Was recently telling a friend that I’m a guy friend. That’s the energy I give off, not a potential mate. The guy women will say, “I wish I could find a guy like you”, to. 😂
As an INFP male, my life has been so weird...I feel like I have a double life...I am both unpopular AND somehow have beautiful girlfriends...people think I am weird, but I have a core group of dedicated friends...its such an odd situation to be in.
Will the women that are attracted to you are Se users. And they are most likely to have Se in an optimistic place. So probably esxp and enxj. Who are the types that love to show of and look good the most.
I'm an INFP male too and this is how I captured my woman. She thought I was so mysterious at first then once she get to know me more, she was in for a roller coaster ride.
INFP can be quite attractive to women, if they eat well, exercise regularly, and have a balanced realistic perspective coupled with real life experiences. Getting older is like fine wine for the INFP. I am one, so there you have it.
That's good to know. I am pushing 50 and seem to be attracting more attractive women than I ever did when younger and even more insecure than I am now.
@@JasonHauser125 Yes! Once you start building your confidence, the sky will be your limit! Women are already expressing interest, and now you just need to believe in yourself so you can move those interactions forward.
Ding-ding-ding. We have a winner🏆. A young, unbalanced, insecure INFP who hasn´t dealt with his demons yet, is not a pretty sight. My life started in my late 30s.
@@fremmer007 Iam INFP man too and my life stardet literally 4 months ago at age 25. One day I felt so numb depressed that I knew I could not lead my live this way anymore. I found out who iam and made 6 goals what I want to do in my life. I made new friend 6 years younger charismatic girl, went up to bouldering with an guy I only knew from mobile game, started learn to cook (onions can be tough :D, yet I won) and curently I am going to make some car rides and meet old friends that i havent seen in yerars (i was kinda lonly lately). Well these are some main goals. Life can be nice but you have to make it nice yourself. Be confident and sometimes take iniciative and start an conversation (I used to have problems talk to people first, what helped was to tell the tougest thing imaginable to a girl that I loved - face to face - I fall in love with you - I was rejected but now I can tell anything if I try enough).
INFP-T here, and my wife of 12+yrs was drawn to my empathetic side, and truly valued my penchant for feeling deeply, and desire for deep relationship with people I see/saw value in. She’s a pure textbook ISTJ, so though we’re both introverted, that’s where the similarities end. And yet, I’m cerebral enough to understand that I need/needed someone like her for a partner, because I needed someone to help me stay grounded, and on task, and she needed someone who was as good with creativity, and problem solving as they were with people.
Wow I’m too an infp-t but women find me attractive based on my looks not who I am. They get a turn down once they find out about my nature. 😭 Maybe I’m born in GEN - Z that’s my problem.
This is certainly a confidence booster for us INFPs. Its always nice to have someone stress what about us that CAN be attractive. BUT If you truely want to meet other people as the best version of yourself, you HAVE to be able to do the hard work first. And that work is accepting ALL that we are as INFPs. Also all the shady parts of us that we are not particularly proud of having. If we can somehow find a way to accept ourselves (which most INFPs struggle with) everything will fall into place. Trust me. Dating? No problem. We take them by storm. A healthy INFP male is SUPER charming and attractive😉.
I've had mostly women friends since high school. Despite having made some amazing friendships that are so wholesome and supportive, especially 2 of my best friends, I don't really attract women in that way in my real life. When it comes to written text,, I've had some strange moments, like women who have the wrong number and I am very polite about it and they end up wanting to have a conversation with me anyway, or on dating apps where women really like my politeness and even though they look for other men as a suitor, they can't stop talking to me and always point out how different I am. I've had a camgirl I met on a dating app, someone who could have any guy they want and never have to give any weight of thought to any of them, not let go of wanting to talk to me because she never met a guy like me before. I do take care of myself, like good presentation and hygiene, I go to the gym, etc. but sometimes it feels like no matter what I do, I won't ever attract anyone who wants me for me. I can't help but compare myself to other guys who lack redeeming qualities but have no problem attracting women and it makes me feel like a freak and ashamed of who I am. Although I can easily bond with some women within minutes, no one ever sees me that way and it makes me wonder if it's me that's just way too flawed, or I'm not doing enough, or maybe I'm just ugly, etc. I do have low self-esteem but it stems from being rejected as a suitor for so long. Honestly being rejected so much makes me wonder if I have any good qualities at all. Despite my best friends always supporting me and sharing loving words to me, it can't get through to me. I feel that I'm becoming more rooted in what I perceive to be the negative things about myself and I don't know if it's because it's a familiar feeling to not think positive about myself or the constant negative thoughts are suddenly shifting from pessimistic to realistic. I appreciate the video, but I can't help but think that maybe this doesn't apply to me since I'm an INFP-T and not really as assertive as women prefer. I may just end up staying stuck in circles forever.
Thank you so much for sharing, and I can totally understand that challenge. So many of our guys feel the same way when they first come to us. They feel like this whole thing is nearly an impossibility. Then they find out that there is nothing wrong with them (yay!). They are great; it’s just a few core skills they need to learn in order to be able to connect with women. Once they learn those skills in a way that feels natural and true to themselves as men, women respond much differently because of how differently the men are being. Have you had an opportunity to check out our free ebook?
That's wonderful, Nate! We focus on being authentic and compassionate as well. We never want our clients to pretend to be someone they're not simply to try to impress a woman; that's exhausting, and it never ends up working out for either party.
Right? As an infp male, I found her labeling us alpha a bit offensive. If you come at us with that sort of herd mentality, we're gonna roll our eyes at you.😂
I only recently discovered that I am INFP. Explains me being a muso. Always saw myself as a lone wolf or more Night Owl. I love time by myself. Mysterious true. I do stand by my values. Thank you for the video
I'm INFP (confirmed two times by psychologists) and I can assure you I'm not irresistible at all. Yes, was a good listener before. People came at me, even strangers, and talked to me a lot. And I listened, much. Sometimes I was even able to help. At least I tried to help as often as possible. But when it was the time for me to find someone to listen to me, eveyrone was gone. So now, I continue my path alone, and I can assure you that I totally stopped to be attractive for others, because others had torn me apart. Now, people think maybe, that I'm some kind of monster. But yet, I'm still INFP. So, maybe I've embrassed the dark side of INFP personnality. Don't know.
Some of our clients have come to us feeling the exact same way as you do, so we can assure you that you are certainly not alone in feeling this way. Our advice would be to start first with building your confidence, as that is the foundational piece on which everything else is built. We are here for you if you'd like our support. Thank you for being here!
@@Introvertedalpha Oups, reading your answer, I just realise your channel is all about dating :)... That was not really my point. I was thinking more about relationship in general. But thank you for your kind words anyway.
This video is spot on for me. I've done the test at 3 different times in my life and I always get INFP. I didn't even realize that I used Powerful Subtlety .....a lot.
What a wonderful discovery! Have you downloaded our free eBook? It's an excellent way to see how you can showcase your qualities to others in a way that feels genuine for you 😊
I resonate with owning who I am with confidence, unapologetic in living my values. The strong silent type and the subtle knowing smirk are things I wish I was better at. My lack of silence and subtlety in the beginning scares many women away. Because I feel intensely and get clearly excited when I finally meet someone that I relate to AND feel attracted to, I get all gooey and tend to reveal too much. Some take that as wow he seems a little TOO into me and treat me like a stalker. Which is weird because I am much too caught up in my inner world for that! I need to play up the mystical magical mystery tour that IS me a bit more. Great video, keep up the good work!
Thank you so much for watching, and for sharing about your own personal experience! We're happy to hear this video resonated with you, and we hope you come back to update us on how it goes once you're able to implement some of the tips we shared! :)
Dont lose hope. It´ll fall into place once u get older and battle it out with your demons, whatever they are. Then you can set proper boundaries and u will love and respect yourself, which will draw people to u like a moth to a flame. Its a crazy experience.
Ty ♥️ these really helped as affirmations,as INFP males we often have to contest leadership roles in an undetectable way and unlike the common alpha male who is direct and often a brute we usually carry a moral compass. Winning people over though ethics is often challenging as these individuals often carry anger, jealousy, skepticism and other negativity. If we are not emotionally prepared and affirm our value, we can take a beating and fall into depression or spiral into self loathing.
I was talking with a young female employee at the coffee shop this afternoon. She is in her mid-20s. I'm old enough to be her grandfather. I often compliment her and ask her what she has been doing. I tease and joke with her as I would if I were her age. With younger women I often get this feeling, "Gee, why couldn't he be my age?" Perhaps because I'm fun and they're not threatened by my presence. I sometimes wonder why some younger women seem to be in awe of me. I'm just a tall, plain, young, old man...
Hi John, and thank you for stopping by! We're happy you're here. It sounds like you make women comfortable and they enjoy talking and being playful with you, which is wonderful! Do you find that you feel challenged by connecting with women who are more in your target age range?
@@Introvertedalpha I pretty much talk to all ages in the same manner. However, if I am attracted to a particular woman I'm not as 'lose'. HI! I bought a friend an ice cream cup the other day. She was sitting with a female friend a block away. When I paid for the ice cream at the candy shop, I noticed a jar of large Medjool dates. I bought two which I gave to the women. Later I said to them, "This is the first time I've 'dated' two different women on the same night!"
I was just reading a book by a late 40s male author. He said people should live separately before marriage. " 'Living separately will keep the hamsters between her ears caffeinated.' " Isn't that special? HI!@@Introvertedalpha
Cool video. Comparing us to Keanu is like the biggest compliment ever. Gonna put on my raincoat and go feed birds in the park tomorrow, just to get a bit more into it. I don't think in general that INFP's have a problem attracting girls/guys, it's more of a, the people we WANT to be attracted to us, aren't. Probably a mix of us acting differently / not being our usual selves when it comes to those people and being attracted to types who don't really dig INFPs. But that's all experience and chance. And it's probably a general problem? Like, something that happens to all types 🙂 We're in no rush though (well, maybe younger INFPs are, just to make sure that they can do it). Me personally I don't even think that I should have a girlfriend because I know that it'll probably stop me from doing whatever I want. Not because the girlfriend will want too much of my time, but because I would probably drop everything for a while to spend more time with her, support her in whatever she wants to do, and just generally disregard myself and what I want. BTW, cool hair! Are you an ENTP? Or maybe ESTP?
Thank you for your kind words, Jordan! We can certainly empathize with what you shared about wondering how a girlfriend would fit into your current life. Our Discovering Deeper Beauty program helps you find the right type of woman for you so you can have the best of both worlds! Learn more about it here: introvertedalpha.com/discovering-deeper-beauty/
While in grad school I went to an on-line dating site and struct up a chat with a woman about my age. We conversed a while, then she asked, "Tell me about yourself". I replied I would, but then I would lose my "Man of Mystery" club card. 10 seconds of silence. Then we went out to dinner.
It has been easy thruout my life to attract women, and im not good looking 😂 i always wonderd why? But when i was a late teen i started to not care about what others think of me. Im to sensitive to do that. And that helped tremedosly... The sensitive side of me is, in the beginning attractive to women but them they realise that they cant comprehend and deal with my depth in emotions and thoughtprocesse, and they shun me away. I know that deep down they want a tough guy that takes care of them. The feeling of not be able to really connect with them stems from their fear of my deep emotions...
Thank you so much for sharing more about your experience, Peter! We appreciate you being here, and we can certainly empathize with what you shared. What is most challenging for you when it comes to fully connecting with women?
To be fully there majority of the time, mentaly and emotionaly... It takes a toll to be around someone you love so much its almost unbareble.. And that fact that women have a hard time beeing lojal... Thats also unbareble to me...
Would you care to elaborate on how our video would make anyone feel that way? We are highlighting the wonderful characteristics of INFP men, which is intended to be positive and uplifting. Did you perhaps comment on the wrong video?
As an INFP male, I find this extremely accurate, but I'd add it strongly depends on what her characteristics are. But in general you're absolutely right. I'll go into hiding now 🙈
We are delighted to hear this video resonated with you, and we appreciate your insights! What characteristics of women do you find work best with your INFP personality?
@@Introvertedalpha I tend to bond best with those whom I have a silent understanding with, meaning they don't necessarily have to say exactly what they want or mean, and I understand and feel them, and those who have a story to share, respectful, soft, And shy gets me a lot.. Powerful and intelligent woman at times take me on a ride not in a bad way, rather in a fun way, as they see through my barriers... And pick my brain.. and like a baby I let them 🙈 The woman I find who are drawn to me are, those who need someone to talk to, those who see between the lines of the poetry I write.. and those who are amazed by the tiny tidbits I share at times. (I tried to not overthink writing this, as I would never do it, if I would.... I'm not sure I listed it correctly or all, but I don't care. Here goes. 🙈)
@@yankys1768 That's wonderful; thank you for sharing! It sounds like you have given a lot of thought and consideration to the best type of woman for you! :)
I recently found I am INFP. I AM mysterious with many layers, but it takes a woman a while to get to know and appreciate me, and it doesn't happen at first glance. In fact, I often get looked over first glance (they swipe past) in lieu of more attractive mates.
Welcome, Jason! We're so glad you're here. Have you downloaded our free ebook? It's an excellent way to see how you can showcase your wonderful qualities to others in a way that feels genuinely you.
@@JasonHauser125 It definitely can with the right tools and guidance! If you'd like to learn more about how we can help, please reach out to us: team@introvertedalpha.com
The thing with staying true to yourself is that you might not attract all that many people. But the people you do attract have serious potential for long lasting relationships.
Also I.N.F.P are fairly selective, the v woman needs to be kind, kind to others, have a heart for others, they need to be fully for the I.n.f.p and not a lover of power, fame or money. We are very quick to dismiss a woman and of we fall for a woman it hits us like a ton of bricks.
As an infp i dont know how to express talking much i seem to get attention but then people get bored as i am not a very big talker or really know how to. Hate myself for it i feel like i am boring and awkward
My life has been funny in a cynic sarcastic way 🤣. I am an INFP male who alsooo has ADHD. Soooo I am a super duper dreamer. And a super duper procrastinator with a high IQ but because I am and infp I also have high EQ, and ever since I started psychological therapy a year and a half ago, my self doubt has almost disappeared, soooo I have these ability to be super aware about everyone and everything around me and understand emotions and complex conversation very fast. Like i honestly feel the world is mine if I so choose to, it's very weird I am very introverted I need to be alone a lot to gather energy but i learn how to be very eccentric with people, but I choose to be my real true self with a few and Soo I am like a magnate. My social circle has grown a lot ever since therapy and the more time alone I get the more people wanna be around me. It's awesome but for my personality it's also very annoying but also awesome. I learn to manage my emotions without that outer shell. shrooms helped me with the shell part I feel like i live a very different life. Like almost 0 self doubt I can't imagine when I reach 0 how it's gonna be. Plus I suffered abuse by my grandfather growing up so I use to be very cynical Wich made me sarcastic Wich in term makes me quick and witty so I have a good sense of humor and once I said fuck you to my trauma o not cynical anymore and accept my self but i still have that sarcastic wit. It's been a crazy life, I finally feel blessed. Found your video interesting now i can put it in practice what i learn from here. Have a nice day, from Puerto Rico
How wonderful that therapy has been a great addition to your life. If you ever need help with dating, we'd love to chat! You can send us an email at team@introvertedalpha.com.
I don’t know… some test told me I’m that personality type… but no, woman don’t really are in to me. I don’t open up easily to strangers, I don’t like the smal talk actually but I learned it to a certain degree. Woman are a huge issue in my life… got lots of rejection in my life so no. It’s not for every infp to get woman easily 😅 but I learned a lot during the process… I don’t mind anymore. Many woman are broken aswel. God protects me all the time.
Thank you for watching and for sharing more about your experience, Richard! We're happy to have you here, and we hope you continue to enjoy our videos!
" Your eye contact" Me: oh f I can't make eye contact with her... stop looking at her eyes quick look at other parts of her face. But, you know your list has given me much confidence whether if it's true or not.
Hi Jasmine! Thank you for stopping by. Can you elaborate a bit on your comment? We weren't being sarcastic in any way, and we aren't sure what you are referring to when it comes to the thumbnail being distasteful. Thank you!
I am an INFP female and most infp male I came across over the internet were boring asf. Really sucks at conversation. I have no experience with one irl tho.
Thank you so much for sharing about your experience! You may enjoy this blog post for more tips about dating as in INFP: introvertedalpha.com/date-when-youre-an-infp-man/
Id say you are mostly right. Some are dark in mysterious some just don't show anything at all where they just seem boring and don't have much going on because they don't show you anything. That's what I'm like. Also, lots put up masks where you think they are one way but that isn't them at all. One last thing you smile too much that's the first thing I noticed, YOu come off as though you're hiding something or being disingenuous. Sorry but that's the vibe you give off.
Hi there, and thank you for asking! INFP is one of the Myers-Briggs personality types that stands for Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, and Perception. Do you resonate with this personality type?
We can certainly empathize with what you shared! You'll find these tips helpful in our video about where to meet women: ruclips.net/video/8BsTSU1kBJ8/видео.html
@@Introvertedalpha There's no way women find INFP's irresistible. Weird or nice, surely. But definitely not attractive. How about "10 Reasons Women Don't Care About INFP's Males" ?
@@Cinemax-or7xy Our INFP clients have had different experiences after discovering how to genuinely and authentically connect with women. They have many amazing qualities to offer women!
It’s interesting because I don’t type well based on the fact that I share similar traits to the ENFP and INTP, I recently learned that my wife is an ISTJ which blew my mind since we’ve been together for almost 3 decades. 😅 what I do think is I might be a damn unicorn with a dolphin tail🤨👀 but I have deep love for humanity. 😳🥹🤣
Hi there, you have attractiveness to showcase! Part of being and feeling attractive is caring for ourselves, our bodies and our skin. Not only do the results of that bring out the natural attractiveness in all of us, it boosts our confidence too!
Thanks for watching! Which of these INFP characteristics resonate the most with you?
Well at least there is a random woman on utube that notices and values my traits.
There are many more women out there who do as well, we promise! :)
This commentary made my day 😅🤣😬
😂Infp here
Was recently telling a friend that I’m a guy friend. That’s the energy I give off, not a potential mate. The guy women will say, “I wish I could find a guy like you”, to. 😂
Yeah! And you're a great 'friend'!!!
Why can't the guy she likes be like you?!?!?
As an INFP male, my life has been so weird...I feel like I have a double life...I am both unpopular AND somehow have beautiful girlfriends...people think I am weird, but I have a core group of dedicated friends...its such an odd situation to be in.
We can empathize with how that dynamic might feel a bit confusing at times. How wonderful to have a core group of dedicated friends!
Same lol
@@GreaterEthio Thank you for being here! :D
Will the women that are attracted to you are Se users. And they are most likely to have Se in an optimistic place. So probably esxp and enxj. Who are the types that love to show of and look good the most.
@@xnooraxxsnx4537 Most are introverted...weird comment
I'm an INFP male too and this is how I captured my woman. She thought I was so mysterious at first then once she get to know me more, she was in for a roller coaster ride.
We are so happy you found love, Allen! We are wishing you all the best.
just don't say captured fbi is listening
INFP can be quite attractive to women, if they eat well, exercise regularly, and have a balanced realistic perspective coupled with real life experiences. Getting older is like fine wine for the INFP. I am one, so there you have it.
Thank you for watching and sharing! We love the part you shared about how getting older is like fine wine for the INFP.
That's good to know. I am pushing 50 and seem to be attracting more attractive women than I ever did when younger and even more insecure than I am now.
@@JasonHauser125 Yes! Once you start building your confidence, the sky will be your limit! Women are already expressing interest, and now you just need to believe in yourself so you can move those interactions forward.
Ding-ding-ding. We have a winner🏆. A young, unbalanced, insecure INFP who hasn´t dealt with his demons yet, is not a pretty sight. My life started in my late 30s.
@@fremmer007 Iam INFP man too and my life stardet literally 4 months ago at age 25. One day I felt so numb depressed that I knew I could not lead my live this way anymore. I found out who iam and made 6 goals what I want to do in my life. I made new friend 6 years younger charismatic girl, went up to bouldering with an guy I only knew from mobile game, started learn to cook (onions can be tough :D, yet I won) and curently I am going to make some car rides and meet old friends that i havent seen in yerars (i was kinda lonly lately). Well these are some main goals. Life can be nice but you have to make it nice yourself. Be confident and sometimes take iniciative and start an conversation (I used to have problems talk to people first, what helped was to tell the tougest thing imaginable to a girl that I loved - face to face - I fall in love with you - I was rejected but now I can tell anything if I try enough).
INFP and sigma male combo here. Definitely has its pros and cons.
Thank you for watching! Were there any unexpected pros you found after watching the video?
INFP-T here, and my wife of 12+yrs was drawn to my empathetic side, and truly valued my penchant for feeling deeply, and desire for deep relationship with people I see/saw value in.
She’s a pure textbook ISTJ, so though we’re both introverted, that’s where the similarities end. And yet, I’m cerebral enough to understand that I need/needed someone like her for a partner, because I needed someone to help me stay grounded, and on task, and she needed someone who was as good with creativity, and problem solving as they were with people.
How wonderful that you and your wife complement each other so well!
Wow
I’m too an infp-t but women find me attractive based on my looks not who I am. They get a turn down once they find out about my nature. 😭
Maybe I’m born in GEN - Z that’s my problem.
This is certainly a confidence booster for us INFPs. Its always nice to have someone stress what about us that CAN be attractive. BUT If you truely want to meet other people as the best version of yourself, you HAVE to be able to do the hard work first. And that work is accepting ALL that we are as INFPs. Also all the shady parts of us that we are not particularly proud of having. If we can somehow find a way to accept ourselves (which most INFPs struggle with) everything will fall into place. Trust me. Dating? No problem. We take them by storm. A healthy INFP male is SUPER charming and attractive😉.
We couldn't agree more! :D
INFP-M here. This is me. It’s hard to find people who understand us. Most want to take advantage of our energy and give nothing back.
That can certainly be frustrating, Dave. Which tip in this video were you able to resonate with the most?
I've had mostly women friends since high school. Despite having made some amazing friendships that are so wholesome and supportive, especially 2 of my best friends, I don't really attract women in that way in my real life. When it comes to written text,, I've had some strange moments, like women who have the wrong number and I am very polite about it and they end up wanting to have a conversation with me anyway, or on dating apps where women really like my politeness and even though they look for other men as a suitor, they can't stop talking to me and always point out how different I am. I've had a camgirl I met on a dating app, someone who could have any guy they want and never have to give any weight of thought to any of them, not let go of wanting to talk to me because she never met a guy like me before.
I do take care of myself, like good presentation and hygiene, I go to the gym, etc. but sometimes it feels like no matter what I do, I won't ever attract anyone who wants me for me. I can't help but compare myself to other guys who lack redeeming qualities but have no problem attracting women and it makes me feel like a freak and ashamed of who I am. Although I can easily bond with some women within minutes, no one ever sees me that way and it makes me wonder if it's me that's just way too flawed, or I'm not doing enough, or maybe I'm just ugly, etc. I do have low self-esteem but it stems from being rejected as a suitor for so long.
Honestly being rejected so much makes me wonder if I have any good qualities at all. Despite my best friends always supporting me and sharing loving words to me, it can't get through to me. I feel that I'm becoming more rooted in what I perceive to be the negative things about myself and I don't know if it's because it's a familiar feeling to not think positive about myself or the constant negative thoughts are suddenly shifting from pessimistic to realistic.
I appreciate the video, but I can't help but think that maybe this doesn't apply to me since I'm an INFP-T and not really as assertive as women prefer. I may just end up staying stuck in circles forever.
Thank you so much for sharing, and I can totally understand that challenge. So many of our guys feel the same way when they first come to us. They feel like this whole thing is nearly an impossibility. Then they find out that there is nothing wrong with them (yay!). They are great; it’s just a few core skills they need to learn in order to be able to connect with women. Once they learn those skills in a way that feels natural and true to themselves as men, women respond much differently because of how differently the men are being. Have you had an opportunity to check out our free ebook?
Infp males by their very nature aren't stereotypically considered alpha. They lean more towards sigma.
Thank you for being here and chiming in!
I feel like shes just smiling and reading. As an INFP I dont care about being an Alpha, i care about being authentic and compassionate.
That's wonderful, Nate! We focus on being authentic and compassionate as well. We never want our clients to pretend to be someone they're not simply to try to impress a woman; that's exhausting, and it never ends up working out for either party.
Right? As an infp male, I found her labeling us alpha a bit offensive. If you come at us with that sort of herd mentality, we're gonna roll our eyes at you.😂
@@remhk6672 Thank you for sharing your opinions with us! We value them.
I only recently discovered that I am INFP. Explains me being a muso. Always saw myself as a lone wolf or more Night Owl. I love time by myself. Mysterious true. I do stand by my values. Thank you for the video
How wonderful that you recently discovered that you are an INFP! Were there any qualities in this video that surprised you?
I'm INFP (confirmed two times by psychologists) and I can assure you I'm not irresistible at all. Yes, was a good listener before. People came at me, even strangers, and talked to me a lot. And I listened, much. Sometimes I was even able to help. At least I tried to help as often as possible.
But when it was the time for me to find someone to listen to me, eveyrone was gone. So now, I continue my path alone, and I can assure you that I totally stopped to be attractive for others, because others had torn me apart. Now, people think maybe, that I'm some kind of monster. But yet, I'm still INFP. So, maybe I've embrassed the dark side of INFP personnality. Don't know.
Some of our clients have come to us feeling the exact same way as you do, so we can assure you that you are certainly not alone in feeling this way. Our advice would be to start first with building your confidence, as that is the foundational piece on which everything else is built. We are here for you if you'd like our support. Thank you for being here!
@@Introvertedalpha Oups, reading your answer, I just realise your channel is all about dating :)... That was not really my point. I was thinking more about relationship in general.
But thank you for your kind words anyway.
@@alain_sans_c You are very welcome!
Sorry to hear that bro
Don't worry, bro, you're not the only one. Average people don't care about us, anyway.
This video is spot on for me. I've done the test at 3 different times in my life and I always get INFP.
I didn't even realize that I used Powerful Subtlety .....a lot.
What a wonderful discovery! Have you downloaded our free eBook? It's an excellent way to see how you can showcase your qualities to others in a way that feels genuine for you 😊
I resonate with owning who I am with confidence, unapologetic in living my values. The strong silent type and the subtle knowing smirk are things I wish I was better at. My lack of silence and subtlety in the beginning scares many women away. Because I feel intensely and get clearly excited when I finally meet someone that I relate to AND feel attracted to, I get all gooey and tend to reveal too much. Some take that as wow he seems a little TOO into me and treat me like a stalker. Which is weird because I am much too caught up in my inner world for that! I need to play up the mystical magical mystery tour that IS me a bit more. Great video, keep up the good work!
Thank you so much for watching, and for sharing about your own personal experience! We're happy to hear this video resonated with you, and we hope you come back to update us on how it goes once you're able to implement some of the tips we shared! :)
Pow the same thing happens to me. I am working on myself and am trying to figure out how to get better.
@@therakksoldier1770 We hope some of the tips we shared in this video are helpful for you!
Dont lose hope. It´ll fall into place once u get older and battle it out with your demons, whatever they are. Then you can set proper boundaries and u will love and respect yourself, which will draw people to u like a moth to a flame. Its a crazy experience.
Ty ♥️ these really helped as affirmations,as INFP males we often have to contest leadership roles in an undetectable way and unlike the common alpha male who is direct and often a brute we usually carry a moral compass. Winning people over though ethics is often challenging as these individuals often carry anger, jealousy, skepticism and other negativity. If we are not emotionally prepared and affirm our value, we can take a beating and fall into depression or spiral into self loathing.
Thank you so much for sharing, Rafael! We appreciate you being here, and we are delighted to hear that this video was helpful for you.
This describes me completely!
We're delighted to hear that this video resonated with you so much! Was there anything in particular that was especially insightful?
I was talking with a young female employee at the coffee shop this afternoon. She is in her mid-20s. I'm old enough to be her grandfather. I often compliment her and ask her what she has been doing. I tease and joke with her as I would if I were her age. With younger women I often get this feeling, "Gee, why couldn't he be my age?" Perhaps because I'm fun and they're not threatened by my presence. I sometimes wonder why some younger women seem to be in awe of me. I'm just a tall, plain, young, old man...
Hi John, and thank you for stopping by! We're happy you're here. It sounds like you make women comfortable and they enjoy talking and being playful with you, which is wonderful! Do you find that you feel challenged by connecting with women who are more in your target age range?
@@Introvertedalpha I pretty much talk to all ages in the same manner. However, if I am attracted to a particular woman I'm not as 'lose'. HI!
I bought a friend an ice cream cup the other day. She was sitting with a female friend a block away. When I paid for the ice cream at the candy shop, I noticed a jar of large Medjool dates. I bought two which I gave to the women. Later I said to them, "This is the first time I've 'dated' two different women on the same night!"
@@Jomatsch You are doing a wonderful job incorporating humor into your conversations. Keep up the great work! :D
I was just reading a book by a late 40s male author. He said people should live separately before marriage. " 'Living separately will keep the hamsters between her ears caffeinated.' " Isn't that special? HI!@@Introvertedalpha
@@Jomatsch We love that! Thank you for sharing!
Cool video. Comparing us to Keanu is like the biggest compliment ever. Gonna put on my raincoat and go feed birds in the park tomorrow, just to get a bit more into it.
I don't think in general that INFP's have a problem attracting girls/guys, it's more of a, the people we WANT to be attracted to us, aren't. Probably a mix of us acting differently / not being our usual selves when it comes to those people and being attracted to types who don't really dig INFPs. But that's all experience and chance. And it's probably a general problem? Like, something that happens to all types 🙂
We're in no rush though (well, maybe younger INFPs are, just to make sure that they can do it). Me personally I don't even think that I should have a girlfriend because I know that it'll probably stop me from doing whatever I want. Not because the girlfriend will want too much of my time, but because I would probably drop everything for a while to spend more time with her, support her in whatever she wants to do, and just generally disregard myself and what I want.
BTW, cool hair! Are you an ENTP? Or maybe ESTP?
Thank you for your kind words, Jordan! We can certainly empathize with what you shared about wondering how a girlfriend would fit into your current life. Our Discovering Deeper Beauty program helps you find the right type of woman for you so you can have the best of both worlds! Learn more about it here: introvertedalpha.com/discovering-deeper-beauty/
While in grad school I went to an on-line dating site and struct up a chat with a woman about my age. We conversed a while, then she asked, "Tell me about yourself". I replied I would, but then I would lose my "Man of Mystery" club card. 10 seconds of silence. Then we went out to dinner.
What a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing. How did your dinner go?
It was great, We went back to her place afterwards
It has been easy thruout my life to attract women, and im not good looking 😂 i always wonderd why?
But when i was a late teen i started to not care about what others think of me. Im to sensitive to do that.
And that helped tremedosly...
The sensitive side of me is, in the beginning attractive to women but them they realise that they cant comprehend and deal with my depth in emotions and thoughtprocesse, and they shun me away. I know that deep down they want a tough guy that takes care of them.
The feeling of not be able to really connect with them stems from their fear of my deep emotions...
Thank you so much for sharing more about your experience, Peter! We appreciate you being here, and we can certainly empathize with what you shared. What is most challenging for you when it comes to fully connecting with women?
To be fully there majority of the time, mentaly and emotionaly... It takes a toll to be around someone you love so much its almost unbareble.. And that fact that women have a hard time beeing lojal... Thats also unbareble to me...
The whole point of this video is to make us feel like s#it and to follow the alpha male course.
Would you care to elaborate on how our video would make anyone feel that way? We are highlighting the wonderful characteristics of INFP men, which is intended to be positive and uplifting. Did you perhaps comment on the wrong video?
As an INFP male, I find this extremely accurate, but I'd add it strongly depends on what her characteristics are. But in general you're absolutely right.
I'll go into hiding now 🙈
We are delighted to hear this video resonated with you, and we appreciate your insights! What characteristics of women do you find work best with your INFP personality?
@@Introvertedalpha I tend to bond best with those whom I have a silent understanding with, meaning they don't necessarily have to say exactly what they want or mean, and I understand and feel them, and those who have a story to share, respectful, soft, And shy gets me a lot..
Powerful and intelligent woman at times take me on a ride not in a bad way, rather in a fun way, as they see through my barriers... And pick my brain.. and like a baby I let them 🙈
The woman I find who are drawn to me are, those who need someone to talk to, those who see between the lines of the poetry I write.. and those who are amazed by the tiny tidbits I share at times.
(I tried to not overthink writing this, as I would never do it, if I would....
I'm not sure I listed it correctly or all, but I don't care. Here goes. 🙈)
@@yankys1768 That's wonderful; thank you for sharing! It sounds like you have given a lot of thought and consideration to the best type of woman for you! :)
@@Introvertedalpha that's what we do best 🤭 often times too much
@@yankys1768 :D :D
I recently found I am INFP. I AM mysterious with many layers, but it takes a woman a while to get to know and appreciate me, and it doesn't happen at first glance. In fact, I often get looked over first glance (they swipe past) in lieu of more attractive mates.
Welcome, Jason! We're so glad you're here. Have you downloaded our free ebook? It's an excellent way to see how you can showcase your wonderful qualities to others in a way that feels genuinely you.
@@Introvertedalpha yes got the e-book, it's really good
@@JasonHauser125 We're delighted to hear that you're enjoying it! :D
@@Introvertedalpha But DO things get easier for INFP? I mean...life has been hard. Definitely not a joyride that I see so many others have.
@@JasonHauser125 It definitely can with the right tools and guidance! If you'd like to learn more about how we can help, please reach out to us: team@introvertedalpha.com
The thing with staying true to yourself is that you might not attract all that many people. But the people you do attract have serious potential for long lasting relationships.
Yes, exactly! It's all about quality over quantity.
@@Introvertedalpha I’d rather have fewer friends and have to wait for a possible girlfriend, but have meaningful and trusting connections.
@@jarmoliebrand2005 That sounds like a solid plan!
The only thing missing is time stamps. even so this video is quite wonderful. INFP-A here
Thank you for watching, Lorenzo! Which part of the video resonated with you the most?
Also I.N.F.P are fairly selective, the v woman needs to be kind, kind to others, have a heart for others, they need to be fully for the I.n.f.p and not a lover of power, fame or money. We are very quick to dismiss a woman and of we fall for a woman it hits us like a ton of bricks.
Thank you for sharing these wonderful insights, Daniel! They are so helpful. Was there a certain part of the video that resonated with you the most?
Thank you for your effort in this video.
Kind regards. Infp from Poland.
You're so welcome! What was the most helpful part of this video for you?
Polska infp
@@athrun1848 :D
@@haihai5293 hej co tam
@@athrun1848 Thank you for being here! Which characteristic resonated with you the most?
3am at morning random women making me smile
We're happy to put a smile on your face, Namgey! :) Which part of the video was most helpful for you?
Remember also she is talking about healthy infp. If you are unhealthy, than you will not see these traits in you.
Yes, this is important to keep in mind! We are here to help any INFP men who are wanting to get into a healthier mindset!
@@Introvertedalpha :-)
As an infp i dont know how to express talking much i seem to get attention but then people get bored as i am not a very big talker or really know how to. Hate myself for it i feel like i am boring and awkward
We can certainly empathize with what you shared! You might find this video to be helpful: ruclips.net/video/BHjY5mSsJzw/видео.html
@@Introvertedalpha Would like to thank you for your help i got a date tomorrow with a girl i really really like i am so nervous though! 😑🥰
@@dirtytrout3489 How wonderful! We are very excited for you. You will have to let us know how it goes!
@@Introvertedalpha It went fantastic in the end thank you very much! First girl i took on a date at 27 years old 😅
@@dirtytrout3489 Amazing; congratulations!
My life has been funny in a cynic sarcastic way 🤣. I am an INFP male who alsooo has ADHD. Soooo I am a super duper dreamer. And a super duper procrastinator with a high IQ but because I am and infp I also have high EQ, and ever since I started psychological therapy a year and a half ago, my self doubt has almost disappeared, soooo I have these ability to be super aware about everyone and everything around me and understand emotions and complex conversation very fast. Like i honestly feel the world is mine if I so choose to, it's very weird I am very introverted I need to be alone a lot to gather energy but i learn how to be very eccentric with people, but I choose to be my real true self with a few and Soo I am like a magnate. My social circle has grown a lot ever since therapy and the more time alone I get the more people wanna be around me. It's awesome but for my personality it's also very annoying but also awesome. I learn to manage my emotions without that outer shell. shrooms helped me with the shell part I feel like i live a very different life. Like almost 0 self doubt I can't imagine when I reach 0 how it's gonna be. Plus I suffered abuse by my grandfather growing up so I use to be very cynical Wich made me sarcastic Wich in term makes me quick and witty so I have a good sense of humor and once I said fuck you to my trauma o not cynical anymore and accept my self but i still have that sarcastic wit. It's been a crazy life, I finally feel blessed. Found your video interesting now i can put it in practice what i learn from here. Have a nice day, from Puerto Rico
How wonderful that therapy has been a great addition to your life. If you ever need help with dating, we'd love to chat! You can send us an email at team@introvertedalpha.com.
I don’t know… some test told me I’m that personality type… but no, woman don’t really are in to me. I don’t open up easily to strangers, I don’t like the smal talk actually but I learned it to a certain degree. Woman are a huge issue in my life… got lots of rejection in my life so no. It’s not for every infp to get woman easily 😅 but I learned a lot during the process… I don’t mind anymore. Many woman are broken aswel. God protects me all the time.
Thank you for watching and for sharing more about your experience, Richard! We're happy to have you here, and we hope you continue to enjoy our videos!
" Your eye contact"
Me: oh f I can't make eye contact with her... stop looking at her eyes quick look at other parts of her face.
But, you know your list has given me much confidence whether if it's true or not.
Thank you for being here, and we're so happy this video has given you a confidence boost! Which reason on the list did you like the most?
Your lovely voice deserves a better microphone
Thank you for your suggestion, Neil!
Sweet girl with cute energy lol. Thanks for this video.
Thanks for watching! Have you had the opportunity to browse through our other videos? 😊
@@Introvertedalpha I haven't
@@nonplussed7181 Let us know what you think when you do!
Love the ZZ plant
Thank you! :)
The sarcasm down to the thumbnail is so distasteful
Hi Jasmine! Thank you for stopping by. Can you elaborate a bit on your comment? We weren't being sarcastic in any way, and we aren't sure what you are referring to when it comes to the thumbnail being distasteful. Thank you!
Thanks
You are so welcome; thank you for watching!
I’m an infp male and I don’t attract anyone
What qualities do you have that you appreciate about yourself?
I am an INFP female and most infp male I came across over the internet were boring asf. Really sucks at conversation. I have no experience with one irl tho.
Yes, in-person connections can be much more meaningful because you can connect on a more personal level. Thank you for watching!
All of them.
That's wonderful, Anthony! Thank you for watching. Besides the INFP characteristics, what was the most helpful part of the video for you?
I am INFP, and mystery never work positively for me.. usually deters woman away
Thank you so much for sharing about your experience! You may enjoy this blog post for more tips about dating as in INFP: introvertedalpha.com/date-when-youre-an-infp-man/
We probably identify more closely with "Sigma" traits, rather than as Alphas.
Thank you for sharing! Were there any characteristics in this video that resonated with you?
I guess it's not written INFP on my forehead
Wouldn't that make life easier if we all had our personality types written on our foreheads? LOL! Which tip was most helpful for you in this video?
INFPs are no Alphas. We are either Omegas or Sigmas
Thank you for sharing! You may enjoy reading more here to get a better glimpse of our perspective: introvertedalpha.com/introverted-alpha-male/
I'm Gamma, personally.
Mannnn..... true af
We're happy to hear you enjoyed this video! Which part specifically resonated with you the most?
Why are u giving out my secrets?
Ha! We love to share our knowledge with the world.
thats not me lol
We hope you got some insights! Thank you for watching.
It's a blessing but also a curse
We hope this video encourages you to view it more as a blessing than anything else! :)
Id say you are mostly right. Some are dark in mysterious some just don't show anything at all where they just seem boring and don't have much going on because they don't show you anything. That's what I'm like. Also, lots put up masks where you think they are one way but that isn't them at all. One last thing you smile too much that's the first thing I noticed, YOu come off as though you're hiding something or being disingenuous. Sorry but that's the vibe you give off.
Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts! We appreciate you being here.
*Reads the title of the video..
baaaaahahahahahaha!! 🤣
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I think we’re more Sigma than Alpha.
Thank you for sharing! Which of these characteristics in the video resonated with you the most?
What is INFP ?
Hi there, and thank you for asking! INFP is one of the Myers-Briggs personality types that stands for Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, and Perception. Do you resonate with this personality type?
@@Introvertedalpha ok thanks so yes i am introverted and therefore INFP
@@00great226 Wonderful! Thank you for being here, and we hope you continue to enjoy our videos!
I'd say we're Sigma rather than Alpha. We don't care about stereotypical superficial "Alpha" things.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Marcus! Which part of the video did you find to be the most helpful?
No woman finds me irresistible
I think my problem is meeting women in the first place. I don't meet them and I don't know how I'd do that.
We can certainly empathize with what you shared! You'll find these tips helpful in our video about where to meet women: ruclips.net/video/8BsTSU1kBJ8/видео.html
my ego is getting stroked
We're happy to hear this, Alejandro! Which reason resonated with you the most from what Daniela shared?
1 to 1 and a half percent of men.
Thank you for sharing that statistic, Mikie! Did you enjoy the video?
Me : *read the title*
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You're serious ?
Yes, we're serious. Do you have any alternate title suggestions you'd like to share with us?
@@Introvertedalpha There's no way women find INFP's irresistible. Weird or nice, surely. But definitely not attractive. How about "10 Reasons Women Don't Care About INFP's Males" ?
@@Cinemax-or7xy Our INFP clients have had different experiences after discovering how to genuinely and authentically connect with women. They have many amazing qualities to offer women!
It’s interesting because I don’t type well based on the fact that I share similar traits to the ENFP and INTP, I recently learned that my wife is an ISTJ which blew my mind since we’ve been together for almost 3 decades. 😅 what I do think is I might be a damn unicorn with a dolphin tail🤨👀 but I have deep love for humanity. 😳🥹🤣
Congratulations on a happy marriage and finding your wife's personality type! :D
Maybe if I am not fat and have better skin, they would finally see my...attractiveness?
Hi there, you have attractiveness to showcase! Part of being and feeling attractive is caring for ourselves, our bodies and our skin. Not only do the results of that bring out the natural attractiveness in all of us, it boosts our confidence too!