I am from West Bengal and here in Hindu family a brother or uncle is regarded as a' second father' and girls respect them as well and men also take care of them 😊 to think about marrying them is nothing but a nightmare and it's also ruined the beautiful relationship among cousins. We celebrate Bhai duj ( Bhai fonta ) , Rakhsabandhan with love and respect with all cousins.
@@Subhadwip-gq6vo If you have read about Ray's life , you would also learnt that his whole family members were against this marriage and Mrs Ray was also afraid of this awkward relationship but they were in love and were successful to convenience their families.....after all we could found exception in everywhere but that doesn't mean we support or accept the culture just because a famous personalities accept it ( I am a big fan of his film and literature but when I came to know about his marriage it was really weird feelings for me )
Mohak chooses less controversial issues and chooses more issues which we really need to know deeply that's why I like Mohak's channel. Thank you very much for bringing such videos continuously.
In Telugu states your father's brother's daughter is SISTER to you..but you can marry your father's sister's daughter...same for mother. Your mother's sister's daughter is SISTER to you but you can marry your mother's brother's daughter In short, you can marry your parent's opposite gender sibling's daughter/son
@@purpleyou4056 bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
@Manoj i am aware of that. I just find it so interesting to know differences in people of same religion but different places. India is indeed a cosmic cuious. And i am proud of that.
I'm a child born from a Consanguine marriage. My family in Kerala actually don't appreciate such a marriage, but in my case, parents fell in love with each other. I never knew much about the negative aspects of Consanguine marriages, so few years back I had fallen in love with my cousin as well, and we were in a relationship for almost a year. That is when I learnt about this and shared the information with her as well. I realised how lucky I was to be born without any abnormalities, and we mutually got out of the relationship. We were in love when we broke up. But we did it, only to avoid the risk of spoiling a child's life and also for a happier future. More people in South India should be educated about the problems of Consanguine marriages.
There is always a option of adopting a child... That way one can spend the rest of the life with their loved ones. There is a saying, "Love knows no bounds.".
Risk of birth defects in consanguineous marriages is overrated. Risk is even lesser in communities that have practiced consanguinity for thousands of years and have inherited stronger genes over the years, not weaker genes. Don't take my word for it. Look up research. Not the one done on people from typically non consanguineous society, but are born out of consanguineous relationship. Look for research done on rate of birth defects in consanguineous society and you will know
A fun fact : Arjun and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mom and Subhadra's dad were siblings. In South India the cousin you can marry has to be between bua and mama 's kids. However, the numbers have greatly reduced due to biological defects such marriages can cause.
This is also common in gujrat in ahir community yadav of gujrat can marry to bua or mama son or daughter . But not with cousins like father brother son or daughter or mother sister son or daughter. They have been called brother and sister but mama and bua son or daughter not called brother or sister the marriage can be done if family and girl and boy are ok
South people also only marry in father's sister son or mother brother son not marry mom sister son or daughter and father brother son or daughter and it's most common 80s and 90s people but now a days people not interested to marry in close relative like mom's brother son or daughter like that because one is genetic issue and another thing now a days children's are mold to dislike relative marriage .
I watched a documentary on this topic years ago... People don't usually talk about this, and most are unaware of the biological side of the story... I'm glad you are bringing light to this topic and educating people about this... Kudos to you !
*SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Though its very common in Muslim culture, my grandfather was dead against cousin marriage mainly because of possibility of biological disorder also it was weird for him that the kids who grew up considering each other as brothers and sisters should see each other as potential spouses.
I belong to a tribe in Assam. In my tribe, there are lots of restrictions regarding marriage. You cannot marry if both the bride and spouse have same title( even though they are not related in any sort), and many more complicated rules, cousins are treated as brothers and sisters. It's incredible that our ancestors have adopted those rules to prevent biological disorders of the offerings from the ancient times when there were no education system at all. Because of this practice we hardly see any physical abnormalties in our tribe.
Finally someone is talking about this issue. As a south Indian who grew up in middle east, I find it very weird to see my family chart. Btw, you are putting effort in your videos. May you reach 1M soon and grow beyond that.♥♥
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
I'm a kerala Christian. We consider cousins as our siblings. While studying in Chennai i had a classmate whose parents were uncle and niece. Though their marriage was happy, my classmate said she will never marry her relative. I think in current generation nobody wants to marry relatives.
@Motivationalquotesmalayalam is it? It's not in entire Kerala , it is in your family only not in Kerala . My whole village is still continue to take relative cousin in another village
I'm from Andhra Pradesh and I've personally experienced this issue. My paternal aunt considered me as a 'perfect bride' for her son and even my cousin was perfectly fine with the idea of marrying me (I'm seven years younger than him). They even proposed the match to my father. I was horrified because I always called my cousin 'elder brother' and to learn that he did have a romantic interest in me, when all while I considered him a sibling, sickened me to the core. My father rejected it without second thoughts as he was against cousin marriages having learnt in his late twenties about 'incest' and the resulting genetic problems in the later generations. Yay to father! My aunt was upset when my father rejected her and she even had the gall to say to my father "If you marry her into our household we'll take care of her. Since I'm her aunt, you can rest the fear that she might suffer under her in-laws. Also, the dowry will remain in our family without going to nameless outsiders." My father simply said "Bold of you to assume that I'll be offering any form of dowry," and the argument quickly escalated and the relations naturally strained after that. Even today my father and aunt barely spare a polite greeting at family gatherings. And me being awkward, I just turn opposite whenever I spot my aunt or cousin. I was the lucky case but my classmate from University was married to her cousin right after graduation. Cousin marriages are a common occurance in South India and regarded as normal and 'part of the tradition.' I'm glad that this issue is being spoken of. Edit: Incest is a common issue across religions and the people who practice this 'tradition' aren't even aware that cousin marriages come under incest. You see not all cousins can marry. I'm a Hindu and I can marry my paternal aunt's son and also marry my maternal uncle's son--these fellas are not technically adressed as brothers, they have a separate form of address so as to prevent any awkwardness later on if I marry them ( though my dad instructed me to call them as brothers from early age)but I cannot marry my maternal aunt's son or my paternal uncles's son(they are considered as brothers). I don't know if it's true but my mother said that the opposite applies for muslims. So, it's like everyone have their own rules for acceptable incest.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
There was an uncle in my colony who was from Hyderabad he told me about this, at first I couldn’t believe him coz I thought this only happens in Muslim community. Glad that your father rejected the proposal. I think there should be some sort of campaign against such practices.
0:52 In Maharashtra also ( Not in all regions of Maharashtra) Marrying your mama ki ladki is normal. And some people don't appreciate this including me.. relative starts teasing boy with his mama chi mulgi from childhood . This is very normalise in my region. But things are changing now
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I'm from andhra and yes it happens with limitations, the daughters and sons of same sexes are seen as sisters and brothers while opposite sexes are seen as potential marriage partners, I never understood the logic behind it and left it thinking it's just part of the culture.
Bro annakodu kani islam and south indian marriages ni kalpesi he made people confused Well cross cousin will obviously have different gotras and he created a pov as we don't follow hindu tradition Because as ramdev baba said same gotra people shouldn't marry but obviously cross cousins have different gotras and the genetic thing is actually true so that is the only reason we should give less preference
@@aryanb9233 bro anakudadhu gani English bhasha telugu bhasha kalipesi comment pettav Naku nuvvu cheppindhi em artham kale , complete hindi kaani complete Telugu lo kani cheppu bro complete hindi lo aanna cheppu
Being a Himachali..I never knew about cousin marriages but when I came to know ,I was really shocked cuz my cousins are like real brother's and sisters to me and their parents are like my parents.
@@FoodRecipes108 Yes there are exceptions as the cultures are different. I just shared my culture shock..not a big deal! Also, happy for ur Himachali friend getting married bcoz of my random comment 🤗🙏
@Superman's doberman it's not about not knowing what the difference in cousins are, I'm myself Himachali and even if my cousins are so distant that we don't have similar ancestry for two generations, we still consider them as if they are our real brother/sister. It's just a difference in upbringing and mentality my grandmothers cousin sister's grandsons are very close to me.. and that's such a distant relation
@Superman's doberman I'm not saying anything about marrying cousins. All I mean is for me marrying cousin would be same a marrying my own sibling because from childhood we are raised as if w all are from one family. I'm not calling it a sin, stop getting worked up. Just telling you why some people feel weird from this because of how they are brought up. That's all
@@berlin5403 He's comparing "their approach" of picking up odd things, not them, heck not even comparing, it was just praise and i'm pretty sure it won't affect the popularity of Ayushman.🙌🏻
I'm from Kerala. Cousin marriages are almost non existent to the point I've never even heard of one happening. The first time i heard about this being in practise in the South was when some guy on the internet called me a cousin lover in an attempt to ridicule me.😂
It's not non existent in Kerala bro ..Malayalam movies normalised cousin marriage untill 2000, I think such storyline became not much seen in movie when it became less popular .I know 2 couples who are cousin,they fell in love with each other . I think they knew that in olden days cousin marriage was a thing,so they might be see the potential to fall in love ..In mum's generation other reason of cousin marriage is financial...if the girl is poor or lower middle class who is also unemployed ,her family were expected to give dowry,if her cousin agree to married her, it avoid family to go through such situations.. now people know that marriage is not a mandatory thing in our life .And every one starts give importance to their life rather than obeying parents will even if they are wrong and today's parents also not interested in cousin marriage since they don't get along with relatives thank god😂😂..but ofcourse it not completely faded in Kerala .but numbers are much better than other South Indian states .
In Manipur we never thought of such things just even in once lifetime,It's a sin in our culture to marry someone to whom we share our direct blood line, like cousins from uncle ,aunts etc
I am from Tamilnadu. Yes marrying cousins and close relatives is common in South India. In olden days the idea was to keep the property within the family. That is why such marriages were conducted and accepted. Even though it was and is a disaster genetically. As of now it has come down to a great extent in urban areas but in the rural belt it still persists. The biological implications of it for the children born out of such marriages is grave. Education and repeated reinforcement is the only way the society will give up such a practise. Any social change takes years. There will be a lot of resistance too from the conservative elements.
Uma, I don’t endorse these marriages but if this disease thing was correct then most of the South Indians would have some disease or the other as it has been happening for 2000 years.
That’s what I thought too that genetics being mixed will lead to genetic disorders. Thanks for covering that. It felt weird when I first started watching South Indians movies and saw that marriage between cousins and I thought i misunderstood something in the movie
We see a lot of this in our culture. And I've yet to see more number of disabled children but I've seen some though. Today's generation is drifting towards love marriages because of better education.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
Bhai why telegu ppl in abroad always stay and communicate with their own community and not talk outside of it? You can correct me if I'm wrong with this notion
@@teja8086 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Well it doesn't make me feel anything. If it didn't lead to birth defects then i wouldn't bat an eye if someone were to marry their own sister even. I could never do it but why do I care what anybody else does in their life? But since it's a major health risk I'll definitely be against it no matter what.
If two cousins agreed to marry as an Adult...then they can. Why not?? The Love between them would be Awesome 😍😍 I know exceptions exists but mostly it would be Super awesome
@@rajeevjuneja5584 Good it doesn't make you feel anything. I think both of us can exist under the same sky 😇 and many more individuals, with vary many opinions. All are welcome to express, to not express, to feel, to not feel. To each his own.
Being a Jain in our culture we have something called "Saka" which means we are restricted to not marrying the ones who share the surname of both my mother's side and father's side family. Its believed that this practice avoids pre-mature baby deaths, diseases, genetic problems, and various health issues to an extent.
Yeah in my people(Haryanvi) .we leave gotra one from mother side then father side then grandmother (dadi) side and last one from grandmother (nani) side .so you can't marry if girl has gotra maching anyone of them. Then the village exogamy is practiced . 😀😀
Every Muslim community is not the same...Thinking about marrying cousins in our Local Assamese muslim culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters...
I am from Karnataka and I can speak for almost all people who live in northern part of Karnataka. This practice used to be common till my parents' time but has reduced significantly these days. Main cause to stop the practice was that we as a society saw some health problems in children born out of such marriages. Not in all children but in few cases. To clarify more on what's cross cousin is. They could may their Mama's or Atte/Buwa's kids. Marrying Kaka/Chikkappa/Chacha's or Chikkamma/chikki/mausi's kids was strictly prohibited, no one even thought about it. I have not seen a single such case in my entire life. As of marrying ones niece: back in days people used to have lots of kids. So imagine a case where the eldest offspring was a girl and youngest offspring say 7th or 8th child was a boy. Now obviously there's a huge age difference between these 2 Sister and Brother. Now, it was very common that the girls used to get married in early ages. You can imagine this bride's youngest brother running around in her marriage in shorts with runny nose 😀 This sister used give birth to children very early. So now this Eldest sister's daughters and her youngest brothers were of same age and compatible for marriage from the age perspective. As you married off your elder sister to a different man outside your family, her lineage became totally different. (her kids Gotra would be different than yours). Hence marriages were allowed. Nowadays these practices exists close to none.
nowhere such practice in karnataka blindly informed in message, you delivered as father of karnataka. no one married in karnataka a such practice. Here i see some muslim family has been following.
In Maharashtra, marriage with mama's daughter is very comman since old times. In fact, one of the son in law of Bal gangadhar tilak (freedom fighter) was his own nephew. Also the third chhatrapati Rajaram raje bhonsle were married to Maharani Tarabai, who was the daughter of his mama Hambirrao Mohite. The same way Pradyumna- son of bhagwan krishna married to the daughter of his mama rukmi, as per the bhagwatam. There are so many examples like arjuna- subhadra, krishna-mitravinda, etc.
I don't have anything against cousin marriage except that it leads to weak child. Because u share 50% ur DNA with cousin. It gets worse with blood sister cause u share 100%
@@Saujas cross cousin dont share that much dna it is less than 12% I guess. Also, cross cousin marriage are allowed for two generations only; and after third generation it is prohibited.
Term "inbreeding depression" is often used for the reduced biological and reproductive health of a person who is born of cousin marriage. It is very important to marry out of family as it's necessary for gene variation(evolution).
Yes thats what most people don't understand. I've seen fools telling me how a person was born out of cousin marriage and doesn't have any disease. Well duh! That's because he's probably a 1st generation child. There won't be any inbreeding problems in the 1st to 3rd generations but inbreeding depression will keep accumulating until it actually shows up as a genetic disease in the 4th or 5th generation. That's why we Bengalis compared atleast 3 generations of gotra and at max 5. Some Hindi belt people compare upto 8 generations but that is a little too excessive in my opinion. Upto 4-5 generations is the optimum amount. Neither too much nor too less. For example my own parents compared their gotras of upto 4 generations only. Not beyond that. I'm of the same opinion as them and if I ever were to get married I would compare 4 generations of gotra too. I myself am of Shandilya gotra
As a biologist and someone who learned genetics and cells, I want to say that it's not good for health and is the main reason behind many genetic diseases almost 10%.
This concept of 'cousin marriages' have always irked me growing up. And it also made talking with cousins a wierd/stereotypical one as against talking with siblings from father's brothers/mother's sisters. You always have a sense that you can't mingle with your cousins freely. Because if you do, society will think that you are interested with them. Even parents think so. Being from South India, I like the North Indian perspective of these marriages and I want to consider my cousin as a sibling and want to mingle with them freely during family unions.
I always enjoyed interacting with my paternal aunts' daughters and did end up marrying one of them. Now happily married with a healthy baby, ofcourse ❤️
I am a Gujarati married to a Kannadiga. My husband's brother married some sort of cousin (not aware of the exact relation) and when I first realized this, I was shocked. For me, all cousins are brothers, so I didnt understand how this could happen. Slowly I learnt that this is common in South India. My husband's brother has a son now who is 11 years old and my daughter is 6 years old. I can see so many health and a bit of mental issues in my bro in law's (BIL) son. It's sad to see the physical suffering of the child. And there are quite some mentally challenged children in my husband's family. More than the amount you would see otherwise in families. And I have come to realize its due to these cousin marriages. I once spoke to my husband about it, but he just brushed it aside. He was either embarrassed or didnt like what he was hearing. With science so advanced and evidence available that such marriages can and will lead to genetic issues in the progeny, I dont understand why people still follow this tradition? My heart breaks for my nephew who will always suffer health issues due to a mistake made for traditions' sake. And the cherry on top is, while nephew celebrates rakhi with my daughter, he does not with his bua's daughter cause she is a potential bride for him. My mind is just f u c k e d!!!!
thank u for sharing this real instance... its high time leave this tradition... our society hv to understand that all tradition which hv built those were suitable at those times we hv keep updating n removing those bcoz these r not at all relevant to current situation... n also we hv scientific proof on this to demolish... its responsibilty of current generation to understand this n act accordingly...
@@IdealEdittt You North fellows are Aryans. We are South Dravidians. You keep your practice to yourself. You don't decide what is correct and what is wrong.
My own father and mother are cousins from the mother side and got married just because my mother had a government job :) and from my childhood I've seen a hell of fights between them that my and my siblings' mental well being is far from okay. I am highly prone to diseases and frequently on meds. I've found this cousins and uncle-niece marriage concept utterly disgusting from what I've experienced. People need to be educated about this and just stop being married for these sick reasons!! Or just stop being married!! There's a lot more in life than marriage, trust me.
@@rupeshbhangare1822 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE. Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it. This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
My cousin wanted to marry her cousin from her mother's side and a friend of mine married her cousin. Believe me, there were talks. Thankfully, my maternal grandfather was against cousin marriages. Everybody forgets about complications while discussing marriages between cousins even educated folks🤷🏽♀️
marriage is ok. It's just that having kids is risky. What if they can get married, have a good, meaningful life together, have intercourse, but don't reproduce.... Adopt a child instead.
@@rosieroti4063 my friend has a kid.. thankfully he's alright.. They just forget about complications.. when I told my cousin about it.. she was pointing out the cases where it didn't result in bad situation..
@@rosieroti4063 Actually it's risky when your family is carrying a defective gene pool, If your family is healthy without any genetic diseases then it's fine. The risk of adding defective genes to your family pool is also more when you get marry outside of your gene pool with someone's new gene pool. It's simple...mathematics not some sort of sorcery...
I am from Kolkata, when I was in class 7-8 my tuition teacher told my mother that her father and her late mother were cousin. We couldn't care less because we knew that in muslim community it is allowed to marry first cousin. However her younger sister whose age was around 17-18 years was deformed and had a brain of 2-3 year old child, she couldn't even walk instead she would slither, she couldn't alarm her sister whenever she wanted to defecate or urinate and she couldn't even speak. I felt sorry for her and always questioned why would god make her like this. But recently few years ago i realised that her condition could have been due to her parents' cousin marriage. I haven't communicated with my teacher since I cleared class 8 and its been more than 10 years. I hope her sister is surviving.
Since most of these congenital diseases are attributed to recessive genes, its been estimated that chance of these disease manifesting in the offsprings rise up by at least 30% when marriages are done within family.
Being from Maharashtra, cousin marriages are very much prevalent here....with even tv serials promoting them ...and like in southern india, even we cant marry same gender sibling's son/daughter but can marry opposite gender's son/daughter...Moreover, even we follow the GOTRA system....
Yes, that's why Maharashtra in many angles of view is considered as a Southern Indian State (mostly). Dravidian kinship is something among the similarities between the "Dravidian" States and Maharahstra.
Actually Maharshtra Called as South in history, they considered themselves as dakshinpanthi there are many references to it. Maharashtra and South states were under one rule for thousands of years unlike North. that's why we share some festivals like gudi padwa and many with south Indians. Our language does not associated with Hindi unlike other languages in North Indian which directly are dialect of Hindi or associated with Hindi. We just belong to Indo Aryan category language and nothing else. Just as same shrilankas language Sinhalese is also comes under indo Aryan language
We can say that consanguineous marriages are common in Andhra Pradesh and Telangana, based on the fact that the same term is used for a niece and a daughter-in-law... (Kodalu)
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Exactly! But parallel cousins marriages are almost non existent since we call them annna/tammudu/akka/chilli i.e brother/sister, we treat parallel cousins just like siblings
I m from Kerala , in our State nowadays this type of marriages are very rare .In my family from past three generations as per my knowledge we haven't followed this practice.
@@ElonMusk-tb2yi ya i agree but see the percentage of marriages in starting of the video which Mohak sir has given them you can find the difference. In telangana it's 23.4 % whereas in Kerala it's 3.7% , tamilnadu -25.5%.
@@dreamcatcher6693 Agreed Cousin marriage rate is low in Kerala. Me to bolta hu puri World ka Marriage Rate 0 ho jaye Pehele se hi 7 Billion bhare pade hai aur nhi chahiye
As a north indian from Bihar, yes! We have Gotra system . Even people who were moved to Mauritius, Trinidad and Tobago, Suriname and Java by Britishers. They used their first name in next generation surname so cousin marriage can prevent.
even in south same gothra people dont marry, yeh angrez key cousin cousin is same like autny word, father key sister aur mother key sister ek nahi hey na? same parallel cousins and cross cousins are different, cross cousins ko same gotra nahi hotha same gothra valey kahi shadi nahi karthey south mey bhi
As a north Indian hindu : we avoid three surnames or gotra ,i.e, Own surname, mother surname and grandmother surname...we also avoid maternal grandmother surname but now a days we just consider 3 surnames mostly....even villages who share boundaries also get avoided to marriage Note: please avoid my English 😅
South indian hindus also avoid who have same gotras and same surnames....... Families having same gotras cannot be cousins ......... Mere relatives ke relatives mai same gotra&surname same tha marriage mai usi marriage ke vajah se ek bandhe ka jaan chala gaya & bahut logo serious the because car road divider ko tok dhiya
I stay in Bangalore and have seen many such examples. When I first came to know that my friend's parents are actually cousins, I was like what!!!! 😱 Then gradually it became normal to me... It was interesting to know about it.
I am from Kerala Brahmin community and we consider our paternal and maternal cousins as brothers and sisters. We don't marry our cousins. However, I have seen people who are second cousins getting married in rare occurrences. Or even third cousins. Also, cousin marriages are rare in Kerala nowadays in all the communities due to the more number of educated people.
Bro, South india is being used as a scapegoat for justifying Cousin marraiges of Islam. While in reality since the spread of Christianity was more in south India hence people redefined the Gotra system so as to suit their purpose. From kashmir to kanyakumari, India runs on Gotra system. What Some of the southerners are doing is a result of the misinterpretation of Gotra system. Edit 1:- Gotra system is so deeprooted in the Indian society that most of the Tribes have Gotra system too. This is enough to prove the importance of Gotra system while finding the right match in Indian subcontinent.
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Actually the marriages in South India are between sister's offspring and her brother's (maternal uncle) offspring. NOT between two brother's children or two sister's children. This guy has put both cases in the same category. Among Muslims marriage is common between two brother's children or two sister's children.
I am from AP, we do have & follow gotra system as well. Marriage between parllel cousins or first cousins is NO here mostly. Don't know about rest of South India. Marriage between uncle and niece used to happen few years ago, but it has gone down a lot, i mean so much down ( some exception cases if age gap between bride & groom is low ,5 - 7 yrs max ). Marriages between second cousins & cross cousins is still happening. People now a days are exposed & having a lot of awareness, hopefully it dies down.
I agree. Mohak's topic is good but there are some mistaken conclusions due to poor or insufficient research. Mohak needs to study the more in depth statistics to understand this intricate topic. I wish to give some points: (1) Consanguine marriages are not modern in India, it has dwapara yug examples also. Most recently evidence was found that all India is one gene, north/south or aryan/dravidian divide is politically motivated from British era to divide and rule. (2) Gotras concept is very much there in southern states also; hence to conclude anything through the difference of numbers between northern states and southern states (I doubt whether those numbers are correct!) is superficial. You could of course say that 50% is sa-gotra in first cousin marriage and it reduces to the second and tertiary levels. However, to prove that people of northern states have been conscious to avoid sa-gotra marriage, there is a need to delve into the statistics of second cousin and second uncle/niece marriages.
I remember watching a Marathi TV show called 'Home Minister' as a kid. In the show, the host travels across Maharashtra and talks to married couples about their love story and all. Many times the the couple were first cousins, as in the husband was the wife's atte bhau (Bua ka beta in marathi). They also talked about how they liked each other since their teenage, basically they romanticized cousin marriages a lot. I found it really weird. Also, in Marathi serials I've seen some married women calling their mother-in-law as aatya (bua). Maybe I'm watching too much of Zee Marathi with my aaji.
Now days every one is doctor??🧐 Culture is main important thing to practice such a thing..if i stay in latur Maharashtra..will i understand culture, rituals of Western Maharashtra.. even language ,tone also not same..yes there are many happy married couple ..but yeah it could be change
@@_prash families promote karti hai ye sab, meri kuch friends hai, un mein se 2-3 hai jinke ghar mein aisi shaadi ho chuki hai. Humare yaha toh cross ke crisis cross cousin se koi bhaag ke shaadi kare toh bhi badnaam hote hai log 😂
@@maheshpatil-he8ny lol, there are detailed studies about the dreadful consequences of cousin marriage, especially based in Pakistan. Having read those, it’s absolutely true that genetic deformities are more likely in such cases. It’s a fact, not an opinion. One needs to be sociologist to understand this, not doctor. We all are from same culture, it’s better to improve one generation at a time.
Hi Mohak, I am a Tamizhan. I want you to know that unlike what is said in this video , Gotra system exists in south India too. It is the gotra system that prevents parallel cousin marriages. If you see parallel cosuins will always have same gotra & cross cousins will belong to different gotras. The same gotra system also prevents a male from marrying his bhathiji wheareas one can marry his bhanji as she would be obviously from a different gotra. Hope i could make it clear to you !!
Actually there are some extention to this gotra system We cannot marry a person who has same gotra as my father + gotra which my mother had before marriage. I hope this makes the confusion clear....
I'm from bihar. studied at one of south college. although I was shocked to hear that they can marry their cousins, but no more shocked. I talked my friends, and the case is like - if you're a boy - you can marry your father's sister's daughter OR mother's brother's daughter. Similarly for Girls. Fun fact is: in bihar, one of village, my brahmin friend is there, and he said they cant marry any girls of that community from that village for they all are like sisters.
Finnally someone took initiative to talk on such topic . Basically i m from Rajasthan but my school staff was from Kerala and my principle and his wife are actually cousins from maternal side and it was so shocking for us .But unexpectedly they were so cool about it since it's happening from ages .
People are so damn closed in mind . Kerala practices matrilineal lineage , so child from other mother( not in the birth line or family of mother ) is another family altogether for them . North India practices Gotra system , that does not mean every one should practice the same . Get over your superiority complex for moral high grounds 😂
Cousin merriage me koi bhi problem nahi hoti ,,,me to chahta hun ki north india me bhi cousin merriage ho ,,,kyoki sabko pata hai ki ,,almost sare ladke ladko ka apne cousin par crush hota hai kahi n kahi ,,uper se to bahan bol dete hai lekin dik chahta hai ki wo uski lover ho ya husband wife ho ,,,,sacchayi to yahi hai ,,lekin 3 gotr taalne ki vajah se ye sambhav nahi hai ,,to Dil ki baat dil me rah jaati hai ,,isiliye wo hamesa Muslim or SI ko nicha dikhane ki kosis karte rahte hai ।
*As a Pakistani citizen I urge the Indian people to please come and liberate us from this Pakistan Army that has held this nation a slave for the last 75 years. We shall be forever be indebted to India for this kindness.* ❤❤❤ *Pakistan Zindabad!* ❤❤❤ *Pakistan-India Friendship Zindabad.* ❤❤❤ *Imran Khan Zindabad.* ❤❤❤
One day I asked my father that why we have to tell the priest in the temple about our GOTRA everytime we visit? He said GOTRA is said to be a common relation from a common ancestor and two same GOTRAS should not marry amongst each other as there can be problems among their child. I half heartedly believed that becoz on one side I understood that same blood can cause some problems but was not sure what was the probability of that. Good !
Bro 'Consanguineous' word is pretty fancy......In context of animal husbandry closely related animals are not mated because it might lead to inbreeding depression..... Many Hindu practices have science hidden behind it....
@@shivangmishra9325 true. Sadly the scientific part is getting lost rapidly and just the terms are getting behind, which makes ppl think it's just an old tradition
@@profezagaming9158 lol gotra can never stop u from inter caste marriage cause two different caste have different gotra and u can marry in different gotra but not itn ur own gotra.
In the South, people consider atthai(mami)/mama's daughter/son consider for marriage.. not chitthi/chittappa(maasi/kaka) 's daughter/son, they are brothers n sisters
bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
When I was in karnataka.. In my OBG postings at medical college. While history taking of patients I got to know that in Village areas consanguinous marriage is very common.
It doesn't happen how u people think. This utube guy is such a dumb he misunderstood our marriages.gotra plays vital role here. A boy, girl of same gotra is not allowed to marry here. when ur sister got married her gotra will change then ur children are allowed to marry her's children .But ur and urs brother children are brothers and sisters as they both carry same gotra.
Which college have u done your mbbs from ? Even I'm from Karanataka and have done mbbs from here . And about clinical history yeah we used to ask about consanguinous marriage specially for thalassemia case .
मैं हिमाचल प्रदेश के एक राजपूत परिवार से हूँ, मैं जिस गौत्र से आता हूँ, मैं वहाँ शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि मेरी गोत्र कि लड़कियाँ मेरी बहन या बुआ के रिश्ते जैसा हैं वैसे ही मेरी माता जी अलग गौत्र से आती हैं, तो मैं अपनी माँ के गोत्र में भी शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि उस गौत्र कि लड़कीयां मेरी माशी या बहन लगती हैं | बाकी सभी राजपूत गौत्र से शादी कर सकता हूँ | और हम इसे बहुत अच्छे से मानते हैं |
Yes it's true cousin marriages exist a lot in south India..in my state Kerala it's decreasing but Tamil Nadu and Karnataka has a lot of such marriages..the surprising thing is my family doesn't consider it wierd at all .. my parents were telling stories how their first prospective bride and groom choices were their maternal cousins ... however eventually they didn't go with cousin marriage
I got tp know about it when I met a lot of South Indians. It felt so wierd that out customs could be similar but sometimes soo opposite. In Rajasthan, you can't even think about it, it is basically considered as incest. A lot of measure is taken so both are not from same Gotra, in fact it could be a hurdle in love marriage, that both have same gotra or common ancestry. I am an only child, so my cousins who live closeby are literally the siblings I never had!!😅
@@geisha-12bro We also follow gotra system nd this thing was done by Bhagwan Shri Krishna married Adjacent cousin Also Evn Arjun Subadhra Gotras are Different
I am bio student , I know from very early that cousin marriage is worst effect than anyone can think in all prospect for long time . You give examples of consciousness of cousin marriage is just tip of iceberg .
look at your profile name You people firstly need don't making fun of other relegions God Now tell me what's the people you are And if you are from other relegion or not from any relegion so how you talk about others God Are You believe If you don't beleive so why say anything on this and hurt others Firstly You need to respect relegions
Just a small correction sir🙏🏻 title should be "INDIA's southern region..." NOT "south india...." bcuz india haven't bifurcated like north korea.. south korea.
Mohak, what a explanation about this serious issues in Indian society, every side you explain very well. Before, I don't know much more about consanguineous marriage now I totally understand what is. I appreciate your work what you doing for Indian society.
@@rajatchaudhary1988 2 cheezein hai 1. Every human being will be cousin/ sibling indirectly/ distantly 2. Aur bhi cheezein hai Mahabharatam se seekhne ko wo bhi sikh lete
North me 1000 sal pehle bhi cross cousin marriage Hota tha For example pritviraj chauhan aur goutham budha ne mama ki beti se kiya he .lekin ab vo culture nahi he sirf south me he. Ye Cousin aur behen word sirf chacha ya chachi ke beti ke liye use hota he mama ke beti ko nahi .jab hindi language aya ye behan word mama or chacha ki beti ke liye use kiya gaya hindi se pehle north me sanskrit ya pali bhasha thi jab chacha ki beti ko sanskrit me "bhagini" mama ki beti ko "nananda" word use karte he
In North,(Jharkhand) Marrying any of the relative, even a far relative is considered as a sin or even crime especially in hindus. Relatives will treat you in a very disrespectful way. This is the culture here from 1000 years. Even muslims are following this culture partially. 👍🏼
Wow great topic Mohak! This was very much under the cover thats needed to come up. Also in north India we do not marry in same village because mostly villages have a single ancestor background and all are relatives in a village.
I’m glad someone spoke about this… But Kerala wasn’t a good example as it has the lowest rates of cousins marriages compared to other southern states… Also marumakathayam was abolished in 1975!
@@SatyamSingh-jp3vc so "huge" is a word to be used for one or two points difference in percentage ryt 🥴. Taking the average of all north Indian states' % even excluding jk would probably have higher rate than Kerala's
Marikmakkattayam was mainly practiced by certain communities because of their arrangements ,especially in north kerala , in south kerala only certain communities followed..now in south region it is fully vanished.
Here in Maharashtra the most common cousin marriage is with Mama ki beti/ Bua ka beta. I have seen some cases in my relatives and family friends where the child born from such marriage is mentally weak. It is very very rare for me to find any defective child born in a non-cousin marriage
Even in Telugu states, cross cousin marriages do happen, but not compulsory. But the compulsory thing is that we shouldn't marry within same gotra. Gotra system is strictly followed here. Cross cousins will anyhow not share same gotra unlike Parallel cousins. Here, Mami/Buaa/Saas is called Atta. And Mama/Phupha/Sasur is called Mama. But, Mausi/Badimaa/Chachi is equivalent to Mother and Mausa/Badepapa/Chacha is equivalent to Father.
As a Nepali we consider everyone as our family members as our brothers & sisters...we can't even think about marring our cousin or relatives ...even same gotra me vi sadi nai hota ..7 pusta dekhna parta he sadi k Liye ...❤️🕉️🇳🇵
My parents are first cousins. Because of this, my brother was born with poor eyesight and asthma. It’s wrong to marry your cousin. It leads to many disorders.
Hey a quick question, purely out of curiosity. Does ur brother brother have any trait that is unusually good? Like a trait that u might share with him, but his version of it is way better? Again, and seriously, purely out of curiosity.
@@zucc2802 obviously there will be no international boundary there because it's not a political map it's a physical map moreover there is also no international boundary between Pakistan and india also no boundary between nepal and india what'll you say then? Mangal's video are so powerful ki Akhand Bharat hi ban gaya?🚩
@@IronMan-nu3rb Indians (Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Nepali & Srilankan) don't have any choice due to Arrange Marriage culture because their parents & relative bear the responsibility of their marriage!!! 😒😒😒
In Tollywood, I've seen a lot of romanticizing of relationships between cousins, to the point of calling a guy "baava" (it means cousin) is considered romantic. In fact, there's a movie where the main male lead starts falling in love with the female lead after she calls him "baava". Honestly, I always found that weird, and thanked my stars that my parents showed zero interest in marrying me to any of my relatives. I'm really glad there's a video about this.
I am a Bengali Hindu and in our Bengali Hindu society no one can think of marriage between such brothers and sisters, I have been thinking for so long that it is only among Muslims. Cousins are like your sister, so treat them like your own sister
Not even near as common in North. No way in my culture we don't even marry with same surname, and gotra and checking if we are also from same village if we are, then no
I'm an odia belongs to southern part of odisha where my mother and father were cousins. My mother was my father uncle's daughter. I totally agree with mohak's point of view.
Odisha me LITTERALY bhot loog abhi bhi ye karane kaa sochte rehte hai mai Chattisgarh se huu apne nani ke yaha jaata huu too waha aurat loog apni maama ki beti se shaadi karega naa puchte rehte hai 🤢🤢
Such marriage is very rare in Odisha but regions bordering Andhra like Paralakhemundi and Gunpur have some tolerance to this custom as they have absorbed many Telenga practices over the years.
Two points as a Telugu 1. Marriage between individuals of two different "gothras" is accepted. If your sister is married off to a man from a different gotra her offspring gets the gotra of her husband and not that of her father. But a brothers offspring still carry your gotra so such offspring become brother or sister to your offspring and so cannot be married. 2. People in south also realized with experience that even though they are technically two different gotras it was still too close and leads to genetic issues and most discourage it.
I'm from north India but the concept of gotra in my family is that one can't marry in four gotras... Mother's, maternal grandmother's, grandmother's and their own gotra... People from all of the above gotras will be considered siblings and relatives
true. I live in Ap and I have seen such marriages and friends who have shown interest in their cousins too! I was shocked. But growing up here I don't find it uncommon, though I never liked it personally.
Kerala has come out of this old custom to a large extend. Compared to other 4 four THE percentage of cousin marraiges are very low, though every other film of 70 and 80s where following the trend
Almost 3-4 years ago I was watching with my sister a South movie (dubbed in hindi).In which I realised that marrying with cousin in South is common.While watching movies suddenly my sister asked me didi if it is possible then how can a girl feeling safe in her home. I mean in our house my father's sister's son,or father's brother's son is like my own brother . Even whole villages children are brother and sister.
I think it would have been better if you take the example of other south Indian states instead of Kerala where the percentage is very low or equal to many North Indian states. Nowadays even many malayalam movie are also against this...
I am a South Indian and this practice was always discouraged as our family was educated and also many of them had settled in North for generations ,so no evidence of cousin marriages in our family.
In Marathi wedding it is common for the groom to walk w/ his maternal uncle in the mandap and the uncle has to say "I am giving my daughter to you" even if the boy is not marrying his first cousin. This practise shows that even Marathi people had con-whatever marriages.
@@chatgpt4135 I think sata lota vegla asta, tyat don vegli ghara eka dusryat lagna lavtat. mhanze don lagna hotat ani pratyeki ek mulga ani ek mulgi lagna kartat.
I have never heard of this, but the uncle does accompany the bride and groom. But actually consanguineous marriages were common in maharashtra I think but they were only acceptable between a boy and his maternal uncles daughter and no other way. Not even a girl and her maternal uncle's son. Alas, I am glad my family has no such history for the last three generations and I am thankful for the fault-free genetics I got as a side.
I'm glad that it's declining because most of the times the children of these first cousin couples are born with either mental issues or physical issues. I'm a South Indian who is living in Raipur, Chhattisgarh and I have personally seen a case of one of my family friend who actually married his first cousin and their son was born with severe kidney issues, unfortunately the little guy died within 6 months.
@@arvindshastry1178 your statement most of the time is absolutely wrong... Very rare case in cousin marriages there are abnormalities... Is kidney disease a genetic disorder...pls find the reason.... Haemophilia, diabetes are genetic disorder...
@@arvindshastry1178 it is no doubt but not necessarily due to genetic( cousin marriage) it could also be due to medications during pregnancy. That was my point.
my aunt had consanguineous marriage as well, though it was the only consanguineous marriage in our family but I'm glad her children are absolutely okey, thank you for the video, Mohak, really learned a lot in this 10 mins..
Child being born with deformities is 6 percent in such marriages, very low. In comparison a child born from parents not related in any way is 3 percent. So the difference is minimal.
I'm from TamilNadu 1. If A,B are a Brother and Sister A's Son/daughter can marry B's Daughter/Son 2. But if A,B are the same Gender(both are brothers/sisters) A's Son/ daughter can't marry B's The reason is A and B are the same gender Explanation for the second point Here B is older and A is younger 1. A and B is Men = both of their children will call them Dad and big Dad 2. A and B is Women = both of their children will call them as Mom and Big Mom
I was having this discussion w some of my friends today itself. Undeniably, the mention of muslims* (*apparently*/ as per popular belief, NO OFFENCE to anyone as such-- just a manifestation of "kahi-suni" around us; I don't have enough data to have this substantiated so let's drop it here ) tying the knot with their second, and even first cousins, came up. Personally speaking, this video has come as a shocker in more ways than one. Nor does it push one to question the "literacy" comes with "progress" dichotomy (The latter being associated usually with the doing away of traditions and norms)-- but also makes one rethink the prejudices we've built our perception of social relations on, one of which is given in the first half of my comment. Great job bringing this to light, Mohak sir. Will read up on this for better understanding now!!
In a study I came across, young Indians across India were against inter religion and intercaste marriage overwhelmingly. People care about caste of candidate a LOT even in urban areas. We should definitely redefine social progress.
Yup, it's actually true that marriages between cousins are allowed in our religion. My parents are first cousins, it was very common back then but now it's not.
@@mohammadansar2783 it's allowed in the time of Adam... not today lol bcz there was the time when world population was less that's not mean you have to apply this theory in this modern time and it's scientifically unhealthy....and why your parents done this?? You peoples are the real mocker of Islam....
@@mohammadansar2783 and Islam never force to marry cousins lol... what your parents did, it could be their own choice or own fault don't bring Islam into it
Coming from Telangana this is very true where I have seen cross cousin and uncle neice marriages in my own family on both sides Also in Telangana and Andhra Pradesh bua and mother in-law both are called atta and mama and father-in-law both are called mama which indicates that your bua can become your saas and your mama can become your sasur Thankfully this has not happened with my mom and dad!! Also Mohak sir I would request you to make a detailed video on girls first period celebration in South India that would also be a insightful topic
Thinking about marrying cousins in our Assamese culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters..
Absolutely right I'm also from assam
Same ...in North India also
Same here in Manipur
That's why 0.9 % in Assam. 0:10
Galat kar rhae aap bhi start kijiye cousin marriage prosperity ayegi
I am from West Bengal and here in Hindu family a brother or uncle is regarded as a' second father' and girls respect them as well and men also take care of them 😊 to think about marrying them is nothing but a nightmare and it's also ruined the beautiful relationship among cousins. We celebrate Bhai duj ( Bhai fonta ) , Rakhsabandhan with love and respect with all cousins.
Haa vai thik...amio WB thekei
What about Satyajit Ray, he also married his first cousin.
@@Subhadwip-gq6vo If you have read about Ray's life , you would also learnt that his whole family members were against this marriage and Mrs Ray was also afraid of this awkward relationship but they were in love and were successful to convenience their families.....after all we could found exception in everywhere but that doesn't mean we support or accept the culture just because a famous personalities accept it ( I am a big fan of his film and literature but when I came to know about his marriage it was really weird feelings for me )
@@juinghosh1106 absolutely true. I am also against cousin marriage.
@Juin Ghosh U r absolutely right ..Very well said👍
Mohak chooses less controversial issues and chooses more issues which we really need to know deeply that's why I like Mohak's channel. Thank you very much for bringing such videos continuously.
@Grease Pencil seems to me so
Muslims majorly marry their cousins..
Sahi bola bhai main bhi
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Idk Incest seems pretty controversial
In Telugu states your father's brother's daughter is SISTER to you..but you can marry your father's sister's daughter...same for mother. Your mother's sister's daughter is SISTER to you but you can marry your mother's brother's daughter
In short, you can marry your parent's opposite gender sibling's daughter/son
Same here in Tamilnadu
Same here in Karnataka
you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
@purpleyou4056 you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
@@purpleyou4056 bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
South indian movies kinda glorify cousin marriage, awareness is indeed important. Thank you for emphasizing.
@Manoj i am aware of that. I just find it so interesting to know differences in people of same religion but different places. India is indeed a cosmic cuious. And i am proud of that.
@Manoj Its bcoz Pakistan is a Muslim country
@@jyou6202
Your benchmark is western p o r n ?
@@jyou6202 they dont promote incest... it's produced because it's a taboo. What logic bro
@@jyou6202 koi award do is bande ko.....kya comment hei wa wa
I'm a child born from a Consanguine marriage. My family in Kerala actually don't appreciate such a marriage, but in my case, parents fell in love with each other. I never knew much about the negative aspects of Consanguine marriages, so few years back I had fallen in love with my cousin as well, and we were in a relationship for almost a year. That is when I learnt about this and shared the information with her as well. I realised how lucky I was to be born without any abnormalities, and we mutually got out of the relationship.
We were in love when we broke up. But we did it, only to avoid the risk of spoiling a child's life and also for a happier future.
More people in South India should be educated about the problems of Consanguine marriages.
There is always a option of adopting a child... That way one can spend the rest of the life with their loved ones. There is a saying, "Love knows no bounds.".
How many fingers do you have?
@@feelgoodspace I have 10 fingers and 10 toes 😅
Just Lucky to have No issues with anything
Risk of birth defects in consanguineous marriages is overrated. Risk is even lesser in communities that have practiced consanguinity for thousands of years and have inherited stronger genes over the years, not weaker genes. Don't take my word for it. Look up research. Not the one done on people from typically non consanguineous society, but are born out of consanguineous relationship. Look for research done on rate of birth defects in consanguineous society and you will know
@@vaishaksuresh8555 😱😱😨Normal humans have only 8 fingers and rest two are thumbs 😁bro send me photo of your hands
A fun fact : Arjun and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mom and Subhadra's dad were siblings.
In South India the cousin you can marry has to be between bua and mama 's kids.
However, the numbers have greatly reduced due to biological defects such marriages can cause.
And in maharashtra it's common to marry bua's son 🍂
Arjuna's mom Kunti was the adopted daughter of King Kuntibhoj. So Kunti never shared a blood relation with vasudev.
@@utsavjha7673 Kunti was the daughter of Shurasena who was the cousin of Kuntibhoj (her adopted father) , so there is blood relation.
This is also common in gujrat in ahir community yadav of gujrat can marry to bua or mama son or daughter . But not with cousins like father brother son or daughter or mother sister son or daughter. They have been called brother and sister but mama and bua son or daughter not called brother or sister the marriage can be done if family and girl and boy are ok
South people also only marry in father's sister son or mother brother son not marry mom sister son or daughter and father brother son or daughter and it's most common 80s and 90s people but now a days people not interested to marry in close relative like mom's brother son or daughter like that because one is genetic issue and another thing now a days children's are mold to dislike relative marriage .
I watched a documentary on this topic years ago... People don't usually talk about this, and most are unaware of the biological side of the story... I'm glad you are bringing light to this topic and educating people about this... Kudos to you !
Which documentary plzz tell
Is it available on RUclips
Is it the british one?
Yes plzz send a link
Documentary yeh united kingdom ki hai.. Yt p check kro mil jayegi genetic disease se related
*SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Care to share the details of the document please
Though its very common in Muslim culture, my grandfather was dead against cousin marriage mainly because of possibility of biological disorder also it was weird for him that the kids who grew up considering each other as brothers and sisters should see each other as potential spouses.
@@FraizCZENnever heard about it. And it is not common among hindus to marry their cousins.
@@praroc143 haha he's misleading you bro.. theirs no such story about Shri Krishna. And it's not so common in hindu caulture.
@@FraizCZENbut actually Krishnaji didn't marry any cousin, i am a Hindu person myself. Infact, Radhaji married one of the cousins of Krishnaji.
@@FraizCZEN bruh where did you do heard it? (・・;)
@@FraizCZEN : Seriously?
Lord Krishna married Rukmini, a princess on another kingdom. Get your facts right first.
When recessive genes are mixed, the concentration of it increases therefore the chances of a recessive diseases also increases
12 th me genetics padhi thi kya ?
Neet
thats why most royals look ugly af
True that's why many people stopped now
@@theHollowGabimaru lgta hai tune skip kiya tha 😂😂😂😂
I belong to a tribe in Assam. In my tribe, there are lots of restrictions regarding marriage. You cannot marry if both the bride and spouse have same title( even though they are not related in any sort), and many more complicated rules, cousins are treated as brothers and sisters. It's incredible that our ancestors have adopted those rules to prevent biological disorders of the offerings from the ancient times when there were no education system at all. Because of this practice we hardly see any physical abnormalties in our tribe.
Same in Rajputs
Moja brother
Title se kya mtlb haii ,bekar hai ye sbb
You Know The Oraon Tribe(OBC)😂..
We are also Dravidian Tribe 😂..
We also can't marry to our Relatives 😊🤣
In jaats of haryana this is performed we can't marry same nickname person like if they are from same kind of Background
Finally someone is talking about this issue. As a south Indian who grew up in middle east, I find it very weird to see my family chart. Btw, you are putting effort in your videos. May you reach 1M soon and grow beyond that.♥♥
So you mean that your mom and dad are bro and sis 🙄
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq 😂
This isn't a issue.
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq didn't you watch the video?
I'm a kerala Christian. We consider cousins as our siblings. While studying in Chennai i had a classmate whose parents were uncle and niece. Though their marriage was happy, my classmate said she will never marry her relative. I think in current generation nobody wants to marry relatives.
who told you . Current generation also have this practice
@Motivationalquotesmalayalam now a days it's very common ❤️😀
@Motivationalquotesmalayalam is it? It's not in entire Kerala , it is in your family only not in Kerala . My whole village is still continue to take relative cousin in another village
Kerala christians also marry among their relatives. It’s only now in the last hundred years the practice has been discouraged.
Dude I think you must be talking about your family. Don't say it's complete Kerala@@Bacteria123
I'm from Andhra Pradesh and I've personally experienced this issue. My paternal aunt considered me as a 'perfect bride' for her son and even my cousin was perfectly fine with the idea of marrying me (I'm seven years younger than him). They even proposed the match to my father. I was horrified because I always called my cousin 'elder brother' and to learn that he did have a romantic interest in me, when all while I considered him a sibling, sickened me to the core. My father rejected it without second thoughts as he was against cousin marriages having learnt in his late twenties about 'incest' and the resulting genetic problems in the later generations. Yay to father!
My aunt was upset when my father rejected her and she even had the gall to say to my father "If you marry her into our household we'll take care of her. Since I'm her aunt, you can rest the fear that she might suffer under her in-laws. Also, the dowry will remain in our family without going to nameless outsiders." My father simply said "Bold of you to assume that I'll be offering any form of dowry," and the argument quickly escalated and the relations naturally strained after that. Even today my father and aunt barely spare a polite greeting at family gatherings. And me being awkward, I just turn opposite whenever I spot my aunt or cousin.
I was the lucky case but my classmate from University was married to her cousin right after graduation. Cousin marriages are a common occurance in South India and regarded as normal and 'part of the tradition.' I'm glad that this issue is being spoken of.
Edit: Incest is a common issue across religions and the people who practice this 'tradition' aren't even aware that cousin marriages come under incest. You see not all cousins can marry. I'm a Hindu and I can marry my paternal aunt's son and also marry my maternal uncle's son--these fellas are not technically adressed as brothers, they have a separate form of address so as to prevent any awkwardness later on if I marry them ( though my dad instructed me to call them as brothers from early age)but I cannot marry my maternal aunt's son or my paternal uncles's son(they are considered as brothers). I don't know if it's true but my mother said that the opposite applies for muslims. So, it's like everyone have their own rules for acceptable incest.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
There was an uncle in my colony who was from Hyderabad he told me about this, at first I couldn’t believe him coz I thought this only happens in Muslim community. Glad that your father rejected the proposal. I think there should be some sort of campaign against such practices.
Your father seems like a smart dude
That is awfully awkward 🤣🤣
The thaught it self make me want to puke😖😵
I am from south India, and I have so many relatives who have done cousin marriage..
Bro don't do it
It's not good for your genetic health
I am from South India too and I have no relative who has married his/her cousin.
God forbid but do any of their children have genetic disorders?
Good for them.Dont listen to these people
@@manavsingh5501 Almost all my relatives have married their first or second cousins.And none of them have any kind of disorder.
0:52 In Maharashtra also ( Not in all regions of Maharashtra) Marrying your mama ki ladki is normal. And some people don't appreciate this including me.. relative starts teasing boy with his mama chi mulgi from childhood . This is very normalise in my region. But things are changing now
Mala pan aplya mama chi porgi avadte 😢 pan Tila mi nhi avdat you know one sided love 🥹 mazhya phone madhe tichya photos hota Ani tichi mothi bahini la mahit nhi kase te diskya 🥹 ata mala bhav vat te ti konala sangnar tar nhi 🥲
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@@PriyanshSahahare tula dusrya muli nhi dislya ka re sadel
I'm from andhra and yes it happens with limitations, the daughters and sons of same sexes are seen as sisters and brothers while opposite sexes are seen as potential marriage partners, I never understood the logic behind it and left it thinking it's just part of the culture.
Em bro ,andullo em artham kale
Asal em cheppal anukuntunavo sakkaga chepu
Bro annakodu kani islam and south indian marriages ni kalpesi he made people confused
Well cross cousin will obviously have different gotras and he created a pov as we don't follow hindu tradition
Because as ramdev baba said same gotra people shouldn't marry but obviously cross cousins have different gotras and the genetic thing is actually true so that is the only reason we should give less preference
@HR323 why ?
@@aryanb9233 bro anakudadhu gani English bhasha telugu bhasha kalipesi comment pettav Naku nuvvu cheppindhi em artham kale , complete hindi kaani complete Telugu lo kani cheppu bro complete hindi lo aanna cheppu
Being a Himachali..I never knew about cousin marriages but when I came to know ,I was really shocked cuz my cousins are like real brother's and sisters to me and their parents are like my parents.
Your comment made me laugh that My Himachali friend is marrying her uncle’s son.
Exceptions are always there
@@FoodRecipes108 Yes there are exceptions as the cultures are different. I just shared my culture shock..not a big deal! Also, happy for ur Himachali friend getting married bcoz of my random comment 🤗🙏
There is a difference between parallel cousins and cross cousins. They are not the same and the gotra is different.
@Superman's doberman it's not about not knowing what the difference in cousins are, I'm myself Himachali and even if my cousins are so distant that we don't have similar ancestry for two generations, we still consider them as if they are our real brother/sister. It's just a difference in upbringing and mentality
my grandmothers cousin sister's grandsons are very close to me.. and that's such a distant relation
@Superman's doberman I'm not saying anything about marrying cousins. All I mean is for me marrying cousin would be same a marrying my own sibling because from childhood we are raised as if w all are from one family. I'm not calling it a sin, stop getting worked up. Just telling you why some people feel weird from this because of how they are brought up. That's all
*Once again - Mohak is the Aayushmann Khurrana of RUclips* ! His topics are just on the next level👏
Dude you are comparing mohak to ayushman 😖
It's like comparing nehru to Manoj Tiwari.
No need to compare. Mohak is Mohak ❤️
@@berlin5403 He's comparing "their approach" of picking up odd things, not them, heck not even comparing, it was just praise and i'm pretty sure it won't affect the popularity of Ayushman.🙌🏻
@@berlin5403 I consider Ayushman as a good actor tho
@@biosavat9475 I think the dude was defending Mohak. Anyway it's just an opinion
I'm from Kerala. Cousin marriages are almost non existent to the point I've never even heard of one happening. The first time i heard about this being in practise in the South was when some guy on the internet called me a cousin lover in an attempt to ridicule me.😂
😂😂..
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@GangaSahini0:01 look again.
It's not non existent in Kerala bro ..Malayalam movies normalised cousin marriage untill 2000, I think such storyline became not much seen in movie when it became less popular .I know 2 couples who are cousin,they fell in love with each other . I think they knew that in olden days cousin marriage was a thing,so they might be see the potential to fall in love ..In mum's generation other reason of cousin marriage is financial...if the girl is poor or lower middle class who is also unemployed ,her family were expected to give dowry,if her cousin agree to married her, it avoid family to go through such situations.. now people know that marriage is not a mandatory thing in our life .And every one starts give importance to their life rather than obeying parents will even if they are wrong and today's parents also not interested in cousin marriage since they don't get along with relatives thank god😂😂..but ofcourse it not completely faded in Kerala .but numbers are much better than other South Indian states .
It is less now but it used to happen.A popular kerala youtuber karthik surya is going to have cousin marriage
In Manipur we never thought of such things just even in once lifetime,It's a sin in our culture to marry someone to whom we share our direct blood line, like cousins from uncle ,aunts etc
Same
Its a sin in my own principles and morals.
@@anuragchowdhury4101 even feels I ve done something wrong just thinking of it
@@aj186 that's y I sometimes hates southern movie so Much even if it be very popular, if such themes are content I cnt even watch the movie
Same here in uttarakhand through I live in delhi
I am from Tamilnadu. Yes marrying cousins and close relatives is common in South India. In olden days the idea was to keep the property within the family. That is why such marriages were conducted and accepted. Even though it was and is a disaster genetically. As of now it has come down to a great extent in urban areas but in the rural belt it still persists. The biological implications of it for the children born out of such marriages is grave. Education and repeated reinforcement is the only way the society will give up such a practise. Any social change takes years. There will be a lot of resistance too from the conservative elements.
In our West Bengal marrying cousin is not acceptable.
Uma, I don’t endorse these marriages but if this disease thing was correct then most of the South Indians would have some disease or the other as it has been happening for 2000 years.
Hi
Common in my community (caste)from odisha
In our Kolhan follow the same system..
That’s what I thought too that genetics being mixed will lead to genetic disorders. Thanks for covering that. It felt weird when I first started watching South Indians movies and saw that marriage between cousins and I thought i misunderstood something in the movie
We see a lot of this in our culture. And I've yet to see more number of disabled children but I've seen some though. Today's generation is drifting towards love marriages because of better education.
Mee too
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
You people are so uneducated.
Marrying cousin will not result in birth of disabled babies.
It happens when we repeat the same process multiple times.
@@crazyshorts4278 i think u need some education
In Maharashtra,boy marries maternal uncle's daughter and that is common also shown in most of the Marathi film
Living in USA and growing up with mostly Telugu family friends, I did finally get to know about this. Kudos to you sir for bringing this topic up!
Telugollu ekadanna toppulu ee😁
@@teja8086 Sarigga Cheppavu Mowa 🤟🏻✨
Bhai why telegu ppl in abroad always stay and communicate with their own community and not talk outside of it? You can correct me if I'm wrong with this notion
@@teja8086 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@sheilakijawani2526 that’s a false stereotype. In my college we have all Indians mixed
The uncle- niece union/marriage makes me sick in the gut !! For that matter even marrying a cousin is beyond my comprehension.
Well it doesn't make me feel anything. If it didn't lead to birth defects then i wouldn't bat an eye if someone were to marry their own sister even. I could never do it but why do I care what anybody else does in their life? But since it's a major health risk I'll definitely be against it no matter what.
This gives a hint how worst kind of patriarchal that family would be to allow uncle - niece marriage 🤮
If two cousins agreed to marry as an Adult...then they can. Why not?? The Love between them would be Awesome 😍😍
I know exceptions exists but mostly it would be Super awesome
@@rajeevjuneja5584 Good it doesn't make you feel anything. I think both of us can exist under the same sky 😇 and many more individuals, with vary many opinions. All are welcome to express, to not express, to feel, to not feel. To each his own.
Its a Noble thought...:)
Being a Jain in our culture we have something called "Saka" which means we are restricted to not marrying the ones who share the surname of both my mother's side and father's side family. Its believed that this practice avoids pre-mature baby deaths, diseases, genetic problems, and various health issues to an extent.
Like gotra system in N. Indian hindus
Yeah in my people(Haryanvi) .we leave gotra one from mother side then father side then grandmother (dadi) side and last one from grandmother (nani) side .so you can't marry if girl has gotra maching anyone of them. Then the village exogamy is practiced . 😀😀
@@Chairman_LmaoZedong gotra is present among south indians also.
But mostly jains have " jain" surname, isnt it?
@@kunalraturi8260 ya 🤣
Every Muslim community is not the same...Thinking about marrying cousins in our Local Assamese muslim culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters...
In Bangladesh only 3% people do that.
It's against Qoran. There's no dowry involved in first cousins' marriages.
Such a great work in research and editing! 🔥
I am from Karnataka and I can speak for almost all people who live in northern part of Karnataka. This practice used to be common till my parents' time but has reduced significantly these days. Main cause to stop the practice was that we as a society saw some health problems in children born out of such marriages. Not in all children but in few cases.
To clarify more on what's cross cousin is. They could may their Mama's or Atte/Buwa's kids. Marrying Kaka/Chikkappa/Chacha's or Chikkamma/chikki/mausi's kids was strictly prohibited, no one even thought about it. I have not seen a single such case in my entire life.
As of marrying ones niece: back in days people used to have lots of kids. So imagine a case where the eldest offspring was a girl and youngest offspring say 7th or 8th child was a boy. Now obviously there's a huge age difference between these 2 Sister and Brother. Now, it was very common that the girls used to get married in early ages. You can imagine this bride's youngest brother running around in her marriage in shorts with runny nose 😀 This sister used give birth to children very early. So now this Eldest sister's daughters and her youngest brothers were of same age and compatible for marriage from the age perspective.
As you married off your elder sister to a different man outside your family, her lineage became totally different. (her kids Gotra would be different than yours). Hence marriages were allowed. Nowadays these practices exists close to none.
So, why they can marry bua's kids but not masi's?
@@ankitadutta1217 checking...
So now own grandmother becomes mother-in-law?
nowhere such practice in karnataka blindly informed in message, you delivered as father of karnataka.
no one married in karnataka a such practice. Here i see some muslim family has been following.
Maga neenu heliddu almost correct agide North matte Middle Karnataka dalli ashte edu common Matte south karnataka dalli jaasthi illa edu
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In Maharashtra, marriage with mama's daughter is very comman since old times. In fact, one of the son in law of Bal gangadhar tilak (freedom fighter) was his own nephew. Also the third chhatrapati Rajaram raje bhonsle were married to Maharani Tarabai, who was the daughter of his mama Hambirrao Mohite. The same way Pradyumna- son of bhagwan krishna married to the daughter of his mama rukmi, as per the bhagwatam. There are so many examples like arjuna- subhadra, krishna-mitravinda, etc.
I don't have anything against cousin marriage except that it leads to weak child. Because u share 50% ur DNA with cousin.
It gets worse with blood sister cause u share 100%
@@Saujas cross cousin dont share that much dna it is less than 12% I guess. Also, cross cousin marriage are allowed for two generations only; and after third generation it is prohibited.
@@Saujas also correct, no relative can share more than 50% dna. Its always below or equal to 50%
I'm tamilian -it truly happen and what ever he said was right
Term "inbreeding depression" is often used for the reduced biological and reproductive health of a person who is born of cousin marriage. It is very important to marry out of family as it's necessary for gene variation(evolution).
Yes I studied about in class 12th biology!
Yes thats what most people don't understand. I've seen fools telling me how a person was born out of cousin marriage and doesn't have any disease. Well duh! That's because he's probably a 1st generation child. There won't be any inbreeding problems in the 1st to 3rd generations but inbreeding depression will keep accumulating until it actually shows up as a genetic disease in the 4th or 5th generation. That's why we Bengalis compared atleast 3 generations of gotra and at max 5. Some Hindi belt people compare upto 8 generations but that is a little too excessive in my opinion. Upto 4-5 generations is the optimum amount. Neither too much nor too less. For example my own parents compared their gotras of upto 4 generations only. Not beyond that. I'm of the same opinion as them and if I ever were to get married I would compare 4 generations of gotra too. I myself am of Shandilya gotra
As a biologist and someone who learned genetics and cells, I want to say that it's not good for health and is the main reason behind many genetic diseases almost 10%.
@@jjthomson7911 *a* zoologist ..😂😂 focus on studies beta 🙏
its applicable to humans only. lol
@@Shailen12just a simple google search about inbreeding will help Lmaoo.
@@manjifera there are inbreeding diseases in animals too lol not just humans. (anyways humans are animals too)
@@varunnikam yes but nature kept things like that may be for some unknown reason. its we humans do interfere in natures thing.
Best RUclips channel.... thanks Mohak for enrich us.
This concept of 'cousin marriages' have always irked me growing up. And it also made talking with cousins a wierd/stereotypical one as against talking with siblings from father's brothers/mother's sisters. You always have a sense that you can't mingle with your cousins freely. Because if you do, society will think that you are interested with them. Even parents think so. Being from South India, I like the North Indian perspective of these marriages and I want to consider my cousin as a sibling and want to mingle with them freely during family unions.
yeah you definitely have a point, if you are too free then you are at risk ;)
Never really bothered me or my cousins tho (mothers brothers daughter)
Depends bro if the relationship is mutual then its fine even temples allow it
I always enjoyed interacting with my paternal aunts' daughters and did end up marrying one of them. Now happily married with a healthy baby, ofcourse ❤️
I am a Gujarati married to a Kannadiga. My husband's brother married some sort of cousin (not aware of the exact relation) and when I first realized this, I was shocked. For me, all cousins are brothers, so I didnt understand how this could happen.
Slowly I learnt that this is common in South India. My husband's brother has a son now who is 11 years old and my daughter is 6 years old. I can see so many health and a bit of mental issues in my bro in law's (BIL) son. It's sad to see the physical suffering of the child. And there are quite some mentally challenged children in my husband's family. More than the amount you would see otherwise in families. And I have come to realize its due to these cousin marriages. I once spoke to my husband about it, but he just brushed it aside. He was either embarrassed or didnt like what he was hearing.
With science so advanced and evidence available that such marriages can and will lead to genetic issues in the progeny, I dont understand why people still follow this tradition?
My heart breaks for my nephew who will always suffer health issues due to a mistake made for traditions' sake.
And the cherry on top is, while nephew celebrates rakhi with my daughter, he does not with his bua's daughter cause she is a potential bride for him. My mind is just f u c k e d!!!!
Your upcoming generations would be madrasis 🤮🤮
@@extreme4642 You do realize that there are many different south Indians? Calling everyone madrasis is just so ignorant and stupid
thank u for sharing this real instance... its high time leave this tradition... our society hv to understand that all tradition which hv built those were suitable at those times we hv keep updating n removing those bcoz these r not at all relevant to current situation... n also we hv scientific proof on this to demolish... its responsibilty of current generation to understand this n act accordingly...
Actually In Our Religion we consider our Siblings or "Rishtedar's children" as our Brothers and Sisters..
Yes,North Indians have done right practice to not to marrie their brothers and sis
@@IdealEdittt You North fellows are Aryans. We are South Dravidians. You keep your practice to yourself. You don't decide what is correct and what is wrong.
@@rajars4239 I can see the hate in your comment for North Indians... No worries keep hating..!
@@rajars4239 sure north Indian may not but science can right? Marring cousins is just wrong.
Buddha was Aryan. Even he married from his father's side
I saw this type of marriages in many More south Indian movies
My own father and mother are cousins from the mother side and got married just because my mother had a government job :) and from my childhood I've seen a hell of fights between them that my and my siblings' mental well being is far from okay. I am highly prone to diseases and frequently on meds. I've found this cousins and uncle-niece marriage concept utterly disgusting from what I've experienced. People need to be educated about this and just stop being married for these sick reasons!! Or just stop being married!! There's a lot more in life than marriage, trust me.
True. Only marry when feel right. And have kid when you have no baggage of mental issues. It affect kids.
Not surprised hearing this
@@rupeshbhangare1822 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Marrying cousin is ok.If the offsprings are weak than we should marry strangers .
@@Coronavirus-dk7mq It's not a big issue unless their is a history of genetic defects.
My cousin wanted to marry her cousin from her mother's side and a friend of mine married her cousin. Believe me, there were talks. Thankfully, my maternal grandfather was against cousin marriages. Everybody forgets about complications while discussing marriages between cousins even educated folks🤷🏽♀️
marriage is ok. It's just that having kids is risky.
What if they can get married, have a good, meaningful life together, have intercourse, but don't reproduce.... Adopt a child instead.
@@rosieroti4063 my friend has a kid.. thankfully he's alright.. They just forget about complications.. when I told my cousin about it.. she was pointing out the cases where it didn't result in bad situation..
@@rosieroti4063 Actually it's risky when your family is carrying a defective gene pool, If your family is healthy without any genetic diseases then it's fine. The risk of adding defective genes to your family pool is also more when you get marry outside of your gene pool with someone's new gene pool. It's simple...mathematics not some sort of sorcery...
@@navedhashmi3090 muslims defending cousins marriage no shocker...bnchod gaali tumlog k liye nikala gaya h
Be educated and stop cousins marriage all over world.
I am from Kolkata, when I was in class 7-8 my tuition teacher told my mother that her father and her late mother were cousin. We couldn't care less because we knew that in muslim community it is allowed to marry first cousin. However her younger sister whose age was around 17-18 years was deformed and had a brain of 2-3 year old child, she couldn't even walk instead she would slither, she couldn't alarm her sister whenever she wanted to defecate or urinate and she couldn't even speak. I felt sorry for her and always questioned why would god make her like this. But recently few years ago i realised that her condition could have been due to her parents' cousin marriage. I haven't communicated with my teacher since I cleared class 8 and its been more than 10 years. I hope her sister is surviving.
I feel sorry for her even reading this... Hope she is okay
Since most of these congenital diseases are attributed to recessive genes, its been estimated that chance of these disease manifesting in the offsprings rise up by at least 30% when marriages are done within family.
Never marry your cousin's , that's what our culture also says
This happens when you marry cousins successively for two generations or more I wouldn't be surprised even if your teachers grandparents were cousins.
Being from Maharashtra, cousin marriages are very much prevalent here....with even tv serials promoting them ...and like in southern india, even we cant marry same gender sibling's son/daughter but can marry opposite gender's son/daughter...Moreover, even we follow the GOTRA system....
Yes, that's why Maharashtra in many angles of view is considered as a Southern Indian State (mostly). Dravidian kinship is something among the similarities between the "Dravidian" States and Maharahstra.
In southindia agree except gothra of gothra is same we don’t marry
Yes Maharashtra has so many similar cultures like South Indian states.
Am a Tamilian.
I have always felt Maharashtrians are closer to South than North except the language.
Actually Maharshtra Called as South in history, they considered themselves as dakshinpanthi there are many references to it. Maharashtra and South states were under one rule for thousands of years unlike North. that's why we share some festivals like gudi padwa and many with south Indians. Our language does not associated with Hindi unlike other languages in North Indian which directly are dialect of Hindi or associated with Hindi. We just belong to Indo Aryan category language and nothing else. Just as same shrilankas language Sinhalese is also comes under indo Aryan language
We can say that consanguineous marriages are common in Andhra Pradesh and Telangana, based on the fact that the same term is used for a niece and a daughter-in-law... (Kodalu)
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Exactly! But parallel cousins marriages are almost non existent since we call them annna/tammudu/akka/chilli i.e brother/sister, we treat parallel cousins just like siblings
I m from Kerala , in our State nowadays this type of marriages are very rare .In my family from past three generations as per my knowledge we haven't followed this practice.
So tamil culture is now influencing malayali culture?
@@SafavidAfsharid3197 Tamil and kerala culture is one in origin to begin with
One family doesn't display whole Kerala
@@ElonMusk-tb2yi ya i agree but see the percentage of marriages in starting of the video which Mohak sir has given them you can find the difference. In telangana it's 23.4 % whereas in Kerala it's 3.7% , tamilnadu -25.5%.
@@dreamcatcher6693
Agreed
Cousin marriage rate is low in Kerala.
Me to bolta hu puri World ka Marriage Rate 0 ho jaye
Pehele se hi 7 Billion bhare pade hai aur nhi chahiye
As a north indian from Bihar, yes! We have Gotra system . Even people who were moved to Mauritius, Trinidad and Tobago, Suriname and Java by Britishers. They used their first name in next generation surname so cousin marriage can prevent.
Even south indians follow gotta system for marriage
Every Hindu family in India follow gotra system...
even in south same gothra people dont marry, yeh angrez key cousin cousin is same like autny word, father key sister aur mother key sister ek nahi hey na? same parallel cousins and cross cousins are different, cross cousins ko same gotra nahi hotha same gothra valey kahi shadi nahi karthey south mey bhi
Shut up and develop your own state first
Every Hindu follows gotra! According to Dharamshastras it’s a sin to marry within same gotra but still exceptions were there.
As a north Indian hindu : we avoid three surnames or gotra ,i.e, Own surname, mother surname and grandmother surname...we also avoid maternal grandmother surname but now a days we just consider 3 surnames mostly....even villages who share boundaries also get avoided to marriage
Note: please avoid my English 😅
South indian hindus also avoid who have same gotras and same surnames.......
Families having same gotras cannot be cousins .........
Mere relatives ke relatives mai same gotra&surname same tha marriage mai usi marriage ke vajah se ek bandhe ka jaan chala gaya & bahut logo serious the because car road divider ko tok dhiya
Same rules apply in Assam too.
@@UpasanaGayan are you assamese
Your English is understandable.
Don't sweat it.
Friendly tip: " please excuse my English".
Mother's father's surname or mother's mother's maiden surname?
Same question for grandma
I stay in Bangalore and have seen many such examples. When I first came to know that my friend's parents are actually cousins, I was like what!!!! 😱 Then gradually it became normal to me... It was interesting to know about it.
That’s because they are cross cousins and not parallel cousins and don’t share the same gotra. You should know the difference!
Cross cousin... it's normal to south india.
@@Lasha901 but they dont understand that the cousins gotras should not be same or cannot be same........
@@Lasha901which cousin that doesn't matter . Cousin marriage leads to genetics disorders
I am from Kerala Brahmin community and we consider our paternal and maternal cousins as brothers and sisters. We don't marry our cousins. However, I have seen people who are second cousins getting married in rare occurrences. Or even third cousins. Also, cousin marriages are rare in Kerala nowadays in all the communities due to the more number of educated people.
Bro, South india is being used as a scapegoat for justifying Cousin marraiges of Islam.
While in reality since the spread of Christianity was more in south India hence people redefined the Gotra system so as to suit their purpose.
From kashmir to kanyakumari, India runs on Gotra system.
What Some of the southerners are doing is a result of the misinterpretation of Gotra system.
Edit 1:- Gotra system is so deeprooted in the Indian society that most of the Tribes have Gotra system too.
This is enough to prove the importance of Gotra system while finding the right match in Indian subcontinent.
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Actually the marriages in South India are between sister's offspring and her brother's (maternal uncle) offspring. NOT between two brother's children or two sister's children. This guy has put both cases in the same category. Among Muslims marriage is common between two brother's children or two sister's children.
@@surajm4547 yes
I am from AP, we do have & follow gotra system as well. Marriage between parllel cousins or first cousins is NO here mostly. Don't know about rest of South India. Marriage between uncle and niece used to happen few years ago, but it has gone down a lot, i mean so much down ( some exception cases if age gap between bride & groom is low ,5 - 7 yrs max ). Marriages between second cousins & cross cousins is still happening. People now a days are exposed & having a lot of awareness, hopefully it dies down.
Correct...people are more matured and aware now
I agree. Mohak's topic is good but there are some mistaken conclusions due to poor or insufficient research. Mohak needs to study the more in depth statistics to understand this intricate topic. I wish to give some points:
(1) Consanguine marriages are not modern in India, it has dwapara yug examples also. Most recently evidence was found that all India is one gene, north/south or aryan/dravidian divide is politically motivated from British era to divide and rule.
(2) Gotras concept is very much there in southern states also; hence to conclude anything through the difference of numbers between northern states and southern states (I doubt whether those numbers are correct!) is superficial. You could of course say that 50% is sa-gotra in first cousin marriage and it reduces to the second and tertiary levels. However, to prove that people of northern states have been conscious to avoid sa-gotra marriage, there is a need to delve into the statistics of second cousin and second uncle/niece marriages.
Its a tradition but not followed. It is still a tradition
Marrying cousin is common in Kerala. Marrying uncle is a sin. We can't even think that. In our old culture uncle take care of us like a father.
No I don't know from which region you are all it's still this type of marriages are continuing in andhra
I love your videos. HIGHLY INFORMATIVE.
I remember watching a Marathi TV show called 'Home Minister' as a kid. In the show, the host travels across Maharashtra and talks to married couples about their love story and all. Many times the the couple were first cousins, as in the husband was the wife's atte bhau (Bua ka beta in marathi). They also talked about how they liked each other since their teenage, basically they romanticized cousin marriages a lot. I found it really weird.
Also, in Marathi serials I've seen some married women calling their mother-in-law as aatya (bua). Maybe I'm watching too much of Zee Marathi with my aaji.
Most of those backstories are fake and are spiced up for TRP.
Marathi housewives will kill for Paithani.
It’s common beyond western ghats, in Konkan that’s considered disgusting
Now days every one is doctor??🧐
Culture is main important thing to practice such a thing..if i stay in latur Maharashtra..will i understand culture, rituals of Western Maharashtra.. even language ,tone also not same..yes there are many happy married couple ..but yeah it could be change
@@_prash families promote karti hai ye sab, meri kuch friends hai, un mein se 2-3 hai jinke ghar mein aisi shaadi ho chuki hai. Humare yaha toh cross ke crisis cross cousin se koi bhaag ke shaadi kare toh bhi badnaam hote hai log 😂
@@maheshpatil-he8ny lol, there are detailed studies about the dreadful consequences of cousin marriage, especially based in Pakistan. Having read those, it’s absolutely true that genetic deformities are more likely in such cases. It’s a fact, not an opinion. One needs to be sociologist to understand this, not doctor. We all are from same culture, it’s better to improve one generation at a time.
Hi Mohak, I am a Tamizhan. I want you to know that unlike what is said in this video , Gotra system exists in south India too. It is the gotra system that prevents parallel cousin marriages. If you see parallel cosuins will always have same gotra & cross cousins will belong to different gotras. The same gotra system also prevents a male from marrying his bhathiji wheareas one can marry his bhanji as she would be obviously from a different gotra. Hope i could make it clear to you !!
This concept of marrying Bhanji makes me feel uneasy. I mean, it's marriage between two generations.
Actually there are some extention to this gotra system
We cannot marry a person who has same gotra as my father + gotra which my mother had before marriage.
I hope this makes the confusion clear....
@@oyedeepak bilkul sahi.
That means you can marry your bua ki beti?
Yess.These so called Liberal people dnt knw abt gotras system!Dnt explain this to 99% people over here..
I'm from bihar. studied at one of south college.
although I was shocked to hear that they can marry their cousins, but no more shocked. I talked my friends, and the case is like -
if you're a boy - you can marry your father's sister's daughter OR mother's brother's daughter. Similarly for Girls.
Fun fact is: in bihar, one of village, my brahmin friend is there, and he said they cant marry any girls of that community from that village for they all are like sisters.
Yeah same here in Rajasthan
True 😄
Yeah it's called diyad among maithil Brahmins of bihar
Sweet Home Alabama
Even in Delhi at some places this practice is followed😂
Mohak, you are an impartial RUclipsr. Appreciate that
This Gotra System of North India seems more logical and science backed. Kudos to our ancestors for always deciding things best for us.
Yes Hinduism is Pure Scientific.
Scholars were educated throughout the times.
@@Chairman_LmaoZedong yeah eating fecal matter of cow is scientific
comparing science and modern hinduism is cringe
@@Abaddon-u1i yess
Finnally someone took initiative to talk on such topic . Basically i m from Rajasthan but my school staff was from Kerala and my principle and his wife are actually cousins from maternal side and it was so shocking for us .But unexpectedly they were so cool about it since it's happening from ages .
@rupesh v it is bro but it's slowly changing but in dark zone areas still continue in remote villages
People are so damn closed in mind . Kerala practices matrilineal lineage , so child from other mother( not in the birth line or family of mother ) is another family altogether for them . North India practices Gotra system , that does not mean every one should practice the same . Get over your superiority complex for moral high grounds 😂
In kerala, prominent families married from amongst their extended family to prevent wealth from flowing out of their family
Cousin merriage me koi bhi problem nahi hoti ,,,me to chahta hun ki north india me bhi cousin merriage ho ,,,kyoki sabko pata hai ki ,,almost sare ladke ladko ka apne cousin par crush hota hai kahi n kahi ,,uper se to bahan bol dete hai lekin dik chahta hai ki wo uski lover ho ya husband wife ho ,,,,sacchayi to yahi hai ,,lekin 3 gotr taalne ki vajah se ye sambhav nahi hai ,,to Dil ki baat dil me rah jaati hai ,,isiliye wo hamesa Muslim or SI ko nicha dikhane ki kosis karte rahte hai ।
I'm from Kerala. It's common. Our cousins are our friends. Then y don't
Was discussing this genetic issue with the kids just a few days back. Nicely explained as always 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼.
@@naturespirituality1204 will definitely do that. Thanks 🙏🏼 for the information.
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One day I asked my father that why we have to tell the priest in the temple about our GOTRA everytime we visit? He said GOTRA is said to be a common relation from a common ancestor and two same GOTRAS should not marry amongst each other as there can be problems among their child. I half heartedly believed that becoz on one side I understood that same blood can cause some problems but was not sure what was the probability of that. Good !
Bro 'Consanguineous' word is pretty fancy......In context of animal husbandry closely related animals are not mated because it might lead to inbreeding depression.....
Many Hindu practices have science hidden behind it....
Also the system of saptapadhi, where they check if there is any common ancestor between bride and grooms 7 generations
@@shivangmishra9325 true. Sadly the scientific part is getting lost rapidly and just the terms are getting behind, which makes ppl think it's just an old tradition
they started the system of gotras becoz they wont allow inter caste marriage OMEGALUL
@@profezagaming9158 lol gotra can never stop u from inter caste marriage cause two different caste have different gotra and u can marry in different gotra but not itn ur own gotra.
In the South, people consider atthai(mami)/mama's daughter/son consider for marriage.. not chitthi/chittappa(maasi/kaka) 's daughter/son, they are brothers n sisters
you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
@@RajathHathwar definitely bro.. my family don't do it. All should see the scientific reasons but still some are doing it.
I'm Trible from Chhattisgarh
Yes sir absolutely right...In our Gond community inChhattisgarh we can also Marry Children of our Mama or Bua....
When I was in karnataka.. In my OBG postings at medical college. While history taking of patients I got to know that in Village areas consanguinous marriage is very common.
It doesn't happen how u people think. This utube guy is such a dumb he misunderstood our marriages.gotra plays vital role here. A boy, girl of same gotra is not allowed to marry here. when ur sister got married her gotra will change then ur children are allowed to marry her's children .But ur and urs brother children are brothers and sisters as they both carry same gotra.
Which college have u done your mbbs from ?
Even I'm from Karanataka and have done mbbs from here .
And about clinical history yeah we used to ask about consanguinous marriage specially for thalassemia case .
मैं हिमाचल प्रदेश के एक राजपूत परिवार से हूँ, मैं जिस गौत्र से आता हूँ, मैं वहाँ शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि मेरी गोत्र कि लड़कियाँ मेरी बहन या बुआ के रिश्ते जैसा हैं वैसे ही मेरी माता जी अलग गौत्र से आती हैं, तो मैं अपनी माँ के गोत्र में भी शादी नहीं कर सकता क्योंकि उस गौत्र कि लड़कीयां मेरी माशी या बहन लगती हैं |
बाकी सभी राजपूत गौत्र से शादी कर सकता हूँ |
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Yes it's true cousin marriages exist a lot in south India..in my state Kerala it's decreasing but Tamil Nadu and Karnataka has a lot of such marriages..the surprising thing is my family doesn't consider it wierd at all .. my parents were telling stories how their first prospective bride and groom choices were their maternal cousins ... however eventually they didn't go with cousin marriage
I got tp know about it when I met a lot of South Indians. It felt so wierd that out customs could be similar but sometimes soo opposite. In Rajasthan, you can't even think about it, it is basically considered as incest. A lot of measure is taken so both are not from same Gotra, in fact it could be a hurdle in love marriage, that both have same gotra or common ancestry. I am an only child, so my cousins who live closeby are literally the siblings I never had!!😅
@@geisha-12bro We also follow gotra system nd this thing was done by Bhagwan Shri Krishna married Adjacent cousin Also Evn Arjun Subadhra Gotras are Different
I am bio student , I know from very early that cousin marriage is worst effect than anyone can think in all prospect for long time . You give examples of consciousness of cousin marriage is just tip of iceberg .
Ha sahi kaha yeh kesi marriage cousin means Apne bhai ,behen hi huye na 😃🤣iss se acha tho foreigners se sadi ho
look at your profile name
You people firstly need
don't making fun of other relegions God
Now tell me what's the people you are
And if you are from other relegion or not from any relegion so how you talk about others God Are You believe If you don't beleive so why say anything on this and hurt others
Firstly You need to respect relegions
@@fullhitmasters5355 agree
bro please change your name .. we Hindus are borther of our Muslim brothers.. we are supposed to respect them and love them.. no hatred at all
@@NiteshSingh-rz5dr I wish, Muslims community peoples also understand This
Just a small correction sir🙏🏻
title should be "INDIA's southern region..." NOT "south india...." bcuz india haven't bifurcated like north korea.. south korea.
Or southern states of India would be be fine
south India is correct
there is no problem in bifurcation if needed.....
after all cessation is happening around the world...lol
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Mohak, what a explanation about this serious issues in Indian society, every side you explain very well. Before, I don't know much more about consanguineous marriage now I totally understand what is. I appreciate your work what you doing for Indian society.
Say no to cousin marriages! Thank you Mohak for letting people know these issues as awareness can do what anything else on a level can not.
@Javed weirdo
Shubhadra Arjun ki kon thee...?
@@rajatchaudhary1988 2 cheezein hai
1. Every human being will be cousin/ sibling indirectly/ distantly
2. Aur bhi cheezein hai Mahabharatam se seekhne ko wo bhi sikh lete
North me 1000 sal pehle bhi cross cousin marriage Hota tha For example pritviraj chauhan aur goutham budha ne mama ki beti se kiya he .lekin ab vo culture nahi he sirf south me he.
Ye Cousin aur behen word sirf chacha ya chachi ke beti ke liye use hota he mama ke beti ko nahi .jab hindi language aya ye behan word mama or chacha ki beti ke liye use kiya gaya hindi se pehle north me sanskrit ya pali bhasha thi jab chacha ki beti ko sanskrit me "bhagini" mama ki beti ko "nananda" word use karte he
@@rajatchaudhary1988 subadra arjun ke liye "nananda" he behan nahi.
In North,(Jharkhand)
Marrying any of the relative, even a far relative is considered as a sin or even crime especially in hindus. Relatives will treat you in a very disrespectful way. This is the culture here from 1000 years.
Even muslims are following this culture partially. 👍🏼
I can confirm this because I am also from Jharkhand.
Same in jammu
sahi baat
@@anand-zs1co in rajasthan villages gaon me aapas e shaadi nhi ho skti
Bihar also
Wow great topic Mohak! This was very much under the cover thats needed to come up. Also in north India we do not marry in same village because mostly villages have a single ancestor background and all are relatives in a village.
Thank God
This is changing !!!
I’m glad someone spoke about this… But Kerala wasn’t a good example as it has the lowest rates of cousins marriages compared to other southern states… Also marumakathayam was abolished in 1975!
Yeah if compared to north india , it is still huge so
@@SatyamSingh-jp3vc so "huge" is a word to be used for one or two points difference in percentage ryt 🥴.
Taking the average of all north Indian states' % even excluding jk would probably have higher rate than Kerala's
Marikmakkattayam was mainly practiced by certain communities because of their arrangements ,especially in north kerala , in south kerala only certain communities followed..now in south region it is fully vanished.
He include that Research is happening in Kerala
So what it’s an example
Here in Maharashtra the most common cousin marriage is with Mama ki beti/ Bua ka beta.
I have seen some cases in my relatives and family friends where the child born from such marriage is mentally weak.
It is very very rare for me to find any defective child born in a non-cousin marriage
Which region in Maharashtra?
@@aarushimahajan205 overall Maharashtra
@@aarushimahajan205 hindu
Yes bro all over Maharashtra atleast I know that is true about the whole kokan region
Even in Telugu states, cross cousin marriages do happen, but not compulsory.
But the compulsory thing is that we shouldn't marry within same gotra. Gotra system is strictly followed here. Cross cousins will anyhow not share same gotra unlike Parallel cousins.
Here, Mami/Buaa/Saas is called Atta.
And Mama/Phupha/Sasur is called Mama.
But, Mausi/Badimaa/Chachi is equivalent to Mother and Mausa/Badepapa/Chacha is equivalent to Father.
As a Nepali we consider everyone as our family members as our brothers & sisters...we can't even think about marring our cousin or relatives ...even same gotra me vi sadi nai hota ..7 pusta dekhna parta he sadi k Liye ...❤️🕉️🇳🇵
What about magar community?
Rana families and King families do but common people don't
Proud punda
Nepali nikki
@@kalaignankalai1815 hmm means ✌️❤️
Same gotra bhai bahen mana jata hai
Almost all culture follows cousin Marriages not just South india!!
Not really in the West, I’ve only seen it Asian and Africa.
My parents are first cousins. Because of this, my brother was born with poor eyesight and asthma. It’s wrong to marry your cousin. It leads to many disorders.
I think its only a problem when father's brother's children get married.
Hey a quick question, purely out of curiosity.
Does ur brother brother have any trait that is unusually good? Like a trait that u might share with him, but his version of it is way better?
Again, and seriously, purely out of curiosity.
@@tanfeexulhaqq4616 No. He is a normal person but he has asthma and health issues.
@@kaiser1295 well i can't draw conclusions from a single case. Can I?
@@tanfeexulhaqq4616 there are literally millions of cases like this
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I being muslim have seen so many cousin marriages, actually it's true. Jb bht zyada cousins marriages hoti hai toh it affects child's health
I'm from the South and my parents are cousins. it's wrong and should be banned. I will never marry my cousin or any relative.
@@kaiser1295 Its optional...not Compulsory. And good thing is it reducing now a days
@@IronMan-nu3rb Indians (Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Nepali & Srilankan) don't have any choice due to Arrange Marriage culture because their parents & relative bear the responsibility of their marriage!!! 😒😒😒
Being aware of errors in our own religion is a sign of wisdom 👌 a true secular
@@randomhuman1754 So what are errors in your religion?? Tell us....
In Tollywood, I've seen a lot of romanticizing of relationships between cousins, to the point of calling a guy "baava" (it means cousin) is considered romantic. In fact, there's a movie where the main male lead starts falling in love with the female lead after she calls him "baava". Honestly, I always found that weird, and thanked my stars that my parents showed zero interest in marrying me to any of my relatives. I'm really glad there's a video about this.
In most families of Odisha and other Eastern states we consider our cousins as our own siblings when we meet them & they do feel the same.... 😄😇
South odisha practices cousin marriages .
But still in odisha people marry to cousins approx 5 percent may be
Exactly in North India cousins means siblings.... Even friend's sister is also sister.
no bro the caste which i belong it is very common in marrying cousins
@@srirangopanigrahy most probably the muslim ones and the telugu migrants. In odia culture cousins marriage is considered as a sin
I am a Bengali Hindu and in our Bengali Hindu society no one can think of marriage between such brothers and sisters, I have been thinking for so long that it is only among Muslims. Cousins are like your sister, so treat them like your own sister
Not even near as common in North. No way in my culture we don't even marry with same surname, and gotra and checking if we are also from same village if we are, then no
Being e bengali hume ghar se hi nikal dega 🤣🤣
@@debmalyamondal1234 hme toh kaat denge
Cousin marriage is not common in Bangladesh also.
So dont think it is has some thing to do with religion.
Bruh consanguiness marriages are widespread accross the world. And sisterhood is given to the immediate one. Rest are just relatives.
I'm an odia belongs to southern part of odisha where my mother and father were cousins.
My mother was my father uncle's daughter.
I totally agree with mohak's point of view.
That's fucked up. I hope you don't marry any of your cousin's.
Odisha me LITTERALY bhot loog abhi bhi ye karane kaa sochte rehte hai mai Chattisgarh se huu apne nani ke yaha jaata huu too waha aurat loog apni maama ki beti se shaadi karega naa puchte rehte hai 🤢🤢
Such marriage is very rare in Odisha but regions bordering Andhra like Paralakhemundi and Gunpur have some tolerance to this custom as they have absorbed many Telenga practices over the years.
Because odisha'a culture resembles or closer to Dravidian than northern
@@dhitikabarua7677 You have zero idea about Odisha culture. Dont talk shit.
What ? cousin marriage, I never heard this before,Thinking of cousin marriage is a sin here in Assam,my native land.I am proud to be an Assamese.
Proud to be east indian ❤
Two points as a Telugu
1. Marriage between individuals of two different "gothras" is accepted. If your sister is married off to a man from a different gotra her offspring gets the gotra of her husband and not that of her father. But a brothers offspring still carry your gotra so such offspring become brother or sister to your offspring and so cannot be married.
2. People in south also realized with experience that even though they are technically two different gotras it was still too close and leads to genetic issues and most discourage it.
The concept is similar across here in south i guess.
I'm from north India but the concept of gotra in my family is that one can't marry in four gotras... Mother's, maternal grandmother's, grandmother's and their own gotra... People from all of the above gotras will be considered siblings and relatives
@@asleshasharma2933 exactly
1 se kuch nhi hoga
3-4 krne hote h
It is very rare to seen defect in marriage between two opposite gotra than consaganeoious marriage
@@asleshasharma2933 You are not hindu, Because even Lord Sri Krishna's own sister married her cousin Arjuna, means you are not real hindu
true. I live in Ap and I have seen such marriages and friends who have shown interest in their cousins too! I was shocked. But growing up here I don't find it uncommon, though I never liked it personally.
Yeah but that's is for only fathers sister daughter or sister brothers daughter only and not for sister sister kids and brother brother kids.
@@kishorenadella1028 Yeah cross cousins.
Great content no one talks about, only those who’s friends in southern part of India are aware about the same.
Nice Video! Explained well! Games of Thrones & HOTD jaise shows to bus aese hi badnaam hai 😂😂
Kerala has come out of this old custom to a large extend. Compared to other 4 four THE percentage of cousin marraiges are very low, though every other film of 70 and 80s where following the trend
But this was restricted to very few hindu communities in North Kerala....
Karnataka has less cousin marriage than Kerala
@@whyhaveaname5963 but according to this video karnadakas rate is 23.4% were kerala only 3.7%😂
Almost 3-4 years ago I was watching with my sister a South movie (dubbed in hindi).In which I realised that marrying with cousin in South is common.While watching movies suddenly my sister asked me didi if it is possible then how can a girl feeling safe in her home. I mean in our house my father's sister's son,or father's brother's son is like my own brother . Even whole villages children are brother and sister.
For us father's brother's daughter is sister we can't marry, because she is like own my sister.
But my father's sister's daughter we can marry.
I think it would have been better if you take the example of other south Indian states instead of Kerala where the percentage is very low or equal to many North Indian states. Nowadays even many malayalam movie are also against this...
for ur kind info .now kerala has very low this kind of marriages
@@Uda_dunga That's what I said in my comment, he must have choose any other state insted of Kerala ...
@@sreejithsiva7885 ohh 😅 sorry I didn't read it properly
@@Uda_dunga 😁😁
@@sreejithsiva7885 yes I have stayed in Kerala kochi 4 years.. There is no such kind of practices... How it is possible
I am a South Indian and this practice was always discouraged as our family was educated and also many of them had settled in North for generations ,so no evidence of cousin marriages in our family.
In Marathi wedding it is common for the groom to walk w/ his maternal uncle in the mandap and the uncle has to say "I am giving my daughter to you" even if the boy is not marrying his first cousin. This practise shows that even Marathi people had con-whatever marriages.
Yes , Ajunahi Kahi Thikani Hotat Ase vivah Maharashtra madhye pn
Ajun ek padhat ahe'Sata Lota' mhanun
@@chatgpt4135 I think sata lota vegla asta, tyat don vegli ghara eka dusryat lagna lavtat. mhanze don lagna hotat ani pratyeki ek mulga ani ek mulgi lagna kartat.
I have never heard of this, but the uncle does accompany the bride and groom. But actually consanguineous marriages were common in maharashtra I think but they were only acceptable between a boy and his maternal uncles daughter and no other way. Not even a girl and her maternal uncle's son. Alas, I am glad my family has no such history for the last three generations and I am thankful for the fault-free genetics I got as a side.
@@chinmayjoshi3592 Mala mahiti ahe Sata Lota two different kutumbat hota, Mi fakt sangitla ki hi ek unique paddhat ahe maharashtra madhye
Cousin marriage is not anything awkward in south but it is starting decline over the years
I'm glad that it's declining because most of the times the children of these first cousin couples are born with either mental issues or physical issues. I'm a South Indian who is living in Raipur, Chhattisgarh and I have personally seen a case of one of my family friend who actually married his first cousin and their son was born with severe kidney issues, unfortunately the little guy died within 6 months.
@@arvindshastry1178 your statement most of the time is absolutely wrong... Very rare case in cousin marriages there are abnormalities... Is kidney disease a genetic disorder...pls find the reason.... Haemophilia, diabetes are genetic disorder...
@@hema6726 Isn't being born with a horrible kidney disease an abnormality?
@@hema6726 And I came to know about it through a documentary, it's on Real Stories channel.
@@arvindshastry1178 it is no doubt but not necessarily due to genetic( cousin marriage) it could also be due to medications during pregnancy. That was my point.
my aunt had consanguineous marriage as well, though it was the only consanguineous marriage in our family but I'm glad her children are absolutely okey, thank you for the video, Mohak, really learned a lot in this 10 mins..
Child being born with deformities is 6 percent in such marriages, very low. In comparison a child born from parents not related in any way is 3 percent. So the difference is minimal.
@@MRC325found a doctor who is intelligent than IMA and WHO
I'm from TamilNadu
1. If A,B are a Brother and Sister
A's Son/daughter can marry B's Daughter/Son
2. But if A,B are the same Gender(both are brothers/sisters)
A's Son/ daughter can't marry B's
The reason is A and B are the same gender
Explanation for the second point
Here B is older and A is younger
1. A and B is Men = both of their children will call them Dad and big Dad
2. A and B is Women = both of their children will call them as Mom and Big Mom
I was having this discussion w some of my friends today itself. Undeniably, the mention of muslims* (*apparently*/ as per popular belief, NO OFFENCE to anyone as such-- just a manifestation of "kahi-suni" around us; I don't have enough data to have this substantiated so let's drop it here ) tying the knot with their second, and even first cousins, came up.
Personally speaking, this video has come as a shocker in more ways than one. Nor does it push one to question the "literacy" comes with "progress" dichotomy (The latter being associated usually with the doing away of traditions and norms)-- but also makes one rethink the prejudices we've built our perception of social relations on, one of which is given in the first half of my comment.
Great job bringing this to light, Mohak sir. Will read up on this for better understanding now!!
In a study I came across, young Indians across India were against inter religion and intercaste marriage overwhelmingly. People care about caste of candidate a LOT even in urban areas.
We should definitely redefine social progress.
Yup, it's actually true that marriages between cousins are allowed in our religion. My parents are first cousins, it was very common back then but now it's not.
Without dragging Muslims.... They cannot feel superior
@@mohammadansar2783 it's allowed in the time of Adam... not today lol bcz there was the time when world population was less that's not mean you have to apply this theory in this modern time and it's scientifically unhealthy....and why your parents done this?? You peoples are the real mocker of Islam....
@@mohammadansar2783 and Islam never force to marry cousins lol... what your parents did, it could be their own choice or own fault don't bring Islam into it
Coming from Telangana this is very true where I have seen cross cousin and uncle neice marriages in my own family on both sides
Also in Telangana and Andhra Pradesh bua and mother in-law both are called atta and mama and father-in-law both are called mama which indicates that your bua can become your saas and your mama can become your sasur
Thankfully this has not happened with my mom and dad!!
Also Mohak sir I would request you to make a detailed video on girls first period celebration in South India that would also be a insightful topic
I'm a single child of my parents but my cousins never let me feel I'm devoid of any brothers & sisters. Thanks my brothers & sisters 🤗❤️
As a bihari we treat our cousins like our siblings. There is pure relation of brother and sister between us .
Jayy Shri krishna
Same, we Bengalis also treat all our cousina as real brother and sisters
Jay shree krishna 🙏🏽
SLAY BESTIE SAME
Abbe toh hindi me bhi likh saktaa hai
@@hiraushan Kyu tuje english nai ati
They marry the brother in law only the son/daughter of maternal uncle