I’ve been, like Josh suggests, ‘leaning in’ to my problems, rather than shying away. Trust me everyone - hitting them head on is so much better than delaying the inevitable. ‘Every moment waited is a moment wasted’. I read this message pasted on my cabinet door every day. I can’t say this enough. These videos and the Marriage Mastery - Pinnacle of Man course work is one of the only reasons I am not languishing in self pity, remorse and depression. I rediscovered the confidence I had when I was younger and I thank God I found this when I did. Thank you Josh - many times.
THANK YOU MARRIAGE MASTERY!I cheated she had an emotional affair .. listening to these videos has literally changed my life inwas hopeless ready to give up but this program is the best out there ! She literally came back to me and told me she was afraid and I hugged her. Told her i understand why and shes afraid im going to hurt her again and i can't imagine what she feels like daily. We have reconciled and had that conversation that we never had after I gave her space . Never i repeat NEVER have a conversation about the issue until there has been space some women need more some need less but if you have had significant time together she WILL come back the key is to react and handle her differently you will see a massive change in her! Thanks JOSH your the man! 🤟
You have a gift. Praise God for your willingness to freely give so much help and insight in a way i can understand and internalize. May he continue to bless you as you bless others.
10:39 Too many times I’ve felt justified in my anger and frustration with my wife. Too many times I’ve failed to realize and understand her frustration and feelings with how my own anger and frustration scares her.
I just wanted to reach out and say thank you to Josh for posting all this amazing content and information. My wife told me she loves me today for the first time in 5 months. I’m so grateful I found your channel!
I can honestly say that u have got to give ur wife the emotional connection Josh talks.aboit so so much. With that guys anthing is possible ..she will tune Into u an u want even realize it ..pay attention to this guy cause he saved my marriage....thanks so so very much josh.
Do you think theres hope for me? My wife and I still live together while separated and we have a 1 year old. It seems like she does have a friend that she has intimate relations with. At the start of the breakup she wouldnt even talk to me but now 3 months later shes starting to be more friendly and open up more. We cuddled for a little last week but she still tells me she doesnt love me. Ive made changes in my life and I think she realizes it. And I want to believe theres some progress but I cant bear with the thought of her with someone else atm. Sometimes I feel like giving up and not even try anymore.
I've tried everything you can think of, including taking responsibility. The only reason I'm watching these videos is because there's literally nothing out there to hold woman responsible for their behaviors. Men are blamed for everything and women get a free pass. Accountability matters. And these double standards need to stop
@marriagereset I have been watching a lot of your videos and some of the things you say are absolutely true. Its like youre reading my mind! I then apply many of the things you say, but nothing seems to work. My wife's behavior has become even worse, and after 10+ years of being tolerant and trying to justify her complaints as an issue with me, I'm at the point where I'm not even sure I want her back. At what point does one decide that "this is it"?
Of course she'll post that on her Facebook. Shit, my wife posts plenty of stuff on her Facebook thanking me for sticking by her through all of her turmoil. She even gave a testimonial in front of the entire church about how much I've been there for her. Our marriage is still in the shitter.
She started being with me again and it's because the guy she's dating messed with her mind. All I do is reasure her that I'm always here and she doesn't need to worry about it. She still lives with me because she hasn't filled for divorce yet. I'm too good of a man to let that happen.
Absolutely! Loving someone in such a way also gives you the ability to understand your partner and their perspective, and outweighs the need for a defensive approach.
I'm sorry, I do agree with your methods. I only have one thing to say that NEVER seems to be investigated. Why is it ALWAYS the masculine that is at fault or isn't being who they need to be for their wife? I KNOW some reactions to my wifes actions and deliberate manipulations where not done in control of my emotions, I know that!! But she used past traumas deliberately knowing how much those traumas hurt me!! And point blank, she had NO VALID REASON to fail to support me 5 months after marriage, through losing my hero, my idol, the person I turned to when I needed strength, my dad!! Who i had ripped from my soul and my wife, with no reason at all, as I was a great husband to her, working to provide, then decorating our new home as well, and supported her losing her dad, that never brought her up, when he died due to years of substance abuse, that I didn't see eye to eye with, yet I made up with her mum, the reason my wifes parents and I fell out, for defending my wife against her mum, that never raised her own daughter, yet had the audacity to criticise my then fiance about her mothering skills to the point of tears streaming down her face on a phone call!! I did what I vowed!! I was supportive. So one month after me supporting and continued to be supportive of her dad passing away! My dad didn't simply die!!! I lost who I thought he was, went from love to utter disgust, shame, hate, couldn't grieve, cant ever remember him fondly EVER!! Yes abused a child , and who it was made it even worse!! So when I needed support, more than eve!!! But my shame of my dad actually made me feel guilty that my wife through marrying me, was involved, connected to such a disgusting person!! (yes I realised about 7 -8 months later it was not my fault so you all know) my wife accepted blaming me for his wrongs!! Made me suppress it In front of her, as in my eyes that was the only way to lift any adverse effects on my wife!! So now i know she technically beat me over the head with my dads corpse, as to me hes worse than dead!! All this during covid lockdown etc, so hard enough without all the rest on top!! But what did my wife do, first opportunity, first party after lockdown lifted!!? SLEPT WITH HER SO CALLED FIRST LOVE, TWICE IN THE ONE NIGHT, that she then lied for a year about even though her eyes gave away her adultery 2 days after when I confronted her, then even named who it was, to get anger thrown at me as if how DARE I accuse her of sleeping with her ex boyfriend!!! And I just wasnt ready to hear what I knew, so I backed down.I wish I hadn't!! I wish I'd stood firm when she denied ferociously she hadnt cheated with him that night!! And the night it was only made it so much worse!! Party started on the 25th april, and went on far after midnight, well at least for my uncontactable from around 10pm on the 25th, and here's the reason the day she committed adultery with him, didn't use any protection either of the 2 times she allowed him INSIDE OF HER, MY WIFE!!! Didnt take her god damn WEDDING RING OFF EVEN!!!! And what date did it happen?? The 26th of July, MY WIFES BIRTHDAY!!!!! And It even gets worse!!!! So not only afterwards would her birthday bring up unwanted thoughts and images in my head ( the images still haunt me to this day, but I cope with them better now), after being off the grid, phone off since 10pm the night she went to the party and decided to call me at 3PM on her birthday with her phone ran out if charge excuse (she has an iPhone, what party at a house with plenty others there too, does generally more than one person have an iPhone charger with them? Or the host of the party not have one available) but I was just relieved to know she was ok and it was her birthday so didnt want to start moaning at her. So she said on the phone at 3pm she was going to get a shower (I know why that was necessary now instead of just coming home for one, and the shower I ilfitted is a steam shower bath unit with jacuzzi and she still says it's the best shower ever, doesn't feel clean in others now as shes been spoiled) but still I don't moan! I just remind her that I've booked a fancy restaurant for her and a few friends so please hurry back as she had to get ready for that in ours (assuming she had no change of clothes, I guess maybe she had, I just wasnt aware, obviously had other knickers with her though 😢 but I don't know that for sure, as she went for another shower once home as she didn't feel clean, as the shower was sh^t) when it should have forever been a day that I only ever wanted to make special for her (I still did, which was hard to do) AND YES I NOTICED THE SHAME IN HER EYES, But she was able to look at me, let me treat her to a three course meal with friends, gove her gifts yet she seemed unaffected, happy, smiling but once home, usually she wants sexy time on her birthday, but nope, actually avoided intimacy for a few days with me!! So this is a book already so I need to stop!! But after all that all I got was lies, being told I'm paranoid and shed tell me I'm the one moaning for nothing just cause she was going out with friends, when actuallyI WAS BANG ON THE MONEY. And justified to feel she was up to no good!! And no even without the admtion of guiltv whilst watching me deteriorate and keep lying about something she knew I knew inside had happened and having been put though my first love cheating on me and lying for five a year, that I confided in her years before, and told her, wosmrst part is knowing but not knowing, she wasnt being a good wife to me, which even if you cabt fave admitting infidelity, things can still be done to show they care, by being extra nice, doing things they know make you happy, but actually she was nasty most of the time still to me!! And she wants to leave cause "I'm not the man she though she married!!! HOW COULD I BE GOING THROUGH WHAT I HAD AND WAS, GOT SUPPORT FROM MY WIFE!! Instead I get beaten over the head with what I see as my dads corpse!! Yet I'm paranoid😔🤯. So after that I got her to come back, grudgingly (yes I know mistake) got more lies, betrayals, gaslighting, manipulation, premeditated traumas thrown and reaction recorded . I could literally write a movie script, or tv drama special. So was that me?? What I did or didnt do? Then trying to forgive time and time again, all I refused to accept was her remorse to be able to forgive!! Instead I only got walked all over to appear not man enough, that's what I can gather, thoughts?
She showed no remorse I meant, said sorry, acted it fir a few days max, then would get secretive and sinister again!! Also she ended up on adultery with 3 partners, I know about anyway, still tried to forgive, but she just couldn't do allbi asked her to, STICK TO HER VOWS, no secrets, commitment to repair our marriage, loyalty understanding, etc, the obvious things needed to let a betrayed partner feel safe and begin to rebuild trust. But nope. Wasted another 2 years of my life, still are married but the chances look grim. Yes there where underlying influences from her mum, now deceased, that helped her loose who she said had never loved anyone more than she did me. Thoughts
Hi, thanks for your concern and empathy, its appreciated 🙏. I'm pushing through the pain, hurt and confusion caused by others actions, thank you for asking! I'm facing things and reflecting on things that I either did in reaction emotionally (to clarify nothing really bad! Arguments, shouting, some name calling maybe) that I want to learn how to better control a purely emotional reaction going forward. And also not valuing myself enough to set boundaries for genuine reasons, then either bending them or outright allowing them to be broken, then still try to believe that my giving people who break any of my boundaries far too many chances to right wrongs or unburden themselves with things my conscience couldn't bare!! Most of the time thinking of their burden for making the mistake and having to live with the consequences, as opposed to setting limits that I will now set valuing myself as highly as others, without loosing who I am!! A genuine kind person. So I'm learning still probably will never stop learning. But again thank you for your support, I hope you are well and living a happy, joyous life 😊
Okay I'm listening to what your videos are talking about here I have to put in a lot of hours so that we can live at a place that she wanted that I had to give up places that were just as good and would have taken us a little longer but I get awful tired her two businesses they're doing good to a point but the animals are not providing enough income to support the family the other part is too I don't appreciate when I had rental properties to tell me that I didn't know how to manage my own money and finances I've been doing very well for the last 15 years I retired as a major from the South Dakota army national Guard I can't do the guards anymore cuz I had to keep working myself to death to provide for that I couldn't get to do a lot of the free time stuff to get to do things that I used to get to do and I got awful tired of how I'm doing my job by providing for my family while she gets to go do all this other stuff and these kids are home taught for education why don't like how they're being home taught because they're being manipulative disrespectful to their father and you wonder why I get a little upset about itI get tired when she tells me because I got tired and I went to go pay a bill to meet her somewhere and I got exhausted I passed out I didn't appreciate her telling me that I was a fat weak pathetic excuse for a man and she didn't care if I lived or died or being intimate with me whatsoever. I've been trying to do everything to change things over the last few years like try to reschedule something try to arrange something together as a family do Bible study or Bible time together and stuff and then every time I try to do something I'm sorry she was sabotaging it she deliberately and over the last few years she's excluded me from any Christmas pictures we used to do all together and stuff so right now I'm trying to work with my brother-in-law and my sister-in-law to see if it's worth staying in the marriage I'm tired of working my tail end off and getting no appreciation for it basically telling me that she can provide for the family she pays their school their food and for their clothing and paying for the mortgage taxes insurance and when I was paying the electricity car insurance and for the internet access doesn't count for anything and I'm sorry that I do agree with I'm tired of busting my tail and off I work for a job that I had 3 years 8 months I actually enjoyed working there but I got tired of doing the graveyard shifts and somebody else coming in new and he gets to take a 4:00 to midnight shift from me or I could have a Thursday off to rest maybe go see the kids do their karate lessons and my wife and she got upset cuz I took pictures from my dad and for my three younger kids older half sister or maybe for my son and my other sister that I have another daughter you know I'm doing everything I can I'm trying to be respectful to keep my distance from her try to communicate everyday to leave a message but a lot of the message. And the way she sent the text message it was kind of like she wanted me to go off myself I don't agree with. So this pastor Pat had a thing up there for like a Christian revival thing for a week my kids went there the last 2 years 3 years ago my kids got baptized I had to work and I was very tired and I had to stop at the house and I I fell asleep I was exhaustedand then getting mad at me because I wasn't there I'm sorry I was exhausted and I was wore out I have driven home the last 10 years that I should have fallen asleep at the vehicle and I should be in a casket right now and I should have fallen asleep and be dead. But I get tired of that and I'm sorry I'm going to rest my body before I drive home I'm getting tired of this video texting to hear that I keep trying to speak and it keeps cutting me off anyway I do love my wife very much and I try to send her messages every morning and every night hopefully your videos will keep helping me get through whatever I need to do I do believe that father God and Jesus Christ are helping me and I have been praying to him every day to help me try to save this marriage and fight the spiritual warfare battle that I know I have going on on this property I don't know what it is but something is not right there after I left everything has been trying to get me to basically downgrade me and be little me completely and I'm done with it.I'm doing everything I can to stay positive meditate go somewhere to pray to Father God and Jesus Christ every day or evening or listen to some of his videos that are out there on youtube. Anyway that's about all I have to say for this video here.
Stay strong this is a test of your resolve. Not a test from her. This is a test of your humanity. You are a man and with or without her you will go to sleep knowing you lived up to and exceeded your potential
We are just a few weeks away from it being finalized through freaking email. I still express love for her and she knows where I stand! A better man! Best shape ever Doubled my salary to 100k And got closer to Jesus. She don’t like the religious aspect but there is no turning back.
Your not the only one. That is what I assumed as well. Was he a bad alcoholic and promised her not to drink? Then again she is having all these drinks around him? Wtf
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I’ve been, like Josh suggests, ‘leaning in’ to my problems, rather than shying away. Trust me everyone - hitting them head on is so much better than delaying the inevitable. ‘Every moment waited is a moment wasted’. I read this message pasted on my cabinet door every day. I can’t say this enough. These videos and the Marriage Mastery - Pinnacle of Man course work is one of the only reasons I am not languishing in self pity, remorse and depression. I rediscovered the confidence I had when I was younger and I thank God I found this when I did. Thank you Josh - many times.
THANK YOU MARRIAGE MASTERY!I cheated she had an emotional affair .. listening to these videos has literally changed my life inwas hopeless ready to give up but this program is the best out there ! She literally came back to me and told me she was afraid and I hugged her. Told her i understand why and shes afraid im going to hurt her again and i can't imagine what she feels like daily. We have reconciled and had that conversation that we never had after I gave her space . Never i repeat NEVER have a conversation about the issue until there has been space some women need more some need less but if you have had significant time together she WILL come back the key is to react and handle her differently you will see a massive change in her! Thanks JOSH your the man! 🤟
That intro almost had me crying. Me and my wife will be there some day 🎉🎉🎉
You have a gift. Praise God for your willingness to freely give so much help and insight in a way i can understand and internalize. May he continue to bless you as you bless others.
10:39
Too many times I’ve felt justified in my anger and frustration with my wife. Too many times I’ve failed to realize and understand her frustration and feelings with how my own anger and frustration scares her.
Me too
I just wanted to reach out and say thank you to Josh for posting all this amazing content and information. My wife told me she loves me today for the first time in 5 months. I’m so grateful I found your channel!
Great progress man, that's a big win! I'm just glad to see the content is helping.
What did you do, bro?
I can honestly say that u have got to give ur wife the emotional connection Josh talks.aboit so so much. With that guys anthing is possible ..she will tune Into u an u want even realize it ..pay attention to this guy cause he saved my marriage....thanks so so very much josh.
Do you think theres hope for me? My wife and I still live together while separated and we have a 1 year old. It seems like she does have a friend that she has intimate relations with. At the start of the breakup she wouldnt even talk to me but now 3 months later shes starting to be more friendly and open up more. We cuddled for a little last week but she still tells me she doesnt love me. Ive made changes in my life and I think she realizes it. And I want to believe theres some progress but I cant bear with the thought of her with someone else atm. Sometimes I feel like giving up and not even try anymore.
I've tried everything you can think of, including taking responsibility. The only reason I'm watching these videos is because there's literally nothing out there to hold woman responsible for their behaviors. Men are blamed for everything and women get a free pass.
Accountability matters. And these double standards need to stop
Thank you for the videos I don't know if any of this will help me with my wife but it is helping me understand myself more.
Once your main focus is the process, the results will come
@marriagereset I have been watching a lot of your videos and some of the things you say are absolutely true. Its like youre reading my mind! I then apply many of the things you say, but nothing seems to work. My wife's behavior has become even worse, and after 10+ years of being tolerant and trying to justify her complaints as an issue with me, I'm at the point where I'm not even sure I want her back. At what point does one decide that "this is it"?
I am coming out with a video soon addressing that topic. I would say that you should set up a call with our team
Of course she'll post that on her Facebook. Shit, my wife posts plenty of stuff on her Facebook thanking me for sticking by her through all of her turmoil. She even gave a testimonial in front of the entire church about how much I've been there for her. Our marriage is still in the shitter.
No. I can't imagine.
She started being with me again and it's because the guy she's dating messed with her mind. All I do is reasure her that I'm always here and she doesn't need to worry about it. She still lives with me because she hasn't filled for divorce yet. I'm too good of a man to let that happen.
I really want to join because I need the help I just can't afford it
Unconditional love is the most powerful force in the universe.
Absolutely! Loving someone in such a way also gives you the ability to understand your partner and their perspective, and outweighs the need for a defensive approach.
I'm sorry, I do agree with your methods. I only have one thing to say that NEVER seems to be investigated. Why is it ALWAYS the masculine that is at fault or isn't being who they need to be for their wife? I KNOW some reactions to my wifes actions and deliberate manipulations where not done in control of my emotions, I know that!! But she used past traumas deliberately knowing how much those traumas hurt me!! And point blank, she had NO VALID REASON to fail to support me 5 months after marriage, through losing my hero, my idol, the person I turned to when I needed strength, my dad!! Who i had ripped from my soul and my wife, with no reason at all, as I was a great husband to her, working to provide, then decorating our new home as well, and supported her losing her dad, that never brought her up, when he died due to years of substance abuse, that I didn't see eye to eye with, yet I made up with her mum, the reason my wifes parents and I fell out, for defending my wife against her mum, that never raised her own daughter, yet had the audacity to criticise my then fiance about her mothering skills to the point of tears streaming down her face on a phone call!! I did what I vowed!! I was supportive. So one month after me supporting and continued to be supportive of her dad passing away! My dad didn't simply die!!! I lost who I thought he was, went from love to utter disgust, shame, hate, couldn't grieve, cant ever remember him fondly EVER!! Yes abused a child , and who it was made it even worse!! So when I needed support, more than eve!!! But my shame of my dad actually made me feel guilty that my wife through marrying me, was involved, connected to such a disgusting person!! (yes I realised about 7 -8 months later it was not my fault so you all know) my wife accepted blaming me for his wrongs!! Made me suppress it In front of her, as in my eyes that was the only way to lift any adverse effects on my wife!! So now i know she technically beat me over the head with my dads corpse, as to me hes worse than dead!! All this during covid lockdown etc, so hard enough without all the rest on top!! But what did my wife do, first opportunity, first party after lockdown lifted!!? SLEPT WITH HER SO CALLED FIRST LOVE, TWICE IN THE ONE NIGHT, that she then lied for a year about even though her eyes gave away her adultery 2 days after when I confronted her, then even named who it was, to get anger thrown at me as if how DARE I accuse her of sleeping with her ex boyfriend!!! And I just wasnt ready to hear what I knew, so I backed down.I wish I hadn't!! I wish I'd stood firm when she denied ferociously she hadnt cheated with him that night!! And the night it was only made it so much worse!! Party started on the 25th april, and went on far after midnight, well at least for my uncontactable from around 10pm on the 25th, and here's the reason the day she committed adultery with him, didn't use any protection either of the 2 times she allowed him INSIDE OF HER, MY WIFE!!! Didnt take her god damn WEDDING RING OFF EVEN!!!! And what date did it happen?? The 26th of July, MY WIFES BIRTHDAY!!!!! And It even gets worse!!!! So not only afterwards would her birthday bring up unwanted thoughts and images in my head ( the images still haunt me to this day, but I cope with them better now), after being off the grid, phone off since 10pm the night she went to the party and decided to call me at 3PM on her birthday with her phone ran out if charge excuse (she has an iPhone, what party at a house with plenty others there too, does generally more than one person have an iPhone charger with them? Or the host of the party not have one available) but I was just relieved to know she was ok and it was her birthday so didnt want to start moaning at her. So she said on the phone at 3pm she was going to get a shower (I know why that was necessary now instead of just coming home for one, and the shower I ilfitted is a steam shower bath unit with jacuzzi and she still says it's the best shower ever, doesn't feel clean in others now as shes been spoiled) but still I don't moan! I just remind her that I've booked a fancy restaurant for her and a few friends so please hurry back as she had to get ready for that in ours (assuming she had no change of clothes, I guess maybe she had, I just wasnt aware, obviously had other knickers with her though 😢 but I don't know that for sure, as she went for another shower once home as she didn't feel clean, as the shower was sh^t) when it should have forever been a day that I only ever wanted to make special for her (I still did, which was hard to do) AND YES I NOTICED THE SHAME IN HER EYES, But she was able to look at me, let me treat her to a three course meal with friends, gove her gifts yet she seemed unaffected, happy, smiling but once home, usually she wants sexy time on her birthday, but nope, actually avoided intimacy for a few days with me!! So this is a book already so I need to stop!! But after all that all I got was lies, being told I'm paranoid and shed tell me I'm the one moaning for nothing just cause she was going out with friends, when actuallyI WAS BANG ON THE MONEY. And justified to feel she was up to no good!! And no even without the admtion of guiltv whilst watching me deteriorate and keep lying about something she knew I knew inside had happened and having been put though my first love cheating on me and lying for five a year, that I confided in her years before, and told her, wosmrst part is knowing but not knowing, she wasnt being a good wife to me, which even if you cabt fave admitting infidelity, things can still be done to show they care, by being extra nice, doing things they know make you happy, but actually she was nasty most of the time still to me!! And she wants to leave cause "I'm not the man she though she married!!! HOW COULD I BE GOING THROUGH WHAT I HAD AND WAS, GOT SUPPORT FROM MY WIFE!! Instead I get beaten over the head with what I see as my dads corpse!! Yet I'm paranoid😔🤯. So after that I got her to come back, grudgingly (yes I know mistake) got more lies, betrayals, gaslighting, manipulation, premeditated traumas thrown and reaction recorded . I could literally write a movie script, or tv drama special. So was that me?? What I did or didnt do? Then trying to forgive time and time again, all I refused to accept was her remorse to be able to forgive!! Instead I only got walked all over to appear not man enough, that's what I can gather, thoughts?
25th of July the party started sorry, it's not letting me edit to fix the post
She showed no remorse I meant, said sorry, acted it fir a few days max, then would get secretive and sinister again!! Also she ended up on adultery with 3 partners, I know about anyway, still tried to forgive, but she just couldn't do allbi asked her to, STICK TO HER VOWS, no secrets, commitment to repair our marriage, loyalty understanding, etc, the obvious things needed to let a betrayed partner feel safe and begin to rebuild trust. But nope. Wasted another 2 years of my life, still are married but the chances look grim. Yes there where underlying influences from her mum, now deceased, that helped her loose who she said had never loved anyone more than she did me. Thoughts
Hey im sorry you had to go through this. It's terrible. How are you doing today?
Hi, thanks for your concern and empathy, its appreciated 🙏. I'm pushing through the pain, hurt and confusion caused by others actions, thank you for asking! I'm facing things and reflecting on things that I either did in reaction emotionally (to clarify nothing really bad! Arguments, shouting, some name calling maybe) that I want to learn how to better control a purely emotional reaction going forward. And also not valuing myself enough to set boundaries for genuine reasons, then either bending them or outright allowing them to be broken, then still try to believe that my giving people who break any of my boundaries far too many chances to right wrongs or unburden themselves with things my conscience couldn't bare!! Most of the time thinking of their burden for making the mistake and having to live with the consequences, as opposed to setting limits that I will now set valuing myself as highly as others, without loosing who I am!! A genuine kind person. So I'm learning still probably will never stop learning. But again thank you for your support, I hope you are well and living a happy, joyous life 😊
So I have moved completely out and got my own place to rent. Will your program tailor and help bring her back in this type of situation?
Yes brother just belive in the master class and you to shall have peace with your spouse
I’ve noticed that I’m being indifferent with her, she asks what’s wrong when I’m nice and concern for her she’s actually pulling away. Weird.
The indifference paradox?
By the way, I've been married for 27 years and have 4 kids and 3 grandkids
Okay I'm listening to what your videos are talking about here I have to put in a lot of hours so that we can live at a place that she wanted that I had to give up places that were just as good and would have taken us a little longer but I get awful tired her two businesses they're doing good to a point but the animals are not providing enough income to support the family the other part is too I don't appreciate when I had rental properties to tell me that I didn't know how to manage my own money and finances I've been doing very well for the last 15 years I retired as a major from the South Dakota army national Guard I can't do the guards anymore cuz I had to keep working myself to death to provide for that I couldn't get to do a lot of the free time stuff to get to do things that I used to get to do and I got awful tired of how I'm doing my job by providing for my family while she gets to go do all this other stuff and these kids are home taught for education why don't like how they're being home taught because they're being manipulative disrespectful to their father and you wonder why I get a little upset about itI get tired when she tells me because I got tired and I went to go pay a bill to meet her somewhere and I got exhausted I passed out I didn't appreciate her telling me that I was a fat weak pathetic excuse for a man and she didn't care if I lived or died or being intimate with me whatsoever. I've been trying to do everything to change things over the last few years like try to reschedule something try to arrange something together as a family do Bible study or Bible time together and stuff and then every time I try to do something I'm sorry she was sabotaging it she deliberately and over the last few years she's excluded me from any Christmas pictures we used to do all together and stuff so right now I'm trying to work with my brother-in-law and my sister-in-law to see if it's worth staying in the marriage I'm tired of working my tail end off and getting no appreciation for it basically telling me that she can provide for the family she pays their school their food and for their clothing and paying for the mortgage taxes insurance and when I was paying the electricity car insurance and for the internet access doesn't count for anything and I'm sorry that I do agree with I'm tired of busting my tail and off I work for a job that I had 3 years 8 months I actually enjoyed working there but I got tired of doing the graveyard shifts and somebody else coming in new and he gets to take a 4:00 to midnight shift from me or I could have a Thursday off to rest maybe go see the kids do their karate lessons and my wife and she got upset cuz I took pictures from my dad and for my three younger kids older half sister or maybe for my son and my other sister that I have another daughter you know I'm doing everything I can I'm trying to be respectful to keep my distance from her try to communicate everyday to leave a message but a lot of the message. And the way she sent the text message it was kind of like she wanted me to go off myself I don't agree with. So this pastor Pat had a thing up there for like a Christian revival thing for a week my kids went there the last 2 years 3 years ago my kids got baptized I had to work and I was very tired and I had to stop at the house and I I fell asleep I was exhaustedand then getting mad at me because I wasn't there I'm sorry I was exhausted and I was wore out I have driven home the last 10 years that I should have fallen asleep at the vehicle and I should be in a casket right now and I should have fallen asleep and be dead. But I get tired of that and I'm sorry I'm going to rest my body before I drive home I'm getting tired of this video texting to hear that I keep trying to speak and it keeps cutting me off anyway I do love my wife very much and I try to send her messages every morning and every night hopefully your videos will keep helping me get through whatever I need to do I do believe that father God and Jesus Christ are helping me and I have been praying to him every day to help me try to save this marriage and fight the spiritual warfare battle that I know I have going on on this property I don't know what it is but something is not right there after I left everything has been trying to get me to basically downgrade me and be little me completely and I'm done with it.I'm doing everything I can to stay positive meditate go somewhere to pray to Father God and Jesus Christ every day or evening or listen to some of his videos that are out there on youtube. Anyway that's about all I have to say for this video here.
My wife just said 6 good months doesn’t erase 10 bad years…that she still wants to go through the divorce. How long must I suffer?
Go another 6 months and don't lose hope!
Stay strong this is a test of your resolve. Not a test from her. This is a test of your humanity. You are a man and with or without her you will go to sleep knowing you lived up to and exceeded your potential
We are just a few weeks away from it being finalized through freaking email. I still express love for her and she knows where I stand! A better man!
Best shape ever
Doubled my salary to 100k
And got closer to Jesus. She don’t like the religious aspect but there is no turning back.
Pretty confused on the one guy not drinking there was no context was he supposed to have stopped completely and he fell back into it
Your not the only one. That is what I assumed as well. Was he a bad alcoholic and promised her not to drink? Then again she is having all these drinks around him? Wtf
JLY
I'm divorced with 2 toddlers.
These videos are long, you could get them a bit shorter and get to the point. Kind of drawn. They are helpful but still.
This ain’t a channel for quick fixes. Some of us need these things broken down to understand the things underneath the surface.
You can watch at 1.5 or 2x speed.
Not long. The concepts need the background. Nice work @josh 👌
@@connecticut730100% agree. This is not too long. I’m grateful for these videos.
In my time here, one thing I noticed is that men who rush or want FAST answers, tend to lose with their wife. Food for thought
First comment! :)
Yes you are!