3.7% , tamilnadu -25.5%.
@@dreamcatcher6693
Agreed
Cousin marriage rate is low in Kerala.
Me to bolta hu puri World ka Marriage Rate 0 ho jaye
Pehele se hi 7 Billion bhare pade hai aur nhi chahiye
Actually In Our Religion we consider our Siblings or "Rishtedar's children" as our Brothers and Sisters..
Yes,North Indians have done right practice to not to marrie their brothers and sis
@@IdealEdittt You North fellows are Aryans. We are South Dravidians. You keep your practice to yourself. You don't decide what is correct and what is wrong.
@@rajars4239 I can see the hate in your comment for North Indians... No worries keep hating..!
@@rajars4239 sure north Indian may not but science can right? Marring cousins is just wrong.
Buddha was Aryan. Even he married from his father's side
I am a Tamil. I love my Mother's Eleder Brother's daughter and i am planing to marry her.
Don't spread rumours.
Why south India is more educated than North Indian if uneducation is the cause?
May be in north people don't marriage cousins because they marry their sister in laws call "Bhabhi". Thats what happened in Mahabharat Draupathi married to pandavas!
Mahabharat is fake
You want to marry your own sister 🤢🤮🤮🤮
Kerala no1 educated🎓 state not tamil nadu Tamilnadu 16th rank😂😂
@@ajju1531
Average South Indian Hindu married his cousin. Thus, in this example from Hindu mythology, two generations of the same family - Arjuna and Subhadra, Abhimanyu and Sasirekha all married their cousins. In the epic Ramayana, the Hindu god Rama was married to Sita. The Hindu god Krishna married his cousin named Bhadra (Source: Bhagavata Purana 10.58.56) Krishna also abducted and married his cousin Mitravinda (Source: Bhagavata Purana 10.58.31). Arjuna and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mother Kunti and Subhadra's father Vasudeva were biological siblings (brother-sister). Cousin marriages were common during the Mahabharata period.
Hindus read your Own Scriptures
Term "inbreeding depression" is often used for the reduced biological and reproductive health of a person who is born of cousin marriage. It is very important to marry out of family as it's necessary for gene variation(evolution).
Yes I studied about in class 12th biology!
Yes thats what most people don't understand. I've seen fools telling me how a person was born out of cousin marriage and doesn't have any disease. Well duh! That's because he's probably a 1st generation child. There won't be any inbreeding problems in the 1st to 3rd generations but inbreeding depression will keep accumulating until it actually shows up as a genetic disease in the 4th or 5th generation. That's why we Bengalis compared atleast 3 generations of gotra and at max 5. Some Hindi belt people compare upto 8 generations but that is a little too excessive in my opinion. Upto 4-5 generations is the optimum amount. Neither too much nor too less. For example my own parents compared their gotras of upto 4 generations only. Not beyond that. I'm of the same opinion as them and if I ever were to get married I would compare 4 generations of gotra too. I myself am of Shandilya gotra
We can say that consanguineous marriages are common in Andhra Pradesh and Telangana, based on the fact that the same term is used for a niece and a daughter-in-law... (Kodalu)
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Exactly! But parallel cousins marriages are almost non existent since we call them annna/tammudu/akka/chilli i.e brother/sister, we treat parallel cousins just like siblings
That's the reason maternal uncle can marry his niece 😮.
My cousin wanted to marry her cousin from her mother's side and a friend of mine married her cousin. Believe me, there were talks. Thankfully, my maternal grandfather was against cousin marriages. Everybody forgets about complications while discussing marriages between cousins even educated folks🤷🏽♀️
marriage is ok. It's just that having kids is risky.
What if they can get married, have a good, meaningful life together, have intercourse, but don't reproduce.... Adopt a child instead.
@@rosieroti4063 my friend has a kid.. thankfully he's alright.. They just forget about complications.. when I told my cousin about it.. she was pointing out the cases where it didn't result in bad situation..
@@rosieroti4063 Actually it's risky when your family is carrying a defective gene pool, If your family is healthy without any genetic diseases then it's fine. The risk of adding defective genes to your family pool is also more when you get marry outside of your gene pool with someone's new gene pool. It's simple...mathematics not some sort of sorcery...
@@navedhashmi3090 muslims defending cousins marriage no shocker...bnchod gaali tumlog k liye nikala gaya h
Be educated and stop cousins marriage all over world.
Hi! You've discussed about Gotra system . As you said in North India, Same Gotra people won't get married 8:38 . The same goes with South India too. I don't know about kerala n TN but in AP, Karnataka and Telangana, people with same Gotra are not allowed to get married.
Here in Maharashtra the most common cousin marriage is with Mama ki beti/ Bua ka beta.
I have seen some cases in my relatives and family friends where the child born from such marriage is mentally weak.
It is very very rare for me to find any defective child born in a non-cousin marriage
Which region in Maharashtra?
@@aarushimahajan205 overall Maharashtra
@@aarushimahajan205 hindu
Yes bro all over Maharashtra atleast I know that is true about the whole kokan region
Even in Telugu states, cross cousin marriages do happen, but not compulsory.
But the compulsory thing is that we shouldn't marry within same gotra. Gotra system is strictly followed here. Cross cousins will anyhow not share same gotra unlike Parallel cousins.
Here, Mami/Buaa/Saas is called Atta.
And Mama/Phupha/Sasur is called Mama.
But, Mausi/Badimaa/Chachi is equivalent to Mother and Mausa/Badepapa/Chacha is equivalent to Father.
In the South, people consider atthai(mami)/mama's daughter/son consider for marriage.. not chitthi/chittappa(maasi/kaka) 's daughter/son, they are brothers n sisters
you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
@@RajathHathwar definitely bro.. my family don't do it. All should see the scientific reasons but still some are doing it.
I'm Trible from Chhattisgarh
Yes sir absolutely right...In our Gond community inChhattisgarh we can also Marry Children of our Mama or Bua....
In North,(Jharkhand)
Marrying any of the relative, even a far relative is considered as a sin or even crime especially in hindus. Relatives will treat you in a very disrespectful way. This is the culture here from 1000 years.
Even muslims are following this culture partially. 👍🏼
I can confirm this because I am also from Jharkhand.
Same in jammu
sahi baat
@@anand-zs1co in rajasthan villages gaon me aapas e shaadi nhi ho skti
Bihar also
Nice Video! Explained well! Games of Thrones & HOTD jaise shows to bus aese hi badnaam hai 😂😂
My parents are first cousins. Because of this, my brother was born with poor eyesight and asthma. It’s wrong to marry your cousin. It leads to many disorders.
I think its only a problem when father's brother's children get married.
Hey a quick question, purely out of curiosity.
Does ur brother brother have any trait that is unusually good? Like a trait that u might share with him, but his version of it is way better?
Again, and seriously, purely out of curiosity.
@@tanfeexulhaqq4616 No. He is a normal person but he has asthma and health issues.
@@kaiser1295 well i can't draw conclusions from a single case. Can I?
@@tanfeexulhaqq4616 there are literally millions of cases like this
I remember watching a Marathi TV show called 'Home Minister' as a kid. In the show, the host travels across Maharashtra and talks to married couples about their love story and all. Many times the the couple were first cousins, as in the husband was the wife's atte bhau (Bua ka beta in marathi). They also talked about how they liked each other since their teenage, basically they romanticized cousin marriages a lot. I found it really weird.
Also, in Marathi serials I've seen some married women calling their mother-in-law as aatya (bua). Maybe I'm watching too much of Zee Marathi with my aaji.
Most of those backstories are fake and are spiced up for TRP.
Marathi housewives will kill for Paithani.
It’s common beyond western ghats, in Konkan that’s considered disgusting
Now days every one is doctor??🧐
Culture is main important thing to practice such a thing..if i stay in latur Maharashtra..will i understand culture, rituals of Western Maharashtra.. even language ,tone also not same..yes there are many happy married couple ..but yeah it could be change
@@_prash families promote karti hai ye sab, meri kuch friends hai, un mein se 2-3 hai jinke ghar mein aisi shaadi ho chuki hai. Humare yaha toh cross ke crisis cross cousin se koi bhaag ke shaadi kare toh bhi badnaam hote hai log 😂
@@maheshpatil-he8ny lol, there are detailed studies about the dreadful consequences of cousin marriage, especially based in Pakistan. Having read those, it’s absolutely true that genetic deformities are more likely in such cases. It’s a fact, not an opinion. One needs to be sociologist to understand this, not doctor. We all are from same culture, it’s better to improve one generation at a time.
As a north indian from Bihar, yes! We have Gotra system . Even people who were moved to Mauritius, Trinidad and Tobago, Suriname and Java by Britishers. They used their first name in next generation surname so cousin marriage can prevent.
Even south indians follow gotta system for marriage
Every Hindu family in India follow gotra system...
even in south same gothra people dont marry, yeh angrez key cousin cousin is same like autny word, father key sister aur mother key sister ek nahi hey na? same parallel cousins and cross cousins are different, cross cousins ko same gotra nahi hotha same gothra valey kahi shadi nahi karthey south mey bhi
Shut up and develop your own state first
Every Hindu follows gotra! According to Dharamshastras it’s a sin to marry within same gotra but still exceptions were there.
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I am from AP, we do have & follow gotra system as well. Marriage between parllel cousins or first cousins is NO here mostly. Don't know about rest of South India. Marriage between uncle and niece used to happen few years ago, but it has gone down a lot, i mean so much down ( some exception cases if age gap between bride & groom is low ,5 - 7 yrs max ). Marriages between second cousins & cross cousins is still happening. People now a days are exposed & having a lot of awareness, hopefully it dies down.
Correct...people are more matured and aware now
I agree. Mohak's topic is good but there are some mistaken conclusions due to poor or insufficient research. Mohak needs to study the more in depth statistics to understand this intricate topic. I wish to give some points:
(1) Consanguine marriages are not modern in India, it has dwapara yug examples also. Most recently evidence was found that all India is one gene, north/south or aryan/dravidian divide is politically motivated from British era to divide and rule.
(2) Gotras concept is very much there in southern states also; hence to conclude anything through the difference of numbers between northern states and southern states (I doubt whether those numbers are correct!) is superficial. You could of course say that 50% is sa-gotra in first cousin marriage and it reduces to the second and tertiary levels. However, to prove that people of northern states have been conscious to avoid sa-gotra marriage, there is a need to delve into the statistics of second cousin and second uncle/niece marriages.
Its a tradition but not followed. It is still a tradition
Marrying cousin is common in Kerala. Marrying uncle is a sin. We can't even think that. In our old culture uncle take care of us like a father.
No I don't know from which region you are all it's still this type of marriages are continuing in andhra
I stay in Bangalore and have seen many such examples. When I first came to know that my friend's parents are actually cousins, I was like what!!!! 😱 Then gradually it became normal to me... It was interesting to know about it.
That’s because they are cross cousins and not parallel cousins and don’t share the same gotra. You should know the difference!
Cross cousin... it's normal to south india.
@@Lasha901 but they dont understand that the cousins gotras should not be same or cannot be same........
@@Lasha901which cousin that doesn't matter . Cousin marriage leads to genetics disorders
This Gotra System of North India seems more logical and science backed. Kudos to our ancestors for always deciding things best for us.
Yes Hinduism is Pure Scientific.
Scholars were educated throughout the times.
@@Chairman_LmaoZedong yeah eating fecal matter of cow is scientific
comparing science and modern hinduism is cringe
@@Abaddon-u1i yess
What ? cousin marriage, I never heard this before,Thinking of cousin marriage is a sin here in Assam,my native land.I am proud to be an Assamese.
Proud to be east indian ❤
I'm from Kerala. Cousin marriages are almost non existent to the point I've never even heard of one happening. The first time i heard about this being in practise in the South was when some guy on the internet called me a cousin lover in an attempt to ridicule me.😂
😂😂..
😂🤣
@GangaSahini0:01 look again.
It's not non existent in Kerala bro ..Malayalam movies normalised cousin marriage untill 2000, I think such storyline became not much seen in movie when it became less popular .I know 2 couples who are cousin,they fell in love with each other . I think they knew that in olden days cousin marriage was a thing,so they might be see the potential to fall in love ..In mum's generation other reason of cousin marriage is financial...if the girl is poor or lower middle class who is also unemployed ,her family were expected to give dowry,if her cousin agree to married her, it avoid family to go through such situations.. now people know that marriage is not a mandatory thing in our life .And every one starts give importance to their life rather than obeying parents will even if they are wrong and today's parents also not interested in cousin marriage since they don't get along with relatives thank god😂😂..but ofcourse it not completely faded in Kerala .but numbers are much better than other South Indian states .
It is less now but it used to happen.A popular kerala youtuber karthik surya is going to have cousin marriage
You only call your cousins as Brother and sister in Indo-Aryan languages (North Indian), Dravidian languages follow a whole different kinship system where parallel cousins are referred to as brother and sister but cross cousins have special words. Also the our words of Cross-Aunt/Uncle are the same as the words for In-Laws, for example both your mother's brother and your husband's/wife's father is called mama in Telugu. Same for words for your wife's/husband's siblings and your Cross-Cousins.
Coming to the weird feeling thing, it is weird to you cause you grew up calling your cousins the same word and your siblings and considered them your siblings, in the same way we are always reminded (from childhood) that our cross cousins can be our potential spouses and also our media also shows a lot of romantic stuff between Cross-Cousins so it's kinda normal for us. If you go ask a Telugu or a Tamil person what they think on marrying their parallel cousins, they'd act the same way you are acting, disgusted even by the thought of it, as we grew up with a feeling that they are our siblings and using the same words we use for our own siblings with them, infact even parallel aunt and uncles are referred with the same word as our parents but with a prefix like big and small, for example parallel uncle who is elder than your father is called pedda-nanna/bapu (big-father) and parallel uncle who is younger than your father is called chinna-nanna/bapu,Babai (small-father)
Yeah exactly. This pattern is same in all the 4 major Dravidian languages and also extends to the urdu speaking Muslims of South India
@@khabibnurmagomedov8581 not only in dravidian states but here in maharahtra it is similar
Also in muslims you can't keep on marrying cousins successively, for eg. If your parents are cousins then you can't marry your cousin as this will lead to diseases in your children.
Ummm indo-aryans are not only north Indians tho .Assamese people are also indo aryan. Everyone forgets that northeast exists. Sad ☠
chala baga chepparu 🙌
Almost all culture follows cousin Marriages not just South india!!
Not really in the West, I’ve only seen it Asian and Africa.
I being muslim have seen so many cousin marriages, actually it's true. Jb bht zyada cousins marriages hoti hai toh it affects child's health
I'm from the South and my parents are cousins. it's wrong and should be banned. I will never marry my cousin or any relative.
@@kaiser1295 Its optional...not Compulsory. And good thing is it reducing now a days
@@IronMan-nu3rb Indians (Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Nepali & Srilankan) don't have any choice due to Arrange Marriage culture because their parents & relative bear the responsibility of their marriage!!! 😒😒😒
Being aware of errors in our own religion is a sign of wisdom 👌 a true secular
@@randomhuman1754 So what are errors in your religion?? Tell us....
Finnally someone took initiative to talk on such topic . Basically i m from Rajasthan but my school staff was from Kerala and my principle and his wife are actually cousins from maternal side and it was so shocking for us .But unexpectedly they were so cool about it since it's happening from ages .
@rupesh v it is bro but it's slowly changing but in dark zone areas still continue in remote villages
People are so damn closed in mind . Kerala practices matrilineal lineage , so child from other mother( not in the birth line or family of mother ) is another family altogether for them . North India practices Gotra system , that does not mean every one should practice the same . Get over your superiority complex for moral high grounds 😂
In kerala, prominent families married from amongst their extended family to prevent wealth from flowing out of their family
Cousin merriage me koi bhi problem nahi hoti ,,,me to chahta hun ki north india me bhi cousin merriage ho ,,,kyoki sabko pata hai ki ,,almost sare ladke ladko ka apne cousin par crush hota hai kahi n kahi ,,uper se to bahan bol dete hai lekin dik chahta hai ki wo uski lover ho ya husband wife ho ,,,,sacchayi to yahi hai ,,lekin 3 gotr taalne ki vajah se ye sambhav nahi hai ,,to Dil ki baat dil me rah jaati hai ,,isiliye wo hamesa Muslim or SI ko nicha dikhane ki kosis karte rahte hai ।
I'm from Kerala. It's common. Our cousins are our friends. Then y don't
My sister got married into a family where all marriages were within relation in one way or the other way. She was the first bride from outside their family. She said it was very difficult to keep track of who is related to whom in which way because there were always two relationships involved. Even some one from my maternal side asked for my sister's marriage alliance. My father was dead against it. This practice needs to be systematically stopped and scientific evidence supports it.
Inbreeding for so many generation can lead to mental retardation or anyother genetic disorder, is everyone okay in her family? They should abolish this practice ASAP.
@@helper5846 Fortunately yes... But why take chance!!!
@@helper5846 but how are the south Indians succeeding so much in academics?
@@helper5846 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@roshanyad0997 Bruh! What are you talking about. This phenomena is called "Inbreeding depression" in which recessive defective Gene express due to long generational "inbreeding" and it also happen in farm animals and plants, we can correct this phenomena for coming generation by "Outcross/Outbreeding" means marrying with unrelated individual
Also for your information I know genetic disorder can't be treated. But there are Gene therapy during embryonic stage which can help in some cases but not all.
We Bengalees can’t even think about marrying family.
Still 30 cr population 😂😂
I think it would have been better if you take the example of other south Indian states instead of Kerala where the percentage is very low or equal to many North Indian states. Nowadays even many malayalam movie are also against this...
for ur kind info .now kerala has very low this kind of marriages
@@Uda_dunga That's what I said in my comment, he must have choose any other state insted of Kerala ...
@@sreejithsiva7885 ohh 😅 sorry I didn't read it properly
@@Uda_dunga 😁😁
@@sreejithsiva7885 yes I have stayed in Kerala kochi 4 years.. There is no such kind of practices... How it is possible
I’m glad someone spoke about this… But Kerala wasn’t a good example as it has the lowest rates of cousins marriages compared to other southern states… Also marumakathayam was abolished in 1975!
Yeah if compared to north india , it is still huge so
@@SatyamSingh-jp3vc so "huge" is a word to be used for one or two points difference in percentage ryt 🥴.
Taking the average of all north Indian states' % even excluding jk would probably have higher rate than Kerala's
Marikmakkattayam was mainly practiced by certain communities because of their arrangements ,especially in north kerala , in south kerala only certain communities followed..now in south region it is fully vanished.
He include that Research is happening in Kerala
So what it’s an example
Kerala has come out of this old custom to a large extend. Compared to other 4 four THE percentage of cousin marraiges are very low, though every other film of 70 and 80s where following the trend
But this was restricted to very few hindu communities in North Kerala....
Karnataka has less cousin marriage than Kerala
@@whyhaveaname5963 but according to this video karnadakas rate is 23.4% were kerala only 3.7%😂
In Tollywood, I've seen a lot of romanticizing of relationships between cousins, to the point of calling a guy "baava" (it means cousin) is considered romantic. In fact, there's a movie where the main male lead starts falling in love with the female lead after she calls him "baava". Honestly, I always found that weird, and thanked my stars that my parents showed zero interest in marrying me to any of my relatives. I'm really glad there's a video about this.
I am a Bengali Hindu and in our Bengali Hindu society no one can think of marriage between such brothers and sisters, I have been thinking for so long that it is only among Muslims. Cousins are like your sister, so treat them like your own sister
Not even near as common in North. No way in my culture we don't even marry with same surname, and gotra and checking if we are also from same village if we are, then no
Being e bengali hume ghar se hi nikal dega 🤣🤣
@@debmalyamondal1234 hme toh kaat denge
Cousin marriage is not common in Bangladesh also.
So dont think it is has some thing to do with religion.
Bruh consanguiness marriages are widespread accross the world. And sisterhood is given to the immediate one. Rest are just relatives.
Yes it's true cousin marriages exist a lot in south India..in my state Kerala it's decreasing but Tamil Nadu and Karnataka has a lot of such marriages..the surprising thing is my family doesn't consider it wierd at all .. my parents were telling stories how their first prospective bride and groom choices were their maternal cousins ... however eventually they didn't go with cousin marriage
I got tp know about it when I met a lot of South Indians. It felt so wierd that out customs could be similar but sometimes soo opposite. In Rajasthan, you can't even think about it, it is basically considered as incest. A lot of measure is taken so both are not from same Gotra, in fact it could be a hurdle in love marriage, that both have same gotra or common ancestry. I am an only child, so my cousins who live closeby are literally the siblings I never had!!😅
@@geisha-12bro We also follow gotra system nd this thing was done by Bhagwan Shri Krishna married Adjacent cousin Also Evn Arjun Subadhra Gotras are Different
I am bio student , I know from very early that cousin marriage is worst effect than anyone can think in all prospect for long time . You give examples of consciousness of cousin marriage is just tip of iceberg .
Ha sahi kaha yeh kesi marriage cousin means Apne bhai ,behen hi huye na 😃🤣iss se acha tho foreigners se sadi ho
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You people firstly need
don't making fun of other relegions God
Now tell me what's the people you are
And if you are from other relegion or not from any relegion so how you talk about others God Are You believe If you don't beleive so why say anything on this and hurt others
Firstly You need to respect relegions
@@fullhitmasters5355 agree
bro please change your name .. we Hindus are borther of our Muslim brothers.. we are supposed to respect them and love them.. no hatred at all
@@NiteshSingh-rz5dr I wish, Muslims community peoples also understand This
The more horrible fact is south indans also marry their uncles 😂😂😂
A daughter can marry only her mother's younger brother with minimal age difference in Tamil Nadu.
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@SriramSriram-eo2jc minimal age is a buzzword 😂😂 I know age gap of 15 years and 18 Years his first son is 10 STd that guy retired from Indian railways (15 year guy) they didn't ask the opinion of that girl bcoz he's a govt employee 🥲
I am a south indian from karnataka , yes cousin marraiges do happen here , only if gotra's are not same , when female gets married her gotra will now be of her husband's hence only cross cousins are married , not parallel cousins, parallel cousins are like brothers and sisters, i never saw or heard of defected child born to cousins
havdu maga tumba mamuli elli 😅 atte maglu mava maglu ge maduve agodu 😂
Gotra is an imaginary concept, go by genes
Cross or parallel cousins are identical genetically
@@redrevolver11 ha bhai tujhse le liya advice aaj se gotra pe believe karna band
@@anirudh425 haha cool, genetics is great concept which combines maths with biology
Well, All humans are 98.9% identical
I'm an odia belongs to southern part of odisha where my mother and father were cousins.
My mother was my father uncle's daughter.
I totally agree with mohak's point of view.
That's fucked up. I hope you don't marry any of your cousin's.
Odisha me LITTERALY bhot loog abhi bhi ye karane kaa sochte rehte hai mai Chattisgarh se huu apne nani ke yaha jaata huu too waha aurat loog apni maama ki beti se shaadi karega naa puchte rehte hai 🤢🤢
Such marriage is very rare in Odisha but regions bordering Andhra like Paralakhemundi and Gunpur have some tolerance to this custom as they have absorbed many Telenga practices over the years.
Because odisha'a culture resembles or closer to Dravidian than northern
@@dhitikabarua7677 You have zero idea about Odisha culture. Dont talk shit.
I'm tamilian -it truly happen and what ever he said was right
9:10 I am from Haryana. Among our Gaud Brahmins, marriage cannot take place in same Gotra, Shasana, Pravara, village and Gohand (villages around the village).
0:06 Mangal's Videos are so powerful that now Bangladesh is a part of our country 💫🤝
Well read the graph properly...
@@MonkeyDLuffy-sd8sr yeah even i had read that.. but look closely no international boundary is there between West Bengal and Bangladesh 💀😆
@@zucc2802 obviously there will be no international boundary there because it's not a political map it's a physical map moreover there is also no international boundary between Pakistan and india also no boundary between nepal and india what'll you say then? Mangal's video are so powerful ki Akhand Bharat hi ban gaya?🚩
@@MonkeyDLuffy-sd8sr zaroor.
@@zucc2802 waah😂😁
At 7:00, Parallel Cousins are considered as Siblings, whereas Cross Cousins are not considered Siblings. This applies to all Dravidians. Also one can't marry if Gothra (Lineage) is the Same as the other counterpart.
It can be happen but either he/she has to get marry by realtives gotra
bro even in maharashtra it is common my mama (maternal uncle) married his maternal uncle's daughter
Well u are right we do follow gotra system . Gotras will be same if someone gets married to father's brothers daughter she is basically sibling. if someone marries father's sister son then he would have a different gotra na.
There is no such thing like Dravidian and Aryan
hey it also happened between arjun and subha dra
Wow great topic Mohak! This was very much under the cover thats needed to come up. Also in north India we do not marry in same village because mostly villages have a single ancestor background and all are relatives in a village.
I am a South Indian and this practice was always discouraged as our family was educated and also many of them had settled in North for generations ,so no evidence of cousin marriages in our family.
Despite the moral issues, marrying your cousin isn't fun at all since you're missing the chance to connect with an entirely different family line which is kinda adventurous and diverse and morally correct obviously.
I'm scared of Marriage
I'll not marry
@@ElonMusk-tb2yi u already have 9 kids🤣
@@williamb1010
Lol. My one son is Robot
@Rey such a shitty argument
When I was in karnataka.. In my OBG postings at medical college. While history taking of patients I got to know that in Village areas consanguinous marriage is very common.
It doesn't happen how u people think. This utube guy is such a dumb he misunderstood our marriages.gotra plays vital role here. A boy, girl of same gotra is not allowed to marry here. when ur sister got married her gotra will change then ur children are allowed to marry her's children .But ur and urs brother children are brothers and sisters as they both carry same gotra.
Which college have u done your mbbs from ?
Even I'm from Karanataka and have done mbbs from here .
And about clinical history yeah we used to ask about consanguinous marriage specially for thalassemia case .
In Maharashtra,boy marries maternal uncle's daughter and that is common also shown in most of the Marathi film
Mohak, you are an impartial RUclipsr. Appreciate that
I was having this discussion w some of my friends today itself. Undeniably, the mention of muslims* (*apparently*/ as per popular belief, NO OFFENCE to anyone as such-- just a manifestation of "kahi-suni" around us; I don't have enough data to have this substantiated so let's drop it here ) tying the knot with their second, and even first cousins, came up.
Personally speaking, this video has come as a shocker in more ways than one. Nor does it push one to question the "literacy" comes with "progress" dichotomy (The latter being associated usually with the doing away of traditions and norms)-- but also makes one rethink the prejudices we've built our perception of social relations on, one of which is given in the first half of my comment.
Great job bringing this to light, Mohak sir. Will read up on this for better understanding now!!
In a study I came across, young Indians across India were against inter religion and intercaste marriage overwhelmingly. People care about caste of candidate a LOT even in urban areas.
We should definitely redefine social progress.
Yup, it's actually true that marriages between cousins are allowed in our religion. My parents are first cousins, it was very common back then but now it's not.
Without dragging Muslims.... They cannot feel superior
@@mohammadansar2783 it's allowed in the time of Adam... not today lol bcz there was the time when world population was less that's not mean you have to apply this theory in this modern time and it's scientifically unhealthy....and why your parents done this?? You peoples are the real mocker of Islam....
@@mohammadansar2783 and Islam never force to marry cousins lol... what your parents did, it could be their own choice or own fault don't bring Islam into it
Cousin marriage is not anything awkward in south but it is starting decline over the years
I'm glad that it's declining because most of the times the children of these first cousin couples are born with either mental issues or physical issues. I'm a South Indian who is living in Raipur, Chhattisgarh and I have personally seen a case of one of my family friend who actually married his first cousin and their son was born with severe kidney issues, unfortunately the little guy died within 6 months.
@@arvindshastry1178 your statement most of the time is absolutely wrong... Very rare case in cousin marriages there are abnormalities... Is kidney disease a genetic disorder...pls find the reason.... Haemophilia, diabetes are genetic disorder...
@@hema6726 Isn't being born with a horrible kidney disease an abnormality?
@@hema6726 And I came to know about it through a documentary, it's on Real Stories channel.
@@arvindshastry1178 it is no doubt but not necessarily due to genetic( cousin marriage) it could also be due to medications during pregnancy. That was my point.
My half-cousin married his cousin. There was no romantic involvement but the girl was orphaned and from an extremely poor family. So the elders decided to get her married to her cousin so that she finds financial and social stability. As you said, cousin-cousin marriages are allowed in Islam and widely practiced in the middle-east,yet it is considered quite makruh (disliked) by some branches of Islam and even Ali(ra) is known to have said that if you want unintelligent children you should marry cousins and even disapproved of cousin-cousin marriages after the prophet's death. Also I have seen many scholars say that while it is allowed, it is not preferred. But due to mostly the keeping the wealth in the family it is widely practiced within the community.
P.S : I just remembered my aunt had also married her cousin. But it was very long ago. My father says that it was to strengthen family ties that had been strained due to some land dispute. My mother also told me yesterday that she was asked to marry Basharat Uncle, her cousin. But they noth refused because it was so weird. It mostly happens in very poor or very rich families. Because they either can't afford to marry their daughters or they want to preserve the family wealth. But it does sound weird.
I saw a video of mufti Menk once where he said that it is better to marry as outside the family as possible to establish new relationships.
As I was searching the net, I also came across this hadith that says choose a wife from a different tribe, choose a wife from your son from another different tribe and for his son from a third tribe. I don't know how authentic this is but these are my two cents on the matter.
Besides from a biological perspective these marriages should be avoided as much as possible.
Edit : It was not Ali, but Imam Shafi, the founder of the Shafi madhab. I am very sorry for the mistake.
In Bangladesh muslims don't marry their cousin.
That's good to hear. There is also no concept of cousin marriages among Bengali Hindus. I think it's a cultural thing rather than a religions one.
@@zetaforever4953 Yes bro you are right👍
@@abuzaformohammedaman9205 They do marry cousins .The percentage might be less
Do you have any source for that saying of Maula Ali? He himself married daughter of prophet . And even in his grand children there were cousin marriages.
Shree Krishna himself married his cross cousin!! It was part of Indian culture in ancient days! But during the rule of foreigners things changed in North
Fun fact is that north india was ruled but muslims but also they do not follow this type of cousin marriage even in north east people also do not follow this type of cousin marriage but sad fact is that south india follow these type of marriage .
it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share bloodand genetic connection with them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood genetic connection with them
Sir these type marriages were done by only by royal family in history and not buy common people and sir youn compare loard krishna with normal humans.
@@RajathHathwar I am not saying this is right but same way we have understand it was done in the past even in North! Even among Lord Krishna & Buddha’s period
@@Aalamparabut it was practiced in only royal family not by common people
Two points as a Telugu
1. Marriage between individuals of two different "gothras" is accepted. If your sister is married off to a man from a different gotra her offspring gets the gotra of her husband and not that of her father. But a brothers offspring still carry your gotra so such offspring become brother or sister to your offspring and so cannot be married.
2. People in south also realized with experience that even though they are technically two different gotras it was still too close and leads to genetic issues and most discourage it.
The concept is similar across here in south i guess.
I'm from north India but the concept of gotra in my family is that one can't marry in four gotras... Mother's, maternal grandmother's, grandmother's and their own gotra... People from all of the above gotras will be considered siblings and relatives
@@asleshasharma2933 exactly
1 se kuch nhi hoga
3-4 krne hote h
It is very rare to seen defect in marriage between two opposite gotra than consaganeoious marriage
@@asleshasharma2933 You are not hindu, Because even Lord Sri Krishna's own sister married her cousin Arjuna, means you are not real hindu
I'm a Telugu girl & we also have Gotra system in south india. Cross cousin marriages are quite common even in Telangana & Andhra Pradesh. We can marry our Mama's or Aunt's son or daughter both from maternal n paternal side & also our Mama(Mom's own bro). In both the cases the gotras of the families are different. This practice is called 'Menarikam' in Telugu which is considered the best alliance n no need to match the horoscopes. The probability that this kind of marriages lead to children with diseases is very low. There are cross cousin marriages in almost every Telugu family even today. This can be seen even in our Hindu Epics where Lord Krishna married his Mama's daughter Neella Devi. But all of this should be done only if the girl n guy are interested to get married to each other.
Infact couples shouldn't be blood related as they are more prone to kids with genetic disorders.
@@gratitudetouniverse2689 in that case even indians should not marry with each other since we all come from the same ancestry...
@@xenzorygames4116 plz get the concept right. Marrying first cousins can be genetically damaging. Second cousins and others are not same as first cousins.
Exactly
@@xenzorygames4116 by your logic even brothers should marry their own sisters, if being blood related doesn't matter.
I mean cmon, get real, you don't need to go "saat samundar paar" (across the seven seas) for ensuring a diverse gene pool. The match should simply be (biologically) distant enough to prevent genetic abnormalities effectively.
Don't marry your family members, or else your baraat won't play dhol or shehnai it'll play Sweet Home Alabama.
Every Muslim community is not the same...Thinking about marrying cousins in our Local Assamese muslim culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters...
In Bangladesh only 3% people do that.
It's against Qoran. There's no dowry involved in first cousins' marriages.
Kerala hindus used to marry cousins. The boy can call his cousin girl 'murapennu'. That is, she is the one he should marry. In old malayalam movies you can see these type of marriages or the boy running away from this marriage & marrying the girl he like😂. Also in our village there is a family where one man married two siblings. This happened years ago. He is now too old. They do this to keep wealth & properties within the family. Now it has changed. Cousin marriages are rare here.
my mom is a north indian- bengali to be exact and when she was pregnant with me she was shocked to see babies with upturned and backward feets like literal ghosts in the hospital where she was having checkups. Finally a nurse explained that this was due to cousin and uncle-niece marriages and said it was very common. The nurse also asked my mother whether she was carrying the child of her relative. Thankfully my father was not related to my mother in any way.
My mother still recalls this saying that she's grateful that I was not born with such defects.
Edit: The comment section is blowing up that my mother is not a North Indian. I get it more than anyone- because take a hint- I'm half bengali, I have common sense, education and I travel there a lot for Durga puja, Kali puja, holi, Christmas- you name it.
I am just referencing to people back in Tamilnadu who call her north indian just like how all people above Andra Pradesh, Telenga and Karnataka call them south indians regardless of their state.
Just like you guys think all south Indians are same and have the same language and culture it's no surprise that people from TamilNadu (I don't know about other states thinking) think that all north Indians are same, everyone speaks Hindi, and blast off loud ear tearing songs on weddings without any reason, the stereotypes are endless.
And again I was actually trying to say something here and spread awareness on an important matter instead of discussing this.
North, South, East, West, Northeastern whatever part of India you are still Indian so please don't segregate yourself from other people based on directions.
Instead try to learn cultures of other states and respect them instead of making it an insult.
I am always proud to introduce myself as a proud Indian (Bharatiya) first and so is my mother.
Bro bengalis r not north indians...they r from east of India...WB doesn't come in North india
@@ashwinpawar5325 Do you think I don't know? I am just referencing to people back in tamilnadu who call her north indian just like how all people above Andra Pradesh, Telenga and Karnataka call them south indians regardless of their state :)
She’s east indian. “North” ends with haryana also even Uttar Pradesh IS NOT part of it. Uttar Pradesh is part of central region of India. The name uttar pradesh doesnt mean shit, this name was chosen because they only wanted a name which started with U and P. Reason for that was Britishers named it as United Provinces.
@@arynsandilya736 then those folks are way too stupid to properly navigate
@@ashwinpawar5325 He is talking in terms of culture and launguage