He Molded His Boys In The 1950s
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- To support my efforts to create more clips please donate to me at www.patreon.com/allinaday. This is another of my interviews for my television series on the 1960s. I came to believe that you needed to look at how children were raised in the 1950s (and what their parents felt) in order to understand why so many rebelled (around one third of the baby boomer generation). This kind man was an ordinary citizen raising his children in Camden Maine. If you like this, please subscribe to see other David Hoffman interviews.
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Thank you so much for that. I needed it today....
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I agree! The subjects are all so at ease. It's incredible. No one else could get this type of response.
David you are the greatest of all time!
I remember you saying the filmmakers behind Top Gun drew inspiration from your documentary "Second Home" for many of their shots. Did they ever give you due credit? And has anybody approached you regarding Top Gun: Maverick, the sequel?
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He seems like a smart, genuine man who really cares about the wellbeing of his kids and society.
I don’t really know how to articulate it but there is a deep seated irony here that he unaware of. He is suggesting that it was the “lack” of structure and discipline in the 50s that created the 60s rebellion of expression and that the solution was more structure and more involvement by the parents.
When you look at other interviews from the kids of the 50s and 60s they will tell you that it was the very fact that their lives were so structured and they were so focused on that caused them to rebel.
Great interview, it really preserves the perspective of the day.
Boy, this was a really good one. This is a reminder that parents in the 1950s loved their kids and wanted them to have the benefit of discipline. He is right about the youths' psychology and its bonding, but I think he wasn't aware of the propaganda. I know about the propaganda because it was in my Mother's bookshelf: B.F. Skinner, John Dewey. I don't think she necessarily agreed with their scientific research but I know for a fact she recognized them as the intellectual leadership of her generation and culture. Yet she, like me, viewed the Viet Nam War as immoral and the Draft as unconstitutional. Well, I have concluded that alienating people from their families and communities is a Divide and Conquer technique that America has fallen victim to. And watching this guy reminds me that the cure is to understand it is normal to love the people you share life with, and that throwing one another out of society is not a good thing.
This guy would be revolutionary today now that any moral structure is gone.
You sound like a man who only does it in one position missionary style
Hardly. He doesn't even say that.
This man really nails it. I really like these silent generation videos.
this is valid today
Today, parenting, seems to be lost. Kids tied to I Pads, cell phones, video games, etc. I was born in 1952. Growing up into the sixties I was still taugh right from wrong. We were outside all thd time. The biggest problem was getting us in the house. Today, some parents don't even know where their kids are! It is a mess! I would go back to the 60's even at my age today!
@@loki2240 Where I grew up in CT. a mid size city we, for whatever reason, did not experience the racism even during the riots of the 60's and 70's? We were able to walk to and from school without fear of abductions. My neighborhood was mixed White, Black, Italian, Jewish, Cuban, Mexican, Irish, Scottish who knows what else? Never any disharmony. We had manners. As kids we did dumb things. However, we were lucky enough not to have all the electronics of today.
Yes, my comment we very "general" and did not point to any specific individuals. But, a general overview of what I see nit what I hear. No offense intended.
Is it? Long hair and earrings are immoral?
cutting school lunches don't have an effect on a child's life? The drug war launched by this guy's generation, jailing entire generations over some weird idea of "morality" makes his simplistic crap more valid?
*_THIS IS NONSENSE. WHAT HE'S SAYING IS SIMPLISTIC NONSENSE._* Just because you are old, doesn't make you wise. That's what I learned as an adult.
My grandfather was just like this. ☮️💟
Kids need stability and direction? Who knew?!
Learning about his generation is fascinating. It's clear as day to me how their formative years in the Depression and the War gave them a great desire to focus more on the lives of their children in the uniquely prosperous 50s. But the fact of the 60s counterculture begs the question: was the baby boomer rebellion more caused by that very over-parenting or by a sense of entitlement following such a gilded decade?
A quick answer to your question would be it was caused by both. And also by the size of the generation and its economic power.
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This guy talks how grandparents talk now.
Boomer grandparents are nothing like this.
What a good father.
Having grown up on a farm in the 1960s and raised by my grandparents who thought like this, I see how it really effected me in my life choices and philosophy. I raised my family like this, and my kids came out well ( I’m a baby boomer and they’re generation iPhone). I worked as a Federal Agent and mom stayed home. As a Mexican American house hold we have very close family relationships and conservative by nature. What I thought as normal for my family is not normal for most families. Not saying that today’s America is worse, there are certainly things that are better, like more equality for women, races and religions, but much more slower and stable.
Thank you for these David I have gotten so much from your work.
Irrespective of the values he was imbued with, I see a man who wanted to appeal to the very best that his children could be. That is an act of true love, offering guidance, structure and counsel as required whilst being a model of what you want them to aspire to, whilst protecting them from what they do not have sufficient life experience to cope with. It must have been really shocking to witness the cultural shift from the ‘mom and apple pie’ suburban culture of the 1950’s, to the free love anything goes of the 1960’s. Society tends to send off the lower classes to war and it needs to be considered that you have young 20 somethings fighting World War 2 having been witness and party to the brutality that was war. They were then sent home, many as broken people to rebuild their lives with inadequate support to understand what they had gone through. PTSD is common now, but then you have these traumatised people trying to raise families; it’s a wonder so many families were broken.
As a parent you impart your values to your children based upon what you think they could achieve in the society as it is, I.e. what we think is going to give them the ‘good life’, perhaps even a life better than our own. If one goes back through history, there will always be examples of parents being dissatisfied with the contemporary culture and how it differs from the one they were raised in.
a very nice Maine accent
We wouldn't be in the mess we're in today if more father's were more like this man. I don't care what your Age of Aquarius has to say about it.
This gentleman looks a lot like my dad (rip), I really like what he had to say
The news covers the exceptions, Hoffman documents societal norms throughout the years. No question which gives more accurate view of our country!
The issues of child rearing, dissected articulately. Fascinating
I believe that I would personally have benefited from greater parental control.
John, I know you would have.
Great work, David Hoffman. Thanks you. Very valuable, informative and "authentic". It would help many viewers if the title of your videos included the year of the interview (like "@1968"). Many like me see youtube in intelligent devices (even tvs now) and cannot see your written intro. I'm in my PC just to send you this comment -- and wanted to know a bit about the interviewees, their occupation, educational level, as not every American saw or thought alike, and was influenced by experience.
Please read my descriptions. They provide as much info as I feel comfortable sharing.
Thank you
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@@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker Pity. Words, statements, even actions, are better assessed, and understood, the more one knows about who made them, their environment, and the context. Of course I read -- that's why I made the comment. And some ignorant and outrageous reactions, like in some others' comments, are in part because of lack of information.
Thanos?
Its just The Way It Was.
This was fascinating!!
From 2:04 to 2:55 - Good advice.
Seems like a nice guy cares for his family ...but I get a sense itd be only his family and other that are like his.....yes 60s had its tragedies but because of those tragedies things are better not perfect but better because of those tragedies. He never mentioned anything of any kind of good during or that came from the 60s.
I remember being collared and tied.
Long hair and earrings.... *_"IMMORAL UPSETTING!"_*
Got it pops. Thanks.
Jesus Christ!
I understand your comment, but even the most ignorant of us have something of value to share.
He is old fashioned for sure, and the tattoos/long hair were something he wasn't used to, but the thing I agree with is that children do need guidance, however kids will only take guidance from someone who actually has a relationship with them, who has a stake in their well-being, and knows children grow up to be adults, who are the result of the world their parents raised them in. If more adults played the long game right, they'd be the best mentors they could to build that future they think should already be here. Too many openings for child predators, human traffickers, even scammers who prey on fixed income households (like the elderly, service members). Predators attack the most vulnerable, we see it everytime a predator stalks a herd: They avoid the strong and target the weak, even influencing their isolation to make them an even easier target. Parents even need to protect their children from other family members who may have their own dark, hidden agenda.
People should be free to explore, because freedom increases the number of decisions you need to make, freedom even to change the number of decisions you need to make in their lives, which means freedom increases critical thinking, but it can cause as much harm as it can cause good.
One of the most difficult things about parenting, the core reason evolution even let us survive this long, is it didn't let us do anything. We survived in-spite of what the universe has done to try and eliminate us. Knowledge transfer is very important for our survival.
Parental direction is not just a good idea, but essential for human existence, and parents carry the burden of figuring out how to get that knowledge from their own minds into the minds of their children, so their children can carry on whatever legacy, live whatever lives they themselves choose, as long as they carry on, live, and raise their future children with the ability to do the same.
This gentleman is great and his philosophy is on point. Well, the Boomers aborted 1/4 of my cohort (late 1970s-mid 1980s) and those that they let be born they largely neglected leaving us as latch key kids. Parenting in the early late 1970s-1990s consisted of the Boomer parents selfishly doing whatever they wanted, continued sexual amorality, multiple divorces, chasing money, and treating their not-aborted remaining Gen X children like reprobate trash. And now, Boomers wonder why every generation downstream hates them. Hmmm.
In my experience, if you don't get a wild kid, you assume that was because you were a good parent.
His example of kids not knowing any better (which I agree with) and they’ll “jump off a bridge” if you give them them space shows he still has no clue about how to raise kids.
Everything in life needs balance. Too much control creates rebellion and not enough guidance leads to a lack of discipline.
tbh I'm rebellious AND lack discipline so wtf happened to me...
joawhnnys featha doesnt make do this well i dont care lol this guy look like murray wilson!
Read the title as molested for a good minute. I need to get off the bad side of youtube more often...
And MANY of THOSE kids HAVE ruined THE country.
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I think what bothers me the most about this guy is how closed minded he is. He passes judgment on anything that is different than what he did or what "better families" did.
I wish my dad were more judgmental
why is this guy not president
Because Reagan beat him to it. Then murdered the New Deal, and tons of people around the world. Exacerbated the drug war and made a mess that the following generations either failed to clean up, or ignored. Now its left to the millennial and younger generations to recover.
Enough of these people's backwards, fantasy based thought processes.
Thanos
The use of values to structure the foundation of youth is important, but the use of the word "Molding" bothers me. People should able to mold themselves with the assistance of elders. Not mold them.
He's referring to children you do have to mold them guide them and also lay down the law.
Gotta stay away from that long hair & ear rings! Lol
THANOS BOOMER
THANOS BOOMER
Collectivism failed because conciousness evolved.
@@Destro7000 I'm referring to the collective consciousness of humanity and the progression of our awareness in the information age.
@@dennisthemenace855 No he can't he/she just heard that in some documentary and is now trying to sound smart.
Has it?
Mold them ? Did he ask his son if wanted to go to a military academy ? He's an empty suit.
I celebrate these people dying off. What a cancer on the earth they are.
@@Destro7000 - did it take two days to think that up?
Pot calls the kettle black😁
@@someperson7197 - a penny saved is a penny earned, moron.
Right.hah
@@rogerkomula8057 cheer up silly
What a foggie
its amazing to me that he saw the park as a terrible place where "lives were ruined" and "tragic" events took place yet the society he upholds in such high esteem is chemically castrating gay and lesbian people and killing and torturing african-americans and keeping women repressed. the power that society has over our perception of "good" or "evil" is crazy! in his mind he thinks he was part of the good people..
Mat Sumpter it wasn’t his problem so he had the privilege to ignore those issues. So it is easier for him to focus on the positives of the society at the time.
that is the best thing he could do.