My sister told me 20 years ago that no one at her workplace knew what unhappiness was.. and she was the only one who had ever suffered. My jaw dropped and I explained to her that they hid a lot of their troubles. Everyone has something in their lives that has made them unhappy. I wondered why I had to explain to a 45-year-old this simple and seemingly universally recognized fact. Over the next 20 years this attitude of being the only unhappy person has continued.
I hear you. After surviving breast cancer surgery, chemo and radiation, I was so grateful and still am, to be here. But my sister always whined and complained about everything. For multiple decades I tried to "help" and listen to her. She has NOTHING to complain about! So I finally had to go no contact after finding the answers here on u-tube. She is a covert narcissist. I my gratefulness clashed with her negativism. Very sad, but much more peaceful now.
Helping our family narcissists provoked opposition, defiance, nitpicking criticism, misconstruing, backbiting, and outright slander. After I walked away, the narcissists sought supply as "victims of abandonment". Living with them was an absurd exercise in futility.
I would summarize it like this: in their minds, they are "doing you a favour", no matter how awful the abuse they can inflict you. They own you. Narcissists don't believe in humans' rights but their rights.
After nearly two decades in Dante's 2nd level of domestic hell with a vulnerable narcissist, when I finally "saw" or understood my wife for who, or what she really is, I had the vision of her as an inconsolable toddler, face sloppy with tears and snots, screaming at the rail of her crib, with only a void to absorb her cries. I think that period, early in her formative years, when a baby becomes a toddler and begins to develop a sense of self, is when and where she "died" emotionally. Now that I know what to look for, her mother is very obviously a narcissist, and my wife was just another object; unseen. Without conformity, or the ability to give her mother narcissistic supply at that stage, she was nothing. She ruined my life, but I'll recover while she never can and her life was ruined long before mine. It breaks my heart, because I can see who she should have, or could have been.
The first part was funny. But the rest, damn, described my 2 decades of hell. God knows we were willing, right? But I don’t think these people can be different. To realize all the deceit when I started to really see it. …I want to vomit. Who is this person? I think we need to date each other, pretty healthy former unfortunate spouses. Like find a cool one. Could be real good. We’d be obviously like minded and kind. I should make a former narc spouse dating app. Where you go on real dates. I have to finally admit to myself…all things are possible through Christ for them that believeth…he doesn’t believe. I’ve always only been half. It’s further away than it ever was. I don’t even like this person. And I had sex with him last week. Gross All of it is gross It all makes sense now I’ve been clawing for the truth, he loved out and we were back and forth, back and forth. The way he’s acted now that I know, kissing my ass and everything else. How pitiful are these people? Cheers mate, time to chill and remember how chill and confident we actually are. In large part because we’re kind and try to do what’s right. F them
@@brit0309 ==> Remarriage after divorce if a previous spouse is still living is /-\dultery according to the Bibl3. You cannot remain a Christ+an in that state. ==> He [J3sus] answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits /-\dultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits /-\dultery.” (Mark 10:12) ==> By law, a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an /-\dulteress (Romans 7:2-3). (You can live alone, but cannot remarry) BTW, I was in that position - in an /-\dulterous remarriage when I discovered this truth, and I vacated the unlawfull relationship.
This is so on point, Darren! It’s very challenging to be with someone who doesn’t value and/ or grateful for the people who try to help or just be nice to them.
Yes, this was the case with my aunt. As she got older, she got more and more negative about everything, and harder to please. I'd try to do things to pick up her spirits, like making recipes my mother (her sister) used to make: jam and antipasto, which I'd mail to her. I never got a thank you, when I'd ask if she got the parcel and what she thought of my gift, she'd typically say it wasn't the same as my mom's. Nothing could ever be the same or as good as what she remembered from the past.
I’ve been dealing with a severe narcissist. She does not say thank you, never says she’s sorry. She lacks empathy, remorse, morals… She has a severe case. I won’t go into details.. but it’s been a complete nightmare. She thinks I am supposed to be her perfect little boyfriend, but give nothing in return, and does not have the decency to treat me like an appropriate woman should. She literally thinks she owns my life, and I am her slave.
Just a suggestion but if she's only a girlfriend plan a getaway. I was only 20 when I met mine and it was a very slow boil. After 42 years he just kicked me out and posted on social media I cheated on him and gave him an STD, then claimed victim.....Next killed my chickens and then my cat. Moved in another family and destroyed them after allowing them to have everything they wanted of my stuff. Porn was the worst, these sick people get worse and expect MORE, INCLUDING UR SOUL... Please don't waste another day, U can never make some people happy. A good test is tell them NO, watch reaction and sit back and observe. I am sending U TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND RESPECT, I know it's not easy. RADICAL ACCEPTANCE IS KEY🎉🎉🎉
I'm sorry to hear that. To some degree she sounds like my girlfriend. When we are In arguments, she always says "you always lead it to arguments" or "you making a fuss out of it" When mentioned her bad attitude, she excuses her self by saying "you made me say it" or "you provoked me" When I sometimes lose it, she is the victim. Always when I explain my self. She denying me, by saying "you always comes with excuses" or "you play the victim/you defend yourself" Even if I explain some of her behaviour in a calm tone. Why are you bashing me/you got your revenge. Sometimes when I finally snap at her, she sometimes end up crying and blame me on everything, without realising how she has poked me for hours/days, patronising me if I talk to much. I always end up apologising, she had a very hard time apologising to me. I remember one day, she said to me "you like to play the victim, but I'm the victim the real victim" I'm not perfect my self but I had never experience any of my ex on that level, unfortunately I felt trapped because of my feelings towards her, and I feel responsible for her
@@RealRabbit1124 U always feeling guilty is exactly the HOOK, U feeling like U need 2 apologize after they treated U like shit, even calling U names & then U feel the need to apologize. I know U know, it's a cycle that only U can break. it's not worth U feeling bad and sad 4 someone who doesn't want 2 change and always wants to blame others and U for their lack of self worth. I love U unconditionally and support U throughout your journey, look up Dr RAMANI SHE'S HELPED ME TONS, and the more U learn the more empowered and STRONGER U BECOME. MUCH LOVE FIGHTMAMA
When my MIL died (malignant narc) I made a huge dinner for my FIL on her birthday. Fettucine Alfredo and chocolate cake, took it down to his house in gale force winds-he was so rude to me that I went no contact that moment. The unmitigated gall of these clowns, truly blows the mind. I thank God every day for waking me up. I'll never speak to him again and I won't attend his funeral.
Good for you. Brought homemade cookies over to my neighbor’s house one year before Christmas. He told me “I don’t need any Christmas cookies” in a grumpy voice. I decided I was done also. A few years later, he yells out to me from his driveway, “Don’t you say hi anymore?” I said why should I say hi when you wouldn’t accept my Christmas cookies, in a grumpy voice. He said, I was wrong for doing that. Ya think!
whenever it would be raining outside, my father would be pointing to the sky and yelling that God was pissing on us!!!! Later in life, I have learned that when it’s raining out, it means the angels are crying
If the narc parents do something even small for me, always without me asking, I have to say thank you many times and with emotion, or I’ll be “in trouble”. But do they do the same for me? Of course not. This was continual my whole childhood. And continues now in my 50s.
I'm in and out of hospital all the time, always ringing for an ambulance even while going in and out of consciousness, which is fine with my sister. She told me. I can't tell you how many near death experiences I've had in the last seven years. Yet my sister complains about every single ache and pain she has, demands blood tests, scans, you name it. She has mildly high blood pressure and a sluggish thyroid. She lied to a gastroenterologist last week to get a quick colonoscopy because her tummy's been playing up. This is before she heads off to Bali and Java next month. She told him that our mum and dad died of bowel cancer. What a load of c**p. She knows because she lived with dad the last few years of his life, which is crap as well. I actually lived with our mother while I was on dialysis in New Zealand for her last 2 years, so I know she didn't die of cancer. My sister keeps yelling things like you're 'a f***king bitch', whenever I'm sick and just about dying. She never yells at me in front of anyone though. In front of other she says, 'I love you,' and calls me 'Janey,' which I hate. I let that slide because I've never had the energy to say that I'm not a f***king child. Just a f***king bitch, apparently. Last year I had a fall and broke my humorous. She went around telling the staff that she was seriously ill. I know because two of them asked me. I actually thought that she might have a terminal disease, and she wasn't telling me. She completely denied having told anybody any such thing. What a consummate lair. I mean she goes on huge OS trips every year which of course she deserves. At the start of the pandemic, she was so furious because she'd organized to go to Russia that year. Poor her. I told her, you do realize millions of people could potentially die, she told me I was overreacting. Well, I guess she would know having worked as a qualified nurse in South Africa when she had no nursing training whatsoever. I on the other hand am or used to be a registered nurse for over 30 years. But what would I know? Last year I was in hospital 4x. This year I've been in hospital twice, both times with pneumonia. I also had a fall in hospital and a brain bleed, still I get headaches but they're not too bad. She on the other hand has migraines and the worst headaches known to mankind. Anyhow I landed back on dialysis again for likely another really tough 4 1/2 years, by which time I will be too old or too sick to get another transplant. No volunteers I'm afraid. So, I ring her up this evening after coming off dialysis and nearly falling over on the way to my door last night because once again I was wobbly as hell. Of course, instead of sympathizing with me she told me I had to be gentle with her because of her aches and pains. I said I was so sorry. Meanwhile in the background it sounded like a party was happening. She's built a huge house overlooking a beach apparently. I wouldn't know, I have never been invited there. She won't even tell me her address, like I'm going to pop by unannounced. She showed pictures of it on FB. The sweeping staircase looks like it could have come from one of those southern plantations; Gone with the Wind sort of thing. Last year I was diagnosed with a heart murmur, so now she has a heart murmur which wasn't even been picked up by a 24-hour monitor. So, she hasn't got a heart murmur. It's not a competition of who the sickest person is; my sister is not sick (she hasn't been a patient in hospital for 40+ years) whereas I have had probably 40 + admissions in that time. I had sepsis in 2020, another near-death episode, aside from calling me a 'grubby bitch', well that was what she came all the way in to yell at me as tossed out food from my fridge as I was sinking into a coma instead of calling an ambulance. Upon discharge, she dumped me home and took off on a 3-week private boating trip. I had to fend for myself. It took me months to recover from that where nothing got done. I even forgot to pay my bills. I ws in a mess. NO help whatsoever from anyone. I was too stupid in the head to seek outside help. I've told my specialist and my GP about what she's like. They do nothing. I'm too sick to move. The next minute she'll be a nice as pie to me. It won't last long. I'm a fish dancing on the end of a hook, she reels me in and then throws me back and so it goes on. I recently told my friend in NZ, if I'm murdered in my sleep, it'll be her. I mean she will need to make sure I'm asleep as I trained a martial art for over 30 years, despite my kidney troubles. Oh, and she tries to gaslight me all the time. She even told me I was deluded and that was before my brain injury. Wow I feel exhausted now. This woman who has everything is jealous that my eyes are bigger than hers and that I have skinny ankles. Well, often I have periorbital oedema where I can barely see out of my failing eyes and my ankles and legs blow up, where I can barely get my legs into boots. Trouble is I owe her money, which she'll get when I die; she's made sure of that.
Had a boss at this company called giotech in London. You could do 1000 things right and 1 thing wrong and it would be as if you never did anything right.
Sounds like my wife. Anything good I do is +1pt, anything perceived as bad -10pts. On the converse, anything good she does is +100pts and anything bad is -0pts, but in her mind she doesn’t do anything wrong.
Thank you Darren that was so interesting to learn and spot on timing! l have just been going through this exact scenario & a deep. sense of betrayal with an extremely self centered, selfish, entitled brat acting arrogant ungrateful (now ex) friend. After listening to this , always informative and amusing lve had an A- ha! moment..and the penny has dropped ..like.. Ohhh so "that's why" you're such a overly self involved, self entitled, self indulgent, bratty acting little narchole! It is infuriating when people take your kindness for weakness, lve never understood or could wrap my head around that.. but l guess that's because l do feel grateful and humbled by other people's kindness. I really do believe that gratitude is linked with happiness..thank you for another great show.. cheers De ❤
Mine got a tattoo instead of saving the cats life knowingly doing that, and it got flipped on me, even though I was paying all the bills and Broke after
my father has been taking Zoloft for over 50 years, therefore all his angry feelings come out in covert ways here’s the kicker so people take all of these medicines and they take their medicines to avoid feeling their feelings and then they keep taking the medicine for 50 years 60 years, but eventually they have to die. Eventually their spirit will have to leave their body and eventually when their spirit is outside of their body. They will be forced to feel all the feelings that they refuse to feel their whole life, which means they’re going to end up suffering from Akathisia they’re gonna end up suffering akathisia. it will cause them to feel such extreme pain and scorched wisdom as if they are burning in hell therefore taking the medication in their daily life is not helping them avoiding all the conversations that is not going to help them avoiding taking therapy is not going to help them it’s only going to compound the situation and make everything way worse When your spirit leaves your body at the end of your life, you are then forced to face your authentic feelings, and feel the truth about yourself. Therefore, you can never really run away from anything.
Every time I listen to one of these I am reminded of all the wonderful qualities pathological narcissists have and feel so lucky to have them in my life!
No conscience means no shame as well as no thanks for what comes to them because they’re above us & entitled to everything 🤦♀️ not separated from mother by age 3 leads to no conscience @ age 7 & another tyrant is created
there are certain religions that churn out narcissists, by telling their followers that they're better than everyone else..... admit it, you can name one, can't you !
You are correct. This is true no matter what religion it is. When people are told they are a special "chosen people" and everyone else are ignorant it does create narcissism. I am someone who grew up in a religious cult like this so I would know better than anyone.
Hello, I would like to say that narcissists speak a language all in their own to each other. What you see on the surface might have separate layers altogether you wouldnt see unless you were aware of the covert abuses. Me for example, I have upper eschelon individuals that blow kisses at me as a passive aggressive form of abuse due to them trying to make me feel abandoned or harmed. This occurred months ago when someone stated "they would take the ugly part and be the bad guy, blowing kisses goodbye." So now I get prominent people like Disney + and Tony Robbins new partner blowing kisses in commercials to try to harm my psyche....this is the abuse of the satanic side of the upper eschelon and how they try to keep down people that are rising above their sphere of influence. This was done to me in a different way with the same effects 12 years ago and it ended with bad results for myself since I was unaware of narcissism at the time. I AM MUCH MIRE AWARE NOW. THANK YOU! 😂❤
My sister told me 20 years ago that no one at her workplace knew what unhappiness was.. and she was the only one who had ever suffered. My jaw dropped and I explained to her that they hid a lot of their troubles. Everyone has something in their lives that has made them unhappy. I wondered why I had to explain to a 45-year-old this simple and seemingly universally recognized fact. Over the next 20 years this attitude of being the only unhappy person has continued.
I hear you. After surviving breast cancer surgery, chemo and radiation, I was so grateful and still am, to be here. But my sister always whined and complained about everything. For multiple decades I tried to "help" and listen to her. She has NOTHING to complain about! So I finally had to go no contact after finding the answers here on u-tube. She is a covert narcissist. I my gratefulness clashed with her negativism. Very sad, but much more peaceful now.
Such a topic many of us can relate to! They tend to forget what you do for them and remember what you don't.
Helping our family narcissists provoked opposition, defiance, nitpicking criticism, misconstruing, backbiting, and outright slander. After I walked away, the narcissists sought supply as "victims of abandonment". Living with them was an absurd exercise in futility.
I would summarize it like this: in their minds, they are "doing you a favour", no matter how awful the abuse they can inflict you. They own you.
Narcissists don't believe in humans' rights but their rights.
Spot on!
Never separated from mother @ age 2 & no conscience by age 7 the age of reason
True
"Lack of Gratitude" is something I experienced.
After nearly two decades in Dante's 2nd level of domestic hell with a vulnerable narcissist, when I finally "saw" or understood my wife for who, or what she really is, I had the vision of her as an inconsolable toddler, face sloppy with tears and snots, screaming at the rail of her crib, with only a void to absorb her cries.
I think that period, early in her formative years, when a baby becomes a toddler and begins to develop a sense of self, is when and where she "died" emotionally.
Now that I know what to look for, her mother is very obviously a narcissist, and my wife was just another object; unseen. Without conformity, or the ability to give her mother narcissistic supply at that stage, she was nothing.
She ruined my life, but I'll recover while she never can and her life was ruined long before mine.
It breaks my heart, because I can see who she should have, or could have been.
😂
The first part was funny. But the rest, damn, described my 2 decades of hell.
God knows we were willing, right? But I don’t think these people can be different. To realize all the deceit when I started to really see it. …I want to vomit. Who is this person?
I think we need to date each other, pretty healthy former unfortunate spouses. Like find a cool one. Could be real good. We’d be obviously like minded and kind. I should make a former narc spouse dating app. Where you go on real dates.
I have to finally admit to myself…all things are possible through Christ for them that believeth…he doesn’t believe.
I’ve always only been half.
It’s further away than it ever was.
I don’t even like this person.
And I had sex with him last week.
Gross
All of it is gross
It all makes sense now
I’ve been clawing for the truth, he loved out and we were back and forth, back and forth. The way he’s acted now that I know, kissing my ass and everything else.
How pitiful are these people?
Cheers mate, time to chill and remember how chill and confident we actually are. In large part because we’re kind and try to do what’s right. F them
@@brit0309 ==> Remarriage after divorce if a previous spouse is still living is /-\dultery according to the Bibl3. You cannot remain a Christ+an in that state. ==> He [J3sus] answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits /-\dultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits /-\dultery.” (Mark 10:12)
==> By law, a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an /-\dulteress (Romans 7:2-3).
(You can live alone, but cannot remarry) BTW, I was in that position - in an /-\dulterous remarriage when I discovered this truth, and I vacated the unlawfull relationship.
Extremely painful experiences that echo this insight of truth. One thing that it taught me is to never, I mean never, ignore the signs, the red flags.
This is so on point, Darren! It’s very challenging to be with someone who doesn’t value and/ or grateful for the people who try to help or just be nice to them.
It is just tiring dealing with them. There is nothing you can do to please them.
But walk away permanently
@@caroleminke6116 narcs don't have relationships-they have victims. for as long as you allow it.
You have not missed anything. Very astute analysis again. Excellent work!
Yes, this was the case with my aunt. As she got older, she got more and more negative about everything, and harder to please. I'd try to do things to pick up her spirits, like making recipes my mother (her sister) used to make: jam and antipasto, which I'd mail to her. I never got a thank you, when I'd ask if she got the parcel and what she thought of my gift, she'd typically say it wasn't the same as my mom's. Nothing could ever be the same or as good as what she remembered from the past.
I’ve been dealing with a severe narcissist.
She does not say thank you, never says she’s sorry.
She lacks empathy, remorse, morals…
She has a severe case.
I won’t go into details.. but it’s been a complete nightmare.
She thinks I am supposed to be her perfect little boyfriend, but give nothing in return, and does not have the decency to treat me like an appropriate woman should.
She literally thinks she owns my life, and I am her slave.
Just a suggestion but if she's only a girlfriend plan a getaway. I was only 20 when I met mine and it was a very slow boil. After 42 years he just kicked me out and posted on social media I cheated on him and gave him an STD, then claimed victim.....Next killed my chickens and then my cat. Moved in another family and destroyed them after allowing them to have everything they wanted of my stuff. Porn was the worst, these sick people get worse and expect MORE, INCLUDING UR SOUL... Please don't waste another day, U can never make some people happy. A good test is tell them NO, watch reaction and sit back and observe. I am sending U TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND RESPECT, I know it's not easy. RADICAL ACCEPTANCE IS KEY🎉🎉🎉
Go no contact plz
I'm sorry to hear that. To some degree she sounds like my girlfriend.
When we are In arguments, she always says "you always lead it to arguments" or "you making a fuss out of it"
When mentioned her bad attitude, she excuses her self by saying "you made me say it" or "you provoked me"
When I sometimes lose it, she is the victim.
Always when I explain my self. She denying me, by saying "you always comes with excuses" or "you play the victim/you defend yourself"
Even if I explain some of her behaviour in a calm tone.
Why are you bashing me/you got your revenge.
Sometimes when I finally snap at her, she sometimes end up crying and blame me on everything, without realising how she has poked me for hours/days, patronising me if I talk to much.
I always end up apologising, she had a very hard time apologising to me.
I remember one day, she said to me "you like to play the victim, but I'm the victim the real victim"
I'm not perfect my self but I had never experience any of my ex on that level, unfortunately I felt trapped because of my feelings towards her, and I feel responsible for her
@@RealRabbit1124 U always feeling guilty is exactly the HOOK, U feeling like U need 2 apologize after they treated U like shit, even calling U names & then U feel the need to apologize. I know U know, it's a cycle that only U can break. it's not worth U feeling bad and sad 4 someone who doesn't want 2 change and always wants to blame others and U for their lack of self worth.
I love U unconditionally and support U throughout your journey, look up Dr RAMANI SHE'S HELPED ME TONS, and the more U learn the more empowered and STRONGER U BECOME. MUCH LOVE FIGHTMAMA
Run, Realrabbit, run!
When my MIL died (malignant narc) I made a huge dinner for my FIL on her birthday. Fettucine Alfredo and chocolate cake, took it down to his house in gale force winds-he was so rude to me that I went no contact that moment. The unmitigated gall of these clowns, truly blows the mind. I thank God every day for waking me up. I'll never speak to him again and I won't attend his funeral.
Good for you.
Brought homemade cookies over to my neighbor’s house one year before Christmas. He told me “I don’t need any Christmas cookies” in a grumpy voice. I decided I was done also.
A few years later, he yells out to me from his driveway, “Don’t you say hi anymore?” I said why should I say hi when you wouldn’t accept my Christmas cookies, in a grumpy voice. He said, I was wrong for doing that. Ya think!
@@beaglerescue5281 no good deed goes unpunished but the good news is my idiot compassion was remedied. ;)
Spot on. The entitlement is endless. Never again!!! ⛔🚫🧛♂
whenever it would be raining outside, my father would be pointing to the sky and yelling that God was pissing on us!!!!
Later in life, I have learned that when it’s raining out, it means the angels are crying
Oh my goodness! You have described my daughter and my parents to a "T".
If the narc parents do something even small for me, always without me asking, I have to say thank you many times and with emotion, or I’ll be “in trouble”. But do they do the same for me? Of course not. This was continual my whole childhood. And continues now in my 50s.
Never pleased?! They please themselves all of the time!
That there sums up my grandfather's attitude.
I'm in and out of hospital all the time, always ringing for an ambulance even while going in and out of consciousness, which is fine with my sister. She told me.
I can't tell you how many near death experiences I've had in the last seven years. Yet my sister complains about every single ache and pain she has, demands blood tests, scans, you name it. She has mildly high blood pressure and a sluggish thyroid.
She lied to a gastroenterologist last week to get a quick colonoscopy because her tummy's been playing up. This is before she heads off to Bali and Java next month. She told him that our mum and dad died of bowel cancer. What a load of c**p. She knows because she lived with dad the last few years of his life, which is crap as well. I actually lived with our mother while I was on dialysis in New Zealand for her last 2 years, so I know she didn't die of cancer.
My sister keeps yelling things like you're 'a f***king bitch', whenever I'm sick and just about dying. She never yells at me in front of anyone though. In front of other she says, 'I love you,' and calls me 'Janey,' which I hate. I let that slide because I've never had the energy to say that I'm not a f***king child. Just a f***king bitch, apparently.
Last year I had a fall and broke my humorous. She went around telling the staff that she was seriously ill. I know because two of them asked me. I actually thought that she might have a terminal disease, and she wasn't telling me. She completely denied having told anybody any such thing. What a consummate lair.
I mean she goes on huge OS trips every year which of course she deserves. At the start of the pandemic, she was so furious because she'd organized to go to Russia that year. Poor her. I told her, you do realize millions of people could potentially die, she told me I was overreacting. Well, I guess she would know having worked as a qualified nurse in South Africa when she had no nursing training whatsoever. I on the other hand am or used to be a registered nurse for over 30 years. But what would I know?
Last year I was in hospital 4x. This year I've been in hospital twice, both times with pneumonia. I also had a fall in hospital and a brain bleed, still I get headaches but they're not too bad. She on the other hand has migraines and the worst headaches known to mankind. Anyhow I landed back on dialysis again for likely another really tough 4 1/2 years, by which time I will be too old or too sick to get another transplant. No volunteers I'm afraid.
So, I ring her up this evening after coming off dialysis and nearly falling over on the way to my door last night because once again I was wobbly as hell. Of course, instead of sympathizing with me she told me I had to be gentle with her because of her aches and pains. I said I was so sorry. Meanwhile in the background it sounded like a party was happening.
She's built a huge house overlooking a beach apparently. I wouldn't know, I have never been invited there. She won't even tell me her address, like I'm going to pop by unannounced. She showed pictures of it on FB. The sweeping staircase looks like it could have come from one of those southern plantations; Gone with the Wind sort of thing.
Last year I was diagnosed with a heart murmur, so now she has a heart murmur which wasn't even been picked up by a 24-hour monitor. So, she hasn't got a heart murmur.
It's not a competition of who the sickest person is; my sister is not sick (she hasn't been a patient in hospital for 40+ years) whereas I have had probably 40 + admissions in that time.
I had sepsis in 2020, another near-death episode, aside from calling me a 'grubby bitch', well that was what she came all the way in to yell at me as tossed out food from my fridge as I was sinking into a coma instead of calling an ambulance. Upon discharge, she dumped me home and took off on a 3-week private boating trip. I had to fend for myself. It took me months to recover from that where nothing got done. I even forgot to pay my bills. I ws in a mess. NO help whatsoever from anyone. I was too stupid in the head to seek outside help.
I've told my specialist and my GP about what she's like. They do nothing. I'm too sick to move.
The next minute she'll be a nice as pie to me. It won't last long. I'm a fish dancing on the end of a hook, she reels me in and then throws me back and so it goes on.
I recently told my friend in NZ, if I'm murdered in my sleep, it'll be her. I mean she will need to make sure I'm asleep as I trained a martial art for over 30 years, despite my kidney troubles.
Oh, and she tries to gaslight me all the time. She even told me I was deluded and that was before my brain injury.
Wow I feel exhausted now.
This woman who has everything is jealous that my eyes are bigger than hers and that I have skinny ankles. Well, often I have periorbital oedema where I can barely see out of my failing eyes and my ankles and legs blow up, where I can barely get my legs into boots.
Trouble is I owe her money, which she'll get when I die; she's made sure of that.
Had a boss at this company called giotech in London. You could do 1000 things right and 1 thing wrong and it would be as if you never did anything right.
Sounds like my wife. Anything good I do is +1pt, anything perceived as bad -10pts. On the converse, anything good she does is +100pts and anything bad is -0pts, but in her mind she doesn’t do anything wrong.
And wasband. And mother.
Thank you Darren that was so interesting to learn and spot on timing! l have just been going through this exact scenario & a deep. sense of betrayal with an extremely self centered, selfish, entitled brat acting arrogant ungrateful (now ex) friend. After listening to this , always informative and amusing lve had an A- ha! moment..and the penny has dropped ..like.. Ohhh so "that's why" you're such a overly self involved, self entitled, self indulgent, bratty acting little narchole! It is infuriating when people take your kindness for weakness, lve never understood or could wrap my head around that.. but l guess that's because l do feel grateful and humbled by other people's kindness. I really do believe that gratitude is linked with happiness..thank you for another great show.. cheers De ❤
They always want a "pound of flesh" for doing anything for you.
To them gratitude might come across as bowing down to another person
Thank you ❤
Never says thank you 😮
Mine got a tattoo instead of saving the cats life knowingly doing that, and it got flipped on me, even though I was paying all the bills and Broke after
Thanks.
Thanks
Entitlement
my father has been taking Zoloft for over 50 years, therefore all his angry feelings come out in covert ways
here’s the kicker
so people take all of these medicines and they take their medicines to avoid feeling their feelings and then they keep taking the medicine for 50 years 60 years, but eventually they have to die. Eventually their spirit will have to leave their body and eventually when their spirit is outside of their body. They will be forced to feel all the feelings that they refuse to feel their whole life, which means they’re going to end up suffering from Akathisia they’re gonna end up suffering akathisia.
it will cause them to feel such extreme pain and scorched wisdom as if they are burning in hell therefore taking the medication in their daily life is not helping them avoiding all the conversations that is not going to help them avoiding taking therapy is not going to help them it’s only going to compound the situation and make everything way worse
When your spirit leaves your body at the end of your life, you are then forced to face your authentic feelings, and feel the truth about yourself. Therefore, you can never really run away from anything.
Darren, what is your new painting? It looks, idk, foreboding (?)
It’s a fighting machine from ‘War of the Worlds’
Ah should have known. A fellow Sci Fi fan!
They can't for the life of them say thank you or I'm sorry and everything is on the other person !
Every time I listen to one of these I am reminded of all the wonderful qualities pathological narcissists have and feel so lucky to have them in my life!
Must be Sarcasm
No conscience means no shame as well as no thanks for what comes to them because they’re above us & entitled to everything 🤦♀️ not separated from mother by age 3 leads to no conscience @ age 7 & another tyrant is created
What?? What kind of mother/child separation are you talking about?
Empty black holes
Narcisists behave like badly behaved spoilt toddlers throwing tantrums on the floor, literally.
there are certain religions that churn out narcissists, by telling their followers that they're better than everyone else..... admit it, you can name one, can't you !
Not only religions, countries as well and ethnics, cult-ures and one gender.
Yes, let's trade one form of scapegoat for another. Because that's so much different. 🙄
Juice.
You are correct. This is true no matter what religion it is. When people are told they are a special "chosen people" and everyone else are ignorant it does create narcissism. I am someone who grew up in a religious cult like this so I would know better than anyone.
Several. One in particular.
Hello, I would like to say that narcissists speak a language all in their own to each other. What you see on the surface might have separate layers altogether you wouldnt see unless you were aware of the covert abuses. Me for example, I have upper eschelon individuals that blow kisses at me as a passive aggressive form of abuse due to them trying to make me feel abandoned or harmed. This occurred months ago when someone stated "they would take the ugly part and be the bad guy, blowing kisses goodbye." So now I get prominent people like Disney + and Tony Robbins new partner blowing kisses in commercials to try to harm my psyche....this is the abuse of the satanic side of the upper eschelon and how they try to keep down people that are rising above their sphere of influence. This was done to me in a different way with the same effects 12 years ago and it ended with bad results for myself since I was unaware of narcissism at the time. I AM MUCH MIRE AWARE NOW. THANK YOU! 😂❤