My Workplace Is Toxic!
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- Опубликовано: 30 апр 2020
- My Workplace Is Toxic!
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I did that for 7 years. Not worth it. I got really mean. It does something to your spirit.
Pyscological violence - abuse - whether a marriage or working environment - very bad for both physical & mental health - most businesses have this now unfortunately - this stuff has killed people
The medical field can be really toxic. That’s why I travel and choose who I work with
Is she crying? If a job ever gets that bad...leave! Ain't no job ever enough to make me stay where I'm unhappy and miserable!!
Financial needs are burden
@@bayanm.3564 how much can you cut in your life and leave the job? No more Netflix, Hulu, Starbucks, monthly subscription box, gym membership, etc
@@orphanedhanyouwhy would you cut gym membership
@@orphanedhanyou I talk about necessity not luxurious staff
Wonder if a person works in an area where work is very limited?
If you're in a job and it hurts when you tell others about it, you need a new job.
Bingo
Agreed. Easier said then done.
Every job I've ever had
@@ChaseTheLadiesMan What field do you work in?
If you need medication and starting to have nightmare about the job, then that's toxic
You can hear the suffering in her voice. Pls find another job if possible. Nobody should work at a misserable place.
She's a journalist , she probably needs to learn Python
Most jobs are like high school for adults....especially office jobs.
Couldn’t be more accurate
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@@johncasey1838 ???
Because most peoples emotional maturity stops at highschool
Healthcare is horrible too
Toxic Job = Unhappy Life
Toxicity rife, unhappy life.
If your job make u cry every day time to go ASAP
Stress is multiplied during these times. We should all make an effort to be extra kind to one another right now; we have no idea what people might be going through especially right now with sickness, death, depression and job loss. Praying for our world.
Perfectly said thanks
So true but sadly many work places are not seeing it this way!
Amen! I’ve had to take up a customer service job due to being furloughed and the level of rudeness from customers is at an all time high.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt
No but they can be abusive towards you and you can't abuse them back
When you have kids to support and limited options...sometimes you take sh*t until a better option comes your way... I had to take it for years. Hard to take a pay cut when you have children to raise and bills to pay.
Great quote!!! WOW
sonofagunM357 being abusive back don’t solve any problems. Changing one’s situation by leaving a toxic work environment does.
When a workplace creates an environment of stress like that, it will make you physically ill, leave ASAP no job is worth your health and well being
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Exactly. Toxic coworkers are horrible and having a boss that won't do anything about it is worse.
@@dity9442 You are absolutely right. I just addressed my boss this morning for allowing our coworker to say racist remarks to other employees. His response, "that's not my concern". I'm so f*cking livid right now. I work for a terrible company. I will be quitting very soon!
@@dity9442 Exactly, I hate when a manager acts like your concerns are of no importance. It is their job to care if you have problems, and it is their job to make sure your issues are sorted out. Or to atleat make an attempt to sort the issues out.
It's hard to move on from anything that you've been involved with for 7 years BUT when it brings you to the point of tears, move on . Your life will be much better. Best of luck to this woman.
Why it's so important to be debt free, you can tell the boss BYE!
Hard core facts!!!!!!
Hard core facts!!!!!
So true. A former coworker of mine quit on the spot with no notice because she had enough money saved up and had no debt.
@@jessicaHcat This is the biggest reason I have no debt and allot of savings. I could care less about retirement. I care about my mental sanity.
Rylan E. 🙏🏽
I've worked at 17 different places and I've learned if your manager or coworkers are harder to deal with than your clients, it's time to look for another job.
I worked at one job where if someone had a question about my work they would CC my manager, all my coworkers and their manager! My manager would come to my desk at least once a week and with fists clenched ask me about my work
There really is no being "more resilient" in a toxic work place. Who ever is in power, or has power, at the company will push you further and further to the brink, until either you are fired or you just snap. Once thw target is on your back, it will never go away. When you get to the point that you are breaking down emotionally and your body is telling you "no more", it is time to get out and quick. I have been there, and man... it really is a hard thing to go through.
The best comment I’ve read on this video. Unless you’ve been through it or are going through it, you can’t imagine how awful it is.
Whenever ownership changes hands or new management things can get wacky😓
Yep.
I could feel the pain in that woman's voice-because I've worked at several toxic work environments throughout my life. Those places are no joke and if you can get out, GET OUT! It will destroy you if you don't.
It’s difficult because of this pandemic to look for work. I feel for her
Difficult to FIND CERTAIN KINDS of work. Tons of places are hiring. There is maybe more work than ever to do now and the list is growing quickly because nobody wants to do it.
Matt Schmitt VERY TRUE!
I know Wal-Mart is hiring
I use to work in a dealership aka sheehy Ford Springfield VA. Such cut throat toxic work environment. Now I wake up everyday and thank god that I'm not in that depression hole.
@tahoemist98 same.
Some dealership sales managers can be ruthless. Seems to go with the business.
@@waterheaterservices thats why I will never work at a dealership again.
Hey Megan, I hope that wherever you are you get the chance to read this.
I was in the exact same position as you in October 2019 when I decided to leave my old employer. I had dealt with a lot of verbal abuse, stressful workloads, and unpaid compensation from my old boss because he was just an awful person who had no respect for me. My old boss knew exactly the right things to say to convince me that working for him was the best opportunity that I was going to get, and my anxiety was always through the roof because of how I felt trapped.
After my boss decided to report me to our HR department for being "distracted" and "failing to meet expectations", I found the strength and love from my family, friends, and a few coworkers to say "enough is enough". I immediately started going to interviews during my free time, and once I felt confident I was getting an offer from someone else I walked out on my boss in the middle of the day. I handed my resignation letter to HR, told them everything that had been going on, and that if I didn't receive my fair compensation for the unpaid wages, I'd file a suit with the Department of Labor.
Fast forward to today, I'm in a new position that I started back in November, and it is all I could have ever dreamed of getting. My new bosses are far kinder and respectful, and they're paying me 20% more than what my former boss was giving me. No verbal abuse, no complaints about being "distracted", and no working extra hours off the record. I've gotten great reviews from them all around. I also received a settlement from my old company, and the amount they gave me was much bigger than what I was expecting.
The point I'm trying to make is that being in a toxic work environment has a devastating effect on your self-esteem, and it's difficult right now for you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You need to surround yourself by people who care about you in order to find the courage to say "no". There are thousands of other employers out there that will respect you more for what you bring to the table. You can do this.
Thank you for sharing & i am so glad your in a better place & wish the same for this caller....i am in similar situation....not as bad as your past but i dont want to stay longer for it to get that bad either....i wish you the best :)
I just left a environment like this in the middle of the covid pandemic. What a blessing it has been. ❤In the midst of this economic downturn income has been affected but my peace of mind is Price less. New beginnings and better opportunities.
You are so kind to reach out to this girl and so brave with your past. I’m in a toxic place for 19 years! Why you ask? Single mom, recession, single mom .. now my kids are older I’m ready to leave... and covid-19 strikes. I’m still planning my exit believe me. But it’s so scary but I know I can do it. Reading your story is gives me hope and to others. You’re a hero.🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing this. I’m in a similar situation..I’m hoping to get out soon as well. It is unbearable at times. Doing my best.
I've mostly been a third shift employee during my working life. People ask me how I can deal with the odd hours. It definitely has its disavantages, but by the time most of the bosses, egoists, and assorted stuffed shirt jerks show up, its time for me to go home.
mynameislenny 😂😂
That's exactly why like working weekends. The bosses are usually off
Haha nice
same, i’ve been graveyard for 4 and half years and i love it simply because i avoid the daytime douches. each shift has their own managers (obvi) and daytime managers at my job are the WORST.
Likewise, I leave at 5:30am when the dbags show up.
Culture is such an important part of the business. Our responsibility as leaders is to ensure we create momentum which lifts people up and does not crush them.
I’m so glad Dave Ramsey told her to leave. I was waiting for that. I always love his advice 💕🙏🏾💕🙏🏾
John said to leave too. Just also work on what you can control... Yourself. So that others don't have influence over your emotions to the point you are crying about it.
Both of their pieces of advice were super important. I suffered from a toxic workplace, and started to slip into anxiety and depression. Eventually I did quit, but a couple of years later I was faced with the same predicament.
Some situations require you to change the environment, and some require you to change you. And some require both. But regardless, it’s okay to leave or stay, if that’s YOUR choice.
The Lord has allowed me to be in a position where I can create workplace environments, versus dealing with them. But if I ever needed to head back into a place where toxicity is present, I understand now that I determine what I allow to hurt me. That truly goes beyond field, occupation, or accreditation.
Great pieces of advice, y’all. Yet another great segment.
That defeated “hello” at the beginning. I know that felling.
feels like all office jobs are toxic 😒
I’d rather work from home and be with my family.
thanks Dave! for saying she can't stay , more often than not people expect us to endure through it , and hold it in.. SO NOT HEALTHY!! leaving is the BEST option for your mental health. Obviously it is more ideal to have a job lined up before leaving!
It doesn't mean John thinks she shouldn't leave, he said that. But you can tell and she admitted that her resilience isn't high. There will always be toxic people. You have to be able to function around them regardless. You may not be able to quit right this second. So working on what YOU can control is all you can do.
@@orphanedhanyou I wasn't speaking on John, I was speaking on Dave's reply, bc I was trying to guess his answer before he spoke and I was impressed by his response. Even with the most resilient people, a toxic work environment will eventually wear the person out, we don't know all the other external circumstances included in her situation but she clearly sounds worn out. Not healthy! it'll eventually wear out her health if she stays there , but to each their own.
@Morountodoun Okedara..Well said!!!! I agree 1000% and completely get what you’re saying!!🙌🏻🙌🏻 even in your initial comment. No work place is worth anyone’s mental health and we each have different external factors that can add to our mental stress and affect us very differently. She needs to leave!! My heart broke listening to her cry😥
@@lorrainea.285 Thank you!! + so true!! tried to be as clear as possible LOLL!!! ☺️
Oh, I feel for this caller - I left newspaper journalism almost 2 decades ago. There's life beyond her current workplace. I've witnessed so many negative things, things people could sue for (some did). MANY "journalists " suffer from substance abuse and pass the abuse down the line. This shrink does not understand what she is experiencing...she's experiencing power trips, screaming, throwing things, every obscenities, vulgarities, etc. THERE IS LIFE OUTSIDE THE NEWS ROOM! Rediscover, recreate yourself and you will discover skills and abilities you never knew you possessed!
I feel this women's pain all too well. I worked at a Fortune 500 company here in the Usa that totally micromanaged and berated some of their employees. The Sales Manager would actually walk down the aisle swearing at us and telling us that we do not know how to to our job. It really is terrible that the big bosses get 500k in a yearly bonus and the employees have to go home and cry at the end of the day. Wake up America!
MaybeNot how about having worker rights like every other developed country in the world? Too radical for you?
@@maybenot7298 that's why people cry going to work?
I've been in this situation. I'm so glad I'm no longer there. Thank you Jesus!
No one ever has a right to yell at you, or to treat you rudely or with disrespect. I don't care if you are an intern and the person yelling is the CEO. You're both people, and no person has any right to treat another that way. As I've always said: "I'm not your kid, and I'm not your dog. So don't treat me like I am. And don't treat them that way, either".
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This is what motivates people to have their 3 - 6 month emergency fund. If you are in a bad situation, that safety net gives you the luxury to get out. I feel for her so much because this pandemic and economy really changes people’s confidence to leave a bad work environment.
"You get to decide who hurts your feelings"- that's good advice from Dr. D. Allowing a toxic and mean individual to hurt your feelings only gives more credibility to their actions than they deserve. Easier said than done of course.
I have been in her position. There was a clique of wanna be ( mothers and grandmother’s ) mean girls. They would literally stop working and come by my cubicle, make it a point to spit in my face. They are known to do this to several other employees. I was the only one that took them to the Head HR person. Trust me my boss and those old childish females retaliated on me. I finally decided to quit without another job lined up. I was blessed to have three job offers within a month after I quit. I currently work for a job that I love working for and the office setting is professional.
Someone spit in your face at work?
Taah Daah no lol. The term Spit in your face is a phrase that people say when someone goes out of their way to purposely disrespect you to your face without calling you out by your name😀. At my former work place, The people that did the disrespecting would literally stop working and cause trouble around you or talk out of the side of their neck staring at you just to say disrespectful and unprofessional words just to hurt you. 😃😫
OMG my current situation!!! It is tough feeling stuck in a toxic environment at work. I have major anxiety daily...
Same
Years ago I worked for six months at a county courthouse in the criminal division, and by the end of the six months I realized that I liked the defendants better than my coworkers. Time to leave.
Most people are toxic so of course most workplaces are toxic. Focus on elevating yourself and walking with your higher purpose.
Ha, you guys with these cliche statements, as if waving a wand of cliche phrases will instantly make things better. Smh.
@@GoogleAccount00 ok google
I’m amazed at how people stay at a job they absolute hate. Start looking for another job.
One of my friends works in the healthcare field at a job with coworkers that don't care about the people they take care of. They feel trapped because if they leave, then the innocent ones will suffer. There are other factors to consider. If that is the only job available in this economy, or there is a prejudicial undertone in your community, it can be very difficult to find alternatives.
IMO, “You get to decide” is not good advice for someone who is being bullied or harassed at work...No job or relationship is worth being abused for!
I completely agree! His statements were dismissive and insensitive.
Google Account , agree! It’s a shame because he usually gives good advice.
I could see how that could come across as brushing the situation off. But what he means is that if she stands up for herself and says, "I'm not going to let you hurt me, and you can't break me," then she can take her power back and find a new job without worrying that she's good enough. It's basically restoring confidence and establishing emotional boundaries.
@@brightlyart Nah, it's a long shot. IF the problem is mostly in her head and IF she can fix it in her head by sheer power of will, THEN it might work. But leaving a job that's bad for you, for whatever reason, works just like that.
Fnordium Endures , thank you for sharing your thoughts and I understand what he was trying to say, but the caller was very clear about the aggressive behavior that she was being subjected to in the workplace on a consistent basis. I think phrases like “don’t let it get to you”, “just brush it off” and “be thick skinned” are sometimes used by people as a way of getting people to accept unacceptable behavior...This type of behavior is not okay and I was pleased that Dave gave her the clarity that she desperately needed.
I had a corporate job, that was insanely stressful. It was such a high stress job that I even in one year went through 5 bosses people making 300k a year leaving for lowering paying jobs because they couldn't handle environment stress. So our jon was stressful and then going through so many different bosses breakdowns before they leave. It was alot I cried on my way home everyday from work. I went from never being sick once a year to getting sick twice a month sometimes flu, cold, strep throat in my 20s and my health was deteriorating. I prayed for months about the situation im a hard worker so even if I don't like a job I still give it my all mind, will etc one day I was called into my office and was fired for something I didn't do, my boss tried to fight executives about it since he knew it wasn't me. But the executives still decided to fire me. I cried I didn't know what to do. But that was truly best thing that happened to me I got a job I truly love now and sometimes prayers are answered differently than we wthink because I don't think I would have left if I wasn't fired. The devil you know is sometimes more comfortable place its scary to jump. I am glad I was fired now im happy where I work, when I leave work I leave it there no work stress I'm so much happier! 😄
A toxic work place is never a good place to be!
This happens a lot in the auto industry. I’m lucky to work for a dealer that isn’t that bad, but it still happens. Some owners and upper mgmt are delusional.
Good luck to her - hang in there!
Budgeted medical field too unfortunately. Totally high school and toxic!
This is a topic that I've been in a lot in my jobs I've had since 15 years old. I've had great managers and bad ones. I've only quit and walked out of one job. Everyone else I've done my due courtesy of 2 weeks notice. But that one job, the manager kept yelling at everyone for no reason. I asked why he was yelling, and he got even more mad. I suggested maybe if he wanted better workers that he doesn't treat them like dirt, dirt doesn't do anything, people will work. Treat us like people and we can help you. If you tell us why you're so angry, maybe we can all help, so that we can tolerate coming to a hot warehouse and pulling orders for 8 hours a day. But he wouldn't budge. He called me a list of names, and other stuff. I called one of the other managers of the company and told him what I said, and that I'm leaving that day. I sent an email to HR. And said bye to everyone else. That company is now under and have declared bankruptcy. Even more sad is the manager that was amazing and had great growth died in a motorcycle accident a week ago.
On the other hand my bosses now own a soccer shop in which I worked my way up to being a manager. They started with nothing and did it themselves. 4 years it took to become an associate to a manager. And along the way, they kept teaching me how to be better and helping me with my faults. And as time went on I got more and more responsibility. All of this in California, the hardest place to have a small business. Yet they have 4 locations. They exhibit what I want to be as a manager able to teach others under me, be the example, hold accountability for everyone, and push ourselves to do more to earn more. But everyone has faults, just depends on if you want to live with them or not. And that I think is something you have to go to God about. Pray about direction and if you are doing what He wants, because He knows all, He can direct you the best way.
Darling --- get out, RUN from that environment. 😦😨😩😲 Bunch of kooks.
She needs to ask herself this every single day before heading there “is it worth it?” Or LEAVE
Thanks for the caller and to both of you guys for addressing this. My girlfriend is going through the same thing at her place of work/study and I didnt know how to help.
No toxic employer or work environment is worth losing your self-worth. Believe that.
Clearly John has never been in this kind of pressure cooker situation where you throw up every morning before you go to work. His little sentence "You get to decide who hurts your feelings" is worthless.
Jo Ann right it’s easy for those to say that who have never been in similar situations. I always say no job is worth putting your health at risk!
But she does get to decide. No once is forcing her to work there. The strength just isn't there to pull the trigger yet.
Had the same situation working as a nurse at a long term care facility and my experience with coworkers and management was horrendous! When I first started I had hope, then once the best manager left, it was all downhill. I realized how much that toxic and negative environment made me feel so terrible everyday once I finally left and I started to feel happier and myself again! NEVER STAY IN A TOXIC WORKPLACE
My apartment is a toxic work place.
Since the majority of workplaces are toxic , do your job and run and don't mix your private life with work .
People gossip a lot.
Unfortunately many workplaces are toxic in one way or another. I think many entrepreneurs are motivated to work for themselves for this very reason.
I've been in a super toxic work environment (crazy boss would look through my things, blame me for everything and things prior to me being employed, try to throw me under the bus). After 9 days, I quit and sent HR a four page letter of all the crazy things she did (with supporting documents). The money isn't worth it. Find something else ASAP.
What exactly do you mean by not letting them hurt you? How do you do that? When it hurts it hurts.
I also work in a toxic abusive work environment in NC.
The anxiety is not due to her allowing people's energy or whatever, it's due to something triggering it. LEAVE!
Esther Muzo exactly!!
I sincerely hope she will be able to find a new job with a better atmosphere. Don't give your loyalty to a company that's not loyal to you.
I am in the same situation as well. I've been in this company for less than a year and I already witness 6 employees quit due to horrible leadership and management.
I never understood why would co-workers, management etc make people misarable at work, for what? we spent more time with our co-workers then our own families Management is to blame in this case the owners, girl move on you don't need that 😉
Power trips, boost their own egos, etc.
@@classicrocklover5615 that's messed up
This side guy John is full of bologna. He focused on the anxiety piece as if it's this poor woman's fault. This is entirely the fault of her managers. I hope she finds a different job really soon.
Karen Bangle I think he’s trying to tell her she can’t control them but she can control herself by not allowing others into “her box” and to leave that job.
No because she sounds like a weak pushover she need to control who will affect her emotions and who’s not. She can find another job and it probably be the same story. She needs to change first then leave find another job.
Not everyone is a narcissist who can block all her emotions. Baloney.
She said she's had the same issue at other jobs. Clearly a personal issue of hers.
Agree and she's the not even the one being yelled at , what more if she's the one.
I completely understand what she is going through. People don't know how to communicate properly.
As long as you're perfect, say yes to everything, work extra for free, never call in sick, never take vacations, and put the job 1st in your life. You won't have a toxic work environment.
A toxic work environment has such a negative effect on mental and physical health. That why I started my business helping others with self care and career strategy. No one deserves to be abused!
I’ve been where she is and I feel her pain.... I work for a hospital and had a supervisor that was a person that yelled at us....I learned that her behavior was everywhere in her files in Human Resources where she terribly mistreated people... sad to say she’s still employed there... it’s best to leave before you’re driven to the point of no return and possibly even think about self harming... anxiety can be dangerous...
I left a job I loved after 19 years because during "downsizing" or "rightsizing". I felt the new management was not being honest with us......
Now I love a new job with a great company and I make more money. Pray and move
9 of 10 jobs I had were toxic. It's the norm. You show up and collect the paycheck and then leave.
I remember when I worked in a toxic work environment. I went from never having issues with my blood pressure, to having constantly elevated blood pressure. I went from rarely having heart palpitations (I do have a mitreal valve prolapse so I do get them) to having full blown panic attacks almost daily before work. And I went from being driven, solving problems and motivated to absolutely underperforming my own expectations. When I left, the blood pressure and anxiety resolved themselves, though it took about a year to fully recover from the anger I had at those people from the trauma.
Although it’s hard to hear, you really do have to shift your understandings of who people are. Powerless people try to exert power over people. And hurt people hurt other people. That’s all there is to it. Now when I come across people like that, I don’t engage and I learned the skills to identity those people early and insulate myself from that behavior and those people. And you absolutely need to leave an environment like that FOR YOUR HEALTH.
Sweet girl, I’m so so sorry. You’re strong.
My old pizzeria boss used to reward hard work with more work.
Sounds like the kind of guy that needs his tires flattened every month for a solid year. "OHHHH, my tyers they flat again lika da pizza"
Yup. They realize you can do x amount of work, thus they add more work; it’s messed up and stupid. It’s stupid because it breaks morale
Lol 😂 I know what you mean!
I had a coworker yell at me...I told him I was going to report him...He NEVER did it again and has been super nice to me ever since
I feel so bad for her. I wish you well, Megan.
I had a toxic boss that micromanaged so bad that you couldn't stop to tie your shoe without him asking what you were doing. (This actually happened!) After weeks of dealing with him and my patience started to run out, I knew it was better to leave ASAP rather than blow up one day and cuss him out.
I’ve been there, and the advice that they are giving is right on the money! If you can emotionally distance yourself, you’ll be so much better off
Can hear it in her voice. I know how she feels. I'm in this situation also, been looking and applying for a few years now. With what's going on its making it even more difficult and less hopeful.
Find friends to help and encourage if you don't have any then pray read the Good Book and ask God what he wants you to do.
I've had that during the first month at a new job. I had a co-worker who would never stay out of my business. He kept lecturing towards me like "you get money but you don't do anything, I've seen lots of things come and go during my 40 years of working, everything used to be better, everything is getting worst" and he also was verbally abusive. "Oh you're wearing glasses but you can't still see?" "Oh I know you're not going to pass that exam". He kept repeating it all. I asked him to stop three times but he wouldn't. So I threw all the tools to the ground and left. Never came back. I'm a very optimistic person. I never allowed him to hurt my feelings.
I work in the military and am Active Duty and honestly my job sucks. Its rough and the only reason im still in is because of my Son. The benefits are good but i do feel myself taking my frustrations from work, to home, and through my weekends at times more than necessary. I have one more year left until my 10 year mark and im leaning torwards getting out and saying forget this!!!!
I was in a super-toxic workplace. I made the mistake of trying to endure it. Not a great idea. Became miserable, did not sleep well and snapped at my family one time too many. Thankfully, they cut me loose with a sizable severance and the relief of being out of that environment outweighed any stress of not having a job. Mine was a weird situation, though. I was plotting to leave (slowly), and should have done so much sooner. The severance was not worth the years of stress.
I had the exact same experience 2 years ago.
Same
Warehouses are 99 percent toxic environments. Glad I left that industry and learned a trade.
This was great to hear. I've worked in a similar atmosphere for ten years at a flower shop where the owner micromanages to the point of interrupting when I take phone orders, speaks to us like we're peasants when we ask questions, comments negatively on things that hold no real importance, yells, etc. I've tried to talk to her partner/ husband because he's the closest thing to HR, and he feeds me lines of "Let it go. That's just how she is", enabling her actions.I make $10.00 (state min. wage)an hour and drive 6 hours a week/ 50 miles a day, and decided yesterday to apply at Dollar General minutes from my home. Even if a few less hours, the 24 hours per month driving are saved, as well as mileage, wear and tear, and fuel. Today I realized I'm losing money by working at the flower shop.
I felt like John and Dave were giving conflicting advice. John was all about telling her not to let people get to her and you can't always control that. You can't just choose to not let the abusive coworker that management won't deal with get to you. Not without leaving. Dave's advice about getting out and going somewhere else was much better.
I feel like it was related to a timeline. John helped with info on how to survive in the meantime, while Dave was helping to look to the future job opportunities. Until she gets a new job, she has to cope with today.
Oh no her voice breaks my heart, I been there before 🥺😢 always ask for help and it's not worth keeping a toxic job!
I was in the same situation and just had to ask if I wanted to live my life like that. Quit and found a new position with more perks. Know your worth and do what’s best for you.
Been there. Left that.
Your own happiness is something you need to consider just like you do your finances.😚 If you're willing to move you can find other positions in the media industry📰 or freelancing could be an option. 👍
Writing for podcasts or PR could be an option! There are a ton of other writing jobs out there that are in the digital space as well. The caller is just going to have to adapt to digital.
@@brightlyart Yes, great idea!
Just leave fam
She needs to go watch that video where Dave tells you to LEAVE! It meant a lot to me and it made me much happier for taking his advice. "We accept the love we think we deserve." It will always say more about you that you stay than about them in ANY situation or relationship.
the book series "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" comes to mind. Epecially "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff at Work". I've found it very helpful.
Don't agree with the generic advice. First thing they should have asked is what's the earliest she can leave and plan help her leave that hellhole.
So ignore her anxiety and how heavy this affects her vs working on not letting others opinions or actions affect your mood or emotions? She's clearly meek. Doesn't mean she shouldn't leave. But any job could get bought out tomorrow.
She needs to leave
Thank you Dave for the good info for this caller. It is really too bad people feel tied to their jobs, even if they are terrible. Back in the day, people didn't want to leave their jobs, since we have healthcare tied to it. I know my mom stayed at her job, because of the medical benefits for us.
This helped me so much because I am in a toxic work environment too. I’m a grown woman - 55 years old - and I am constantly bullied by a woman younger than me. Four years this has been going on, and my anxiety is through the roof!
Agree 90% of workplaces are toxic but at least DR didn’t gaslight her and insist that she stays and it’s her issue. Good man telling her to leave. It’s not just “it’s your feelings”, toxic people can try very hard to undermine and destabilise your position in the workplace, especially if they have exposed their weaknesses to you and then abuse you and blame you as a cover up.
This happened to me in my previous job. It took me 2 1/2 years but I did end up getting a new job that both paid more and was a wonderful work environment. It takes work but it will get better
Oh, Megan - I wanna give you a hug so much!
Well done you for putting up with all that work stress.
You're far stronger than you think.
I think you've got an incredible career ahead of you, because you're very perceptive.
You'll identify an opportunity in no time :)
Lots of love and respect from Louise, UK.
"there's a lot of yelling"
*stares in military *
This crisis is bringing out the worst in some people and the best in others.
My heart goes out to her. I understand where she is coming from. I know exactly how she feels. Soooo stressful!
I like the idea of not giving permission for others to hurt us. Make a list and say no! to the others. I'll be using this today!
Another good quote - Its none of my business what others think of me. Works great in the work environment.
She should look into working from home away from others if she is worried about stressful situations. There will always be some sort of stress in life as well as in the world.
Human work is not a social event. It's a detached business exchange where we sell our labor and expertise for money. We don't need to like or even truly know our customers (bosses) who buy our labor or talents. But once that line is crossed and other, unrelated considerations are brought into this business relationship, then it becomes as potentially messy as any personal relationship. That's when all bets are off. We have forgotten how to remain professional at work these days
OMG no one should be yelling at anyone! Tf! Get out.