One of the biggest problems in leaving an abusive relationship is people won’t believe you because the abuser is charismatic and charming in front of people:
This is exactly how he was for me. I finally got away, but people still tell me they don't see why i left because he is so nice and so this and that. If they only knew.....
You are absolutely correct. He should have left that relationship the very first time she hit him. Hell, the first time she degraded him for not being perfect.
They would have held her overnight in jail and then she probably would have gone back to him when she was released on bail. DV cases don't hold longer than a night, it would have been the same situation but she would have had a record and an upcoming court case.
I can’t imagine how the police involved felt when they realized Gabby went missing soon after and eventually when it came out that Brian was the one who killed her.
They were investigated by an outside expert called in by the police department.. They were reprimanded because -- as the expert said -- they should have made an arrest and charged someone with abuse. They should have arrested and charged gabby with abuse because she was the abusive one. That is what the ruling was.
Soooo many red flags. The way he was smiling the whole time trying to seem as friendly as possible, laughing and joking with the cops while Gabby was breaking down.
I did research: "Domestic violence" or "domestic violence offense" means any criminal offense involving violence or physical harm or threat of violence or physical harm, or any attempt, conspiracy, or solicitation to commit a criminal offense involving violence or physical harm, when committed by one cohabitant against another. "Domestic violence" or "domestic violence offense" includes commission or attempt to commit. -Notice it says Commission OR attempt to commit. Cops letting her go for 'lack of bad intentions' is made up. This is ironic, because I've seen a bunch of cop videos lately where they arrest people for nothing. You're recording me illegally parking? So you're loitering. You're not giving your ID? Oh uh...obstruction. Public photography? Oh uh...that's disturbing people so it's illegal. Of course, most cop victims seem to be unattractive males like this dude. But an attractive white gal? It's all good. But hey, looks/race/gender doesn't matter.
@Ace Ventura Someone having mental issues for any reason does NOT make it ok for someone to abuse them. Brian was the abuser. Brian was SEEN slapping/hitting gabby. WHAT TF DO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THAT? And since YOU are obviously an abusive asshat yourself i am sure you know ALL about how someone like Brian thinks...and how he was always in control of everything gabby said/did and without a doubt he made her FEEL like she HAD to take the blame for everything that caused them to get pulled over. An abuser always causes an "ITS ALL YOUR FAULT, LOOK WHAT YOU DID" situation/mentality to the person they are abusing.
@@vinnyrisalvato6563 Yet he strangled her to death. I guess you think that is OK? Clearly you must be an abusive person like Brian. Can you make a comment about the fact the 911 caller said Brian was the one slapping and hitting Gabby? And also, in what world is it EVER ok for someone who may have any emotional or mental disorders to be abused just cause they have those issues? Smfh. You are a sad and small man.
@@vinnyrisalvato6563 he’s unemployed driving her van around not letting her in and slapping her… yea…. I can totally see how the dead victim is the problem. 🙄🤦♀️ you must sympathize with Brian because you live at your moms unemployed and drive your girlfriends car too
it's funny how people see what they want to see instead of the truth.. the truth is Gabby was the abuser in the relationship not Brian she was the one with mental issues not Brian she literally admitted to DV on camera but it's Brian fault because he got abused and was trying to calm her down and didn't want to press charges.. Brian you should have pressed charges locked her up and you probably wouldn't be in this situation that you're in now because it's obvious that relationship was toxic because of one person and that's Gabby.. I know I know she's a 110 lb blonde petite white girl so she can't hurt nobody yeah right it's obvious she used to beat him up every chance she got..
I was in a situation like this with a guy like him. The police arrested me because he had a bite mark on his arm and I had no marks. The bruises on my neck from him strangling me showed up the next day as I sat in my jail cell and no one would listen to me. I bit his arm to get his hands off my neck because I thought I was going to die. Thankfully in court I explained everything to the judge and he took one look at his criminal record and believed me. I still have that arrest on my record which is extremely embarrassing because I’m sure people have seen it not knowing the full story, but I’m grateful I was arrested looking back because that is what got me out of that relationship with him. I was hysterical just like her when we got pulled over and my ex was calm and collected and charmed the police. Manipulation is their specialty. RIP Gaby. You are an angel and I’m so sorry you lost your life.
2 hours ago on his IG he posted a picture quoted " I will miss you" .... that sounded creepy to me , he knows exactly what he did ! + an innocent person would cooperate with the police & do what it takes to find their loved one
@@WhyDoThat I loved how the cops radioed that it was possible DUI but offered NO other possible explation for the reckless driving such as a medical issue. And then was so sweet and nice not asking for ID from the start and allowed him to stay in the van with possible weapons. I'm sure he would have treated a van full of black people with such pleasure
I feel like the lead cop had an inkling that she was in trouble . I think when he pulled her out first and pressing for information he knew there was more ..unfortunately abuse victims almost always take the blame and cover for the abuser. He is a sociopath. I wouldn't doubt if he made those marks on himself. All the marks are in places he could he place them .
The way she takes blame for "distracting him" and for "being mean." You can tell it isn't the first time she's made excuses for how he treated her. Reactive abuse is one of the most disgusting ways people manipulate their friends and partners.
@@MrTangent They can both be abusive to each other. She was physically abusive this time but it sounds like he was emotionally/mentally abusive beforehand. They both contributed to this level of escalation.
I can see how they misread this situation badly. I have to imagine the officers feel terrible. Fact is; Brian presented himself as the calm one, where Gabby seemed unglued, BUT they were called via 911 to check out a situation where a man hit a woman. So no matter how calm Brian may have appeared to them they should have realized what they were called for an check into THAT and NOT fall back on the "chicks are crazy" cliche. Gabby was sobbing for a reason. Read the room!
Gabby was crying because she didn't want to go to jail for DV. She begged them to give her a ticket for anything else just not that. She calmed down when the officer said he was not going to charge her. She slugged and hit Brian in the arm and head because the police were behind them and she wanted to stop Brian from telling her to calm down. Go watch the videos.
Imagine if they treated them like a black couple.. her white privilege got her murdered.. domestic assault and then they take her to a hotel if they would have took her to jail she still would have been alive
@@duwaine96 I was thinking the same exact thing as I watched the video bro. If they were a black couple, the man would’ve been apprehended on domestic charges.
@@onlykingdebo6775 ya these cops seem like loose cannons. I can only imagine if the couple were black. They probably would of just beaten them up from the start!
Narcissistic. I just was victimized by a person with NpD. It does not feel good at all. I'm a good dude I never ran into a person like that. I had to find out the hard way.
Well he wasn't the one being faced with charges nor had an attorney telling him to keep his mouth shut. More will come out though and I'm sure we'll see his mugshot everywhere!
Abusers aren't always the obvious people you think they are. Many are VERY good at putting up a front that they are very nice guys. This is across the spectrum for rapists, child abusers, domestic violence, etc.
The way she keeps saying she's at fault and that "he gets frustrated with me because [insert self-blame here]..." is a clear sign of gaslighting and an abusive relationship. He made her believe that she's not right the way she is. She probably doesn't have any OCD. He just made her believe that her normal sentiments are irrational. Men like that are literal trash and it's always the caring, sweet and unassuming girls that fall victim to that.
And then they put him on a hotel but leave her to drive alone and perhaps take a shower like woah that seems very great (sarcasm). So apparently, they didn't saw any psychological abuse going on between them two huh? I have a very rational question: if a cop doesn't feel he has the tools to outline domestic abuse, can he make a call to a psychologist or social worker in the station to do a checkup before leaving them to "reunite"? or they(cops) just go along with whatever they think it is? Because it that case it's basically like taking a car to different shops and different mechanics saying it has this or that... I mean, how would the cop safe a life here?
I think she DID leave him. Broke off their engagement. It is now looking as though she hadn't even enough "adventure" in her spirit to DRIVE HER OWN VAN. He couldnt financially support this. I'm thinking he was really the "driver"/ex boyfriend and she was not really financially capable of supporting her own venture. It takes more than buying a van and pretty clothes. I feel sorry that she so lacked self-awareness that she thought she could manage her anxiety in such an unpredictable situation.
As a first responder, I have to wonder how affected these officers are. Knowing they could have done things differently. I personally would be devastated if I were them. It’s sad women are still viewed as overly dramatic and emotional. My personal experience is that abusive men cannot feel therefor they never crack under pressure like Gabby did, crying and everything. RIP Gabby
In my opinion those police officers acted very reasonable. I realise he was nothing but a murdering bastard. But It is all very good to look back at something in hindsight. If the police officers had gone the other way and come down hard and charge them both, we may very well be claiming police abuse of power. Basically who would want to be a policeman not me.
Gabby was emotional and crying because she thought she was going to be arrested and taken to jail. She calmed down the second the cop said that would not happen.
SR is a mind reader and understands why Gabby was crying. And Aly yes, Brian had them fooled and once he realized it the cards were in his hands. We still live in a society where if a woman cries we think she’s crazy. We don’t know the story. It’s too bad she always herself.
@@christyl5481 Gabby was crying and begging the cops to not charge her with DV. She stopped when the cop said he was not going to take her to jail. Before that she was slugging Brian and hitting him in the head with her phone while he was driving in because the cops were behind them and she admitted to hitting him to try to get him to stop telling her to calm down. These were Brians Injuries according to the Moab Report. Gabby left scratches and bruises on Brian. The bruising and bleeding was from her hitting him with her phone From Investigative Review of Aug. 12, 2021 Petito-Laundrie Incident in Moab Park Ranger Ryan Kral, points out scratches on the left side of Brian’s neck, left side of his nose, scratch near the center of his face, and bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head. Officer Robbins finds an additional injury on Brian’s right bicep/tricep area. Brian said he was not in any pain, and that he "wasn’t complaining.”
This should be a lesson to all people that watch social media. Not all is as it seems! In all her posts she’s so happy, life is good, but it’s not true on the inside.
My 2nd ex seems to be the perfect man in public ..behind close doors he was a manipulative monster, took me 11 days after our marriage to understand his ultimate motive was to see me under the wheels of his car. Thank God! and attentive friends who rescued me from that malignant narcissist and his toxicity. The "Chris Watts" behaviour is shouting ...
This is why I lost the case in court, Ex blamed all on me, no one believed me and said I was lying. One time I called the cops and I was the one that was handcuffed for no reason and thrown in a hospital.. while the cop blows me a kiss goodbye, ex painted such a horrible picture of me. All I can remember is ex throwing me under the bus and even watching me get sent away with no emotion on his face, .. years later he comes back to remind me it’s all my fault again (I left him ) and that getting him in trouble is not love..but he did the same to me all the time?? . He then disappeared ghosted and blocked me again. Probably will stay gone for another 3 years since it took him 3 years to pop up again. He stalked but stopped once he found a new gf and after I tried to press charges, still reached out to me though ..
@@sunkintree he is sooooo trying to smooth this over and trying to get these cops to go away and seem likable. Even the way he declines the water, asks for shade. It’s all part of a narc dance. I love how Brian says “I hope she is saying nice things about me” he is VERY worried about what she is saying when he can’t hear. Cops need training on dealing with narcs. Especially covert narcs. “Am I going to jail? “ after the cops say she may go to jail from attacking him..he asks this. He would not ask if he hadn’t laid hands on her too..he was feeling out what Gabby had told them.
@@tlightning8383 Well, duh.....she was miles from home living in a van out traveling. Safe from strangers yeah but ended up not being safe with her loved one.
I’ve been in this situation. Let me just say that if they had asked me that…. I’d have lied. Because to make that statement and to have them not protect me the consequence would have been FAR worse. I’d play his side out of fear of what he’d do if I didn’t. So many victims get shamed for not speaking out…. But when you’re IN IT?? You can’t rely on a “he said she said” interrogation. My abuser was SO smoothe. He could beat me one minute and then greet the neighbor laughing like life was the perfect. Look how they treated them both differently. He was calm and she was upset…. She was clearly affected and stressed….But he was calm collected, laughing even and they took him seriously. Not enough training goes into these types of assessments IMO. When I look at her I honestly see me. So 💔 heartbreaking. I hope her case sheds more light on victims of abuse and that they take situations like this more seriously. I could understand being pulled over for driving over the limit. But there were eye witnesses stating they saw the male hitting her in that parking lot…. I think if their training in these situations was better they’de have been able to see it for the situation it WAS. Or if they had been more aware of victims of abuse. Who knows for sure. My heart goes out to her and her family. This should be a textbook example of how complicated these situations can be. So future officers can take it more seriously.
"he grabbed my face so I hit him." Cop "well he said you hit him while he was driving." Well now she's a decomposed corpse in a morgue so will you believe us now, officer?
If I was her parents I would hate to see this footage knowing this took place before her death. Its a horrible way to see your child for the last time. I really pray that their hearts are healed and comforted in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen
If I was her parent I would work on my marriage and keep family together and never let 22 years daughter go away with anyone. !!!!! Society is sick now. Partners, partners partners for sex, become the most important THING in life.
@@melianna999 we are all trying to fill that empty space within each of us, we chase our covetous wants believing Satan's lie it will bring us happiness. Money, house, possessions, more sex partners, expensive cars - all the things we chase in the pursuit of happiness- trying to fill that empty space within each and every one of us....but even when we achieve those goals we still feel empty, maybe even more than before. There is a GOD shaped hole in every heart of every one of us. Only GOD can fill that space and make us happy. Until man / women learn this lesson they will be too blind to change, too deaf to hear and too stubborn.
If anyone is in an abusive relationship reading this here’s some words of advice. These men are like a ticking time bomb ready to go off. It’ll get worse and worse. You can't change them. Everything will always be your fault. They're famous for apologizing and saying I'll change. They don't change. They’ll stomp on your dreams, isolate yourself from your family and friends, put you down, show jealousy and lower your self esteem to the point that you don’t know who you are anymore. You’re in a dangerous situation; if you fight back physically in any way or verbally attack them they’ll snap and kill you. Don't provoke them any further. Please get out of this abusive situation. Make a getaway plan, move far away 3 or 4 hours if you can, get financial assistance, reach out to people for help, go to a woman’s shelter. Don’t look back and don’t go back.
@@goodtoGoNow1956 for sure. Gabby was a manipulative pain on the ass. "I push peoples buttons" she says. Brian should have left her, but he killed her like a dumbass.
3 Women are Killed by their Abusive Male Partners EVERY DAY. How can this happen? Well, it looks EXACTLY like the Gabby Petito story. This is not a video about a woman abusing a man. This is a video of a Woman being abused by Man - to the extent that she is Covering up and Lying to the police to protect him.
Best comment. My wife always get's upset looking at the FB feeds of friends that are all doing such cool things. A photo captures a single second, and a video a couple of minutes. That's all. I always tell her that she sees pictures and has no ide what real issues those people are dealing with.
Sure, but also hindsight is 20/20. People react to trauma and stress in very different ways. It could be that in another situation, the person smiling and laughing is actually the abused one and the one crying is the abuser. Psychology is weird.
I am sure surprised but their stories match 100%. She says she is OCD and has mental problems and was hitting him. He says she is violent sometimes and was striking him while driving. Since no one has any proof of what really happened a few days later you should stop calling person's of interest a murderer. Slander is against the law too. My niece is a psychological researcher with a PHD. She deals with this all time.
As someone with OCD and mental problems, I’ve had this exact scenario play out with former boyfriends. Most of the fault did lie with me, because my issues made it impossible to give my partner the space he needed. I don’t think there’s anything from this that could have predicted a murder.
This is exactly my ex husband. So likeable and personable and me coming across as "crazy". Why these officers weren't trained to see those signs is absolutely disgusting. This was me and my abuser. I'm luckily I came out alive. She wasn't the "primary aggressor". He cleverly isn't in distress yet she is. It's insane the officers didn't pick up on this.
Brian was not a likable personality. No one liked him in school. He was overweight in middle school and sat home by himself. He lost weight in HS. Even the cops who stopped him made disparaging statements about him. That duck footed walk is from a person who sits and doesn't exercise.
@S.C.V. Gabby admitted to hitting Brian first with her own mouth at least twice. Brian made a deal with the police that if he as the victim would spend the night at a motel paid for by the women's shelter Gabby would not be charged with DV and she was free to drive away.
@S.C.V. The police can only go on the evidence presented to them and Gabby admitted to hitting him first. Also she refused help and didn't want to be separated from Brian.
My heart breaks with thoughts that this camera footage is the last time gabby's parents had a chance to see her alive... but crying, stressed and broken 😥 that is just a nightmare for any parent
I wonder why he killed himself? Guilt because of killing Gabby or just fear of spending the rest of his life in prison or on death row? I'm thinking the latter...
@@malikal.3311 It’s a real shame that her mom never found out about the Moab incident at the time so she could bring her daughter home. May have avoided this tragedy.
It's not the police officers fault. He did what he could do. She didn't show any signs of being hit. She didn't admit that she had been hit by Brian. Scared victims obviously don't do that. And they'd rather go to jail then admit that they've been beaten by their spouse or significant other. Brian was so good at using his court face that they thought it best to not put either them through the trauma of a court fine and the likes and gave them the option to separate for the evening. To me they obviously didn't and to me Brian killed her that evening and drove around until he found a good place to dump the body which was the Grand Tetons.
It’s infuriating. His smug, cocky confidence and how the Utah cops played right into it. He boldly lied to their faces and they let him slide. Gaby deserved so much better.
Imagine being a victim and finally coming across someone who's supposed to help you (even though she didn't call the cops herself) only for them to blow you off and take the side of your abuser, all while calling you crazy and irrational. I can't imagine how alone she must have felt. I can't help but wonder if she felt she deserved to be treated the way she was. That breaks my heart. She probably felt like this was all her fault.
It happens all the time. It happened to me. I had evidence and all and they sided with the abuser luckily I was strong enough to get away and have not look back but I am still hurt by this. They have to do better. I would not been alive and I depended on them. It is not a good feeling in this situation sooooo sad.
This exact thing happened to me the cops charged me with disorderly conduct even after I calmly explained my boyfriend had broken things in the house and was aggressive cops don’t care and I honestly relate to gabby I wish she was still here to tell her story
Police need to be trained in how to recognize signs of severe emotional abuse. This is what I saw immediately in the shorter version. It was obvious to me she was under severe emotional abuse. Some of the signs are intense apologizing, taking responsibility for the other person’s actions, etc.
I saw myself in her and that's how I knew she was in an abusive relationship with a narc and was not the abuser but a victim emotionally beaten down in non stop reactive abuse(look up the term, its a classic tactic of narcs), abusers NEVER admit to ANYONE, most especially cops, that they were at fault and they don't nervously over apoligize for everything on the spot
But what good does that do if the constitution protects both of them from being detained by the police? This is why Brian and his family were able to elude the police for so long because the cops have nothing to charge them with.
Men are not very emotional! They view women as very emotional! It’s hard for them to relate to it and often times they become very defensive! They react physically with dominance which only escalates a woman’s emotional distress & reactions!
@@cynthiawoods883 yea the cop even asked her why are you crying. Like idk maybe she's crying because the situation is a lot worse than you know officer.
Or is she’s such a basket case that she did something to herself to make him look guilty...he’d be wise to protect himself and seek legal council to ensure the truth comes out.
6:57 it’s stated he has wallet in his pocket. 7:14 says he has his ID in the van. 54:47 goes for wallet to take out driving license, when it’s clear he’s not in trouble. Isn’t his driving license his ID? Says he doesn’t have a phone, but she asks the officer to remind him to charge his phone. Subtle manipulation. 🚩 Same as him messing with stuff & locking her out of her own van to wind her up. 🚩 So many unnecessary details added in to fog the issue 🚩 Overly friendly & apologetic to cops. I don’t know if he harmed her (obviously I hope not), but he does not give me good vibes in general. I’d be interested to see body cam from the other officers too
It’s sad that the police were so close to saving her and then he went all psycho just a little while later. Just goes to show how unpredictable people like Brian are.
Abusers like Brian are actually very predictable in their actions with a victim - the problem is the police choose the wrong people to be perpetrator /victim Both their behaviour is so text book DA. He appears calm and collected whereas she is in bits - this is how abusers work! It happens so many times
@@suescourfield7902 You do not know what you are talking about. She was the abuser. This was confirmed by a separate, independent, outside auditor who reviewed ALL Of the evidence and determined that the cops FAILED in their duty because they should have ARRESTED GABBY and charged her with DOMESTIC ABUSE.
It does seem like she was the one being physical and abusive based on the evidence. Whilst this never excuses what the boyfriend did, it may explain a reason why he would eventually flip and murder his own fiance. You can see on the video he is full of cuts yet she has no signs of physical aggression on her. Had it been the other way round, reaction would be so different.
@@teekay1785 We know that he came home with her van without her and wouldn't even report her missing or talk to her parents!! Doesn't take much to put two and two together!! Red flag Plus, the 911 caller stated that Brian was slapping Gabby!!
That was my thought.. what if the face injuries were from him assaulting her the day before, threatened her (and her family) heavily as they were pulling over to stop for the police..
“did you talk to gabby?” after he literally watched her talk to gabby… idk i feel like in that moment Brian was questioning if he talked to Gabby about something SPECIFIC
He had scratch marks and that's why they really should have arrested her. They were both fighting and one of them didn't call, they were endangering people on the road fighting in a car and they both should've been taken in, honestly. The rest of the dynamic between their relationship isn't as important. What the scene showed was enough to warrant that because it was a domestic violence issue that was out of hand and they shouldn't have been able to leave together.
Watching this a year later is insane. It broke my heart then, but it almost breaks my heart more now. They almost had it right in the very beginning. She is so worked up to the point of nearly not being able to speak. She's overly apologetic, she makes excuses for him, she has *scratches* on her face, he locked her out of *her* van. Everything about it screams abuse.
@@evalilith6703 She and Him both said that she attacked him first. You can't blame the cops bcuz they are humans after all. What they hear is what they know. Its wasn't their job to assume that both of them were lying to them. And besides she technically did attack him even though it wasn't entirely true.
The ‘he doesn’t really believe that I can do any of it’ tells us a lot about the way he must have treated her and made her feel like she wasn’t capable. I hope she’s at peace now :(
One of the characteristic of narcissism is the excessive jealousy they feel toward others. Narcissist can't tolerate anyone else's good fortune. He is going to hate you for it. He always believed it should be him instead of you. Narcissists think your success might make them look BAD. They may retaliate by raging at you or demeaning you with nasty remarks.
"...her little website..." Some who loves you wouldn't try to diminish your success and dreams. If that's the way he talks about her in public, imagine the psychological abuse she heard in private. Textbook narcissist.
She also can be heard saying “he doesn’t believe I can do it.” He’s been psychologically abusing her, he stepped it up by hitting her, and he finally killed her. This is why domestic abuse, even the psychological kind, should always be taken seriously.
I was married to a narc for many years. I agree. He was jealous and controlling. He minimized her achievements. Nice in front of the camera and mean in private. All red flags for narcissism. I feel so sad for Gabby. We can imagine the hell she was going through. Also looks like he was trying to isolate her from her friends and family. Stinks like a narc to me.
He locked her out of her vehicle. He admitted it. This video is so frustrating and disgusting to watch. And to know his last “note” about killing her is saying she asked for it and he did her a favour by killing her. Brain is so disgusting.
This is still so heartbreaking, this is the last thing her parents will see of her and I can't even imagine how bad that hurts to see your child so distraught and upset in some of her last moments
They're going to be mad when the internet reveals that Moab Police tried to arrest her for successfully preventing a high speed chase. ''I told him to stop''- Gabby Petito 2021
Sad how the cop told her there's no reason for her to be crying (at 57:00). Don't ever say that because you don't know. If you don't understand, please ask why they might be crying and listen.
I don't know if you noticed that his hands were shaking and his manners showed that he was very distraught. He was keeping a good facade going. But his chattering and his stance clearly show that he was as upset as she was. He just carried it a different way. He was protective of her and he was worried about her. I just don't get it.
@@charicarrr yes. she was murdered. her fiancé (the bald man driving) is on the run bc i believe he murdered her. you can search the gabby petito case and listen to the case :|
@@charicarrr Her body was found in Sep 19! After come back alone to his parents house, he didn't answer the police questions and soon he ran away, but he killed himself! His body was found in Oct 21! Damned!!
She wont be. It's pretty obvious that P.O.S harmed her, he's even refusing to talk to the police at the present time. It's a pity she lied for him here as she could have been brought to safety.
@@STHFGDBY Maybe it was a case of self defense gone wrong and he panicked and just went home to figure out what to do. She seemed to be quit aggressive.
@@markbaz lol you would call the police to get her then or something? You wouldn't just drive off and leave her in the desert. This comment is so silly.
He's smiling, laughing, and so respectful. This is disgusting. He said, I like to keep my phone because if she leaves me I'm screwed. This man is telling on himself the whole time. She knew she was going to be punished for this police stop. He murdered that girl. So sad!
Brian and the police bamboozled her. It is important to know your rights. He is expert at playing the victim and throwing her under the bus. She is not advised of his accusations and his professed fears. They make up the “victim” lord to protect her. By saying she pulled the wheel when he was accelerating and driving erratically! But they never consider she might be the victim lying. Or that it is abusive to lock a person out of her van and threaten to take off without her!
First red flag, why did he try to lock her out of the car instead of leaving her with the car. As a young woman would you feel safe abandoned in the middle of nowhere without your car.
Yeah, the detail that he locked the van while holding the keys may be a red flag, especially if their phones were in the van. But it's not for safety reasons. Actually all that mattered may just be where her phone was. No one would stay in the van without keys at 4pm in the Utah summer. The Moonflower Coop is not in the middle of nowhere; there are cars and businesses in the vicinity. The tension seems to have been that he didn't like how much time she was spending on the phone...
I have to follow the evidence, But part of me keeps thinking he left her there and drove home. She got picked up by the wrong people hitchhiking... All she had to say to someone is that she is on a trip, lives far away..and he ex left her there.... PERFECT scenario for a murder/rapist to get away scott free while all the attention is on brian. I honestly hope everyone is right and they catch brian... but if their not, You have to live with an increased fear that someone out there can kidnap your girl or daughter, Rape and kill them...and all the blame will automatically placed on you. If they got into a final fight, he kicked her out of the van and just drove home... He gets back and hears shes been found dead... lets face it, the media and law enforcement will eat him alive even if he is completely innocent. Hopefully we get more evidence and answers.
@@praussie311 That's a very good question, which paints a very bad picture for brian. But we have to keep in mind that sometimes situations can "break" people. who really knows what happened in those last moments to today. We can only speculate and follow evidence. I'm not trying to defend either side, I'm just one of those people who likes to pick at every detail, possibility and question everything. Even when evidence gives us answers and it feels like we are all 99.5% sure we got it figured out.. i question that too and come at it from the opposite angle. Not because i want to be right, but because i want to find the truth...and sometimes that requires going against your gut feelings, the community and evidence. I get a lot of hate for it.. but really i want true justice just as much as everyone else.
@@xecmai8100 I do too. Maybe too much though. I’m also suspicious of the police officer who took her phone number and told her to take his. Didn’t tell a highly distraught woman where she can find a safe place to stay. Instead told her to go to a place where she can shower for $4. Sounds like a trucker’s stop to me. Meanwhile Brian gets the safe hotel. Even though she did say he hit her. Also complained to a total stranger, possibly a suspect, about his wife. This police didn’t show respect for women. Please everyone don’t send me hate messages. I simply found that policeman ‘s behavior odd. I highly respect policemen, but this was strange.
To any young person watching this, if you are going through this or anything similar, please do whatever it takes to walk away. Please. Ask for help. Please just do it. Do it afraid. Do it alone. Just do it. You can handle it. You have so much potential. Don’t let that just sit there and be only potential. Do what it takes. It might seem easier to take it and stay but it isn’t. Be strong and courageous and do not let anyone control or manipulate you. You are smart. Listen to your gut. Get away. You might think they love you and they would never really hurt you but if they even lay a finger on you or try to make you feel like it’s your fault, they have the potential to do much worse. Please get away. Please.
@Bread & Gravy Thank you for typing this up! This is a tragic story and a Lesson Learned for everyone. 3 Women are Killed by their Male Partners EVERY DAY. This happens more often then ANYBODY wants to admit - cause it's SO SCARY to imagine.
Gabby was so, so naive! She couldn't imagine in a 100 years that her "beloved" fiance would EVER strangle her to death and dump her body in the forest. She was protecting her fiance. HUGE MISTAKE! She should have told the police THE TRUTH.
@@athens31415 The Officer's words to this young woman were; "...But to help you understand, we [ my ex-wife and I] would feed off each other’s anxiety and it would spiral, do you know what I mean? And it doesn’t matter how much I loved her, it may be bad for your soul. Just saying, I’m not telling you what to do with your life, but if you know you have anxiety... look at the situations you can get in." Sounds like the Officer was trying tactfully to suggest to Petito that she and Laundrie - neither of whom he'd ever met before, and knew nothing about - were not well suited to each other. If you'd been that Officer, what would you have done differently?
I know, I feel the same way, these officers probably feel devastated and confused. I wonder what they think about this case now. In their professional opinions.
@@cindymiller2748 tantrums? the girl just got slapped around! A tantrum to me is when you dont get your way....and you pout like a bad child screaming on the floor in a store. I hope you didn't mean that.
@@cindymiller2748 probably relieved to have 5 minutes without an unstable person all up in your face nagging all the time. I bet he felt extremely relieved!! And finally somone who understands what I been putting up with! She's crazy. Even I can see that. She needs chemical help.
this hurts my heart. she’s so scared and wants to say what’s really going on and can’t. she’s so overwhelmed and finally was able to speak to someone that was supposed to help her, she started ranting on why she was acting that way and almost seems to be searching for a place of peace. i wish i could hug her and tell her it’s okay.
When I was in an abusive relationship, he would grab me by the wrists and shake me, pin me down etc.. anything that hurt but didn’t leave a lasting mark. When I defended myself it usually left scratches on him, and he would use these scratches to paint me as the abusive one when I was just trying to get away. Eventually I left because he told me his plan to murder me and get away with it. I have a horrible gut feeling that this fight was started by him and those scratches are her defence.
@@deltatango6793 Victims are often manipulated into truly believing they are responsible for the abuse, that they are abusive even when they are clearly trying to defend themselves, and do everything they can to hide the truth and protect the abuser
@@deltatango6793 Some women DO place the abuse on themselves. I shouldn’t have sad that to him because I knew it would upset him. I should of aggravated/annoyed him because he doesn’t like it. WT actual F are you even talking about? At the end of the day, HE MURDERED HER…
I think the bearded officer was trying to empathize with the guy because he’s been in that situation before. He put his own situation into another couple’s situation. He was giving himself slack for what he had done to his ex calling his ex toxic but she is not in the room to defend herself or tell her side of how toxic he probably was, also. And unfortunately because of that . . .there is a woman that is now dead.
And felicia here is SPOT ON. A lot of men officers included don't see themselves for the narcissist that they are themselves so it's easy to look past another one because they see some poor guy just like them victimized by his girlfriends crazy ways 🤬
Bruh, I doesn't even seem that way anyways. If she was the abuser, why would she be crying and him be smiling and laughing? Even if he is scratched up, that was self-defense, most likely from trying to get him off of her.
@@MC-es7oe Because wemon tend to cry about everything and men don't. When my ex attacked me she would cry and I would have to just take it and I didn't cry. They get so upset that tears come out and sometimes it's sad tears and other times it's rage tears. "So mad I'm crying" is what some would say.
Why is no one in the comments talking about how Brian randomly shared that he did not have a phone then pulled one out and provided a valid phone number without a problem later in the conversation!? Gabby even told the officers to make sure that Brian took his phone charger with him. An unprovoked lie is such a red flag.
It also could be that she walked away from him and he has no idea where she is the girl was definitely off her rocker probably should be on medication if she wasn't already. But he's very obviously listening to what his lawyer is telling him to do and that's to keep quiet for now and that's what you pay a lawyer for good advice.
@@gretchencline5124 Van life video watch closely at what shes driving and where they,re are. 911 call is so staged the caller jumps ahead of his words. Police stop makes zero sense at all .. that is not police protocol and they don't even look like real cop cars
Her face when she was crying 56:40. I feel so bad for her, for her parents having to watch this as their last memory of their child. It's horrible all around.
She was about to get charged mmmmm God Help Us All she is clearly stressed out how do you send her driving when you are stressed out you sit down try to relax she was still in tears and he gets the courtesy while she has to drive. Que Dios perdone todos sus pecados y la tenga en su Santa Gloria .ORANDO
It just breaks my heart to see Gabby apologizing profusely and continuing to take the blame trying to take responsibility- this is a key indicator of mental and physical abuse and trauma. Every once in a while you can hear her let something slip, like admitting that Brian was accusing her of being worked up when she said she was perfectly calm. She shouldn’t have to apologize for trying to clean up her workspace. She shouldn’t have to take the blame for Brian’s driving, she shouldn’t have to have died thinking it was all her fault. It can truly be brainwashing to be in a relationship where you are constantly convinced that everything is your fault, and you can see just how traumatized Gabby was from that. Just looking at her body language, how tense and uncomfortable she looked. Clinging to your body like Gabby was doing at first is a very defensive position. Just shows how traumatic the situation was for her. Watching this footage is eerie especially when you see the footage of Brian. Analyzing him now, he definitely gave off some red flags of being a potential DA suspect. For instance, the way he stepped out of the car and immediately began smiling, laughing, and talking rapidly and excessively. Ab*sers will often do this when trying to cover up their actions, similar to how a toddler will smile and laugh when being punished because they are trying to pretend they didn’t do anything wrong. Not only was he brainwashing Gabby into believing it was all her fault, he did the same for himself. Also, the way he is very quick to blame everything and everyone but himself. The excused and the reasoning he just kept spitting out was hard to watch, just knowing now that everything he said was probably BS. it’s a truly heartbreaking situation, and I feel so sorry for the officers who had to respond to their case. In the moment, they did not have the evidence or motive to take them into custody, the most they could really have done was potentially send in a welfare check later on and give Brian a speeding ticket. Looking back, I’m sure they have a lot of guilt that Gabby would not make it out of this situation alive and they were the only ones who really knew, in the moment, that something was wrong. My heart goes out to everyone gabby loved and everyone who loved Gabby, even over a year later I hope peace is with you knowing Gabby is in a better place ❤
He was mentally sound. He was calm and collective. Answers all the questions clearly and thoughtfully. She was the basket case who assaulted him. What video did you watch?
He brow beats her. A form of manipulative control. Bring them up, and then, bring them down., On a steady roller coaster ride., All while he plays the victim. But finally she dumped him, and then he couldn't take the rejection, and killed her, probably in the middle of an intense fit of rage, in the middle of nowhere.
Yeah and he had scratches on both sides of his face. If someone were choking you, you would be grabbing and scratching with both hands. It's so clear. Him strangling her to her death wasn't the first time.
Just like he immediately started to defend himself for why he had been pushing her even though Gabby never said anything to the cop about it. He automatically assumed she ratted him out and went into defense mode.
Whenever I watch this video, knowing what we know now, I just want to break through the screen and give Gabby an encouraging hug, like, "It's okay, sweetie, you've done nothing wrong. You're just stuck in a bad situation."
He seems so weird to me. He laughed way too much and made way too many jokes, like he wasn’t taking the whole situation seriously. Meanwhile she’s crying and blaming herself for things like being mean and having OCD. I hope she’s okay 😔
She was blaming herself along with witness testimony and evidence on his face that he was trying not to make a big deal about. He definitely downplayed her abuse of him. Unfortunate situation but she was not innocent in this incident right here... she was the aggressor clearly.
21:40 “the witness said he never saw him hit her.” The 911 call is released and he literally tells dispatch that he saw Brian slapping Gabby in the face.
Signs it's time to exit the relationship... 2:40 feeling a need to apologize for the type of person you are. 3:30 your partner doesn't believe in you. 3:35 your partner is a downer and you fight a lot. 3:40 passive aggressive behaviors to get you to change. 3:52 your partner really stresses you out. viewing the same events in opposite ways such as 3:37 "fighting all morning" vs. 5:20 "we really had a nice morning". 6:06 "her grabbing the wheel" vs. 11:45 . 10:35 your partner gets frustrated with you a lot. 13:52 "lot of little things" making life stressful. etc...
I have a feeling that this is the reality behind most "perfect" Instagram lives. Shallow, desperate, angry, narcissistic, dysfunctional shells of who these people could have been in an age before social media.
This is the retirement plan for all insta brain humans. Self destruction over nothing in a beautiful place bc the web page work and dirt in the van was super stressful
Yes, i was wondering the same. Is that normal there? Specially the one with the webcam. He became uncomfortable personal with the shouwer suggestion. I dont know if is just me but i find it a bit odd
What you’re seeing is reactive abuse. Keep in mind sociopaths are able to justify their behavior and keep a calm and collected demeanor in the face of authorities.
You nailed it. People without the proper education aren't able to identify what reactive abuse is. Narcissists are great at making their victims look like the perpetrator while they make themselves into the victim.
This is devastating and haunting to watch. It was so clear that he was abusing her. She did not get the help she desperately needed. To see how close she came to getting out is the most heartbreaking aspect of this. I'm so sorry for her and the brutality she suffered.
Are you aware that the police were investigated by an outside reviewer called in by the police chief? Are you aware that the police were reprimanded for failing to do their correct duty? Are you aware that they were told that they should have arrested someone and charged someone with the crime of abuse? Are you aware that the person that they were told they should have arrested was Gabby and NOT Brian? She should have been charged with abuse because she was engaging in abuse. No matter how clear you think it is that he is abusing her, objective highly educated reviewers say you are wrong.
It wasn't clear at all. You're only saying that with the benefit of hindsight. I really hope you never serve on a jury. It's so annoying the way women think only with emotion rather than with logic and reason.
At 14:40 he states he doesn’t have a phone. If she left him, he’d be screwed. At 55:22 they ask for his phone number and he pulls a phone out of his side pocket.
@@chrish5096 not that it does any good now. But it proves he was willing to lie about something seemingly insignificant. He also said he didn’t take medication, but near the end, admitted he was prescribed meds and it sounded like he said he didn’t use them, which causes his own anxiety.
I think he was telling them a story...saying he disnt have a phone..like at that time of the incident....im not defending him....but i think he was just saying he had no phone ( at that time when they were argueing).
I also noticed how he said his wallet is in his pocket, but when they asked for ID he said it was in the car🤔 I just found it odd because usually ID is kept in your wallet.
I feel like he told her what to say, since he almost repeated it word by word. This guy looks very manipulative, her reaction isn't normal, and his smiling at the cops looks like an attempt to gain trust and empathy from the policeman.
@@martieseudo3432 if this was true im sure someone woulda said something plus she posted a video on youtube of them to and she has pics of him on her insta
This breaks my heart. I was in abusive relationship for 12 years and finally got out and never looked back! Breaks my heart her taking all the blame and shortly after is when he killed her! Sick POS! Coward them took his own life!
4:45 notice how he asks "Did you talk to Gabriela?" I feel like he was nervous about what she had said that'll make him look bad. He was testing the waters on the officer's reaction. He probably asked in hopes of getting an answer of what Gabby might've said.
@@kellyw8017 Mainly the fact that they aren't supposed to ask aimed questions to alert the possible aggressor that they are onto them. They want to get as much info without getting them heated
Those cops failed that girl. That should have been the only tip off from him they needed. Too blind. Too stupid to notice that blatant lie. And he lied so easily
Do we know if Brian had a phone but it wasn't in service? So he meant he doesn't have a phone in terms of being to call from out in the middle of nowhere. They could have found out.
"I've been building my website. He doesn't believe I can do any of it. He's like a downer." Locking her out the car, etc... Narcissist trying to keep his woman under his control and bash her self esteem?? Hope they find this creep! The cops there got it wrong in this case. I bet they feel terrible. :(
@@dougbeatle1664 Yes. No 100% confirmation from coroner yet, but remains matched description enough that they informed her parents. She did have various identifiable tattoos, but authorities haven't said much yet.
They gaslighted her to death, basically. The main officer gave her no option than accept blame or be arrested AFTER independent witnesses had allready seen Brian hitting her on multiple occassions. The police knew this because he says it before he starts talking to Gaby. Yet it was more important to him to stand by his abusive, murderous bro than to save Gaby.
@M.E.D. It's called self-defense. He even hit her in public more than once that same day, and on previous occasions, according to witnesses who didn't know either of them. Stop blaming the murder victim.
@@FGC-ku4ez Well said. She was clearly terrified and for all we know her admission that she hit him first was a lie, because like many abused women she would have been frightened of consequences and also frightened that Brian might be arrested and separated from her too.
It’s seriously sad. She’s really clearly not around the right people. She could flower as a person and change the world if she had the chance and right people around her. It’s really really a shame he killed her. I wish she got away
Gabby called her mother from the backseat of the police cruiser. These statements are from the Petito v Moab lawsuit. 3. Gabby contacted her family to tell them that the couple had been fighting, that Brian had hit her, and that the police had been called. The family immediately responded by beginning to arrange for Gabby to fly home and to have her van shipped home, to separate her from Brian. 98. Gabby then called her parents. 99. On that call, Gabby’s parents demanded that Gabby fly home to get away from Brian, offering to pay for her ride to Salt Lake City and her flight home. But upon learning that the police were involved, Gabby’s parents accepted Gabby’s assurances that she should continue her trip. Gabby’s parents relied to their detriment on the police officers involved to evaluate the situation and intervene as necessary to protect Gabby. But for the officers’ failure to investigate and follow Utah law, Gabby’s parents would have intervened to end the trip and bring Gabby home.
11:11 that officer spoke up without realizing how crucial & ominous his statement was going to become!! Poor Gabby, she didn’t realize how much she would impact the world but Brian was never going to let that happen!! His selfishness and insecurities would have never shared her beautiful spirit in fear of her getting attention from anyone but him!!
When the cop said "I want you guys to stay away from eachother, for both of your guys sake." Almost like foreshadowing in a movie or book, gave me chills...
The cop knew she was alone and followed up . The video suggests he is obsessed by her . I would not be surprised at all if the cop was involved in Gabby's death.
The thing with narcissists, they know how to be around people and behave in a friendly manner to others outside of the abusive relationship, it is very hard to tell
I keep hearing the song “ we have heard angels on high “ in my head head over and over that’s the song that was playing during my brothers funeral in 2017. I haven’t been the same since I lost my brother and I hope if there is a heaven that Gabby will find my brother John in heaven where there’s no longer suffering and pain only joy I pray for her family that god will bring them comfort in this difficult time.
The first thing he says to the officer when he goes back to the vehicle was "Did you already talk to Gabby?" Then he was giving them reasons for why he pushed her before they even asked. The officer even commented on his demeanor and then commiserated with him when he said it was because of the police lights. This whole situation probably emboldened him.
This is what Brian said when the officer walked to the driver's side window: "I I I (just) don't want to defend myself here by saying anything but I pushed her away. She gets really worked up and when she does she swings and she had her cell phone in her hand so I was trying to push her away."
He said he was sorry he pushed her. This is the first thing Brian said to the officer who came to the driver's side window. "I I I (just) don't want to defend myself here by saying anything but I pushed her away. She gets really worked up and when she does she swings and she had her cell phone in her hand so I was trying to push her away."
Did Gabby ever say she was sorry that she slugged and hit Brian in the face and head? This is from the police records. Brian had the most injuries "On Gabby, there was a mark pointed out on her left arm as well as a scratch on her left cheek. On Brian, injuries were pointed out by Park Ranger Ryan Kral near his right eye, left side of his neck, left side of his nose, center of his face, bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head, and a red mark near his right bicep/tricep area." From Combined Statement and Investigative Report - Petito-Laundrie Incident - Moab Utah Police Website
One of the biggest problems in leaving an abusive relationship is people won’t believe you because the abuser is charismatic and charming in front of people:
This is exactly how he was for me. I finally got away, but people still tell me they don't see why i left because he is so nice and so this and that. If they only knew.....
From his body language reactions he is definitely happy he's getting off by interrupting with jokes.
you nailed it
Bingo
You are absolutely correct. He should have left that relationship the very first time she hit him. Hell, the first time she degraded him for not being perfect.
Crazy to think that her getting arrested could have literally saved her life.
They would have held her overnight in jail and then she probably would have gone back to him when she was released on bail. DV cases don't hold longer than a night, it would have been the same situation but she would have had a record and an upcoming court case.
Maybe she was safe for a little bit of time, but if she come back with him … maybe it will be the same end in another day.
Thats what I was thinking. 😥
Maybe they should have arrested the guy that was going 30mph over the limit and wouldn't pull over.
I was about to say the same thing. If only.
Ever been confused about what a toxic relationship looks like, this is it.
Yes. So toxic he ended up killing her.
Every relationship turns toxic after 4-5 months on the road in a van together 24/7. This was an argument.
@@esaedvik disagree. Every relationship is different! Unfortunately for them, it did end up going south 😔
She sounds like she was having a nervous breakdown.
please this isn't toxic if anything this was life in a van for weeks and nerves
I can’t imagine how the police involved felt when they realized Gabby went missing soon after and eventually when it came out that Brian was the one who killed her.
I know right???! Awful awful awful 😞
Tbh I don't think they cared. Pigs.
Not a good look for that Police department tbh
He killed her 2 weeks later in a totally different state. Hardly the Moab Police fault if they decided as adults to get back together.
They were investigated by an outside expert called in by the police department.. They were reprimanded because -- as the expert said -- they should have made an arrest and charged someone with abuse.
They should have arrested and charged gabby with abuse because she was the abusive one. That is what the ruling was.
Maybe I missed it, but I did not see any of the officers ever asking Gabby if she felt safe with him…
does it even matter???? get a life!
@@ajayjackson7727 it kinda does matter! She was being abused by him!
@@ajayjackson7727 it matters.
@@ajayjackson7727 it matters. Idk why ur so pissed off, calm down kid, its literally one of the questions that should always be asked ..
@@ajayjackson7727 Do you even matter?
Soooo many red flags. The way he was smiling the whole time trying to seem as friendly as possible, laughing and joking with the cops while Gabby was breaking down.
and apparently he was being very rude and arguing with the restaurant staff to the point of her crying and apologising for his behaviour
I did research:
"Domestic violence" or "domestic violence offense" means any criminal offense involving violence or physical harm or threat of violence or physical harm, or any attempt, conspiracy, or solicitation to commit a criminal offense involving violence or physical harm, when committed by one cohabitant against another. "Domestic violence" or "domestic
violence offense" includes commission or attempt to commit.
-Notice it says Commission OR attempt to commit. Cops letting her go for 'lack of bad intentions' is made up. This is ironic, because I've seen a bunch of cop videos lately where they arrest people for nothing. You're recording me illegally parking? So you're loitering. You're not giving your ID? Oh uh...obstruction. Public photography? Oh uh...that's disturbing people so it's illegal. Of course, most cop victims seem to be unattractive males like this dude. But an attractive white gal? It's all good. But hey, looks/race/gender doesn't matter.
Classic narcissist.
Women tend to be labeled as “crazy” too or over reacting.
@@organic_angel Take your theories to femcels sub.
Abusers literally drive you to a nervous breakdown while telling everyone how unstable you are.
I wish peace to her loved ones
@Ace Ventura Someone having mental issues for any reason does NOT make it ok for someone to abuse them. Brian was the abuser. Brian was SEEN slapping/hitting gabby. WHAT TF DO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THAT? And since YOU are obviously an abusive asshat yourself i am sure you know ALL about how someone like Brian thinks...and how he was always in control of everything gabby said/did and without a doubt he made her FEEL like she HAD to take the blame for everything that caused them to get pulled over. An abuser always causes an "ITS ALL YOUR FAULT, LOOK WHAT YOU DID" situation/mentality to the person they are abusing.
SHES THE PROBLEM NOT HIM...
@@vinnyrisalvato6563 Yet he strangled her to death. I guess you think that is OK? Clearly you must be an abusive person like Brian. Can you make a comment about the fact the 911 caller said Brian was the one slapping and hitting Gabby? And also, in what world is it EVER ok for someone who may have any emotional or mental disorders to be abused just cause they have those issues? Smfh. You are a sad and small man.
@@vinnyrisalvato6563 he’s unemployed driving her van around not letting her in and slapping her… yea…. I can totally see how the dead victim is the problem. 🙄🤦♀️ you must sympathize with Brian because you live at your moms unemployed and drive your girlfriends car too
it's funny how people see what they want to see instead of the truth.. the truth is Gabby was the abuser in the relationship not Brian she was the one with mental issues not Brian she literally admitted to DV on camera but it's Brian fault because he got abused and was trying to calm her down and didn't want to press charges.. Brian you should have pressed charges locked her up and you probably wouldn't be in this situation that you're in now because it's obvious that relationship was toxic because of one person and that's Gabby.. I know I know she's a 110 lb blonde petite white girl so she can't hurt nobody yeah right it's obvious she used to beat him up every chance she got..
I was in a situation like this with a guy like him. The police arrested me because he had a bite mark on his arm and I had no marks. The bruises on my neck from him strangling me showed up the next day as I sat in my jail cell and no one would listen to me. I bit his arm to get his hands off my neck because I thought I was going to die.
Thankfully in court I explained everything to the judge and he took one look at his criminal record and believed me. I still have that arrest on my record which is extremely embarrassing because I’m sure people have seen it not knowing the full story, but I’m grateful I was arrested looking back because that is what got me out of that relationship with him. I was hysterical just like her when we got pulled over and my ex was calm and collected and charmed the police.
Manipulation is their specialty. RIP Gaby. You are an angel and I’m so sorry you lost your life.
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for sharing. I have had similar manipulated experience, and it is so very unfair and unjust...
The fact he drove her van back without her didn't report her missing and then refuses to say anything about where he last saw her is HUGE red flags.
2 hours ago on his IG he posted a picture quoted " I will miss you" .... that sounded creepy to me , he knows exactly what he did ! + an innocent person would cooperate with the police & do what it takes to find their loved one
Pretty strong chance they continued to fight and he made her get out and then just drove home.
@@WhyDoThat that’s a possibility
@@WhyDoThat I loved how the cops radioed that it was possible DUI but offered NO other possible explation for the reckless driving such as a medical issue. And then was so sweet and nice not asking for ID from the start and allowed him to stay in the van with possible weapons. I'm sure he would have treated a van full of black people with such pleasure
Absolutely not, I would keep my mouth shut!!!! Not a word
I can't imagine how these cops must feel after finding out Gabrielle is now missing after this.
I wish when she was in the police vehicle that the cops would have sent her back home with a counselor or someone to protect her until she got home.
I feel like the lead cop had an inkling that she was in trouble . I think when he pulled her out first and pressing for information he knew there was more ..unfortunately abuse victims almost always take the blame and cover for the abuser.
He is a sociopath. I wouldn't doubt if he made those marks on himself.
All the marks are in places he could he place them .
Its okay. God sees everything
Eh they're moab pd. They wouldn't care.
@@tuxitalk1World thats what they would do in most states.
The way she takes blame for "distracting him" and for "being mean." You can tell it isn't the first time she's made excuses for how he treated her. Reactive abuse is one of the most disgusting ways people manipulate their friends and partners.
She was the abusive one though? She literally admitted it in video.
@@MrTangent OK, but did _he_ have the vagina or did _she?_
@@bow_wow_wow Exactly!
@@MrTangent They can both be abusive to each other. She was physically abusive this time but it sounds like he was emotionally/mentally abusive beforehand. They both contributed to this level of escalation.
@@Icefiremachete Indeed. But we only definitive proof of her abuse.
I can see how they misread this situation badly. I have to imagine the officers feel terrible. Fact is; Brian presented himself as the calm one, where Gabby seemed unglued, BUT they were called via 911 to check out a situation where a man hit a woman. So no matter how calm Brian may have appeared to them they should have realized what they were called for an check into THAT and NOT fall back on the "chicks are crazy" cliche. Gabby was sobbing for a reason. Read the room!
facts!!!
Gabby was crying because she didn't want to go to jail for DV. She begged them to give her a ticket for anything else just not that. She calmed down when the officer said he was not going to charge her. She slugged and hit Brian in the arm and head because the police were behind them and she wanted to stop Brian from telling her to calm down. Go watch the videos.
@@sr2291 You are completely ignorant.
Brian was not calm. The police asked him if he was on drugs and was always that hyper.
Unglued os a CLEAR SIGN OF ABUSE.
THEY SHOULDVE KNOWN BETTER!!
I can't imagine the pain of her parents, knowing this is the last footage of their child, seeing her so upset and distraught. Pray for their healing.
@Sam joseph , those were my exact thoughts too. Beyond heartbreaking!!
She was upset because she was caught being the aggressor.
How embarrassing that she is that violent so easily. She def had emotional issues. I wonder how this case will turn out.
Amen
@@beckoninglight16 the phone call to the police said they saw him hitting her. So maybe look into it a bit more.
I don't think I could imagine how these officers feel right now knowing what ended up happening to her.
I thought the same thing
They should have took her man
Imagine if they treated them like a black couple.. her white privilege got her murdered.. domestic assault and then they take her to a hotel if they would have took her to jail she still would have been alive
@@duwaine96 I was thinking the same exact thing as I watched the video bro. If they were a black couple, the man would’ve been apprehended on domestic charges.
@@onlykingdebo6775 ya these cops seem like loose cannons. I can only imagine if the couple were black. They probably would of just beaten them up from the start!
My father used to say" Want to find about someone's character ? Take a trip with them"
Wise daddy! I agree.
That's wisdom.
Wow so true your dad is a very wise man
Not bad advice. Maybe a shorter trip though, haha.
А у нас говорят, если хочешь узнать человека - напои его.
The way he's laughing and almost giddy when they tell him that he's the victim and that she is going to court... he is such a monster.
typical narcisist move
Narcissistic. I just was victimized by a person with NpD. It does not feel good at all. I'm a good dude I never ran into a person like that. I had to find out the hard way.
He was throwing her under the bus the entire time. 😮
For real. They need to take body language into consideration. She looked terrified and he was just laughing.
What a monster.
He’s super friendly and talkative with the cops in this incident, now that gabby is missing he doesn’t have a word to say... How convenient.
Well he wasn't the one being faced with charges nor had an attorney telling him to keep his mouth shut. More will come out though and I'm sure we'll see his mugshot everywhere!
He's being smart about it likely
Abusers aren't always the obvious people you think they are. Many are VERY good at putting up a front that they are very nice guys. This is across the spectrum for rapists, child abusers, domestic violence, etc.
@@Ams_5590 looks more like she's the abuser in that relationship.
The whole thing is crazy period
The way she keeps saying she's at fault and that "he gets frustrated with me because [insert self-blame here]..." is a clear sign of gaslighting and an abusive relationship. He made her believe that she's not right the way she is. She probably doesn't have any OCD. He just made her believe that her normal sentiments are irrational. Men like that are literal trash and it's always the caring, sweet and unassuming girls that fall victim to that.
Agreed. I was just thinking this girl was acting exactly like someone who gets gaslighted on a daily basis.
Typical abuse victim mental state.
Excellent comment!
Great observation! I didn’t even pick that up. Thanks for a different perspective ☺️
And then they put him on a hotel but leave her to drive alone and perhaps take a shower like woah that seems very great (sarcasm). So apparently, they didn't saw any psychological abuse going on between them two huh? I have a very rational question: if a cop doesn't feel he has the tools to outline domestic abuse, can he make a call to a psychologist or social worker in the station to do a checkup before leaving them to "reunite"? or they(cops) just go along with whatever they think it is? Because it that case it's basically like taking a car to different shops and different mechanics saying it has this or that... I mean, how would the cop safe a life here?
If you are dating someone that doesn't believe in what you are doing, just leave them. They will always hold you back from happiness and success.
Yeah but it's never that easy due to sex . Sex really keeps together toxic relationships because that's how much of a drug sex is
I think she DID leave him. Broke off their engagement. It is now looking as though she hadn't even enough "adventure" in her spirit to DRIVE HER OWN VAN. He couldnt financially support this. I'm thinking he was really the "driver"/ex boyfriend and she was not really financially capable of supporting her own venture. It takes more than buying a van and pretty clothes. I feel sorry that she so lacked self-awareness that she thought she could manage her anxiety in such an unpredictable situation.
"OPPOSITES ATTRACT".
How about this. Only date if you aren’t unstable.
preach brother preach.
As a first responder, I have to wonder how affected these officers are. Knowing they could have done things differently. I personally would be devastated if I were them. It’s sad women are still viewed as overly dramatic and emotional. My personal experience is that abusive men cannot feel therefor they never crack under pressure like Gabby did, crying and everything. RIP Gabby
In my opinion those police officers acted very reasonable. I realise he was nothing but a murdering bastard. But It is all very good to look back at something in hindsight. If the police officers had gone the other way and come down hard and charge them both, we may very well be claiming police abuse of power. Basically who would want to be a policeman not me.
Gabby was emotional and crying because she thought she was going to be arrested and taken to jail. She calmed down the second the cop said that would not happen.
@@christopher9588 The police were making fun of her with him and calling her crazy? Nothing was “reasonable”… so much more could have been done
SR is a mind reader and understands why Gabby was crying. And Aly yes, Brian had them fooled and once he realized it the cards were in his hands. We still live in a society where if a woman cries we think she’s crazy. We don’t know the story. It’s too bad she always herself.
@@christyl5481 Gabby was crying and begging the cops to not charge her with DV. She stopped when the cop said he was not going to take her to jail. Before that she was slugging Brian and hitting him in the head with her phone while he was driving in because the cops were behind them and she admitted to hitting him to try to get him to stop telling her to calm down. These were Brians Injuries according to the Moab Report.
Gabby left scratches and bruises on Brian. The bruising and bleeding was from her hitting him with her phone
From Investigative Review of Aug. 12, 2021 Petito-Laundrie Incident in Moab
Park Ranger Ryan Kral, points out scratches on the left side of Brian’s neck, left side of his nose, scratch near the center of his face, and bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head. Officer Robbins finds an additional injury on Brian’s right bicep/tricep area. Brian said he was not in any pain, and that he "wasn’t complaining.”
This should be a lesson to all people that watch social media. Not all is as it seems! In all her posts she’s so happy, life is good, but it’s not true on the inside.
My 2nd ex seems to be the perfect man in public ..behind close doors he was a manipulative monster, took me 11 days after our marriage to understand his ultimate motive was to see me under the wheels of his car. Thank God! and attentive friends who rescued me from that malignant narcissist and his toxicity. The "Chris Watts" behaviour is shouting ...
This is why instagram is fake as can be.
@@beezb728 problem is even the witness was on the mama side y’all are so quick to convict people before the facts come out
That’s what you took away from this?
100%!!
Narcissistic sociopaths are pretty good at driving someone crazy and then framing that person to look like the abuser.
This is why I lost the case in court, Ex blamed all on me, no one believed me and said I was lying. One time I called the cops and I was the one that was handcuffed for no reason and thrown in a hospital.. while the cop blows me a kiss goodbye, ex painted such a horrible picture of me.
All I can remember is ex throwing me under the bus and even watching me get sent away with no emotion on his face, .. years later he comes back to remind me it’s all my fault again (I left him ) and that getting him in trouble is not love..but he did the same to me all the time?? . He then disappeared ghosted and blocked me again. Probably will stay gone for another 3 years since it took him 3 years to pop up again. He stalked but stopped once he found a new gf and after I tried to press charges, still reached out to me though ..
Yeah she seems to be good at that
@@HVogue17 people can paint any picture they want of you. Its on you to show others if you match the picture…
What are the odds you would even believe he didn’t? Bias. Enjoy it.
He didn’t put those scratches on his own face. If the police would’ve done their jobs and arrested her she most likely wouldn’t be missing.
What she described as a very stressful morning, he’s describing as a very nice morning.
... perspective...
Yup. Perspective.
Mental illness distress vs. None.
@@WatchTinaGetTiny or simple narcissistic charm. I'm not impressed by charm. At all. But you clearly are.
@Priscilla Fuentes Exactly and just like a narc!!!!!
@@sunkintree he is sooooo trying to smooth this over and trying to get these cops to go away and seem likable. Even the way he declines the water, asks for shade. It’s all part of a narc dance. I love how Brian says “I hope she is saying nice things about me” he is VERY worried about what she is saying when he can’t hear. Cops need training on dealing with narcs. Especially covert narcs. “Am I going to jail? “ after the cops say she may go to jail from attacking him..he asks this. He would not ask if he hadn’t laid hands on her too..he was feeling out what Gabby had told them.
15:54 "I hope she doesn't have too many complaints about me."
Truth in plain sight. Such a telling comment
No one interviewing asked her the most basic of questions, “Do you feel safe”.
THIS. this is what is heartbreaking.
Living in a van isn't safe. Ask homeless people. Not that anyone cares about the less attractive humans.
Implying she wasn’t feeling safe. She literally told the cops she wanted to be with him, she didn’t even want to separate from him.
@@tlightning8383 Well, duh.....she was miles from home living in a van out traveling. Safe from strangers yeah but ended up not being safe with her loved one.
I’ve been in this situation. Let me just say that if they had asked me that…. I’d have lied. Because to make that statement and to have them not protect me the consequence would have been FAR worse. I’d play his side out of fear of what he’d do if I didn’t. So many victims get shamed for not speaking out…. But when you’re IN IT?? You can’t rely on a “he said she said” interrogation. My abuser was SO smoothe. He could beat me one minute and then greet the neighbor laughing like life was the perfect. Look how they treated them both differently. He was calm and she was upset…. She was clearly affected and stressed….But he was calm collected, laughing even and they took him seriously. Not enough training goes into these types of assessments IMO. When I look at her I honestly see me. So 💔 heartbreaking. I hope her case sheds more light on victims of abuse and that they take situations like this more seriously. I could understand being pulled over for driving over the limit. But there were eye witnesses stating they saw the male hitting her in that parking lot…. I think if their training in these situations was better they’de have been able to see it for the situation it WAS. Or if they had been more aware of victims of abuse. Who knows for sure. My heart goes out to her and her family.
This should be a textbook example of how complicated these situations can be. So future officers can take it more seriously.
"he grabbed my face so I hit him."
Cop "well he said you hit him while he was driving." Well now she's a decomposed corpse in a morgue so will you believe us now, officer?
She was burnt to a crisp and rotting in an earn now 😂
@@michaelalemansr.8565 Wow you're a true bastard for writing this.
@@michaelalemansr.8565 ashes don't rot, for the record you nit wit. Your comment was highly insensitive. Be a better person. Jeez!
Fitting end for someone named ‘Crabby Potato’
@@michaelalemansr.8565 Ur one evil person shake my head all I can say is karma one day something will get u
If I was her parents I would hate to see this footage knowing this took place before her death. Its a horrible way to see your child for the last time. I really pray that their hearts are healed and comforted in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen
They saw her after this, via facetime
@@lostmangos still one of her last moments..
Heartbreaking to say the least....
If I was her parent I would work on my marriage and keep family together and never let 22 years daughter go away with anyone. !!!!! Society is sick now. Partners, partners partners for sex, become the most important THING in life.
@@melianna999 we are all trying to fill that empty space within each of us, we chase our covetous wants believing Satan's lie it will bring us happiness.
Money, house, possessions, more sex partners, expensive cars - all the things we chase in the pursuit of happiness- trying to fill that empty space within each and every one of us....but even when we achieve those goals we still feel empty, maybe even more than before.
There is a GOD shaped hole in every heart of every one of us. Only GOD can fill that space and make us happy. Until man / women learn this lesson they will be too blind to change, too deaf to hear and too stubborn.
Amen! May Lord Jesus have mercy!❤️
If anyone is in an abusive relationship reading this here’s some words of advice. These men are like a ticking time bomb ready to go off. It’ll get worse and worse. You can't change them. Everything will always be your fault. They're famous for apologizing and saying I'll change. They don't change. They’ll stomp on your dreams, isolate yourself from your family and friends, put you down, show jealousy and lower your self esteem to the point that you don’t know who you are anymore. You’re in a dangerous situation; if you fight back physically in any way or verbally attack them they’ll snap and kill you. Don't provoke them any further. Please get out of this abusive situation. Make a getaway plan, move far away 3 or 4 hours if you can, get financial assistance, reach out to people for help, go to a woman’s shelter. Don’t look back and don’t go back.
Men get abused too there is such a thing and it does happen I’ve seen it
In this case, officially -- Gabby was supposed to be arrested for domestic abuse. The police favored her instead. She was the abuser.
@@goodtoGoNow1956 for sure. Gabby was a manipulative pain on the ass. "I push peoples buttons" she says. Brian should have left her, but he killed her like a dumbass.
@@LaurensSecretAdmirer I suspect he actually loved her. He was not a fully mature man.
3 Women are Killed by their Abusive Male Partners EVERY DAY. How can this happen? Well, it looks EXACTLY like the Gabby Petito story. This is not a video about a woman abusing a man. This is a video of a Woman being abused by Man - to the extent that she is Covering up and Lying to the police to protect him.
1. hes laughing, she's hyperventilating
2. hes joking around, shes trying to "not get him in trouble"
Right
Nothing new. Most girls can't detect evil man.
@@Richie_Nefarious yea that's really stupid
He’s got scratches on his body. Sounds like she’s being manipulative, so she doesn’t go to jail. She succeeded.
Exactly
Remember this when you see the “perfect lives” in all the RUclips, TicTok, Instagram videos.
True Fact.
So true!
Oooof, good point
Yeah man, their socials were a full 180 from this mess
Best comment. My wife always get's upset looking at the FB feeds of friends that are all doing such cool things. A photo captures a single second, and a video a couple of minutes. That's all. I always tell her that she sees pictures and has no ide what real issues those people are dealing with.
It's very odd he's smiling and chatty and she is literally in tears the whole way through. RIP Gabby.
Sure, but also hindsight is 20/20. People react to trauma and stress in very different ways. It could be that in another situation, the person smiling and laughing is actually the abused one and the one crying is the abuser. Psychology is weird.
Another psy op
Look up gematria effect news on youtube
I am sure surprised but their stories match 100%. She says she is OCD and has mental problems and was hitting him. He says she is violent sometimes and was striking him while driving. Since no one has any proof of what really happened a few days later you should stop calling person's of interest a murderer. Slander is against the law too. My niece is a psychological researcher with a PHD. She deals with this all time.
it's not odd. just obvious signs of abusive relationship and psychopath behaviour. the police just made friends with a killer. i hope they enjoyed.
As someone with OCD and mental problems, I’ve had this exact scenario play out with former boyfriends. Most of the fault did lie with me, because my issues made it impossible to give my partner the space he needed. I don’t think there’s anything from this that could have predicted a murder.
This is exactly my ex husband. So likeable and personable and me coming across as "crazy". Why these officers weren't trained to see those signs is absolutely disgusting. This was me and my abuser. I'm luckily I came out alive. She wasn't the "primary aggressor". He cleverly isn't in distress yet she is. It's insane the officers didn't pick up on this.
Brian was not a likable personality. No one liked him in school. He was overweight in middle school and sat home by himself. He lost weight in HS. Even the cops who stopped him made disparaging statements about him. That duck footed walk is from a person who sits and doesn't exercise.
That one cop who sided with Brian and accused Gaby of being the aggressor has blood on his hands.
@S.C.V. Gabby admitted to hitting Brian first with her own mouth at least twice. Brian made a deal with the police that if he as the victim would spend the night at a motel paid for by the women's shelter Gabby would not be charged with DV and she was free to drive away.
@S R If you don't see the gaslighting they put Gaby through, I can't help you. She's the murder victim here. Brian was clearly the main perpetrator.
@S.C.V. The police can only go on the evidence presented to them and Gabby admitted to hitting him first. Also she refused help and didn't want to be separated from Brian.
My heart breaks with thoughts that this camera footage is the last time gabby's parents had a chance to see her alive... but crying, stressed and broken 😥 that is just a nightmare for any parent
I feel the same deep sadness as a parent.
I wonder why he killed himself? Guilt because of killing Gabby or just fear of spending the rest of his life in prison or on death row? I'm thinking the latter...
She FaceTimed with her mother one last time few days after this. always think about that💔
@@malikal.3311 It’s a real shame that her mom never found out about the Moab incident at the time so she could bring her daughter home. May have avoided this tragedy.
@Sonic no he wasn’t, he killed HER
Awww that cop telling her , he may be bad for her soul. Because of her anxiety. This just breaks my heart!
Sadly he was bad for her soul poor thing so very sad..
Maybe do some volunteer work in her name
@@Horrorblonde xxx v
and then he sides with Brian and goes back and tells her she's the instigator
It's not the police officers fault. He did what he could do. She didn't show any signs of being hit. She didn't admit that she had been hit by Brian. Scared victims obviously don't do that. And they'd rather go to jail then admit that they've been beaten by their spouse or significant other. Brian was so good at using his court face that they thought it best to not put either them through the trauma of a court fine and the likes and gave them the option to separate for the evening. To me they obviously didn't and to me Brian killed her that evening and drove around until he found a good place to dump the body which was the Grand Tetons.
How I wish she could have gone home that day to her family. Rest in peace, Gabby.
Yeah, if the cops would've charged her, it would've saved her life
Is she dead?
I agree. I wish she went home that day and ended her trip. So sad.
@@MrNichium They found a body and it fits Gabbys description.
@@SoniaH1205 damn
it’s been almost a year since she passed. this beautiful girl deserved so much better❤️🕊
Is Brian Laundry still alive or is he dead too
@@LsavCrazy Yes he is dead, he killed himself shortly after Gabby was found deceased.
She played with a rattle snake
He deserved better too
@@briannamichelle2993 Before
When she said “he gets frustrated with me a lot” that’s abuse victim language for he yells a lot
YUP
Yes!
thank you for this spot-on observation
Poor baby. The worst thing about life is how many people have to sit in an abusive relationship and fear of getting out
Yea... that's him gaslighting her and then making her the blame for everything.
The saddest thing is that the last time her family saw her alive and talking, she is completely devastated and in tears.
We can come into the world crying sometimes we leave crying
@@krystaldenappi71 wtf kind of comment is that. Keep it moving
@@ourcorrectopinions6824 that’s not ver polite. You are obviously unstable and unable to analytically
her mom face timed days after that few times
@@SimplyTheBestCSGO Did she tell her family about this incident?
What bothers me is all the grinning and chuckles he's doing, being buddy buddy with the cops while gabby look so distress.
Been there
Right
They had a fight... Good luck if you're a guy and your anywhere near a crying white girl when the cops come by
@@CrosswaIk yes and then he killed her
It’s infuriating. His smug, cocky confidence and how the Utah cops played right into it. He boldly lied to their faces and they let him slide. Gaby deserved so much better.
Imagine being a victim and finally coming across someone who's supposed to help you (even though she didn't call the cops herself) only for them to blow you off and take the side of your abuser, all while calling you crazy and irrational. I can't imagine how alone she must have felt. I can't help but wonder if she felt she deserved to be treated the way she was. That breaks my heart. She probably felt like this was all her fault.
I have been in her shoes, she definitely at some points. Felt she deserved all of it.
It happens all the time. It happened to me. I had evidence and all and they sided with the abuser luckily I was strong enough to get away and have not look back but I am still hurt by this. They have to do better. I would not been alive and I depended on them. It is not a good feeling in this situation sooooo sad.
Very very low self esteem.
well he has marks all over him. She was irrational, emotional and admitted to being abusive. The cops did a great job and i rarely say that lol.
This exact thing happened to me the cops charged me with disorderly conduct even after I calmly explained my boyfriend had broken things in the house and was aggressive cops don’t care and I honestly relate to gabby I wish she was still here to tell her story
Police need to be trained in how to recognize signs of severe emotional abuse. This is what I saw immediately in the shorter version. It was obvious to me she was under severe emotional abuse. Some of the signs are intense apologizing, taking responsibility for the other person’s actions, etc.
I saw myself in her and that's how I knew she was in an abusive relationship with a narc and was not the abuser but a victim emotionally beaten down in non stop reactive abuse(look up the term, its a classic tactic of narcs), abusers NEVER admit to ANYONE, most especially cops, that they were at fault and they don't nervously over apoligize for everything on the spot
But what good does that do if the constitution protects both of them from being detained by the police? This is why Brian and his family were able to elude the police for so long because the cops have nothing to charge them with.
Men are not very emotional! They view women as very emotional! It’s hard for them to relate to it and often times they become very defensive! They react physically with dominance which only escalates a woman’s emotional distress & reactions!
What about the panicked crying that was really persistent
@@cynthiawoods883 yea the cop even asked her why are you crying. Like idk maybe she's crying because the situation is a lot worse than you know officer.
Imagine her parents watching this knowing she’s now missing. How horrific and scary. If the fiancé loves her he’d be doing anything to help
Well, he doesn’t love her if she’s clearly a spouse abuser from watching this.
He's not helping couse he probably killed her
Or is she’s such a basket case that she did something to herself to make him look guilty...he’d be wise to protect himself and seek legal council to ensure the truth comes out.
My heart goes out to the parents because the boyfriend it was not what they thought. The boyfriend was and is a selfish jerk
@@JFK-ir7yz exactly but he didn’t say anything about it ✋🏼 you only keep things to yourself when you’re hiding something
6:57 it’s stated he has wallet in his pocket.
7:14 says he has his ID in the van.
54:47 goes for wallet to take out driving license, when it’s clear he’s not in trouble.
Isn’t his driving license his ID? Says he doesn’t have a phone, but she asks the officer to remind him to charge his phone. Subtle manipulation. 🚩 Same as him messing with stuff & locking her out of her own van to wind her up. 🚩 So many unnecessary details added in to fog the issue 🚩 Overly friendly & apologetic to cops.
I don’t know if he harmed her (obviously I hope not), but he does not give me good vibes in general.
I’d be interested to see body cam from the other officers too
Officer asks “does she take medication” he responds “no she’s just crazy” 🚩
It’s sad that the police were so close to saving her and then he went all psycho just a little while later. Just goes to show how unpredictable people like Brian are.
She was the aggressor 10:05
She was ruled to be the aggressor and the abuser.
Abusers like Brian are actually very predictable in their actions with a victim - the problem is the police choose the wrong people to be perpetrator /victim
Both their behaviour is so text book DA.
He appears calm and collected whereas she is in bits - this is how abusers work!
It happens so many times
@@suescourfield7902 You do not know what you are talking about. She was the abuser. This was confirmed by a separate, independent, outside auditor who reviewed ALL Of the evidence and determined that the cops FAILED in their duty because they should have ARRESTED GABBY and charged her with DOMESTIC ABUSE.
It does seem like she was the one being physical and abusive based on the evidence. Whilst this never excuses what the boyfriend did, it may explain a reason why he would eventually flip and murder his own fiance. You can see on the video he is full of cuts yet she has no signs of physical aggression on her. Had it been the other way round, reaction would be so different.
The first thing he asked to the cop was: “did you spoke to Gabby?” He was afraid right there that she might have tell the cops how he truly was
Neither you or anyone else commenting knows how he truly was.
@@teekay1785 We know that he came home with her van without her and wouldn't even report her missing or talk to her parents!! Doesn't take much to put two and two together!! Red flag Plus, the 911 caller stated that Brian was slapping Gabby!!
That was my thought.. what if the face injuries were from him assaulting her the day before, threatened her (and her family) heavily as they were pulling over to stop for the police..
I wish she would have token the van and left his ass in the desert
It's fake people jeez
“did you talk to gabby?” after he literally watched her talk to gabby… idk i feel like in that moment Brian was questioning if he talked to Gabby about something SPECIFIC
Yep. It also struck me when he beams with delight when cop says he is the victim. Like I got an ace in my hand now!!,
that's exactly what I thought, I would of arrested his ass period! this video is sickening, they failed her
nice , good catch def. on to something there, too bad the cop couldnt get it
He had scratch marks and that's why they really should have arrested her. They were both fighting and one of them didn't call, they were endangering people on the road fighting in a car and they both should've been taken in, honestly. The rest of the dynamic between their relationship isn't as important. What the scene showed was enough to warrant that because it was a domestic violence issue that was out of hand and they shouldn't have been able to leave together.
Everyone’s an internet detective now 🙄
Gabby told the police they had been fighting all morning, Brian told the police that they were fine all morning
Sounds about right for 75% of couples...
he claimed it was a 'squabble'/ disagreement 😔- thats not me saying the police were even listening too her
Bingo
@@200tdi1FAXX, as a man you never know if its a good day till she lets you know.😂
Exactly, that was an indicator that something was very wrong and something was going to happens ...
Watching this a year later is insane. It broke my heart then, but it almost breaks my heart more now. They almost had it right in the very beginning. She is so worked up to the point of nearly not being able to speak. She's overly apologetic, she makes excuses for him, she has *scratches* on her face, he locked her out of *her* van. Everything about it screams abuse.
@@evalilith6703 She and Him both said that she attacked him first. You can't blame the cops bcuz they are humans after all. What they hear is what they know. Its wasn't their job to assume that both of them were lying to them. And besides she technically did attack him even though it wasn't entirely true.
HE'S the one with scratches
@@DiddlyD-xx2ihoh boo hoo. A wittle boy has scratches from a girl. Big woop.
The ‘he doesn’t really believe that I can do any of it’ tells us a lot about the way he must have treated her and made her feel like she wasn’t capable. I hope she’s at peace now :(
One of the characteristic of narcissism is the excessive jealousy they feel toward others. Narcissist can't tolerate anyone else's good fortune. He is going to hate you for it. He always believed it should be him instead of you. Narcissists think your success might make them look BAD. They may retaliate by raging at you or demeaning you with nasty remarks.
@@karmela8371 poor girl, she deserved so much better
@@RunOnBarbaro I knowww! :( May she rest in peace.....
lmao damn I hope youre not that niave
I agree, he was too old for her& too skinny. Wish she would have let he police take her from him.
Not everything that glitters is gold. Idk why influencers get so much praise, they only show us what they want to show us.
Exactly! It's called editing!!!
The only thing they influence me to do is get a real job and save for my dreams. I don't envy losers.
So true.... 100% agree people buy into this "influencer" lifestyle BS
@@87clits yep, I was disatisfied with my life and I heard the call to "learn to code", now im 3 years into a computer engineering degree
I've seen this comment on every channel showing these 'influencers'
"...her little website..."
Some who loves you wouldn't try to diminish your success and dreams. If that's the way he talks about her in public, imagine the psychological abuse she heard in private. Textbook narcissist.
Absolutely. He also sounds like some sort of misogynist when he sarcastically said, “cute little blond blue eyed 22 year old”.
Narcissist
The mere fact that you already assume he's the perpetrator speaks volumes on how little insight you have with people
She also can be heard saying “he doesn’t believe I can do it.” He’s been psychologically abusing her, he stepped it up by hitting her, and he finally killed her. This is why domestic abuse, even the psychological kind, should always be taken seriously.
I was married to a narc for many years. I agree. He was jealous and controlling. He minimized her achievements. Nice in front of the camera and mean in private. All red flags for narcissism. I feel so sad for Gabby. We can imagine the hell she was going through.
Also looks like he was trying to isolate her from her friends and family. Stinks like a narc to me.
He locked her out of her vehicle. He admitted it. This video is so frustrating and disgusting to watch. And to know his last “note” about killing her is saying she asked for it and he did her a favour by killing her. Brain is so disgusting.
This is still so heartbreaking, this is the last thing her parents will see of her and I can't even imagine how bad that hurts to see your child so distraught and upset in some of her last moments
Omg true!
I'm breaking my heart watching this
To think he then went and killed her..just sickening
I hope all the Laundries suffer
They're going to be mad when the internet reveals that Moab Police tried to arrest her for successfully preventing a high speed chase. ''I told him to stop''- Gabby Petito 2021
This broke my heart 💔
Sad how the cop told her there's no reason for her to be crying (at 57:00). Don't ever say that because you don't know. If you don't understand, please ask why they might be crying and listen.
I don't know if you noticed that his hands were shaking and his manners showed that he was very distraught. He was keeping a good facade going. But his chattering and his stance clearly show that he was as upset as she was. He just carried it a different way. He was protective of her and he was worried about her. I just don't get it.
"She's just crazy" says the future murderer. RIP Gabby
:( RIP
omg did she died?! RIP.. :(
Also she said it. So there is that.
@@charicarrr yes. she was murdered. her fiancé (the bald man driving) is on the run bc i believe he murdered her. you can search the gabby petito case and listen to the case :|
@@charicarrr Her body was found in Sep 19! After come back alone to his parents house, he didn't answer the police questions and soon he ran away, but he killed himself! His body was found in Oct 21! Damned!!
His personality and body language is just like Chris Watts
He has more personality than watss
I was thinking the same thing
I said the same thing
Please be careful with what you say on youtube
I thought the same :-(
Watching this again years later, makes it feel like it was yesterday. That young lady deserved to live a long happy life. Gone way too soon 😢
She did she was so cute too
Praying that she's found alive. Praying for the heart broken family.
She wont be. It's pretty obvious that P.O.S harmed her, he's even refusing to talk to the police at the present time. It's a pity she lied for him here as she could have been brought to safety.
Ur weak, she's dead
She’s dead. That dude might as well tell it.
@@STHFGDBY Maybe it was a case of self defense gone wrong and he panicked and just went home to figure out what to do. She seemed to be quit aggressive.
@@markbaz lol you would call the police to get her then or something? You wouldn't just drive off and leave her in the desert. This comment is so silly.
He's smiling, laughing, and so respectful. This is disgusting. He said, I like to keep my phone because if she leaves me I'm screwed. This man is telling on himself the whole time. She knew she was going to be punished for this police stop. He murdered that girl. So sad!
My thoughts exactly!
He likes to keep his phone, yet he allegedly took hers. Now that`s a resourceful man.
Brian and the police bamboozled her. It is important to know your rights. He is expert at playing the victim and throwing her under the bus. She is not advised of his accusations and his professed fears. They make up the “victim” lord to protect her. By saying she pulled the wheel when he was accelerating and driving erratically! But they never consider she might be the victim lying. Or that it is abusive to lock a person out of her van and threaten to take off without her!
@Emerald Triangle Stereotypical. And not even valid.
@Emerald Triangle you really told her huh. I think her name says she might know you'd rear your ugly head.
First red flag, why did he try to lock her out of the car instead of leaving her with the car. As a young woman would you feel safe abandoned in the middle of nowhere without your car.
Yeah, the detail that he locked the van while holding the keys may be a red flag, especially if their phones were in the van. But it's not for safety reasons. Actually all that mattered may just be where her phone was. No one would stay in the van without keys at 4pm in the Utah summer. The Moonflower Coop is not in the middle of nowhere; there are cars and businesses in the vicinity. The tension seems to have been that he didn't like how much time she was spending on the phone...
I have to follow the evidence, But part of me keeps thinking he left her there and drove home. She got picked up by the wrong people hitchhiking... All she had to say to someone is that she is on a trip, lives far away..and he ex left her there.... PERFECT scenario for a murder/rapist to get away scott free while all the attention is on brian.
I honestly hope everyone is right and they catch brian... but if their not, You have to live with an increased fear that someone out there can kidnap your girl or daughter, Rape and kill them...and all the blame will automatically placed on you.
If they got into a final fight, he kicked her out of the van and just drove home... He gets back and hears shes been found dead... lets face it, the media and law enforcement will eat him alive even if he is completely innocent.
Hopefully we get more evidence and answers.
@@xecmai8100 I thought that too. But why didn't he alert the police that she's missing and help them with the investigation.
@@praussie311 That's a very good question, which paints a very bad picture for brian. But we have to keep in mind that sometimes situations can "break" people.
who really knows what happened in those last moments to today. We can only speculate and follow evidence.
I'm not trying to defend either side, I'm just one of those people who likes to pick at every detail, possibility and question everything. Even when evidence gives us answers and it feels like we are all 99.5% sure we got it figured out.. i question that too and come at it from the opposite angle.
Not because i want to be right, but because i want to find the truth...and sometimes that requires going against your gut feelings, the community and evidence. I get a lot of hate for it.. but really i want true justice just as much as everyone else.
@@xecmai8100 I do too. Maybe too much though. I’m also suspicious of the police officer who took her phone number and told her to take his. Didn’t tell a highly distraught woman where she can find a safe place to stay. Instead told her to go to a place where she can shower for $4. Sounds like a trucker’s stop to me. Meanwhile Brian gets the safe hotel. Even though she did say he hit her. Also complained to a total stranger, possibly a suspect, about his wife. This police didn’t show respect for women. Please everyone don’t send me hate messages. I simply found that policeman ‘s behavior odd. I highly respect policemen, but this was strange.
To any young person watching this, if you are going through this or anything similar, please do whatever it takes to walk away. Please. Ask for help. Please just do it. Do it afraid. Do it alone. Just do it. You can handle it. You have so much potential. Don’t let that just sit there and be only potential. Do what it takes. It might seem easier to take it and stay but it isn’t. Be strong and courageous and do not let anyone control or manipulate you. You are smart. Listen to your gut. Get away. You might think they love you and they would never really hurt you but if they even lay a finger on you or try to make you feel like it’s your fault, they have the potential to do much worse. Please get away. Please.
@Bread & Gravy Thank you for typing this up!
This is a tragic story and a Lesson Learned for everyone.
3 Women are Killed by their Male Partners EVERY DAY.
This happens more often then ANYBODY wants to admit - cause it's SO SCARY to imagine.
Gabby was so, so naive!
She couldn't imagine in a 100 years that her "beloved" fiance would EVER strangle her to death and dump her body in the forest.
She was protecting her fiance.
HUGE MISTAKE!
She should have told the police THE TRUTH.
@@xiola_skye u don’t understand .. u weren’t her so shut up
@Xiola Skye Gabby was the abuser and battered Brian was trying to get away from her.
I like how he gives her a lecture on anxiety. She must have felt so helpless.
I know, what is he, a phycologist too?
@@peppersander2457 Cop is an abuser himself. He was literally abusing Gabby by proxy here by lecturing her on anxiety.
@@athens31415 which second
Why did they come across the police like it' was gabby the. Abuser thee poice
@@athens31415 The Officer's words to this young woman were;
"...But to help you understand, we [ my ex-wife and I] would feed off each other’s anxiety and it would spiral, do you know what I mean? And it doesn’t matter how much I loved her, it may be bad for your soul. Just saying, I’m not telling you what to do with your life, but if you know you have anxiety... look at the situations you can get in."
Sounds like the Officer was trying tactfully to suggest to Petito that she and Laundrie - neither of whom he'd ever met before, and knew nothing about - were not well suited to each other.
If you'd been that Officer, what would you have done differently?
You know these officers feel terrible because they were probably the last people besides Brian to see and speak to Gabby
I know, I feel the same way, these officers probably feel devastated and confused. I wonder what they think about this case now. In their professional opinions.
@@PaulineRaabe_ Yup, Gabby's prolly getting rammed profusely as we speak, & theres nothing we can do about it.
@@johnfranks9389 what kind of comment is that? I suggest you rethink it.
@@johnfranks9389 wow what a sick comment.
@@that11gmc that was a terrible terrible thing for him to say 😐
DID ANY ONE notice how much he was laughing as she was crying the entire time. There is something wrong with him at this point.
Hes laughs because hes thinking these guys believe me....a fricken psycho
The police should have picked up on that . He was acting so relieved , showed no concern about her being distressed .
He was laughing because he’s heard her tantrums so many times it doesn’t phase him anymore.
@@cindymiller2748 tantrums? the girl just got slapped around! A tantrum to me is when you dont get your way....and you pout like a bad child screaming on the floor in a store. I hope you didn't mean that.
@@cindymiller2748 probably relieved to have 5 minutes without an unstable person all up in your face nagging all the time. I bet he felt extremely relieved!! And finally somone who understands what I been putting up with! She's crazy. Even I can see that. She needs chemical help.
this hurts my heart. she’s so scared and wants to say what’s really going on and can’t. she’s so overwhelmed and finally was able to speak to someone that was supposed to help her, she started ranting on why she was acting that way and almost seems to be searching for a place of peace. i wish i could hug her and tell her it’s okay.
He beat her endlessly, and then refused medical help and then stated that choking her to death was a merciful thing.
@user-ke9xd3hg7c If all of that happened then where were her injuries?
When I was in an abusive relationship, he would grab me by the wrists and shake me, pin me down etc.. anything that hurt but didn’t leave a lasting mark. When I defended myself it usually left scratches on him, and he would use these scratches to paint me as the abusive one when I was just trying to get away. Eventually I left because he told me his plan to murder me and get away with it. I have a horrible gut feeling that this fight was started by him and those scratches are her defence.
Would both of you separately pin the blame on you?
Sounds like victim blaming to me.
Yep...they become experts at it...
@@deltatango6793 Victims are often manipulated into truly believing they are responsible for the abuse, that they are abusive even when they are clearly trying to defend themselves, and do everything they can to hide the truth and protect the abuser
@@deltatango6793 Some women DO place the abuse on themselves. I shouldn’t have sad that to him because I knew it would upset him. I should of aggravated/annoyed him because he doesn’t like it. WT actual F are you even talking about? At the end of the day, HE MURDERED HER…
At 17:09 he says "She's just crazy" when asked if Gabby took any medication. In hindsight, a very telling answer.
I think the bearded officer was trying to empathize with the guy because he’s been in that situation before. He put his own situation into another couple’s situation. He was giving himself slack for what he had done to his ex calling his ex toxic but she is not in the room to defend herself or tell her side of how toxic he probably was, also.
And unfortunately because of that . . .there is a woman that is now dead.
A very narcissistic answer on his part.
And felicia here is SPOT ON. A lot of men officers included don't see themselves for the narcissist that they are themselves so it's easy to look past another one because they see some poor guy just like them victimized by his girlfriends crazy ways 🤬
Curious if she was left handed.
He says: "she says she's crazy"
This story is a great example that nothing is what it seems.
Bruh, I doesn't even seem that way anyways. If she was the abuser, why would she be crying and him be smiling and laughing? Even if he is scratched up, that was self-defense, most likely from trying to get him off of her.
@@MC-es7oe Because wemon tend to cry about everything and men don't. When my ex attacked me she would cry and I would have to just take it and I didn't cry. They get so upset that tears come out and sometimes it's sad tears and other times it's rage tears. "So mad I'm crying" is what some would say.
Yes true
@gioyu comi What did the officer do? I feel like I'm missing something. It's harsh to say but Gabby completely defended Brian
Why is no one in the comments talking about how Brian randomly shared that he did not have a phone then pulled one out and provided a valid phone number without a problem later in the conversation!? Gabby even told the officers to make sure that Brian took his phone charger with him. An unprovoked lie is such a red flag.
If he is just ashamed to say he left her somewhere out of anger, just say where. He is basically the last person who saw her.
Isn't he also missing?
@@marc7206 no where did you hear this
@@marc7206 no… he’s at home with his family and lawyer. Keep up 👏👏
@@marc7206 no he returned without her. He isn’t cooperating with authorities either.
It also could be that she walked away from him and he has no idea where she is the girl was definitely off her rocker probably should be on medication if she wasn't already. But he's very obviously listening to what his lawyer is telling him to do and that's to keep quiet for now and that's what you pay a lawyer for good advice.
Why didn't they ask for the vehicle registration to show this van is hers and he shouldn't be locking her out of it
@E.T. Ethics they obviously haven't been drinking dude. Its obvious.
Actually at this point since Brian had been living out of it for months with gabby so it could technically be called his residence as well.
Because its all staged.
@@goosebumps2555 why do you say that? Interesting
@@gretchencline5124 Van life video watch closely at what shes driving and where they,re are.
911 call is so staged the caller jumps ahead of his words.
Police stop makes zero sense at all .. that is not police protocol and they don't even look like real cop cars
Her face when she was crying 56:40. I feel so bad for her, for her parents having to watch this as their last memory of their child. It's horrible all around.
Same at 49:40.
Notice her upper right arm @56:56... you can see a red hand mark...
its heartbreaking
She was about to get charged mmmmm God Help Us All she is clearly stressed out how do you send her driving when you are stressed out you sit down try to relax she was still in tears and he gets the courtesy while she has to drive. Que Dios perdone todos sus pecados y la tenga en su Santa Gloria .ORANDO
She was held accountable for her actions. Equality ISNT selective you can not choose when and where you are equal to men
It just breaks my heart to see Gabby apologizing profusely and continuing to take the blame trying to take responsibility- this is a key indicator of mental and physical abuse and trauma. Every once in a while you can hear her let something slip, like admitting that Brian was accusing her of being worked up when she said she was perfectly calm. She shouldn’t have to apologize for trying to clean up her workspace. She shouldn’t have to take the blame for Brian’s driving, she shouldn’t have to have died thinking it was all her fault. It can truly be brainwashing to be in a relationship where you are constantly convinced that everything is your fault, and you can see just how traumatized Gabby was from that. Just looking at her body language, how tense and uncomfortable she looked. Clinging to your body like Gabby was doing at first is a very defensive position. Just shows how traumatic the situation was for her.
Watching this footage is eerie especially when you see the footage of Brian. Analyzing him now, he definitely gave off some red flags of being a potential DA suspect. For instance, the way he stepped out of the car and immediately began smiling, laughing, and talking rapidly and excessively. Ab*sers will often do this when trying to cover up their actions, similar to how a toddler will smile and laugh when being punished because they are trying to pretend they didn’t do anything wrong. Not only was he brainwashing Gabby into believing it was all her fault, he did the same for himself. Also, the way he is very quick to blame everything and everyone but himself. The excused and the reasoning he just kept spitting out was hard to watch, just knowing now that everything he said was probably BS. it’s a truly heartbreaking situation, and I feel so sorry for the officers who had to respond to their case. In the moment, they did not have the evidence or motive to take them into custody, the most they could really have done was potentially send in a welfare check later on and give Brian a speeding ticket. Looking back, I’m sure they have a lot of guilt that Gabby would not make it out of this situation alive and they were the only ones who really knew, in the moment, that something was wrong. My heart goes out to everyone gabby loved and everyone who loved Gabby, even over a year later I hope peace is with you knowing Gabby is in a better place ❤
This leaves a lot open to further interpretation. Bottom line is neither of these two were mentally sound to undertake this lengthy trip.
absolutely. he does not sound like a supportive boyfriend. she seems like she is a bit emotional.
Nothing, it clearly shows his motive to injure her or leave her.
Agreed, too young.
He was mentally sound. He was calm and collective. Answers all the questions clearly and thoughtfully. She was the basket case who assaulted him. What video did you watch?
He brow beats her. A form of manipulative control. Bring them up, and then, bring them down., On a steady roller coaster ride., All while he plays the victim. But finally she dumped him, and then he couldn't take the rejection, and killed her, probably in the middle of an intense fit of rage, in the middle of nowhere.
@9:08 where Gabby said, “he grabbed my face” speaks so much volumes. Her autopsy came as strangulation. This could have been the same thing but worst.
And that bearded misogynistic disgrace of a cop ignored her.
Yeah and he had scratches on both sides of his face. If someone were choking you, you would be grabbing and scratching with both hands. It's so clear. Him strangling her to her death wasn't the first time.
@@msburnz1109 if someone is strangling you should have marks on your neck
And she says he didn't hit me clarifying it a couple of times, like it's not bad to grab your face. Once a man puts his hands on you it can end bad
Of course, it's the same just that this time he lost it and killed her
He said "i hope she doesnt have too many complaints about me".....He was trying to find out what/how much she had said to the Cops...Damn!
Good catch! I missed that.
Just like he immediately started to defend himself for why he had been pushing her even though Gabby never said anything to the cop about it. He automatically assumed she ratted him out and went into defense mode.
Whenever I watch this video, knowing what we know now, I just want to break through the screen and give Gabby an encouraging hug, like, "It's okay, sweetie, you've done nothing wrong. You're just stuck in a bad situation."
Only in America can a whyyte woman confess to being a criminal and still be called a victim......
And take her with me
But she was the aggressor 10:06
@@emersonmanning6523 It's terrible the girl died but this vid is pretty clear it was a mutually abusive, very toxic relationship.
@@rlsweeneyjr1 And women who get r*ped were wearing clothes that were too revealing, right?
He seems so weird to me. He laughed way too much and made way too many jokes, like he wasn’t taking the whole situation seriously. Meanwhile she’s crying and blaming herself for things like being mean and having OCD. I hope she’s okay 😔
And she was terrified he would get madder.
She's borderline and he's a psychopath. You're welcome
Literally just like Chris watts interview he laughed and smiled ALOT when he was being interviewed . So so sad
She was blaming herself along with witness testimony and evidence on his face that he was trying not to make a big deal about. He definitely downplayed her abuse of him. Unfortunate situation but she was not innocent in this incident right here... she was the aggressor clearly.
@@ambrosia081989 EXACTLY’ right off the bat she was blaming herself , obviously the abuse was there and has been there for who knows how long
21:40 “the witness said he never saw him hit her.”
The 911 call is released and he literally tells dispatch that he saw Brian slapping Gabby in the face.
I don't see why more people are talking about this.
Really?? I didn't hear the 911 tape, I could've swore i heard witnesses say she was the aggressor??
@@luisvelez6707 I SAW THE WHOLE VIDEO. BRIAN WAS SLAPPING HER. WHY THE GUY CALLED IN THE DV HE WITNESSED .
@@edgelennox4035 link video link
@@luisvelez6707 there is a 911 call and you can clearly hear the caller saying HE was slapping Gabby and chasing her around.
The fact that Brian's parents lied to police and allowed Brian to run, pisses me off.
He probably killed himself already. My guess is that his remains are in the water.
@@Naama178
He's not going to even taste good to the fish.
when/how did they lie?
They should be charged as accessories. Make them do time. Teach them a lesson
@@Naama178 I'm not sure he's the type that would take his own life. I think he's on the run.
Signs it's time to exit the relationship... 2:40 feeling a need to apologize for the type of person you are. 3:30 your partner doesn't believe in you. 3:35 your partner is a downer and you fight a lot. 3:40 passive aggressive behaviors to get you to change. 3:52 your partner really stresses you out. viewing the same events in opposite ways such as 3:37 "fighting all morning" vs. 5:20 "we really had a nice morning". 6:06 "her grabbing the wheel" vs. 11:45 . 10:35 your partner gets frustrated with you a lot. 13:52 "lot of little things" making life stressful. etc...
I have a feeling that this is the reality behind most "perfect" Instagram lives. Shallow, desperate, angry, narcissistic, dysfunctional shells of who these people could have been in an age before social media.
Poignant
Perfectly written.
Exactly
And this is why I no longer have social media.
This is the retirement plan for all insta brain humans. Self destruction over nothing in a beautiful place bc the web page work and dirt in the van was super stressful
Is nobody gonna talk about how friendly the cops are in Utah? Wtf... even my friends aren’t that nice
Yes, i was wondering the same. Is that normal there? Specially the one with the webcam. He became uncomfortable personal with the shouwer suggestion. I dont know if is just me but i find it a bit odd
@@luzrodriguez4138 thats you... he is literally being friendly and helpful. nothing odd about it
@@luzrodriguez4138 nothing wrong with being friendly? Would you rather he be rude and abusive like some cops are?
They have to be, what' kinda info. Would they get if they we're assholes
Even the officer with the beard clearly explaining to the other officer what they have to do and why
What you’re seeing is reactive abuse. Keep in mind sociopaths are able to justify their behavior and keep a calm and collected demeanor in the face of authorities.
The law said she is the primary aggressor so she was charged. Most states she would have been physically arrested.
Yup!! A psychopath narcissistic
This reminds me of my ex husband.
So sad.
🙁
Oh, really doctor? Where is your degree from?
You nailed it. People without the proper education aren't able to identify what reactive abuse is. Narcissists are great at making their victims look like the perpetrator while they make themselves into the victim.
This is devastating and haunting to watch. It was so clear that he was abusing her. She did not get the help she desperately needed. To see how close she came to getting out is the most heartbreaking aspect of this. I'm so sorry for her and the brutality she suffered.
Are you aware that the police were investigated by an outside reviewer called in by the police chief?
Are you aware that the police were reprimanded for failing to do their correct duty?
Are you aware that they were told that they should have arrested someone and charged someone with the crime of abuse?
Are you aware that the person that they were told they should have arrested was Gabby and NOT Brian? She should have been charged with abuse because she was engaging in abuse.
No matter how clear you think it is that he is abusing her, objective highly educated reviewers say you are wrong.
It wasn't clear at all. You're only saying that with the benefit of hindsight. I really hope you never serve on a jury. It's so annoying the way women think only with emotion rather than with logic and reason.
@@Bubba__Sawyer What gives you the authority to define an entire gender?
@@gaila.9852 It's just my opinion sweetheart 😘
@@Bubba__Sawyer You wrote your “opinion” as a fact.
At 14:40 he states he doesn’t have a phone. If she left him, he’d be screwed. At 55:22 they ask for his phone number and he pulls a phone out of his side pocket.
Yea that’s something I noticed. Not sure how significant it is but definitely a little odd
@@chrish5096 not that it does any good now. But it proves he was willing to lie about something seemingly insignificant. He also said he didn’t take medication, but near the end, admitted he was prescribed meds and it sounded like he said he didn’t use them, which causes his own anxiety.
I think he was telling them a story...saying he disnt have a phone..like at that time of the incident....im not defending him....but i think he was just saying he had no phone ( at that time when they were argueing).
I also noticed how he said his wallet is in his pocket, but when they asked for ID he said it was in the car🤔 I just found it odd because usually ID is kept in your wallet.
@@X.Hamady.G Yup not that hard to figure out but some people like to paint a different picture.
Don't assume that there is no abuse in the relationship when the abuser is utilizing charisma 100.
Which she did by being a complete hypocrite
@@john_cockpit you’ll make a great father
@@lmnopgr I know. Cause they will learn how to be responsible and get help when needed. Instead of being a fool and let others carry their burden
@Emerald Triangle 😂🤣😂
@@john_cockpit Let's hope you never reproduce.
I feel like he told her what to say, since he almost repeated it word by word. This guy looks very manipulative, her reaction isn't normal, and his smiling at the cops looks like an attempt to gain trust and empathy from the policeman.
I agree I am wondering is this really her BF? Has the family said they know him? I have a feeling no one knows of him.
look at you playing detective
@@martieseudo3432 if this was true im sure someone woulda said something plus she posted a video on youtube of them to and she has pics of him on her insta
As a Black man, you should see me around police 😂
The cop was basically letting her know what he said ......SMH
This breaks my heart. I was in abusive relationship for 12 years and finally got out and never looked back! Breaks my heart her taking all the blame and shortly after is when he killed her! Sick POS! Coward them took his own life!
At least she owned up to being the initial physical aggressor 10:06
Glad and not glad....good riddance!! But also wanted him to rot in prison for life and be someones BITCH!! Sorry not sorry
4:45 notice how he asks "Did you talk to Gabriela?" I feel like he was nervous about what she had said that'll make him look bad. He was testing the waters on the officer's reaction. He probably asked in hopes of getting an answer of what Gabby might've said.
Exactly
That was so obvious, yet the officers allowed that to slide. Why?
A fair bit of brotherhood going on here, especially with the other two cops. The first cop was great.
@@kellyw8017 Mainly the fact that they aren't supposed to ask aimed questions to alert the possible aggressor that they are onto them. They want to get as much info without getting them heated
@@jenniferrubino3135 lol what?
14:40 Brian- “I don’t have a phone so if she walks off on me I’m on my own”
55:20 Brian* pulls phone out of his pocket.
Ummmmm
Those cops failed that girl. That should have been the only tip off from him they needed. Too blind. Too stupid to notice that blatant lie. And he lied so easily
Yeah I just noticed, cops probably didn’t notice because of all the talk
Do we know if Brian had a phone but it wasn't in service? So he meant he doesn't have a phone in terms of being to call from out in the middle of nowhere.
They could have found out.
I understand he killed her, but at this point he hadn't. So what exactly was he so nervous about? Can someone explain?
There was not a brain cell between any of those Police officers, he did not stop lying
"I've been building my website. He doesn't believe I can do any of it. He's like a downer." Locking her out the car, etc... Narcissist trying to keep his woman under his control and bash her self esteem?? Hope they find this creep! The cops there got it wrong in this case. I bet they feel terrible. :(
I get it so well. I finally escaped a relationship like this recently.
@Tee Bee She was located today?
How absolutely, horrible:(
@@dougbeatle1664 Yes. No 100% confirmation from coroner yet, but remains matched description enough that they informed her parents. She did have various identifiable tattoos, but authorities haven't said much yet.
Brian Laundrie is a complete Dirtbag. The cops handled this so wrong.
Unbelievable!!! Her face was full of scratches and HE is the victim...Good job officers👏 RIP, Gabby!😢
He had them too
She actually hit him first
They gaslighted her to death, basically. The main officer gave her no option than accept blame or be arrested AFTER independent witnesses had allready seen Brian hitting her on multiple occassions. The police knew this because he says it before he starts talking to Gaby. Yet it was more important to him to stand by his abusive, murderous bro than to save Gaby.
@M.E.D. It's called self-defense. He even hit her in public more than once that same day, and on previous occasions, according to witnesses who didn't know either of them. Stop blaming the murder victim.
@@FGC-ku4ez Well said. She was clearly terrified and for all we know her admission that she hit him first was a lie, because like many abused women she would have been frightened of consequences and also frightened that Brian might be arrested and separated from her too.
This is why when I see those videos of people so happy and like a perfect relationship, I don't believe it.
Right! Everyone has a problem. Not everything is perfect
Exactly, it's like they are overcompensating for something.
The world is a stage... and we are all on it
Ya you're just too smart
Welcome to the world of Instagram
Let me just take a moment to appreciate the fact that I'm single.
I know that’s right!!!
Lmao ditto
Same😆
I know. I have been here many times. But I’m fortunate and am still here.
Statistically, most relationships don't end in murder. But man when they do 💔💔💔
Omg these poor parents. Imagine the last time you see your kid, she’s in distress like this. So heartbreaking
Thats what I was thinking. So sad. And its everywhere, a constant reminder of how close she came to being saved.
It’s seriously sad. She’s really clearly not around the right people. She could flower as a person and change the world if she had the chance and right people around her.
It’s really really a shame he killed her. I wish she got away
Gabby called her mother from the backseat of the police cruiser. These statements are from the Petito v Moab lawsuit.
3. Gabby contacted her family to tell them that the couple had been fighting, that Brian had hit her, and that the police had been called. The family immediately responded by beginning to arrange
for Gabby to fly home and to have her van shipped home, to separate her from Brian.
98. Gabby then called her parents.
99. On that call, Gabby’s parents demanded that Gabby fly home to get away from Brian, offering to pay for her ride to Salt Lake City and her flight home. But upon learning that the police were involved, Gabby’s parents accepted Gabby’s assurances that she should continue her trip. Gabby’s parents relied to their detriment on the police officers involved to evaluate the situation and intervene as necessary to protect Gabby. But for the officers’ failure to investigate and follow Utah law, Gabby’s parents would have intervened to end the trip and bring Gabby home.
11:11 that officer spoke up without realizing how crucial & ominous his statement was going to become!! Poor Gabby, she didn’t realize how much she would impact the world but Brian was never going to let that happen!! His selfishness and insecurities would have never shared her beautiful spirit in fear of her getting attention from anyone but him!!
This poor girl probably died thinking this was all her fault and she deserved this. I've been close to there and my heart breaks for her.
She wasn't Wearing a Mask ...That's a Death Sentence unless you are an Elite .....
Is there anyway to bring her back to us?
@@hushmoney2058 wtf is wrong w u
Very sad 😔 😭💔
@@maamaas I can’t deal with this right now Maria….
When the cop said "I want you guys to stay away from eachother, for both of your guys sake." Almost like foreshadowing in a movie or book, gave me chills...
They say that during every domestic dispute case. Usually doesn't happen though. Even in my case I still stayed
The cop knew she was alone and followed up . The video suggests he is obsessed by her .
I would not be surprised at all if the cop was involved in Gabby's death.
Me too
@johnnybgood wow your theory really got me thinking, can you touch on it more please
👍that...sounded weird too cant trust the police neither no contact bullshit
The thing with narcissists, they know how to be around people and behave in a friendly manner to others outside of the abusive relationship, it is very hard to tell
Indeed
Facts!💯
Isn't a ability specific to narcism.
I keep hearing the song “ we have heard angels on high “ in my head head over and over that’s the song that was playing during my brothers funeral in 2017. I haven’t been the same since I lost my brother and I hope if there is a heaven that Gabby will find my brother John in heaven where there’s no longer suffering and pain only joy
I pray for her family that god will bring them comfort in this difficult time.
I agree, they just project themselves however they want to be perceived but it's a facade and it changes depending on who they are with.
The first thing he says to the officer when he goes back to the vehicle was "Did you already talk to Gabby?" Then he was giving them reasons for why he pushed her before they even asked. The officer even commented on his demeanor and then commiserated with him when he said it was because of the police lights. This whole situation probably emboldened him.
This is what Brian said when the officer walked to the driver's side window:
"I I I (just) don't want to defend myself here by saying anything but I pushed her away. She gets really worked up and when she does she swings and she had her cell phone in her hand so I was trying to push her away."
He said he was sorry he pushed her. This is the first thing Brian said to the officer who came to the driver's side window.
"I I I (just) don't want to defend myself here by saying anything but I pushed her away. She gets really worked up and when she does she swings and she had her cell phone in her hand so I was trying to push her away."
Did Gabby ever say she was sorry that she slugged and hit Brian in the face and head?
This is from the police records. Brian had the most injuries
"On Gabby, there was a mark pointed out on her left arm as well as a scratch on her left cheek. On Brian, injuries were pointed out by Park Ranger Ryan Kral near his right eye, left side of his neck, left side of his nose, center of his face, bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head, and a red mark near his right bicep/tricep area."
From Combined Statement and Investigative Report - Petito-Laundrie Incident -
Moab Utah Police Website