As an autistic young woman diagnosed at 17, I'd like to add some things, with all the love! (I love you talking about this so respectfully. That's incredible, and needed.) 1. Language is incredibly important. "Autistic kids who can't show affection"-> in a way that you notice and are used to receive affection. "He is so affectionate" -> he is so physically affectionate. Some show affection by making drawings, others by sharing about interests. Saying an autistic person isn't able to show affection can cause you to stop seeing the ways they do look for connection, since your mind is made up. Even neurotypical people have different love languages. "It is earth shattering for parents" I completely understand the sentiment! But if Chase watches this when he is older, will he see his autism as a burden for you? You chose to have a child, and with that comes possible disabilities or neurodivergencies. (Absolutely not meant to shame you, but just to spread some awareness) "He is going to be great" ... "This was a relief for me" Neurotypical people mess up and have non great lives too. Again, if Chase watches this later, will he feel like he has to be great to help you regulate your emotions? (Again, I completely understand the sentiment, and also, us humans can't always talk in a politically correct way, and that I understand too! This is just to bring some awareness from the perspective of an autistic person, not to shame you for it at all.) 2. The levels of autism are relatively new, and so they can be misinterpreted. They are meant to represent the amount of support someone needs. 3. The spectrum wasn't meant to be seen as a scale, going from 0 to 100. It is a colour wheel scale! There's a million different versions of autism, and they all look different. I love that you mentioned this. There is being on the spectrum, and then next to that there are the support levels. 4. When things get too much for me, I stim. It's a way to express extreme emotion, and everyone does it. Sometimes though, stims can be harmful, like how you talked about the hitting. Redirecting is the best way to go about it, and always remember that the harmful stimming is probably harder for him than it is for you. He is feeling so much that he can't find another way to express it. That is extremely frustrating! ... For him! Not being able to find words and express emotional pain is a horrible feeling. Be there when it happens, love him through it, and try to see if you can redirect it. It will be okay. He will be able to feel your love! Even if he in the moment can't express that he does. 5. "Autism is higher in boys too" It probably isn't! It is underdiagnosed in women because they present it differently. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 17 even though I have shown symptoms all my life! Just because I was a girl, and my extreme interests were seen as cute and girly. 6. "That is terrifying" I am happy, I am living life. The terrifying thing is not having accomodations. 7. My parents weren't vegan when I was conceived, and had fewer vaccinations than average. There is one (1) study that ties autism to chemicals, and the person who published it had their licence revoked because of the unfounded reasonings they used. (I'm not trying to push your experience away, I'm simply sharing the facts❤) 8. "How maybe we screwed up" you didn't. It's okay. You are good parents, and good people. But again, try to imagine what this could feel like for Chase to hear when he is older. 9. "We love them no matter what road they go, as long as they're happy" so much love for that. That is exactly how it should be, and that is what is most important. 10. "I wouldn't change him" how beautiful to hear! Tell him this! It is so important for him to hear this, verbally, literally. It is so important. 11. A lot of autistic people prefer identity first language. "They are autistic" "I am autistic". It is a part of who we are, and influences every part of us. It is not something that is just one part of us, and yes, it has bad sides, but it has beautiful sides too, just like everything in life. 12. I adore that you're using your own stories and anecdotes about yourself. Hereby a friendly reminder that a child can't give informed consent about what gets shared about them in public❤ 13. ABA therapy is indeed very controversial, because it sometimes uses punishment for showing autistic behaviours, such as taking away toys, or spraying with water. It also sometimes promotes electroshock therapy to "redirect" autistic behaviours, sometimes even such as happy stimming. You may indeed see results, but if things such as expressing happiness get punished, it can cause insecurity. Conformity to rules us good, as long as the rules make sense. (Again, saying this with all the love! My main point here is that you should always be aware of what is happening in therapy with your child. It depends on the therapists, and circumstances. ABA might be great for Chase!) 14. It might be interesting to look into gentle parenting more. The term Gentle makes it seem like it is all sweet and sunshine, but gentle does not mean permissive! Nick, your approach actually sounds a lot like gentle parenting. Firm boundaries, with love. For autistic people it can be very useful to have rules explained though. Sometimes rules that seem to make sense to you, need a bit more explaining to make sense to autistic people. Thank you so much for talking about this topic with so much love, and highlighting acceptance. I hope the points I make won't come across as mean, or condescending, because that's not what I mean at all. This is a difficult journey for you, and you are doing a great job. Love, Ellie (I'm not a native English speaker, please excuse any language mistakes😊)
Another fun fact about the increase of autism nowadays is that it quite probably hasn't actually increased. There are more diagnoses because of increased awareness. Think for example of the medieval stories of Fae children. Stories of how a faerie could swap out a human child for a faerie child, and how this would become apparent in the deviating behaviour of this child as it grew up (A strange look in their eye, avoiding eye contact, extreme interest in nature, or a love for bodies of water, strange physical quirks and a different way of talking). There's quite a lot of evidence to autism being fairly common in the past too😊 Chloe Hayden on RUclips and Instagram is an autistic advocate, definitely worth checking out for some positive representation of autism
Thanks for sharing and raising awareness for autism. My little sister has been diagnosed with autism and your journey reminds me so much of my parents. As a toddler she also barely talked but within a few years with the help of professionals that completely changed, and today at 20 years old she wont shut up 😆 she is also so affectionate it’s crazy. It’s hard but your love, dedication and encouragement for Chase is the most important thing in this journey❤
My middle son wouldn't talk in full sentences until he was 5 with extra help from his school system. Now at 15 he can't stop talking and speed talks. A lot of times I have to tell him to take a breath and slow down when telling me something.
My middle son (now 15) was first diagnosed at 3 while in Pre-K by the school system. Our Dr kept ignoring the things I was seeing (couldn't handle change of routine, wouldn't smile, wasn't ticklish, wouldn't laugh, no eye contact, only eating soft foods, only touching soft things and more) and just said over and over again that he was 'just learning'. The school system, neurologist and school aids were awesome. He was Level 2 Autistic at 3 and is now high functioning Autistic at 15, extreme photographic memory, his hidden strength is frightening and the most articulate of my 3 boys. I still see it here and there in the house but when out if nothing is said about him being Autistic you wouldn't even notice.
It's funny to think this guy was my sensei in Canada when I used to do Martial arts with my Mom, cool to see how successful he's become holy shit. Miss ya Sensei Nick
My youngest was diagnosed when he was 4. He's now turning 22 in July. He's in college studying computer science. He's so funny and smart. His dream is to study abroad in Japan. I wouldn't change anything about him. Hang in there it's not as bleak as you think.
I am stunned by this effort. It's so considerate of you guys to bring this thing up and talk about it, thought it is the worst you have went through just for the people who might be struggling. It's so nice to have people like both of you who have a podcast WHICH IS ACTUALLY INFORMATIVE AND USEFUL FOR THE FOLKS. lots of love from India💙
I did early intervention for my daughter at 22 months, she was non verbal and never responded to her name but sooo happy, she is now 12 still has her quirks and stims, behind developmentally but talks non stop Thank God, She is in a special contained class and gets all therapies still. I just want her to be happy and maybe someday have friend relationships. We have learned more from her being on the spectrum than my other children. Look into the foot bath that helps and the metronome from our speech therapist has been sooooo helpful.
My brother (now deceased) disciplined my nephew in the same manner. He's now 31 years old and often complimented on his manners despite his Austim. He's super skilled in some things and in others like speech, not so much. He definitely knows the difference between right and wrong.and will push the limits if you let him. The way he was raised has given him great favor with man. That was evident after his dad died in 2021 and his mother almost died from COVID-19 in early 2022. The community around him were amazing. We lived in a different city and people gathered to do whatever was needed until we could get to where they were. Everyone wanted to help him. When and wherever possible, children need discipline in love. This is very good and informative. Your son Chase will be fine. God bless both of you and may you look to Him for your Strength because you will have days...some great, some good, some that will make you cry. Pray, keep the faith and hang in there. You love your children very much. Thank you again for sharing 🙏🏽🕊️👆🏽
Thank you for sharing & raising awareness about Autism. I didn’t know Chase has it, he always look so fine little handsome boy to me and I adore him. he’s definitely an awesome kid and with a parents like you two, he’ll be totally fine. Love this episode and excited to hear and watch more ❤️
Does him looking like a "fine little handsome boy" automatically mean you didn't expect him to be autistic? Does autism have a physical appearance? As an autistic young woman who "doesn't look autistic" I can safely say that autism has nothing to do with whether a young boy is handsome or not.
Great episode you guys! Get a second and third opinion. My pediatrician did the same with my daughter. She was a B.I.T.C.H. also. For five years I was running around from doctor to doctor,speech therapists and all that stuff. Turned out she was never autistic. She was just a very hyper child. She's 15 years old now and amazing. I went through it guys,I feel you.
My son (now 21) was diagnosed with autism (and severe learning difficulties) at 3 years old. At first, you feel like you've been hit by a bat and you feel depressed after that. Then you realise that all YOUR dreams won't come true. Then you realise these are YOUR selfish expectations. Once you get past that difficult phase, you then start creating a special bond that is not of this world. A friend one asked me, "How would you feel if your son was regular?" I replied "He wouldn't be my son then".
This was a great episode! Real parents talking about real topics, real fears and real struggles. I love their back and forth dialogue. Can’t wait for the next episode!
We share a very similar experience, I have 2 children, one 4 years old and the other one. a week before my second baby was born I was diagnosed that my son had autism. It was an answer that I felt in my heart, but that I kept the hopes of not hearing it. Today I feel calmer. Everything is now more bearable and the birth of my second baby changed the development of my son with autism. I am amazed at how smart she is, and all that ABA has done IN HIM. I wish you many blessings
Definitely don’t ever blame yourself for what you did or didn’t do during pregnancy/conception!! That is too much burden to carry. You did nothing wrong ESP as first time parents. Stay strong. I get it’s a common thing to do BUT don’t carry that parent guilt. It’s not worth hurting the soul.
I admire you both for sharing your personal life about someone so dear to your heart🫶Im a great believer in listening to people that have walked the walk!
As a parent of a childhood is artistic I just want to thank you both for talking about your experience and feelings of going through the process of everything...I've been in your shoes, unfortunately I've done it as a single parent, regardless...your children are super lucky to have the parents they do, I wish much happiness to your family!
As a special education teacher for young students with autism, thank you so much for sharing and raising awareness. It’s a scary journey, absolutely, but your son is so lucky to have you! I can tell that he is such a loved little boy and that you both will be amazing advocates for him now and in the future, something that as a teacher is amazing to see.
Thank you for sharing your journey and raising awareness. Our daughter and two of our nephews are on the spectrum of autism. Both my husband and I process things differently. It took me a few months to get passed the denial phase, but the grieving phase took the longest. It made me sad to think my beautiful little girl has autism and her life and my life has changed. But then I accepted it because she is my daughter and I love her no matter what. She was diagnosed last year before she turned 3. She is nonverbal. We have ABA therapy, speech therapy, I.E.P too. It does help guide her and us on this path of new discovery. She still shows regression in memory, she mostly uses ASL or PECS or hand leads us to communicate what she wants. She has good days and bad days. She is a very affectionate girl and I love that she gives us hugs and kisses. I still have high hopes she will turn to me and her dad and tell us 'I love you'. Hang in there.
this is my first time listening to a podcast and yours make me even more aware of what to look out for. our 6 year old son has been diagnosed with autism since August 2022. there was a suspected after his checkups because he was born premature and dystemature at 32 weeks. since he went to kindergarten his behavior kept coming up and at the age of 5 he was tested for autism. he does show affection. but sometimes you think what's going on inside you. now we are also working on guidance at school and at home. i really recommend it. if you suspect something is wrong here have it looked at. if there are errors in the text. this is not my original language (belgium)
This is exactly when I realized my son has red flags! 18 months. I was never in denial. It os so common. They call it a disorder but actually is a different way for them to see this world. Pandemic happened and I worked so hard to kick start early intervention. I had low income but got support from county.
thank you for this. when i had my son as my first child (he’s now 10) i was like you both- denying that he has ASD. i was looking up everything about it and kept saying no he’s too young. but the more i read about it and saw those things in my son, i did early intervention and it really helped. my son also has very good memory, he can see one thing and remember every detail of it. kids with ASD are smart and very artistic. it’s a different lifestyle but it’s the best❤
I’m still educating myself on Autism and how to be more aware about others and their needs so I can be more helpful in a way. I can definitely agree with Maria about taking your time to process everything before telling those close to you. The more I hear people talk about being on the spectrum and their own childhood experiences, makes me think back to mine and makes me wonder I might be on the spectrum as well 🙏 Love and appreciate you both for sharing this with us 💕
Thank you, Maria and Nick, for that. I'm a grandmother of a granddaughter with stage two autism. We were just like you. That is an arduous struggle to deal with. You need to think also about learning disabilities along with the autism
I’m an Aspie, and I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 17 (along with ADHD, which is a common ‘side’ diagnosis for people with Aspergers); My mom knew there was something sliiiightly ‘different’ about me, by my behavior in certain aspects - slight OCD with some, lack of wanting to be hugged, but because my speech was too advanced at such a young age, there was no way of even thinking that I had it. Only this year, actually, (now at 34) I found out that my Aspergers is actually a ‘side effect’ of my epilepsy (which I was diagnosed with at 12 - Mom had high blood pressure when she was in labor with me) - Epilepsy is sensitivity to the brain (internally; The electrodes in the brain completely disconnecting from each other due to a ‘trigger’, which is what causes seizures), and Aspergers (a high functioning spectrum of autism) is sensitivity to a combination of all five senses. I hope things get better for Chase as he gets older 💜 And in regards to Hollywood actors who are on the spectrum, both Anthony Hopkins and Dan Aykroyd (from Ghostbusters) have Aspergers ☺️
Lovely first episode you guys. Your presentation of information, sharing your experience, some fun side stories, all delivered well and it flew by watching the episode. Thank you for sharing this very personal experience in hopes to help anyone else who is/may be struggling with the same thing. ❤ On a technical note too I think the sound quality was great & I love your little background. 👏🏼🫶🏼
Wow.. I love this episode.. this is really a brave move for both of you guys.. sharing the most sensitive part of your lives... Accepting our kids and loving them individually is really important. I adore you both.. God will always guide us and He will not give us what we can't handle.. I really love you both and so with your 2 boys..
Remember the kids are also the drama queen so you must differentiate between drama and real autistic behavior. It goes side by side. Nick so good that you made sure he learns discipline at the same time. Do not get scared of their crying and yelling when it is about teaching the right stuff.
My son got diagnosed at 2 1/2 and I suspected autism but my husband was in denial at first as well. Neurologist diagnosed him with mchat questions I believe. It was very tough to hear but we took the diagnosis and kept investigating. Picky eater, hyper focused, few sensory issues, speech delay (he is talking so much now at 4) We do struggle in public sometimes due to him wanting to stay longer for example the park. He is in school now. Doing much better and he prays by himself at night with us. My oldest son had a few characteristics since he was smaller that now I question that maybe he is on the spectrum as well but mild. I am getting him tested but I feel so guilty not doing it sooner with him. As I reflect on my childhood as well, I think I might be on the spectrum as well.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been following you guys and seeing chase grow and chase is an amazing child. This is my personal view: I do notice that both of you have a tendency to blame yourselves for chase’s condition. Rather than focusing on those thoughts which are mere speculations, focus on how u were able to help chase and how you guys have been excellent parents to chase! Not everyone have the ability to help their child and that fact u were able to is amazing! 😊
Podcast was so great and informative!! Many of Nick's childhood and adult traits has me thinking I may have autism...same age as him so yea, back then was not a thing..
I have been a caregiver for 40 plus years and currently have a child in my care that so am sure is on the spectrum. My problem is that I cannot get the parents to seek help and I am feeling really bad because I don’t have the training to give him what he needs. He is 31/2 and is definitely struggling with a lot of things now. I have been trying to get them to seek help since he turned two and his delays and unusual behaviors were becoming very obvious to me. I am at the place that for the child’s sake I believe I am going to have to simply give them notice that it is beyond me to help him. I can change his diapers, try to get him to eat and take care of him but my educational training is in preschool teaching, but no training in how to reach a child with pretty serious delays?
Thank you for sharing so much for sharing your lives & journeys with us. I look forward to the next episode. Sidenote - jealous you went back to Canada. As an American, I will say it looks better & better each day!
You both are a tough and amazing parents for chase, and chase needed that, he is a wonderful boy, from the videos and Instagram story you shared i see how wonderful kid and parents you are to chase and theo. I wish you all the best and we are happy that you shared this tough topic to us. We love you both specially chase and theo! We and i will always here to support you. All the love from me to Batemans family from Philippines 🤍 Can't wait for the next podcast upload! Love you bateman fam! ❤
My daughter mainly ate soft food... cream rice, Semolina, yoghurt, oats.... no potatoes but mash, boiled egg without the yolk and all this kind of stuff. I was worried sick about growing up with such limited food. She is not only a healthy and super bright 26 year old young woman but also a "foodie" now 😄. She never wanted more than one best friend and got upset when those wanted more kids around. Hitting her head in frustration I know as well and unexpected change of plan was a nightmare. She was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 6 but I wonder if those were not signs of mild autism as well
Autism, along with other types of neurodiversity, tends to be hereditary so there may be someone else in the family with it, or maybe some other type of neurodivergence. I don’t mean it as an attack, practically my whole family is neurodivergent 😊
Thankyou so soo much for sharing this kind of experience especially when you are a celebrity and It is really appreciated to having this courage to share the feelings in front of millions of people. And in this way, what could a woman do to prevent a child when she is expecting a baby or when she is pregnant?
Thank you for this video. I have friends both who have a child on the spectrum level 2 and level 3. My husband is level 1. There needs to be more information out there.
The crib for my middle son (he's Autistic)was like jail to him. Even after the crib was gone and he had a toddler bed, if he was in timeout and I put him in his bed, he would stay there and kick the walls (kicked the plaster off) but wouldn't leave his bed until he was allowed to.
This was very emotional to listen to. Even as someone who never had experience with autism, its amazing to hear, how you guys dealt with this and made the best out of the situation. Plus the obvious love you have for each other is beautiful to watch. Thank you guys for sharing your story! I'm excited for new content
I don't know why autism would be "earthshattering". I guess I don't understand what there is that is hard to "accept". Like, all a diagnosis is is basically a description of behaviors. Okay, as I was typing this, they clarify that they were worried about him being, like, non-autonomous and stuff. This is understandable... but only to a point. Personally, I've always withheld judgment until I learned more about a subject; I've never understand the aversion to just think/say "I don't know enough to come to a conclusion". P.S. I speak from experience; I'm autistic
God sends us his special angels to help us learn many lessons. Every case is different. Eat as healthy as you can. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
You too are amazing and have a great family. So often so many children are diagnosed with Autism, which is a shame because some issues can also be related to other things. My son was not able to talk until 3 years and a half but after that he recuperated. He never was diagnosed with Autism. Did you asked for a second opinion though? It is quite early by 18 months to diagnose him with Autism. I mean in the UK to have an actual diagnosis is way later not even so early on. I would definitely asked for other opinions . He seems to be normal from all your videos that you post. X
But what you’re missing is that it’s the best that he was most affected because he will then get the level of therapy needed than less than he needs. I have a grandson who is autistic with CF, non verbal, not eating by mouth.
I love your Podcast. Thanks for sharing a part of your life. It was informative, funny, honest and authentic. Your family is beautiful and your kids are adorable. Looking forward to watching more of The Batemans! Love and light.
nick reminds me of my uncle, even down to martial arts and personality. he's on the spectrum as well, but it's been hard to diagnose him as just one thing. i especially recognize the visualizations thing, everything needs to be planned ahead. it's just like you guys said about it being a superpower though, my uncle is the smartest man i’ve ever met and has an insane memory - the most intellectual conversations i’ve ever had have been with him. anyway thank you for sharing, it’s been incredibly insightful. chase is an amazing boy and he's gonna do great things i'm sure of it 💗
Felicidades por su podcast, toda su experiencia sirve para que conozcamos mejor del tema y como se puede tratar como padres, no es fácil pero si te esfuerzas se puede lograr mucho, adoro su familia! Me encantaría que pusieran los subtítulos en español para poder comprender más ya que mi inglés no es muy bueno 😅
Guys ur going above and beyond as parents as friends and brother in sister the way u get along has helped. But I've studied so much because my cousins baby was down syndrome. Well sorry but including autism is a gene we women carry yes genetic but it's a woman who's the carrier. They check while pregnant on all
As an autistic young woman diagnosed at 17, I'd like to add some things, with all the love! (I love you talking about this so respectfully. That's incredible, and needed.)
1. Language is incredibly important.
"Autistic kids who can't show affection"-> in a way that you notice and are used to receive affection.
"He is so affectionate" -> he is so physically affectionate.
Some show affection by making drawings, others by sharing about interests. Saying an autistic person isn't able to show affection can cause you to stop seeing the ways they do look for connection, since your mind is made up. Even neurotypical people have different love languages.
"It is earth shattering for parents" I completely understand the sentiment! But if Chase watches this when he is older, will he see his autism as a burden for you? You chose to have a child, and with that comes possible disabilities or neurodivergencies. (Absolutely not meant to shame you, but just to spread some awareness)
"He is going to be great" ... "This was a relief for me" Neurotypical people mess up and have non great lives too. Again, if Chase watches this later, will he feel like he has to be great to help you regulate your emotions? (Again, I completely understand the sentiment, and also, us humans can't always talk in a politically correct way, and that I understand too! This is just to bring some awareness from the perspective of an autistic person, not to shame you for it at all.)
2. The levels of autism are relatively new, and so they can be misinterpreted. They are meant to represent the amount of support someone needs.
3. The spectrum wasn't meant to be seen as a scale, going from 0 to 100. It is a colour wheel scale! There's a million different versions of autism, and they all look different. I love that you mentioned this. There is being on the spectrum, and then next to that there are the support levels.
4. When things get too much for me, I stim. It's a way to express extreme emotion, and everyone does it. Sometimes though, stims can be harmful, like how you talked about the hitting. Redirecting is the best way to go about it, and always remember that the harmful stimming is probably harder for him than it is for you. He is feeling so much that he can't find another way to express it. That is extremely frustrating! ... For him! Not being able to find words and express emotional pain is a horrible feeling. Be there when it happens, love him through it, and try to see if you can redirect it. It will be okay. He will be able to feel your love! Even if he in the moment can't express that he does.
5. "Autism is higher in boys too" It probably isn't! It is underdiagnosed in women because they present it differently. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 17 even though I have shown symptoms all my life! Just because I was a girl, and my extreme interests were seen as cute and girly.
6. "That is terrifying" I am happy, I am living life. The terrifying thing is not having accomodations.
7. My parents weren't vegan when I was conceived, and had fewer vaccinations than average. There is one (1) study that ties autism to chemicals, and the person who published it had their licence revoked because of the unfounded reasonings they used. (I'm not trying to push your experience away, I'm simply sharing the facts❤)
8. "How maybe we screwed up" you didn't. It's okay. You are good parents, and good people. But again, try to imagine what this could feel like for Chase to hear when he is older.
9. "We love them no matter what road they go, as long as they're happy" so much love for that. That is exactly how it should be, and that is what is most important.
10. "I wouldn't change him" how beautiful to hear! Tell him this! It is so important for him to hear this, verbally, literally. It is so important.
11. A lot of autistic people prefer identity first language. "They are autistic" "I am autistic". It is a part of who we are, and influences every part of us. It is not something that is just one part of us, and yes, it has bad sides, but it has beautiful sides too, just like everything in life.
12. I adore that you're using your own stories and anecdotes about yourself.
Hereby a friendly reminder that a child can't give informed consent about what gets shared about them in public❤
13. ABA therapy is indeed very controversial, because it sometimes uses punishment for showing autistic behaviours, such as taking away toys, or spraying with water. It also sometimes promotes electroshock therapy to "redirect" autistic behaviours, sometimes even such as happy stimming. You may indeed see results, but if things such as expressing happiness get punished, it can cause insecurity. Conformity to rules us good, as long as the rules make sense.
(Again, saying this with all the love! My main point here is that you should always be aware of what is happening in therapy with your child. It depends on the therapists, and circumstances. ABA might be great for Chase!)
14. It might be interesting to look into gentle parenting more. The term Gentle makes it seem like it is all sweet and sunshine, but gentle does not mean permissive! Nick, your approach actually sounds a lot like gentle parenting. Firm boundaries, with love.
For autistic people it can be very useful to have rules explained though. Sometimes rules that seem to make sense to you, need a bit more explaining to make sense to autistic people.
Thank you so much for talking about this topic with so much love, and highlighting acceptance.
I hope the points I make won't come across as mean, or condescending, because that's not what I mean at all. This is a difficult journey for you, and you are doing a great job.
Love,
Ellie
(I'm not a native English speaker, please excuse any language mistakes😊)
Another fun fact about the increase of autism nowadays is that it quite probably hasn't actually increased. There are more diagnoses because of increased awareness. Think for example of the medieval stories of Fae children. Stories of how a faerie could swap out a human child for a faerie child, and how this would become apparent in the deviating behaviour of this child as it grew up (A strange look in their eye, avoiding eye contact, extreme interest in nature, or a love for bodies of water, strange physical quirks and a different way of talking). There's quite a lot of evidence to autism being fairly common in the past too😊
Chloe Hayden on RUclips and Instagram is an autistic advocate, definitely worth checking out for some positive representation of autism
Thank you for taking the time to share this ❤
Thanks for sharing and raising awareness for autism. My little sister has been diagnosed with autism and your journey reminds me so much of my parents. As a toddler she also barely talked but within a few years with the help of professionals that completely changed, and today at 20 years old she wont shut up 😆 she is also so affectionate it’s crazy. It’s hard but your love, dedication and encouragement for Chase is the most important thing in this journey❤
My middle son wouldn't talk in full sentences until he was 5 with extra help from his school system. Now at 15 he can't stop talking and speed talks. A lot of times I have to tell him to take a breath and slow down when telling me something.
Chasey is an amazing kid, all the love from Brasil 💙
My middle son (now 15) was first diagnosed at 3 while in Pre-K by the school system. Our Dr kept ignoring the things I was seeing (couldn't handle change of routine, wouldn't smile, wasn't ticklish, wouldn't laugh, no eye contact, only eating soft foods, only touching soft things and more) and just said over and over again that he was 'just learning'. The school system, neurologist and school aids were awesome. He was Level 2 Autistic at 3 and is now high functioning Autistic at 15, extreme photographic memory, his hidden strength is frightening and the most articulate of my 3 boys. I still see it here and there in the house but when out if nothing is said about him being Autistic you wouldn't even notice.
It's funny to think this guy was my sensei in Canada when I used to do Martial arts with my Mom, cool to see how successful he's become holy shit.
Miss ya Sensei Nick
My youngest was diagnosed when he was 4. He's now turning 22 in July. He's in college studying computer science. He's so funny and smart. His dream is to study abroad in Japan. I wouldn't change anything about him. Hang in there it's not as bleak as you think.
I am stunned by this effort. It's so considerate of you guys to bring this thing up and talk about it, thought it is the worst you have went through just for the people who might be struggling. It's so nice to have people like both of you who have a podcast WHICH IS ACTUALLY INFORMATIVE AND USEFUL FOR THE FOLKS. lots of love from India💙
I did early intervention for my daughter at 22 months, she was non verbal and never responded to her name but sooo happy, she is now 12 still has her quirks and stims, behind developmentally but talks non stop Thank God, She is in a special contained class and gets all therapies still. I just want her to be happy and maybe someday have friend relationships. We have learned more from her being on the spectrum than my other children. Look into the foot bath that helps and the metronome from our speech therapist has been sooooo helpful.
My brother (now deceased) disciplined my nephew in the same manner. He's now 31 years old and often complimented on his manners despite his Austim. He's super skilled in some things and in others like speech, not so much. He definitely knows the difference between right and wrong.and will push the limits if you let him. The way he was raised has given him great favor with man. That was evident after his dad died in 2021 and his mother almost died from COVID-19 in early 2022. The community around him were amazing. We lived in a different city and people gathered to do whatever was needed until we could get to where they were. Everyone wanted to help him.
When and wherever possible, children need discipline in love.
This is very good and informative. Your son Chase will be fine. God bless both of you and may you look to Him for your Strength because you will have days...some great, some good, some that will make you cry. Pray, keep the faith and hang in there. You love your children very much. Thank you again for sharing
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Thank you for sharing & raising awareness about Autism. I didn’t know Chase has it, he always look so fine little handsome boy to me and I adore him. he’s definitely an awesome kid and with a parents like you two, he’ll be totally fine. Love this episode and excited to hear and watch more ❤️
Does him looking like a "fine little handsome boy" automatically mean you didn't expect him to be autistic? Does autism have a physical appearance? As an autistic young woman who "doesn't look autistic" I can safely say that autism has nothing to do with whether a young boy is handsome or not.
Great episode you guys! Get a second and third opinion. My pediatrician did the same with my daughter. She was a B.I.T.C.H. also. For five years I was running around from doctor to doctor,speech therapists and all that stuff. Turned out she was never autistic. She was just a very hyper child. She's 15 years old now and amazing. I went through it guys,I feel you.
My son (now 21) was diagnosed with autism (and severe learning difficulties) at 3 years old. At first, you feel like you've been hit by a bat and you feel depressed after that. Then you realise that all YOUR dreams won't come true. Then you realise these are YOUR selfish expectations. Once you get past that difficult phase, you then start creating a special bond that is not of this world. A friend one asked me, "How would you feel if your son was regular?" I replied "He wouldn't be my son then".
This was a great episode! Real parents talking about real topics, real fears and real struggles. I love their back and forth dialogue. Can’t wait for the next episode!
I haven’t walked your walk, but sharing your experience with Autism is a blessing to others! You brought out that Love is the true answer❤️
We share a very similar experience, I have 2 children, one 4 years old and the other one. a week before my second baby was born I was diagnosed that my son had autism. It was an answer that I felt in my heart, but that I kept the hopes of not hearing it. Today I feel calmer. Everything is now more bearable and the birth of my second baby changed the development of my son with autism. I am amazed at how smart she is, and all that ABA has done IN HIM. I wish you many blessings
So glad your son has loving and caring parents. He is blessed. ❤
Omg, i've been follow you guys since chase born. I dont see it in chase. He is amazing kids. And u guys amazing parents too. Godbless for tou family ❤
Keep going, I think it will be an outstanding podcast, so please we need new podcasts
Chase is such a sweetheart I'm sure he's going to grow up as a good kid. You're both great parents. ❤
Chase will grow up to be happy, healthy, and completely normal. You are truly blessed. Amen 🙏🏼 congrats on 16 years woohooo
I applaud your honesty! Everyday stuff, finding the right support system, learning what works, and encouraging words. The Bateman’s hugs to from afar.
Definitely don’t ever blame yourself for what you did or didn’t do during pregnancy/conception!! That is too much burden to carry. You did nothing wrong ESP as first time parents. Stay strong. I get it’s a common thing to do BUT don’t carry that parent guilt. It’s not worth hurting the soul.
I admire you both for sharing your personal life about someone so dear to your heart🫶Im a great believer in listening to people that have walked the walk!
As a parent of a childhood is artistic I just want to thank you both for talking about your experience and feelings of going through the process of everything...I've been in your shoes, unfortunately I've done it as a single parent, regardless...your children are super lucky to have the parents they do, I wish much happiness to your family!
As a special education teacher for young students with autism, thank you so much for sharing and raising awareness. It’s a scary journey, absolutely, but your son is so lucky to have you! I can tell that he is such a loved little boy and that you both will be amazing advocates for him now and in the future, something that as a teacher is amazing to see.
Thank you for sharing your journey and raising awareness. Our daughter and two of our nephews are on the spectrum of autism. Both my husband and I process things differently. It took me a few months to get passed the denial phase, but the grieving phase took the longest. It made me sad to think my beautiful little girl has autism and her life and my life has changed. But then I accepted it because she is my daughter and I love her no matter what. She was diagnosed last year before she turned 3. She is nonverbal. We have ABA therapy, speech therapy, I.E.P too. It does help guide her and us on this path of new discovery. She still shows regression in memory, she mostly uses ASL or PECS or hand leads us to communicate what she wants. She has good days and bad days. She is a very affectionate girl and I love that she gives us hugs and kisses. I still have high hopes she will turn to me and her dad and tell us 'I love you'. Hang in there.
this is my first time listening to a podcast and yours make me even more aware of what to look out for. our 6 year old son has been diagnosed with autism since August 2022. there was a suspected after his checkups because he was born premature and dystemature at 32 weeks. since he went to kindergarten his behavior kept coming up and at the age of 5 he was tested for autism. he does show affection. but sometimes you think what's going on inside you. now we are also working on guidance at school and at home.
i really recommend it. if you suspect something is wrong here have it looked at.
if there are errors in the text. this is not my original language (belgium)
I can’t express enough how much I loved this. My nephew has autism and has struggled. Thank you for sharing your own personal experiences. ❤️🙏🏻
This is exactly when I realized my son has red flags! 18 months. I was never in denial. It os so common. They call it a disorder but actually is a different way for them to see this world. Pandemic happened and I worked so hard to kick start early intervention. I had low income but got support from county.
thank you for this. when i had my son as my first child (he’s now 10) i was like you both- denying that he has ASD. i was looking up everything about it and kept saying no he’s too young. but the more i read about it and saw those things in my son, i did early intervention and it really helped. my son also has very good memory, he can see one thing and remember every detail of it. kids with ASD are smart and very artistic. it’s a different lifestyle but it’s the best❤
I’m still educating myself on Autism and how to be more aware about others and their needs so I can be more helpful in a way. I can definitely agree with Maria about taking your time to process everything before telling those close to you. The more I hear people talk about being on the spectrum and their own childhood experiences, makes me think back to mine and makes me wonder I might be on the spectrum as well 🙏 Love and appreciate you both for sharing this with us 💕
God bless you, and the Family. thanks for sharing
Thank you for sharing such an emotional & personal side of your family. Sending love & prayers to your beautiful family. ❤🙏
Thank you for sharing your journey and raising awareness about autism.
It sounds like you are storytelling what we went through. My son is 6 now and has improved so much ❤️❤️
Thank you, Maria and Nick, for that. I'm a grandmother of a granddaughter with stage two autism. We were just like you. That is an arduous struggle to deal with. You need to think also about learning disabilities along with the autism
Im not a podcast person but 5 min in & im already hooked. Love to know more about you guys.
I’m an Aspie, and I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 17 (along with ADHD, which is a common ‘side’ diagnosis for people with Aspergers); My mom knew there was something sliiiightly ‘different’ about me, by my behavior in certain aspects - slight OCD with some, lack of wanting to be hugged, but because my speech was too advanced at such a young age, there was no way of even thinking that I had it. Only this year, actually, (now at 34) I found out that my Aspergers is actually a ‘side effect’ of my epilepsy (which I was diagnosed with at 12 - Mom had high blood pressure when she was in labor with me) - Epilepsy is sensitivity to the brain (internally; The electrodes in the brain completely disconnecting from each other due to a ‘trigger’, which is what causes seizures), and Aspergers (a high functioning spectrum of autism) is sensitivity to a combination of all five senses. I hope things get better for Chase as he gets older 💜 And in regards to Hollywood actors who are on the spectrum, both Anthony Hopkins and Dan Aykroyd (from Ghostbusters) have Aspergers ☺️
You are both brave and I love watching your beautiful family on instagram 😊
My great nephew is autistic and the most brilliant boy. He is on the extreme end but he is just a special spectacular little human!
I see where I'm definitely on the autism spectrum after just listening to this episode.
Thank you so much Nick and Maria for sharing this…..chasey is special❤ will always be lots of love to all of you. Raghav
Lovely first episode you guys. Your presentation of information, sharing your experience, some fun side stories, all delivered well and it flew by watching the episode. Thank you for sharing this very personal experience in hopes to help anyone else who is/may be struggling with the same thing. ❤ On a technical note too I think the sound quality was great & I love your little background. 👏🏼🫶🏼
so good, thank you
Waiting! 🥰.nice to see you guys here
What a scary journey you all have been on as new parents. Thank you for sharing your experience and insights for others.
Wow.. I love this episode.. this is really a brave move for both of you guys.. sharing the most sensitive part of your lives... Accepting our kids and loving them individually is really important. I adore you both.. God will always guide us and He will not give us what we can't handle.. I really love you both and so with your 2 boys..
Remember the kids are also the drama queen so you must differentiate between drama and real autistic behavior. It goes side by side. Nick so good that you made sure he learns discipline at the same time. Do not get scared of their crying and yelling when it is about teaching the right stuff.
I admire both the Batemans for sharing !🤗
My son got diagnosed at 2 1/2 and I suspected autism but my husband was in denial at first as well. Neurologist diagnosed him with mchat questions I believe. It was very tough to hear but we took the diagnosis and kept investigating. Picky eater, hyper focused, few sensory issues, speech delay (he is talking so much now at 4) We do struggle in public sometimes due to him wanting to stay longer for example the park. He is in school now. Doing much better and he prays by himself at night with us. My oldest son had a few characteristics since he was smaller that now I question that maybe he is on the spectrum as well but mild. I am getting him tested but I feel so guilty not doing it sooner with him. As I reflect on my childhood as well, I think I might be on the spectrum as well.
Thank you for sharing. Chase and Theo are amazing and you guys are amazing parents ❤
Nick you betta plan something out of this world for the 15 Ann. That’s our girl!🥰
Good Morning, Thank You for sharing this
You’re welcome 🤍
Hello from Montreal 🍁 Thanks so much for sharing this. Excited to see what’s next on the podcast.
Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been following you guys and seeing chase grow and chase is an amazing child. This is my personal view: I do notice that both of you have a tendency to blame yourselves for chase’s condition. Rather than focusing on those thoughts which are mere speculations, focus on how u were able to help chase and how you guys have been excellent parents to chase! Not everyone have the ability to help their child and that fact u were able to is amazing! 😊
Your the best, wish I had parents like you two.♥️
Podcast was so great and informative!! Many of Nick's childhood and adult traits has me thinking I may have autism...same age as him so yea, back then was not a thing..
I'm so excited!!!!!
I have been a caregiver for 40 plus years and currently have a child in my care that so am sure is on the spectrum. My problem is that I cannot get the parents to seek help and I am feeling really bad because I don’t have the training to give him what he needs. He is 31/2 and is definitely struggling with a lot of things now. I have been trying to get them to seek help since he turned two and his delays and unusual behaviors were becoming very obvious to me. I am at the place that for the child’s sake I believe I am going to have to simply give them notice that it is beyond me to help him. I can change his diapers, try to get him to eat and take care of him but my educational training is in preschool teaching, but no training in how to reach a child with pretty serious delays?
Blessings to the little guy!❤ Waiting for more podcasts
Thank you for sharing so much for sharing your lives & journeys with us. I look forward to the next episode. Sidenote - jealous you went back to Canada. As an American, I will say it looks better & better each day!
Chase is in great hands, 2 incredible loving parents thanks for sharing. 💞🤱
You both are a tough and amazing parents for chase, and chase needed that, he is a wonderful boy, from the videos and Instagram story you shared i see how wonderful kid and parents you are to chase and theo. I wish you all the best and we are happy that you shared this tough topic to us. We love you both specially chase and theo! We and i will always here to support you. All the love from me to Batemans family from Philippines 🤍 Can't wait for the next podcast upload! Love you bateman fam! ❤
Thank you for sharing what you guys are going through! We have a sweet, loving boy in our family too 🧩
Love chase, thanks for sharing and he is the cutest!
Hi nick ty nick u are a very nice person :)
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Yesss! So excited to watch every episode of this wonderful podcast! 🤍
I was wondering when you might have a 2nd installment?
My daughter mainly ate soft food... cream rice, Semolina, yoghurt, oats.... no potatoes but mash, boiled egg without the yolk and all this kind of stuff. I was worried sick about growing up with such limited food. She is not only a healthy and super bright 26 year old young woman but also a "foodie" now 😄.
She never wanted more than one best friend and got upset when those wanted more kids around.
Hitting her head in frustration I know as well and unexpected change of plan was a nightmare. She was diagnosed with ADHD when she was 6 but I wonder if those were not signs of mild autism as well
This was very helpful, I can relate to Nick about the visioning thing ! This literally happened to me today ! I will definitely look into it now !
Autism, along with other types of neurodiversity, tends to be hereditary so there may be someone else in the family with it, or maybe some other type of neurodivergence. I don’t mean it as an attack, practically my whole family is neurodivergent 😊
Thank you for sharing and raising awareness ❤
Thankyou so soo much for sharing this kind of experience especially when you are a celebrity and It is really appreciated to having this courage to share the feelings in front of millions of people. And in this way, what could a woman do to prevent a child when she is expecting a baby or when she is pregnant?
Thank you for this video. I have friends both who have a child on the spectrum level 2 and level 3. My husband is level 1. There needs to be more information out there.
The crib for my middle son (he's Autistic)was like jail to him. Even after the crib was gone and he had a toddler bed, if he was in timeout and I put him in his bed, he would stay there and kick the walls (kicked the plaster off) but wouldn't leave his bed until he was allowed to.
This was very emotional to listen to. Even as someone who never had experience with autism, its amazing to hear, how you guys dealt with this and made the best out of the situation. Plus the obvious love you have for each other is beautiful to watch. Thank you guys for sharing your story! I'm excited for new content
Thank you for sharing this!
Thank you guys for sharing!!! ❤❤❤
I don't know why autism would be "earthshattering". I guess I don't understand what there is that is hard to "accept". Like, all a diagnosis is is basically a description of behaviors.
Okay, as I was typing this, they clarify that they were worried about him being, like, non-autonomous and stuff. This is understandable... but only to a point. Personally, I've always withheld judgment until I learned more about a subject; I've never understand the aversion to just think/say "I don't know enough to come to a conclusion".
P.S. I speak from experience; I'm autistic
I really don't understand any English but seeing only you makes me happy congratulations
God sends us his special angels to help us learn many lessons. Every case is different. Eat as healthy as you can. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Much love 💙💙
You too are amazing and have a great family. So often so many children are diagnosed with Autism, which is a shame because some issues can also be related to other things.
My son was not able to talk until 3 years and a half but after that he recuperated. He never was diagnosed with Autism.
Did you asked for a second opinion though? It is quite early by 18 months to diagnose him with Autism. I mean in the UK to have an actual diagnosis is way later not even so early on. I would definitely asked for other opinions .
He seems to be normal from all your videos that you post. X
But what you’re missing is that it’s the best that he was most affected because he will then get the level of therapy needed than less than he needs. I have a grandson who is autistic with CF, non verbal, not eating by mouth.
I love your Podcast. Thanks for sharing a part of your life. It was informative, funny, honest and authentic. Your family is beautiful and your kids are adorable. Looking forward to watching more of The Batemans! Love and light.
Great kids♥️ Great parents ♥️
Thank you for sharing
We did feeding therapy you can get evaluated, we had feeding therapy through our speech therapist
nick reminds me of my uncle, even down to martial arts and personality. he's on the spectrum as well, but it's been hard to diagnose him as just one thing. i especially recognize the visualizations thing, everything needs to be planned ahead. it's just like you guys said about it being a superpower though, my uncle is the smartest man i’ve ever met and has an insane memory - the most intellectual conversations i’ve ever had have been with him. anyway thank you for sharing, it’s been incredibly insightful. chase is an amazing boy and he's gonna do great things i'm sure of it 💗
Causes could be: vaccines, chemicals sprayed on crops or other foods, diet, environmental, radiation, aspartame, pollution…
Felicidades por su podcast, toda su experiencia sirve para que conozcamos mejor del tema y como se puede tratar como padres, no es fácil pero si te esfuerzas se puede lograr mucho, adoro su familia! Me encantaría que pusieran los subtítulos en español para poder comprender más ya que mi inglés no es muy bueno 😅
My son has autism, but you would never know, I gave him zeolites, and he is pretty much cured! My sons autism came within hours of his vaccines!
Where is home for this family???
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Guys ur going above and beyond as parents as friends and brother in sister the way u get along has helped. But I've studied so much because my cousins baby was down syndrome. Well sorry but including autism is a gene we women carry yes genetic but it's a woman who's the carrier. They check while pregnant on all
Thank you for sharing this with us ❤
You’re welcome 🤗