@@csvickers151true there has been so many laws to break them down etc they don’t protect you like they used to. People be putting on there that you got to have a life insurance policy in their name (as beneficiary) which stays after divorce! (Khloe kardashian and Lamar Odom) like 😮
It gets worse. She was siphoning the money out of his income for "Just in case" pushed by her mother. The poor dude was killing himself to make things work financially all because she was siphoning that money off.
To be fair, she was stealing $750 when he was doing well. When life kicked him in the teeth, she dropped her take (probably because $750 would be impossible to hide).
Yikes she stole this man’s money and acted like it was her money and she could have been transparent about some of the money in an investment portfolio
That’s disgusting. For one, to steal money from the person you committed your life to. Two, to hoard that money and just watch your loved one work themself to death while STILL STEALING FROM THEM. That makes my blood boil, I really hope he finds someone better.
God will handle those who are morally corrupted. They may think it's all fun and games now but in the end they will soon realize the consequences they've set for themselves.
If having an “escape” fund means she is looking or hoping for an escape, then that must mean having a fire extinguisher is the same as hoping for a fire or the fact that airlines have oxygen masks and life vests must mean that the airline is expecting or hoping for their planes to crash. Having something in case of an emergency is NOT the same as actively anticipating the emergency, it is being prepared just in case. If I was financially dependent on a husband and that financial stability could go away in an instant if he cheats on me or decides to leave me or worse, reveals abusive aspects of his personality that put me in a position to have to leave for my own safety then I would think it wise to have money set aside to help me rebuild. Having the money is not showing a lack of faith in the marriage, it is putting being practical over being emotional and recognizing that emotions can be fallible and that there has to be some sort of safety net if the union built on a foundation of emotions one day crumbles.
@@vib.9027It's the fact that his mental and physical health was suffering. He was work8ng 2 damn jobs. They have no children. And she had the means to help him. Or he would have struggled less if she hadn't skimmed of the top of the finances he trusted her with. If you're spouse doesn't know you're putting some of the money that he earned to the side then you are stealing. If she is so worried about being left she should get a job. She's so worried that she can steal bit not worried enough to get a job what an absolute loser. I hope she gets everything she deserves.
Imagine: he leaves the house approx. at 5 a.m. for a minimum 16h of work, while she sleeps in, puts on her puffy fluffy slippers. logs into the computer, basically steals the money from his hard-earned paycheck, takes a sip of warm coffee, does some housework with zero pressure and chills till he comes home half dead just to tell him her cushy lifestyle in worth more than him not dying of exhaustion...there is no soul in that chest
I was married to a good, hard working woman and i was out working too. We had been togother and renting for three years. One day i came home and she said maybe it's time to buy a place. I said that we havent got enough money yet. She said, yes we have, i've saved up 10k which will get us a deposit. I was amazed, our lifestyle..basic...but hadnt changed. How she did it without me knowing.. but there it was. 27 laters, we are still married and she is still very good at handling money. Two great kids as well. She still works very hard. We have had problems, but we stuck it out.
@spanishpeaches2930 But she wasn't squirreling it away for herself. I would call that building up some savings for the family. Two entirely different things. The one who handles the money has to make these decisions. As long as they are not hiding it from the other, it's fine. Doesn't necessarily have to inform the other about all the details. My wife didn't really know how much money we had, she just knew we were doing okay. Until the day I told her that we could retire at 55 instead of 65. She still never cared about the details.
@@Fred2-123 What i was getting at was that she managed to save all that money without me noticing or noticing any detrimental affect on our basic lifestyle. Which shows that women can sneakily do it for good intentions as well.
@@spanishpeaches2930 Sure. But was she being sneaky? or just not mentioning the details to you? I don't have any problem for your situation. She wasn't putting it away like the 1st lady or the black lady at 16:30---for herself. Putting it away for the family, as long as it is not forcing you to get 2 jobs, is fine. It wasn't detrimental to your family lifestyle, so ok.
I was a stay at home mom for 21 Plus years. When my husband and I married and he told me he wanted me to be a stay at home mom with the kids he gave me a paycheck / cash amount evert two weeks when he was paid. His mother my MIL said that we needed to do that so I could have a safety net. When he had his nervous breakdown & was forced to resign from his job & take early retirement. We operated out of my raining day fund until all of his money started up ( SSA, VA, State Retirement). I'm praying everything works out for this man as the wife is extremely selfish and financially abusive.
I caught the ex wife stashing MY SALARY in an escape fund. I told her she is welcome to save, but both of our names are on the account. She refused. I set up marriage counseling. She refused to discuss or cooperate. I filed. She's old, alone, and has to work to survive. She didn't need to work with me, and she didn't for 14 years. Afterward, she said, "I could have handled things better". I shrugged and said, "it is what it is", and never spoke a word to her about any of it again.
My ex left me in 2006. The guy she left with and married divorced her a few years back, leaving her a poor single mom to 4 kids at 38, last I saw she was working in a weed factory. Oh well she owns her choices. I just inherited my 8 figure farm from the family she could have married into.
Seriously!!! She should have worked a job to save for her "escape" instead of being a prostitute by being paid for sex and housework by stealing from her husband.
My father did and my mother was seething, although when he left and his money was totally gone my mother proved to have her own fund in case he couldn't work/leave (he tryied many years ago). We struggled but after he leaved we keeped struggling wich made me wonder up to what point it was only his fault, and then years later my sister left after preparing everything in secret... man, I am the only one who hadn't done something like that
Many women marry for money not for love. I married a woman with 6 kids and loved and adored her and all of her kids. When I stopped the abusive spending on the credit cards that I gave her, she secretly planned on leaving and left me disabled and broke. If I had gotten a dog, I would be comfortable emotionally and financially
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@@manfredschmalbach9023 Technically False, Because she was deliberately hiding money meant to support the both of them it can be seen and persecuted as financial fraud. If they get divorced, it is very likely she will be forced to pay back the money.
And remember, this is HER version of things. Women _always_ leave out significant details about their accountability when relating such tales. The truth is probably _infinitely_ worse.
But it can never truly hide, can it? They can't downsize because she "spent years (and all his money) turning it into a home". She spent all his money, stole what was left when she ran out of junk and knicknacks to buy, and refused to even *dip* into that fund. There is no coming back from that
@@lithuaniaball "Men can't go backward sexually,, and women can't go backward in lifestyle. Once a woman has a house, she can't go back to an apartment or she'll lose her mind." - Chris Rock
tbh, the dude is massively stupid too. If u struggle insanely, one would have a thought of going through finances to see where money is flowing and can be optimized....
I'm blessed, i've been together with my love for 21 years! (I'm not even 40yo) We've been through good and bad times, but since we're together, we can handle anything, anything! It's simple, it's 60/60, not 50/50.❤
How so? This is a situation the husband created on his own by preventing his wife from being able to work and follow a career. There was absolutely no reason to have her at home because there were no kids. The husband made this happen. The wife just did what all stay at home moms should do, have an emergency fund for if and when the husband decided to replace her. He couldn’t let go of his ego of being the sole provider.
This! If she took her marriage vows seriously, it would be "our" money. But she's plotting a divorce heist so in her mind it's "my" money. Prenups are a must!
You can tell how it was written, the woman knew it was bad and wrong and she still allowed her mother to supersede what she knew to be moral, right, and true. They can’t be trusted to have the fortitude to do the right thing…
That's the wild thing. She said that she doesn't work. So every single cent that was put into "her" escape fund, was HIS money. He was funding her bug out plan. She may have a TOE to stand on if the entire fund was earned by her. But even then, its supposed to be a partnership. You help each other at your respective lowest. Mind blowing.
@@E1MPBrandon What’s wild to me is she is planning a buy out on him, just in case he does it to her. She’s already decided someone is going to screw somebody over so might as well be her getting the bag. I have no qualms that evils people know they’re evil. They just don’t see it as bad, they see being bad as good in their perception. You have to put your relationship through the paces. Take 2 weeks off but tell her you got fired. That level of testing! ✌️
@@shadow7988 That is a red flag. Child free, stay at home wife. She gets bored and then starts to pay attention to other guys.... guess what's next. Then that 47K will be funding Chad's lifestyle.
She probably got a barren wasteland, literally. Probably got an acidic uterus providing a hostile environment, nothing lives with that "woman" it's a locust
My grandmothers mother did just about this same thing minus the escape funds, different era, listened to her mother and left my grandfather leaving him to raise my father and two aunts by himself. He made sacrifices and did a impeccable job.
If he is the bread winner, the money is for the family. At the same time, if it is the family's money, the one who hides it becomes a thief. She is a thief.
That is why men should have an untraceable escape fund. Courts won't care that she stole from you to create her escape, but they will care if you have a nest egg.
@@VantaBlackhole No, they do not. Ask Steve Harvey. Watch his story where his wife stole millions of dollars from their bank account over years and had it sitting in her own personal account and set it up with their accountant that he would not be told and for the accountant to not pay the taxes and instead steal the tax money Steve Harvey thought was going to the IRS. She filed for divorce and he got none of that money back that she stole and on top of that he had take the only money he had left to pay off the IRS. He had $1k left in his bank account afterwards. If it is NOT in your name then you do not get half of it after or in a divorce.
The thing about having an "escape" plan (and/or fund) is that you WILL use it. I discovered that my ex-wife suddenly put a "flag" on our account without my knowledge. One day I went to the bank to open a savings account and discovered that I couldn't because of the red flag. She had taken "control" of the account so I couldn't take money out. When I confronted her and asked why she did it, she said quote, "Because of what you MIGHT do." I was floored. Who is teaching women this crap?
Honestly because a lot of women are like that it’s makes the ones of us who aren’t still grouped in that category. Some of us have traditional views and want to stay home and cater solely to our man and hopefully kids. We don’t care about 6 figures, we don’t care about height, and it makes us happy to make our man happy and appreciate him.
Bless you ma'am!! The world now more than ever needs women like you, someone who actually thinks about more than herself. Not that all women are like these examples of what NOT to be like.
@ Aww that’s so sweet of you to say and honestly the highest compliment. 🫶🏻🥹❤️ I personally think traditional views and just getting to be a stay at home mom and wife are literal heaven on earth lol. I love cooking, baking, cleaning, and being able to care of people and give. That actually makes me so happy and it makes me happy to make others happy. I know everyone has their own views and some women don’t like that but I personally am not for all the feminist sh*t and don’t want to be put in the “I don’t need a man” category lol. Cuz I do and even if I can do it on my own I don’t wanna lol. Just like I know not all women want what I want so I’m not gunna put them in that category. Just because I can do it own my own doesn’t mean I want to ya know. Random explanation but we may not technically need deodorant but we need deodorant if that makes sense. And I may not technically need a man but I need a man, and I also know I’m not and never will be as physically strong as a man. Men and women balance each other out in ways and I like having a man to take care of my car issues I know nothing about and open jars my weak a** arms can’t and protect me, and to be able appreciate him.
When i returned from OIF3 we were given regular briefings as usual. In them was an added disclaimer to all us men, yup just the men, "do not go home and kill your spouse". Turns out some men had been overseas fighting and many even recieved a sign on bonus only to come home to a cheating wife who stole all their hard earned money or to a wife who spent every extra dime he made while he was gone. So all those dreams of retirement or home ownership were gone. And thus, they did what the government trained us to do. They eliminated the enemy. Unfortunately they were labeled the bad guy for doing so. It should be legal in these circumstances.
@@duanelamb266 bro. You realize that you are advertising to legalize killing your wife and kids execution style... Maybe someone should notify authorities in your area l. Is your family okay? Are you okay?
@@duanelamb266Absolutely F@#KING INSANE, and on purpose, the stance the state takes in these types of situations. Hell, most men would help a bro end said “Enemy” just from hearing what happened to e’m. If the public knew the truth behind these cases, the majority would call it justice.
I’d add you can buy what you want if you can do it cash. Dont deprive yourself of things you want IF you can afford them and it doesn’t hurt priorities.
People that buy stuff they don't need and women that buy nicnaks,dodads,theirs something missing inside of them. That's why so many women are hoarder. They get the thrill of buying it but then come in and throw it down and don't even take the tags off of it. Their soul is empty.
Alternative headline: husband destroyed after finding out wife has been stealing $700 a month, totalling $47,000... Where I come from we call that a crime, and the husband is the victim.
That 47k amounts to fraud, theft and deceit. The husband is working himself to the ground without the knowledge of his wife's plans. The fact that the wife was defending her actions saving so much money speaks volumes for her real intentions. I would for sure make a trip to an attorney to see where things lie in the grand scheme of things.
Your money is her money Her money is her money Your life is in her hands Take control of YOUR life and don't let a woman in it. Odds are, all that it would do is destroy you.
I rewatched The Godfather II yesterday. One brief scene that always stands out to me is when young Vito loses his job at the grocery store. He comes home with nothing but a pear for he and his wife. He unwraps it and sets it on the table and she says to him in italian, "what a lovely pear!" They then sit down to eat what she has prepared for them and he gives her a tender kiss. Reminds me of my granddads stories about how he and my grandmother used to regularly eat sardines and crackers when they were young bc they had no money. Can you imagine a single western woman that would stand by her man like that these days? I can't, and yet they used to be the norm less than a century ago.
You want to know why it isn't this way anymore? Lack of fathers, lack of economic distribution, lack of church being taught in public schools, rise of social media and "influencers", all while lack of shame in our society today. These issues only gotten worse since the 70's. As a 26 Gen Z myself there is no getting that traditional lifestyle back without a sacrifice.
I would and do. But I was raised old school 🤷🏻♀️. Divorce is not even a word spoken in our house, because I believe some things that are said, just like some actions, can’t be unsaid or undone. My husband and I have been through years of ups and downs in life and there is no one else I want to spend whatever time I have left with. Whether we are in feast or famine. 😊
@@R3stingBishFac3Barbi3 Once loyalty is broken there is nothing that can make that become "undone", usually you'll tend to never have trust which is foundation and doubts will deafen a marriage, thus the marriage eventually deteriorates. There are many other options that also can't be undone, but reasonable things can like a argument or financial.
Marriage used to be about sticking with each other, even through the hardest challenges. This woman already had one foot out the door as soon as she was married.
If you discover her emergency fund in cash in a place to which you have access (like your home or her luggage or something); secretly take half and put it in your own emergency fund in a good hiding place. Do this every month as long as she’s continuing to contribute to hers. If her emergency fund is in a bank account, take any documents you have down to the county clerks office and have them recorded. Now, get a bank account in your name only then sue her for half.
My grandma raised 9 kids (and was pregnant 13 times) on her husbands average accountant salary. They got by and of course only spent money when needed. They were married over 50 years. You will never see this in today’s world. They never gave up. Wasn’t an option.
@@toddw.8277Yup, my mom is one of seven kids. I believe my grandma had two or three miscarriages. Possibly more, people don't realize how dangerous childbirth was (still is) or how easily something can go wrong. Just the way it is.
I watched a video on the Titanic recently, and there is a famous couple that when it came time to abandon the ship, the wife refused to leave her husband and would rather die with him then save herself.
Isidore and Ida Strauss were married for over four decades. Reportedly she told him, "We have lived together for many years. Where you go, I go." Time to cry over the Titanic again 😭
If a woman is setting up an "Escape Fund" "just in case" I doubt she has her heart into the relationship to go through it, thick and thin. Especially when woman are so heavily favored in divorces to begin with.
Yes. The answer is yes, she is the ay-whole. She clearly did not understand the concept of marriage the entire time they were together. Also, she never really wanted to get a job again. The reason she *asked* him is because she KNEW he would ask her not too. The proof of this is in the fact that she didn't ask permission to put aside HIS money into a personal savings for herself. If she wanted to get a job again to help contribute, she would have just done it.
Haven't read all comments, but I don't see any remarks about the US exploitative health care system. Husband had a high paying job, probably built up a decent nest egg just for it to be wiped out due to the USs horrendous health care. From having to pay thousands of dollars just for an ambulance ride, worst I have heard in favor of the exhorbitant costs for a ambulance is that it isn't a taxi, no it isn't taxis are way cheaper. Also an ambulance is supposed to get you to hospital and try and keep you alive for treatment. Has the best medical care in the world so it is worth paying for? You think? The US is 74th on mortality rate world wide, 49th for child mortality worse than some "3rd world countries", 38th on the health care index. So no, the US health care is far from being the best in the world. Only the most exploitative, health care should be about treating illness, not profiting from it.
Wisdom of a 71 year old dude 2x married divorced, raised 4 kids successfully. This is a very common story that has happened to many guy friends of mine. The common target dollar amount these women sandbag is $100,000. The reality is a woman will Always change her mind. Plan accordingly. She is not yours, it is just your turn. Both of my wives left me when they got in their 40s,, even though I was providing for her.
I just wanted to say that you are one of the best "red-pillish" commentators out there. You tell the truth about relationships but you do it with no animosity in mind. I like that. Keep up the good work. Young men and young women could both benefit from honestly listening to what you have to say. I wish your content was available 30 years ago before I had two divorces and fathered 5 children. I did the best I could at the time but I was trying to live under social rules that no longer applied. Thanks again for potentially saving somebody like me today from learning the hard way.
I had to thumbs up on your balls just to show your own stuff on what you had in the background, whether people see that as blessed or not blessed. God bless you sir. Also, I'm impressed about your wisdom in today's age. From decades ago it wouldn't be much more than above ave common sense, but today you have gone against the odds and still acquired that wisdom. Thank you for being. You heard me; thank you for being.
They're facing financial ruin because she is stealing their wealth. For what she did and put him through, he needs to take her to court and at least take half and maybe even sue her for the undo stress she put him through making him think they were struggling, while she was actually stealing. Divorce would be 100%!
How much would an extra $750/month mean in hard times? The thing is, if you do the math, she would have 45k in just 5 years of doing that, which means several thousands of dollars most likely went to something else she didn't want her husband knowing about.
Independent wahmen - "Naaah, you go get yo bag girl, you know you deserve it, we are constantly oppressed so it's fine to be duplicitous and unethical, you're the prize, he should be happy to cater to you, waah waah blah blah..."
Most men I know keep progressing their career, their character, own their home, own their car and are financially very stable after hitting 30. They make solid choices for the future and keep grinding.
Imagining the reality check when the women's divorce lawyer tells her "that escape fund is marital property you don't get to keep it all just because his name isn't on the account" 😂
@@iGame3D don’t know about that. Sounds like his spending isn’t the problem. The parasite he married financially abusing him seems to be the real issue.
"No, honey, I'm not cheating on you. She's my backup plan. See, if things don't work out between us, I have her to fall back on. Don't take it personally; I would have done this with anyone!"
What makes this extra stupid is that the 47K "escape fund" is a marital asset. If things fell apart, it was always a marital asset that would be part of the divorce settlement. She can't escape and just take it LOL.
Been watching for a while...First comment ever! This happed to me! Your service to the Male population is on point and underrated. There needs to be a pamphlet that we can pass around like the Jahovas Witnesses do!!!
I have had multiple women from girlfriends, a sister, to even my own mother claim poverty, asking for money only to find out later they had a hidden rainy day fund. I am fairly convinced it's normal.
Never, ever, even gave a rainy day fund a thought while I was married for almost 28 yrs. Don’t think my mom did either but didn’t think to ever ask her prior to her passing in July. Then again, she and my dad made it to their 60th in June so I would say it’s pretty doubtful she had one!
Sue her, she stole from the marriage. A woman won the lottery while married,kept it secret & immediately forced a divorce. Husband found out, sued & the judge gave him all the money.
The chances of the man winning in family court are very small. He might as well use the money spend on lawyers in the casino and try to win it for himself. The family court system is designed to transfer money from men to women, minus a percentage the state takes for itself. Generally speaking. The woman get's 50%. And the other 50% goes to the lawyers, courts and the state. Leaving the man with nothing.
@ Never understood people who think like you. It’s difficult so why bother? That’s why women keep winning.Not for me, can’t win a fight if you don’t show up.
I love watching videos like this, because it makes me all the more thankful for my wife. I can't imagine having to work multiple jobs, which I already do, struggle against the entire world, which I already do, and then go home and have my wife fighting against me too. That would just be too much. I would be done. As it is, my wife does her very best to keep the world away from me, and make sure that our house is run as perfectly as possible so that all I have to do when I get home from both of my jobs is relax.
The wife is waving red flags. She has not been a partner to him or had his back. She had one foot out the door from the beginning. If she is not willing to give it up to help their marriage then he should divorce her and take it as the money is the only asset from the marriage.
She can leave at any time. Getting married without a prenup ensures she is incentivized and rewarded for doing just that. She can quit being a wife, drag it out for years because she has you financially hostage, and then you're still obligated at gunpoint to support her even after she's gone and shacked up with another man. Any woman who would willingly enter into a contract with you that she's rewarded for breaking should never get a second look, much less a ring.
The man is an idiot, having a wife without kids at home. She should be working contributing to the finances. Also, why the F dosnt he go through his accounts regularly. Last, why live so extravagantly that you have to work all of the time. I don’t understand why anyone wants to work all day in order to buy expensive bags and cars.
Guaranteed she's been a materialistic, self-centered princess the entire time. He just made enough money that he didn't see it, and his perception of what a healthy relationship was that men work themselves to death and the wife will love and appreciate his efforts. He's a means to an end for her, and the lifestyle he provided was expected instead of appreciated.
So many ppl I know live extravagantly paycheck to paycheck. Big nice homes, boat, expensive cars, etc. If you ever wonder how someone lives like they do with the job they have, the answer is they have everything mortgaged to the hilt and they're deeply deeply in debt.
I agree with almost all of that 100%, except the part where she should be working. She should be making babies if she doesn't have them. If she goes to work it's another reason to not have babies.
He wasn't living extravagantly before he got hurt at work do you even listen? He got hurt and then lost all his money on a lawsuit and medical bills. It sounds like he was living well within his means...
8:30 - facts. If I had it my way half the crap on my house would not be there. I have so little and there is clutter everywhere. Can’t stand it. Not saying I need more stuff. I just want to be able to access the areas in my home without fear of knocking stuff over. Excuse from the wife (it’s really not that much stuff we just need more space to put it all. No.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with getting married. Just don't marry western women. I married a Romanian woman and we LIVE in Romania (most important part). The government MAKES you set up a prenup before getting married. You have (I think) three default options or you can make your own but you NEED to indicate what you want before you get married.
Depends on the people I think, in my case I was very upfront about wanting to have it streamlined if we ever got divorced, we decided beforehand on what would be fair, signed papers and did the thing. Been happily married for over a decade. Still haven't even had a fight that lasted more than 5 minutes. Maybe communication and honesty are the key. We both wanted to be protected because, look at the times we live in. I didn't hold it against her, she didn't hold it against me. Also, it could be because I can lay it down. Probably helps.
Over 50% of women who claim to be "happily" married, Already have a backup man identified in case the marriage doesn't work. Forget the money for a second. They already have another man in mind while being "happily" married. Let that sink in!
@@onbored9627 Doesn't mean a thing. A woman's marriage vows are only good until the man says "I do". A woman's word has no value. She can change her mind at any moment and for reasons men will never understand. BRIFFAULT’S LAW The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. Corollary 1: “Even though a woman has accrued past benefits from her relationship with a man, this is no guarantee of her continuing the relationship with him.” Corollary 2: “If a woman promises a man to continue her relationship with him in the future in exchange for a benefit received from him today, her promise becomes null and void as soon as the benefit is rendered.” Corollary 3: “A man’s promise of a future benefit has limited ability to secure a continuing relationship with a woman, and his promise carries weight with her only to the extent that the woman’s wait for the benefit is short and to the extent that she trusts him to keep his promise.”
It's even worse than I originally thought. I thought the 47k was either hers from before the marriage or she had been working on the side and saving money but the reality is she was siphoning money from what her husband brought home for herself. The family is struggling to stay afloat and she is just sitting on the money and my guess is the family is struggling because she continues living as if her husband is still bringing in "mid 6 figures". This woman is an awful person, she is selfish, self centered and greedy. Lesser men would have resorted to violence after finding out.
If I found my wife had a $47k "escape" fund and I was working 2 jobs and struggling I would divorce her right away. She already has shown she is not in the marriage through better or worse and her way of helping get past a financial struggle is to keep secret stash aside. No. F that. She doesnt see the marriage as a team
Depends on the woman. I know a handful of couples that couldn't have kids but the wife still stayed home. The wives spent most of their free time, while the husbands were at work, volunteering at church or within the community at hospitals or schools. Most women, even SAHM, used to do this. Women's clubs used to be about doing projects to better their town. Moms used to help fundraise for their schools and help out where needed. Nowadays people confuse trophy wives with trad wives. They just sit around the house all day when in the past that was never the case.
*She was STEALING from the family finances.* That's HIS MONEY, NOT HERS. They're struggling to pay the bills and she's hiding some of his income. *WHY IS HE PAYING FOR HER TO LEAVE?*
Ultimately if he was the sole earner in the household then she has filled her escape account with HIS money. She's been sucking his accounts and rightly is HIS not hers. Surely she's guilty of embezzlement.
As a woman, I can say confidently that a woman can only love with her whole heart. You're either in it or you're not. The fact she had an escape plan tells me that she was never actually serious about their relationship. And even if there was doubt, he proved himself many times over to her. I feel so bad for him marrying someone who already had an expiration date in her mind.
Interesting that she admitted that the guy never did anything that would raise any concerns but when he found out and was upset she claimed that his reaction justified what she had done. I would say that anyone who discovered they had been a victim of theft by someone they trusted would be upset.
The feeling of love is a fleeting thing. The act of loving is a thing both partners must consciously choose to do each and every day even if they don’t feel in love on that particular day
@@HateBear-real Feelings are as real as thoughts, memories, and ideas, but I have no way to prove the existence of any of these things to you. I will grant, however, that there are some people with none of these things.
My fathers 2nd wife did this after the last of her 3 (not his) kids left home, and the home mortgage was paid for and debt free. She never worked a day in their 15-year marriage . She took the home and contents ,cars, bank accounts, and almost his sanity. He apologized to me (only son) as i had warned him in the beginning of the relationship saying i didnt like or trust her. I had to talk him out of murdering her, it was that bad. He got back on his feet 5 years later, met a wonderful woman and they never married, had separate finances and lived happily ever after. Love yar dad.
@@VictoriaInamorati1 Prenups are not worth the paper they are written on. They are so stupidly easy to get dismissed or nullified it's a walk in the park for any 2 bit lawyer. Never trust a prenup to save you. All they need is a modicum of doubt and the agreement is out the window evidence not required.
@@VictoriaInamorati1 It's vastly easier to be 'the good woman' when there's accountability. The fact that you characterize not being given any leverage to ruin his life at any time as "punishment" says it all.
Wow, that's heartless. To watch him struggl. If she was saving up for both if them is one thing, but she skim off the top with only herself in mind, no kids! So entitled with no responsibility.
100%, he should also sue her for the theft as she was taking funds out of the shared/family account he earned to fund her personal savings. I've always kept a personal emergency fund in my relationships. The difference is my partners always knew about it and how much I had, and the money used to fund said emergency savings always came out of my own paycheque after I had covered all the shared essentials like rent, bills, food and shared purchases etc.
@@TwoPlusTwoEqualsFive32 A weird analogy is like in sitcoms. A rainy day fund is drastically different. This is true in many families. I saw these with multiple friends when I was younger. In hindsight, a swear jar could be considered that exact thing...
I'm a widower who kept track of family money, and I noticed many times money's came up short. But she never had the opportunity to amast that kind of nest egg.
The woman who said women need an exit strategy, will get offended when asked to sign a prenup.
Cause the prenup prevents the exit strategy. Basic logic, dude.
I fear prenups aren’t even working these days with what happened to the guy from fast and furious.
@@csvickers151true there has been so many laws to break them down etc they don’t protect you like they used to. People be putting on there that you got to have a life insurance policy in their name (as beneficiary) which stays after divorce! (Khloe kardashian and Lamar Odom) like 😮
@@thedarkemissary Yeah, dude.
Or a paternity test
The husband working two jobs while the wife sat on $47K is just beyond awful. If anyone needed that escape plan, it was the husband.
She was the one probably spending them into homelessness too, even during the hard times of losing a job and the injury.
It gets worse. She was siphoning the money out of his income for "Just in case" pushed by her mother. The poor dude was killing himself to make things work financially all because she was siphoning that money off.
47K of probably his money while he’s killing himself at work…
He should sue her.
@@duraen I agree with "siphoning". That was his money.
Dudes wife was stealing $750 every month as he was working himself to death. Disgusting. 100% divorce that horrible woman.
To be fair, she was stealing $750 when he was doing well. When life kicked him in the teeth, she dropped her take (probably because $750 would be impossible to hide).
She should have never been siphoning money, crazy
Yep and he will likely have to pay her alimony!
That is not even accounting for the money she probably blows on Amazon etc.
Yikes she stole this man’s money and acted like it was her money and she could have been transparent about some of the money in an investment portfolio
She stole from him, then still declared herself the victim. The audacity!
That’s disgusting. For one, to steal money from the person you committed your life to. Two, to hoard that money and just watch your loved one work themself to death while STILL STEALING FROM THEM. That makes my blood boil, I really hope he finds someone better.
Most women are emotionally impotents. They talk a lot about their feelings, but they don't care about the feelings of others.
She's the reason why the family is bankrupt.
The nerve.😠
Yep I'd bet green money she was taking out more than just her "emergency fund money". Probably pissed away thousands on crap.
She should be in jail for theft... Poor husband...😔
Wouldn't it be funny if she would be cheating on the side? She would have the time for it.
honestly, dude doesn't sound smart either...
God will handle those who are morally corrupted. They may think it's all fun and games now but in the end they will soon realize the consequences they've set for themselves.
$47K. She got exactly what she was looking for, and it wasn't money, it was an escape.
She will he sorry. She has to live with herself and 47k won’t get her very far.
Gold digging thief.
47k in savings after 7 years of not working is wild.
If having an “escape” fund means she is looking or hoping for an escape, then that must mean having a fire extinguisher is the same as hoping for a fire or the fact that airlines have oxygen masks and life vests must mean that the airline is expecting or hoping for their planes to crash. Having something in case of an emergency is NOT the same as actively anticipating the emergency, it is being prepared just in case. If I was financially dependent on a husband and that financial stability could go away in an instant if he cheats on me or decides to leave me or worse, reveals abusive aspects of his personality that put me in a position to have to leave for my own safety then I would think it wise to have money set aside to help me rebuild. Having the money is not showing a lack of faith in the marriage, it is putting being practical over being emotional and recognizing that emotions can be fallible and that there has to be some sort of safety net if the union built on a foundation of emotions one day crumbles.
@@vib.9027It's the fact that his mental and physical health was suffering. He was work8ng 2 damn jobs. They have no children. And she had the means to help him. Or he would have struggled less if she hadn't skimmed of the top of the finances he trusted her with. If you're spouse doesn't know you're putting some of the money that he earned to the side then you are stealing. If she is so worried about being left she should get a job. She's so worried that she can steal bit not worried enough to get a job what an absolute loser. I hope she gets everything she deserves.
Imagine: he leaves the house approx. at 5 a.m. for a minimum 16h of work, while she sleeps in, puts on her puffy fluffy slippers. logs into the computer, basically steals the money from his hard-earned paycheck, takes a sip of warm coffee, does some housework with zero pressure and chills till he comes home half dead just to tell him her cushy lifestyle in worth more than him not dying of exhaustion...there is no soul in that chest
i mean, it was good for him until money situation...so both sides worth each other :)
And refusing to downsize the house. Sure, let it get foreclosed.
@@TheAnimeSounds you're weird
Modern women these days aint sht. What didu expect
I was married to a good, hard working woman and i was out working too. We had been togother and renting for three years. One day i came home and she said maybe it's time to buy a place. I said that we havent got enough money yet. She said, yes we have, i've saved up 10k which will get us a deposit. I was amazed, our lifestyle..basic...but hadnt changed. How she did it without me knowing.. but there it was. 27 laters, we are still married and she is still very good at handling money. Two great kids as well. She still works very hard. We have had problems, but we stuck it out.
@spanishpeaches2930 But she wasn't squirreling it away for herself. I would call that building up some savings for the family. Two entirely different things.
The one who handles the money has to make these decisions. As long as they are not hiding it from the other, it's fine. Doesn't necessarily have to inform the other about all the details.
My wife didn't really know how much money we had, she just knew we were doing okay. Until the day I told her that we could retire at 55 instead of 65. She still never cared about the details.
@@Fred2-123 What i was getting at was that she managed to save all that money without me noticing or noticing any detrimental affect on our basic lifestyle. Which shows that women can sneakily do it for good intentions as well.
@@spanishpeaches2930 Sure. But was she being sneaky? or just not mentioning the details to you? I don't have any problem for your situation. She wasn't putting it away like the 1st lady or the black lady at 16:30---for herself. Putting it away for the family, as long as it is not forcing you to get 2 jobs, is fine. It wasn't detrimental to your family lifestyle, so ok.
@@Fred2-123 Not much of a team if she's doing things that affect the family without consulting her husband.
@@chrismay2298I’m sorry for whatever she did to ya man but you’re projecting
I was a stay at home mom for 21 Plus years. When my husband and I married and he told me he wanted me to be a stay at home mom with the kids he gave me a paycheck / cash amount evert two weeks when he was paid.
His mother my MIL said that we needed to do that so I could have a safety net.
When he had his nervous breakdown & was forced to resign from his job & take early retirement.
We operated out of my raining day fund until all of his money started up ( SSA, VA, State Retirement).
I'm praying everything works out for this man as the wife is extremely selfish and financially abusive.
I caught the ex wife stashing MY SALARY in an escape fund. I told her she is welcome to save, but both of our names are on the account. She refused. I set up marriage counseling. She refused to discuss or cooperate. I filed. She's old, alone, and has to work to survive. She didn't need to work with me, and she didn't for 14 years. Afterward, she said, "I could have handled things better". I shrugged and said, "it is what it is", and never spoke a word to her about any of it again.
When should’ve said “I’m sorry”.
At very least...
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My ex left me in 2006. The guy she left with and married divorced her a few years back, leaving her a poor single mom to 4 kids at 38, last I saw she was working in a weed factory.
Oh well she owns her choices. I just inherited my 8 figure farm from the family she could have married into.
@@RobertMorgan 🥂You’re drinking champagne
@@RobertMorgan Congrats bro. plz look after that farm don't sell it junk food industry.
Funny, "Treating him like a predator" while she was the predator.
Seriously!!! She should have worked a job to save for her "escape" instead of being a prostitute by being paid for sex and housework by stealing from her husband.
Cries out in pain when they strike you
@@tomyoung8563that is 100% what women do. Experienced it myself.
Wonder how many women would feel its ok for a man to embezzle 47k from the fsmily funds and keep it in a 'just in case" fund for himself.
Especially when the women get everything in divorces...
Are you trying to use logic with women 😅😂 bro is this your first time 😅😂
Why is a man/woman thing? Because you're sexist and feeling emasculated by this story?
If you do the math she actually embezzled $103,800, not only $47,000. Where's the rest of the money?!?!
My father did and my mother was seething, although when he left and his money was totally gone my mother proved to have her own fund in case he couldn't work/leave (he tryied many years ago). We struggled but after he leaved we keeped struggling wich made me wonder up to what point it was only his fault, and then years later my sister left after preparing everything in secret... man, I am the only one who hadn't done something like that
Many women marry for money not for love. I married a woman with 6 kids and loved and adored her and all of her kids. When I stopped the abusive spending on the credit cards that I gave her, she secretly planned on leaving and left me disabled and broke. If I had gotten a dog, I would be comfortable emotionally and financially
Men don't marry for love either though, so what's your point?
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She stole his money. Should be charged and convicted.
She 💯 is a thief and her mother showed her how. He needs a good divorce lawyer.
There legally is no "theft" known within a marriage between spouses.
@@manfredschmalbach9023so he can just take the money back?
@@manfredschmalbach9023Only if it is a joint account. If it is his account then it is almost certainly theft.
@@manfredschmalbach9023 Technically False, Because she was deliberately hiding money meant to support the both of them it can be seen and persecuted as financial fraud. If they get divorced, it is very likely she will be forced to pay back the money.
And remember, this is HER version of things. Women _always_ leave out significant details about their accountability when relating such tales. The truth is probably _infinitely_ worse.
But it can never truly hide, can it?
They can't downsize because she "spent years (and all his money) turning it into a home". She spent all his money, stole what was left when she ran out of junk and knicknacks to buy, and refused to even *dip* into that fund. There is no coming back from that
@@lithuaniaball "Men can't go backward sexually,, and women can't go backward in lifestyle. Once a woman has a house, she can't go back to an apartment or she'll lose her mind." - Chris Rock
Oh my…I hadn’t thought of that, and you’re absolutely right. The rest of the story is probably infinitely worse.
Yes like all the expensive lunches and spa days she treated her mother and friends to nails and hair for everyone yeah!
@@John-jc4omdefinitely i mean he was earning 6 figures a month ... Unbelievable they all gone in a poof for just a losing case
If a woman is embezzling from her husband she’s already decided to leave him. There is no “IF” about it.
Yep, it’s just a matter of when and you can blame her mother for it!
It's not embezzlement. People in this comment section wouldn't know the laws when the book is literally thrown right at their face.
tbh, the dude is massively stupid too. If u struggle insanely, one would have a thought of going through finances to see where money is flowing and can be optimized....
@@oceyho sounds like that’s what he did! The thing is, he trusted his wife…
@@iGame3Dstop licking the feminists boots. the word embezzlement is being used for a reason. this 304 is beyond just stealing. stop simping
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That wife is pure evil.
He is working himself to death ... and she doesnt care.
He is also STUPID and has the macho "I NEED to provide everything".
That *ex-wife is pure evil.
Mom too smh
Yeah pure psycopath.
How so? This is a situation the husband created on his own by preventing his wife from being able to work and follow a career. There was absolutely no reason to have her at home because there were no kids. The husband made this happen. The wife just did what all stay at home moms should do, have an emergency fund for if and when the husband decided to replace her. He couldn’t let go of his ego of being the sole provider.
It’s not her escape fund. It’s his money.
Stop saying “my money”.
This! If she took her marriage vows seriously, it would be "our" money. But she's plotting a divorce heist so in her mind it's "my" money. Prenups are a must!
You can tell how it was written, the woman knew it was bad and wrong and she still allowed her mother to supersede what she knew to be moral, right, and true. They can’t be trusted to have the fortitude to do the right thing…
She is a piece of sheet.. she gave NO support and is wondering if listening to her mama was correct 🤦🏻♂️
That's the wild thing. She said that she doesn't work. So every single cent that was put into "her" escape fund, was HIS money. He was funding her bug out plan. She may have a TOE to stand on if the entire fund was earned by her. But even then, its supposed to be a partnership. You help each other at your respective lowest. Mind blowing.
@@E1MPBrandon What’s wild to me is she is planning a buy out on him, just in case he does it to her. She’s already decided someone is going to screw somebody over so might as well be her getting the bag. I have no qualms that evils people know they’re evil. They just don’t see it as bad, they see being bad as good in their perception. You have to put your relationship through the paces. Take 2 weeks off but tell her you got fired. That level of testing! ✌️
5:26 Killing himself for a family? i thought they didnt have any kids iirc. He's killing himself in work for her alone.
For real, I was scratching my head the second she said she was a child-free stay at home wife. Stay at home? For what?
She's a lazy loser
@@shadow7988 That is a red flag. Child free, stay at home wife. She gets bored and then starts to pay attention to other guys.... guess what's next. Then that 47K will be funding Chad's lifestyle.
She probably got a barren wasteland, literally. Probably got an acidic uterus providing a hostile environment, nothing lives with that "woman" it's a locust
you dont need kids to be a family. nice take....
Those are not red flags, those are betrayals!
Those are Red Flags turning black
My grandmothers mother did just about this same thing minus the escape funds, different era, listened to her mother and left my grandfather leaving him to raise my father and two aunts by himself. He made sacrifices and did a impeccable job.
When the man makes the money, it's not the man's it's money for the family. But when a woman keeps money for herself, it's "her money to keep"...
in this case, she didn't make money so she has no right to it in my opinion.
She didn't make the money so it's not hers, in any way shape or form.
The modern woman is out for herself and is not a team player. So essentially, the modern woman is the exact opposite of wife.
Funny that's how it works according to Islam. But they're not Muslim. (Just to be clear, I'm exmuslim and I don't agree with it.)
@@miranolastname2366 Sure if you say so.
If he is the bread winner, the money is for the family. At the same time, if it is the family's money, the one who hides it becomes a thief.
She is a thief.
That is why men should have an untraceable escape fund. Courts won't care that she stole from you to create her escape, but they will care if you have a nest egg.
Courts agree, if he sues, he wins.
@@VantaBlackhole No, they do not. Ask Steve Harvey. Watch his story where his wife stole millions of dollars from their bank account over years and had it sitting in her own personal account and set it up with their accountant that he would not be told and for the accountant to not pay the taxes and instead steal the tax money Steve Harvey thought was going to the IRS. She filed for divorce and he got none of that money back that she stole and on top of that he had take the only money he had left to pay off the IRS. He had $1k left in his bank account afterwards. If it is NOT in your name then you do not get half of it after or in a divorce.
That woman isn’t evil she is a psychopath. Watching your husband struggle for yrs while you steal from him? She needs to be dealt with.
What's the difference? Why are you differentiating between the two?
She both
@@the3nder1because they aren't the same thing.
@@jonathanlandau-litewski7405
Wait...what??
Is there a psychopath you're aware of that isn't evil?
@@JohnSmith-yc6uv I know that sounds as though that would be the case but there really is a difference.
The thing about having an "escape" plan (and/or fund) is that you WILL use it. I discovered that my ex-wife suddenly put a "flag" on our account without my knowledge. One day I went to the bank to open a savings account and discovered that I couldn't because of the red flag. She had taken "control" of the account so I couldn't take money out. When I confronted her and asked why she did it, she said quote, "Because of what you MIGHT do." I was floored. Who is teaching women this crap?
Honestly because a lot of women are like that it’s makes the ones of us who aren’t still grouped in that category. Some of us have traditional views and want to stay home and cater solely to our man and hopefully kids. We don’t care about 6 figures, we don’t care about height, and it makes us happy to make our man happy and appreciate him.
Bless you ma'am!! The world now more than ever needs women like you, someone who actually thinks about more than herself. Not that all women are like these examples of what NOT to be like.
@ Aww that’s so sweet of you to say and honestly the highest compliment. 🫶🏻🥹❤️ I personally think traditional views and just getting to be a stay at home mom and wife are literal heaven on earth lol. I love cooking, baking, cleaning, and being able to care of people and give. That actually makes me so happy and it makes me happy to make others happy. I know everyone has their own views and some women don’t like that but I personally am not for all the feminist sh*t and don’t want to be put in the “I don’t need a man” category lol. Cuz I do and even if I can do it on my own I don’t wanna lol. Just like I know not all women want what I want so I’m not gunna put them in that category. Just because I can do it own my own doesn’t mean I want to ya know. Random explanation but we may not technically need deodorant but we need deodorant if that makes sense. And I may not technically need a man but I need a man, and I also know I’m not and never will be as physically strong as a man. Men and women balance each other out in ways and I like having a man to take care of my car issues I know nothing about and open jars my weak a** arms can’t and protect me, and to be able appreciate him.
This is a reason why some people snap and some people die.
When i returned from OIF3 we were given regular briefings as usual. In them was an added disclaimer to all us men, yup just the men, "do not go home and kill your spouse". Turns out some men had been overseas fighting and many even recieved a sign on bonus only to come home to a cheating wife who stole all their hard earned money or to a wife who spent every extra dime he made while he was gone. So all those dreams of retirement or home ownership were gone. And thus, they did what the government trained us to do. They eliminated the enemy. Unfortunately they were labeled the bad guy for doing so. It should be legal in these circumstances.
@@duanelamb266 bro. You realize that you are advertising to legalize killing your wife and kids execution style... Maybe someone should notify authorities in your area l. Is your family okay? Are you okay?
@@duanelamb266Absolutely F@#KING INSANE, and on purpose, the stance the state takes in these types of situations. Hell, most men would help a bro end said “Enemy” just from hearing what happened to e’m. If the public knew the truth behind these cases, the majority would call it justice.
I learned wise words from my grandfather... You buy what you need, not what you want.
That has served me and my wife of 35 years very well.
If you can't afford to pay cash you can't afford it! 😮
My second wife has learned that, about 95% at least, lol. My ex never got it.
I’d add you can buy what you want if you can do it cash.
Dont deprive yourself of things you want IF you can afford them and it doesn’t hurt priorities.
People that buy stuff they don't need and women that buy nicnaks,dodads,theirs something missing inside of them. That's why so many women are hoarder. They get the thrill of buying it but then come in and throw it down and don't even take the tags off of it. Their soul is empty.
So you eat nothing but a single-celled protein, vitamin, mineral, and amino acid colloid, just like in the matrix? It's all you need right?
Alternative headline: husband destroyed after finding out wife has been stealing $700 a month, totalling $47,000...
Where I come from we call that a crime, and the husband is the victim.
Would be a crime anywhere, of course unless a female does it. Then its not
That 47k amounts to fraud, theft and deceit.
The husband is working himself to the ground without the knowledge of his wife's plans.
The fact that the wife was defending her actions saving so much money speaks volumes for her real intentions.
I would for sure make a trip to an attorney to see where things lie in the grand scheme of things.
Your money is her money
Her money is her money
Your life is in her hands
Take control of YOUR life and don't let a woman in it. Odds are, all that it would do is destroy you.
She stole $47,000 of his money.
💯
Of their money. Unless you have a prenup, all assets are split evenly upon a divorce.
I rewatched The Godfather II yesterday. One brief scene that always stands out to me is when young Vito loses his job at the grocery store. He comes home with nothing but a pear for he and his wife. He unwraps it and sets it on the table and she says to him in italian, "what a lovely pear!" They then sit down to eat what she has prepared for them and he gives her a tender kiss. Reminds me of my granddads stories about how he and my grandmother used to regularly eat sardines and crackers when they were young bc they had no money. Can you imagine a single western woman that would stand by her man like that these days? I can't, and yet they used to be the norm less than a century ago.
You want to know why it isn't this way anymore? Lack of fathers, lack of economic distribution, lack of church being taught in public schools, rise of social media and "influencers", all while lack of shame in our society today. These issues only gotten worse since the 70's. As a 26 Gen Z myself there is no getting that traditional lifestyle back without a sacrifice.
I would and do. But I was raised old school 🤷🏻♀️. Divorce is not even a word spoken in our house, because I believe some things that are said, just like some actions, can’t be unsaid or undone. My husband and I have been through years of ups and downs in life and there is no one else I want to spend whatever time I have left with. Whether we are in feast or famine. 😊
@@R3stingBishFac3Barbi3 Once loyalty is broken there is nothing that can make that become "undone", usually you'll tend to never have trust which is foundation and doubts will deafen a marriage, thus the marriage eventually deteriorates. There are many other options that also can't be undone, but reasonable things can like a argument or financial.
@@Tonicshades Basically
The movie kinda leaves you depressed. The way it ended
Marriage used to be about sticking with each other, even through the hardest challenges. This woman already had one foot out the door as soon as she was married.
Simple. Divorce and sue for theft of private property and emotional damages to the tune of a cool 250k.
If you discover her emergency fund in cash in a place to which you have access (like your home or her luggage or something); secretly take half and put it in your own emergency fund in a good hiding place. Do this every month as long as she’s continuing to contribute to hers.
If her emergency fund is in a bank account, take any documents you have down to the county clerks office and have them recorded.
Now, get a bank account in your name only then sue her for half.
Take the whole money and see if her behaviour changes.
My grandma raised 9 kids (and was pregnant 13 times) on her husbands average accountant salary. They got by and of course only spent money when needed. They were married over 50 years. You will never see this in today’s world. They never gave up. Wasn’t an option.
What happened to the other 4 kids?
@@rextar9961 miscarriage. Very common in 1950’s.
@@toddw.8277Yup, my mom is one of seven kids. I believe my grandma had two or three miscarriages. Possibly more, people don't realize how dangerous childbirth was (still is) or how easily something can go wrong. Just the way it is.
@@toddw.8277very common with psychos who keep having kids into their forties.
@@toddw.8277 sounds she lived her life
She literally stole his money. Breadwinners, handle your own money.
Truth! I learned that lesson the hard way when my ex liquidated my IRA while I was deployed.
I watched a video on the Titanic recently, and there is a famous couple that when it came time to abandon the ship, the wife refused to leave her husband and would rather die with him then save herself.
Isidore and Ida Strauss. Very wealthy. Didn't matter to her.
Real wife
Isidore and Ida Strauss were married for over four decades. Reportedly she told him, "We have lived together for many years. Where you go, I go." Time to cry over the Titanic again 😭
They should have been the main characters. Not a woman who cared more about a homeless guy she met on a boat than her actual family.
Full house baby!
The way I gasped when I realised it was his money she was taking. That's not your escape fund, that's money you've been stealing.
If a woman is setting up an "Escape Fund" "just in case" I doubt she has her heart into the relationship to go through it, thick and thin. Especially when woman are so heavily favored in divorces to begin with.
Yes. The answer is yes, she is the ay-whole. She clearly did not understand the concept of marriage the entire time they were together.
Also, she never really wanted to get a job again. The reason she *asked* him is because she KNEW he would ask her not too. The proof of this is in the fact that she didn't ask permission to put aside HIS money into a personal savings for herself. If she wanted to get a job again to help contribute, she would have just done it.
How much you want to bet that if she wasn't already cheating on him, she wanted to do it, and then blame him for leaving her alone so much.
@@remyllebeau77 99% chance she was already getting plowed by at least the pool boy and the lawn service crew.
She stole his money.. not her money...
Wow, these women are DISGUSTING!
These women are truly livE. Taking the man's money to escape. When can we stop this?
Haven't read all comments, but I don't see any remarks about the US exploitative health care system. Husband had a high paying job, probably built up a decent nest egg just for it to be wiped out due to the USs horrendous health care. From having to pay thousands of dollars just for an ambulance ride, worst I have heard in favor of the exhorbitant costs for a ambulance is that it isn't a taxi, no it isn't taxis are way cheaper. Also an ambulance is supposed to get you to hospital and try and keep you alive for treatment. Has the best medical care in the world so it is worth paying for? You think? The US is 74th on mortality rate world wide, 49th for child mortality worse than some "3rd world countries", 38th on the health care index.
So no, the US health care is far from being the best in the world. Only the most exploitative, health care should be about treating illness, not profiting from it.
Folks. Men are in love, women are in business. Shout out to Coach Greg Adams
Men are often dumb in love and women are commonly bad at business.
She did not save that money in case her marriage failed. She saved it as an excuse to fail.
And will still ask for half in the divorce
Wisdom of a 71 year old dude 2x married divorced, raised 4 kids successfully. This is a very common story that has happened to many guy friends of mine. The common target dollar amount these women sandbag is $100,000. The reality is a woman will Always change her mind. Plan accordingly. She is not yours, it is just your turn. Both of my wives left me when they got in their 40s,, even though I was providing for her.
@@dirostudiosmy dad left my mom, but she was overconfident, and let herself go. That’s another thing women sometimes do.
I just wanted to say that you are one of the best "red-pillish" commentators out there. You tell the truth about relationships but you do it with no animosity in mind. I like that. Keep up the good work. Young men and young women could both benefit from honestly listening to what you have to say. I wish your content was available 30 years ago before I had two divorces and fathered 5 children. I did the best I could at the time but I was trying to live under social rules that no longer applied. Thanks again for potentially saving somebody like me today from learning the hard way.
I had to thumbs up on your balls just to show your own stuff on what you had in the background, whether people see that as blessed or not blessed. God bless you sir. Also, I'm impressed about your wisdom in today's age. From decades ago it wouldn't be much more than above ave common sense, but today you have gone against the odds and still acquired that wisdom. Thank you for being. You heard me; thank you for being.
They're facing financial ruin because she is stealing their wealth. For what she did and put him through, he needs to take her to court and at least take half and maybe even sue her for the undo stress she put him through making him think they were struggling, while she was actually stealing. Divorce would be 100%!
He should get the entire amount back including interest.
The courts will agree with the woman and he'll lose more money.
How much would an extra $750/month mean in hard times?
The thing is, if you do the math, she would have 45k in just 5 years of doing that, which means several thousands of dollars most likely went to something else she didn't want her husband knowing about.
This perfectly exemplifies what you fear you create. I hope she's taken to the cleaners in court.
If there was actually justice she would but the courts are so biased even prenups are not solid
The woman that wants her “own.” Cool, go get your “own.” Make your own money.
Independent wahmen - "Naaah, you go get yo bag girl, you know you deserve it, we are constantly oppressed so it's fine to be duplicitous and unethical, you're the prize, he should be happy to cater to you, waah waah blah blah..."
Most men I know keep progressing their career, their character, own their home, own their car and are financially very stable after hitting 30. They make solid choices for the future and keep grinding.
Imagining the reality check when the women's divorce lawyer tells her "that escape fund is marital property you don't get to keep it all just because his name isn't on the account" 😂
That man is sacrificing everything for her and she’s skimming $750/month off the top to leave him. What a monster.
Good news is that money will be forced to be split in the divorce.
@@Profitglutton90 See, it's a good thing, he probably wouldn't have saved it otherwise.
@@iGame3D don’t know about that. Sounds like his spending isn’t the problem. The parasite he married financially abusing him seems to be the real issue.
@@iGame3D I think the parasite he was married to financially crippling him was the problem. Not his ability to save.
@@iGame3D sounds like OP was the problem since she was financially crippling him. His ability to save doesn’t seem like the issue here.
"No, honey, I'm not cheating on you. She's my backup plan. See, if things don't work out between us, I have her to fall back on. Don't take it personally; I would have done this with anyone!"
What makes this extra stupid is that the 47K "escape fund" is a marital asset. If things fell apart, it was always a marital asset that would be part of the divorce settlement. She can't escape and just take it LOL.
It just blows my mind how easily people give up on their relationships!!! I'm a widow and I cherished our love and relationship❤
Been watching for a while...First comment ever! This happed to me! Your service to the Male population is on point and underrated. There needs to be a pamphlet that we can pass around like the Jahovas Witnesses do!!!
My mil tried to convince me to make a squirrel fund against her own son. I pretended to humor her and told my husband the minute I could.
And THERE is empirical proof that you can't even trust your own mother when it comes to the sisterhood...
Let's see if this ages well. Update us 10 years from now.
@@dkindigThe mother-in-law knows something about her son and his dad that her daughter-in-law doesn't know....yet.
@@Her.Serene.Feline.Cuteness. Her son is a hardworking man and a loving husband.
@@hoodwinkedbunny1953 I hope so..but like I said, time will tell.
I have had multiple women from girlfriends, a sister, to even my own mother claim poverty, asking for money only to find out later they had a hidden rainy day fund. I am fairly convinced it's normal.
Yes, it's ingrained in women to always have an "emergency fund" that's only for them.
It’s normal my own mom has done this but to this day she has denied she doesn’t have money even though my sisters have told me otherwise
Yea normal for all evil women
Never, ever, even gave a rainy day fund a thought while I was married for almost 28 yrs. Don’t think my mom did either but didn’t think to ever ask her prior to her passing in July.
Then again, she and my dad made it to their 60th in June so I would say it’s pretty doubtful she had one!
It is. You can't trust a goddamn one of these women.
Sue her, she stole from the marriage. A woman won the lottery while married,kept it secret & immediately forced a divorce. Husband found out, sued & the judge gave him all the money.
That's not how this will play out.
Based judge
@@Bronasaxon based on what
The chances of the man winning in family court are very small.
He might as well use the money spend on lawyers in the casino and try to win it for himself.
The family court system is designed to transfer money from men to women, minus a percentage the state takes for itself.
Generally speaking. The woman get's 50%. And the other 50% goes to the lawyers, courts and the state. Leaving the man with nothing.
@ Never understood people who think like you. It’s difficult so why bother? That’s why women keep winning.Not for me, can’t win a fight if you don’t show up.
I love watching videos like this, because it makes me all the more thankful for my wife. I can't imagine having to work multiple jobs, which I already do, struggle against the entire world, which I already do, and then go home and have my wife fighting against me too. That would just be too much. I would be done. As it is, my wife does her very best to keep the world away from me, and make sure that our house is run as perfectly as possible so that all I have to do when I get home from both of my jobs is relax.
The wife is waving red flags. She has not been a partner to him or had his back. She had one foot out the door from the beginning. If she is not willing to give it up to help their marriage then he should divorce her and take it as the money is the only asset from the marriage.
One of the best ways to ensure your marriage fails is to plan for it to fail.
Yup. We agreed on our honeymoon never to say the word "divorce", even in kidding.
She can leave at any time. Getting married without a prenup ensures she is incentivized and rewarded for doing just that. She can quit being a wife, drag it out for years because she has you financially hostage, and then you're still obligated at gunpoint to support her even after she's gone and shacked up with another man.
Any woman who would willingly enter into a contract with you that she's rewarded for breaking should never get a second look, much less a ring.
@@phatpat63 Why would you sign a contract that is so bad,
That you need a second contract to protect you from the first?
The man is an idiot, having a wife without kids at home. She should be working contributing to the finances. Also, why the F dosnt he go through his accounts regularly. Last, why live so extravagantly that you have to work all of the time. I don’t understand why anyone wants to work all day in order to buy expensive bags and cars.
Don't lead with your money! 😢😢😢
Guaranteed she's been a materialistic, self-centered princess the entire time. He just made enough money that he didn't see it, and his perception of what a healthy relationship was that men work themselves to death and the wife will love and appreciate his efforts. He's a means to an end for her, and the lifestyle he provided was expected instead of appreciated.
So many ppl I know live extravagantly paycheck to paycheck. Big nice homes, boat, expensive cars, etc. If you ever wonder how someone lives like they do with the job they have, the answer is they have everything mortgaged to the hilt and they're deeply deeply in debt.
I agree with almost all of that 100%, except the part where she should be working. She should be making babies if she doesn't have them. If she goes to work it's another reason to not have babies.
He wasn't living extravagantly before he got hurt at work do you even listen? He got hurt and then lost all his money on a lawsuit and medical bills. It sounds like he was living well within his means...
Like those women don't already know that divorce court would absolutely shred these men anyway, they have to have a backup fund in addition? Pure evil
8:30 - facts. If I had it my way half the crap on my house would not be there. I have so little and there is clutter everywhere. Can’t stand it. Not saying I need more stuff. I just want to be able to access the areas in my home without fear of knocking stuff over. Excuse from the wife (it’s really not that much stuff we just need more space to put it all. No.
That man is an angel and he deserves an authentically good woman, not a fraud.
1)Don't officially marry
2)Be aware of common law marriage thing
3)If she has "escape fund" subconsciously she plans to leave
There's absolutely nothing wrong with getting married.
Just don't marry western women.
I married a Romanian woman and we LIVE in Romania (most important part).
The government MAKES you set up a prenup before getting married.
You have (I think) three default options or you can make your own but you NEED to indicate what you want before you get married.
Depends on the people I think, in my case I was very upfront about wanting to have it streamlined if we ever got divorced, we decided beforehand on what would be fair, signed papers and did the thing. Been happily married for over a decade. Still haven't even had a fight that lasted more than 5 minutes. Maybe communication and honesty are the key. We both wanted to be protected because, look at the times we live in. I didn't hold it against her, she didn't hold it against me. Also, it could be because I can lay it down. Probably helps.
Over 50% of women who claim to be "happily" married,
Already have a backup man identified in case the marriage doesn't work.
Forget the money for a second. They already have another man in mind while being "happily" married. Let that sink in!
@@onbored9627 Doesn't mean a thing.
A woman's marriage vows are only good until the man says "I do".
A woman's word has no value.
She can change her mind at any moment and for reasons men will never understand.
BRIFFAULT’S LAW
The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place.
Corollary 1: “Even though a woman has accrued past benefits from her relationship with a man, this is no guarantee of her continuing the relationship with him.”
Corollary 2: “If a woman promises a man to continue her relationship with him in the future in exchange for a benefit received from him today, her promise becomes null and void as soon as the benefit is rendered.”
Corollary 3: “A man’s promise of a future benefit has limited ability to secure a continuing relationship with a woman, and his promise carries weight with her only to the extent that the woman’s wait for the benefit is short and to the extent that she trusts him to keep his promise.”
It's even worse than I originally thought. I thought the 47k was either hers from before the marriage or she had been working on the side and saving money but the reality is she was siphoning money from what her husband brought home for herself. The family is struggling to stay afloat and she is just sitting on the money and my guess is the family is struggling because she continues living as if her husband is still bringing in "mid 6 figures". This woman is an awful person, she is selfish, self centered and greedy. Lesser men would have resorted to violence after finding out.
Agreed, at least he has his soul.
If I found my wife had a $47k "escape" fund and I was working 2 jobs and struggling I would divorce her right away. She already has shown she is not in the marriage through better or worse and her way of helping get past a financial struggle is to keep secret stash aside. No. F that. She doesnt see the marriage as a team
So she was steeling his money for years. I hope the judge who hears this divorce makes things right.
When I wonder if I should start dating again, one of these stories pops up and reminds me why I have chosen to be single. Thank you Griff, keep it up.
If you are married, you can just take that statement to said bank and access the account and drain it. Proof that you are their spouse
If you are "stay at home" with no children that is just lazy.
Depends on the woman. I know a handful of couples that couldn't have kids but the wife still stayed home. The wives spent most of their free time, while the husbands were at work, volunteering at church or within the community at hospitals or schools. Most women, even SAHM, used to do this. Women's clubs used to be about doing projects to better their town. Moms used to help fundraise for their schools and help out where needed. Nowadays people confuse trophy wives with trad wives. They just sit around the house all day when in the past that was never the case.
The only way it's lazy is if she isn't cleaning, cooking and catering to your needs. If she's doing those things, that is her job and you're her boss.
@@VictoriaInamorati1 Does that still count as stay at home if they're out and about volunteering and doing projects?
*She was STEALING from the family finances.* That's HIS MONEY, NOT HERS. They're struggling to pay the bills and she's hiding some of his income. *WHY IS HE PAYING FOR HER TO LEAVE?*
Sometimes it's worth it just to see her go.
Ultimately if he was the sole earner in the household then she has filled her escape account with HIS money. She's been sucking his accounts and rightly is HIS not hers. Surely she's guilty of embezzlement.
Theft….that’s called theft.
As a woman, I can say confidently that a woman can only love with her whole heart. You're either in it or you're not. The fact she had an escape plan tells me that she was never actually serious about their relationship. And even if there was doubt, he proved himself many times over to her. I feel so bad for him marrying someone who already had an expiration date in her mind.
love isn't real lol
Interesting that she admitted that the guy never did anything that would raise any concerns but when he found out and was upset she claimed that his reaction justified what she had done. I would say that anyone who discovered they had been a victim of theft by someone they trusted would be upset.
The feeling of love is a fleeting thing. The act of loving is a thing both partners must consciously choose to do each and every day even if they don’t feel in love on that particular day
@@HateBear-real Feelings are as real as thoughts, memories, and ideas, but I have no way to prove the existence of any of these things to you. I will grant, however, that there are some people with none of these things.
@@rymic72 Correct: Love is a verb and it's something you do every day.
This is a prime example of the kind of woman to stay far away from.
So 95% of the western world.
These are some of these reasons Hell increases in size
My fathers 2nd wife did this after the last of her 3 (not his)
kids left home, and the home mortgage was paid for and debt free. She never worked a day in their 15-year marriage .
She took the home and contents ,cars, bank accounts, and almost his sanity. He apologized to me (only son) as i had warned him in the beginning of the relationship saying i didnt like or trust her. I had to talk him out of murdering her, it was that bad. He got back on his feet 5 years later, met a wonderful woman and they never married, had separate finances and lived happily ever after.
Love yar dad.
So he punished the good woman by never marrying her. Sounds like a POS. He could've done a prenupt.
@@VictoriaInamorati1 Prenups are not worth the paper they are written on. They are so stupidly easy to get dismissed or nullified it's a walk in the park for any 2 bit lawyer. Never trust a prenup to save you. All they need is a modicum of doubt and the agreement is out the window evidence not required.
@@VictoriaInamorati1 It's vastly easier to be 'the good woman' when there's accountability. The fact that you characterize not being given any leverage to ruin his life at any time as "punishment" says it all.
@@phatpat63Yeah, your average leech.
This dishonesty and selfishness should be taught in schools.
Thanks for being direct and real.
She stole 47k. It’s his money. Curb.
Wow, that's heartless. To watch him struggl. If she was saving up for both if them is one thing, but she skim off the top with only herself in mind, no kids! So entitled with no responsibility.
Hiding assets from your partner, husband, is dishonest. It is being deceptive. You broke your vows. You ended the marriage before the divorce.
100%, he should also sue her for the theft as she was taking funds out of the shared/family account he earned to fund her personal savings. I've always kept a personal emergency fund in my relationships. The difference is my partners always knew about it and how much I had, and the money used to fund said emergency savings always came out of my own paycheque after I had covered all the shared essentials like rent, bills, food and shared purchases etc.
@@TwoPlusTwoEqualsFive32 A weird analogy is like in sitcoms. A rainy day fund is drastically different. This is true in many families. I saw these with multiple friends when I was younger. In hindsight, a swear jar could be considered that exact thing...
If you even BELIEVE in divorce you cannot get married.
That's like jumping off a skyscraper and believing you won't splat at the bottom.
I'm a widower who kept track of family money, and I noticed many times money's came up short. But she never had the opportunity to amast that kind of nest egg.
She is the whole reason for the crisis not being mended
When hearing about stories like this - the domestic abuse rates look very impressive!
Her squirrel account was entirely skimmed off the husband's income. I'd be pissed off as well
He should take that thief to court in front if judge Judy and watch her try to explain why her embezzlement was a good thing.
If she's earning "for herself", let her be by herself.