You Need To Hear This - Episode 42: Choose Where Energy Lies

This week's caller has a parent who is lashing out in rage in response to an affair that occurred decades earlier, causing anxiety and stress in not only the partner who committed the affair, but the rest of the family. Nedra gives some insight on how this behavior may have manifested.
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[@alishaclark686]

I relate with this so much , it’s a really tough situation to be in.

[@jillherring8708]

I'm wondering if this woman/parent needs a medical checkup. If this is a sudden change with the aggression and hitting or if the situation is progressing, it could be early onset dementia. The agitation and irritability can be one of the early symptoms. Just a thought to go along w what Dr. Tawwab says. I pray that is not the case, but it would be something to keep in the back of your mind.

[@TamraLSpeakmanShatul]

Yes dv there but mom went through dv through the affair for decades. So he has a lot to fix. I'm sorry but this issue needs to first hit with his behavior. Adulterers deserves everything they get. It is a disgusting heinous horrific behavior. He has assaulted her in many ways by the affair he had. But yeah she needed to leave and deal with her trauma instead of turning to rage.
The blame needs to be put on the man. The woman needs to leave get away from the person who ripped her apart.
Her children need to actually acknowledge how bad what the father did. And how their mom was destroyed by it.
Does that dissolves moms behavior , nope. But she is traumatized and she needs strong help.
Sounds like the children need to acknowledge to mom for her pain of the long term abuse she received.
Support mom. Listen. Move away from dad in my opinion.
But if you can't be with either I see you have to make a decision about either relationship.
But I see a mom screaming for acknowledgement for the harm that has been done to her.