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@@CandleOfWisdom I bought stuff to use when I was Retired, as a Young Man. Instead of buying loads of Cars and getting Divorced etc. like Everyone Else. Now I'm 70 yrs old, everyone that I know is Jealous of Me. They spent all their Money Years Ago and now they can't afford a Pot to P*ss in !
@CandleOfWisdom I am 60. I feel that in retirement, even though my last child is 11 years of ageone can make relationships better as there is nothing much to require from others. Genuine relationships can happen here as those fasaards that we all put on for God knows what are not necessary anymore. Retirement is not a time to have sexual relationships that live humans so bitter for not having these relationships or abusing that window when sex is a thing. Retirement is still time to detach.
I have one friend. My wife who I met at 19 has become my companion, confidant and playmate. We enjoy the friendship of our neighbors, but it is really a curbside relationship. We don't spend time together. During our career days we had many associates. We enjoyed our work and the bond of shared goals and milestones. They never survived job changes. Some 'friends' became toxic. Same with family. I was always happy to be a bit of a loner. I never enjoyed forced noisy parties or the bar scene. I'd rather take a nice walk alone in nature.
Ive just retired and I love it, I do my thing keep busy rest when I have to, go to concerts, theatre etc. I've just started decorating, I love not being told what time to come in, where family is concerned I make rules its my time , I also thank the creater for helping me to reach this time, at 66 my sprituality is important.
Only people whom I consider friends are the ones that will give me the shirt off their back. In this selfish society i have very few friends, only activities buddies. Even then, I generally like to do many activities myself.
I think a few good friends is all you need, but if you have children you can interact with regularly that’s even better as you are much closer to them.
I had a hard time in high school. My mother said, "When you get out of school, you won't have to be around people you don't want to be around" she was somewhat right. Now, I'm forced to be around people I don't want to be around on the job. I am looking forward to retirement, where I can truly only associate with those I want to.
I’m 64 & retired. I joined parkrun almost ten years ago & attend every Saturday, I either run or walk or volunteer. Post event I have breakfast with a group of friends mostly made through parkrun. I also am a member of a local running group. These groups give me the ongoing social connection I enjoy. No stress, no obligations just pure enjoyment.
The problem is most social clubs for elderly are dominated by old grannies and everything is boring and all conversations sanitised to the meaningless crap most women speak. Sorry, but it's true.
To the person reading this, we don’t know each other and our paths may never cross again, but I wish the best in life for you. Remember to love yourself and never stop loving yourself, you’re a beautiful human being and the world wouldn’t be the same without you in it, you mean so much to so many people, including me. Enjoy your journey and keep your head up!
Retirement, if not sooner, is a time to detach; slowly living with death by detaching from what you have identified with over time while living including friends and family so that when death comes the fear that haunts us has already subsided to it home.
I’m 72 and I literally don’t have any real friends and I’m doing just fine. I’m not going to be a hater of friends because many people have really good friends that enrich their lives. It’s just that my personality is not compatible with too many friends. One or two maybe.
At the end of the day it is us alone that picks up the tab it always has been, so looking after oneself is not selfish rather more self preservation - I guess most of us have at least a small number of wonderful friends in our lives , EG 2 × 90 year olds in mine still alive are too tired to bother with me now which caused me grief this last Xmas , however some minuscule easy self employment hobby & concentrating on healthy eating and getting around enough keeps me occupied plus making the life of my cat while he does mine , I am blundering through my twilight years quite well thankyou very much.
Retirement is a new hobby. Lots of people flunk retirement because they can’t let go of their old life and status. Retirement doesn’t mean you sit home and watch TV all day, it means you have the opportunity to discover what’s left of your life. Don’t be tempted to waste what you have left with activities that don’t align with your pursuit of squeezing the very best out of what you left of life. I personally have so many hobbies that I don’t need another, but I’m always looking because my old hobbies may no longer align with my aging body life or interests. For example, I gave up big game hunting because I no longer have the hunting instinct. I would end up giving the meat away anyway. If I do go hunting in the future, it’ll be just to take my gun for a walk. One big advice if you just retired…..you better have a hobby. If you don’t, you’ll end up going back to your old life and be miserable.
Acceptation, We all live with the satisfaction when others accepted us. Unfortunately at old age no one will want to be with you, so we say God is with us and then we live with our own sweet past memories. Doctors will call it Dementia but the truth is we all want to live in times when people accepted us. That is life.
I kinda relate to your comment. We moved outside a tiny town with zero opportunities to do anything. I have offered to volunteer, I used to be a 4H leader,contacted the leaders and the FFA teacher,and a horse place that works with a support thu horses,the Lion's club, all I get is oh yeah that would be great I will contact you. They don't, I use their contact info they gave me,they don't respond. It's been 3 years, zero connections,and my husband is a home body. I am about to claw my eyes out. I miss people!
Retirement is a chance to redefine your life and focus on what truly matters. Embracing solitude and prioritizing your well-being can bring unexpected peace and clarity.
At 45, I recently lost my job. My military pension is $9000, and I also have access to Tricare and VA healthcare. I'm thinking about traveling abroad with my money, assets, and 401(k) after selling or renting my home. Which passive income options should I be looking at?
I'm wondering if I should merge all of my investing accounts into one. How should I proceed and are there any repercussions I should be aware of if I decide to do this? In addition, I plan to sell my property, which could result in an additional 200K over time. Is it better to diversify over a few different industries or combine everything into one investing account?
These are crucial questions for a financial planner. I met mine at a NYSE summit, and with her help, my wife and I reallocated our $1.7M portfolio between a traditional IRA and a brokerage account. She’s been making investments with our approval and has helped us recover twice our losses. We’re holding steady and carefully navigating more markets
I am happy for everone not occupying my couch and using me as a psychologically trash can where they can dump their problems. I am not bothering anybody with my problems so why shall I listen to theirs?
That's because most of them will ask to borrow $$$ and if you don't loan them, you are short a friend. Where are other case is that they see you are better off than them or worst in reverse.
15 дней назад+1
I had a friend that loaned money to workers and seldom got it back. I would tell her to say: "the money I have is all invested/tied up for retirement. Maybe say: I helped a nephew/niece with college or my retirement is less than when working. Then ditch them from your life.
Thousand friends, how many are dear friends, how many will attend your funeral?
14 дней назад
Most friends and family members are resting in cemeteries, we are outliving others it seems. We don't want a traditional funeral anyway. friends will have a memorial gathering.
We have to work out our own problems/family issues in private. Not dump baggage on others about family or other issues ( like many do in church settings) I love solitude.
I disagree. A robust social life is important to mental wellbeing. Before retirement I joined several social organizations. I frequently meet with friends, new and old. But they have been vetted with years of association. I only hang out with the best people.
Most people I know that are my age, 70 yrs, are Senile ! I can't stand people who Ramble on about a load of Rubbish, and talk about Dead People all the Time ! I've kept my mind active ! My X Box Series X Keeps My Mind active. And I am always looking up Science Topics on RUclips ! Most people I know can't understand abstract concepts.
15 дней назад
Set boundries then, some groups push others to do this or that feeling pressure. But some of us are introverts (around 30 percent of adults) and may read for hours daily, watch movies online. Being around people in groups is exhausting for some esp. in retirement. Some like small groups of casual friends on occasion. I do church online.
14 дней назад
@@spaceted3977 Many older women live in a world of social media gossip about celebrities and live hollowed out lives. Can'tcarry on conversations with doofuses.
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💡 What do you think about the idea of not needing friends after retirement?
Let’s open up the conversation! Share your thoughts, experiences, or any lessons you’ve learned during retirement in the comments below. Do you find peace in solitude, or is staying socially connected important to you?
We’re here to learn from each other-your insights might inspire someone else! 🌟
Don’t forget to like 👍, subscribe 🔔, and join us for more thoughtful discussions about thriving in retirement. Let’s make this the best chapter of life together! 👇
@@CandleOfWisdom I bought stuff to use when I was Retired, as a Young Man. Instead of buying loads of Cars and getting Divorced etc. like Everyone Else. Now I'm 70 yrs old, everyone that I know is Jealous of Me. They spent all their Money Years Ago and now they can't afford a Pot to P*ss in !
@CandleOfWisdom I am 60. I feel that in retirement, even though my last child is 11 years of ageone can make relationships better as there is nothing much to require from others. Genuine relationships can happen here as those fasaards that we all put on for God knows what are not necessary anymore. Retirement is not a time to have sexual relationships that live humans so bitter for not having these relationships or abusing that window when sex is a thing. Retirement is still time to detach.
I have one friend. My wife who I met at 19 has become my companion, confidant and playmate. We enjoy the friendship of our neighbors, but it is really a curbside relationship. We don't spend time together. During our career days we had many associates. We enjoyed our work and the bond of shared goals and milestones. They never survived job changes. Some 'friends' became toxic. Same with family. I was always happy to be a bit of a loner. I never enjoyed forced noisy parties or the bar scene. I'd rather take a nice walk alone in nature.
Good
I'm 70 yrs. My best friends are my 2 Dogs !
Disagree on the idea of not needing any friends at all. Completely agree with the idea of being selective about who you spend your time with.
But that unpredictable too.
@ Life is tough. Get a helmet.
Ive just retired and I love it, I do my thing keep busy rest when I have to, go to concerts, theatre etc. I've just started decorating, I love not being told what time to come in, where family is concerned I make rules its my time , I also thank the creater for helping me to reach this time, at 66 my sprituality is important.
Same here but watching movies series.learning new words like lyrics. Being alone is very much beautiful.
I no longer have/want friends. I can not afford them.
I'm 60. I learned 30 years ago that friends were a net negative.
Oh my experience is same too
Only people whom I consider friends are the ones that will give me the shirt off their back. In this selfish society i have very few friends, only activities buddies. Even then, I generally like to do many activities myself.
This is good advice not only for retirement but for a whole lifetime ...
I am free and light now ….
I agree, but getting older makes me appreciate those good friends I have ❤❤❤❤
Sad. Many acquaintances and a few good friends adds immensely to quality of life.
I think a few good friends is all you need, but if you have children you can interact with regularly that’s even better as you are much closer to them.
I had a hard time in high school. My mother said, "When you get out of school, you won't have to be around people you don't want to be around" she was somewhat right. Now, I'm forced to be around people I don't want to be around on the job. I am looking forward to retirement, where I can truly only associate with those I want to.
I do all that you suggest here. I am happy and hope to age gracefully and fall down one day like a dry leaf to go where I came from.
Nice
This was so eye-opening. Thank you for providing a unique perspective on retirement and the social connections we keep
I’m 64 & retired. I joined parkrun almost ten years ago & attend every Saturday, I either run or walk or volunteer. Post event I have breakfast with a group of friends mostly made through parkrun. I also am a member of a local running group. These groups give me the ongoing social connection I enjoy. No stress, no obligations just pure enjoyment.
I dont know how you can run at 64 years of age
@ just lucky I guess! Currently have a knee injury so I’m just walking at present, probably for most of this year. But, we’ll see…..!
Commonalities make good social circles 😊
The problem is most social clubs for elderly are dominated by old grannies and everything is boring and all conversations sanitised to the meaningless crap most women speak. Sorry, but it's true.
Exactly true. I have beautiful houses, money, dogs and good part-time jobs. No friends are required.
Good
To the person reading this, we don’t know each other and our paths may never cross again, but I wish the best in life for you. Remember to love yourself and never stop loving yourself, you’re a beautiful human being and the world wouldn’t be the same without you in it, you mean so much to so many people, including me. Enjoy your journey and keep your head up!
Retirement, if not sooner, is a time to detach; slowly living with death by detaching from what you have identified with over time while living including friends and family so that when death comes the fear that haunts us has already subsided to it home.
Don’t need nor want them!
I really am thankful for this awesome video absolutely ❤
I’m 72 and I literally don’t have any real friends and I’m doing just fine. I’m not going to be a hater of friends because many people have really good friends that enrich their lives. It’s just that my personality is not compatible with too many friends. One or two maybe.
One does need some social interaction. Joining a couple of clubs and having family are helpful. A book club, gardening club, pool hall / club, gym…
We are social animals but I think the older we get the less we need socially.
At the end of the day it is us alone that picks up the tab it always has been, so looking after oneself is not selfish rather more self preservation - I guess most of us have at least a small number of wonderful friends in our lives , EG 2 × 90 year olds in mine still alive are too tired to bother with me now which caused me grief this last Xmas , however some minuscule easy self employment hobby & concentrating on healthy eating and getting around enough keeps me occupied plus making the life of my cat while he does mine , I am blundering through my twilight years quite well thankyou very much.
Retirement is a new hobby. Lots of people flunk retirement because they can’t let go of their old life and status. Retirement doesn’t mean you sit home and watch TV all day, it means you have the opportunity to discover what’s left of your life. Don’t be tempted to waste what you have left with activities that don’t align with your pursuit of squeezing the very best out of what you left of life. I personally have so many hobbies that I don’t need another, but I’m always looking because my old hobbies may no longer align with my aging body life or interests. For example, I gave up big game hunting because I no longer have the hunting instinct. I would end up giving the meat away anyway. If I do go hunting in the future, it’ll be just to take my gun for a walk. One big advice if you just retired…..you better have a hobby. If you don’t, you’ll end up going back to your old life and be miserable.
The best thing that ever happen to me when I retired last year.
I am 80 years old I was a business man
Sold up and moved away live alone that's the answer Christmas
Ext only a norther day
Don't mix stay safe
Low maintenance friends and family members are important. I have no need for high maintenance friends.
Love it, low maintenance family and friends.
Acceptation, We all live with the satisfaction when others accepted us. Unfortunately at old age no one will want to be with you, so we say God is with us and then we live with our own sweet past memories. Doctors will call it Dementia but the truth is we all want to live in times when people accepted us. That is life.
I kinda relate to your comment. We moved outside a tiny town with zero opportunities to do anything. I have offered to volunteer, I used to be a 4H leader,contacted the leaders and the FFA teacher,and a horse place that works with a support thu horses,the Lion's club, all I get is oh yeah that would be great I will contact you. They don't, I use their contact info they gave me,they don't respond. It's been 3 years, zero connections,and my husband is a home body. I am about to claw my eyes out. I miss people!
Very true thanks 🙏🙏🙏😀👍👍👍
Limit yourself with your family and friends. Be careful about your business. Benefits are from solitude. Just keep your nose clean.
Your wisdom is a gift. Thank you for sharing it so generously
Retirement is a chance to redefine your life and focus on what truly matters. Embracing solitude and prioritizing your well-being can bring unexpected peace and clarity.
Good comment.
At 45, I recently lost my job. My military pension is $9000, and I also have access to Tricare and VA healthcare. I'm thinking about traveling abroad with my money, assets, and 401(k) after selling or renting my home. Which passive income options should I be looking at?
Consulting a financial advisor is a logical step at this point, but postponing retirement could be a wiser decision
I'm wondering if I should merge all of my investing accounts into one. How should I proceed and are there any repercussions I should be aware of if I decide to do this? In addition, I plan to sell my property, which could result in an additional 200K over time. Is it better to diversify over a few different industries or combine everything into one investing account?
These are crucial questions for a financial planner. I met mine at a NYSE summit, and with her help, my wife and I reallocated our $1.7M portfolio between a traditional IRA and a brokerage account. She’s been making investments with our approval and has helped us recover twice our losses. We’re holding steady and carefully navigating more markets
amazing! The performance of my portfolio is poor. Who works for you?
June Renae Matthysse. Just research the name. You’d find necessary details to work with a correspondence to set up an appointment
If you don't have friends they don't borrow money and they don't drink your beer ! 🤔
I retired 8 months ago. I realized that I don't like any of my lifelong friends.
I am happy for everone not occupying my couch and using me as a psychologically trash can where they can dump their problems. I am not bothering anybody with my problems so why shall I listen to theirs?
This has been a problem for me i had to stop them. Drains energy
@snail6queen6hammy Yes it does. Big times. I am glad to read that I am not the only one who thinks that way. 👍👍
Then you also need to do what me and hubby did in the '90's being fed up with fair weather friends: drop out of all civic groups and home church also.
Seems it's usually kids or g'kids issues being dumped and some of their "kids" are older 50-ish and g'kids adults.
Yes. Silence is the only way to make the most beautiful sense.
That's because most of them will ask to borrow $$$ and if you don't loan them, you are short a friend. Where are other case is that they see you are better off than them or worst in reverse.
I had a friend that loaned money to workers and seldom got it back. I would tell her to say: "the money I have is all invested/tied up for retirement. Maybe say: I helped a nephew/niece with college or my retirement is less than when working. Then ditch them from your life.
Thousand friends, how many are dear friends, how many will attend your funeral?
Most friends and family members are resting in cemeteries, we are outliving others it seems. We don't want a traditional funeral anyway. friends will have a memorial gathering.
Just trying to get the kid at the Grocery to check out 😂
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god
i disagree❤🎉
So do I
We have to work out our own problems/family issues in private. Not dump baggage on others about family or other issues ( like many do in church settings) I love solitude.
I disagree. A robust social life is important to mental wellbeing. Before retirement I joined several social organizations. I frequently meet with friends, new and old. But they have been vetted with years of association. I only hang out with the best people.
moderation and limits
Not for me im too introverted
Most people I know that are my age, 70 yrs, are Senile ! I can't stand people who Ramble on about a load of Rubbish, and talk about Dead People all the Time ! I've kept my mind active ! My X Box Series X Keeps My Mind active. And I am always looking up Science Topics on RUclips ! Most people I know can't understand abstract concepts.
Set boundries then, some groups push others to do this or that feeling pressure. But some of us are introverts (around 30 percent of adults) and may read for hours daily, watch movies online. Being around people in groups is exhausting for some esp. in retirement. Some like small groups of casual friends on occasion. I do church online.
@@spaceted3977 Many older women live in a world of social media gossip about celebrities and live hollowed out lives. Can'tcarry on conversations with doofuses.