My go to strategy when I am feeling in a funk is to tune into Linda Vater! Since January of 2022, New Years Eve, to be exact, I got very sick, since that time I have had one health crisis after another, I slept for 4 months in a recliner! What saved me was watching you Linda, even into the wee hours. I have tears in my eyes as I type this, I know I am not alone, I felt like I was sitting in your gracious home having a chat with my best girlfriend! Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart 💜 Julia
Julia, Know that you are not alone as this community lifts one another up and shines a light on you in your recovery. I too have benefited by playing and re-playing these videos in the middle of the night when worries get me down. Thinking of you.
There is a lesson in everything! I feel like our Heavenly Father has been teaching me things through this glorious yet frustrating gardening season. In Missouri, we have had no rain for going on 7 weeks. Not hopeful for anything much in the next 10 days with more extreme heat on the way. My gardens are thriving, but only after hours and hours of endless tending and watering. Is it worth it? I keep “hearing” the Father say quietly, “How much time does it take? How much time have you given Me? Are you making this garden an idol?” It seems in these days, with all the chaos in the world, that He is trying to get our attention and bring us back to Him. He started this world with a garden, and His Word contains many references to gardening, watering, feeding, plowing, harvesting. “There is nothing wrong with loving gardening”, He assures me, “it is a gift from Me! Just make ME Number One on a list of ONE…always. I want your heart. Store up your treasures in MY Kingdom, for where your treasure is, that is where your heart will be also. 💜💜🙏🏻.
Couldn’t agree more…so thankful you added this. Have felt the Lord pressing these same thoughts on my heart. The scriptures are such blessing and comfort. We may think we are in charge…but He is in control!! Weather, plagues, and all!😊 So thankful I can really rest in that…and totally lightens my load when I place Him first. This is not our permanent home…the BEST home & garden is in our future. We were created to give Him glory, and I am SO thankful I have been saved through Jesus. I think the reason I love Linda’s garden, (and all garden’s😍🌳) is His story of creation and new life that is present all around. And the fact that He prayed in the garden before heading to the cross for each of us. Let’s face it…the gospel is the best anti-depressant ever. Blessings to all. 🌷
OH Camilla I can relate to what you have said so much ! Just the other day I looked at my devotional on the table and thought boy I need to get back to putting God first in my life ! You stated your feelings so eloquently wish I could do so as well as you. Thank you and may God Bless you andyours.
@@sarahm1236 Yahshua’s/Jesus’ prayer to His Father in the Garden (John Chapter 17) is my favorite passage in the Father’s Word. Talk about a loving Son…nothing but esteem for His Father, even knowing what He was facing the next day. It’s breathtaking, knowing that He laid down His life willingly for us. Puts EVERYTHING in perfect perspective.
No sooner did you start talking, than tears were running down my cheeks. It is so unusual to hear that level of honesty and self reflection, that it caught me by surprise, and touched me deeply. Thank you so much. Gardening and art became my distractions. It allows me to bring beauty into the world. During the isolation of the pandemic, I turned to RUclips and learned gardening and art from You and others.
So many of your tips spoke to me today. I’m also a fan of “early to bed, early to rise” and offering genuine compliments to those we encounter during our day. Once again, Linda, you hit it out of the park!
This is super important, to acknowledge the fact that, even people who seem to have it all together, can struggle with the blues and mental health challenges. I have found it super helpful to start setting boundaries, and not worrying that it is going to upset someone. It is hard to do when you don’t want to hurt the feelings of others, but we must take care of ourselves, and if saying, “I’m just not up to that,” or “that triggers my anxiety, so I would rather not,” upsets someone, they have some work to do with themselves, to understand the importance of respecting the mental health challenges and boundaries of others, with a gracious spirit. When I extend invitations to people, I try to always say, “We would love for you to join us, if that is something you’d like! If not, we totally understand. We will see you if we see you, and if not, we hope you enjoy whatever you’re doing with your day! 😊” That way, people know that we love them, and would enjoy their company, but we don’t want them to feel obligated to step outside of their comfort zone for us. They are loved whether they join us or not, and we will meet them where they are to provide friendship and support. There are no obligations tied to my friendship. ❤️
Linda, you are a wise and loving woman. Thank you for sharing your story and suggestions with us. The other day, instead of just thinking to myself that the cashier was a beautiful young woman, I verbally told her. She had the most natural and beautiful shade of red hair and green eyes. She was surprised - why not verbally tell people instead of just thinking it to yourself. Today I was at my local big box store - the outdoor cashier came up to me and asked me if I was good with flowers?? She told me that at the end of the day they were dumping some flats of flowers that needed a little care. She told me to help myself - free. It hurt her knowing that they would go in the dumpster. I've planted them in my shade garden, look beautiful and I've taken a photo to share with her when I go back. Small gestures go a long way.
I am so sorry for your loss of your mom at such a young age. I know and pray that God is blessing you in so many ways as you have rebounded from that sadness. What a wonderful mom you seem to be - I know your sons must cherish you so very much.
It's so true if everyone would just find one GOOD thing to say about people we come in contact with---wouldn't it be a happier place than it is with all the complaining that goes on now!!
Linda, I just love these ‘can we talk?’ episodes! It’s just a breath of fresh air to listen to your stories and your wisdom, your ‘Pollyanna-ism’ is so contagious! 🤗 I feel lighter and happier when I listen to you, it helps me put things into perspective. I bet your 1st mom and your 2 nd mom are so proud of you!!! 💖💖💖
I walk/hike in the state parks, go to a botanical garden, go to one of the cute small towns in my area, or play instruments whenever I'm feeling down. I really protect my peace nowadays. If the news/the world is too much then I simply disengage from my sources of news/information and I do the afore activities. It has worked for me since last year.
I’ve been getting up early and going to bed before dark. I felt awful about it but just didn’t have the energy to do anything else. Thanks for helping me make sense of the behavior. Thank you even more for reminding me that I can give myself permission to do whatever works for me!
Very recently diagnosed with a condition that will be treated with a six month course of chemo. This has been hard to process as I have always been very strong & active. I am an avid gardener & hoping I will have strength to at least water the garden. The garden is where I am most at peace. I know the Lord will have my hand through this. Looking forward to having my heath back at the end of this. Treasure your health, don’t take it for granted. Thank you for this discussion. I think many of us women don’t share our fears- thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities.
Another vlogger recommended writing down what you dream of that helps you feel good. Mine is, my front yard has my hydrangea groupings flourishing, azaleas looking like "Amen Corner," pine straw mulch thick, house primed and painted, windows beautifully glazed, ONE room completed inside. That is the tape I play when I need to feel good. I live along the Gulf Coast. Years ago, I decided to embrace the heat. I now have a small pool. I float. I don't competitively swim, I float and enjoy the birds eating EVERY FIG on my precious tree I babied til it took off. I enjoy where I am, too. Attitude of Gratitude. And I miss my son. Love Light Peace
Dear Linda, there is so much wisdom here. Thank you for sharing your experience with so much openness and vulnerability. Here’s another perspective to consider: how proud would your mother be to see what a wonderful life you have built and what a generous person her lovely daughter has become? I bet she would be beaming. ❤️
Bravo 👏🏾 Linda! That “talk” showed me that I have acquired you and all of the RUclipsrs that I watch as meaningful characters in my book! Each of you inspires me to be a better human being. So - Thank You 💕 My make myself feel better-Wine, Chocolate and my favorite movie!
This is what I love about you. You are not "above" the struggles that people deal with. You are so down to earth and its refreshing to see someone acknowledge the time to time struggles.
Oh Linda I just watched this video and my heart goes out to you. Hearing about when you were 5 and your Mom passed away and then you had to stay with relatives for awhile , I felt your sadness. I too do not like summer or the heat and really love winter best even on the east coast. Thanks for sharing this with us. I will check in with my former 15 year old self and see what she thinks of me (her) now ❤️
I started years ago watching your videos because I considered you a very knowledgeable and artistic gardener. You are so much more than that to so many people. The work you are doing on your videos is needed and important. I applaud your desire to be in touch with the hearts of your viewers. God bless you and pray for rain! Cathy from Texas zone 8b
I think you get so much back yourself when you make someone feel good by complementing them. Sometimes it can almost make you cry when they are so grateful. Also, I too love the Mitford books. I don't remember the cake but I remember Father Tim's wife Cynthia made wonderful lemon bars. I used to have all the books but left them at a campground library when we were living and traveling in our rv fulltime. The little mountain village they lived in was lovely. Thanks for your encouraging words today, they made me feel better about the summer blues I'm experiencing right now. It has been a strange couple of years and I guess we all need to invent our own new 'normal' that we can find joy in.
I totally agree in early to bed and early to rise, especially during the heat of summer. The mornings are so much more productive for me! My energy level is so much more than it would be during the heat of the afternoon. During those early morning hours my creativity is on point, the birds are singing, the sun is just beginning to rise, and I can easily take the opportunity to get myself ready for the day at my own speed. Also, complimenting others, and I mean TRULY complimenting others is an immediate mood booster. Nothing superficial in my compliments. This gets my mind off myself and whatever my disappointments or other issues are and allows me to focus on others. A world that's all about me, is way too small and dull. There's nothing like the joy of bringing a smile to someone's face by giving them a thoughtful & genuine compliment. Also, another "thing" I do is "plant a smile on my face". No one wants to see my frowny face, so I plant that smile and go forward. Soon, before I realize it, I am genuinely smiling and others are smiling back! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing a bit of your past with us. Whether you realize it or not, you inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves we can be.
Linda, you’re reading my mind. I’ve recently started getting up super early and going directly to the garden to water, tidy up, etc. Now, my mornings are more structured and I’m more centered as I start the day. An unexpected side effect is I’m so excited when I go to bed because I’m anticipating the beautiful morning. I highly recommend this strategy too.
All my friends who are “outside people”, I.e., gardeners or runners /exercisers, are in a funk or state of nervousness. You are not alone. The heat is destructive, but I add the words oppressive and alarming. Lack of rain only makes it worse. It helps me to know that this too shall pass and Fall will arrive. I spend the heat of the day running errands, doing long-put-off inside projects, reading, AND watching gardening videos.
Linda, you are a treasure. I appreciate your (and Stewart) videos so much and how you share little nuggets of wisdom with us. (P.S., sometimes when I go to bed, it's still light out! ,😉)
Love, love, love this video! We all must help each other thrive throughout life. Radiate your light to others. You never know when they need a little spark.
I can totally relate to what your saying!!! In my own way I have down some of the things you have spoke about and I truly just find all sorts of other people interesting to talk to about their lives…I’m in zone 6b and have lived in Wichita Kansas area my whole life. I’m 69 years old and just today I’ve told two people I don’t ever remember it ever being so hot/humid! I started a few weeks ago getting up with sunrise and trying to go to bed with sunset. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, experience’s and love. 😎
Linda, thank you for your timely message. I’ve been in a real “funk” lately and especially is this high California heat with fires raging around us. I also have had to refocus my creativity from the outside and turn towards refreshing the inside of my home in this heatwave. I’m so sorry you loss your mom at such a very young age. My mom passed away young as well, and July is the anniversary month. Your words and vulnerability have been so thoughtful, refreshing, and definitely helpful for me. Bless you for sharing the “real” stuff. We all need this.. ❤️🐝🦋
Oh, Linda, you are so special! I so appreciate your sharing such personal & intimate stories with us along with giving us inspiration to make our lives more joyful! When I am in a blue mood or unproductive cycle I work in the garden; take care of my 80+ African Violets; start a new art project; call a friend or family member to visit; go visit a friend; go thrifting just to get out of the house & change my environment; send cards to friends/family. I love all the things you shared! I am retired & have gotten in the really bad habit of staying up really late & getting up really late. It is stinking hot in GA too! I love how you made up your mind & changed your daily routine! It appeals to me. I also really like the way you think of yourself as the main character in a book. Thank you again for all your inspiration! Hi to Stewart & Hubs!
Hi Linda I loved this topic this world is just crazy and it just doesn’t operate the same way anymore. I agree with you on the heat. I live outside of Las Vegas, it’s 107 today. I get up early I go outside, I enjoy the hummingbirds, and quail. Come 5 pm or thereabouts I’m ready for a cocktail. I hibernate in my bedroom read watch television etc.
Linda, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom at such a young age. Three of my grand babies lost their daddy two years ago (they were 5, 3 & 1) and I see the sad effect it still has on them. As a Christian woman, I am neither in charge or control of my life or the world. I believe our good God has it all planned out so I don’t have to worry. Blessings to you & Stewart and stay cool. 😉
This was a great idea. We all need to be gentle with ourselves and others and find ways that fulfill us. I do agree that dismissing others' feelings will only increase that person's suffering. One way I cope with our hard times is being in my garden, tending to it and paying attention. Here in California the heat and devastating drought is a real challenge. I think a way to deal with this is that the care I give the garden will help it get through to the renewal of spring and that includes the birds, pollinators and even the pesky squirrels. I thank you for your beautiful videos. I have learned so much 🙏😻
Thank you so much for sharingyou r a sweetheart. My grandson lost his mommy when he was 14 months old. He us now 21. This mothers day i asked him if MD is hard for him. He shared that it use to be, but now that he is older , he is at peace with it, (then he said this to me), AND I HAD YOU! THAT WAS THE BEST GIFT ANYONE COULD EVER GIVE OR SAY TO ME. I HAVE A bracelet that i wear that says "Life is tough, but i am tougher" by the strength and Grace of God. You r so right, everyone is going through something. We can't choose what we go through, but we can choose how we go through it.
Yes. Being grateful is huge. I lay in bed at night and thank God for a lovely bed to sleep in, a lovely home, a lovely husband, a lovely family and a lovely life, and air conditioning even when the whole world is falling apart all around you. I don’t do this often, but sometimes I listen to really up music really loud (like Brown Sugar) in the morning.
This week I changed my mood by moving my birdbath over near my bench so that I could see the birds play in the water from my window inside. I also got some birdseed and put it near the birdbath. Tomorrow I am putting up a birdhouse. I am very excited even though it's 105 here in Texas for today and tomorrow!🤗
My birds help me through all my days. I, too, have a bird bath and it is an endless source of joy for me. I especially love watching my mourning doves.
I’m in Texas, too, and I have my bird bath and feeders right outside my big dining room windows as well. They’re always there and bring all of us so much joy.
I have a paver in my garden that says, "Gardening is cheaper than therapy." And I've been a mental health therapist for 25 years. LOL. Praying, reading, writing, listening to gospel music, yoga breathing, gardening is my therapy. And encouraging others. My major learning was how to manage emotions. We need emotions or we would be robots, but knowing how emotions are biological and how feelings are created in the brain is sooo helpful. What we feel is often just emotions and when we feel them, honor them, question them, and then move on -- it helps.
When I feel blue, what helps me is to get busy with re-organizing something in the house or even going thrifting. It helps keeps my mind busy. Life can be hard at times, I do pray a lot and I am very active in our neighborhood church. You are awesome Linda! I have learned a lot from you and love these talks. It really helps!
Wow, how appropriate your video given the fact that I have had one of the most stressful weeks in my 73 years on this earth. I have had to deal with a very difficult neighbor who was very cruel to me and overstepped her place to butt into an issue Ihad to deal with. I have lost sleep, haven’t eaten, and found it difficult to even function. I decided to do some research on dealing with difficult people, and there is a world of information online re the topic. I took away two points that will help me coupe 1) ignore the person 2) control those things within my realm of control. The sad part is that she is spreading untruths about the situation and that is very hurtful. I guess we all have issues to deal with and need to learn from life’s lessons. This one was hard!
Beverly I’ve learned people can’t give what they don’t have. Many give hurtful lies and cruel actions because they themselves are broken inside. They may never admit it however I pray for these wounded souls and usually see a change for the better (in time). I have only one brother and another whose wife will not allow him to see family. No husband here or children but I know I’m never alone because God says He will never leave me and I believe Him. Whatever God says about me as written in His word, that’s what I depend on and believe. It’s easy to love others who love and respect you but the real test is can we love our enemies…yes it is possible to see and care for other’s the way He does. God bless and keep you 💕
The Mitford books got me through a rough patch so I totally agree our lives and the people in them are like a book, we all have a story to tell. I found your thoughts on loss to be very insightful about melancholy creeping in at certain times of the day. 2022 seems to be a blossoming year for you with so many new ideas that inspire us, your followers, to maybe reach a little higher when life seems to be the most challenging. Keep doing what you're doing!! Many thanks. 🙏🌻❤️
Even though I am 70 years old, and I know that everyone gets down at one time or another, it is so hard for me to believe that happens to you. You are such an uplifting person for so many. I am so glad that you spoke about this because you’ve helped so many people by being so open, including me, thank you! You are always such a ray of sunshine in mine and so many peoples lives that watch you😍
I have read every one of Jan Karon's books and enjoyed meeting all the characters in Mitford. I went to Mitford constantly during the last years of my husband's life when it was hard to see him suffer. He used to tell me, "I don't know what is so funny in those books, but it is great to see you enjoy them so much." After he died and I was grieving, I went back and revisited all my friends in Mitford. They were and still are so real to me. It was a wonderful escape from my sad world.
Well, first of all, I can tell this "Can we Talk" idea is FABULOUS! Just look at how many comments there are! I think we are all feeling a bit out of sorts if you will. I think, for me, this season has been so full of transitions that I have felt very worn out and overwhelmed. With what seemed like an ETERNITY of disasters, beginning with COVID, the death of both of my husband's parents these past 2 years, cleaning out their home, selling our home, renovating the family home, and moving, we found ourselves looking at each other saying, " what had just happened", "when will we feel normal again", "how do you cope with tragedy and blessings at the same time"??? I LOVE your idea of getting up really early and enjoying the garden as day breaks. I am also dealing with my 98-year-old mother who fell 2 weeks ago and broke her sternum!! Ok, I'm looking back at what all I have written and I feel like that "OVER COMPLAINER"....Gads!!! Anyway, what I dearly LOVE about your channel IS the fact that you are so REAL and willing to talk and give tips and be yourself to ALL of us who follow you. We have never met, and I hope someday we will, but you feel like a dear friend! Thank you and Stewart for bringing so many wonderful ideas to life!! Much love and blessings to you both!
Linda, I'm an astrologer so if your online birth info is correct then I would say that both early June and early December are challenging for you due to Saturn. That planet can emphasize loss, sadness and contraction but on a higher level strength, wisdom and success through effort. You certainly embody the higher aspects. Plus, ultimately Saturn has made you a wonderful teacher! Thank you for sharing so much with us - it's incredibly helpful and sweet. 💐 🌻 🌷 🌳
I also find July difficult. I lost my father at a young age in August. I can empathize with your loss. I often wake up early with that feeling of dread so I head out to the garden to meditate, write in my journal and enjoy the early part of the day. I also do the character in the book and am glad that others do it too. Helpful video.
Gardening and mental well-being are hand in hand. Always love your wisdom. I love the idea of having the colorful people in your life fulfilling a role in your own little book.
Thanks for the talk today Linda .. I had an MRI today (yes, on a Saturday!) I watched you until I had to get to it , so I only saw the first half . (Just finished the rest of the talk) anyway, I digress 😉. ... the receptionist complemented me on my sunglasses 😎😍.. I thought of you and thanked her whole heartedly. You both have made my day ... Happy gardening 👩🌾✌❤
Something that I have learned about depression anxiety is that is the biggest con that your brain can play on you. In my experience which I did have some depression but my bigger issue was severe anxiety that I had for no reason other than fear of having anxiety. Only because of the fact that it feels awful. And because I didn’t like that feeling I fought it mentally and therefore my body physically was ready to fight it too. I learned the same thing about depression, sadness or just a blue feeling with wash over me and I would think that I would have to get rid of it. Once I started just letting it be there and not treating it as an enemy it started to bother me less and less. This method is called the Claire Weekes method if you’re interested in checking it out. It has helped me immensely.
Thanks for sharing Linda. When I am in a down mood I remind myself of the days when I was growing up and had very little. Now that is not the case and I stay in a very grateful mood. As a matter of fact on my chalk board in my kitchen I wrote: Thank you! 3x
I am outside planting in 76 degrees in southern Wisconsin. Ironically I just planted a Sunny Days Lemon Echinacea as I watched you and listened. I really appreciate you and your insight. Gardening and working out really help my mood. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Linda and Stewart. I discovered your channel July 2020 after my husband of 45 years died of Pancreatic Cancer. I am the oldest of 3 girls born in the Pocono Mountains of Pa. By the way My sister lives near QVC. My husband and I moved to Houston Texas in the early 70’s and here we stayed. I was raised learning how to use tools and gardening but Texas has been quite the challenge here. Thank you so much for sharing everything. You have helped me discover many loves I had as a child. You are like a big sister I wish I had. I don’t want this to be long so I will end there. ❤️
When we are blue, hubby and I go to Brendan Kavanaugh on YT and listen to his boogie woogie piano which he plays in the UK at train stations and airports. We love to watch the people stop and listen and you just can’t help but smile!
Well Linda it was spot on of you to tackle this topic.This is not the first time I have left you a comment. I am 80yrs old and not able to do as much as I might have done when younger. But thank God I am still able to do. In one comment to you I mentioned that I cannot fix or change this poor old world, but each day I can perform an act of kindness. And I love it if I can do that anonymously. Doing for others helps you feel good and perhaps that helps you to get out of that funk. One of the ways here in zone 5 that many show kindness is when in line at a drive through we pay for the person behind us. See anonymously? Keep on keeping on Linda, we love you. Oh and you too Stuart Stewart?
I admire greatly people who have a true sense of self-awareness and can figure out how to truly change their perspective to change their life. 💝 It's not an easy thing to do and many people think they're doing it when what they're engaging in is willful ignorance or self-deception. Your coping strategies acknowledge the issue and you come up with concrete steps to reframe your thinking, which is backed up with action. And best of all, they're fun! 🤗🙌🏼👏🏼🤜🏼
I have a small notebook that contain ideas how to lift my spirit .I keep adding to my list when I feel great .When suddenly the blues hit home I am ready.(ex: sunsets , essential oils ,uplifting movies and books,old pictures, flowers,etc…I love your videos Linda !!!!! You are such a beautiful human being
I have been getting more and more overwhelmed by my life. My husband died in 2017...I feel like I lost my identity...I feel lost at times. Anyway I needed a good cry to get it out of my system...after watching this video I was finally able to cry it out! I know others have problems too. I feel better thank you...
Thank you Linda for this video....I am going to redirect the way I have been living daily life. This little talk has really helped me. God bless 🙏 us all.
More- more- more! I loved your being so transparent. I know talks like this help so many. I have commented before as a newbie to your channel and newly discovering you and what a delight you are. Also, I am so glad to learn others binge watch you as I have since discovering you. At 72 I am not much of a gardener. As a transplant to Texas in 2000 the heat is almost unbearable. I am a Christian therapist for almost 40 years now and I have had to analy 🤔 what it is about you that is so mesmerizing? When you talked of summer depression I immediately thought what trauma did you suffer in the summer. So sorry about the loss of your mom and the displacement and loss of sorts in your family system as you knew it. That is so painful for a child. I discovered decades ago that most depression is due to unresolved unprocessed grief. Our body and soul holds onto these emotions until felt. I have always said we don’t heal till we feel. There is a great book that helps in understanding ourselves our losses and the effects of trauma. It’s”healing the child within” by Dr. Charles Whitfield. Another is the homecoming by John Bradshaw. Journaling is such a healthy thing to do. I love your coping tool of imaging your life as a book. Perhaps you could write yours about your experiences growing up if not to publish than just for yourself. Love you! My scripture I love is “the Lord our God is your refuge and underneath you are His everlasting arms” Deuteronomy 33:27 ❤️🙏🏻🥰 blessings
Linda, This was a wonderful show. I thought I was the only one who disliked heat, When my garden is suffering from heat and lack of rain it throws my whole world off kilter. It was the one thing I thought I could control--but, alas, it is not. Like you, I turn to books. With the state of the world these past few years I read the Harry Potter series twice--four years apart, but all of them. And I read them in my 70's. My other coping books are by Louise Penny who, in her 17 books, weaves a world in the town of Three Pines that takes me away from the every day. I also watch the TV series Outlander--three times now--over the last six years. I know it is pure escapism, but who cares--it works for me. Thank you so much.
This heat is so depressing. My garden brings me peace but I can barely tolerate this weather for more than 10 minutes. I talk to other gardeners about fall gardening to help us SMILE.
Linda, your courtesy and genuineness and care is so absolutely refreshing to be part of. I like so much the variety of your program because it's a true sharing of your life with all of us. Truthfully, I think it takes guts to be so vulnerable, but thank you for doing so. I was primarily attracted to your program when i got a glimpse of the topiarys which are wonderful never realizing how in depth you'd take me to other enjoyable areas. For all of this, I thank you.
Yes we all share some.negativity , or sour thoughts , mood can take us over sometimes. I try and make sure I meditate every morning.After that I set and pray,and intentionally stop and give gratitude for what I have.Great idea to think of younger self.Like you my younger yrs was not only greatest. My Dad died when I was 5 like you lost your mom . I lost my mom at 16.Foster home,they split,then to a orphanage left there.Then went through a bad marriage, However had 3 wonderful children. Now married to a wonderful man and I'm so greatful for him.I call him my Angel on Earth.So showing gratitude for we have and what we went through in our lifes Makes us who we are, and appreciate where we are at. Yes showing someone kindness makes them feel good and we feel good.I like ro say always makes someone's smile cause it's contagious. Sending love Linda and that's what we want is balance in our day.If we want to go to bed at 7 let's do it ! You go girl ! You are a Gem Linda ❤️ Music can make the world go around too.Gets me through allot and do something creative when I m down. Take Care Linda and you be you,do what it takes to make yourself smile too .🥰
I have been watching your videos for a while now. I have learned so much about gardening from your talks and walk abouts. I HATE summer and the heat and have a difficult time finding ways to cope. Your suggestions are very helpful. You are a wonderfully empathetic person with charm and grace as you encounter and include so many other people with kindness and generosity. I really appreciate that about you. This video demostrates so well how insightful you are and that you understand and have perspective of what others think and feel in a very caring way. Thank you.
Positive interactions with strangers can really be a pick up!! Your genuine conversation so Supra’s to me!! Just no words to express my appreciation to you and how your videos speak to all of our hearts!! Thank you so much Linda for this!!♥️ judy from very humid hot pensacola Fl
Thank you Linda . You are truly beautiful inside and out. I love the “ house dress” that you are wearing. The beautiful bright colors and cool white gauze fabric. This special message came just in the right time for me. I lost a dear friend and today was her zoom celebration of life. At first I thought that I wouldn’t be able to log on because I didn’t want to be overly sad and my hubby was going to without me and I ended up joining him and I have no regrets because I would have missed a beautiful memorial for her. I appreciate you. I usually have the “ seasonal defective disorder” in winter time. Love burning a nice fragranced candle while I watch all my gardening channels especially you . I hope that you have a wonderful rest of your night and weekend 💜
this is my strategy. live in Nebraska 109. tomorrow. i do the 2 Ft by 2ft quite a bit. i run out for a bit and hurry back in. i am retired and i can do this but must say i do go through the clothes. i like a lot of water on me and i am a kneeler cause my back can’t take bending over. so i get down there in hide in the bushes and flowers as much as possible. i do not usually drink but i have been pouring myself a shot or so of Irish cream over crushed ice and sip in the evening and then i have been taking my book by Linda Vater and crawl in bed and read her beautiful words and I can hear her talking as I read them. so so nice and calming. thank you. the book is lovely. i must write a review. 🥰
I had to send a photo of you wearing this cover up/dress to my friend, because she just gifted me this in black for my birthday! She and I crochet granny squares, so this was the perfect gift! You wear it so well! Thank you for addressing the topic of depression that we all can relate to at some level. Great suggestions!
Thank you Linda for sharing your tips with us. I find walking or just being in nature helps me. Also music and a good book. I highly recommend Jan Karon’s Mitford series💕
I get up very early. Most of the time by 4 am. It's just a peaceful time to be up and have time to myself. It's nice to walk outside in the early morning when it's nice and cool outside. I do go to bed at 8 and try to read a bit before I go to sleep. Thanks for sharing such personal stories with us.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts today. You are absolutely correct we all have issues no matter what walk of life we come from. I have recently found your RUclips channel and thoroughly enjoy it. I moved from a large property to a small one. I am now dealing with a small front garden and am enjoying making it my beautiful out door space. Thank you for your wisdom and experiences you share on your channel. I am from Ontario Canada and also deal with fluctuating temperatures throughout the year.
This video came at the perfect time for me today. I was feeling stressed about some family members decisions and behavior. Your gentle voice came with sincerity and offered heartfelt ideas for giving ourselves some grace. Thanks so much ❤️
I have been getting up very early also to get things done in my garden. I feel like I get so much more accomplished than when I'm struggling against the heat. And yes, 8 pm, I'm pretty worn out and ready to end my day. I love giving others compliments . It's amazing how a genuin compliment can make you feel better in the giving. Compliments, as a whole are dying off but to see the eyes brighten in someone is such a blessing. I also look for things in "strangers" that remind me of someone special in my life and telling them makes them feel special too. Loved you talk and didn't fall asleep. Lol
Love your earrings and the granny squares today!! Im very active, fell 11 days ago and dealing with fear of the upcoming ortho. consultation. Thank you for this encouraging video!!
We have already had 30 days of triple-digit temperatures. We now have heat warnings, and gardening has become a survival exercise in 8b Austin, TX. I'm coping by placing my fall seed orders and taking advantage of savings on pre-ordering spring bulbs.
Linda- I’m a guy who perhaps is unusual thinking what you had to say today was really fun to hear about. This all makes me like you even more than I already do,,,,what a great fun Mind you have to take care of yourself in these interesting ways, i think I’ve said it before ‘ you will make a terrific grandmother’ cheers from louisiana
Thanks so much for sharing! You’re genuine and honest and that’s why I love ya! 😋 February is my sad month. I watch Linda Vater and Nicki Pasitano videos and dream of spring.
Hi Linda, thank you for sharing your story and the coping tips! I too lost a parent when I was 4. I too had to stay with family and friends on and off for some time, so I can truly relate to your experiences. I wish my husband would sit still and watch this video so he can better understand why I organize the house when I am stressed! I also find learning something new is great for the mind and soul. Thank you for sharing!
I think first and foremost we need to know what we really are in control of. And what we are not in control of.Many things we have no control and need to accept that and turn it into the best situation that you possibly can. I work at a state psychiatric hospital. I see the very worst get better. I see circumstances that remind me every day how blessed I really am. Concentrate on the good things. I am thankful for my health. I can count many many things I do have control over and feel blessed. I hope I help folks be the best version of themselves they can be. I know if I had three more children, that I would only have more knowledge to be a better mom. But I respect and adore my children and I know I am loved and they know I did the best I knew how to do. We need to give ourselves credit for our accomplishments. I graduated college at 53 years old. I keep thinking of good and do a self reflection often to keep in touch. My garden and home is my refuge. I love crafting. I surround myself with good people. And my girlfriends and I get together somewhere in the USA, usually at one another home. I tell my patients to take a walk, volunteer at a place they have a good interest in ( dog help shelter, church, food give away) a bubble bath. Make new memories that a time of year that is very sad. Bless you for what you have had to deal with, and such a great loss at a young age. I love your channel. And it is okay to be sad, and down for a short while. Hugs from afar. Oh my goodness, I love the idea of people being a character your own book. You are charming.🥰 As the southerns northern gardener says " In a word full of hate, be the light".
My go to strategy when I am feeling in a funk is to tune into Linda Vater! Since January of 2022, New Years Eve, to be exact, I got very sick, since that time I have had one health crisis after another, I slept for 4 months in a recliner! What saved me was watching you Linda, even into the wee hours. I have tears in my eyes as I type this, I know I am not alone, I felt like I was sitting in your gracious home having a chat with my best girlfriend! Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart 💜 Julia
Hope you’re feeling better ❤️
When I am feeling blue, I sometimes take a few hours and binge watch Linda. We have such a great community here! I hope you are feeling better!🙏
Julia, Know that you are not alone as this community lifts one another up and shines a light on you in your recovery. I too have benefited by playing and re-playing these videos in the middle of the night when worries get me down. Thinking of you.
Sending positive vibes and hugs for you and pray your health issues are over soon 💖❤️🩹💜
Wishing you well, Julia 🌿 💕
There is a lesson in everything! I feel like our Heavenly Father has been teaching me things through this glorious yet frustrating gardening season. In Missouri, we have had no rain for going on 7 weeks. Not hopeful for anything much in the next 10 days with more extreme heat on the way. My gardens are thriving, but only after hours and hours of endless tending and watering. Is it worth it? I keep “hearing” the Father say quietly, “How much time does it take? How much time have you given Me? Are you making this garden an idol?” It seems in these days, with all the chaos in the world, that He is trying to get our attention and bring us back to Him. He started this world with a garden, and His Word contains many references to gardening, watering, feeding, plowing, harvesting. “There is nothing wrong with loving gardening”, He assures me, “it is a gift from Me! Just make ME Number One on a list of ONE…always. I want your heart. Store up your treasures in MY Kingdom, for where your treasure is, that is where your heart will be also. 💜💜🙏🏻.
Amen!
Couldn’t agree more…so thankful you added this. Have felt the Lord pressing these same thoughts on my heart. The scriptures are such blessing and comfort. We may think we are in charge…but He is in control!! Weather, plagues, and all!😊 So thankful I can really rest in that…and totally lightens my load when I place Him first.
This is not our permanent home…the BEST home & garden is in our future.
We were created to give Him glory, and I am SO thankful I have been saved through Jesus.
I think the reason I love Linda’s garden, (and all garden’s😍🌳) is His story of creation and new life that is present all around. And the fact that He prayed in the garden before heading to the cross for each of us.
Let’s face it…the gospel is the best anti-depressant ever.
Blessings to all. 🌷
OH Camilla I can relate to what you have said so much ! Just the other day I looked at my devotional on the table and thought boy I need to get back to putting God first in my life ! You stated your feelings so eloquently wish I could do so as well as you. Thank you and may God Bless you andyours.
Amen God Bless You
@@sarahm1236 Yahshua’s/Jesus’ prayer to His Father in the Garden (John Chapter 17) is my favorite passage in the Father’s Word. Talk about a loving Son…nothing but esteem for His Father, even knowing what He was facing the next day. It’s breathtaking, knowing that He laid down His life willingly for us. Puts EVERYTHING in perfect perspective.
No sooner did you start talking, than tears were running down my cheeks. It is so unusual to hear that level of honesty and self reflection, that it caught me by surprise, and touched me deeply. Thank you so much. Gardening and art became my distractions. It allows me to bring beauty into the world. During the isolation of the pandemic, I turned to RUclips and learned gardening and art from You and others.
You have a creative soul 🙏
So many of your tips spoke to me today. I’m also a fan of “early to bed, early to rise” and offering genuine compliments to those we encounter during our day. Once again, Linda, you hit it out of the park!
I haven’t watched TV news for 2.5 years and feel so much better. Nothing they say is true and it’s all a means to control you and keep you in fear.
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Totally agree. Morning is delightful now and I do the same. Early up. Early down🙃
This is super important, to acknowledge the fact that, even people who seem to have it all together, can struggle with the blues and mental health challenges. I have found it super helpful to start setting boundaries, and not worrying that it is going to upset someone. It is hard to do when you don’t want to hurt the feelings of others, but we must take care of ourselves, and if saying, “I’m just not up to that,” or “that triggers my anxiety, so I would rather not,” upsets someone, they have some work to do with themselves, to understand the importance of respecting the mental health challenges and boundaries of others, with a gracious spirit. When I extend invitations to people, I try to always say, “We would love for you to join us, if that is something you’d like! If not, we totally understand. We will see you if we see you, and if not, we hope you enjoy whatever you’re doing with your day! 😊” That way, people know that we love them, and would enjoy their company, but we don’t want them to feel obligated to step outside of their comfort zone for us. They are loved whether they join us or not, and we will meet them where they are to provide friendship and support. There are no obligations tied to my friendship. ❤️
Linda, you are a wise and loving woman. Thank you for sharing your story and suggestions with us. The other day, instead of just thinking to myself that the cashier was a beautiful young woman, I verbally told her. She had the most natural and beautiful shade of red hair and green eyes. She was surprised - why not verbally tell people instead of just thinking it to yourself. Today I was at my local big box store - the outdoor cashier came up to me and asked me if I was good with flowers?? She told me that at the end of the day they were dumping some flats of flowers that needed a little care. She told me to help myself - free. It hurt her knowing that they would go in the dumpster. I've planted them in my shade garden, look beautiful and I've taken a photo to share with her when I go back. Small gestures go a long way.
I am so sorry for your loss of your mom at such a young age. I know and pray that God is blessing you in so many ways as you have rebounded from that sadness. What a wonderful mom you seem to be - I know your sons must cherish you so very much.
It's so true if everyone would just find one GOOD thing to say about people we come in contact with---wouldn't it be a happier place than it is with all the complaining that goes on now!!
Linda, I just love these ‘can we talk?’ episodes! It’s just a breath of fresh air to listen to your stories and your wisdom, your ‘Pollyanna-ism’ is so contagious! 🤗 I feel lighter and happier when I listen to you, it helps me put things into perspective. I bet your 1st mom and your 2 nd mom are so proud of you!!! 💖💖💖
I walk/hike in the state parks, go to a botanical garden, go to one of the cute small towns in my area, or play instruments whenever I'm feeling down. I really protect my peace nowadays. If the news/the world is too much then I simply disengage from my sources of news/information and I do the afore activities. It has worked for me since last year.
I’ve been getting up early and going to bed before dark. I felt awful about it but just didn’t have the energy to do anything else. Thanks for helping me make sense of the behavior. Thank you even more for reminding me that I can give myself permission to do whatever works for me!
Yes!
Very recently diagnosed with a condition that will be treated with a six month course of chemo. This has been hard to process as I have always been very strong & active. I am an avid gardener & hoping I will have strength to at least water the garden. The garden is where I am most at peace. I know the Lord will have my hand through this. Looking forward to having my heath back at the end of this. Treasure your health, don’t take it for granted.
Thank you for this discussion. I think many of us women don’t share our fears- thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities.
Being strong and active puts you in a great place to go through your treatment. Remember, it’s a season and focus on you, God bless you
I think we are all rooting and praying for you and we so admire your grace and elegance my dear. 🙏
Read to escape this time and know that there is a whole community out here that wishes you well.
Will add you to my prayer heart where you will never be alone. Bless you, child of God.
I am praying for you!❤️🌷☀️🙏🏻 And will pray often as you make your way through this difficult period.
Another vlogger recommended writing down what you dream of that helps you feel good. Mine is, my front yard has my hydrangea groupings flourishing, azaleas looking like "Amen Corner," pine straw mulch thick, house primed and painted, windows beautifully glazed, ONE room completed inside. That is the tape I play when I need to feel good.
I live along the Gulf Coast. Years ago, I decided to embrace the heat. I now have a small pool. I float. I don't competitively swim, I float and enjoy the birds eating EVERY FIG on my precious tree I babied til it took off.
I enjoy where I am, too.
Attitude of Gratitude.
And I miss my son.
Love Light Peace
Dear Linda, there is so much wisdom here. Thank you for sharing your experience with so much openness and vulnerability. Here’s another perspective to consider: how proud would your mother be to see what a wonderful life you have built and what a generous person her lovely daughter has become? I bet she would be beaming. ❤️
Thank you so much dear!
That’s a wonderful thought. Indeed, Linda, your mom & dad must be so proud of you! For what it’s worth, I’m proud of you, too!
Bravo 👏🏾 Linda! That “talk” showed me that I have acquired you and all of the RUclipsrs that I watch as meaningful characters in my book! Each of you inspires me to be a better human being. So - Thank You 💕 My make myself feel better-Wine, Chocolate and my favorite movie!
I agree, I am so thankful for all my favorite RUclipsrs!
@@user-on7zd8yi8g Yes you do have RUclips friends. Be well.
When I'm really blue "The Birdcage" is my go to...can't help but laugh out loud. "I made you short"? The dialogue just kills me!
@@user-on7zd8yi8g The pandemic and the state of our country lead me to RUclips and I found some people who truly inspired and helped keep us sane.
This is what I love about you. You are not "above" the struggles that people deal with. You are so down to earth and its refreshing to see someone acknowledge the time to time struggles.
Oh Linda I just watched this video and my heart goes out to you. Hearing about when you were 5 and your Mom passed away and then you had to stay with relatives for awhile , I felt your sadness. I too do not like summer or the heat and really love winter best even on the east coast. Thanks for sharing this with us. I will check in with my former 15 year old self and see what she thinks of me (her) now ❤️
I started years ago watching your videos because I considered you a very knowledgeable and artistic gardener. You are so much more than that to so many people. The work you are doing on your videos is needed and important. I applaud your desire to be in touch with the hearts of your viewers. God bless you and pray for rain! Cathy from Texas zone 8b
Nothing new under the sun........ when this thought crosses my little brain, I sow seeds....new beginnings! Just start a fresh ........
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Favorite podcast. Truly resonated with me. Incredibly helpful.
I think you get so much back yourself when you make someone feel good by complementing them. Sometimes it can almost make you cry when they are so grateful. Also, I too love the Mitford books. I don't remember the cake but I remember Father Tim's wife Cynthia made wonderful lemon bars. I used to have all the books but left them at a campground library when we were living and traveling in our rv fulltime. The little mountain village they lived in was lovely. Thanks for your encouraging words today, they made me feel better about the summer blues I'm experiencing right now. It has been a strange couple of years and I guess we all need to invent our own new 'normal' that we can find joy in.
I totally agree in early to bed and early to rise, especially during the heat of summer. The mornings are so much more productive for me! My energy level is so much more than it would be during the heat of the afternoon. During those early morning hours my creativity is on point, the birds are singing, the sun is just beginning to rise, and I can easily take the opportunity to get myself ready for the day at my own speed. Also, complimenting others, and I mean TRULY complimenting others is an immediate mood booster. Nothing superficial in my compliments. This gets my mind off myself and whatever my disappointments or other issues are and allows me to focus on others. A world that's all about me, is way too small and dull. There's nothing like the joy of bringing a smile to someone's face by giving them a thoughtful & genuine compliment. Also, another "thing" I do is "plant a smile on my face". No one wants to see my frowny face, so I plant that smile and go forward. Soon, before I realize it, I am genuinely smiling and others are smiling back! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability in sharing a bit of your past with us. Whether you realize it or not, you inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves we can be.
Linda, you’re reading my mind. I’ve recently started getting up super early and going directly to the garden to water, tidy up, etc. Now, my mornings are more structured and I’m more centered as I start the day. An unexpected side effect is I’m so excited when I go to bed because I’m anticipating the beautiful morning. I highly recommend this strategy too.
You are spot on !!
All my friends who are “outside people”, I.e., gardeners or runners /exercisers, are in a funk or state of nervousness. You are not alone. The heat is destructive, but I add the words oppressive and alarming. Lack of rain only makes it worse. It helps me to know that this too shall pass and Fall will arrive. I spend the heat of the day running errands, doing long-put-off inside projects, reading, AND watching gardening videos.
Linda, you are a treasure. I appreciate your (and Stewart) videos so much and how you share little nuggets of wisdom with us. (P.S., sometimes when I go to bed, it's still light out! ,😉)
Love, love, love this video! We all must help each other thrive throughout life. Radiate your light to others. You never know when they need a little spark.
Yes, I’m trying to focus more on kindness to strangers, not just friends and family.
Thank you for sharing this Linda.
I feel like I can make tomorrow a better day for myself and for my family🍀
I can totally relate to what your saying!!! In my own way I have down some of the things you have spoke about and I truly just find all sorts of other people interesting to talk to about their lives…I’m in zone 6b and have lived in Wichita Kansas area my whole life. I’m 69 years old and just today I’ve told two people I don’t ever remember it ever being so hot/humid! I started a few weeks ago getting up with sunrise and trying to go to bed with sunset. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, experience’s and love. 😎
Linda, thank you for your timely message. I’ve been in a real “funk” lately and especially is this high California heat with fires raging around us. I also have had to refocus my creativity from the outside and turn towards refreshing the inside of my home in this heatwave. I’m so sorry you loss your mom at such a very young age. My mom passed away young as well, and July is the anniversary month. Your words and vulnerability have been so thoughtful, refreshing, and definitely helpful for me. Bless you for sharing the “real” stuff. We all need this.. ❤️🐝🦋
Oh, Linda, you are so special! I so appreciate your sharing such personal & intimate stories with us along with giving us inspiration to make our lives more joyful! When I am in a blue mood or unproductive cycle I work in the garden; take care of my 80+ African Violets; start a new art project; call a friend or family member to visit; go visit a friend; go thrifting just to get out of the house & change my environment; send cards to friends/family. I love all the things you shared! I am retired & have gotten in the really bad habit of staying up really late & getting up really late. It is stinking hot in GA too! I love how you made up your mind & changed your daily routine! It appeals to me. I also really like the way you think of yourself as the main character in a book. Thank you again for all your inspiration! Hi to Stewart & Hubs!
Hi Linda I loved this topic this world is just crazy and it just doesn’t operate the same way anymore. I agree with you on the heat. I live outside of Las Vegas, it’s 107 today. I get up early I go outside, I enjoy the hummingbirds, and quail. Come 5 pm or thereabouts I’m ready for a cocktail. I hibernate in my bedroom read watch television etc.
Hello 👋, how are you doing today; how’s everything going over there 👉 I hope it was a lovely day for you?
Linda, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom at such a young age. Three of my grand babies lost their daddy two years ago (they were 5, 3 & 1) and I see the sad effect it still has on them. As a Christian woman, I am neither in charge or control of my life or the world. I believe our good God has it all planned out so I don’t have to worry. Blessings to you & Stewart and stay cool. 😉
Oh Vickie. I am so so sorry 😢
This was a great idea. We all need to be gentle with ourselves and others and find ways that fulfill us. I do agree that dismissing others' feelings will only increase that person's suffering. One way I cope with our hard times is being in my garden, tending to it and paying attention. Here in California the heat and devastating drought is a real challenge. I think a way to deal with this is that the care I give the garden will help it get through to the renewal of spring and that includes the birds, pollinators and even the pesky squirrels. I thank you for your beautiful videos. I have learned so much 🙏😻
Just give each other a little smile 😁
Thank you so much for sharingyou r a sweetheart.
My grandson lost his mommy when he was 14 months old. He us now 21. This mothers day i asked him if MD is hard for him. He shared that it use to be, but now that he is older , he is at peace with it, (then he said this to me), AND I HAD YOU!
THAT WAS THE BEST GIFT ANYONE COULD EVER GIVE OR SAY TO ME.
I HAVE A bracelet that i wear that says "Life is tough, but i am tougher" by the strength and Grace of God.
You r so right, everyone is going through something. We can't choose what we go through, but we can choose how we go through it.
Hello 👋, how are you doing today; how’s everything going over there 👉 I hope it was a lovely day for you?
I hope you are feeling a little brighter and lighter today Linda. You so often add brightness to my day.
Thank you so much for sharing these nuggets of wisdom that I didn’t realize I needed today. 🥰
Yes. Being grateful is huge. I lay in bed at night and thank God for a lovely bed to sleep in, a lovely home, a lovely husband, a lovely family and a lovely life, and air conditioning even when the whole world is falling apart all around you. I don’t do this often, but sometimes I listen to really up music really loud (like Brown Sugar) in the morning.
I deal with loneliness. Holidays for me are the worst and I have to work hard to just get through them. Some days are just better than others!
Great video! My daughter is ALWAYS complimenting people. I'm going to share this with her (25 yrs old)
This week I changed my mood by moving my birdbath over near my bench so that I could see the birds play in the water from my window inside. I also got some birdseed and put it near the birdbath. Tomorrow I am putting up a birdhouse. I am very excited even though it's 105 here in Texas for today and tomorrow!🤗
My birds help me through all my days. I, too, have a bird bath and it is an endless source of joy for me. I especially love watching my mourning doves.
Mee too!
I’m in Texas, too, and I have my bird bath and feeders right outside my big dining room windows as well. They’re always there and bring all of us so much joy.
I have a paver in my garden that says, "Gardening is cheaper than therapy." And I've been a mental health therapist for 25 years. LOL. Praying, reading, writing, listening to gospel music, yoga breathing, gardening is my therapy. And encouraging others. My major learning was how to manage emotions. We need emotions or we would be robots, but knowing how emotions are biological and how feelings are created in the brain is sooo helpful. What we feel is often just emotions and when we feel them, honor them, question them, and then move on -- it helps.
When I feel blue, what helps me is to get busy with re-organizing something in the house or even going thrifting. It helps keeps my mind busy.
Life can be hard at times, I do pray a lot and I am very active in our neighborhood church. You are awesome Linda! I have learned a lot from you and love these talks. It really helps!
Wow, how appropriate your video given the fact that I have had one of the most stressful weeks in my 73 years on this earth. I have had to deal with a very difficult neighbor who was very cruel to me and overstepped her place to butt into an issue Ihad to deal with. I have lost sleep, haven’t eaten, and found it difficult to even function. I decided to do some research on dealing with difficult people, and there is a world of information online re the topic. I took away two points that will help me coupe 1) ignore the person 2) control those things within my realm of control. The sad part is that she is spreading untruths about the situation and that is very hurtful. I guess we all have issues to deal with and need to learn from life’s lessons. This one was hard!
Beverly I’ve learned people can’t give what they don’t have. Many give hurtful lies and cruel actions because they themselves are broken inside. They may never admit it however I pray for these wounded souls and usually see a change for the better (in time). I have only one brother and another whose wife will not allow him to see family. No husband here or children but I know I’m never alone because God says He will never leave me and I believe Him. Whatever God says about me as written in His word, that’s what I depend on and believe. It’s easy to love others who love and respect you but the real test is can we love our enemies…yes it is possible to see and care for other’s the way He does. God bless and keep you 💕
The Mitford books got me through a rough patch so I totally agree our lives and the people in them are like a book, we all have a story to tell. I found your thoughts on loss to be very insightful about melancholy creeping in at certain times of the day. 2022 seems to be a blossoming year for you with so many new ideas that inspire us, your followers, to maybe reach a little higher when life seems to be the most challenging. Keep doing what you're doing!! Many thanks. 🙏🌻❤️
I love the Mitford series it is wonderful
I need to go back and read them again. I agree they are wonderful.
Wow! Perfect timing! I needed to hear some uplifting words today. Thanks so much, and best wishes from Middle Tennessee!
Ditto,Vickie! Best wishes from West Tennessee!
I’m in S Middle TN too! Hi neighbors
Even though I am 70 years old, and I know that everyone gets down at one time or another, it is so hard for me to believe that happens to you. You are such an uplifting person for so many. I am so glad that you spoke about this because you’ve helped so many people by being so open, including me, thank you! You are always such a ray of sunshine in mine and so many peoples lives that watch you😍
I have read every one of Jan Karon's books and enjoyed meeting all the characters in Mitford. I went to Mitford constantly during the last years of my husband's life when it was hard to see him suffer. He used to tell me, "I don't know what is so funny in those books, but it is great to see you enjoy them so much." After he died and I was grieving, I went back and revisited all my friends in Mitford. They were and still are so real to me. It was a wonderful escape from my sad world.
Ramona, I love the Mitford series so much and have read and reread them. That Father Tim! So many wonderful characters! They seem real to me, too.
Well, first of all, I can tell this "Can we Talk" idea is FABULOUS! Just look at how many comments there are! I think we are all feeling a bit out of sorts if you will. I think, for me, this season has been so full of transitions that I have felt very worn out and overwhelmed. With what seemed like an ETERNITY of disasters, beginning with COVID, the death of both of my husband's parents these past 2 years, cleaning out their home, selling our home, renovating the family home, and moving, we found ourselves looking at each other saying, " what had just happened", "when will we feel normal again", "how do you cope with tragedy and blessings at the same time"??? I LOVE your idea of getting up really early and enjoying the garden as day breaks. I am also dealing with my 98-year-old mother who fell 2 weeks ago and broke her sternum!! Ok, I'm looking back at what all I have written and I feel like that "OVER COMPLAINER"....Gads!!! Anyway, what I dearly LOVE about your channel IS the fact that you are so REAL and willing to talk and give tips and be yourself to ALL of us who follow you. We have never met, and I hope someday we will, but you feel like a dear friend! Thank you and Stewart for bringing so many wonderful ideas to life!! Much love and blessings to you both!
Linda, I'm an astrologer so if your online birth info is correct then I would say that both early June and early December are challenging for you due to Saturn. That planet can emphasize loss, sadness and contraction but on a higher level strength, wisdom and success through effort. You certainly embody the higher aspects. Plus, ultimately Saturn has made you a wonderful teacher! Thank you for sharing so much with us - it's incredibly helpful and sweet. 💐 🌻 🌷 🌳
So happy you did this talk!
I also find July difficult. I lost my father at a young age in August. I can empathize with your loss. I often wake up early with that feeling of dread so I head out to the garden to meditate, write in my journal and enjoy the early part of the day. I also do the character in the book and am glad that others do it too. Helpful video.
I’m so sorry dear.
Gardening and mental well-being are hand in hand. Always love your wisdom. I love the idea of having the colorful people in your life fulfilling a role in your own little book.
Thank you! What a wonderful video. Being with family brings me the biggest joy, but I also enjoy gardening and sewing. They both bring me joy❤️
Thanks for the talk today Linda .. I had an MRI today (yes, on a Saturday!) I watched you until I had to get to it , so I only saw the first half . (Just finished the rest of the talk) anyway, I digress 😉. ... the receptionist complemented me on my sunglasses 😎😍.. I thought of you and thanked her whole heartedly. You both have made my day ...
Happy gardening 👩🌾✌❤
Excellent!
You make such a difference in my life in a multitude of ways. I highly value you.
Love it. We need to chat to get great knowledge.
Something that I have learned about depression anxiety is that is the biggest con that your brain can play on you. In my experience which I did have some depression but my bigger issue was severe anxiety that I had for no reason other than fear of having anxiety. Only because of the fact that it feels awful. And because I didn’t like that feeling I fought it mentally and therefore my body physically was ready to fight it too. I learned the same thing about depression, sadness or just a blue feeling with wash over me and I would think that I would have to get rid of it. Once I started just letting it be there and not treating it as an enemy it started to bother me less and less. This method is called the Claire Weekes method if you’re interested in checking it out. It has helped me immensely.
Thanks for sharing Linda. When I am in a down mood I remind myself of the days when I was growing up and had very little. Now that is not the case and I stay in a very grateful mood. As a matter of fact on my chalk board in my kitchen I wrote: Thank you! 3x
This is why I feel connected to you through your cannel. So many times you are spot on on about social topics and your timing is perfect👍
I am outside planting in 76 degrees in southern Wisconsin. Ironically I just planted a Sunny Days Lemon Echinacea as I watched you and listened. I really appreciate you and your insight. Gardening and working out really help my mood. Thank you for sharing!
Hi Linda and Stewart. I discovered your channel July 2020 after my husband of 45 years died of Pancreatic Cancer. I am the oldest of 3 girls born in the Pocono Mountains of Pa. By the way My sister lives near QVC. My husband and I moved to Houston Texas in the early 70’s and here we stayed. I was raised learning how to use tools and gardening but Texas has been quite the challenge here. Thank you so much for sharing everything. You have helped me discover many loves I had as a child. You are like a big sister I wish I had. I don’t want this to be long so I will end there. ❤️
Thank you dear 🙏
When we are blue, hubby and I go to Brendan Kavanaugh on YT and listen to his boogie woogie piano which he plays in the UK at train stations and airports. We love to watch the people stop and listen and you just can’t help but smile!
Well Linda it was spot on of you to tackle this topic.This is not the first time I have left you a comment. I am 80yrs old and not able to do as much as I might have done when younger. But thank God I am still able to do. In one comment to you I mentioned that I cannot fix or change this poor old world, but each day I can perform an act of kindness. And I love it if I can do that anonymously. Doing for others helps you feel good and perhaps that helps you to get out of that funk. One of the ways here in zone 5 that many show kindness is when in line at a drive through we pay for the person behind us. See anonymously? Keep on keeping on Linda, we love you. Oh and you too Stuart Stewart?
I admire greatly people who have a true sense of self-awareness and can figure out how to truly change their perspective to change their life. 💝 It's not an easy thing to do and many people think they're doing it when what they're engaging in is willful ignorance or self-deception. Your coping strategies acknowledge the issue and you come up with concrete steps to reframe your thinking, which is backed up with action. And best of all, they're fun! 🤗🙌🏼👏🏼🤜🏼
Hello 👋, how are you doing today; how’s everything going over there 👉 I hope it was a lovely day for you?
I have a small notebook that contain ideas how to lift my spirit .I keep adding to my list when I feel great .When suddenly the blues hit home I am ready.(ex: sunsets , essential oils ,uplifting movies and books,old pictures, flowers,etc…I love your videos Linda !!!!! You are such a beautiful human being
Smart you!
Lovely Linda, you are so charming and kind. Bless your heart ❤️
Great advice winter isn’t so great for me being more inside. Cozy and reading helps enjoying your RUclips
Thank you for the uplifting and uniting power of sharing, which reminds us to be kind to ourselves and each other!
I have been getting more and more overwhelmed by my life. My husband died in 2017...I feel like I lost my identity...I feel lost at times. Anyway I needed a good cry to get it out of my system...after watching this video I was finally able to cry it out! I know others have problems too. I feel better thank you...
I’m so happy you were able to purge some of that grief! You’ve got this😉
Thank you Linda for this video....I am going to redirect the way I have been living daily life. This little talk has really helped me. God bless 🙏 us all.
More- more- more! I loved your being so transparent. I know talks like this help so many. I have commented before as a newbie to your channel and newly discovering you and what a delight you are. Also, I am so glad to learn others binge watch you as I have since discovering you. At 72 I am not much of a gardener. As a transplant to Texas in 2000 the heat is almost unbearable. I am a Christian therapist for almost 40 years now and I have had to analy 🤔 what it is about you that is so mesmerizing? When you talked of summer depression I immediately thought what trauma did you suffer in the summer. So sorry about the loss of your mom and the displacement and loss of sorts in your family system as you knew it. That is so painful for a child. I discovered decades ago that most depression is due to unresolved unprocessed grief. Our body and soul holds onto these emotions until felt. I have always said we don’t heal till we feel. There is a great book that helps in understanding ourselves our losses and the effects of trauma. It’s”healing the child within” by Dr. Charles Whitfield. Another is the homecoming by John Bradshaw. Journaling is such a healthy thing to do. I love your coping tool of imaging your life as a book. Perhaps you could write yours about your experiences growing up if not to publish than just for yourself. Love you! My scripture I love is “the Lord our God is your refuge and underneath you are His everlasting arms” Deuteronomy 33:27 ❤️🙏🏻🥰 blessings
Linda, This was a wonderful show. I thought I was the only one who disliked heat, When my garden is suffering from heat and lack of rain it throws my whole world off kilter. It was the one thing I thought I could control--but, alas, it is not. Like you, I turn to books. With the state of the world these past few years I read the Harry Potter series twice--four years apart, but all of them. And I read them in my 70's. My other coping books are by Louise Penny who, in her 17 books, weaves a world in the town of Three Pines that takes me away from the every day. I also watch the TV series Outlander--three times now--over the last six years. I know it is pure escapism, but who cares--it works for me. Thank you so much.
Great strategy!
This heat is so depressing. My garden brings me peace but I can barely tolerate this weather for more than 10 minutes. I talk to other gardeners about fall gardening to help us SMILE.
Linda, your courtesy and genuineness and care is so absolutely refreshing
to be part of. I like so much the variety of your program because it's a
true sharing of your life with all of us. Truthfully, I think it takes guts to be
so vulnerable, but thank you for doing so. I was primarily attracted to
your program when i got a glimpse of the topiarys which are wonderful
never realizing how in depth you'd take me to other enjoyable areas.
For all of this, I thank you.
Yes we all share some.negativity , or sour thoughts , mood can take us over sometimes. I try and make sure I meditate every morning.After that I set and pray,and intentionally stop and give gratitude for what I have.Great idea to think of younger self.Like you my younger yrs was not only greatest. My Dad died when I was 5 like you lost your mom
. I lost my mom at 16.Foster home,they split,then to a orphanage left there.Then went through a bad marriage, However had 3 wonderful children. Now married to a wonderful man and I'm so greatful for him.I call him my Angel on Earth.So showing gratitude for we have and what we went through in our lifes Makes us who we are, and appreciate where we are at. Yes showing someone kindness makes them feel good and we feel good.I like ro say always makes someone's smile cause it's contagious. Sending love Linda and that's what we want is balance in our day.If we want to go to bed at 7 let's do it ! You go girl ! You are a Gem Linda ❤️ Music can make the world go around too.Gets me through allot and do something creative when I m down. Take Care Linda and you be you,do what it takes to make yourself smile too .🥰
I have been watching your videos for a while now. I have learned so much about gardening from your talks and walk abouts. I HATE summer and the heat and have a difficult time finding ways to cope. Your suggestions are very helpful. You are a wonderfully empathetic person with charm and grace as you encounter and include so many other people with kindness and generosity. I really appreciate that about you. This video demostrates so well how insightful you are and that you understand and have perspective of what others think and feel in a very caring way. Thank you.
Positive interactions with strangers can really be a pick up!! Your genuine conversation so Supra’s to me!! Just no words to express my appreciation to you and how your videos speak to all of our hearts!! Thank you so much Linda for this!!♥️ judy from very humid hot pensacola Fl
Thank you Linda . You are truly beautiful inside and out. I love the “ house dress” that you are wearing. The beautiful bright colors and cool white gauze fabric. This special message came just in the right time for me. I lost a dear friend and today was her zoom celebration of life. At first I thought that I wouldn’t be able to log on because I didn’t want to be overly sad and my hubby was going to without me and I ended up joining him and I have no regrets because I would have missed a beautiful memorial for her. I appreciate you. I usually have the “ seasonal defective disorder” in winter time. Love burning a nice fragranced candle while I watch all my gardening channels especially you . I hope that you have a wonderful rest of your night and weekend 💜
this is my strategy. live in Nebraska 109. tomorrow. i do the 2 Ft by 2ft quite a bit. i run out for a bit and hurry back in. i am retired and i can do this but must say i do go through the clothes. i like a lot of water on me and i am a kneeler cause my back can’t take bending over. so i get down there in hide in the bushes and flowers as much as possible.
i do not usually drink but i have been pouring myself a shot or so of Irish cream over crushed ice and sip in the evening and then i have been taking my book by Linda Vater and crawl in bed and read her beautiful words and I can hear her talking as I read them. so so nice and calming. thank you. the book is lovely. i must write a review. 🥰
Thank you dear 🙏
I always get up between 4 am. & 5 a.m. in the spring and summer . It's just great to be out in the fresh air and quiet.
Yep….I was right…you’re a beautiful person inside and out. A great video with some a lot of heartfelt messages.
I know Reba….she’s safe…LOL❤️❤️❤️
I had to send a photo of you wearing this cover up/dress to my friend, because she just gifted me this in black for my birthday! She and I crochet granny squares, so this was the perfect gift! You wear it so well! Thank you for addressing the topic of depression that we all can relate to at some level. Great suggestions!
What a happy coincidence!
Thank you Linda for sharing your tips with us. I find walking or just being in nature helps me. Also music and a good book. I highly recommend Jan Karon’s Mitford series💕
I get up very early. Most of the time by 4 am. It's just a peaceful time to be up and have time to myself. It's nice to walk outside in the early morning when it's nice and cool outside. I do go to bed at 8 and try to read a bit before I go to sleep. Thanks for sharing such personal stories with us.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts today. You are absolutely correct we all have issues no matter what walk of life we come from.
I have recently found your RUclips channel and thoroughly enjoy it. I moved from a large property to a small one. I am now dealing with a small front garden and am enjoying making it my beautiful out door space. Thank you for your wisdom and experiences you share on your channel. I am from Ontario Canada and also deal with fluctuating temperatures throughout the year.
When I am in a gloomy mood, I try to find someone that I can help…..helping others always brings my spirits up
Wise
This video came at the perfect time for me today. I was feeling stressed about some family members decisions and behavior. Your gentle voice came with sincerity and offered heartfelt ideas for giving ourselves some grace. Thanks so much ❤️
I have to say that nothing makes me feel better then reading something encouraging in the Bible or other books that build my faith in God!
Yes I agree
Love your top Linda it's very cheerful. As you said we all have something. Thanks for sharing.
oh Linda, this video came at just the right time for me. Thank you.
I have been getting up very early also to get things done in my garden. I feel like I get so much more accomplished than when I'm struggling against the heat. And yes, 8 pm, I'm pretty worn out and ready to end my day. I love giving others compliments . It's amazing how a genuin compliment can make you feel better in the giving. Compliments, as a whole are dying off but to see the eyes brighten in someone is such a blessing. I also look for things in "strangers" that remind me of someone special in my life and telling them makes them feel special too. Loved you talk and didn't fall asleep. Lol
Love your earrings and the granny squares today!! Im very active, fell 11 days ago and dealing with fear of the upcoming ortho. consultation. Thank you for this encouraging video!!
Awwww, it will be ok!
Hope you will have a speedy recovery. It’s hard to not be able to do whatever you want. Take time to rest and heal.
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Sending prayers for healing!
We have already had 30 days of triple-digit temperatures. We now have heat warnings, and gardening has become a survival exercise in 8b Austin, TX. I'm coping by placing my fall seed orders and taking advantage of savings on pre-ordering spring bulbs.
Linda-
I’m a guy who perhaps is unusual thinking what you had to say today was really fun to hear about. This all makes me like you even more than I already do,,,,what a great fun Mind you have to take care of yourself in these interesting ways, i think I’ve said it before ‘ you will make a terrific grandmother’ cheers from louisiana
Acknowledgment and validation is so important!! I understand how it feels to be dismissed.......😥
Thanks so much for sharing! You’re genuine and honest and that’s why I love ya! 😋 February is my sad month. I watch Linda Vater and Nicki Pasitano videos and dream of spring.
Hi Linda, thank you for sharing your story and the coping tips! I too lost a parent when I was 4. I too had to stay with family and friends on and off for some time, so I can truly relate to your experiences. I wish my husband would sit still and watch this video so he can better understand why I organize the house when I am stressed! I also find learning something new is great for the mind and soul. Thank you for sharing!
I think first and foremost we need to know what we really are in control of. And what we are not in control of.Many things we have no control and need to accept that and turn it into the best situation that you possibly can.
I work at a state psychiatric hospital. I see the very worst get better. I see circumstances that remind me every day how blessed I really am.
Concentrate on the good things. I am thankful for my health. I can count many many things I do have control over and feel blessed.
I hope I help folks be the best version of themselves they can be.
I know if I had three more children, that I would only have more knowledge to be a better mom. But I respect and adore my children and I know I am loved and they know I did the best I knew how to do.
We need to give ourselves credit for our accomplishments.
I graduated college at 53 years old. I keep thinking of good and do a self reflection often to keep in touch.
My garden and home is my refuge. I love crafting. I surround myself with good people. And my girlfriends and I get together somewhere in the USA, usually at one another home.
I tell my patients to take a walk, volunteer at a place they have a good interest in ( dog help shelter, church, food give away) a bubble bath. Make new memories that a time of year that is very sad.
Bless you for what you have had to deal with, and such a great loss at a young age.
I love your channel. And it is okay to be sad, and down for a short while. Hugs from afar.
Oh my goodness, I love the idea of people being a character your own book. You are charming.🥰
As the southerns northern gardener says " In a word full of hate, be the light".