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@@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 I'm surprised she wasn't. It happened to me I spent the night in jail and it was one little scratch on my abusive ex boyfriend, but he was manipulative and a smooth talker AND I was pregnant!!!! 😡 So glad that chapter of my life is over I wish they could've just gotten away from each other 😔
@@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 matter of fact they treated both of them with a lot of slack. In any other case (them not being white) he would’ve been detained, and she would’ve been jailed. But instead they put her up in a hotel room?
Notice how Brian said things like “her little blog”, “she gets worked up”, “little things”. He belittled her, her passions, and her emotions. I have no doubt in my mind he was abusive to her.
if brian does turn out to be guilty, his parents need to be charged too. i don't care how much you love your son, you make them own up and take responsibility for their actions.
At this point there’s no “if”, he 100% did it. But I agree his parents need to be charged for sending police on a wild goose chase and withholding information
I remember my ex said to police “she’s hormonal” because I was pregnant at the time and he was super chatty and friendly to them. They just up and left, believed him. If someone’s crying and the other is being too nice… maybe just maybe think about it.
All you have to do is be a yt man talking to other yt men and nothing else matters. I’m sorry you had to deal with that…we live in a sad and very unfair world.
My ex husband abused me in many ways for years and he got away with it due to lack of evidence and "lack of witnesses". Like what in the heck? yeah like he's going to hit me in front of dinner guests. Sorry he didnt hit me in front of neighbours...jeez. The police took out an intrim DVO (domestic violence order) and the judge granted it for 6 months which after what he put me through is a slap on the wrist and insulting to me. He even got custody of my daughter (long story) Often when victims of abuse get blamed - it just adds to the trauma and makes us feel invalidated and insulted, they act like it never occurred. My therapist said, just because others believe him and not you, doesnt make it false. It DID happen, you know, your family and friends know the truth. His friends just believe his facade he puts on and its quite sad that people get fooled by these monsters everyday. I feel so horrible for other victims of dv. ❤ Stay strong guys. (i know this video and comment section is old now as its almost 2024 but i really hope everyone has a safe and happy new year)
That body camera footage is the most fundamental reason why America's police force need more training in psychology and communication. There were so many red flags about Brian.
@@WouldntULikeToKnow. Yes!! Its so disgusting! Maybe if police officers were required to have more schooling we would have more intelligent officers! I wouldn't be surprised if the officer self identified with Brian, because the red flags are SO obvious to anyone who's ever been with an abusive male partner! 😫
Facts! But just like the military, there should be specialists. They should all get the same training and preparation, but there should be specific officers who have mental health, youth experience, poc awareness and professionalism. It’s a sad truth, but this is America.
It's not even about knowing who is at fault. In only a few minutes they never should have been the ones to determine if either Gabby or Brian was the aggressor in the situation and they just decided that Gabby was at fault on a whim and started blaming her.
Yeah .. I want to know why they saw the marks on him when he returned without her, and didn't arrest him immediately. BIG RED FLAGS that they just let go..
& he said that when she was spiraling, he leaves her alone. ofc he's not really responsible for her mental health if it compromises his, but he made a choice (when proposing) to take care of her. he should WANT to help since he "loves" her. so many red flags 😞
He obviously threatened her and scared her, he seems like a manipulator, she was thinking it was her fault just coz she was feeling a little low, he couldn't have just given her a hug. Ahole
@@fabiennezerhat517 Correcy! Also, he’s not missing… he took flight! A fugitive- they just have not charged him yet. I’m sure they’re being very strategic when it pertains to this crazy person. He’s duped them from the get-go!
So, from the facts that they had at the time they had; a) a phone call that described HIM hitting HER b) him recklessly driving with Gabby sobbing in the passenger seat c) Gabby taking ALL the blame for EVERYTHING (that would've definitely been a red flag to me... she sounded like it had been hammered into her brain that everything is her fault and her fault only) d) Gabby crying the entire frickin time while Brian was so cool and collected almost like his girlfriend wasn't having a hard time... like he didn't seem concerned at all about her, and from all that, they thought that Gabby was the aggressor??? Huh?????
I know I'm not the only woman who can corroborate such exact things have happened to them.. where no one has believed us because we're "hysterical" and "emotional" 'drama queens" especially up when its our words against a man's words
I am a victim of DV. They completely rock your world. They make you believe that your never as good as them, your worthless, you can’t live without them. They beat you down mentally and emotionally, then physically. They make you seem crazy and unstable, while they seem well put together and sane. It’s total manipulation. They ruin your credibility and then when you are in a position to get help, your too scared. So sad. I went through the same thing but I was able to get out alive. They are so unpredictable, you literally cannot get a step ahead of them because they’ve already thought about it and have everything planned out. They are the master of their sick twisted games and the only way to make it stop is to RUN. I hate that this happened to her. She was such a beautiful person, full of life & love. You could just see the pain in her eyes.
i'm so angry they thought he was somehow the victim when the call clearly says that he was hitting her and she's the one who's distressed. I feel like the reaction of the officers could have changed the outcome
The fact that the police made it a whole “women abuse men too we have to treat it the same” thing while ignoring obvious signs of HIM abusing HER is disgusting.
I took a self defense class led by a Utah cop. He was explaining that it is protocol in a domestic dispute case for Utah police to take the person with the least amount of injuries to jail/be cited. EVEN if it’s in self defense. Which is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. The police officer leading the class said if a woman is ever in a position of defending herself and she ends up hurting the male, she is supposed to say, “I was afraid for my life, I used the force necessary to protect myself”.
They knew he hit her. They relayed the witness' statement to Brian when one of the officers got there. They released new body cam footage. So this exchange is even more infuriating.
Women do abuse men too, and police should treat it the same. However I don’t believe this is the case because: 1. Her hysterical state 2. Her downplaying the situation (“oh it’s nothing, it’s just personal issues, it was my fault”) 3. Um the flipping witness SEEING him SLAPPING her multiple times! Like what!
So much respect for the man who saw a domestic dispute and reported it. It's not easy to be able to tell when and if you should intervene, but he really did the right thing. Sadly, it didn't change the outcome.
Definitely sad it didn't change the outcome, but atleast it shows they had an altercation before she disappeared and hopefully helps solve the case. :(
It may help the case against him if he ever stands trial, though. Also it is proof he lied about not having a phone when he pulls it out at some point on the bodycam footage. Wasn't she talking to her mom on her own phone when the cop says to her, to paraphrase, "I'll leave you to your mom"
Sad part is even though it reported that he was slapping her on the face the police just believed him !! I hope those cops really take a good look at themselves!
We should really stop referring to Brian as "Missing". HE IS HIDING. People know where he is... (his parents). I talked to my mom and she said if I did something like this she would lock me in my room and call the cops. Child or not, its a crime.
the fact that she was flat out SOBBING and shaking and putting the blame on her self while he was calm and laughing and even belittling her “little vlog” and the fact that the man reported HE slapped HER just proves hes the abusive one
Bless the man who tried to help and actually called the police about possible domestic violence. Remember, it's better to make one call too many than one less. Unfortunately, no one takes such incidents seriously
Right ? And I keep thinking , how was she treated when she lived in his parents home the past 2 years ? That they have zero investment in someone who was to be a member of their family ? So sad for her
They know exactly what happened. When Gabby's parents called them, then surely they would have questioned Brian about it if he hadn't already told them
i'm praying they get charged with aiding and abetting or obstruction of justice, anything. they're the same as their killer son if they just knew everything and did nothing. it's sickening.
Seeing as Brian killed himself, I hope they realise now that it didn't do him any good. If they made him face up to his actions, he would probably be alive today.
Even if Brian didn’t kill her (probably did), it’s beyond suspicious (not to mention DISRESPECTFUL) that he just left her dead in the mountains and went home and his family are out camping like nothing’s happened.
Arrest warrant for Brian just issued….. for unauthorized use of a credit card….and, no. I’m not insinuating it’s Gabby’s card. I have no clue. Do not come for me.
it’s infuriating. if i showed up without my partner and with his car my parents would have so many questions. them hiring a lawyer immediately is so suspicious. i hope they find brian and justice is served
although it is inconvenient that he is not talking we have to remember that it is his right to choose not to talk. Hiring a lawyer and choosing to keep quiet is our constitutional right. so we can’t say it’s cruel that the family won’t speak it is probably on the advice of their lawyer that they don’t speak. i feel for the family and i hope justice is served but we can’t say that someone choosing not to speak is disturbing and cruel.
@@josephinedewalt3743 i understand i guess if they want us to believe brian didn’t hurt her he would be talking and would’ve spoken up immediately if an accident had happened but now that we know her death was a homicide it looks even worse
@@rosymoondreams true but everyone made their mind up that he is guilty second he came back without Gabby so i bet a million bucks no matter what he says it will be twisted and analyze so much that people will still be convinced that he is guilt. It is very hard to change public opinion after everyone has made up their mind.
Can we just stop and give Gabi's family some recognition here. They've come together and worked together despite being divorced. I love that they signed the letter to Brians parents together. This is what LOVE looks like ❤️
Her saying "He doesn't believe I can do any of it, he's just like a downer." Make me so sad. She's so upset and she keeps blaming herself. Breaks my heart.
As abusive I know the type and all the flags were there. It's his own insecurities because is obvious she's gorgeous, out of his league and already had 100,000 subscribers! How was she even BEGINNING to fail? NO way!
That's what sociopaths do. So glad I escaped mine it's such a slow process you Don't even know it's happening. My heart breaks for this family and Gabby herself. Such a beautiful bright light snuffed out by this monster. The police have blood on their hands 🙌
@@icyija He obviously did. Why else would he run away to a giant remote island before refusing to speak to authorities in fear of literally incriminating himself?
I can’t get over the fact that Gabby was described in the police report as “confused and emotional.” Emotional, yes. But “confused” is such a derogatory and victim-shaming description of her mental state. She is level-headed, very aware that she is hurting, and very aware that she does not feel safe with him. She communicated the day’s events to the officer clearly and without any “confusion.” She communicated with great emotion - which the officer should have understood included sadness and fear, based on her description and obvious demeanor. The police did not ask the right questions. They instead made unforgivable assumptions, and degraded her supposed mental state to a level of “confused” with absolutely no evidence. This is freakin’ gaslighting-level behavior on their part. Why didn’t they ask her, “do you feel safe with this man?” “When he locked you out of the vehicle, did he make you feel safe?” “When he grabbed your chin and caused you physical pain against your will, did he make you fee safe?” “Did he make you feel safe when he degraded your dreams?” “Do you think he might hurt you again?” “Are you certain he would not do this again?” “Do you have someone you feel comfortable sharing your fears with?” “Who can I call for you?” Gabby was “hurting and afraid.” Brian’s demeanor was consistently disconnected from the reality of his obviously heartbroken, sobbing girlfriend. He remained charming, cool and calculated. Why was his detached, manipulative behavior contrasted with hers not a red flag?? Why was she called “confused??”
I agree with Diamond. This comment should be pinned 📍 In my view the Petito case is the perfect illustration of narcissistic abuse victim combined to ‘daily sexism’… This is common internalized mysoginy always framing women either as exaggerating, ‘too emotional’, ‘ocd’.. ‘crazy’… etc. Revictimizing at its finest. Yes, some women ARE abusive or Narcs but here Gabby shows clearly she’s extra genuine. It’s also quite obvious she was impressionable. 22 y old… FFS. A kid.
They should have recognized the confusion as a result of gaslighting, crazy-making, and projecting. I can see such subtle blame-shifting and Laundrie even has the police convinced…
He definitely had a phone because he pulled it out. And gabby had HER phone because she was separated in the cop car calling her parents. And no where in the cam footage did they take a phone and hand it between Brian and gabby. So he 100% was lying when he said he didn’t have a phone.
And at the end of the video, when the cop asks her if she wants to say anything (goodbyes and stuff), SHE says to tell HIM not to forget his phone charger..... 🤨
What is strange is the police to call out that he literally had pulled his phone out of his pocket a few moments before. Then he said he didn’t have a phone 🤔. Watching it back I immediately caught that. And gabby had her phone in the police car calling his parents. So the phone he pulls out in the cam footage would have to be his phone. Plus now the fbi have stated they have BOTH of their phone data. So he clearly had a phone. Not to mention in her photo in the van with the terrain that doesn’t look like the arch’s she’s clearly taking a photo likely with her phone…and in front of her hunched over is Brian’s back and he’s either reading or likely on his phone.
I personally don’t think it was premeditated. I think he 100% murdered the newly wed couple while they were separated. Gabby found out or he told her. They fought and he killed her as well. His parents 100% know about it. I think they haven’t released cause of death yet because my personal thought is that it was gunshot and then would likely tie all 3 murders. The fact his family has now hired Casey Anthony’s attorney makes me even more suspicious that he is guilty of the 3 murders and not just Gabby.
What makes them so sure she wasn’t killed by whoever killed the newlyweds an he’s freaked out coz he knows he’s guna be blamed for it. I’m guessing they already have the person(s) who killed the newlyweds?? Why did they not question him pulling out his phone when he said he had it ? I mean that was bizarre af, I wondered if he’d taken her phone in a moment of crontrolling behaviour but she said tell him not to forget his charger 🔌
He ran everyone knows that. I believe there actually been a couple people who have spotted him where I live which is Canada. And if he's over here in Canada he will be found. Whether it be by the police or people taking this into there own hands and finding him that way. We all knows he's guilt and he fleed
@@christinajones6500 congrats you can read a dictionary 🤣 in this situation he is not a missing person. Gabby is. He is a murderer who fleed his country in hopes he wouldn't be caught. He didn't just "go missing" he knowingly ran away not telling anyone. Even if the definition matches still doesn't matter, also I believe they have updated it to a man hunt so he is definitely not just "missing". He is knowingly evading the police
I mean, let’s be honest… Gabby has the behavior of a narcissist’s victim. She’s blaming herself for everything while crying and having separation anxiety. And Brian has all the characteristics of a narcissist… While she’s crying and blaming herself, he’s smiling and laughing with the law enforcement, appearing friendly… That’s typically what narcissists do : they make you look crazy while they look angelic. They persuade you that you’re the problem but that you need them to survive. That you should be grateful that they’re staying with you. And if they really broke off the engagement and she said that she would move out or just that she would leave him, he could have lost it… But obviously for that last part we need to wait for the investigation because it’s only speculations
U just took the words rite outta my mouth ... And we all kno he aint missing either ..this man is on the run so is hiding from law enforcement , and in a gator infested swamp to boot ... If the law or the skeeters dont get him then the gators will.
@@ashtonjeep but that’s what he says. It’s not a fact, it’s just what he says. She took all the blame ! Everything on her… She’s supposed to be the aggressor, yet she was the one crying and defending him by taking all the blame, knowing perfectly that it could cause her some problems and she could be charged with assault. Now you’re projecting an opinion by saying he was acting friendly with law enforcement because he was nervous. You want facts ? She’s dead, his family isn’t cooperating with law enforcement and he has disappeared…
You are so right it makes me so angry to see comments calling Gabby the abuser. She is clearly the victim it breaks my heart to watch her on that video
I had a girlfriend who got charged with domestic violence as the aggressor after her boyfriend pushed her down and grabbed her by the throat. She scratched his arms and face trying to defend herself. Because her boyfriend had marks on him and she did not, she was arrested. The way domestics are treated by the police needs to change. Had Gabby been believed, had her body language and her demeanor been addressed, she would still be alive. Both Gabby and my friend were treated like criminals. It was completely avoidable.
My dad was sent to anger management classes and while he was there another guy told him how to hit my mom without leaving bruises. Cops who use the bro code instead of learning about domestic violence need to be fired
I have a friend who lived 17 years in an abusive relationship. He'd throw stuff at her, and purposely avoided hitting her face or arms. He didn't want to leave injuries in obvious places
Kendall, I am usually the silent watcher as in I don’t usually comment. But I just HAD to say that you are EXACTLY the person who should be covering true crime. You are so empathetic, genuine and caring. The way you are so careful to be thoughtful of the victims and their families in every video is so inspiring. I admire your passion for people and I love your videos
I completely agree! I am a silent supporter as well. I have been WAAAITING for Kendall to talk about this instead of going down a rabbit hole on social media!
I’ve watched a lot of videos on this case and hers is by far the best! I love how truly genuine she is about helping those in these cases. Plus she breaks everything down to easily understand. There’s been so much out there I’ve been confused on a lot of it, because people want to take the story and run with it. If something was a rumor or not proven true, Kendall doesn’t plant the questionable things in our head. Thankful for this queen always sharing facts👏🏼
It’s heartbreaking to see Gabby like this. She’s blaming herself to protect Brian, a likely sign of domestic abuse (I’m not an expert, but god you can hear the pain in her voice)
@@Dynamiteanddaisies The bots don't look at the content of the video.. they look at popularity.. and apparently a lot of people have clicked this video (duhh), so the bots automatically be coming.. no matter how inappropriate..
Just want to point out how Kendall covers ALL types of cases.. well known stories, low media attention stories, people/families from different socioeconomic backgrounds, different races/ethnicities, etc.. and that’s how you know she genuinely cares about each case and what she does. Especially with all the misleading media, it’s just very admirable to me. Thank you Kendall!!
A witness saw Brian hit her, she's clearly distraught the whole time, and yet the police still come to the conclusion that she was the aggressor. I don't understand. The police encounter and having to spend a night in a hotel probably set him off. I hope Brian is found ALIVE so he can face what he's done and Gabby's family can get answers and justice.
I feel like the second cop who came later and first started talking to Brian kind of made it worse, he's the one who started laughing and joking with brian before even realizing that gabby was in hysterics in the other cop car
I saw in one post that the police who pulled Brian over for speeding and erratic driving and proceeded to question Brian and Gabby were not informed at that time about the 911 call of witness reporting Brian slapping then hitting Gabby which happened just prior.
@@icantthinkofaname15 Yes, he should. It's pure negligence to not fill the officers in on a situation before they opproach it. That could've been so dangerous if one of them was unhinged when they pulled them over.
The emotion and sadness she’s holding back when the cop asks her “Did you intend to cause harm?” She replies no and said she just wanted him to stop and she really wants to break down but she holds it together.
I’m sorry, but one of the police sounds like they’re coaching him in their questioning of him “then she pushed you right?”. “the victim was him”. They failed her. What a world we live in. RIP Gabby.
The "authorities" never thoroughly assist the victims. In Ga, the Dekalb co. police seems to protect the offender. No type of real justice or protection for the victim.
On the other hand he also said ‘think very carefully before you reply’ when asking her if she intended on hurting him, then concluded with ‘well it doesn’t seem to me like she meant to hurt him’. He was clearly injured, they did not cite her for that. Yes, Gabby is a victim, this case is horrible, but they clearly needed to be separated at this time.
it’s actually because they called back the person who made the report and asked them first to confirm or deny what Brian was saying. the caller said that they could’ve seen brian push her away instead of him slapping her.
Him talking that much gave me Chris Watts vibes. Agreed with everyone else's comments here. It was abuse. She took the blame, when it wasn't her fault. She deserved so much better. We need better resources for those in situations of domestic abuse. It seemed much harder since they didn't have a set residence or location they were staying at either. :/ Something like this should not happen again.
Also I find it interesting that the male cops noted that it seemed like Gabby had separation anxiety from Brian but yet the female park ranger said that Gabby seemed anxious to get away from him.
His fiancé, someone he is supposed to love, goes missing. He hides, doesn't do anything to help the case, shows no empathy for her family, and then runs away. No need to say more...
He reminds me of Chris Watt's. His parents remind me of Watt's parents. And Chris and Brian both were at the Great Sand Dunes the 2nd week in July before killing their partner in August. So eerie.
What bothers me about this body cam footage is when the officer tells her how important it is that she answers this question carefully and she’s the only person who can answer it…. The look in her face is almost like she thought they were going to ask her straight up if Brian was abusing and hurting her and instead she was asked if she meant to cause him bodily harm. I just can’t get over that look on her face. She was terrified!
Exactly!!! Why didn't they ask about the initial caller who said he saw the male hitting the female!?!? Makes me soooo angry!! And people wonder why victims don't come forward. Victim blaming is what kept me silent for years in my own situation! The officers failed! All officers need to be trained in DV signs!
i had to call the cops on a male roommate in college. The cops took his lying word over mine and my friend's and told me i would go to jail if they ever had to come back. Cops dont protect women, they keep their boys club above all else. so sad :(
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you're out of the situation with that roommate and with someone/some people that you can feel safe around.
That’s the one good thing i think can come out of this. It really reveals the facade that influencers advertise but the reality is truly heartbreaking. It really makes me question most people i follow on social media
My friend is being abused by her girlfriend in her home and I wanted to report it but I didn’t no it was actually a thing u cud do also I would of had to consider if the police where homophobic and if that would put my friend in more danger. Police are so annoying that the way they badly react to cases
imagine if he didn't... we wouldn't have all this body cam evidence that make it seem that brian was abusive to her. even though gabby is not here, i hope that with this evidence she gets justice.
@@monikawachnik8425 no, im sure she wasn’t a pure angel, but that’s what i’m saying: there is no justification for what he did. also, so many professionals and people who have been in abusive relationship have seen the video and confirmed that there are many red flags in their behavior. i’m not gonna argue with you further but all i have to say right now is that i rather be on the side of the person who was murdered than who allegedly murdered her. but i guess only time will tell
The cops make me so furious. A woman is visibly distraught so they make an assumption that she must be suffering a mental break. They believe Brian in spite of the 911 call stating that he hit Gabby. They pin the whole issue on her and miss all the obvious signs she seems to be suffering in an abusive relationship. They were busier being bros with Brian than trying to make sure Gabby was okay.
They didn't assume she was having a mental break gabby herself said she had OCD and anxiety and was visibly distraught as well as they asked her more than once if he hit her and she denied it. In your expertise what would you have done?
@@user-uo4xs9dv7y Domestic abuse victims do all of those things + person who called the police said that the guy was slapping the girl and then also hit her. Why are you defending abusive murderer and clearly incompetent police officer who put his own personal life issues with his ex wife into the case? Plus his fiance was very very distraught and dude was chillin and laughing with police, thats not what loving person would be doing. Plus he had Gabbie's phone away from that, that is not normal.
Cops should NEVER, EVER have anything to do with this kind of cases if they are incapable of recognizing clear signs of emotional abuse. She was traumatized. Less cops empathizing with abusers and more educated, social workers in this situations.
The cop was not at fault here. If a victim of abuse is refusing to cooperate and come forward, there's really not a whole lot they can do. Not to place blame on gabby, however this cop went above and beyond to try to her story and would have gladly advocated for her.
needs to be more resources put into social work surrounding domestic abuse as opposed to the police. they truly do not have the training (and also in many cases just don’t have the care or compassion either) to know how to handle domestic violence cases. domestic abuse seems to run in my family, a lot of friends have experienced it too, and not ONCE have i seen police handle it properly. it’s sad
We now know from new body cam footage that the police knew Brian hit her, or atleast one officer did. He relayed the witness' statement to Brian when he got there.
@@aspirindamage5152 they split them up for the night. She went back. He killed her. Gabby was 22 years old. It's an extremely sad case but she was not a child.
he won't get charged with that probly. they'll argue he had her permission cuz they was together and he primarily drove. he killed her he needs put in jail for that!!
Yeah it would be hard to charge him with theft because they were together traveling and he would have had permission to use the van. They would need something more concrete.
That's what I said! How could they not arrest him for theft of her van? That would have at least kept him still for a few days and given them time to question him.
Technically if you have the keys to someone’s car it’s not considered stolen. It’s very stupid but the way they see it is if you have the keys you have permission. The only way they will consider it car theft is if they hot wired it or something along those lines, without the keys.
WHAT THE HELL?? That “very important question “ part is absolutely infuriating! This is terrifying to know that if any woman talks to police about domestic violence that they could twist it like this and completely ignore obvious signs of being the victim!
You could see the words "to make him stop hitting me" in her fucking eyes when he asks why she hit him how did they not see it not to mention he never explained the slapping that was reported he said he pushed her that is not the same thing why was the tip that sent them there in the first place completely ignored
That part broke my heart. You can see in her face that she is realizing the police are not going to help her. I know exactly how that feels and there are not the words to describe it.
If Brian was scared of her, if she was the aggressor, he would not be laughing and smiling a few minutes after them having an altercation. And he would most likely not be comfortable putting all the blame on her like he was doing if he found her to be a physical threat! Along with that the aggressors in DV cases usually aren't as quick to take on the blame as Gabby was. So frustrating how the policemen didn't put half an ounce of critical thought into this. The park ranger, Melissa, was the only one who acted with care and empathy.
Exactly, how did they not catch on to the fact that she actually literally looked scared and he was completely calm. If she was the one attacking him, why would he be so chill about it? I didn't like how that cop was trying to put words in both of their mouths or thoughts in their minds to go with his theory of the situation..
@@Gabriellaella23 Seriously. I get that they went with the person who had the most obvious wounds as being the victim, but they literally had confirmation from the 911 call that Brian had slapped Gabby. And her not wanting to tell them that she was hit should have been even more proof for the cops that she was not the abuser. They should know that it's a super common thing for victims to downplay the violence they've endured out of fear of, or protective feelings for their abusers.
I’m so grateful that gentleman called the cops. SO many people fail to report domestic violence because “it’s not my business”. This shows some insight on their relationship that social media doesn’t show 💔
@@KenzoAngel They couldn't have done anything really. Neither wanted to press charges and sadly since he was the one with injuries she most likely would have been arrested.
Imo Brian is a jealous condescending little prick. Gabby had 100k followers on Instagram right? It’s not that she was scratching the surface, she was a full blown artist, ready to grow out of his grip. He couldn’t deal with that, such a awful coward
im pretty sure she only had 1k followers at the time and that’s why brian was saying stuff like that. i think she just recently gained a lot of her followers because the case blew up.
The way he's explaining the fight makes no sense, he's clearly lying about it. They're probably self defense wounds, and how do you get scratched by a phone?
I know police aren't "investigators," but you'd think one of them would've have said, "No, wait a minute, sir. You just told us you don't have a phone, and your lady friend is on her phone in the car back there, and now here you are with a phone. Were you lying? Where'd this phone come from? Who's is it, if it is not yours?" Practiced liars know how to 'test' people by lying about insignificant things first, to see what they can get away with.
But he lied a lot to the cops. He told the cops he didn’t have a phone. Yet at the end gabby wanted the cop to remind Brian to get his phone charger out of the van.
@@Hawaiiansky11 I took it as he meant at the time he didn't have his phone on him (as it was in the van) so if she took off in the van and had her phone and his inside the van, he'd be stranded
It blows my mind how they called her the primary aggressor. Even if her story was partially true, the caller said he was punching her not vice versa. They weren’t informed about it or…police must do better to protect the victims they often just go with whatever the guy says
Those officers could only do their best with the information they had at the time. Hindsight is always 20/20. They had no way of know that she would have been the one who wound up dead. When they pulled them over, Brian was the one with the scratches and marks on his face and body, and Gabbie was the one saying it was all her own fault, while police also spoke to a witness that said it looked like she was the primary aggressor. Both Gabbie’s and Brian’s stories were relatively the same. What are they supposed to do or think in that situation. The officers even said in the body cam footage that they have to treat it the same as if it was a woman with the marks all over her face and body, superficial or not. They had no way of knowing what truly happened as the officers were not there, only Brian and Gabbie know what truly took place behind closed doors, so they have to try and piece things together the best they can. What we know now gives us a clearer picture of what was really going on in their relationship, but the officers didn’t have any of that information yet. There is no way they could have predicted this. After watching the full body cam footage, I actually felt the officers handled things as well as they could with what was presented to them, and they seemed like they genuinely cared and tried to do their best to mitigate the situation.
@@BhappyD My main criticism of the police is that in their discussion at the road side they don’t seem to mention the possibility of the scratches being as a result of self defence. The witness said they saw HIM slapping/hitting HER, but the police appear to forget that-at least in the footage presented here. I understand that they can only take their word for what happened, and I agree that we’ll never know the full story, but again, they don’t consider that Gabby may be lying to protect her abuser, which is incredibly common in situations of domestic abuse. They could have simply separated them without using “victim” and “primary aggressor” mentalities. Even with the info they had, it didn’t seem that clear cut. They also don’t seem to consider that the van was swerving because he was using one arm to do something to her, and her taking the blame because she’d been told to do that by him. Either directly or indirectly E.g. “Why do you make me hit you? I hit you because you make me angry. It’s your fault I hit you.” I’m sure this is just a result of poor training when it comes to domestic abuse and the way victims act in those relationships, but it doesn’t make it any less frustrating to watch. The fact Brian says he has no phone, pulls one out, and the police don’t notice/question that, suggests they weren’t completely on the ball here. The officers never seriously considered this a potential DA situation, just characterised the woman as having a “mental health crisis”. That is worrying for many. However, I don’t believe they could have necessarily done anything to stop the end result as you can’t force people to stay apart if they insist on being together, but I do hope going forward that these officers try to be more open minded. At least the female National Park Service ranger told Gabby her relationship with Brian had the markings of a toxic one. The other officers should take notes from her on that.
This is so sad. The police OBVIOUSLY ignored the fact that she was crying hysterically because she was AFRAID of him. They could have saved her life, but they didn't. I hope this haunts them forever. May you FOREVER REST IN PARADISE sweet angel.
His parents probably knew he hit her when she lived with them. I used to live with an exs parents who hit me and when I finally left him and reported him for DV they denied everything and painted me as the aggressor. Given he nearly killed me when I left it was very difficult to deny it, but they still tried. A lot of DV perpetuators parents can't believe their precious blossom are actually evil inside, given their parenting is partly to blame.
My first boyfriend punched me one night in front of his brother and a mutual friend and his brother brought him to the ground after . Neighbors called the cops and he went to jail for DV. When his father asked them what happened my boyfriend said he didn’t remember and the brother said he didn’t see anything. I couldn’t believe I was made out to be the bad guy .
Or they're in denial because the cycle of abuse began somewhere and it was probably from either witnesses it from them or suffering it from the hands of them.
Speaking from personal experience, when a narcissist has driven a partner to a breaking point, the narcissist will remain calm, cool and collected while the victim is a an utter mess and blaming themselves for not doing whatever was necessary to meet the narcissist's demands. The narcissist relishes being in control of the victim's mental destruction. Not saying that is definitely the case here, just that the difference in demeanor between them looks VERY familiar.
True They pick up on your instability to portray you as crazy Happened to me 18 with a Narcissist and I was truly finding myself holding onto dear life Luckily I received help and I am finally happy again
My mother did this to me over, and over, and over. I have been in therapy my entire life trying to heal from it. She did this to me even when she was dying of cancer. They are masters of their craft and almost always manage to maintain that control
This!!! I broke up with someone in March who I had this experience with, he made me feel like I was constantly overreacting and crazy and watching the body cam footage and seeing how Brian is acting is bringing up so many emotions i wasn't ready for. You put it into words perfectly
A lot of cops are misogynistic men who also abuse the women in their lives, so it's no surprise that they painted him out to be the victim - they likely saw themselves or their own colleagues in him. I hope they feel intense regret because they had the opportunity to save Gabby and didn't.
This happened with a former coworker of mine... he was always so calm in front of my manager despite being an absolutely disrespectful, manipulative, controlling, narcissistic piece of work.
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Doesn’t matter how many times I’ve watched this and learned of this , the police cam footage where they call gabby the “Aggressor” sends waves of anger through my whole body
That body cam footage is so disturbing. How can they call themselves cops and not even recognize the red flags of an emotional/physically abusive relationship?? She was so clearly in distress and he’s laughing, and they got that she was the aggressor from that?? SERIOUSLY?? Despite having eye witness accounts that HE was hitting HER? These are the people we’re supposed to trust with our safety? It’s infuriating. His parents are also infuriating and clearly covering for their son. I hope Brian is found alive and pays the consequences of his actions.
1- Brian murdered her. 2- His family reported him "missing" AFTER he was out of state. We all know it. Whether YT agrees with it or not. I belong to The Van Life. We are 99.99% what he did.
His parents definitely have something to do with his disappearance, even his neighbours had said the day before they reported him “missing” he saw them packing for a camping trip. They helped him escape.
@@thayilakshmi So.....anyone with money is automatically plicated in any alleged crime involving a family member? Wow, how does it feel to have zero logic?
@@thayilakshmi they could also be waiting for the cops to talk to them and have lawyers. RUclips and social media creates so many issues in cases like this now. So many rumors are made it makes it impossible to figure stuff out for the cops
“She was trying to start her own little website blog thing” 😒 if my husband spoke about my small business like that, I would be in tears too. I feel like that says a lot.
What's shameful is all the missing and/or dead indigenous women that aren't even reported! Stay safe, ladies Learn how to protect yourselves in any way shape or form. Rest in peace, Gabby 🏞️🕊️✨
she seemed absolutely precious and seeing that footage where she takes the blame for everything is absolutely heart breaking. I hope she receives the justice she deserves.
And now the parents say he went on a camping trip with him before hew went "missing" so I assume they are saying he's in spot A when the's in spot Z. Unreal.
Even if Brian was “the victim” during that incident, it doesn’t change the fact that he was in Gabby’s van, went home without her and lawyered up as soon as her family noticed her missing.
I imagine that he could have been “the victim” in that case. Let’s say there was an argument that kept escalating and she hit him. I can see that happening. We don’t know what was happening before to get to that state.
He wasn't the victim. He hit her and she was defending herself. He was abusing her. Brian was being manipulative. He called her crazy and laughed and said but I love her. He was trying to make her seem like the crazy one
@@ieashafaddis I agree. I don’t think he was the victim. That is why I used “””. Even if “he was” his actions demonstrate he is definitely involved in her disappearance and possibly her death.
@@agustinabacigalupo8224 very well put. This is what I wanted to say. If he kept gaslighting her, she might have hit him as she felt that there was no other way to get him stop talking.
Brian is so belittleling toward Gabbie "she's tryng to start her LITTLE website blog thing"... arrghh. He sounds jealous that she actually was more successful than him it seems
@Big Chungus the only thing you're trying to do is make a drama cause somebody is not agreeing with you, you're trying to persuade everybody that she was the victim and he was the aggressor while you're the aggressor yourself. My priorities are not fucked up, you are. Get some help.
I've watched a lot of your videos and the way you respect each victim is always so impactful to me. Thank you for helping to support those who have had tragic things change their lives.
From someone who was abused by a partner, if someone ever puts their hands on you, leave them. It isn’t worth it. You can’t count on people to change. It isn’t your responsibility to change their ways, you aren’t the cause of their anger. Keeping yourself safe is the most important. Whenever it’s safe for you and your loved ones, leave. You will find someone who treats you with the kindness you deserve.
Ok. As someone who experienced domestic violence, grabbing someone's face doesn't seem like self defense to me, Brian. She wasn't trying to bite you. What, did you not want her to scream too loud? Did you take her phone so that you could hold power over her? This guy is so sketchy and off.
@@tabithamartin9159 fr😂 like damn that’s a red flag if i’ve ever seen one. all about the environment and not caring about possessions (nothing wrong with either of those things BUT) then owning a mustang??? boi. he posts like he’s the type to have a composter in the back seat of his 2005 toyota prius but man really out here with a MUSTANG. bye.😭😂
@@cassattack oh, maybe. but on other articles i saw that his parents said they drove his car home when he didn’t come home from the hike. maybe she bought it, idk, but from what i saw it is his car and it would make sense that they took that car and only that car if it’s his but idk
Unfortunately the police see so many domestic disputes like this that they can’t physically separate all the victims from their abusers, it’s so heartbreaking and I’m sure the police who pulled them over that day are so gutted that had they just taken gabby home to her family she may still be here but it’s just not how it works unfortunately 😢
@@queenthiccums8689 ah yes. Even if he was being abused by her, leaving is the correct option. Not killing her. Your logic is flawed and muder is muder- abuse is abuse- nothing more than that.
Kendall, you just set a whole new standard with your coverage. Better than other youtubers, news reporters, etc. I've already watched a million videos about this story but I knew to check yours out anyway.
@Zane Normonta Stephanie is good! There are a lot of good ones, really. This is one area where youtube easily outdoes "professional" shows and coverage. I watch Kendall for facts and Dr. Grande for analysis! I stay educated.
We don’t know what he told his parents though?? Imagine their confusion with what he may have been telling them?? They have to live the rest of their life possibly knowing their son is/was a murder & they possibly & maybe inadvertently covered for him! I feel for them😢
@@PhotosynthesisBisector1 Thats my thoughts too... Who knows what he said to them.. I feel like if they knew everything from the jump they would have just let her van stay sitting there if they were trying to help him cover something up... No one wants to believe their son is capable of this, so 1. He probably lied to the 2. It would be hard to wrap your head around if you started suspecting your child of murder 3. They may have helped him leave before they knew exactly what happened. BUT!.... Now they absolutely need to speak up if they have anything that could help find him... If I were them, I'd be terrified that he has or will take his own life...
@@PhotosynthesisBisector1 no matter what he said your son come back without his gf but with her car and you don't think it's weird? If it's anything reasonable why not talk to the cops? They're all shitty human beings and deserve all the hate
I’ve read one article that Gabby’s bestfriend said he really was controlling and very jealous he wouldn’t even let them hang out and he takes her ID just so gabby and her bestfriend can’t spend time together.
Reckless driving can be a form of emotional abuse - it can be used as manipulation and a way to enforce control over the other person and the situation. It’s a potential fear tactic. I don’t like hearing how reckless he was being when driving while she was clearly in distress.
My heart stopped when I heard that...I've been through something similar many times with my ex..it truly can shock you and make you submissive only for him to stop ...it's scary. RIP Gaby
My mother is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath. When my siblings and I were young, she would drive the car and purposely speed and swerve and tell us she is going to crash the car and kill us. She did this too many times to count. It was a form of control for her
This dude just seems like an asshole through and through. Complaining about unsustainable packaging while abusing his fiancé and joking around with police while she’s breaking down in the next car over.
omg i laughed so hard when i heard Kendall call him a "minimalist" all the while with the ill eye roll, lol. so in other words, he's a bullshit artist! a mooch! as an attractive male myself, I'll never understand how beautiful women like Gabby date simps like Brian who mooch, have no real goals, who complain about others but never ever have real resolutions skills. seriously, boggles my mind. May she Rest In Peace, Gabby.
They didn’t report him “missing” till the very last possible second. Also, if I lived down there, I would also send them through terrible terrain in a very LARGE area to waste their time even more. Well. Not saying I would, cause I wouldn’t. But that’s what I think his parents thought. Look left cops, my son went right days ago. Hahaha. - Those terrible humans. I hope they go down with their awful child. Guaranteed Brian is at LEAST in Canada or Mexico.
The culture surrounding women always being seen as the “crazy” one in the relationship is so disrespectful. Brian played it off as yet another crazy female. It’s no wonder Gabbie was so upset and distraught in the situation because she probably felt that she wasn’t being taken seriously and was so frustrated, rightfully so.
If you watch the footage in its entirety, there was a great deal of confusion. Some people were actually saying the cops were on her side because she was a female. In the video, the officers say the witness accused her of hitting him and he said he pushed her away to defend himself. She admitted to hitting him and the reason was because she wanted him to stop telling her to calm down. In all honesty, the entire situation was messed up. I wish that confusion never happened in regards to the witness
The worst thing is that women help with that culture by dating married man with the excuse of “I am not the married one” or other stupid phrases like that.. there are cases of mistresses advising their lover to be abusive with their wife and kids.
@UCRC63Z4_Zup8VuAcGYZi83Q what the actual fuck are you on about? 1. What is the relevancy 2. That’s so fucking disrespectful to sit here and say it’s always women’s fault because of what other, small amount of women do. 3. Taking a very small percentage of cases to argue the fact over a case where this is completely irrelevant and just shows your complete and utter ignorance and stupidity. Get the fuck off and get a life.
And this is why defund the police was a thing. Could you imagine what a difference it would make if a therapist was on the scene with police to help read the room.
all of brian’s “self aware, woke” IG post seem like such BS imo. and the way he makes himself seem so above everyone else is ridiculous. there are people who truly do believe things like that but i have never once seen someone who really has those beliefs come off as condensing and egotistical as he does.
Brian seems like your typical "nice guy" acting all charming and friendly but he blamed Gabby for everything. His captions on his posts come across as someone who thinks he's above others too. I don't know, Gabby deserved so much better.
i think that behavior comes from coddling from his mother...like he was a mamas boy to the millionth power. his mother probably rules over the husband (Brian's father) too..at least that what it looks like to me
Y’all don’t even know what the “nice guy” term means. Nice guy isn’t a guy who seems nice. It’s a guy who will act very “nice” and then when you reject him he’ll turn on you and call you every name in the book.
Yeah I could see that in the body cam footage :( He was saying things all hesitantly like "Oh I mean I really don't wanna say she's crazy but I mean..." and then looking to and smiling at the cops like "Ya know what I mean ;)" I know he didn't say those words but that's the behavior :( I wish those cops had pressed her harder for the truth.
Absolutely! But sometimes they're very good at concealing it. But notice how he referred to her work as a 'little blog'; so dismissive! I tell my girls the best thing to look out for is what someone says vs what they do. If the 2 don't generally align, RUN!
@@jo-eo9ld I know someone whose SO is so critical of nearly everything about her, but always frames it as "just wanting to help her be the best that she can be - why is she upset to hear this all the time when it's for her own good??"
@@jmgajda8071 My ex would refer to my hobbies in the same manner and I didn't think anything of it until now. I didn't realize that was demeaning behavior. It's insane how insidious abuse can be :(
The officers should of taken her into protective custody. Gabby was petrified and seemed to be more concerned with ensuring he was not arrested. She lied for him. They should of also contacted her parents immediately. He got more angry and aggressive after the police left resulting in the demise of Gabby. His parents and sister is WELL AWARE what he did to Gabby. The police asked her leading questions and failed to properly identify how terrified she was. They seemed more concerned with ensuring Brian was okay. May her soul journey in peace. May her family be comforted and attain justice by any means necessary.
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You and Josh are the most generous genuine people doing this kind of stuff!
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Watching him giggle and joke with the cops while she is having a complete breakdown is so unsettling. That should have been a huge red flag.
She should have been arrested for assaulting him.
Right?! They’re really easy on him. Wtf.
he's trying to diffuse the situation and deflect from how serious it actually is
@@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 I'm surprised she wasn't.
It happened to me I spent the night in jail and it was one little scratch on my abusive ex boyfriend, but he was manipulative and a smooth talker AND I was pregnant!!!! 😡
So glad that chapter of my life is over I wish they could've just gotten away from each other 😔
@@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 matter of fact they treated both of them with a lot of slack. In any other case (them not being white) he would’ve been detained, and she would’ve been jailed. But instead they put her up in a hotel room?
Notice how Brian said things like “her little blog”, “she gets worked up”, “little things”. He belittled her, her passions, and her emotions. I have no doubt in my mind he was abusive to her.
He is gaslighting. Plain and simple.
She could have leave but she needed him for the van life influencer thing. She couldn't be without him.
@@outska3 you blaming her?
@@outska3 uhhhh no? there are tons of women doing the "van life" solo. she didn't need him at all.
@@outska3 as stated in my other comment, you must not understand how abusive relationships work.
if brian does turn out to be guilty, his parents need to be charged too. i don't care how much you love your son, you make them own up and take responsibility for their actions.
At this point there’s no “if”, he 100% did it. But I agree his parents need to be charged for sending police on a wild goose chase and withholding information
Agree. This is obstruction of justice.
literally! “withholding information” has got to be some kind of federal charge!
I think they should be facing charges of their own. So many gaps in their tales
hoping they get charged with fucking up an investigation into a murder
I remember my ex said to police “she’s hormonal” because I was pregnant at the time and he was super chatty and friendly to them. They just up and left, believed him. If someone’s crying and the other is being too nice… maybe just maybe think about it.
40% of police are self-reported domestic abusers. They don't give a flying f***.
All you have to do is be a yt man talking to other yt men and nothing else matters. I’m sorry you had to deal with that…we live in a sad and very unfair world.
@@Tricethelibra nah cops tend to believe the abuser because he’s calm and friendly. That’s all it takes
@@quirkyblackenby I can definitely see how that is the case I’m certain situations.
My ex husband abused me in many ways for years and he got away with it due to lack of evidence and "lack of witnesses". Like what in the heck? yeah like he's going to hit me in front of dinner guests. Sorry he didnt hit me in front of neighbours...jeez. The police took out an intrim DVO (domestic violence order) and the judge granted it for 6 months which after what he put me through is a slap on the wrist and insulting to me. He even got custody of my daughter (long story) Often when victims of abuse get blamed - it just adds to the trauma and makes us feel invalidated and insulted, they act like it never occurred. My therapist said, just because others believe him and not you, doesnt make it false. It DID happen, you know, your family and friends know the truth. His friends just believe his facade he puts on and its quite sad that people get fooled by these monsters everyday. I feel so horrible for other victims of dv. ❤ Stay strong guys. (i know this video and comment section is old now as its almost 2024 but i really hope everyone has a safe and happy new year)
That body camera footage is the most fundamental reason why America's police force need more training in psychology and communication. There were so many red flags about Brian.
Just the fact that he was laughing when she was so upset. GASLIGHT anyone
We need police that actually care about domestic abuse but we won't get that when 40% of police are *self reported* domestic abusers themselves.
@@WouldntULikeToKnow. Yes!! Its so disgusting! Maybe if police officers were required to have more schooling we would have more intelligent officers! I wouldn't be surprised if the officer self identified with Brian, because the red flags are SO obvious to anyone who's ever been with an abusive male partner! 😫
@@WouldntULikeToKnow. cops are always cheaters too 😭
Facts! But just like the military, there should be specialists. They should all get the same training and preparation, but there should be specific officers who have mental health, youth experience, poc awareness and professionalism. It’s a sad truth, but this is America.
The fact that those scratches on Brian's face are literal defense wounds that the officers don't even recognize as defense wounds is beyond me.
Ya cuz a phone won’t fucking scratch him if
It's not even about knowing who is at fault. In only a few minutes they never should have been the ones to determine if either Gabby or Brian was the aggressor in the situation and they just decided that Gabby was at fault on a whim and started blaming her.
US police is useless
As in you were there and you know that they are defence wounds and not attack wounds.
Yeah .. I want to know why they saw the marks on him when he returned without her, and didn't arrest him immediately. BIG RED FLAGS that they just let go..
The fact that she told the officers she was worried he would leave her stranded after their fight should've been telling enough...
Right? Leave her stranded and take her vehicle. He’s so clearly full of shit and she’s so clearly terrified of his retaliation.
& he said that when she was spiraling, he leaves her alone. ofc he's not really responsible for her mental health if it compromises his, but he made a choice (when proposing) to take care of her. he should WANT to help since he "loves" her. so many red flags 😞
Bad cops 101. So in a hurry to make the guy sound like a victim. Incompetent fools.
He obviously threatened her and scared her, he seems like a manipulator, she was thinking it was her fault just coz she was feeling a little low, he couldn't have just given her a hug. Ahole
@@fabiennezerhat517 Correcy! Also, he’s not missing… he took flight! A fugitive- they just have not charged him yet. I’m sure they’re being very strategic when it pertains to this crazy person. He’s duped them from the get-go!
So, from the facts that they had at the time they had;
a) a phone call that described HIM hitting HER
b) him recklessly driving with Gabby sobbing in the passenger seat
c) Gabby taking ALL the blame for EVERYTHING (that would've definitely been a red flag to me... she sounded like it had been hammered into her brain that everything is her fault and her fault only)
d) Gabby crying the entire frickin time while Brian was so cool and collected almost like his girlfriend wasn't having a hard time... like he didn't seem concerned at all about her,
and from all that, they thought that Gabby was the aggressor??? Huh?????
Such an EPIC fumble....I just can't even watch
@@sbg1911 I literally had to skip it. I mean, I've seen it enough already anyway, but I was like NOPE
cops have a 40% spousal abuse rate so it matches up
His body language SCREAMS liar
I know I'm not the only woman who can corroborate such exact things have happened to them.. where no one has believed us because we're "hysterical" and "emotional" 'drama queens" especially up when its our words against a man's words
The caller said HE was hitting her scratches are defense wounds and the way she was defending him…clearly a victim of a narcissist
I am a victim of DV. They completely rock your world. They make you believe that your never as good as them, your worthless, you can’t live without them. They beat you down mentally and emotionally, then physically. They make you seem crazy and unstable, while they seem well put together and sane. It’s total manipulation. They ruin your credibility and then when you are in a position to get help, your too scared. So sad. I went through the same thing but I was able to get out alive. They are so unpredictable, you literally cannot get a step ahead of them because they’ve already thought about it and have everything planned out. They are the master of their sick twisted games and the only way to make it stop is to RUN. I hate that this happened to her. She was such a beautiful person, full of life & love. You could just see the pain in her eyes.
Yes agreed
Maybe in this some case but not all the time are scratch marks defense wounds..
@@destineyward72
I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope you found happiness away from who did that to you.
i'm so angry they thought he was somehow the victim when the call clearly says that he was hitting her and she's the one who's distressed. I feel like the reaction of the officers could have changed the outcome
The fact that the police made it a whole “women abuse men too we have to treat it the same” thing while ignoring obvious signs of HIM abusing HER is disgusting.
I took a self defense class led by a Utah cop. He was explaining that it is protocol in a domestic dispute case for Utah police to take the person with the least amount of injuries to jail/be cited. EVEN if it’s in self defense. Which is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.
The police officer leading the class said if a woman is ever in a position of defending herself and she ends up hurting the male, she is supposed to say, “I was afraid for my life, I used the force necessary to protect myself”.
They knew he hit her. They relayed the witness' statement to Brian when one of the officers got there. They released new body cam footage. So this exchange is even more infuriating.
Women do abuse men too, and police should treat it the same. However I don’t believe this is the case because:
1. Her hysterical state
2. Her downplaying the situation (“oh it’s nothing, it’s just personal issues, it was my fault”)
3. Um the flipping witness SEEING him SLAPPING her multiple times! Like what!
Damn so I guess it is now impossible for women to abuse there spouses.
@@kingman8291 Who said that?
So much respect for the man who saw a domestic dispute and reported it. It's not easy to be able to tell when and if you should intervene, but he really did the right thing. Sadly, it didn't change the outcome.
Definitely sad it didn't change the outcome, but atleast it shows they had an altercation before she disappeared and hopefully helps solve the case. :(
It may help the case against him if he ever stands trial, though. Also it is proof he lied about not having a phone when he pulls it out at some point on the bodycam footage. Wasn't she talking to her mom on her own phone when the cop says to her, to paraphrase, "I'll leave you to your mom"
why do you keep lying about this? the 911 callers never reported Brian hitting the violent aggressive woman.
Sad part is even though it reported that he was slapping her on the face the police just believed him !! I hope those cops really take a good look at themselves!
Sad part is in California you don’t need a body !! More states might wanna go by this law !
We should really stop referring to Brian as "Missing". HE IS HIDING. People know where he is... (his parents). I talked to my mom and she said if I did something like this she would lock me in my room and call the cops. Child or not, its a crime.
Because he’s GUILTY and doesn’t want to go to JAIL
He’s dead now
I thought he killed himself?
@@annmarie6870 he did. When I posted this we didn't know where he was and he wasn't dead yey
@@emmushu4769 so this case isn't solved yet completely?
the fact that she was flat out SOBBING and shaking and putting the blame on her self while he was calm and laughing and even belittling her “little vlog” and the fact that the man reported HE slapped HER just proves hes the abusive one
It's the classic behavior of an abuse victim. At the beginning they always think it's their fault.
Exactly
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Nope…
@@lusher00 what do you mean nope?
Bless the man who tried to help and actually called the police about possible domestic violence. Remember, it's better to make one call too many than one less. Unfortunately, no one takes such incidents seriously
Agreed. I don't know if that phone call was actually followed through though. The van was stopped due to speeding and driving recklessly.
@@potatooolatke dang thats true ;3;;
" Unfortunately, no one takes such incidents seriously "
huh ? really ? " No one " takes it seriously ?
Imagine making that call too then finding out she was found murdered shortly after 😞 this whole case is just incredibly devastating…
His family’s silence is DEAFENING, definitely speaks volumes about their possible involvement and character.
Right ? And I keep thinking , how was she treated when she lived in his parents home the past 2 years ? That they have zero investment in someone who was to be a member of their family ?
So sad for her
They know exactly what happened. When Gabby's parents called them, then surely they would have questioned Brian about it if he hadn't already told them
True story!
i'm praying they get charged with aiding and abetting or obstruction of justice, anything.
they're the same as their killer son if they just knew everything and did nothing. it's sickening.
They definately knew and helped him cover it up and get away
Brian’s parents are so disgusting. They very clearly covered up for him every step of the way.
Seeing as Brian killed himself, I hope they realise now that it didn't do him any good. If they made him face up to his actions, he would probably be alive today.
yea, gross people to do that for their son.
Even if Brian didn’t kill her (probably did), it’s beyond suspicious (not to mention DISRESPECTFUL) that he just left her dead in the mountains and went home and his family are out camping like nothing’s happened.
He fucking killed her. Fuck this guy and giving him anymore benefit of doubt.
He definitely killed her. They ruled it a homicide.
It’s kinda weird too but this was gonna be his fiancé makes no sense to me.
THE DIRTBAG FUCKING KILLED HER, DAAAA
@@HelloTuuuurdz exactly!!!
Arrest warrant for Brian just issued….. for unauthorized use of a credit card….and, no. I’m not insinuating it’s Gabby’s card. I have no clue. Do not come for me.
What really?!
@@Karoo3450 gabbys credit card?!?!😱
@@Karoo3450 yes! They just wanted to get him on anything, so glad he was dumb enough to leave a money trail ✔️
Oh, I’m not sure if it was her card…
Do you have a link for it?? Did they say it was Gabbys? Holy crap
His family's silence is so disturbing and cruel.
it’s infuriating. if i showed up without my partner and with his car my parents would have so many questions. them hiring a lawyer immediately is so suspicious. i hope they find brian and justice is served
although it is inconvenient that he is not talking we have to remember that it is his right to choose not to talk. Hiring a lawyer and choosing to keep quiet is our constitutional right. so we can’t say it’s cruel that the family won’t speak it is probably on the advice of their lawyer that they don’t speak. i feel for the family and i hope justice is served but we can’t say that someone choosing not to speak is disturbing and cruel.
@@josephinedewalt3743 i understand i guess if they want us to believe brian didn’t hurt her he would be talking and would’ve spoken up
immediately if an accident had happened but now that we know her death was a homicide it looks even worse
My family would be dragging me by the ear to the police station even though I'm 48
@@rosymoondreams true but everyone made their mind up that he is guilty second he came back without Gabby so i bet a million bucks no matter what he says it will be twisted and analyze so much that people will still be convinced that he is guilt. It is very hard to change public opinion after everyone has made up their mind.
Can we just stop and give Gabi's family some recognition here. They've come together and worked together despite being divorced. I love that they signed the letter to Brians parents together. This is what LOVE looks like ❤️
Her saying "He doesn't believe I can do any of it, he's just like a downer." Make me so sad. She's so upset and she keeps blaming herself. Breaks my heart.
As abusive I know the type and all the flags were there.
It's his own insecurities because is obvious she's gorgeous, out of his league and already had 100,000 subscribers! How was she even BEGINNING to fail? NO way!
That's what sociopaths do. So glad I escaped mine it's such a slow process you Don't even know it's happening. My heart breaks for this family and Gabby herself. Such a beautiful bright light snuffed out by this monster. The police have blood on their hands 🙌
@@hhhope Exactly, it's jealousy
😭😭 it’s so abusive
@@shannongrimes9468 It's so horrific what happened to her, but I am so glad you were able to escape!
The AUDACITY to say “I hope she’s not saying anything bad about me” and laughs... speaks volume.
There were SO MANY red flags, wtf 😤
This right here, I'm rly concerned that he killed Gabby...
@@icyija pretty obvious he did. Hes hiding. No normal person runs away when their fiance died.
Yep. That was a huge red flag to me.
@@icyija He obviously did. Why else would he run away to a giant remote island before refusing to speak to authorities in fear of literally incriminating himself?
I wonder how the police officer who believed Gabby was the primary aggressor is feeling right now.
Well, most narcissists dont feel remorse. So i bet he's just fine with himself rn.
I hope they feel horrible they shouldn’t be able to live w themselves
Horrible. The one officer who called only one witness. He didn’t give her a fair shot, he just ran with it.
I bet he’s feeling horrible .
They could of saved her life, he should def get heat for this.
I can’t get over the fact that Gabby was described in the police report as “confused and emotional.” Emotional, yes. But “confused” is such a derogatory and victim-shaming description of her mental state. She is level-headed, very aware that she is hurting, and very aware that she does not feel safe with him. She communicated the day’s events to the officer clearly and without any “confusion.” She communicated with great emotion - which the officer should have understood included sadness and fear, based on her description and obvious demeanor. The police did not ask the right questions. They instead made unforgivable assumptions, and degraded her supposed mental state to a level of “confused” with absolutely no evidence. This is freakin’ gaslighting-level behavior on their part.
Why didn’t they ask her, “do you feel safe with this man?” “When he locked you out of the vehicle, did he make you feel safe?” “When he grabbed your chin and caused you physical pain against your will, did he make you fee safe?” “Did he make you feel safe when he degraded your dreams?” “Do you think he might hurt you again?” “Are you certain he would not do this again?” “Do you have someone you feel comfortable sharing your fears with?” “Who can I call for you?”
Gabby was “hurting and afraid.” Brian’s demeanor was consistently disconnected from the reality of his obviously heartbroken, sobbing girlfriend. He remained charming, cool and calculated. Why was his detached, manipulative behavior contrasted with hers not a red flag?? Why was she called “confused??”
One of the most accurate and heartbreaking comments I've ever read.
I agree with Diamond. This comment should be pinned 📍 In my view the Petito case is the perfect illustration of narcissistic abuse victim combined to ‘daily sexism’… This is common internalized mysoginy always framing women either as exaggerating, ‘too emotional’, ‘ocd’.. ‘crazy’… etc. Revictimizing at its finest. Yes, some women ARE abusive or Narcs but here Gabby shows clearly she’s extra genuine. It’s also quite obvious she was impressionable. 22 y old… FFS. A kid.
This...
Best comment
They should have recognized the confusion as a result of gaslighting, crazy-making, and projecting. I can see such subtle blame-shifting and Laundrie even has the police convinced…
I would have been relieved and taken advantage of this situation and asked the cops to take me home and warn him he would be undersurveillance.
He definitely had a phone because he pulled it out. And gabby had HER phone because she was separated in the cop car calling her parents. And no where in the cam footage did they take a phone and hand it between Brian and gabby. So he 100% was lying when he said he didn’t have a phone.
And at the end of the video, when the cop asks her if she wants to say anything (goodbyes and stuff), SHE says to tell HIM not to forget his phone charger..... 🤨
What is strange is the police to call out that he literally had pulled his phone out of his pocket a few moments before. Then he said he didn’t have a phone 🤔. Watching it back I immediately caught that. And gabby had her phone in the police car calling his parents. So the phone he pulls out in the cam footage would have to be his phone. Plus now the fbi have stated they have BOTH of their phone data. So he clearly had a phone. Not to mention in her photo in the van with the terrain that doesn’t look like the arch’s she’s clearly taking a photo likely with her phone…and in front of her hunched over is Brian’s back and he’s either reading or likely on his phone.
I personally don’t think it was premeditated. I think he 100% murdered the newly wed couple while they were separated. Gabby found out or he told her. They fought and he killed her as well. His parents 100% know about it. I think they haven’t released cause of death yet because my personal thought is that it was gunshot and then would likely tie all 3 murders. The fact his family has now hired Casey Anthony’s attorney makes me even more suspicious that he is guilty of the 3 murders and not just Gabby.
He probably meant he doesn't have a working phone maybe it only works on wifi and doesn't actually work? Idk
What makes them so sure she wasn’t killed by whoever killed the newlyweds an he’s freaked out coz he knows he’s guna be blamed for it. I’m guessing they already have the person(s) who killed the newlyweds??
Why did they not question him pulling out his phone when he said he had it ? I mean that was bizarre af, I wondered if he’d taken her phone in a moment of crontrolling behaviour but she said tell him not to forget his charger 🔌
I wish people would stop calling Brian "Missing", he's hiding.
but everyone knows he's hiding...
Definition of missing: not able to be found because it is not in its expected place.
So yeah. He’s technically missing because we can’t find him.
He ran everyone knows that. I believe there actually been a couple people who have spotted him where I live which is Canada. And if he's over here in Canada he will be found. Whether it be by the police or people taking this into there own hands and finding him that way. We all knows he's guilt and he fleed
@@christinajones6500 congrats you can read a dictionary 🤣 in this situation he is not a missing person. Gabby is. He is a murderer who fleed his country in hopes he wouldn't be caught. He didn't just "go missing" he knowingly ran away not telling anyone. Even if the definition matches still doesn't matter, also I believe they have updated it to a man hunt so he is definitely not just "missing". He is knowingly evading the police
I mean, let’s be honest… Gabby has the behavior of a narcissist’s victim. She’s blaming herself for everything while crying and having separation anxiety. And Brian has all the characteristics of a narcissist… While she’s crying and blaming herself, he’s smiling and laughing with the law enforcement, appearing friendly… That’s typically what narcissists do : they make you look crazy while they look angelic. They persuade you that you’re the problem but that you need them to survive. That you should be grateful that they’re staying with you. And if they really broke off the engagement and she said that she would move out or just that she would leave him, he could have lost it… But obviously for that last part we need to wait for the investigation because it’s only speculations
The fact that she is upset and he is as cool as a cucumber just … I mean
U just took the words rite outta my mouth ... And we all kno he aint missing either ..this man is on the run so is hiding from law enforcement , and in a gator infested swamp to boot ... If the law or the skeeters dont get him then the gators will.
@@ashtonjeep but she’s the one who’s dead. He clearly murdered her. If it were an accident or self defense he wouldn’t be on the run!
@@ashtonjeep but that’s what he says. It’s not a fact, it’s just what he says. She took all the blame ! Everything on her… She’s supposed to be the aggressor, yet she was the one crying and defending him by taking all the blame, knowing perfectly that it could cause her some problems and she could be charged with assault. Now you’re projecting an opinion by saying he was acting friendly with law enforcement because he was nervous. You want facts ? She’s dead, his family isn’t cooperating with law enforcement and he has disappeared…
You are so right it makes me so angry to see comments calling Gabby the abuser. She is clearly the victim it breaks my heart to watch her on that video
The officer calling Brian “the victim” MAKES MY BLOOD BOIL!!
I had a girlfriend who got charged with domestic violence as the aggressor after her boyfriend pushed her down and grabbed her by the throat. She scratched his arms and face trying to defend herself. Because her boyfriend had marks on him and she did not, she was arrested. The way domestics are treated by the police needs to change. Had Gabby been believed, had her body language and her demeanor been addressed, she would still be alive. Both Gabby and my friend were treated like criminals. It was completely avoidable.
Me too
My dad was sent to anger management classes and while he was there another guy told him how to hit my mom without leaving bruises. Cops who use the bro code instead of learning about domestic violence need to be fired
Me too!!
I have a friend who lived 17 years in an abusive relationship. He'd throw stuff at her, and purposely avoided hitting her face or arms.
He didn't want to leave injuries in obvious places
i KNOW this is true because i’ve seen it happen! they only go off marks! they don’t really care.
I honestly think his parents got him out of the country, put his car at the reserve, and then gave him a head start before reporting him missing.
@mbd he won’t kill himself. Narcissists don’t do that.
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Absolutely agree
FBI can check the flight database to see if he boarded a plane
I’m sure they checked into that already. They’d be able to see when and where he went if that was the case.
Kendall, I am usually the silent watcher as in I don’t usually comment. But I just HAD to say that you are EXACTLY the person who should be covering true crime. You are so empathetic, genuine and caring. The way you are so careful to be thoughtful of the victims and their families in every video is so inspiring. I admire your passion for people and I love your videos
Yup, i agree for that!
I agree, Kendall is amazing
I completely agree! I am a silent supporter as well. I have been WAAAITING for Kendall to talk about this instead of going down a rabbit hole on social media!
@@emm7412 Same!
I’ve watched a lot of videos on this case and hers is by far the best! I love how truly genuine she is about helping those in these cases. Plus she breaks everything down to easily understand. There’s been so much out there I’ve been confused on a lot of it, because people want to take the story and run with it. If something was a rumor or not proven true, Kendall doesn’t plant the questionable things in our head. Thankful for this queen always sharing facts👏🏼
It’s heartbreaking to see Gabby like this. She’s blaming herself to protect Brian, a likely sign of domestic abuse (I’m not an expert, but god you can hear the pain in her voice)
with all due respect... brian isn't missing, he's hiding on purpose, GABBY was missing, she is very missed 💕
His parents are hiding him. I think even the lawyer knows. Who goes camping with their child after his gf is missing
@@lilrararesales270 I agree and I hope they get charged for accessory for hiding a fugitive at the very least
@@lilrararesales270 the family just commented through their lawyer stating “may Gabbie Rest In Peace” 😑…. No heart
@NATASHA PIOSHI seriously? Of all videos to put bots on you chose this one?
@@Dynamiteanddaisies The bots don't look at the content of the video.. they look at popularity.. and apparently a lot of people have clicked this video (duhh), so the bots automatically be coming.. no matter how inappropriate..
Just want to point out how Kendall covers ALL types of cases.. well known stories, low media attention stories, people/families from different socioeconomic backgrounds, different races/ethnicities, etc.. and that’s how you know she genuinely cares about each case and what she does. Especially with all the misleading media, it’s just very admirable to me. Thank you Kendall!!
I agree 100%. She’s definitely rare and REAL🖤
I agree.
Well what’s your opinion on the video because she probably won’t see this
Kendall is the shittttttttttttt!!!! I LOVE her and Stephanie Harlowe. They’re both AMAZING! They should do collaborative work.
@R Wilson what were we misinformed about JJ? All of the facts stated in the video were 99% the same as all other media outlets.
A witness saw Brian hit her, she's clearly distraught the whole time, and yet the police still come to the conclusion that she was the aggressor. I don't understand. The police encounter and having to spend a night in a hotel probably set him off. I hope Brian is found ALIVE so he can face what he's done and Gabby's family can get answers and justice.
I feel like the second cop who came later and first started talking to Brian kind of made it worse, he's the one who started laughing and joking with brian before even realizing that gabby was in hysterics in the other cop car
I saw in one post that the police who pulled Brian over for speeding and erratic driving and proceeded to question Brian and Gabby were not informed at that time about the 911 call of witness reporting Brian slapping then hitting Gabby which happened just prior.
The 911 operator didn't tell the police that Brian was hitting her. That dude should be fired!!
@@icantthinkofaname15 I hope he thinks about his decision every day for the rest of his life.
@@icantthinkofaname15 Yes, he should. It's pure negligence to not fill the officers in on a situation before they opproach it. That could've been so dangerous if one of them was unhinged when they pulled them over.
The emotion and sadness she’s holding back when the cop asks her “Did you intend to cause harm?” She replies no and said she just wanted him to stop and she really wants to break down but she holds it together.
I’m sorry, but one of the police sounds like they’re coaching him in their questioning of him “then she pushed you right?”. “the victim was him”. They failed her. What a world we live in. RIP Gabby.
The "authorities" never thoroughly assist the victims. In Ga, the Dekalb co. police seems to protect the offender. No type of real justice or protection for the victim.
On the other hand he also said ‘think very carefully before you reply’ when asking her if she intended on hurting him, then concluded with ‘well it doesn’t seem to me like she meant to hurt him’. He was clearly injured, they did not cite her for that. Yes, Gabby is a victim, this case is horrible, but they clearly needed to be separated at this time.
it’s actually because they called back the person who made the report and asked them first to confirm or deny what Brian was saying. the caller said that they could’ve seen brian push her away instead of him slapping her.
Right?! Best buds relating!
Yeah that was a leading question
Him talking that much gave me Chris Watts vibes. Agreed with everyone else's comments here. It was abuse. She took the blame, when it wasn't her fault. She deserved so much better. We need better resources for those in situations of domestic abuse. It seemed much harder since they didn't have a set residence or location they were staying at either. :/ Something like this should not happen again.
I agree. Him and his parents remind me of the Watts very much.
Because this story and the Chris Watts story are completely made up. These people are actors.
Yes I said the same thing!
@@jamiepippin3892 huh
@@johannagravette6477 oh, there's an entire group of people the believe this and the Watts case are psyops...
Also I find it interesting that the male cops noted that it seemed like Gabby had separation anxiety from Brian but yet the female park ranger said that Gabby seemed anxious to get away from him.
I think people see what they want to see, which is a shame as in this case, getting her away from him would have saved her life.
Women feel it and notice it more I think!
As someone with OCD and an ex that was a gaslighter, this is terrifying.
His fiancé, someone he is supposed to love, goes missing. He hides, doesn't do anything to help the case, shows no empathy for her family, and then runs away. No need to say more...
Screams guilty
Just like that casey anthony case. However apparently that means nothing. Bc that women is free. So sad.
@@abcc9762 allegedly Brian’s family have hired the same lawyer who defended Anthony in her case. 😐
They did hire him!! Jose bies is his name n hes good at getting guilty ppl off the hook
Jail for him
He reminds me of Chris Watt's. His parents remind me of Watt's parents. And Chris and Brian both were at the Great Sand Dunes the 2nd week in July before killing their partner in August. So eerie.
I was thinking about that too!
Yikes 😳
Creepy.
History repeats sadly
There are way too many coincidences. Clearly he was a superfan to serial killers.
What bothers me about this body cam footage is when the officer tells her how important it is that she answers this question carefully and she’s the only person who can answer it…. The look in her face is almost like she thought they were going to ask her straight up if Brian was abusing and hurting her and instead she was asked if she meant to cause him bodily harm. I just can’t get over that look on her face. She was terrified!
Exactly!!! Why didn't they ask about the initial caller who said he saw the male hitting the female!?!? Makes me soooo angry!! And people wonder why victims don't come forward. Victim blaming is what kept me silent for years in my own situation! The officers failed! All officers need to be trained in DV signs!
@@JoyToTheWorld70 yes me too. it took me bout a year to actually stay anything bc i was hella scared. thank god we got away!
rest in peace gabby
The part when the officers were talking and one said "well if someone happens we'll hear about it". Well you are hearing about it NOW
Yes!! This was 100% my feeling too!
And when they told her she was the one to blame, imagine being abused and a police officer telling you it's your fault
i had to call the cops on a male roommate in college. The cops took his lying word over mine and my friend's and told me i would go to jail if they ever had to come back. Cops dont protect women, they keep their boys club above all else. so sad :(
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you're out of the situation with that roommate and with someone/some people that you can feel safe around.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're in a better situation now. If nothing else, the police system needs some major reform😔.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're in a better situation now. If nothing else, the police system needs some major reform😔.
This is exactly why I never envy couples online or on Instagram. All smiles on camera but you don’t know anything their relationship irl
This!! People post their highlight reels, but you really never know what goes on behind closed doors.
So much this!! It is all so fake.
That’s the one good thing i think can come out of this. It really reveals the facade that influencers advertise but the reality is truly heartbreaking. It really makes me question most people i follow on social media
Well done to the guy Christopher who reported the incident outside Coop. I salute you for doing the right thing and not turning a blind eye.
My friend is being abused by her girlfriend in her home and I wanted to report it but I didn’t no it was actually a thing u cud do also I would of had to consider if the police where homophobic and if that would put my friend in more danger. Police are so annoying that the way they badly react to cases
imagine if he didn't... we wouldn't have all this body cam evidence that make it seem that brian was abusive to her. even though gabby is not here, i hope that with this evidence she gets justice.
@@monikawachnik8425 she was probably defending herself. even if she was the abuser it doesn’t justify him killing her (“allegedly”)
@@monikawachnik8425 no, im sure she wasn’t a pure angel, but that’s what i’m saying: there is no justification for what he did. also, so many professionals and people who have been in abusive relationship have seen the video and confirmed that there are many red flags in their behavior. i’m not gonna argue with you further but all i have to say right now is that i rather be on the side of the person who was murdered than who allegedly murdered her. but i guess only time will tell
Agreed! It's truly too bad she wasnt saved then
The cops make me so furious. A woman is visibly distraught so they make an assumption that she must be suffering a mental break. They believe Brian in spite of the 911 call stating that he hit Gabby. They pin the whole issue on her and miss all the obvious signs she seems to be suffering in an abusive relationship. They were busier being bros with Brian than trying to make sure Gabby was okay.
This was the comment that I was searching for. You summed it up perfectly.
They didn't assume she was having a mental break gabby herself said she had OCD and anxiety and was visibly distraught as well as they asked her more than once if he hit her and she denied it. In your expertise what would you have done?
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@@user-uo4xs9dv7y Domestic abuse victims do all of those things + person who called the police said that the guy was slapping the girl and then also hit her. Why are you defending abusive murderer and clearly incompetent police officer who put his own personal life issues with his ex wife into the case? Plus his fiance was very very distraught and dude was chillin and laughing with police, thats not what loving person would be doing. Plus he had Gabbie's phone away from that, that is not normal.
@@Holisticnursehealer did you tell the police he was abusing you?
The cop who is asking if she intended to hurt him is so patronizing and mockish it pissed me off just hearing how he spoke to her.
Cops should NEVER, EVER have anything to do with this kind of cases if they are incapable of recognizing clear signs of emotional abuse. She was traumatized. Less cops empathizing with abusers and more educated, social workers in this situations.
Sad but it’s probably because a lot of them are narcissists as well and treat their partner the same way
Agree 100%!!
She didn't stop crying she was traumatized and terrified
The cop was not at fault here. If a victim of abuse is refusing to cooperate and come forward, there's really not a whole lot they can do. Not to place blame on gabby, however this cop went above and beyond to try to her story and would have gladly advocated for her.
needs to be more resources put into social work surrounding domestic abuse as opposed to the police. they truly do not have the training (and also in many cases just don’t have the care or compassion either) to know how to handle domestic violence cases. domestic abuse seems to run in my family, a lot of friends have experienced it too, and not ONCE have i seen police handle it properly. it’s sad
Scratches like Brian’s are often defensive wounds... these cops should know this
We now know from new body cam footage that the police knew Brian hit her, or atleast one officer did. He relayed the witness' statement to Brian when he got there.
@@aspirindamage5152 they split them up for the night. She went back. He killed her. Gabby was 22 years old. It's an extremely sad case but she was not a child.
@@aspirindamage5152 easier said than done when you’re in an abusive relationship.
@@aspirindamage5152 ????? you're blaming the victim that just got murdered???
@@aspirindamage5152 wow. I suggest you take a course in psychology and come back to this case.
The van is registered in Gabby’s name not Brian’s so essentially he stole her van and took it across multiple states that alone is a Federal Crime!
That is so trueee
he won't get charged with that probly. they'll argue he had her permission cuz they was together and he primarily drove. he killed her he needs put in jail for that!!
Yeah it would be hard to charge him with theft because they were together traveling and he would have had permission to use the van. They would need something more concrete.
That's what I said! How could they not arrest him for theft of her van? That would have at least kept him still for a few days and given them time to question him.
Technically if you have the keys to someone’s car it’s not considered stolen. It’s very stupid but the way they see it is if you have the keys you have permission. The only way they will consider it car theft is if they hot wired it or something along those lines, without the keys.
WHAT THE HELL?? That “very important question “ part is absolutely infuriating! This is terrifying to know that if any woman talks to police about domestic violence that they could twist it like this and completely ignore obvious signs of being the victim!
I felt so proud of her when she answered strongly and without hesitation. Her fear was Brian; not whatever the law was going to do to her.
Very scary !
You could see the words "to make him stop hitting me" in her fucking eyes when he asks why she hit him how did they not see it not to mention he never explained the slapping that was reported he said he pushed her that is not the same thing why was the tip that sent them there in the first place completely ignored
That part broke my heart. You can see in her face that she is realizing the police are not going to help her. I know exactly how that feels and there are not the words to describe it.
If Brian was scared of her, if she was the aggressor, he would not be laughing and smiling a few minutes after them having an altercation. And he would most likely not be comfortable putting all the blame on her like he was doing if he found her to be a physical threat! Along with that the aggressors in DV cases usually aren't as quick to take on the blame as Gabby was. So frustrating how the policemen didn't put half an ounce of critical thought into this. The park ranger, Melissa, was the only one who acted with care and empathy.
Hats off to Melissa!
Exactly, how did they not catch on to the fact that she actually literally looked scared and he was completely calm. If she was the one attacking him, why would he be so chill about it? I didn't like how that cop was trying to put words in both of their mouths or thoughts in their minds to go with his theory of the situation..
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Seriously. I get that they went with the person who had the most obvious wounds as being the victim, but they literally had confirmation from the 911 call that Brian had slapped Gabby. And her not wanting to tell them that she was hit should have been even more proof for the cops that she was not the abuser. They should know that it's a super common thing for victims to downplay the violence they've endured out of fear of, or protective feelings for their abusers.
Well stated oggyboggy!
The officers were poorly trained or just didn't have critical thinking skills.
If Brian really was missing, his family would be pleading for help finding him. Considering their silence, Brian is clearly in hiding and not missing.
Very true.
Put them in room with her dad and stepdad im sure theyl begin talking!
I didn’t even think about that. That’s pretty telling in itself.
Obviously
That's a good point.
I’m so grateful that gentleman called the cops. SO many people fail to report domestic violence because “it’s not my business”. This shows some insight on their relationship that social media doesn’t show 💔
Yes but sadly the cops didn’t use that occasion to save Gabby 🥺
@@KenzoAngel They couldn't have done anything really. Neither wanted to press charges and sadly since he was the one with injuries she most likely would have been arrested.
@@MsKJackson831 As much as I hate to say this, but Gabby being arrested would've saved her life....
@@vivifruit holy shit you’re right 😢😭
And his report was perfectly executed (except for when he said it was a small van). He was calm, well-spoken, and provided helpful details.
Kendall there is a case that you should keep an eye on. It's the case of Christina Nance whose dead body was found in a police van on police property.
She usually has case request forms in her descriptions!
i submitted a case form for christana as soon as i saw your comment!! kendall's case requests are in her bio
when she was talking to the officer about her blog and she said “he doesn’t really believe I can do it” my heart broke into a million pieces 🥺
Yeah and Brian referred to it as her “little” blog. Clearly had no respect.
Dang this girl writing this is as orange as a umpa umpa da dee dum lol ooompa oompa the most orange person I’ve ever seen!
@@sassysandra245 Kinda rude, it's just sunlight, evening lighting..
Imo Brian is a jealous condescending little prick. Gabby had 100k followers on Instagram right? It’s not that she was scratching the surface, she was a full blown artist, ready to grow out of his grip. He couldn’t deal with that, such a awful coward
im pretty sure she only had 1k followers at the time and that’s why brian was saying stuff like that. i think she just recently gained a lot of her followers because the case blew up.
The way he's explaining the fight makes no sense, he's clearly lying about it. They're probably self defense wounds, and how do you get scratched by a phone?
I thought he said fence . But I'm not positive
@@chloeonfours That was an old wound from a ‘ WIRE ‘ on his hand ✋.
I know police aren't "investigators," but you'd think one of them would've have said, "No, wait a minute, sir. You just told us you don't have a phone, and your lady friend is on her phone in the car back there, and now here you are with a phone. Were you lying? Where'd this phone come from? Who's is it, if it is not yours?"
Practiced liars know how to 'test' people by lying about insignificant things first, to see what they can get away with.
But he lied a lot to the cops. He told the cops he didn’t have a phone. Yet at the end gabby wanted the cop to remind Brian to get his phone charger out of the van.
@@Hawaiiansky11 I took it as he meant at the time he didn't have his phone on him (as it was in the van) so if she took off in the van and had her phone and his inside the van, he'd be stranded
Yeah, well the "primary aggressor" is now deceased, Mr. Officer.
It blows my mind how they called her the primary aggressor. Even if her story was partially true, the caller said he was punching her not vice versa. They weren’t informed about it or…police must do better to protect the victims they often just go with whatever the guy says
Those officers could only do their best with the information they had at the time. Hindsight is always 20/20. They had no way of know that she would have been the one who wound up dead. When they pulled them over, Brian was the one with the scratches and marks on his face and body, and Gabbie was the one saying it was all her own fault, while police also spoke to a witness that said it looked like she was the primary aggressor. Both Gabbie’s and Brian’s stories were relatively the same. What are they supposed to do or think in that situation. The officers even said in the body cam footage that they have to treat it the same as if it was a woman with the marks all over her face and body, superficial or not. They had no way of knowing what truly happened as the officers were not there, only Brian and Gabbie know what truly took place behind closed doors, so they have to try and piece things together the best they can. What we know now gives us a clearer picture of what was really going on in their relationship, but the officers didn’t have any of that information yet. There is no way they could have predicted this. After watching the full body cam footage, I actually felt the officers handled things as well as they could with what was presented to them, and they seemed like they genuinely cared and tried to do their best to mitigate the situation.
please tell me these Policemen are now fired - please - just for the safety of women throughout the state
@@BhappyD Well said!
@@BhappyD My main criticism of the police is that in their discussion at the road side they don’t seem to mention the possibility of the scratches being as a result of self defence. The witness said they saw HIM slapping/hitting HER, but the police appear to forget that-at least in the footage presented here.
I understand that they can only take their word for what happened, and I agree that we’ll never know the full story, but again, they don’t consider that Gabby may be lying to protect her abuser, which is incredibly common in situations of domestic abuse. They could have simply separated them without using “victim” and “primary aggressor” mentalities. Even with the info they had, it didn’t seem that clear cut.
They also don’t seem to consider that the van was swerving because he was using one arm to do something to her, and her taking the blame because she’d been told to do that by him. Either directly or indirectly E.g. “Why do you make me hit you? I hit you because you make me angry. It’s your fault I hit you.”
I’m sure this is just a result of poor training when it comes to domestic abuse and the way victims act in those relationships, but it doesn’t make it any less frustrating to watch. The fact Brian says he has no phone, pulls one out, and the police don’t notice/question that, suggests they weren’t completely on the ball here.
The officers never seriously considered this a potential DA situation, just characterised the woman as having a “mental health crisis”. That is worrying for many.
However, I don’t believe they could have necessarily done anything to stop the end result as you can’t force people to stay apart if they insist on being together, but I do hope going forward that these officers try to be more open minded.
At least the female National Park Service ranger told Gabby her relationship with Brian had the markings of a toxic one. The other officers should take notes from her on that.
This is so sad. The police OBVIOUSLY ignored the fact that she was crying hysterically because she was AFRAID of him. They could have saved her life, but they didn't. I hope this haunts them forever.
May you FOREVER REST IN PARADISE sweet angel.
His parents probably knew he hit her when she lived with them. I used to live with an exs parents who hit me and when I finally left him and reported him for DV they denied everything and painted me as the aggressor. Given he nearly killed me when I left it was very difficult to deny it, but they still tried. A lot of DV perpetuators parents can't believe their precious blossom are actually evil inside, given their parenting is partly to blame.
Parents like that, IMO, cause their children to grow up to be abusive a-holes.
And a lot of times they are narcissistic or toxic themselves. It’s very common for abuse patterns to pass down through the generations.
Yes! I know females that have been in situations like that and the parents act as if nothing is going on
My first boyfriend punched me one night in front of his brother and a mutual friend and his brother brought him to the ground after . Neighbors called the cops and he went to jail for DV. When his father asked them what happened my boyfriend said he didn’t remember and the brother said he didn’t see anything. I couldn’t believe I was made out to be the bad guy .
Or they're in denial because the cycle of abuse began somewhere and it was probably from either witnesses it from them or suffering it from the hands of them.
I wonder what the cop that labeled her as the "primary aggressor" thinks now.
Probably wishes he could take back his assessment
Probably an abusing fuck himself since he takes a smiling idiots side over a hysterical woman..
Probably too stubborn to admit he was wrong. Probably will claim they were both the agressor.
Women can be the aggressors too. Wth
@@st.francisanddr.pepper1304 Yes, but not in this case. Only one's dead by homicide.
Speaking from personal experience, when a narcissist has driven a partner to a breaking point, the narcissist will remain calm, cool and collected while the victim is a an utter mess and blaming themselves for not doing whatever was necessary to meet the narcissist's demands. The narcissist relishes being in control of the victim's mental destruction. Not saying that is definitely the case here, just that the difference in demeanor between them looks VERY familiar.
Okay I just don’t wanna see how much it hurts lol
True
They pick up on your instability to portray you as crazy
Happened to me
18 with a Narcissist and I was truly finding myself holding onto dear life
Luckily I received help and I am finally happy again
My mother did this to me over, and over, and over. I have been in therapy my entire life trying to heal from it. She did this to me even when she was dying of cancer. They are masters of their craft and almost always manage to maintain that control
This!!! I broke up with someone in March who I had this experience with, he made me feel like I was constantly overreacting and crazy and watching the body cam footage and seeing how Brian is acting is bringing up so many emotions i wasn't ready for. You put it into words perfectly
Absolutely. I wish officers were required to take more psychology courses…
A lot of cops are misogynistic men who also abuse the women in their lives, so it's no surprise that they painted him out to be the victim - they likely saw themselves or their own colleagues in him. I hope they feel intense regret because they had the opportunity to save Gabby and didn't.
I feel the same way.
The way that he stays so calm with the police and tries to make it look like she’s crazy reminds me so much of Chris Watts.
it's disturbing how he's laughing and being relaxed while Gabby's clearly almost hysterical
This happened with a former coworker of mine... he was always so calm in front of my manager despite being an absolutely disrespectful, manipulative, controlling, narcissistic piece of work.
Same!!
@@loglady33 he could have threatened her. Makes sense
@@loglady33 This is usually the case with abusers. So sad.
The way he's smiling and charming with the officers screams narcissist to me
Massive Chris Watts vibes
It drove my PTSD from my past “Brian” insane. That smirk… ughhhh
I was thinking that too
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So sweet
Yes, she is amazing
Doesn’t matter how many times I’ve watched this and learned of this , the police cam footage where they call gabby the “Aggressor” sends waves of anger through my whole body
@@GibboFrank what are you saying to me
@@GibboFrank Rihanna is better
@@GibboFrank I thought Floyd maywhethering austin was the king
You are right and no matter what you do not hit a woman. He's a coward and a piece of $hit.
@@moniquechauvet8103 yea I totally agree they failed her
And if Brian didn’t have a phone, how did he pull one out of his pocket at the same time Gabby was ON THE PHONE with her parents?
I was questioning the same thing
Exactly my mind thought. I wish the officer noticed that and asked him again about the phone
He’s a liar and a piece trash. That’s why.
I think these officers need some more training! Might actually solve crime and save a life one day!
@@dannakay2223 Yes he was able to get away with lying straight to their face with concrete proof of the contrary.
That body cam footage is so disturbing. How can they call themselves cops and not even recognize the red flags of an emotional/physically abusive relationship?? She was so clearly in distress and he’s laughing, and they got that she was the aggressor from that?? SERIOUSLY?? Despite having eye witness accounts that HE was hitting HER? These are the people we’re supposed to trust with our safety? It’s infuriating. His parents are also infuriating and clearly covering for their son. I hope Brian is found alive and pays the consequences of his actions.
1- Brian murdered her.
2- His family reported him "missing" AFTER he was out of state.
We all know it. Whether YT agrees with it or not.
I belong to The Van Life. We are 99.99% what he did.
His parents definitely have something to do with his disappearance, even his neighbours had said the day before they reported him “missing” he saw them packing for a camping trip. They helped him escape.
Definitely huh?
Yes, absolutely. Their net-worth is 5 million dollars. So, they have the resources.
@@thayilakshmi So.....anyone with money is automatically plicated in any alleged crime involving a family member?
Wow, how does it feel to have zero logic?
@@thayilakshmi they could also be waiting for the cops to talk to them and have lawyers. RUclips and social media creates so many issues in cases like this now. So many rumors are made it makes it impossible to figure stuff out for the cops
@UCr9Tp7lzuvdgR7groV-PHQA did they say anything about everybody who has money being a potential criminal? No. Stfu weirdo.
“She was trying to start her own little website blog thing” 😒 if my husband spoke about my small business like that, I would be in tears too. I feel like that says a lot.
Yesss,it says so much! She even said "I'm working on building my website,and he doesn't think I can do it" that poor girl 😭😭😭
No kidding. He was so condescending. It breaks my heart.
I think her channel would've been amazing 😍😭 the video she made was edited really well
Women dying at the hands of their partners is an epidemic. Rest In Peace, sweet Gabby. She seemed so full of life.
What's shameful is all the missing and/or dead indigenous women that aren't even reported!
Stay safe, ladies
Learn how to protect yourselves in any way shape or form.
Rest in peace, Gabby 🏞️🕊️✨
@@atmywhitson agreed! So sad. Every victim needs this much attention!
Well she could have leave. They were separated. She had van and phone. She didn't leave.
@@outska3 you must not understand how abusive relationships work.
@@outska3 and that somehow justifies her murder and the blatant issue with male violence? Ok.
she seemed absolutely precious and seeing that footage where she takes the blame for everything is absolutely heart breaking. I hope she receives the justice she deserves.
Let's get it straight, now. He's not "missing", he's on the run.
And now the parents say he went on a camping trip with him before hew went "missing" so I assume they are saying he's in spot A when the's in spot Z. Unreal.
Even if Brian was “the victim” during that incident, it doesn’t change the fact that he was in Gabby’s van, went home without her and lawyered up as soon as her family noticed her missing.
I imagine that he could have been “the victim” in that case. Let’s say there was an argument that kept escalating and she hit him. I can see that happening. We don’t know what was happening before to get to that state.
He wasn't the victim. He hit her and she was defending herself. He was abusing her. Brian was being manipulative. He called her crazy and laughed and said but I love her. He was trying to make her seem like the crazy one
@@ieashafaddis I agree. I don’t think he was the victim. That is why I used “””. Even if “he was” his actions demonstrate he is definitely involved in her disappearance and possibly her death.
@@ruth98765 Based on my experience with domestic violence survivors Gabby was gaslighted really bad. She was unstable and un unconsolable.
@@agustinabacigalupo8224 very well put. This is what I wanted to say. If he kept gaslighting her, she might have hit him as she felt that there was no other way to get him stop talking.
Brian is so belittleling toward Gabbie "she's tryng to start her LITTLE website blog thing"... arrghh. He sounds jealous that she actually was more successful than him it seems
Yeah, her blog certainly was not little.
Well the evil ! !!!! Is having his successful moment of fame now, hope hes enjoying it!
That's EXACTLY what he was angry about. He was insanely jealous of her. The GOOF.
@@kristinehorn9099 wonder how that cop feels now that fell for his BS and believed he was victim 🤔
@Big Chungus the only thing you're trying to do is make a drama cause somebody is not agreeing with you, you're trying to persuade everybody that she was the victim and he was the aggressor while you're the aggressor yourself. My priorities are not fucked up, you are. Get some help.
I've watched a lot of your videos and the way you respect each victim is always so impactful to me. Thank you for helping to support those who have had tragic things change their lives.
From someone who was abused by a partner, if someone ever puts their hands on you, leave them. It isn’t worth it. You can’t count on people to change. It isn’t your responsibility to change their ways, you aren’t the cause of their anger. Keeping yourself safe is the most important. Whenever it’s safe for you and your loved ones, leave. You will find someone who treats you with the kindness you deserve.
Ok. As someone who experienced domestic violence, grabbing someone's face doesn't seem like self defense to me, Brian. She wasn't trying to bite you. What, did you not want her to scream too loud? Did you take her phone so that you could hold power over her? This guy is so sketchy and off.
If someone gets shot, does that make them a firearms expert?
@@ahhh...5765 false equivalence
@@petalchild No one was talking to you.
@@petalchild I like how you are aware you are a child, however
I knew exactly what she meant by getting your face grabbed. An old ex did that to me several times. It's very degrading
can we just...
brian: people care too much about possessions, we should be minimalist
also brian: owns a mustang.
mkay buddy
Also constantly posting on socials the same shit he complained about in a post, 🤷
@@tabithamartin9159 fr😂 like damn that’s a red flag if i’ve ever seen one. all about the environment and not caring about possessions (nothing wrong with either of those things BUT) then owning a mustang??? boi. he posts like he’s the type to have a composter in the back seat of his 2005 toyota prius but man really out here with a MUSTANG. bye.😭😂
The Mustang is his moms from what I watched with Fox Live with JB. Still though, he will get exactly what is coming to him.
@@cassattack oh, maybe. but on other articles i saw that his parents said they drove his car home when he didn’t come home from the hike. maybe she bought it, idk, but from what i saw it is his car and it would make sense that they took that car and only that car if it’s his but idk
@@cassattack no its Brian's
The moment he said that he didn’t believe in her dreams, she should have left him.
Not how abusive relationships work….
This case is so heartbreaking. She was so close to being saved.
😔😔😔
Unfortunately the police see so many domestic disputes like this that they can’t physically separate all the victims from their abusers, it’s so heartbreaking and I’m sure the police who pulled them over that day are so gutted that had they just taken gabby home to her family she may still be here but it’s just not how it works unfortunately 😢
@@queenthiccums8689 ah yes. Even if he was being abused by her, leaving is the correct option. Not killing her. Your logic is flawed and muder is muder- abuse is abuse- nothing more than that.
@UCCtCxX00AlE_V_JTe7YDtGA you sound like an idiot justifying abuse and murder. you should be fucking ashamed.
@@queenthiccums8689 there were witnesses that said he hits her. She just never confessed that because usually the victim doesn't say that.
Kendall, you just set a whole new standard with your coverage. Better than other youtubers, news reporters, etc. I've already watched a million videos about this story but I knew to check yours out anyway.
I definitely agree. I listen to crime stories and news on my phone but I know to check out Kendall for facts!
@@ashleynicole6505 Yep. If everyone reported like her, we'd have a whole lot less misinformation out there.
@Zane Normonta Stephanie is good! There are a lot of good ones, really. This is one area where youtube easily outdoes "professional" shows and coverage. I watch Kendall for facts and Dr. Grande for analysis! I stay educated.
His enabling parents know exactly where he is. They're a weird bunch.
We don’t know what he told his parents though??
Imagine their confusion with what he may have been telling them??
They have to live the rest of their life possibly knowing their son
is/was a murder & they possibly & maybe inadvertently covered for him! I feel for them😢
@@PhotosynthesisBisector1 Thats my thoughts too... Who knows what he said to them.. I feel like if they knew everything from the jump they would have just let her van stay sitting there if they were trying to help him cover something up... No one wants to believe their son is capable of this, so 1. He probably lied to the 2. It would be hard to wrap your head around if you started suspecting your child of murder 3. They may have helped him leave before they knew exactly what happened. BUT!.... Now they absolutely need to speak up if they have anything that could help find him... If I were them, I'd be terrified that he has or will take his own life...
@@PhotosynthesisBisector1 no matter what he said your son come back without his gf but with her car and you don't think it's weird? If it's anything reasonable why not talk to the cops? They're all shitty human beings and deserve all the hate
a lineage of sociopaths.
100%
notice how he blamed EVERYTHING on her when the police stopped them
I think Brian’s parents are guilty of perverting the course of justice
I'm sure they know some bit of information they haven't told authorities just yet.
I completely agree
It’s not a crime to protect your family members
@@Laura-gd4ku 😂😂😂😂😂 fucking should be
@@Laura-gd4ku umm actually it is ! When they’re murder someone
So wait, why is he locking her out of her van, driving her van and holding onto her phone? Seems pretty controlling to me.
I’ve read one article that Gabby’s bestfriend said he really was controlling and very jealous he wouldn’t even let them hang out and he takes her ID just so gabby and her bestfriend can’t spend time together.
Reckless driving can be a form of emotional abuse - it can be used as manipulation and a way to enforce control over the other person and the situation. It’s a potential fear tactic. I don’t like hearing how reckless he was being when driving while she was clearly in distress.
My heart stopped when I heard that...I've been through something similar many times with my ex..it truly can shock you and make you submissive only for him to stop ...it's scary. RIP Gaby
My mother is a diagnosed narcissistic sociopath. When my siblings and I were young, she would drive the car and purposely speed and swerve and tell us she is going to crash the car and kill us. She did this too many times to count. It was a form of control for her
I wonder how the cops feel now that Gabby's been murdered and their "victim" is on the lam.
He’s a minimalist UNTIL it comes to using others phones and whatever it is he needs at the moment 🙄
This dude just seems like an asshole through and through. Complaining about unsustainable packaging while abusing his fiancé and joking around with police while she’s breaking down in the next car over.
The fact that he was hating on technology but is literally a travel blogger
omg i laughed so hard when i heard Kendall call him a "minimalist" all the while with the ill eye roll, lol.
so in other words, he's a bullshit artist! a mooch!
as an attractive male myself, I'll never understand how beautiful women like Gabby date simps like Brian who mooch, have no real goals, who complain about others but never ever have real resolutions skills. seriously, boggles my mind.
May she Rest In Peace, Gabby.
I think that was his phone but he lied about not having one. Remember he got his phone out with the police while she was on the phone to her parents.
sis, someone was murdered and now is not a time for stan twitter emoji humor. Seriously. If you don't anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
Brian is a coward for running, and so are his parents for helping him.
They didn’t report him “missing” till the very last possible second.
Also, if I lived down there, I would also send them through terrible terrain in a very LARGE area to waste their time even more. Well. Not saying I would, cause I wouldn’t. But that’s what I think his parents thought. Look left cops, my son went right days ago. Hahaha. - Those terrible humans. I hope they go down with their awful child. Guaranteed Brian is at LEAST in Canada or Mexico.
U wouldn't help ur kid?
@@Smileymorris07. not if he was a murderer? Lmfao
@@erynwindsor2477 hope they also get charged
@@Smileymorris07. you would? If your kid murdered someone????
The culture surrounding women always being seen as the “crazy” one in the relationship is so disrespectful. Brian played it off as yet another crazy female. It’s no wonder Gabbie was so upset and distraught in the situation because she probably felt that she wasn’t being taken seriously and was so frustrated, rightfully so.
If you watch the footage in its entirety, there was a great deal of confusion. Some people were actually saying the cops were on her side because she was a female. In the video, the officers say the witness accused her of hitting him and he said he pushed her away to defend himself. She admitted to hitting him and the reason was because she wanted him to stop telling her to calm down. In all honesty, the entire situation was messed up. I wish that confusion never happened in regards to the witness
The way Brian tries to gaslight the situation in the body cam footage is so hurtful to watch
The most disturbing footage to me was the ride with the Cop and Brian going to the hotel.
The worst thing is that women help with that culture by dating married man with the excuse of “I am not the married one” or other stupid phrases like that.. there are cases of mistresses advising their lover to be abusive with their wife and kids.
@UCRC63Z4_Zup8VuAcGYZi83Q what the actual fuck are you on about? 1. What is the relevancy 2. That’s so fucking disrespectful to sit here and say it’s always women’s fault because of what other, small amount of women do. 3. Taking a very small percentage of cases to argue the fact over a case where this is completely irrelevant and just shows your complete and utter ignorance and stupidity. Get the fuck off and get a life.
And this is why defund the police was a thing. Could you imagine what a difference it would make if a therapist was on the scene with police to help read the room.
all of brian’s “self aware, woke” IG post seem like such BS imo. and the way he makes himself seem so above everyone else is ridiculous. there are people who truly do believe things like that but i have never once seen someone who really has those beliefs come off as condensing and egotistical as he does.
Exactly. People who believe in living like that believe in being the opposite of egotistical and are loving to all, never condensing.
yes, even people who interacted with him in a bar said the same thing.
crying about packaging but asking parents to send an uber eats......
@@NFH1994 and as soon as he got back with the van he ran to mommy and daddy smh.
I had a boyfriend like that once. It's exhausting being around someone like that.
Brian seems like your typical "nice guy" acting all charming and friendly but he blamed Gabby for everything. His captions on his posts come across as someone who thinks he's above others too. I don't know, Gabby deserved so much better.
i think that behavior comes from coddling from his mother...like he was a mamas boy to the millionth power. his mother probably rules over the husband (Brian's father) too..at least that what it looks like to me
Bingo
Y’all don’t even know what the “nice guy” term means. Nice guy isn’t a guy who seems nice. It’s a guy who will act very “nice” and then when you reject him he’ll turn on you and call you every name in the book.
Yeah I could see that in the body cam footage :( He was saying things all hesitantly like "Oh I mean I really don't wanna say she's crazy but I mean..." and then looking to and smiling at the cops like "Ya know what I mean ;)" I know he didn't say those words but that's the behavior :( I wish those cops had pressed her harder for the truth.
Narcissistic abuse is so dangerous and insidious. Know the red flags and check in with your loved ones. Rest In Peace Gabby ❤️🕊
Absolutely! But sometimes they're very good at concealing it. But notice how he referred to her work as a 'little blog'; so dismissive! I tell my girls the best thing to look out for is what someone says vs what they do. If the 2 don't generally align, RUN!
Narcissists are REALLY good at making the victim appear to be in the wrong. And convincing the victim that they are the problem, not the narcissist.
@@jmgajda8071 I noticed that as well totally trying to minimize and discredit her goals
@@jo-eo9ld I know someone whose SO is so critical of nearly everything about her, but always frames it as "just wanting to help her be the best that she can be - why is she upset to hear this all the time when it's for her own good??"
@@jmgajda8071 My ex would refer to my hobbies in the same manner and I didn't think anything of it until now. I didn't realize that was demeaning behavior. It's insane how insidious abuse can be :(
The officers should of taken her into protective custody. Gabby was petrified and seemed to be more concerned with ensuring he was not arrested. She lied for him. They should of also contacted her parents immediately.
He got more angry and aggressive after the police left resulting in the demise of Gabby.
His parents and sister is WELL AWARE what he did to Gabby.
The police asked her leading questions and failed to properly identify how terrified she was. They seemed more concerned with ensuring Brian was okay.
May her soul journey in peace. May her family be comforted and attain justice by any means necessary.