#11 How to Survive saying goodbye to a Dutch person
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- Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024
- Corona made the problem go away for a while, but it's back: Dutch Kissing Confusion. Cause when greeting in The Netherlands, do we give 3 kisses, or just 1? Please tell us what you think in the comments!
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The return of the king!
i didnt vote for him
I'm born and raised in NL and sort of accustomed with 3 kisses, but only with later generations. When I come to think of it and see it, 3 kisses is such an awkward concept on itself. 😂😅
this channel came back from the dead without any announcement, this masterpiece came blasting right trough my door
And then it disappeared again.
@@PaulaBean never to be heard from again…
In my experience people under 30 don't do 3 kisses anymore, they just hug
i was always used to 3 till i started working at a bar where everyone kissed eachother once each time they would come in at work lol. now im not sure what to do anymore in any other situations
i think the one kiss spread mainly due to internet, and as youngsters being super awafe that only in the netherlands this was a thing. than also teens began to hug eachother, like in other countries, instead of kissing, because 3 kisses was sooo awkward. and now we silently agreed upon 1, less awkward but more warm than just a hug
OH MY GOD, THEY'RE BACK! FINALLY! I've waited so long for the new videos!
YES WE ARE! Can't believe it ourselves either. Thanks for sticking around!
@@SurvivalGuidetotheDutch And then a silence of 9 months++.
@@SurvivalGuidetotheDutchr u gonna be back? 😢
the law is very very clean on this:
"First shalt thou take out the Holy Kisser. Then shalt thou count to three, no more, no less. Three shall be the number thou shalt count, and the number of the counting shall be three. Four shalt thou not count, neither count thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to three. Five is right out. "
It's three and I love to observe the panic-stricken Americans who encounter it.
Ik ben zo Nederlands als wat maar hiervan ga ik echt lachen, het is enigszins wel echt een handboek om als toerist Nederland goed door te komen😂
I'm moving to the Netherlands in a month, and this channel is saving my life 🌷
How do you like it?
Sterkte.
Be realy for oud en nieuw, war is getting started
I missed your videos guys, welcome back. Happy also to see that I'm not the only one confused about the situation. :)
My guy left for 2 years, leaving me sad without his content. Comes back doesn't say anything ):
Haha, sorry man!
Idea for another video: how to survive office lunch. From canteens with individual plastic packaged pieces of ham or cheese, to the conversations and expectaitons of what to do.
You guys are back? I was waiting for this, those video's made my day, DANKUWEL!
Hell yeah!
I'm so glad this whole kissing thing hasn't yet returned in 2023! I always hated it, especially since I wear glasses.
Yooooo you back!
Thinking about, and my conclusion is that it is either 3 air kisses, or one hug.
I knew about the 3 kisses, but the history and how the pandemic was helping the awkwardness are new to me.
Thanks for the insight, and welcome back, @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch.
Oh, almost forgot to say: The ending is amazing!!!
Thanks for making another video!! I hope to see more from you guys 😁😁😁
We'll be back, promise!
Funny, recently ran into this "problem" when kissing a Dutch lady who now lives in Switzerland. I automatically went for 3 because I have doing that most for my life. But she went for one. That felt weird 🤣
It's always been three kisses for me! For my Dutch and Surinamese family.
Also: Welkom terug!!
Hahahahha I'm 100% dutch, from Dordrecht, so technically the north, but ive always known (and hated) it to be 3 kisses. I personally prefer a hug, or 1 kiss with a hug. I kiss my mother in law 3x a year 3 kisses and thats her birthday/my birthday and new years eve. Thats my max. and even after 10+ years she keeps saying, we dont kiss right cuz you don't like that. INDEEED. I was looking for a video like this to explain to my friend from the UK and it was excatly what I was looking for!!!!
Omg this channel is alive let's goooooooooooooooo
personally i opt for no kisses, not even for family. i feel like the younger generation is also moving away from the kissing greet, since it might be too intimate especially with strangers.
Omgg you're backk
This was so funny! Top job guys, well done 😂
Nice vid. Reminiscing I miss those awkward "3-kiss/1-kiss/no-kiss/wtf" moments.
Er was een liedje van Kinderen Voor Kinderen deel 9 precies over dit probleem. 🤣 Toen al herkenbaar!
3 always
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Oh, en uh...
HET IS FRIET!!!
I personally always found it akward, so I just said "don't like kisses" and went for a hug. Always works.
Where in the country are these tolerant people who don't respond to that by grabbing your head and forcing it haha
Same always hugging
after years they finally came back!
He casually called up Dries van Agt
I come from a rural town in Groningen where we still do two, which causes confusion when we go to family in Arnhem who do it thrice
Do as the Brabander, just keep kissing three times. We in the south are associated with Burgundian “gezelligheid”
Dat zoenen heb ik altijd klote gevonden.
Since covid, i stopped doing kisses alltogether and im not planning on changing back in the near future.
I was born and raised in The Netherlands with 3 kisses. Living in the US now, I've grown accustomed to hugs and now feel it's much better than kisses! No chance of lipstick stains on the cheeks 👍🏽😁
As someone from below the rivers, if there are kisses it will be three kisses.
He is back!
Just 3 kisses.
THE GANG IS BACK!!! I guess 3 it is then......
As dutch ex colony country now i know how we get two kisses after the dutch left in 1949.. we call it "Sun" 😂
Maybe I've just gotten lucky, but I moved from the US last June and have never had anyone try to kiss me. I didn't even know it was a thing.
I've been in NL just 1 year (1997-1998) I do the 3 kisses too (but only with people that close)
Live without people even trying to come close to me for a handshake. thats bliss.
Same here
I got dizzy just from watching so many kisses 😂I prefer 0, thank you very much :))
I just shake hands. I've literally only cheek-kisse on like 5 occasions in my entie life.
I sing for the last sentence!
When I came to the Netherlands it was 3. I slowly took over the custom. When meeting new women, its 3 kisses. With guys, a handshake. As a gay guy though... Should I be giving 3 kisses instead?
Ik heb het afgeschaft.
Doe er niet meer aan mee.
Ik haat 3 kussen en houd mijn poot stijf een hand kun je krijgen en verder niet.
haha always the best, being from Brazil I've never got tangled on this, I'm going to kiss and hug either way hahaha
in my family you always give hugs untill you're about 12 and then you start giving 3 kisses, I don't like it but it's just tradition
thanks Survival Guide, now I have kissophobia
This suddenly made me nervous for a date coming up LOL
Nah. From the US but have lived in Paris and Nederland with a German/Palestinian boyfriend. 2 kisses in France, 3 kisses in Amsterdam, 5-7 in more eastern countries. Dropping the boy .
I nannied for 5 yrs off at school I'd see lots of women kiss more than 5 times at drop off and lunch break. Much more stiff in Germany. I visited w my bf's mother many times but I never knew she liked me until after he died at middle age. We write back and forth and I'm wearing her son's hoodie that she sent me right now. Sorry, over long.
But! When Dutchies come visit me in US the first thing is 3 kisses at the airport.
If you don't want things to go awkward, go for the three kisses. That's the tradition, therefore it's never wrong.
I'm an elderly Dutchman from Rotterdam and one kiss is good, two are fine, but three are too many. My impression is that the kiss as a greeting has lost much of its appeal anyway.
Me and my ex both grew up in the west of the country. I spent the last decade in the east of the country.
When we met again to talk, I went for the hug I give all my friends - she went for a cheek kiss.
We both found the other to be too intimate, hahaha 😂
Buiten Amsterdam geven we gewoon een hand hoor, 3 kussen bij familie, knuffel bij vrienden
I always did the three kisses, but only with some very very close family. With most people no kisses at all.
Would four kisses be too much maybe 5?
Absolutely!
Depends on the context.. if we're entangled for more than a couple of minutes than just 5 kisses might not be enough.
I believe in some areas of France 4 is normal
I come from from Amsterdam. But fighting over the number of kisses? I don't think it is a real issue. I never heard anybody talks about that
Ok, ok, maybe we exaggerated a little bit. 😉
2024 we kijken dit nog
재밌다 ㅋㅋㅋ 문화가 완잔히 달라서...
they're alive :O?
You make more sense than the dutch goverment
In Portugal we do two kisses and ngl I think that's the perfect amount 3 just seems a bit too much
I'm from rotterdam and in my family it has always been 3
Catholics from Brabant originally? 😁
I absolutely dislike the whole kissing cheeks aspect of the Dutch culture. I'm a Dutchie too, and I haven't had any strangers doing the kisses thing fortunately. With family and friends I'm always firm on "No kisses" and 9/10 people seem to understand it. Handshakes and even hugs are fine, though I prefer handshakes over hugs, I'd never ever do the kisses.
Oh, so it's a Catholic thing! That's why we kiss 3 times in Brazil too. But usually only between women or man vs woman. Men don't do that between themselves. I think it's more of an Italian thing, from what we see on those mafia movies. Not sure it's a real life thing.
So confused now! Also do more videos or my goldfish die. 😛
The habit of three kisses started in the 1950s in Brabant, the southern part of the Netherlands. It was a reaction against the soberness that prevailed in World War 2. Local people sought to imitate the abundant behaviour of Americans, and they took three kisses to be part of that.
americans dont kiss unless to spread cooties, this is pure dutch tradition from back when everyone also spoke fluent french
Of mensen die dan een knuffel geven, maar dat eigenlijk zelf heel spannend vinden dus dan noemen ze het maar een "hug"
I met my wife in the south and at the end of our first date we said goodbye with kisses.. i'm from the north so on the third kiss i went all in for the lips :D
Cheffs kiss 😘
Geniaal
I was born and love in the Netherlands. I Never liked the 3 kisses takes way to long. Just 1 or a hug that's what I do these days.
3 kisses only forgodd friends or family
🎉🎉🎉
haha that was funny
I think people hug more often now because of the end of the pandemic.
3 kussen, links beginnen. It's not that hard.
Go for a hug, as a Dutchmen I dont know it either anymore.
😘😘😘
As a Dutch person, I reeaaly hope kissing dies soon. A handshake if you don't know someone ad a hug if you do (if people are comfortable with that, otherwise just wave) is the way to go. As far as I see gen-z is doing that already.
I stopped kissing when covid started and will now forever refuse them. My family has re-started kissing but even though I'm the odd one out by refusing them, I feel so much happier because I've always hated it.
Xx
It's a terrible tradition, tbh.
The guy just said "holland", dutch people will hate you man :D
No they won't. Literally nobody in Holland cares.
F*ck you Netherlands just doesn’t sound as nice 😇
Lots of Dutch people say Holland
Ey ik ben eerst