10:59 “she’s abusive” “she’s never hit me” “she doesn’t have to” wow that hit me real hard. always remember those words. it could help you get out of an abusive relationship.
taylor flipping stewart That one hit me hard too. For once in my life I thought I was in a healthy relationship... I don't think I know what love is...
Just a friendly reminder: 1: Your new relationship is not your old relationship aka don't compare your new partner to your ex. 2: Trust your partner, if you can't trust them talk about it or leave. 3: Don't belittle your partner and no one should ever make you feel lesser than. 4: Don't make your partner do things they don't want to do. 5: Communication! talk to each other about the good and especially the bad!
Oh thank you really!! The only bf I had would proudly say I’m the 37th and would compare me to his ex..... Like if there is ONE thing I would do in a relationship is trying to make that person feel special and not saying like "oh yeah my ex was like this and that good thing you’re not" cause even of that sounds like good it just makes you feel like you’re 1 out of many others, like you’re just a sort of experience... Well, now he’s in love (he told me that as an ex already...) and too bad for him I’m not...well how could I when he was treating me like this 😅 Anyway, make that special person actually feel special!
I like the fact that they showed that abuse has no gender, sexuality or culture. Anyone can be abusive regardless of your race, gender, sexuality or culture. It's a people thing.
55cardsofFury or even when a woman abuses another woman like buzzfeed gave us an example of. Abuse comes in many forms, emotional abuse, mental abuse (which is quite similar), physical abuse, sexual abuse and economic abuse. People mainly look at Physical abuse without considering other factors.
I love the fact that there is the comparison of a healthy relationship that is having a few struggles as well, as it shows that it's not the difficulties that break a relationship, its how you overcome them together
I really like that you gave an example of a healthy, communicative relationship as well as an abusive one, so the impact of the abusive relationship is stronger.
Well, a little more subtle than that... the guy actually has some unhealthy habits but seems to change his behaviour when his girlfriend calls it out, which is awesome.
This video made me realize that I emotionally abused my ex gf for two years and the fact that she finally broke up with me tells me she became strong enough to do so. I really regret treating her the way I did, I'm happy she's a stronger woman now, I'm happy I've learned to treat my partners nicer.
That because as long as she stays quiet everythings alright. If she starts to talk then it suddenly looks like shes flirting. Or saying something wrong.
That is because she knew that her GF was mad and was likely talked to by her best friend. It is a cycle of abuse part called "the honeymoon" where an abuser will go back to being the perfect bubbly friend and pretend that everything is okay... it disarms the person abused and keeps them from leaving. Until the cycle starts again :(
@@lavellans I'm really glad you said that cause it made me realize my bfs actions lately I've been struggling to stay in our relationship because he seems to be emotionally and verbally abusive and then apologizes and everything seems to be normal until it's not again and it starts all over
@@noodle253242 I am glad it has helped you I would look up "the cycle of abuse". Google images shows a lot of simple type graphs that are easy to understand. I'm sorry that you have to go through this, and you deserve better. The important thing to remember is that you are not a bad person for wanting better for yourself. I would recommend connecting with trusted friends, family, and planning steps ahead. Even if it seems daunting, remember that you are not alone and there are resources to help you.
i remember watching this video when i was maybe 12 and never understood how it was abusive..4 years later and i had to learn the hard way and it makes me sick that i was treated so belittled
Don't let yourself continue the abuse. I get down on myself every so often for being foolish enough to be so fooled. But we have to forgive ourselves and move on with our lives. We're not the ones who did the bad thing; opening ourselves up, giving someone a chance, and offering our love to them. They are the ones who did the bad thing by taking advantage of us.
Yoongi Darling I wish you the best in your journey, I’m glad that instead of keeping with this abusive behavior you’ve realized you should change for the better. I wish there were more people like you.
The hardest part is accepting that you are/were in a toxic and abusive relationship. It's hard to believe that you let yourself be treated like that it just feels like you let yourself down
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Informative. There may be more we need to learn to not be susceptible. Maybe she knows it is not nice but thinks she is not worthy or able to do better.
I guess I got the idea that the argument between the guy and the girl was supposed to be representative of a normal problem to have in a relationship, sort of to compare to the abusive relationship.
Beanie Ginger he might not have been as hostile as the abusive girlfriend, but when Ali brought up a concern and told basically that he hurt her feelings by blaming her for not coming, he continued to blame Ali saying, "I didn't think it would he a big deal. You're freaking out about it." Again, somewhat blaming Ali for a legitimate thing she was upset about, instead of saying something like, "I didn't mean to make you feel that way, I'm sorry." Acknowledging his own mistake and taking responsibility for it, and apologising for it. No relationship is going to be perfect, but it needs to be filled with open communication. So Ryan and Ali were probably a little "better" on the relationship spectrum, but his lack of active listening when Ali opened up to him, and his reluctance to accept his mistake is a little. Eh.
"She's abusive." "She never hits me." "She doesn't have to." That brought tears to my eyes. I think I just realized my relationship isn't healthy at all.
I've been there girl. Verbal/emotional abuse is just as bad or even worse than physical. Hope everything works out and you find someone who treats you how you should be treated.
Emily Christine thank you😊 I hope everything works out too. But maybe it's my fault. Ya see, I'm a virgin and he's not. He makes me feel like I'm a disappointment or I'm just not enough for him. Maybe if I lose it, things will get better
your beautiful don't do that to yourself. you deserve much more than that. I've been through this same thing and I didn't respect myself enough to let go. you'll be way happier when you treat yourself how you deserve..if you need a friend message me.
+New Path thanks so much never expected to see humanity on RUclips. I am lucky to see what is wrong and I'm happy I can see what's good and bad for me.
Wow, this was so unbelievably uncomfortable to watch. I mean, in the good way, cause it means they did their job to really convey what abuse can look like. Abuse isn't always physical and a lot of people forget that.
Rose sivan I feel like I may have been in a similar situation. I was with someone who make me feel like everything I did or didn't do was wrong or stupid, and he acted more that way in public, but in person he was completely different and it confused me so much. It's hard being in relationships now because I don't know right from wrong.
The best thing about this is that it’s kind of subtle. It shows that emotional abuse isn’t always yelling and threatening and throwing things. It’s sometimes just about the little things, like having to walk on eggshells around your abuser, having to explain every little thing to them, as if you’re defending yourself. The sad thing is, many people don’t know they’re being abused because they only think of the really severe things, like physical abuse. And this is often how really abusive relationships start. With someone who’s a little bit controlling and uptight. I love the little hints and giveaways you can see throughout the video. You have to really be looking for signs of abuse to really notice it sometimes.
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"If I'm acting normal now, that means I'm normal, which means my actions yesterday were the normal actions of a normal person, which means it is you who is crazy for thinking those actions are not normal." Classic gas lighting.
I had friends who'd act like that when I was younger...I think I was basically groomed to attract people like that by my parents (who are similarly passive-agressive and gaslighting).
Guys, lay off. Mental abuse is becoming more well-known but in every culture it is not entirely accepted. It is not as obvious as physical bruises always. And frankly, growing up, I hardly heard about this type of abuse, only the physical kind, or it would be "abuse" as them policing how you dress. It was trivial high school matters, rather than more "adult" abuse scenarios such as the video. So I see where OP comment is coming from.
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09:32 OK, this one pisses me off and I can say why with just one question: "If something happens to you in every relationship you've had, maybe you're the problem?"
you make an important point there, while ross is always shown to be the nice guy, and joey the bad boy, in actuality, joey is often nicer and a better person in general than ross. Shows how you can't judge a book.
Guys! Although this focused on an abusive relationship between a couple, this can totally happen platonically, too! Please remember that. People's action cannot be justified by how long they've been in your life, and if your friend(s) become abusive, you need to take action, and try to find help. I just wanted to point that out.
(I FORGOT THE NAMES) THE blond girl in the lesbian relationship is manipulating the other, and overprotecting her. The brunette is nervous and self concious.
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That was my favourite part of the video because I've exchanged those words with my brother when he was trying to make me realise my relationship was abusive
Kyra Richardson I wish I would've realized that in my last relationship. It was abusive and I didn't even know it cause I only thought abuse was physical
Out of all the videos I watched on here over the years, this is one that has stayed with me always. I just watched it for the first time in seven years and it touches me just the same.
The thing that's sad about this is it doesn't just happen in relationships, it can be friendships as well. Learn the signs, don't ignore the red flags and learn to distance yourself from toxic people that don't have your interests at heart.
This is absolutely terrifying because I’ve been with someone like this before. The feeling is almost unexplainable and you don’t realize it’s happening until everyone else around you does and they open your eyes to what’s really going on. I had good friends open my eyes and I got out of that relationship ASAP.
@@donnamariedavidson5065 CONTRYVERSY, but she was involved the last time she was sad she texted to help, and noticed, there's a 89% chance she did not notices, rather than an 21% that she did and didn't care.
+Christine Turner It *is* an actual movie--a short film. But I know what you're saying. It could make a good full-length film, yes. But I really like short films; I wish I could see more of them. I like short stories (literature), too. So I really like it as it is. I like the subtle bits, such as how the abuser asks who Brittany is texting at the beginning. It could just be casual curiosity, but in retrospect, we realize it's part of her controlling who Brittany talks to because she so fears betrayal and abandonment. She gives a certain look (I watched it again). Another good bit is when she mocks Ryan for having squirrels in his childhood home: "Ooh, scary," even though he isn't even saying they were scary like rats (I find ratties adorable; I miss my friend's pet rats that have passed away). 💕🐭🐭 He is merely mentioning something he has in common with Brittany--an animal infestation--but she twists his words. Could just be friendly teasing, but she later goes on to twist Brittany's and Allie's words, and to mock both of them more obviously. Evidently this is a habit she's developed for selfishly controlling others so that she herself feels safer and more in control of her life. And when Brittany says, "She's always late but blames me," it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, until we find out her partner angrily blames her for *everything*. Only those who are hurting want purposely to hurt others, but some hurting people turn the attack inward instead, like Brittany, so blame from another resonates with their self-blame and they accept it. I love how the ending has one more subtle moment: Allie notices Brittany crying in the rearview mirror--I'm sure she'll comfort her later, when they're alone--but Brittany's girlfriend ignores her and chats and laughs with Ryan, confirming that she is thoughtless toward Brittany. Not once does she think to look over at her own girlfriend, to check in with how she's doing. During the whole film, she only thinks about her own feelings and desires. Of course, the meaning of the crying is communicated well. Brittany sees the happy, straight couple and realizes she is very unhappy. She finally admits to herself that Allie is right, she is being abused, and now she has to do the hardest thing she's ever done: stand up for herself. 😔 ////Bunny kisses for all!
This video is what made me realize that I was in an emotionally negligent relationship a little over a year ago. Thank you, Buzzfeed. My life has changed for the better since then.
Your guy's writing and acting is amazing. Totally loved the perspectives and LOVE that she took her for a walk with a joint to have the serious talk. That's a lot of how my sister's and family are, a walk and a smoke to talk about the real things. Love it.
At the beginning I was confused about where the abusive actions were, but then when they finally arrived at their destination I could definitely see how toxic the girlfriend was. I feel bad for the people who really do experience people like this. Just remember toxic people may hurt to let go, but aren’t worth the pain.
To me, it kind of seemed to represent how out of control she is of the relationship. Like her girlfriend just set the tone, controlled her and what was okay or not okay, etc.
Lainey Schwartz FINALLY SOMEONE SAID SOMETHING. i was thinking the same exact thing like dude was the microphone right under their mouths?! the noises almost made me gag lmao
I was in a relationship like this last year and I’m so much happier than I was when I was with him. He was 80 pounds overweight but he would always comment on my body, he’d always bring up my mistakes, disregard my interests and dreams, get jealous for the silliest of reasons, and I would apologize for everything. It was exhausting and my self worth went down. To anyone going through similar relationships, gentlemen or ladies, you deserve better.
The problem with being in abusive relationship you dont notice it until it's over. I agree with you everyone deserves better, you dont need them to survive.
Buzzfeed is full of creators, actors, artists. That's what they are, a creative place. The fact that they don't allow their employees to express their creativity and passion out of the Buzzfeed environment is just crazy. Employees have left this company on their own because they didn't have the liberty to create content of their own since it wasn't related to Buzzfeed. So much for being a creative place huh?
The contract says all content their creators make belongs to them, so all the others that aren't fired were allowed to have their own channels etc.. but brit was in a video with another label
This was really well-done, Buzzfeed (and all involved - behind the camera and in front of it). I'm familiar with two of the actors in this one from other Buzzfeed videos, and it seems that each of you keep getting better and better even though you were already great from the start. If this were a series, whether here on RUclips or Buzzfeed, or on a streaming platform, I'd definitely continue to tune in! Just really well-done all around! Kudos! Definitely one of my new top favorites I've seen so far 👏👏👏
Dear Buzzfeed. Thank you for this video. Because of this video I was able able to identify and remove myself from an abusive friendship. I'm still healing, but I'm better for it than when I was in it.
I was in a friendship like this in high school. One day she flew into a rage over me wanting to go finish some homework rather than do what she felt like doing one lunch time, and she treated me like the enemy ever since. I found out that I wasn't her first best friend that she'd done the exact same thing to. :0
Yeahhhh... i had to put my volume down for this. I was scared that my parents gonna listen this from corridor and think I'm watching something else!🤦♀️
So relatable and I particularly admire how subtle and realistic the abusive behaviour was, such a true representative of an emotionally abusive partner. the straight couple on the other hand made me cringe.
+Valkyrie Maiden95 haha they just seem so awkward, especially in sexual scenarios. i think it's because they were portrayed very realistically though so it's not a bad thing!
Well they were a new couple and I found them adorable especially the way they worked out the simple little problem without apology or blame and just worked together and could tell that they could really turn into something remarkable, but that way just my take
this is what abusive people do. they seem normal. nice. but whenever something they don't like happens, you're immediately to blame. abusive people blame you for everything that's ever gone wrong for them. act like they own you. deliberately hurt your feelings, then play it off as teasing. know when something's wrong, or when you're feeling bad, but don't even bother asking if you're okay. everyone needs to be taught what abusive relationships are like - not just the ones with domestic violence.
Your comment really hit home for me because you didn't specify that it was about dating relationships like how most of this video did. People think that dating relationships are the only ones that can be abusive. But I've been in a friendship for over a year now that's been nothing but abusive. I'm still too scared to leave. She calls me stupid and she tells me to shut up all the time and when she gets upset about something it's my fault and if I try to hang out with anybody other than her she gets upset today she blocked me on Facebook just because yesterday I went and hung out with one of my other friends. She blocked my phone number too.
Your words are so true. As the one being emotionally abused, you end up anxiously scrambling to make sure the other person is happy and comfortable, and you take on so much worry that you neglect your own happiness. Especially in groups, because you know there's the potential for awkward tension if even the smallest thing happens, so you'll take even more just to prevent others from having to see the abuser in his/her natural state. It's especially easy for "people-pleasers" to get into this kind of situation. Important to note that this can happen in friendships as well, not just relationships.
Nightwing009 abuse can take place in any type of relationship, of course. i'm so sorry your "friend" has been horrible to you. i had a girlfriend who was just like that. she made me believe that i would never have anyone love me again if i broke up with her. but with the help of my current girlfriend, i left her. it takes an incredible amount of strength, but i know you have it in you. you can't let her take advantage of you, because there WILL be other people who would love to be friends with you - people who will treat you with respect and will be there for you when you feel badly. her blocking you on fb and blocking your number might just be the push you need to clean your hands of her. it'll hurt, but you'll be so, so better off for it.
Or confront him about it like an adult and if he doesn't comply or acknowledge his faults.... then consider ending the relationship. Communication is key.
abuse happens in private, it is usually indirect comments/remarks, backhanded compliments which is a subtle way to manipulate you . Usually involves embarrassment, jealousy, guilt tripping, rage outbursts (disproportionate), then comes the apologies, followed by charm, attention, love and it starts up again. Power and control cycle. When you are in it and isolated from friends/family, its hard to see what that person is doing. But you'll feel something isn't right. Always follow your gut :)
Every couples months I rewatch this. I am a victim of emotional, sexual, and verbal abuse. When it slips back into my head I come and watch this. Almost as a way to cope. I look and see what my life felt like for a year. Some how it makes me feel better and see how far I’ve come.
I'm not a lesbian, but this is what the majority of the guys I've dated have acted like. They also got mad because I'm waiting for marriage. Abuse is everywhere :(
Waiting for my husband was the best thing I ever did. I was bullied for my choice in high school and it definitely made relationships difficult until I found the right one. Don’t give in to the pressure and stand firm in your beliefs! It was the best choice I ever made ❤
@@southernbeauty1376 I appreciate the encouragement and that I'm not alone. I struggle with the choice every day to wait, but I know it'll pay off in the end!
@@gabbylopez9091 difficult roads lead to the most beautiful destinations! Girl, I am so proud of you!!! It may be hard sometimes to have boundaries with people but it is soooo worth it in the end. For me, those boundaries saved me from a lot of heartache and pain.. and really, it kept me from people who wouldn’t have shared my values anyway… so the relationship would have ended regardless. Though it was not an easy decision, and I had to make it again and again and again… it was one of the best decisions of my life! You are choosing what’s hard now, to not have it be hard later in life! You are amazing! ♥️
@@shitnugget12 Karen is my mother's name. She is the most amazing woman I've ever met. Do not EVER use my mother's name as an insult and do not EVER insinuate that she hits her kids.
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I'm starting to like BuzzFeed again for showing the part of tge LGBTQ+ community where abusive relationships are still possible. A lot of people in that group never speak up about the horrors that still can occur in gay relationships as much as straight ones.
Some guys think it is ok to ignore a no, because they figure their partner is physically strong enough to push them off. The truth is their partner does not want to seem rude or confrontational. And then the anus tears.
10:59 “she’s abusive” “she’s never hit me” “she doesn’t have to”
wow that hit me real hard. always remember those words. it could help you get out of an abusive relationship.
taylor flipping stewart omg I was reading this while they said it 😂
taylor flipping stewart Wow i'm getting this now. Didn't understand it in the video.
you're so right.
taylor flipping stewart
That one hit me hard too.
For once in my life I thought I was in a healthy relationship... I don't think I know what love is...
that quote reminds me a lot of my parents
taylor flipping stewart that's beautiful
Just a friendly reminder:
1: Your new relationship is not your old relationship aka don't compare your new partner to your ex.
2: Trust your partner, if you can't trust them talk about it or leave.
3: Don't belittle your partner and no one should ever make you feel lesser than.
4: Don't make your partner do things they don't want to do.
5: Communication! talk to each other about the good and especially the bad!
Scarlet Raven omg tysm bc I always feel like my relationship is dying
Scarlet Raven Thankyou !🥺❤️💛
Oh thank you really!!
The only bf I had would proudly say I’m the 37th and would compare me to his ex..... Like if there is ONE thing I would do in a relationship is trying to make that person feel special and not saying like "oh yeah my ex was like this and that good thing you’re not" cause even of that sounds like good it just makes you feel like you’re 1 out of many others, like you’re just a sort of experience... Well, now he’s in love (he told me that as an ex already...) and too bad for him I’m not...well how could I when he was treating me like this 😅
Anyway, make that special person actually feel special!
Scarlet Raven youtube threads in such good relatable videos 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
So true
I like the fact that they showed that abuse has no gender, sexuality or culture. Anyone can be abusive regardless of your race, gender, sexuality or culture. It's a people thing.
Ur right
But yet people never bat an eye when women abuse men.
Which is very true
55cardsofFury or even when a woman abuses another woman like buzzfeed gave us an example of. Abuse comes in many forms, emotional abuse, mental abuse (which is quite similar), physical abuse, sexual abuse and economic abuse. People mainly look at Physical abuse without considering other factors.
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I love the fact that there is the comparison of a healthy relationship that is having a few struggles as well, as it shows that it's not the difficulties that break a relationship, its how you overcome them together
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I really like that you gave an example of a healthy, communicative relationship as well as an abusive one, so the impact of the abusive relationship is stronger.
Yay Turtle underrated comment
Well, a little more subtle than that... the guy actually has some unhealthy habits but seems to change his behaviour when his girlfriend calls it out, which is awesome.
Jonathan Melhuish thank you for pointing that out yes!
@@samb3209 the girl is beauty you know
This video made me realize that I emotionally abused my ex gf for two years and the fact that she finally broke up with me tells me she became strong enough to do so. I really regret treating her the way I did, I'm happy she's a stronger woman now, I'm happy I've learned to treat my partners nicer.
I'm happy that you are in a better place ❤❤ good luck in all your future endeavors
So did I
It's amazing that you can admit that!! Have you ever thought about speaking to her and saying you're sorry? I was just wondering. Not being rude ;)
Danielle I did and then she revealed she was actually cheating on me.
Palm Trees oh man dude, should've said "why you never let me join?" and laugh it off and she'll love it
I noticed at the end how the abuser was all happy and everything was cool with her while her girlfriend was miserable.
So practical and sad that it is. They don't care how their actions have affected the other person and are so self absorbed
That because as long as she stays quiet everythings alright. If she starts to talk then it suddenly looks like shes flirting. Or saying something wrong.
That is because she knew that her GF was mad and was likely talked to by her best friend. It is a cycle of abuse part called "the honeymoon" where an abuser will go back to being the perfect bubbly friend and pretend that everything is okay... it disarms the person abused and keeps them from leaving. Until the cycle starts again :(
@@lavellans I'm really glad you said that cause it made me realize my bfs actions lately I've been struggling to stay in our relationship because he seems to be emotionally and verbally abusive and then apologizes and everything seems to be normal until it's not again and it starts all over
@@noodle253242 I am glad it has helped you I would look up "the cycle of abuse". Google images shows a lot of simple type graphs that are easy to understand. I'm sorry that you have to go through this, and you deserve better. The important thing to remember is that you are not a bad person for wanting better for yourself. I would recommend connecting with trusted friends, family, and planning steps ahead. Even if it seems daunting, remember that you are not alone and there are resources to help you.
i remember watching this video when i was maybe 12 and never understood how it was abusive..4 years later and i had to learn the hard way and it makes me sick that i was treated so belittled
Don't let yourself continue the abuse. I get down on myself every so often for being foolish enough to be so fooled. But we have to forgive ourselves and move on with our lives. We're not the ones who did the bad thing; opening ourselves up, giving someone a chance, and offering our love to them. They are the ones who did the bad thing by taking advantage of us.
@@wbennin thank you
omg same
"Does she always treat you like that?"
"Like what?"
Okay, that said it all.
This is why Unwanted is so good.
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Yes
“She’s abusive”
“She’s never hit me”
“She doesn’t have to...”
So powerful, deep, and moving
SilentAuthor655321 3:20 had me shook. My gf basically said that the other day
Yall im the only one here who didnt get hit w the feels
@@oompaloompaz794 Same
I realized I do alot of the things the abuser did and I feel terrible. I'm glad I watched it from this perspective and definitely plan on changing
....Yup....I can relate too
Yoongi Darling A.R.M.Y. 💜💜
Yoongi Darling I wish you the best in your journey, I’m glad that instead of keeping with this abusive behavior you’ve realized you should change for the better. I wish there were more people like you.
I used to do this with the first person I dated I’ve changed and I feel really bad about doing that to them I’m glad I realized what I was doing 😖
That's good!
The hardest part is accepting that you are/were in a toxic and abusive relationship. It's hard to believe that you let yourself be treated like that it just feels like you let yourself down
Never been so related to a comment :/
Exactly. Thnx for letting me know im not the only one
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Especially when a guy does it to two people and convinces them both that they hate each other.
i always thought the red flags were so obvious until i ended up in her position
Informative. There may be more we need to learn to not be susceptible. Maybe she knows it is not nice but thinks she is not worthy or able to do better.
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red flags are always noticeable until you fall for someone
That is why you need to reject soon, before you fall for them. Too many people stuck in bad relationships because they are already in love.
This.
Honestly love the guy. He tried so hard to keep the peace most of the time.
He’s pretty cute
I think you missed an undertone there as well. Might wanna watch it again ^^;
what undertone?
I guess I got the idea that the argument between the guy and the girl was supposed to be representative of a normal problem to have in a relationship, sort of to compare to the abusive relationship.
Beanie Ginger he might not have been as hostile as the abusive girlfriend, but when Ali brought up a concern and told basically that he hurt her feelings by blaming her for not coming, he continued to blame Ali saying, "I didn't think it would he a big deal. You're freaking out about it." Again, somewhat blaming Ali for a legitimate thing she was upset about, instead of saying something like, "I didn't mean to make you feel that way, I'm sorry." Acknowledging his own mistake and taking responsibility for it, and apologising for it.
No relationship is going to be perfect, but it needs to be filled with open communication. So Ryan and Ali were probably a little "better" on the relationship spectrum, but his lack of active listening when Ali opened up to him, and his reluctance to accept his mistake is a little. Eh.
i wish buzzfeed still made good content like this
BB BB buzzfeed has made such a bad name for itself, they made content like this , RUclips would be much better
This is a separate channel that belongs to buzzfeed
This is buzzfeed content
@@lizardlizard8276 And also from years ago
@@bodyofhope And also from years ago
This video hit me so hard, my ex was just like this girl, so subtle to me but so obvious to everyone else. Loved this though, the emotion was spot on.
I hope you're better now
Shut up
@@akmed2trappy mate you good?
@Daytona_devil He’s just trolling, I just ignore them lmao. Best thing to do, they get their jolly’s from shitting on people.
@@bee1411 when?
"She's abusive." "She never hits me." "She doesn't have to." That brought tears to my eyes. I think I just realized my relationship isn't healthy at all.
I've been there girl. Verbal/emotional abuse is just as bad or even worse than physical. Hope everything works out and you find someone who treats you how you should be treated.
Hey I hope you are okay and everything works out!
Emily Christine thank you😊 I hope everything works out too. But maybe it's my fault. Ya see, I'm a virgin and he's not. He makes me feel like I'm a disappointment or I'm just not enough for him. Maybe if I lose it, things will get better
***** aww thanks babes😊
i've been there girl..
i saw this so often and was just scared to click on it to see what i actually already knew: that i was in a abusive relationship
your beautiful don't do that to yourself. you deserve much more than that. I've been through this same thing and I didn't respect myself enough to let go. you'll be way happier when you treat yourself how you deserve..if you need a friend message me.
+New Path thanks so much never expected to see humanity on RUclips. I am lucky to see what is wrong and I'm happy I can see what's good and bad for me.
Good luck with that 😄
+SchrodingersCat I know that now ^^ I've ended it
+unnieCL same but its your fault u were in that relationship just like its mine as well for mine
Wow, this was so unbelievably uncomfortable to watch. I mean, in the good way, cause it means they did their job to really convey what abuse can look like. Abuse isn't always physical and a lot of people forget that.
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There is also the words "emotional abuse". Do people really forget this aspect?
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(I love your videos!)
i come back to this video year after year. it remains one of the most impactful short films ive ever watched.
I expected this to be the cliche abusive boyfriend to be honest- well done
same
Rhjtchrrrtgery. 😍😍😍😍😍😍
Egg P only redeeming fact of this tbh
Istar Warsame - The Valleys Sr PS (1354) it’s not even that high up yet
Ikr
*"she's abusive"*
*"she never hit me"*
*"she doesn't have to"*
That hurt right in the feels
Rose stilinski i want to highlight this commennntttt
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Yesss
Rose sivan i know a troye sivan fan when i see one ayyeee guurrll
Rose sivan I feel like I may have been in a similar situation. I was with someone who make me feel like everything I did or didn't do was wrong or stupid, and he acted more that way in public, but in person he was completely different and it confused me so much. It's hard being in relationships now because I don't know right from wrong.
“My childhood home had squirrels”
I felt that awkward silence.
Lol
Lily Ermel Yikesss I know
Yo that’s worse than rats 😂 squirrels will fight back and steal From you
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I loved how realistic it was
i feel bad for that guy just being put right in the middle of an abuse triangle
Were is that an abuse triangle?
@@minniemaus2902 dude thats thé point of this video
@@salvetre3966 it's not an abuse triangle, it's an abusive relationship
Hi
@@minniemaus2902 The abusive gf was using the other girl to control her gf emotionally. It's called triangulation!
Abuse. Is. Not. Just. Physical.
And I'm extremely glad this short film portrayed that and showed many red flags
the way her friend defended her made me happy
need me a friend like that
All friends are supposed to be like that.
The best thing about this is that it’s kind of subtle. It shows that emotional abuse isn’t always yelling and threatening and throwing things. It’s sometimes just about the little things, like having to walk on eggshells around your abuser, having to explain every little thing to them, as if you’re defending yourself.
The sad thing is, many people don’t know they’re being abused because they only think of the really severe things, like physical abuse.
And this is often how really abusive relationships start. With someone who’s a little bit controlling and uptight. I love the little hints and giveaways you can see throughout the video. You have to really be looking for signs of abuse to really notice it sometimes.
Leah Spinelli
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Darren Ward Is there any way you can free yourself of this person? Cut off all contact?
Tbh this goes for friendships as well. It’s just that no one bothers to warn you about it.
Delilah Phillips: yeah I experience that though
Agree with this comment 1000%
There's literally nothing less attractive than jealousy.
THE GIRLS:18+ ARE SUZUKA.UNO
THREE IN ONE
RUclips: THIS IS FINE.
SOMEONE: SAYS ''HECK''.
RUclips: BE GONE
Life's story is a short journey so have fun before sleeping forever
#Чо #эт #делает #на #2 #месте #в #тренде
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков .#垃圾.
And the way the pink-haired girl just acted friendly and normal the next day. CLASSIC. Just freaking classic manipulation.
"If I'm acting normal now, that means I'm normal, which means my actions yesterday were the normal actions of a normal person, which means it is you who is crazy for thinking those actions are not normal."
Classic gas lighting.
I like u really 💋👄💑💑💏💏😘😘😍😍
She also won’t notice at all that something is clearly wrong about her gf
@@mayamichellemurata wont acknowledge !
I had friends who'd act like that when I was younger...I think I was basically groomed to attract people like that by my parents (who are similarly passive-agressive and gaslighting).
Emotional abuse can be worse than physical. The wounds stay longer and make deeper scars.
Hattie Dame very true
Hattie Dame it can also be even more difficult for some to recognise so they're in that relationship longer...
Physical abuse also comes with mental abuse. Being hurt by someone you love is deeply upsetting, especially when physical.
Hattie Dame
So True
Hattie Dame physical abuse is always worse then mental, always.
i like that they showed how the healthy relationship still argued
Because in every healthy relationship, yeah your still going to have arguments.
MoviesRapid Shows90s exactly
XNxx
basix bich 😉👉😮
ur such a beautiful being.
The acting and writing is really really good in this. Like, better than most movies.
Yes
Huh? What kind of movies have you seen
@@Sam-zz7gs obviously shite
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Finally somebody says you dont have to hit someone to call that abuse. It can be with words.
I wonder why you say finally. I guess it just goes to show that it isn't a well-recognized thing from a young age. Hopefully that is changing.
TheCowGoesMoo' “finally”? Mental abuse is already a well known thing
Guys, lay off. Mental abuse is becoming more well-known but in every culture it is not entirely accepted. It is not as obvious as physical bruises always. And frankly, growing up, I hardly heard about this type of abuse, only the physical kind, or it would be "abuse" as them policing how you dress. It was trivial high school matters, rather than more "adult" abuse scenarios such as the video. So I see where OP comment is coming from.
Love u like u really ..i get u 😍😍💑💑💏💏💋👄❤❤
The dark haired girl said sorry so much when she didn’t need to..
Brittany??
You feel like you have to constantly say sorry, for the smallest thing.
I do it too, but it's really just a nervous habit.
She is me
BTS Is my life yeah sorry 😂
That cupcake at the beginning looked good.
Cherdreviya Gray honestly
Yeah until they started licking it.☠️
ik
that's a mood😂
Cherdreviya Gray are you as high as I am
Thank you for raising awareness about abusive relationships and especially the emotional type of abuse!
THE GIRLS:18+ ARE SUZUKA.UNO
THREE IN ONE
RUclips: THIS IS FINE.
SOMEONE: SAYS ''HECK''.
RUclips: BE GONE
Life's story is a short journey so have fun before sleeping forever
#Чо #эт #делает #на #2 #месте #в #тренде
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков .#垃圾.
@@tobi-ir7oq me hfrt byh
09:32 OK, this one pisses me off and I can say why with just one question: "If something happens to you in every relationship you've had, maybe you're the problem?"
yes. yes. yes.
lol idk why but this totally reminded me of ross geller
you make an important point there, while ross is always shown to be the nice guy, and joey the bad boy, in actuality, joey is often nicer and a better person in general than ross. Shows how you can't judge a book.
@@CarynGibson-ey1xn aw, that sounds really bad, i'm glad you break up with him though, and breaking up with him in the public is sooooooo smart,
Right, I mean Hello!?
Guys! Although this focused on an abusive relationship between a couple, this can totally happen platonically, too! Please remember that. People's action cannot be justified by how long they've been in your life, and if your friend(s) become abusive, you need to take action, and try to find help. I just wanted to point that out.
This is so true. I have been through this with someone I used to consider a best friend.
I throw away people like this. I don't consider people as friends until they accept me the way I am.
+CeeCee Dragneel same
So damn true.
thank you for pointing that out. this is very important.
it's pretty scary how a lot of people here can't seem to detect any abuse in the lesbian relationship
Emily L. I can't see the abuse in the lesbian one
Emily L. It is tho :(
Breezei Ookami woah waitvwhat
(I FORGOT THE NAMES) THE blond girl in the lesbian relationship is manipulating the other, and overprotecting her. The brunette is nervous and self concious.
+Sarah Pari Polchachi THE same time the best of my own business and we are going into my own personal information on my way back from Io with a oo
When someone loves you, the way they talk about you is different. You feel safe and comfortable. ❤️❤️
😉😘🍌
Why does every body writes that?
@@marinamai5504 because the rest are bots with an inappropriate profile pic 😂
why these bots all up in my comment
THE GIRLS:18+ ARE SUZUKA.UNO
THREE IN ONE
RUclips: THIS IS FINE.
SOMEONE: SAYS ''HECK''.
RUclips: BE GONE
Life's story is a short journey so have fun before sleeping forever
#Чо #эт #делает #на #2 #месте #в #тренде
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков .#垃圾.
"She's abusive."
"She's never hit me."
"She doesn't have to."
Damn... Remember that.
Kyra Richardson
hii
That was my favourite part of the video because I've exchanged those words with my brother when he was trying to make me realise my relationship was abusive
Kyra Richardson I wish I would've realized that in my last relationship. It was abusive and I didn't even know it cause I only thought abuse was physical
Damn that hits hard
"She's abusive."
"She doesn't hit me."
"She doesn't have to."
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT
백장미 yess
BUT PEOPLE STILL STAY
백장미 omg yes!
"you could do better" - lil Donald
TAEMIN
this video made me realize i was in an abusive relationship when i was 16, thank you for this video
Heather Smith same..
@C C thank you so much 😊
IMO 8801935236963
Heather Smith sajidmakrami
so your telling me your 16 year old boyfriend is abusive?!!
Out of all the videos I watched on here over the years, this is one that has stayed with me always. I just watched it for the first time in seven years and it touches me just the same.
Emotional abuse is actually often MORE damaging in the long term than physical
True...but they often go together...
eh id disagree
I agree, personally. I was emotionally abused and I used to pray that they'd hit me instead. But it's not the same for everyone.
No. People die from physical abuse
@@tinctures_ suicide is a death, isn't it?
The thing that's sad about this is it doesn't just happen in relationships, it can be friendships as well. Learn the signs, don't ignore the red flags and learn to distance yourself from toxic people that don't have your interests at heart.
Tori Mouradian yes and also in the workplace.
I want to meet u really i like u 😍😍💑💏💑💏💗💗💋👄
This is absolutely terrifying because I’ve been with someone like this before. The feeling is almost unexplainable and you don’t realize it’s happening until everyone else around you does and they open your eyes to what’s really going on. I had good friends open my eyes and I got out of that relationship ASAP.
So true..
same here and I left after I almost was killed last year
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My friends keep telling me I deserve better, that its unhealthy... But I love him... I dont want to lose him... Im too scared of being alone.
I feel yah I know what it's like
What's with all the bots in the comments suddenly?
Everyone is commenting serious stuff and I’m just here to say that Ryan is a dork and I love him bye
Same
Sanora _ seriouslu ryan and ally are adorable oh my god 😂
XD😂 FACTS THO
True facts
Sanora _ oh my god same
thé abusive one not even noticing that her gf was sad
Of course not. That's why she is abusive.
Yeah she was about to bawl her eyes out
It is because she does not care. And perhaps enjoys it. Sad
@@donnamariedavidson5065 CONTRYVERSY, but she was involved the last time she was sad she texted to help, and noticed, there's a 89% chance she did not notices, rather than an 21% that she did and didn't care.
Is that David Spade in your profile picture?
She was pressuring her into kissing Ali!! then she goes and blames her!! toxic much?
weird koala xnxx.son
@Lady Destiny but it is??
TF is with these bots saying
“So sexy moment” ?....😅😂
this could be the setup for ACTUAL movie
+Christine Turner It *is* an actual movie--a short film. But I know what you're saying. It could make a good full-length film, yes. But I really like short films; I wish I could see more of them. I like short stories (literature), too. So I really like it as it is. I like the subtle bits, such as how the abuser asks who Brittany is texting at the beginning. It could just be casual curiosity, but in retrospect, we realize it's part of her controlling who Brittany talks to because she so fears betrayal and abandonment. She gives a certain look (I watched it again).
Another good bit is when she mocks Ryan for having squirrels in his childhood home: "Ooh, scary," even though he isn't even saying they were scary like rats (I find ratties adorable; I miss my friend's pet rats that have passed away). 💕🐭🐭 He is merely mentioning something he has in common with Brittany--an animal infestation--but she twists his words. Could just be friendly teasing, but she later goes on to twist Brittany's and Allie's words, and to mock both of them more obviously. Evidently this is a habit she's developed for selfishly controlling others so that she herself feels safer and more in control of her life.
And when Brittany says, "She's always late but blames me," it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, until we find out her partner angrily blames her for *everything*. Only those who are hurting want purposely to hurt others, but some hurting people turn the attack inward instead, like Brittany, so blame from another resonates with their self-blame and they accept it.
I love how the ending has one more subtle moment: Allie notices Brittany crying in the rearview mirror--I'm sure she'll comfort her later, when they're alone--but Brittany's girlfriend ignores her and chats and laughs with Ryan, confirming that she is thoughtless toward Brittany. Not once does she think to look over at her own girlfriend, to check in with how she's doing. During the whole film, she only thinks about her own feelings and desires.
Of course, the meaning of the crying is communicated well. Brittany sees the happy, straight couple and realizes she is very unhappy. She finally admits to herself that Allie is right, she is being abused, and now she has to do the hardest thing she's ever done: stand up for herself. 😔 ////Bunny kisses for all!
you do relize nobody will read all that, unless their realy bored
uuuuuuu?like are you gay then?
(O ___________ O)
was it not obvious?
"she's abusive
"she's never hit me..."
"she doesn't have to."
strongest thing anyone has ever said.
This video is what made me realize that I was in an emotionally negligent relationship a little over a year ago. Thank you, Buzzfeed. My life has changed for the better since then.
Your guy's writing and acting is amazing. Totally loved the perspectives and LOVE that she took her for a walk with a joint to have the serious talk. That's a lot of how my sister's and family are, a walk and a smoke to talk about the real things. Love it.
Don't EVER let someone make you think that it's "your fault" when they treat you badly. it's not.
Honey sometimes it it
😂
My mother and my step father
Don't EVER let someone make you think that it's "Your Fault" when they treat you Badly. It's Not
I get u
At the beginning I was confused about where the abusive actions were, but then when they finally arrived at their destination I could definitely see how toxic the girlfriend was. I feel bad for the people who really do experience people like this. Just remember toxic people may hurt to let go, but aren’t worth the pain.
you could start seeing the toxicity from when they were talking about sexual prowess. The abuser's face shows her anger
Scarlett Winblade u
the abuser one looks like an off brand jenna marbles 😂
Emma Mattingly yep i saw that too...😂
Omg I knew she looked familiar!
Sandy Ketchup lmao
I legit though it was Jenna before and I was like "it cant be"
Omfg sameee 🤣🤣
The amount of bots in the comments XD
Ikr!!!
I know...Im scared
It is kinda weird tbh
@Evelyne the irony please 😭
@@moyananayakkara3129 ilr
The shower scene made me so anxious
Skylar J I didn't get that part
Maheen khan me neither
- Ruminate - I believe it’s just her being uncomfortable and thinking about her girlfriend and how she’s always with her and is controlling.
To me, it kind of seemed to represent how out of control she is of the relationship. Like her girlfriend just set the tone, controlled her and what was okay or not okay, etc.
i'm naked
Abuser: Coffee?
Girl: Sure
Me: No don't drink it!!!!!
Just me or did anyone else think that?
I LOVE your name!!
Hermione Tris Katniss Isabelle Lightwood same
Sane i'm like maybe she put poison in it
Hermione Tris Katniss Isabelle Lightwood probably spit in it...
you’re name!!! 💘
but did they have to include the thunderous kissing sounds?
omg all the serious comments and then this
im laughing so hard
Lainey Schwartz FINALLY SOMEONE SAID SOMETHING. i was thinking the same exact thing like dude was the microphone right under their mouths?! the noises almost made me gag lmao
Ahhhhh yassss noooo!! 🤣🤣🤣 blah blah blah!
them bass-boosted kissin noises
😂 and btw your profile pic is adorable
This is so accurate it' scary. The whole time I felt again what if feels like to have an abusive partner. There's no bigger pain.
I was in a relationship like this last year and I’m so much happier than I was when I was with him. He was 80 pounds overweight but he would always comment on my body, he’d always bring up my mistakes, disregard my interests and dreams, get jealous for the silliest of reasons, and I would apologize for everything. It was exhausting and my self worth went down. To anyone going through similar relationships, gentlemen or ladies, you deserve better.
The problem with being in abusive relationship you dont notice it until it's over. I agree with you everyone deserves better, you dont need them to survive.
scatterbrained I am SO glad you're out of that relationship
scatterbrained hi
Honestly, how stupid can you be to fire such a good actress, creator like Brittany.
She broke the contract, it's not about smart and stupid, it would be legal and illegal ...
She broke her contract ):
+Jenna Draws how she break it
Buzzfeed is full of creators, actors, artists. That's what they are, a creative place. The fact that they don't allow their employees to express their creativity and passion out of the Buzzfeed environment is just crazy. Employees have left this company on their own because they didn't have the liberty to create content of their own since it wasn't related to Buzzfeed. So much for being a creative place huh?
The contract says all content their creators make belongs to them, so all the others that aren't fired were allowed to have their own channels etc.. but brit was in a video with another label
How she eats a cupcake is unacceptable
Um how
That's very true
Ikr
No lies were told
How? She was making a joke if you don’t get the joke your obviously to young to be watching this..
This was really well-done, Buzzfeed (and all involved - behind the camera and in front of it). I'm familiar with two of the actors in this one from other Buzzfeed videos, and it seems that each of you keep getting better and better even though you were already great from the start. If this were a series, whether here on RUclips or Buzzfeed, or on a streaming platform, I'd definitely continue to tune in! Just really well-done all around! Kudos! Definitely one of my new top favorites I've seen so far 👏👏👏
I have never seen this side of BuzzFeed before, and I love it. I literally just watched myself from the outside looking in.
Enesha Johnson was that a Dear Evan Hansen reference?
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Mae Baby
WAVING THROUGH A WINDOW
IM WAVING THROUGH A WINDOW WHOA OHHHH
Dear Buzzfeed. Thank you for this video. Because of this video I was able able to identify and remove myself from an abusive friendship. I'm still healing, but I'm better for it than when I was in it.
JOSEARLOS
Can I have
Good for u!! I hope ur better now
I was in a friendship like this in high school. One day she flew into a rage over me wanting to go finish some homework rather than do what she felt like doing one lunch time, and she treated me like the enemy ever since. I found out that I wasn't her first best friend that she'd done the exact same thing to. :0
Same for me.
Kiss sound irl: *basically inaudible*
Kiss Sounds in buzzfeed: *Louder than a motorcycle*
Yeahhhh... i had to put my volume down for this. I was scared that my parents gonna listen this from corridor and think I'm watching something else!🤦♀️
I keep reading all the comments and they’re all spamming I-
yeah and why do they all have those pics lmao
@@meganbaker7184 ikr LMAO
Everyone is commenting serious stuff and I’m just like
*jenna marbles...is that you?*
Yoshi Zero same!
😂
😂 😂 😂
Jenna is prettier
Walmart Jenna marbles
wait i’m sorry i know this is a completely inappropriate time to say this but i’m intrigued what happened with the squirrels
Luci :3 same
Luci :3 also same
Omg. Your cat is so cute.
Hey person who ended their name with the :3 thing
IKR
I’ve been looking for this video for years!
I was so crushed when I saw her crying in the back seat at the end. I am desperate to see the conclusion to this. Well done!
matty205224 higg
matty205224 xxx
Me too
i think the ending is for whoever is in this situation to decide
So relatable and I particularly admire how subtle and realistic the abusive behaviour was, such a true representative of an emotionally abusive partner. the straight couple on the other hand made me cringe.
Out of curiosity, What was so cringey about the straight couple?
+Valkyrie Maiden95 haha they just seem so awkward, especially in sexual scenarios. i think it's because they were portrayed very realistically though so it's not a bad thing!
tbh same....they were so awkward i just wow
Well they were a new couple and I found them adorable especially the way they worked out the simple little problem without apology or blame and just worked together and could tell that they could really turn into something remarkable, but that way just my take
i can even believe the cring right now
this is what abusive people do.
they seem normal. nice. but whenever something they don't like happens, you're immediately to blame.
abusive people blame you for everything that's ever gone wrong for them. act like they own you. deliberately hurt your feelings, then play it off as teasing. know when something's wrong, or when you're feeling bad, but don't even bother asking if you're okay.
everyone needs to be taught what abusive relationships are like - not just the ones with domestic violence.
After being an abusive relationship for 2 years this video really hit close to home.
+Hannah same here. I live with him.
Your comment really hit home for me because you didn't specify that it was about dating relationships like how most of this video did. People think that dating relationships are the only ones that can be abusive. But I've been in a friendship for over a year now that's been nothing but abusive. I'm still too scared to leave. She calls me stupid and she tells me to shut up all the time and when she gets upset about something it's my fault and if I try to hang out with anybody other than her she gets upset today she blocked me on Facebook just because yesterday I went and hung out with one of my other friends. She blocked my phone number too.
Your words are so true. As the one being emotionally abused, you end up anxiously scrambling to make sure the other person is happy and comfortable, and you take on so much worry that you neglect your own happiness. Especially in groups, because you know there's the potential for awkward tension if even the smallest thing happens, so you'll take even more just to prevent others from having to see the abuser in his/her natural state. It's especially easy for "people-pleasers" to get into this kind of situation. Important to note that this can happen in friendships as well, not just relationships.
Nightwing009 abuse can take place in any type of relationship, of course.
i'm so sorry your "friend" has been horrible to you.
i had a girlfriend who was just like that. she made me believe that i would never have anyone love me again if i broke up with her. but with the help of my current girlfriend, i left her.
it takes an incredible amount of strength, but i know you have it in you. you can't let her take advantage of you, because there WILL be other people who would love to be friends with you - people who will treat you with respect and will be there for you when you feel badly.
her blocking you on fb and blocking your number might just be the push you need to clean your hands of her. it'll hurt, but you'll be so, so better off for it.
"She's abusive"
"She never hit me"
"She doesn't have to"
Wow, I felt that. TIMESTAMP: 10:59 - 11:04
"Can you remember that you're my girlfriend and not Ally's this weekend?" I literally cringed
i know right..
I can't stand jealousy.
+greenmarker567 just don't act mad at the people who are jealous because your gonna make them feel worse
I was like damnnnnnnn
+Layla G. That is a catch 22. The situation won't get any better and/or it will get worse.
This video made me realize how mentally abusive my boyfriend is too me ....
Aww that's sad 😕
If he doesn't make you happy, then break up with him.
Or confront him about it like an adult and if he doesn't comply or acknowledge his faults.... then consider ending the relationship. Communication is key.
I feel so bad for you
dont loose hope. give him a chance
I hated the abnoxiously loud kissing noises 😂😂
Piper Johnson abnoxiously
Annabelle Siegel ok I spelled it right 😂😂😂🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
Piper Johnson what? No it’s not right. Obnoxious is the correct spelling
It is spelled obnoxious
Gerald Swaddles whoops 🙄
The way an abuser’s attitude shifts towards their victims in private vs public. After experiencing emotional abuse, I’d never wish it on anyone
This is a whole damn film.
So 2000 and late XD
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I wish it was tbh, its really good
No because THERES NO FREAKING ENDING. LIKE ISNT THERE SUPPOSED TO BE A BREAK UP. HELELLLOOO?
GET👏OUT👏OF👏TOXIC👏RELATIONSHIPS👏YOU👏CAN👏DO👏BETTER👏
Fangirl Corner I loved this comment
This is a good comment
Fangirl Corner preach my darling
Fangirl Corner is it wrong that I actually clapped along with the words
SOMETIMES 👏 LEAVING 👏 ISN'T 👏 AN 👏 OPTION 👏
Yep, that’s narcissism. Gaslighting and projecting.
abuse happens in private, it is usually indirect comments/remarks, backhanded compliments which is a subtle way to manipulate you . Usually involves embarrassment, jealousy, guilt tripping, rage outbursts (disproportionate), then comes the apologies, followed by charm, attention, love and it starts up again. Power and control cycle. When you are in it and isolated from friends/family, its hard to see what that person is doing. But you'll feel something isn't right. Always follow your gut :)
Every couples months I rewatch this. I am a victim of emotional, sexual, and verbal abuse. When it slips back into my head I come and watch this. Almost as a way to cope. I look and see what my life felt like for a year. Some how it makes me feel better and see how far I’ve come.
The end still hits me the hardest
I hope you're doing better. Such things are really hard to overcome and I wish you all the best for the future.
Kaitlyn Nusspickel you're such a strong person lovely
I'm v glad you're doing much better
Whenever I feel myself starting to blame myself for my abuse I think about this video and sometimes come back and watch it
Sexual assault happens to you tell the cops
These videos have better acting than most tv shows
Tim Ruberts fr!!
No they don’t, maybe you’re watching the wrong shows
read2018341302 What perfect TV shows are you watching.
Tim Ruberts yikes
Im the 666th like hehe
Nope I still am not over the whole him and Quinta breakup
+sophia kerr omg me too! are they dating now instead? must be awkward
Wut
same
Yeah, same here. They look cute together.
Samee
I'm not a lesbian, but this is what the majority of the guys I've dated have acted like. They also got mad because I'm waiting for marriage. Abuse is everywhere :(
I'm sorry. I know many will try to manipulate you.
Don't give in if waiting is what you want
Waiting for my husband was the best thing I ever did. I was bullied for my choice in high school and it definitely made relationships difficult until I found the right one. Don’t give in to the pressure and stand firm in your beliefs! It was the best choice I ever made ❤
@@southernbeauty1376 I appreciate the encouragement and that I'm not alone. I struggle with the choice every day to wait, but I know it'll pay off in the end!
@@gabbylopez9091 difficult roads lead to the most beautiful destinations! Girl, I am so proud of you!!! It may be hard sometimes to have boundaries with people but it is soooo worth it in the end. For me, those boundaries saved me from a lot of heartache and pain.. and really, it kept me from people who wouldn’t have shared my values anyway… so the relationship would have ended regardless. Though it was not an easy decision, and I had to make it again and again and again… it was one of the best decisions of my life! You are choosing what’s hard now, to not have it be hard later in life! You are amazing! ♥️
*I had squirrels once*
When did this get so many likes, my phone doesn't tell me this stuff.
😂
Pancake_ KoGAYne ;-;
Pancake_ KoGAYne OMG IS UR PROFILE PIC TODORONI?!?
I love how they use a woman instead of a man abuse is abuse it has no gender !!
Amanda Li yes so true
سسكس
سكس
عربي
جديد
Chorfi Sabeg are u 8?
“She never hit me”
“She doesn’t have too”
MY BODY ACHES OMG WOW
Lauren Adams hi baby cl me whatapp no 9542730835
*to*
Her: "It just really frustrated me"
Him: "YOU'RE LIKE FREAKING OUT"
Buzzfeed: **This video**
Also Buzzfeed: *"Fart Facts That Will Blow You Away!"*
Heh blow you away
Open xvideo
hello
Ok
T-raa, or “what type of a fart are you?”
“She’s abusive”
“She’s never hit me”
“She doesn’t have too”
That hit me hard. Brought back too many memories
Hlw
Yepppp
Oh calm down little girl
The girl with the pink hair had the ultimate Karen haircut
When the beat hits harder than Karen’s hits her kids
I’m sorry
Ok Boomer this comment is like your profile name. I'm just kidding don't attack me
can you help me? ive been hearing about this "karen" thing? can you explain it?
@@shitnugget12 Karen is my mother's name. She is the most amazing woman I've ever met. Do not EVER use my mother's name as an insult and do not EVER insinuate that she hits her kids.
Do not use my mother's name as an insult.
People need to understand that emotional abuse is still abuse and a person doesn't have to hit you to call them abusive
THE GIRLS:18+ ARE SUZUKA.UNO
THREE IN ONE
RUclips: THIS IS FINE.
SOMEONE: SAYS ''HECK''.
RUclips: BE GONE
Life's story is a short journey so have fun before sleeping forever
#Чо #эт #делает #на #2 #месте #в #тренде
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков .#垃圾.
I'm starting to like BuzzFeed again for showing the part of tge LGBTQ+ community where abusive relationships are still possible. A lot of people in that group never speak up about the horrors that still can occur in gay relationships as much as straight ones.
This is actually pretty old it's from 2016
Lady Fervor lol literally no one wants a libertarian buzzfeed
EverythingAlwaysDC no one wants a buzzfeed
morgan b lmao, some of their content is good, but yeah in general it’s not that great
Some guys think it is ok to ignore a no, because they figure their partner is physically strong enough to push them off. The truth is their partner does not want to seem rude or confrontational. And then the anus tears.