@@xtdycxtfuv9353 libido and appearances fade over time, some even sooner than others. Take that away and ask yourself if it wasn't for intercourse or appearances, would you honestly be happy with spending the rest of your life with X person. Think hard about it, because if appearance and intercourse is the main reason, then that realtionship isn't going pan the test of time.
@@datekaname2246 If my gf is hot and white with nice bones, I really don’t care. The last phases of life suck ass for everybody, so that entire point is moot.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 This commer like attitude is why your still single. Nothing wrong with wanting to smash. But don't complain about never finding any indepth relationships with anyone who actually cares about you.
The art is what really sells it for me. It shows him with a girl (courier) and not romantically or anything but simply walking together and both looking kind of happy. It's perfect
Molecule 01 which consists of Iso E Super is where i point everyone to when they ask what scents to wear. Straight from the bottle it has literally no scent because its main scent molecule is too big for our receptors to pick up on. But once it hits your skin it breaks down and it breaks down differently for each person making a unique smell. Plus the main ingredient can be purchased for a fraction of the price if you want to diy a cologne.
But that what cringe is, Joshua understands words, you can tell by how he gives advice Take having toys there nothing wrong with being a collector but be a Collector make it look professional don't be ashamed of it but also don't let it be your personality otherwise just have one or two favorite toys and let that be that
Even tho they never had one they still have experience because they observe the people around them failing and succeeding and learn from it because they usually aren't in love with the person you like or somepne else likes. This makes it easier for them to observer behavior without the distraction of love feelings.
@@jensvanbockstal1056 I also fine those who don't shop around like that usually understands that stuff best. Cause they don't see every man/woman as a potential fuck buddy but as real people, and they know how to talk to them like real people cause they've been talking to them like *real goddamn people*
@@jensvanbockstal1056 stupid person never learn from their own mistakes. smart person learns from their own mistakes. wise person learns from others mistakes.
As a friend once said to me, when asked why he gives dating advice but never dates, in high school, all those years ago: "Some Coaches have played and got hurt. Some Coaches have played and cling to their prime like a trophy. Some Coaches have never played. But all Coaches watch and study what works and what doesn't. "
Nah, you want someone who knows the game inside and out. The coaches who never played might be good, but 9/10 times in hindsight, they are mediocre. Thing is, since you are seeking for advice, that means you can't distinguish good advice from bad advice (or else you would already have the answer). This makes the qualifier their experience. This is why pick up artists is such a scam. You see a lot of wannabe coaches in that space, and the thing is, since the people who don't know any better follow them, they end up paying for their services while getting advice that doesn't work. If they go to their coach, they would reason that they are "just not doing it right". Remember, they will say to you that they studied the game inside out as well. Get one who knows the struggle of the battlefield and has a proven record. The best coaches are players too. Phil Jackson in basketball was an NBA player. Erwin Rommel of the Wermacht started as an ensign. Genghis Khan was a warrior himself before he commanded the Mongol horde. José Mourinho (Football) was not a World Cup champion, but he had practical experience in the field since he was a midfielder in Portugal. Belichick (American Football) was not an NFL player, but he played American Football regularly when he was younger. Even Jesus Christ lived personally with the poor. Do you want to get better at dating? Your best chances are following someone who dated (not dated a childhood friend, but dated a stranger or acquaintance) and has a successful relationship. You might get lucky with listening to a guy who never experienced a relationship, but do you really want to rely on luck? Well, up to you if you want to listen to a guy who has no lived experience, but know that there are better choices out there waiting for you.
He taught us religion when we were younger, now he's teaching us to get bitches. His skin may be burnt but damn he roasts like hell, but its for the sake of letting out a better us
This is essentially why even if I figure I look disgusting in a good-fitting T-shirt I will gladly wear it over some huge hoodie and baggy-as-all-hell pants. I see too many dudes who wear whole ghillie suits to camouflage their insecurities
My man Graham made a 7 minute speech that encapsulates the listener for the full duration, beating them up for their prior thinkings and then helping them grow into a new mindset of being an actually decent and flexible person who cares less about the goal and more about the journey. Well said.
@@Jdjdjdujakzgsha still though, there are plently of female people who do not seek attention. Tik Tok represents not every woman, nor a majority at all.
@@arielmino643 Yeah I agree. I mean the part about "women only wear makeup for the sake of men" doesn't make sense to me. Now I don't know anything about makeup, but the whole point of makeup is that it's a form of self expression, and makes you look a certain way right? I feel it would be like saying "Men *only* work out for the sake of women." As if no one ever changed their appearance just to be able to smile at themselves when the look in the mirror.
Just from a guy that got recently engaged to a girl way out of my league, don't take everything in here as advice, some things are unfortunately the generic pick-up artist stuff he warns you about. Whether it be to deny your hobbies and passion and act like they are absolute killers of any chances or more minor things like "rubbing your wrists after applying cologne", everyone who ever paid the most minuscule amount of attention knows that this actually muddles or even ruins the scent. Again, there is some rock-solid stuff that helped me get where I am, but again, be true to yourself. If you like anime, get that merch, just don't wear it on a date or when getting out, make it your cozy fit. And same about toys and funko pops, if that's what you like, get it, just don't make it who you are. Again, the dressing advice, and the taking care of yourself as a person advice is true, but like I said some is just as bad as pick-up artist stuff. Obviously, it would fit for Joshua Graham to say these things, giving who he is and what not, so as a video Idea I get it, but don't swallow all of it as proven advice. This is a mixed bag of advice. Just saying this because I met my partner during the Covid Pandemic while gaming, and she is way above my league, and she is an even bigger anime enthusiast and gamer than I am. So yeah boys, take care and groom yourself, and just swallow your pride and talk to any girl, that was probably the best advice. Girls do get prettier in your eyes when you get to know them. Good luck yall, took me 24 years to get lucky, and I wish all of you the same success.
The parts where he said most women only put on makeup to attract men, or just pretend to like "manly things" were definitely parts that had me raising an eyebrow. Those are the type of blanket statements he was literally just advocating against a minute or two earlier. Ahah
@@Gladuos1 The author is human as well while it's generally good advice there are some things that could be re written but im just happy it isn't Andrew tate top g alpha male bullshit
@@Gladuos1 women put makeup on to compete with each other because it is a societal norm. In the 90s, most teenage girls didn’t wear makeup, at least not to school. Nowadays it is the norm. Take any girl from today and place her in a school in the 90s and I guarantee she stops wearing makeup quick, because she won’t want to do something that the other girls aren’t.
@@StoutProper No doubt many people do things for social approval, but it seems a bit dismissive to assume there aren't many women who do something for their own sake.
@@lesshuman00 Alot do but not all of them although I can understand why they would because some of the shit I've heard said towards women in multi-player games has been some pretty vile shit
@@Nixx26 I think the best place to start is why you are here...in the present time...at this present channel asking this present question, while watching this video.
@Narendra Joshua and Caesar were raised Christian but then joined the church of Atom and witnessed to the savage raider tribes. Over time they became the Legion and Joshua was one of the worst generals. Joshua was blinded by anger and lost the Hoover dam to the NCR rangers. Caesar had him covered in pitch burned and thrown into the grand canyon.
After being in a couple of relationships myself, one of which ended because they were just using me as a coping mechanism for their depression, another was just suicidal and i kept giving her too many chances and that made me worry about people a lot. The only significant relationship i had lasted a while, and we got back together two times, both were significant and we broke up on good terms. This video has basically given me the idea that, maybe there is a good relationship and a meaningful one for me out there if i just better myself. Thank you for this video
Yea, this video helping me feel better after I broke up and how to improve myself even better. There will be time when I ready for another relationship or grow up more. I have girls ask me out but I know deep inside I know myself better than anyone that i not ready for another relationships so I turn her down and she slightly angry. I dislike her actually because I am guy believe in good thing and right thing classisy and I feel like she is crazy girl type. I think we not good match if we going out and then she drag me to date and selfie with her and give it to my friend that told her he would date her if he not already have girlfend then ask me out after she bought herself some shirt.
“Women do not usually age as gracefully as men, so marrying for looks or sex is like buying a broken down car with a new paint job” is such a raw fucking line. I LOVE this! It clearly comes from the heart, and everything said here is worded in a way that sounds like something Joshua Graham would actually say. 500/10!
Funny how from my experience it's the opposite. Most middle aged men I know are overweight, unkempt, and have a plethora of health problems from years of drinking and smoking. Women their same age while they obviously don't look 25 anymore they age more gracefully since they take better care of themselves.
Oh I’m not so sure about that. It’s a positive message, but plenty of men certainly don’t age gracefully. Nothing wrong with that, especially if love is there.
Alright either you grew up with a lot of good men around you or you're a boomer but I'll break the sad news no one has been telling young men this for years that's the problem.
@@BeautifulGreen252my dad did. Some advice better than others, but he did. The problem is, i'm not really big onto the relationship game rn, my last girl dumped me because of past trauma that i still can't get past.
@@BeautifulGreen252 No I'm not a boomer but I have been telling young men about this for years. Unfortunately they listen to grifters or black pillers who either trun these men into those with no self respect or no self confidence. Which is a shame.
@@BeautifulGreen252 you act like growing up with good men is a hard thing to do, maybe just don't be so fucking condescending and you'll find those good men. LMAO
Not too sure bout the "not wearing logo shirts" advice though... Every time I have had girls approach me lately, it was to compliment my shirt or hoodie cause it had something on it they liked, especially my anime shirts!!!
@WowItzAkina Sorry the word "girl" caused a misunderstanding, I mean women... I'm 34 and the ladies I'm referring to range from mid-20s to my age. And are usually so attractive, I stumble over my words lol
@@GoatSimpulator Anime shirts can be cool, long as its not excessive or uncomfortable to look at. First off, try and stay far out of hentai shirts, that is a given. Secondly, keep it simple, it shouldn't be too detailed, otherwise it can become overbearing and distracting. Simple is good. Remember to keep it your size, don't go baggy, but don't go excessively small. A comfortable shirt that is tight enough to cover your body without hiding it is a great shirt. Showing confidence in your body is very important, as even pretending to be confident can make you feel more confident. Confidence is good for thousands of reasons, looking good is just one of them. Keep all of this in mind, and remember to keep to a simplistic color palette or you stick out like a sore thumb. Like Joshua says, keep it simple. White, grey, and black, or darker variants of colors, such as navy blue, look best. In short, don't go out trying to look unique and cool, look simple. Your appearance matters little in comparison to your personality, and focusing too much on looks can make you forget how to act.
As someone that ended a three year relationship on kinda bad terms almost a year ago I needed to hear this. I may not be looking for a relationship, but it’s always a good thing to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else.
As a women I feel I have important advice: do you want a girl who loves nerdy stuff, or do you want a girl who isn’t into the same fandoms, games, movies, shows that you are into. I love a guy who isn’t afraid to show what he loves. Graphic tees are great conversation starters but not on dates. Wear fancy stuff for that.
@@daniilillarionov9854 I’ve been dating a hot gym rat/nerd girl for the last year and a half bro. I look like a massive fck boy, and I grew up playing sports and being a “jock,” but I’ve also played DnD and am a nerd at heart
@@moonie1825 I just don’t like the style and I’m a vain c*nt. I prob could still do fine dressed like a nerd tho ig. Would lose some overall appeal tho with basic thot types
This is legitimately good advice. It's not condescending or aggressive, just well-meaning words of wisdom. I wish more guys got this kind of advice like this instead of from guys who encourage men to treat women like stupid, meaningless objects that only want to ruin your life.
Absolutely boggles my mind that people can take people like Andrew Taint seriously, despite his unhealthy view of women, failed relationships and recent charges. Those poor, lost men.
@@Talcyon64 While there are some things he said I do not agree with, he also said things like "A real Man should protect and provide for his wife and family" and that "all women are precious and should be protected". Absolutely no evidences exist for the recent charges, and most of his ex-girlfriends are protecting him even though they are not together with him anymore. Sure, they could give them money to make statements such as those, but so can others (for example Vice) give money to actresses or literally any other people to play the role of the "victims" they *supposedly* interviewed.
@@wladynoszkapitany8277 it's a grift. You'll rarely find people in history who didn't say something you also happen to agree with. You have to take this holistically (meaning the whole picture). If I tell you that we should treat animals well and with respect but also happen to own slaves does it make me still worth listening to? He's a rampant piece of garbage and harmed so many people, you don't need that tiny straw of common advice from him. And the reality is thousands start to listen there and then go to follow the rest of his rethoric. Good men, good people in general, can recognize someone paying lip service. And no evidence exists? That's wild, please look into how trafficking works and how the people go about it. Exploiting others sucks.
uhm how many couples do you know that never had a crisis? how big is your family? I know for a fact in a thousand long lasting relationship you get 3 that never tilted ever well on 997 the women definitely lost their Jimmy's. Though the 997 that nearly failed were exceptional on one thing they forgive the most horrendous creatures God had made.
4:53 this is true, in 2022 I've talked to an girl for 6 months straight, till I realize she is not interested in me, neither did she cared about me, guess what? When I stopped texting her, she never came back to ask how you doing? What's wrong? How its been? Damn I just was so dumb, never let an woman or man take place in your life like it's an "need" or "I need her to be happy", no person in this life should be responsible for your happiness.
Yea sadly a lot of women talk to multiple men with no intention to date or romance them, but keep them as emotional objects and for validation and attention. I've seen it a lot, and once you stop giving them that, they may attempt to dangle the "cheese" in front of you more. I'm sure some men do this as well. It's unfortunate behavior.
I’m not even in the market for a relationship. Someone sent me this after I told them. Most of these tips are good even if you replace “female” with “job interview” or “having a good social life” to some degree or another. Dress well, smell nice, put your hair right and shave are all things I have heard and do my best to do no matter what, and I firmly believe all others should strive to do so.
@@Onio_Saiyan damn, I hope the best come for you in life. Keep pushing, you will sooner come to the point yourself can look back and be proud of what currently you are.
My personal best advice will be this. Dont just only treat her well and with respect in her presence, treat everyone else (within reason) with respect and dignity. Especially socially perceived "lessers". Mean it sincerely. Be that person, not just for her but for yourself. People reveal their true selves in the dark or when they think the rules dont apply, be that when no one is around to enforce them or with people often prejudiced against that they dont think the rules of basic human decency should apply to. Become someone who sincerely means it. Even or especially during conflict or confrontational, losing control of yourself under stress or pressure again reveals the true content of your character. They know you or atleast should know, that you will eventually treat them the same way. You cant fake this forever and you are the worst type of person if you depend on pretending long enough until you "lock" someone in. Not all recognize they are this person, a lot of self righteous people delude themselves into thinking they are nice guys or good people. Work on bettering yourself. At the same time, expect the same from them. pay attention to how they treat others. Dont stay with someone who shows the red flags above in how they treat others or how they act under pressure or when they think no one is looking. They will treat you the same in time, they will treat you that way when they think you cant escape. They are a person and many people are terrible, dont stay with them just cause they act or look pretty. LIke the above said, standards conventional beauty is not as relevant as society tries to convince you it is but ESPECIALLY so when its just a terrible person.
We're missing some of the most important stuff. Confidence is like the #1 thing, and confidence is pointed out in the video. But where does confidence come from? Make sure that you have something you are proud of in your life, and you can share it with others in a fashion that speaks to your fundamental character. I am a teacher - that's who I am. I am proud of the fact that the person that I embody at work is 99% the same human being that I am outside of work. I am proud that I contribute something to my community, and that I make people's lives better by doing what I do. I also do a lot of reading and exercise, which shows that I am dedicated to self-improvement and new experiences. My wife has always said that my confidence was a huge factor in her attraction to me early on in our relationship, and now I get to be proud that I am married to a bonafide scientist. I was watching the league of legends world championships in her bed around date number 4 (I was spending the weekend over, do not try this during a date of a normal 2ish hours). She does not play nor relate in any way, but I didn't give a fuck because I am in shape and was an accomplished college athlete. The hobby shit that Joshua talks about here does not apply if you are *truly* confident in who you are and how you present yourself as a person. I don't hide ANY of my morals or ethics simply because I don't have to - I worked hard to be a morally upstanding person and that has worked wonders for my young adult life. Tl;dr: develop yourself so that you are *actually* attractive. Do some community service or some shit. Read a book. Go outside. Actively work towards becoming a good person on your own terms. Become someone worthy of the partner that you want. This will make you more attractive than anything else that you can possibly do. Insecurities are the death of a relationship, so become secure in yourself before looking to others for solutions or even comfort.
You just made me think about confidence in a completely different way. However, I don't think most women will think we're cool for knowing a lot of fallout lore
I was expecting this to be a reading of some tryhard or incel parody copypasta, but no, it's legitimately solid, levelheaded, reasonable advice. And it's been condensed into a 7 minute video. This is amazing.
The same common and tired platitudes is good advice to indoctrinated people. If you are a man, you really ought to know that sexually attractiveness is what will get you a woman and a few facts about male demographics and what attracts women.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 plenty of ugly people have ugly partner who love them for who they are and share simular values with, some even get lucky and find someone who's more attractive then them, but we all look the same in old age. Also if you think these """"hot"""" pick up artists are actually getting women who genuinely love them, then your in for some bad news. Stop doomer posting and wallowing in self pity. People can pick up on those vibes from miles of you. You need to be better to yourself. If you can't accept yourself and love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to give you that love and respect you can't give yourself.
@@datekaname2246 You’re too deluded to start debate with. I have my own anecdotes too. You know, the ones you don’t talk about. The middle age virgins, the used and abused ugly providers, the just wait until your late twenties. Patterns to everything and everyone.
this video is simply genious other than the actually useful tips, the key is in the character doing the talking, not just any person no matter if random or famous i think its pretty clear that people, when hearing their favourite character or a character that they respect or is in general seen as "chad" (the doomslayer would be perfect if he talked) are much more inclined into remembering those words, into following them probably wouldnt work the same with memes, having the same video read by shrek would be much funnier, but thats it, a funny video about a meme character giving dating advice, that people probably wont do, or maybe just try "for the vine" so thank you for this video, while there are not as many Joshua followers as we would like, his words wont be forgotten, if heard by the right ears
thank you so very much "Joshua Graham" I can now finally understand what it's like to be mature and respect ourseleves so we could be in an understanding relationship, I've been dealt with depression in the past two years because I was so obsessed of women that I couldn't find myself and now I feel so good of myself of how I decided to watch this video. Pornography is a sadden addiction to most males and some females I started out crying out to God and started praying so I would'nt go through the same cycle of this addiction all over again. My biggest dream is to have a happy family and since I grow through out my pains and suffering through all these years I finally made it! thank Joshua Graham you inspired me.
as a woman, you can safely ignore any texting rules. just do not blow up our phones with 3-6 texts in a row if we are not responding immediately, that shit is really fucking annoying. each person is different. I am very busy so I don't always notice when it takes a while to reply. you might get a text back from me in 1-3 hours on average, or you will get a bit of time where texts back are instant for a while. mostly because I'm ass deep in commissions a lot of the time. if anything its a complement if someone like me spends their breaks with you. my perspective is a little different because I am my own business for work. its a full time job and a half.
Im a wamen, and I can say with confidence that I like it when he texts me back right away. It shows that he cares. It may be because he has other unique aspects as well, but this behavior shows he isn't trying to be mysterious and busy. That shit is childish
Probably the biggest thing to remember is that woman are people. Average, run of the mill individuals like yourself or me. Sure they have their own differences and quirks but at the end of the day the only thing that sets them apart from say, a male counterpart are the unique traits they have that may have through their life journey. The biggest wall is accepting (and almost welcoming) the possibility of rejection that stops anyone of us from even making the first step. I'm rambling at this point but my point is, accept that you will get shut down but never let it discourage you or make you feel lesser and if it does, step back and evaluate that maybe you have an issue internally that needs to be reflected on and addressed
Fear is a tool as much as it is an obstacle. Use fear to your advantage, but never let fear stop you from doing what you please, as long as it's not a violation of God's ways, fear should be the drive pushing you forward instead of backwards, thing about it this way "if i'm scared to do something, i should do it exactly because of it"
@@cervixdevourer when copypasta gains a voice cover, it essentially gets s new life. Especially when the voice is fitting. He wouldn't know about this 4chan copypasta without this video, and even if he did, Burned Man's voice gives it an entirely different vibe. In short: stfu and enjoy Joshua speaking some facts. I still don't agree on every single point here though. Knew too many girls who were genuinely into anime and stuff. I got into it because of one.
A couple criticisms: There's nothing wrong with being passionate about a fandom or hobby, and wearing logos. Just be well-groomed, confident, and NOT OBSESSED. There are a lot of women who do, in fact, wear makeup simply because they like to. In fact many women wear makeup more for appreciation from other women, not from men. Trying to measure the perfect time you should take to respond to texts is, in fact, playing a game. While I recognize that many people do this, I believe that if she is the kind of person who does this crap, it's best to move on. The key is not about whether you appear obsessed, the key is to not BE obsessed. Be genuine, up front, respond quickly if that's important to you, and above all approach with the understanding that things may turn out well or into nothing, and that's okay. Hold your peace within you.
no, if you like something you can be obsessed with it, getting women is not the most important thing in live, live how you want to, dont listen to anyone bc the only person who is right is you
@@superbrajanek4579 point, but this is advice for people who presumably want to have a woman in their life. But by your comment, you are right, having hobbies and likes outside of relationships is healthy.
Indeed, this is a great video but thank goodness I don't have to worry about any of this garbage, as I've discovered the secret to being happily single and yet not at all lonely. I can indulge in my hobbies and fandoms as much as I wish and still live healthy and happy.
Every relationship I've had, and I am no expert in those, has involved someone who has been clearly interested in texting me even if they take time to respond 😊
Woman here, I'm glad there are videos like these and i'm so happy to see that you guys are actually taking healthy advices like these. A message that i wanna give to all of you, either you're a man or woman, the first thing that you all should do is be kind to your own selves, accept yourselves the way you are, be it your body shape or things you like, ect. and also try to improve yourselves if you need/have to. This might not mean anything coming from a stranger, but i'm proud of you and i wish you all the best, love you
@@dylanwenzel1282 she’s never out of your league chief, just believe in yourself and treat her like a normal person 👍🏻 And if she says she’s out of your league to your face then she isn’t worth your time. She can find someone just as nasty as she is.
“Axe body spray? You may as well tell her you’re a serial killer” - As someone who did this, I must agree. Axe is women repellant, and I wore it for that express purpose. The only thing Axe does beneficially is make the gym bros more friendly.
I align with everything Josh is cooking. Nevertheless, I honestly don't ever want to not be open about my fondness of anime. There was a time in my life I'd been depressed and decided I wanted to have some fun, so I changed my whole personality just to flirt with this girl for a while. Eventually I ended up dating her. By the time the relationship was over I felt vapis nothingness. A relationship is meant to be a deep personal connection. You should change and improve yourself, but understand you gotta do it in positive ways that you want to improve on. Never remould your entire being for another person. You'll end up miserable. My closest friends care for me because I am me and I expect the same from any romantic relationship. In the end changing yourself too much for one person will make it so they don't love YOU they love the idea that they molded you into. It's a relationship built on vapid ideas and masks. That ain't one worth having bros. You just gotta balance these things out dudes. The thing that made my chances with women better wasn't so much being less of an anime fan, but adding more things less to do with anime in my life. Going to more parties, trying out clothes I wasn't usually into and just in general most of what the video here says. I'm as much of an anime fan as I've always been, but it's just a matter of having more in your life outside of your hobbies not completely cutting it off or having less most of the time. Balance bros.
Nobody is telling you to remould your entire being. 5:00 it's literally 'just calm down with the fuckin anime'. Keep it private and ease it into the relationship if she's warm to it too, or not at all if she is not.
@@Hadgerz The main advice is too cool it with the anime obsession, but bro treats it like a dirt lil secret. If it was any other hobby like movies, sports or arts and crafts you wouldn't do the same. Not coming off strong with your hobbies is cool and all, but the guy straight up makes it sound like chicks will immediately get turned off by simple stuff like your merch as though it's a kids thing. Those chicks are just shallow as heck. Most women are chill and just playing with the merch and borrowing manga. She doesn't have to be into the hobby, but if simple stuff like some posters and funko pops is enough to turn her off then she's just shallow. And you're just wasting your time on people who are fickle like that.
I completely agree with your words. I used to be obsessed with anime and video games. Those were the only things that really made me who I am. They formed my entire personality, and they were the only things that I looked for in others to form a connection. In time I learned how shallow that actually was, and what really matters is sharing the same values(kindness, honesty, ,dedication, etc.) not what kind of media you consume. It's ok to enjoy things just don't let them consume your life. Of course you shouldn't change yourself for others but be aware that you're not perfect and not everything you enjoy is good for you. It's ok to watch anime and other media just don't use it as a type of escapism and live through the mc's life instead of your own. cheers... Edit: Also Funkos are just shit, sorry. At least from anime just can get some good message and Nendoroids are kinda cute, but funkos are just peak consoomer bullshit, giving money to corporations for ugly dust collectors.
@@TheAfroman95 Yup. I'm glad things worked out for ya. Side note: Do people hate Funkos this much?💀 I thought they are kinda cute, but I guess their not as popular as I thought 😅
@@bornanime3255 I guess it's a matter of taste. The bug eyes never really did it for me tbh😂. The vibe I got from people that bought them was never really for the art, but to satisfy some hoarder impulse or something 😅
Best advice I got was “don’t lie about who you are.” You have to be the real you. You can’t pretend to be someone else forever. She will catch on. This attracts a real compatible partner and greatly reduces your anxiety. Just avoid lying to her altogether. That builds trust, and remember that real love is wanting her to be happy. Remember the ending of Bruce Almighty… You can’t force a woman to like you, only fan the flames of pre-existing attraction. Also, consent is key.
I disagree. If I were just myself I would be anti-social and avoid women because of social anxiety. Maybe some people listening to this video are currently slobs and need to work on themselves. I surely wouldn't tell them to be themselves. For some things you really have to learn to change and become a new you. "Just be yourself" is the most bullshit wrong advice for men I've heard my entire life to the point that it annoys me when people say it. Learn to be comfortable with yourself, and learn to be comfortable with other people. If you have social anxiety, look up self-help posted by real therapists, there's fantastic videos on youtube on the subject.
@@chdata I literally got this advice from Cinema Therapy on youtube. If the real you is a slob or ridden with anxiety, you have to reveal that person to begin to change. Changing bad habits also doesn’t mean changing who you are, it’s changing the habit/behavior. Tbh I know a dude who is absurdly obnoxious, aggressively bisexual, and smells like death 24/7. He has a girlfriend. She’s not hot, but he’s got her.
Half right. Be yourself. But Also improve. We never stop growing just some people stop caring. If so it's truly over. Be you but strive to be the best you. Maybe hell idk try video games and move onto coding or maybe watching animal documentaries and move onto bird watching and learning to take care of animals.
@@chdata Since when did becoming a good person contradict being yourself? Building confidence in yourself can be done without faking it...its being courageous to say "I'm going to be genuine" from a place of genuiness and being fine with the outcome. As long as your trying to be good any girl who is also good will like that...and even if they are not attracted to you they will at least like talking to you.
For everyone that is hung up on the anime thing, there is enjoyment and then there is off putting obsession. I have long discussions with my husband on the ins and outs of the anime’s we watch, and I love these conversations because they are stimulation. That is different than my husband spending money (or just a little too much money) on anime t-shirts or decorations. For example, I went to an anime convention and my sister in law got me a Rengoku/Akasa artkwork, it’s beautiful, I love it. I don’t have it on display. I’ve had it for 2 years now, I don’t know if I’ll ever have it displayed. There is a certain slide of maturity/immaturity that is portrayed with display pieces like that and you have to consider what and where you are in your relationship. If all you have is anime talk then there is not much else there, we want more and we often want it with the same level of enthusiasm. At some point they won’t want to have their ear talked off about anime and want to hear of all the things you got done around the house unprompted like taking out the garbage, putting down mice traps, taking the car to get an oil change and having it cleaned out (bonus points if you did it yourself)
I appreciate the point about tasks to be done (Like Car maintenance or daily chores. If you're moving into a new home, changing your mailing address is your top priority). As for the whole anime-obsession topic, along with hording, there is a fine line between being obsessive and being in control of yourself via your spending habits. My thing isn't anime per-se, save for me mimicking the overall art style like everyone else, but my collection of figures and games is more so like me being a curator. I balance my budget, I only go for the best when I plan it, I always keep the concept of postponing gratification in mind, and I don't just buy random things on a whim. I don't buy things I won't need or know that I'll get bored with it down the line. As for conversation topics, you couldn't be more right. It is important to have a foundation for other things to discuss at length outside of entertainment. Politics ain't my thing, but it could be anything from nature, enjoying the scenery of anything, or even stargazing.
@@nickthepick8043 absolutely, in my household we have varying topics, the one my husband is ready to talk my ear off with is table top, which is fine most of the times, but we also do politics, not party specific but policy specific and how it will affect us, I live in CA, and there is a case here of a mom who’s child got taken away by CPS because she would not allow “affirming care” well the girl was given “affirming care” by the government and ended up throwing herself in front of train tracks. As parents that terrifies us, because we are also seeing policies that promote that sort of lifestyle for children. How will that affects our son? Do we have to worry about his grade teacher making him question himself and convince him he must be a girl because he likes to cook? Will they give him “affirming care” behind our backs as a concerning amount of school are doing? We also have other topics like skin care (I’m an new esthetician) medical stuff, new research studies in medicine or biology fascinates us. But to be honest, what really kicks the dopamine bucket is my husband saying he got the laundry done, or he did dishes, or that he did chore “x” that really makes me smile and happy, and makes feel better about my ear being talked off about table top.
As a woman I agree with everything here but 2 big things. While some women do pretend to like male things, it happens I don't deny it, many of us do genuinely like video games, anime and cars. It is not just a male thing and thinking that will eventually become clear sooner or later which will make us feel like you are invalidating our interests. I thought ol Joshua would know that. Yes, the primary purpose of make up is to make us look as good as society unfairly expects women to at all times, attract partners, and cover insecurity. But we can also like makeup just because we like to look extra good for the day for ourselves. Thinking of us as vain and insecure just shows how little you think of us. Just... treat us like people capable of our own individual personalities regardless of the statistics on what most men or women do and don't do. Not doing that is cringe.
Ol Josh did get it right when he said “Women are just like men, only to a different degree”. Plus, my girl literally owns a kilogram of Hatsune Miku merch. That ain’t a brag that shit is cringe, and just a placeholder for the real shit; Real Grade Gunpla models 😤
@@tribacioustee2846 Why even keep statistics in mind if it means you have to change yourself and, as a result, end up with a partner who doesn't fit you? Wouldn't that be a waste of time?
Some good advice, meh advice, and just stuff I'd downright disagree with on a fundamental level. Respect yourself is a good start. Which means get clothes that give off a look you LIKE not just comfortable with. Wash yourself, treat your body, and definitely learn to talk to others even if it starts online. I dunno maybe I'm the minority when success is made but I got girlfriends from being my weird self and not hiding anything. I'm not ashamed I like cartoons, anime, animation or whatever else you'd call it. I wasn't embarrassed when my gf saw my old collection of decorative swords, toys, or airsoft. Women out there (or anything else we don't discriminate) are attracted to people who they get along with, can be comfortable around, and provide more than just a passing experience. Nothing I say is to discredit the vid but to open the lense a little bit. Ask yourself if you're truly interested because you want a partner (seems to be the vibe) or you want someone because that's what you were told/taught to want. To all anyone on this vid looking for companionship I really do hope you do well in your search. I know it can be difficult and feel meaningless, but just like Graham and many of your idols: the human spirit is indomitable. You only fail when you let yourself fall. Keep moving, rest when you need it and don't break yourself.
I haven't watched much of this cause I was certain it would be the same regurgitated manosphere bs we've been hearing from grifters online for years just repackaged (hide who you really are, "game" 🤢) and this comment basically confirms it if u have to hide who you are to get with someone it's not worth it. Most people who think they can't get into a relationship just actually aren't ready for one. I say this from my experience, I just got into my first "real" romantic relationship where we are actually dating & have plans for our future together... it just sorta happened. I didn't go out and try and find my partner we just found each other when u are ready for it u will be able to find someone that's right for you.... period. I've watched a bit more now and it's not as bad as I thought pretty alright but I'd say this is still overcomplicating it. Acting like u need to dress nice, smell nice & act nice to be desirable is just looking at it from a straight guys' pov who wants a girly girl that's clean & pretty. Some people are into gritty & grimy dudes who come home covered in dirt 😊 Just be yourself 💖
@Lin is Nil I'd say dress nice and smell nice are a bit true but not the core of it. Dress how you LIKE is what I say because it will genuinely boost confidence when you get and wear clothes you want. Smelling nice is a by product of caring about your health and hygiene. People will be more interested if you make the effort to be healthy y'know. Like I said though lots of stuff here I'd be critical here myself but I also hate shitty platitudes like "be yourself" and stuff. The vibe is definitely straight guys here I feel like, but my like two points I feel are universal. I'm glad you found someone though. In today's climate I think it's great when people finally find a partner. Edit:OH and smelling nice for a guy is kinda the same for like make up on a woman imo. Mine's explained to me that the make up isn't for me or guys but her. She wears it too look good to her. So I've adopted the smell thing for guys. As pog as it'd be for guys,to like accentuate their jaws or to conture our muscles it's obviously still looked down on to put make up on. So the smell thing is my kinda version of that.
Joshua graham is the best thing to ever come from FNV. This is why. Also,many props for putting actual advice in this. I wish there were more people as genuine as you in this world
Hearing the advice to walk into cologne instead of spraying it directly gives me the affirmation that I've been doing it right all along! Thank you for your works so far, sir Aogiri. You're a part of a greater whole of motivation for us young men everywhere. And to those out there yearning for attention from women, we're all in this together, so help a brother out and share this with your saddest, loneliest friend and help him too, to see the Light.
^ My ex used to tell me the same thing. I'd just roll my eyes and keep doing it my way. She preferred a nuclear smell, but I don't. I gag anytime I walk past a guy with too much. Had the same bottle for the past several years, still plenty to go. I spray 3 times up front, walk forward, 1 time behind, walk backward, done. Believe it or not, I still get compliments on it and don't smell like a nuke walking around, so to each their own. x3
You are wasting your cologne. Not only is most of it falling to the floor, but the cologne that does get on you doesn't have a chance to work because it'll just be on your clothes. You are far better off applying small amounts of cologne to your neck, chest, and wrists.
^ I can usually smell it on my clothes after work and have gotten compliments over time using my method. If it works for this long, why change it? Efficiency isn't a priority since the bottle is cheap and 12oz or so. It's lasted a few years and is at half capacity.
"dont simply use these women, enjoy the time and make their lives better through your treatment and attention to them, you might be surprised to learn that looks fade" my boy joshua graham lining them up with the "you're not that hot either and the only thing you really want is someone whos going to want to wake up next to you" shhhiieeetttt
For the makeup thing, I’m gonna explain it in the way my girlfriend did that finally made me get it. Sometimes women dont wear makeup to fix their looks, or for men, but they like that it makes them feel pretty. Don’t tell them they’re prettier without makeup. They spend a lot of time on their makeup and they’re proud of the work they put into it. In the same way your girlfriend may never get whats so special about that cool thing you grinded for in a game, you may never get what the point of spending an hour on makeup is. However, clearly it means enough to them to put time and effort into and you should appreciate and respect that. If your girlfriend comes around and you notice she’s done her makeup different, tell her she looks pretty. Same if she doesn’t have makeup on, or if their makeup just looks the same. They put a lot of time and care into their looks that us guys don’t really do, a lot of them have a daily routine of using face washes and lotions and shit, so when you tell them they look good it means a lot more than you know. Besides that, the rest of this video is really good advice that I wish I heard years ago before I learned the hard way.
Before you criticize women for wasting their time applying make-up, remember how long you spend killing enemies for random drops in your favorite RPG to get a new piece of swag for your virtual character. Men often have the same priorities as women, but don´t realize they are simply applying them at different moments, for different reasons, to the same or lesser effect. "We are the same, but different."
Decent advices, but i'll always follow my Grandpa many advices that he gave me through my life (may his soul rest in peace) "Don't change yourself to please others be how you like to be and eventually you'll find people that enjoy being with you" / "just take constructive criticism from people you trust"/ Don't try to be friends with everyone, there will be people that will hate you for no reason so just be acquainted and in good terms with most of them and many doors will open due of that, also you'll make some friends along the way"/ "Respect others and you'll be respected too". Those are some advices that i can remember at the moment. Truth be told i've followed them all and i had some positive outcomes most of the time, so i hope those advices help you guys too. (English is not my main language so if any typo or wrong term is used i'd like you to tell me and sorry in advance)
@@PaygunFGC He truly was a good man, treated me like a son and helped me through hard times, thanks to him i'm doing what i love as a job and i managed to overcome all of those hardships. I wish he would still be alive, really miss him..
And, most important of all, *just be you.* Have boundaries, respect yourself, know what you want, and act in a way that's true to your needs and sustainable. For most people, healthy relationships are 100% natural and autonomous side effect of living your life the way you want to. I knew someone who met their SO on WoW who was in the Navy, and they're still married over a decade later. You don't force these kinds of things long term. Don't feel like you need to have a relationship to validate you and the things you like, either, because that's not a relationship; that's a co-dependent attitude. A significant other isn't for everyone, *trust me.* Some people operate better on their own, some people prefer to have casual relationships, some people are prone to toxic bonds that detract from all participants. You don't have to want what everyone else has, we live in a time when you can be who you want and love who you want, if you want to. That's a choice, exercise it.
>just be you >Have boundaries, respect yourself, know what you want, and act in a way that's true to your needs and sustainable Which one do you want me to do??????
@@Raoul. Not having boundaries is part of "who you are"? How is that advice contradictory? You don't need to forego your personality to carry yourself in that way, unless being wishy-washy and easily used is part of who you are, but in that case I'd say change that. Be yourself but realize that not every aspect of "yourself" is going to be the best thing to show the world, some of what makes you who you are be trash, and might need to be thrown out or changed. like let's be real, jeffery dahmer was just "being himself" too. But I don't think drugging and eating people was getting him any long lasting relationships was it?
@@Raoul. If you're having trouble with all those things, I think your perception of who you are is very weak. I'd recommend you take some time to get to know yourself. Don't ASSIGN traits to yourself, go looking, and FIND them. It's worth asking yourself WHY you have trouble setting boundaries, or respecting yourself, or identifying your needs and wants. Were you raised in an environment that molded you to be quiet and subservient? An environment that did not cater to your needs, so you learned to Not Need, or Not Want? Think about small ways you can assert yourself in the future. Practicing setting boundaries can be as simple as stopping the waiter from refilling your drink. When we are so used to being modest and demure, the smallest moment of speaking up can feel like you're being rude, but stay polite and I promise any average person will take no offense. Everything gets easier with practice, and can even become second nature. Just make sure that it's You. Best of luck ❤
This works. The advice works to a very good degree. Women want emotionally secure, mature, and stoic creatures. They want use to look put together and disciplined. They want us to be brave and be gentleman. They want us to be unafraid to speak our minds and hearts. Finding the right person takes time, and it may be the right person, wrong time. Life is harsh and tragic. Relationship are difficult. Learn to forgive yourself, move on, and learn. Fight for what you love. Man up. I love you all
The hardest part is keeping them around. Most girls aren't able to support you unless they truly love you. Don't go for sex appeal. It's not worth it. As a male sexual assault survivor, I truly wish I focused on slowing down and stop being mistreated. I still have that problem, picking the wrong people in my life. But we all start somewhere. I believe all of us can return to a golden age of gentleman again.
While the most important thing when pursuing a relationship is to respect the other person, it is extremely closely followed by respecting oneself. This does not mean that you should worship or bend to your partner’s every whim, but that you should respect their needs for privacy, personal time, enjoyment, and mental health. Immediately after that, you respect yourself in a manner that both allows you to have confidence and be yourself to a healthy extent and not allow a partner to take advantage of you. This works to the reverse as well. If a partner that you want to pursue a life with cares more for their own wants than your needs, they are not worth it. You must have self-respect both to be appealing and to avoid getting hurt. Order your priorities in this way: your partner’s needs (as in safety, security, stability, and health), your own needs, your partner’s wants, and your own wants. By valuing your needs over your partner’s wants you create a boundary that will not allow them to solicit you, and by valuing your wants second you give your partner respect that ought to be reciprocated. At the bottom of the barrel should be what society thinks of you and your partner. This manner of respect is a two-way street that your partner should subscribe to as well if you want a healthy relationship.
A lot of this is very good advice. Though I will say, that while I reluctantly agree that showing your interest in anime can unfortunately be enough of a reason for women to be turned off or think of you as being immature, if all it takes is for me to say "I like anime" or have like one wall scroll/poster of my favorite show in my apartment to get that kind of reaction from them then I personally would feel better off if it did turn them away. I don't believe I'd want to stay in a relationship with someone whom I have to constantly hide my passions or hobbies from. I've been watching these shows ever since I was a young teenager, so pretending like I hate it or that it's not an active part of my interests would just make me feel awful and I don't think that kind of relationship is healthy for anyone regardless of what the hobby may be. The reason I think it's still good advice though is because I believe there's a huge stereotype that mainstream pop culture and media has put out there. To be frank, I'm actually surprised you didn't include video games as well when you mentioned this. While the medium is more acceptable now, it wasn't all that long ago that gamers were seen as being incredibly immature for playing games or having games be a primary hobby. All too often have I heard people say that if you want to make a dating profile, you absolutely should not include anime and games as part of your hobbies. Or that if those are your hobbies that you should "get a new one." Even if you include other hobbies such as music, hiking, skating, etc just the mere mention of those two will turn people away. Like they'll completely ignore the fact that you DO have OTHER interests, just because those two hobbies are listed alongside the rest. There is this strange assumption that gamers and/or fans of anime don't have any interest in experiencing other things in life. Take sports for example. I don't watch or talk about a lot of sports, though I did play soccer when I was younger. But, it has nothing to do with my interest in games or anime. I simply don't think they are entertaining to watch while on the sofa in my living room. If I'm going to watch a sport I'd much rather go see it in person. Many gamers or fans of anime are more than willing to go out and do things like hiking, jogging, going to the gym, going to concerts, checking out plays or other similar live events. But people often times just assume that we wouldn't enjoy doing those things, or they don't even bother to ask us if we'd be interested. To say this feels frustrating is a bit of an understatement, especially since there was a time where I had to hide these interests for fear of being bullied, ostracized, or discriminated. But like I said, I do agree that it is good advice. Unfortunately, that's just how the majority of people are when it comes to this sort of thing.
Thing is, don't make your whole life spin around just entertainment media, maybe unless you work on it. Maybe the video was calling out for man-childs like people that won't break off the comfort zone, I'm somewhat guilty of that too but I'm trying to get my feet wet out of my bubble way more than before. It's not that you have to hide it, it's more like you need to have other things to do and work on yourself as much as possible, gain experience on life, anything. Women can also like entertainment media, and show their passion about it just like men. Having something in common, share thoughts about some show, games it's something that shouldn't feel alien while on a relationship. But having an obsession is something on another level.
This guy thinks women who like nerdy shit are a myth or lying about enjoying it to get attention, so take what he says with a big old grain of salt. Sure, some people think anime and video games mean you're immature or whatever, male and female, but I sure as shit didn't spend entire weekends playing games alone in my house because I was hoping that some guy might peak into my window and catch a fucking glimpse lol It's perfectly okay to have interests and hobbies and look for a partner who shares them, or at bare minimum won't judge you for it. My husband and I bonded over our similar tastes in movies, shows, anime, and games and now we do those things together :)
Like someone said, don't revolve your life around media like anime and games but holy crap, I see too many edgelords nowadays who think the new "in" thing to do is bash on things like anime, videogames, etc and immediately associate them with the less savory crowd.
i love how he said this will trigger some of you and then you have people writing paragraph retorts on the exact thing he said. The Burned Man is 10 steps ahead
Lets not forget that old joshy boy is a murdering enslaving pyscho and the right hand of Ceaser himself. More Joshs in the world would mean a lot more dead bodies. Like... A lot of dead bodies. He is 100% for genocide, murder, slavery and lots of other... "Sins". Also he is a mormon... So... Need i say more on why more mormons in the world would probably be a bad idea?
I guess its time to throw in my story (instead of doing my coursework lol). I was not a social butterfly when I entered my teens. Socially awkward, withdrawn, and very inwardly focused. As I progressed through my early teen years, I surrounded myself with like-minded people. Me n' the boys would shoot the shit and talk about practically anything, but it was during that time where I started developing a resentment to my more social peers. I very nearly became an incel, as I felt that I the reason why girls wouldn't talk to me were absolutely superficial. The whole bullshit of girls only chasing assholes and dumb/popular jocks was something that I perceived as my reality (with hindsight, this was such a dumb take for younger me to have). It took me moving to a different country for me to finally break that negative cycle that I had trapped myself in. I finally started working out (I wasn't very physically active when I was in my early teens, and was even pre-diabetic), meeting new people, making new friends, and touching more grass (really it did wonders). I still didn't have any luck with girls in highschool, but I ultimately didn't feel resentment at that. I understood that I was simply not doing enough to better my image, and was mainly waiting for the right opportunity. After graduating and entering a community college, I became exposed to more people with similar interests. I joined a club and finally took greater steps to improve myself. I finally started to shave consistently (My family isn't known for strong facial hair. I just end up getting a scraggly mess around my neck if I don't shave), wear cologne, and acquire a better wardrobe. I ended up meeting some girls, dated some of them, fell out with some, and became friends with some. I took the steps to better my mental and physical image, but it would have amounted to nothing if I didn't develop my social skills either. Just talking with girls raised my self-esteem and made me more comfortable communicating. I went into conversations not expecting anything to happen and it helped immensely knowing I didn't have to impress or flirt. I'm seeing a girl currently and it wouldn't be possible if a mutual friend of ours didn't set us up. She's smart, hard working, kind, fun, and beautiful. We aren't too serious and I wouldn't call her my girlfriend just yet, but i'm hoping that we can get to know each other more and have experiences that make pleasant memories to look back on. I wouldn't have this if I didn't join the club, and I wouldn't have joined the club if I didn't learn to socialize or seek new experiences. I wouldn't have this if I had not taken the steps to better myself. If you read this, what I want you to take away from this is don't sell yourself short. Don't be afraid to step away from your comfort zone every once in a while. Start small and build on previous accomplishments to get to where you are. It'll take time and work (I turned 20 a little over a month ago, and only really entered the dating scene when I turned 18.), but you'll be all the better for it, I know I am. Edit: Also Im a HUGE nerd for history, videogames, and military vehicles. Still I only really bring it up when relevant or asked about it. If anything my knowledge of history impressed the girl I'm seeing since she had a personal connection to it.
Big thing I learned, humility intentions and self awareness. If you can't look at things from other people's point of view and understand when you're going too far, then you're going to make regretful mistakes in relationships. And if you go into an interaction thinking you want a loving relationship, but have the hidden intention of just wanting sex, then you've already lost. Think inwardly and stop yourself the second you realize your intentions aren't 100% honest.
Agreed. Your outward actions must be aligned with your intentions to have the best chance at achieving them. If you secretly just want sex, there are ways to pursue that without being dishonest with yourself and the women you talk to. If you truly want a loving relationship, you also need to recognize that and pursue that without making it seem like you are just desperate for sex. There are millions of women out there, many who want lasting relationships, some who don't want any relationship, and others who want a good fuckbuddy. By being true to yourself you can filter for the kinds of women you want to attract, and avoid dealing with women who want something different than you do.
Take solace in being alone nothing is wrong with being by yourself. Edit: the razor scooter line actually made have ptsd style flashbacks to my childhood.
Now that I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm trying to focus mostly on improving myself, learning new things, securing my future, going out and having fun. But I can't pretend that it isn't tiring. I still haven't met anyone. Most women still aren't interested in me, or I'm not interested in them. Usually, when a connection happens, it stops at friendship. Most women I get along with are either taken, or they're lesbian. Seriously, I have a lot of lesbian friends, and I don't know why that pattern is there. I know the adult thing to do is buckle up and keep doing what I'm doing, but I'm so tired, man...
@@MyRedHulk I know you may not want to hear this, but it will happen when it happens. Just focus on your life, improve yourself and what you do, and don’t be afraid of rejection. You can’t control other people:there is no secret trick you can do. But if you are genuine and shape yourself into the sort of person you want to be, you will find that you have become the sort of person others want to be with. Beyond that, don’t take it as a personal hit. Our culture now can make it seem as if sex determines worth, as if you’re a loser for not being in a relationship, but you aren’t. They’re important, but not important enough for you to lose sleep over it. You aren’t “missing out”, this is just your life. Nor are you somehow a failure, or screwed from the start, or any of that. It’ll happen eventually, with a girl you’ll meet and hit it off with. But the darkly ironic part is that that sort of thing will happen likely after you have emotionally grown and aren’t feeling so bad about it. Good luck.
@@nostalgicactuator8448 Thank you for your kind words. I haven't given up hope yet that it'll happen. Or that I'll eventually stop caring about it, like you said. In the meantime, I'm working on becoming the person I want to be, but even that will likely take time, so at least I'm occupied. Again, I really appreciate your advice. I didn't expect such kindness from an internet stranger today.
Certain trends in sexuality and social interests are prevelant today and will change in time, especially with young people. Focus on whats in front of you and keep moving forward. Im sure you are doing better than you realize friend.
absolutely gold, very old very true ideas on how to operate in the world of dating as a man who actually wants to seek relationship or even wedlock, most people need it, most won't take it to heart, but in the end getting messages like this out there again and again and in ways like this really shine on the human condition, all in all guess I'm really just saying thanks in a really long way :9)
Had a good laugh until the two and a half minutes mark, then I realised this is actually giving some great advice for guys in this generation that are falling into the effeminate trap and deifying women. Confidence is key, and if you lack it go for a walk, run or sneaky workout, nothing boosts your confidence like a shot of testosterone.
@@seasnaill2589basically that any masculinity/effeminateity is toxic. Most media anymore makes fun of being proud of your masculinity (or in your case, effeminateity)
@@thareasonisme Not really. Certain masculine traits sure, but masculinity as a whole, no. strength, courage, independence, leadership are valued by the society at large and all of those are associated with masculinity. In my experience some media vilifies extremes of those traits. For instance extreme independence. Refusing to work with anyone, due to your fragile ego is seen as bad. And some media insist that those masculine traits are not necessary for a happy life (You don't need to be muscular gym bunny to be happy) Indeed most feminists would tell you that it's more of a "Toxic Masculinity vs. Healthy Masculinity" thing. Me included.
@@petavaldman2150 Would love a description on the difference between toxic and healthy masculinity. I did have an interesting read into toxic masculinity and feminity though and noticed something that made me laugh. Google both if you don't believe what you read below. "Toxic masculinity: Toxic masculinity is an attitude or set of social guidelines stereotypically associated with manliness that often have a negative impact on men, women, and society in general." "Toxic Femininty: Toxic femininity, to put it simply, describes behavior that reflects or supports gender-based stereotypes or social norms for women. Exposure to these social norms and stereotypes typically begins at an early age, and this mindset isn't your fault." Toxic masculinity is the individuals/mans fault and effects men women and society negatively. Toxic femininity is not the individual/womans fault, they're essentially "opressed" into femininity. Almost seems like masculinity is seen as toxic because traditional feminine traits are now considered toxic and women now have to coopt to masculine ones.
It’s because they pussyfoot around topics to extend the length of the video or to give you the idea they are an expert for talking longer. Advice is short and simple, it’s goal is to give you an idea of what you need or not do.
This is one of the better "AI voice gives you advice" videos because it gives specific, bracing advice and provides reasoning for a lot of it. This isn't just feel-good claptrap.
"Stop talking so much on dates or interactions" 100% true. You want her to be talking as much as you can while saying as little as you can to keep the conversation going.
To an extent I disagree, you should both be able to hold a conversation without relying on one person to carry it. But at the same time you also shouldn't be a chatterbox and drowning out the other person entirely.
It's really easy to get people to talk about their self tbh, but you can gauge how interested a person is when they start asking about you or throwing you a bone in conversation.
@@reddeath4806 It's a healthy balance. I think the purpose of the statement in the video wasn't to get a mans potential prospects to carry the conversation; It was to remind the listener to be mindful of how much they're talking compared to their date. A person (male or female, in this case) talking too much or too little can both convey disinterest. It's very important to keep a conversation flowing naturally and make both parties think that they're not talking too much or too little. Someone thinking they aren't socializing correctly can placebo themselves into *actually* not socializing correctly. Keeping it balanced mitigates the risk.
@@inwit594 But what if I genuinely couldn't care less about the vapid stuff she's spewing? I can fake interest for sure but in the end I just get bored and disinterested if they talk a lot. I can't stand when people talk a lot without saying anything of actual depth or uniqueness.
@@reddeath4806 the thing is men generally tend to talk a lot, and also talk over people a lot, especially those who don't have a ton of social experience. it's a good tip to be mindful of how much you're saying compared to the other person. no one wants to be talked at all day.
Best pick up line. Just introduce yourself and talk about something. Eventually tell her you think she is cute and you want to get to know her better. If you are in a public setting like a bar or coffeeshop ask if you can buy her a drink(if you can afford it) and if she would be willing to sit with you. If not, ask her for her number. If she isn't interested just move on. She could have any number of reasons, and most of the time it probably isn't your fault unless you can look back and definitively say that was a little creepy. But yeah...just talk. Throw in a small compliment every once and a while and she will come around. Women are looking for a vibe...that's it. If you can match her energy she is gonna be interested.
Very wholesome and exactly the kind of advice I give to friends and co-workers who feel they can't get girls. It's not as hard as you think. I can't stress enough about how far looking put together goes. Just wear fitting clothing, avoid logos and appear like you respect yourself enough to care about your appearance. Looking like a Chad but dressing like Shaggy from Scooby Doo won't get you very far.
There is nothing wrong with logos or designs. This is not the 1940's anymore where black and white t shirts were basically the only things people had to wear. From movies, to books ,to video games to music/band shirts. They all have their place and should be worn. Who wants to see an endless sea of people in black and white shirts? Be clean, yes. Smell good, yes. For the love of fuck use deodorant and brush your teeth and drink water. But to say that you should be wearing black and white t shirts? Come on. My band shirts have opened so many conversations and i have met a lot of good friends that way. And his whole speel about girls trapping men by pretending to be interested in "mens hobbies" being a trap is chauvinistic at best and out right misogynistic at worst.
@@BobBobby-kt4sc Ngl I've seen it happen tho, two guys I know had women who put themselves out there as nerdy and wanting to nerd out with them and their friends and it didn't actually work out that way at all Like with dudes, some girls are genuinely interested in the stuff with no motivation but their interest. Some are not interested in it natively but are keen to get involved for their S/O's or friends etc And some absolutely feign interest because it makes them stand out The first two groups shouldn't be lumped in with the third but that doesn't mean we should pretend that it doesn't happen
@@BobBobby-kt4sc There is definitely some old standards mixed in with some genuinely good advice. Like someone who grew up in the 80s when the 'men don't understand women' bullshit was at its height.
@@BobBobby-kt4sc I could not agree more. And that whole "women wear make-up to attract men" is also wrong. In female prisons women still wear make-up and some even sleep with prison staff to get make up, which seems to be completely backward to what this video said. In my experience women do it to "feel cute" not to look cute.
My only real argument with this is the part about collecting stuff from fandoms, enjoy your interests, if you love what you like and put effort into it be it video games or shows or tabletop then buy what you want and do what makes you happy. Having and showing actual interests is better than hiding it, my girlfriend might not get wet or fall head over heels because of my legos and transformers but she loves that I love them. She knows they mean a lot to me and it’s something I can talk about with her even though she doesn’t always understand she knows it means something to me when I’m able to share my interests as I do the same for her.
I think is up to having it be a part of you and not your entire self, like its cool to be passionate about a series of books/manga , a world of cartoon or anything, but if it is all that you are and you dont have anything else it is a problem, i dont have a lot of dating experience but for me if what defines a personality of someone is a series of netflix, an anime or anything at all is just not worth puting effort in knowing the person (sorry if there is many whiting mistakes, English is not my first language)
I agree, BUT this speech isn't exactly meant for people with a balanced mindset. Often people who are too deep into a negative mindset or overly invested into a show/medium that it interfered with their ability to speak to people in person need harsher advice to stick in their mind. Ideally, partners should at least respect each other's interest and engage as far as they can with them.
That was the only bad advice in the video. Pretending you don't enjoy the things you enjoy, or just outright hiding your hobbies and interests just because of "anime bad" normie FPS gamer culture is absolutely not what you should do in a relationship, since relationships are built on trust and shared interests. That part of the video felt biased.
I love the video overall. It's a great message of improving yourself, which is important even if you're not seeking any sort of relationship. Be hygienic, social, kind, and temper obsessions (though I think that last one is gone overboard), those are all good things. Heck, I'm a married man, and my goal is most of if not all those things. Good hygiene makes you feel better, even introverts are social creatures, being good feels nice, and obsessions give diminishing returns after a point. Honestly, the only parts that I disagree with are the "practice sex" part (I very much believe chastity is important for both men and women to be happy long-term), and the whole "don't show interest in anime" thing is basically advising that you actively seek shallow women, as women that don't like you having different hobbies tend to turn into women that hate seeing you happy, which defeats the point of being in a relationship, romantic or otherwise
I think many people are taking that anime part the wrong way I think what i meant was to not be an anime obsessed person at the first glance/on the first sight Like ... do not make your yourself look as if your whole personality can be summarized as "i am an anime obsessed" at the first glance Let them get to know you over time and THEN bring these in slowly in time Not that "never watch or talk about anime", this isn't the message the video was going, other wise the line "some anime are works of art" wouldn't have existed in the script
@@TiredDoktor6391 and I agree with temperance in the matter. But the whole thing of "slowly introduce it", even though I don't believe it to be intentional, is hard to not read as "lie about who you are" in the wider context. Which is a manipulation tactic. Again, I totally agree with not making it your whole personality. But you wouldn't give the advice to, say, hide a collection of baseball caps, basketball jerseys, or sneakers, yeah? Then why should a guy hide a collection of anime figurines? Unless the figurines are the more perverse type, of course, but I'd argue that to be something a person should remove from their life regardless of whether they're trying to enter a relationship. If it's important to you, and something the other person can't stand the sight of, then the relationship isn't going far. You could call it "bad practice" to be in such a relationship.
Your last point is exactly what I was thinking lmao. How does the author say that we shouldn't go after women based on looks alone because that'd be like buying a broken down car with a nice pain job (great analogy btw); but a few moments later tell us to hide our passions because women don't like seeing anime posters, shirts, or figurines? Is this not doing the same exact thing but the shoe is on the other foot? If a girl I'm talking to is turned off by my hobbies and passions without getting to know me or how I interact with them, she is shallow. So, to go after these women would be to do the thing he just said not to do lmao. I understand that being obsessive over these things and making them your whole personality is not the way to go. But if I have to hide who I am and what I enjoy, then she isn't the one for me.
@@dalebumpaous1502 My man spitting rn 😂 Yeah, I agree with what the other guy was saying but we have to go off of what the author said. And "slowly introduce it" is basically saying, hide who you are until a later time. And ironically, even this could still lead to the woman leaving. So, if she is going to leave upon finding out you like anime and other nerdy stuff, I would rather that happen early on instead of going through the stress of hiding who I am. Maybe stress is not the right word. But I am a very genuine person looking for a very genuine relationship. And if I have to hide who I am or my interests (non-obsessive), then imma just look for someone who can appreciate me. The same way I appreciate them.
This fireside chat with Graham raised everyone's Charisma by +2.
Depending on the biuld, it could be a limited buff
Damn, now I have 3 charisma!
Great this is brilliant now I have
2 charisma ……..
@@dakingofbootleg1229 At least now you're not unconscious.
@@epigone1796 hold on I got this
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"We all get saggy, old and decrepit so marrying for looks or sex is like buying a broken down car with a new paint job" Joshua spitting the facts
Sex is mostly a youthful thing. And what this guy is proposing is preposterous.
Sex isn’t the whole car but it’s the wheels on the car
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 libido and appearances fade over time, some even sooner than others.
Take that away and ask yourself if it wasn't for intercourse or appearances, would you honestly be happy with spending the rest of your life with X person. Think hard about it, because if appearance and intercourse is the main reason, then that realtionship isn't going pan the test of time.
@@datekaname2246 If my gf is hot and white with nice bones, I really don’t care. The last phases of life suck ass for everybody, so that entire point is moot.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 This commer like attitude is why your still single. Nothing wrong with wanting to smash. But don't complain about never finding any indepth relationships with anyone who actually cares about you.
I am willing to follow the great word of Joshua Graham
Yes
Who?
Wait till you follow the word of God
@@markrichards7452fr. Tried it. Gotta say it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Even despite the struggles. Praise be to god bro.
Joshua graham is the master we all wish we had before our first date to help us learn
The art is what really sells it for me. It shows him with a girl (courier) and not romantically or anything but simply walking together and both looking kind of happy. It's perfect
That's what love is. It's not embracing and holding hands, it's walking long roads by one another's side.
Courier is canonically female
@@SlZIJI Are they? Where did that canon come from
@@SlZIJInope.
@@SlZIJI The player characters' gender has never, ever been canon in Fallout games.
"Axe body spray, you might as well tell her you're a serial killer" Lmao
Real
Some women would be into that.
trust me, as someone who has experience in this field, it's true, nobody likes the smell axe body spray besides gym bros
Molecule 01 which consists of Iso E Super is where i point everyone to when they ask what scents to wear. Straight from the bottle it has literally no scent because its main scent molecule is too big for our receptors to pick up on. But once it hits your skin it breaks down and it breaks down differently for each person making a unique smell.
Plus the main ingredient can be purchased for a fraction of the price if you want to diy a cologne.
Lol true, I’m a dude and that stuff smells like a burning meth house
Hearing Joshua saying "this is cringe" in a slightly aggressive tone of voice is absolutely golden
But that what cringe is, Joshua understands words, you can tell by how he gives advice
Take having toys there nothing wrong with being a collector but be a Collector make it look professional don't be ashamed of it but also don't let it be your personality otherwise just have one or two favorite toys and let that be that
this is cringe father
never in my wildest dreams did i imagine i would hear the va for nobunaga oda say that.
That and "decent kicks"
😂
When that friend that's never had a girlfriend gives you the best dating/love advice you've ever heard:
Even tho they never had one they still have experience because they observe the people around them failing and succeeding and learn from it because they usually aren't in love with the person you like or somepne else likes. This makes it easier for them to observer behavior without the distraction of love feelings.
@@jensvanbockstal1056 I also fine those who don't shop around like that usually understands that stuff best. Cause they don't see every man/woman as a potential fuck buddy but as real people, and they know how to talk to them like real people cause they've been talking to them like *real goddamn people*
@@jensvanbockstal1056
stupid person never learn from their own mistakes.
smart person learns from their own mistakes.
wise person learns from others mistakes.
Coaches don't play 😂
Literally me
As a friend once said to me, when asked why he gives dating advice but never dates, in high school, all those years ago:
"Some Coaches have played and got hurt.
Some Coaches have played and cling to their prime like a trophy.
Some Coaches have never played.
But all Coaches watch and study what works and what doesn't. "
Great quote
I....holy shit i might use this! Good god nice!
a little late on the draw on my part, but please ask your friend if he is the reincarnation of one of Confucius’ followes
Nah, you want someone who knows the game inside and out.
The coaches who never played might be good, but 9/10 times in hindsight, they are mediocre. Thing is, since you are seeking for advice, that means you can't distinguish good advice from bad advice (or else you would already have the answer). This makes the qualifier their experience.
This is why pick up artists is such a scam. You see a lot of wannabe coaches in that space, and the thing is, since the people who don't know any better follow them, they end up paying for their services while getting advice that doesn't work. If they go to their coach, they would reason that they are "just not doing it right". Remember, they will say to you that they studied the game inside out as well.
Get one who knows the struggle of the battlefield and has a proven record. The best coaches are players too. Phil Jackson in basketball was an NBA player. Erwin Rommel of the Wermacht started as an ensign. Genghis Khan was a warrior himself before he commanded the Mongol horde.
José Mourinho (Football) was not a World Cup champion, but he had practical experience in the field since he was a midfielder in Portugal. Belichick (American Football) was not an NFL player, but he played American Football regularly when he was younger.
Even Jesus Christ lived personally with the poor.
Do you want to get better at dating? Your best chances are following someone who dated (not dated a childhood friend, but dated a stranger or acquaintance) and has a successful relationship. You might get lucky with listening to a guy who never experienced a relationship, but do you really want to rely on luck?
Well, up to you if you want to listen to a guy who has no lived experience, but know that there are better choices out there waiting for you.
Joshua Graham is still teaching us when we were kids and he is teaching us now
He taught us religion when we were younger, now he's teaching us to get bitches. His skin may be burnt but damn he roasts like hell, but its for the sake of letting out a better us
No lol
@@danteshollowedgrounds Yes lol
@Some guy with a Blue mask exactly bro
New Vegas has existed long enough for some players to become adults.
"Do you wear baggy clothes because you don't have confidence in your body?" Damn that felt personal 🤣🤣🤣
Hit me like a truck covered in lemon juice
i just like Jesse Pinkman dawg
@@capperbuns so real
This is essentially why even if I figure I look disgusting in a good-fitting T-shirt I will gladly wear it over some huge hoodie and baggy-as-all-hell pants. I see too many dudes who wear whole ghillie suits to camouflage their insecurities
I wear somewhat baggy clothing to keep my remote hoke puncher of self defense hidden the wolf in sheep's clothing
Hearing josh say “that’s cringe” made my day
And it's cursed.
@@Demon_Slayer213 yet so true
Wanna know who isn't cringe, The King
I find the best line about cologne. “Don’t spray it all over yourself like some goober”.
@@HevvvyyySome of The King doing the same advice as this would👌
My man Graham made a 7 minute speech that encapsulates the listener for the full duration, beating them up for their prior thinkings and then helping them grow into a new mindset of being an actually decent and flexible person who cares less about the goal and more about the journey.
Well said.
I genuinely love the idea of him giving the courier all these tips while they’re just trying to do quests.
Lol just like over the radio or something. The couriers like "the fuck is a scooter?"
“What clothing are you wearing?
Bruh wtf is this game”
Bad advice
@@Canzandridas 🤨
"Mr. Graham I'm gay what are you rambling on about?"
The AI voice meme really transcended itself and now these characters give genuinely good advice.
Except maybe the part of woman just doing stuff for attention, it kinda felt like it makes it scummy
@@arielmino643I mean it’s not strictly exclusive to women but have you been on tic toc?
@@Jdjdjdujakzgsha still though, there are plently of female people who do not seek attention. Tik Tok represents not every woman, nor a majority at all.
I haven't ever played a fallout game before, and I don't really know anything about this character.
Is he actually somewhat like this in the game?
@@arielmino643 Yeah I agree.
I mean the part about "women only wear makeup for the sake of men" doesn't make sense to me.
Now I don't know anything about makeup, but the whole point of makeup is that it's a form of self expression, and makes you look a certain way right?
I feel it would be like saying "Men *only* work out for the sake of women." As if no one ever changed their appearance just to be able to smile at themselves when the look in the mirror.
Damn man, this got me rethinking my whole life
Bro what u mean u the one who said it😭
Zone operator???
@@whitelinestude0s220 That's the deal, he doesn't remember jack shit of this happening "when the fuck I gave dating advice for the young mormons?"
Ah but you said that...?
Damn man this troll changed it up pretty quickly
Just from a guy that got recently engaged to a girl way out of my league, don't take everything in here as advice, some things are unfortunately the generic pick-up artist stuff he warns you about. Whether it be to deny your hobbies and passion and act like they are absolute killers of any chances or more minor things like "rubbing your wrists after applying cologne", everyone who ever paid the most minuscule amount of attention knows that this actually muddles or even ruins the scent.
Again, there is some rock-solid stuff that helped me get where I am, but again, be true to yourself. If you like anime, get that merch, just don't wear it on a date or when getting out, make it your cozy fit. And same about toys and funko pops, if that's what you like, get it, just don't make it who you are. Again, the dressing advice, and the taking care of yourself as a person advice is true, but like I said some is just as bad as pick-up artist stuff.
Obviously, it would fit for Joshua Graham to say these things, giving who he is and what not, so as a video Idea I get it, but don't swallow all of it as proven advice. This is a mixed bag of advice.
Just saying this because I met my partner during the Covid Pandemic while gaming, and she is way above my league, and she is an even bigger anime enthusiast and gamer than I am. So yeah boys, take care and groom yourself, and just swallow your pride and talk to any girl, that was probably the best advice. Girls do get prettier in your eyes when you get to know them.
Good luck yall, took me 24 years to get lucky, and I wish all of you the same success.
The parts where he said most women only put on makeup to attract men, or just pretend to like "manly things" were definitely parts that had me raising an eyebrow. Those are the type of blanket statements he was literally just advocating against a minute or two earlier. Ahah
@@Gladuos1 The author is human as well while it's generally good advice there are some things that could be re written but im just happy it isn't Andrew tate top g alpha male bullshit
@@Gladuos1 women put makeup on to compete with each other because it is a societal norm. In the 90s, most teenage girls didn’t wear makeup, at least not to school. Nowadays it is the norm. Take any girl from today and place her in a school in the 90s and I guarantee she stops wearing makeup quick, because she won’t want to do something that the other girls aren’t.
@@StoutProper No doubt many people do things for social approval, but it seems a bit dismissive to assume there aren't many women who do something for their own sake.
@@lesshuman00 Alot do but not all of them although I can understand why they would because some of the shit I've heard said towards women in multi-player games has been some pretty vile shit
"Axe body spray....you might as well tell her you're a serial killer"
Holy crap, straight spitting facts.
Bull-shit. I dated four 21 year old chicks last year wearing nothing but Axe!
I'm 37 - got that daddy game going.
Hey i been using axe body spray what the hell is wrong with it
@@Nixx26 I think the best place to start is why you are here...in the present time...at this present channel asking this present question, while watching this video.
@@pablosanhueza5290 that's some weird question
@@Nixx26 that is because it is sarcasm friend. just have a chuckle and enjoy the content. Cheers!
“Ai is gonna destroy the world, it’s gonna destroy media itself!”
Ai: “alright, look, here’s how you talk to women.”
Duality of A.I
@@tonyng3285AI: How about you get some bitches?
*_Teaches how to get bitches_*
It's just a voice
AI:okay humans just procreates!
@@MayorofHopeville and it was just a joke
We all need someone like Joshua in our lives. Sadly, he is too pure for our broken world
He's a genocidal warcriminal who only calmed down because he got chucked down a canyon and lost everything. He's not pure at all.
@@nativepoint14 Well mf burned to crisp. apparently fires of hell purified his soul
@@nativepoint14 even though he is a sinner, it is believed he has been saved
@@nativepoint14 o: nice. still really nice stuff. he's helping people out with this type of shit.
@Jenny Main u female?
We need more honest hearts like Joshua
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! RAAAAHHHH
I see what you did here
We should walk roads with lonesomeness
HE SAID THE LINE!!1!!
@@asdasfasd1984and get a big mountain of knowledge
the part that always gets me is when someone says “they’re insecure like you are.” it just hits different when i hear it from Joshua Graham
Yes well the root of pride is insecurity. So many of those "proud" (they claim its just self-confidence) women out there are the most insecure ones.
@@StarboyXL9 Proud People don't advertise to others how Proud they are.
It’s not true tho
Hearing Joshua Graham of all people say things like "Cringe" and "Giga Chad" is a whole new level of entertainment for me.
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
My guy learned, adapt and overcome.
@Narendra Joshua and Caesar were raised Christian but then joined the church of Atom and witnessed to the savage raider tribes.
Over time they became the Legion and Joshua was one of the worst generals. Joshua was blinded by anger and lost the Hoover dam to the NCR rangers.
Caesar had him covered in pitch burned and thrown into the grand canyon.
@Narendra Joshua has a good speaking voice but he isn't wise.
@@matthew2531 it could be said he is good with words and experienced but not wise. Wiseness take longer to achieve.
After being in a couple of relationships myself, one of which ended because they were just using me as a coping mechanism for their depression, another was just suicidal and i kept giving her too many chances and that made me worry about people a lot. The only significant relationship i had lasted a while, and we got back together two times, both were significant and we broke up on good terms. This video has basically given me the idea that, maybe there is a good relationship and a meaningful one for me out there if i just better myself. Thank you for this video
Yea, this video helping me feel better after I broke up and how to improve myself even better. There will be time when I ready for another relationship or grow up more. I have girls ask me out but I know deep inside I know myself better than anyone that i not ready for another relationships so I turn her down and she slightly angry. I dislike her actually because I am guy believe in good thing and right thing classisy and I feel like she is crazy girl type. I think we not good match if we going out and then she drag me to date and selfie with her and give it to my friend that told her he would date her if he not already have girlfend then ask me out after she bought herself some shirt.
On god brother, On god
Nope unless you had a mature relationship with no real malice in it you won't find a meaningful one unless it's somebody you knew from childhood.
@@datuputi777 lol L take
@@God-nh9lq
Yup, call names so people can validate your stupidity.
“Women do not usually age as gracefully as men, so marrying for looks or sex is like buying a broken down car with a new paint job” is such a raw fucking line. I LOVE this! It clearly comes from the heart, and everything said here is worded in a way that sounds like something Joshua Graham would actually say. 500/10!
I like when he says "goober"
Eh. I don't shoot for looks myself. My experience is that overweight or ugly women have the same problems and insecurity as well.
Funny how from my experience it's the opposite. Most middle aged men I know are overweight, unkempt, and have a plethora of health problems from years of drinking and smoking. Women their same age while they obviously don't look 25 anymore they age more gracefully since they take better care of themselves.
@@AverageWagie That’s actually a good point! A lot of older men be resting that McDonalds belly on the table!
Oh I’m not so sure about that. It’s a positive message, but plenty of men certainly don’t age gracefully. Nothing wrong with that, especially if love is there.
Finally. Tips grown men have been telling grown boys for years. Let's hope it coming from Joshua Graham will give it impact.
Alright either you grew up with a lot of good men around you or you're a boomer but I'll break the sad news no one has been telling young men this for years that's the problem.
@@BeautifulGreen252 exactly.
@@BeautifulGreen252my dad did. Some advice better than others, but he did. The problem is, i'm not really big onto the relationship game rn, my last girl dumped me because of past trauma that i still can't get past.
@@BeautifulGreen252 No I'm not a boomer but I have been telling young men about this for years. Unfortunately they listen to grifters or black pillers who either trun these men into those with no self respect or no self confidence. Which is a shame.
@@BeautifulGreen252 you act like growing up with good men is a hard thing to do, maybe just don't be so fucking condescending and you'll find those good men. LMAO
I’m already rocking Joshua’s drip guidelines, now I’ll take the rest of his advice. Praise Zion
Not too sure bout the "not wearing logo shirts" advice though... Every time I have had girls approach me lately, it was to compliment my shirt or hoodie cause it had something on it they liked, especially my anime shirts!!!
@@GoatSimpulator notice what he says about “that’s what teenagers wear” it’s kinda saying “that’s what girls want not women”
@WowItzAkina Sorry the word "girl" caused a misunderstanding, I mean women... I'm 34 and the ladies I'm referring to range from mid-20s to my age. And are usually so attractive, I stumble over my words lol
Tucked in black/white tee with jeans??? That is the farthest thing FROM drip 😂
@@GoatSimpulator Anime shirts can be cool, long as its not excessive or uncomfortable to look at. First off, try and stay far out of hentai shirts, that is a given. Secondly, keep it simple, it shouldn't be too detailed, otherwise it can become overbearing and distracting. Simple is good. Remember to keep it your size, don't go baggy, but don't go excessively small. A comfortable shirt that is tight enough to cover your body without hiding it is a great shirt. Showing confidence in your body is very important, as even pretending to be confident can make you feel more confident. Confidence is good for thousands of reasons, looking good is just one of them. Keep all of this in mind, and remember to keep to a simplistic color palette or you stick out like a sore thumb. Like Joshua says, keep it simple. White, grey, and black, or darker variants of colors, such as navy blue, look best. In short, don't go out trying to look unique and cool, look simple. Your appearance matters little in comparison to your personality, and focusing too much on looks can make you forget how to act.
Listening to this while changing my son’s diaper, can’t wait to share this wisdom with him someday👍
Tell it to him like they are the words of a real-life sage of knowledge
truly, boy become man when he become father of son.
@@cyberneticbeast man, thats kind of wise words
Please do not teach your child this and instead inform him of the truth
please elucidate your son of the order of chaos
"You are simply practicing talking" is one of the most genuine pieces of advice I am in awe
"Don't spray it under your shirt like some goober" noted
But I'm a goofy goober :,(
I never use axe, what do you mean?
@@goober3097 Axe's products don't last as long as other body sprays and smell absolutely horrible
I used dr squatch
@@plymouthruckingberg3479 You missed the pun 😭 bros named Goober, op said "like some goober"
Sorry for explaining the joke but had to incase
As someone that ended a three year relationship on kinda bad terms almost a year ago I needed to hear this. I may not be looking for a relationship, but it’s always a good thing to take care of myself before I can take care of someone else.
I was in the same situation as you a few months ago but believe me that you will always find a better person in all aspects G
Same boat and while it hurts it's made me look at myself and change for the better
Just got out of an eight-year relationship that ended extremely badly.
@@nictibbetts I’m sorry to hear about that man. I’m currently going through it right now too.
Right with you, lads. We got this.
Joshua Graham, the father figure we all needed.
I'm cringing how everyone is taking this way too seriously.
@@danteshollowedgrounds What’s cringe about receiving genuine advice?
@@danteshollowedgrounds anime poster all over your room right ?
As a women I feel I have important advice: do you want a girl who loves nerdy stuff, or do you want a girl who isn’t into the same fandoms, games, movies, shows that you are into.
I love a guy who isn’t afraid to show what he loves. Graphic tees are great conversation starters but not on dates. Wear fancy stuff for that.
I can pull nerdy girls without wearing nerdy crap, that’s bad advice. it’s called 6’4 and attractive
@@Borgborg128 your relationship won't last if you have a personality of a rock
@@daniilillarionov9854 I’ve been dating a hot gym rat/nerd girl for the last year and a half bro. I look like a massive fck boy, and I grew up playing sports and being a “jock,” but I’ve also played DnD and am a nerd at heart
@@Borgborg128 then it really would'nt matter what type of shirt you have on
@@moonie1825 I just don’t like the style and I’m a vain c*nt. I prob could still do fine dressed like a nerd tho ig. Would lose some overall appeal tho with basic thot types
Joshua saying “goober” is honestly something I never expected… like ever.
Ikr, I died when he said "6'4 gigachad" 🤣
@@bloodocean8389 because it's done by an AI bot thing
This is legitimately good advice. It's not condescending or aggressive, just well-meaning words of wisdom. I wish more guys got this kind of advice like this instead of from guys who encourage men to treat women like stupid, meaningless objects that only want to ruin your life.
Absolutely boggles my mind that people can take people like Andrew Taint seriously, despite his unhealthy view of women, failed relationships and recent charges. Those poor, lost men.
@@Talcyon64 While there are some things he said I do not agree with, he also said things like "A real Man should protect and provide for his wife and family" and that "all women are precious and should be protected".
Absolutely no evidences exist for the recent charges, and most of his ex-girlfriends are protecting him even though they are not together with him anymore. Sure, they could give them money to make statements such as those, but so can others (for example Vice) give money to actresses or literally any other people to play the role of the "victims" they *supposedly* interviewed.
@@wladynoszkapitany8277 it's a grift.
You'll rarely find people in history who didn't say something you also happen to agree with.
You have to take this holistically (meaning the whole picture). If I tell you that we should treat animals well and with respect but also happen to own slaves does it make me still worth listening to?
He's a rampant piece of garbage and harmed so many people, you don't need that tiny straw of common advice from him. And the reality is thousands start to listen there and then go to follow the rest of his rethoric.
Good men, good people in general, can recognize someone paying lip service.
And no evidence exists? That's wild, please look into how trafficking works and how the people go about it. Exploiting others sucks.
uhm how many couples do you know that never had a crisis?
how big is your family?
I know for a fact in a thousand long lasting relationship you get 3 that never tilted ever well on 997 the women definitely lost their Jimmy's.
Though the 997 that nearly failed were exceptional on one thing they forgive the most horrendous creatures God had made.
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
4:53 this is true, in 2022 I've talked to an girl for 6 months straight, till I realize she is not interested in me, neither did she cared about me, guess what? When I stopped texting her, she never came back to ask how you doing? What's wrong? How its been? Damn I just was so dumb, never let an woman or man take place in your life like it's an "need" or "I need her to be happy", no person in this life should be responsible for your happiness.
Yea sadly a lot of women talk to multiple men with no intention to date or romance them, but keep them as emotional objects and for validation and attention. I've seen it a lot, and once you stop giving them that, they may attempt to dangle the "cheese" in front of you more. I'm sure some men do this as well. It's unfortunate behavior.
damn roland, thats rough.
Man if he finished with-
“I know there is someone out there for you,
but we can’t expect God to do all the work.”👌🏻
I’m not even in the market for a relationship. Someone sent me this after I told them. Most of these tips are good even if you replace “female” with “job interview” or “having a good social life” to some degree or another. Dress well, smell nice, put your hair right and shave are all things I have heard and do my best to do no matter what, and I firmly believe all others should strive to do so.
@@thotslayer9914 never did. Not enough money. Can barely afford food for myself.
@@Onio_Saiyan damn, I hope the best come for you in life. Keep pushing, you will sooner come to the point yourself can look back and be proud of what currently you are.
@@thotslayer9914 US. Taxes are high in my city.
My personal best advice will be this. Dont just only treat her well and with respect in her presence, treat everyone else (within reason) with respect and dignity. Especially socially perceived "lessers". Mean it sincerely. Be that person, not just for her but for yourself. People reveal their true selves in the dark or when they think the rules dont apply, be that when no one is around to enforce them or with people often prejudiced against that they dont think the rules of basic human decency should apply to. Become someone who sincerely means it. Even or especially during conflict or confrontational, losing control of yourself under stress or pressure again reveals the true content of your character. They know you or atleast should know, that you will eventually treat them the same way. You cant fake this forever and you are the worst type of person if you depend on pretending long enough until you "lock" someone in. Not all recognize they are this person, a lot of self righteous people delude themselves into thinking they are nice guys or good people. Work on bettering yourself.
At the same time, expect the same from them. pay attention to how they treat others. Dont stay with someone who shows the red flags above in how they treat others or how they act under pressure or when they think no one is looking. They will treat you the same in time, they will treat you that way when they think you cant escape. They are a person and many people are terrible, dont stay with them just cause they act or look pretty. LIke the above said, standards conventional beauty is not as relevant as society tries to convince you it is but ESPECIALLY so when its just a terrible person.
Knowing how to deal with women translates very well into other aspects of life.
Joshua Graham calling logo shirts "cringe" is one of the most hilarious things I've heard in a long while. I nearly fell out of my chair.
I already do that. I have a no tshirt rule.
We're missing some of the most important stuff. Confidence is like the #1 thing, and confidence is pointed out in the video. But where does confidence come from?
Make sure that you have something you are proud of in your life, and you can share it with others in a fashion that speaks to your fundamental character. I am a teacher - that's who I am. I am proud of the fact that the person that I embody at work is 99% the same human being that I am outside of work. I am proud that I contribute something to my community, and that I make people's lives better by doing what I do. I also do a lot of reading and exercise, which shows that I am dedicated to self-improvement and new experiences. My wife has always said that my confidence was a huge factor in her attraction to me early on in our relationship, and now I get to be proud that I am married to a bonafide scientist. I was watching the league of legends world championships in her bed around date number 4 (I was spending the weekend over, do not try this during a date of a normal 2ish hours). She does not play nor relate in any way, but I didn't give a fuck because I am in shape and was an accomplished college athlete. The hobby shit that Joshua talks about here does not apply if you are *truly* confident in who you are and how you present yourself as a person. I don't hide ANY of my morals or ethics simply because I don't have to - I worked hard to be a morally upstanding person and that has worked wonders for my young adult life.
Tl;dr: develop yourself so that you are *actually* attractive. Do some community service or some shit. Read a book. Go outside. Actively work towards becoming a good person on your own terms. Become someone worthy of the partner that you want. This will make you more attractive than anything else that you can possibly do. Insecurities are the death of a relationship, so become secure in yourself before looking to others for solutions or even comfort.
You just made me think about confidence in a completely different way. However, I don't think most women will think we're cool for knowing a lot of fallout lore
confidence begins by cleaning your room.
I was expecting this to be a reading of some tryhard or incel parody copypasta, but no, it's legitimately solid, levelheaded, reasonable advice. And it's been condensed into a 7 minute video.
This is amazing.
The same common and tired platitudes is good advice to indoctrinated people.
If you are a man, you really ought to know that sexually attractiveness is what will get you a woman and a few facts about male demographics and what attracts women.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 most incel and pick up artists are forever alone, widely hated, and have never genuinely experienced love from the opposite sex.
@@datekaname2246 The ugly ones, yes. But that is not special to those groups. Being ugly makes you ‘forever alone’.
@@xtdycxtfuv9353 plenty of ugly people have ugly partner who love them for who they are and share simular values with, some even get lucky and find someone who's more attractive then them, but we all look the same in old age.
Also if you think these """"hot"""" pick up artists are actually getting women who genuinely love them, then your in for some bad news.
Stop doomer posting and wallowing in self pity. People can pick up on those vibes from miles of you.
You need to be better to yourself.
If you can't accept yourself and love yourself, then how can you expect someone else to give you that love and respect you can't give yourself.
@@datekaname2246 You’re too deluded to start debate with. I have my own anecdotes too. You know, the ones you don’t talk about. The middle age virgins, the used and abused ugly providers, the just wait until your late twenties. Patterns to everything and everyone.
this video is simply genious
other than the actually useful tips, the key is in the character doing the talking, not just any person no matter if random or famous
i think its pretty clear that people, when hearing their favourite character or a character that they respect or is in general seen as "chad" (the doomslayer would be perfect if he talked) are much more inclined into remembering those words, into following them
probably wouldnt work the same with memes, having the same video read by shrek would be much funnier, but thats it, a funny video about a meme character giving dating advice, that people probably wont do, or maybe just try "for the vine"
so thank you for this video, while there are not as many Joshua followers as we would like, his words wont be forgotten, if heard by the right ears
A good one of these types of videos is Master Chief teaching you taxes.
SIngle-father energy here.
Doom slayer has said about 3 sentences in total.
The doom slayer wouldn't be "perfect" if he spoke. We love him because he does not speak.
He simply does.
Which is enough a lesson as anything.
thank you so very much "Joshua Graham" I can now finally understand what it's like to be mature and respect ourseleves so we could be in an understanding relationship, I've been dealt with depression in the past two years because I was so obsessed of women that I couldn't find myself and now I feel so good of myself of how I decided to watch this video. Pornography is a sadden addiction to most males and some females I started out crying out to God and started praying so I would'nt go through the same cycle of this addiction all over again. My biggest dream is to have a happy family and since I grow through out my pains and suffering through all these years I finally made it! thank Joshua Graham you inspired me.
bro you're so fucking goofy
The only true way is blackpill.
@@thesaddestdude3575 Way to what? Suicide?
@@thesaddestdude3575 Brutal
The fact that a fictional character is giving us advice, and very GOOD advice says a lot about reality
The internet is our father.
"Don't view this as a game"
"Do not text back women too quickly, it makes you look desperate"
And people wanna ask why men are done with this shit lol
fr, god forbid I just wanna text someone
as a woman, you can safely ignore any texting rules. just do not blow up our phones with 3-6 texts in a row if we are not responding immediately, that shit is really fucking annoying. each person is different. I am very busy so I don't always notice when it takes a while to reply. you might get a text back from me in 1-3 hours on average, or you will get a bit of time where texts back are instant for a while. mostly because I'm ass deep in commissions a lot of the time. if anything its a complement if someone like me spends their breaks with you. my perspective is a little different because I am my own business for work. its a full time job and a half.
what kind of job do you do ?
@@scythescythe884 close your mouth and go back to the kitchen
Im a wamen, and I can say with confidence that I like it when he texts me back right away. It shows that he cares. It may be because he has other unique aspects as well, but this behavior shows he isn't trying to be mysterious and busy. That shit is childish
Probably the biggest thing to remember is that woman are people. Average, run of the mill individuals like yourself or me. Sure they have their own differences and quirks but at the end of the day the only thing that sets them apart from say, a male counterpart are the unique traits they have that may have through their life journey. The biggest wall is accepting (and almost welcoming) the possibility of rejection that stops anyone of us from even making the first step. I'm rambling at this point but my point is, accept that you will get shut down but never let it discourage you or make you feel lesser and if it does, step back and evaluate that maybe you have an issue internally that needs to be reflected on and addressed
yep.
Women are not normal people lol
Fear is a tool as much as it is an obstacle. Use fear to your advantage, but never let fear stop you from doing what you please, as long as it's not a violation of God's ways, fear should be the drive pushing you forward instead of backwards, thing about it this way "if i'm scared to do something, i should do it exactly because of it"
Joshua Graham is truly a man of GOD.
P.S. it’s so ironic to me that such good advices come from a fictional chharacter
it's a copypasta meme from 4chan
@@cervixdevourer shhhh let him be happy about a fantasy in his head.
@@cervixdevourer when copypasta gains a voice cover, it essentially gets s new life. Especially when the voice is fitting. He wouldn't know about this 4chan copypasta without this video, and even if he did, Burned Man's voice gives it an entirely different vibe. In short: stfu and enjoy Joshua speaking some facts.
I still don't agree on every single point here though. Knew too many girls who were genuinely into anime and stuff. I got into it because of one.
@@motivatedman4630 Gravitas. this gave those words gravitas. 🙏
A couple criticisms:
There's nothing wrong with being passionate about a fandom or hobby, and wearing logos. Just be well-groomed, confident, and NOT OBSESSED.
There are a lot of women who do, in fact, wear makeup simply because they like to. In fact many women wear makeup more for appreciation from other women, not from men.
Trying to measure the perfect time you should take to respond to texts is, in fact, playing a game. While I recognize that many people do this, I believe that if she is the kind of person who does this crap, it's best to move on. The key is not about whether you appear obsessed, the key is to not BE obsessed. Be genuine, up front, respond quickly if that's important to you, and above all approach with the understanding that things may turn out well or into nothing, and that's okay. Hold your peace within you.
no, if you like something you can be obsessed with it, getting women is not the most important thing in live, live how you want to, dont listen to anyone bc the only person who is right is you
@@superbrajanek4579 point, but this is advice for people who presumably want to have a woman in their life. But by your comment, you are right, having hobbies and likes outside of relationships is healthy.
Indeed, this is a great video but thank goodness I don't have to worry about any of this garbage, as I've discovered the secret to being happily single and yet not at all lonely. I can indulge in my hobbies and fandoms as much as I wish and still live healthy and happy.
Every relationship I've had, and I am no expert in those, has involved someone who has been clearly interested in texting me even if they take time to respond 😊
@@TheNwahDango you discovered Cope Pill (tm)? Bravo!
Woman here, I'm glad there are videos like these and i'm so happy to see that you guys are actually taking healthy advices like these. A message that i wanna give to all of you, either you're a man or woman, the first thing that you all should do is be kind to your own selves, accept yourselves the way you are, be it your body shape or things you like, ect. and also try to improve yourselves if you need/have to. This might not mean anything coming from a stranger, but i'm proud of you and i wish you all the best, love you
❤❤❤
Thank you kind woman. Between the video and this comment, I now have the confidence to ask out a girl completely out of my league.
@@dylanwenzel1282 she’s never out of your league chief, just believe in yourself and treat her like a normal person 👍🏻
And if she says she’s out of your league to your face then she isn’t worth your time. She can find someone just as nasty as she is.
Thanks.
Thank you comments like these really make a difference :)
I never thought i would hear joshua graham say "cringe"...not disappointed.
I'm addicted to these videos of Joshua Graham spitting more wisdom.
I was addicted but now I'm at an awe for them now.... Maybe a tad bit.
@@danteshollowedgrounds That's the evolution.
“Axe body spray? You may as well tell her you’re a serial killer” - As someone who did this, I must agree. Axe is women repellant, and I wore it for that express purpose. The only thing Axe does beneficially is make the gym bros more friendly.
thank you Joshua Granham for the words of wisdom
your profile picture puts me in a fight or flight scenario
Don't stop giving advices Joshua!
These are life savers!
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
I align with everything Josh is cooking. Nevertheless, I honestly don't ever want to not be open about my fondness of anime. There was a time in my life I'd been depressed and decided I wanted to have some fun, so I changed my whole personality just to flirt with this girl for a while. Eventually I ended up dating her. By the time the relationship was over I felt vapis nothingness. A relationship is meant to be a deep personal connection. You should change and improve yourself, but understand you gotta do it in positive ways that you want to improve on. Never remould your entire being for another person. You'll end up miserable. My closest friends care for me because I am me and I expect the same from any romantic relationship. In the end changing yourself too much for one person will make it so they don't love YOU they love the idea that they molded you into. It's a relationship built on vapid ideas and masks. That ain't one worth having bros. You just gotta balance these things out dudes. The thing that made my chances with women better wasn't so much being less of an anime fan, but adding more things less to do with anime in my life. Going to more parties, trying out clothes I wasn't usually into and just in general most of what the video here says. I'm as much of an anime fan as I've always been, but it's just a matter of having more in your life outside of your hobbies not completely cutting it off or having less most of the time. Balance bros.
Nobody is telling you to remould your entire being.
5:00 it's literally 'just calm down with the fuckin anime'. Keep it private and ease it into the relationship if she's warm to it too, or not at all if she is not.
@@Hadgerz The main advice is too cool it with the anime obsession, but bro treats it like a dirt lil secret. If it was any other hobby like movies, sports or arts and crafts you wouldn't do the same. Not coming off strong with your hobbies is cool and all, but the guy straight up makes it sound like chicks will immediately get turned off by simple stuff like your merch as though it's a kids thing. Those chicks are just shallow as heck. Most women are chill and just playing with the merch and borrowing manga. She doesn't have to be into the hobby, but if simple stuff like some posters and funko pops is enough to turn her off then she's just shallow. And you're just wasting your time on people who are fickle like that.
I completely agree with your words. I used to be obsessed with anime and video games. Those were the only things that really made me who I am. They formed my entire personality, and they were the only things that I looked for in others to form a connection. In time I learned how shallow that actually was, and what really matters is sharing the same values(kindness, honesty, ,dedication, etc.) not what kind of media you consume. It's ok to enjoy things just don't let them consume your life. Of course you shouldn't change yourself for others but be aware that you're not perfect and not everything you enjoy is good for you. It's ok to watch anime and other media just don't use it as a type of escapism and live through the mc's life instead of your own. cheers...
Edit: Also Funkos are just shit, sorry. At least from anime just can get some good message and Nendoroids are kinda cute, but funkos are just peak consoomer bullshit, giving money to corporations for ugly dust collectors.
@@TheAfroman95 Yup. I'm glad things worked out for ya.
Side note: Do people hate Funkos this much?💀 I thought they are kinda cute, but I guess their not as popular as I thought 😅
@@bornanime3255 I guess it's a matter of taste. The bug eyes never really did it for me tbh😂. The vibe I got from people that bought them was never really for the art, but to satisfy some hoarder impulse or something 😅
Best advice I got was “don’t lie about who you are.” You have to be the real you. You can’t pretend to be someone else forever. She will catch on. This attracts a real compatible partner and greatly reduces your anxiety. Just avoid lying to her altogether. That builds trust, and remember that real love is wanting her to be happy. Remember the ending of Bruce Almighty… You can’t force a woman to like you, only fan the flames of pre-existing attraction. Also, consent is key.
I disagree. If I were just myself I would be anti-social and avoid women because of social anxiety. Maybe some people listening to this video are currently slobs and need to work on themselves. I surely wouldn't tell them to be themselves. For some things you really have to learn to change and become a new you.
"Just be yourself" is the most bullshit wrong advice for men I've heard my entire life to the point that it annoys me when people say it.
Learn to be comfortable with yourself, and learn to be comfortable with other people. If you have social anxiety, look up self-help posted by real therapists, there's fantastic videos on youtube on the subject.
@@chdata I literally got this advice from Cinema Therapy on youtube. If the real you is a slob or ridden with anxiety, you have to reveal that person to begin to change. Changing bad habits also doesn’t mean changing who you are, it’s changing the habit/behavior. Tbh I know a dude who is absurdly obnoxious, aggressively bisexual, and smells like death 24/7. He has a girlfriend. She’s not hot, but he’s got her.
Half right.
Be yourself.
But
Also improve.
We never stop growing just some people stop caring.
If so it's truly over. Be you but strive to be the best you. Maybe hell idk try video games and move onto coding or maybe watching animal documentaries and move onto bird watching and learning to take care of animals.
@@chdata Since when did becoming a good person contradict being yourself?
Building confidence in yourself can be done without faking it...its being courageous to say "I'm going to be genuine" from a place of genuiness and being fine with the outcome. As long as your trying to be good any girl who is also good will like that...and even if they are not attracted to you they will at least like talking to you.
@@ProTroll69 what does aggressively bisexual mean lol
"Avoid baggy clothes..." Dying alone doesn't seem so bad now, thanks!
"this is cringe" 🤣🤣🤣
GOLDEN, please keep making josh graham voice overs like this. These are epic
This is actually useful tips
For everyone that is hung up on the anime thing, there is enjoyment and then there is off putting obsession. I have long discussions with my husband on the ins and outs of the anime’s we watch, and I love these conversations because they are stimulation. That is different than my husband spending money (or just a little too much money) on anime t-shirts or decorations. For example, I went to an anime convention and my sister in law got me a Rengoku/Akasa artkwork, it’s beautiful, I love it. I don’t have it on display. I’ve had it for 2 years now, I don’t know if I’ll ever have it displayed. There is a certain slide of maturity/immaturity that is portrayed with display pieces like that and you have to consider what and where you are in your relationship. If all you have is anime talk then there is not much else there, we want more and we often want it with the same level of enthusiasm. At some point they won’t want to have their ear talked off about anime and want to hear of all the things you got done around the house unprompted like taking out the garbage, putting down mice traps, taking the car to get an oil change and having it cleaned out (bonus points if you did it yourself)
I appreciate the point about tasks to be done (Like Car maintenance or daily chores. If you're moving into a new home, changing your mailing address is your top priority). As for the whole anime-obsession topic, along with hording, there is a fine line between being obsessive and being in control of yourself via your spending habits. My thing isn't anime per-se, save for me mimicking the overall art style like everyone else, but my collection of figures and games is more so like me being a curator. I balance my budget, I only go for the best when I plan it, I always keep the concept of postponing gratification in mind, and I don't just buy random things on a whim. I don't buy things I won't need or know that I'll get bored with it down the line. As for conversation topics, you couldn't be more right. It is important to have a foundation for other things to discuss at length outside of entertainment. Politics ain't my thing, but it could be anything from nature, enjoying the scenery of anything, or even stargazing.
@@nickthepick8043 absolutely, in my household we have varying topics, the one my husband is ready to talk my ear off with is table top, which is fine most of the times, but we also do politics, not party specific but policy specific and how it will affect us, I live in CA, and there is a case here of a mom who’s child got taken away by CPS because she would not allow “affirming care” well the girl was given “affirming care” by the government and ended up throwing herself in front of train tracks. As parents that terrifies us, because we are also seeing policies that promote that sort of lifestyle for children. How will that affects our son? Do we have to worry about his grade teacher making him question himself and convince him he must be a girl because he likes to cook? Will they give him “affirming care” behind our backs as a concerning amount of school are doing? We also have other topics like skin care (I’m an new esthetician) medical stuff, new research studies in medicine or biology fascinates us. But to be honest, what really kicks the dopamine bucket is my husband saying he got the laundry done, or he did dishes, or that he did chore “x” that really makes me smile and happy, and makes feel better about my ear being talked off about table top.
As a woman I agree with everything here but 2 big things.
While some women do pretend to like male things, it happens I don't deny it, many of us do genuinely like video games, anime and cars. It is not just a male thing and thinking that will eventually become clear sooner or later which will make us feel like you are invalidating our interests. I thought ol Joshua would know that.
Yes, the primary purpose of make up is to make us look as good as society unfairly expects women to at all times, attract partners, and cover insecurity. But we can also like makeup just because we like to look extra good for the day for ourselves. Thinking of us as vain and insecure just shows how little you think of us.
Just... treat us like people capable of our own individual personalities regardless of the statistics on what most men or women do and don't do. Not doing that is cringe.
Agreed, I think that was the big take away from the lecture, to humanise women.
Ol Josh did get it right when he said “Women are just like men, only to a different degree”. Plus, my girl literally owns a kilogram of Hatsune Miku merch. That ain’t a brag that shit is cringe, and just a placeholder for the real shit; Real Grade Gunpla models 😤
Why do you think men like those things? For example i don't like any of the those listed and i doubt most really care for them.
Statistics are good to keep in mind, insofar as they don't override our ability to judge as individuals, yes.
@@tribacioustee2846 Why even keep statistics in mind if it means you have to change yourself and, as a result, end up with a partner who doesn't fit you? Wouldn't that be a waste of time?
Some good advice, meh advice, and just stuff I'd downright disagree with on a fundamental level. Respect yourself is a good start. Which means get clothes that give off a look you LIKE not just comfortable with. Wash yourself, treat your body, and definitely learn to talk to others even if it starts online. I dunno maybe I'm the minority when success is made but I got girlfriends from being my weird self and not hiding anything. I'm not ashamed I like cartoons, anime, animation or whatever else you'd call it. I wasn't embarrassed when my gf saw my old collection of decorative swords, toys, or airsoft. Women out there (or anything else we don't discriminate) are attracted to people who they get along with, can be comfortable around, and provide more than just a passing experience. Nothing I say is to discredit the vid but to open the lense a little bit. Ask yourself if you're truly interested because you want a partner (seems to be the vibe) or you want someone because that's what you were told/taught to want. To all anyone on this vid looking for companionship I really do hope you do well in your search. I know it can be difficult and feel meaningless, but just like Graham and many of your idols: the human spirit is indomitable. You only fail when you let yourself fall. Keep moving, rest when you need it and don't break yourself.
Sorry but I have been taught to never trust anyone with that profile picture.
@@JsphCrrll that's a good lesson. I don't trust people who look like me either.
Xbox 360 profile pic having exister
I haven't watched much of this cause I was certain it would be the same regurgitated manosphere bs we've been hearing from grifters online for years just repackaged (hide who you really are, "game" 🤢) and this comment basically confirms it if u have to hide who you are to get with someone it's not worth it. Most people who think they can't get into a relationship just actually aren't ready for one. I say this from my experience, I just got into my first "real" romantic relationship where we are actually dating & have plans for our future together... it just sorta happened. I didn't go out and try and find my partner we just found each other when u are ready for it u will be able to find someone that's right for you.... period.
I've watched a bit more now and it's not as bad as I thought pretty alright but I'd say this is still overcomplicating it. Acting like u need to dress nice, smell nice & act nice to be desirable is just looking at it from a straight guys' pov who wants a girly girl that's clean & pretty. Some people are into gritty & grimy dudes who come home covered in dirt 😊 Just be yourself 💖
@Lin is Nil I'd say dress nice and smell nice are a bit true but not the core of it. Dress how you LIKE is what I say because it will genuinely boost confidence when you get and wear clothes you want. Smelling nice is a by product of caring about your health and hygiene. People will be more interested if you make the effort to be healthy y'know. Like I said though lots of stuff here I'd be critical here myself but I also hate shitty platitudes like "be yourself" and stuff. The vibe is definitely straight guys here I feel like, but my like two points I feel are universal. I'm glad you found someone though. In today's climate I think it's great when people finally find a partner.
Edit:OH and smelling nice for a guy is kinda the same for like make up on a woman imo. Mine's explained to me that the make up isn't for me or guys but her. She wears it too look good to her. So I've adopted the smell thing for guys. As pog as it'd be for guys,to like accentuate their jaws or to conture our muscles it's obviously still looked down on to put make up on. So the smell thing is my kinda version of that.
Joshua Graham single handedly fixed the dating crisis
Joshua spitting facts so hard, he inspired me to self-improve. He is truly the best written Fallout character ever.
The one who is speaking to us is not Joshua Graham, but the writer that put his soul into this guidance, I respect you
Joshua graham is the best thing to ever come from FNV. This is why.
Also,many props for putting actual advice in this. I wish there were more people as genuine as you in this world
Hearing the advice to walk into cologne instead of spraying it directly gives me the affirmation that I've been doing it right all along!
Thank you for your works so far, sir Aogiri. You're a part of a greater whole of motivation for us young men everywhere.
And to those out there yearning for attention from women, we're all in this together, so help a brother out and share this with your saddest, loneliest friend and help him too, to see the Light.
You are just wasting perfume. And it won’t last nearly as long
^ My ex used to tell me the same thing. I'd just roll my eyes and keep doing it my way. She preferred a nuclear smell, but I don't. I gag anytime I walk past a guy with too much.
Had the same bottle for the past several years, still plenty to go. I spray 3 times up front, walk forward, 1 time behind, walk backward, done.
Believe it or not, I still get compliments on it and don't smell like a nuke walking around, so to each their own. x3
@@x3lA You're using a whole lot more to achieve the same thing as a single well placed pump.
You are wasting your cologne. Not only is most of it falling to the floor, but the cologne that does get on you doesn't have a chance to work because it'll just be on your clothes. You are far better off applying small amounts of cologne to your neck, chest, and wrists.
^ I can usually smell it on my clothes after work and have gotten compliments over time using my method. If it works for this long, why change it?
Efficiency isn't a priority since the bottle is cheap and 12oz or so. It's lasted a few years and is at half capacity.
WE MAKIN IT OUT THE FRIENDZONE WITH THIS ONE
this is like advice my uncle would give me, not exactly always good advice but good intentioned enough that i am willing to pick out the good bits
Exactly, I don't agree with everything said here, but its leagues above the PUA trash.
Exactly the same vibes I got from this.
"dont simply use these women, enjoy the time and make their lives better through your treatment and attention to them, you might be surprised to learn that looks fade"
my boy joshua graham lining them up with the "you're not that hot either and the only thing you really want is someone whos going to want to wake up next to you"
shhhiieeetttt
thats a good piece of advice ngl
I feel a long series of videos of Joshua Graham explaining things and giving practical advice would be great
Saw a video of him reading the entirety of art of war
Like Jordan Peterson.
This is... surprisingly wholesome.
I don't know the character but the advices are pretty good and respectful, love it
For the makeup thing, I’m gonna explain it in the way my girlfriend did that finally made me get it. Sometimes women dont wear makeup to fix their looks, or for men, but they like that it makes them feel pretty.
Don’t tell them they’re prettier without makeup. They spend a lot of time on their makeup and they’re proud of the work they put into it. In the same way your girlfriend may never get whats so special about that cool thing you grinded for in a game, you may never get what the point of spending an hour on makeup is. However, clearly it means enough to them to put time and effort into and you should appreciate and respect that.
If your girlfriend comes around and you notice she’s done her makeup different, tell her she looks pretty. Same if she doesn’t have makeup on, or if their makeup just looks the same. They put a lot of time and care into their looks that us guys don’t really do, a lot of them have a daily routine of using face washes and lotions and shit, so when you tell them they look good it means a lot more than you know. Besides that, the rest of this video is really good advice that I wish I heard years ago before I learned the hard way.
Before you criticize women for wasting their time applying make-up, remember how long you spend killing enemies for random drops in your favorite RPG to get a new piece of swag for your virtual character.
Men often have the same priorities as women, but don´t realize they are simply applying them at different moments, for different reasons, to the same or lesser effect. "We are the same, but different."
The RPG comparison really helps your point come together. This is a good post
Real
@@katamariroller2837 Jokes on you, I just enjoy killing
@@katamariroller2837lol that doesn't correlate at all 😂😂😂
Decent advices, but i'll always follow my Grandpa many advices that he gave me through my life (may his soul rest in peace) "Don't change yourself to please others be how you like to be and eventually you'll find people that enjoy being with you" / "just take constructive criticism from people you trust"/ Don't try to be friends with everyone, there will be people that will hate you for no reason so just be acquainted and in good terms with most of them and many doors will open due of that, also you'll make some friends along the way"/ "Respect others and you'll be respected too".
Those are some advices that i can remember at the moment. Truth be told i've followed them all and i had some positive outcomes most of the time, so i hope those advices help you guys too.
(English is not my main language so if any typo or wrong term is used i'd like you to tell me and sorry in advance)
The amount of people that need to read and hear this stuff. We appreciate it.
Your Grandad was a very wise person. Glad you had someone like that in your life.
A lot of people out here could stand to use that same advice...
@@PaygunFGC He truly was a good man, treated me like a son and helped me through hard times, thanks to him i'm doing what i love as a job and i managed to overcome all of those hardships.
I wish he would still be alive, really miss him..
And, most important of all, *just be you.* Have boundaries, respect yourself, know what you want, and act in a way that's true to your needs and sustainable. For most people, healthy relationships are 100% natural and autonomous side effect of living your life the way you want to. I knew someone who met their SO on WoW who was in the Navy, and they're still married over a decade later. You don't force these kinds of things long term. Don't feel like you need to have a relationship to validate you and the things you like, either, because that's not a relationship; that's a co-dependent attitude.
A significant other isn't for everyone, *trust me.* Some people operate better on their own, some people prefer to have casual relationships, some people are prone to toxic bonds that detract from all participants. You don't have to want what everyone else has, we live in a time when you can be who you want and love who you want, if you want to. That's a choice, exercise it.
Damn, I needed to hear this, thank you for sharing :)
>just be you
>Have boundaries, respect yourself, know what you want, and act in a way that's true to your needs and sustainable
Which one do you want me to do??????
@@Raoul. Not having boundaries is part of "who you are"? How is that advice contradictory? You don't need to forego your personality to carry yourself in that way, unless being wishy-washy and easily used is part of who you are, but in that case I'd say change that.
Be yourself but realize that not every aspect of "yourself" is going to be the best thing to show the world, some of what makes you who you are be trash, and might need to be thrown out or changed.
like let's be real, jeffery dahmer was just "being himself" too. But I don't think drugging and eating people was getting him any long lasting relationships was it?
@@Raoul. If you're having trouble with all those things, I think your perception of who you are is very weak. I'd recommend you take some time to get to know yourself. Don't ASSIGN traits to yourself, go looking, and FIND them.
It's worth asking yourself WHY you have trouble setting boundaries, or respecting yourself, or identifying your needs and wants. Were you raised in an environment that molded you to be quiet and subservient? An environment that did not cater to your needs, so you learned to Not Need, or Not Want?
Think about small ways you can assert yourself in the future. Practicing setting boundaries can be as simple as stopping the waiter from refilling your drink. When we are so used to being modest and demure, the smallest moment of speaking up can feel like you're being rude, but stay polite and I promise any average person will take no offense. Everything gets easier with practice, and can even become second nature.
Just make sure that it's You. Best of luck ❤
"Don't spray it onto your shirt like some goober". Literally me 😂😂😂
This works. The advice works to a very good degree. Women want emotionally secure, mature, and stoic creatures. They want use to look put together and disciplined. They want us to be brave and be gentleman. They want us to be unafraid to speak our minds and hearts.
Finding the right person takes time, and it may be the right person, wrong time. Life is harsh and tragic. Relationship are difficult. Learn to forgive yourself, move on, and learn. Fight for what you love. Man up.
I love you all
About what women want, I'd say that's generally true, depends on the woman on the certain man she wants but I'd say that's pretty much spot on.
The hardest part is keeping them around. Most girls aren't able to support you unless they truly love you. Don't go for sex appeal. It's not worth it. As a male sexual assault survivor, I truly wish I focused on slowing down and stop being mistreated. I still have that problem, picking the wrong people in my life. But we all start somewhere. I believe all of us can return to a golden age of gentleman again.
While the most important thing when pursuing a relationship is to respect the other person, it is extremely closely followed by respecting oneself. This does not mean that you should worship or bend to your partner’s every whim, but that you should respect their needs for privacy, personal time, enjoyment, and mental health. Immediately after that, you respect yourself in a manner that both allows you to have confidence and be yourself to a healthy extent and not allow a partner to take advantage of you. This works to the reverse as well. If a partner that you want to pursue a life with cares more for their own wants than your needs, they are not worth it. You must have self-respect both to be appealing and to avoid getting hurt. Order your priorities in this way: your partner’s needs (as in safety, security, stability, and health), your own needs, your partner’s wants, and your own wants. By valuing your needs over your partner’s wants you create a boundary that will not allow them to solicit you, and by valuing your wants second you give your partner respect that ought to be reciprocated. At the bottom of the barrel should be what society thinks of you and your partner. This manner of respect is a two-way street that your partner should subscribe to as well if you want a healthy relationship.
A lot of this is very good advice. Though I will say, that while I reluctantly agree that showing your interest in anime can unfortunately be enough of a reason for women to be turned off or think of you as being immature, if all it takes is for me to say "I like anime" or have like one wall scroll/poster of my favorite show in my apartment to get that kind of reaction from them then I personally would feel better off if it did turn them away. I don't believe I'd want to stay in a relationship with someone whom I have to constantly hide my passions or hobbies from. I've been watching these shows ever since I was a young teenager, so pretending like I hate it or that it's not an active part of my interests would just make me feel awful and I don't think that kind of relationship is healthy for anyone regardless of what the hobby may be.
The reason I think it's still good advice though is because I believe there's a huge stereotype that mainstream pop culture and media has put out there. To be frank, I'm actually surprised you didn't include video games as well when you mentioned this. While the medium is more acceptable now, it wasn't all that long ago that gamers were seen as being incredibly immature for playing games or having games be a primary hobby. All too often have I heard people say that if you want to make a dating profile, you absolutely should not include anime and games as part of your hobbies. Or that if those are your hobbies that you should "get a new one." Even if you include other hobbies such as music, hiking, skating, etc just the mere mention of those two will turn people away. Like they'll completely ignore the fact that you DO have OTHER interests, just because those two hobbies are listed alongside the rest. There is this strange assumption that gamers and/or fans of anime don't have any interest in experiencing other things in life. Take sports for example. I don't watch or talk about a lot of sports, though I did play soccer when I was younger. But, it has nothing to do with my interest in games or anime. I simply don't think they are entertaining to watch while on the sofa in my living room. If I'm going to watch a sport I'd much rather go see it in person. Many gamers or fans of anime are more than willing to go out and do things like hiking, jogging, going to the gym, going to concerts, checking out plays or other similar live events. But people often times just assume that we wouldn't enjoy doing those things, or they don't even bother to ask us if we'd be interested.
To say this feels frustrating is a bit of an understatement, especially since there was a time where I had to hide these interests for fear of being bullied, ostracized, or discriminated. But like I said, I do agree that it is good advice. Unfortunately, that's just how the majority of people are when it comes to this sort of thing.
Thing is, don't make your whole life spin around just entertainment media, maybe unless you work on it.
Maybe the video was calling out for man-childs like people that won't break off the comfort zone, I'm somewhat guilty of that too but I'm trying to get my feet wet out of my bubble way more than before.
It's not that you have to hide it, it's more like you need to have other things to do and work on yourself as much as possible, gain experience on life, anything.
Women can also like entertainment media, and show their passion about it just like men. Having something in common, share thoughts about some show, games it's something that shouldn't feel alien while on a relationship. But having an obsession is something on another level.
entertainment is fun just leave it at that. too much is bad and too little is boring
This guy thinks women who like nerdy shit are a myth or lying about enjoying it to get attention, so take what he says with a big old grain of salt. Sure, some people think anime and video games mean you're immature or whatever, male and female, but I sure as shit didn't spend entire weekends playing games alone in my house because I was hoping that some guy might peak into my window and catch a fucking glimpse lol
It's perfectly okay to have interests and hobbies and look for a partner who shares them, or at bare minimum won't judge you for it. My husband and I bonded over our similar tastes in movies, shows, anime, and games and now we do those things together :)
@@c.jaidewatts2292
yes these are my exact thoughts
Like someone said, don't revolve your life around media like anime and games but holy crap, I see too many edgelords nowadays who think the new "in" thing to do is bash on things like anime, videogames, etc and immediately associate them with the less savory crowd.
i love how he said this will trigger some of you and then you have people writing paragraph retorts on the exact thing he said. The Burned Man is 10 steps ahead
The world would be a better place with more people like Joshua in it.
I don't know if we have enough 1911's to accommodate so many Joshua's
Lets not forget that old joshy boy is a murdering enslaving pyscho and the right hand of Ceaser himself. More Joshs in the world would mean a lot more dead bodies. Like... A lot of dead bodies. He is 100% for genocide, murder, slavery and lots of other... "Sins". Also he is a mormon... So... Need i say more on why more mormons in the world would probably be a bad idea?
I have 100% confidence that this is great advice that will literally help anyone and everyone
It’s crazy how good advice this is truly based
I guess its time to throw in my story (instead of doing my coursework lol).
I was not a social butterfly when I entered my teens. Socially awkward, withdrawn, and very inwardly focused. As I progressed through my early teen years, I surrounded myself with like-minded people. Me n' the boys would shoot the shit and talk about practically anything, but it was during that time where I started developing a resentment to my more social peers. I very nearly became an incel, as I felt that I the reason why girls wouldn't talk to me were absolutely superficial. The whole bullshit of girls only chasing assholes and dumb/popular jocks was something that I perceived as my reality (with hindsight, this was such a dumb take for younger me to have). It took me moving to a different country for me to finally break that negative cycle that I had trapped myself in. I finally started working out (I wasn't very physically active when I was in my early teens, and was even pre-diabetic), meeting new people, making new friends, and touching more grass (really it did wonders).
I still didn't have any luck with girls in highschool, but I ultimately didn't feel resentment at that. I understood that I was simply not doing enough to better my image, and was mainly waiting for the right opportunity. After graduating and entering a community college, I became exposed to more people with similar interests. I joined a club and finally took greater steps to improve myself. I finally started to shave consistently (My family isn't known for strong facial hair. I just end up getting a scraggly mess around my neck if I don't shave), wear cologne, and acquire a better wardrobe. I ended up meeting some girls, dated some of them, fell out with some, and became friends with some. I took the steps to better my mental and physical image, but it would have amounted to nothing if I didn't develop my social skills either. Just talking with girls raised my self-esteem and made me more comfortable communicating. I went into conversations not expecting anything to happen and it helped immensely knowing I didn't have to impress or flirt.
I'm seeing a girl currently and it wouldn't be possible if a mutual friend of ours didn't set us up. She's smart, hard working, kind, fun, and beautiful. We aren't too serious and I wouldn't call her my girlfriend just yet, but i'm hoping that we can get to know each other more and have experiences that make pleasant memories to look back on. I wouldn't have this if I didn't join the club, and I wouldn't have joined the club if I didn't learn to socialize or seek new experiences. I wouldn't have this if I had not taken the steps to better myself. If you read this, what I want you to take away from this is don't sell yourself short. Don't be afraid to step away from your comfort zone every once in a while. Start small and build on previous accomplishments to get to where you are. It'll take time and work (I turned 20 a little over a month ago, and only really entered the dating scene when I turned 18.), but you'll be all the better for it, I know I am.
Edit: Also Im a HUGE nerd for history, videogames, and military vehicles. Still I only really bring it up when relevant or asked about it. If anything my knowledge of history impressed the girl I'm seeing since she had a personal connection to it.
You're doing good, lad.
Yo wanna be friends I'm literally the same history video games and military vehicles
Big thing I learned, humility intentions and self awareness. If you can't look at things from other people's point of view and understand when you're going too far, then you're going to make regretful mistakes in relationships. And if you go into an interaction thinking you want a loving relationship, but have the hidden intention of just wanting sex, then you've already lost. Think inwardly and stop yourself the second you realize your intentions aren't 100% honest.
Agreed. Your outward actions must be aligned with your intentions to have the best chance at achieving them. If you secretly just want sex, there are ways to pursue that without being dishonest with yourself and the women you talk to. If you truly want a loving relationship, you also need to recognize that and pursue that without making it seem like you are just desperate for sex. There are millions of women out there, many who want lasting relationships, some who don't want any relationship, and others who want a good fuckbuddy. By being true to yourself you can filter for the kinds of women you want to attract, and avoid dealing with women who want something different than you do.
Take solace in being alone nothing is wrong with being by yourself.
Edit: the razor scooter line actually made have ptsd style flashbacks to my childhood.
Now that I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm trying to focus mostly on improving myself, learning new things, securing my future, going out and having fun.
But I can't pretend that it isn't tiring. I still haven't met anyone. Most women still aren't interested in me, or I'm not interested in them.
Usually, when a connection happens, it stops at friendship. Most women I get along with are either taken, or they're lesbian. Seriously, I have a lot of lesbian friends, and I don't know why that pattern is there.
I know the adult thing to do is buckle up and keep doing what I'm doing, but I'm so tired, man...
Lucky man. it is not too bad. Maybe i can give you some advice. Why you so interesting in lesbians?
The way they look, how they dress, how they talk. We got some common interests, that's how I met them, and that's what we've bonded over.
@@MyRedHulk I know you may not want to hear this, but it will happen when it happens. Just focus on your life, improve yourself and what you do, and don’t be afraid of rejection. You can’t control other people:there is no secret trick you can do. But if you are genuine and shape yourself into the sort of person you want to be, you will find that you have become the sort of person others want to be with.
Beyond that, don’t take it as a personal hit. Our culture now can make it seem as if sex determines worth, as if you’re a loser for not being in a relationship, but you aren’t. They’re important, but not important enough for you to lose sleep over it. You aren’t “missing out”, this is just your life. Nor are you somehow a failure, or screwed from the start, or any of that. It’ll happen eventually, with a girl you’ll meet and hit it off with. But the darkly ironic part is that that sort of thing will happen likely after you have emotionally grown and aren’t feeling so bad about it.
Good luck.
@@nostalgicactuator8448 Thank you for your kind words. I haven't given up hope yet that it'll happen. Or that I'll eventually stop caring about it, like you said. In the meantime, I'm working on becoming the person I want to be, but even that will likely take time, so at least I'm occupied.
Again, I really appreciate your advice. I didn't expect such kindness from an internet stranger today.
Certain trends in sexuality and social interests are prevelant today and will change in time, especially with young people. Focus on whats in front of you and keep moving forward. Im sure you are doing better than you realize friend.
absolutely gold, very old very true ideas on how to operate in the world of dating as a man who actually wants to seek relationship or even wedlock, most people need it, most won't take it to heart, but in the end getting messages like this out there again and again and in ways like this really shine on the human condition, all in all guess I'm really just saying thanks in a really long way :9)
"How does your skin look?" Joshua I think you're proof enough for that not to matter 😏
We're all just brains piloting skeletons. Joshua's soul shines through the meat packaging.
@@Ray_D_Tutto yea and the earth is a floating rock dood
Yea and Josh wears fresh bandages even if it's reliving the burning
You'll never be a woman
Joshua has other charms backing that up, his voice, personality, knowledge, and if youre religious, his faith in god
Had a good laugh until the two and a half minutes mark, then I realised this is actually giving some great advice for guys in this generation that are falling into the effeminate trap and deifying women. Confidence is key, and if you lack it go for a walk, run or sneaky workout, nothing boosts your confidence like a shot of testosterone.
Ok I don't think I'm gonna like the answer but as a generally effeminate guy what do you mean by the 'effeminate trap'?
@@seasnaill2589basically that any masculinity/effeminateity is toxic.
Most media anymore makes fun of being proud of your masculinity (or in your case, effeminateity)
@@thareasonisme Not really. Certain masculine traits sure, but masculinity as a whole, no.
strength, courage, independence, leadership are valued by the society at large and all of those are associated with masculinity. In my experience some media vilifies extremes of those traits. For instance extreme independence. Refusing to work with anyone, due to your fragile ego is seen as bad. And some media insist that those masculine traits are not necessary for a happy life (You don't need to be muscular gym bunny to be happy)
Indeed most feminists would tell you that it's more of a "Toxic Masculinity vs. Healthy Masculinity" thing. Me included.
For as wise as Joshua Graham is he wouldn't let me regrow his burnt skin in the autodoc
@@petavaldman2150 Would love a description on the difference between toxic and healthy masculinity. I did have an interesting read into toxic masculinity and feminity though and noticed something that made me laugh. Google both if you don't believe what you read below.
"Toxic masculinity: Toxic masculinity is an attitude or set of social guidelines stereotypically associated with manliness that often have a negative impact on men, women, and society in general."
"Toxic Femininty: Toxic femininity, to put it simply, describes behavior that reflects or supports gender-based stereotypes or social norms for women. Exposure to these social norms and stereotypes typically begins at an early age, and this mindset isn't your fault."
Toxic masculinity is the individuals/mans fault and effects men women and society negatively. Toxic femininity is not the individual/womans fault, they're essentially "opressed" into femininity.
Almost seems like masculinity is seen as toxic because traditional feminine traits are now considered toxic and women now have to coopt to masculine ones.
Bro gives the best advice in 7 minutes than pick up artist and dating coaches do in 10-20 lessons
cuz its genuine advice anyone can use instead of "buy another subscription to my dogshit advice and make me richer while wasting your time!"
It’s because they pussyfoot around topics to extend the length of the video or to give you the idea they are an expert for talking longer. Advice is short and simple, it’s goal is to give you an idea of what you need or not do.
This is one of the better "AI voice gives you advice" videos because it gives specific, bracing advice and provides reasoning for a lot of it. This isn't just feel-good claptrap.
This gave me newfound will and confidence-- LOOK OUT WORLD, THIS MAN HAS FOUND MOTIVATION!
"Don't spray it on you like some goober." The delivery sent me.
"Stop talking so much on dates or interactions" 100% true. You want her to be talking as much as you can while saying as little as you can to keep the conversation going.
To an extent I disagree, you should both be able to hold a conversation without relying on one person to carry it. But at the same time you also shouldn't be a chatterbox and drowning out the other person entirely.
It's really easy to get people to talk about their self tbh, but you can gauge how interested a person is when they start asking about you or throwing you a bone in conversation.
@@reddeath4806 It's a healthy balance. I think the purpose of the statement in the video wasn't to get a mans potential prospects to carry the conversation; It was to remind the listener to be mindful of how much they're talking compared to their date.
A person (male or female, in this case) talking too much or too little can both convey disinterest. It's very important to keep a conversation flowing naturally and make both parties think that they're not talking too much or too little. Someone thinking they aren't socializing correctly can placebo themselves into *actually* not socializing correctly. Keeping it balanced mitigates the risk.
@@inwit594 But what if I genuinely couldn't care less about the vapid stuff she's spewing? I can fake interest for sure but in the end I just get bored and disinterested if they talk a lot.
I can't stand when people talk a lot without saying anything of actual depth or uniqueness.
@@reddeath4806 the thing is men generally tend to talk a lot, and also talk over people a lot, especially those who don't have a ton of social experience. it's a good tip to be mindful of how much you're saying compared to the other person. no one wants to be talked at all day.
My brother in Christ, we don’t “practice sex” we marry one woman and give her our life.
True honor.
Best pick up line.
Just introduce yourself and talk about something. Eventually tell her you think she is cute and you want to get to know her better. If you are in a public setting like a bar or coffeeshop ask if you can buy her a drink(if you can afford it) and if she would be willing to sit with you. If not, ask her for her number. If she isn't interested just move on. She could have any number of reasons, and most of the time it probably isn't your fault unless you can look back and definitively say that was a little creepy.
But yeah...just talk. Throw in a small compliment every once and a while and she will come around. Women are looking for a vibe...that's it. If you can match her energy she is gonna be interested.
Very wholesome and exactly the kind of advice I give to friends and co-workers who feel they can't get girls. It's not as hard as you think. I can't stress enough about how far looking put together goes. Just wear fitting clothing, avoid logos and appear like you respect yourself enough to care about your appearance. Looking like a Chad but dressing like Shaggy from Scooby Doo won't get you very far.
There is nothing wrong with logos or designs. This is not the 1940's anymore where black and white t shirts were basically the only things people had to wear. From movies, to books ,to video games to music/band shirts. They all have their place and should be worn. Who wants to see an endless sea of people in black and white shirts? Be clean, yes. Smell good, yes. For the love of fuck use deodorant and brush your teeth and drink water. But to say that you should be wearing black and white t shirts? Come on. My band shirts have opened so many conversations and i have met a lot of good friends that way. And his whole speel about girls trapping men by pretending to be interested in "mens hobbies" being a trap is chauvinistic at best and out right misogynistic at worst.
@@BobBobby-kt4sc Ngl I've seen it happen tho, two guys I know had women who put themselves out there as nerdy and wanting to nerd out with them and their friends and it didn't actually work out that way at all
Like with dudes, some girls are genuinely interested in the stuff with no motivation but their interest.
Some are not interested in it natively but are keen to get involved for their S/O's or friends etc
And some absolutely feign interest because it makes them stand out
The first two groups shouldn't be lumped in with the third but that doesn't mean we should pretend that it doesn't happen
@@BobBobby-kt4sc There is definitely some old standards mixed in with some genuinely good advice. Like someone who grew up in the 80s when the 'men don't understand women' bullshit was at its height.
@@BobBobby-kt4sc I could not agree more.
And that whole "women wear make-up to attract men" is also wrong. In female prisons women still wear make-up and some even sleep with prison staff to get make up, which seems to be completely backward to what this video said. In my experience women do it to "feel cute" not to look cute.
Literally tons of girls drooled over Shaggy
My only real argument with this is the part about collecting stuff from fandoms, enjoy your interests, if you love what you like and put effort into it be it video games or shows or tabletop then buy what you want and do what makes you happy. Having and showing actual interests is better than hiding it, my girlfriend might not get wet or fall head over heels because of my legos and transformers but she loves that I love them. She knows they mean a lot to me and it’s something I can talk about with her even though she doesn’t always understand she knows it means something to me when I’m able to share my interests as I do the same for her.
Honestly that was one of the only things I don’t agree with, maybe the texting thing but eh I don’t date women so what do I know
I think is up to having it be a part of you and not your entire self, like its cool to be passionate about a series of books/manga , a world of cartoon or anything, but if it is all that you are and you dont have anything else it is a problem, i dont have a lot of dating experience but for me if what defines a personality of someone is a series of netflix, an anime or anything at all is just not worth puting effort in knowing the person (sorry if there is many whiting mistakes, English is not my first language)
I agree, BUT this speech isn't exactly meant for people with a balanced mindset. Often people who are too deep into a negative mindset or overly invested into a show/medium that it interfered with their ability to speak to people in person need harsher advice to stick in their mind. Ideally, partners should at least respect each other's interest and engage as far as they can with them.
That was the only bad advice in the video. Pretending you don't enjoy the things you enjoy, or just outright hiding your hobbies and interests just because of "anime bad" normie FPS gamer culture is absolutely not what you should do in a relationship, since relationships are built on trust and shared interests. That part of the video felt biased.
Consooom more goy.
"i will personally fit you in the shin with a Razor scooter" i laughed way too hard at that line XD
I love the video overall. It's a great message of improving yourself, which is important even if you're not seeking any sort of relationship. Be hygienic, social, kind, and temper obsessions (though I think that last one is gone overboard), those are all good things. Heck, I'm a married man, and my goal is most of if not all those things. Good hygiene makes you feel better, even introverts are social creatures, being good feels nice, and obsessions give diminishing returns after a point. Honestly, the only parts that I disagree with are the "practice sex" part (I very much believe chastity is important for both men and women to be happy long-term), and the whole "don't show interest in anime" thing is basically advising that you actively seek shallow women, as women that don't like you having different hobbies tend to turn into women that hate seeing you happy, which defeats the point of being in a relationship, romantic or otherwise
I think many people are taking that anime part the wrong way
I think what i meant was to not be an anime obsessed person at the first glance/on the first sight
Like ... do not make your yourself look as if your whole personality can be summarized as "i am an anime obsessed" at the first glance
Let them get to know you over time and THEN bring these in slowly in time
Not that "never watch or talk about anime", this isn't the message the video was going, other wise the line "some anime are works of art" wouldn't have existed in the script
@@TiredDoktor6391 and I agree with temperance in the matter. But the whole thing of "slowly introduce it", even though I don't believe it to be intentional, is hard to not read as "lie about who you are" in the wider context. Which is a manipulation tactic. Again, I totally agree with not making it your whole personality. But you wouldn't give the advice to, say, hide a collection of baseball caps, basketball jerseys, or sneakers, yeah? Then why should a guy hide a collection of anime figurines? Unless the figurines are the more perverse type, of course, but I'd argue that to be something a person should remove from their life regardless of whether they're trying to enter a relationship. If it's important to you, and something the other person can't stand the sight of, then the relationship isn't going far. You could call it "bad practice" to be in such a relationship.
Your last point is exactly what I was thinking lmao. How does the author say that we shouldn't go after women based on looks alone because that'd be like buying a broken down car with a nice pain job (great analogy btw); but a few moments later tell us to hide our passions because women don't like seeing anime posters, shirts, or figurines?
Is this not doing the same exact thing but the shoe is on the other foot? If a girl I'm talking to is turned off by my hobbies and passions without getting to know me or how I interact with them, she is shallow. So, to go after these women would be to do the thing he just said not to do lmao. I understand that being obsessive over these things and making them your whole personality is not the way to go. But if I have to hide who I am and what I enjoy, then she isn't the one for me.
@@dalebumpaous1502 My man spitting rn 😂 Yeah, I agree with what the other guy was saying but we have to go off of what the author said. And "slowly introduce it" is basically saying, hide who you are until a later time. And ironically, even this could still lead to the woman leaving. So, if she is going to leave upon finding out you like anime and other nerdy stuff, I would rather that happen early on instead of going through the stress of hiding who I am. Maybe stress is not the right word. But I am a very genuine person looking for a very genuine relationship. And if I have to hide who I am or my interests (non-obsessive), then imma just look for someone who can appreciate me. The same way I appreciate them.