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Lol my best friend of 4 years who happened to officially ask me to be his girlfriend(3 months back) because we strongly had been convicted that we were God’s will, broke up with me few days ago. He is such an amazing man of God who also has an avoidant attachment style. We are very compatible. He broke up with me because he started being distant because of fear & when I brought it up he said “It looks like I’m not giving you want you want so it’s fine let’s be friends”. He since been ghosting me. God gave me so many confirmations that this is the man for me, I still got no doubt about it. Dating an avoidant man is not child’s play.😂😢 The church needs such knowledge to understand that it’s not always satan attacking, but the conditions of our souls(because of life traumas especially from childhood) is what makes up most of unpleasant circumstances in our lives. Basically our souls shapes up our life experience. Healing is mandatory in the church.
Oh boy😢 i can totally relate as something VERY similar happened to me. It means that you need to intercede for him that God would deal with his heart. When he wants to come back in the near future, you will have to be firm that you guys go through counselling
I was sent to RUclips by the holy ghost and he told me I will show you the video to watch. I've was going through a phase and was trying to learn about attachment style just yesterday. I came online as I was led and he said watch this video and I'm glad I did. Thanks to those who ensure videos go out
Hmmm….Avoidant attachment. So that’s what it’s called. The Holy Spirit convicted me very recently about this. I didn’t even know it was bad. I experienced so much healing at a retreat and had to make things right with a friend I had decided to cut off. This is message is so timely.
What if one did that to someone who continues to cause trouble because U are attached to her and she no longer values what U do either because she feels U r attached,so after a misbehaviour,U just cut off
Even as a servant of GOD, that you are, yet some might not know that 'in depth path of you that makes you human', yet is many women often times, oblivious about, but is obtainable in many of us guys,... Being EMOTIONAL, pointing to something, you are NOT shallow hearted, a very 'hearty' type, and may likely be INTROVERT... many women don't think about this while dating some of us, but we've got to be survivors... Great one..!
I think this avoidance issue is a man thing cos i do it too, and i see a lot of men in the comment saying same. At least now i know it's something i need to work on
True Sa Glad you've been honest about it Women, most, like to drag the problem till it is fully dissected while most men prefer leaving it hanging and expect it to dissolve in the air untouched😂
Pst.Iren...i have a question 🙏 My best friend asked me to date him and i prayed about it but i didn't know if God has given me go ahead into the relationship and now we're still dating despite it's a distance relationship My question is..Are we doing the wrong thing or we are out of the will of God 😢
Odds are ,if you're not feeling the peace of God about the decision, Then it is most certainly not from God . Whenever God's will is involved in a partner to fulfill your purpose with . There is always a reassuring peace that comes with it . When your heart is second guessing ,feeling not so at ease if you did the right thing or not ,odds are "even tho he's maybe a great guy , you're most likely not inline with his perfect will for you with that decision ". There is total conviction that you have in your spirit ,and it's something to try and force yourself to feel ,it's something that the holy Spirit brings to you
Above all , the Bible makes mention of knowing people by their fruits. More than just having a conviction ,always look out for their fruits (actions ) Is this individual a love slave for the Lord Jesus ,who is totally submitted to the holyspirit dreams ,purpose ,and God's agenda for his life or he's just a church goer ,who can sha speak in tongues ?? Is he an individual who is passionate about your goals in life , especially your kingdom goals ,the way you are ? Is he someone who brings out the best in you (the better version of you )? Is he someone who is willing to follow due process ? Which is to meet your parents ,getting their consent to be in relationship with their daughter ,marrying you before thinking of being intimate with you in any sexual activity ,including the little and the weighty ones
This is the only way you would know if he is really serious about the relationship leading to marriage . Lastly, does he have the clear evident characteristics of the holyspirit ,which is "a strengthener ,a standby ,a comforter ,someone who advocates you ,speaks in your defense even in your absence Does he have the fruits of the spirit , which is PATIENCE! To do the right thing at the right time , Kindness ,etc. If you choose to open your eyes and look closely and find out these things aren't really in him. Sister turn back. He's not the perfect will of God for you because by their fruits ,you shall know them . But If he does have all this things ,then move ahead in your relationship with the counsel of your parents and your leaders in faith
@@echoesofwisdom_and you missed the point where ppl are supposed to communicate what they actually mean. She was not wrong to ask for her money back, their values were just not aligned but he went about testing her in a wrong way
I dont understand breaking up with someone cos she asked for money back that she loaned you. Respectfully, I think your approach was wrong sir. You could have simply told her to give/contribute the money. That is very unfair. Truth was twisted.
You should also understand that he doesn't have to tell the complete experience of their dating time before you get it. She was probably just an extremely tightfisted person. And it's quite hurtful to have a partner like that. That probably just always receives but finds it hard to give, be a part of what God has committed to one's hands resources wise. It's a big red flag. The approach, maybe but it's been plenty years of growth since the incidence which Pastey rightly mentioned after
Please be fair. He literally said "It's not always toxic; peace is possible" and later also said, "What I had was called avoidant attachment". He used his behaviour as the example, not her behaviour. He literally was talking about his mistake and his behaviour, not her behaviour. And this whole thing is about how HE was avoidant and couldn't bring things up. You could listen better, please.
Is there an avenue to overlooking certain things, because I can assure you that if every body starts bringing up every single thing the world will be chaotic.@@BlessQuarshie
Is this a pastor or a story-teller? Did you notice his worldly haircut? Is this speaker even born-again? He would pass for a comedian with gullible women.
What is wrong with telling a story when one preaches? Which hair cut did Jesus have? Where did you get your definition of the description of the haircut from? May God help you to learn that God has many children and created variety. If you look at God's creation, for example birds, you will understand the Creator better. You have a critical spirit and I do believe that it has a link with a trauma you are struggling with. Some sessions with a well-rounded and well-trained Christian Counselor will help you.
As serious as you are that you don't communicate with stories, God still bypasses you and chooses him over you. Now he's impacting his generation. I beg use your oversabi "qualities" go find something to do, pele ooo
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Lol my best friend of 4 years who happened to officially ask me to be his girlfriend(3 months back) because we strongly had been convicted that we were God’s will, broke up with me few days ago. He is such an amazing man of God who also has an avoidant attachment style. We are very compatible. He broke up with me because he started being distant because of fear & when I brought it up he said “It looks like I’m not giving you want you want so it’s fine let’s be friends”. He since been ghosting me. God gave me so many confirmations that this is the man for me, I still got no doubt about it. Dating an avoidant man is not child’s play.😂😢
The church needs such knowledge to understand that it’s not always satan attacking, but the conditions of our souls(because of life traumas especially from childhood) is what makes up most of unpleasant circumstances in our lives. Basically our souls shapes up our life experience. Healing is mandatory in the church.
Wow that's real deep 😮
Thanks so much for sharing sis😩🥹😭…. This is exactly what I’m going through right now
Healing is mandatory
Please where are you from😊
You spill so much wisdom wowww
Oh boy😢 i can totally relate as something VERY similar happened to me. It means that you need to intercede for him that God would deal with his heart. When he wants to come back in the near future, you will have to be firm that you guys go through counselling
I was sent to RUclips by the holy ghost and he told me I will show you the video to watch.
I've was going through a phase and was trying to learn about attachment style just yesterday.
I came online as I was led and he said watch this video and I'm glad I did.
Thanks to those who ensure videos go out
Read the book "attached" by Amir Levine. Explains a lot about the attachment styles
Hmmm….Avoidant attachment. So that’s what it’s called. The Holy Spirit convicted me very recently about this. I didn’t even know it was bad. I experienced so much healing at a retreat and had to make things right with a friend I had decided to cut off. This is message is so timely.
Please what is avoidance attachment?
What if one did that to someone who continues to cause trouble because U are attached to her and she no longer values what U do either because she feels U r attached,so after a misbehaviour,U just cut off
If you cross the line in the friendship you will just discover I wont talk to you again.
That statement is screaming my name 🤦.
That is malice
Serious unforgivable spirit. U need to work on it if u want a lasting relationship
I am Always blessed listening to Apostle Iren
From Uganda 🇺🇬
Exactly what made me gave up on my Ex. How can someone never had anything to say
Even as a servant of GOD, that you are, yet some might not know that 'in depth path of you that makes you human', yet is many women often times, oblivious about, but is obtainable in many of us guys,... Being EMOTIONAL, pointing to something, you are NOT shallow hearted, a very 'hearty' type, and may likely be INTROVERT... many women don't think about this while dating some of us, but we've got to be survivors... Great one..!
Jesus is coming soon... God bless Pastor Iren
Sir God bless you...u model for me what I desire in terms of physical appearance....never caught unfresh...
This blessed me pastey...Thank you for sharing
We are glad this video blessed you ❤️❤️
more grace sir
Thank you, Pastey🙏
❤🎉🎉🎉 MORE GRACE SIR
More grace Ps Iren
We are glad this video blessed you 💕💟
But why !😮 Avoidance 😂. This helped me a lot 😂. I dan go express my mind give person as e Dey hot .
I'm with you always
Thanks sir 🙏❤️
This blessed me❤
We are glad it did 😊👍
Pastey, you are just like me.😅
I think this avoidance issue is a man thing cos i do it too, and i see a lot of men in the comment saying same. At least now i know it's something i need to work on
I am guilty of it too
Not necessarily a man thing, I know women who have strong avoidant attachment. It can happen to both men and women
I'm a woman with it but God is a healer
True Sa
Glad you've been honest about it
Women, most, like to drag the problem till it is fully dissected while most men prefer leaving it hanging and expect it to dissolve in the air untouched😂
This was me before😊
Lolll this is happening to me right now!!!
Why is this not complete?
Woow😳😳
I feel attacked
😅
😂😂😂😂😂 I can't stop laughing
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Hello sir pls complete the story. Dont leave us hanging 😂
The full video is linked at the end of this video.
The video at the left 👍
@@ApostleEmmanuelIrenClips thank you sir. I listened but it doesn't have the end of this story. Great message though thanks for sharing
@@ApostleEmmanuelIrenClips
Can we get a link for the morning devotions? or a direction as to how to join?
The RUclips channel is:Triumph30 Live
Pst.Iren...i have a question 🙏
My best friend asked me to date him and i prayed about it but i didn't know if God has given me go ahead into the relationship and now we're still dating despite it's a distance relationship
My question is..Are we doing the wrong thing or we are out of the will of God 😢
Hello precious!
Just incase pastor is yet to reply you
I believe you should wait on God 🙏
For your response
Cheers Sister❤
Odds are ,if you're not feeling the peace of God about the decision,
Then it is most certainly not from God .
Whenever God's will is involved in a partner to fulfill your purpose with .
There is always a reassuring peace that comes with it .
When your heart is second guessing ,feeling not so at ease if you did the right thing or not ,odds are "even tho he's maybe a great guy , you're most likely not inline with his perfect will for you with that decision ".
There is total conviction that you have in your spirit ,and it's something to try and force yourself to feel ,it's something that the holy Spirit brings to you
Above all , the Bible makes mention of knowing people by their fruits.
More than just having a conviction ,always look out for their fruits (actions )
Is this individual a love slave for the Lord Jesus ,who is totally submitted to the holyspirit dreams ,purpose ,and God's agenda for his life or he's just a church goer ,who can sha speak in tongues ??
Is he an individual who is passionate about your goals in life , especially your kingdom goals ,the way you are ?
Is he someone who brings out the best in you (the better version of you )?
Is he someone who is willing to follow due process ? Which is to meet your parents ,getting their consent to be in relationship with their daughter ,marrying you before thinking of being intimate with you in any sexual activity ,including the little and the weighty ones
This is the only way you would know if he is really serious about the relationship leading to marriage .
Lastly, does he have the clear evident characteristics of the holyspirit ,which is "a strengthener ,a standby ,a comforter ,someone who advocates you ,speaks in your defense even in your absence
Does he have the fruits of the spirit , which is PATIENCE! To do the right thing at the right time ,
Kindness ,etc.
If you choose to open your eyes and look closely and find out these things aren't really in him.
Sister turn back.
He's not the perfect will of God for you because by their fruits ,you shall know them .
But If he does have all this things ,then move ahead in your relationship with the counsel of your parents and your leaders in faith
Not** try to force yourself ml
No it's not. Anger is not reassuring. It's a red 🚩🚩🚩🚩
The bible tells us to be angry when we need to be but do not let the sun go down on your anger.
Context is key brother/sister
Anger is a red flag? Are we not human beings again? I'd rather you show me that you're angry that stone-wall me with silence.
Where's the link of continuation ooo
You borrowed money integrity says you should pay back
And you missed the point he was trying to make. Did he lack the money to pay back? Or you think he doesn't have integrity? Lol
I think😮
It's not returning the money that was the issue, it's the fact that she never sowed into the work
You don't ask someone to so by saying lend me. You directly say "sow" @@iovercame359
@@echoesofwisdom_The government has the resources to give you great social amenities but they don't. That's cool why?
@@echoesofwisdom_and you missed the point where ppl are supposed to communicate what they actually mean.
She was not wrong to ask for her money back, their values were just not aligned but he went about testing her in a wrong way
Link to full video please
Its liked at the end of this video ❤️
Good morning sir...I just want to ask sir how do I become as crazy as you were or as you are sir
😂😂 you dey look for his of kind money not his kind of crazy. God will help you in your pursuit o
@@omotosoeniola9697😂😂😂
This is so me …
😂😂😢IT is well
Una no do anything 😂😂
🤔🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🧐Uhmmmmm!!!
I dont understand breaking up with someone cos she asked for money back that she loaned you. Respectfully, I think your approach was wrong sir. You could have simply told her to give/contribute the money. That is very unfair. Truth was twisted.
He just said he had changed.. no matter how we want to examine his bad attitude as at then, He just said presently, he had changed.
You should also understand that he doesn't have to tell the complete experience of their dating time before you get it. She was probably just an extremely tightfisted person. And it's quite hurtful to have a partner like that. That probably just always receives but finds it hard to give, be a part of what God has committed to one's hands resources wise. It's a big red flag. The approach, maybe but it's been plenty years of growth since the incidence which Pastey rightly mentioned after
Are you sure you watched and listened to this video well to understand abi it's another one you're seeing?
Not everything is toxic. So, calling her peaceful traits toxic is not right.
Chief judge,oya ooo, continue
I think He was tagging what they both had as toxic. Not just her
They both didn't bond nor felt attachment to each other
Please be fair. He literally said "It's not always toxic; peace is possible" and later also said, "What I had was called avoidant attachment". He used his behaviour as the example, not her behaviour. He literally was talking about his mistake and his behaviour, not her behaviour. And this whole thing is about how HE was avoidant and couldn't bring things up. You could listen better, please.
Is there an avenue to overlooking certain things, because I can assure you that if every body starts bringing up every single thing the world will be chaotic.@@BlessQuarshie
Didn't quarrel once?😂😂😂😂
Chinese eye pastor
This is funny 😂
@@ApostleEmmanuelIrenClipsGod bless you! I’m just teasing oo
😅😅😅😅😅😂
Please stop justifying bad behavior.
I hope, you listen to the end
He is right,,i guess you are like that kind woman too
Someone called something a "MISTAKE" he made and you're saying HE'S JUSTIFYING BAD BEHAVIOUR! I don't get?
@RESCUESOULTV Some of you are slow. He justified the reason women NAG. Anger is reassuring?
@@kelechisamuel1897 I hope you did. Most of you slow! He justified why women NAG. That's justifying bad behavior.
😢😢😢😢not funny....but......
He is laughing behind he realised he was childish
Is this a pastor or a story-teller? Did you notice his worldly haircut? Is this speaker even born-again? He would pass for a comedian with gullible women.
You will be alright in the name of Jesus Amen ❤🙏🏼
What is wrong with telling a story when one preaches?
Which hair cut did Jesus have? Where did you get your definition of the description of the haircut from?
May God help you to learn that God has many children and created variety. If you look at God's creation, for example birds, you will understand the Creator better.
You have a critical spirit and I do believe that it has a link with a trauma you are struggling with. Some sessions with a well-rounded and well-trained Christian Counselor will help you.
All will be well with you
As serious as you are that you don't communicate with stories, God still bypasses you and chooses him over you. Now he's impacting his generation. I beg use your oversabi "qualities" go find something to do, pele ooo
You need help
More grace sir